Speaker 1: Rocks. You don't have food food on the red night.
Speaker 1: Those days are over. You don't have to say your
Speaker 1: body to the Knights Rock sad. You don't have to
Speaker 1: wear that dress to night, walk the streets for money.
Speaker 1: You don't care if it's wrong, if it's right. Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: welcome back. This is good. Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica
Speaker 1: and Anila, and we's bad. We is back. We is back.
Speaker 1: October twenty fourth, two thousand and eight. Team, you just
Speaker 1: look at your phone. No, I know that because my
Speaker 1: birthday is tomorrow. Oh yeah, it's Karka's birthday tomorrow. Can
Speaker 1: well you're moving to day. Sorry, you're thirty again, tomorrow
Speaker 1: thirty one. I'm proud. Okay, damn. Dreila and I are
Speaker 1: going to ros and Sonata.
Speaker 2: Actually it's closer to in Sonata than it's Actually, it's
Speaker 2: like in between both.
Speaker 3: I'm getting scared. Everyone's like, you're taking the kids. It's fine, Like,
Speaker 3: be careful. I'm like, we're gonna be fine, right, Recorder
Speaker 3: of the Day. We're not gonna be traveling at night,
Speaker 3: crossing the border. Okay, No, we're not right, but we
Speaker 3: are going to go out at night. We have to
Speaker 3: see the Donkey Show. The Donkey Show, there's like a
Speaker 3: famous thing. Okay, whatever, Well, no, do you get to
Speaker 3: know what it is? I just I know, listen what
Speaker 3: the Donkey Show is. This bitch is getting fucked by
Speaker 3: a Donkey live.
Speaker 1: I don't want to see that ship. It's the Blue Jay,
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 4: I haven't been back.
Speaker 3: They're so pretty, so I got distracted. No, it's like
Speaker 3: the thing you do with Tea Wana. I don't want
Speaker 3: to do that at all and not see the Donkey Show.
Speaker 1: It's you're on your own.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to see nobody being fucked by a donkey.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty beasty.
Speaker 2: Curiosity actually, mere right, I don't need to see that.
Speaker 2: I'm having hesitations about bringing floor because you know, there's
Speaker 2: like a there's like a caravan of people coming from
Speaker 2: Guatemala and Honduras that are approaching the border. They know
Speaker 2: they know that they're coming. They're seeking asylum in the
Speaker 2: United States. And it's like a caravan of.
Speaker 1: A lot of.
Speaker 2: Hondurans and Guatemalans and they Guatemala. Yeah, and Trump has
Speaker 2: sent US military to the border to basically meet them,
Speaker 2: greet them, stop them. I don't know and you know
Speaker 2: Floor is from Guatemala. She does have her green card
Speaker 2: and she has her passport. But I just am nervous
Speaker 2: about any sort of issue happening.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine, I know, because what I heard.
Speaker 3: I heard you in the PAH and I immediately thought, like,
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to like, I don't have to beat
Speaker 3: up any border control and Trump with the way they're acting.
Speaker 2: And she just got her hip surgery, so she's not
Speaker 2: really one hundred percent well, which she was fine, like,
Speaker 2: she's like, I still want to come. I can help
Speaker 2: with Iri, you know at night. I probably can't be
Speaker 2: like running around the beach during the day.
Speaker 1: I mean, but.
Speaker 2: Legally, legally she can enter. Legally, there's nothing they could do.
Speaker 2: I mean, I just don't I just don't know if
Speaker 2: they're gonna hold her up. I know that legally she can,
Speaker 2: she'll be essentially hopefully she'll be fine, but I'm just
Speaker 2: worried about what the hold up process, especially because it
Speaker 2: says she's Guatemalan. I mean, I'm sure that there's people
Speaker 2: daily that cross that are Guatemalan and legal, you know,
Speaker 2: legal citizens of the US.
Speaker 3: I totally get it. I think that I wouldn't fuck
Speaker 3: with that shit either. But the selfish part of me says,
Speaker 3: what are we gonna do at night? And I am
Speaker 3: it's fast, but I feel like, you don't go to
Speaker 3: Rosebeda unless you're going to like hangover party.
Speaker 1: Well it's not. That's not all what you do there?
Speaker 1: You know, there's you can just chill.
Speaker 4: There's such a thing as chilling on the beach.
Speaker 1: Nope, Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5: Okay, no, no, there is there is ever whose birthday
Speaker 5: isn't bait. I'm sorry, I'm just not eve gonna get
Speaker 5: fucked up now.
Speaker 1: I want to have fun. I do, and I am
Speaker 1: conflicted about it. I just don't. I just would hate to.
Speaker 1: I just don't want anything to go wrong. Should we
Speaker 1: google it? I googled it because.
Speaker 2: Her husband was like said that she needed some other
Speaker 2: form of paperwork to cross the border even if she
Speaker 2: is a has a green card.
Speaker 1: Maybe if y'all are listening, someone let.
Speaker 2: Guide us by by tomorrow that she has her green
Speaker 2: card and she has her passport. But her husband was
Speaker 2: saying she needs some other new document to cut to
Speaker 2: enter back of the US. And I looked it up
Speaker 2: and there was no document, Like I don't know if
Speaker 2: it's like a temporary visa. Like I don't really understand.
Speaker 2: I know that when you get to the border, everyone
Speaker 2: we all need some sort of we have to pay
Speaker 2: like twenty dollars or something for some sort of document
Speaker 2: to get in an hour or some ship, some dumb ship.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm not gonna lie. As soon as you're like, yeah,
Speaker 3: it's going to run, I was like yeah, fuck yeah.
Speaker 3: And then you're like, we gonna bring the kids.
Speaker 1: I was like what really?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like like why is it because of the party
Speaker 2: aspect or because of the safety aspect?
Speaker 1: Both? Huh? Mostly the party aspect.
Speaker 3: It causes canoor well when I think of there, I
Speaker 3: just think like, yeah, I get sucked up.
Speaker 1: But you know, who knows we're gonna have a like
Speaker 1: a complete.
Speaker 2: Volunteered talking to her about it, they's like, girl, if
Speaker 2: you want to go out, I'll watch the kids.
Speaker 3: I was going to suggest that I don't want need
Speaker 3: you to be mad at me and feel left out,
Speaker 3: but this.
Speaker 2: Catoul is so much smaller than the girls.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess they'll figure it out. Fuck
Speaker 1: it if you now mamas want a party too.
Speaker 2: I know mostly bad I'm trying to get a wanted
Speaker 2: to go and she's scared to go to our two kids.
Speaker 1: Which I get it. So I don't know. I'm still
Speaker 1: thinking about it. I have to tomorrow to figure.
Speaker 2: Out and it's not an option to leave them here now.
Speaker 1: No, if you ask me that one more motherfucking time,
Speaker 1: just ask me. Friend to me.
Speaker 2: No, but anyway, Yeah, so that's what we're doing this weekend.
Speaker 2: And uh, someone just messaged me. Can I ask you
Speaker 2: a quick personal question? What the fuck is quick?
Speaker 1: Bitch? I mean, what's the question? Maybe it's not personal?
Speaker 1: Maybe what is a question? I don't know. She just
Speaker 1: DMed it to me. I'm scared.
Speaker 2: I just say spill, I can look. Am I curious?
Speaker 4: Okay, maybe we'll get this answer in the next ten minutes.
Speaker 1: And I just don't know.
Speaker 2: I always think people are trying to like ask me
Speaker 2: questions firstly baby daddy questions because his people will be
Speaker 2: in my DMS, so stop it.
Speaker 1: Anyway. Yeah, So turning thirty one tomorrow, how does it
Speaker 1: feel about you? Feel good? Like? I know, like for
Speaker 1: thirty usually have like a slight nervous breakdown.
Speaker 3: Everybody but you, you know, so you're not obviously not
Speaker 3: having a breakdown.
Speaker 2: No, Okay, I feel good. I feel good about thirty one.
Speaker 1: I do I have. I do feel like I'm getting older.
Speaker 1: I don't feel old.
Speaker 2: I just am more aware as time is going of
Speaker 2: this concept of aging. You know, I was looking at
Speaker 2: pictures of myself, you know, Facebook memories, and I was like, damn,
Speaker 2: started to see.
Speaker 1: A little a little different, little.
Speaker 2: Chipping away at the at youth. I know, it's very so,
Speaker 2: it's ever so slight, but only I'm probably the only
Speaker 2: one that notices. But I see it, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's interesting, Botos, that's the la.
Speaker 1: Interesting.
Speaker 4: Other than that, what else we we're going to talk
Speaker 4: about some current events.
Speaker 2: We were just browsing through our you know, our extremely
Speaker 2: reliable news source, the Shade Room, and we've discovered that
Speaker 2: Obama and Hillary. Oh I have not discovered that the
Speaker 2: sham well, I just you you discovered on the Shade Room.
Speaker 1: Three.
Speaker 2: I saw that on the news this morning, because you know,
Speaker 2: I watched CNN every morning and MSNBC.
Speaker 1: I don't watch. I don't watch them. I just peek
Speaker 1: at them. I used to like sit there.
