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Speaker 1: what's today Tuesday, and we have a very very very

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was my pleasure to be with you and

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Speaker 3: your audience today.

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Speaker 2: Listen. I feel like I should kind of just sit

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Speaker 3: Uh hope not. I'm going to be following your lead

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Speaker 3: this morning.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, listen, we're gonna have a fun show today.

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Speaker 1: JJ Fadd is joining us. You know, it is the

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Speaker 1: fiftieth anniversary of hip hop this year. JJ Fad back

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Speaker 1: in the day had that smash hit song Supersonic that

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Speaker 1: song has been used in many different movies. It's been

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Speaker 1: sampled by Fergie, it's been referenced by eminem. They were

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Speaker 1: actually the first female rap group ever nominated for a

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Speaker 2: That's a little fun fact.

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Speaker 1: And that was a year that all the artists, all

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Speaker 1: the rappers were boycotting the Grammys. But they did still

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Speaker 3: Well, I think it's took singing that we have rap

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Speaker 3: music opening many, many doors, especially when it comes to

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Speaker 1: Right now is the time. I don't want to know

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Speaker 2: Patt is going to be.

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Speaker 1: Joining us fiftieth anniversary of hip Hop.

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Speaker 2: Pastor A Bernard?

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Speaker 1: For you, what would you say some iconic hip hop

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Speaker 1: moments like back in the Day, the first hip hop

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Speaker 3: I'm going to get in trouble here because you know

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Speaker 3: hip hop For me, look, I'm like a sociologist who

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Speaker 1: I don't know, no back in the Day, No sugar

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Speaker 3: Well now you're going real back because I'm a big Tupac.

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Speaker 3: I'm a big t I you know, I look like

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Speaker 3: people know. But my ring tone is your better day.

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Speaker 3: So I like that. Yeah, people don't know that part

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Speaker 1: But we have a lot more for you guys coming up.

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Speaker 1: And in the meantime, let's shine a light on him.

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Speaker 1: You know, we've been shining a light with Pastor ar

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Speaker 1: get to do it live eight hundred and nine fifty.

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Speaker 2: Call us up, shine a light on him.

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Speaker 4: Turn your lights on y'all, spreading love to those who

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Speaker 2: Shine the light on them, shine a light on them.

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Speaker 4: It's time to shine a light on them.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's way up with Angela Yee.

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Speaker 1: I'm Angela Yee and my co host, Pastor aar Bernard

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's good to be with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm enjoying this because I know he's gonna, uh,

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Speaker 2: And that's when we shine a light on something positive.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think positively important. They say it takes twelve

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Speaker 3: pieces of positive information to get rid of one negative

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Speaker 1: I got to say of social media, Well, you know

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Speaker 3: No, it is my pleasure to be with you. I

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Speaker 3: keep saying that because it is. And it's an opportunity

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Speaker 1: Well, we'll be talking about relationships, so that is something

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Speaker 1: that you definitely are an expert in as an author.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my book for Things Women Want from a Man

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Speaker 3: and how dare me tell women what they want? But really,

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Speaker 1: I could think of a few more than four, but yes,

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Speaker 1: Way Up with You, and you can stream this conversation

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Speaker 1: this town hall live. I know a lot of people

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Speaker 3: Excellent. I'm looking forward to it. You know, people manage

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Speaker 1: And a lot of times money and relationships are very

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Speaker 3: it's all about the money.

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Speaker 1: Well, let's see who you guys want to shine a

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Speaker 5: I'm world?

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Speaker 6: Thank you?

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Speaker 5: How are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm good? Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Who do you want to shine a light on myself? Okay,

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Speaker 5: Yes, I'm shining the light on me and my business

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Speaker 5: from the Body Studio. I'm located in Old Parks, Michigan.

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Speaker 5: I have the number one by Hoppoteek and post Stop

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Speaker 6: You got me.

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Speaker 5: Dopy's.

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Speaker 1: Oak Park is a beautiful neighborhood. It is, well, congratulations

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Speaker 1: to you for having that. That's important work that you're

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Speaker 2: You know, we take that seriously and we do.

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Speaker 5: So just look us up, Angie, and the next time

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Speaker 5: you're in Detroit, come see me.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be there next week. Actually, come see me.

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Speaker 5: I was love for you just to come see it.

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Speaker 5: Catch a vibe. It's just amazing.

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Speaker 2: What's it called again, the body Studio.

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Speaker 5: So if you google me or whatever, but I will

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Speaker 2: All right, send it to me. Now I'm gona post you.

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Speaker 5: Too, Okay, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: All right, all right, thank you, thank you, barn nice.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well that was shining light on him. Eight

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Speaker 1: And when we come back we have yet, we'll be

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Speaker 1: talking about Travis Kelcey and his Jersey sales have skyrocketed.

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Speaker 2: We'll tell you what's going on.

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Speaker 1: And I want to get past to a ar Bernard's

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Speaker 2: Okay, it's way up with Angela yee. They say the rooms.

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Speaker 4: From industry shade to all of gos ap outen Angela's

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's way up with Angela. Ye, Angela yee.

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Speaker 1: And Pastor Aar Bernard is here to do some yut

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Speaker 1: and you guys make sure you follow him as well

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Speaker 1: if you're not already doing that, just because amazing conversations.

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Speaker 2: You know, I know I've been following you for.

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Speaker 1: today to do the rumors with me. Okay, So Travis Kelce,

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Speaker 1: Swift attending one of his chiefs games, and some people

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Speaker 2: We saw Tyler Swift with his mom.

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Speaker 3: So when does it stop being rumor?

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Speaker 1: I guess when they do a Valentine's Day picture together

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Speaker 2: I don't know when Taylor Swift writes a song about him.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's about trying to keep my life private, in

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Speaker 2: Well, your wife is on the public team.

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Speaker 3: She's a star.

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Speaker 3: Anything, not even getting divorced.

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Speaker 7: I mean, it's not what I dreamed of and what

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Speaker 7: you know, sometimes that the way you are in your twenties,

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Speaker 7: it's you know, sometimes you grow together, sometimes you grow apart.

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Speaker 4: Yeah last night, so about last night last night, last night.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it is way up at Angela Yee.

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Speaker 1: I'm Angela Yee, and we are blessed to have Pastor

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have the opportunity to mentor a lot

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Speaker 1: And you know what's great, You're also able to talk

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I'm careful the kind of counsel I give,

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Speaker 2: How do you decide who you mentor?

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Speaker 1: Because I'm sure there's a lot of people, because you

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Speaker 3: Again, you know, I speak to that congregation as I

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Speaker 1: In my life, I know you and Denzel Washington are close.

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Speaker 1: Right, No, because we've seen instances where some very very

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Speaker 3: That's all you have is your integrity and your trust,

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Speaker 3: Well, I will tell you marriage is a long term commitment.

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Speaker 1: Well, i'll give you more details when we come back,

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Speaker 4: Way up with.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's way up with Angela Yee. I'm Angela Yee

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Speaker 3: Yeah, hanging tough.

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Speaker 3: That's why successful relationships need empathy. You have to be

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Speaker 1: what you're doing too.

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Speaker 2: And sometimes you have to lead by example.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, And I think in the beginning of every relationship

449
00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:24,240
Speaker 3: you need to sit down and discuss the possible changes

450
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Speaker 3: that will take place over time and how you're going

451
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Speaker 3: to respond to those changes, because change is inevitable.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's see what you guys think. Sabie, how are you?

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Speaker 13: I'm alright, good morning, Angela.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, and pastor a ar Bernard is here too.

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Speaker 3: How you doing, man right?

456
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Speaker 2: So let's talk about this as far as a marriage.

457
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Speaker 1: What happens when you're no longer attracted to the person

458
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Speaker 1: but they're still your best friend?

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Speaker 13: Okay, Well, I can't time in as far as marriage

460
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Speaker 13: because I'm only engaged. But when you guys find that

461
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Speaker 13: you aren't attracted to each other anymore, I feel like

462
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Speaker 13: you got to go back to the groundwork, like start

463
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Speaker 13: from the beginning. Why did you guys fall in love

464
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Speaker 13: in the first It's like it's easy to get caught

465
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Speaker 13: up in a lot of things you have going on

466
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Speaker 13: in your personal lives, your professional lives, and sometimes you

467
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Speaker 13: can forget about your spouse. So in order to I

468
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Speaker 13: don't know, make sure you rekindle that. Just start from

469
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Speaker 13: the beginning. Like if you met at the grocery store,

470
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Speaker 13: go back to the grocery store that you guys met

471
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Speaker 13: and recreator that's your interaction or I don't know. For me,

472
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Speaker 13: like I met my spouse in college, so we would

473
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Speaker 13: have Monday night chicken wing nights, and like, I know

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Speaker 13: that sounds dumb, but that's what we used to do.

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Speaker 13: So retreat stuff like that. I mean, granted, it's not

476
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Speaker 13: going to be the exact same as it was when

477
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Speaker 13: you guys first first had it, but at least try,

478
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Speaker 13: you know what I mean. You never know how much

479
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Speaker 13: those small early gestures to really remind you why you

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Speaker 13: love your spouse to the first place.

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Speaker 3: What you said is so important because people don't realize

482
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Speaker 3: that a marriage license is actually a working permit because

483
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Speaker 3: those are working papers. It takes work, and if you

484
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Speaker 3: don't want to put the work in, you'll walk away.

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Speaker 3: At the slightest problem within the relationship, Okay.

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Speaker 2: I like that.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you managed to get it back to rekindled.

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Speaker 1: Thank you all right, Safie, thank you so much for calling.

