1
00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:15,120
Speaker 1: What's up, Y'all's your girl lex p? And is your girl?

2
00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:17,520
Speaker 1: Dre and the Cold? And you are tuned in to

3
00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:21,720
Speaker 1: another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk mind speaks sober.

4
00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:28,120
Speaker 2: We gotta against, say, we gotta against today, y'all. I

5
00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:31,000
Speaker 2: am so excited because I feel like we haven't talked

6
00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:32,520
Speaker 2: about these topics in a.

7
00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:35,879
Speaker 1: Long time, and we haven't dying to have.

8
00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,080
Speaker 2: Somebody who I feel like is an expert to talk

9
00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,280
Speaker 2: all the things that we love to talk about. So

10
00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,599
Speaker 2: we have the beautiful, these.

11
00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:48,839
Speaker 1: Smart talents that drop in up building. Thank y'all for

12
00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:49,239
Speaker 1: having me.

13
00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:59,040
Speaker 2: Lovely lady, you got your Valentine Valentine one? Yes, you

14
00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:00,400
Speaker 2: you look good girl.

15
00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:02,880
Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep up with y'all. You know what

16
00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:06,280
Speaker 1: I mean. I was trying to keep up yes at

17
00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:06,640
Speaker 1: the town.

18
00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:10,200
Speaker 2: Okay, so give them an introduction so they can know

19
00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:10,800
Speaker 2: who you are.

20
00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:12,880
Speaker 1: Absolutely absolutely, I'm coach Lee.

21
00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:17,479
Speaker 2: I am a hypergamist, dating coach and business strategist help

22
00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:21,880
Speaker 2: single ladies meet high value wealthy men and build their

23
00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:23,560
Speaker 2: business with his wallet.

24
00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,600
Speaker 1: Okay, so we're gon.

25
00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:28,360
Speaker 2: We got some icebreakers, you know that we want to

26
00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:33,119
Speaker 2: talk about. So you said a high what is it? Hypergamists, hypergamists,

27
00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:34,720
Speaker 2: dating and business strategy.

28
00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:36,959
Speaker 1: Okay, so what is a hypergamist? Okay?

29
00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:40,160
Speaker 2: So in every country except for this one, of course. Okay,

30
00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:45,480
Speaker 2: women are brought up to find a man that can hunt,

31
00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,240
Speaker 2: fish and build a house figuratively right, okay, And so

32
00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,160
Speaker 2: you know, in every other culture except for this one

33
00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:57,680
Speaker 2: here in the United States, every single daughter is raised

34
00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:00,880
Speaker 2: to like, look for a man that can teck and provide,

35
00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:04,800
Speaker 2: and so here, for some reason, it's frowned upon. I

36
00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:09,360
Speaker 2: blame them in but regardless, it's frowned upon. Given some

37
00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:10,960
Speaker 2: ladies are like, why would you want a rich man

38
00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:13,000
Speaker 2: become a rich man? Well, first of all, I am

39
00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:18,640
Speaker 2: rich man period. And secondly, it's no matter who or

40
00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:19,560
Speaker 2: how you date.

41
00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:23,639
Speaker 1: No, who want a broke boy? Broke boy? No, but

42
00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:24,560
Speaker 1: you had one?

43
00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:30,520
Speaker 2: Though I have one and I ain't going back. No, No,

44
00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:32,840
Speaker 2: it's not fun there. So I will say this because

45
00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:35,239
Speaker 2: I agree with that. I've said that before as well.

46
00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:38,519
Speaker 2: I feel like every other culture, you know, they literally

47
00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:41,960
Speaker 2: raised their daughters to marry well like they want them

48
00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:43,760
Speaker 2: to be taken care of them. They don't even move

49
00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,320
Speaker 2: their children out of the house until you know, they

50
00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:49,240
Speaker 2: find her perfect. But you know, a lot of people's

51
00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:53,639
Speaker 2: argument is a lot of these people have arranged marriages,

52
00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:55,760
Speaker 2: you know, and that's what comes with us having an

53
00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,880
Speaker 2: option to you know, marry for love and marry who

54
00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:00,280
Speaker 2: we want. So what would be your response to that

55
00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:04,600
Speaker 2: of the grass is greener on the other side type deal. Well,

56
00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:06,840
Speaker 2: you know, the grass is greener where you water it.

57
00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:11,040
Speaker 2: Let's start there. So whether you have an arranged relationship

58
00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:13,919
Speaker 2: or not arranged relationship. Now we're in twenty twenty four,

59
00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:17,160
Speaker 2: nobody in the United States is arranging a marriage like that.

60
00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,800
Speaker 1: That's far and few in between. That doesn't really happen anymore.

61
00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:23,480
Speaker 2: You might have super wealthy children that you know their

62
00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,639
Speaker 2: parents are like uh uh, you know, yeah, that's you know,

63
00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:27,959
Speaker 2: that's a no stick.

64
00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:31,839
Speaker 1: You in proximity, And that's the key is proximity. Right.

65
00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:33,720
Speaker 2: So that's why all my students, that's why the business

66
00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:34,520
Speaker 2: strategist kicks in.

67
00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,160
Speaker 1: All my students are boss ladies.

68
00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,360
Speaker 2: They all build their own business, whether it's you know,

69
00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,160
Speaker 2: monetizing off of social media, or whether it's you know,

70
00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:45,280
Speaker 2: turning up their nail business or their little hobby on

71
00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:47,800
Speaker 2: the side and turning it into a real stream of income.

72
00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,839
Speaker 2: Because I believe that you should live a soft life

73
00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:52,680
Speaker 2: with or without a man, but with as while it

74
00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:56,440
Speaker 2: is so much easier and so much faster to build

75
00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:57,240
Speaker 2: what you need to build.

76
00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:59,360
Speaker 1: And he's gonna spend his money anyway, let's keep it real.

77
00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:05,400
Speaker 1: Look like this, spend it. They gonna spend it.

78
00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,800
Speaker 2: You're either gonna get, you know, a four hundred dollars

79
00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,440
Speaker 2: table at Pasha and a bottle and whatever and have

80
00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:11,520
Speaker 2: a seven hundred dollar night.

81
00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:13,000
Speaker 1: We're gonna take that seven hundred to.

82
00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:17,000
Speaker 2: Start your brand new business and fund it and and

83
00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:17,880
Speaker 2: grow it.

84
00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:19,360
Speaker 1: And get your inventory for it.

85
00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:23,599
Speaker 2: And that just makes sense to me because he's gonna

86
00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,679
Speaker 2: leave at some point, by death or by designer.

87
00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,200
Speaker 1: That man is gonna go, and when he does.

88
00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:30,960
Speaker 2: What you're gonna be left with sandel on the floor

89
00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:32,320
Speaker 2: of your apartment.

90
00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:32,880
Speaker 1: Four set.

91
00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:39,000
Speaker 2: Okay, So first I want to I want you to

92
00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:41,360
Speaker 2: define soft life because I feel like on the Internet

93
00:04:41,360 --> 00:04:43,320
Speaker 2: everybody has a different definition of the off life, and

94
00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,919
Speaker 2: everybody everybody in the soft girl air Russ and I

95
00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:50,479
Speaker 2: can tell by your head it ain't giving soft a

96
00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:55,200
Speaker 2: little Christy, a little ash. It's my soft baby, it

97
00:04:55,279 --> 00:05:01,440
Speaker 2: ain't jerkins bitch. Yes, yes, something exactly what a soft

98
00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:02,080
Speaker 2: life is.

99
00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:02,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

100
00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:05,479
Speaker 2: So, to me, a soft life is when you have

101
00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:09,880
Speaker 2: options to choose right. You have the ability to say yes,

102
00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,640
Speaker 2: I want that. You have the ability to treat yourself.

103
00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:15,080
Speaker 2: You have the ability to say, yeah, I want to go,

104
00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,159
Speaker 2: let's book the flight. Yeah I want to get that,

105
00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:19,520
Speaker 2: let's purchase it. Yeah I want to move. I'm ready

106
00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:22,200
Speaker 2: to move, let's move. That is what a soft life

107
00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:25,160
Speaker 2: is to me. It's freedom to be able to decide

108
00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,680
Speaker 2: what you want. Some people it looks like Chanelle and burkenbags.

109
00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,880
Speaker 2: Some people it looks like, you know, a brand new Porsche.

110
00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:34,880
Speaker 2: To others, it looks like a man who you know,

111
00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:37,839
Speaker 2: takes care of them, opens the door, puts on their shoes,

112
00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,120
Speaker 2: make sure they're not ashy, fixed their hair.

113
00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:42,320
Speaker 1: I mean, my man's running around the studio.

114
00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:46,760
Speaker 2: Here's your bag, here's this that he is?

115
00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:48,480
Speaker 1: That's right?

116
00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:53,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he is by no means a You know

117
00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,279
Speaker 2: what do they what do they call them?

118
00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:56,800
Speaker 1: Them?

119
00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:59,599
Speaker 2: Little little sissy boys, sassy boy kind of like little

120
00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:02,240
Speaker 2: little bottom of the barrel type of you know, I

121
00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:02,720
Speaker 2: got it.

122
00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,480
Speaker 1: He ain't that type of dude. He ain't that.

123
00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:10,159
Speaker 2: But he his biggest flex is how he treats me,

124
00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:13,039
Speaker 2: shows up for me, and serves me. So in return,

125
00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:15,000
Speaker 2: I do the same for him. We both got two

126
00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:20,080
Speaker 2: different love languages. His output is acts of service, which babe.

127
00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:20,520
Speaker 1: Me that love.

128
00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:24,159
Speaker 2: That's love language, right, So that's why he'll he'll do

129
00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:27,200
Speaker 2: these things for me, and you know, the reciprocity is there.

130
00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:29,520
Speaker 1: But he gets fulfillment in me bossing up.

131
00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:32,359
Speaker 2: He gets a filment in watching me his studios and

132
00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:35,599
Speaker 2: watching me grow my brand and watching my numbers rise

133
00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:40,200
Speaker 2: and watching and again, you know, whenever, however, whatever it

134
00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:43,760
Speaker 2: looks like when he's gone, his money that he started

135
00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:45,360
Speaker 2: my company with continues.

136
00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:45,440
Speaker 1: To roll in.

137
00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:48,960
Speaker 2: Honey, the coins don't stop, right, And that's the vision

138
00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:49,919
Speaker 2: of soft life for me.

139
00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:50,560
Speaker 1: I like that.

140
00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,840
Speaker 2: But you know what, because this is my thing, because

141
00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:56,000
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. When I was first scrolling your page,

142
00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,240
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, girl, because what did you tell

143
00:06:58,279 --> 00:06:59,000
Speaker 2: him the girls to do?

144
00:06:59,320 --> 00:06:59,920
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

145
00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:04,599
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not, but I love that because that's

146
00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:06,120
Speaker 2: one thing I will honestly say.

147
00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,279
Speaker 1: Me Andrea have always preached on this show.

148
00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,400
Speaker 2: If y'all have watched this show from the beginning, y'all

149
00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:12,400
Speaker 2: know we used to talk about bdb's a big, big baller,

150
00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:15,680
Speaker 2: like y'l go kill everyone but me. Andre always talks

151
00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:18,040
Speaker 2: about this and this is why we gonna have a

152
00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:20,760
Speaker 2: good time today. It was like an air, like a

153
00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:23,040
Speaker 2: point where it was like I had men on my line.

154
00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:24,880
Speaker 2: They was giving me money, give me money. I wasn't

155
00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:28,520
Speaker 2: going buy bags. I wasn't going buy shoes. I was

156
00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,920
Speaker 2: getting out of debt. I paid my car off, pay

157
00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:33,800
Speaker 2: my credit cards off, all that stuff, you know what

158
00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:36,160
Speaker 2: I'm saying. So it was like girls was watching the

159
00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:38,240
Speaker 2: Sean been like, oh my god, look at legs. She

160
00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:40,480
Speaker 2: got this cheap ass wig. Or she's not having her way.

161
00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:43,240
Speaker 2: I'm out of debt, bitch, right, you know what I'm saying,

162
00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:45,280
Speaker 2: Like I'm not walking around here with a ten thousand

163
00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:47,640
Speaker 2: Chanel bag and not knowing where I'm gonna lay my

164
00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,720
Speaker 2: head at. Right, since I know plenty of women that

165
00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:54,600
Speaker 2: drive these top notch Tier one A plus cars and

166
00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:57,119
Speaker 2: could barely afford to keep it on the road, Like baby,

167
00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:00,160
Speaker 2: you're driving with no insurance and that's like you you

168
00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,560
Speaker 2: have the gaspone putting ten dollars to day. I mean,

169
00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:05,440
Speaker 2: because these days that it's all about perception, it's all

170
00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:08,440
Speaker 2: about what it looks like. People care way more about

171
00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,680
Speaker 2: looking like they have it than actually have it. Yes, yes,

172
00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:15,160
Speaker 2: and that's the secret rule of wealth. When you spend

173
00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,240
Speaker 2: your time looking like money, you really have a hard

174
00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:20,559
Speaker 2: time acquiring like money.

175
00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:22,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know that's a word.

176
00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:24,400
Speaker 2: It is because you're spending all your money so you

177
00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,280
Speaker 2: can look like it, and you're not putting any money

178
00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:28,480
Speaker 2: into anything that's you impress.

179
00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:29,600
Speaker 1: A bunch of people that are never pay your bills.

180
00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:32,640
Speaker 2: They're really beyond or people that don't even have it

181
00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:36,480
Speaker 2: themselves know even more. So I want to talk about

182
00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,920
Speaker 2: this real quick because obviously this is a Valentine's Day episode. Yes,

183
00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,640
Speaker 2: and you know, we all like today a certain type

184
00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:44,000
Speaker 2: of man.

185
00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:44,719
Speaker 1: We do.

186
00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,960
Speaker 2: So I always feel like because I'm a Leo and

187
00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:51,960
Speaker 2: Leo's are givers. We love like I love to do

188
00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:55,080
Speaker 2: stuff for my man. I like to like you don't

189
00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:59,040
Speaker 2: cook for him, like I like to help organize his space,

190
00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:01,520
Speaker 2: like I love to like when he comes like, babe,

191
00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:03,360
Speaker 2: you just always like get it right, you know what

192
00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:05,840
Speaker 2: I'm saying. So I want to talk about things that

193
00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:08,520
Speaker 2: you can gift or do for a man that has

194
00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:11,520
Speaker 2: everything materialistically because I always say, you have to go

195
00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:16,360
Speaker 2: a little deeper for a high value manet A, let

196
00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:20,040
Speaker 2: me say this, right, never go to buying him stuff

197
00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:23,959
Speaker 2: because it's way below his expectation of the woman.

198
00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:25,559
Speaker 1: Right, he already has the money.

199
00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:29,400
Speaker 2: So it's like, some of my toughest students are the

200
00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:31,199
Speaker 2: ones that have money, the ladies, my six and seven

201
00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:34,120
Speaker 2: figure earners, because they're like, I don't need your money,

202
00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:34,880
Speaker 2: but what do you need?

203
00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:35,360
Speaker 1: Do you want?

204
00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:37,160
Speaker 2: I mean, you could take your own trashout, but do

205
00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,320
Speaker 2: you want to? You could change your own tire, but

206
00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:40,280
Speaker 2: do you want it?

207
00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:41,080
Speaker 1: Right?

208
00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:44,640
Speaker 2: So, when it comes to, you know, showing up the

209
00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:47,280
Speaker 2: reciprocity for your man, it's not so much like whether

210
00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:49,320
Speaker 2: you're a leo or a cancer or what have you.

211
00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:52,320
Speaker 2: It's more based around what your love language is. People

212
00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:55,160
Speaker 2: don't realize how deep that go. There's an inward and

213
00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:58,880
Speaker 2: there's an outward right, so that outward love language is

214
00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,959
Speaker 2: what you just like, I love to cook for him,

215
00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:04,680
Speaker 2: I love to you know, acts of service is your

216
00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:07,280
Speaker 2: outward love language. However, if you get with a man

217
00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:10,559
Speaker 2: that's looking for words of affirmation as in word love language,

218
00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:12,120
Speaker 2: you and him are never going to be in a

219
00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:17,160
Speaker 2: filled relationship. Because he's not looking for you to you know,

220
00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:21,040
Speaker 2: cook and clean and that's my man is in alignment

221
00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:21,760
Speaker 2: with that where it's like.

222
00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:26,959
Speaker 1: You do what I will call the lady quick in

223
00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:27,880
Speaker 1: the fridge on floor.

224
00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:33,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, but his is those words of affirmation, quality time,

225
00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:37,600
Speaker 2: physical touch. He's very like physical friendly, Like even if

226
00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,199
Speaker 2: it's just holding his hand or rubbing his neck in

227
00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:45,559
Speaker 2: the car, that makes him feel like the motherfucking man, you.

228
00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:46,160
Speaker 1: Know what I mean.

229
00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,960
Speaker 2: And so you just have to find out what his

230
00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:52,439
Speaker 2: outward love language is, what makes him tick. And if

231
00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:55,240
Speaker 2: it's acts of service, then yeah, cooking for him, helping

232
00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:57,960
Speaker 2: him organize his stuff, those kind of things are going

233
00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:02,480
Speaker 2: to be like really really high on his expectations list.

234
00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,400
Speaker 2: You know, he's like ready to marry you now. Well

235
00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:09,200
Speaker 2: because you rearrange his damn drawers and cleaned out the

236
00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:11,480
Speaker 2: fridge and made him a nice little meal. That's everything

237
00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:13,880
Speaker 2: to him. And I always said that though, like I

238
00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:15,840
Speaker 2: feel like, because I think we talked about these on

239
00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:17,960
Speaker 2: another episode, I was saying, like, I feel like, if

240
00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:21,199
Speaker 2: your love language doesn't align with your partners, the relationship

241
00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:23,640
Speaker 2: want worse. And some people think that that's not true,

242
00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:25,480
Speaker 2: but I really feel like, yeah, because it's like, how

243
00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:28,360
Speaker 2: can you make the relationship work if like, I'm telling

244
00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:30,280
Speaker 2: you what I want and you can't give me that

245
00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:31,520
Speaker 2: and you can't reciprocate it.

