1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:12,040 Speaker 1: Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're gonna read 6 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Buggle up and hold 7 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:22,279 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is 8 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. Subjects the Lowdown and Dirty Deacon. Dear 9 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm in my early thirties and I'm eager 10 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: to meet a nice man and settle down one day. 11 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 1: But in the meantime and in between time, I was 12 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:41,879 Speaker 1: keeping myself entertained in online chat rooms and online dating. 13 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 1: I met a man that I paired perfectly with and 14 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: his profile set. He was six two and athletic. His 15 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: picture was nice, but not really my type. We started 16 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: chatting offline and would stay on the phone for hours. 17 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: That turned into sexting, and I sent him a bunch 18 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: of nude photos and he sent me nude pictures too. 19 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: Then he asked for an explicit video of me, and 20 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: I made him one. It was fun and he loved it. 21 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: That was a month ago, and since then I've been 22 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: asking for him to send me a video. He refuses 23 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:21,040 Speaker 1: to I've tried to call him on FaceTime, but he 24 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: won't answer. I started thinking that I was being catfished. Recently, 25 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: we were on the phone and I hit the FaceTime 26 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:33,039 Speaker 1: button and it rang on his end. He asked, what's that. 27 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 1: I told him to click the button and see. Then 28 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: he clicked the FaceTime button and was looking confused. He 29 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: realized that I saw him and he hung up. I 30 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 1: was totally grossed out when I saw his face. He 31 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: is a deacon at my church and my dad's golf buddy. 32 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: I saw him pictures. Yeah, I sent him pictures and 33 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: he's got a video of me, so he knew who 34 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: I was all along. This man has to be at 35 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: least at least seventy years old, seventy years old junior 36 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: and after I looked closely at his profile, he used 37 00:02:19,480 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 1: a very old picture of himself. If I expose him 38 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: and tell my dad, my dad will know what I 39 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:28,359 Speaker 1: do in my spare time. The last time I saw 40 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 1: the old pervert was at Easter Sunday, and shortly after 41 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:35,119 Speaker 1: that he found me online and fooled me into sexting 42 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: with him? How can this be fixed? Fixed? Should I 43 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: take this secret to my grave? Yeah, you're probably gonna 44 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: have to. I don't know how this is gonna be fixed. 45 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: I mean you say you were keeping yourself entertained online 46 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: with chat rooms and online dating. Well, this is what 47 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: you got. I mean, this is what you get out there. 48 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,239 Speaker 1: It is catfishing is very real. They have a whole 49 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 1: TV show about it. I'm sure you knew about that. 50 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: But this is on you though. I mean, how quick 51 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: were you to take off all your clothes? You said 52 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: he fooled you into sexting. What did he say to 53 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 1: make you just do this? I mean, be so quick 54 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: to do this. You don't know this man, This is 55 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 1: a complete stranger, and you sent him a video. Now 56 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: you're mad at him because he cat fished you, and 57 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: you know, you figured out who he is. Finally he 58 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 1: knew who you were all along, like he said, so 59 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: he was cat fishing you. But you put yourself in 60 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: this position. I mean, no one said that you can't 61 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: chat or date online or anything like that, but you 62 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: took it way too far with all the sexting. I mean, 63 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: it's just too much. You're not gonna get these pictures back. 64 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: You know, the deacon. You know, he's gonna tell your 65 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: dad if you quote unquote expose him. That's what you know. 66 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: I'm really concerned about it, and that's what you should 67 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: be concerned about too. What your dad is gonna think 68 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 1: if he finds out. I just hope this was a 69 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 1: learning experience for you. Don't do this anymore. This old 70 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: guy at church, Yeah, now he's running because he doesn't 71 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: want you to tell his dad. He knows he's tell 72 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: your dad. He knows he's in too deep as well. 73 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: I say, you know, hopefully he won't do anything with 74 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:22,719 Speaker 1: these pictures, and you just have to chalk this one 75 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:24,719 Speaker 1: up and stay out of his way at church. But 76 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: if it gets rough, tell your dad and see what happens. Steve. Wow, 77 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 1: First of all, he is not going to tell your 78 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: dad that he cannot do because the father is only 79 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: gonna have one thing. What the hell was you doing online? 