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Speaker 1: And today's episode is a special gift from our guest

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Speaker 1: someone who needs no professional introduction, Big Sean. People have

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Speaker 1: And we expect that so much from our partners right now, Avery,

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00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 1: ships and everyone. We get attitudes with them, and it's

428
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Speaker 1: just like, like like you said, they don't know where you're

429
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: going through. You don't know what they're going through. And

430
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 1: on top of that, we're all just doing our best

431
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 1: out here. Man. Like when you if you honestly ask

432
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 1: me like that, that's usually my answer for almost like

433
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 1: how have you been doing? It's like I'm doing my best,

434
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 1: you know, and we all are doing our best in

435
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 1: these times right the world is going through so many

436
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 1: things at once. You know. I was talking to said

437
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 1: guru and he was telling me about how the soil

438
00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:45,800
Speaker 1: is so messed up nowadays. You know, like we're getting

439
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Speaker 1: forty percent of the amount of food that the amount

440
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 1: of nutrition we used to get from food, we can

441
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 1: only get forty percent of that now because of the

442
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,239
Speaker 1: soil has not been replenished, right, and that you know,

443
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,800
Speaker 1: the population and has gone from four billion, eight billion

444
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 1: people from nineteen sixty to an hour or nine billion

445
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 1: now and soon it's going to go from nine billion

446
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:11,639
Speaker 1: to thirteen billion, and you know, the next thirty some

447
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Speaker 1: forty years. And they're saying that at that point, if

448
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Speaker 1: we don't replenish the soil and take care of the

449
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 1: oceans and many other things, that the famine is going

450
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 1: to be not only at a crazy, crazy level we've

451
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 1: never seen, but it's you know, food won't even be

452
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 1: available and or or affordable. And you know, I was

453
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 1: I was asking him, like, man, how do we like,

454
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Speaker 1: how do we replenish the soil? And one of the things,

455
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Speaker 1: there's a lot of ways that you know, I can

456
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Speaker 1: talk about that another time, but one of the things

457
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Speaker 1: I was thinking. He was saying that, you know, as humans,

458
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Speaker 1: we're supposed to go back into the earth, mother nature,

459
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 1: mother Earth. We're supposed to go back into and replenish

460
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Speaker 1: the soil, you know, and enrich the soil. And I

461
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: was thinking, how sometimes we like, you know, how we

462
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Speaker 1: have like caskets and we like feel our our bodies,

463
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 1: our shells with you know whatever it is the chemical

464
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Speaker 1: to make us last forever. But it's like we're never

465
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Speaker 1: gonna dig each We're never gonna dig I'm never gonna

466
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: dig my grandfather up from his grave. It's like he

467
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,239
Speaker 1: needs to be replenished back into the earth, because if

468
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,880
Speaker 1: you think about it, that's just polluting the earth at

469
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 1: that point. That's almost like trash on the ground when

470
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:22,679
Speaker 1: you and no disrespect you know, I don't mean that

471
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,360
Speaker 1: in any disrespectful way. I just mean in a scientific way.

472
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 1: It's kind of like a matter that doesn't dispose. You know.

473
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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to you see what you see what

474
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Speaker 1: I'm saying, because it is a very sensitive thing, you know,

475
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Speaker 1: to talk about my relatives or even my grandfather, who

476
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Speaker 1: I love very much. But what I'm saying is it

477
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 1: would have meant just as much as he would have

478
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Speaker 1: disposed back and it became part of the soil and

479
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Speaker 1: the earth, you know what I mean. And that's something

480
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,159
Speaker 1: to really pay attention to as the population girls and

481
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 1: the space gets smaller and smaller, and we need to

482
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Speaker 1: build more and more developments over the soil, that we

483
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,119
Speaker 1: really need to be feeding ourselves and taking care of

484
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,399
Speaker 1: the Earth with you know what I mean. Yeah, so

485
00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 1: that's that's something thing that the Earth is just going

486
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 1: That's another thing Earth is going through. Aside from the world,

487
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 1: you know, the possible world war is that could be

488
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Speaker 1: upon us. And besides from all the conflict and the

489
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: you know, all these borders and just countries where slavery

490
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 1: is still going on and places is just you know,

491
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 1: a crazy amount of problems on this list that you

492
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: know that the world is going through, and we just

493
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: have to like really really boss up and be our

494
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: best selves and you know, take care of ourselves to

495
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 1: present our greatest version to the world, you know, to

496
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: help out anyway we can. Yeah, that's why this is

497
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: so important. Yeah, how do you process that? I'm intrigued

498
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,360
Speaker 1: because I grew up with with that a lot as well.

499
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 1: That exactly what you just said. You look around the world,

500
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 1: whether it's poverty, racism, wool potential famine, Like you're just

501
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 1: seeing all of this, and I think a lot of

502
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: people look at all of that and they get really overwhelmed,

503
00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:01,120
Speaker 1: they do, and then they feel helpless. And these are

504
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: good people, these are people who care or they're empathetic people,

505
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 1: of course, but then when they see all this, they

506
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 1: just feel helpless and they feel confused, and they feel disheartened,

507
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 1: and then they don't know what to do or how

508
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 1: to help, and then they feel paralyzed. So in that situation,

509
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 1: how do you process this? Well, how do you think

510
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 1: about getting involved? Because the way I think about it

511
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 1: is I realize that working on myself, as you rightly said,

512
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 1: that's not going to solve it, but it helps me

513
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: bring my best to this situation. Right, Like, if I'm

514
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 1: in a mess, starts there to me and starts there. Yeah,

515
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 1: it's like, if I'm in a mess myself, how can

516
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 1: I remove any mess? The way it was explained when

517
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,719
Speaker 1: I lived as a monk is that if we ourselves

518
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: are not trying to be purified, who are we to

519
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 1: help cleanse anything? Right? So, how can you cleanse something

520
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 1: externally if you're not purifying myself internally? It's not possible.

521
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 1: But when you do that, the whole goal of working

522
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 1: on yourself, and I think this is what you're often missed.

523
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 1: The whole point of self care is service. It's the

524
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 1: whole point of internal purification is to help detox and

525
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: cleanse externally. Right That, to me, the whole purpose of

526
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:22,360
Speaker 1: self care is the complete opposite of being selfish, you know.

527
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: It's it's actually, like you said, a service to the world.

528
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: So when you are overwhelmed with all the anxiety of

529
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:31,959
Speaker 1: everything that's going on, you're overwhelmed with your you know,

530
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 1: your personal problems and the world's problems, and just things

531
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 1: seem to be too much. We all go through this.

532
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 1: It is the most important thing to rely on the

533
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 1: faith that everything is going to be okay, you know,

534
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,679
Speaker 1: and when you put your best foot forward, when you

535
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,199
Speaker 1: do take care of the extra steps to take care

536
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,440
Speaker 1: of yourself to bring your best foot forward, you realize,

537
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: like we talked about last time, that the faith that

538
00:27:57,800 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: you know, the reason that we're in this moment in

539
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 1: the first places, because we have the ability to change

540
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 1: this moment. The great part about being in any situation,

541
00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,640
Speaker 1: whether you're up or down in life, is that it's

542
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 1: an amazing opportunity and you have the ability to change

543
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: every situation. Right. So, you know, when you have that faith,

544
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: like I talked about that invisible bridge, when you have

545
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,199
Speaker 1: that faith that you can just walk across and you

546
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: don't really see how you're going to get across, but

547
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 1: you know, it's there and you step on that off

548
00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: that cliff on to where you don't see anything and

549
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 1: you still haven't fallen. That's what faith is, and that's

550
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 1: where we have to have in each other as a

551
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:38,360
Speaker 1: society and realize that the more conscious we are, the

552
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: more we work on ourselves, the more steps we're taken

553
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 1: to get to the to the other side of things.

554
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Yeah, how do you think?

555
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: How do you develop that? Because when I saw your

556
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: face describing the faith in the invisible bread and the steps.

557
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 1: When I watch you described that, I can see that

558
00:28:56,840 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 1: it's realized. Yeah, it's it's a realization. For this isn't

559
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 1: just some idea or something you read in a book

560
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 1: or it's realized. How did you develop that faith over

561
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 1: the years, because it was a step by step process

562
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,239
Speaker 1: in being able to see that, Because I think a

563
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: lot of people if you try and fake that faith,

564
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 1: it doesn't work. It doesn't work. And if you try

565
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,959
Speaker 1: and avoid that faith, that doesn't work because you need

566
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: to have something like There was a amazing study I

567
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: read recently and they said that people who were involved

568
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 1: in wars and stuck in trenches and stuck in the

569
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 1: most difficult situations known to humanity. When they had false

570
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 1: hope and this is hope, not faith. When they had

571
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 1: false hope, they actually felt more dejected. So if they

572
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: had the false hope that will be back by Christmas

573
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 1: and they didn't get back by Christmas, that would break

574
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 1: their resolve. But if they believed we won't get back

575
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:10,719
Speaker 1: by Christmas, but we will get back, that allowed them

576
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: to have faith to actually move forward. That simple shift

577
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: was not putting a timeline, not putting a deadline, not

578
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 1: having false hope, but having that long term faith. So

579
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: I wonder, how do you how did you develop that?

580
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: Because I think that's something that's not talked about enough,

581
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 1: is how has it developed through life, through experiences, through

582
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 1: setting deadlines, setting expectations for myself and not realizing them.

583
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 1: From my worst fears what I thought was my worst

584
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: fear of things that I wouldn't ever ever be able to,

585
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: you know, recover from right or bounce back from. It's

586
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: like these things, when they even happen, you realize that, Okay,

587
00:30:54,440 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: I in the first place should never be mad at

588
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 1: a timeline, because how can I be mad at a

589
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 1: timeline or something I getting done or a deadline? When

590
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: I'm on God's When I'm on moving at God's speed,

591
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: I'm not moving at my speed. I can set my intention.

592
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 1: I could give my attention to that intention of hopefully

593
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: getting something done and make it done earlier. I may

594
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 1: want to finish something by April, and it might get

595
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: done in February. You know. I may want to get

596
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: something done in April and it won't be done till

597
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 1: next April. Who knows, because it's unknown. But when we

598
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 1: embrace that unknown, which a lot of us is hard

599
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 1: to do because you know, we always like to think

600
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: about what's the worst that can happen instead of what's

601
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 1: the best that can happen. I had to change my

602
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: whole mindset to think, Okay, what's the best that could happen?

603
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: You know, because I don't even want to attract what's

604
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 1: the worst that could happen? That's like such a normal

605
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: saying that I'm like, that's saying as whack. I had

606
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 1: to switch. I had to flip it over to what's

607
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: the best that could happen? You know what I mean?

608
00:31:55,160 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 1: Because I have one hundred percent faith. It's the fact

609
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 1: that we wake up every day that everything is going

610
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: to be all right, you know, just you know, and

611
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: get down to just the simplest things. I like. I

612
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:11,880
Speaker 1: love how you talk about breathing because you realize how

613
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 1: much of a pleasure it is to breathe if you

614
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: hold your breath and don't breathe for you know, I

615
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 1: can hold my breath for like a minute and a

616
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 1: half and you don't breathe, and then when you breathe

617
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: and exhale and inhale, you realize how much of a

618
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 1: pleasure it is for real to even just be on

619
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: be here today breathing. Yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah,

620
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 1: it's just we would choose to breathe over anything, if

621
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: you had to be forced to choose, right, right, because

622
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: everything else would not be an experience if you couldn't breathe. Yeah, right,

623
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 1: that's not promise. Breath isn't promise, right, Yeah, your lungs

624
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: could shut down the earth. The environment could change at

625
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 1: any moment, you know, something a natural catastrophe or disaster.

626
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: It could happen, and that could be immediately taken away

627
00:32:56,200 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 1: from us. Recently, I was reading from reading from Victor

628
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: Frankel's Man Search for Meaning Again, and I think it's

629
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: called twelve Gifts for Life by Edith Eager. So they

630
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 1: both survived the Holocaust, and I was reading that because

631
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: of what's happening in the world, and to me, at

632
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 1: this time, when the world's going through these things, the

633
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: only people I can turn towards are the people who've

634
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,920
Speaker 1: lived through it, right. I often think that those are

635
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 1: the people that can guide us the deepest. And so

636
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 1: when people ask me for my guidance at these times,

637
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: I go, let's look at these people's guidance, because they

638
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: were actually there. Like Edith and Victor talk about them

639
00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: being in the concentration camps, seeing people dragged, seeing children abused,

640
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: like this is all happening around them. And Edith Eager

641
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: said something that I think you'll appreciate so much. She said,

642
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: I realized, and I had to realize that I wasn't

643
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 1: the prisoner, but the gods with the prisoners of their

644
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: own conscience. And she goes, when I realized that I

645
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:17,040
Speaker 1: wasn't imprisoned the people who were being imprisoned by their

646
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 1: hatred and imprisoned by their own pain, and imprisoned by

647
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: their desire to dominate and control and to abuse people,

648
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:30,000
Speaker 1: that's the real prison. I was free, like you hear

649
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 1: someone say that going through the most atrocious, horrendous thing

650
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,280
Speaker 1: they could possibly go through, But that was her mindset.

