WEBVTT - No | Daddy 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:15.160 I got to say, hello, welcome to We Know Its Parenting. 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:19.239 I'm Beth Newell. I'm Peter making the podcast you come 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:23.239 to to find out how not to parent? By example? 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:28.120 Should that be? Should that be the tagline? How not 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:31.200 to do it? This is how your parent if you 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:33.879 want to funk up your kids. I gotta say, when 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:37.159 we were first pitching this show and coming up with names, 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.559 it was so it seems so cliche to be like, 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:43.920 we're parents, but we don't know what we're doing. A 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:48.720 couple of knuckleheads. You know, branding is hard, we know, 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:52.159 but we knows how to do it. We're so good 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:54.440 at a thank you for coming to our show. We 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:59.720 know it's parenting. Um, what a week? What are we? 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.760 What a week? Uh, we're back in the group, we're 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:09.760 parenting our kids. Where uh, figuring our lives out as usual, 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:15.560 just going with the flow. Everything is like everything in 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:19.440 the world right now is such an constant onslaught of 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.200 Like I feel like this is a feeling a lot 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:24.480 of people I know are having right now. It's just 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:30.360 like so overwhelming between the news and personal lives and 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:33.920 especially being parents and just trying to process at all. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.679 Like it's just like, you know what, my biggest parenting 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:40.080 challenge of the week was what talking my cab driver 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:44.679 down from the coronavirus ledge. Yeah, I'm like, I'm not 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:48.840 even really going to coronavirus town. Like, I get why 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:52.120 it stokes on people's anxiety, and I feel it very 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:56.280 blessed As someone who's very anxiety prone, I for some 0:01:56.320 --> 0:02:01.840 reason do not have like super high germ of phobia. Um, 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:06.720 And so I'm just like, you know what, they'll let 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:10.760 me know if it's bad. If they don't let me know, Like, 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:14.959 I just don't feel like the idea that I personally 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:19.080 have control over this, I think is so egotistical. Because 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:23.239 I ride the Metro North train to the New York 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:26.240 City subway at least three days a week. My children 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:30.720 are in a daycare where they just rubbed on each other, 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:35.240 or my son is in a kindergarten that all my 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:39.040 children are doing is licking up terms all day long. 0:02:39.400 --> 0:02:42.040 But that's kind of the beauty of the coronavirus is 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.760 that it's not affecting kids in the same way it 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:48.520 is other people. Supposedly, where kids like it's kids are 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:52.920 not getting the same I've I've read a lot about 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.959 it um mostly because I come from a place of 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.160 I when people panic about anything, I roll my eyes 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:00.920 and act like I know better, and then I'm like 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:05.280 I better read up on this. It's not like I 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.320 don't necessarily think it's like rational to not panic, but 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.960 I do think as a New Yorker or someone who's 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:14.840 commuting into New York City, and it's like you can't 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:18.280 go with the panic, Like it's just like the city 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.519 has withstood so many bizarre things that you're just sort 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:25.280 of like, well, how bad could it be? Like I 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.680 do fundamentally believe that the city of New York could 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.799 crumble into the ocean at any moment if the right 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:35.640 storm were to strike. But I don't think I personally 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:39.160 have any control over whether I happen to be in 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:42.320 the place where that's happening at the exact time. Like 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:46.480 I just don't. And just you know what, if I'm 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:49.760 meant to fall into the ocean, then that's that's how 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:52.000 you want to go. That's your right, Yeah, in the 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:56.160 salty the salty s And I think, like I'm not 0:03:56.160 --> 0:03:58.400 not going to wash my hands, Like sure, I'm going 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:00.720 to wash my hands a little more and like try 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.400 to be more aware of touching my face, which I 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:08.040 touch all day long. Hands live in my eyes and 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:13.120 my mouth. We're just expressive, beautiful, thoughtful people. Our hands 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:17.960 are constantly pressing our cheeks. Hands, that's how we communicate. 