Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to talks.
Speaker 3: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tending then for a
Speaker 3: new episode of We Talk Back, a show dedicated to
Speaker 3: you dreamers and chasers.
Speaker 2: This show co host a j Holiday. What's up, damn y'all?
Speaker 2: This is Insomnia Long. That's my name today in Somnia Long.
Speaker 2: I'm not tam Bam because I'm motherfucking sleepy. I did
Speaker 2: not sleep all night like, not a wink, not a
Speaker 2: wink asleep.
Speaker 3: Why you gotta baby?
Speaker 2: This show is dedicated to you niggas at host today
Speaker 2: because that's how I'm feeling. Why you ain't sleep? My
Speaker 2: mind just would not shut off. I did everything that
Speaker 2: puts me to sleep. I I masturbated like three times.
Speaker 2: I closed my eyes and thought about Drake. I got
Speaker 2: up and did like some exercise. I got up and read.
Speaker 2: Nothing worked. Nothing worked. I stayed up all night and
Speaker 2: before I knew it, so I started to doze off
Speaker 2: like four and then I hear Bella crying, so I
Speaker 2: get up to see what's wrong. She does shit up
Speaker 2: her cage like I'm talking about disgusting shit, and her
Speaker 2: paws are all dirty. So now I got to clean
Speaker 2: her up, clean the cage out, clean the bathroom floor
Speaker 2: because now the bathroom floor has poop on it, so
Speaker 2: now I have to mop. So finally I get back
Speaker 2: in the bed. I'm still laying there with my mind
Speaker 2: on whatever. It just won't I think I masturbated again
Speaker 2: after that. You just didn't want nothing, had shitty gloves. No,
Speaker 2: I'm cleaned up by now. Obviously I didn't go back
Speaker 2: to bed with shit anywhere, silly. And then six o'clock
Speaker 2: she did it again. Six am, she did it again.
Speaker 2: She pooped up again. So and then it was starting
Speaker 2: to get ready for work.
Speaker 3: Are you Are you drinking like energy drinks and stuff
Speaker 3: like that? Are too much coffee during the day because
Speaker 3: I'll do it to you.
Speaker 2: No, So typically I just have one cup of mushroom
Speaker 2: coffee in the morning. That's what I've been having all year,
Speaker 2: and it hasn't done that to me.
Speaker 3: So I don't know, girl, try meditation. I use this
Speaker 3: app call sinc tuition. I think I've mentioned it here
Speaker 3: on we talked back before. But y'all if y'all got
Speaker 3: a problems sleeping and shit like that, or just trying
Speaker 3: to get into meditation. That shit works like for real,
Speaker 3: for real, but it might sound like somebody walking in
Speaker 3: your house though it sounds.
Speaker 2: I tried brown noise. I tried meditation on YouTube. I
Speaker 2: tried everything. Last night, I just could not sleep. It
Speaker 2: was my sleep. I ge, it's really bad. Ever since
Speaker 2: I got back from La.
Speaker 3: M I don't know, man, what aside from that? How
Speaker 3: was your weekend? Cha?
Speaker 2: My weekend was okay. I mess was flaring a little
Speaker 2: bit this weekend. It was that's a conversation for another episode.
Speaker 2: Saturday night, I saw one of my friends message me
Speaker 2: and she was like, Hey, I have to take my client.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to secure this client and his plus one
Speaker 2: isn't coming. Would you like to come with us to
Speaker 2: see Kat Williams. So I went with them to see
Speaker 2: Kat Williams other weekend and he was fucking hilarious. He
Speaker 2: was so good. Tory Hart, she did okay, she you
Speaker 2: know that joke at the end that's supposed to be
Speaker 2: that big ha ha. It bombed real bad. I mean
Speaker 2: it did. She'll get better, yeah, as she go. But
Speaker 2: she had some funny moments. I mean, all her comedy
Speaker 2: was about him, but that's fair because all his comedy
Speaker 2: was about her and the kids at one point, So
Speaker 2: I'm not mad at that. But it was a really
Speaker 2: good show. If Kat Williams is coming your way, y'all
Speaker 2: should go see him. He's really funny. And he did
Speaker 2: not talk about nobody. I mean, he did talk about people,
Speaker 2: but not the people that we thought he was gonna
Speaker 2: talk about.
Speaker 3: Did he talk about Kevin Hart, He didn't know.
Speaker 2: He didn't talk about like any comedians, politicians, and sh
Speaker 2: talked about the election. Y'all gotta go see it. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna tell you, I don't want.
Speaker 3: To always talk about politics, that's all asking.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, he definitely talked about politics. And he talked
Speaker 2: about you know, being in this world and now's a
Speaker 2: time where you literally could be anything you want to be, Like,
Speaker 2: it's the best time to be alive. And then he
Speaker 2: literally put a video of a kid. I didn't laugh
Speaker 2: at this part. I want my soul wanted to, but
Speaker 2: I just stared in the sky of a kid, a
Speaker 2: blind kid playing football. He's like, y'all were living in
Speaker 2: a town where you can do whatever you want and
Speaker 2: this poor baby was just running all over the field.
Speaker 3: Looking ship for that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: This weekend was Saint Jude Hospital Annual Celebrate a Hope,
Speaker 3: So I joined everybody down in Memphis, Tennessee, the most
Speaker 3: filthiest city in America, Sorry Memphis. Well, I just want
Speaker 3: to know where is the suburbs, where are the nice areas?
Speaker 3: And of course I did not take none of them
Speaker 3: towards this. Actually I did tour the campus, the actual
Speaker 3: hospital campus, which is really nice. But it was a
Speaker 3: good time. We got to try to find some type
Speaker 3: of way to implement some of their initiatives in the
Speaker 3: show possibly And you know, the sneaker ball that they
Speaker 3: had last year was super clunked. This year, child they
Speaker 3: had Dougie Fresh Tweet performed, Eric Benney performed. Oh it
Speaker 3: was lit and.
Speaker 2: It looked like a good time. It looked like a
Speaker 2: good time.
Speaker 3: They had like a little seventies party on Friday night.
Speaker 3: But aside from all the fun stuff, the kids that
Speaker 3: they had come speak. You know, I'm gonna tell y'all,
Speaker 3: I was tired of crying.
Speaker 2: You did.
Speaker 3: Yes, this year they had like little boxes of Saint
Speaker 3: Jude Hospital and Napkins on your table just because they
Speaker 3: know they're gonna make your ass cry off fucking weekend.
Speaker 3: But you know, the research that the hospital is doing,
Speaker 3: it's a good thing. I have my reservations about some stuff,
Speaker 3: but for the most part, cancer exists, and we need
Speaker 3: people around the clock trying to figure out all these
Speaker 3: different diseases. Man, so you can care kids at least.
Speaker 3: You know, all these kids seem like they'd get hundred
Speaker 3: years older. Like the way they talk, you would think
Speaker 3: they're way older than they actually are. It's crazy.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe their soul is older.
Speaker 3: That's what I be thinking. I feel like that that
Speaker 3: is the spiritual side of that thing. I do feel
Speaker 3: like they might be older spirits yep show.
Speaker 2: You guys, it is the first day of Black History Month,
Speaker 2: and you know every year we're going to do a
Speaker 2: Baddie who talks back to celebrate our female Black history.
Speaker 2: And I, you know, I was thinking about it, and
Speaker 2: I was like, who should we start this year off with?
Speaker 2: And who better than Coretta Scott King? Since everybody won
Speaker 2: a Coretta, I need y'all to know some of the
Speaker 2: things about her. You know why she was so special.
Speaker 2: She wasn't just Martin Luther King's wife. She had accolades
Speaker 2: and things that she did on her own. She took
Speaker 2: an early stand on the Vietnam War just after doctor
Speaker 2: King was killed, so weeks after he was killed, she
Speaker 2: was doing his speech about in an unpopular opinion at
Speaker 2: the time, so she was by herself saying that this
Speaker 2: war is wrong and calling on Linda B. Johnson to
Speaker 2: bring the troops home. So she was out there doing
Speaker 2: the speech only weeks after Martin Luther King had been murdered.
Speaker 2: She also is the reason why there's an MLK Day altogether.
Speaker 2: She started the King Center, and she called for nationwide
Speaker 2: celebrations in support of Martin Luther King and states beginning
Speaker 2: to pass their bills making King's birthday and national holiday.