246
00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,520
Speaker 1: As women, we tend to do and love how we

247
00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:35,080
Speaker 1: want to love.

248
00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:39,400
Speaker 2: We are very negligent of how the other person wants

249
00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:43,319
Speaker 2: or needs to be loved, and so we'll jump right

250
00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:46,720
Speaker 2: into like you know, throwing it around and flipping upside

251
00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:50,720
Speaker 2: down and from the ceiling hand and really he just

252
00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:53,000
Speaker 2: wants you to make him feel like Ladies are like

253
00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:54,240
Speaker 2: I don't need to boost no man's ego.

254
00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:57,600
Speaker 1: Actually you do, and that's why you're still you gotta

255
00:11:57,600 --> 00:12:00,160
Speaker 1: be okay with stroking your mano a little man, you

256
00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,319
Speaker 1: can stroke his you can stroke his ego.

257
00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:04,280
Speaker 2: Come on, but I's away was gonna say to what

258
00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:06,800
Speaker 2: you said earlier, like that makes him feel like the man.

259
00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:07,440
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

260
00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:10,000
Speaker 2: I love making my man feel like he's him me too,

261
00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:12,320
Speaker 2: like I love making him feel like because he is

262
00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,640
Speaker 2: to me. You know what I'm saying. And I also

263
00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:16,920
Speaker 2: I'm glad that you touched on that too, because when

264
00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:19,120
Speaker 2: I'm dating someone, that's one of the first things I

265
00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:21,040
Speaker 2: asked him, like, how do you want to be loved.

266
00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:23,680
Speaker 2: What does love look like to you? Like, what do

267
00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:25,719
Speaker 2: I need to do? Because I know how I want

268
00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:27,800
Speaker 2: to be loved and I explained it very well. This

269
00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,720
Speaker 2: is my expectations, this is what I want, Like I'm

270
00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:31,679
Speaker 2: very much.

271
00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:32,760
Speaker 1: Like I like.

272
00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:35,320
Speaker 2: I like small gestures like I want to come home

273
00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,480
Speaker 2: and you have roses sitting on the table. That's the

274
00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:39,600
Speaker 2: type of girl. Like My man sends me roses all

275
00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:41,920
Speaker 2: time because he knows that's what I like, cause that's

276
00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:45,040
Speaker 2: important to me. And I look at my past relationships

277
00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:47,240
Speaker 2: and it was like I'm asking for roses, they would

278
00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:50,800
Speaker 2: act like it's a goddamn sure. So I think it's important.

279
00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:53,720
Speaker 2: Especially when you're dealing with a high value man or

280
00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:56,640
Speaker 2: somebody who is rich or who has money, you have

281
00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,720
Speaker 2: to look deeper into it. Like me personally, when I

282
00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,199
Speaker 2: of a gift, I always think of like what can

283
00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:04,720
Speaker 2: make his day go by easier? Like when he wakes

284
00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:07,280
Speaker 2: up in the morning and he's a busy person, how

285
00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:09,880
Speaker 2: can I put something in his life that's gonna be

286
00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:12,400
Speaker 2: like make his work go by quicker, or what's gonna

287
00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:14,400
Speaker 2: help him And it doesn't even have to be your

288
00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:17,040
Speaker 2: money that does it right, You can set him up

289
00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:20,880
Speaker 2: on a meal plan with a you know, a healthy

290
00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:23,960
Speaker 2: food prep person who's gonna come and drop his meals

291
00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,720
Speaker 2: off in between. And it may not be breakfast unch,

292
00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:28,240
Speaker 2: it could be just lunch. Like, hey, baby, I know

293
00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,680
Speaker 2: you know you're skipping lunch because you don't have time

294
00:13:32,120 --> 00:13:34,080
Speaker 2: to make your food the day before. And I know

295
00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:37,360
Speaker 2: you don't really like you know, certain things, and I

296
00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:39,360
Speaker 2: know what you like and I know, so I went

297
00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:43,400
Speaker 2: ahead and found Susie Q who's the queen of meal prep,

298
00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:45,800
Speaker 2: and she's gonna hook you up all week. I want

299
00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:48,040
Speaker 2: you to try it out. Here's her number. Give her

300
00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:49,720
Speaker 2: a call or let me know when you're available.

301
00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:50,520
Speaker 1: I have her call you.

302
00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:54,280
Speaker 2: Now, you just put the financial aspect back in his hand,

303
00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:55,880
Speaker 2: so he's paying for it.

304
00:13:56,200 --> 00:14:01,840
Speaker 1: But the fact that, okay.

305
00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:05,120
Speaker 2: It's the fact that you didn't only think you were

306
00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:09,440
Speaker 2: a solutionist. We are always all about the struggle. We

307
00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:12,120
Speaker 2: forget to be the solutionists. We're always about the problem.

308
00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:15,200
Speaker 2: Us women, we love a good problem. We love a

309
00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:18,800
Speaker 2: good problem like we love a good cancelation. And when

310
00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:21,760
Speaker 2: you step outside of that being the problem, we're adding

311
00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:24,000
Speaker 2: to the problem and just start to solve.

312
00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:25,000
Speaker 1: Them for him.

313
00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:31,240
Speaker 2: You know, you already changes absolutely because the man got

314
00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:31,760
Speaker 2: some struggles.

315
00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:32,880
Speaker 1: The man got some problems.

316
00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:35,800
Speaker 2: He wouldn't have a woman if he didn't need something

317
00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:38,120
Speaker 2: in his life, right, he would just go hang out

318
00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:40,560
Speaker 2: with the homies. He would just go continue to be single,

319
00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:43,320
Speaker 2: enjoy his money, live his best life however he spent.

320
00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:47,400
Speaker 2: But he selected you. Women so worried about being chosen.

321
00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:51,720
Speaker 2: You've been selected and I don't know about you, but

322
00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:52,800
Speaker 2: I want to be selected, honey.

323
00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:55,000
Speaker 1: I want to be selectable me too. You know.

324
00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:57,480
Speaker 2: It's crazy because I feel like a lot of people

325
00:14:57,480 --> 00:14:59,200
Speaker 2: are probably on the comms gonna be like, oh, this

326
00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:02,400
Speaker 2: is a pig me com But I always say this, humans,

327
00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:04,840
Speaker 2: we were created in two's okay, it was Adam and

328
00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:07,800
Speaker 2: Eve together. We are not men even from the beginning

329
00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:10,560
Speaker 2: of time, to navigate this lie, this.

330
00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:11,720
Speaker 1: Life by ourselves.

331
00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:14,360
Speaker 2: So I feel like, what's the problem with somebody wanting

332
00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:16,960
Speaker 2: love or wanting to find that or yearning for that

333
00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:20,080
Speaker 2: partnership or wanting to be chosen. Now, it's different when

334
00:15:20,120 --> 00:15:22,800
Speaker 2: you get to the picky stuff, where like you overdoing it,

335
00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:25,200
Speaker 2: because I do feel like sometimes women can come off

336
00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:29,520
Speaker 2: desperate for a high value man, and that's that's when

337
00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:32,040
Speaker 2: they go out of their way to someone that they're

338
00:15:32,160 --> 00:15:33,320
Speaker 2: not in order.

339
00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:35,120
Speaker 1: To attract him. You don't have to do that.

340
00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:36,920
Speaker 2: You just need to figure out what he needs and

341
00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:38,800
Speaker 2: wants in his life, and then you make the decision

342
00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:43,040
Speaker 2: of am I that that do I want to do

343
00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:45,840
Speaker 2: what it takes and is required to be that. It's

344
00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:48,880
Speaker 2: a decision that you make. You are the one that's choosing.

345
00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:52,400
Speaker 2: You are the one that is picking. He's selected. There's

346
00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:54,080
Speaker 2: plenty of women out there that will tune it up

347
00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:56,880
Speaker 2: and do it for a dollar, but there's a very

348
00:15:57,000 --> 00:16:00,640
Speaker 2: few that will actually fulfill what he wants.

349
00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:02,200
Speaker 1: And needs in this day to day life.

350
00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:05,000
Speaker 2: They might fulfill a sweet, sweet fantasy, but they're not

351
00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:06,040
Speaker 2: fulfilling him.

352
00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:07,280
Speaker 1: And that's why men step out.

353
00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:09,840
Speaker 2: That's why they cheat, that's why they, you know, end

354
00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:12,160
Speaker 2: up in short term relationships for a couple of minutes

355
00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:14,040
Speaker 2: because you look good, you felt good for a second,

356
00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,640
Speaker 2: but you're not giving him the thing, squad, he needs,

357
00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:21,680
Speaker 2: the special something and it comes from And listen, let's

358
00:16:21,720 --> 00:16:23,600
Speaker 2: keep it real. All them people screaming pick me is

359
00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:26,520
Speaker 2: single anyways. And I think they throw that word around

360
00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:28,280
Speaker 2: so freely, like I think a lot of the time

361
00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:29,480
Speaker 2: people don't even really know.

362
00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,560
Speaker 1: What being a peak me is. They don't. You can

363
00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:33,840
Speaker 1: say one thing siding with a man and oh she's

364
00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:34,320
Speaker 1: a pick me.

365
00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:37,240
Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Iss your girl lex Pi and it's

366
00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:39,200
Speaker 2: your girldre and a cold and we are here to

367
00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:42,040
Speaker 2: talk to y'all about chime dot com. If you're a

368
00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:45,240
Speaker 2: person who wants to get paid on time, chalm dot

369
00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:46,800
Speaker 2: com is gonna make sure you can get paid up

370
00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:50,320
Speaker 2: to two days early. Yes, they offer so many benefits

371
00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:53,480
Speaker 2: like fee free, overdressed and like leck saige. You can

372
00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,480
Speaker 2: get your money up to two days early with qualifying

373
00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:59,240
Speaker 2: to rig the pozzi and they have something called spot me,

374
00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:01,440
Speaker 2: so you an over draft up to two hundred dollars

375
00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:05,400
Speaker 2: without fees. Okay, I'm telling y'all, we all have that time.

376
00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:06,600
Speaker 1: Where we need to stretch it to pay day a

377
00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:07,000
Speaker 1: little bit.

378
00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,320
Speaker 2: So you'll overdraft up to two hundred dollars and you

379
00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:12,280
Speaker 2: won't get fined for it. Okay, So signing up takes

380
00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:15,440
Speaker 2: just minutes. You're gonna go to chime dot com backslash

381
00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,919
Speaker 2: poor minds. That's c h I M E dot com

382
00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:23,439
Speaker 2: backslash poor minds. Get your money today, period, sign up

383
00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:26,760
Speaker 2: for Chime today. Joining takes just minutes. Get started at

384
00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:30,719
Speaker 2: chime dot com backslash poor minds. That's Chime dot com.

385
00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:33,879
Speaker 2: Backslash poor minds. Banking services and debit card provided by

386
00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:35,359
Speaker 2: the bank cor bank in a or Stride banking A

387
00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:38,359
Speaker 2: members FI e spoyanulgibility for quiments and overdraft limits om plaly.

388
00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:40,000
Speaker 2: Access to direct deposit fund depends on pair of a

389
00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:42,040
Speaker 2: network eight and with draw fees make amply well. I

390
00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:45,640
Speaker 2: think it's a difference between like, because I'm not into

391
00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:49,159
Speaker 2: the whole gender war thing, but I do sometimes.

392
00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:51,040
Speaker 1: Seeing see women like.

393
00:17:51,680 --> 00:17:54,720
Speaker 2: Agree with some of the most egregious statement that somebody

394
00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,399
Speaker 2: makes just because they want to be like on a

395
00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:58,320
Speaker 2: man's side about something because they think that's what makes

396
00:17:58,400 --> 00:17:58,920
Speaker 2: them cool.

397
00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:01,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they want be valued that way.

398
00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:03,760
Speaker 2: But I think there's a difference between that and just

399
00:18:03,760 --> 00:18:06,040
Speaker 2: standing up for like what's right and what's wrong, you

400
00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:08,360
Speaker 2: know what I mean, and wanting to please your man,

401
00:18:08,560 --> 00:18:10,320
Speaker 2: Like I think you can't be a pick me when

402
00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,919
Speaker 2: it comes to your man, or exactly, I think you

403
00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:14,880
Speaker 2: could absolutely be a pick of me when it comes

404
00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:17,919
Speaker 2: to random niggas. Right, you're just trying to side with

405
00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:19,840
Speaker 2: me and and want me and to choose you a

406
00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:22,600
Speaker 2: lot of men. That's completely different from wanting to please

407
00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:25,359
Speaker 2: the one man that you're we it's the girl that

408
00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:27,320
Speaker 2: does the most, where's the most just to get in

409
00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:29,880
Speaker 2: this section with all the suckers, get a free drink

410
00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:33,840
Speaker 2: or whatever. That's that's pick me poison. But when we're

411
00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:37,920
Speaker 2: talking about pleasing your person who doesn't want to do that,

412
00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:41,200
Speaker 2: it just doesn't make sense. Like those relationships don't last

413
00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:44,040
Speaker 2: very long when you don't have the mindset of servancy,

414
00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:47,200
Speaker 2: Like you've made submission this like cancer.

415
00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:48,840
Speaker 1: It's like a dirty disease.

416
00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:52,840
Speaker 2: And being submissive if you look up the definition of it,

417
00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:56,400
Speaker 2: it has absolutely nothing to do with your less than

418
00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:59,159
Speaker 2: me or you're you know, somehow above me.

419
00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:00,159
Speaker 1: It is not.

420
00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:04,600
Speaker 2: It is actually like in a way, assuming the role

421
00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:07,479
Speaker 2: of leadership by being a servant because you understand what

422
00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,200
Speaker 2: your person needs and so you allow them to lead

423
00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:14,080
Speaker 2: in those areas even though you you absolutely know the

424
00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:17,840
Speaker 2: direction you're going, you absolutely can steer into and pivot into.

425
00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:18,679
Speaker 1: That's the power.

426
00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:21,199
Speaker 2: Like your man says this and you somehow get him

427
00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:22,320
Speaker 2: to do that.

428
00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:23,679
Speaker 1: That's the real power right now.

429
00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:27,200
Speaker 2: But it doesn't take you know authority to do that,

430
00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:30,600
Speaker 2: because now you're fighting. Now it's a battle when you

431
00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:34,159
Speaker 2: are slightly submissive and step into servancy, which we all

432
00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:35,000
Speaker 2: struggle with girls.

433
00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:37,240
Speaker 1: So I started at the now.

434
00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:39,800
Speaker 2: Got into argument the other day because my little cutco

435
00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,000
Speaker 2: guy got stuck in the snow outside in my backyard,

436
00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:43,600
Speaker 2: drove into drove into my yard.

437
00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:45,880
Speaker 1: I said, baby, he came out the shower to help

438
00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:46,240
Speaker 1: the man.

439
00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:48,400
Speaker 2: Why make this man get out of the driver's seat

440
00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:50,560
Speaker 2: so I could do with myself. I had to check

441
00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:54,199
Speaker 2: myself two times, like you know better than this, and

442
00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:56,199
Speaker 2: so I when I came in the house the neck.

443
00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:57,400
Speaker 1: It was on my mind all night.

444
00:19:57,480 --> 00:19:59,320
Speaker 2: Next day, I put him to the side and I

445
00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:01,199
Speaker 2: was like, baby, I'm sorry, and he's like sorry for

446
00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:03,200
Speaker 2: what I was like, you know, I tend to do

447
00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:06,760
Speaker 2: this and and think that I'm relinquishing, you know, helping

448
00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:09,760
Speaker 2: you out and relinquishing the pain point. But really I'm

449
00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:13,199
Speaker 2: setting us back two steps by not allowing you to

450
00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:16,040
Speaker 2: just lead and do what you do best. I'm more

451
00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:17,720
Speaker 2: than happy to let you do it. Why am I

452
00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:20,480
Speaker 2: trying to fight it? I think submission requires trust to

453
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:26,120
Speaker 2: because like when you are submissive to someone, you are

454
00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:28,960
Speaker 2: one hundred percent. Trusting your man to lead y'all in

455
00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,119
Speaker 2: the right direction. Like you have to be able to

456
00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:34,639
Speaker 2: sit back with sometimes with your eyes closed and have

457
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:36,800
Speaker 2: him holding your hand and just trust that I'm gonna

458
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:38,399
Speaker 2: wake up and I'm gonna be in paradise. So we're

459
00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,720
Speaker 2: gonna be where we're supposed to end up at. But

460
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:44,640
Speaker 2: don't be dumb. Yeah, like you piking through a little bit?

461
00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:49,119
Speaker 1: You you you know purpose, you know what I mean,

462
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,320
Speaker 1: I might not stay ship right now? Right you slip up.

463
00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:56,520
Speaker 2: And go left a baby, I'm.

464
00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:00,000
Speaker 1: A little bit they keep your hand on. Then eat break. Okay.

465
00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,800
Speaker 1: So before we get to these next topics, ty, what

466
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 1: we sitting on today? Okay? Do you like it?

467
00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 2: Yeah?

468
00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:06,760
Speaker 1: Yes?

469
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,639
Speaker 3: Okay, So our guest likes rum, and I'm super excited

470
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 3: because we don't really use room a lot. We get

471
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,560
Speaker 3: the tequila, lavodka, maybe a little bourbon. So this one

472
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 3: and because it's Valentine's Day, high value, this is called

473
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,920
Speaker 3: the pussy Fairy. Okay, because I know I'm about to

474
00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:26,320
Speaker 3: go sprinkle a little dust, Okay, I know. So this

475
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,399
Speaker 3: one has some spice rum, We have some chinola, passion

476
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:30,080
Speaker 3: fruit liqueur.

477
00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 1: We have some lime juice.

478
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:34,439
Speaker 3: And we have some Ora Jot, which is like that

479
00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:37,120
Speaker 3: almond syrup that we like, and it's top and floated

480
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 3: with Anglestore bitters. So usually you only add a little

481
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 3: bit of Angle Store bitters, but that has like that room,

482
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:43,960
Speaker 3: and that's giving a little bit of that spice, a

483
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:44,879
Speaker 3: little bit of that herb.