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Speaker 12: Yes, ma'am.

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Speaker 2: Have a good day you too, Hey, Frank, how are you?

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Speaker 12: How are you doing?

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Speaker 14: What's going on?

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Speaker 2: What's going on? I'm here.

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Speaker 1: We're past to a ar Bernard and we're asking about

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Speaker 1: relationships where your your mate turns into your best friend.

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Speaker 12: Yeah.

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Speaker 14: I'm listening, and I feel like what the desire is

498
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Speaker 14: doing and I'm not attracted to you no more. I

499
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Speaker 14: feel like it's kind of over after that.

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Speaker 2: M you can't get it back because.

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Speaker 14: Nah, I mean I don't think so, because whatever made

502
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Speaker 14: me unattracted to you, it's gonna stay like that. I

503
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Speaker 14: think that's my personal Okay.

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Speaker 3: That's giving up a little too soon. And you know,

505
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Speaker 3: relationships you have required an investment, investment of your time sacrifice,

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Speaker 3: and it really tells the value that you have for

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Speaker 3: the other person.

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Speaker 14: I mean, maybe you're right, maybe that's why I ain't

509
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Speaker 14: here yet, But I'm thirty four. I'm thirty four right now,

510
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Speaker 14: and as my life been going on, it's like one,

511
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Speaker 14: I don't want you no more. I kind of like

512
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Speaker 14: ain't interested, and then it ain't gonna be right no more,

513
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Speaker 14: because it's like, why you ain't touching me?

514
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Speaker 7: No more?

515
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Speaker 14: Everything the same.

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Speaker 1: I feel like any type of long term relationship, though

517
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Speaker 1: I think at certain points it might get like that.

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Speaker 14: I changed the only kind of me if I don't

519
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Speaker 14: touch you for a month.

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Speaker 3: Yeah alone, does sound like you're gonna get married too soon, though, Yeah, well.

521
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Speaker 2: Thank you, We appreciate you. Thank you. Yep, we appreciate you.

522
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Speaker 2: She doesn't. But hey, Joe, how are you?

523
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Speaker 3: Hey?

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Speaker 12: Good morning? Are you doing aunt?

525
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Speaker 1: Good morning? We're here, we're past to A R. Bernard

526
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Speaker 1: and we're talking about relationships. What do you do when

527
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Speaker 1: your significant other it turns into your best friend you're

528
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Speaker 1: not attracted to.

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Speaker 12: Actually call it in? Because I'm in that same exact situation.

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Speaker 12: I've been married tomorrow, my wife for twenty eight years.

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Speaker 6: Ago.

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Speaker 12: I fiver my kids would buy, but that part of

533
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Speaker 12: it is gone for me. I don't know. I'm looking

534
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Speaker 12: for answers myself. Maybe it's because she don't show me

535
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Speaker 12: no affection or something. I don't know. I'm looking for answers.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, Joe. Communication the basis for life, especially

537
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Speaker 3: the life of a marriage. And somewhere communication broke down

538
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Speaker 3: because things started changing and you all weren't talking about

539
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Speaker 3: it because you had been able to get out in

540
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Speaker 3: front of it and not allow it to get this far.

541
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Speaker 1: Yeah, So what do you think he has to do now?

542
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Speaker 3: Reopen communication and bring some life back to the relationship

543
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 3: and really think about the stakeholders like the children, because

544
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Speaker 3: the decision to divorce hurts a lot of people, not

545
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Speaker 3: just one person or just the husband and wife.

546
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Speaker 2: How long has it been like this for you?

547
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Speaker 12: Three or four years?

548
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Speaker 9: Okay?

549
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Speaker 1: Out of twenty eight years, y'all had a nice long run.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, have you ever tried to get some

551
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Speaker 1: outside help?

552
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Speaker 12: No, we haven't.

553
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Speaker 2: No, it might be worth looking into.

554
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Speaker 3: I think angela to nail on the head right there. Yeah,

555
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Speaker 3: bring someone else in that can lead you through a

556
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Speaker 3: conversation to restore at least the communication between the two

557
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Speaker 3: of you so you're can understand what went wrong. Changes

558
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Speaker 3: is the only comp in life, So change is inevitable

559
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 3: in relationships. Managing that change is critical and you really

560
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,920
Speaker 3: haven't done a good job because you'll be on top

561
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Speaker 3: of watch.

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Speaker 12: Wong wow, I totally agree with that.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, I wish you so much luck and lovin.

564
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Speaker 1: Please check back in with us.

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Speaker 12: Okay, I will, Angelie. Guys have a good day. I

566
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Speaker 12: enjoy your program. Keep doing what you're doing.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, You're welcome.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you guys for calling eight hundred

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Speaker 1: two nine two fifty one fifty. In case you couldn't

570
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Speaker 1: get through, you can always leave a message giving us

571
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Speaker 1: your point of view about what to do when a

572
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Speaker 1: relationship turns from a loving one to a best friend one.

573
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Speaker 1: And when we come back, we have a yet, we'll

574
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Speaker 1: talk about music, doja cat, Drake Sizza a lot of

575
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Speaker 1: things to discuss. It's way up at Angela yee yet

576
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Speaker 1: next yo, she's about to.

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Speaker 4: Blow the lead abof this, but let's get it. Angela's

578
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Speaker 4: feeling that yee te Come and get the tea.

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 1: This way up at Angela yee, I'm Angela yee, and

581
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Speaker 1: Pastor aar Bernard is here with me doing yet. This

582
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Speaker 1: isn't my wheelhouse here, okay, So so shout out to

583
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Speaker 1: Drake and Sissy.

584
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Speaker 2: There are songs.

585
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Speaker 1: Slim You Out has debuted a number one on Billboard

586
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Speaker 1: Hot one hundred.

587
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Speaker 2: This is big for Drake.

588
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Speaker 1: He's broken all kinds of record and he always gets

589
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Speaker 1: a number one debut. He actually has tied Bts for

590
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Speaker 1: the most number ones in the twenty twenties, so congratulations

591
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Speaker 1: to him for that is number one on streaming songs

592
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Speaker 1: R and B hip hop charts. Of course, Sizza has

593
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Speaker 1: been having an amazing year too. I went to her concert.

594
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Speaker 1: Love me some Sizza. All right now, Dojah Cat and

595
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Speaker 1: I'm glad you're here, pasted a Ar Bernard to talk

596
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Speaker 1: about this. Doja Cat amazing talented artists, but a lot

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Speaker 1: of her fans are experiencing and she's experiing backlash from

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Speaker 1: a lot of her fans right now. She has claimed

599
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Speaker 1: in the past that she doesn't care about her fans,

600
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Speaker 1: but she posted on her social media page devil painting

601
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Speaker 1: that she made for her fans.

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Speaker 2: I'll show you a picture of that painting now. Pastor A. R.

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Speaker 1: Bernardi also has a music video called Demons for a

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Speaker 1: song called Demons.

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Speaker 2: Here's song. Yeah, how am demis?

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Speaker 1: All right now, past Ara Bernard, I want to get

607
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Speaker 1: your thoughts.

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Speaker 3: I've got to weigh in on this. Let me just say,

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Speaker 3: first of all, the demonic and that realm is very real.

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Speaker 3: I have dealt with it early on many, many people.

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Speaker 3: So it's nothing to play with, it's nothing to tamper with,

612
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Speaker 3: and don't be curious about it. But before I would

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Speaker 3: go there, I would say, let me check the mental

614
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Speaker 3: health of the individual first and see what's happening to

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Speaker 3: them mentally before I decide that. Okay, you know, it's

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Speaker 3: in that realm of the demonic.

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Speaker 10: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean it's tough because she does, you know, talented woman,

619
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Speaker 1: but things like this can definitely cause people to be like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to listen to this anymore.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And we're concerned about the power of music because

622
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Speaker 3: music has a very subtle influence as you listen to it.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, you know, I think just seeing all

624
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Speaker 1: of that, and you know what I want to ask

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Speaker 1: you to because Halloween is coming up next next month,

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Speaker 1: and there's a lot of movies that are coming out.

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Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, The Exorcist, the remake of

628
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Speaker 1: that is coming out at the end of next week.

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Speaker 2: Man, and I'm a big horror movie fan.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I want to ask you, do you think, like,

631
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Speaker 1: have you ever experienced something? I know they always say

632
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Speaker 1: this is based on a true story. All these different exorcisms.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever experienced.

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Speaker 3: And wow, can I say that on the air, I've

635
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 3: been involved with exorcisms? You have, Yeah, yeah, I've seen

636
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 3: matter change forms. I've seen people who were genuinely possessed

637
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Speaker 3: and I had to learn how to work with that.

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00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 3: It is so real that the Catholic Church has a

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Speaker 3: whole department that deals with that and other denominations as well.

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Speaker 3: So it's very real, very powerful, and something that we

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Speaker 3: have to be careful.

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Speaker 2: Of, be mindful of.

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Speaker 9: Okay.

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Speaker 1: See, I always watch those movies and it's like based

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Speaker 1: on a true story, based on a true story, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, how the Exorcist was actually the first horror

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Speaker 1: movie I saw as a very young child, and so

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Speaker 1: now they're doing this arenas.

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Speaker 3: I will tell you, before I had an understand of

650
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Speaker 3: these things. I thought it was hilarious. I took my

651
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 3: wife and she was negatively impacted by it, so we

652
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Speaker 3: don't play that with her anymore.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, well, good to know.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for shedding some light on that, because I'm

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Speaker 1: always like, are these, you know, possibly real things that

656
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Speaker 1: are happening? And what do you think about watching movies

657
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Speaker 1: like that? Because some people won't even do that.