Speaker 2: And it took a year because John Conyers and Edwards
Speaker 2: Brooks from Massachusetts Republicans, they're introduced to bill to honor him,
Speaker 2: but it wasn't recognized until she started calling on all
Speaker 2: the states to start recognizing her husband period. So that's
Speaker 2: how we yes they did, Yes they did. She went
Speaker 2: on to meet with Wynnie Mandela after Nelson Malandela was
Speaker 2: prison She went to share love with that woman and
Speaker 2: Soweto and later describes it as one of the greatest
Speaker 2: meaningful moments of her life. And she took a stand
Speaker 2: on people living with HIV and AIDS in the lgbt
Speaker 2: community long long before many others. So she was definitely
Speaker 2: one of the first advocates for LGBTQ and HIV and
Speaker 2: a's survivors or people living with that. So she has
Speaker 2: done many many things. Coretta Scott King, we salute you.
Speaker 2: You are a battie who talks back.
Speaker 3: Happy Black History Month. I guess.
Speaker 2: You guess why?
Speaker 3: You guess you know it's all It's year round for me, chill,
Speaker 3: but you know this is our time February. Let me
Speaker 3: drop this eminem before we get in the stupid internet
Speaker 3: news messy uh messy memes. So uh this is from Twitter.
Speaker 3: I found this tweet and this girl says a nigga
Speaker 3: and a Nike suit and some Aaron Max's ain't never
Speaker 3: asked me, what do you bring to the table. That's
Speaker 3: a brunch boot nigga question. I agree, Yeah, them niggas
Speaker 3: wild turn on necks and blazers on.
Speaker 2: What kind of shoes your nigga had on that time?
Speaker 3: Oh Chelsea boots? Yeah, that nigga ain't never asked me
Speaker 3: what I bring to the table either, So there's that part.
Speaker 3: Because most of the time he would have on an
Speaker 3: Adidas track suit.
Speaker 2: I like, I like like them Nike tech suits because
Speaker 2: them dick prints be dick print.
Speaker 3: Yes, came me give me some great sweatpants.
Speaker 2: I loved about. Like, that's my gift for at Christmas time.
Speaker 2: Let me get you a Nike tip bribe every time,
Speaker 2: every time little Central hoodie and the Nike tick some sneakers,
Speaker 2: the match child.
Speaker 3: Let's get into the stupid ind ofnet news now, all right,
Speaker 3: Nicki Minaj ruined the whole fucking weekend. She ruined it, okay,
Speaker 3: So she okay, She's not okay, She's not okay, and
Speaker 3: she is the hit dog that's been howling all fucking
Speaker 3: weekend after Meg the Stallion dropped her single Hiss on
Speaker 3: Friday at twelve midnight, and Megan Dadian also went on
Speaker 3: a breakfast club you know, via a telephone call, and
Speaker 3: she said, all hit dogs on Hauler. I'm not talking
Speaker 3: about anybody in particular, but if he feel us about you,
Speaker 3: bitch is about you. So she dropped the line in
Speaker 3: the song saying these bitches ain't mad at Meghan, Ain't
Speaker 3: mad at Meghan's law, That's all she said. So that
Speaker 3: was enough for Nicki Minaj to go on a rant,
Speaker 3: a seventy two hour rant. And then also on Sundays,
Speaker 3: she dropped some Bigfoot disc that she already had in
Speaker 3: a cut for Megan to stallion. So that also indicates that, bitch,
Speaker 3: you did have a smoke with that girl. How you
Speaker 3: already got a disc track ready? Because she was playing
Speaker 3: the shit on the live she was on for seventy
Speaker 3: two hours.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that shit was crazy, first of all Meghan's last.
Speaker 2: So I had to go do some research on that
Speaker 2: because the father of the child, a young child, ten
Speaker 2: year old baby named Megha, had been murdered by her
Speaker 2: neighbor who was a sex offender. And this is before
Speaker 2: sex offenders were required and that's how the law became.
Speaker 2: So he's offended by the song or you know, him
Speaker 2: using her daughter. But I feel like, you know, it
Speaker 2: brings more awareness to the law, you know, instead of
Speaker 2: him being upset. You know, that's just bringing more you know,
Speaker 2: people to know what that law is exactly. Now. His
Speaker 2: I don't like the name because I mean, are you
Speaker 2: a snake?
Speaker 3: I think I think snakes get a bad rap if
Speaker 3: you look up the actual h I guess an esoteric
Speaker 3: meaning of a snake is not a negative thing. So
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't think snakes are bad omens,
Speaker 3: so I don't look at that way.
Speaker 2: Mm. I don't like snakes. I never like snakes. It's
Speaker 2: always been like a negative you know, energy when it
Speaker 2: comes to snakes, serpents and things like that. But I mean, okay,
Speaker 2: I get it. His it means like she's you know,
Speaker 2: that's what a snake does when NI gonna attack, right,
Speaker 2: So okay, I get it. The song was good. I
Speaker 2: like it. It's good for the gym.
Speaker 3: But I definitely had my gym playlist today.
Speaker 2: Why ain't so mad? Why is these ladies so mad?
Speaker 3: Nicki Minaj is doing what I believe Little Kim did
Speaker 3: to her when she came in the game. It's like, bitch,
Speaker 3: you gotta pay homage because I've been the only bitch
Speaker 3: here for a long time. Nicki Minaj, you mid forties
Speaker 3: at this point, these young girls is kicking the door
Speaker 3: down to hip hop. It ain't nothing you could do
Speaker 3: about it. You can still be the queen or whatever.
Speaker 3: If that's, you know, the self proclaimed queen and be
Speaker 3: the best rapper and drop all the metaphors. But you
Speaker 3: can't deny Magnae Stallion's talent.
Speaker 2: Talent.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that girl, Monie Slaughter, she's the one. I saw
Speaker 3: a tweet from her suggesting that the family needs to
Speaker 3: sue Megan. How you gonna sue her for a law that?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Why did y'all let them name that law after your child?
Speaker 2: Yeah? They'll never win that one.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I don't even think they have a lawsuit.
Speaker 3: You know, it's just like another thing at this point,
Speaker 3: another thing.
Speaker 2: But you know what really pissed me off, you know,
Speaker 2: because I mean, rap beef has been happening then since forever,
Speaker 2: So that's fine. It's the lyrics about her dead mom
Speaker 2: that was just below the belt for me. I felt
Speaker 2: like it was a lie.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I would take Nicki Minaj's if I
Speaker 3: were Megan, I would take Nicki Minaj's suggestion to conjure
Speaker 3: up my dad mother and sick her on that ass
Speaker 3: is what the fuck I would be doing right now
Speaker 3: because I saw a video with some little bitches dancing
Speaker 3: in front of Meghan and Stallions mama Grave. So this
Speaker 3: is your hometown. People doing the type of nasty shit
Speaker 3: to you because it's some other rapper that they're choosing
Speaker 3: a sideway because people just don't like you from home.
Speaker 3: That's just what it is like. They they you cool
Speaker 3: as long as you so kind on their level level,
Speaker 3: but when you get too far for them to touch,
Speaker 3: they want to humble you and bring you back down.
Speaker 2: Today Lan your mama Grave.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like just disgusting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this I hope somebody beat the ass.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that girl is under a spiritual attack. Man, I
Speaker 3: don't know what the hell. Who the hell Mega Stallion.
Speaker 3: I'm pissed off on the other side of this thing.
Speaker 3: But she has been having all types of issues since
Speaker 3: she came into gaming. That's when you know you a
Speaker 3: whole threat.
Speaker 2: She says, I ain't playing with y'all pussy, So why
Speaker 2: y'all coming from me a favorite bar? Yeah?
Speaker 3: People, Well, I don't like how they doing MEGANE. Stallion
Speaker 3: And you know, for Nicki Minaj to be a woman,
Speaker 3: I'm stole a magde Stallion on that Tory Lane shit. Okay,
Speaker 3: no she didn't. He didn't put a bullet in her foot,
Speaker 3: but it's proven that she had bullet fragments in her foot.
Speaker 3: The whole thing is, why are you shooting at a woman,
Speaker 3: whether or not she got directly hit or not. At
Speaker 3: what point is this okay? So Nicki Minaj, you know,
Speaker 3: based on your track, recketing your family, people can draw
Speaker 3: a lot of conclusions about who you are because you
Speaker 3: are surrounded by some shady ass motherfucking people. Honestly, if
Speaker 3: you can get mad at a one little hitter, quit
Speaker 3: a line, two words shit that mega stagion said, you
Speaker 3: might need to do some reflection. You need do some reflecting.
Speaker 3: Excuse me because.
