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Speaker 1: to the coach because they're going to give you the

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Speaker 1: keys to like what they want. This is the Reformed

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Speaker 1: Sports Project, a podcast about restoring healthy balance and perspective

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Speaker 1: in all areas of sports through education and advocacy. Hi,

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Speaker 1: this is Nick Bonacoor from the Reformed Sports Project podcast.

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Speaker 1: Joining me today is coach Lindsay Monday, the head women's

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Speaker 1: lacrosse coach at the University of Southern California. As a player,

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Speaker 1: Lindsay Monday is one of the most accomplished collegiate lacrosse

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Speaker 1: Team USA to bring home two world titles. Named two

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Speaker 1: thousand nineteen Pack twelve Coach of the Year, Coach Monday

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Speaker 1: was hand picked to build USC's women's lacrosse team from

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Speaker 1: of Troit to multiple championships since. Coach, thanks for hopping

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Speaker 1: on a call. Yeah, of course, thanks for having me

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Speaker 1: we connected right through your borderline viral tweet where you

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Speaker 1: And here's where I love to start. When you look

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Speaker 1: He literally sets me on interviewss Nick. We have kids

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