484
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 1: Inside.

485
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,360
Speaker 3: We have it garnish with a fresh mint sprig and

486
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:49,320
Speaker 3: some pineapples.

487
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:53,359
Speaker 1: So cheers, cheer, cheer. This is very tasty.

488
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 2: And let me just let y'all know I tried to

489
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:59,400
Speaker 2: cheat on my little dry moment I'm having right now.

490
00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:01,639
Speaker 1: I said, slap you a little something? She said I not.

491
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 1: I said, damn it, stricting.

492
00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 2: This motherfucker's been trying to cheat this whole one. I'm

493
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: trying to cheat this whole month, and nobody will let

494
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,200
Speaker 2: me cheat.

495
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,719
Speaker 1: Cheat Ladies, don't cheat. I do, stay consistent.

496
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:19,639
Speaker 2: So y'all know, we have a new segment where we

497
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,560
Speaker 2: like to read the comments and shout y'all out because

498
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,000
Speaker 2: y'all have been, you know, so sweet to us lately.

499
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:28,800
Speaker 2: So we don't call this segment shout out to Underscore

500
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 2: Tree for coming up with this. The new segment should

501
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 2: be called the Open Bar When you read comments from

502
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 2: us the poor crew, so we are gonna officially call

503
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 2: this segment the open bar.

504
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 1: I like that. I like, yes, a new segment. Yes, girl,

505
00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 1: you fight away?

506
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 2: Okay, so read one of them, Drean Okay, So you

507
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 2: ladies are so intelligent. I love this podcast, very versatile topics.

508
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 2: I definitely enjoy it more when you guys are solo.

509
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 2: Also Les, I'm glad you mentioned the hair because I've

510
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 2: been wondering this entire show.

511
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 1: Love y'all.

512
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 2: Yes, y'all, my hair is about rich look hair at

513
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:05,400
Speaker 2: rich Look hair on Instagram.

514
00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 1: She's so sweet. Hated he grow up.

515
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,520
Speaker 2: I want to read one more so we can move

516
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 2: on because I got something to say. I got a

517
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 2: lot of topics I want to talk about today. It says,

518
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 2: oh wait, wait, where's the one I wanted to read?

519
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:17,879
Speaker 2: Oh here, I'm gonna read these two. I guess, it

520
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 2: says and Drena Cole really said her booty hole looked

521
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 2: like a chocolate starfish. I love Poor Minds. It can't

522
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:30,640
Speaker 2: confirm it does, okay, And I want to read one more.

523
00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:34,159
Speaker 2: It says, Nah, I've been been watching binge, watching Poor Minds,

524
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 2: and y'all too are truly a dynamic duo period.

525
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 1: I love it. Shaq and Kobe hello and all of that. Yes,

526
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:47,399
Speaker 1: shout out to y'all for the more and so much. Again,

527
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: we had a good time.

528
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 2: But okay, and I don't think so.

529
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 1: I think that is so calm.

530
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 2: Draa be cutting up the slut up queen.

531
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 1: I am the cut Somebody make her that T shirt please.

532
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 2: So now it's time to get into our topics. So

533
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 2: we got a lot of topics that we wanted to

534
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 2: talk to you about today. So for the number one

535
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: topic that we wanted to talk to you about, I

536
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 2: wanted to ask you, do you think that telling women

537
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 2: to date, which me and is devalue in love?

538
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:31,640
Speaker 1: Well? I think love is in action. It's not a feeling.

539
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:36,159
Speaker 1: Because like if if your.

540
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 2: Neighbor five blocks down dies, you don't give a damn.

541
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: You don't cry about it, you don't go to the funeral,

542
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 2: you don't send no flowers.

543
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 1: You're just looking to see who the next neighbor.

544
00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 2: Is moving in right right, But if your neighbor right

545
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 2: next door, the one that like you know, might mow

546
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 2: your grass, might make sure your bens is brought back in,

547
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 2: you know, might tell you when the people's coming to

548
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,160
Speaker 2: do the street clean in or whatever. When they die,

549
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 2: you're sad. Yeah, you're feeling in your heart, You're like damn.

550
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,439
Speaker 2: And that's because that person is doing things for you.

551
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:13,199
Speaker 2: So in my mind, love is an action. It is

552
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:16,440
Speaker 2: an act of service in some measurable way.

553
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: Right.

554
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: That's why you love her, you see. And by the

555
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 2: end of the show, you're gonna love me already.

556
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: No, girl, But in all.

557
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:27,679
Speaker 2: Honesty, right, the love has not begun because I have

558
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:31,119
Speaker 2: yet to do anything for you. As we open up

559
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 2: the show and I start saying things that are like wow,

560
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 2: change my perspective.

561
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: When I leave, you're gonna be.

562
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 2: Like, girl, I love you, girl, And it's because of

563
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 2: that action. It doesn't mean that I'm buying you things.

564
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 2: It doesn't always mean that I'm doing things. It doesn't

565
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:49,439
Speaker 2: always mean that, But it's some form of measurable action

566
00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 2: that creates love.

567
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 1: I mean, your grandma and grandpa.

568
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 2: Didn't love each other for fifty two years. They just

569
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 2: continue to serve one another. They continue to do things

570
00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,360
Speaker 2: for each other, and that's where love comes from. We'd

571
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 2: be so deep in the emotion a dick that we

572
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:05,360
Speaker 2: make that the love and the love landline. Hello, hang

573
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,760
Speaker 2: that shit up, Hang it up, Hang it up, because

574
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 2: that's how relationships end up never getting anywhere because there's

575
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 2: no action involved. So you just emotionally vested in one

576
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 2: another for no damn reason, and then you find somebody

577
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 2: else that does something for you. You go to that

578
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:23,360
Speaker 2: bar by yourself, and that man buys you a drink,

579
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 2: pulls out your cheir, calls valet for you. All of

580
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,679
Speaker 2: a sudden, you don't love your man no more. All

581
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: of a sudden, You're like, man, this guy that I

582
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:36,959
Speaker 2: met was amazing. Okay, so I agree with that I do.

583
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,920
Speaker 2: But on the other side because that's what I'm wondering too.

584
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 2: So that makes me feel like, if you can love

585
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,880
Speaker 2: somebody by measurable things that they do, does that mean

586
00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 2: that like, if somebody comes in and does things measurable

587
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,120
Speaker 2: for you that are more than what your man is doing,

588
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 2: not in you specifically, but anybody who's dealing with someone,

589
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 2: does that mean like you can be loving more than

590
00:26:58,880 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 2: one person.

591
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 1: Are you open to leave your relationship? That's that's the question.

592
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,919
Speaker 2: Are you open to leaving your relationship or are you

593
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 2: noticing the things that these other people are doing for you?

594
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 2: And bringing that back home and shamelessly plugging it in

595
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 2: communication with your person, right, because if they don't know

596
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,639
Speaker 2: you want something or need something, or like, if you

597
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 2: didn't tell me you like flowers, I wouldn't know, right,

598
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 2: So I'm never gonna show up with flowers.

599
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: I don't know that's what you like.

600
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 2: I'm assuming, just like the last girl I dated or whatever,

601
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 2: that you don't like flowers.

602
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 1: Flowers are tacky. They're calling it they low vibration or whatever.

603
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 2: So you have to be you know, in constant communication

604
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: with your person.

605
00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 1: Now.

606
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: Also, let's not be stupid and put ourselves in proximity

607
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 2: with people that I would never be around another man

608
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:42,360
Speaker 2: long enough for him to do more for me than

609
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 2: my own right period, right, because I'm not looking for

610
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 2: another man, you know what I mean, I'm not looking

611
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 2: for somebody to feel avoid We do that when there's

612
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 2: something missing. We don't do that just because like women

613
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 2: are really not. Women don't cheat, so you know.

614
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: We not out here. Just go with it. Yeah. See

615
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 1: now it's official.

616
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: None of us women cheat at anywhere in the whorld.

617
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:11,360
Speaker 1: When you look at a woman.

618
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 2: You know she's faithful, and she faithful because she got

619
00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: fulfilled men at home that does things for her. And

620
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 2: the ones that don't, they're the ones that slide around

621
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 2: and find something else and fill other shoes. And they

622
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 2: want some dick, and they want some dollars, and they

623
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 2: want whatever they're missing.

624
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,640
Speaker 1: That's what they go hunting for. Right So, fellas, let's

625
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 1: not be stagnant.

626
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: Let's not be you know, let's not show up empty

627
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 2: handed in the actionable account. Make sure that that thing

628
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 2: is filled all the time, and you can never have

629
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 2: a problem. You can put me in a room full

630
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 2: of men right now, dicks down to the floor, and

631
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 2: I'd be like, please get me out of here.

632
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 1: Right right now. I want to escort you out.

633
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 2: But but I just I don't find desire in other

634
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 2: people pleasing me. It doesn't do anything for me, doesn't

635
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 2: excite me, It doesn't like I don't I'm not thirsty

636
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 2: for that attention because I get.

637
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: All of that and then some Yeah.

638
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 2: And I always wonder why people stay in situations if

639
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 2: you aren't completely fulfilled, if you feel like you with

640
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 2: this man, but you have to go outside of him

641
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 2: for other things like oh, maybe he's not buying you

642
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 2: enough gifts, or maybe he doesn't show acts of service,

643
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 2: or maybe you know y'all don't share the same love language,

644
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 2: and so you looking for it in other people? Why

645
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 2: stay in the relationship because I don't want Are people

646
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 2: afraid that they will never find what they're lifing?

647
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 1: Don't want to be alone?

648
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 2: And we know we're not enough for that next one, right,

649
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 2: you know that the next guy that does all those

650
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 2: things that those we know deep down inside. When I say,

651
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 2: you know, people are gonna rip me for this, Like

652
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 2: you said, women aren't enough, We ain't. We show up

653
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 2: half assed all the time and expect somebody to show

654
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 2: out for us.

655
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 1: Agree with that when we.

656
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 2: When we put ourselves together and you become a high

657
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 2: value woman, we have some shit to say. When you

658
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 2: sit down, when you have something to offer, when you're

659
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 2: in the room, when you change the dynamic of a room,

660
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 2: when you walk god of it, that is what elevates.

661
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: You in your on your on your woman's spectrum.

662
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 2: And so all the men are looking towards that woman

663
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 2: right when that walks in, creates impact and leaves right.

664
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 2: We have a tendency of looking for men that are

665
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 2: above what we're willing to do. And then that's when

666
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 2: the pic me comes in right, because most women aren't that.

667
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:28,320
Speaker 2: We don't operate in excellence all the time, and we

668
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 2: are looking for to receive, but there's no reciprocity. And

669
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 2: that's that's when you know. We stay in those relationships

670
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 2: because they're easy. They're comfortable. They don't require you to

671
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:42,719
Speaker 2: stretch and grow and evolve and and leap, you know.

672
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 2: They they require you to just sit comfortable with you

673
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 2: and pretty. And that's what I was gonna say about.

674
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 2: I was in a situation like that on and off

675
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 2: to where I'm like that. I mean, he wasn't hitting

676
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 2: none of the marks, like none of them, but it

677
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 2: was like I loved I felt like I loved him

678
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 2: so much, and I was like, I'm gonna make this

679
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 2: work because this is my person. I convinced myself that

680
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 2: this was my person. But it was like once I

681
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 2: finally really decided to like, let that go, and this

682
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 2: is no shade to him, because he's an amazing man,

683
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 2: just not the man for me. I realized how much

684
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 2: I grew as a woman as a person, but I

685
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 2: was out of my comfort zone. Let me ask you

686
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 2: a real question, what made you convince yourself that he

687
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 2: was the one.

688
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 1: That saw me, you know, was he just available for you?

689
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: Was it?

690
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 2: I think at the time that I had met him,

691
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 2: it was I had just moved to well, I had

692
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 2: lived in Houston, Like we were dating probably like eight

693
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 2: months before I moved out here, and I think it

694
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 2: was just it was comfortable because I moved out here.

695
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 2: I didn't have any money, I didn't really have much

696
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 2: going on, and I felt like he accepted me.

697
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: It was a lot of trauma bonding too that we had.

698
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 2: It was a lot of trauma bonding, Like we were

699
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 2: always going like he was going through something. I was there,

700
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 2: vice versa. I was going to do it and he

701
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 2: was there, and I just felt like, Okay, he knows me,

702
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 2: he knows me, he gets me, He sees me like

703
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 2: everybody else sees lexp On poor Monk, for he really

704
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 2: sees my heart. And it's like, but you've had no

705
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 2: growth with this person. Like I felt like when I

706
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 2: got out of that relationship, I was like even I

707
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 2: had gotten another relationship with somebody after him, and I'm like,

708
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 2: I really don't know how to be a partner to somebody,

709
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 2: Like I don't know how to be a good woman.

710
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: And it's not I'm not blaming that on him, but

711
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 2: it was just it was no growth of me as

712
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 2: a woman to the partner I am now to my man,

713
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: like he saw if my ex saw the things out

714
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 2: of people, be like, who the hell is this bit?

715
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? You know what I'm saying, But

716
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 2: that's what I'm saying. Like I was the one like

717
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 2: seeking out, going on vacation with this man, going on

718
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 2: doing this, going on trips with him, Be like what

719
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 2: the fuck like? And I'm just like, well, I'm just

720
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 2: not happy. I'm not satisfied. It's like this is just

721
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 2: not the area he's supposed to be in. Because but

722
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 2: it was comfortable. We tend to lean into comfort. I

723
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 2: didn't have to do it. I didn't have to show

724
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 2: up as a woman. I didn't have to be a

725
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 2: partner to him because he was accepting it. He was

726
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 2: both accepting bullshit for each other, so it was easy.

727
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 2: Now I'm challenged, like I have to show up and

728
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 2: I have to be I have to do these things

729
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 2: for this man because he's strict, not strict, but his expectation,

730
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 2: so what he wants just like this is.

731
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:16,160
Speaker 1: What he wants.

732
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 2: Absolutely okay, absolutely mine too. And when he don't get

733
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 2: it inside and politely tell me. Sometimes not so politely,

734
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 2: but he'll just keep it real and be like, listen,

735
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 2: this is what I need from you, and I need

736
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 2: you to deliver. Like he'll never he'll never tear me

737
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 2: apart in it like you're not doing this, you're not

738
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 2: doing that, you know, but he'll he'll pour in in

739
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 2: a way that makes me want to expand, It makes

740
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 2: me want to stretch, because we do get comfortable. I've

741
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 2: been four and a half years in my relationship. We

742
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 2: get comfortable and before you know it, like you know,

743
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 2: things start piling up and more of this and more

744
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 2: of this and more, and you don't realize that it

745
00:33:56,200 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 2: ain't what he want until he tells you and then

746
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 2: you fix it.

747
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: Some men never tell you. They'll just walk away or

748
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 1: walk away or leave. Yeah.

749
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 2: I've definitely had, you know, a heartbreak or two in

750
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 2: my life. I was like, what happened? Why we can't

751
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:15,760
Speaker 2: fix it? We can't make it work?

752
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 1: No, because you ain't working, You ain't clocked in in

753
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 1: six months? Right, that's true?

754
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 2: I mean, and you was right, like the relationships that

755
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 2: make you grow and make you take accountability.

756
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: That shit is hard. Like people really.

757
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 2: Don't talk about that because it's always in my opinion,

758
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,399
Speaker 2: because I'm a person who I feel like I never

759
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 2: wanted to, Like I ran away from commitment for like

760
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 2: such a long time, and now that I'm like in

761
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 2: a relationship and I've been pretty much in it for

762
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 2: like a year and like probably a year and a

763
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:48,319
Speaker 2: few months, okay, and it's so hard because it's been

764
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 2: so many times where I just wanted to walk away

765
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 2: because that's the easy thing to do. It's way harder

766
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 2: to change things about yourself, especially when somebody is telling you.

767
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 2: Sometimes somebody who you somebody who cares about you, and

768
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 2: somebody did you care about but human nature, you can't

769
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 2: help but still feel attached. And it's harder to stay

770
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:09,720
Speaker 2: in situations and really change those things about yourself because

771
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 2: it makes you so uncomfortable.

772
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: Like me, me go taking that. Let's come back to this,

773
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 1: are not wrong.

774
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:21,879
Speaker 2: I do want to talk about the different So because

775
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,359
Speaker 2: I seen this video that just went viral. This girl,

776
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 2: she's a TikToker, she's like twenty eight or twenty nine,

777
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 2: and she was telling the story of how she met

778
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 2: her husband. So basically she says she was sitting at

779
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 2: the bar, and she was selling pussy basically, yeah, and

780
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 2: she told the man her pricing, like a thousand dollars

781
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 2: or something. But they ended up hitting it off, having

782
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 2: a great conversation. And now like they're married. Let me

783
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,760
Speaker 2: tell you why that happened. Now, I don't know specifically

784
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 2: who you're talking about. You wanna tell me after that, Yeah,

785
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 2: but here's what happened. It's not what she was doing

786
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 2: at the time, it's who the bitch was becoming. Okay,

787
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:56,920
Speaker 2: she might have been sitting there selling pussy at the

788
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 2: time because that's what she knew how to do, but

789
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,319
Speaker 2: she has some other things that was brewing and going on.

790
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 2: She has some other ambitions, some other incentives that.

791
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 1: She was after that.

792
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,840
Speaker 2: She tied him to during that conversation because if she

793
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 2: sat and said nothing outside of like this kuci this kuchi,

794
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:14,760
Speaker 2: she wouldn't have got the coins, she wouldn't have married

795
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: the man.

796
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: He wouldn't see anything in her. There's no substance there.

797
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 2: But because he sat with her and gave her the

798
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,840
Speaker 2: opportunity because it's easy to buy some cucie.

799
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:24,800
Speaker 1: Coucie is forty dollars.

800
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 2: A pack of black and mouse and what and a

801
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 2: Swiss except couchie, I'm.

802
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 1: And so no, you definitely don't. You don't even have

803
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:39,879
Speaker 1: to spend anything. You some chocolate and you in there, right.