Speaker 2: I went, I went and looked up the what he
Speaker 2: got in trouble for her husband, Nicki Minaj, And he
Speaker 2: was they were sixteen year olds.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he was fifteen and sixteen at the time. Like
Speaker 3: it's not like he was a forty year old man
Speaker 3: dealing with a young girl. So when people people talk
Speaker 3: about him, they're acting like this should happened yesterday. And
Speaker 3: he was forty and the girls fifteen. They were both children, kids,
Speaker 3: knew kids, and he served his time. And I'm not
Speaker 3: saying that he did or didn't do this thing, because listen, right,
Speaker 3: we all been young in school, should be happening. People
Speaker 3: be doing stuff and people regret stuff sometimes. I'm not
Speaker 3: saying that's what it was. It could very well be that,
Speaker 3: because that's why he's suggested right over time, right, that's.
Speaker 2: What I was looking at. I was like, damn, I
Speaker 2: thought he just did something to thirty years ago. He
Speaker 2: was a king himself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he was a kid.
Speaker 2: He's definitely being unfairly persecuted as like an adult child
Speaker 2: molestor when he was just a kid himself. But this
Speaker 2: is a lesson for y'all if y'all got teenage kids
Speaker 2: or kids that to tell them that the things they
Speaker 2: the decisions that they make very young, can still dictate
Speaker 2: how their life goes as an adult. So they have
Speaker 2: to start making wise decisions right now, absolutely, because the
Speaker 2: quarter of the public opinion will fry yo ask forever
Speaker 2: for something you did when you was fifteen years old. Right.
Speaker 3: And so Nikki's defending her husband because this is a
Speaker 3: thirty year old case, but your brother just got sentenced
Speaker 3: within the last five years for getting a fourteen year
Speaker 3: old pregnant. So regardless of what the head dog is hollering,
Speaker 3: because it's the truth, next case, right, all right, So
Speaker 3: there is a woman going viral on social media and Twitter,
Speaker 3: and this story isn't new and Tam, you actually sent
Speaker 3: this to me earlier today. So her name is Gail
Speaker 3: Louis Lewis. Yeah, so when I saw the pitch, I'm like,
Speaker 3: wait a minute, bitch, is that might then landlord from
Speaker 3: Georgia her name was Gail's I had to like go
Speaker 3: but no, that's not her anyway. So Gail has been
Speaker 3: married for twenty five plus years to a man and
Speaker 3: apparently during the pandemic she found that found out that
Speaker 3: he was cheating. The recent video, you see her pulling
Speaker 3: up on this guy at the airport, him and the girl.
Speaker 3: Everybody looking confused because they've now been separated for two years.
Speaker 3: So this is still this girl's old man and there's
Speaker 3: Gail and her husband are still going through a divorce.
Speaker 3: So Gail went through story time on TikTok child and
Speaker 3: I hit Instagram telling the story on viral right telling
Speaker 3: the story. So people are a noown suggesting that she
Speaker 3: is trying to get on Real Housewives of Atlanta and
Speaker 3: this is why this is happening. I don't know how
Speaker 3: you had it. She does have a video with Candy burgess.
Speaker 3: So I don't know. Now TikTok done started diving into
Speaker 3: this bitchus life and basically saying, bitch, you keep him,
Speaker 3: how you get him? Because apparently he was married to
Speaker 3: a woman thirty years ago at this point, right when
Speaker 3: he was introduced to her. So she's saying he started
Speaker 3: out by lying, saying that he was getting a divorce,
Speaker 3: which is why she even started dating a changing. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but she said the nigga was fat, and she ain't
Speaker 3: really wasn't. She wasn't really attracted to him. But he
Speaker 3: was nice, right, nice, meaning he'd probably be breaking bread
Speaker 3: because he breaking.
Speaker 2: He took care of He took good care of her. Yeah,
Speaker 2: took good care of her. Let me tell you something.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. I would have I would
Speaker 2: have looked the other way, baby. I would have looked
Speaker 2: the other way and got me a thirty eight year
Speaker 2: old because he's sixty, so she looked like she's in
Speaker 2: her you know, she's an older lady. I would have
Speaker 2: finally got me a little thirty five to thirty eight
Speaker 2: year old and been on trips with my nigga money,
Speaker 2: taking my young nigga on trips like yeah, to play
Speaker 2: that game.
Speaker 3: And you know, and pisses me off. Like I'm reading
Speaker 3: through the comments on Instagram and like men like, oh,
Speaker 3: women get cheap. This the random shit men like to say, right,
Speaker 3: And this is why I'm always like, men leave the relationship.
Speaker 3: Women just do the paperwork right, So men really feel like, oh,
Speaker 3: you left, no matter what caused you to leave. You're
Speaker 3: the one that filed for divorce. You're the one that
Speaker 3: ultimately ended this relationship, but you've been left the relationship.
Speaker 3: He had been in a relationship with this younger woman
Speaker 3: for years. When she found out mm hmm, and then
Speaker 3: she was like he was kind of relieved about it.
Speaker 3: He was basically she just saw.
Speaker 2: Her name start Alne.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I can imagine like living a hole up double
Speaker 3: fucking life. That shit gotta be exhausting. This nigga got
Speaker 3: to be a Scorpio because when I tell y'all, Scorpios
Speaker 3: have a high capacity for bullshit, like they will carry
Speaker 3: on two foulk flaged relationships like it ain't shit, bitch,
Speaker 3: everybody piscey is too. I had a pison try to
Speaker 3: put me in a thrupple, and that's the word.
Speaker 2: A throuple.
Speaker 3: Try to move me in all the type of shot like, nah, nigga,
Speaker 3: if you in that type of time, you got to
Speaker 3: pay for me to live someplace else. I am not
Speaker 3: trying to be in the house with yo, bitch. I
Speaker 3: don't like women, and even if I did, would make
Speaker 3: you think I'm like yo, bitch. There's that part.
Speaker 2: Than she wanted a divorce, she was all hurt. I
Speaker 2: would have definitely had me a new nigga, same flight,
Speaker 2: the same flight you took to Paris. I would being
Speaker 2: on the same flight on the same time, just a
Speaker 2: different day with somebody else.
Speaker 3: So the side check. Her name is Sabrina Hutton, so
Speaker 3: you know she's still with this guy. And the video
Speaker 3: that's going viral then at the airport again is because
Speaker 3: they've been separated. So like, bitch, why are you running
Speaker 3: up on us now?
Speaker 2: I'm about to turn this into a chick.
Speaker 3: Nigga exactly, even man exactly.
Speaker 2: But that's a scary part though, like because you know,
Speaker 2: when you're getting older as a woman and there's these
Speaker 2: younger women out here, your man wants to because she
Speaker 2: looks like her kind of she looks like a younger
Speaker 2: version of her mm hmm. So it's like he trade
Speaker 2: you in for the newer bottle.
Speaker 3: That's real cheating. When a man go get a woman
Speaker 3: that resembles you, Like, that's really cheating. I need you
Speaker 3: to go get a different looking bitch, Like you have
Speaker 3: a type. I'm the prototype, right and you like cheating
Speaker 3: with people who resemble me, Like that's in real life cheating.
Speaker 2: It's like getting a car and you're driving to twenty
Speaker 2: sixteen and now you want a twenty twenty three, twenty four.
Speaker 3: And you know it's so sad because women automatically start,
Speaker 3: you know, questioning themselves and it's not and never have
Speaker 3: it never has anything to do with a woman. This
Speaker 3: is a choice this man is making to cheat, like
Speaker 3: it was his choice, and he did it for a
Speaker 3: very long time without you finding out about.
Speaker 2: It, and he was still like, I love you, baby,
Speaker 2: I miss you. You couldn't go on this trip, and I
Speaker 2: would have been like, I love you baby too. My
Speaker 2: flight laying at seven, so I'll see you when I
Speaker 2: get home. I hate you couldn't go on my truth
Speaker 2: with me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, I'm definitely a one upper.
Speaker 2: I'd be fucking some thirty five year old fitness trainer.
Speaker 3: Like that's why y'all get these niggas something to deal with.
Speaker 3: It ain't no way I'm gonna beat the only one
Speaker 3: crying broken hearts was made for two, bitch. When you cry,
Speaker 3: I cried. We cried together. That's what Lomo said. You
Speaker 3: saw he's a nice looking man now, so obviously like
Speaker 3: she was taking good care of him. She was like,
Speaker 3: I earned everything I have. I was wiping his ass
Speaker 3: when he was sick, like obviously he might have been
Speaker 3: sick prit during COVID and shit, shit, when he got better,
Speaker 3: he went and took his bitch to Paris.
Speaker 2: Right as soon as I get better, baby, were going away.
