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Speaker 1: This is the Reformed Sports Project, a podcast about restoring

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Speaker 1: education and advocacy. Hi, this is Nick Bonacoor from the

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Speaker 1: Reformed Sports Project podcast. Today, I have Krista Girlic, head

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Speaker 1: head coach in the Big twelve era. Coach Girlic and

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Speaker 1: I talk about the positives and negatives in coaching your

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Speaker 1: freaking fired up. I got another awesome guest. She is

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Speaker 1: Krista Girlic Coach Girlic. Thank you so much for hopping on.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Niche. I appreciate it, and I'm so glad

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Speaker 1: But I think, um, that sports just gives you so

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Speaker 1: an administrator, it can be a creative content um, but

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Speaker 1: there's so much to gain out of athletics that that

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Speaker 1: can be rewarding for these kids. Coach girl, I freaking

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Speaker 1: love your passionate, love your energy, and I guess I

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Speaker 1: They want to get to the next level. They want

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Speaker 1: to get on a college roster in any way, shape

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Speaker 1: eleventh graders twelth here, whatever they could do to put

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Speaker 1: your magnitude or just a college coach in general. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: I think, um, I think it's really important for them

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Speaker 1: And then obviously, you know, you need to send out

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Speaker 1: maybe go. But um, and you know, a a U

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Speaker 1: in summer ball, that's a thing. That's that's our biggest

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Speaker 1: all the girls in the West Texas area. You know,

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Speaker 1: whether they're gonna come play for me or not, I

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Speaker 1: gonna get you know, thirteen kids, fourteen kids on my roster.

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Speaker 1: But I can help them. I know a lot of people,

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Speaker 1: I know a lot of coaches, and we can help

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Speaker 1: them get somewhere else just because I know them and

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Speaker 1: I see how much they've worked and what potential they have.

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Speaker 1: Coach girl bringing it back without saying that the relationship piece, man,

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Speaker 1: that is that is literally what I preached to my kids.

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Speaker 1: Min don't burn a bridge, build good relationship, be a

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Speaker 1: goose human being and things come back around and work out. Yes,

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Speaker 1: exactly exactly, So I think it's fabulous and I hope

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Speaker 1: all these kids will listen and don't let anybody tell

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Speaker 1: them they can't do something right. Just keep getting backed

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Speaker 1: up and swinging. That's what I tell them all the time.

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Speaker 1: He just keep getting backed up. I love it, Coach

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Speaker 1: girl like Texas Tech. I can't thank you enough for

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Speaker 1: taking the time. I truly appreciate a truly honor, and

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Speaker 1: I can't thank you enough for coming on and share

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Speaker 1: and coach, thank you so much. I appreciate you having

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Speaker 1: me and I love your energy too. I'll be happy

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Speaker 1: to be on anytime. I love it. We'll do it

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Speaker 1: again for sure. That's Krista girlic, head women's basketball coach

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Speaker 1: for the Lady Raiders at Texas Tech. Thanks for listening

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Speaker 1: to the Reformed Sports Project podcast. I'm Nick Boncourt and

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