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:24.880 We are full of hand to face. So here's what 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:28.480 I will say. Okay, I don't think so. My mom's 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:30.160 a nurse, so she's tried to tell me not to 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:34.120 touch my face for decades. But it's so hard not 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:36.640 to touch your face. So what I have been able 0:04:36.680 --> 0:04:39.520 to get good at over the years, I think is 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:43.080 that I touched my face. I touched my face more 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:47.000 with my knuckles and not the fingers that are doing 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.480 the dirty work. Because like the little kid tired eye 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:53.280 rub with the back of your knuckle. Yeah, like just 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:55.679 trying like be like, Okay, this part of my body 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:59.240 is designated for gross things. This part is for clean things, 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:02.159 like my knuckle. I'm not using the open doors, you 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:04.640 know what I mean. Like you could wash your hands 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:08.160 in disinfect all day, but at some point you're touching 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:12.880 a door knob, to a keyboard, to your mouth, like 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:17.960 it just happens. Like so I just think I don't 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:19.560 think I'm ever going to be able to stop touching 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:22.640 my face because it's gorgeous and I love it. I 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:25.200 mean you you sit there and just make love to 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:28.520 your face with your hands, and it's very awkward to walk. 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:34.200 It's just too natural to me as well. I went 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:36.880 straight to the data and I go, what are the facts? 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:41.239 Give me the facts. Where is the data? And numbers numbers, 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:49.800 and then want number everything and everything about everything. Everything 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:52.000 I've read has made me worry less and less and 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.719 less one. We're all going to get it. Everyone's gonna 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:58.840 get it. It's super But also most people don't even 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.359 know that they're going They get it in super mind. 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:02.919 And this is the thing that I think people have 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:06.080 to understand is it's not far off from a flu. 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:09.000 Like it's like if the flu we're going around. Yes, 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:13.600 it is bad for more vulnerable people's. It is primarily 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:17.760 people oversex divided with immune compromised immune systems. It is 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:21.080 a serious thing to worry about. But the more data 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:23.560 that they get realize they have no idea how many 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:25.800 people really have it. And so initially they were like 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:29.240 it's three death rate, and they keep finding out like, oh, 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:31.159 there's so many more people that have had it. But 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:33.279 they don't get sick enoughter to the hospital. So the 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:35.520 death rate has gone way, way, way, way right down, 0:06:36.000 --> 0:06:38.240 And some people think that maybe it's more like one 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.280 point four percent, but every time I read about it, 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:42.320 it goes lower and lower and looking more and more 0:06:42.839 --> 0:06:46.200 like the flu. And so you know, thousands of thousands 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.120 of people die of the flu every year. So well, 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:50.920 wash your hands, don't touch your face, but don't freak out. 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:53.960 But I think where we should be really careful is 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.719 when we are sick. Is like, don't go to work, 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:59.400 be really careful about washing your hands, don't shake someone's 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:01.839 hands when you know you have a cold. Like that 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:05.880 is where I think people like Americans are not considerate, 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:09.520 like I'm already sick, who cares no, But they're like, 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:13.160 we're just so selfish, Like we we as a country 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:17.840 are the most selfish people in the world. Perfect segue 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:20.880 to what we did today, which is I sent my 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:27.240 sun to school sick. Yeah, would you frequently do? I mean, 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.560 I mean I play a part in it. I'm not 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:32.640 I acknowledge that, but you do have a tendency to 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:35.600 like this morning, when he was not wanting to eat breakfast, 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:39.320 you were like annoyed and no part of you was like, 0:07:39.360 --> 0:07:42.440 I wonder if my sounds sick like I took his temperature, 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:47.080 no fever. Actually he took his own temperature. Well he 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:49.200 wasn't that sick, but he was like he knew he 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:52.280 didn't feel great. So he's at atom A gay guiney 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.520 didn't have a big appetite. And this will nurse, did 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:56.320 you call me in the middle of the day. What 0:07:56.480 --> 0:08:00.560 I was at an audition in in the Financial District 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.680 couldn't have been further away. And I just got there. 