1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,200 Speaker 1: All right, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com. 4 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:15,240 Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air, 5 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now. 6 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: And you never know, this one could be yours. It 7 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: could be Buckle up and hold on tight. We got 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,159 Speaker 1: it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter subject my 9 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: neighbor's T shirt in our garage. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm 10 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: a forty four year old married woman and my husband 11 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: broke his leg in several places in a bad car crash. 12 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 1: He's been off his feet for three months and I 13 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:42,879 Speaker 1: set him up in our downstairs bedroom. He owns a 14 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: car wash and has always been very active, so when 15 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: he couldn't go to work or do anything around the house, 16 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 1: he went through a bout of depression. The medication made 17 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: him sleep a lot, and I felt really bad for him. 18 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: Now that he's up and back on his feet, he's 19 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: got a bad attitude and the smallest thing set him off. 20 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:04,960 Speaker 1: And all we do is argue. He was in the 21 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: garage yesterday putting out trash and he saw a man's 22 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: T shirt behind the garbage can. I had no idea 23 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 1: whose shirt it was because he often takes my old 24 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: T shirts and his old T shirts to the car 25 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: wash to use his rags. I didn't even think that 26 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: it could be our neighbor's shirt, but it was. When 27 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: my husband was down and out, our next door neighbors 28 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:30,000 Speaker 1: came to my aid. They're very Christian couple and sweetest 29 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: can be. The husband helped me with putting out the trash, 30 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: and he helped with keeping the yard up. The wife 31 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: made a couple of meals for us, and she did 32 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,119 Speaker 1: a few grocery store runs for me. I owe them 33 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,759 Speaker 1: the world for their help, but my husband has been 34 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 1: very disrespectful because he found the neighbor's T shirt. I 35 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: told my husband that the man probably took the shirt 36 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: off while he was helping us because it was really hot, 37 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: or he meant to throw the shirt away because it 38 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: was too soiled. My husband thinks I was sneaking around 39 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: with this much older, overweight man next door. It's so embarrassing, 40 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: and I can't stand the way he's treating them. I 41 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: can't apologize enough to the neighbors. How do I get 42 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:14,639 Speaker 1: my crazy husband to stop tripping? Well, if I were you, 43 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:18,200 Speaker 1: I would just stop entertaining this foolishness. I would just stop. 44 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: I wouldn't even pay attention to it. Your husband knows better. 45 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: He knows the T shirt was there just for the 46 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: reason you said. Either your neighbor meant to throw it 47 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: away when he was over there helping, or he took 48 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: the shirt off because it was too hot. It takes 49 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 1: two people to argue, so just stop arguing with him 50 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: about this. He's back up and on his feet now, 51 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: thanks to you guys. So what's his problem now? He's ungrateful. 52 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: I think that's what it is. He's just ungrateful, and 53 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 1: that's a character flaw. I mean, the people went out 54 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: of their way to help him and you while he 55 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: was down, and this is the things that you all get. 56 00:02:54,160 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: I say, let him know, set him down, Let him 57 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: know that he can stay stuck on stupid if he 58 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: wants to. But you want no part of his bad behavior. 59 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: When he brings it up again, ignore him, Remind him 60 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: that just life is too short to be arguing over 61 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: the arguing over this dumb stuff. He should be thanking 62 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: you he should be loving you right now. But you know, 63 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: for how well you took care of him during those 64 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: three months, he should be glad to be alive after 65 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 1: that horrible car accident and treating the neighbors with kindness 66 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: and respect as well. This is crazy, and you're you're right. 67 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: Your husband is crazy. Hopefully he'll get it together. Maybe 68 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: it's the meds. Maybe is he still on the meds. 69 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:39,160 Speaker 1: Maybe it's the meds. Check that out. Anyway, I'm done, Steve, 70 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: that ain't it, Shelly, I got you, baby. Don't worry 71 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 1: about a beautiful response. I love the way you handled 72 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: and everything and made a lot of sense everything you 73 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: were saying. This a man, he should let me go 74 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 1: and take it from here. He got some little inside 75 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: on this. I know the story all too well, right y, 76 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 1: I've seen this movie before. I know how it ended. 