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Speaker 1: Each of our lives is a story. As therapists, our

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Speaker 1: job is to show you that perhaps your story isn't

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Speaker 1: exactly what you thought it was. And I have never

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Speaker 1: thought of it that way. And honestly, in the first

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Speaker 1: time in two years, I feel bad for her because

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Speaker 1: I have not felt that way the whole time. It

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Speaker 1: has just been difficult. So thank you for I think,

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Speaker 1: allowing me to feel feel bad for her. Hey everyone,

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Speaker 1: I'm Lori Gottlieb. I'm a psychotherapist and I write the

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Speaker 1: Dear Therapist advice column for The Atlantic. I'm also the

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Speaker 1: author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. And I'm Guy,

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Speaker 1: which I'm a psychologist and I write the Dear Guy

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Speaker 1: advice column for TED. I also wrote Emotional First Aid,

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Speaker 1: and we are the hosts of a new podcast from

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Speaker 1: I Heart Radio, Dear Therapists. We both get tons of

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Speaker 1: letters each week for our columns, but we wanted to

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Speaker 1: us and not only guide them, but also share with

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Speaker 1: you our listeners, the behind the scenes of what we're thinking.

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Speaker 1: When someone says, can you help me with this? Wow?

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Speaker 1: So that's an interesting letter, right, This is a please

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Speaker 1: tell me, I'm not a scumbag. Letter Yeah to me,

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Speaker 1: it's I need to get out of jail too. I've

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Speaker 1: been dating a single as for two years from his daughter,

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Speaker 1: and loved me ten minutes later. I was raised in

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Speaker 1: a generation where men didn't show emotions. I am not

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Speaker 1: good at words, but going through it has helped me

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Speaker 1: deeper than that. So there's a twist in our columns.

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Speaker 1: Our readers don't get to hear how the advice worked out,

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Speaker 1: but in our podcast, we decided to bring people back

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Speaker 1: so they can fill us in on how everything went,

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Speaker 1: what worked, what didn't, and what we can all learn

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Speaker 1: from it. And I'm glad in a way that it

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Speaker 1: did happen this way because I've learnt more about myself

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Speaker 1: and what I William won't stand for in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to lose sight of the negative feelings

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Speaker 1: that I cost her. I just hope that at some

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Speaker 1: point you can forgive me. We're so excited it to

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Speaker 1: bring you these intimate, thought provoking, and relatable conversations. So

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Speaker 1: we'll begin July. Our first wait what should we call

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Speaker 1: our guest guy. Well, they aren't patients or clients, but

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Speaker 1: it's more intimate than guests. So you know what. The

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Speaker 1: psychiatrist Irvin y'all have like to refer to the people

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