1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: I see my mom every day, but there's one problem. 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 1: She has no idea that I'm her son. 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 2: You know, that would put a damper on things. It's like, hey, 4 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 2: mom am. 5 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: Oh, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, I need some coffee. Moam, moam. 6 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: You know, isn't that like a biblical character? Probably moam, 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. 8 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:22,799 Speaker 2: Moam. 9 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,400 Speaker 1: King of the moms, King of the moms and the 10 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: mams and the MAM's all right. Do you want to 11 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: know what it is? From Urban dictionary? Moam? Ooh, lay 12 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 1: it on me, Mother of all meltdowns. It's a big old, 13 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,279 Speaker 1: big old freak out moam. Man on a mission when 14 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: a person is in a state of both adrenaline focused 15 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: determination and performing serious attacks consecutively, swift or simultaneously. 16 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 2: You know, you could say he's on a moam to 17 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 2: find his mother. That he is, but that is why 18 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 2: what you're trying to do with Mommy. 19 00:00:54,960 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: Mommy, mommy. Okay, the story star, it's off very like intense. 20 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 2: Ooh, I'm ready for it. 21 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,960 Speaker 1: She had me when she was fourteen and I twenty four. 22 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 1: Mail was given up for adoption. My parents told me 23 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:11,960 Speaker 1: about her growing up. I still have the letter she 24 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: wrote me that she asked if they could give it 25 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: to me if they wanted. 26 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 2: Oh. It's like sweet but heartbreaking. 27 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. At the same time, it's crazy reading it sometimes 28 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 1: and knowing it was a literal child who wrote it, 29 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: saying she's sorry she couldn't be my mommy, but she hopes. 30 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:30,040 Speaker 1: I'm happy. She was open to having contact, but we 31 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: moved for my dad's job when I was around eleven, 32 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: and it seemed impossible to find her. But luckily I did. 33 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: Oh reconnect app She's working at this small, little restaurant 34 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: and I keep going, but she doesn't know it's me. 35 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: We talk sometimes, and she seems like a nice lady. 36 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: Sometimes when she says something like do you want to refail, 37 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: honey or uses another term like that, I want to 38 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 1: tell her you're. 39 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 2: My mom mommy, it's me Hello. 40 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 1: I don't know why it makes me so nerve. We 41 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: talk sometimes and it seems really genuine. If it's not 42 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: super busy, she's more open to talking about random stuff. 43 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: And I literally drive two hours to come eat at 44 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: this exact place just to see her, and it's like 45 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: she knows me already because I'm there once or two 46 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: times a week over the past three months, so she 47 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 1: always says hi with a big smile, but man. 48 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 2: If she only knew it's sad. 49 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: But guess what what, there's a freaking update. Yo. 50 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 2: Oh, this is going to be good. This is going 51 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 2: to be good. 52 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: Well read it. I did it. I told her ay, 53 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: and it was pretty heavy. My heart was even beating fast. 54 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:41,359 Speaker 1: I kept trying to think how to tell her. Many 55 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:43,519 Speaker 1: of the comments on my last post were mentioning writing 56 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: her a letter, just how she wrote a letter for me, 57 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: And originally that was a plan, but it felt like 58 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: I needed to say it out loud. I did wait 59 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: for her to be done with her shift, and that 60 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 1: was when they were closing the restaurant already, and I 61 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: waited in the parking lot. We said hi when she 62 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: saw me first, but I told her I was there 63 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: for something serious that she needed to know first. I 64 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: told her sorry for keeping it from her so long, 65 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: and she didn't react until I actually pulled out her letter, 66 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 1: and she started bawling from there, like screaming and crying 67 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: at the same time. And didn't even have to finish 68 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: the whole I'm your son's speech. She just saw it 69 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: and knew it was crazy. Next thing, I know, she's 70 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: hugging me instantly, but then she kind of pulled back 71 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: and asked, is it okay if I hug you? Of 72 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: course it is, and we're just hugging and crying in 73 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: the parking lot. 74 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 2: I hate to ruin the moment, but imagine, imagine he's like, no. 75 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: Actually I don't like being touched. Actually the fuck away 76 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:42,119 Speaker 1: from me. Mom. We're not that close yet, but god, 77 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: all my life. It hit her hard though. Her legs 78 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 1: gave out for a second, so I actually had to 79 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: hold her up while she's still hugging me for a minute. 