77 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna guide you through this letter. I'm gonna 78 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: tell you what it is. I know y'all always think 79 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: I'm always talking about this hill, but I know what 80 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: I'm talking about when he come to me. This is 81 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: a man issue. Forty for you, old lady. Husband broke 82 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:16,839 Speaker 1: his leg in several places. It's several places, really, in 83 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: a car crash. He been off his feet for three months. 84 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: All this is key information. You set him up in 85 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: the down says bedroom. Now he had car washing. He's 86 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: always been very ever active, but when he couldn't go 87 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: to work or do anything around the house, he went 88 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: through about of depression. Medication made him sleep a lot. 89 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,719 Speaker 1: I really felt bad for him. Now he's up and 90 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: back on his feet, but he's got a bad attitude 91 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: and the smallest things set him off. And all we 92 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: do is OK. Hill is the latter, right Hill. What 93 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 1: happened is your husband has allowed his condition to affect 94 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 1: his attitude instead of his attitude controlling the condition. He 95 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: broke his leg, He loses leg. Ain't like somebody came 96 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: took it off. There are people who are amputees who 97 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:19,160 Speaker 1: have the most courage and have the best attitude of 98 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:23,040 Speaker 1: people I've seen with two legs. They don't stop, won't stop, 99 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 1: can't stop. They do things that people with two legs 100 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,479 Speaker 1: wouldn't even dare to attempt. They out the ski and 101 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: they out there snowboarding, They out that climbing, they out 102 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: that playing sports. They in leagues and everything. And your 103 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 1: husband sit over here and broke naw he ain't. Naw 104 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: he ain't that thing no more with his punk head. 105 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: Now here would really happened. And that's where the ladies 106 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:56,159 Speaker 1: is gonna disagree. Okay, sat around on his ass for 107 00:05:56,400 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: three mores, sleeping and eating. Nah he fat heather game 108 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 1: weight now na na with this new weight game. He 109 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 1: now got a bad attitude. Now he madt everybody else 110 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: because he broke he leads. Naw he fat he ain't 111 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 1: what he was c three moths of sleeping and eating 112 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 1: all did boil or swollen. Now we'll get into the 113 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 1: T shirt when I come back and tell you why 114 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 1: he's overreacting about this T shirt, and I will tell 115 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: you how you should have handled a T shirt. All right, 116 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: we come some more lives. I'll have part two of 117 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up to today's strawberry letter. My neighbor's 118 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: T shirt is in our garage. My neighbor's T shirt 119 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 1: in our garage. That's coming up at twenty three minutes 120 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,920 Speaker 1: after the hours. Don't go anywhere, we'll be back right 121 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, 122 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 1: come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. My neighbor's 123 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: T shirt in our garage. Well, here we go. It's 124 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 1: forty four year old moment. It's married to this man 125 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:08,040 Speaker 1: that had a car wash. Always been very active, but 126 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: he got in a car accident and he broke his 127 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 1: leg in three places. Na, he wasn't active anymore. For 128 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: three months. He'd been sitting around eating the med's got 129 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: him sleepy all the time, eating and sleeping and sitting 130 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: around doing nothing. Calorie counters high. Taylor's just sitting up 131 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: there with gravy in a cup with a straw in it. 132 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: Just he's grazy up, very He ain't you fat ass, 133 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: just sitting up, just picking up weight. You felt bad 134 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: for him. Now he back on his feet. He got 135 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 1: a bad attitude. Smaller things set him off, and all 136 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: we do is argue he ain't what he was. He 137 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: hadn't let the condition of the break it affect his 138 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: attitude instead of letting his attitude affect a condition or 139 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: the break. He didn't have to change. He changed on 140 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: his own. Now Here in the garage the other day, 141 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: putting out the trade hit the problem. He saw a 142 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 1: man's T shirt behind the garbage. Kid, I had no 143 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 1: idea whose shirt it was because he often takes our 144 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: old T shirts up to the car wash use him 145 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 1: as rags. Right down. You had no idea who the 146 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 1: T shirt was. I didn't even think it could be 147 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: our neighbor's T shirt. Okay, but it was. What you mean, 148 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: but it was. You had no idea it could be 149 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 1: a neighbor's T shirt, But it was how who bought 150 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: it up, who suggested that this is the neighbor's T shirt. 