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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 2: This is a special episode of the Almost Famous podcast.

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Speaker 2: If you haven't listened yet, please go back and listen

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Speaker 2: to our interview with Sarah Trout, who is an advocate

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Speaker 2: for ALS based on her experience with her father having

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Speaker 2: ALS and unfortunately passing away from ALS just a short

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Speaker 2: time ago. It is ALS Awareness Month, so please go

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Speaker 2: listen to that episode and get as educated as you

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Speaker 2: can on this horrific disease. But this episode is about headlines,

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Speaker 2: and we have a lot of them today. Yes, Ashley

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Speaker 2: is here to help us break them down. Our first

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Speaker 2: headline is a big one one. Maybe I've just been

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Speaker 2: at a loop.

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Speaker 3: Maybe, but what.

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Speaker 2: Maybe nobody knew this was coming. Maybe this was a

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Speaker 2: secret that was kept from so many. But here's the headline.

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Speaker 2: Colton Underwood, Mary's Jordan C. Brown in Napa Valley. The

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Speaker 2: quote is I've never been more sure of something.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I was, like I knew that they were engaged, right,

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Speaker 4: and they got engaged really quickly that they don't have

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Speaker 4: been dating for like, I would say, less than six months.

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Speaker 4: Didn't really hear a lot about them recently, and then

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Speaker 4: all of a sudden at the top of my Instagram feed.

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Speaker 4: Here are the pictures of them getting married. Chris Harrison

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Speaker 4: and Lauren Zema were I think the only Bachelor related

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Speaker 4: guess which I guess he hasn't really stayed in touch with,

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Speaker 4: Like he was pretty tight with with Blake.

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Speaker 5: And with Jason, do you. I guess you know you

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Speaker 5: know better than I.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I don't know where that relationship has gone

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Speaker 2: from then. I think it had. I don't think they've

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Speaker 2: kept in touch yeah recently.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well, let's get into the celebration. It was three days.

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Speaker 4: There was a performance by the Stanford University Artistic Swimmers

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Speaker 4: at a disco themed pool party. It was There was

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Speaker 4: a welcome party on Friday night. The full wedding festivity day,

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Speaker 4: of course, was Saturday.

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Speaker 5: Per huge.

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Speaker 4: They wanted, They really wanted to have that disco themed

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Speaker 4: pool party. He said, it's going to be a really

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Speaker 4: fun wedding and that for their nuptials that they wore

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Speaker 5: We don't have like a ton of information.

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Speaker 4: We know that there was going to be some spicy margaritas,

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Speaker 4: that their dogs would be there, and the fact that

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Speaker 4: they wanted it outdoors in nature, which was it was

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Speaker 4: really important element for them.

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Speaker 2: The big celebration. It's a big headline because yes, I

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Speaker 2: don't know if anybody really knew what was happening. Maybe

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Speaker 2: that's on purpose, I don't know, but Bachelor Nation didn't

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Speaker 2: have like a massive amount of people there. There was

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Speaker 2: only Chris Harrison, who is no longer the host, and

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Speaker 2: Lauren Zema. But congratulations to Colton. This is a celebration.

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Speaker 2: It's been a big story in his life for a while.

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Speaker 2: But he and Jordan have been together now for I

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Speaker 2: don't I mean, yeah, you said they got engaged quickly,

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Speaker 2: but it feels like they've been together for a long time.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think they've been together for at least two

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Speaker 4: years now. I also think it's worth mentioning that they

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Speaker 4: had mini wedding cakes. They had the best chocolate chip

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Speaker 4: cookies you've ever had, and they also.

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Speaker 2: Had who quoted that we have the best chocolate chip cookies.

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Speaker 3: You've ever heard.

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Speaker 4: That's what his husband, Jordan said, And then they also

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Speaker 4: had their first dance to the Good Ones. It's just

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Speaker 4: one of those songs that remind both of them of

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Speaker 3: Well, there's a big announcement.

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Speaker 2: Next big announcement is this Bachelor Nation's Emily Ferguson gives

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Speaker 2: birth welcome's first child with William Carlson.

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Speaker 5: She does. His name is Beckham William Carlson.