651
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 1: She's still living. She survived and crazy thing to survive through, right,

652
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 1: and to have that perspective. And she was saying that

653
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:47,359
Speaker 1: it was that perspective. It's what you're saying that in

654
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: that moment, she had to rewire how she saw what

655
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 1: was going on so that she could get through it. Yeah,

656
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:56,399
Speaker 1: if she just accepted it for what it was, she said,

657
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 1: she would have lost that resolve. That's one of those

658
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: lessons only life can teach you, right, she was she

659
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 1: that's one of those lessons, Like we go through these

660
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 1: things and the experiences that there's no other way to

661
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 1: I just hope that people realize when they go through things,

662
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be such a traumatic experience or

663
00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 1: such a detrimental thing, or such a you know, immeasurable

664
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,879
Speaker 1: loss or anything. It's you know, the fact that you're

665
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 1: able to survive through the day. You know, there was

666
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: somebody who got murdered around the corner from in the

667
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,359
Speaker 1: neighborhood I live in, and I'm just like, oh, you're

668
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 1: saying actually right, yeah, like yesterday, Wow, Yeah, like in

669
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 1: the same neighborhood and nice neighborhood. But my point is

670
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,360
Speaker 1: is that we take for granted how much of a

671
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: blessing it is to be here right now and to

672
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 1: wake up and be here, you know what I mean.

673
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: So you know, we we learn these lessons, and I

674
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 1: just hope that we can pay attention to the lessons

675
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 1: that life teaches us, you know, because you have to

676
00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 1: really make a mental you have to really acknowledge what

677
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 1: you're experiencing, or else it just goes in one ear

678
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 1: and out the other. You have to learn the lesson,

679
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: you know. And even that story you told me, she

680
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 1: learned that lesson while she was in that concentration camp

681
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 1: in the Holocaust. She learned that, Okay, you're actually the

682
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 1: prisoner because you're trapped in your prison of your consciousness.

683
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: And you know, if you wanting to dominate another person

684
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 1: and trap another person that is already a prison. You know,

685
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 1: I'm in here, I'm in a cage. But I'm the

686
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: one who's free minded and free thinking and you know

687
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 1: has faith that I'm gonna get past this and told

688
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 1: two totally different experiences, right, So just embrace the experience

689
00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 1: that you're going through and realize it. You know, we

690
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 1: got to We're releasing these bodies for a limited time only,

691
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 1: right Like our experience here is very, very limited, So

692
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 1: we got to we have to make something. You know,

693
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,879
Speaker 1: we can't just sit around and watch other people live

694
00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 1: their lives. We got to go out and figure out

695
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 1: what that means for us, you know, and how you

696
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 1: do that is you do you do the work on yourself.

697
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: A lot of people may be watching this and may

698
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 1: not know what they want to do. They don't don't

699
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 1: know what they're passionate about. Maybe they just like being

700
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: on the internet all day, maybe they just like watching

701
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 1: movies and TV all day. But you know, you can't

702
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: figure out exactly what you're all the way passionate about

703
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 1: until you actually try things, try things out. I had

704
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 1: to try things myself because I didn't really know what

705
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: I was passionate about besides music. I had to go

706
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 1: jump out of a plane. I had to like try

707
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 1: two things start working out. I had to, you know,

708
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 1: do hikes and be like I really like hiking, Like

709
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 1: I really like this, you know what I'm saying. You know,

710
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 1: I think that's one of the things. One of the

711
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,839
Speaker 1: quickest escapes people can go to is like drugs, right,

712
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 1: It's like an instant escape and a way to get high.

713
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:43,720
Speaker 1: But man, there's so many other ways to get high,

714
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying in life without without using that.

715
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 1: And I don't not even to sound like, you know,

716
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:53,240
Speaker 1: you know, corny or whatever whatever people may think that sounds,

717
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 1: But it's like there are a lot of ways you

718
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 1: know too, that I've been high off of life that

719
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 1: a drug could never give me. You know what I'm

720
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like the type of high that is like

721
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 1: God given that only the universe can provide. You know, Well,

722
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: that's the best, that's the best high. It's well s

723
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: you know, it's in the scriptures. It's called the higher taste. Yeah.

724
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 1: Like the idea that when you it's almost like when

725
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: you look at a child. If you give a child

726
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 1: a popsicle, the child will want that, yeah. And if

727
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 1: you try and give a child a diamond or a

728
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: million dollar investment, they won't understand it, yeah, and they're like,

729
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 1: I'd rather have this popsicle. Yeah. But then when that

730
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:40,839
Speaker 1: child gets older and matures, they go, oh, that investment

731
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 1: or that thing could have been more valuable, And so

732
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 1: what we see as a valuable experience changes as we mature.

733
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: And it's what you said about experiences is so true.

734
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 1: RADI and I recently we try and do something every

735
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: month that we do that's random that we wouldn't expect

736
00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 1: to do. So recently we went to a rage room. Yeah,

737
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:04,799
Speaker 1: and I had no desire that. So a rage room

738
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:07,280
Speaker 1: they give you baseball bats and lead pipes and stuff

739
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 1: and you smashed stuff up. Yeah, And so we went

740
00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 1: to that, and me and Rather are both not angry people, like,

741
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 1: we're not aggressive people in general, but we were like,

742
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,320
Speaker 1: we have to go experiment because if we don't experiment,

743
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: how do you know? Right, you got to go check

744
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:25,680
Speaker 1: it out. So it was hilarious to watch us because

745
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:27,799
Speaker 1: we were both like, you know, we were both like

746
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:31,240
Speaker 1: not violent people, and so we're struggling. Then we realized

747
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 1: something really interesting. They told me afterwards. I wish they

748
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: told me before. They said, if you go there and

749
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: you're stressed out because your boyfriend broke up with you,

750
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: or someone's been rude to you, or you've been offended,

751
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: then it will distress you. But if you go there

752
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:52,280
Speaker 1: when you're not stressed, the research shows that you leave stressed.

753
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: So that was being my wife. We went there not

754
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 1: stressed and we left with stressed. It was actually stressful

755
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: to cause rage when you don't feel any huh. And so,

756
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: but so that was an experience that didn't go well, Right,

757
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 1: you got to try it. But that's okay, You're got

758
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: to try it, and so and you and the fact

759
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 1: that you two were together, it's probably just it's something

760
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: that you always remember, right, Yes, So in hindsight, it

761
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 1: probably was a pleasurable experience, a funny story now we

762
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 1: get to tell and be like, we did this thing.

763
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: It didn't work out. But I think that's what you're saying,

764
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 1: that we have to just experience more an experiment more

765
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:29,399
Speaker 1: rather than turn to the obvious things that we've seen

766
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: over society, like as you said, like drugs and alcohol

767
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,360
Speaker 1: or any of these things that can become painful in

768
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: the long run, as opposed to what you said, Hey,

769
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 1: whether it's going for a hike, or whether it's doing

770
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 1: this thing or that thing, or whatever it may be.

771
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,920
Speaker 1: So I think that's that's just really simple practical advice

772
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 1: that anyone can follow. Yeah, and you know, and I'm

773
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: not judging anybody who does that too. You know, because

774
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: how do we have That's one thing I want people

775
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 1: to remember too, Like we don't have the right to

776
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 1: judge anybody going through anything when we sit up and

777
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,400
Speaker 1: judge each other all day on social media or in

778
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:06,840
Speaker 1: real life too. And you know that's uh, you know,

779
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 1: I want to tie that back to another thing that

780
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:13,280
Speaker 1: I was talking about, because everyone is going through something

781
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 1: you never know, right, But that's not even a it's

782
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:18,879
Speaker 1: a it's a very conditional thing to try and keep

783
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 1: up an image or a facade, right. And you know,

784
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:29,719
Speaker 1: even like money is such a conditional thing. Like that's

785
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: why when I say rich, Yeah, you could be rich

786
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:35,240
Speaker 1: in money, but it's conditional, right, So when that money goes,

787
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:37,919
Speaker 1: you're not even rich anymore. It's like if you took

788
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 1: all the money away from me or anyone or anyone

789
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 1: around me or my family, we are at a point

790
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 1: where we were rich before we have money, you know

791
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because of the rich practices that we

792
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: were taught, you know, which is you know, to take

793
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 1: care of your you know, to take care of yourself

794
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,839
Speaker 1: early on with which is a lesson that I kind

795
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: of put on a back burner and went through experienced

796
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 1: life and was hiding me and beat me up, and

797
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 1: I had to take a step back and reaffirm the

798
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: things that I already knew, but really strengthen them up,

799
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And that that is that

800
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: is being rich for real, you know, because money is conditional,

801
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: and that's the energy we've assigned it. It's the currency

802
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 1: of you know, our our uh. I guess you could

803
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 1: say just our countries are are living the way we live.

804
00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 1: But really, you know, time is like the currency of

805
00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: our universe, you know, and love is like the currency

806
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: of all you know, love is every love is God. Right,

807
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 1: So I know I'm kind of rambling. Yeah, that resonates, man. Yeah,

808
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,280
Speaker 1: I just want people to get that though, man, because

809
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:47,839
Speaker 1: it's like trying not to judge. You're just wasting when

810
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 1: you judging somebody else, You're really just wasting your time. Yeah,

811
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: you're really just giving somebody else your energy that's so valuable.

812
00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:57,280
Speaker 1: You could be building something. You'd be building a mountain

813
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,200
Speaker 1: with that energy. You could be building a mountain or

814
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: a future, or or career or something else, and instead

815
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 1: you're really worried about somebody else or tearing somebody else down.

816
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: That just it just doesn't make sense. It's so easy

817
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 1: to do though, it's so easy for a lot of people.

818
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: It gives you a quick boost, it gives you a

819
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 1: quick Yeah, it does because I think it makes people

820
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 1: feel good in the moment or you know who. I

821
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: can't speak for people, but I think we can get

822
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 1: obsessed with validation and like retweets or like a lot

823
00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 1: of likes, or like getting a reaction or getting attention.

824
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:35,280
Speaker 1: But you know, one of the things that I've realized

825
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 1: is that people kind of put morals to the side.

826
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 1: You know, they will literally leak something of you is

827
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: very private. It could be a new it could be

828
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 1: a thing, it could be something, and they put all

829
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 1: the morals aside and be like, oh, this is gonna

830
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 1: get a lot of attention, so I'm gonna put it out.

831
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: I don't care where he's going. It doesn't matter where

832
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 1: he's going through. Like, you know, but really, and I'm

833
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 1: not just speaking about me, I'm talking about anyone like

834
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 1: that person could be going through, could be on the edge,

835
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 1: and that pushes him over the edge. You never know,

836
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 1: So just always keep that in mind, like that's you

837
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 1: don't don't like it's okay to you know, want a

838
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 1: lot of retweets and want a lot of love and

839
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: likes and stuff. We all, you know, we all do that.

840
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 1: We're we're a professional. So yeah, when we touch and

841
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 1: communicate with a lot of people and people show love,

842
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 1: that's great. But I just wanted to I want to

843
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: prioritize that, you know, at least I do, and realize

844
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 1: that my morals come first though. Yeah, you know what

845
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 1: I mean. And and what you just said is making

846
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 1: sure that whatever we're doing is not at the expense

847
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 1: of someone else, you know what I mean. So you

848
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: want to act in a way that doesn't cost anyone

849
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:35,960
Speaker 1: else anything, exactly right. You don't want to exactly what

850
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 1: I was trying to say. Yeah, you don't want to

851
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: make someone pay for what you behave as right. You

852
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 1: never want that, And because none of us want to

853
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 1: be in that situation, and I think that's what we

854
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 1: disconnect with the One of the things I had to

855
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 1: learn is to learn to stop judging people who judge others. Yeah,

856
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 1: so I had the judgment of people who judge and

857
00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 1: I'll be like, well, you should stop judging, and I'm like, wait,

858
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 1: but that is a judge. That's a judgment, Like that's

859
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: a judgment, and so it's like, okay, well, well let

860
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 1: me meet that person with compassion and understanding. Yeah, I

861
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 1: unders because we understand it, because I do it, And

862
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 1: we can't judge. We only have to like, you know,

863
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: at least I can only speak for myself, Like I've

864
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 1: learned to just stop judging. People realize we're all humans.