804
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 2: So that woman, whoever it was, and I know this

805
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 2: from coaching thousands of women all over the globe.

806
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: I have students in damn near every country.

807
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 2: Okay, what's happening is that man is sitting down with

808
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 2: an expectation of who this woman is and she hit

809
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 2: him with a whole one eighty and was like, but

810
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:00,799
Speaker 2: I'm also this, and I'm also a firing to do that,

811
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 2: and I'm also working on this. When a woman has

812
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 2: a plan for business, you don't need a business plan. Okay,

813
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 2: I've made like a million dollars in my company in

814
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 2: the last couple of years, and you don't need a

815
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 2: business plan. Eventually, you might when you're you know, dealing

816
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 2: with with actual products that you're shipping and whatever. But

817
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 2: or you need you need, you know, some capital, But

818
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,840
Speaker 2: all you need is a plan for business. You just

819
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 2: gotta wake up and be like, I want to do

820
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 2: a podcast. Oh, I'm gonna go on Amazon and order

821
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 2: this backdrop. Oh I'm gonna and you might not even

822
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,359
Speaker 2: have those things accomplished. But if you can speak to it,

823
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 2: pay attention. If you can speak to it, he will

824
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: sponsor it. And if you share it with him, opens

825
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 2: the wallet every single time because he wants to see

826
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 2: you win. High value men, not all men. Other men

827
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 2: would be like, damn, that's that's real. Wow, you know

828
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 2: how you gonna do that? When you're gonna do that,

829
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 2: by right. But if you hit him with your goals,

830
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 2: and he's a high value man, if you hit with

831
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,800
Speaker 2: your goals and when you want to accomplish these goals,

832
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: by okay, this.

833
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,280
Speaker 1: Is t I charged ten thousand for us. So if

834
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: you listen and.

835
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 2: Listen now, you hit him with your goals, you give

836
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 2: him a timeline and you let him know what you're

837
00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 2: working on, not what you want to do, but what

838
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 2: you are doing. That man will show up and show out,

839
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 2: and the wilet in the account opens right up. I

840
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 2: agree with it, So I will say though there's a

841
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:28,879
Speaker 2: lot of men who have money. Though that get mistaken

842
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 2: for a high value man, because I would say he

843
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,799
Speaker 2: doesn't make high value. Oh no, Because there's a lot

844
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 2: of men with money out here. They want you to

845
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 2: depend on them. They do not want. They don't want

846
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 2: to help you, they want you to So how can

847
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,919
Speaker 2: women tell the difference between Because like a man will

848
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 2: do for you as far as he might buy you

849
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 2: a bag, you know, he might give you a little money,

850
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:48,320
Speaker 2: but he never gonna give you enough to really invest

851
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 2: in your other lists to do something. That's because women

852
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 2: make the mistake of allowing the man to lead and determine.

853
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 2: When we find a man with some money, we get

854
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 2: all excited, likeuji is instant focos.

855
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: He starts swating, like sneezed on you.

856
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 2: Yet right, he brought you to drinks at the bar,

857
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 2: you had a little conversation. Now your coochie is dripping

858
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 2: down your ankles. So what happens is we move too

859
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,959
Speaker 2: soon and we get too excited too fast. Because Manchon

860
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 2: never had no money, right, So when you that's why

861
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 2: the women that do operate different than the women that don't.

862
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 2: Right when you ain't never had it, you're impressed by

863
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 2: the littlest things. But if you lead with what it

864
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 2: is you're working on, and you drop those cues to

865
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 2: him and you let him know what it is that

866
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 2: you desire, and you're not talking about bags and shoes,

867
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 2: He's gonna treat you basic and bag and shoe you

868
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 2: to death because that's.

869
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 1: What he knows is easy. Right.

870
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 2: He's not being challenged, so he's not gonna rise to

871
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 2: the challenge, you understand. But when you set a tone

872
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,359
Speaker 2: in the very beginning, I always say, speak to it

873
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 2: early and often, because if you sit down with a

874
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,280
Speaker 2: chick and she's talking about fashion and shoes and clothes,

875
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: and you're gonna take her to Chanelle.

876
00:39:57,800 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 1: If you sit down with a chick and she's talking.

877
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:02,719
Speaker 2: About building in her business and not quite having enough

878
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 2: in her bank account to buy this building or make

879
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 2: this next move, your goal is to now help her

880
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 2: achieve that thing, because you want a piece of pussy.

881
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 2: And so if you want to get that piece of pussy,

882
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 2: you're going to help her hit her goal. So she

883
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 2: gets all excited. You could spend thirty minutes in Chanelle

884
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 2: and get your bag and walk out, and it's done,

885
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 2: and now you're like legs to the ceiling in the

886
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 2: hotel room. I mean red bottoms on steal about these shoes.

887
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: You get blown out in these shoes.

888
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:32,280
Speaker 2: But then you go home to your broke ass apartment

889
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 2: with your bad credit score and you're a little hoopie

890
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 2: and whatever.

891
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 1: Even those girls that don't got they got some money because.

892
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 2: They had a man buy them a car or whatever,

893
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 2: and they stunting and they think that shit is cute.

894
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 2: But then men don't invest in you, and you're like, why, coach,

895
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 2: why these men don't give me no money? Because you're

896
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:51,440
Speaker 2: not investable? I don't know if that's the word, but

897
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 2: it is now. It is giving him something to invest in.

898
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 2: There's no value there, So where do you want him

899
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 2: to He's a businessman, girl, He's a businessman. He's not

900
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 2: just throwing his money out there unless he's in a

901
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 2: strip club.

902
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 1: He is not. He's not.

903
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 2: He's wise with his income. He's not just going to

904
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 2: spend it on somebody. So do you feel like our

905
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 2: society though, like focuses on that a little too much? Though,

906
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,479
Speaker 2: like what men have and what you know what I'm saying,

907
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 2: do you think that that's like become a focal point.

908
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:23,240
Speaker 1: It's kind of messing up dating.

909
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:28,240
Speaker 2: I think it's more of what men will give us

910
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:30,359
Speaker 2: when it comes to showing out.

911
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,760
Speaker 1: The Graham has done it again.

912
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 2: Yes, and a girl would love There's nothing they want

913
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 2: more than to go sit in channel with their little

914
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 2: drink and little.

915
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 4: Post a booverrang the loveless.

916
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:54,359
Speaker 2: The broke batties love a good and and they'll walk

917
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 2: out with a ten thousand dollars Chanel without a single

918
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 2: line of credit to go in the wallets stick in

919
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:02,399
Speaker 2: the bag, and they crumbling their money up and putting

920
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 2: it in the zipper slot. Can't they just crumbling it out,

921
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:10,280
Speaker 2: just folding it in however way disrespectful to the coins,

922
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:11,240
Speaker 2: and and.

923
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 1: They love that.

924
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 2: Get up, not me, not me, Take me to where

925
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 2: I'm going to buy some property. Take me to where

926
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 2: I'm investing into my longevity of my account, not just

927
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 2: quick fast hearing now. So we get obsessed over what

928
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:31,320
Speaker 2: this man can instantly do for us, like ooh girl, because.

929
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 1: We don't know how to keep a man.

930
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 2: So we like get them and get them quick, get

931
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 2: them quick, get them now, get them fast, and that's

932
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:40,399
Speaker 2: how we move. But if you're invested in yourself, you're

933
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 2: gonna look for longevity. And when you look for longevity,

934
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 2: you're strategic in what you do.

935
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,759
Speaker 1: Sis you not just out here like oh, let's go

936
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 1: to Chanelle. You're like, hey, listen.

937
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 2: As much as I would love that twelve thousand dollars

938
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 2: Chanel bag. I have been saving up for a property

939
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 2: because I really want to take my hair brand to

940
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 2: the next level and.

941
00:42:58,880 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 1: Speak to it.

942
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,720
Speaker 2: I've looked at this location, this location, in this location,

943
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 2: and I really want this one, but they want this

944
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 2: much down on the property and I don't have that

945
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 2: much yet, especially if I want to put chairs in

946
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:13,399
Speaker 2: it and design it and decorate it. That man is like, well, okay, baby,

947
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 2: let me go ahead, and how much you need for

948
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 2: the check?

949
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:18,479
Speaker 1: Because women don't talk that hot shit.

950
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, they talk hot girl shit, and there's a difference,

951
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 2: and I think a lot of women definitely be missing that.

952
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 2: Like if you ask a man to invest in you,

953
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 2: and you should want a man to invest in you

954
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 2: to where he's helping you make more money. Because even

955
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 2: if the relationship don't work out, now you set up.

956
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:35,719
Speaker 2: Now you straight and you can make your own way.

957
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:37,879
Speaker 2: You can go by yourself. A few more Chanel bag,

958
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 2: a Ninka bout you a Chanel bag, and then.

959
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: That seed bag a girl. Now you're on the real

960
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: real trying to get rid of the stand.

961
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 2: BA smart, Hello you are You're a pop smart princess

962
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:53,320
Speaker 2: like anybody wants crazy?

963
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 1: What okay?

964
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 2: So talk about because we do have mail listeners as well,

965
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 2: talk about what dating would look like for you know,

966
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 2: a guy who's maybe making just like one hundred thousand

967
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 2: a year, you know, and he wants He's a high

968
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 2: value man in every aspect of it. He's a good guy,

969
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,480
Speaker 2: but maybe he doesn't have the income to be, you know,

970
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 2: given ten thousand dollars for a woman to you know,

971
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 2: invest in her bap. So what does dating look like

972
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:18,879
Speaker 2: for Like the appage one hundred thousand is not even

973
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:21,399
Speaker 2: an average person. Let's bring let's keep it so, let's

974
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:23,799
Speaker 2: let's keep it real. For the average person who is

975
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 2: making fifty thousand dollars, that's a good person.

976
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 1: What does dating look like for them?

977
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 2: So, if you're making fifty thousand dollars, don't date. I'm

978
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 2: just being for real. You're not ready to date again,

979
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:35,680
Speaker 2: I'm with you with you're not ready to date, and

980
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:40,040
Speaker 2: you're not ready to date because courtship costs. Everything costs.

981
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:42,879
Speaker 2: You can go for twenty two walks in the park,

982
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,279
Speaker 2: but eventually Surety is.

983
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 1: Gonna need a zip of something. She's gonna be thirsty.

984
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 1: She did a bottle of waters three dollars in Atlanta.

985
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:51,359
Speaker 1: Let him not play.

986
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:55,919
Speaker 2: So if you don't have any expendable cash, don't date,

987
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 2: and whatever that looks like for you. You might only make

988
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 2: fifty thousand, but you live in a shoe and I

989
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:00,959
Speaker 2: you got expendable cash.

990
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

991
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying you gotta pay to play to

992
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 2: be with a woman. I'm simply saying courtship costs. It

993
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 2: is not free. It's not date like some of us

994
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 2: can't even take our homegirl out.

995
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: And be and it's free.

996
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 2: You're peeling off a little check for shortage. So it's like,

997
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 2: why do we expect anything else of women with a

998
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 2: man like fellas if you're broke, don't date you're not

999
00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 2: ready to date yet, or get you a bottom of

1000
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 2: the barrel bitch that's gonna date you when you have

1001
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 2: no money.

1002
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:29,359
Speaker 1: That's what I was about.

1003
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:32,760
Speaker 2: She doesn't want anything funny for you, and she doesn't

1004
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 2: have the expectation.

1005
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you this right now.

1006
00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 2: Enjoy it while it lasts, because eventually you're gonna want

1007
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 2: to run because she doesn't stretch you. She doesn't make

1008
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:44,359
Speaker 2: you the man that you need to become in order

1009
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 2: to thrive.

1010
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 1: In this world. She doesn't set expectations for you.

1011
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 2: She allows you to be the stagnant dude in the

1012
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 2: same gens for three days, you know what I'm saying,

1013
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 2: And you be cutting up talking about man, you.

1014
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 1: Still got it, wear the same jeans for three days.

1015
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,800
Speaker 1: Had I don't want that either.

1016
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 2: Like I don't know about y'all, but I've dated drug

1017
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 2: dealers in my past, and that's que when you're in

1018
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 2: your twenties. You're thirty five years old. I am not

1019
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 2: dating no damn drug dealer. Don't know who's gonna run

1020
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 2: up in my door, don't know who's what's gonna happen

1021
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: in the streets when we out together. You can't protect me.

1022
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter how much protection you.

1023
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 1: Have on you. You can't protect me.

1024
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 2: If that's what you're doing and that's your motive, and

1025
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 2: that's that's how you get your money. And let's be honest,

1026
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 2: I don't really know many rich drug dealers because they

1027
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 2: live that life. It's spending it as fast as it's

1028
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 2: coming and spending it. And so you might come up

1029
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:41,400
Speaker 2: on a little a little come up and a man

1030
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 2: that's like, hey, baby, here's twenty bands, and if you're

1031
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 2: smart with it, you'll go do with it what you

1032
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 2: what you know you need to do.

1033
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:50,440
Speaker 1: But when you're with a hustler, you don't. You just

1034
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:51,720
Speaker 1: trying to keep up with the Joneses.

1035
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 2: You need to take you out his homies all got

1036
00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 2: girls in Chanelle and Balenciaga's and whatever, and you're like, damn,

1037
00:46:58,840 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 2: I need to go get that.

1038
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 1: And so you go take your little money and you

1039
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 1: go shopping to make you a little boomerang.

1040
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 2: And now your bank account is suffering until he gives

1041
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 2: you another chunk. You don't know how long that's gonna be,

1042
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 2: how long that's gonna last. So realistically, you just have

1043
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:18,520
Speaker 2: to be wise with who you date, because as a man,

1044
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 2: you can easily slip into a situation with a woman

1045
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,759
Speaker 2: that keeps you stagnant at the bottom. If you get

1046
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:27,800
Speaker 2: with a woman that's moving and she's got when I

1047
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 2: stay there, motion mouth, I got mouse, I got a

1048
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 2: little seasoning.

1049
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:36,760
Speaker 1: On the age to hey like fine wine.

1050
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:39,839
Speaker 2: But yeah, when you got a little motion and you're

1051
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 2: in action, you can elevate a man easily, one that

1052
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,360
Speaker 2: wants to be. But if you're making fifty K and

1053
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 2: you're looking for one of these.

1054
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:52,960
Speaker 1: You're not getting that. You're not getting that.

1055
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:54,759
Speaker 2: And it's not about my shoes, coross this and my

1056
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 2: mac makeup. It ain't about that. It's about what experiences

1057
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 2: can you do for me? How can you l evate

1058
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:04,359
Speaker 2: me mentally? If you're still stuck at fifty K and comfortable?

1059
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 2: Fifty K is not comfortable. I've made fifty K before,

1060
00:48:08,520 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 2: and baby, I was getting yellow tags on the door

1061
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 2: all the time, and I elect you're about.

1062
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:14,279
Speaker 1: To be shut off.

1063
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 2: It's just a really, it's not it's not fun to

1064
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:18,720
Speaker 2: be at fifty.

1065
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 1: It's nice.

1066
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:21,800
Speaker 2: So for the fellas that's making fifty, use this little

1067
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 2: word to inspire you to tap into the things that

1068
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 2: you know. Knowledge is the new currency for real, for real,

1069
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 2: you could sell knowledge like this. And so whatever you've

1070
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,879
Speaker 2: experienced in whatever line of work you got, I mean,

1071
00:48:34,920 --> 00:48:37,239
Speaker 2: we got fellas running the show, you know what I'm saying.

1072
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 2: They behind the scenes, on the cameras they're doing. They

1073
00:48:39,719 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 2: can teach all of that to someone else and make

1074
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:45,320
Speaker 2: money just from that alone, just from that little knowledge alone,

1075
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 2: big knowledge really, right, So like these fellas underestimate the

1076
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:52,840
Speaker 2: power of what they've been through and their experiences and

1077
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:55,320
Speaker 2: they think that, oh, it's just you know, an experience,

1078
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 2: just oh I did this and tuck it in the back. No,

1079
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 2: you can sell those secrets to what you did and

1080
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:03,919
Speaker 2: what you've experienced and make more money. Yeah. People get

1081
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 2: start offended too when you say that they shouldn't they

1082
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 2: when they don't have no money, but under agree with you.

1083
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:15,400
Speaker 1: But they're all grown people. Oh yeah, it's never like

1084
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:20,480
Speaker 1: yeah when you're wrong. Yeah, because I feel like your

1085
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:21,720
Speaker 1: focus need to be elsewhere.

1086
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,840
Speaker 2: If you don't have any money, you can't even enjoy life, no, you,

1087
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:26,560
Speaker 2: and so you damn sure can't enjoy.

1088
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:27,680
Speaker 1: A woman because a woman need things.

1089
00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 2: Women needing It affects your mental your challenges that them.

1090
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:36,160
Speaker 1: Man may be quick in.

1091
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:38,319
Speaker 2: The bad too three seconds and they be like, oh

1092
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 2: my god, that was You're like I didn't even I.

1093
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: Didn't even blink twice yet, Like what is happening?

1094
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 2: And it's because that's stagnant mentality. It affects you in

1095
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 2: every area. Your friends are terrible, you have no loyalty

1096
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 2: in your surple, you got you know, issues within your family,

1097
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:59,359
Speaker 2: like and I'm not saying that these things don't happen

1098
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:03,280
Speaker 2: when you have money, but they occur much more often

1099
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 2: and last much longer when the pain point is how much.

1100
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 1: Do I get paid? Like it's real?

1101
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 2: So for the fellas, and now, mind you, you don't

1102
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 2: have to be the richest man in the room. You

1103
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 2: just have to be the one most willing. I say

1104
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:20,880
Speaker 2: this to my students all the time. Stop searching for

1105
00:50:20,920 --> 00:50:22,480
Speaker 2: the richest man in the room, because we all not

1106
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 2: getting a millionaire. I don't care how bad you are.

1107
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 2: We're not all bagging the CEO of somewhere clean enough,

1108
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 2: speaky ohs.

1109
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:33,319
Speaker 1: I said this a long time ago on the show.