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Speaker 4: He looks so much like his dad straight out of

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Speaker 4: the womb, it's quite amazing. Her Instagram caption read, our big, strong,

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Speaker 4: healthy boy, weighing in at eight pounds two ounces, your

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Speaker 4: And then there's of course a whole bunch of vaccination

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Speaker 4: excited to see Emily as a mom. She's going to be,

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Speaker 4: Seems happy and upbeaten, and uh that is that's what

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Speaker 2: The baby does look like her husband. I will seem

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Speaker 3: That picture like this was just like him.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's really cute.

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Speaker 3: That baby is going to have the blonde.

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Speaker 6: I think, oh, it's got to stay. Yeah, it's going

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Speaker 2: Interesting headline here one that has been a now for

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Speaker 5: It's interesting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's interest.

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Speaker 5: Did you talk about this? Was this posted last week

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Speaker 3: No, no.

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Speaker 2: This is the first time. So Amanda Stanton opens up

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Speaker 2: to prepare them for the real life. This according the

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Speaker 2: Bachelor Nation, an article that they did Ashley. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I think that the headline kind of speaks to the article, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And people have multiple thoughts on this. I want to

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Speaker 2: hear your thoughts first as an on this.

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Speaker 5: Okay, So here's what happened.

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Speaker 4: She got the girls front row tickets to Taylor Swift.

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Speaker 4: It was a time of their life, like they're gonna

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Speaker 4: remember it forever. And I'm really glad that this is

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Speaker 4: like a memory that my mom would have given me.

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Speaker 4: And I'm really glad that they have this. Like Taylor

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Speaker 4: interacted with them throughout the concert. That's really cool. There's

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Speaker 4: lots of video of this now in the long version,

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Speaker 4: the ten minute version of All Too Well, she said

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Speaker 4: as f the patriarchy.

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Speaker 5: F the patriarchy, right, she says the actual F word.

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Speaker 4: And the video that Amanda posted had Kinsley, who is

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Speaker 4: and she says the word F the patriarchy, and I

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Speaker 4: was jarred. I was surprised, and I didn't love it, Okay,

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Speaker 4: I didn't love it. And I just felt weird hearing

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Speaker 4: So this is what Amanda said, because she said she

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Speaker 4: knew she was going to get a reaction from posting that. Sure,

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Speaker 4: I know everyone has different opinions on this, so I'm

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Speaker 5: What I really thought it was Kinsley. I gotta look,

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Speaker 5: I watched this back.

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Speaker 3: You look very similar these days.

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Speaker 5: No, what definitely get I'm so confused.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, anyway, one of them said it saying the

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Speaker 4: F word wall singing, So I just wanted to share

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Speaker 4: my take, haha. I do not allow the girls to curse,

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Speaker 4: for that because we were at a concert and she

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Speaker 4: but that instance aside I curse. So I generally don't

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Speaker 4: teach them it's bad to curse, because why would I

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Speaker 4: teach them it's a terrible thing to curse only for

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Speaker 4: them to see Michael and I do it all the time.

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Speaker 4: I don't ever want to instill rules for them that

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Speaker 4: it comes to the rules. Okay, now that she says this,

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Speaker 4: I have a more well rounded opinion on it.

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Speaker 5: I do think.

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Speaker 4: I know it's weird, but I do think that like

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Speaker 4: sometimes be a little different than you just using it

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Speaker 4: in your own conversation. Like if my kid was going

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Speaker 4: I'd be like, whatever, that's funny.

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Speaker 5: I used to use that excuse all the time with

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh, clooning, I'm cloting, And it does

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Speaker 5: And then when Amanda says I do it.

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Speaker 4: How am I supposed to pretend like it's the most

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Speaker 4: awful thing If I'm doing it and I'm not gonna

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Speaker 4: stop doing it, I just know, like I just know myself.

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Speaker 4: I know that Jared probably Jared and I are definitely

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Speaker 4: probably not gonna like totally cut off cursing ourselves. And

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Speaker 4: potty mouth as time goes on. It's really wild. Well

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Speaker 4: we try to cut it down. You say, that's awesome.

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Speaker 3: No, it's Boston.