Speaker 2: And have it on all day, but no, but yeah,
Speaker 2: bomb got sent to to Hillary. The Clinton's and Obama
Speaker 2: the Obama's and Time Warner Kamala Kamala Harris's office in
Speaker 2: New York, as well as Time Warner, which you know
Speaker 2: they it's home to CNN. So clearly it was a
Speaker 2: very left. It was targeted towards the left and Democrats
Speaker 2: of no, no, no, imagine that the with what their mail
Speaker 2: goes through before it gets to them. But yeah, people
Speaker 2: are crazy. I mean, when you have a president that
Speaker 2: is making people feel like the other side parentheses of
Speaker 2: quotation marks, air quotes not parentheses, is its like against you,
Speaker 2: like you know, you breed hate and this is what happens,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like we're so divided and
Speaker 2: we have such a president that it's just all about divisiveness,
Speaker 2: which so crazy, Like you know, it's one thing to
Speaker 2: have different views and different parties, but just to be
Speaker 2: so like and tie the other party, it's just really crazy,
Speaker 2: you know. But that I'm not surprised it's happened. I'm
Speaker 2: actually surprised that didn't hasn't happened sooner? I'm sure you
Speaker 2: know what, and I'm sure it has happened.
Speaker 1: We don't hear everything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was hoping that someone's in a bottom of
Speaker 2: the White House.
Speaker 1: But clearly know I got that memo.
Speaker 2: Look, this is oh my god, they you get all
Speaker 2: those old things behind her, don't look at your phone
Speaker 2: while we're recording.
Speaker 3: Then you can't even we're gonna be talking about it
Speaker 3: that people can't see a little girl. She just showed
Speaker 3: me a picture of a little girl Halloween costume as Sissy.
Speaker 2: But like she said the album, it's actually adorable with
Speaker 2: all the TVs and stuff in the background. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: that happened, which, yeah, you know, sign up the Times,
Speaker 2: Sign up the Times.
Speaker 1: What is.
Speaker 2: Going on a date tonight with Happy Bay from my
Speaker 2: by Day And I'm excited about that. I don't know
Speaker 2: where we're going. But I haven't seen him in almost
Speaker 2: a week really maybe less than like maybe it's been
Speaker 2: like five days.
Speaker 1: It was last Friday. I've seen him since Friday Saturday morning,
Speaker 1: feeding a little I am trying like long distance dick
Speaker 1: so and I, oh my god, that's why I don't
Speaker 1: do it. I didn't sign up for this. I didn't
Speaker 1: think this is gonna be in my life.
Speaker 2: I know he lives downtown, and it feels like long
Speaker 2: distance dick shit shit. Speaking of which hopefully tonight. Today
Speaker 2: we had me and Jamil had breakfast, and I was
Speaker 2: very conscious about what I ate because tell everyone, please.
Speaker 2: I don't think I shared this the first time it happened.
Speaker 2: This was like maybe like a few weeks.
Speaker 1: Ago, but I thought I told you, but apparently I
Speaker 1: told everybody else.
Speaker 2: So you know, I'm dating this new guy and we
Speaker 2: have been having little sleepovers and I was spent that
Speaker 2: at his house and we were cuddling, like you know,
Speaker 2: asked to crutch as you do when you're cuddling naked,
Speaker 2: and with the possibility it was naked.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it no barrier.
Speaker 2: And I was like, you know, were sleeping comfortably, which
Speaker 2: by the way, I'm not a big I like to cuddle,
Speaker 2: but usually I break I break.
Speaker 1: It up at some point in the middle of the
Speaker 1: night because I g got not with happy day.
Speaker 2: We'd be cuddling hard all we wake up and I'm
Speaker 2: like still embraced.
Speaker 1: That's that cancer.
Speaker 2: I wake up and I'm still embraced. Me and young
Speaker 2: baby like I'm like sweating, but I'm still there.
Speaker 3: Oh god, this is the most emo cuddling shit I've
Speaker 3: ever participated.
Speaker 1: Anyway, we were cuddling and bitch.
Speaker 2: I woke myself up midfart, and I I felt like
Speaker 2: him move a little bit, but I wasn't sure if
Speaker 2: like he woke up, but I did was like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, please don't move because I didn't want like
Speaker 2: the fart to travel up.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, Like were blankets. We were
Speaker 1: like naked, no blankets because we were hot, but we
Speaker 1: wanted to cuddle still, and I like immediately started sweating.
Speaker 2: Profusely because I was so nervous, and I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. And
Speaker 2: then I was like, oh my god, stop sweating. Just
Speaker 2: go to sleep, go to sleep, like, but I'm like,
Speaker 2: you're sleep still, like he didn't wake up, and then.
Speaker 1: It happened again.
Speaker 2: And then after that I could not sleep anymore, and
Speaker 2: I was so embarrassed and I just like act like
Speaker 2: it didn't happen.
Speaker 1: So then the next time, which was this last time,
Speaker 1: well it wasn't.
Speaker 2: The next time it was, you know a few times
Speaker 2: later on Saturday morning, I'm sleeping and this time we're cuddling,
Speaker 2: but his hand is.
Speaker 1: Kind of like kept cupping my ass, and again woke
Speaker 1: myself up.
Speaker 2: Like oh, it was one of those airy ones. I
Speaker 2: was like, and I woke up, like my eyes like
Speaker 2: shot open. I was like, and I felt his hand
Speaker 2: like he wanted to move I knew that time, but
Speaker 2: I think I woke come up and like he wanted
Speaker 2: to move it, but he didn't want to embarrass me.
Speaker 1: What kind of farts are you playing? I don't know.
Speaker 2: And actually that night I was really conscious too. I
Speaker 2: was like, let me not eat any dairy nothing like.
Speaker 2: And I've been full vegetarian, you know, And so I'm thinking, like.
Speaker 1: What full vegetarian for how many days? While? Did he
Speaker 1: know you'd be wine? I'm not mine? Well? I did
Speaker 1: have yeah, see always wait, I had, I had, I had.
Speaker 3: I had some California where the fake ass vegetarian clams
Speaker 3: the other day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so vesgetarians last whatever.
Speaker 2: Anyway, for the most part ninety I've been way better
Speaker 2: than I usually am.
Speaker 1: There was a term use that you're cent, you know.
Speaker 1: I was like, this is good.
Speaker 2: He came up with that's a good because he's actually
Speaker 2: a real vegetarian.
Speaker 1: So what happened again? And I'm like, I'm just like
Speaker 1: nervous now.
Speaker 2: I'm just like wondering, is this like a thing do
Speaker 2: I just be fartening my sleep, and I just all
Speaker 2: these years and I didn't know about it. Like maybe
Speaker 2: like my ex just like got used to it, or
Speaker 2: he's a really hard sleeper, so he probably would have slept.
Speaker 1: Through all my farts.
Speaker 2: But I think because you know, I'm still not totally
Speaker 2: comfortable sleeping at someone's house, like I'm not still a
Speaker 2: little bit on edge, like I'm.
Speaker 1: Not full sleep. So I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just feel like today I have to be very
Speaker 2: conscious of my I'm gonna just drink water, eat, I
Speaker 2: had some eggs, you know, Oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to share something. She's like, I don't
Speaker 1: not eating cheese, and like never mind.
Speaker 2: But I just feel like if it happens again, like
Speaker 2: something needs to be said, right, like yeah, like I'd
Speaker 2: have to say something, like better to just laugh it
Speaker 2: off than to like sit there nervously for fresely sweating,
Speaker 2: hoping that knowing he's awake.
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously he's the fucks with me.
Speaker 3: But like, but okay, that's a good question because like
Speaker 3: where is the timeline Because my last relationship, I know,
Speaker 3: the nigga, like fifteen years, so like there was it
Speaker 3: was we needed boundaries, but there were none, like I
Speaker 3: don't want to talk to you while you're taking a shit,
Speaker 3: but in a new relationship, like when does that go
Speaker 3: out the door? Like there's a point because even for me,
Speaker 3: like first of all, short hair, BedHead, short hair is
Speaker 3: not cute, like and then you want to wake up
Speaker 3: and have morning stuff and then you have to get
Speaker 3: on top and they're like looking at you and you're
Speaker 3: looking like shit.
Speaker 2: And you're like, you know, that's why you gotta wrap that,
Speaker 2: wrap it up, wrap it up.
Speaker 1: Me and me shame shape me.
Speaker 3: And yet they made it like it's a short video
Speaker 3: of me giving him head and the first thing I
Speaker 3: saw was my hair.
Speaker 1: Is like, oh god, look terrible. But then I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: little skills are popping though.
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying, like I realized, I'm like this
Speaker 3: lash and I must really fun with him. I must
Speaker 3: really be getting comfortable because I wasn't thinking about my.
Speaker 1: Hair when I'm like riding you or like giving you hand.
Speaker 2: And that's to me, to me, that is, you know,
Speaker 2: ury entering into a comfortable like level peeing with the
Speaker 2: door open, right, Wow, I'd be here pooping with the
Speaker 2: door Yeah I haven't, but I'm not.
Speaker 1: I don't have a pooping with the door open? Did
Speaker 1: you do that? But you did that with with hell yeah,
Speaker 1: like there was like to look at my butt? Is
Speaker 1: there something? Is there a buffet? There was no?
Speaker 2: And I'm I'm really a comfortable like nudity, Like there's
Speaker 2: a little thing.
Speaker 1: I'm an ath a Tissian.
Speaker 3: I see lots of pussies, like there are very little
Speaker 3: things that can gross me out.
Speaker 6: Do you think that keeping the sexiness do you think
Speaker 6: that's like maybe entering in this to this relationship like
Speaker 6: that's something that you'll do differently, or do you think
Speaker 6: like you can't take me.
Speaker 1: At my words?
Speaker 3: I think it's there's there's both because I feel like
Speaker 3: in my last relationship, be partially because I fell out
Speaker 3: of love and partially because I was just like a
Speaker 3: new mom, that there was a period where I was
Speaker 3: like not really trying to be cute and I'm looking like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, how does anyone like you?
Speaker 1: But so I think I think that I maybe have
Speaker 1: gotten too comfortable.