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:05.640 But those of you not in the know about New 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:09.320 York City, the Financial District is way downtown and we 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:15.200 live north of Manhattan in Westchester County. So um, I 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:17.680 was eleven fifteen. I got the call from the nurse 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:22.360 and she's like, Brent's in the office, size uh. Teacher 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.160 said he's not acting like himself, no fever, no vomiting. 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:29.280 And then I was like, I guess I'll come get him, Okay, 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.600 well yeah, and then I'll be there as soon as 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.640 I can. That was two hours and twenty minutes. Because 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.520 I will say from the working I worked in a 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:40.600 nurse's office at a private school in Brooklyn, which we 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:45.080 both worked at and the nurse's attitude like, and I 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:48.079 think this goes for medical professionals in general. Is just 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:51.079 like when six people are around them, they're like, we 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:54.760 got a sicky over here. He thinks he's real sick. 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:58.080 But I've seen a lot worse like and like they're 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.800 not like I think this might be an East Coast 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:06.040 school nurse. I don't know. Well, I did work for 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:09.120 a nurse when I worked in the nurse's office in Brooklyn. 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.600 That was she was like she was. She was an 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:16.160 emotionally abusive person who may or may not have been 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:21.560 an alcoholic, and she was just incredibly negative because you 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:24.160 didn't say anything. She liked me until the point up 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:26.960 until the point where I was just completely broken from 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:31.640 trying to please her, and I was like, I was like, yeah, 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:33.520 I need to not work here anymore. And then she 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:37.400 was like she couldn't believe it. So she was not 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:42.439 like this job, um, I was this is my problem 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:47.840 in life as I'm too accommodating to people who are problematic. Um, 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:51.200 And I'm working on it. I'm working on boundaries. But 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:58.320 she um, she was. She was overly dismissive. But I 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.480 do think like a lot of verses and medical professionals 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:06.120 have a similar vibe of like, alright, sure you think 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:10.480 you've got something bad. I've seen all this. Like I 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:12.400 do think this is kind of like a tone that's 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.800 given to them in medical school or nursing school, Like 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:19.480 it's just like a very patriarchal attitude. That's just like 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.600 the customer does not know what they want, Like, um, 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:26.760 I gotta say, Um, the school nurses I remember from 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:31.040 me growing up or not like that. Um, But that 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:33.400 might have just minded my experience. I mean I had 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:38.160 nice school nurses, but they always I always felt disbelieved, 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:40.640 Like I always felt like they were like, Okay, your 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:44.480 throat hurts, well, you can hang out here for twenty 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:46.720 minutes and then you're gonna go back to class because 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:49.800 you don't have a fever. I'm starting to I'm starting 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.240 to build a picture of you as a little kid, 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:57.840 assuming what I know about Maven was is how you are. 0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:02.800 And there's a there's a version of Maven where she 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.760 doesn't want to be prodded for information, and when you 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:11.080 ask her questions really bluntly, she'll she'll like squint at you, 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:14.000 and then it's hard to read what's going on. With her, 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.640 and so I started to see like is this what 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:19.480 all those teachers were seeing in Beth when they're like, 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.640 does she have an attitude? I can't tell? Do you 0:11:22.679 --> 0:11:27.480 feel like? Because the world too women is like do 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:30.080 you really feel what you're feeling? Or you an idiot? 