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Speaker 4: Oh, it's definitely Boston. Like he sounds like he's out

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Speaker 4: you just like cut the F word down a little bit?

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Speaker 5: Uh?

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Speaker 4: So, yeah, I understand. I don't want to encourage, but

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Speaker 5: Why they sound bad? That just words? It does have

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Speaker 4: For me, I mean, I guess I have like a

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Speaker 4: that Taylor uses it in that song, like screw something.

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Speaker 4: If the F word is used as screw something or

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Speaker 4: ow or you know, like darn it, like whatever, I'm

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Speaker 4: like a little bit more okare with that? I don't

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Speaker 4: want my kids saying it, But then I think it's

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Speaker 5: Like it when it's used in the other manner. If

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Speaker 5: you know what I mean anyway, Ben, what are your

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Speaker 4: But I could I'll still stand by the act that, like,

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Speaker 4: I don't know if I like.

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Speaker 3: Her posts and what are your thoughts about it? Let

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: I want to say that I'm somewhere in between, but

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Speaker 4: I was definitely not for it when she posted it

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Speaker 4: without the explanation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Well, I mean I get what she's saying,

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Speaker 2: and I think there is multiple ways to go about this.

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Speaker 2: One would be for her and Michael to make the decision, Hey,

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Speaker 2: we're gonna clean up our language around our kids because

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Speaker 2: we don't want them to be using these same words.

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Speaker 2: That's an option. Sounds like they're okay with how their

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Speaker 2: current life is being lived, and that's great too.

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Speaker 3: They're great parents.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure you know, they know their household better than

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Speaker 2: I do, or better than the public goes. I think

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Speaker 2: there's one thing I really agree with Amanda on is

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Speaker 2: preparing your kids for real life. I know in my

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Speaker 5: So, Ben, when are you guys going to start?

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Speaker 2: That was the longest explanation for something that's taken two seconds.

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Speaker 2: We're going to Italy in September, and then we said

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Speaker 3: But like we're good, like you know, I mean, if

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Speaker 4: Also, can I just say this, like I am so

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Speaker 4: And I don't even know how those first like twenty

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Speaker 5: Never know when it's gonna be over.

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Speaker 4: I gotta keep making the money, right, But I don't

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Speaker 4: I'm just being chatty right now. Well, Ben, do you

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Speaker 2: The best way I could describe you being pregnant doing

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Speaker 2: do and You're like, don't say that, No, I don't.

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Speaker 2: That's so offensive, And I'm like, all right, I'm out.

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Speaker 3: I'm so true.

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Speaker 5: I did that so much.

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Speaker 2: That was actually Ashley pregnant, So it'd be a lot

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Speaker 2: to have to have another child because Dawson's so cute

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Speaker 2: and so great. Final headline today, Ashley Ish Marlena wesh

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Speaker 2: Hard launches relationship with new boyfriend and Bachelor Nation reacts.

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Speaker 4: So we don't really know who the guy is, but

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Speaker 4: Jill Chen and Eliza if you.

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Speaker 5: Remember her, She and so in Susie. They're all really

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Speaker 4: And they did launch with a little a pick of

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Speaker 2: It's super cute. Congratulations to her, and it's just a

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Speaker 2: big deal. Whenever anybody in Bachelor Nation finds somebody not

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Speaker 2: it's great to see these next relationships on the back

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Speaker 2: Well that's all the headlines we have for you today. Again,

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Speaker 2: congratulations to Emily in Colton and Jordan and all these

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Speaker 2: amazing things happening in Bachelor Nation. Is always great to celebrate.

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Speaker 2: Final reminder, we have another episode posted with Sarah Trout.

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Speaker 2: It's posted now, so if you haven't listened to it yet,

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Speaker 2: go back and listen to it. But until next week,

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Speaker 2: we have a really exciting week coming up, Ashley. We

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Speaker 2: the current. We're gonna have a great week, a ton

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Speaker 5: Why are they going to be awkward?

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Speaker 2: Well, hey, all the listeners will have to stay tuned

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Speaker 2: and find out. Until next time, I've been Ben, I've

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Speaker 5: Sorry for babbling. Bye.

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