1110
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,960
Speaker 2: I said, y'all will be chasing this man worth ten

1111
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 2: million dollars and he's not gonna give you nothing, and

1112
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 2: you're passing up the guy who makes one hundred and

1113
00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 2: fifty thousand. I will take you around the world stress

1114
00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 2: with him. I tell this story all the time. I

1115
00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:47,319
Speaker 2: know y'all heard it a thousand times. But I went

1116
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 2: on the first day to Paris one time, and the

1117
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 2: guy he had he worked for Google, He made six figures,

1118
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:54,799
Speaker 2: he had a good job, he loved to travel and

1119
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 2: he would love taking me place. And that was my

1120
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 2: first time doing something like that. But I was like,

1121
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:00,840
Speaker 2: he wasn't no millionaire.

1122
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:01,920
Speaker 1: It simply was smart.

1123
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 2: He know, you booked the flight on a Tuesdays eighty,

1124
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 2: you leave on Thursday, you come back on Sunday, Monday.

1125
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 2: He just knew that we had a comb and I

1126
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:12,600
Speaker 2: just know her because we were talking about traveling earlier.

1127
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 2: And I said, you know when he bought me that flight,

1128
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 2: that flight was like four hundred some dollars. You know,

1129
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 2: he's two thousand and seventy. Me was like, oh my god,

1130
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:22,279
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. So it was like, but

1131
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 2: I feel like, if you have a man who is giving,

1132
00:51:26,200 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 2: that's gonna.

1133
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 1: Mean more any time than you're dealing with.

1134
00:51:29,680 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 2: Oh, because he's a millionaire, I need to have him

1135
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:35,440
Speaker 2: if he's not making a hundred thousand dollars in this

1136
00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:38,240
Speaker 2: a period month. And I can't down' the biggest mistake

1137
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:41,400
Speaker 2: with you it is because honestly, the more money you have,

1138
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 2: the smarter you are with it, the longer you hold

1139
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:45,480
Speaker 2: on to it and the less you release it.

1140
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:48,319
Speaker 1: So when you are in that you.

1141
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:51,759
Speaker 2: Know, one hundred thousand dollars six figure realm, those men

1142
00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 2: are willing because they have yet to find a woman

1143
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:59,040
Speaker 2: that is going to multiply that six figure. They find

1144
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 2: women that are gonna take from that six figures, but

1145
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 2: they rarely find one that will multiply it. And that's

1146
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 2: what we do, that's what we're born and designed to do.

1147
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:08,240
Speaker 1: We pro create, we multiply.

1148
00:52:08,760 --> 00:52:11,799
Speaker 2: And so when a woman meets a man that is

1149
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:14,880
Speaker 2: not the richest in the room, all you have to

1150
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:17,280
Speaker 2: do is make sure he's the one most willing. Bella's

1151
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 2: if that's you and you're like, damn, I ain't got

1152
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 2: you know, I'm just scratching the surface of eighty thousand.

1153
00:52:22,239 --> 00:52:24,719
Speaker 2: I'm just scratching the surface of six figures. I don't

1154
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 2: really have it like that.

1155
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: One.

1156
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 2: Check how you're living, because if you're living above your means,

1157
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:32,880
Speaker 2: that's a big issue. Two, how do you spend your money?

1158
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:34,880
Speaker 2: Do you go buy sections for your homeboys to go

1159
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 2: hang out and pop bottles and drink? Are you in

1160
00:52:37,120 --> 00:52:38,320
Speaker 2: the hook a lounge every week?

1161
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 1: Three? Check your investments.

1162
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,760
Speaker 2: If you don't got no investments, If you're not pouring

1163
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:44,799
Speaker 2: into something that's going to make you more money, you're

1164
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 2: gonna be stuck at that six figures forever because you're

1165
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:50,160
Speaker 2: exchanging time and money. There's only so many hours you

1166
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:52,840
Speaker 2: can give to a workspace to get paid. So you

1167
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 2: have to start to think about how can I entrepreneur,

1168
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 2: How can I start making a bag outside of just

1169
00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 2: right here clocking in right and so that's when the

1170
00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,960
Speaker 2: knowledge to experience comes into play, knowledge to profit comes

1171
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 2: into play. But if you're that guy, you just have

1172
00:53:06,880 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 2: to think about where you're where else you're spending, how

1173
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 2: you're investing, and what difference that money would make if

1174
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 2: it was sown into a woman who knows how to

1175
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:20,239
Speaker 2: make something multiplied, Because when it's sown into her, not

1176
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 2: only will you make more money, but you will live.

1177
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: A more fulfilled life.

1178
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 2: You'll be able to do the parents, you'll be able

1179
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 2: to do the you know, trips out the country, and

1180
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: you'd be able to go into a designers store. You

1181
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 2: might not be able to go every week, you might

1182
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 2: only be able to go once a year, but you

1183
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:40,880
Speaker 2: can still go. You have the option to choose. So

1184
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 2: fellas it ain't the richest man in the room, it's

1185
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 2: the one most willing. And if you're not willing and

1186
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 2: you're not rich, well then you're just gonna grab one

1187
00:53:47,040 --> 00:53:49,720
Speaker 2: of the most ghetto babies with the with the bad wig.

1188
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 2: So what advice do you have for women to help

1189
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 2: them become a multiplier? Or is there some sheet there's

1190
00:53:55,160 --> 00:53:57,440
Speaker 2: just ey you already either you are a one or

1191
00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 2: you're not.

1192
00:53:57,760 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 1: A question. That's a great question.

1193
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 2: So the desire can be built right just by being

1194
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 2: in proximity with other boss ladies. Like there's very I've

1195
00:54:06,719 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 2: never seen a woman sit on this couch that was

1196
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 2: a nobody. Why because why would I interview a nobody? Right?

1197
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:15,839
Speaker 2: Like why would you bring somebody to the sofa who

1198
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 2: can't say shit? Maybe not today an email, okay, but

1199
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 2: but when you have something to say and you bring substance, right,

1200
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 2: so that can be learned or that can be in you.

1201
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 2: In order to learn it, you have to put yourself

1202
00:54:35,120 --> 00:54:36,400
Speaker 2: in proximity with others.

1203
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:38,840
Speaker 1: It might not be on the sofa yet, but you

1204
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:39,560
Speaker 1: might be able to.

1205
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 2: See, Oh, these two is heading Lexandrea is going to

1206
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:44,360
Speaker 2: such and such event.

1207
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:46,399
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put myself in proximity. I'm gonna make sure

1208
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:47,240
Speaker 1: i'm in the building.

1209
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna introduce myself, I'm gonna start talking. I'm gonna

1210
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 2: make sure I have something to say when I go

1211
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 2: to speak to them. See what I'm saying I'm gonna

1212
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 2: have some something. I'm working on, some kind of accolade.

1213
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 2: You put yourself in proximity when you already have it

1214
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 2: in you, and you are around people that aren't, you know,

1215
00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:09,680
Speaker 2: brewing and sewing, you stay stagnant. You do what your

1216
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,719
Speaker 2: friends do. And I'm sure y'all know that, because that's

1217
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 2: what keeps you so close. Because if she decided, you know,

1218
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:19,319
Speaker 2: to stop getting dressed, stop stop growing, stop pouring into

1219
00:55:19,360 --> 00:55:22,840
Speaker 2: the show, showed up here, you know, white girl wasted

1220
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 2: and whatever, you'd be like.

1221
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 1: Girl girl, I would show a white girl together. You

1222
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 1: get here. There's a difference that's just like, well, we're

1223
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 1: just gonna skip past this portion of the show. Let's

1224
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:42,799
Speaker 1: go to commercial break. This episode is sponsored by Bitterhelp.

1225
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 2: What's up, y'all is your Girl XP and it's sure

1226
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:48,160
Speaker 2: Girl dre and the Cold, and we are gonna talk

1227
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:51,040
Speaker 2: to y'all once again about starting therapy. We're in the

1228
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 2: beginning of the year, so new year knew me. Yes,

1229
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,480
Speaker 2: I love better help. It has changed my life so dramatically,

1230
00:55:57,800 --> 00:55:59,880
Speaker 2: and it's super easy, y'all. All you have to do

1231
00:55:59,920 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 2: is sign up and you can get a therapist the

1232
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 2: same day and One thing that I love about it

1233
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:06,840
Speaker 2: is is convenient and it's flexible. You can talk to

1234
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 2: your therapist from literally anywhere the comfort of your own home,

1235
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:11,360
Speaker 2: or you can talk to them on the go on

1236
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 2: the app. One good thing about therapy is not only

1237
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 2: does it help you working on yourself, but it can

1238
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:19,440
Speaker 2: help with your relationships with your family members, with co workers,

1239
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:22,040
Speaker 2: whatever you have going on in your life. You have

1240
00:56:22,120 --> 00:56:24,799
Speaker 2: to improve yourself first. It all starts with you, right,

1241
00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:26,839
Speaker 2: So what you're gonna do is go to betterhelp dot

1242
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 2: com backslash poor Minds. That's better h e LP dot

1243
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:33,279
Speaker 2: com backslash poor Minds and get ten percent off of

1244
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:36,560
Speaker 2: your first month. Become your own soulmate, whether you're looking

1245
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:39,520
Speaker 2: for one or not, visit betterhelp dot com slash poor

1246
00:56:39,560 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 2: Minds today to get ten percent off of your first month.

1247
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:45,760
Speaker 2: That's better help ch lp dot com slash poor Minds.

1248
00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 1: Oh.

1249
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 2: Another thing I wanted to bring up too because we

1250
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:52,680
Speaker 2: always talk about like attracting a high value man, but

1251
00:56:52,719 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 2: what are some tips that you can give to the

1252
00:56:54,080 --> 00:56:56,920
Speaker 2: girls who Because I feel like I'll be thirty five

1253
00:56:56,960 --> 00:56:59,600
Speaker 2: this year as well, and a lot of times people

1254
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 2: are in the it's like you and Drea talk about this,

1255
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 2: But y'all's dating experience is not the average person's dating experience.

1256
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

1257
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:07,759
Speaker 2: Even when I didn't have money, I have a long

1258
00:57:07,920 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 2: ongoing joke on the show I got three dollars because

1259
00:57:10,080 --> 00:57:11,600
Speaker 2: I literally used to have three dollars.

1260
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:14,000
Speaker 1: But I never attracted men who did.

1261
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 2: I have attracted men who didn't have ship because I

1262
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 2: was in like college, So I've always attracted a certain

1263
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 2: type of man.

1264
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is about me. I don't

1265
00:57:23,120 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 1: know men.

1266
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 2: I can't remember that you know how to talk that ship? Yeah, look,

1267
00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 2: you could be. That's why the the bad wig thing

1268
00:57:30,960 --> 00:57:33,320
Speaker 2: is going viral right now, right like, oh, you got

1269
00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 2: to put on your dusty wig. Yeah, highly it's a

1270
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:43,760
Speaker 2: zero out of ten. I do not recommend me zero

1271
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 2: out of ten.

1272
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 1: I do not.

1273
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:52,120
Speaker 2: But but what happens is men that meet those women

1274
00:57:52,320 --> 00:57:55,920
Speaker 2: their gardens down. They feel more comfortable because it's intimidated

1275
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 2: to walk up to a woman that looks like this

1276
00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 2: and just break conversations. If you're an introverted man and

1277
00:58:01,480 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 2: you're not, you know, flashy and all that, so it's

1278
00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 2: easier to approach that woman. And then when you sit

1279
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 2: down with her and she has something to say. You're intrigued,

1280
00:58:10,120 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 2: And now that's how the bad wig gets you somewhere.

1281
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:19,120
Speaker 2: It's not about like, but it's true.

1282
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 1: It's true.

1283
00:58:19,680 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 2: A man will walk up to her before he'll walk

1284
00:58:22,360 --> 00:58:25,200
Speaker 2: up to the girl that's dripped down with chanel on with.

1285
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 1: Makeup.

1286
00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 2: To the gods, they're intimidated too. They're intimidated too. They

1287
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:36,800
Speaker 2: know that damn COVID killed my conversation. I really don't

1288
00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 2: know how to talk to chicks no more. Let me

1289
00:58:38,480 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 2: tr how to warm up. They get uncomfortable and her sweating,

1290
00:58:42,360 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 2: and so that's that's where that comes in. That's why

1291
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:47,760
Speaker 2: that works for the women that it works for. I

1292
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:49,560
Speaker 2: met my man and most of them is lying. But

1293
00:58:49,600 --> 00:58:52,080
Speaker 2: the ones that aren't lying, that's that's why it works.

1294
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:58,520
Speaker 2: So just you being inviting and feeling like welcoming and

1295
00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 2: warm and being that person that's like smiling at somebody

1296
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 2: else versus like resting bitch face all the time, that

1297
00:59:05,560 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 2: is what makes these men approach you and drawn to you.

1298
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:09,160
Speaker 1: Whether you got on.

1299
00:59:10,680 --> 00:59:13,640
Speaker 2: A fashion over, whether you're stepping out of a ferrari,

1300
00:59:13,760 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter.

1301
00:59:14,680 --> 00:59:20,040
Speaker 1: Let me stepping out, Oh god, that's real there. The

1302
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 1: girls don't know, but it's true.

1303
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:27,840
Speaker 2: Like you, you have this inviting personality that makes people

1304
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:31,080
Speaker 2: want to That's why you make great show hosts, because

1305
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:33,640
Speaker 2: you have this energy that people want to be around you.

1306
00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:35,479
Speaker 2: They want to talk to you, they want Some women

1307
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:41,960
Speaker 2: just be bitches. Oh my god, they're just me and

1308
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 2: they walk around with this whole energy and like I

1309
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 2: deserve and you're beneath me, and men don't.

1310
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:52,240
Speaker 1: Men aren't attracted to that.

1311
00:59:52,280 --> 00:59:54,560
Speaker 2: They might be for a second, but those are submissive

1312
00:59:54,640 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 2: little cookman that like different stuff when you go home,

1313
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, They're like, you know, second, yeah,

1314
01:00:04,880 --> 01:00:08,520
Speaker 2: So be a pleasant person. You are some other tips

1315
01:00:08,560 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 2: they have something to say, Be working on something, Be

1316
01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:15,280
Speaker 2: in action. Don't be a stagnant somebody, because then you're

1317
01:00:15,360 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 2: literally you become that nobody in the room. If you

1318
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 2: can't impact a room with what you have to say,

1319
01:00:21,760 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 2: you can't make someone's day brighter. If you can't, you know,

1320
01:00:25,880 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 2: drop a being of encouragement. If you can't speak to

1321
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 2: something that elevates who you are, it doesn't.

1322
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:32,600
Speaker 1: Matter what you're wearing.

1323
01:00:33,160 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 2: I've come across men and I'm wearing sweatpants. Little champions sweatpants,

1324
01:00:40,520 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 2: and they're like, I'll do anything for you, right, And

1325
01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:46,120
Speaker 2: it's because when they meet me and they speak to me,

1326
01:00:46,240 --> 01:00:49,919
Speaker 2: I'm not thirsty to like how much money do you make?

1327
01:00:50,120 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 1: Where can you take me?

1328
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:53,720
Speaker 2: All right, we're only going to go to this location

1329
01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:57,240
Speaker 2: and that location, and don't cheesecake factory me Like I've

1330
01:00:57,240 --> 01:01:00,920
Speaker 2: walked away from dates at the Hibachi with hundreds of

1331
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:04,560
Speaker 2: dollars in my pocket, with a thousand and fifteen hundred

1332
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:06,959
Speaker 2: in my pocket, and I didn't do anything. I didn't

1333
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:08,880
Speaker 2: have to be on my back. I just had to

1334
01:01:08,920 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 2: speak to what I was working on. Girl, we're working

1335
01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:16,480
Speaker 2: on this. Actually, this is where I'm at, This is

1336
01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 2: where I'm going, this is where I'm growing, and here's

1337
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:21,000
Speaker 2: what you can help me, right, because I think there's

1338
01:01:21,040 --> 01:01:23,880
Speaker 2: more important things. Like you said, people are worried about

1339
01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 2: the show, the boomerangs, like y'all are so worried about this.

1340
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 2: You don't want to go to cheesecake like y'all are

1341
01:01:28,880 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 2: being so worried about the smallest.

1342
01:01:31,320 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 1: Little things that don't matter.

1343
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 2: Factory knowing you just ate chips right like days like

1344
01:01:39,520 --> 01:01:43,240
Speaker 2: the connection doesn't matter anymore. Care about what they can

1345
01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 2: show off or look like they have something that's better

1346
01:01:46,080 --> 01:01:49,120
Speaker 2: than the next person. Absolutely, people cut up on me

1347
01:01:49,160 --> 01:01:50,919
Speaker 2: all the time because I drive me a little mom car,

1348
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:53,480
Speaker 2: you know, Nohanda and stuff, and they'd be like, Oh,

1349
01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:55,600
Speaker 2: you make all this money, why you don't drive a baby?

1350
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:56,120
Speaker 1: I could drive.

1351
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,400
Speaker 2: I could buy whatever you driving right now two times

1352
01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:01,520
Speaker 2: next week if I really wanted to.

1353
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 1: It's so crazy.

1354
01:02:03,000 --> 01:02:06,800
Speaker 2: But it's not about stop doing ship for people that

1355
01:02:06,840 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 2: will never pay your bill, literally, ain't it? And anybody

1356
01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:12,439
Speaker 2: smart when all cars are like the worst thing. That's

1357
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:14,680
Speaker 2: the thing people with money will tell you when you

1358
01:02:14,720 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 2: make money, that's the last thing you need to really

1359
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:21,040
Speaker 2: be by way literally literally. I was just talking to

1360
01:02:21,080 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 2: drive about that that. I was like, Bro, I think

1361
01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna give me a new car this year. But

1362
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:25,439
Speaker 2: I've been saying that for the past two years because

1363
01:02:25,440 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 2: I don't know a car.

1364
01:02:26,200 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 1: No, I don't want to know me. You know. It's

1365
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 1: when on the broad you'd be like, I'm waiting for

1366
01:02:30,280 --> 01:02:33,720
Speaker 1: you to go ahead. I've been waiting to get a

1367
01:02:33,720 --> 01:02:34,880
Speaker 1: new car, asked me.