Speaker 3: But there was a mixture of things and I do
Speaker 3: I like to be like, I'm not extreme, but I
Speaker 3: want to be cute.
Speaker 1: I want to remind you.
Speaker 3: That I looked at and so I think there's a
Speaker 3: there's like I think there's something really intimate and beautiful
Speaker 3: about like having like you know, I could do anything
Speaker 3: in front of you and you're comfortable with me and
Speaker 3: uncomfortable with you. But I also think there is a
Speaker 3: thin line and there's like a balance between just let
Speaker 3: yourself go.
Speaker 2: I'm being too much and like you can not have
Speaker 2: been before him putting on a full person make up
Speaker 2: and slipping back in like hello, good morning. But what
Speaker 2: if he does it like shits in.
Speaker 1: Front of you.
Speaker 3: I think it's he shops in front of me with
Speaker 3: the door open all the time, and I think it's
Speaker 3: easier for a guy to do it.
Speaker 1: Do you think this.
Speaker 2: Sol Do you think we as women put pressure on ourselves,
Speaker 2: because I know we've gotten a lot of women writing
Speaker 2: in and even like of course we've all felt like
Speaker 2: this too, that like it's like oh my god, like
Speaker 2: he fell out of love or like he wasn't maybe
Speaker 2: you didn't fill with this, but like I know, I
Speaker 2: felt like maybe I could have done this more, or
Speaker 2: like I could have dressed sexy, tried. Maybe I shouldn't
Speaker 2: have shit that time with the door open. You know
Speaker 2: what I mean, like, is that is that part of
Speaker 2: that bigger conversation than we have or we say like
Speaker 2: fuck that, Like no, he didn't cheat on you because
Speaker 2: you didn't dress sexy or because you've gained that weight,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like stop blaming yourself for
Speaker 2: what he for his action, but maybe don't you for
Speaker 2: taking a shit with the door open?
Speaker 1: Just cut him off?
Speaker 2: But I mean, is that part of that part of
Speaker 2: now that whole thing? I think those are separate things.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: I think that if a guy is bitching about you
Speaker 2: farting and pooping, he needs to grow the fuck up
Speaker 2: because everybody poops, it's a book. And but I haven't
Speaker 2: pooped in front of the young bay.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh well, like I gotta take a ship, but
Speaker 1: I'll go close the door. I'm not general with the
Speaker 1: door open.
Speaker 2: I'll go use the other bathroom. Yeah, like I'll go
Speaker 2: if there's another bathroom to be used. Yea.
Speaker 1: But yeah, like that time we got a room and
Speaker 1: sh I was like, fuck.
Speaker 2: Here, I don't want to poop in the same space,
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna go to the lobby.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but what Yeah, what is the timeframe of that?
Speaker 3: Like no, well, no, it just depends on That's what I.
Speaker 1: Think, like with my ex when when it turned but.
Speaker 3: I think it's like a year and I think it
Speaker 3: It also thinks it depends on the person, like.
Speaker 1: Who I remember. I'm trying to think who did it first.
Speaker 2: It's usually it's initiated by someone and then it becomes okay.
Speaker 2: I think it starts with farts because you're like they're funny,
Speaker 2: and then slowly it turns into like I need to
Speaker 2: get in the bathroom.
Speaker 1: Can you just let me in.
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck if you're shitting, just let me.
Speaker 2: I need to get something, and you're just like okay,
Speaker 2: I guess, and then then you cross that threshold and
Speaker 2: suddenly you're shitting with the door open.
Speaker 1: I get stage right, like can you get out? I
Speaker 1: can't focus?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, I think there is some beauty in
Speaker 3: a little mystery. I really enjoy like looking pretty and
Speaker 3: like getting sexy and like going on dates and stuff
Speaker 3: like I'm super like I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm super girly in that way. I'm not extreme like
Speaker 1: I forget.
Speaker 3: I can't do it all the time, but I do
Speaker 3: like to remind a nigga I looks good. So, speaking
Speaker 3: of which also when I was in Jersey. If anyone
Speaker 3: has to notice or doesn't know me, I dress like
Speaker 3: a Gucci I really enjoy it, Like I really enjoy
Speaker 3: see through shirts because I don't think I have a
Speaker 3: rest of huge boobs. And also, God knew that I
Speaker 3: was gonna be Pucci. So my nipples actually like a
Speaker 3: camouflage really well with the rest of my boob.
Speaker 2: They're not like super dark or chocolate. They most of
Speaker 2: the same color as my boob.
Speaker 1: Did you notice we are?
Speaker 3: Yeah, unless you're like hard but anyway, So I wore
Speaker 3: like the seat through lace top. It's actually like a
Speaker 3: two piece to a neckliche, and I like wore jeans
Speaker 3: with it. And I put it on to see if
Speaker 3: he was gonna like talk shit, because you know he's
Speaker 3: super like conservative Loki and he said and I was like,
Speaker 3: all right, whatever fuck are were going. So the next
Speaker 3: day he was like, yeah, you know, you actually think
Speaker 3: he should dress a certain way and we have a boyfriend,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I'm not with you, and why did
Speaker 3: you say anything When I had the shit on for
Speaker 3: twenty minutes before we left. He's like, eh, So I asked,
Speaker 3: I don't know. I told this, so I saw him
Speaker 3: he hold it, so I pulled.
Speaker 1: It, and girl, he got mad that I pulled it.
Speaker 1: He got mad at me. He's like, Yo, you can't
Speaker 1: keep shipping your stuff. I put it on the Instagram.
Speaker 1: I was like, it's my brand. I thought that's a
Speaker 1: good question.
Speaker 2: It was because a lot of people responded yeah, and
Speaker 2: you know why, this is why he got that because
Speaker 2: obviously everybody's like, fuck that.
Speaker 1: Niggas don't dictate shit. I was like, that's what I thought. Girl.
Speaker 3: I got a lot of responses like he's trying to
Speaker 3: manipulate you, trying to take you over.
Speaker 1: Fuck that nigga.
Speaker 2: Maybe I read one when he was mad as fuck,
Speaker 2: and I was like, you don't really need to get mad,
Speaker 2: but obviously you can't handle the truth.
Speaker 1: But which brings us partially to today's They have a
Speaker 1: two part topic today.
Speaker 3: Do you think that once you're in a relationship A
Speaker 3: that you should dress more conservatively or just a certain way.
Speaker 1: Also, I have a problem posting a lot of pictures.
Speaker 2: I think my body is cool and I don't really
Speaker 2: give a fuck, and it's not.
Speaker 3: And this is what bothers me. A lot of people.
Speaker 3: He was like saying it's for retention, and that's not
Speaker 3: why I do. It's because like I like to be naked.
Speaker 3: If I could be naked right now, I would get undressed.
Speaker 3: And that is just my personality and it always has been.
Speaker 3: So like it offends me when someone comes to me
Speaker 3: and is like you just want attention, And then I
Speaker 3: have to think to myself, like am I.
Speaker 2: Doing it because I want attention? But no, that's really
Speaker 2: not it. And everybody dresses a certain way for different reasons.
Speaker 2: But question for everybody else, what.
Speaker 1: Do you think? I mean?
Speaker 2: I wanted to ask you when you were saying do
Speaker 2: you do you think you do it for attention? When
Speaker 2: when you when you post a photo and I'm not
Speaker 2: I'm asked. I'm actually just asking you do I don't
Speaker 2: want you to think I'm judging it at all, because
Speaker 2: you know, I was the first one to post your
Speaker 2: naked photo. But when you post your photo, Doe, you
Speaker 2: are you posting it because you're like, I look good,
Speaker 2: people need to see this ship or are you posting
Speaker 2: it because you want likes? Or like I think it's
Speaker 2: I like the picture picture, this is a cool picture.
Speaker 2: It's because yeah, because I don't think it has to
Speaker 2: be that deep now if everyone makes it, repost is
Speaker 2: so deep, you know, honestly.
Speaker 1: Like the pictures, I think I like the hotness and
Speaker 1: get the lowest legs.
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fun is that annoying? You're like, damn,
Speaker 2: this is a good one. Yeah, and then like you
Speaker 2: don't think I'm keeping this is where I look like that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's my thought, but obviously not I think that. Uh.
Speaker 2: Ok I ask a question, do you think I dressed
Speaker 2: like ouci? I think you're I think you can pull
Speaker 2: off fuccie because you're tiny. Okay, so so it almost
Speaker 2: looks it looks it looks I feel like if I
Speaker 2: wore some of the things you wore, I would look
Speaker 2: like a slut.
Speaker 1: Oh, and I think it looks hot fat and you
Speaker 1: look you do it?
Speaker 2: Does it's fucked up that my it's fucked up even
Speaker 2: that my brain thinks that way, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: because that's what society has trained us, that like, if
Speaker 2: you have too much, if you're too much, and I
Speaker 2: can't just stay away from that too, because just because
Speaker 2: you're bigger than me, does I mean you can't rock
Speaker 2: with the funk you want to rock?
Speaker 3: I think there's a way to go about like sexy dressing.
Speaker 3: I think there's like a thing.
Speaker 1: That compliment your body.
Speaker 3: Yeahhi a trashy sexy and like you look like a
Speaker 3: shipper that's off, and I think there's like, you know,
Speaker 3: I'm channeling my Inhanna.
Speaker 2: No, like the other day you were wearing a really
Speaker 2: cute shirt and it was just a shirt and you
Speaker 2: had boots on.
Speaker 1: But like if I wore that shirt.
Speaker 2: Like that shirt would have to be about four more
Speaker 2: inches longer because of all this ass that I had
Speaker 2: almost and you have asked. You actually have really good ass.