Speaker 3: A laughing sorry Gil gil Lewis. Yeah, Twitter, let me
Speaker 3: this one last little piece, because remember we had episode
Speaker 3: just recently about being a girl's girls, and if you
Speaker 3: are habitual sidebitch, you are not a girl's girl. So
Speaker 3: Sabrina tweeted recently saying, we are black women with the
Speaker 3: fists different shades of black. We build, We don't tear
Speaker 3: down other black women. We have felt the pain of
Speaker 3: being torn down, and we have decided that we will
Speaker 3: be deliberate about building each other. And then I can't
Speaker 3: even see what else fishes says anyway, that's a side bitch.
Speaker 3: Tweet to tweet, I am that people don't even believe
Speaker 3: what they.
Speaker 2: Say, right, and then fucking that girl man for years
Speaker 2: and years and years. But can you be like for
Speaker 2: you can't? I guess maybe she for all women and
Speaker 2: stuff for that one right, for all black women except.
Speaker 3: Gail Shan fuck bitch's name, Gail.
Speaker 2: That's how she felt, y'all.
Speaker 3: Rent A Center is now renting out Jordan's shoes for
Speaker 3: nineteen dollars and ninety nine cents a week, with a
Speaker 3: buy it now price tag of five hundred and twenty
Speaker 3: five dollars.
Speaker 2: How do you feel about that, Tim, Renais Center been
Speaker 2: taking advantage of poor people for forty years. Goddamn it.
Speaker 2: That's It's so sad because there's a black mom or
Speaker 2: a black dad who wants to give their kids what
Speaker 2: the other kids have, and the kids love the Jordan
Speaker 2: sneakers and they're gonna do it, and they're gonna get raped.
Speaker 2: I mean, you don't never pay a right price for
Speaker 2: any of that shit at Rena Center, Right, you get
Speaker 2: a couch, your couch be sent seven thousand dollars for
Speaker 2: a little seat. After you finish painting it off.
Speaker 3: So y'all know that when you do like renter Center,
Speaker 3: like the buy now, paid later thing, that interest adds up.
Speaker 3: So you could do the buy now for these sneakers
Speaker 3: for five hundred and twenty five dollars, but if you
Speaker 3: do the monthly payment of the weekly payment of nineteen
Speaker 3: ninety nine a week, you'll end up spending one thousand dollars,
Speaker 3: one thousand and fifty dollars for a pair of Jordan's.
Speaker 2: One thousand dollars. Yes, oh Lord, have mercy. And it's
Speaker 2: somebody gonna do it because they just want to give
Speaker 2: their baby some shoes.
Speaker 3: I don't think nobody buying, no motherfucking j is from
Speaker 3: in a center. I don't even try.
Speaker 2: I promise you, I promise you somebody. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 2: even know if the Jordan's is real.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that Jordan probably got like a little bubble belly.
Speaker 2: On him doing the split in the air. Jordan didn't
Speaker 2: do that, Like, who is that?
Speaker 3: Wilin?
Speaker 2: Don't do that, guys, just give him some new balance.
Speaker 3: So shame all right, y'all listen, when we get back
Speaker 3: from this break, I want to talk about something I
Speaker 3: had a lot of good conversation this weekend, and I
Speaker 3: realized there's two types of people in this world. There's
Speaker 3: the blockers and the non blockers.
Speaker 2: And I'm a blocker extraordinail.
Speaker 3: We'll be back after this break, all right, So we're back, y'all.
Speaker 3: I want to talk about the psychology of blocking people.
Speaker 3: Y'all heard, Tammy says she was a blocking extraordinary. Our
Speaker 3: producer Taylor makes fun sized tea. She says she's the
Speaker 3: queen of so people brag about how many people they
Speaker 3: block and how quick they block, and I feel like
Speaker 3: it's a power trip personally. That's how I feel about blocking,
Speaker 3: people say. After some conversations this weekend, one girl says
Speaker 3: she got her fucking mama blocked and she unblocked her
Speaker 3: daddy before. So have you ever blocked your family members? Tammy?
Speaker 3: In the midst of being a person who's blocking.
Speaker 2: I've never. I've never blocked any of my bit.
Speaker 3: Came from bitch. That's how you feel when you're going
Speaker 3: to block somebody's Typically.
Speaker 2: I'm in bitch bo when I'm blocking somebody like bitch
Speaker 2: that blocked bitch, so mother fucking heart pussa as home.
Speaker 3: But uh, I never.
Speaker 2: Blocked any of my family members, no matter how mad
Speaker 2: I've gotten at them or I never even blocked women.
Speaker 2: It just be niggas that getting blocked. Honestly, I can't
Speaker 2: think of one woman I've ever blocked. I've just men
Speaker 2: get blocked in my On my side, I would block
Speaker 2: a nigga, It'll be bubbles coming across the screen which
Speaker 2: me and they typing block bitch, You'll never send that
Speaker 2: message to me. Ho, So I blocked them like that,
Speaker 2: But uh, that's it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've never blocked like. I would never block my
Speaker 3: family member because I mean, I would feel horrible if
Speaker 3: something would happen and they couldn't reach out to me, right,
Speaker 3: So I would never block family niggas. I have definitely
Speaker 3: definitely blocked men. My ex in particular, I had to
Speaker 3: wait for that nigga to message me from his one
Speaker 3: hundred and eighty thousand Instagram pages so that I can
Speaker 3: block every single one of them. And so to this day,
Speaker 3: I feel like somebody messaging me and I feel like
Speaker 3: it's him. My intuition says it's him fucking with me
Speaker 3: still on the Internet. I don't know. I might be tripping.
Speaker 3: I might just be shell shocked a little bit, but
Speaker 3: some people are deserving of being blocked. I feel like,
Speaker 3: if you're in a relationship though with somebody, and you
Speaker 3: don't plan on breaking up with that person, I don't
Speaker 3: think it's okay to block. I feel like it's abusive
Speaker 3: to block your significant other if you plan on unblocking him.
Speaker 2: Yeah it is. It is abusive if you just blocking
Speaker 2: them so they can't communicate with you, and then unblock
Speaker 2: them when you're ready to communicate this file.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's fucked up. So I feel like that's when
Speaker 3: it becomes like a power trip. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I have, I have. I ain't gonna even front though.
Speaker 2: I have blocked the nigga and then unblocked them so
Speaker 2: I can say, ain't another thing, motherfucker, and then I
Speaker 2: see what I'm saying and then block them again.
Speaker 3: Now I've definitely blocked somebody in the midst of them responding.
Speaker 3: That's my favorite, Like especially random weirdos on the internet,
Speaker 3: Like if they be don sense some whack shit, I'm
Speaker 3: a censorship back and you can see when they're responding
Speaker 3: and you just hit block while they're responding. I like that.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: I blocked strangers all day long, but people I love,
Speaker 3: even if we're trying to work through some shit, I
Speaker 3: don't really want to block you. I know sometimes women
Speaker 3: like we want to see that he trying to get
Speaker 3: in contact with us.
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 3: If I block you yet, the only way you're gonna
Speaker 3: get in contact with me is via cash app okay, hell, PayPal.
Speaker 3: You can send your message in the subject title, right,
Speaker 3: and I don't take no motherfucking dollars neither.
Speaker 2: I unblocked the nigga after he came in bed for
Speaker 2: me to unblock him. Come on and blocked men block me, man,
Speaker 2: I've taken them off the block list, but eventually they
Speaker 2: end up right back the fuck there.
Speaker 3: How would you feel if you unblock somebody only to
Speaker 3: find out that they have you now blocked? What?
Speaker 2: I'm confused because you blocked them because nobody blocks you. Right.
Speaker 3: That's where he confessed he'd never been blocked.
Speaker 2: I've never been blocked.
Speaker 3: You above block reproach.
Speaker 2: You know, I have been blocked by one person that
Speaker 2: I know I'm not sure about. You know who else?
Speaker 2: It might be some other people, But guess what, I
Speaker 2: didn't know because I ain't want to talk to your
Speaker 2: motherfucking ass anyway, you know that part.
Speaker 3: Okay, I got one big matter of fact, I got
Speaker 3: one person that got me blocked, which is an ex
Speaker 3: best friend of mine, which I don't know why you
Speaker 3: got me blocked. I'm not even checking for your life.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize she had me blocked. T maybe two
Speaker 3: years after we stopped speaking, somebody sent me a link
Speaker 3: to her page and without really explaining what it was,
Speaker 3: and I clicked on the link and I'm like, what
Speaker 3: is this because I guess I'm blocked from whatever it
Speaker 3: is that you sending me because I can't see the
Speaker 3: person's page. But apparently it was her fucking crusty ass girl. Hey,
Speaker 3: and I was I have been blocked by men's girlfriends,
Speaker 3: So do you have any guys that you're blocked? But
Speaker 3: he isn't the one who actually did it. It's like, whoever,
Speaker 3: the girlfriend is some random person. I had a white
Speaker 3: lady block me about a nigga. One time I met
Speaker 3: this nigga at the MTB National Tire and Battery. I
Speaker 3: was getting all change and we just Instagram friends, like instantly,
Speaker 3: like just chatting on Instagram every day for about a year.