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:35.319 Like that's I think. Sometimes she's like may even correctly 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:38.280 sometimes when she's throwing a tantrum, she like very clearly 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:42.880 is like I need this from you, as like I 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:45.120 need you to help calm me down as a three 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:47.360 year old, do you know what I mean? Like she's 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:52.600 like what she's saying is m M, well, yeah, like no, 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:55.720 but like I have I have seen her thrown tantrums 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.240 where like I got mad, like when she was very young, 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:01.400 and I was like just feeling very frustrated because she 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:04.800 was just like incoherent toddler. And then I was like 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:06.599 I probably talked about this in the podcast before, but 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:10.320 I was like, Mayven, what do you want? And then 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:15.640 she was and then and then she goes, I want you, 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:20.920 And it was like the most clarifying, like clear like 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.680 I was like, she just wanted me to pay attention 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:25.800 to her. It wasn't about like whatever thing she was 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:30.240 requesting or whatever. She just wanted me to like focus 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:35.040 on her, and it was like like she, I know, 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:36.920 sometimes she's just being a three year old and she's 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.800 moody and tired whatever. But like sometimes I think she 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:45.280 is just very like hey, she's like, hey, my big 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.280 brother has been flipping out for like an hour, and 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:51.840 you guys have paid attention to me. I've gotten I 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:55.080 mean partially she's grown up and show she can start 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:58.679 to be able to let things go, which is a 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.080 brand new She's approaching four and you can see it 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:05.040 the light at the end of the three tunnel um 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:07.679 and I also can see it coming earlier and get 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.320 out of the way. Yeah. Well, she's been so funny 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:13.480 lately because Brent has had some like tantrums or like 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:17.200 he'll be we'll be like playing and he's bossing me 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:18.680 around and he's like you have to do this, and 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.720 you have to do this, and Maven, we'll just cuddle 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:25.720 up on me and be like zoobi gooby gee, and 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:29.440 she interrupts his thing to just be goofy and like 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:32.640 snuggle me, which is really like fun. I'm like, yeah, 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:37.400 this is easier. And then and he's like I'm directing production. 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.080 He's like, he's like, you need to say this, and 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:45.520 he gets so frustrated with her, like she just steals 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:50.880 the spotlight and sort of a more effortless way. Boy, 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:53.120 I tell you. So I picked him up and he 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.840 was fine. He was just really upset that I took song. 0:13:56.000 --> 0:14:01.040 He's like, the nurse's office is so boring. And so 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.320 we went home and he goes, can we go out 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:05.360 to dinner? I was like, you haven't eaten all day? 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:09.360 Are you hungry? He's like, maybe, we'll see. So we 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:14.280 went to a restaurant with Maven and he's he's a 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.320 little bit like under the weather, but just that makes 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:21.360 him calm and cuddly, and yeah, I kind of like 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:25.520 that first. And Maven was really goofy and he wasn't 0:14:25.760 --> 0:14:30.040 bothering to argue with her for every and no reason. 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:34.000 And it was the best dinner we ever had, and 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:36.720 he ended up eating a bunch and we read books 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:41.240 and went straight to sleep and everyone was great. We 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.920 listen to music. Maven and I did more air drumming. 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:50.920 She's a good drummer. She's good. So night, Now you 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:53.880 need to tell me the story on Brin's door. I 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:57.320 came home the other day and I saw a piece 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:03.000 of paper that said Bryn, Yes, this is taped to 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:11.280 Brin's door. Says Bryn, yes man, yes, Mommy, yes, Daddy. Yeah. 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:13.480 So okay, you got the short end of the stick, 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:17.080 because here's what happened. It was like, okay, it's kind 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:20.520 of it felt like kind of like the Democratic primaries 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:26.160 where okay, Bryn was like throwing a tantrum for some 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:28.400 reason I can't He probably just didn't want me to 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:30.720 turn the TV off or something, and he was just 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:34.640 like being horrible, and I was like, you need to stop. 