Speaker 2: It's like unexpect unexpected ass whenever Jimmy listen to bathing.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, damn, that's a mass. But uh, it's
Speaker 2: just yeah, I don't. I mean I think that, uh,
Speaker 2: you show off.
Speaker 1: Your body, you know, and I don't. I don't take
Speaker 1: offense to it at all at all. I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't think that you dress like a hoe. No, what
Speaker 1: is what defines a hoe? Right?
Speaker 2: And then then that's a whole other conversation, like what
Speaker 2: defines hoe dressing?
Speaker 1: And then we get them.
Speaker 2: I feel like we're like talking about Amber rosas slowalk
Speaker 2: and I don't want to do that, but I feel
Speaker 2: like I feel like in a relationship.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: Actually, as a matter of fact, when I was in
Speaker 2: a relationship, I would like when when I was in
Speaker 2: my last relationship, I would dress up, when I'd be like,
Speaker 2: is this too much? She's like and you would always
Speaker 2: say this is the one not he has. There's many
Speaker 2: good qualities about my ex, a lot of bad ones too, but.
Speaker 1: He would he would always say, you're with me. What
Speaker 1: the fuck is where? Whatever the fuck you want, and
Speaker 1: you're with me. You could walk.
Speaker 2: Around with your nipples out and it doesn't matter because
Speaker 2: you're my woman.
Speaker 1: And I leave you, who's gonna be with me?
Speaker 2: Needs to kind of like get that because a first
Speaker 2: of all, in reality, nobody, male or female, low key,
Speaker 2: nobody really wants to date someone that nobody else wants.
Speaker 1: You.
Speaker 3: When I go out and look at my guy and
Speaker 3: I see bitches looking, I'm like, yeah, bitch, that's my
Speaker 3: keep right, stay high. Yeah that's enough. Yeah, okay, okay.
Speaker 3: But I'm also like free loving and shit. But I
Speaker 3: think I think it's something really sucks about a man
Speaker 3: that's confident and she wants to show you off and
Speaker 3: is like, yeah, I'm with this is my bitch, and
Speaker 3: that's what I told him. He's like, yeah, you get
Speaker 3: he said. This is what he said. You get unwarranted attention.
Speaker 3: And I'm like that's as the first of all, it's dark.
Speaker 3: You can't see my nipples through this lace in the club,
Speaker 3: and if you can, like, oh well, doesn't mean you
Speaker 3: could grab my tit like you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like has not have people not seen a tit before?
Speaker 1: It's just we as women get unwarned attention all the time.
Speaker 1: I could be wearing a fucking paper bag. But it's me.
Speaker 1: It's not this nipple. It's I have energy.
Speaker 2: Like if you go out to me, if I go
Speaker 2: to the club ten, I'm gonna make ten friends.
Speaker 1: It's hands down.
Speaker 3: No matter what I dance, I smile, I'm nice, and
Speaker 3: it's the energy that's like I'm friendly and bubbling, and
Speaker 3: I think people take to that and gravitate towards me.
Speaker 1: So I don't really think it's necessarily.
Speaker 3: Like my boobs are out and even I've been out
Speaker 3: with a bitch and she's a slut and she even
Speaker 3: no matter what she wore, she just seeps sled out
Speaker 3: of her board and like we would go out and
Speaker 3: she would get slut attention, and I'm like, hang out
Speaker 3: with this bitch anymore. But there is you know, like
Speaker 3: there's there's a sophisticated way to you know, wear whatever
Speaker 3: the fuck you.
Speaker 2: Want to wear. I think he wants, Like you said,
Speaker 2: every person does want their part, like want someone who
Speaker 2: is wanted. But maybe there's like a level to the one,
Speaker 2: Like there's a level, there's a limit to like this attention.
Speaker 2: He wants the attention not because your nipples.
Speaker 1: Are out, but just because you're pretty, which is which
Speaker 1: is almost worse. I always think.
Speaker 3: I also think what attracts you for men, what attracts
Speaker 3: them to you, well a lot of times with the
Speaker 3: same things that they will hate about you later. And
Speaker 3: I think with me particularly, like I'm like people are
Speaker 3: like engaged in in my openness and my freeness and
Speaker 3: then I'm sexually in tune, and then like once you
Speaker 3: lock me down, you're like, oh no, no, don't do
Speaker 3: those things. And it's like kind of conflicting. But it's
Speaker 3: like either got to take me or leave me, because
Speaker 3: this is it. And I am a huge I'm huge
Speaker 3: on the movement of like profeminine free the nipple, like
Speaker 3: our bodies are way bigger and more than just like
Speaker 3: for your fucking visual pleasure and grabbing and just no
Speaker 3: matter what I wear, don't think you can fucking grab me.
Speaker 3: I'm totally a huge advocate on all of those things.
Speaker 3: This is my natural body. I think it's not fair
Speaker 3: that guys can wear just trunks and girls can't just
Speaker 3: wear bikini bottoms.
Speaker 2: I don't think that's fair at all. I think it's sexist,
Speaker 2: and I just that's that's.
Speaker 1: How I feel. That's my movement.
Speaker 2: This is what I'm gonna post, and this is what
Speaker 2: I'm gonna wear, and if you can't get with it,
Speaker 2: suck my deck.
Speaker 1: So wait, how did so how did the conversation end
Speaker 1: with that? Like, did you resolve it? He got mad?
Speaker 2: I put post to the poll and like I s
Speaker 2: read one person's response. He got furious, probably because they
Speaker 2: were right.
Speaker 1: We got over it. He was fine, But then so
Speaker 1: that was when I was out there. I bore the alpha.
Speaker 1: We talked about it, and I was like, first of all,
Speaker 1: just because.
Speaker 2: I'm a mom doesn't mean I have to dress a
Speaker 2: certain fucking white because that was mentioned and I don't
Speaker 2: like that shit.
Speaker 1: And then secondly, oh, I got home.
Speaker 3: And then I posted my my I posted picture chopolate.
Speaker 3: I was naked, but like I put, I put a
Speaker 3: stripe over my nipples, but your camouflage anyway, and he
Speaker 3: got like mad again I about the like I want likes,
Speaker 3: I'm not getting paid for this, and I'm like, I
Speaker 3: just like the fucking picture, dude, and like he tried
Speaker 3: to retaliate by like pocusting on his story, so I'm
Speaker 3: like sexy photo and I was like, first of all, no,
Speaker 3: this is thirsty and I think his friends make fun
Speaker 3: of him.
Speaker 2: And he took it down, but he saw the picture.
Speaker 2: He did he showed it to me. Oh yeah, he
Speaker 2: was trying to be he was trying to be spiteful.
Speaker 2: I thought it was funny and he was successful. He
Speaker 2: got hit like the thirsty bitches you know, you know,
Speaker 2: commented the d m s because he'd probably be.
Speaker 1: Like, wait, what's going on?
Speaker 2: He never posted like what the first of all guys
Speaker 2: that takes nude selfies.
Speaker 1: Or like promote it's not it's not it's not cute.
Speaker 1: It comes off a little bisexual. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: Don't unless I request it. Yeah, unless you're my man, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I just so yeah, I think that.
Speaker 2: I mean, if you can't, Okay, I got the question,
Speaker 2: So the girl are you gonna read? So the girl
Speaker 2: who messaged me earlier? My dan says, Lol, did you
Speaker 2: get a boob job? If so, please tell me where
Speaker 2: you went? If not, what is your workout regimen? You
Speaker 2: look so great? But what would my workout regimen? She
Speaker 2: didn't know where to go?
Speaker 1: Yeah, she was like where witch were? The answer is yes,
Speaker 1: I did get my boobs done, and they're bobs. They
Speaker 1: really are bob. Let me let me see.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're really squishy, they feel fucking real as fun.
Speaker 3: I'm touching him right now. I'm really jealous. Actually, God,
Speaker 3: I want some to as soon as I get my
Speaker 3: money up.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Happy Bay didn't know. He was like talking about people
Speaker 2: with fake boob or fake bodies and ship and I
Speaker 2: was like, well you do know these ain't I? Well,
Speaker 2: they are mine. They fix your body so well, and
Speaker 2: he was like, what are you serious?
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, they're not.
Speaker 3: That's my biggest fear that because I'm so small that
Speaker 3: if I get my boobs done, it would just look
Speaker 3: round and corny. And not only am I so small
Speaker 3: I like to dress.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think I think that if I got my boobs,
Speaker 3: then I probably wouldn't wear sea through shirts because maybe
Speaker 3: I would I would automatically think it would be getting
Speaker 3: too much attention. But you know, as much as I
Speaker 3: don't do things for attention, I have like gone, I
Speaker 3: never wear bras.
Speaker 1: I maybe own three.
Speaker 2: I hate them, but there have only been a few times,
Speaker 2: more than a few times in my life. Or like
Speaker 2: maybe I'm not where I brought my Merson and kind
Speaker 2: of see through and I've noticed I'm talking to someone
Speaker 2: and I noticed.
Speaker 3: Them notice my boobs, and then I'm like, maybe I
Speaker 3: shouldn't have wore this because that's not the attention you're looking. Yeah,
Speaker 3: because that really and that lets you know, like that's
Speaker 3: really not the attention. You know, I hit them with
Speaker 3: like the crossovers.
Speaker 2: It starts feeling like violating because they're violating like you
Speaker 2: just live, let me live, or like I could see
Speaker 2: your boobs.
