1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,080 Speaker 1: Right now, right now. Buckle up, pot hold on tight. 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is strawberry letta 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: subject my ignorant lover calls me boogie. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley, 4 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: I am dating a guy that I am embarrassed of. 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: He and I met in college about eight years ago, 6 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,800 Speaker 1: and we lost contact initially because he got kicked out 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: of college for behavioral issues and I moved to a 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 1: different city after I got my degree. He found me 9 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 1: a year ago and we have been trying to make 10 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:33,200 Speaker 1: a relationship work since then. We were much younger when 11 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:35,840 Speaker 1: we met, and the way he acted did not bother 12 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: me as much then, But now we're good and grown 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: and his behavior is a turn off. He says ignorant 14 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: things on a daily basis, and it gets under my skin. 15 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: I started calling him stupid, and I know that I 16 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 1: should never insult a brother, but he acts like he 17 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: has no sense in public. In turn, he calls me boogie. 18 00:00:57,040 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: When we go out. We usually get into huge, loud 19 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: arguments when I try to correct him or apologize to 20 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 1: others for the way he acts. I get tired of 21 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: him saying hey man to me when he greets me, 22 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: or calling me boo and bay in public. I can't 23 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: stand when he curses in public or tells me I 24 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 1: have to pay for stuff because I make more money. 25 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: I have a very professional job, and he is an 26 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 1: assistant manager of a sporting goods store. On another note, 27 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: he is somewhat of a gentleman and takes care of 28 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: things around my house, doing whatever he can to make 29 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: me comfortable. But I can't help but be ashamed of him. 30 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: I feel like I am about to let a good 31 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: man go over something petty. Do you think I'm the 32 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: one that needs to change? By the way, he does 33 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: not think we have a problem, Please advise. Question why 34 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: are you with him? I don't get it. I mean, 35 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: why are you with this man? In the first line 36 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: of the letter, you said you're embarrassed of him him 37 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: and you said his behavior is a turn off. So 38 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 1: I don't understand. Why would you want to be with 39 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:10,520 Speaker 1: someone who, in your own words, you say, is stupid. 40 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: I mean, your feelings and desires aren't petty. If these 41 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: things bother you, you know, if they bother you, If 42 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:21,399 Speaker 1: they bother you, now, let me just say this, They're 43 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: going to always bother you. You know, women are always 44 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: trying to change a man. He is who he is, 45 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: just like you are who you are, and you can 46 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: only change yourself. You cannot change him. We say that 47 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 1: a billion times on the show in reference to these letters. 48 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 1: I tell you, I say, stop correcting him in public. 49 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: Stop paying for stuff when he tells you to pay 50 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: just because you make more money. What is that? And 51 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: I mean, and all this arguing and cursing, and you 52 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: calling him stupid and you know, and all of this 53 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: and apologizing to other people for his behavior, stop doing that. 54 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 1: I mean, it takes two to our He can't argue 55 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: with you if you're gonna if you don't argue back. 56 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: So you guys are in public just clowning. And then 57 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: at the end you say he is somewhat of a gentleman, 58 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: where you haven't said that one time in the letter. 59 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: The only thing that he does is takes care of 60 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 1: things around the house, doing whatever he can to make 61 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: you comfortable. I mean, that's something. But you're ashamed of him. 62 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: You know you don't like being out in public with him. 63 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: So I mean, you know, the only way this is 64 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:30,079 Speaker 1: gonna work is if you change, or if he decides 65 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: to change on his own. Otherwise, you guys are unequally yoked. 