865
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:22,760
Speaker 1: If we weren't here to learn something, or we were perfect,

866
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: we wouldn't even be here. We would already be on

867
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 1: our next on the next wave of you know, existence

868
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:32,359
Speaker 1: or whatever comes next. You know absolutely. What's what's been

869
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 1: the most recent thing you were talking about learning life's lessons?

870
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,360
Speaker 1: What do you think has been the most recent life lesson,

871
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: big or small, that's come across your path that's kind

872
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:44,759
Speaker 1: of stayed with you or been on your mind. I

873
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 1: just wonder, because you know, we always talk about learning

874
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: lessons through life, and people think that they have to

875
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 1: be these huge, big ones, but sometimes it's just something

876
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: every day. But what's it been for you? Has there

877
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 1: been anything that's studid? Yeah, to have fun nice, to

878
00:45:57,120 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 1: make everything you're doing fun. It because we're here for

879
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: such a limited time, and when we see somebody pass away,

880
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:07,280
Speaker 1: that's close to us or someone we idolize, our heroes

881
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: or family members, our friends, whatever. Just you know, you

882
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 1: gotta realize that, Okay, I do work, but I need

883
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: to make this fun because that is the key to happiness, right,

884
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 1: and I feel like that is to me, the only

885
00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 1: thing that really mean, that's real success is when you're happy.

886
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 1: So you gotta have fun with whatever you're doing, like

887
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 1: you have to. And if it's not fun, you gotta

888
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 1: make it fun or do something else, you know, even

889
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 1: if it pays your bills or anything. Like, you gotta like,

890
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: if you just approach it like that, I'm telling you

891
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 1: to hold something that may be so depressing to you

892
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 1: can completely change that job you may have been working on.

893
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: I've been doing this since I was eleven years old,

894
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:52,800
Speaker 1: by the way, making music, you know. And obviously I

895
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:54,359
Speaker 1: want to do other things with my life like I

896
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 1: mean you were. I want to write a book. I

897
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 1: can't wait for that. Yeah, because you know, I've learned

898
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 1: so many lessons, like from you or from Deepak. You know.

899
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 1: I get to sit with side Guru and my mom especially,

900
00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:07,319
Speaker 1: I get to sit with Jenney, I get to sit

901
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 1: with all these amazing I get to sit with Marie Diamond,

902
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:12,959
Speaker 1: I get to sit with a lot of people who

903
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 1: know so much and that I know that it's one

904
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: of my life purposes to put that information into you know,

905
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:24,320
Speaker 1: and all the experiences I've been through, all the testaments

906
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 1: I've seen, all the just magic that I've witnessed in

907
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:28,520
Speaker 1: my life. You know, that's the reason I want to

908
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: write a book. I'm not doing it because oh, it's

909
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 1: the cool thing for your career to do, like write

910
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:33,919
Speaker 1: a book. Like, I feel like I have to write

911
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 1: a book because it's like one of my missions for humanity.

912
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: I want to read that book. Man. Yeah, I think

913
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 1: it's fascinating hearing about everyone's journey to how they started

914
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: going inward. Yeah, right, Like that's what's fascinating. Yeah, Like

915
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:51,240
Speaker 1: we always books are always written about the journey outwards.

916
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 1: What did you succeed, what did you achieve? Where did

917
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 1: you get to? But to be books that are about

918
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:58,720
Speaker 1: the journey inward, right, we need to tell those stories

919
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: because those are the journeys we struggle to take even more. Yeah,

920
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 1: and those are the those are the journeys that are

921
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 1: a little bit more untold, right, yes, yeah, unseen that

922
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: we need to relate to and especially my people who

923
00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 1: listen to me, Like, I feel like I really need

924
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 1: to do that. And but that is one thing I've

925
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 1: learned though, to just to go back to what you said,

926
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 1: it's like to have fun with it. Make sure you

927
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 1: have fun with it and make it fun. Like bring

928
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: whatever you think is fun to whatever you have to do.

929
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:27,359
Speaker 1: Like if you think, well, I think VI playing video

930
00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:30,240
Speaker 1: games was fun, well, then bring that to work somehow,

931
00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 1: like figure out a way to like incorporate that or

932
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 1: figure out a way to balance that in into your

933
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 1: life somehow. Like you can't let go of the fun

934
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 1: of anything, because then everything just gets depressing. Yeah, you know,

935
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 1: you get wiped out and you're not even doing a

936
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,399
Speaker 1: service to anyone at that point. Yeah, And I think

937
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 1: that's the interesting thing. It's a simple lesson though, right,

938
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,439
Speaker 1: it's a beauty. But that's what I love about it, Yeah,

939
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: because it doesn't have to be this deep, profound lesson Like, yeah,

940
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 1: usually the simple ones are there. The girls like like

941
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:02,959
Speaker 1: for mine, it's been prioritizing rest, Like I love prioritizing

942
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 1: rest and refuel like one of my favorite man like

943
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,839
Speaker 1: I need That's that's something I still have not deep rest, right,

944
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:17,360
Speaker 1: deep rest rest like letting yourself just have this deep silence, stillness, calmness,

945
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:19,879
Speaker 1: whatever gives that to you. I find like being able

946
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,439
Speaker 1: to one of the things I really do enjoy doing,

947
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 1: and I think it's fun. And that's why fun is

948
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:29,399
Speaker 1: such a wide word. Is doing like a sensory deprivation tank.

949
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:31,480
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, So like when I'm sitting in a sensory

950
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:36,320
Speaker 1: deprivation tank, my senses are off. It's actually a beautiful

951
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:38,800
Speaker 1: experience for me. That's deep rest, and that is fun

952
00:49:38,920 --> 00:49:43,720
Speaker 1: for me because I'm no longer like dealing with any

953
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 1: of the challenges or stresses or pressures. I'm able to

954
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 1: just be. Yeah. So inside of you it's magnesium and water.

955
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,600
Speaker 1: You naturally float. For anyone who's never done it before,

956
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: you can go in there for half an hour hour

957
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: to dark. Yeah it's dark. Some of them, if they're

958
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 1: a bit boot, they have the lights, the lights of

959
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 1: the music, like a little bit of moody Yeah, moody

960
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 1: lights mood to music. But the idea is to just

961
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,719
Speaker 1: not let your senses be triggered. And I find that's

962
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 1: what I crave is letting my senses no longer be

963
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: overexposed or overstimulated. One of my favorite things to do

964
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: is look out into the distance to what sunsets, to

965
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:26,240
Speaker 1: what's the sunrise, to just look at the sky, because

966
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 1: I find it's the least overstimulating thing in our lives.

967
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 1: When you look at your phone, you're overstimulated. To switch

968
00:50:33,120 --> 00:50:39,360
Speaker 1: on the news, you're overexposed. Everything's overwhelming, and time for yourself. Correct.

969
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 1: I love to do anything that helps me understand myself,

970
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:48,960
Speaker 1: that helps me underwhelm myself. Yeah, that helps me underwind, Yeah,

971
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: unwind myself. That's what I crave. And I've realized that

972
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:57,760
Speaker 1: that's my reward to myself. Let's not just a luxury

973
00:50:57,800 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 1: that that is necessary. It's a part of richness. It's

974
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:05,120
Speaker 1: a part of richness. It is um And I think

975
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:08,520
Speaker 1: that the mentality that I've experienced and that I've always

976
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 1: had is like you have to like stay on it.

977
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:13,719
Speaker 1: You have to stay on it, like and almost to

978
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 1: a point where I feel like I didn't deserve rest.

979
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:17,839
Speaker 1: Sometimes I didn't. I just I didn't deserve it, Like

980
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: I'm not almost finished for my stuff. I gotta keep going.

981
00:51:20,600 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: I can't, you know. But that was totally the wrong.

982
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 1: That was me coming from a place of desperation and

983
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 1: not a place of knowing and having faith, because you know,

984
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 1: rest is one of the many joys of our life. Man,

985
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 1: going to sleep, having that good sleep like those and

986
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 1: you know, by the way, that's the moment a lot

987
00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:44,359
Speaker 1: of times when we're in that deep sleep, though, those

988
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: are the moments that a lot of visions and a

989
00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:50,200
Speaker 1: lot of inspiration and a lot of ideas are transmuted

990
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,799
Speaker 1: to us. And you know, we're just a vessel, so

991
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:54,799
Speaker 1: you know that we sometimes we go to a higher

992
00:51:54,840 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 1: place when we're sleeping and at our most relaxed state. Right,

993
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 1: So I have been learning to get rest. I go

994
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 1: to sleep kind of weird times, especially when I'm making music,

995
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:07,560
Speaker 1: Like I'll go to sleep at like three or four

996
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:10,279
Speaker 1: in the morning with music terrible. Yeah, you know what

997
00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 1: I mean. But it is nothing like getting some good rest, man,

998
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: nothing like it. But will you just you deserve it,

999
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 1: and you and people deserve it. People would think that

1000
00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:21,759
Speaker 1: they don't deserve rest or you know, they work two

1001
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 1: jobs and all those things, Like you deserve that rest man,

1002
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,799
Speaker 1: And like longevity is better than anything. You can burn

1003
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 1: yourself out and go double ships, triple ships don't need sleep,

1004
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 1: only need two three hours to sleep. All that get

1005
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:36,799
Speaker 1: your rest, man, get that rest, Get as much rest

1006
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,879
Speaker 1: as you need, because when you fully rest it, that's

1007
00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:43,239
Speaker 1: when you can really make real waves in whatever industry

1008
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:46,359
Speaker 1: or whatever dream you have, or whatever thing you got

1009
00:52:46,400 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 1: going on. You know. Yeah, I was actually just about

1010
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 1: to say that. I think that's the most powerful thing

1011
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,760
Speaker 1: you said that as you were sharing that the idea

1012
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:57,760
Speaker 1: that we don't give ourself permission for things we don't deserve.

1013
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:01,839
Speaker 1: So we don't give ourselves the mission to rest if

1014
00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:05,920
Speaker 1: we don't feel we deserve rest. And a lot of

1015
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 1: us don't feel we deserve rest. We don't feel we

1016
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 1: deserve fun, we don't feel we deserve joy, and so

1017
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:16,640
Speaker 1: we don't allow ourselves to have that feeling. And as

1018
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 1: you were saying that you use that word deserve, I

1019
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 1: was like, I just want everyone to stop, everyone's listening

1020
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 1: right now to this episode or watching this episode, to

1021
00:53:26,239 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 1: just stop and think, what are you not feeling like

1022
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 1: you deserve? Yeah, people feel like they might not deserve

1023
00:53:34,320 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: real love. I don't deserve a partner, I don't deserve

1024
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: the rest. I don't deserve to go out and have fun.

1025
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 1: I haven't been getting enough work done. Like that's all crazy.

1026
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 1: None of that stuff is connected to each other. Man,

1027
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:47,880
Speaker 1: Like take care of take care of yourself first or foremost,

1028
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:52,200
Speaker 1: and watch how more beautiful your life unfolds. Absolutely, I

1029
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 1: want to ask you something though we're on the flip

1030
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 1: side of that. You know, I've been thinking about recently,

1031
00:53:57,320 --> 00:54:02,240
Speaker 1: this idea of how you do things that are good

1032
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 1: for you even when you don't feel like it, because

1033
00:54:07,200 --> 00:54:10,560
Speaker 1: you don't always feel like doing things that are actually

1034
00:54:10,560 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 1: good for you, right, and so we try and avoid

1035
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 1: them because of how we feel right now, right? How

1036
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: do you find yourself doing that? With the gym, with meditation,

1037
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:22,320
Speaker 1: with everything that you're saying, whether it's in the studio,

1038
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:24,879
Speaker 1: how have you been able to go and get over

1039
00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:28,279
Speaker 1: that initial feeling of I don't want to meditate today,

1040
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 1: or I don't want to sleep early today, or I

1041
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 1: don't want to work out today. How do you work

1042
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: through that voice in your head when it comes to

1043
00:54:35,280 --> 00:54:39,320
Speaker 1: self care. It's not this. You can set a schedule,

1044
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:40,839
Speaker 1: but there are times where you're gonna have to wake

1045
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:42,960
Speaker 1: up earlier, you're gonna have to get right to something right,

1046
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:44,840
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to maybe meditate later on in the

1047
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,160
Speaker 1: day you may not even get a chance to. But

1048
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 1: that's the beauty of First of all, it's the beauty

1049
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:52,319
Speaker 1: of the short meditations that I mean you went over

1050
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:54,520
Speaker 1: like the two minute meditations, right, it doesn't have to

1051
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:57,080
Speaker 1: be fifteen minutes where, you know, because I like I

1052
00:54:57,160 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: take a thing I do with things where I like

1053
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 1: write my goals. I do this, I write my intentions

1054
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: for the day I met. I meditate for fifteen twenty minutes.