Speaker 3: I'm like, nigga, I know I wore this shirt. You
Speaker 3: don't have to announce it. Always something is like men
Speaker 3: never seen a nipple before, Chill the fuck out. Guys
Speaker 3: act crazy like that's the problem. With our society partially
Speaker 3: like we're so censored, we're over censored. You never see
Speaker 3: titties never, like you don't go to the beach and
Speaker 3: see titties that they as soon as I see.
Speaker 2: A little flush, niggas be acting crazy raby rape, yeah,
Speaker 2: like calm the fuck down. Yeah. I think I think
Speaker 2: like as far as like for me, like I my style.
Speaker 1: I don't know what my style is.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I think I go back and forth between sexy, like.
Speaker 1: I don't know, like edgy, but I learned a lot
Speaker 1: of black.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I've I'm not one that shows that shows my nipples.
Speaker 1: I mean, I just it's just not. I just don't not.
Speaker 1: I just don't.
Speaker 2: It's not because I have anything against Jamila doing it
Speaker 2: or anyone else that does it. It's just not, well,
Speaker 2: I do appreciate you well, I mean, I guess she'll
Speaker 2: tell me everything. It's too much Like I have friends
Speaker 2: and I also have really big nipples, so I just
Speaker 2: don't think. I just don't want to. I don't need
Speaker 2: them on display. I one needs to see these. No
Speaker 2: one needs to see these pepperonis I have.
Speaker 3: And you know what I notice awesome are dms that
Speaker 3: the men's response and it was only like two and
Speaker 3: the women's response were totally different.
Speaker 1: So this is.
Speaker 2: This is a guy, because I got some really good responses.
Speaker 2: Dressing sexy is a tension seeking period low male, I say, lol,
Speaker 2: and I don't know.
Speaker 1: I can't help it.
Speaker 2: Male or female people dress because they want to flaunt
Speaker 2: what they have, be it skin and clothes. I wrote, false,
Speaker 2: people dress how they feel. Yeah, because sometimes I want
Speaker 2: to dress like disco sometimes just like sometimes I want
Speaker 2: to dress like Sometimes I want to dress like dark,
Speaker 2: slick New York edgy. Sometimes I want to dress vintagey
Speaker 2: sometimes I want to dress like a boy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, me too. And it literally expresses how I'm feeling
Speaker 1: that day. And I like that. I like to dress weird.
Speaker 3: I don't know however I'm feeling because because it may
Speaker 3: solicit an emotion from another person, What the does to
Speaker 3: do with me?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Right? Exactly?
Speaker 2: Specially people dress how are they however they feel.
Speaker 1: Good or whatever I meant. So this was.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So this was a whole rant from a man
Speaker 2: that so he was going, so did you ever convince
Speaker 2: him or no? He just kept going on and on
Speaker 2: about help. No, I'm not here to convince people. But
Speaker 2: like so he was steadfast in his.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh Jesus, yeah, a lot of texting.
Speaker 2: I can't tell how many times I've heard women say, wait,
Speaker 2: don't let me dress like a thought tonight, girl, I'm
Speaker 2: dressing like this to snag a husband. Girl, I'm dressed
Speaker 2: like a crackhead, so no one will talk to me.
Speaker 2: I mean, it could go on with so many examples, and.
Speaker 3: And men as well, will said, bru, I can't go
Speaker 3: out looking like a scrubs say, man, do I gotta
Speaker 3: go get all dressed up to chill? Do I let
Speaker 3: me just wear that beader and some jeans so I
Speaker 3: can flex on them well.
Speaker 1: Well, as corny as those sound.
Speaker 2: Both men and women dress sexy or anyway for that matter,
Speaker 2: to solicit some kind of reaction, either knowingly or subconsciously.
Speaker 1: Oh this is yeah. But but another thing is some
Speaker 1: people do. Yeah. Of course I won't say yes, some
Speaker 1: people do, but not over here. Damn. I had we
Speaker 1: had a really good one this girl, like really, Although
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 2: And sometimes I do dress sexy because I'm trying to
Speaker 2: elicit a reaction. There's that time sometimes, like you said, like,
Speaker 2: sometimes I'm like I need to remind this nigga, who
Speaker 2: the fuck amn, like, let me show this every little
Speaker 2: uh you know what I mean? And you know, and
Speaker 2: that's fine too, But I don't. I don't think that
Speaker 2: when once you get in a relationship or once you
Speaker 2: become a mom, even the bigger picture, the bigger, the
Speaker 2: bigger conversation, because we're both moms and you know, I know.
Speaker 2: I felt like sometimes like even dropping off Iria to school,
Speaker 2: like sometimes I'll be in the middle of like a
Speaker 2: shoot at Beauty Wonder and I have all this makeup
Speaker 2: on from like a and like maybe I just have
Speaker 2: a taked up on, Like They're like, where the who
Speaker 2: is where is she going? Who is she trying to impress?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, bitch, I'm working. You know what, You're
Speaker 2: trying to press nobody right right. But it's just like
Speaker 2: I think more the reaction that the negative reaction that
Speaker 2: you get from what you wear from other people.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's jealousy.
Speaker 2: I think I think people and int and their own
Speaker 2: insecurities about themselves. Yeah, and I think that, yeah, it's projection.
Speaker 2: You're projecting your personal opinion on me and that has
Speaker 2: nothing to do with me. And so you're making me
Speaker 2: feel And I told him that you're making me feel
Speaker 2: like I should like.
Speaker 3: I am like, my what my my like, I'm trying
Speaker 3: to get attention, and you're trying to make me feel
Speaker 3: bad for it, when, in fact, like I wasn't even
Speaker 3: thinking that way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think everybody needs to shut the fuck
Speaker 1: up and stay in their lane.
Speaker 2: But this other girl said, I said, is dressing sexy
Speaker 2: automatically a matter of seeking male attention?
Speaker 1: As girls?
Speaker 3: I would have to see how she's dressing compared to
Speaker 3: his version of less sexy. I'm like, right, I need examples.
Speaker 1: I said.
Speaker 2: This thing got me scroll on my own page trying
Speaker 2: to calculate my sexy wardrobe is the ship with my
Speaker 2: sexy wardrobe is?
Speaker 1: And shit, yeah, I mean I guess it's just like
Speaker 1: a personal preference, a personal line or whatever.
Speaker 2: But now, do you feel like you have to dress
Speaker 2: a certain way when you're out with Luna?
Speaker 1: Like? Would you not? Not? Would you not? Would you
Speaker 1: think twice about something you're wearing if you were out
Speaker 1: with Luna? No? I know you wouldn't.
Speaker 2: This This bitch, this bitch on her at Luna's birthday
Speaker 2: party last year. She was dressed like it was like
Speaker 2: a Mermaid party. Theinged this bitch had like she had
Speaker 2: all like the highest stilettos I've ever seen in the backyard,
Speaker 2: backyard barbecue through see through skirt and a bikini.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna post the picture a bikini.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna post I have I have her story shot
Speaker 2: like this bitch, when you were in a stair three
Speaker 2: year old support, I still have it like this.
Speaker 1: Bitch, I was like, okay to me to get it well.
Speaker 3: But a part of that is that dude, like my
Speaker 3: kid is gonna be the number one person who knows me,
Speaker 3: number one. Like, I'm not gonna be like Banana Republic
Speaker 3: on Monday through Friday and on the weekend.
Speaker 1: Get the fucking houci gear out. This is yo, mama.
Speaker 1: You think Mariah carries like unhooching it up when she
Speaker 1: had kids. No, but this is just it. And you
Speaker 1: all know this is how I get down. So fuck everybody.
Speaker 1: Take it or leave it? Yeah, take it or leave it.
Speaker 1: There's no such thing as mom gear. There is, though not.
Speaker 1: I refuse to be a part of that time. I
Speaker 1: feel like there is a mom wardrobe. I hate it.
Speaker 1: Whoever made it up it's like yoga pants. No, that's
Speaker 1: it's an l a mom.
Speaker 2: These are kind of like mama jeans, like did do
Speaker 2: you remember the snl S kid when they're like mom
Speaker 2: jeans and it's like the food but right here, No,
Speaker 2: it's so there's a mom.
Speaker 1: These are kind of mom jeans. But there's like it's
Speaker 1: so funny.
Speaker 2: You should you should you toom?
Speaker 1: Have you ever had a guy bitch to you about
Speaker 1: your wardrobe? No?
Speaker 2: Actually I think several one won my ex before this ex,
Speaker 2: but he was so insecure about everything. He always thought
Speaker 2: I was cheating on him. You always thought I was
Speaker 2: fucking someone, even my girlfriends, Like my girlfriends spent the
Speaker 2: night one time, and he's like, did you sleep with her?
Speaker 1: I was like, are you kid?
Speaker 2: That was my ex that I was everybody, everybody. I
Speaker 2: was fucking everyone, like the old lady from down the street.
Speaker 1: And this was even before I'd even like ever slept
Speaker 1: with a woman before. And I was like, what now,
Speaker 1: so him?
Speaker 2: But that was purely clearly based out of insecurity. But no,
Speaker 2: I really I haven't. But also I mean, like I
Speaker 2: said before, like I don't I don't think I think
Speaker 2: I dress. I think if people do think I dress sexy.
Speaker 2: It's not because I actually reveal a lot. It's just
Speaker 2: because my body is curvy.
Speaker 3: And you know what, I think it is to the
Speaker 3: kind of people that we are, particularly myself, I there's
Speaker 3: something sexual about me in general.
Speaker 1: About themselves me, I'm just sexy. I just oose sex opage.
Speaker 2: You know how many times I've been told that. I've
Speaker 2: been told, like you just why are you trying to
Speaker 2: be sexy? I'm like, I just got in the pool, bitch,
Speaker 2: what are you talking about? I just got out the pool.