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Speaker 3: You know, you have to be careful with whatever entertainment

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Speaker 3: you open yourself too. If you're vulnerable to these things

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Speaker 3: and they can cause you to be curious about them

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Speaker 3: or affect you in terms of fear, then you need

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Speaker 3: to limit your intake of these things.

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Speaker 2: What about Wiji boys? Do we always hear about that?

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Speaker 2: And see movies?

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Speaker 3: I again, these things can be a gateway our human nature.

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Speaker 3: We're curious, you know. So you start off with one thing,

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Speaker 3: and who knows whether you will become even more curious

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Speaker 3: and go beyond that.

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Speaker 2: I don't play with Wige boys. I will never touch

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Speaker 2: one of those.

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Speaker 3: Things, all right, I don't recommend it.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: Well that is your yet featuring past aar Bernard, And

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Speaker 1: when we come back, you have under the radar. These

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Speaker 1: are the stories that are not necessarily in the headlines.

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Speaker 1: They are flying under the radar, but you need to

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Speaker 1: know about them anyway. It's way up at Angela Yee.

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Speaker 2: The news news.

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Speaker 4: This in the news that relates to you. These stories

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Speaker 4: are flying under the radar.

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Speaker 1: It's way up at Angela Ye Angela Yee and Pastor

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Speaker 1: ar Bernard is here with me today guest hosting and

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Speaker 1: We also do have a town hall at five pm

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Speaker 1: today that's going to be streaming for you guys to watch.

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Speaker 2: You can look at that on the way up with

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Speaker 2: e YouTube page.

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Speaker 1: All right, now, let's get into some of these under

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Speaker 1: the radar stories. Did you know that college is no

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Speaker 1: longer the biggest expense when it comes to about half

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Speaker 1: of the states.

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Speaker 3: I did not know that. When I think about the

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Speaker 3: cost of college today, the skyrocketing cost of college today,

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Speaker 3: I had no idea that there was something more expensive.

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Speaker 3: So what is it?

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, and so this is in state public college tuition.

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Speaker 1: They're saying childcare actually costs more according to netcredit dot Com.

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Speaker 1: And then also team car ownership now costs more than

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Speaker 1: in state tuition at a public university because of elevated inflation.

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Speaker 1: Families are seeing now they're raising a child is pricier

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Speaker 1: than ever. So they said, ideally you'd be able to

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Speaker 1: keep childcare costs to ten percent or less of your

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Speaker 1: total income. But that's laughably unrealistic for millions of Americans.

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Speaker 3: And childcare is longer now. It's not just a few

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Speaker 3: hours or a few days a week. We're working on

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Speaker 3: a twenty four hour childcare that's right. And in our

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Speaker 3: new development, that's right because it's so necessary.

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Speaker 2: One of you guys breaking ground on an we're breaking

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Speaker 2: ground next year. Next year. I feel like I need

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Speaker 2: to be there for that.

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Speaker 3: That's great.

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Speaker 1: And that's going to also consist of affordable housing, right

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Speaker 1: over one thousand units, two thousand.

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Speaker 3: Units affordable housing, mixed income, so it's going to be

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Speaker 3: from thirty percent AMI Area median income up to one

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Speaker 3: hundred percent, so it's going to provide for middle income

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Speaker 3: affordable housing as well as low income.

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Speaker 1: That's great, and that's in Brooklyn. You know how expensive

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Speaker 1: Brooklyn is right now? I know because I live in Brooklyn.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: And now let's talk about, since we're discussing money, these

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Speaker 1: private clubs that everybody is joining, from Casa Chipriani and

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Speaker 1: Zero Bond to the astor to Zz's Club in Miami.

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Speaker 1: Some of these clubs cost about one hundred thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: to join and then fifteen thousand dollars a year. And

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Speaker 1: there's a boom of all these different clubs. You know,

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Speaker 1: I feel like it all kind of started with Soho House, right,

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Speaker 1: and now people are moving into these other spaces. They

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Speaker 1: have a new course space that spread over four floors

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Speaker 1: in Manhattan and Midtown, and that's one of the elite

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Speaker 1: membership clubs that have opened in major cities since the pandemic.

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Speaker 1: It's supposed to redefine the old world membership clubs and

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Speaker 1: create a safe space for today's privacy minded, highly mobile,

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Speaker 1: wealthy people.

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Speaker 3: That's a tough thing because more people are upwardly mobile today,

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Speaker 3: so you have more people able to afford it. But

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Speaker 3: one hundred and fifty.

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Speaker 2: K that's a lot. What are the benefits of something

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Speaker 2: like that though?

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Speaker 8: Right?

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Speaker 1: Because these clubs they do they have wellness based gym bars, pools, nightclubs.

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Speaker 1: But it's not like you get these things before. You

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Speaker 1: still got to go in and pay for food, pay

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Speaker 1: for services. It's just the membership fee.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I belonged to a club, full disclosure. But it

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Speaker 3: was a gift from someone.

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Speaker 2: So that's a nice gift.

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Speaker 3: Put that out there.

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Speaker 1: My birthday's coming up, guys. But yeah, So the Aman Club,

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Speaker 1: by the way, they just open that over here. Now

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Speaker 1: that club is ridiculously expensive. So they said that is

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Speaker 1: about two hundred thousand dollars for membership, and then fifteen

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Speaker 1: thousand dollars in annual.

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Speaker 2: Fees and if anybody wants to gift me, I'm here

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Speaker 2: for it.

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Speaker 9: All right.

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Speaker 2: Now, let's talk about the ten unhappiest states.

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Speaker 1: There's a list of what states are the least happy,

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Speaker 1: and this is according to researchers at wallet hub. I

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Speaker 1: love wallet Hub by the way. Number ten Oklahoma. Number

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Speaker 1: nine is New Mexico. It has a high suicide rate

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Speaker 1: and low volunteer participation. Number eight Alaska. Number seven is Mississippi.

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Speaker 1: Number six is Alabama. Alabama has poor ratings for adequate sleep,

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Speaker 1: sports partsipation, volunteering in safety. Number five on that list

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Speaker 1: is Kentucky. Number four is Arkansas, three is Tennessee. Number

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Speaker 1: two is Louisiana and they actually have high rates of

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Speaker 1: work hour numbers and divorce. And number one is West Virginia.

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Speaker 1: West Virginia was named the unhappiest state in the country.

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Speaker 1: The worst rates of adult depression, emotional and physical wellbeing,

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Speaker 1: work environment, and adequate sleep the worst of all fifty states.

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Speaker 3: And why are all these people migrating to the south.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. The cost of living, the weather.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I have no idea why he's moving from the north

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Speaker 2: to the south. Yeah, they definitely are.

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Speaker 1: So that all has to do with, as you can see, depression,

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Speaker 1: adequate sleep, sports, participation, volunteering, safety, divorce rates, all of

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Speaker 1: those things. And these are your under the radar stories

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Speaker 1: now you know. We do have the Way Up mixed

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Speaker 1: at the top of the hour, plus the legend deary

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Speaker 1: group jj FAD is going to be joining us today

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Speaker 1: Supersonic and I'm excited for that. Is the fiftieth anniversary

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Speaker 1: of hip hop and I want to make sure these

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Speaker 1: women are getting They are just dues because they've been

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Speaker 1: left out of far too many things. It's way up

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Speaker 1: at Angela Yee past to Aar Bernard is here just

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Speaker 1: like the talk like.

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Speaker 9: They Angela Jean, like they Angela Gee.

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Speaker 4: Man, she's spilling it all. This is yet way up.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's way up at Angela Ye. I'm Angela Yee

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Speaker 1: pasted aar Bernard is co hosting.

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Speaker 9: And you're tough with you today, Yes you are.

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Speaker 2: This is a lot right.

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Speaker 3: Hey, look, let no one say that you don't work.

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Speaker 8: You work.

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Speaker 3: You make it look easy, but you work.

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Speaker 1: Well, let's get into this yet. Shout out to DC

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Speaker 1: Young Fly. He is the new host of Celebrity Squares.

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Speaker 1: It's a new take on the classic Hollywood Squares game show.

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Speaker 1: It's going to be on VH one. It's Jesse Collins

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Speaker 1: Entertainment and Kevin Hart's Heartbeat, so that's who's producing it.

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Speaker 1: It's going to be a modern twist on the classic

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Speaker 1: format featuring black pop culture trivia. I feel like I'll

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Speaker 1: do good on that if I needed to have all

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Speaker 1: kinds of trivia information in my.

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Speaker 2: Head all right now.

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Speaker 1: Spotify is going to be using AI to replicate podcasters'

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Speaker 1: voices and translate them to other languages, and so the

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Speaker 1: company is working with podcasters like Bill Simmons Dak Sheppard

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Speaker 1: on a select number of past and upcoming episodes, initially

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Speaker 1: translated into Spanish, French, and German, and then they'll be

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Speaker 1: available to both free users and paid subscribers in the

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Speaker 1: coming days and weeks. They're already working on Trevor Noah's

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Speaker 1: upcoming new podcasts, for instance. They're going to make this

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Speaker 1: feature more accessible for creators and languages in the future.

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Speaker 1: It's just the beginning, Spotify said in a release.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's a scary thing. It took twenty years

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Speaker 3: for us to adapt, to adopt the Internet in one

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Speaker 3: week chat GPT had a million subscribers, So we are

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Speaker 3: adjusting real fast. Where's it going to go?

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Speaker 1: That's the question, right And when we see everything like

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Speaker 1: with the writers' strike, that was one of the main

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Speaker 1: issues and concerns. How do you use AI, pastor a

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Speaker 1: ar Bernard when it comes to what you do.