66 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: You're not a good match. Steve Wow, let me just 67 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: read this land just Steven Shelley. I'm dating a god 68 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: that I'm embarrassed. This is a bad start to a 69 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 1: bad letter, a bad letter, and it never gets better. 70 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 1: There's nothing in this letter that gets better after you start, 71 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,800 Speaker 1: did it? I'm dating the guy that I'm a basting 72 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: up based up? Are you dated college? Moved to a 73 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: different city. He found me a year ago, and you've 74 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 1: been trying to make a relationships work since then. Let 75 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:20,040 Speaker 1: me say this to you. You've been trying to make 76 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 1: a relationship work for one year and it ain't worked. 77 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 1: How much more time you got for this? When we 78 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,760 Speaker 1: were younger and met, the way he acted didn't really 79 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: bother you much then, But now you say, y'all good 80 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:45,480 Speaker 1: and grown. He says ignorant things on a daily basis. 81 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 1: Feel our pain, me and Carla feel our pain. Ignorant 82 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: things with this letter? Ain't about up. He says ignorant 83 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:02,839 Speaker 1: things on a day basis and gets under your skin, 84 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: so you start calling him stupid. She said, I know 85 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:11,839 Speaker 1: I should never sold a brother, but he acts like 86 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 1: he ain't got no sense in public. No, he's not 87 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:18,839 Speaker 1: acting like he don't. He don't have no senses. You 88 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:22,600 Speaker 1: just said he ambrassing you. So when you call him stupid, 89 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:28,919 Speaker 1: his response to you is you bullish you. Yeah, see 90 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 1: that's not a good trade off. You stupid? You push it? No, stupid. 91 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 1: Trump's bullish it every day. Then when you go out, 92 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 1: you get in huge arguments, loud arguments. You try to 93 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 1: correct him. You gotta apologize. I'm so sorry, man, I'm 94 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: sorry what he said to you. You're not You're nothing. 95 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:57,720 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, man. He didn't say nothing. That his nose 96 00:05:57,839 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 1: is big too, I'm sorry. Don't worry about that. I 97 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: don't like his shoes today. You just apologize. I get 98 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: tired of him saying now he talking to herb hey man, 99 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: when he greets you, boom and bathe, hey man, boom 100 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:26,040 Speaker 1: and bathe in public. You can't stand when he cuts 101 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 1: in public. Then you can't stand when you got to 102 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: pay for stuff because I make more money. What? On 103 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: another note, he is somewhat of a gentleman. What yea? What? 104 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: What did you read the letter? Because he's he fixes 105 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: stuff around the house. So he then moved the refrigerator 106 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 1: so you can see the TV better. That that's he 107 00:06:55,440 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: get points for that. Just a damn shit, somewhet a gentleman. 108 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm about to let a good man 109 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 1: go over something. You could let him go to data. 110 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 1: Isn't a woman listening? It is thank you kind of 111 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: good man. He's more than one stupid person in this 112 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: latter I'm dating the garment. Bad stuff, bad start to 113 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: a bad letter and it gets worse. We've been trying 114 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: to make a relationship work for a year. He says 115 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: ignorant things on a daily basis. You started calling him stupid. 116 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: He in turn calls you bullshi when your argu is 117 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: huge loud arguments, and you end up having apologize for 118 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: other people for hiyak. When he meets you in public, 119 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: he says, hey man bay or boom he cuts in public? 120 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: Didn't he tell you got to pay stuff before because 121 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 1: you make more money? Then you say, on another note, 122 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: he's somewhat of a gentleman and takes care of things 123 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: around this house. Then you said, I feel like I'm 124 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: about to let a good man go over something petty. 125 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: Do you think I'm the one that needs to change? Oh? 126 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 1: And by the way, he does not think we have 127 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: a problem. Didn't you just say he was stupid? Didn't 128 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: you just say he was too? Then you said at 129 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: the end of all this, he don't think we have 130 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: a problem. You said he was stupid, you said he's embarrassing. 