Speaker 2: What are you talking about?
Speaker 1: It's like you just shant to be sexy, And I'm
Speaker 1: like no.
Speaker 2: But sometimes when that like, I'm comfortable in my sexuality
Speaker 2: and that comes out a lot of different ways. And
Speaker 2: when that's like coming out, it doesn't really matter what
Speaker 2: you wear. And especially if you're comfortable with having certain
Speaker 2: kind of conversations, if you know, just certain things and
Speaker 2: people are people feel discomfort with that comfortability, and yeah,
Speaker 2: I think there's some type of jealousy.
Speaker 1: And I've also been told I'm.
Speaker 2: Way too friendly, which she and I am, I mean
Speaker 2: friends everywhere playing.
Speaker 1: Parenthood like the DMV.
Speaker 2: Yeahs not I would agree or are too friendly sometimes,
Speaker 2: But then again, I had resting, but apparently I am
Speaker 2: a bitch or a wrestling bitch face.
Speaker 1: I wish I could adopt some of a resting bitch face.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I would go to the club with the intention
Speaker 2: of looking mean, and then I forget once I get
Speaker 2: one thing at tequila and I've made.
Speaker 1: Friends with the intention of looking at me.
Speaker 3: Yea, I'll be like, I'm gonna be less. You're right,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I need to be less friendly. Guys storry talking.
Speaker 3: I'm the girl at the club, like the guy you
Speaker 3: don't want. But obviously I think you're friendly.
Speaker 2: I don't mean, I don't necessarily mean like friendly and
Speaker 2: like meeting new people. I think that you're too forgiving
Speaker 2: with people me personally, but I care what people's feel.
Speaker 2: This like a guy who can follow well Bobby one
Speaker 2: drake and can follow me around the club. And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: I think that. Yeah, I think that you definitely are
Speaker 2: friendly and with random people. But I think it's I
Speaker 2: like that because then I get to hear the stories afterwards,
Speaker 2: like planned parentheadgirl.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you're just open.
Speaker 2: You're just open, and you know that's a gift, that's
Speaker 2: a gift that a lot of people don't have, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean, I wish I had. I wish
Speaker 2: I had more of it. I think spending time with you,
Speaker 2: I'm learning more of it. I definitely learn things from
Speaker 2: you all the time. But I just feel like, I
Speaker 2: think that you just have to be careful to not
Speaker 2: let any sort of man dim that light from you,
Speaker 2: because they will because they a lot of it, are
Speaker 2: insecure and perceive it a certainly, and I think like
Speaker 2: they can't handle it. It's funny because I was having
Speaker 2: this conversation with Happy Bay and I love calling him
Speaker 2: that he was saying because he's so happy, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean, And and he was saying that someone
Speaker 2: of his friends was like, man, it's going to take
Speaker 2: a really special woman to be with you because you
Speaker 2: attract so much attention.
Speaker 1: And you know, maybe it's a can't women and men.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, but especially it's going to
Speaker 2: be it's gonna be hard for women because of the
Speaker 2: women that you attract. You know, it's she'll have to
Speaker 2: be very secure, She'll have to be understanding and understand
Speaker 2: that this is who you are, and it's either you
Speaker 2: are going to find that person that's understanding, or you're
Speaker 2: gonna dim your light so that you can make someone
Speaker 2: feel comfortable. And I was like, wow, that's interesting, and
Speaker 2: that's true.
Speaker 1: It's true.
Speaker 2: I look at him and I think and and I'm
Speaker 2: conscious of it too. I'm like, I don't want I
Speaker 2: don't want to be that person, like, yeah, go to you.
Speaker 3: Anyone's like evolution and that's who they are, and that
Speaker 3: I've become more conscious of that because I know I'm
Speaker 3: a particular I'm not for everybody. And in my last relationship,
Speaker 3: like I haven't been in that relationship, and then someone
Speaker 3: tells you you look.
Speaker 2: So different from that from when I saw you. Then
Speaker 2: I had a client recently and I had met her
Speaker 2: previously and I did her lashes and she was like we're.
Speaker 3: Talking and I was like, yeah, I'm not dating that
Speaker 3: person anymore. And she's like, that's crazy because I could
Speaker 3: tell you look different. You look lighter, you look happier,
Speaker 3: you look like you're like you didn't look that way
Speaker 3: when I met you before.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, but that's because people. Relationships can really.
Speaker 3: Dim some fucking light if you let them, and you people,
Speaker 3: we should be like super conscious of that, like obviously
Speaker 3: there's compromise, but like, who you are is who you are,
Speaker 3: and if people can't handle that, don't ever allow someone
Speaker 3: to like remove remove those core things in you.
Speaker 1: Like even for me, I have to remind myself even
Speaker 1: with my.
Speaker 3: Very like conservative friends or whatever, like just because you
Speaker 3: don't understand how I move or what I choose to
Speaker 3: wear or how like, don't don't give me your negative
Speaker 3: opinion because you people may not even realize they're giving
Speaker 3: it to you from a place of misunderstanding.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's important. Yeah, I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: take away. Don't take away happy vase shine, No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: That's like why I love him. I think it is
Speaker 1: a cancer thing, you know, like it's a June cancer,
Speaker 1: July cancer. Yeah, I think it's a June cancer thing. Yeah.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm so attracted to him because of that,
Speaker 2: and because he can he can just walk into a
Speaker 2: room and just embrace everyone.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: You know, have you you have to like or like
Speaker 2: who gonta be there?
Speaker 1: How long are you? I'm listening to the car?
Speaker 2: Why by Like, can you just be fun normal and
Speaker 2: say hi to people like a goddamn adult? This is
Speaker 2: not high school and you do not have beef with
Speaker 2: anybody at the party, Okay, you not need to bring
Speaker 2: your homeboys so you can feel No, the whole thing
Speaker 2: is that they don't know anybody, and that's where people
Speaker 2: start to feel uncomfortable. And I get it because I like,
Speaker 2: I am socially awkward and I'm moody, and I'm moody bitch.
Speaker 2: Some days, like I want to be you know, sometimes
Speaker 2: I can, you know, move through a room so easily
Speaker 2: meet everyone, talk to everyone, and then some days I
Speaker 2: feel like I can't. And it's not it's not even moody,
Speaker 2: it's just sometimes I just feel like suddenly my like my,
Speaker 2: I have social anxiety, and sometimes my social anxiety will
Speaker 2: kick in and I'll feel uncomfortable or something will trigger
Speaker 2: me to make me feel like.
Speaker 1: You think it's weed, No, because sometimes there's been times
Speaker 1: I have to smoked weed and then I get way
Speaker 1: too in my head and around a group of people
Speaker 1: and I'm like overthinking, like people perceiving me. Yeah, of
Speaker 1: course there's that.
Speaker 2: But I think even without smoking weed, I've seen the
Speaker 2: shift in me, and it's usual I've tried to like
Speaker 2: be aware of like what is it that makes me
Speaker 2: more open than other times. And I think some of
Speaker 2: it is obviously the people in the room, right, and
Speaker 2: then it can just be something that happened to me earlier.
Speaker 2: I'm really bad at like separating. Like I think I've
Speaker 2: gotten better, but like I'm bad. I used to be
Speaker 2: really bad at like bringing whatever happened earlier.
Speaker 1: With me all throughout my day.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, like not releasing it. Like something one bad
Speaker 2: thing happens and it can shift your whole mode. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like today something like like kind of like I woke
Speaker 2: up this morning feeling really great, and then something kind
Speaker 2: of like made me feel really weird, and then something
Speaker 2: else made me feel weird, and then I went to
Speaker 2: the gym and I was like, you're not gonna I
Speaker 2: was like having a conversation with myself. I was like,
Speaker 2: you're not doing this today, bitch, you're not bringing this shit.
Speaker 1: You have to go.
Speaker 2: You're bucking up with Mila, You're doing some really great shit,
Speaker 2: Like no, you're not doing this.
Speaker 1: And I was able to let it go.
Speaker 2: And that's like I've come a long way with that
Speaker 2: because I haven't always been able to do that, and
Speaker 2: it's still it's still to be tested. How I do
Speaker 2: that in a relationship, because I will say, like I
Speaker 2: used to, I would in my past and my own
Speaker 2: past relationship, I would take out whatever the days shipped
Speaker 2: onto my my partner. Whereas, like I have to say,
Speaker 2: my ex never did that to me. He really didn't
Speaker 2: like if he had a fucked up day, like he
Speaker 2: wouldn't come home with it. Yeah, I do that.
Speaker 1: I would do that. It's easiest to take out the
Speaker 1: people you love. Yeah, of course it's important to be
Speaker 1: conscious of that with our kids too, But I can't.
Speaker 2: But I've never been the type that even if I
Speaker 2: wasn't a socially awkward, I'm not.
Speaker 1: You don't need a babysit me. I'll figure it out.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'll be quiet.
Speaker 2: I'll be quiet in the corner and I'll be good,
Speaker 2: like I'm totally fine. Or I'll meet some one arobabalyst,
Speaker 2: meet one person. I'm you know, we're not gonna. I'll
Speaker 2: never ever say can we go? I hate I will
Speaker 2: leave by myself if I will not say that. No, No,
Speaker 2: that's one thing I will say. Despite everybody young, Day's
Speaker 2: actually really nice guy. I know everyone got the wrong impression.
Speaker 2: Everyone's like it's young thing. I think that's why he
Speaker 2: was mad. He knew I was like people, of course
Speaker 2: they do. But one thing I will say, much like
Speaker 2: happy Bait, I could take this thing anywhere. He's happy.