1055
00:55:07,040 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 1: Then I sit my tea. You know, I take time.

1056
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:12,120
Speaker 1: I take an hour to myself, and a lot of

1057
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:14,319
Speaker 1: times I don't always have that, right, Sometimes I do

1058
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:16,360
Speaker 1: it later in the day when I do have time,

1059
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 1: and the days that I don't have time to do that,

1060
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:23,080
Speaker 1: I'll be like, well, I'm at least gonna do this.

1061
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:26,879
Speaker 1: There's a bare minimum, and even if it's a two

1062
00:55:26,960 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 1: or three minute meditation, or to be honest with you,

1063
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:35,040
Speaker 1: there have been days where I was completely exhausted and

1064
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:41,399
Speaker 1: did nothing, and honestly I deserved those days. You know,

1065
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 1: there are days where you turn your phone out of

1066
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:47,000
Speaker 1: day that like not too long ago, where I put

1067
00:55:47,040 --> 00:55:50,480
Speaker 1: my phone in the drawer, I had to leave it.

1068
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:52,880
Speaker 1: I didn't pick it back up. Till like midnight and

1069
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 1: when I was about to go to sleep, and I

1070
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:56,640
Speaker 1: didn't go to the studio that day. I didn't do anything.

1071
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: I just needed time to myself. You have to listen

1072
00:55:59,560 --> 00:56:02,360
Speaker 1: to yourself, and when you listen to yourself, you have

1073
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:04,440
Speaker 1: to ask, well, why don't I feel like doing this? Why? Why?

1074
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 1: Who doesn't want to take care of themselves? Right? And

1075
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: maybe you just need some time to just be lazy. Man,

1076
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 1: That's okay, Yeah, that's that is okay. But it's the

1077
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:16,319
Speaker 1: fact that you know better. When you know better, you're

1078
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:19,919
Speaker 1: already and headed in the right direction. So when when

1079
00:56:19,920 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 1: you don't take care of yourself right, when you don't

1080
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:24,200
Speaker 1: work out or you don't meditate, you're gonna be like,

1081
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: oh man, I don't feel I feel like I should

1082
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 1: have kind of you know, yeah, yeah, And it eventually

1083
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:35,600
Speaker 1: get you right back on track if you're a disciplined person. Yeah. So,

1084
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,319
Speaker 1: which I advise people to try and be disciplined with

1085
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:41,759
Speaker 1: the things that give you joy. You know, there's two

1086
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:45,319
Speaker 1: things don't always you don't feel like they go together, no, Yeah,

1087
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: but you gotta remember, having fun is a serious thing,

1088
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:51,439
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Yeah, it is. You got

1089
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 1: to be serious about your fun. That that is actually it. Yeah,

1090
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:58,759
Speaker 1: we got that that that was the idea of how

1091
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:01,760
Speaker 1: you strike that donce. You got to be disciplined about

1092
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 1: your joy. Fun is a serious thing for sure, And

1093
00:57:05,360 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 1: I think that's what we lose we go now fun

1094
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:12,640
Speaker 1: just needs to be completely random and then you know,

1095
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 1: joy needs to be completely random. But no, it's that

1096
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:23,360
Speaker 1: concentrated focused creation and development of that. Yeah, life at

1097
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 1: this point in your life, you know, we talked about

1098
00:57:25,880 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 1: this last time we talked about your journey. We talked

1099
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: about where you got to the reflection you had the

1100
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 1: mountain you climbed and then looked around and was like,

1101
00:57:34,240 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 1: well is this it like this? You know, Yeah, at

1102
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: this point in your life, what have your new dreams

1103
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 1: hot space been like? Like, what's been going on in

1104
00:57:44,960 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 1: your heart and mind about who you want to be

1105
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 1: and what you want to do and what you want

1106
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 1: to create? Man, I've really just been like, Okay, how

1107
00:57:54,560 --> 00:57:56,520
Speaker 1: can I impact the world at this point? Because I'm

1108
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:59,760
Speaker 1: in a position, right, I have a platform, I've done

1109
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 1: a lot of things I wanted to do musically, right,

1110
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 1: I've experienced like so many beautiful things, and I remember

1111
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 1: all I wanted was a song on the radio, right,

1112
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 1: But I didn't limit myself to that right by just

1113
00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: being so specific. I always was like, I want a song,

1114
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:17,439
Speaker 1: whatever else I could get, you know, whatever else comes

1115
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:23,680
Speaker 1: with that. And so lately I've just been thinking how

1116
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: can I impact the world, How can I use my

1117
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:29,280
Speaker 1: platform to change the world and look back and be like, Wow,

1118
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:32,440
Speaker 1: that was something that meant something. That's something that my

1119
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 1: grandkids could look at and say, man, Granddad really did that,

1120
00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 1: you know, and make that impact to people or listeners

1121
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 1: or anyone that's tuned into my frequency, you know what

1122
00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 1: I mean. How can I impact them? How can I

1123
00:58:45,640 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 1: make the best use of this opportunity, this life I have,

1124
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:52,640
Speaker 1: this body I have, That's kind of where my motivation

1125
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 1: has been at. So I put that into my music.

1126
00:58:54,720 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 1: I put that into Okay, we're getting my book together.

1127
00:58:57,720 --> 00:59:01,320
Speaker 1: I put that into you know, since these COVID restrictions

1128
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:02,640
Speaker 1: are up, it's kind of like, how do I want

1129
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:06,960
Speaker 1: to see people alive? Yeah, Coachell is coming up. Yeah,

1130
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 1: Like what experience do I want to give people? You know,

1131
00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 1: and also to not take away from what makes me happy,

1132
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:15,560
Speaker 1: and you know, that's being with the people I love,

1133
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 1: you know, just figuring out how we can change the

1134
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 1: world and aligning my people, my team with that, and

1135
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 1: you know, I'm looking forward to just living. I'm looking

1136
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 1: forward to starting a family at the right time. Yeah,

1137
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 1: and just we got time that. Yeah, it's all on guys. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah. Yeah.

1138
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:39,920
Speaker 1: Relationships are deep, boy, they are deep. But but that is, uh,

1139
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:43,440
Speaker 1: that is to me like where I'm out of my life,

1140
00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I'm not really trying. I'm

1141
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:47,560
Speaker 1: not in the same place I was when I was

1142
00:59:47,600 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 1: a teenager, when I was in my twenties, so I'm

1143
00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:52,560
Speaker 1: in a whole different way of Okay, how can I

1144
00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 1: impact the world? Yeah, you know what i mean with

1145
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:57,600
Speaker 1: with the opportunity that I've been given with this platform

1146
00:59:57,600 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 1: I've been given. Yeah, and that And that's such a

1147
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:05,040
Speaker 1: brilliant acceptance because for so many people, when they get

1148
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:08,160
Speaker 1: up the first mountain, it becomes about the second mountain,

1149
01:00:08,560 --> 01:00:11,200
Speaker 1: and then the third mountain, and then the fourth mountain,

1150
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:14,600
Speaker 1: and they just keep climbing mountains and it doesn't change

1151
01:00:14,680 --> 01:00:16,920
Speaker 1: how they feel. And so for you to already have

1152
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:19,000
Speaker 1: that realization and go the real mountain, I want to

1153
01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:21,920
Speaker 1: climb as the impact and the service and the joy

1154
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,480
Speaker 1: and the happiness. That's that's a beautiful thing. And we

1155
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:28,480
Speaker 1: were talking about this earlier our flying about relationships and

1156
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:31,120
Speaker 1: you know your relationships obviously with Jenne was something that

1157
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 1: you've been investing in. Yeah, like it's been a it's

1158
01:00:34,360 --> 01:00:36,600
Speaker 1: been a commitment, it's been an investment. Obviously we've spent

1159
01:00:36,680 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: time together and she's been an amazing guest on the

1160
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 1: show as well. And I actually met her first before

1161
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:46,800
Speaker 1: I met you. Yeah, and she's incredible, Like you know,

1162
01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,120
Speaker 1: and when I found out you two were together, I

1163
01:00:49,160 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 1: was like, this makes so much sense. But but walk

1164
01:00:52,520 --> 01:00:54,880
Speaker 1: me through whatever you feel comfortable with. Walk me through

1165
01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 1: some of the journeys in what it's meant to create

1166
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 1: a Hunches partnership and what's the real work that goes

1167
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:06,440
Speaker 1: behind that, because you know, we will have our baggage

1168
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:10,440
Speaker 1: and our truma and issues from our past relationships, our parents,

1169
01:01:10,440 --> 01:01:14,040
Speaker 1: so many things. What's going into crofting and what you're

1170
01:01:14,080 --> 01:01:17,080
Speaker 1: trying to croft Wow, that's that's really deep too. About

1171
01:01:17,640 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 1: let's make sure we touch back on like traumas and yeah,

1172
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:25,120
Speaker 1: things that we inherit from our parents, you know, because

1173
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: we inherit. I'm actually I'll do that we'll talk about that, yeah,

1174
01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:30,520
Speaker 1: and then I can get that like, Yeah, one of

1175
01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:32,160
Speaker 1: the things I've had to do in my life is

1176
01:01:32,240 --> 01:01:36,480
Speaker 1: clear some of the blockages that I've had, and you know,

1177
01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:40,280
Speaker 1: all in different ways, all through different people, And that's

1178
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:42,960
Speaker 1: something that I may want to get more detailed in

1179
01:01:43,120 --> 01:01:45,400
Speaker 1: with people too, because people are going to say, well,

1180
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:48,400
Speaker 1: how do I clear these blockages within me? And there

1181
01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 1: are many, many ways and many people that people that

1182
01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:53,600
Speaker 1: I've met with that have been able to, you know,

1183
01:01:53,640 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 1: help me. And you know, I used to have a

1184
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:58,480
Speaker 1: worrymount of money was one of them. Just like you

1185
01:01:58,520 --> 01:02:03,160
Speaker 1: can inherit your parents hair, or you can inherit their eyes,

1186
01:02:03,320 --> 01:02:05,600
Speaker 1: or you can inherit their you know. I remember my

1187
01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:07,000
Speaker 1: dad used to be like, oh, I used to smile

1188
01:02:07,120 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 1: just like you did. You know. It's like you can

1189
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 1: inherit a smile. You can also inherit someone's fears. You

1190
01:02:12,560 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 1: can also inherit someone's beliefs that aren't in alignment with you.

1191
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 1: You know, your own, and you feel very conflicted, you

1192
01:02:20,320 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 1: can inherit just a lot of You can inherit pain.

1193
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:27,480
Speaker 1: You can inherit racism, and you could be like, well,

1194
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 1: I'm not a racist person. But I know, I know

1195
01:02:29,400 --> 01:02:31,640
Speaker 1: someone who's like, bro, I'm not a racist person. But

1196
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:35,800
Speaker 1: then they call every black person a kid. You know,

1197
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:39,240
Speaker 1: it's good. That's a good kid. And I'm like, you

1198
01:02:39,400 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 1: gotta watch yourself a little bit. Man. It's like, you know,

1199
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:44,160
Speaker 1: just pay attention to that, because you don't refer to

1200
01:02:44,480 --> 01:02:46,640
Speaker 1: people who are who look like you as a kid,

1201
01:02:47,520 --> 01:02:49,400
Speaker 1: and so you might refer to somebody who's a kid

1202
01:02:49,440 --> 01:02:51,480
Speaker 1: that's the same age, almost the same age as you.

1203
01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:54,080
Speaker 1: You know, so it's like you inherit these things. You

1204
01:02:54,080 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 1: may not even realize it, right, And it's important to

1205
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:00,960
Speaker 1: just do the work on yourself because to push the

1206
01:03:01,000 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 1: next it's like also breaking generational curses. It's like, but

1207
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:06,080
Speaker 1: I broke one of the blocker just as I had,

1208
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 1: and now my family we are living, We are getting

1209
01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:13,160
Speaker 1: more of our dreams out. My mom is doing things

1210
01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 1: that she never thought she would do. My dad, my brother,

1211
01:03:15,760 --> 01:03:19,120
Speaker 1: you know, we grew up in debt essentially, and we

1212
01:03:19,200 --> 01:03:21,040
Speaker 1: I had to break that. That was one of the

1213
01:03:21,040 --> 01:03:23,919
Speaker 1: blocks I had to break, was the block of month

1214
01:03:23,960 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 1: of not be scared to have money, feel like there's

1215
01:03:27,240 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 1: a scarcity of money and it's not you know, it's

1216
01:03:30,160 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 1: it's all just energy, right, and you can have as

1217
01:03:32,400 --> 01:03:38,000
Speaker 1: much energy as needed and to clear all these blocks.