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Speaker 3: We're already incorporating AI to respond to questions and answers

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Speaker 3: that may come from the public, especially our congregation. That

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Speaker 3: makes it easier and more convenient. And I'm keeping an

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Speaker 3: eye on my ministers to see if they're using AI

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Speaker 3: for their servants.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, okay, is that wrong if they are,

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Speaker 1: if they use it and they tweak it.

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Speaker 3: You know, because of AI, everyone has access to information.

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Speaker 3: So now the sermon is about delivery and insight, okay,

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Speaker 3: And I think that's a good thing.

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Speaker 1: That's fair, all right. And now let's talk about Meghan

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Speaker 1: the Stallion. She is in a new PSA for quote

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Speaker 1: Seize the Awkward, that's the campaign, and she put out

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Speaker 1: a personal message about that. She's in an empty space,

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Speaker 1: sitting in a chair against the wall, and she talks

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Speaker 1: about needing to show a tough exterior.

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Speaker 8: I've always been told I got to be strong, but

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Speaker 8: to be everything for everybody.

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Speaker 2: It wears on you black.

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Speaker 9: Don't crack, they say, but it can.

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Speaker 2: I can.

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Speaker 10: We all can, y'all.

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Speaker 9: It's okay to not be okay. Reach out to a

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Speaker 9: friend if you see them going through it.

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Speaker 2: No matter who you are, being vulnerable is what makes

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Speaker 2: us whole.

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Speaker 9: Learn how to help at seize the Aqua dot org.

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Speaker 2: All right, we like that.

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Speaker 3: I like what you said, being vulnerable it's part of healing. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that sees the Aqua dot org.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, they also highlight her website that

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Speaker 1: has an array of mental health resources.

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Speaker 2: Bad bitches have bad days to dot com ouch.

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Speaker 1: Easy to remember, but it is true a lot of times,

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Speaker 1: especially in her business. You know, people are coming at

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Speaker 1: her constantly and you have to have this tough exterior

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Speaker 1: and act unbothered. Remember that was a big thing hashtag unbothered.

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Speaker 1: Usually when people use that, they are very bothered.

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Speaker 3: I think the fact that women are out there the

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Speaker 3: way they are and shining, the way they are taking

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Speaker 3: the places that men used to only inhabit. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: think it requires for you to tough enough.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, But sometimes it is a conversation of I

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Speaker 1: need a break. And it's important because that's I think

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Speaker 1: relatable to the average human being too.

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Speaker 2: We all need that.

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Speaker 3: You're out there and you've got to be strong and

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Speaker 3: tough in all of your business dealsms et cetera. Does

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Speaker 3: it challenge your femininity?

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Speaker 1: You know what, It's funny like I was on vacation,

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Speaker 1: So imagine I went to Anguilla on vacation. So I'm

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Speaker 1: having a great time laying around, I'm at the pool,

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Speaker 1: and then something happened on social media where somebody was

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Speaker 1: coming at me and talking about me, and I was

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Speaker 1: so tempted to respond, like immediately I had a million

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Speaker 1: things I wanted to say in response.

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Speaker 2: I wanted to tell my truth.

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Speaker 1: And then fortunately I was on vacation and an hour

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Speaker 1: later I didn't care anymore. And sometimes it is just

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Speaker 1: taking a moment to be like, Okay, let me not

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Speaker 1: respond to this right away, let me log off, let

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Speaker 1: me get back to my real life. And so for me, yes,

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Speaker 1: it's always a challenge, and it's always like I feel

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Speaker 1: like you have to be tough when people know that

888
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:58,359
Speaker 1: they're bothering you. Sometimes that's their intention and you don't

889
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: want to give them that. And so you have to

890
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: do put on this exterior so that you feel tough.

891
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 2: I think think that.

892
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 3: I think that's a great answer.

893
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 1: So shout out to you, Megan Stallion, and Finesse two

894
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: Times has gotten both of his girlfriends pregnant.

895
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,320
Speaker 2: You know, they all live together under the same roof.

896
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: He did have another girlfriend, but I guess they broke up,

897
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:18,800
Speaker 1: So there were originally three girlfriends.

898
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:19,399
Speaker 2: Now there's two.

899
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 3: You know, I got a problem. I'm going to be

900
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 3: very very strong on that, and that is men should

901
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 3: take responsibity for what they create and shouldn't run around

902
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 3: creating what they don't want to be responsible for. Women

903
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,160
Speaker 3: need to be respected and valued and treated in a

904
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 3: way with dignity. And I don't think that kind of

905
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,839
Speaker 3: record establishes that I grew up without a father because

906
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 3: my father abandoned me and my mother. So I understand

907
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 3: what it is to experience that kind of thing. So look,

908
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 3: I need I think these brothers need to level up.

909
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 1: Well, listen, he does have them under the same roof

910
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 1: and they're quite aware of their situation.

911
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:57,840
Speaker 2: But we're going to.

912
00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: See what happens, and so we'll keep you guys filled

913
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: in on Finesse two Times in his very unique situation.

914
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 1: All right, that is your yet and when we come back,

915
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 1: since Pastor a ar Bernard has been hosting all morning,

916
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 1: we want to make sure that we have a chance

917
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: to talk to you about everything that you have going

918
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 1: on and get all into your business. Okay, it's the

919
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: way up with Angela Ye more with Pastor a ar Bernard.

920
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 2: When we come.

921
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 4: Back, you way up with Angela Yee.

922
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 2: It's a way up with Angela Yee.

923
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: Angela Yee and my highly esteemed co host, Pastor A

924
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 1: ar Bernard, is here with me today.

925
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 3: You said they're very sophisticated, and.

926
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 1: I want to just get a little bit into your

927
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 1: background for people who are familiar with you but maybe

928
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 1: don't know your whole story.

929
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 3: Wow, Water I begin, There's a lot of story to tell.

930
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 3: I'm born in Panama, father band of my mom, and

931
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 3: I four years old. We came to the United States

932
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:56,719
Speaker 3: make a new start group Brooklyn Beeren Street and and

933
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 3: then Bushwick. Brooklyn grew up at a time where you know,

934
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 3: everything was happening in the United States. Civil rights movement

935
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 3: was strong. Malcolm was a big influence all my life,

936
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 3: which led me into the Nation of Islam and Eventually,

937
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:14,279
Speaker 3: within a certain period, I turned to Christianity.

938
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 2: Do you have a good relationship with the Nation of Islamstone.

939
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, we have a very respectful relationship. We had our confrontation,

940
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 3: We have a very respectful relationship. But you know what,

941
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 3: the Nation played a very important role in the American

942
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:33,280
Speaker 3: Journey for people of color because it really was organized

943
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 3: as a social protest against the failure of the white

944
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 3: American Christian Church to deal with the socioeconomic flight of

945
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:41,919
Speaker 3: blacks in this country. So I appreciate it. It gave

946
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 3: me a sense of order, discipline, identity, strength, but it

947
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 3: didn't give me everything that I needed as I was

948
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 3: looking for ultimate reality that I found in Christianity.

949
00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, so Christianity.

950
00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 1: Now let's talk about the church and how you managed

951
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 1: to outgrow your first space.

952
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 2: And then have a congregation of forty thousand.

953
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 3: Wow. Well, I was a banker, members. I was a

954
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 3: banker by trade that was in the banking industry for

955
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 3: ten years, banking and finance, and within in the middle

956
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,480
Speaker 3: of those ten years, I had my epiphany converted to Christianity.

957
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 2: Did you love that job as a bank I loved it.

958
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 3: I loved it, But you know, when you have a

959
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:23,120
Speaker 3: moment of transformation that I did, you begin to think

960
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 3: about meaning and purpose and the role that you serve

961
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 3: in life. And I just knew it wasn't finance. I

962
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 3: had a greater role, greater calling all my life, and

963
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 3: that was the shepherd people to help them find meaning

964
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,320
Speaker 3: and purpose within the context of faith.

965
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So we started a little store front church,

966
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: my wife and I. And how big was your congregation

967
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: when you first started a big four?

968
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:48,600
Speaker 3: That was it?

969
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 1: Just I just like to talk about that because it

970
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 1: shows how you have to really put the legwork in.

971
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 1: You know, you start with the congregation of four to

972
00:42:57,520 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 1: grow to forty thousand, and that is a huge feat.

973
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 2: But it also had to start somewhere.

974
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 1: And sometimes I think people can be really impatient and

975
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 1: wanting to grow what it is that they're doing too quickly.

976
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to appreciate the power of delayed gratification.

977
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,000
Speaker 3: And I learned that over time and everything begins in

978
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 3: seed form then grows into an experience. So that was

979
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 3: the seed that my wife and I committed ourselves too fully,

980
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 3: and it was slow go for a good ten years.

981
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 3: It took us to get to about three hundred and

982
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 3: twenty five members, and then ten years after that, all

983
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:32,280
Speaker 3: of a sudden we hit its exponential curve and everything exploded.

984
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 3: We jumped from six hundred and twenty five members to

985
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:39,240
Speaker 3: eleven thousand members in ten years, wow, and then continue

986
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 3: to grow from there. But I think it's changing people's life.

987
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:46,640
Speaker 3: It's making faith relevant to them, helping them to understand

988
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 3: the world in which they live through the lens of

989
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:48,919
Speaker 3: their faith.

990
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 1: And I've heard you say on numerous occasions faith is

991
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 1: not necessarily religion always because people sometimes really tie those

992
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: things in together.