Speaker 3: And I had said something to him about having that
Speaker 3: white girlfriend, when like all of a sudden, now he
Speaker 3: got a girlfriend, right, and it's a white girl. His
Speaker 3: baby mama was a white girl too, so I knew
Speaker 3: he was in the white women. So I was just
Speaker 3: fucking with him about now having another white girl. I'm like, damn,
Speaker 3: you don left the other white girl. You had a baby,
Speaker 3: You had a baby with this white girl, and you
Speaker 3: left her for this older white lady. So apparently the
Speaker 3: bitch sat of messages, the wife's sat of messages, and
Speaker 3: I didn't realize who the fuck it, well, not wife,
Speaker 3: but now a new girlfriend. I didn't realize who her
Speaker 3: man was, but she messaged me from her page. I
Speaker 3: didn't realize who the fuck she was talking about. But
Speaker 3: then I tried to go like message, I'm like, hey,
Speaker 3: your bitch messaging me on Instagram and I was blocked.
Speaker 3: So I've definitely gotten blocked from people from the woman.
Speaker 2: Or she made that nigga blocking that part.
Speaker 3: So then, yeah, I got blocked, but I wasn't trying
Speaker 3: to get him or nothing like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think. I can't think of a time
Speaker 2: where I got blocked, except for all that one girl.
Speaker 2: We were friends for a long time, and we got
Speaker 2: into it and I threatened her. I told you that story.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna tell the listeners.
Speaker 3: Ain't hurting what happened. Just summarize it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So my friend, she was my friend, and how.
Speaker 3: Long your friend?
Speaker 2: We started? We became friends in the first grade. We're
Speaker 2: adults by this time, right, She's living in Atlanta. I
Speaker 2: came to spend the weekend because I was moving to Atlanta,
Speaker 2: and I was like going on like interviews for jobs.
Speaker 2: And before I came, she was letting me know that
Speaker 2: her money was fucked up, so she wasn't gonna be
Speaker 2: able to do anything. And at that time, I was
Speaker 2: dealing with somebody who had a lot of money, so
Speaker 2: I was like, my money, your money, no worries, We're
Speaker 2: gonna do all the things. Bought her clothes, got her
Speaker 2: some bone, did her hair like, bought us food, like
Speaker 2: I really, you know, I'm showing love. I'm staying at
Speaker 2: her house. It's all good. We're friends. She had some
Speaker 2: dude coming over to she had money for weed, so
Speaker 2: she had bought her some weed. And I'm not smoking
Speaker 2: because I'm obviously trying to get employed. So I'm not partaking.
Speaker 2: And she comes in the room and asks me, can
Speaker 2: I buy her some cigars? And this dude was on
Speaker 2: the way to come smoke with her, and I was like, well,
Speaker 2: wy don't you ask old Buddy to get it? He
Speaker 2: on the way here. She's like, I don't want to
Speaker 2: ask him for that, but you want to ask me?
Speaker 2: You want to ask me all this shit. I just
Speaker 2: spent a lot on you at this point, so old
Speaker 2: Buddy comes over and I go out in the kitchen
Speaker 2: and she says, so, I'm like, damn, I ain't got
Speaker 2: no guards. I was like, oh, can you stop and
Speaker 2: grab some could you go run and grab some guards?
Speaker 2: And she was he was like yeah and left. And
Speaker 2: then she got so mad at me that I did that.
Speaker 2: She was like, I told you I didn't want to
Speaker 2: ask him for nothing. I was like, you didn't ask him.
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 2: I I accident for you, bitch. So then they smoked,
Speaker 2: they did whatever they did. I was like in another room,
Speaker 2: and then it was like eleven o'clock at night. She
Speaker 2: comes to the room and it's like, I'm about to leave,
Speaker 2: so what you about to do? Like, basically, I gotta
Speaker 2: get out of her house. Yo, and it was poor
Speaker 2: and rain and I lived three hours away, so like
Speaker 2: we got into a screaming match. I left her house
Speaker 2: or whatever. But I told her all the money that
Speaker 2: I spent on her this weekend, I'm gonna need it
Speaker 2: back in full. I was gonna be her ass.
Speaker 3: And she blocked you.
Speaker 2: She sent me a cashier's check for like six hundred
Speaker 2: dollars or something like that, and then it bought me.
Speaker 3: That's fair, bitch ruing me my money first though, Yeah,
Speaker 3: that's a fair I guess it's a fair blocking. But girl,
Speaker 3: she's be embarrassed, Like how you letting this man have
Speaker 3: access to your pussy? You can't get a ninety nine
Speaker 3: cent pack of blunts from him?
Speaker 2: Right? And then why you used applying.
Speaker 3: The weed and coochie and probably the condoms too, or
Speaker 3: maybe you're letting the nigga fuck you wrought it? You
Speaker 3: can't ask for a pack of blunts.
Speaker 2: And I fed you. I'm the one who fed you
Speaker 2: that night. I'm the one who, like I did all
Speaker 2: these things, and you're gonna put me out in the
Speaker 2: rain because I asked a nigga for a cigar for you.
Speaker 2: I ain't even smile with y'all, you know, like, bruh girl,
Speaker 2: fuck you. Yeah, it's still fuck you to this day too.
Speaker 3: Like that's how I feel about anybody who used to
Speaker 3: be friends with It's fucking fuck y'all people, man, just
Speaker 3: goddamn wardos. Get my homegirl who got one my eggshone?
Speaker 3: Girl who got me blocked? It's just so weird, like
Speaker 3: nobody's checking for your life, ma'am. Mind you my page
Speaker 3: is open because I don't got nothing to high, like
Speaker 3: I want you to see me. There's that part and
Speaker 3: I and knowing her mentally, like her mental I know
Speaker 3: she's looking. I'm not going to block you. You got
Speaker 3: me blocked all while you probably lurking on my shit
Speaker 3: right anyway, there has to be like some type of
Speaker 3: psychology behind blockers. I actually found an article on psych
Speaker 3: mechanics dot com. It's the psychology of blocking and unblocking.
Speaker 3: It says human are a social species. Among the most
Speaker 3: profound human needs are the need to belong and feel included.
Speaker 3: This is like blocking people on social media. I feel
Speaker 3: like strangers should get blocked if you harassing me, Like
Speaker 3: that's the only repercussion we kind of got. It's just
Speaker 3: the block your ass cush you out and block you.
Speaker 3: It says, blocking someone on your phone is a modern
Speaker 3: form of social exclusion. It's a way of communicating to
Speaker 3: the block person, I don't want you in my life.
Speaker 3: I don't want anything to do with you. Getting blocked
Speaker 3: by someone you care about can be very hurtful and humiliating.
Speaker 3: It can make the one depressed. It can make the
Speaker 3: one maybe it meant someone. It can make someone feel
Speaker 3: depressed and lose their self worth. Social exclusion is painful.
Speaker 3: Why would you want to block someone? The answer is simple,
Speaker 3: they're causing you pain. So in a relationship, if you're
Speaker 3: not planning on leaving that person immediately, is not okay
Speaker 3: to just be blocking and unblocking them. You know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, Because if you block me, I'm not talking
Speaker 3: to you no more. I'm not waiting for you to
Speaker 3: unblock me so I can finish where we left off.
Speaker 3: You're not going to be able to reach me no more.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fuck you, and that's what I would expect.
Speaker 2: If I block you, it should be fucked me after that,
Speaker 2: go go away, get period.
Speaker 3: So they're inflicting harm on you, so you want them
Speaker 3: out of your life. It's perfectly valid self protective measure measure.
Speaker 3: Everyone should be able to choose the people they want
Speaker 3: in their lives. But again, like I said, it becomes
Speaker 3: abusive when you blocking and then unblocking people blocking. Yeah,
Speaker 3: all people in your life can be categorized into two categories,
Speaker 3: blocked and unblocked. People you've blocked, you've blocked for a reason.