1368
01:02:35,040 --> 01:02:37,040
Speaker 2: My daughter said to me the other day, she was like, Mom,

1369
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:39,760
Speaker 2: if you don't just go get a new car, I'm like, yo,

1370
01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 2: you stay talking about waiting for somebody to just go

1371
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:42,720
Speaker 2: get a new car.

1372
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:43,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, I will not.

1373
01:02:44,400 --> 01:02:48,400
Speaker 2: I okay, how I look at it is I got

1374
01:02:48,520 --> 01:02:51,440
Speaker 2: to exchange. Like about the car I want is about

1375
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:54,280
Speaker 2: one hundred and sixty. Actually, it's like one with all

1376
01:02:54,320 --> 01:02:59,840
Speaker 2: the little works that I want to Porschrande. Sorry McCann's sport. Yeah,

1377
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 2: you know it's there, But I have to exchange. I mean,

1378
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:06,640
Speaker 2: I make thirty to fifty thousand dollars a month doing

1379
01:03:06,640 --> 01:03:09,480
Speaker 2: what I do from my phone, living a good life.

1380
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:11,800
Speaker 1: Do I want to trade it five months of my

1381
01:03:12,080 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 1: life for a car? Hell no, No, you.

1382
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:20,920
Speaker 2: Have to put it in perspective like that, you really do,

1383
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:23,560
Speaker 2: because I mean, I'm telling you, bro, like I just

1384
01:03:23,560 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 2: feel like my car work.

1385
01:03:24,920 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 1: Just I barely drive.

1386
01:03:26,240 --> 01:03:28,280
Speaker 2: I put less than ten thousand miles a year on

1387
01:03:28,320 --> 01:03:30,800
Speaker 2: my car. I'm telling you I do not be in

1388
01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:32,880
Speaker 2: my car like that. I'm pretty the fool who needs

1389
01:03:32,880 --> 01:03:35,800
Speaker 2: to get their paycheck in order to pay their carpet. Look,

1390
01:03:35,920 --> 01:03:38,240
Speaker 2: I had a car note in like two years, and

1391
01:03:38,520 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 2: I been thinking about getting another car, and I just

1392
01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:40,840
Speaker 2: do not want.

1393
01:03:42,080 --> 01:03:48,160
Speaker 1: I just it's us a brand new car, and we

1394
01:03:48,240 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 1: accept cars. That's how I got my last one.

1395
01:03:50,960 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 2: But right, so now it's time to get into the

1396
01:03:56,280 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 2: bab a fou fouw bow don't bow me growl. It's

1397
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:07,400
Speaker 2: funny because you actually kind of brought this up a

1398
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:08,240
Speaker 2: little bit.

1399
01:04:08,720 --> 01:04:12,320
Speaker 1: So today we want to talk about rich sex.

1400
01:04:13,120 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 2: And when I say rich sex, like I think dealing

1401
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,240
Speaker 2: with the type of men that we have dealt with

1402
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:21,880
Speaker 2: in the past. We know things can get a little

1403
01:04:21,880 --> 01:04:23,720
Speaker 2: scamless in the bedroom sometimes when you deal with a

1404
01:04:23,720 --> 01:04:27,919
Speaker 2: certain type of man. So I want to talk about

1405
01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:32,240
Speaker 2: do rich men take sex to the extreme out of boredom,

1406
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:36,120
Speaker 2: because I feel like sometimes in the bedroom they can

1407
01:04:36,160 --> 01:04:40,439
Speaker 2: get a little outrageous from personal experiences that I've had,

1408
01:04:40,720 --> 01:04:42,600
Speaker 2: and I'm like thinking, in my head, the only way

1409
01:04:42,640 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 2: you got introduced to things like this or you can

1410
01:04:45,400 --> 01:04:47,960
Speaker 2: even enjoy something like this, is just like you're literally

1411
01:04:47,960 --> 01:04:51,040
Speaker 2: bored with your sex life because you've done everything around

1412
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 2: the sun. Because like you said, it's easy to buy pussy.

1413
01:04:53,680 --> 01:04:55,640
Speaker 2: You can throw money in certain women's face and they

1414
01:04:55,680 --> 01:05:00,400
Speaker 2: will literally do anything, literally anything in the bathroom. I'm like, hey,

1415
01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:04,320
Speaker 2: I'm not that girl, Anti Tide. What are you doing?

1416
01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:08,959
Speaker 1: So let's talk about the bedroom with rich men.

1417
01:05:09,640 --> 01:05:14,200
Speaker 2: Well, I have to agree that men with a lot

1418
01:05:14,240 --> 01:05:17,520
Speaker 2: of money have certain kinks. And I don't necessarily know

1419
01:05:17,640 --> 01:05:20,320
Speaker 2: if it's because they've done it all, but I think

1420
01:05:20,360 --> 01:05:22,240
Speaker 2: they know that we do something strange for a piece

1421
01:05:22,280 --> 01:05:22,720
Speaker 2: of change.

1422
01:05:23,000 --> 01:05:24,960
Speaker 1: So if I tell you to stick this bottle in.

1423
01:05:24,920 --> 01:05:30,720
Speaker 2: Your booty hole, absolutely and clap three times, right, they know.

1424
01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:33,160
Speaker 1: You're gonna do it because because what are you gonna do?

1425
01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 1: Say no.

1426
01:05:34,920 --> 01:05:36,440
Speaker 2: It's like a man that's trying to court you and

1427
01:05:36,480 --> 01:05:38,160
Speaker 2: you give him a little task or something. He don't

1428
01:05:38,240 --> 01:05:41,280
Speaker 2: do it because he wants you, right. So they know

1429
01:05:41,360 --> 01:05:44,880
Speaker 2: that they have money leverage. That's number one. They know

1430
01:05:44,920 --> 01:05:48,560
Speaker 2: they have financial leverage. Two, I think that they when

1431
01:05:48,600 --> 01:05:50,960
Speaker 2: you move in certain and we're talking when we talk

1432
01:05:51,080 --> 01:05:54,800
Speaker 2: rich men, I'm talking like multi millionaires, right, because this

1433
01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:57,760
Speaker 2: doesn't really apply to the guys that aren't making multi millions.

1434
01:05:57,960 --> 01:06:00,720
Speaker 1: They're not operating within these weird funnies. I mean, we

1435
01:06:00,880 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 1: just seen the p Diddy Show, did we not? Did

1436
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:07,920
Speaker 1: we not see the show? The whole everything?

1437
01:06:09,360 --> 01:06:11,160
Speaker 2: Don't don't go to the take that take that manch

1438
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:15,280
Speaker 2: so the freak off girl.

1439
01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 1: I feel like they had a song that plays all

1440
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:17,760
Speaker 1: the time.

1441
01:06:18,800 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 2: So, so what happens is that when you got money

1442
01:06:22,080 --> 01:06:24,360
Speaker 2: like that, you use that financial leverage and that puts

1443
01:06:24,360 --> 01:06:26,280
Speaker 2: you in different circles with people.

1444
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 1: That also have the same interest.

1445
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:30,640
Speaker 2: Start the swinger ship, you start, you know what I mean,

1446
01:06:30,840 --> 01:06:34,720
Speaker 2: exploring different avenues that you can now pay for because

1447
01:06:35,320 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 2: those avenues. I mean, do you know many broke boys

1448
01:06:37,840 --> 01:06:39,160
Speaker 2: that get three soomes on the regular?

1449
01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:39,720
Speaker 1: No?

1450
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:42,320
Speaker 2: Do you know many broke boys that get to And

1451
01:06:42,320 --> 01:06:45,480
Speaker 2: now we're not talking about the the stank booty broad

1452
01:06:45,520 --> 01:06:46,240
Speaker 2: with the friend that.

1453
01:06:50,600 --> 01:06:54,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about lord

1454
01:06:54,600 --> 01:06:55,800
Speaker 1: y'all be outside.

1455
01:06:57,160 --> 01:07:00,439
Speaker 2: I'm talking about I'm talking about the average dude who

1456
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:03,520
Speaker 2: you know, works that foot locker or whatever. He's not

1457
01:07:03,560 --> 01:07:05,720
Speaker 2: getting three four chicks to do strange things from the

1458
01:07:05,760 --> 01:07:11,240
Speaker 2: ceiling fan. He's not unless he got crazy mouth game like,

1459
01:07:11,720 --> 01:07:15,120
Speaker 2: there's no way that and he's dealing with a dizzy broad.

1460
01:07:15,160 --> 01:07:16,920
Speaker 2: There's no way that that's happening, because it's like, what

1461
01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:18,400
Speaker 2: am I going to get out of this? When you

1462
01:07:18,480 --> 01:07:20,800
Speaker 2: got money and you are one of these, you know,

1463
01:07:21,560 --> 01:07:22,720
Speaker 2: wealthy people.

1464
01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:25,160
Speaker 1: When you lead with money, women are trying to get

1465
01:07:25,160 --> 01:07:30,560
Speaker 1: that bag like clap three times? Is that? You know what?

1466
01:07:30,720 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 2: Sometimes I think too that it's like, like you said,

1467
01:07:34,760 --> 01:07:36,880
Speaker 2: the money leverage, but I think that they get turned

1468
01:07:36,920 --> 01:07:37,560
Speaker 2: on that they have.

1469
01:07:37,640 --> 01:07:40,400
Speaker 1: So much power. That's what it is. So what was

1470
01:07:40,440 --> 01:07:41,320
Speaker 1: the example?

1471
01:07:41,360 --> 01:07:43,280
Speaker 2: I use squig Game, remember the show Squig Game, and

1472
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:46,560
Speaker 2: they're like they're making people do crazy raise for money.

1473
01:07:46,600 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 1: So it's like a power.

1474
01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:50,240
Speaker 2: It's more like a power thing, like look how powerful

1475
01:07:50,280 --> 01:07:53,400
Speaker 2: I am that I'm making you do this low key, embarrassing,

1476
01:07:53,520 --> 01:07:56,439
Speaker 2: humiliating ash Absolutely, and I feel like they get more

1477
01:07:56,520 --> 01:07:59,600
Speaker 2: off on that thought than the actual act of the

1478
01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:00,960
Speaker 2: sex whatever y'all are doing.

1479
01:08:01,320 --> 01:08:04,160
Speaker 1: That question. That's it, That's what it is. It's the

1480
01:08:04,200 --> 01:08:06,720
Speaker 1: power of control. It's the power.

1481
01:08:06,480 --> 01:08:10,000
Speaker 2: Of your word holding so much weight, when in reality

1482
01:08:10,040 --> 01:08:12,960
Speaker 2: it's just the idea of your income that holds so

1483
01:08:13,040 --> 01:08:15,560
Speaker 2: much wind. And that's why the more money you make,

1484
01:08:15,600 --> 01:08:20,040
Speaker 2: the more weird stuff happens. Like it's listen, I've had

1485
01:08:20,080 --> 01:08:21,840
Speaker 2: met with I've had met with money, and you know,

1486
01:08:21,880 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 2: I got me a little passed and stuff when I

1487
01:08:23,560 --> 01:08:26,960
Speaker 2: started my stuff as a sugar baby. I've done some things.

1488
01:08:27,960 --> 01:08:31,600
Speaker 2: I've met some people and I've come this close to

1489
01:08:31,600 --> 01:08:34,000
Speaker 2: get I actually gave a man a heart attack one time.

1490
01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:38,400
Speaker 1: He did not die. God, thank God.

1491
01:08:38,760 --> 01:08:40,479
Speaker 2: Because if he died, all I got from him was

1492
01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:42,519
Speaker 2: to Easter the baskets and a good dinner at the

1493
01:08:42,560 --> 01:08:45,120
Speaker 2: spot with I'm serious.

1494
01:08:45,640 --> 01:08:46,560
Speaker 1: I'm serious.

1495
01:08:46,640 --> 01:08:50,000
Speaker 2: Look, I was like broke broke, and it was Easter time,

1496
01:08:50,040 --> 01:08:51,600
Speaker 2: and I was like, I need some baskets.

1497
01:08:51,680 --> 01:08:52,719
Speaker 1: That's when I was basic.

1498
01:08:52,800 --> 01:08:56,200
Speaker 2: I ever heard of somebody asking for.

1499
01:08:57,960 --> 01:09:00,639
Speaker 1: As I just shamelessly plugged it.

1500
01:09:00,720 --> 01:09:07,599
Speaker 2: Okay, I just I just dropped a little bread crumbs. Yeah, like,

1501
01:09:07,720 --> 01:09:10,240
Speaker 2: you know, what's your day tomorrow? What's your dude, Well,

1502
01:09:10,240 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 2: I gotta go get some East baskets for the kids.

1503
01:09:12,000 --> 01:09:12,960
Speaker 1: Boom, they had East.

1504
01:09:12,800 --> 01:09:15,720
Speaker 2: Baskets basket for you to get to your yeah, for

1505
01:09:15,720 --> 01:09:16,200
Speaker 2: me to get.

1506
01:09:16,040 --> 01:09:18,240
Speaker 1: To Okay, okay, okay, so works.

1507
01:09:18,520 --> 01:09:22,920
Speaker 2: Not my Easter basket, it's the basket.

1508
01:09:26,800 --> 01:09:30,240
Speaker 1: But dropping the little nugget, oh yeah, I teach a.

1509
01:09:30,320 --> 01:09:33,519
Speaker 2: Whole course drop little gems like that. We call them

1510
01:09:33,560 --> 01:09:34,480
Speaker 2: cookie crumbs.

1511
01:09:34,160 --> 01:09:39,360
Speaker 1: And they work every time. That's how I got a laptop.

1512
01:09:40,080 --> 01:09:42,400
Speaker 1: I talked this dude. I said, your estimonials are my

1513
01:09:42,439 --> 01:09:44,559
Speaker 1: page on Endless Honey. I said, I'm about to go

1514
01:09:44,600 --> 01:09:46,519
Speaker 1: to the wall tomorrow to get a magic book. He

1515
01:09:46,600 --> 01:09:48,080
Speaker 1: was like, it's all right, I'll go get it for

1516
01:09:48,160 --> 01:09:52,040
Speaker 1: you really, I love. I was not about to go

1517
01:09:52,080 --> 01:09:57,200
Speaker 1: to the wall nowhere near in bed bitch chilling and

1518
01:09:58,760 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 1: bonn it all like this.

1519
01:10:06,800 --> 01:10:10,040
Speaker 2: So so I've dealt with, you know, men that have

1520
01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 2: a lot of money, and they do want they want

1521
01:10:12,920 --> 01:10:15,160
Speaker 2: where shit to happen because they're in no swinger environments

1522
01:10:15,160 --> 01:10:17,320
Speaker 2: with people that have money. Because that is like when

1523
01:10:17,320 --> 01:10:19,000
Speaker 2: you don't have money, it's like shame, shame, shame, Like

1524
01:10:19,000 --> 01:10:20,920
Speaker 2: you don't even belong here. You don't have enough power

1525
01:10:21,439 --> 01:10:24,160
Speaker 2: to be in this place so often. And I know

1526
01:10:24,160 --> 01:10:26,040
Speaker 2: because you know, I don't would have broke baby daddy

1527
01:10:26,080 --> 01:10:28,160
Speaker 2: before who was like let's do this and I was

1528
01:10:28,200 --> 01:10:32,679
Speaker 2: like no, yeah, like how about we bring up no,

1529
01:10:33,560 --> 01:10:37,479
Speaker 2: Like no, it just it doesn't. It's not giving because

1530
01:10:37,479 --> 01:10:39,880
Speaker 2: you don't have any leverage, right, Like men have this

1531
01:10:40,000 --> 01:10:42,800
Speaker 2: king complex like because I'm fine or because I got

1532
01:10:42,800 --> 01:10:45,360
Speaker 2: a long d or whatever that I'm supposed.

1533
01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:47,679
Speaker 1: To just have you do whatever? You submissive, be my woman,

1534
01:10:47,840 --> 01:10:50,720
Speaker 1: Like no, you don't have no money. You got to

1535
01:10:50,760 --> 01:10:51,120
Speaker 1: work for that.

1536
01:10:51,400 --> 01:10:53,760
Speaker 2: I'm not My mind is not made up because you

1537
01:10:53,760 --> 01:10:56,880
Speaker 2: don't have no money. So like, once I do this,

1538
01:10:57,200 --> 01:10:59,960
Speaker 2: what am I getting in exchange? Like what we operate

1539
01:11:00,120 --> 01:11:02,200
Speaker 2: by that humans operate like that.

1540
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:05,080
Speaker 1: We don't just give, give, give, give, we expect to receive.

1541
01:11:05,280 --> 01:11:07,720
Speaker 2: And it's not like I did this sexual thing for you,

1542
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:10,800
Speaker 2: now give me some money. It's like, if I do

1543
01:11:10,840 --> 01:11:12,360
Speaker 2: this for you, what are you gonna do for me

1544
01:11:12,400 --> 01:11:16,840
Speaker 2: that I want? And you know, well I ain't got

1545
01:11:16,840 --> 01:11:19,240
Speaker 2: no money, then my options are forearm funeral, Right, so

1546
01:11:19,280 --> 01:11:21,720
Speaker 2: do we when they look at.

1547
01:11:23,160 --> 01:11:24,200
Speaker 1: Where is your bargaining ship?

1548
01:11:24,560 --> 01:11:26,760
Speaker 2: So do you feel like though, like that's kind of

1549
01:11:26,800 --> 01:11:31,240
Speaker 2: like just another form of like high level prostitution kind of.

1550
01:11:31,360 --> 01:11:32,640
Speaker 1: I mean, you can call it what you won't, but

1551
01:11:32,680 --> 01:11:33,519
Speaker 1: you won't call me broke.

1552
01:11:34,560 --> 01:11:36,760
Speaker 2: You can say whatever you want to say, but you're

1553
01:11:36,760 --> 01:11:38,960
Speaker 2: gonna sit down, no check, and I'm gonna.

1554
01:11:38,760 --> 01:11:39,559
Speaker 1: Be over here with my right.