993
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:59,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, religion comes from a Latin word which means those

994
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:03,720
Speaker 3: practices that bind us with divinity, you know, with God,

995
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 3: and ritual in practice is important, but it's really the

996
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 3: condition of the heart and mind working together. We're here

997
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 3: to discover our gift, talent's abilities, discover purpose by serving humanity.

998
00:44:15,920 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 3: So we're here to learn, grow and contribute. So I

999
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 3: want to help people become the best version of themselves

1000
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 3: and to have a spiritual anchor, because without a spiritual anchor,

1001
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 3: you have nothing to protect you from what we can

1002
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 3: become when our humanity runs out.

1003
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: And aside from all of this, I mean there's so

1004
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 1: many things that we could talk about right now, because

1005
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:37,479
Speaker 1: you're also building. You own a lot of land right

1006
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: in Brooklyn, in and a part of Brooklyn that is

1007
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:42,759
Speaker 1: becoming gentrified.

1008
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:45,359
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, by New York standards, ten and a half

1009
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 3: acres is a lot of land.

1010
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:49,920
Speaker 1: Yeah it is right, some places like oh that's it,

1011
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: but New York that is a city.

1012
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:54,520
Speaker 3: That's a lot of land. And we created something called

1013
00:44:54,560 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 3: the urban village. And I you know, my philosophy is environment, people, programs,

1014
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 3: and sustainability. What could we do to respond to the

1015
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 3: need for housing, especially in our community. We're in East

1016
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:09,440
Speaker 3: New York, Brownville, you know, so that has a history

1017
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 3: of being underserved communities and marginalized communities. What can we

1018
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 3: do to change the narrative that the way up is

1019
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 3: out and keep people there, bringing their talents, their abilities

1020
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 3: and everything. So we have a whole new generation that

1021
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 3: these emerged, more educated, upwardly mobile, and they can't afford

1022
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 3: to live in the city. So our project looks to

1023
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 3: bring not just low income housing, but affordable middle income housing.

1024
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 2: Okay, break around next year, Oh yeah.

1025
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, supermarket trade school twenty for our childcare, our childcare,

1026
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 3: all of that, all.

1027
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 2: Right, I love all of that and also an author.

1028
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 1: And you know, one thing we've spoken about before is

1029
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 1: one of your books.

1030
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 2: For things women Want from a Man.

1031
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 1: And we're going to be having some relationship discussions today

1032
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:56,840
Speaker 1: at five pm. We're going to be having a town hall.

1033
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: And I know you and I we may think alike

1034
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:00,800
Speaker 1: on some things, but I have some questions.

1035
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm cool with that.

1036
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 2: I need some guidance, as many of us do. So

1037
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 2: you can all watch that and participate.

1038
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 1: We'll be streaming live on my YouTube channel on Way

1039
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 1: Up with Ye with Pastor A. R.

1040
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 2: Bernard.

1041
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 1: Y'all don't even understand how amazing this is that you're

1042
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 1: actually sitting here. I've seen many of your town hall conversations,

1043
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,560
Speaker 1: so it is definitely a treat for me to be

1044
00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: here with you.

1045
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 13: Yeah.

1046
00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:27,280
Speaker 3: Likewise, I've enjoyed what you make look easy.

1047
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: All right, Well, listen, what you do is not easy.

1048
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 1: And when we come back, we are going to be

1049
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 1: talking to JJ FAD. They're going to be joining us.

1050
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:39,160
Speaker 1: They are legends, icons in this hip hop business. It

1051
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 1: is the fiftieth anniversary of your hip hop and I

1052
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: want to make sure we give them their flowers. And

1053
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 1: we also have asked ye eight hundred two nine two

1054
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:47,799
Speaker 1: fifty one fifty. Today's a great day for you to

1055
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:49,800
Speaker 1: get some advice. It's way up with Angela Yee.

1056
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 4: Hey, gas, you back at it in the way up

1057
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:57,920
Speaker 4: with Angela.

1058
00:46:57,680 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 3: Yee is on.

1059
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 1: Yes, it is way up where Angela Yee, Angela Yee

1060
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:04,280
Speaker 1: and Pastor Aar Bernard has been here today.

1061
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 2: He's got a nice vibe with us.

1062
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 3: It's been a delight being with you all day. And

1063
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 3: like I said'ing to break your pulpriate. This is your bulpit.

1064
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:18,520
Speaker 3: You are speaking to who knows how many people and

1065
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 3: really giving them some inspiration, motivation, and we need something

1066
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 3: positive in our very negative society today.

1067
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 2: Yes, indeed, listen, I'm trying to follow in your footsteps.

1068
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 3: You're doing well. You're doing well. You make it look easy.

1069
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 1: They get passed to a Bernard And I want to

1070
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: shout out to my girl, Deborah Roberts. She is now

1071
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 1: stepping into her new role as a co anchor at

1072
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 1: twenty twenty alongside her colleague David Muir, following the.

1073
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:43,280
Speaker 2: Footsteps of Barbara Walters.

1074
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 1: Okay, we love Debora Roberts and she was actually up

1075
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 1: here recently promoting her book. She actually has a book

1076
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 1: of essays dedicated to your favorite teacher. So she talked

1077
00:47:56,040 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: to different women like a Rosie Perez about who they're

1078
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 1: favorite teacher was, and it was kind of like ohmde

1079
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:03,760
Speaker 1: two teachers.

1080
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,880
Speaker 3: That's interesting. We met al Roker and I were being

1081
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 3: honored at a particular event years ago and that was

1082
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:12,799
Speaker 3: the first time that I met her and just a

1083
00:48:12,840 --> 00:48:14,880
Speaker 3: great vibe. Yeah, so congratulations.

1084
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1085
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: Her book is called Lessons Learned and Cherished. Yes, all right,

1086
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 1: well listen, we got to ask ye coming up with

1087
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 1: past the a Ar Bernard, but we also have jj

1088
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 1: FADD when we come back, and they're going to be

1089
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: talking about the fiftieth anniversary of hip hop and also

1090
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 1: dispelling some things that happened on this very same show.

1091
00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:34,240
Speaker 1: There was some false information given out about JJ FAD

1092
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 1: and they're going to clear the air. It's a way

1093
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:38,960
Speaker 1: Up with Angela ye Yea.

1094
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 4: She back at it in the Way Up with Angela.

1095
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 2: Yee is on What's Up.

1096
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 1: It's Way Up with Angela Yee and we are definitely

1097
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 1: way up today because you know, for me, I'm such

1098
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,080
Speaker 1: a fan of hip hop. This is how I grew

1099
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: up in Brooklyn and two out of the three members

1100
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: of jj FADD are here and I definitely grew up

1101
00:48:56,560 --> 00:49:01,760
Speaker 1: listening to you guys, Thank you Supersonic. But the reason

1102
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,120
Speaker 1: why we even are here today, and let's get this

1103
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: out the way fires Yes, is we had Fab five

1104
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 1: Freddy on the show Yes, and he was talking about

1105
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 1: the jj FAD album and he said that ice Cube

1106
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:13,720
Speaker 1: wrote the whole album.

1107
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,760
Speaker 3: Right, I'm gonna tell you something about that super Sonic record.

1108
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:20,759
Speaker 3: Ice Cube wrote that entire album. It was Jerry Hella.

1109
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:21,839
Speaker 3: They had a ruthless record.

1110
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 1: A lot of people were like, was surprised by that.

1111
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:27,280
Speaker 1: They didn't know that fun fact. But then you guys

1112
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 1: reached out because it was incorrect, right.

1113
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:31,720
Speaker 11: And we just want to start by saying, first of all,

1114
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:33,960
Speaker 11: we're not mad at fat by Freddy. He was just

1115
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:37,160
Speaker 11: saying what he heard, you know, but it wasn't factual,

1116
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:39,279
Speaker 11: So there's no beef or anything like that. But we

1117
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 11: just don't want that narrative out there, and we didn't

1118
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 11: do the work. No, ice Cube did not write our album,

1119
00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:46,919
Speaker 11: although he is our ruthless.

1120
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 9: Brother and we love him to death and we're very

1121
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 9: close to him.

1122
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:52,399
Speaker 15: And although he did take part of writing some stuff, yeah,

1123
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 15: most of our record.

1124
00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:56,040
Speaker 10: It wasn't super sonic.

1125
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:58,479
Speaker 2: It was a song on the other side.

1126
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 11: So yeah, so we just wanted to straighten that out

1127
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:03,919
Speaker 11: because we we did a lot of work on that song,

1128
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 11: and you know, we are very we take a lot of.

1129
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:08,919
Speaker 1: Pride okay in that right understood, And you guys should

1130
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: make sure you get the credit because I feel like

1131
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 1: jj FAD isn't getting enough credit, and I know you

1132
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,959
Speaker 1: guys feel the same way. But let's take it back, okay,

1133
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: you know, to the beginning, because you guys formed as

1134
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 1: a group as teenagers, right, yes, all right, how old.

1135
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:30,560
Speaker 16: Fourteen baby baby wild in nineteen all right, so let's

1136
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 16: talk about how y'all came together because at first it

1137
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 16: was four of you, five five of you.

1138
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:34,720
Speaker 8: Okay.

1139
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,280
Speaker 11: I had heard, actually heard Salt and Pepper their album,

1140
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:39,399
Speaker 11: and I was like, gosh, wish really wish the West

1141
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:42,120
Speaker 11: Coast could be, you know, represented like that. So one

1142
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 11: of my friends was like, well you do it. You know,

1143
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:45,959
Speaker 11: you just like to wrap. You're an entertainer, go ahead

1144
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 11: and try to start a rapping. I was like, all right,

1145
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:50,719
Speaker 11: So then I had an audition in my mom's den.