1218
01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:41,200
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna get back to my point. It is

1219
01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:44,560
Speaker 1: so important to go through these blocks and these traumas

1220
01:03:45,120 --> 01:03:47,280
Speaker 1: because when you pass it on to not only just

1221
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:49,520
Speaker 1: the next generation, you passing on to the people around you,

1222
01:03:49,520 --> 01:03:52,200
Speaker 1: your friends, your family. You know you are, you are

1223
01:03:52,240 --> 01:03:56,000
Speaker 1: the company you keep, and the more like minded and

1224
01:03:56,120 --> 01:03:59,320
Speaker 1: better you are, the better everyone around you is, including

1225
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:03,360
Speaker 1: your family. Right, and you guys can have the opportunity

1226
01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:07,560
Speaker 1: to do anything that is possible, anything you want, any

1227
01:04:07,760 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 1: any empire or any business, any ownership, things that you

1228
01:04:11,760 --> 01:04:14,320
Speaker 1: didn't even know was imaginable. But it all starts with

1229
01:04:14,360 --> 01:04:17,600
Speaker 1: you working on yourself. And that's the importance of you know,

1230
01:04:17,600 --> 01:04:20,080
Speaker 1: the traumas. It's almost like, well, why would I want

1231
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:22,479
Speaker 1: to correct you know, cancer runs in our family. Breast

1232
01:04:22,520 --> 01:04:24,240
Speaker 1: cancer runs in our family. Why would I want to

1233
01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:25,880
Speaker 1: correct that? Well, you want to correct that, so you know,

1234
01:04:26,280 --> 01:04:29,440
Speaker 1: pass it on and you know the vibration of cancer

1235
01:04:29,560 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 1: is a low vibration. You know what I'm saying. So

1236
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 1: you know it's important to take care of ourselves and

1237
01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:38,040
Speaker 1: get rid of that trauma. But okay, that was beautiful.

1238
01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 1: But I'm so glad you went that. Yeah, I'm so

1239
01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:42,960
Speaker 1: happy you went that because that the idea of being

1240
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:47,880
Speaker 1: aware of what we're inheriting is so important, especially when

1241
01:04:47,880 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 1: you win. That we are aware of we inherit what

1242
01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:53,000
Speaker 1: we wear and how we think and how we look,

1243
01:04:53,040 --> 01:04:55,760
Speaker 1: but then how we behave, how we communicate, how we

1244
01:04:55,800 --> 01:04:58,280
Speaker 1: talk to people, how we think about people, how we

1245
01:04:58,320 --> 01:05:00,480
Speaker 1: think about women, how we think about man. Now think

1246
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 1: about Oh, that's a good one. How you think about

1247
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 1: women and men, yeah, you know, that's another thing, or them,

1248
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:08,040
Speaker 1: how you think about trines, how you think about LGBTQ, like,

1249
01:05:08,720 --> 01:05:12,360
Speaker 1: like just how we think about other I'm so glad

1250
01:05:12,400 --> 01:05:13,800
Speaker 1: you went there. I just wanted to say that, I'm

1251
01:05:13,800 --> 01:05:16,120
Speaker 1: so happy you took us on that. Yeah. I can

1252
01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:19,520
Speaker 1: just imagine like aliens or people from another world being like, man,

1253
01:05:19,560 --> 01:05:24,000
Speaker 1: these people really tripped that they're have different shades of skin.

1254
01:05:24,160 --> 01:05:27,280
Speaker 1: They really be like they really kill each other over this.

1255
01:05:27,400 --> 01:05:30,240
Speaker 1: Like you know, I've never seen a cow look at

1256
01:05:30,240 --> 01:05:33,720
Speaker 1: another cow and be like you're a brown cow, You're

1257
01:05:33,760 --> 01:05:35,960
Speaker 1: a black and white cow. I don't want to be

1258
01:05:36,080 --> 01:05:38,960
Speaker 1: around you, Like noah, they don't. It's like you know,

1259
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:42,120
Speaker 1: and it makes me realize that, like if we kill

1260
01:05:42,160 --> 01:05:44,120
Speaker 1: each other and hate each other over things like that,

1261
01:05:44,240 --> 01:05:46,000
Speaker 1: or who we love right or things that even have

1262
01:05:46,080 --> 01:05:48,720
Speaker 1: nothing to do with us, then I wonder how we

1263
01:05:48,760 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 1: would handle an extraterrestrial or an alien or really something

1264
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:55,760
Speaker 1: that is really different. Like you know, I always am like,

1265
01:05:55,760 --> 01:05:58,160
Speaker 1: maybe that's why the government or whoever doesn't ever want

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Speaker 1: to really break it to humanity, because how are we

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01:06:00,560 --> 01:06:03,000
Speaker 1: going to react? You know? But that's a whole other conversation.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you something about relationships because you

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01:06:06,720 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 1: go through times where you don't see your wife all

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01:06:09,120 --> 01:06:13,640
Speaker 1: the time, and how important is distance in a relationship,

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01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:16,080
Speaker 1: you know, because I know some people may feel guilty

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01:06:16,160 --> 01:06:18,520
Speaker 1: like not being with their partner all the time, or

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01:06:18,840 --> 01:06:21,640
Speaker 1: maybe even enjoying time away. You know that that could

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01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:23,240
Speaker 1: be a guilt thing like oh man, I'm really having

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01:06:23,280 --> 01:06:26,360
Speaker 1: a good time by myself, or also spending too much

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01:06:26,400 --> 01:06:29,680
Speaker 1: time with your partner and losing a sense of who

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01:06:29,680 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 1: you are and your individual self. So as you I

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01:06:34,560 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 1: look at your relationship, you guys are are a beautiful couple,

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01:06:37,640 --> 01:06:40,160
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I'm not saying that

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01:06:40,240 --> 01:06:42,920
Speaker 1: and idolizing that or anything, but that's just me making

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01:06:42,920 --> 01:06:49,800
Speaker 1: a you know, recognizing that. Yeah, how do how do

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01:06:49,840 --> 01:06:54,439
Speaker 1: you balance the distance in your relationship? And is that necessary? Yeah?

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01:06:54,520 --> 01:06:56,880
Speaker 1: I think for us and I agree with you, by

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01:06:56,880 --> 01:06:59,240
Speaker 1: the way, like I don't there is no such thing

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01:06:59,240 --> 01:07:03,560
Speaker 1: as a perfect, perfect marriage, perfect relationships, So we should

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01:07:03,600 --> 01:07:08,240
Speaker 1: remove that idolization with everything, just as we were talking

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01:07:08,280 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 1: about earlier. I've found that I'll take a bit of

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01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:14,920
Speaker 1: a detail. But I find that as humans, we like

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01:07:15,080 --> 01:07:19,840
Speaker 1: to idolize or we like to demonize. So we demonize people.

1290
01:07:20,320 --> 01:07:24,400
Speaker 1: We go you are terrible, you're wrong, you're the worst,

1291
01:07:24,800 --> 01:07:26,480
Speaker 1: or we go you're the best. I love you and

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01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:29,240
Speaker 1: I adore you. And sometimes the people we idolize become

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01:07:29,240 --> 01:07:31,400
Speaker 1: the same people we demonize when they let us down

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01:07:31,480 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 1: all the time. And so we don't have this ability,

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01:07:34,360 --> 01:07:37,440
Speaker 1: which what we talked about as monks was neutralized. How

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01:07:37,480 --> 01:07:39,640
Speaker 1: do you just neutralize everything and look at it for

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01:07:39,760 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 1: what it is and look at it for the reality

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01:07:42,800 --> 01:07:45,160
Speaker 1: of it rather than idolize or demonize it. Just just

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01:07:45,320 --> 01:07:48,600
Speaker 1: learned to accept. So when I look at my relationship,

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01:07:49,000 --> 01:07:51,840
Speaker 1: we found that when we first got married, i'd say

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01:07:51,960 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 1: the first two years of our marriage. So my wife

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01:07:54,320 --> 01:07:56,400
Speaker 1: and I've been married for six years, and next year

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01:07:56,440 --> 01:07:57,960
Speaker 1: we will have been together for ten years. We've been

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01:07:57,960 --> 01:08:02,800
Speaker 1: together for nine years now in total, and the first

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01:08:02,800 --> 01:08:05,880
Speaker 1: two years of our marriage I reckon we spent in

1306
01:08:05,960 --> 01:08:10,080
Speaker 1: total six to eight months apart in two years. And

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01:08:10,160 --> 01:08:13,080
Speaker 1: the reason for that was because my wife missed her

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01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:16,400
Speaker 1: family in London. We'd moved to New York because of

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01:08:16,439 --> 01:08:19,400
Speaker 1: my career, and I wanted her to be with her

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01:08:19,400 --> 01:08:22,040
Speaker 1: family to be happy. But I also wanted to be

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01:08:22,080 --> 01:08:24,719
Speaker 1: in New York so that I could build my career

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01:08:24,760 --> 01:08:28,600
Speaker 1: and build my purpose. And so that became, which is

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01:08:28,600 --> 01:08:30,479
Speaker 1: all valid. She wanted to be with a family, which

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01:08:30,520 --> 01:08:32,559
Speaker 1: I respect and love, and I wanted to be here.

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01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:34,759
Speaker 1: And I said to I said, I will fly back

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01:08:35,439 --> 01:08:38,639
Speaker 1: every weekend every month if I have to, if that's

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01:08:38,640 --> 01:08:41,960
Speaker 1: what's going to keep this marriage together, because I don't

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01:08:42,000 --> 01:08:44,519
Speaker 1: think you should give up what you care about, and

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01:08:44,600 --> 01:08:46,479
Speaker 1: I'm not going to give up what I care about.

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01:08:46,960 --> 01:08:50,080
Speaker 1: We both should not give up what we care about

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01:08:50,120 --> 01:08:53,840
Speaker 1: the most, because we care about each other. Can you, oh,

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01:08:53,920 --> 01:08:55,880
Speaker 1: my god, I see one of the things. I'll have

1323
01:08:55,960 --> 01:08:59,200
Speaker 1: to cut you up. People always say, oh, you have

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01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 1: to give things, to sacrifice so much you have to

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01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:05,560
Speaker 1: like go like, no, you can't sacrifice yourself to the

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01:09:05,600 --> 01:09:09,640
Speaker 1: point where it's it's a it's torture. You know, you

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01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:13,000
Speaker 1: can't sacrifice yourself to where you're not yourself anymore. That

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01:09:13,520 --> 01:09:15,400
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And that's that's really important.

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01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:16,599
Speaker 1: Not to cut you out. I just wanted to add

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01:09:16,640 --> 01:09:18,640
Speaker 1: that in here, Dude, everything you just added, I'm like

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01:09:18,800 --> 01:09:22,400
Speaker 1: that because that's the fine line you just gave, the

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01:09:22,479 --> 01:09:27,719
Speaker 1: fine line of you can't compromise. When compromise becomes torture.

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01:09:28,439 --> 01:09:31,280
Speaker 1: Compromise is healthy. Everyone has to compromise. I may cancel

1334
01:09:31,360 --> 01:09:35,000
Speaker 1: a dinner or I may reschedule my weekend. Like that's compromise.

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01:09:35,080 --> 01:09:39,320
Speaker 1: That's that's just yeah, exactly, But you you just defined

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01:09:39,320 --> 01:09:43,080
Speaker 1: it perfectly, like you can't sacrifice because not if I

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01:09:43,160 --> 01:09:46,759
Speaker 1: gave up the pursuit of my purpose in New York,

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01:09:47,360 --> 01:09:52,320
Speaker 1: I would have been sad, depressed, and tortured, using your words.

1339
01:09:52,840 --> 01:09:56,320
Speaker 1: And if my wife was kept away from her family

1340
01:09:56,960 --> 01:10:00,000
Speaker 1: and couldn't travel back to see them because I didn't

1341
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:01,519
Speaker 1: wanted her too, because she had to be with me

1342
01:10:01,560 --> 01:10:04,040
Speaker 1: in New York, she would have been tortured and trapped.