1555
01:11:39,760 --> 01:11:41,720
Speaker 2: I mean, I agree with because for me, it's like

1556
01:11:42,520 --> 01:11:45,439
Speaker 2: you are going to give something and you're going to

1557
01:11:45,479 --> 01:11:48,800
Speaker 2: get something. What that something is is entirely up to you.

1558
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:51,439
Speaker 2: It could be basic, It could be just time and

1559
01:11:51,479 --> 01:11:55,880
Speaker 2: time exchange. It could be time and money exchange. It

1560
01:11:55,920 --> 01:11:58,200
Speaker 2: could be time and action exchange.

1561
01:11:58,240 --> 01:12:00,360
Speaker 1: It could be whatever you want it to be. But

1562
01:12:00,400 --> 01:12:02,280
Speaker 1: we all have control of what it is.

1563
01:12:02,439 --> 01:12:05,320
Speaker 2: And really the only the women that scream now are

1564
01:12:05,360 --> 01:12:08,320
Speaker 2: the women that number one again are still single. Number

1565
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:11,400
Speaker 2: two they haven't been able to keep a man for

1566
01:12:11,439 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 2: a very long time.

1567
01:12:12,880 --> 01:12:15,160
Speaker 1: And number three, those are the women that believe that.

1568
01:12:15,120 --> 01:12:17,280
Speaker 2: Were raised to be like, work really hard and you

1569
01:12:17,280 --> 01:12:20,519
Speaker 2: don't need no man for nothing, and do things on

1570
01:12:20,560 --> 01:12:22,320
Speaker 2: your own. Don't let anybody throw anything in your face.

1571
01:12:22,320 --> 01:12:24,400
Speaker 2: You could throw whatever you want in my face. I agree,

1572
01:12:24,640 --> 01:12:29,040
Speaker 2: it's always I'm sure, and they can't. They don't even

1573
01:12:29,080 --> 01:12:32,280
Speaker 2: know how to get anything out of them. Now, that's oh,

1574
01:12:32,320 --> 01:12:33,120
Speaker 2: it's prostitution.

1575
01:12:33,280 --> 01:12:33,600
Speaker 1: It's not.

1576
01:12:33,920 --> 01:12:36,679
Speaker 2: When I think of prostitution, I just maybe I'm wrong

1577
01:12:36,880 --> 01:12:38,920
Speaker 2: in my definition, but I be thinking of somebody who

1578
01:12:38,960 --> 01:12:40,599
Speaker 2: is selling pissy to multiple people.

1579
01:12:40,680 --> 01:12:40,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1580
01:12:40,920 --> 01:12:43,839
Speaker 2: Absolutely, I think if you're dating somebody and you expect

1581
01:12:43,840 --> 01:12:46,240
Speaker 2: that this man that you're dating, you expect him to

1582
01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:49,160
Speaker 2: do things for you, and you expect him to make

1583
01:12:49,160 --> 01:12:52,479
Speaker 2: it worth your while, that is not prostitution. I just

1584
01:12:52,520 --> 01:12:55,479
Speaker 2: feel like I'm getting something, You getting something you don't

1585
01:12:55,479 --> 01:12:58,200
Speaker 2: want something too. Absolutely, I think they just have a

1586
01:12:58,240 --> 01:13:00,920
Speaker 2: problem too, with the fact that, like you said, it's

1587
01:13:00,960 --> 01:13:03,720
Speaker 2: a problem that women want providers. And I don't know

1588
01:13:03,760 --> 01:13:06,240
Speaker 2: why that's such a taboo thing to want a man

1589
01:13:06,360 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 2: to provide a man to pay the bills because single

1590
01:13:09,240 --> 01:13:12,639
Speaker 2: moms raised us right. The single mom struggle. I call

1591
01:13:12,680 --> 01:13:15,519
Speaker 2: it single mom syndrome because it's real. When you're raised

1592
01:13:15,560 --> 01:13:17,280
Speaker 2: by a single mom who didn't have a man in

1593
01:13:17,280 --> 01:13:20,519
Speaker 2: her life that took care of her and provided for her,

1594
01:13:20,600 --> 01:13:23,360
Speaker 2: protected her in that way, you have a tendency of

1595
01:13:23,400 --> 01:13:26,400
Speaker 2: falling in the footsteps and now you're like, you know,

1596
01:13:27,320 --> 01:13:29,240
Speaker 2: I don't need a man for anything I'm gonna do.

1597
01:13:29,520 --> 01:13:31,519
Speaker 2: I got it. I don't want nobody throwing anything in

1598
01:13:31,560 --> 01:13:33,760
Speaker 2: my face. I don't want to feel like I owe

1599
01:13:33,800 --> 01:13:36,479
Speaker 2: you anything. Why would you feel like that. You should

1600
01:13:36,479 --> 01:13:39,120
Speaker 2: already know that you owe something in exchange for something.

1601
01:13:39,520 --> 01:13:41,360
Speaker 2: You don't go to the bank and take out money because.

1602
01:13:41,200 --> 01:13:44,000
Speaker 1: You didn't work. You had to go do work in

1603
01:13:44,120 --> 01:13:45,320
Speaker 1: order to get paid.

1604
01:13:45,600 --> 01:13:48,080
Speaker 2: Everything in life is in exchange, it is, right, So

1605
01:13:48,439 --> 01:13:51,520
Speaker 2: it's all an energy exchange. It's some kind of exchange.

1606
01:13:51,960 --> 01:13:56,479
Speaker 2: So for you know, people that feel like I don't

1607
01:13:56,520 --> 01:13:58,840
Speaker 2: want a man to I don't want to owe nobody,

1608
01:13:58,960 --> 01:14:00,880
Speaker 2: or I don't want to that's single mom's syndrome for real.

1609
01:14:00,960 --> 01:14:02,840
Speaker 2: You were raised by a woman who was a single mom.

1610
01:14:03,120 --> 01:14:06,040
Speaker 2: She told you you're a strong woman. You don't need

1611
01:14:06,040 --> 01:14:08,760
Speaker 2: a man for nothing. Don't let a man take care

1612
01:14:08,800 --> 01:14:11,720
Speaker 2: of you because he'll leave you. Those are her experiences,

1613
01:14:11,760 --> 01:14:15,360
Speaker 2: and I'm sorry for her, and I'm sorry to that man,

1614
01:14:15,760 --> 01:14:17,800
Speaker 2: but I'm not about to be sorry. My mom was

1615
01:14:17,840 --> 01:14:19,760
Speaker 2: a single mom. I watched her struggle, I watched her

1616
01:14:19,800 --> 01:14:23,040
Speaker 2: take care of things. I watched she's still doing things

1617
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:25,960
Speaker 2: that as a woman in her sixties should not be

1618
01:14:26,000 --> 01:14:28,160
Speaker 2: doing when you have a whole husband. Shout out to

1619
01:14:28,200 --> 01:14:30,080
Speaker 2: my mom And sorry, dad, I'm not trying to play you,

1620
01:14:30,120 --> 01:14:32,880
Speaker 2: but it's just true. Maybe you need this truth because

1621
01:14:32,920 --> 01:14:36,040
Speaker 2: it's real. Like he definitely she inspired him to start

1622
01:14:36,080 --> 01:14:38,960
Speaker 2: moving and shaking though now he started his own business.

1623
01:14:39,040 --> 01:14:42,439
Speaker 2: He does, you know, grass cutting and this and that.

1624
01:14:42,560 --> 01:14:44,680
Speaker 2: She leveled him up for real, because my mom is

1625
01:14:44,720 --> 01:14:48,559
Speaker 2: a boss in every right, so she elevated him. He's

1626
01:14:48,600 --> 01:14:50,680
Speaker 2: watching her winning and he's like, damn, I want that

1627
01:14:50,720 --> 01:14:53,160
Speaker 2: for myself. And if he didn't turn that on, it

1628
01:14:53,200 --> 01:14:57,439
Speaker 2: would create animosity in the relationship. It would make now

1629
01:14:57,479 --> 01:14:59,400
Speaker 2: she got a queen complex because I got to take

1630
01:14:59,400 --> 01:15:03,240
Speaker 2: care of everything, all the decisions, do everything, and you

1631
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:05,960
Speaker 2: just sitting back working a little regular job, coming home

1632
01:15:05,960 --> 01:15:07,760
Speaker 2: and watching TV or whatever you do.

1633
01:15:08,280 --> 01:15:09,320
Speaker 1: Nobody wants that.

1634
01:15:09,680 --> 01:15:12,519
Speaker 2: Everybody wants to be with somebody that's moving and shaking.

1635
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:14,679
Speaker 2: It's crazy that you say that because I was raised

1636
01:15:14,680 --> 01:15:19,000
Speaker 2: by a single mother as well, and growing up. My

1637
01:15:19,080 --> 01:15:20,680
Speaker 2: dad passed away when I was very young. I was

1638
01:15:20,720 --> 01:15:24,000
Speaker 2: like three when my dad passed away, and he left

1639
01:15:24,000 --> 01:15:25,880
Speaker 2: my mom a whole bunch of money, so she was

1640
01:15:25,920 --> 01:15:28,080
Speaker 2: able to cause we were born in California, so we

1641
01:15:28,080 --> 01:15:30,639
Speaker 2: were able to with that money move back to Orange.

1642
01:15:31,080 --> 01:15:33,479
Speaker 2: She bought like a whole plot of land, built us

1643
01:15:33,520 --> 01:15:35,719
Speaker 2: this really big house. Like I grew up really spoiled.

1644
01:15:36,040 --> 01:15:38,679
Speaker 2: She was able to put herself through school and provide

1645
01:15:38,720 --> 01:15:40,439
Speaker 2: for us. So it's like I grew up with a

1646
01:15:40,479 --> 01:15:42,600
Speaker 2: single mom. But my mom always told me, yeah, we

1647
01:15:42,800 --> 01:15:44,880
Speaker 2: living good, and cause your dad made sure, no matter what,

1648
01:15:45,000 --> 01:15:47,559
Speaker 2: we were taken care of. So it's crazy because I

1649
01:15:47,600 --> 01:15:51,160
Speaker 2: do see that single mom syndrome you're talking about, but

1650
01:15:51,200 --> 01:15:53,040
Speaker 2: it has never been in me, cause my mom always

1651
01:15:53,120 --> 01:15:55,559
Speaker 2: let me know, like your dad made sure we are good.

1652
01:15:55,680 --> 01:15:57,880
Speaker 2: Like I always grew up with her telling stories about

1653
01:15:57,920 --> 01:16:00,280
Speaker 2: my dad, letting me know, and I'm like, yeah, I

1654
01:16:00,280 --> 01:16:01,640
Speaker 2: want a man. I want a man that's gonna be

1655
01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:03,400
Speaker 2: able to take care of me. While he's here, and

1656
01:16:03,640 --> 01:16:06,280
Speaker 2: if he's long going, my family's still gonna be.

1657
01:16:06,280 --> 01:16:07,520
Speaker 1: Taken care of. Absolutely.

1658
01:16:07,600 --> 01:16:09,840
Speaker 2: But I do see that a lot so many men

1659
01:16:09,920 --> 01:16:12,439
Speaker 2: being like, oh well, my mom had to she did this,

1660
01:16:12,640 --> 01:16:14,160
Speaker 2: She did that on her own. And I always say

1661
01:16:14,200 --> 01:16:17,640
Speaker 2: that bitch was depressed. Yeah, she hated life. And I

1662
01:16:17,640 --> 01:16:20,000
Speaker 2: do feel like what they got to do with me? Right,

1663
01:16:20,200 --> 01:16:23,360
Speaker 2: I want what your mama went through, Okay, I don't

1664
01:16:23,360 --> 01:16:24,640
Speaker 2: want to have to go through. I don't want to

1665
01:16:24,640 --> 01:16:27,960
Speaker 2: go through that. Somebody that's okay with struggle. You go

1666
01:16:28,120 --> 01:16:31,200
Speaker 2: find somebody that's okay with struggles to be that's not admirable.

1667
01:16:31,360 --> 01:16:34,160
Speaker 2: I want to see black women having to struggle and

1668
01:16:34,280 --> 01:16:34,880
Speaker 2: ride or die?

1669
01:16:34,960 --> 01:16:39,040
Speaker 1: Right? Oh bad? Aren't you all tired of that? Storious?

1670
01:16:39,680 --> 01:16:41,760
Speaker 1: Destroyed from it? Right? Right?

1671
01:16:41,880 --> 01:16:43,840
Speaker 2: And from my perspective, like I grew up in a

1672
01:16:43,880 --> 01:16:45,960
Speaker 2: two parent household and all I ever seen was my

1673
01:16:46,040 --> 01:16:46,759
Speaker 2: dad provide.

1674
01:16:46,800 --> 01:16:49,040
Speaker 1: So why wouldn't I want a man to keep the same.

1675
01:16:49,320 --> 01:16:52,839
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And that's where that mindset comes from your previous

1676
01:16:52,920 --> 01:16:55,760
Speaker 2: experiences and your parents' previous experiences.

1677
01:16:56,160 --> 01:16:57,200
Speaker 1: What did she go through?

1678
01:16:57,280 --> 01:16:58,920
Speaker 2: And you should have a mindset of like, oh, I

1679
01:16:58,920 --> 01:17:01,439
Speaker 2: want totally opposite of that. Not well, this is how

1680
01:17:01,479 --> 01:17:03,280
Speaker 2: she taught me, and this is what my mom taught

1681
01:17:03,280 --> 01:17:03,599
Speaker 2: me to do.

1682
01:17:03,880 --> 01:17:05,760
Speaker 1: Well, how was that for her? How did that work

1683
01:17:05,800 --> 01:17:08,000
Speaker 1: out for her? What was she happy? Was she fulfilled?

1684
01:17:08,040 --> 01:17:11,200
Speaker 2: What was she satisfied? Was she you know, waking up

1685
01:17:11,280 --> 01:17:14,200
Speaker 2: whenever she wanted to and moving how she wanted to

1686
01:17:14,280 --> 01:17:16,800
Speaker 2: and living the life she wanted to live? Or did

1687
01:17:16,840 --> 01:17:18,880
Speaker 2: you never see her because she was busting hands working

1688
01:17:18,880 --> 01:17:22,240
Speaker 2: two three jobs and you know you raised your own

1689
01:17:22,280 --> 01:17:24,559
Speaker 2: siblings because she was never around, And why would you

1690
01:17:24,560 --> 01:17:25,680
Speaker 2: sign up for that?

1691
01:17:25,680 --> 01:17:26,360
Speaker 1: That's crazy?

1692
01:17:26,400 --> 01:17:30,200
Speaker 2: And we have the power to decide right now that like, Okay,

1693
01:17:30,320 --> 01:17:32,040
Speaker 2: I've been living like this for a really long time.

1694
01:17:32,080 --> 01:17:35,519
Speaker 2: I'm done. I'm not struggle loving no more. I'm not

1695
01:17:35,760 --> 01:17:38,680
Speaker 2: showing up to the table empty handed either, And I'm

1696
01:17:38,720 --> 01:17:40,880
Speaker 2: not gonna go run off and get married to somebody

1697
01:17:40,920 --> 01:17:43,439
Speaker 2: to secure the bag. Because that's really why women think

1698
01:17:43,520 --> 01:17:45,120
Speaker 2: that it's a flex. It is not a flex to

1699
01:17:45,120 --> 01:17:47,439
Speaker 2: get engaged and married in three to six months if

1700
01:17:47,439 --> 01:17:49,920
Speaker 2: you meeting somebody, because next year, that's a whole new nigga.

1701
01:17:50,400 --> 01:17:53,360
Speaker 1: Old first, okay, it's a hold.

1702
01:17:55,240 --> 01:17:58,920
Speaker 2: Next Also for me, it's like, look, get married when

1703
01:17:58,960 --> 01:18:00,800
Speaker 2: you want to do your own thing. But it's not

1704
01:18:00,840 --> 01:18:03,439
Speaker 2: a flex because the divorce rate is up and over

1705
01:18:03,479 --> 01:18:09,960
Speaker 2: fifty percent. Okay, period statistics show that marriage is up

1706
01:18:10,000 --> 01:18:14,599
Speaker 2: an over fifty percent. Why would you sign up for that?

1707
01:18:15,720 --> 01:18:18,160
Speaker 2: Why not make sure that when you get into a

1708
01:18:18,200 --> 01:18:20,400
Speaker 2: relationship with somebody, you're not looking for the end goal

1709
01:18:20,439 --> 01:18:22,160
Speaker 2: of Like, we be so scared that I'm gonna spend

1710
01:18:22,200 --> 01:18:24,080
Speaker 2: ten years with this man and I ain't got no

1711
01:18:24,160 --> 01:18:25,600
Speaker 2: ring and when he leaves, I'm gonna be.

1712
01:18:25,640 --> 01:18:26,200
Speaker 1: Left with nothing.

1713
01:18:26,800 --> 01:18:31,000
Speaker 2: Girl, by build, build right now, Build starting today and

1714
01:18:31,160 --> 01:18:34,519
Speaker 2: next month and next year and the following year, because again,

1715
01:18:34,600 --> 01:18:36,519
Speaker 2: by death or by dishonor he's gonna go.

1716
01:18:36,840 --> 01:18:38,720
Speaker 1: And when he does, what will you be left with?

1717
01:18:39,160 --> 01:18:41,160
Speaker 2: Are you gonna be left with a caped income because

1718
01:18:41,160 --> 01:18:43,080
Speaker 2: he left you a little life assurance policy? Now you

1719
01:18:43,080 --> 01:18:45,639
Speaker 2: gotta figure out how to you know, spend a little

1720
01:18:45,640 --> 01:18:47,640
Speaker 2: here and a little sprinkled there and a little I

1721
01:18:47,680 --> 01:18:49,559
Speaker 2: can't get myself the things that I used to be

1722
01:18:49,600 --> 01:18:51,880
Speaker 2: able to have because now I'm living off this fixed income.