80 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: And you knew this is my daughter as soon as 81 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: you saw her profile picture own line? Why did you 82 00:04:55,640 --> 00:05:02,920 Speaker 1: engage here with conversation I'm whipping your asser. No, No, 83 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: it's just early at this point. You don't respect it. Yeah, 84 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 1: you lose titles when you mess with the man. So 85 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 1: I don't think there's any danger of him telling your father. 86 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:22,919 Speaker 1: But I agree it's surely one. This is a lesson learned. 87 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: You know. You say, you in your early thirties, you 88 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 1: really want to meet a nice man and settle down, 89 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: you said. But in the meantime, in between time, I 90 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:37,839 Speaker 1: was keeping myself entertained out and told y'all, now, I 91 00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 1: understand you're doing something in the meantime. I got it, 92 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 1: but that in the meantime, man always come back to 93 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: bite you. It ain't ever good. You will never find 94 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,240 Speaker 1: mister Wright messing with mister Rong. I said it a 95 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: thousand times. That is it hard to do it that way? Ladies, 96 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: I agree, Uncle Steve, get it. It is hard. But 97 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:01,279 Speaker 1: this is what you get now. His profile picture said 98 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 1: he was six two in athletic. That was a time 99 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: when he was Yes, seventy years ago, he sent a 100 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: picture to you when he was athletic. He's still six two, 101 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: but the athletic part is gone. I'm six two, but 102 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 1: I'm also sixty three. A lot of the athletics I 103 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:33,119 Speaker 1: used to have is gone. Dammit, who all right? Hold 104 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: on to that thought, Steve. We'll have part two of 105 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. 106 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: Today's subject the lowdown and duddy Deacon. We'll get back 107 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening to show, all right, 108 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject 109 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:57,919 Speaker 1: the lowdown and duddy Deacon. Uh, this late in the 110 00:06:57,960 --> 00:07:02,279 Speaker 1: early thirties, been online around because she was wants to 111 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: be a nice man, but she was entertaining herself. Come 112 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 1: to find out she really got catfish. Now, this dude 113 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: put a pad profile, said he was six too, and 114 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: the athletic, uh, you know, and all like that. So 115 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: she went for it. Then she said his picture was nice, 116 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 1: but not really my type. Now we come to find 117 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 1: out that the dude is seventy years old, he's a 118 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: deacon at the church, and he's he's her father's golf buddy. 119 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: So now we've already discovered Sherley and now that he 120 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: will not be kind telling her dad because he came 121 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: because he gonna kick her olass. That's all to it. Now, 122 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: listen to this girl. It used to but it's just earl, no, no, no, 123 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:48,080 Speaker 1: he could he gonna kick her ol ass. Now here 124 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:52,040 Speaker 1: is where you messed up. His picture was nice, but 125 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: not really my type. I know it wasn't because he 126 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 1: put an old picture herself up. So the LEAs your 127 00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: suit kind of threw ye off a little bit. You 128 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: thought he really handsome. But why he got that damn 129 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 1: leisure suit in that collar, his shirt collar outside his 130 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: suit jacket. Why is his shirt collar that damn looking on? 131 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 1: And where and where he gets them silk socks with 132 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: them thick lives, and why is he still wearing thinking fears? 133 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: Why he got on square toe shoes. So that's what 134 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 1: threw you. Then y'all started chatting offline for hours. That 135 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: turned into sexty. You sent him a bunch of new photos, 136 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: and he sent you some new pictures too. Well I 137 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 1: don't know who them new pictures was, but it wasn't 138 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: his semi year old ass, I can tell you that. 139 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: So he either sent you some old pictures of his 140 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: or you just found some pictures online. Then he asked 141 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,320 Speaker 1: me for an explicit video on me, and I made 142 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 1: him one. It was fun and he loved it. That's 143 00:08:52,360 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 1: about a month ago. Then I've been asking him sending 144 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 1: me a video, so he old. So what you did 145 00:08:56,920 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 1: was now you started he refuses to get on with 146 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: your FaceTime, but he won't answer. I started thinking, I'm 147 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: being catfished. You did get catfished, y'all was on the phone. 