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01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 1: I don't want that as my loving relationship No, that's

1344
01:10:07,960 --> 01:10:10,439
Speaker 1: not a union exactly, it's not a union. And so

1345
01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:12,800
Speaker 1: what we found is that we got used to it,

1346
01:10:12,880 --> 01:10:16,599
Speaker 1: but we've got better at it. So at that time

1347
01:10:16,640 --> 01:10:18,680
Speaker 1: we got used to it. But what happened is we

1348
01:10:18,720 --> 01:10:22,320
Speaker 1: would really disconnect. This was a mistake. We would really disconnect.

1349
01:10:22,880 --> 01:10:25,920
Speaker 1: We would barely talk, barely check in, and then when

1350
01:10:26,000 --> 01:10:28,280
Speaker 1: we get back together, it almost felt like we were

1351
01:10:28,320 --> 01:10:31,880
Speaker 1: strangers again. Wow. And so that wasn't it wasn't good

1352
01:10:31,960 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 1: or bad. I just think we had to get better.

1353
01:10:34,200 --> 01:10:36,280
Speaker 1: Like today, it's changed. And so I just want to

1354
01:10:36,280 --> 01:10:38,679
Speaker 1: put that out there that when we first got married

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01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:40,720
Speaker 1: and we did that, I don't think we had the

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01:10:40,760 --> 01:10:43,680
Speaker 1: healthiest version of distance. And this is my point that

1357
01:10:43,720 --> 01:10:46,200
Speaker 1: you can evolve and grow and learn. And then it

1358
01:10:46,240 --> 01:10:48,679
Speaker 1: was COVID, right, So during the pandemic we lived together

1359
01:10:48,680 --> 01:10:50,240
Speaker 1: for two years and we saw each other every day

1360
01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:53,200
Speaker 1: and that was amazing. It was actually brilliant because that

1361
01:10:53,280 --> 01:10:56,160
Speaker 1: was the first time in our lives that we'd spend

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01:10:56,200 --> 01:10:58,719
Speaker 1: every day together for two years. And it was beautiful.

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01:10:58,720 --> 01:11:03,160
Speaker 1: We loved it. And now this year I will have

1364
01:11:03,200 --> 01:11:06,000
Speaker 1: been away from my wife when she finally gets back,

1365
01:11:06,840 --> 01:11:09,120
Speaker 1: but she's been working in London I've been in La,

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01:11:09,600 --> 01:11:12,599
Speaker 1: where we currently both lives. We would have been apart

1367
01:11:12,600 --> 01:11:15,519
Speaker 1: from around four months, and maybe we've seen each other

1368
01:11:15,560 --> 01:11:17,920
Speaker 1: once in four months. Hopefully we've gone to this mini

1369
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:22,439
Speaker 1: vacation together. I feel this time we've both found a

1370
01:11:22,600 --> 01:11:26,800
Speaker 1: healthier way of being distanced. So she's in London because

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01:11:26,800 --> 01:11:30,840
Speaker 1: she's working and that's her purpose. I'm in La because

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01:11:30,840 --> 01:11:36,120
Speaker 1: that's where my purpose is. Again, I respect her purpose

1373
01:11:36,600 --> 01:11:41,040
Speaker 1: and she respects mine. I value her values and she

1374
01:11:41,200 --> 01:11:44,880
Speaker 1: values mine. And if I had to give up mine

1375
01:11:44,920 --> 01:11:46,600
Speaker 1: and be there for four months, or she had to

1376
01:11:46,600 --> 01:11:48,800
Speaker 1: give up hers and be here for four months, I

1377
01:11:48,800 --> 01:11:51,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't feel happy because I know she's not happy, and

1378
01:11:51,920 --> 01:11:54,040
Speaker 1: she wouldn't feel happy because she knows I'm not happy.

1379
01:11:54,360 --> 01:11:58,080
Speaker 1: So what we've realized is that in the times we're apart,

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01:11:58,320 --> 01:12:01,240
Speaker 1: we can both be more productive. We get to catch

1381
01:12:01,280 --> 01:12:04,360
Speaker 1: up with our own friends and deepen those bonds in

1382
01:12:04,400 --> 01:12:07,519
Speaker 1: connection because we both have more time. I find that

1383
01:12:07,560 --> 01:12:10,120
Speaker 1: I miss her every day. I have never texted my

1384
01:12:10,160 --> 01:12:13,280
Speaker 1: wife this much since we were dating. I haven't called

1385
01:12:13,280 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 1: her this much since we were dating, because now it's

1386
01:12:15,960 --> 01:12:17,360
Speaker 1: like I wake up in the morning, the first person

1387
01:12:17,360 --> 01:12:19,799
Speaker 1: I call is her. Yeah, I don't do that. She's

1388
01:12:19,800 --> 01:12:22,600
Speaker 1: next to me right the last thing at night. I

1389
01:12:22,640 --> 01:12:24,920
Speaker 1: know she's already asleep in London, but I'm messaging her

1390
01:12:24,920 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 1: messages so that when she wakes up in the morning,

1391
01:12:27,000 --> 01:12:29,640
Speaker 1: they're the first thing she sees. Yeah, it adds a

1392
01:12:29,680 --> 01:12:33,200
Speaker 1: beautiful dynamic. And there's something really beautiful in the buck

1393
01:12:33,280 --> 01:12:36,400
Speaker 1: Te tradition, which is based on love and devotion to

1394
01:12:36,439 --> 01:12:40,679
Speaker 1: the universe, the divine, and it talks about how love

1395
01:12:41,040 --> 01:12:46,559
Speaker 1: in connection is beautiful, but love in separation is one

1396
01:12:46,600 --> 01:12:49,960
Speaker 1: of the most beautiful experiences. To want to be back

1397
01:12:50,000 --> 01:12:52,760
Speaker 1: with your beloved and the person that you love. That's

1398
01:12:52,760 --> 01:12:56,360
Speaker 1: what all the songs are about. That's all music's about,

1399
01:12:56,400 --> 01:12:59,760
Speaker 1: like the missing of someone, the yearning of someone. That

1400
01:13:00,120 --> 01:13:03,640
Speaker 1: the separation from a loved one is sometimes where you

1401
01:13:03,640 --> 01:13:06,519
Speaker 1: get to experence the deepest joy and even process some

1402
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:10,320
Speaker 1: of your biggest fears and weaknesses. And that's what I

1403
01:13:10,360 --> 01:13:13,559
Speaker 1: find that when I'm away from my wife, I have

1404
01:13:13,600 --> 01:13:18,599
Speaker 1: to process my weaknesses and my fears head on. Yeah,

1405
01:13:18,840 --> 01:13:22,759
Speaker 1: and that I find to be joyful because it deepens

1406
01:13:22,800 --> 01:13:26,880
Speaker 1: my love for her. And so I personally find that

1407
01:13:27,120 --> 01:13:32,000
Speaker 1: distance and personal time is critical and the way I

1408
01:13:32,040 --> 01:13:34,439
Speaker 1: define it for someone in a week because someone may say, well, Jay,

1409
01:13:34,560 --> 01:13:36,679
Speaker 1: we don't work like you guys where we're away from

1410
01:13:36,680 --> 01:13:39,880
Speaker 1: each other for months, because we live in the same home.

1411
01:13:39,920 --> 01:13:42,400
Speaker 1: We don't have careers that take us across the world.

1412
01:13:43,120 --> 01:13:46,280
Speaker 1: I believe, and I've been planning this out, that here's

1413
01:13:46,280 --> 01:13:50,719
Speaker 1: an ideal seven day week, right, Yeah, you should ideally

1414
01:13:50,720 --> 01:13:55,080
Speaker 1: spend one to two days by yourself, with yourself, even

1415
01:13:55,120 --> 01:13:58,040
Speaker 1: if you're married, even if you're dating. Have two nights

1416
01:13:58,040 --> 01:14:00,519
Speaker 1: a week that are for you, even if you're in

1417
01:14:00,520 --> 01:14:03,720
Speaker 1: the same house, saving house. Have two nights a week

1418
01:14:03,800 --> 01:14:06,519
Speaker 1: separate that it's for you to listen to your inner voice.

1419
01:14:06,600 --> 01:14:09,760
Speaker 1: That's two nights a week. Now, have two nights that

1420
01:14:09,840 --> 01:14:14,960
Speaker 1: are together just you. Two date nights, experiments, events, whatever

1421
01:14:15,000 --> 01:14:17,439
Speaker 1: it is, but just you two so that you develop

1422
01:14:17,479 --> 01:14:21,080
Speaker 1: and you water your intimacy. That's four nights. And got

1423
01:14:21,120 --> 01:14:24,639
Speaker 1: three nights left In those other three nights, one night

1424
01:14:24,760 --> 01:14:28,160
Speaker 1: you spend with your own friends, so she's with her friends,

1425
01:14:28,200 --> 01:14:30,800
Speaker 1: I'm with my friends. And then the other two nights

1426
01:14:30,840 --> 01:14:34,000
Speaker 1: we're with a collective group of friends, friends that we share.

1427
01:14:34,600 --> 01:14:37,240
Speaker 1: Now you can make your own ratio of your seven days.

1428
01:14:37,640 --> 01:14:40,719
Speaker 1: But notice how the ideal seven days include time alone,

1429
01:14:41,439 --> 01:14:45,360
Speaker 1: time with each other, time with your own friends and family,

1430
01:14:45,720 --> 01:14:48,800
Speaker 1: and time with collective friends and family. If we can't

1431
01:14:48,920 --> 01:14:51,479
Speaker 1: look at our lives and say we do all of those,

1432
01:14:52,120 --> 01:14:55,000
Speaker 1: it means we're not watering a really important part of

1433
01:14:55,040 --> 01:14:57,400
Speaker 1: our relationships. If I don't water myself, I've got nothing

1434
01:14:57,680 --> 01:15:01,200
Speaker 1: to come up later. Yeah, that's you're gonna feel is hurting.

1435
01:15:01,200 --> 01:15:04,040
Speaker 1: You know. What you're talking from is from experience. I

1436
01:15:04,080 --> 01:15:08,080
Speaker 1: can see like, this isn't like a textbook formula. This

1437
01:15:08,120 --> 01:15:10,760
Speaker 1: isn't something This is something experience that you guys have

1438
01:15:10,840 --> 01:15:12,920
Speaker 1: been through and then you made it through. So I

1439
01:15:12,960 --> 01:15:16,679
Speaker 1: respect that, and I realized that, you know, the crazy

1440
01:15:16,720 --> 01:15:19,839
Speaker 1: thing about being in a relationship and having distance between

1441
01:15:19,880 --> 01:15:22,720
Speaker 1: you is it really can bring you closer to the

1442
01:15:22,760 --> 01:15:25,479
Speaker 1: one that you're missing, you know it kind of it's almost,

1443
01:15:26,280 --> 01:15:30,040
Speaker 1: I would say, almost a great test to see how

1444
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:32,360
Speaker 1: close you really are, you know what I mean? Because

1445
01:15:33,680 --> 01:15:36,080
Speaker 1: being like, being so far from someone can bring you

1446
01:15:36,120 --> 01:15:38,559
Speaker 1: so much closer. You can learn so much about someone

1447
01:15:39,479 --> 01:15:41,599
Speaker 1: you know through texting, the more through the phone as

1448
01:15:41,640 --> 01:15:44,200
Speaker 1: opposed to waking up next to them every day. So

1449
01:15:44,240 --> 01:15:46,799
Speaker 1: I think it's beautiful to give each other that time apart,

1450
01:15:47,720 --> 01:15:51,360
Speaker 1: and that's when you really know when that person is

1451
01:15:51,360 --> 01:15:55,000
Speaker 1: still all you want, that that's that's who that's special for,

1452
01:15:55,200 --> 01:15:58,479
Speaker 1: you know. And I definitely been able to experience that.

1453
01:15:58,640 --> 01:16:01,960
Speaker 1: So that's that's a beautiful thing, you know, And it's

1454
01:16:02,240 --> 01:16:04,599
Speaker 1: a key part in any relationship. I think in any marriage,

1455
01:16:04,600 --> 01:16:08,280
Speaker 1: the key to it is having some distance between you

1456
01:16:08,320 --> 01:16:12,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean and yeah, and having someone who

1457
01:16:13,000 --> 01:16:16,280
Speaker 1: you energetically match with. Yes, you know one thing that

1458
01:16:16,280 --> 01:16:18,479
Speaker 1: that's the most important thing. That's the most important thing

1459
01:16:18,560 --> 01:16:21,640
Speaker 1: right there. Because this is funny because I don't know

1460
01:16:21,680 --> 01:16:24,960
Speaker 1: how to even say this, say this properly or I

1461
01:16:24,960 --> 01:16:28,160
Speaker 1: don't know whatever, but I'm gonna just say, like, when

1462
01:16:28,200 --> 01:16:32,000
Speaker 1: you have sex with someone who you feel are you

1463
01:16:32,000 --> 01:16:35,680
Speaker 1: guys are equally energetically on the same level. That's how

1464
01:16:35,680 --> 01:16:38,040
Speaker 1: it's really supposed to be, right because in other in

1465
01:16:38,520 --> 01:16:42,600
Speaker 1: other ways, I just hope people realize that because if not,

1466
01:16:42,760 --> 01:16:45,439
Speaker 1: if you're not with someone who you energetically feel like

1467
01:16:45,479 --> 01:16:49,000
Speaker 1: you're on the same level with, then that person could

1468
01:16:49,000 --> 01:16:51,759
Speaker 1: be taken away from you. It could throw you off track,

1469
01:16:51,800 --> 01:16:57,439
Speaker 1: it could uninspired you, it could do all these crazy things.