Speaker 3: They've caused you inconvenience and pain. The people you've not blocked,
Speaker 3: you've chosen to keep me alive. They add value to
Speaker 3: your life. Like many things of life, things are always
Speaker 3: black and white. There's gray areas. So somebody blocking you
Speaker 3: just to because they think that they are more special
Speaker 3: for some reason, weirdo weirdo behaviors. I guess that's the
Speaker 3: gray area. Possibly, when you're unsure whether or not to
Speaker 3: keep a person in your life, you may keep blocking
Speaker 3: and unblocking them. Your confused actions are reflection of your
Speaker 3: confused mind. Now, a variety of situations can lead to
Speaker 3: this type of indecision. Let's go over some of them.
Speaker 3: Blocking an unblocking an acquaintance slash friend. You know, someone
Speaker 3: you've added to your contact list, you've talked to a
Speaker 3: couple or maybe a few times maybe your friends, but
Speaker 3: not that close. But you're still unsure whether or not
Speaker 3: to deepen your relationship with this person. The situation may
Speaker 3: lead to you, excuse me, the situation may lead you
Speaker 3: to block and unblock them. So recently, I had a
Speaker 3: conversation with my homegirl on Sunday because she said, this guy,
Speaker 3: she she's known him, right, but they just recently ran
Speaker 3: into each other again. And she said she blocked him
Speaker 3: because she hasn't been on a date with this guy yet,
Speaker 3: even when she knew him from before. Like you know
Speaker 3: how somebody tried to holler at you, y'all chat it
Speaker 3: up a little bit, and then y'all kind of lose contact.
Speaker 3: So this is now them reconnecting. She saw him at
Speaker 3: event at an event, so she said she, well, she
Speaker 3: went out to dinner with a homeboy and it's actually
Speaker 3: this this person is actually a mutual friend of ours too,
Speaker 3: just to her our friend, right, So she was out
Speaker 3: to dinner with him. So the guy then texts her
Speaker 3: and was like, hey, what you got going on? Like
Speaker 3: you out in the boutance. She was like, yeah, I'm
Speaker 3: out to dinner with a friend. So he then text
Speaker 3: her and said, oh, you want a date, So she
Speaker 3: texts back, no, Lol, I am out with a man,
Speaker 3: but it's my friend. We're at dinner. So the guy
Speaker 3: then says, oh, okay, you want a date, So she
Speaker 3: says She kind of stopped responding after that, but he
Speaker 3: continues to like badger her about whether or not this
Speaker 3: male acquaintance is a date or not. This is somebody
Speaker 3: who had never taken her out on a date. Why
Speaker 3: are you overly concerned?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: So, and then this is a conversation via text exactly,
Speaker 3: So she just blocked him. She had the conversation with
Speaker 3: another friend, and her other friend didn't understand why she
Speaker 3: blocked him. That is toxic behavior. And if somebody's doing
Speaker 3: that to you in the beginning of relationship, it's going
Speaker 3: to end the way it started. Right, Absolutely, that person
Speaker 3: has control issues because here you who are you? Yeah? Like,
Speaker 3: as soon as I give you my number, that's pussy
Speaker 3: on reserve. Like and if I were on a date,
Speaker 3: how could you? What could you do?
Speaker 2: Like? This ain't a date, but tomorrow there I do
Speaker 2: have a date.
Speaker 3: Right, So she blocked him. I feel like that is
Speaker 3: very appropriate. Hm. I'm definitely not about to go back
Speaker 3: and forth that you via text message, like we don't
Speaker 3: have nothing going on yet, Like.
Speaker 2: I don't need for you nothing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's a maniac, big red flag. Let's see your
Speaker 3: partner blocking in it. Blocking in a romantic relationship is
Speaker 3: usually done by partners with an avoidant attachment style. In
Speaker 3: the past, I wouldn't say I have avoidant attachment styles,
Speaker 3: because I do like the address shit head on even
Speaker 3: more so now more than ever. But if I feel
Speaker 3: like I've said enough and you still want to go
Speaker 3: on and on and on and on and on about
Speaker 3: this thing and it's causing me mental anguish, I just
Speaker 3: might block your ass. I just might block you until
Speaker 3: I'm in a better headspace because you're violating my boundaries
Speaker 3: at this point, because you want to allow me time
Speaker 3: to regroup, right You're trying to force me, force a response,
Speaker 3: or force more conversation out of me. That's just isn't there.
Speaker 3: I just don't have the capacity for it right now.
Speaker 3: So Yeah, I'm gonna have to block you.
Speaker 2: Now. I done block the nigga that I knew that
Speaker 2: if I kept allowing him access to me, he was
Speaker 2: still gonna get my pussy. Like I had to like
Speaker 2: block him like.
Speaker 3: As soon as you hear his.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like I had like soul ties and connections to
Speaker 2: him that just was like irrefutable. And I was just like,
Speaker 2: I got to block this nigga because I'm never gonna
Speaker 2: leave him alone if I don't. I definitely had to
Speaker 2: block people like that.
Speaker 3: He tried. Wasn't calling you, he was. He was calling you, akuccie.
Speaker 3: That's what that was about. There blocked him, mm hmm. No.
Speaker 3: The couch was like, no, let him stay. But I
Speaker 3: had to block her.
Speaker 2: I had to block.
Speaker 3: Get It says when a relationship gets too close for them,
Speaker 3: they use blocking as a deactivating strategy to meet their
Speaker 3: space needs. However, not all avoidance do that. Some understand
Speaker 3: that blocking is an extreme step. A friend once complained
Speaker 3: that her boyfriend blocked her when he was at work
Speaker 3: and then unblocked her when he had to talk to her.
Speaker 3: I told her blocking is an extreme step. Yeah, you what,
Speaker 3: you will be single by the time you clock out,
Speaker 3: bitch right, pardon me.
Speaker 2: Blocking me at you know what, I don't like what
Speaker 2: a motherfucker have. Do not disturb on. That's like a
Speaker 2: formal blocking in my head. I will call back, you
Speaker 2: know when it says you know the second time you
Speaker 2: go through, I'm calling twice, bitch.
Speaker 3: Well, I have mine set up that way, so then
Speaker 3: you know, because you can keep it to where nobody's
Speaker 3: calls can come in. But I do have a set
Speaker 3: to where if somebody calls more than once, it'll allow
Speaker 3: a call to come through.
Speaker 2: This I'm assuming my thin every time I'm a call twice,
Speaker 2: every time I.
Speaker 3: Know people put their phone and do not to stir
Speaker 3: my shit going at nine to twenty five pm and
Speaker 3: I'd be trying to see it.
Speaker 2: My sister I was like, what if it's an emergency,
Speaker 2: She's like called nine one one, right.
Speaker 3: I can't do nothing for you, no way, especially if
Speaker 3: we're in the same vicinity. I'm not in the same area.
Speaker 3: What can I do for you?
Speaker 2: Oh no, but something.
Speaker 3: That's control, Okay, So let's go to ego. It says
Speaker 3: more reasons ego Blocking someone makes you feel powerful and
Speaker 3: boost your ego. You feel like a king who exiled
Speaker 3: a meek subject from his kingdom. People obsessed with power
Speaker 3: and control may more likely block others when a relationship
Speaker 3: starts to go south. Blocking someone before they block you
Speaker 3: is a way to get the upper hand on the
Speaker 3: other person. I'll exclude them before they exclude me. That's
Speaker 3: what I feel about blocking for real. It is an
Speaker 3: ego trip. Oh that because to be the self proclaimed
Speaker 3: queen of blocking its weird oh behavior to me, Taylor.
Speaker 2: I definitely want off you by blocking you while you typing?
Speaker 2: I will What was it? What was that? No?
Speaker 3: Absolutely nothing?
Speaker 2: But okay, so I know that's toxic as fun, but
Speaker 2: only if it's deserving. I don't be blocking with somebody
Speaker 2: pouring out their heart and I'm like, that's it. I
Speaker 2: don't want to hear anymore.
Speaker 3: So this an article actually says power trip is the
Speaker 3: psychological blocking of someone about your ego, and I agree.
Speaker 3: It says delete and block. That's the first piece of
Speaker 3: advice given when you need to move on. But what's
Speaker 3: the psychology of blocking someone? What does it achieve? How
Speaker 3: long is you're block list? Right now? I just got
Speaker 3: one person.
Speaker 2: As long as I am tall, my shit, as long
Speaker 2: as I am tall. It's people. I don't even know
Speaker 2: who the fuck number it is on that list. There's
Speaker 2: so many numbers on that list, Like, I don't even
Speaker 2: know who this is, but whoever it is, good Riddan's motherfucker.
Speaker 3: Y'all tell me, I give a nigga her number at
Speaker 3: block it immediately. That is so fucking where, Like why
Speaker 3: you even give him the number? You're on no problems because.