148 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 1: I hit the FaceTime buddy rang on his ass. He asked, 149 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: what's that? C seventy year old people? Let me tell 150 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: you how this conversation with you know that little toneament 151 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:27,959 Speaker 1: a little gobbling sound. Right then he's saying like that, 152 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 1: what's the thing that is? That's because he old see 153 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 1: when you were old and come out arrow, what you 154 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 1: think that is? What that is? Right there? You? You 155 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: you should have knew he was old when y'all were sexty, 156 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: because when you have phone sex with the real old 157 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: ass person, you hear stuff. You know, girl, you meshed, girl, 158 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:03,520 Speaker 1: You messed with my gout, You mesh around. You got 159 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: the blood pressure going up blue beard on me. Anyway, 160 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 1: you told him to push the button, and see he 161 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: clicked the FaceTime button and would look at confused. So 162 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: this is how he looked, y'all. Look at y'all, zoo camp. 163 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 1: That's how he was looking. His whole head the camera eyes. 164 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 1: Don't know what a little Stu, you really are what 165 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: that is? Earl? Yeah? What that is right there? What's 166 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: that right there? You know because you know when you're 167 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: real old. You just talked with your bottom deep? What 168 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: that is right there? Well? What do you think that is? 169 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: Prep button? That's hilarious? Up you all say, that's what happened. 170 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 1: And she saw his face. He's a deacon at the 171 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,719 Speaker 1: church and he should dad golf buddy. I sent him 172 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 1: pictures and he got a video on me, so he 173 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:10,959 Speaker 1: knew who I was all along. This man has to 174 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: be at least seven years old. And after I look 175 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,120 Speaker 1: close to last prot he used a very old picture 176 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 1: of himself. If I exposed him and I tell my dad, 177 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: my dad will know what I do in my spare time, 178 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 1: Well he'll know that, But why would you tell your dad? 179 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 1: What is that going to accomplish? Daddy? He did this 180 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:33,600 Speaker 1: to me? What he did? What to you? He made me? 181 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: Didn't hear what you did to my dad? Will know 182 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 1: I do in my spare time. Last time I saw 183 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: the old pervert was at Eastern Sunday and shortly after 184 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: that he found me online and fooled me into sex 185 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 1: him with him. You're too old to say, Shirley had 186 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: it right. You're too old for this. How can this 187 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 1: be fixed? It can't. Should I take this secret to 188 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: my grave? You have to? Yeah, should call him up 189 00:11:57,480 --> 00:12:00,199 Speaker 1: and said, listen, you could text him. I know who 190 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: you are. I saw your face. Now let me tell 191 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 1: you this. If you ever show these pictures or video 192 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:11,920 Speaker 1: of me to anyone or any kind, You're not gonna 193 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: believe what I'm gonna do. Don't ever call me again 194 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 1: and click hang up. That's it, That's all you got 195 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 1: to do. You got to let him know there's some consequences. 196 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: Seventy year old men don't like their life getting ruined 197 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 1: because they don't have much left. So you can't go 198 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: in there and tell his wife he can't get this 199 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: band from the church. He can't lose his only golf buddy. 200 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 1: Too much to rules. So just make that statement that 201 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: you know who he is, and if he uses the picture, 202 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: you're not gonna believe what I'm going to do to you. 203 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:50,840 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, thank you. Post your comments on Today's 204 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey Fm on Instagram and on Facebook, 205 00:12:55,679 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 1: and please don't forget to check out the Strawberry Letter 206 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: podcast on demand Now coming up a four six minutes 207 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: after the hour, we're going to get serious. We'll tell 208 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,840 Speaker 1: you about Louisville's police chief walking out of a meeting 209 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: as a fight for justice continues for Brianna Taylor. 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