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.640 You can't be like punching me. Whatever. He's I'm sorry, 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:40.760 we're watching TV on a school night. I go away. No, 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:47.120 this is Sunday night. Um, so we're this is He's 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:49.680 just like losing it and he probably did watch too 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:52.560 much like YouTube that day whatever, But it was just 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:56.640 like once again, we are tired parents and sometimes you 0:15:56.680 --> 0:16:00.600 have to have a lazy day and everyone is lazy. Um, 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:03.280 so he was kind of losing it. Bullup sound installation 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:05.640 blanket has fallen off the wall for the second time 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:08.120 in two years. It's about to get very echoe in 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:11.560 here because the wall is exposed. But you can hear it. 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.200 I don't even need it out there. Okay. So Bryn 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:17.480 was freaking out and then he's flipping out and I 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:20.640 was like, I am he Oh, he didn't want Maven 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.760 to read her book. He wanted he wants to be 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:26.880 the boss of bedtime and like do the book picker 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:29.240 line where he lays the books out and he picks 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:31.520 the books and he narrows it down to a category. 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.440 And like I was like, Mayven wants to read this 0:16:33.480 --> 0:16:35.600 new book that she has not read a lot, and 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:37.560 we're going to read it. So I took her in 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:39.920 the other room to start reading it. And he was 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:42.040 still flipping out. And he found like a piece of 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:49.400 paper and wrote uh yes, Bryan, no Maven and taped 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:56.600 it to the door. So this is like his latest thing. Yeah, 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:58.560 this is like the latest one. He wants to make 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:01.080 the rules. He wants to explain things he discovered. He 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:05.359 can make signs. Now, He's like Martin Luther nailing his 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:08.760 thing to the church. He's like, I have I have 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:12.119 discovered the written word, and this is my form of protest. 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.879 And so he was like putting this sign on the 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:19.639 door and then he like maybe he was like May 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:21.520 even can't come in here, and he was like trying 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.000 to force the door closed and I was trying to 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:26.200 put it open, and May even, which I was very 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:29.440 proud of her, she just like ripped it off the door, 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:32.840 very like sassily, and he's like, maybe I come in here, 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:36.640 and he's like she was like, Brin, I took it off, 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:41.680 and they're like both fighting, and then like they got 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:44.320 in this much longer fight. I can't I was probably 0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:46.800 like restraining him or something, but he oh, he like 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:49.000 ended up as I was trying to restrain him in 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:51.800 the bedroom because it was like probably a half hour 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:53.919 past bedtime or whatever, and I'm trying to keep them 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:56.720 in the bedroom and explained that this is bedtime while 0:17:56.760 --> 0:18:02.919 all this is happening, and they're like, um, Barrin is 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:05.320 like flipping out and I was turning the lights off 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:09.440 and he hurt himself and started crying. So then he's 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:13.520 like crying as like finally starting to calm down. And 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:16.880 then Maven has like been getting into like mad at him, 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:18.960 trying to make her own sign and getting a pen 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:22.240 and paper and just insisting and she's trying to write 0:18:22.280 --> 0:18:25.680 and she's trying to get me to like explain how 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:29.040 to write her her sign, which this is what kept 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:31.280 happening to me during this is like they were fighting 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:33.960 against each other, but then they would very quickly quickly 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:37.880 form an ally ship if they could like extend the 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:42.560 lack of bedtime. So Brin was like, I'll help you, Maven, 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:47.800 and he started at length explaining to her how to 0:18:47.880 --> 0:18:52.439 write no, britn yes Maven on a piece of paper 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:55.639 and he spelled out every letter for her. I have 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:57.520 this on video, I have I should put some of it. 0:18:57.560 --> 0:19:01.080 But because he's like, okay, that write this, and he's 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:04.080 like this as he's like wiping away his tears from 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:07.359 the tantrum and hurting himself, he's like someone is whose 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:09.240 listens to me? Yeah, He's like, let me tell you 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:12.240 how to make the signs. And then and then he 0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:14.719 was like as she finished it and taped it up, 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:16.439 he was like, okay, so I have to correct it. 