131 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: But in all of this embarrassment, in all of this stupidity, 132 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: all these public arguments, insults, cousin making you pay for stuff, 133 00:08:54,120 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 1: the tyler this letter is my ignorant lover calls me budge. 134 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 1: The title of this letter should be my ignorant lover 135 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 1: and my ignorant ass is together. That's really what to see, because, 136 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:15,079 Speaker 1: like I said, ain't the only stupid person in this letter. 137 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:19,640 Speaker 1: What do you want me and Shirley to tell you? What? 138 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 1: What do we have to say to you? But I'm 139 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 1: curious because you wrote the letter when you when you 140 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: wrote it, did you with the spell check come up 141 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: in anything? Did you read it as you was? Did 142 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:35,600 Speaker 1: you dictate it to somebody that you typed it yourself? 143 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:38,400 Speaker 1: How did the letter get to us? There's nothing good 144 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 1: in this letter. When you press singing it was your 145 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: intent for us to get it. Yeah, I'm not understanding. 146 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:53,840 Speaker 1: It doesn't make any sense at all. What you described 147 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: in this letter, and then you won't think that you 148 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: might be letting a good man go, says stupid. You 149 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: need to take your degree and your bushie self and 150 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: find you somebody that ain't as stupid as him. And 151 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,080 Speaker 1: the only way you're gonna find somebody is not as 152 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 1: stupid as him is you must first stop acting stupid 153 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:20,559 Speaker 1: at yourself. And that's the truth. I'm sorry just sitting 154 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:23,079 Speaker 1: up in him. He just dumb as a damn though. 155 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:31,559 Speaker 1: Now she's calling you. Hello, Yeah, I'm on the radio 156 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: right now. Yeah, I'm doing radio. Uh huh, no, baby, baby, 157 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 1: listen to me. I'm forty four. I don't want to go. 158 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: I want some peanut butter and jelly saddy. I don't 159 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:58,840 Speaker 1: want to have no cook out with your friends. What 160 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 1: in the world. I want to have a balloon fight. 161 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:12,840 Speaker 1: What Yeah, so you just gonna be booishie huh, because 162 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: I want to have a balloon fight now. I'm stupid. 163 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: And did you see the news yesterday? It was an 164 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: earthquake in Tunisia. You wanta go over there? I was 165 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,760 Speaker 1: thinking about flying out tomorrow to go see how they're doing. 166 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: Now I don't know nobody over there because they need 167 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: some uplift. I was gonna take the balloons, uh from 168 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 1: the balloon fight and take them over there and so 169 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: they could have some fun. Stupid doing that. Damn. You 170 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:59,199 Speaker 1: don't want to do that either. Man. You tripping, you're tripping. 171 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no no, I'm not voting no mo whoa, No, 172 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: that's stupid. Yeah no, I'm not voting no more because 173 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:15,959 Speaker 1: they haven't voted. Fraud they're not they're not counting all 174 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: of them nor yo yo yo yo. I'm gonna sleep 175 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 1: with my mama house tonight because because I missed my bed. 176 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 1: Because it's cheek. It got the car pillows and the 177 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 1: and the car comfort to match. Wow, Johnny quest right 178 00:12:56,160 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 1: there and the runner. Yeah yeah, before you come home 179 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 1: from work, can you stop it getting my? Give me 180 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:12,720 Speaker 1: a happy meal? But tell tell them I want two toys. 181 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 1: You always trip, Just ask for the two damn toys. 182 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: Get my damn Now, I told you two toys the 183 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 1: time I asked you for something. We gotta go through 184 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: this hill. She's tired of paying for everything. You can't 185 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:39,439 Speaker 1: buy me. Oh you can't. Oh oh what you mean 186 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: you want me to pay you back? God, I can't 187 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: pay you back you know how much money you make. Hey, 188 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:48,439 Speaker 1: I got to go. I got to go back to work. 189 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:57,079 Speaker 1: It's some people on my eye. By love. See you tonight, girl. 190 00:13:57,240 --> 00:14:03,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do something to you this evening. Bye, Brah. 191 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 1: That's a conversation with a stupid love. Yeah, all right, listen, 192 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: email us your Instagram. That's your thoughts on Today's Strawberry 193 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: Letter and Steve Harvey FM. You're listening to the Steve 194 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.