80 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: What really got me was her saying to me, look 81 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: how big you got. Also, hearing her cry made me 82 00:03:57,280 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: cry too. She went back to open the restaurant up. 83 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: He wouldn't take no for an answer. We had a coffee, 84 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: we ate a slice of their pie inside, and talked. 85 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: So many things we talked about, she told me. The 86 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 1: second time I came to the restaurant, she got the feeling, 87 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: but for her it was hard to believe it was me, 88 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 1: so that feeling she just pushed way down. Wow, oh premonition, 89 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 1: She says, I look so much like my biological dad 90 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 1: when he was younger, though we talked about him too. 91 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 1: They stayed in contact with each other in case I 92 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:25,560 Speaker 1: ever reached out to one of them, so it'd be 93 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 1: easier to contact the other. I didn't have to hope 94 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,799 Speaker 1: about finding my biological dad since he was never mentioned, 95 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: so I'm glad they both planned for this future scenario. 96 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: She told me about how they wanted to keep me, 97 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: especially my biological dad. He didn't want me to be adopted, 98 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:41,279 Speaker 1: but he knew they had to because they were just kids. 99 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:43,479 Speaker 1: It took him long enough to get passed it after 100 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:45,480 Speaker 1: I was born. She told me that's why he didn't 101 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: leave anything, because he didn't want to believe that he 102 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: might not see me again. We talked for hours. It's 103 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:53,719 Speaker 1: almost two in the morning. They closed it eleven. She 104 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 1: just wanted to know everything about me, but her main 105 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 1: thing was am I happy? Were my parents good to me? 106 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: Did I have a happy childhood? And I did? I 107 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:03,919 Speaker 1: told her, thank you for helping me to give me 108 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: this life. We both cried again. She cried the most. 109 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: Everything was very emotional for her. Sometimes she would look 110 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: really happy but then get sad again. After my eighteenth birthday, 111 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: she was hoping I would find her and that's why 112 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: she stayed in the same city all these years. But 113 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:21,720 Speaker 1: since I didn't, she'd always thought maybe it was because 114 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: I resented her, maybe I wasn't told that I'm adopted, 115 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:27,359 Speaker 1: or maybe I had decided it was better not to 116 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 1: have her around. It made me feel bad for not 117 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: telling her sooner. She told me it's not my fault, 118 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: and I did the right thing, going at my own pace. Honestly, 119 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 1: she's so sweet. The way she kept looking at me 120 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: with the biggest smile it made me emotional. Sometimes makes 121 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: you think, how can someone who's been a total stranger 122 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: your whole life look at you with so much love? 123 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: It's wild. We learned so much about each other. She 124 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: asked me if we could have dinner again soon to 125 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:53,119 Speaker 1: keep talking, and if at some point in the future 126 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 1: if I'm interested to come over to her house so 127 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:57,720 Speaker 1: I can meet her husband. That all sounded really great. 128 00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: We exchanged numbers, and after I left if she said 129 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: a text telling me thank you for giving her this gift, 130 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: and she didn't know if it would ever come. My 131 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 1: girlfriend came over and she hugged me while I cried. 132 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 1: I wasn't sad by the way these were happy tears. 133 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:14,320 Speaker 1: Everything went better than expected. There was still emotionally heavy stuff, 134 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:16,600 Speaker 1: but I'm so glad that we got to open up 135 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 1: to each other. I mean, this is like a rare, 136 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: really happy yeah, like it's just cute. 137 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 2: It just feels really good. 138 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: And like also I mean like the parents could have 139 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 1: not withheld the letters or like you know, all these 140 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 1: things happened. And also crazy that like she uh, like 141 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: she thought it was him, which I guess, like, well 142 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: if it looks like the biological dad, Like initially it 143 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: was like is it premonition or something, and it's like 144 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 1: it looks exactly like the biological dad. She's like, wait, 145 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 1: that looks that looks like the guy that knocks me up. 146 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 2: It's me from the past. I'm back again. I'm back baby. 147 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 2: But yeah, this is this is a very rare, great 148 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 2: wholesome love to hear it.