1146
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:53,240
Speaker 2: I love it and and I had a group already.

1147
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 15: Yeah, so my with the age difference, my group was

1148
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:59,040
Speaker 15: we were the cautious crew. You know, we had breakdowance

1149
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 15: and talent and everything, and you were a beatbox female beatbox.

1150
00:51:05,600 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 11: Okay, and that doesn't get enough credit as well. But

1151
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 11: I held this audition and when I say she blew

1152
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:14,440
Speaker 11: me away, she blew me away. So not only did

1153
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 11: I take her, I took the whole crew.

1154
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,759
Speaker 1: Right now, I'm talking it jj FAD And then you

1155
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:22,839
Speaker 1: guys also did end up signing to Ruthless Records, right,

1156
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 1: and y'all were like very different, Yes, Ruthless Records.

1157
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 9: Yes, we dub ourselves the Ruthless Princesses.

1158
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 11: They were in the middle of starting the n w

1159
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:36,120
Speaker 11: A album and then Dre Jerry told Dre and Easy

1160
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 11: Toldrey stop just stop right now, because I got these

1161
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 11: girls and we need to put them out first because

1162
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 11: they're so hardcore. They were afraid that mainstream wouldn't embrace

1163
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 11: them or the label, so they put us out first

1164
00:51:46,960 --> 00:51:48,719
Speaker 11: as a way to be reputable, as a way to

1165
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:51,400
Speaker 11: be like, okay, their mainstream. Okay, they're gonna anything on

1166
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 11: the door list, Yeah, anything on Ruthless is gonna be fine,

1167
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 11: you know. So we opened the doors for them to

1168
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:59,320
Speaker 11: break out and stuffing it up. Yeah, and also funded

1169
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:02,719
Speaker 11: their album with our because your album went gold, it

1170
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 11: went and eventually platinum.

1171
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:07,760
Speaker 1: That's a huge deal. So back to the Diss records

1172
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 1: because that I can't believe JJ fadd was doing dis records.

1173
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 1: I heard some Pepper had a little beef for y'all

1174
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:14,240
Speaker 1: for a second.

1175
00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 12: It was.

1176
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,399
Speaker 15: It was the time when we came out. Even we

1177
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 15: thought like thissing was the way, you know, but we

1178
00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:25,480
Speaker 15: only did our so we thought that that was out

1179
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 15: at the time, right, So we just said, well, let's

1180
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:29,440
Speaker 15: just throw this out there. And that was the A side.

1181
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 15: So we like, we're gonna di We're gonna dis. So

1182
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:33,879
Speaker 15: we wanted to have fun and then still like trying

1183
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 15: to get a little name for ourselves.

1184
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:36,399
Speaker 2: But that's there.

1185
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 9: But that didn't work.

1186
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 10: That didn't work, let me tell you.

1187
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:41,920
Speaker 15: And we love everybody that we did then that was

1188
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 15: so childish of us.

1189
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 9: But.

1190
00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:48,440
Speaker 15: Everybody that was kind of yeah, it was the thing

1191
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 15: at the time, they said it ain't no hard feelings

1192
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 15: against nobody. But one time we was in the club

1193
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:56,080
Speaker 15: with our pr person and he flipped that record on

1194
00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:58,879
Speaker 15: the B side and Supersonic took off.

1195
00:52:59,320 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 2: It was like.

1196
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 11: Because the A side was the dis record, okay yeah,

1197
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:04,959
Speaker 11: and then we flipped it over and the club went wild.

1198
00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 9: He was like, that's the record, you guys.

1199
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 2: That's something that I feel like to this day is

1200
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 2: still a hit.

1201
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:12,319
Speaker 1: Even if you were to put it out like now,

1202
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:16,840
Speaker 1: it just sounds very timeless. Yeah it is, and financially like,

1203
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: for instance, I used to work with nob Rogers and

1204
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:20,879
Speaker 1: he wrote We Are Family, So he always talks about

1205
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 1: how that song is so big it makes him a

1206
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:25,319
Speaker 1: lot of money to this day every single year. Does

1207
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 1: super Sonic still bring in like some great checks every year?

1208
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,919
Speaker 11: Absolutely, and you know, still being able to go out

1209
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 11: and perform and that helps us well.

1210
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:34,440
Speaker 9: But we're not gonna lie.

1211
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 11: We all have regular jobs, so super Sonic doesn't make

1212
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:41,319
Speaker 11: us rich. We want benefits, We want consistency, so we

1213
00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:42,800
Speaker 11: all hold regular jobs.

1214
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 2: So you work both in healthcare and I'm a school

1215
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 2: nurse okay.

1216
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,400
Speaker 10: I'm a supervisor for Casino Hotel.

1217
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:50,400
Speaker 9: Okay, And satsy C is a respiratory therapist.

1218
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:53,319
Speaker 1: First of all, how exciting to have you as a

1219
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 1: school nurse, Like, do the kids know I keep I

1220
00:53:57,400 --> 00:53:57,839
Speaker 1: have like.

1221
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:02,880
Speaker 11: Two different personas at work, Wanna nurse wanna, and it

1222
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 11: does come out eventually, I need to go to the

1223
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 11: You try to keep it on the download, but eventually,

1224
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 11: like every job I've been out, eventually they're like, oh.

1225
00:54:11,760 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 9: We heard that you.

1226
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:15,640
Speaker 11: So it eventually gets out. But they know that I'm

1227
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 11: there to do that job. I'm also a cheer coach

1228
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 11: there too, so okay, I do the cheer and so

1229
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:20,839
Speaker 11: they know.

1230
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 1: But it's still cool to be able to like brag

1231
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:27,319
Speaker 1: on that chair coach. Yeah, and baby Dee, what about

1232
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 1: you at your job? Do people know like this is I.

1233
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:31,520
Speaker 10: Mean they know they I mean they tell everybody come

1234
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:31,879
Speaker 10: in the door.

1235
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 2: I bet everything here.

1236
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 1: Now, how was it for you guys being in the

1237
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:39,799
Speaker 1: miss because there was a lot of drama going on,

1238
00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:42,279
Speaker 1: you know, being signed to a label like Ruthless and

1239
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 1: even with Jerry Heller and with people talking about the

1240
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:48,439
Speaker 1: business side of things and then the breakup and NWA.

1241
00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:50,719
Speaker 1: I mean, y'all were in the midst of all that

1242
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 1: and we never get to hear your side of how

1243
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 1: that affected your business?

1244
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:56,040
Speaker 2: How did that affect you guys as a group and

1245
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 2: your music.

1246
00:54:57,360 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 10: At the time.

1247
00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 15: That's when we kind of stepped away and was with

1248
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:02,799
Speaker 15: our babies now.

1249
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,760
Speaker 10: Because in between all that, we stayed mutual.

1250
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:09,680
Speaker 15: They were having it out, you know, and we were

1251
00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 15: in a back groul like, oh my god, next, you know,

1252
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 15: but we stayed mutual. We love both sides. We love

1253
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 15: both sides, and they kept it like that. That wasn't

1254
00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:20,480
Speaker 15: our business, you know. So that's why I'm still all

1255
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 15: love with everybody.

1256
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 6: Right.

1257
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:23,440
Speaker 10: We didn't take no sides.

1258
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 11: But I will say, and people always like Jerry Heller

1259
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 11: he was a crook blah blah blah blah, But I

1260
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 11: have to tell you, Jerry Hall Heler was very good

1261
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:32,360
Speaker 11: to us. He gave us our own publishing.

1262
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:35,040
Speaker 2: Wow. Did y'all have lawyers that were handling that or

1263
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 2: did they were his lawyers?

1264
00:55:36,360 --> 00:55:41,520
Speaker 9: That's see. Yes, yes, yeah, we were young.

1265
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:44,280
Speaker 11: But I still say to this day like he treated

1266
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 11: us just like his kids.

1267
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:46,399
Speaker 9: All right.

1268
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 5: J J.

1269
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:48,600
Speaker 1: Fadd is here with us. We have more with them

1270
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:50,600
Speaker 1: when we come back. I have so many questions. The

1271
00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: first female rap group signed to Ruthless Record, first female

1272
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:57,080
Speaker 1: rap group nominated for a Grammy, So many first with them.

1273
00:55:57,120 --> 00:56:04,359
Speaker 1: It's way up at Angela Yee.

1274
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:03,839
Speaker 2: You find a way up with Angela Yee.

1275
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 1: What's appics way up with Angela Yee. I'm Angela Yee

1276
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,960
Speaker 1: and the iconic group jj FAD is here with me.

1277
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 2: Now let's talk to baby D.

1278
00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: I know you had some issues when you found out

1279
00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 1: that you guys were not even featured in the movie

1280
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 1: Straight out of Compton.

1281
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 15: It's just funny how like we were snubbed out of

1282
00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 15: that and that really hurt us because we were there

1283
00:56:22,560 --> 00:56:25,360
Speaker 15: and like she said earlier, we opened the doors for Ruthless,

1284
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:28,120
Speaker 15: So how could you even do Ruthless movie story whatever

1285
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:29,720
Speaker 15: without even mentioning us.

1286
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:31,759
Speaker 1: But you know what, that leaves a great space for

1287
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:34,680
Speaker 1: I know you guys are working on your own movie, yeah,

1288
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:36,440
Speaker 1: and I think that leaves a great space for you

1289
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 1: to be able to tell your own story from the

1290
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:41,000
Speaker 1: way it's all. And we also didn't see enough of

1291
00:56:41,080 --> 00:56:43,439
Speaker 1: like women. You guys were also the first female REP

1292
00:56:43,440 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 1: group to be nominated for a Grammy, Yes and again,

1293
00:56:46,560 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 1: And I saw you guys talking about this too, and

1294
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 1: I saw Jerry Heller also shouting you all out for

1295
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: the contributions that you've made and not gotten the recognition for.