Speaker 2: Sometimes niggas be scary. Yeah, Like if I give you
Speaker 2: a nigga a man my number and I don't want
Speaker 2: to talk to it's because I'm intimidated and I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: this nigga he could hit me. I feel like he's violent.
Speaker 2: Let me just go ahead and you know, oblige give
Speaker 2: him the number and then when I walk away block.
Speaker 3: Some of these niggas be scary. Yeah, but he's still
Speaker 3: got the number, Like he could still reach out to
Speaker 3: you if he was persistent enough, he could still figure
Speaker 3: out how to ring that phone. So I just rather
Speaker 3: not give you my number that that's not all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't be wanting to go back and forth
Speaker 2: sometimes with the scary ones. And then I used to
Speaker 2: give him fake number, but then they'll call a dale
Speaker 2: right then it's like.
Speaker 3: Oh shit, exactly, that's the way. How do men not
Speaker 3: think that that type of shit is weird?
Speaker 2: Yes, it's crazy.
Speaker 3: One of my friends, Why y'all think that's normal?
Speaker 2: Fourth of July? We was in the grocery store and
Speaker 2: this guy tried to get her number, and she was
Speaker 2: kind of rude to him. I will say, like she
Speaker 2: wasn't the nicest on how she let him down. She
Speaker 2: was like, look at you and look at me. That's
Speaker 2: what she told that nigga, And he punched her in
Speaker 2: the face and broke her nose right there in the
Speaker 2: Harris Teeter.
Speaker 3: Yes, did y'all call the police? Yeah, get arrested. And
Speaker 3: he left, He left the site.
Speaker 2: He left out the store. Yeah, he got away.
Speaker 3: What did he look like for her to say that?
Speaker 2: Nothing? He wasn't together, He was not together. She's a
Speaker 2: really pretty girl, but don't it's not okay to be
Speaker 2: nasty and rude to people. But that didn't warrant a
Speaker 2: broken nose, though, And ever since then, I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna be nice.
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, Because the male ego is very fragile. The
Speaker 3: thing is is that you have to know your hollow level.
Speaker 3: Why did you think you can roll on me? You
Speaker 3: saw me, You see me, and you see you. So
Speaker 3: her saying that to him push it into perspective so
Speaker 3: much so he ain't has ship to say that bitch,
Speaker 3: that nigga was like, it's OJT on the job training
Speaker 3: for this bitch right now in middle of Harris Tee
Speaker 3: then Star.
Speaker 2: The grocery store on fourth of July.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would have ran to the car and I
Speaker 3: probably would be in prison right now for killing that nigga. Yes,
Speaker 3: you're not about to hit me, but you be like
Speaker 3: she was in so much shock, I mean, blood pouring
Speaker 3: from her face.
Speaker 2: She's like, you know, like I just got hit, Like
Speaker 2: for real.
Speaker 3: You obviously abused women. Also, you out here trying to
Speaker 3: find new victims. And she saw him for exactly.
Speaker 2: Who he was mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Obviously exactly because trash he was. He was trash, so she,
Speaker 3: I mean, regardless of why. I feel like she had
Speaker 3: to take a punch for it. But I don't know,
Speaker 3: maybe to save another woman's life, I don't know, somehow
Speaker 3: mm hmm. Well you didn't. You ain't trying to jump
Speaker 3: on him. I was stuck.
Speaker 2: Everybody was like, and now I'm just trying to help her.
Speaker 2: I would have fuck on.
Speaker 3: Got hit with my friend man because I'm trying to
Speaker 3: hit him. I'm trying, I'm trying to do something to him.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to.
Speaker 2: Get out of him. He punched her and got up
Speaker 2: out of there, and us was just standing there looking
Speaker 2: at her like, what the fuck just happened? It just
Speaker 2: happened too fast. Hmmmmm mm m.
Speaker 3: All right, so this article says the block the block
Speaker 3: action is extremely powerful. It doesn't give anyone an explanation.
Speaker 3: It leaves unresolved business and what if you happen to
Speaker 3: see them on the streets afterward? Awkward? Right? So yeah,
Speaker 3: when I don't feel like I guess not for me,
Speaker 3: but I feel like that's another reason why people block.
Speaker 3: They don't want to explain themselves. They don't want to
Speaker 3: have to even fix what the actual issue is. They
Speaker 3: just block so they don't have to deal with it.
Speaker 3: So if it's also a form of escapism as well,
Speaker 3: because I mean, you can't deal with confrontation at all.
Speaker 3: Like I said earlier, I'll have the conversations with once
Speaker 3: I feel like I've talked enough. And you know a
Speaker 3: lot of times men will act like they don't understand
Speaker 3: what the fuck you're saying. Now you feel like you're
Speaker 3: going crazy because you've been talking in circle, saying the
Speaker 3: same shit over and over again, and he acting like,
Speaker 3: what what you mean?
Speaker 2: You're focusing on one small part of what you're saying.
Speaker 3: Block blow okay, and it says it's blocking about ego.
Speaker 3: The whole blocking thing is up our trip, all about ego.
Speaker 3: Surely there's a better way to handle personal issues than
Speaker 3: simply blocking them from ay from your cyber life and
Speaker 3: expecting that to be it. Now, there is one situation
Speaker 3: for which blocking is perfect. If someone is harassing you,
Speaker 3: causing you pain and upset, or leave you or they
Speaker 3: won't leave you alone. In that case, go ahead and
Speaker 3: block all you like. That psychology of blocking in this
Speaker 3: case gives you the power back. It allows you a
Speaker 3: sense of relief and peace of mind and stops your
Speaker 3: days from being ruined as a result of messages and
Speaker 3: unwanted posts on social media. Feece. So this is regards
Speaker 3: to social media.
Speaker 2: Do you have like stalkers? I can say that word
Speaker 2: stalkers on social media?
Speaker 3: Who people that just I try to be I have
Speaker 3: a few people blocked who are sending some really weird shit.
Speaker 3: So no, I don't think I have any right now,
Speaker 3: and I try to not create any. Sometimes it's impossible
Speaker 3: because a lot of people be they be, they create
Speaker 3: shit about you in their minds and there's nothing you
Speaker 3: can do about it.
Speaker 2: Bruh, bruh. I got about three different niggas that be
Speaker 2: in my DM saying crazy shit, and I'll be like,
Speaker 2: I'll be back and forth about should I block them
Speaker 2: or should I be able to watch where these motherfucker's
Speaker 2: at right, you know, I'll be back and forth about
Speaker 2: which one I should be, cause niggas literally be in
Speaker 2: there talking to theyself. Listen, if you messaging somebody and
Speaker 2: they ain't never said nothing back, and you continue to
Speaker 2: have conversation, you might need to see mental care, Like, seriously,
Speaker 2: why are you continuing to talk to yourself in somebody
Speaker 2: dms as? Wow?
Speaker 3: And even in real life, I occasionally run into those
Speaker 3: type of people. I'll say it happens to me like
Speaker 3: once every two years. You fuck wand and give your
Speaker 3: phone number to a dude, and it's like he's calling
Speaker 3: you back before you can call him back. Like y'all
Speaker 3: have had a conversation, you say, hey, let me hit
Speaker 3: you back, and they're calling you back within thirty minutes
Speaker 3: or so before you can even call them back. Red
Speaker 3: flag that type of shit or text you day after
Speaker 3: day after day after day after day when you're not
Speaker 3: responding to them and they continue to text every single day,
Speaker 3: talking to themselves and your DMS or via text. I
Speaker 3: meet people like that and that as a mental health issues.
Speaker 3: I don't know exactly what it's called, cycle, whatever it is,
Speaker 3: but yeah, that's a problem. It says, Yes, you might
Speaker 3: feel a sense of relief if they've been a real
Speaker 3: nuisance in your life and other means haven't worked. But overall,
Speaker 3: it's a day then a cut off point. It makes
Speaker 3: you feel like you found the ultimate solution. The problem
Speaker 3: is you haven't really have you. Let's assume this person
Speaker 3: is local to you. The chances of you bumping into
Speaker 3: one another at some stage are pretty high. What will
Speaker 3: you say to them? If you do? Will you say
Speaker 3: anything at all? No? If I blocked you, I'm not
Speaker 3: saying nothing to you if I seen in public, like,
Speaker 3: that's so weird.
Speaker 2: Right you never existed?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like now you're just some nigga that I used
Speaker 3: to know. That's why I blocked you.