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:18.760 And then he was writing like he got out of 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:21.720 his red editor's pen. Yeah. So then they both had 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:25.160 to make another sign and it was like yes may Haven, 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:29.880 yes Bryn, yes mom. It was meant to be like reconciliatory. 0:19:30.119 --> 0:19:35.919 What's the word of reconciliatory, reconciliation, and they like but 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:37.840 then at the end they just had to pick a 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:42.000 common enemy and they were like, no Daddy, and they 0:19:42.359 --> 0:19:46.000 and so they're like, there is so Brinn wrote that 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:48.000 and like put big boxes around everything and put on 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:52.120 the door, and Maybn was like she just wrote like yes, 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:55.359 maybe yes, burn or whatever on her piece the favorite 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:56.760 and I was just like, oh my god, go to 0:19:56.760 --> 0:19:59.679 bed and came home and saw it and just flumped 0:19:59.800 --> 0:20:06.320 my shoulders, crawled into bed. Yeah. Well, unfortunately it was 0:20:06.400 --> 0:20:09.040 like once again, it's just it's like a lot like 0:20:09.080 --> 0:20:12.320 the Democratic primary, Like I had to get something done 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:13.840 and I had to pick a side at the end 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:17.080 of the day. And I didn't like, I want to 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:19.439 single you out as a problem, but you are the 0:20:19.440 --> 0:20:28.560 bloomberg of this situation. Lisa let me um and yeah, 0:20:28.600 --> 0:20:34.560 everybody hits bot um um. Well, he made a new 0:20:34.640 --> 0:20:38.320 sign tonight and he color coded them all and it's 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:42.640 still yes Mommy, yes, Naven, yes, Bryn and no Daddy, 0:20:42.760 --> 0:20:44.720 but he colored my green and I was like, I 0:20:44.720 --> 0:20:46.320 don't get to go in and it hurts my feelings. 0:20:46.359 --> 0:20:50.000 He goes daddy, Daddy, Daddy, don't worry it's only on St. 0:20:50.000 --> 0:20:54.679 Patrick's Day. Oh you know what, I'm just realized that 0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:59.520 he was asking me, Daddy, what color is Easter. I 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:02.520 was like, why he goes um, never mind, and now 0:21:02.560 --> 0:21:08.000 I know why one of them's Easter. Cool. That's the day. 0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:11.960 There's no mommy, that's right. Yes, although it says yes, 0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:15.639 you are only get to go in on Easter, I 0:21:15.680 --> 0:21:17.400 guess you got to do all the bedtimes and wake 0:21:17.480 --> 0:21:31.639 ups and now it's time for We know it's what 0:21:31.680 --> 0:21:34.160 they're watching. This is where we talk about our children's 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:38.399 media consumption habits beeth Okay, So I wanted to talk 0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:44.000 about these YouTube yoga videos that Britt discovered. I'm actually 0:21:44.280 --> 0:21:47.960 completely blanking on the name of these yoga videos. It's 0:21:48.000 --> 0:21:52.200 like super Yoga. Yeah, it's like super Yoga Kids, nitro 0:21:53.560 --> 0:21:58.760 Cosmic Kids, super Yoga. I think that's what it's called. Um. Anyway, 0:21:59.200 --> 0:22:01.520 So Britt was me this thing the other night before 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:06.320 I realized about this YouTube channel where I thought he 0:22:06.359 --> 0:22:10.080 had been going to like a yoga gym class or something, 0:22:10.119 --> 0:22:13.800 because he acted out to me as if he were 0:22:13.800 --> 0:22:17.679 a yoga instructor an entire yoga class while I was 0:22:17.840 --> 0:22:20.920 on the yoga mat and it was actually really good, 0:22:21.080 --> 0:22:22.879 and I felt like I was like, this is like 0:22:22.920 --> 0:22:25.760 a good yoga class, Like this is the cheapest yoga 0:22:25.840 --> 0:22:29.720 class I've ever Well, he was going through like different 0:22:30.720 --> 0:22:33.359 like yoga poses, but he clearly knew a kid version 0:22:33.440 --> 0:22:35.960 of them, and I didn't understand where where he had 0:22:36.040 --> 0:22:39.080 learned this, but anyway, he like was like, Okay, we 0:22:39.160 --> 0:22:41.560 have to do our dog poses. So he was doing 0:22:41.600 --> 0:22:44.760 like downward dog, and then when he when he would 0:22:44.800 --> 0:22:47.159 have me do upward dog, he would say I was 0:22:47.200 --> 0:22:49.080 a wolf and then he would ask me to howl, 0:22:49.960 --> 0:22:52.920 and he would add these little details that I felt 0:22:52.960 --> 0:22:57.880 like actually accentuated the goal of the pose in terms 0:22:57.920 --> 0:23:01.720 of like lengthening actually translated a physical thing. Yeah, Like 0:23:01.800 --> 0:23:05.040 it felt like it was helping my body, And I 0:23:05.119 --> 0:23:08.240 was like, this is in some ways better than any 0:23:08.280 --> 0:23:11.520 other yoga class I've ever taken. But he like he 0:23:11.720 --> 0:23:14.560 kept doing all of these posts and he does one 0:23:14.800 --> 0:23:16.520 that he showed you the other day, which I think 0:23:16.600 --> 0:23:21.720 is so funny, where wow be quiet theory. He does 0:23:21.880 --> 0:23:25.760 a vampire posset where he lays Shavashna on his back 0:23:26.000 --> 0:23:29.119 and like puts his arms across on his chest like 0:23:29.160 --> 0:23:32.399 a vampire and then you sit up and then you 0:23:32.680 --> 0:23:35.280 swivel your head to the left and then you grin 0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:39.480 huge and he raises his eyebrows while grinning, and it's 0:23:39.640 --> 0:23:42.960 so funny, and like, this is what's funny about the 0:23:42.960 --> 0:23:45.240 whole The way he was teaching me the class is 0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:49.800