1296
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 1: But you weren't even invited to the fiftieth anniversary of

1297
00:56:57,719 --> 00:57:00,920
Speaker 1: hip hop and being the first female rap group nominated

1298
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:02,880
Speaker 1: for a Grammy. I would think at least be in

1299
00:57:02,920 --> 00:57:06,359
Speaker 1: the audience, at least some type of interview or something, right.

1300
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 11: Exactly, because if you're at the Grammys and they're honoring

1301
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:12,000
Speaker 11: rap and we're the rap was the very first category

1302
00:57:12,160 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 11: in the eighties and you were the first one nominated, yeah, we.

1303
00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:18,439
Speaker 9: Was hanging in there.

1304
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 11: But the funny thing he is is I always remember

1305
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 11: Chuck saying, y'all need to go. We're gonna make a

1306
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:26,280
Speaker 11: statement because that's what we do, that's who we are.

1307
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 11: But you guys need to go. He goes, this is

1308
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 11: the first You guys are young. This is opportunity that

1309
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:36,720
Speaker 11: may never come again. And it didn't, not not yet, heynity,

1310
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 11: but we're thankful that we did. So you have a

1311
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 11: still good relationship with Chucky, Yes, very very good relationship.

1312
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,160
Speaker 11: I call him like a mentor. We were on the

1313
00:57:48,240 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 11: very first national hip hop tour, which was the Runs

1314
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 11: House Tour. We were on that tour and they all

1315
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:58,120
Speaker 11: were so protective and they treated us like gold.

1316
00:57:58,160 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 9: I'm like, she's gonna have to tell you the story

1317
00:57:59,640 --> 00:58:01,560
Speaker 9: about right, DMC. But anyway, I'll tell you firs to

1318
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 9: tell you about Chuck. We would take long.

1319
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:06,040
Speaker 11: Walks like after the show and he would tell tell

1320
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Speaker 11: me about the business.

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Speaker 9: Make sure you do this, make sure you do that,

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Speaker 9: make sure you have this, make sure.

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Speaker 3: You have that.

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Speaker 11: Like he always mentored me and said, these are the

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Speaker 11: things that you need to do to be successful. And

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Speaker 11: I'll never forget that because I cherished all that knowledge

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Speaker 11: that he had at that time, you know, so that

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Speaker 11: was really special to me and that's why I just

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Speaker 11: I love him.

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Speaker 7: Now.

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Speaker 2: I want to hear your story.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, yoah.

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Speaker 10: I was just like I had to stay home.

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Speaker 15: See, I had to stay in the room because I

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Speaker 15: was young, you know, I was fourteen. And then you

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Speaker 15: would take like DMC and say, come on in all

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Speaker 15: babysit out babysit. So he was my personal babysitter and

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Speaker 15: you would sit and write wraps, you know, all night

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Speaker 15: until they come and get me. And we just had

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Speaker 15: the greatest time. Like Flavor, you know, Flavor was like,

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Speaker 15: oh you know, he was.

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Speaker 10: Wild and crazy.

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Speaker 15: I got to run around with him a little bit,

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Speaker 15: you know, but then now go going back to the babysit.

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Speaker 10: So we wouldn't go out.

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Speaker 5: She couldn't.

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Speaker 11: God was like, I'll watch it like.

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Speaker 10: Them, So I need to care of me and I

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Speaker 10: love them for that.

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Speaker 1: Right now, I'm talking to jj FAD, So you are

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00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 1: working on some new music? Yes, okay, So what's the

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00:59:13,520 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 1: sound like now for JJFAD?

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Speaker 11: And that's where we're torn because if you really think

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Speaker 11: about it, Angela, how many people from the eighties have

1355
00:59:22,960 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 11: come back and tried to come back and make a

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Speaker 11: song and it was successful. Right, So we're being really

1357
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 11: careful about how we come back because you don't want

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00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 11: to alienate those fans that love Supersonic, right, But you

1359
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 11: also want to.

1360
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Speaker 9: Make sure that you're up to date with what people

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00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:37,560
Speaker 9: are hearing.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I should do another a new disc record? Who

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00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 2: shoot you? Yeah? Well listen.

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Speaker 1: I want to thank you guys so much for coming through.

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00:59:50,920 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 1: This honestly was such a pleasure for me. I know

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00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 1: this all started with you wanted to make sure that

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00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 1: you set the record strate is there anything else you

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00:59:57,760 --> 00:59:59,200
Speaker 1: feel like you need to set the record straight on

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00:59:59,240 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 1: while we're here.

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Speaker 15: Only that we just want our flowers while we're here.

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01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:04,959
Speaker 15: You know, we don't want to wait till something bad happen,

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01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 15: and they could have shot one of us. We just

1373
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 15: want the respect and the love that you know, we

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01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 15: we deserve, right, that's all.

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Speaker 11: And our place is stamped in hip hop history, so

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Speaker 11: give us that respect. If you have hip hop's fiftieth,

1377
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Speaker 11: then include us, because what more history do you have

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Speaker 11: than having been nominated for the first Grammy, you know,

1379
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:26,560
Speaker 11: being on the first national tour, Like, what more history

1380
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Speaker 11: is there than that, you know, as far as hip

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01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 11: hop goes. So yeah, we just want that respect. We

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01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 11: just want to be included, you know, in the fiftieth

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Speaker 11: anniversary and all the time, just even in the conversations.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't have to just be the fiftieth anniversary, and

1385
01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to just be about women, right hip hop?

1386
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 2: It could be hip hop in general.

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Speaker 1: Correct, Correct, This is an honor for me to have

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Speaker 1: you all up here, just because I grew up as

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01:00:48,960 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 1: a hip hop kid in Brooklyn, and so, like I said,

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01:00:51,160 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 1: I never thatt I be in a position to be

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01:00:53,080 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 1: sitting in a room with you guys.

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Speaker 2: So thank you so much, thank you, thank you.

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01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:58,880
Speaker 1: We had a good time all right, Well, thank you

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01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:01,200
Speaker 1: so much to JJ for joining me today on Way

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Speaker 1: Up with angela Ye and you can watch the full

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Speaker 1: interview on my YouTube channel Way up with Ye, And

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01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:08,520
Speaker 1: when we come back we have asked ye. Pastor Aar

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Speaker 1: Bernard is here to also give us his expert advice.

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01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 1: Is Way up with Ye one eight hundred two ninety

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01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:15,240
Speaker 1: two fifty one fifty call us up?

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01:01:15,400 --> 01:01:16,280
Speaker 12: I go gad.

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Speaker 4: Everybody like since with its relationship with career advice, Angela's

1403
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 4: dropping facts.

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01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:25,240
Speaker 2: This is ask ye what's up? Is Way up with Angela?

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01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 7: Ye?

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01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: I'm Angela ye, and Pastor Aar Bernard is here with me.

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01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:30,760
Speaker 1: What a blessing to have you here because people need

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01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 1: some help and it's time to ask ye. All right, Well,

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01:01:33,560 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 1: eight hundred two nine two fifty one fifty is a

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01:01:35,880 --> 01:01:38,200
Speaker 1: number and this caller wants to remain anonymous.

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Speaker 2: Hello Doland, how are you?

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01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:40,560
Speaker 17: I'm good?

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01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 10: How are you?

1414
01:01:41,320 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 17: Yee?

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01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:42,600
Speaker 2: I'm good?

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01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:45,120
Speaker 1: Thank you, and you're very fortunate because Pastor a Ar

1417
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 1: Bernard is here too.

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01:01:46,640 --> 01:01:47,280
Speaker 17: Nice to me too.

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01:01:47,840 --> 01:01:50,600
Speaker 2: Bernard likewise, Okay, what's your question?

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Speaker 7: Kay?

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01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:55,160
Speaker 17: My question is I've been together for thirteen years of

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01:01:55,280 --> 01:01:59,560
Speaker 17: my fiance. We haven't we're not officially married, but we

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01:01:59,760 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 17: just you know, claim each other as a married couple

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01:02:01,800 --> 01:02:05,080
Speaker 17: and stuff like that. We have two boys and I

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01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:09,800
Speaker 17: like being having we don't have mental problem mental health problems,

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01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:14,760
Speaker 17: and he turned to prescription pills or whatever, and then

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Speaker 17: now he's trying to get off of it.

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Speaker 14: But the thing is if he.

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01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:21,600
Speaker 17: Gets off to go to rehab and stuff like that,

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01:02:22,200 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 17: me and my kids are kind of gonna fall down

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01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 17: because I'm not working, like and also just started having

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Speaker 17: seizures like a year ago, pseudo seizures, and so I'm

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Speaker 17: trying to deal with that at the same time, and

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01:02:33,640 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 17: it's like I don't have money coming in.

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Speaker 13: For the household.

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Speaker 17: I'm just trying to figure out a way to be

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Speaker 17: able to step up and be there for him as

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Speaker 17: well and make sure I'm there for myself.

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Speaker 3: Wow, if I may respond to you, do you have

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01:02:48,960 --> 01:02:51,880
Speaker 3: a support system? Are you part of a church, part

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01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 3: of a group? What's your support system? This is very

1442
01:02:57,400 --> 01:02:58,520
Speaker 3: important at times like this.

