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Speaker 1: We got it. Call you him it is. It's a

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Speaker 1: his beer budget here Stephen Shirley. I have heard Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey and and Elder and my family say that you

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Speaker 1: I've been dating a really great guy for three years,

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Speaker 1: He tries to do sweet things for me, but he

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Speaker 1: does them in his own little, cheap way. It's never

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Speaker 1: up to my expectations, but I always act like I

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Speaker 1: cheaper way to get things done. It's no secret that

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Speaker 1: I make more money than he does. But when we

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Speaker 1: careful with his money. Now here's my main issue. If

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Speaker 1: He assumes I'll pay for it since it was my idea.

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Speaker 1: If he plans a date, it is at his house

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Speaker 1: and he will cook something cheap like hamburgers or tacos

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Speaker 1: and we watch Netflix. If he comes to my house,

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Speaker 1: steps up. I don't want to live like this anymore,

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Speaker 1: but I love this man. What should I do? If

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Speaker 1: you love him cheapness and all. That's who he is

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Speaker 1: he's like that right now. And guess what, you can't

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Speaker 1: You call him a really great guy in the letter

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Speaker 1: who you've been dating for three years. You say he's

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Speaker 1: he's being very careful with his money right now, and

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Speaker 1: he doesn't like spending things, you know, just wasting his

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Speaker 1: money on things he can do at home. You know,

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Speaker 1: sometimes that's an excuse. Sometimes people really mean it. In

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Speaker 1: this case, it sounds like he really means it. You

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Speaker 1: make more money than him. You say you're doing well

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Speaker 1: as a couple right now. Maybe he's trying to get

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Speaker 1: help him out. This situation I think is really up

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Speaker 1: to you. I agree. No one likes a cheap fingy man.

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Speaker 1: No one likes that. But we do like a man

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Speaker 1: that even though he's not filthy rich right now, he's creative,

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Speaker 1: do a lot with a little and wild he's grinding

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Speaker 1: all the while, he's grinding and hustling to make a

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Speaker 1: better life for the two of you. That's a good

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Speaker 1: you ought to throw him away. You guys can work

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Speaker 1: through these situations, all right, Junior, what you got? I

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Speaker 1: this ungrateful. I don't see why you upset. You got

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Speaker 1: that is? Shirley ain't making hamburgers and tacco sack, Okay,

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Speaker 1: so he at least out doing Shirley, we know, for show,

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Speaker 1: leave that. Let me tell you something. I've seen these

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Speaker 1: knockoffs and these originals. Gucci and Ucci pretty much same

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Speaker 1: but the same band. There is no difference between Louis

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Speaker 1: looking that hard at Joe Allen Yo being just understand

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Speaker 1: and then encourage him to do one more thing next

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Speaker 1: time he made hamburger, asked for hamburger and fries. Taking

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Speaker 1: just a little more. All right, Jay, you're up, Thank you, Junior,

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Speaker 1: what's going on with you? Jake. What this man needs

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Speaker 1: to do is surround himself with things that will allow

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Speaker 1: him to share with his mate and be cheap at

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Speaker 1: the same time. That you only pay one price and

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Speaker 1: you can share, then that way you're not being cheap.

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Speaker 1: For instance, for instance, a Twitch candy bar, you can

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Speaker 1: of it. Now you're sharing, You're not a cheap man anymore.

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Speaker 1: Left twixts right TwixT Yeah, left twitch, right Twitch. Thank you, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: You're welcome. I'm enjoyed. Sometimes you feel like a net.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you don't give her what she wants. I got more.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, we're gonna have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up, Jay, and we gotta get to

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Speaker 1: the nephew as well. Subject my Champagne dreams and his

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Speaker 1: As time goes on, though, she's saying it's becoming clear

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Speaker 1: so she's carrying the financial loads, so to speak. He

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Speaker 1: doing well at a as a couple, but she's getting

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Speaker 1: a little tired because she's calling him cheap. She says,

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Speaker 1: cooking Burger's tacos, and they're netflixing and chilling. Okay, which

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Speaker 1: sounds like a great weekend to me. I love it. Right.

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Speaker 1: So she's just upset at his cheapness. She says they're

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Speaker 1: she step back to see if he steps up? Okay, Jay,

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Speaker 1: you want to finish. I'm saying, there's places that you

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Speaker 1: can go that you can save a little money. Now,

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Speaker 1: you always if you spring for the movies, have her

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Speaker 1: meet you there. You go in early, Go in early.

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Speaker 1: Trust me, though, there's popcorn everywhere, all over the place.

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Speaker 1: All you gotta do is get your bucket, scoop up

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Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with that popcorn. Not a damn thing

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Speaker 1: Trust me, dog, there's nothing wrong with it. And you

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Speaker 1: gotta search for a solda with ice in it. It

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Speaker 1: takes a while, but that isn't even you aren't this cheap,

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Speaker 1: trust me, dog. You gotta walk around shake no ice,

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Speaker 1: shake no ice, shake and mix those two together. Na,

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Speaker 1: this is a surprized to everybody. You don't know what

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Speaker 1: flavor you go. Now, here's the last one. When you

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Speaker 1: for right. I'm done with you on that one. I'm done.

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Speaker 1: I am out man. You gonna give it the guy,

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Speaker 1: say God bless us both. She got had and then

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Speaker 1: right to do it. I hate you, all right, Come on, nephew,

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Speaker 1: to start loving porking beans with Wheeler's cut up in it.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna have to start loving now. That's gonna have

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Speaker 1: You can't be in no uber by yourself. You got

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Speaker 1: all right. You can't be loving Moett and Don Perion

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Speaker 1: And I wish you would try to buy some bottle water.

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Speaker 1: Get your some water out to zink. What is wrong

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Speaker 1: to ever hear you talking about no tacos, no mo.

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Speaker 1: You got to get nacho. Break them chips up, stretch that,

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Speaker 1: stretch that meat and cheese out. Y'all got the shaded

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Speaker 1: all right. When you wash your clothes, hang them out

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Speaker 1: much energy they take. No, you got to you got

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Speaker 1: the love of the things. Now you can't be up

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Speaker 1: and no lip gloss vasoline, you can't, dude, wanted to

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Speaker 1: things you got to love. You got to love all

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Speaker 1: these cue ponds he got in his pocket. When y'all

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Speaker 1: love some other things, that's all Tom And said, you

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