Speaker 2: People like him. He's funny. He can like we can
Speaker 2: go to a party and like split the room and
Speaker 2: it's good. And I enjoyed that, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Like in that sense, I'm like, thank god, he's like
Speaker 2: a friendly normal guy, you know, like you don't have
Speaker 2: there's not all this other like shit.
Speaker 1: So that, Yeah, that's a big that's a big deal
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, should we talk about what the girl the only
Speaker 2: because I didn't pick up my kid from school in
Speaker 2: about twenty minutes, So pull up, pull pull.
Speaker 6: Up the question?
Speaker 1: Okay she said it was It wasn't all. Oh, it's
Speaker 1: a topic. It was a topic suggestion and it was
Speaker 1: in our DMS. Right, yeah, shit was it. We need
Speaker 1: to be able to title lease, I need we need
Speaker 1: to star them.
Speaker 2: Oh it's her, it's her, she said, Hey, guys, love
Speaker 2: your podcast. Can you address the epidemic of mod men
Speaker 2: wanting their assholes? Eight just want to hear your guys
Speaker 2: opinion slash discussion on the topic hashtag fellow stoner Mom
Speaker 2: or to the fellow Stoner Mom's listening power to you,
Speaker 2: I am surprisingly very not high right now.
Speaker 1: I'm very sober.
Speaker 2: It's very annoying if he didn't have any But uh so,
Speaker 2: this epidemic that she speaks of, I haven't really encountered
Speaker 2: it as like something that's.
Speaker 1: I haven't encountered.
Speaker 2: Okay, I will say the last guy that I dated,
Speaker 2: he definitely told me that he likes a finger in
Speaker 2: the butt, which I've never heard any black man ever
Speaker 2: tell me openly or privately.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think I've ever had a
Speaker 1: black man sell me. So maybe that is part.
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe he's part of this movement, but I just
Speaker 2: never I didn't know it was an epidemic. But maybe
Speaker 2: it is because she's obviously encountered it. I've encountered it.
Speaker 2: I mean I think I thought I could think a
Speaker 2: lot of women just kind of like you, like you
Speaker 2: kind of just like do it, see what's up?
Speaker 1: Like let's to push their limits. Hey, Hi, I think
Speaker 1: it's great.
Speaker 3: I think black men should be more comfortable in exploring
Speaker 3: like sexual things with their asks because for black eyes,
Speaker 3: like I'm.
Speaker 1: Gay, not good. It's not gay. I'm a vagina.
Speaker 3: I think it's good. I think it's just like a
Speaker 3: part of the whole conversation of just being more open
Speaker 3: sexually and like everything is not fucking gay.
Speaker 1: Oh I read you an article.
Speaker 3: About that didn't need to be save it. Remember we
Speaker 3: were talking because I ask you in the car, right, yeah,
Speaker 3: ask play is it questioning your masculinity?
Speaker 2: And I think that's a problem, and I think even
Speaker 2: we have to get out of it a little bit.
Speaker 2: But like do I want to like strap on and
Speaker 2: fuck my guy? No, don't want to play.
Speaker 3: With it a little Yeah, I'm into it. I've never
Speaker 3: had a guy ask me though. But I think it's
Speaker 3: the rap music, you know, like eat the booty like.
Speaker 1: It's groceries, you know, but it's never eat his booty
Speaker 1: like it's grocery. That's true. It's the girl.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's now it's encouraging black men to explore all
Speaker 2: holes of the woman, whereas you know, if it's even
Speaker 2: taboo for a while, like black men were didn't.
Speaker 1: Want eat pussy, you know what I mean. It was
Speaker 1: like I don't do that shit, you know.
Speaker 2: I feel like Nigga's in the nineties, even though I
Speaker 2: was like a teenager, not even a teenager, it was
Speaker 2: a child. But I feel like older black men don't
Speaker 2: do it a lot, or they had that they do it,
Speaker 2: they always did it, but they wouldn't talk about. Well,
Speaker 2: if it's a guy who see my posim and maybe
Speaker 2: he's he's he's too young, But don't you think that
Speaker 2: that is like something that was it? Like do you
Speaker 2: think that men eating pussy?
Speaker 1: At some point? Do you remember more popular? Not more popular?
Speaker 2: But it was like, yeah, I got more popular, but
Speaker 2: that it was a stigma. They like that we don't
Speaker 2: talk about it, we don't do it. Yeah right, yeah
Speaker 2: kind of. Even one time I dated a guy like
Speaker 2: back back from the day, like maybe like in high school,
Speaker 2: and he expressed me, I'm self friends with them and
Speaker 2: he's no longer like but he thought like getting ahead
Speaker 2: was like disrespectful to the woman.
Speaker 3: The fuck I know his I think his upbringing was
Speaker 3: like kind of low key Christian. He has something of
Speaker 3: my driving tattoo was satanic, But okay, yeah.
Speaker 1: He's not a good example, no, I think. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: also agree.
Speaker 2: I think that I think we're in a time right
Speaker 2: now where black people in general feel more sexually liberate,
Speaker 2: sexually liberated because I think it's been such I think
Speaker 2: it's taken so long because our black bodies have been
Speaker 2: sexualized so much that I was sexualized fetishized by by
Speaker 2: white people, that we've almost felt like we had to
Speaker 2: like keep it to ourselves, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: in some capacity, and now we just feel a little
Speaker 2: bit more comfortable talking about it, opening up about it.
Speaker 2: I think my ex definitely was not down for the booty.
Speaker 2: Anytime I try to touch it, you freak out, Like
Speaker 2: even if I was just you know, kidding, joking, like
Speaker 2: you get mad.
Speaker 1: But I just grab the cheek. Now, the cheek is.
Speaker 2: Fine, and the booty, the booty grab is fine. It's
Speaker 2: just anything and going between the between the cheeks.
Speaker 1: This ain't ain't happening. But the guy that I was
Speaker 1: dating before, So you never ate your ex's ass, No,
Speaker 1: do you eat ass? I have once my ex before
Speaker 1: that it was more like we were.
Speaker 2: Young, We're like, let's try it, like look at it,
Speaker 2: like it was like funny, Like.
Speaker 1: It was like, uh, did you like it?
Speaker 2: He didn't feel good, and he was like I don't
Speaker 2: know what freaking like teenagers you were so dumb. But
Speaker 2: I think the guy that I was dating a few
Speaker 2: months ago, like his openness turned me on.
Speaker 1: He yeah, it's a turn on.
Speaker 2: At first, I was like really like, wow, he feels
Speaker 2: really comfortable telling you.
Speaker 1: I know he was black, but he was kind of white.
Speaker 3: Yeah, But I was just like, I think that's why,
Speaker 3: like that is why white men. I read this in
Speaker 3: GQ years ago and I was in high school, and
Speaker 3: I never forgot it. Like, first of all, like scientifically,
Speaker 3: the g spot the prostate does is an erotic nerve
Speaker 3: ending or some shit you can come.
Speaker 2: It's definitely in there, so it's science. But I've think,
Speaker 2: like we said, bringing brace back to sexuality, first of all,
Speaker 2: there's a lot of negative history with like sodomy, yeah,
Speaker 2: and rape amongst the black community and slavery. So yeah,
Speaker 2: that's why it's like fuck no. But I think that
Speaker 2: white men and women.
Speaker 3: Have the like the like they could they could do
Speaker 3: sludy shit more openly and it be more comfortable and
Speaker 3: they're not feeling so judged about it. And that's why
Speaker 3: now as black people being a little bit more comfortable
Speaker 3: to like explore, it's more it's more acceptable.
Speaker 1: But I mean it's not gay.
Speaker 3: We need to get out of that, and we need
Speaker 3: to get out of that saying that, thinking that, and
Speaker 3: you know, promoting that, And I think for men, you
Speaker 3: definitely gonna get out of it or else I'm gonna
Speaker 3: find you.
Speaker 1: No, it's definitely not gay.
Speaker 2: And ever since that, the guy I was dating was
Speaker 2: so open about it, because I've always been open about
Speaker 2: sharing my bodies, my body in any way that my
Speaker 2: partner wants to repore.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how I feel having sex. The book is open.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, let's try. If I don't like it, then
Speaker 2: you don't have to do it. I don't want to
Speaker 2: go into any relationship. And it's like this is my
Speaker 2: list of don't like I don't Yeah, like like, let's
Speaker 2: just try it once. If you don't like it, If
Speaker 2: I don't like it, we ain't got to do any
Speaker 2: But because of that, like at first I was like, oh, this.
Speaker 1: Is so strange that he's telling me this. What does
Speaker 1: this mean?
Speaker 2: I was like overthinking it. I think I've told you
Speaker 2: about it, Like what the fuck.
Speaker 1: Does this mean?
Speaker 2: And then I was like, no, this is amazing, Like
Speaker 2: he's just down and aren't we We had great sex.
Speaker 1: It was amazing I mean it was.
Speaker 7: Very you know what, boundless, It was soundless, boundless sex
Speaker 7: is amazing, And now I feel like with whoever is
Speaker 7: my next partner, I need that.
Speaker 1: I want that, and like it's kind of a deal
Speaker 1: breaker for me in a way. I don't have a challenge.
Speaker 2: It's a challenge, but it's like if the challenge can't
Speaker 2: be ever, yeah, then no, then like why I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna I'm not gonna limit boring. It's gonna be b
Speaker 2: what a boring sex life?
Speaker 1: We're gonna have it.