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Speaker 17: I actually just started at church where my kids used

1444
01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:05,439
Speaker 17: to go to their daycare, like since I haven't been working,

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01:03:05,520 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 17: I had to pull them out of there because that

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Speaker 17: was like eight hundred of months and we definitely didn't

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Speaker 17: have that. Like, it's a lot of things going down

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Speaker 17: and down, like our car is down and all kind

1449
01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:17,080
Speaker 17: of stuff back to back.

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Speaker 1: So what you're saying is he does need to go

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Speaker 1: to rehab, but financially, you need still support for the family, correct.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And there are support systems in place. You just

1453
01:03:28,840 --> 01:03:32,440
Speaker 3: need to reach out to your local pastor your local

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01:03:32,520 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 3: church and find out what programs they can connect you to.

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01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:37,680
Speaker 3: There's help out there for you. You just got to

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Speaker 3: seek it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, and listen, and what about family support too.

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Speaker 17: We with both don't have that family support. I have

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Speaker 17: an aunt, she lives like an hour away, but she's

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Speaker 17: only doing that. She the things that she can because

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01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 17: she's seek and stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: You know, what what city are you guys in? And

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01:03:59,280 --> 01:04:00,880
Speaker 2: we in Boma? Okay?

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01:04:01,160 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I've been there before. The fact that

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Speaker 3: you didn't mention family in the beginning, I had to

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01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 3: assume very quickly that you didn't have that kind of

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Speaker 3: support system. That's why I asked about an external support system.

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Speaker 3: But definitely, they've got to be programs, community centers, community programs,

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01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:22,200
Speaker 3: social programs that are available to you that you need

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Speaker 3: to tap into as quickly as as possible.

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Speaker 17: Right, And that's the thing I also go, I'm sorry

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Speaker 17: to cut you off.

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Speaker 6: I go to.

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Speaker 14: Something like that.

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Speaker 17: But it seemed like he said that if he goes

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01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:39,560
Speaker 17: to his job or whatever and tells them about it,

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Speaker 17: they will fire him because there's these they were tolerance

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01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:44,360
Speaker 17: type things.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well that's why I suggested the local church because

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Speaker 3: they're you're protected.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, I wish you so much support, and

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01:04:53,600 --> 01:04:55,440
Speaker 1: I really do hope this does work out for you.

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01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 2: If you can't, just send me a DM.

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01:04:57,280 --> 01:04:59,280
Speaker 1: I know you want to remain anonymous, so I won't

1485
01:04:59,280 --> 01:05:01,320
Speaker 1: post your information just so we can stay in touch.

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Speaker 6: Thank you so much.

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01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:06,120
Speaker 17: I will definitely send it to you on Instagram.

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01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:08,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, Instagram, send me a DM so you and I

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01:05:08,640 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 1: can stay in touch and I can also look into

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01:05:10,400 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 1: some things for you.

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01:05:11,240 --> 01:05:13,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, we can do that together. I'd love to do that.

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01:05:13,760 --> 01:05:14,680
Speaker 14: Yeah, I was gonna ask.

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01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 17: I also be in you too as well.

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01:05:16,840 --> 01:05:17,240
Speaker 6: Past it.

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01:05:17,600 --> 01:05:19,440
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, you can go to my website. You can

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01:05:19,480 --> 01:05:22,440
Speaker 3: just google me a ar Bernard pastor R Bernard and

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01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:26,760
Speaker 3: absolutely you'll have access there. Yeah, and we have and

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01:05:26,800 --> 01:05:29,640
Speaker 3: we have relationships in that part of town.

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Speaker 13: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 17: I really appreciate that.

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01:05:32,800 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 2: All right, Dear, thank you, I'm glad you called this

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01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 2: for help.

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Speaker 12: Yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 2: Good listening all right, it's way up with Angela uee.

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01:05:40,840 --> 01:05:41,800
Speaker 2: See that's amazing.

1506
01:05:41,920 --> 01:05:43,680
Speaker 3: Well, that's that's one of the roles of the church.

1507
01:05:43,720 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 3: It's community, people caring for each other, and we we

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01:05:48,320 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 3: we don't have enough of that. We've moved away from that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, I'm gonna definitely make sure I stay in

1510
01:05:53,120 --> 01:05:54,920
Speaker 1: contact with her and give some updates.

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Speaker 2: That is ask ye eight.

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Speaker 1: Hundred two nine fifty one fifty in case you couldn't

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01:05:59,160 --> 01:06:01,480
Speaker 1: get through featuring past to a ar Bernard. And when

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01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:03,480
Speaker 1: we come back, you guys always have the last word.

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01:06:03,840 --> 01:06:06,280
Speaker 1: That is a number eight hundred two nine fifty one fifty.

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01:06:06,320 --> 01:06:07,520
Speaker 1: It's way up at Angela Yee.

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Speaker 4: Take up the phone, tapping to get your voice heard.

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01:06:11,520 --> 01:06:12,240
Speaker 4: What the word?

1519
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:15,920
Speaker 2: This is the last word on way up with Angela Yee.

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01:06:16,120 --> 01:06:17,880
Speaker 2: What's up? It's way up with Angela Yee.

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01:06:17,920 --> 01:06:19,960
Speaker 1: I'm Angela Yee and I just want to say thank

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01:06:19,960 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 1: you to pass to Al Bernard for joining me today.

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Speaker 3: It is my pleasure and I will tell you it's

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01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:26,280
Speaker 3: been a learning experience for me to see the type

1525
01:06:26,280 --> 01:06:30,040
Speaker 3: of phone calls that you're feeling fielding and how are

1526
01:06:30,040 --> 01:06:32,400
Speaker 3: you responding to the needs of people. It's an amazing

1527
01:06:32,440 --> 01:06:33,439
Speaker 3: platform you have here.

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01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:35,400
Speaker 1: I love this and you know what, I want to

1529
01:06:35,520 --> 01:06:37,080
Speaker 1: bring this up and put you on the spot right

1530
01:06:37,080 --> 01:06:41,360
Speaker 1: now because you had a podcast. Yes, okay, now what happened?

1531
01:06:41,400 --> 01:06:42,800
Speaker 1: Are you bringing this back.

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01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:44,800
Speaker 3: Or we are relaunching October third?

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01:06:44,920 --> 01:06:46,320
Speaker 2: Okay, I had to put you on the side and

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01:06:46,440 --> 01:06:47,480
Speaker 2: I'm like, where's the podcast.

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Speaker 3: We're excited about it. It's a whole new look, whole

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01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:53,880
Speaker 3: new feel, and a new podcast. Well it's called al

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01:06:53,920 --> 01:06:56,960
Speaker 3: Bernard of course, but yeah, we're relaunching, so we're very

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Speaker 3: excited about it. So we haven't disappeared on you.

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Speaker 1: That's always going to put you on the spot, and

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Speaker 1: I gave you no heads up, but yes, because you know,

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Speaker 1: I've been following pastor a ar Bernard ever since we

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Speaker 1: first met, and I know I've interviewed you before on

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club, but it's different to have you here

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Speaker 1: the whole time on Way Up at Angela.

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Speaker 2: Ye, just guest hosting.

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Speaker 3: It's been an amazing experience. And again I've learned a lot, yes,

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01:07:18,880 --> 01:07:21,800
Speaker 3: watching what you do and how you do it and

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Speaker 3: the role that you play in the lives of people,

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Speaker 3: and that's special to me.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, thank you that means a lot coming from you,

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Speaker 1: And what else means a lot is that we will

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Speaker 1: also be spending the rest of the day together. At

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Speaker 1: five pm, we'll be having a town hall. We'll be

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Speaker 1: talking about relationships, yes, which is a.

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Speaker 2: Very important topic.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And that's going to be at five pm today,

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Speaker 1: so you guys can all stream that and join us

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Speaker 1: at a town hall.

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Speaker 2: You can stream that for free.

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Speaker 1: You'll also have it available even afterwards if you can't

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Speaker 1: make it at five, We'll make sure that you guys

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Speaker 1: have that available to download to watch at your leisure.

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Speaker 2: And I want to thank JJ Fadd for coming through today.

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Speaker 1: You know, I grew up listening to hip hop in

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Speaker 1: Brooklyn and JJ FAD I could never even have imagined

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Speaker 1: that I would be sitting down having conversations with them.

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Speaker 1: So I thank them for coming through and their contributions

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Speaker 1: to hip hop.

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Speaker 2: And I thank you Pastor A. Bernard, a huge Tupac fan.

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Speaker 1: We found out today, Uh yeah, and for reasons that

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Speaker 1: we'd have to take some time to discuss.

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Speaker 3: It was a music, but more so the words. He

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Speaker 3: was really insightful and prophetic in terms of how he

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Speaker 3: understood what was happening in society.

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Speaker 1: Now, you're absolutely right. I think that's why people gravitated

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Speaker 1: toward him so much. You know as well. But as usual,

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Speaker 1: you guys get the last word too, in case you

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Speaker 1: couldn't get through today.

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Speaker 2: Eight hundred two nine two fifty one fifty is a number.

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Speaker 2: Last word.

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Speaker 13: Hey, g this is Jafil Patterson.

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Speaker 12: Yo.

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Speaker 13: Let them ladies know. But JJ said I had the

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Speaker 13: biggest crush on them, math I love them girls.

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Speaker 6: Why hey, j know, I'm sure i'd calling from Minneapolis,

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Speaker 6: Minnesota like to give a shout out to Aar Bernard

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Speaker 6: And I'm glad to have had a chance to have

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Speaker 6: met him in Minneapolis at my home church. And God

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Speaker 6: blessed him to continue to keep bread and the good

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Speaker 6: word of the Gospel around. Have a great

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Speaker 4: Day going way out with angela ye