1470
01:16:57,479 --> 01:17:02,439
Speaker 1: So it's important to realize the power of energy. Definitely

1471
01:17:02,439 --> 01:17:04,479
Speaker 1: that you have when you when you're with somebody who

1472
01:17:04,520 --> 01:17:08,840
Speaker 1: can match your energy definitely sexually. No, absolutely, And I'm

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01:17:08,880 --> 01:17:12,920
Speaker 1: so glad you raised that because so the Sanskrit word

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01:17:12,960 --> 01:17:18,000
Speaker 1: for celibacy is bromacharia. Now celibacy in the Western world

1475
01:17:18,000 --> 01:17:20,960
Speaker 1: fields sounds like abstaining from sex. That's what you think

1476
01:17:21,000 --> 01:17:25,519
Speaker 1: of the word celibacy, bromacharia. It translates as the proper

1477
01:17:25,680 --> 01:17:29,519
Speaker 1: use or direction of energy. When you talk about a

1478
01:17:29,680 --> 01:17:33,840
Speaker 1: poor energy exchange, when you're just wasting energy when there

1479
01:17:33,960 --> 01:17:37,839
Speaker 1: isn't an equal energetic exchange, right, that's why we feel drained,

1480
01:17:37,920 --> 01:17:41,519
Speaker 1: we feel depleted, we feel or afterwards you're like, oh,

1481
01:17:41,520 --> 01:17:44,000
Speaker 1: this is a waste of my time, totally. Yeah, However

1482
01:17:44,080 --> 01:17:46,599
Speaker 1: you feel like how many years later it takes. Yeah,

1483
01:17:46,760 --> 01:17:50,160
Speaker 1: But when you have someone of equal energy exchange, that

1484
01:17:50,520 --> 01:17:53,280
Speaker 1: impression is so much more powerful and deeper. And so

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01:17:53,320 --> 01:17:55,920
Speaker 1: I'm glad you brought that up because I guess the

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01:17:56,000 --> 01:18:00,360
Speaker 1: question though, is like, obviously, when you meet someone, we're

1487
01:18:00,360 --> 01:18:04,120
Speaker 1: all at different stages, even in our vibrational energy, Right,

1488
01:18:04,320 --> 01:18:08,120
Speaker 1: how do you know? Because today we live in a

1489
01:18:08,120 --> 01:18:11,080
Speaker 1: world where anyone can use the language, everyone can say

1490
01:18:11,080 --> 01:18:15,200
Speaker 1: the word energy. Everyone can use the word vibration. Everyone

1491
01:18:15,240 --> 01:18:19,200
Speaker 1: can use all the lingo and you think, oh, yeah, yeah,

1492
01:18:19,200 --> 01:18:22,599
Speaker 1: this person like they've been reading about chakras and da rights.

1493
01:18:23,720 --> 01:18:26,160
Speaker 1: How do you actually know that someone is of a

1494
01:18:26,320 --> 01:18:30,800
Speaker 1: similar energy in a relationship? But how do you how

1495
01:18:30,840 --> 01:18:32,760
Speaker 1: do you look for that? Because and I don't think

1496
01:18:32,760 --> 01:18:35,200
Speaker 1: there's a formula or there's a perfect science. I'm just saying,

1497
01:18:35,200 --> 01:18:37,000
Speaker 1: how do you look for that? How have you found that?

1498
01:18:37,120 --> 01:18:40,519
Speaker 1: Look for that? It's only one way feeling it as

1499
01:18:40,520 --> 01:18:43,360
Speaker 1: simple as that you can It's something you feel, and

1500
01:18:43,640 --> 01:18:45,640
Speaker 1: you have to really be in tune with yourself, right.

1501
01:18:45,680 --> 01:18:48,240
Speaker 1: That's another reason why working on yourself so important, because

1502
01:18:48,280 --> 01:18:50,639
Speaker 1: the more you're in tune with yourself, the more you're

1503
01:18:50,680 --> 01:18:53,000
Speaker 1: able to feel like this isn't right right, And it

1504
01:18:53,120 --> 01:18:55,000
Speaker 1: could make sense in a lot of other ways. It

1505
01:18:55,040 --> 01:18:58,120
Speaker 1: could be like, oh, this person is my ideal of

1506
01:18:58,200 --> 01:19:00,719
Speaker 1: like the perfect person in my head, you know, like physically,

1507
01:19:00,760 --> 01:19:02,840
Speaker 1: but it just doesn't well, I don't care, like you

1508
01:19:02,920 --> 01:19:06,519
Speaker 1: disregard those feelings when you put that egotistical spin on

1509
01:19:06,600 --> 01:19:09,240
Speaker 1: things right, or you put that like that image or

1510
01:19:09,280 --> 01:19:12,360
Speaker 1: like the expectations or things check marks you think you

1511
01:19:12,360 --> 01:19:15,519
Speaker 1: should be hitting. But it's really just a feeling process.

1512
01:19:15,560 --> 01:19:18,400
Speaker 1: And when you realize, you know, when you have the

1513
01:19:18,439 --> 01:19:22,800
Speaker 1: feeling of that feeling like you're being productive, you know,

1514
01:19:23,439 --> 01:19:27,880
Speaker 1: like I'm not ever ever gonna like physically be involved

1515
01:19:28,000 --> 01:19:31,120
Speaker 1: with anyone if if it's not productive, you know, and

1516
01:19:31,280 --> 01:19:34,040
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm being productive, you know what I mean.

1517
01:19:35,720 --> 01:19:37,360
Speaker 1: And that's how you should feel with your partner, Like

1518
01:19:37,400 --> 01:19:39,360
Speaker 1: you feel like you're being productive, you know, and you

1519
01:19:39,400 --> 01:19:42,400
Speaker 1: feel that you have a good feeling about it. Yeah. Yeah.

1520
01:19:42,479 --> 01:19:46,680
Speaker 1: Anything else is just kind of like you know, you

1521
01:19:46,720 --> 01:19:51,720
Speaker 1: think that you may fun yea and fun and it's fun, yeah,

1522
01:19:51,920 --> 01:19:54,240
Speaker 1: you know, if it's not fun, productive and all these things,

1523
01:19:54,280 --> 01:19:56,519
Speaker 1: and you know, if you feel weird or feel like

1524
01:19:56,520 --> 01:19:59,320
Speaker 1: you're wasting your time afterwards, and then that's probably not

1525
01:19:59,439 --> 01:20:01,960
Speaker 1: right for you, you know. And you could eventually kid

1526
01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:05,400
Speaker 1: yourself for a little while, but eventually you're gonna move

1527
01:20:05,439 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 1: on or something's gonna happen, and you know, yeah, I

1528
01:20:09,000 --> 01:20:10,719
Speaker 1: think one of the things I looked for an energy

1529
01:20:10,760 --> 01:20:16,439
Speaker 1: exchange in every level is the idea of you know,

1530
01:20:16,479 --> 01:20:19,680
Speaker 1: it's almost like how long have your energies been invested

1531
01:20:19,760 --> 01:20:23,680
Speaker 1: together deeply. When my career started to take off, I

1532
01:20:23,680 --> 01:20:26,800
Speaker 1: would often point to an achievement and look at my

1533
01:20:26,840 --> 01:20:29,240
Speaker 1: wife and say, love me for this right and what

1534
01:20:29,320 --> 01:20:32,040
Speaker 1: I did right, And then I'd win another award and

1535
01:20:32,160 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 1: be like, look at this, I love me for this,

1536
01:20:35,439 --> 01:20:39,960
Speaker 1: and she wouldn't feel anything. She wouldn't she wouldn't respect

1537
01:20:39,960 --> 01:20:41,840
Speaker 1: me for like, she wouldn't care about that. Not that

1538
01:20:41,880 --> 01:20:43,839
Speaker 1: she wouldn't respect me, she wouldn't care about you, wouldn't

1539
01:20:43,840 --> 01:20:46,360
Speaker 1: care about that, and she would be happy for she'd

1540
01:20:46,360 --> 01:20:48,160
Speaker 1: be happy for me, but she didn't care about that.

1541
01:20:48,520 --> 01:20:50,320
Speaker 1: She didn't love me for that. But I was saying,

1542
01:20:50,560 --> 01:20:53,200
Speaker 1: validate me for this, love me for this, And then

1543
01:20:53,240 --> 01:20:56,120
Speaker 1: I realized that I was trying to get her to

1544
01:20:56,280 --> 01:21:01,240
Speaker 1: love me for what my achievements saw when she loved

1545
01:21:01,240 --> 01:21:04,519
Speaker 1: me for who I am. Like that was the most

1546
01:21:04,560 --> 01:21:07,280
Speaker 1: deepest reminder to me that my wife's been with me

1547
01:21:08,000 --> 01:21:11,320
Speaker 1: since when I was in twenty five thousand dollars worth

1548
01:21:11,320 --> 01:21:14,000
Speaker 1: of debt, when we were four months away from being broke,

1549
01:21:14,520 --> 01:21:17,200
Speaker 1: when I was pursuing my purpose and no one cared,

1550
01:21:17,200 --> 01:21:19,360
Speaker 1: and I had five people turn up to hear me speak,

1551
01:21:20,080 --> 01:21:22,400
Speaker 1: and my wife's been through all of that, and she

1552
01:21:22,520 --> 01:21:25,000
Speaker 1: loved me then and she loves me now. But she's

1553
01:21:25,080 --> 01:21:30,200
Speaker 1: never been enamored by the achievements of the successes. She

1554
01:21:30,320 --> 01:21:33,880
Speaker 1: has always exchange energy with me on the level of

1555
01:21:33,920 --> 01:21:36,559
Speaker 1: she loves who I am, so she had to love

1556
01:21:36,640 --> 01:21:39,959
Speaker 1: me that way to remind myself to love myself that way.

1557
01:21:40,160 --> 01:21:42,280
Speaker 1: And I think that's what I look at as energy

1558
01:21:42,360 --> 01:21:48,559
Speaker 1: exchange is does someone remind me to love myself through

1559
01:21:48,640 --> 01:21:51,439
Speaker 1: how they love me? Like, does the way they love

1560
01:21:51,479 --> 01:21:54,240
Speaker 1: me remind me to love myself for the real reasons?

1561
01:21:54,800 --> 01:21:57,920
Speaker 1: And that you know that is just undefeatable, like that

1562
01:21:58,000 --> 01:22:01,040
Speaker 1: you can't beat. That's the champion of love. Yeah, because

1563
01:22:01,040 --> 01:22:04,040
Speaker 1: you're like, you're teaching me how to love myself based

1564
01:22:04,040 --> 01:22:07,640
Speaker 1: on what I actually should love myself. Man, that's a

1565
01:22:07,680 --> 01:22:10,679
Speaker 1: gatting talking from experience. Yeah, it's yeah, it's it's it's real.

1566
01:22:10,760 --> 01:22:13,080
Speaker 1: Like I've I've been that man that is wanted the

1567
01:22:13,160 --> 01:22:16,439
Speaker 1: validation of my wife for my medals and my honors,

1568
01:22:16,840 --> 01:22:19,920
Speaker 1: and when she didn't give it to me, I felt frustrated, Wow,

1569
01:22:20,160 --> 01:22:23,200
Speaker 1: because I felt, well, I can get more attention from

1570
01:22:23,200 --> 01:22:27,360
Speaker 1: someone for these things. But then you go, but then

1571
01:22:27,400 --> 01:22:30,000
Speaker 1: do I want attention or do I want affection? Like

1572
01:22:30,080 --> 01:22:32,840
Speaker 1: do I want validation or do I want someone to

1573
01:22:32,960 --> 01:22:37,240
Speaker 1: value me? Right, validation is conditional. It's conditional and come

1574
01:22:37,240 --> 01:22:39,680
Speaker 1: and go quick. It's like where it's off. It's like

1575
01:22:39,760 --> 01:22:42,800
Speaker 1: a it's like a new sweater or something, right, like

1576
01:22:42,880 --> 01:22:46,080
Speaker 1: you have to eventually wash it and it starts to deteriorate.