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying ass eating is like the is
Speaker 2: like I don't want to borg no, but I don't
Speaker 2: even mean to side, Like if you won't do that,
Speaker 2: what else won't you do?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
Speaker 2: It's like and that's not to say everybody doesn't want
Speaker 2: their ass eight. Sometimes you don't like it, and that's
Speaker 2: fine too, but I know what I mean. But but
Speaker 2: some people don't and that's okay, it's just not their thing.
Speaker 2: Everyone everyone gets.
Speaker 1: Pleasure in different ways. You know, just try it. I
Speaker 1: totally encourage it.
Speaker 2: I fully encourage men and women to try it, and
Speaker 2: I'm definitely gonna try it with Happy Bay, you know,
Speaker 2: he's not down for that, he told me, So what
Speaker 2: are you gonna do?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to break it down because he's pretty
Speaker 2: fucking amazing. Yeah, that's gotta Young Bay teld me no too,
Speaker 2: but I have a master plant. Okay that movie doesn't listen,
Speaker 2: and like, bitch, please shut the fuck up about me, Like,
Speaker 2: can you get an He's gonna.
Speaker 1: Perfect just graze.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna start with lots of ass grabbing, so like yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: so okay, introductory ass plant.
Speaker 1: If you like, you know how you have a sex
Speaker 1: there on top and you grab the ass, just go.
Speaker 2: A little more into the crackage, just that one time
Speaker 2: and see how I feel comfortable.
Speaker 1: You gets like a light or like if you're giving
Speaker 1: a head and.
Speaker 2: You're going and going for the balls, maybe like a
Speaker 2: little a little a little farther up just maybe I
Speaker 2: just my my fears that like what if he isn't prepared,
Speaker 2: will shower first?
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you can make sure we both shower only things.
Speaker 2: Maybe even get in the shower and make sure it's
Speaker 2: scrubbed down like you do the scrap Let me baby,
Speaker 2: you know, like.
Speaker 1: That's another thing. This is this is like a back
Speaker 1: to like the shitting thing.
Speaker 3: And this is this is when you're reaching levels of
Speaker 3: comfortability where you know it's getting serious, because yeah, I
Speaker 3: need to like make sure the.
Speaker 1: Ad is very clean.
Speaker 3: I mean, I hope that's in general what you're doing,
Speaker 3: but you know, if you're preparing to lick it, this
Speaker 3: is very important.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll see.
Speaker 2: This is to be continued conversation on my side currently
Speaker 2: sexually with this person.
Speaker 1: But I think that, Yeah, I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: if young Way never lets me do it, am I
Speaker 1: gonna die?
Speaker 2: No? I mean in my last relationship, we never did
Speaker 2: and it wasn't even like a it wasn't like a thing.
Speaker 1: I mean he did it to me but all the time. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess if you're doing to me, I'm not kidding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's enough. If somebody was unwilling.
Speaker 4: To eat, I think he only ate my ass like
Speaker 4: a few times.
Speaker 2: I'm into it. It took years to get there, though
Speaker 2: I'm into all types of freak shit. Though it took
Speaker 2: years to get there. It feels good, No, it does
Speaker 2: the first time someone ever did it to me, I.
Speaker 1: Was like, oh, oh, but you have to be comfortable.
Speaker 2: This guy was like, this was the first time we
Speaker 2: ever had sex, and I was like, oh, this, what's
Speaker 2: happening that that? Honestly, that sex that I had with
Speaker 2: that person was maybe the best sex of my life.
Speaker 2: He did things to me that I was like, well,
Speaker 2: what else did he do?
Speaker 1: Girl?
Speaker 2: He did like we did sixty nine. But then we
Speaker 2: stood up in a handstand. Oh yeah, I've done that,
Speaker 2: like where my ass was. Yeah, he was holding your
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I was like, what how did we get here? Wow?
Speaker 1: This is amazing aatic I've done that.
Speaker 2: This was all on the first date. Like that kind
Speaker 2: of is sexy too, Like, oh, there's there's levels to this. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and you were into like if this is day one, yeah,
Speaker 2: day thirty. Yeah, we ended it.
Speaker 1: We ended it there. We never got there. We never
Speaker 1: got there.
Speaker 2: There are other problems, but but yeah, I think I
Speaker 2: think anything you do you should put your best foot forward.
Speaker 1: M sex included your best finger, your best looking, and you.
Speaker 2: Should be honest about sexual compatibility, like DOSO, Like one
Speaker 2: of the number one reasons for divorce is like not
Speaker 2: sexually compatible. To be honest, if you like level ten freaky,
Speaker 2: you can't You're not gonna like date a level five
Speaker 2: freaky guy, just cut it off in the beginning.
Speaker 1: If they can't come out of their shell, fuck them. No,
Speaker 1: that's so true.
Speaker 2: I'd swear that that is like that is probably one
Speaker 2: of the biggest reasons for cheating for divorce, one of
Speaker 2: the biggest reasons for divorce. I mean yeah, because you
Speaker 2: fall in love with other aspects of it, and so
Speaker 2: that's when the things you compromise. And for me, some
Speaker 2: people think sex they can compromise for sex, and like
Speaker 2: maybe some people can't. I have a friend who she date.
Speaker 2: She before she married her husband. She was she was,
Speaker 2: you know, fucked around a lot, and like was a
Speaker 2: freaky When she met this guy, he was like perfect guy.
Speaker 2: You're just like safe, you know what I mean. It
Speaker 2: wasn't gonna break her heart, was going to treat her right,
Speaker 2: could provide for her. He was handsome. But the sex
Speaker 2: they've had, they've struggled with their sex life. They have
Speaker 2: struggled with their sex life. And she that makes me
Speaker 2: people not she's not happy.
Speaker 1: I know she's not happy.
Speaker 2: I haven't feel like that's and you know, now they
Speaker 2: have two kids and it's I'm like, girl, and I'll
Speaker 2: never forget my mom said to me one time, she
Speaker 2: was like, Erica, never settle for bad sex. Like And
Speaker 2: when she said that to me, I was like, whoa,
Speaker 2: Like my mom never is, like she never really talks
Speaker 2: about sex with me. When she said that, I was like, really,
Speaker 2: this is yeah she meant that. Yeah, she meant that
Speaker 2: ship And I was like, whoa. Okay, and that's stuck
Speaker 2: with me.
Speaker 1: And it's true.
Speaker 2: And I hate to like base a whole relationship off
Speaker 2: it because it is there is so much more to
Speaker 2: a relationship than just sex, but it is a piece
Speaker 2: of it. It's a large piece of it. It's how
Speaker 2: you guys connect, you know, in an intimate way. And
Speaker 2: I think if we could just be friends, if we're
Speaker 2: just gonna connect mentally, right, and if you were in
Speaker 2: a real if it's someone who really wants to be
Speaker 2: with you, and they'll be willing to kind of like
Speaker 2: try to please you and ask, hey, what do you
Speaker 2: want me to do and and vice versa.
Speaker 1: So hell, yeah, this is important.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of like I said in one episode,
Speaker 2: I don't know like comfortable, comfortable love and necessarily the
Speaker 2: love that you you want to set don't settle, don't
Speaker 2: go safe you know, Like, I'm not saying everyone's gonna
Speaker 2: have every single thing you want.
Speaker 1: Absolutely likely not going to be that way.
Speaker 2: But there are certain things like sex compatibility that are
Speaker 2: very fucking important. You know what's important to you, And no,
Speaker 2: maybe sex isn't and that's and that's fine. Then that's fine,
Speaker 2: But then don't settle on the other things that are
Speaker 2: important to you, you know what I mean. I know
Speaker 2: sex is important to me too. I know communication is
Speaker 2: important to me. I know you know a few other
Speaker 2: Someone who.
Speaker 1: Can take my sexy dressing and dance moves is important
Speaker 1: to me.
Speaker 3: Take me as I am is crazy and you know,
Speaker 3: nude and free spirited as I am. So yeah, dressing,
Speaker 3: sexy and ass eating concludes our topics for today. We
Speaker 3: got to pick up Irin from school.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got to go pick up the babe or
Speaker 2: not my wish. She's not a baby, she's a big girl.
Speaker 2: Excuse me, even though she is having one hundred milts
Speaker 2: houds yesterday.
Speaker 1: We are trying to we are putting together. Are we doing?
Speaker 1: We need to a happy hour? Yeah, we're doing a
Speaker 1: happy hour maybe like in two weeks.
Speaker 3: Oh well, I'm just saying, like November there's like holidays
Speaker 3: at the end of it. Okay, Well then, yeah, I
Speaker 3: guess so, like the second week in November, we got
Speaker 3: the second.
Speaker 2: Week of November happy Hour. Well, we're going to figure
Speaker 2: it out today.
Speaker 3: Well, I said it all out so that we could
Speaker 3: figure it out. In fact, I think we need to
Speaker 3: like make dates like maybe every other month or every month,
Speaker 3: and then that there's pressure to actually yeah.
Speaker 1: Because fucking with us? Okay, is anybody want to be
Speaker 1: our assistant in turn? Because we're slow? Okay?
Speaker 2: Anyway, anyway, and have a wonderful Wednesday.
Speaker 1: It's actually really beautiful outside. It's nice for once.
Speaker 2: We're actually recording on the day, on the day of,
Speaker 2: and it's so nice outside and it's hot as fun.
Speaker 1: It's beautiful. If you're on the East coast.
Speaker 2: Can you hear the bird chirping in the background you're outside?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: Oh, and tune in next week to our Halloween episode.
Speaker 3: We've pre recorded that. It's actually really popping. We have
Speaker 3: a really cool guest. We talk about my pigeon experience.
Speaker 3: We go a little bit deeper and it's very witchy.
Speaker 2: So tune in keep your heads up for our half
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