Speaker 2: I don't even I'm sorry to who's this man? I'm
Speaker 2: sorry to this man, kiky palmer voice. I don't even
Speaker 2: know who you are, sir. The real reason.
Speaker 3: I'd be wanting people to know I'm ignoring them. See,
Speaker 3: when you block somebody and they're hitting you up, you
Speaker 3: don't know if they're hitting you up or not, and
Speaker 3: they don't know whether or not you're getting the messages.
Speaker 3: But if you're not getting like a little bunks back,
Speaker 3: you know you're not blocked, and you know I'm seeing
Speaker 3: your messages, So you know that I'm consciously ignoring your
Speaker 3: monkey ass. That's that That feeds my ego, knowing that
Speaker 3: you know that I don't fuck with you. I'm not
Speaker 3: gonna block.
Speaker 2: See, that's definitely that's definitely huge ego. I want you
Speaker 2: to eliminate. I don't even want to see any inkling
Speaker 2: of your existence anymore.
Speaker 3: And bye bye blockmastering. I don't like blocking. Don't block me, bitch,
Speaker 3: I'm coming to your motherfucking house.
Speaker 2: I don't block women. I've never I never felt the
Speaker 2: need of block a woman me that.
Speaker 3: I think women just have a little bit more emotional intelligence.
Speaker 3: We be having to block men because they really be
Speaker 3: losing it. I'm pretty sure some men who we we
Speaker 3: don't know women how men know them. So I wouldn't
Speaker 3: have a reason to block a woman. I'm not interested
Speaker 3: in women in that way.
Speaker 2: Taylor says blocking is energy protection. So and I concur
Speaker 2: I guess I got to protect my energy from these
Speaker 2: energy ciphers. Yeah, ye oh.
Speaker 3: So one last piece of this conversation, this is the
Speaker 3: difference between ghosting and blocking. It's worth mentioning that ghosting
Speaker 3: and blocking are two different things. When you go someone,
Speaker 3: you might still be friends with them and they can
Speaker 3: get They can probably still see the activity on your fees.
Speaker 3: But you cut off contact with them by simply not speaking,
Speaker 3: you become a virtual ghost. In our opinion, ghosting is
Speaker 3: worse than blocking. It's like leaving a carrot dangling in
Speaker 3: the air. You're giving them something but not going the
Speaker 3: whole way. So maybe I'm a ghoster. You're also literally
Speaker 3: ignoring messages, and that is literally the worst being ghost
Speaker 3: It makes you furious. It's a pitting me of rudeness.
Speaker 3: Of course, blocking is literally ending all contact and visibility
Speaker 3: of any activity you post online the lot you're invisible
Speaker 3: to them, at least in online world. The difference is
Speaker 3: that the difference in excuse me, The difference is that
Speaker 3: the psychology of blocking someone is a literal full stop.
Speaker 3: So maybe I need to block completely then mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Some motherfuckers don't get a shit twisted right.
Speaker 2: Just you be wanting them to know you see, I
Speaker 2: don't want to see you. I don't want to see
Speaker 2: you anymore.
Speaker 3: I just want you to know I'm cool, man, Like,
Speaker 3: just go away. Why why are you forcing me to
Speaker 3: have to take an extra action if I'm already not
Speaker 3: fucking with you? Like, why can't you take that as
Speaker 3: a hint.
Speaker 2: Some people can't take the hint, So you got to
Speaker 2: go on head and hint they ass to the blockless.
Speaker 2: I block so many people, it'd be a motherfucker. I'd
Speaker 2: be trying to call or I'll be like, oh, oh,
Speaker 2: I got the nigga block.
Speaker 3: You see abuse y'all me in a long time? Oh wait,
Speaker 3: he blocked? Talk about me too, y'all abusive? Y'all abusive?
Speaker 3: That's ego ship. Why are you trying to reach out
Speaker 3: to somebody who you blocked?
Speaker 2: Whatever I did, whatever I was mad about, I guess
Speaker 2: I'm over it at this point. Ardam forgot some ship
Speaker 2: I was mad about. They got a nigga blocked?
Speaker 3: So you call like, what why block you? What happened
Speaker 3: last time? Like? What you did?
Speaker 2: Why are we speaking a long time, and then if
Speaker 2: I'm reminded, I'd be like, oh, that's right. Block.
Speaker 3: I had a what about homeboys? Said? A girl hit
Speaker 3: him up, like what's up? Why are you gonna be
Speaker 3: hitting me up? And he was like, bitch, you blocked
Speaker 3: me like she was checking him on social media, but
Speaker 3: he was blocked on the phone, right, that's me. That's me,
Speaker 3: and then reblocked the nigga once he wasn't saying what
Speaker 3: she wanted. I got to do better, man. Anyway, are
Speaker 3: y'all blockers? I want to hear from the listeners. Do
Speaker 3: y'all just be blocking people? That's y'all?
Speaker 2: Go to yep real quick? Bitch, why I will? I'm
Speaker 2: gonna work on not just blocking people when I'm mad,
Speaker 2: like they gotta be worth it because I have. I'll
Speaker 2: block and unblocked when I'm over it. But just men,
Speaker 2: sorry to you fellas. God ain't through with me yet.
Speaker 3: I would suggest, if you have a little bit of
Speaker 3: care about the person that you're blocking, you would try
Speaker 3: communication first. Try that first, and if you there's no resolution,
Speaker 3: there's no resolve. If you block them, do not unblock them.
Speaker 3: That should be a permanent decision. When you block somebody,
Speaker 3: it should not be used as a timeout for adult people.
Speaker 3: Shit me, y'all childish, y'all child to say, y'all have
Speaker 3: value relationships.
Speaker 2: You need a break.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not doing it. I'm not doing that if
Speaker 3: I'm so fucking with you, if I'm be thinking about
Speaker 3: your ass later on, like, I'm not doing it.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I'm.
Speaker 3: You did. Oh wait, wait, wait, this is people. If
Speaker 3: you're struggling, or is anybody out there struggling with being blocked?
Speaker 3: Is being blocked by somebody you like, love a family member,
Speaker 3: Is it fucking with your mental health because this person
Speaker 3: has now blocked you out of there, blocked you from
Speaker 3: their lives. No, I'm talking to the listeners. Does anybody
Speaker 3: feel some type of way out there about having been blocked?
Speaker 3: Let us know what celebrities got, y'all blocked? I got people.
Speaker 3: I got a few people blocked when we talked.
Speaker 2: Back because you just said some shit.
Speaker 3: It was maybe an episode when we was on somebody
Speaker 3: else show. Anyway, it was a clip that we put
Speaker 3: up and the men was just going ham. I think
Speaker 3: the dating one dating while not having money. We want
Speaker 3: to tell our show matter of fact, empty thoughts. We
Speaker 3: was on empty thoughts and Niggas was mad about the
Speaker 3: conversation and the listen. I'm not arguing with y'all. Could
Speaker 3: bat have ass? Bitches, nigga bitches, I'm blocking your ass.
Speaker 3: I'm blocking you.
Speaker 2: I will, I.
Speaker 3: Said on Fridays, Fridays, I argue with you. So anybody
Speaker 3: want to argue, hit me up on Fridays. I got
Speaker 3: a little bit more time Friday. A nigga asked me
Speaker 3: last week because he commented on some shit, like I
Speaker 3: just comment on something, and why I gotta get into
Speaker 3: arguments with men. I'm commenting my single comment. Now here
Speaker 3: you are commenting on my comment and starting argument with me,
Speaker 3: and well really not starting because I didn't have to engage,
Speaker 3: but I did, and he was like, it's Saturday, you
Speaker 3: should get out. I said, actually, it's fucking Friday, and
Speaker 3: I got time. So if y'all want to argue, hit
Speaker 3: me up on Fridays between twelve and five.
Speaker 2: It just really depends on what I got going on
Speaker 2: in am I my period? If I'm on my period,
Speaker 2: you might get a little fight out of me just
Speaker 2: because it's fun. But for the most part, no, I'm cool.
Speaker 3: Last last to chop all of this up. If it
Speaker 3: helps your mental health to block somebody, then I guess
Speaker 3: it is okay. I again, I would suggest trying to
Speaker 3: communicate if you actually care about this person, as opposed
Speaker 3: to using the block method as a form of time
Speaker 3: out abuse.
Speaker 2: As for me, insomnia along. Block these niggas out your
Speaker 2: life until you feel.
Speaker 3: Like fucking with them with Gia gaddawn and I hope
Speaker 3: when you do try to hit that nigga up that
Speaker 3: you like that you're blocked.
Speaker 2: Why would you hope that for me? See, that's some
Speaker 2: hater shit to say right there.
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