1577
01:22:46,200 --> 01:22:50,559
Speaker 1: And as opposed to loving someone for who they are,

1578
01:22:50,720 --> 01:22:56,360
Speaker 1: that's that's more like unbreakable, right, that's undefeated. Yeah, Sean,

1579
01:22:56,479 --> 01:22:58,439
Speaker 1: what if I not asked you today? What's been on

1580
01:22:58,439 --> 01:23:01,360
Speaker 1: your mind? Your heart where gone? Because I feel like,

1581
01:23:01,640 --> 01:23:03,240
Speaker 1: I know it's hard to say this, but I really

1582
01:23:03,240 --> 01:23:06,080
Speaker 1: do believe this because the last time we were getting

1583
01:23:06,080 --> 01:23:11,160
Speaker 1: to know each other. Where we've gone today? We have

1584
01:23:11,280 --> 01:23:14,160
Speaker 1: gone to some places today like as in this is

1585
01:23:14,160 --> 01:23:16,599
Speaker 1: without a doubt, even though it's hard to says, it's

1586
01:23:16,640 --> 01:23:19,400
Speaker 1: even better than the first conversation because of our openness

1587
01:23:19,800 --> 01:23:22,639
Speaker 1: if we have a relationship, a deeper relationship to them. So, yeah,

1588
01:23:22,840 --> 01:23:25,280
Speaker 1: what the places we've gone to and the things you've

1589
01:23:25,320 --> 01:23:28,000
Speaker 1: said today, I'm gonna have to listen back to this one.

1590
01:23:28,200 --> 01:23:31,240
Speaker 1: Keep doing what you're doing, man, Like the job you're

1591
01:23:31,240 --> 01:23:35,440
Speaker 1: doing is fantastic. Like I tune into so many interviews.

1592
01:23:36,040 --> 01:23:39,000
Speaker 1: I loved your book. Um, I can't wait to have

1593
01:23:39,040 --> 01:23:41,240
Speaker 1: you write the forward on my book, I'm a saying

1594
01:23:41,400 --> 01:23:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm in and just say, everyone listening, man, you know,

1595
01:23:46,080 --> 01:23:48,280
Speaker 1: I know you're going through. Whatever you're going through, just

1596
01:23:48,320 --> 01:23:52,800
Speaker 1: do the best you can. Stay strong, Um, don't give

1597
01:23:52,880 --> 01:23:56,960
Speaker 1: up on yourself. You know that's me. There's no losing

1598
01:23:57,080 --> 01:23:59,799
Speaker 1: you know. You can. You can maybe think you're losing.

1599
01:24:00,160 --> 01:24:02,120
Speaker 1: You only lose when you stop, you know what I mean.

1600
01:24:02,200 --> 01:24:05,200
Speaker 1: There's no such thing as it's losing if you don't stop,

1601
01:24:05,200 --> 01:24:09,360
Speaker 1: it's only just learning and like developing and getting that

1602
01:24:09,439 --> 01:24:12,639
Speaker 1: experience and wiser. You know, you're just sharpening the sword,

1603
01:24:12,720 --> 01:24:15,960
Speaker 1: being more of a master. So you know, stay strong

1604
01:24:16,120 --> 01:24:19,200
Speaker 1: and everyone. I know some people don't know where they're

1605
01:24:19,200 --> 01:24:23,320
Speaker 1: going to even sleep tonight. Some people are going through real,

1606
01:24:23,560 --> 01:24:26,760
Speaker 1: a real crisis in their life. And just know that

1607
01:24:26,800 --> 01:24:29,559
Speaker 1: I'm not just saying this to be politically correct or anything.

1608
01:24:29,600 --> 01:24:33,320
Speaker 1: Like I really am sending you guys love. I really

1609
01:24:33,320 --> 01:24:37,960
Speaker 1: am sending you guys like some light and uh, you

1610
01:24:37,960 --> 01:24:40,880
Speaker 1: know that miracles can happen in your life and you

1611
01:24:40,920 --> 01:24:43,719
Speaker 1: accept that, you know, except please like accept your miracle

1612
01:24:44,160 --> 01:24:47,559
Speaker 1: because they happen every every day. And yeah, thank you.

1613
01:24:47,560 --> 01:24:49,360
Speaker 1: You know it's a I don't know what else is

1614
01:24:49,400 --> 01:24:53,600
Speaker 1: new music. Yeah, new stuff coming out and yea, I

1615
01:24:53,600 --> 01:24:55,400
Speaker 1: don't know what else to say. Yeah, I mean everyone

1616
01:24:55,600 --> 01:24:59,639
Speaker 1: makes you. You go and subscribe across all of big

1617
01:24:59,680 --> 01:25:05,280
Speaker 1: chewan platforms. Yeah, you whether it's Instagram, it's Facebook, Spotify, Apple,

1618
01:25:05,360 --> 01:25:08,400
Speaker 1: wherever you're listening. Yeah, look out for them at Coachella

1619
01:25:08,479 --> 01:25:11,880
Speaker 1: this year. Music is dropping right now. It's musically dropping

1620
01:25:11,920 --> 01:25:14,320
Speaker 1: around the birthday as well. I don't know around the birthday,

1621
01:25:14,320 --> 01:25:17,519
Speaker 1: but probably more so around Coachella. Okay, around coach I'm

1622
01:25:17,520 --> 01:25:19,200
Speaker 1: thinking I got some new music. I'm trying to see

1623
01:25:19,200 --> 01:25:21,000
Speaker 1: if I'm gonna preview it there or put it out

1624
01:25:21,080 --> 01:25:23,599
Speaker 1: right before, but you know, figure it out. We're figuring

1625
01:25:23,640 --> 01:25:25,960
Speaker 1: it out. Me and Jinete have new music coming to together,

1626
01:25:26,120 --> 01:25:29,160
Speaker 1: so our twenty eighty eight project. And yes, we can

1627
01:25:29,200 --> 01:25:30,720
Speaker 1: talk about that more deeply if you want to go

1628
01:25:30,720 --> 01:25:32,960
Speaker 1: into it. You want to give him there, that's what

1629
01:25:33,040 --> 01:25:34,720
Speaker 1: you know. Maybe me and her could come and do

1630
01:25:34,760 --> 01:25:36,400
Speaker 1: a special one. I would do that. Well that would

1631
01:25:36,400 --> 01:25:38,519
Speaker 1: be sick. Ye do that? Or maybe all four of

1632
01:25:38,600 --> 01:25:41,200
Speaker 1: us that would be love that. Let's do that. That's

1633
01:25:41,200 --> 01:25:43,719
Speaker 1: another time. But um, because I don't want to speak

1634
01:25:43,720 --> 01:25:45,720
Speaker 1: for her. Yes, yes, yes, yes, you know that's our

1635
01:25:45,800 --> 01:25:47,679
Speaker 1: that's our thing together. But I can just let people

1636
01:25:47,720 --> 01:25:50,599
Speaker 1: know that it's coming and what else I mean, you know,

1637
01:25:50,720 --> 01:25:52,840
Speaker 1: just keep doing it and thanks thanks for all to

1638
01:25:52,920 --> 01:25:54,599
Speaker 1: love on the last one. I gotta say thank you

1639
01:25:54,640 --> 01:25:57,559
Speaker 1: for the love on the last podcast we did. It

1640
01:25:57,640 --> 01:26:01,120
Speaker 1: was crazy and man, congrats you. Mental health are on

1641
01:26:01,200 --> 01:26:05,960
Speaker 1: the Men's Men's Health magazine, is it? Uh it's Men's Health, right, Yeah,

1642
01:26:05,960 --> 01:26:09,439
Speaker 1: it's Men's Health. Yeah, Man's Health magazine. That's a major bro. Well, bro,

1643
01:26:09,560 --> 01:26:12,840
Speaker 1: it's just doing you with you is amazing. Like I

1644
01:26:12,840 --> 01:26:15,080
Speaker 1: think you know you said that what we're doing is

1645
01:26:15,080 --> 01:26:18,240
Speaker 1: amazing here. But this is energizing. Yeah, Like, this is

1646
01:26:18,360 --> 01:26:22,040
Speaker 1: energy exchange at its highest level because you you you

1647
01:26:22,120 --> 01:26:24,320
Speaker 1: keep me going to man like having this relationship with

1648
01:26:24,360 --> 01:26:27,040
Speaker 1: you and having these conversations with you that energizes me.

1649
01:26:27,360 --> 01:26:30,000
Speaker 1: It affirms my belief in what I'm trying to do. Yeah,

1650
01:26:30,120 --> 01:26:32,559
Speaker 1: and so yeah, I see like billboards of you everywhere

1651
01:26:32,600 --> 01:26:35,240
Speaker 1: and stuff like calm app I'm like, yo, Jay is

1652
01:26:35,280 --> 01:26:38,240
Speaker 1: going crazy right now? Will Smith in man else that

1653
01:26:38,920 --> 01:26:41,040
Speaker 1: what a crazy moment that had to be that was

1654
01:26:41,800 --> 01:26:43,760
Speaker 1: working with him has been one of the great isn't

1655
01:26:43,800 --> 01:26:46,120
Speaker 1: he great? Crazy joys? In my life. Yeah, one of

1656
01:26:46,160 --> 01:26:50,240
Speaker 1: my special human beings, as are you in the world,

1657
01:26:50,280 --> 01:26:52,519
Speaker 1: and just he's annoying it. He's like has a glow

1658
01:26:52,560 --> 01:26:55,320
Speaker 1: on him, right, he really does that, I will it's

1659
01:26:55,360 --> 01:26:57,280
Speaker 1: real and it's real, like he's you know him in

1660
01:26:57,280 --> 01:27:00,400
Speaker 1: the whole family. Just amazing. You could tell he's like human. Yeah,

1661
01:27:00,439 --> 01:27:02,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And yeah, keep up, keep

1662
01:27:02,760 --> 01:27:05,680
Speaker 1: up the next time. Thank you man, everyone who's been

1663
01:27:06,040 --> 01:27:08,240
Speaker 1: watching at home. What I wanted you to do like

1664
01:27:08,320 --> 01:27:11,320
Speaker 1: you did last time, you show up on Twitter and Instagram,

1665
01:27:11,479 --> 01:27:15,320
Speaker 1: tag us on what resonated with you, what connected with you.

1666
01:27:15,600 --> 01:27:19,519
Speaker 1: There were so many incredible nuggets wisdom today that Sean

1667
01:27:19,640 --> 01:27:22,400
Speaker 1: dropped and we went back and forth and we grappled

1668
01:27:22,439 --> 01:27:24,920
Speaker 1: with and then you saw our thought pattern and we

1669
01:27:25,000 --> 01:27:27,840
Speaker 1: finally got there. There was like this whole journey that

1670
01:27:27,880 --> 01:27:30,800
Speaker 1: we went on today and we hope that this conversation

1671
01:27:30,880 --> 01:27:34,240
Speaker 1: inspires conversations back at home. When I started making content,

1672
01:27:34,320 --> 01:27:37,519
Speaker 1: my whole goal was I wanted to create stuff that

1673
01:27:37,640 --> 01:27:40,000
Speaker 1: you could send to you a friend and say, this

1674
01:27:40,040 --> 01:27:42,679
Speaker 1: is what we were talking about last night, we're thinking

1675
01:27:42,720 --> 01:27:45,320
Speaker 1: about and I wanted to create something for you that

1676
01:27:45,439 --> 01:27:48,759
Speaker 1: helped you have deeper, more meaningful conversations with your friends

1677
01:27:49,120 --> 01:27:50,680
Speaker 1: that you might not always get to have. So I

1678
01:27:50,720 --> 01:27:55,200
Speaker 1: hope that this starts millions of conversations around the world

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Speaker 1: that deepen your bond with your friends, your loved ones,

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Speaker 1: that allow you to have more compass and love for

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Speaker 1: each other and the world, and ultimately, as Sean's been

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Speaker 1: saying the whole time today, allow ourselves to not judge,

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Speaker 1: to really understand that everyone's going through something. So thank

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Speaker 1: you for listening to on Purpose, thank you to our

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Speaker 1: main man, Big Sean for turning up to their new

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Speaker 1: music Coachella so much more, and there will be a

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Speaker 1: part three. Thank you everyone amazing, thank you, thank you

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