151 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: Shut your damn mouth, stupid, So she shouldn't have said 152 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: anything about what she already said. She has no idea 153 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: who the T shirt was because he often takes the 154 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 1: T shirts to the carwater. I didn't even think it 155 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 1: could be our neighbor's shirt, but it was. Tell you me, buddy, 156 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: was stick to your story. You don't know nothing about 157 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 1: the damn T shirt. What is wrong with y'all? You 158 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:12,720 Speaker 1: didn't even have to lie. You could have just stuck 159 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: to your damn story. When my husband was down and out, 160 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:20,440 Speaker 1: our next door neighbor came to my aid, this ain't 161 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: looking good. They are very Christian couple, sweetest can be. 162 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 1: Christians have a fast. The hugg helped me by putting 163 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: out the trash and he helped keeping the yard up, 164 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 1: and the wife made a couple of meals for us. 165 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: She did a grocery store run for me. I owed 166 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 1: them to wear it for that work while they are 167 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 1: helping you, cooking, running stove for you. What happened to 168 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 1: your leg? She can't do everything? What was she doing? 169 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: Fat boys in here sleep? He can't go nowhere? Ain't 170 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: like he had to sit there and pee on himself. 171 00:09:57,080 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 1: What is she doing? He broke his leg. He ain't 172 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 1: got biled trouble. She did not have sex with that man. 173 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 1: I didn't know. I know she didn't. I know she didn't. 174 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:12,559 Speaker 1: But shut your mouth. You don't know whose T shirt 175 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: it is? Why you talking about? Yeah it is? He is. 176 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:19,439 Speaker 1: I told them the world for helping. But my husband 177 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 1: been very disrespectful because he found out the Navy T shirt. 178 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: But he disrespectful to you though. See I told my 179 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: husband that the man probably took the shirt off while 180 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: he was helped. What did you just say? You told 181 00:10:32,320 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: your husband that the man probably took the shirt off 182 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 1: while he was helping us because it was really hot 183 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: and your shirt off for hell? No, he just said 184 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: you didn't know whose T shirts were? Now you're creating 185 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: scenarios and story for his dumb ass to latch on too. 186 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: Took his shirt off because it's too hot. It ain't 187 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 1: that damn hot. He meant to throw the shot away, 188 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 1: but it was too so my husband think I was 189 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: sneaking around with this much older overweight man next dope. 190 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,319 Speaker 1: And you know why he was thinking you might be 191 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 1: messing around with a much older overweight man next dope, 192 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: because you're still messing around with his now much overweight 193 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 1: ass because he doesn't set up in here and beating 194 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: ding dogs and chips for three months with his little 195 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,079 Speaker 1: bro you mean broke he leg He broke his legs 196 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,839 Speaker 1: so damn wood. But all you had to do was 197 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 1: shut your mouth. He you are creating scenarios. Ain't got 198 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 1: nothing doing nothing. He probably took his shirt off helping 199 00:11:36,960 --> 00:11:41,120 Speaker 1: he got hot. What old fat Christian you know do that? 200 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 1: Deacon Patterson used to work every every week on the 201 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:52,720 Speaker 1: building for he never took your shirt off. Put steps 202 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:54,839 Speaker 1: down to the basement of the church. They never took 203 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 1: his shirt off. How to hear we didn't have air 204 00:11:56,360 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 1: condition in the chick we talk about so embarrassing that 205 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: I can't stand the way he treating him. I can't 206 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:06,719 Speaker 1: apologize enough for him. How can I get my crazyhood 207 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: and stop tripping your husband? Stupid? He mad in himself 208 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: because he was in the cogs, and then now he 209 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:17,719 Speaker 1: won't everybody feel side for him. Should have stuck to 210 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:22,439 Speaker 1: your story. There is no solution for this except now 211 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: you have learned a lessen. Quit running your damn Yeah, 212 00:12:26,720 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: the story is, I don't know who sure that is. 213 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 1: Don't be in that time. I know he probably take 214 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: it off when he got out. You're just putting bullets 215 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 1: in the gun. All right, thank you, Steven. At the time, 216 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: why y'all run y'all mouth for you to leave your 217 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: comments on today's letter on Instagram, shut stem and check 218 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:57,679 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter Pod. Damn mouth demand. Okay, so 219 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: he should she should have just been quiet? Huh. Coming 220 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:05,880 Speaker 1: up next, it is our poet Laureate. He's gonna switch 221 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: hats now, he's gonna do our sports Coming up, I'm 222 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 1: talking about the one and only Junior with Sports Talk. 223 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:15,680 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Dave Harvey Morning Show.