1723
01:18:52,080 --> 01:18:54,080
Speaker 2: Or are you gonna build yourself that's the line, and

1724
01:18:54,120 --> 01:18:55,760
Speaker 2: have other people do the work so you can sit

1725
01:18:55,800 --> 01:18:57,960
Speaker 2: back and collect the coins. Are you gonna build that

1726
01:18:58,120 --> 01:19:00,760
Speaker 2: hair company? Are you gonna build that? What ever? Right

1727
01:19:01,160 --> 01:19:04,080
Speaker 2: that that home based business? Are you gonna build it

1728
01:19:04,240 --> 01:19:06,920
Speaker 2: while you're with him so that when he's gone, because

1729
01:19:06,920 --> 01:19:11,120
Speaker 2: he will leave, you are left with something. That's why

1730
01:19:11,160 --> 01:19:13,400
Speaker 2: we're like, Oh, you don't run off and get married.

1731
01:19:13,520 --> 01:19:16,720
Speaker 2: You ain't marry me in a year. I'm just a substitute.

1732
01:19:17,080 --> 01:19:20,479
Speaker 2: I'm just a passover chick. I'm not the woman that

1733
01:19:20,520 --> 01:19:23,120
Speaker 2: you really want to be with. I'm not because you

1734
01:19:23,160 --> 01:19:24,760
Speaker 2: didn't get married in a year. No, what have you

1735
01:19:24,800 --> 01:19:27,160
Speaker 2: done in that year? What have you done to make

1736
01:19:27,240 --> 01:19:30,640
Speaker 2: him want to keep you long term? What have you

1737
01:19:30,720 --> 01:19:35,040
Speaker 2: put together that make sure you got something once he leaves?

1738
01:19:35,400 --> 01:19:36,040
Speaker 1: And what if?

1739
01:19:36,080 --> 01:19:39,080
Speaker 2: Sometimes they are to pass over cheek, though I mean

1740
01:19:40,560 --> 01:19:43,599
Speaker 2: build because even if you the passover chick, you could

1741
01:19:43,680 --> 01:19:53,400
Speaker 2: pass by me all you want. I'm right now I'm

1742
01:19:53,479 --> 01:19:56,479
Speaker 2: leaving philosophy. But I do want to say too, because

1743
01:19:56,479 --> 01:19:58,639
Speaker 2: I like the fact that you touched on like loving

1744
01:19:58,680 --> 01:20:01,400
Speaker 2: somebody and loving your partner and bringing all that to

1745
01:20:01,439 --> 01:20:03,040
Speaker 2: the table as well, because I do feel like a

1746
01:20:03,080 --> 01:20:05,800
Speaker 2: lot of times women are even dating men just because

1747
01:20:05,840 --> 01:20:08,040
Speaker 2: they have money and they're getting all these things.

1748
01:20:08,080 --> 01:20:10,559
Speaker 1: But like I said, do what y'all want.

1749
01:20:10,720 --> 01:20:13,760
Speaker 2: But I am a big lover too, you know, like

1750
01:20:13,840 --> 01:20:15,200
Speaker 2: I need all of the elements.

1751
01:20:15,240 --> 01:20:19,040
Speaker 1: I need somebody. It's somebody who has.

1752
01:20:18,840 --> 01:20:22,640
Speaker 2: The money, but I need that love and affection. Like

1753
01:20:22,680 --> 01:20:25,479
Speaker 2: I've had men who have all the money and can

1754
01:20:25,520 --> 01:20:27,920
Speaker 2: buy me anything in the world, but it's like that

1755
01:20:28,400 --> 01:20:29,439
Speaker 2: passion wasn't there.

1756
01:20:29,640 --> 01:20:32,280
Speaker 1: I need that passion. I need it all the time.

1757
01:20:32,360 --> 01:20:34,960
Speaker 2: So it's like, I think it's important that people know

1758
01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:37,120
Speaker 2: that your message does come with love as well, because,

1759
01:20:37,120 --> 01:20:39,080
Speaker 2: like I said, when I first offet your page, I

1760
01:20:39,120 --> 01:20:39,360
Speaker 2: was like.

1761
01:20:39,280 --> 01:20:40,080
Speaker 1: Girl, what's she telling?

1762
01:20:40,280 --> 01:20:42,719
Speaker 2: Trying to tell the girls? But now it's like getting

1763
01:20:42,720 --> 01:20:45,439
Speaker 2: into it. It's like yes, because you said, like I've

1764
01:20:45,479 --> 01:20:48,280
Speaker 2: never been able to really define love for myself, but

1765
01:20:48,320 --> 01:20:51,360
Speaker 2: for people who can define it for themselves, love can

1766
01:20:51,439 --> 01:20:52,679
Speaker 2: be measurable to some people.

1767
01:20:52,720 --> 01:20:53,639
Speaker 1: It has to be.

1768
01:20:54,640 --> 01:20:57,280
Speaker 2: If it's not, you're not in love, you're in like

1769
01:20:57,560 --> 01:21:01,400
Speaker 2: r you're in lusting. You're not in love because love

1770
01:21:01,560 --> 01:21:06,960
Speaker 2: is a measurable thing. I love you because I love

1771
01:21:07,040 --> 01:21:10,439
Speaker 2: you because you provide that. I love you because you

1772
01:21:10,479 --> 01:21:14,200
Speaker 2: don't just love people just because like you're you're damn

1773
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:17,479
Speaker 2: about most people. You might, you know, see somebody that

1774
01:21:17,520 --> 01:21:19,920
Speaker 2: needs a little helping. You care, but you don't care

1775
01:21:20,000 --> 01:21:22,320
Speaker 2: because you love them. You care because you're genuinely a

1776
01:21:22,360 --> 01:21:25,680
Speaker 2: good person and you operate in that space, but you

1777
01:21:25,720 --> 01:21:28,040
Speaker 2: don't love them, so you do it for them.

1778
01:21:28,200 --> 01:21:29,680
Speaker 1: Like there's plenty of people we deal with in the

1779
01:21:29,720 --> 01:21:30,120
Speaker 1: day to day.

1780
01:21:30,160 --> 01:21:33,599
Speaker 2: We don't love them. If they die tomorrow, you wouldn't

1781
01:21:33,600 --> 01:21:34,000
Speaker 2: shed a tear.

1782
01:21:34,040 --> 01:21:37,200
Speaker 1: You be like, damn, that's fucked up. They hurt the

1783
01:21:37,200 --> 01:21:40,120
Speaker 1: city with that man. I just seen him yesterday.

1784
01:21:41,120 --> 01:21:46,960
Speaker 2: Okay, so wild, that's what they be saying, right.

1785
01:21:47,479 --> 01:21:49,599
Speaker 1: You fucked up the city with this one. That's the thing.

1786
01:21:55,240 --> 01:22:00,760
Speaker 1: There is twelve people out of the fucked up r

1787
01:22:01,560 --> 01:22:02,560
Speaker 1: and Leroy.

1788
01:22:02,200 --> 01:22:04,160
Speaker 2: Getting cremated because he had no coin.

1789
01:22:04,880 --> 01:22:14,560
Speaker 1: He cremated, you box, dusty shoes, not the pine that

1790
01:22:14,960 --> 01:22:16,759
Speaker 1: when you leave down, no.

1791
01:22:16,760 --> 01:22:20,800
Speaker 2: Hands, no nothing, nothing, they said, returns.

1792
01:22:21,760 --> 01:22:25,760
Speaker 1: Okay, move on.

1793
01:22:26,160 --> 01:22:29,360
Speaker 2: So we do agree about the bedroom thing, though rich

1794
01:22:29,439 --> 01:22:31,599
Speaker 2: men be taking ship too far in the bedroom something I.

1795
01:22:31,479 --> 01:22:35,479
Speaker 1: Think sometimes absolutely take you about to do that.

1796
01:22:35,760 --> 01:22:37,639
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie the freest thing that a rich

1797
01:22:37,680 --> 01:22:39,960
Speaker 2: man asked you to do him.

1798
01:22:40,000 --> 01:22:42,920
Speaker 1: That's not sexy. Yeah, I wouldn't. I'm not gonna lie.

1799
01:22:43,640 --> 01:22:45,240
Speaker 1: Might be turned on though, I'm not gonna hold you.

1800
01:22:45,320 --> 01:22:46,080
Speaker 1: I like a little power.

1801
01:22:46,120 --> 01:22:48,080
Speaker 2: I like a little power exchine, Okay, you know what,

1802
01:22:48,160 --> 01:22:49,760
Speaker 2: I don't mind a little power.

1803
01:22:51,040 --> 01:22:52,920
Speaker 1: Tried some strange things with my man. He was like,

1804
01:22:53,400 --> 01:22:57,080
Speaker 1: better you go ahead to try. You go ahead and try.

1805
01:22:57,120 --> 01:22:58,880
Speaker 1: You be on the first thing chugging. I was like,

1806
01:22:58,880 --> 01:23:00,400
Speaker 1: but I wanna say this. I'm time.

1807
01:23:00,600 --> 01:23:03,040
Speaker 2: Fine they introduced you the things you like because I'm

1808
01:23:03,080 --> 01:23:03,519
Speaker 2: not gonna lie.

1809
01:23:03,640 --> 01:23:09,360
Speaker 1: The first I did a little but like you Yeah,

1810
01:23:09,840 --> 01:23:11,880
Speaker 1: the first time I had a little like butt play

1811
01:23:11,960 --> 01:23:13,840
Speaker 1: like ain't no play. It was with like a rich

1812
01:23:13,880 --> 01:23:16,040
Speaker 1: guy and I had ever done nothing like that before.

1813
01:23:16,320 --> 01:23:18,800
Speaker 2: But I ended up look like my man with money

1814
01:23:18,840 --> 01:23:20,040
Speaker 2: loves sticking stuff in your butt.

1815
01:23:20,080 --> 01:23:25,400
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is like a little look.

1816
01:23:25,600 --> 01:23:27,160
Speaker 1: That's the one thing. Look I be.

1817
01:23:27,439 --> 01:23:29,439
Speaker 2: I'd be testing just to see because I feel like

1818
01:23:29,439 --> 01:23:31,080
Speaker 2: if you let me do stuff to your butt, you

1819
01:23:31,160 --> 01:23:32,040
Speaker 2: let other people do stuff.

1820
01:23:32,280 --> 01:23:34,519
Speaker 1: You know. I've been testing every once in a while.

1821
01:23:34,560 --> 01:23:38,559
Speaker 2: He like he in the studio like, oh my gosh, yeah,

1822
01:23:38,560 --> 01:23:39,559
Speaker 2: because I be testing, like you.

1823
01:23:39,640 --> 01:23:46,040
Speaker 1: Sure just a little yeah, God is still a hell

1824
01:23:46,200 --> 01:23:49,040
Speaker 1: no yea yeah, you know a lot of shit. But

1825
01:23:49,080 --> 01:23:52,640
Speaker 1: he'd be like when he comes to the yeah, it's

1826
01:23:52,640 --> 01:23:56,760
Speaker 1: stop in the middle of everything. Yeah, yeah, too much,

1827
01:23:56,800 --> 01:23:58,760
Speaker 1: my man. Now do not do not play.

1828
01:23:58,800 --> 01:24:00,519
Speaker 2: But the first time, like I said, I was like

1829
01:24:00,800 --> 01:24:02,680
Speaker 2: doing that stuff and like had tried it.

1830
01:24:03,040 --> 01:24:04,479
Speaker 1: He was so into it.

1831
01:24:04,520 --> 01:24:07,800
Speaker 2: But like looking back on it was like obviously years

1832
01:24:07,800 --> 01:24:10,200
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be Like, if something came out that he

1833
01:24:10,439 --> 01:24:13,360
Speaker 2: was like into some kinky, kinky ass ship, like a

1834
01:24:13,479 --> 01:24:17,000
Speaker 2: story came out, I would not be shot because he's

1835
01:24:17,040 --> 01:24:19,080
Speaker 2: in the industry. You know, he's made a lot of money,

1836
01:24:19,080 --> 01:24:21,880
Speaker 2: he's be he'd be around in people. Yeah, so I

1837
01:24:21,920 --> 01:24:25,120
Speaker 2: just would not be shot, you know. But anyways, moving

1838
01:24:25,160 --> 01:24:30,200
Speaker 2: on from from freaking ass niggas as y'all niggas is

1839
01:24:30,320 --> 01:24:39,679
Speaker 2: some freaks. So now inside yo into the heywoow bow

1840
01:24:40,320 --> 01:24:44,880
Speaker 2: we vibing today. I'm here, okay, So the bop of

1841
01:24:44,880 --> 01:24:46,880
Speaker 2: the week is whatever music that you've been listening to

1842
01:24:47,000 --> 01:24:47,519
Speaker 2: this week.

1843
01:24:47,680 --> 01:24:50,200
Speaker 1: And y'all know I'm an R and B girl.

1844
01:24:50,360 --> 01:24:53,400
Speaker 2: If you haven't make sure y'all get cause it's Valentine's Day,

1845
01:24:53,479 --> 01:24:57,240
Speaker 2: so y'all know, I dropped my late night playlist, so

1846
01:24:57,560 --> 01:25:00,400
Speaker 2: it's gonna be in the bio. Y'all listen, this is

1847
01:25:00,439 --> 01:25:02,560
Speaker 2: gonna be the vibe after you went on your Valentine's

1848
01:25:02,600 --> 01:25:05,599
Speaker 2: Day date. Play this little playlist, y'all. It's gonna set

1849
01:25:05,600 --> 01:25:08,559
Speaker 2: the moves. But anyways, I have a new BIB of

1850
01:25:08,600 --> 01:25:11,200
Speaker 2: the week. It's called to the Moon by a group

1851
01:25:11,360 --> 01:25:13,280
Speaker 2: called Smile High. I don't know if it's a group

1852
01:25:13,360 --> 01:25:16,840
Speaker 2: or just one person, but I love the fact. Like

1853
01:25:17,160 --> 01:25:21,040
Speaker 2: I'm a Spotify girl and my Spotify just really knows me,

1854
01:25:21,240 --> 01:25:22,960
Speaker 2: and I feel like that's how I just be coming

1855
01:25:23,040 --> 01:25:23,960
Speaker 2: up on such good.

1856
01:25:23,840 --> 01:25:26,800
Speaker 1: Music, Like I love new R and B.

1857
01:25:26,920 --> 01:25:29,320
Speaker 2: I feel like R and B is not dead and

1858
01:25:29,600 --> 01:25:32,519
Speaker 2: I just have the most random, good ass music pop

1859
01:25:32,600 --> 01:25:35,280
Speaker 2: up on my Spotify. I love Spotify. I'm just like

1860
01:25:35,280 --> 01:25:38,880
Speaker 2: a Spotify girl. So Spotify shout out to y'all. Yes,

1861
01:25:39,120 --> 01:25:42,680
Speaker 2: that's what I do for real, real lot of playlists.

1862
01:25:43,120 --> 01:25:45,200
Speaker 1: Okay, run that bag. Yeah.

1863
01:25:45,320 --> 01:25:48,719
Speaker 2: So it's called to the Moon by Small High, super

1864
01:25:48,760 --> 01:25:49,840
Speaker 2: dope R and B track.

1865
01:25:49,960 --> 01:25:54,080
Speaker 1: You'll like it if you're an R and B girly girl.

1866
01:25:54,400 --> 01:25:59,920
Speaker 2: So came out with that album and I love Brent Fayan,

1867
01:26:00,280 --> 01:26:02,759
Speaker 2: So I love the song betweenty on Avage and Brentfis

1868
01:26:02,880 --> 01:26:04,000
Speaker 2: called the World Bunny.

1869
01:26:05,560 --> 01:26:09,080
Speaker 1: That's my song. It's real good. Okay, Okay, I can't even.

1870
01:26:08,920 --> 01:26:10,720
Speaker 2: Step into this conversation because I just I feel like

1871
01:26:10,760 --> 01:26:12,439
Speaker 2: I'll be old because the R and B I listened

1872
01:26:12,479 --> 01:26:13,959
Speaker 2: to is from the day.

1873
01:26:16,479 --> 01:26:18,120
Speaker 1: I like little maybe not.

1874
01:26:18,040 --> 01:26:23,240
Speaker 2: That far one twelve Yeah, your little little.

1875
01:26:23,040 --> 01:26:26,560
Speaker 1: One one a little give me a little Okay, I

1876
01:26:28,439 --> 01:26:28,960
Speaker 1: love that.

1877
01:26:29,000 --> 01:26:36,120
Speaker 2: Any meeting my brow that's a Now.

1878
01:26:36,160 --> 01:26:39,240
Speaker 1: It's crazy though, because I think Dre you like the

1879
01:26:39,320 --> 01:26:40,639
Speaker 1: nineties RM. I love.

1880
01:26:41,160 --> 01:26:42,880
Speaker 2: I love nineties R and B. But I feel like

1881
01:26:44,040 --> 01:26:47,000
Speaker 2: I know your nigga does this too. My man loves

1882
01:26:47,040 --> 01:26:49,559
Speaker 2: old school R and B. Oh yeah, like that is

1883
01:26:49,720 --> 01:26:52,160
Speaker 2: all he listens to. Like, but I love that. And

1884
01:26:52,240 --> 01:26:54,120
Speaker 2: one thing I will say that I have learned to

1885
01:26:54,960 --> 01:26:57,960
Speaker 2: I connect with a lot of high value man with music,

1886
01:26:58,240 --> 01:27:01,120
Speaker 2: creative stuff. Okay, they love that when you can get

1887
01:27:01,240 --> 01:27:04,400
Speaker 2: that that deepen that music back with them. Yeah, oh

1888
01:27:04,439 --> 01:27:07,120
Speaker 2: you're gonna get a mom no you you never like. Well,

1889
01:27:07,160 --> 01:27:10,120
Speaker 2: my man is a white Russian juice. So we we

1890
01:27:10,240 --> 01:27:10,880
Speaker 2: listen to some.

1891
01:27:10,880 --> 01:27:16,000
Speaker 1: Different things in my house. Look we're getting girl.

1892
01:27:16,280 --> 01:27:20,519
Speaker 2: He he he got us listening to like so honestly,

1893
01:27:20,560 --> 01:27:22,160
Speaker 2: he put me onto some Russian music. I don't know

1894
01:27:22,200 --> 01:27:24,680
Speaker 2: what the hell they're talking about, but it's sound good

1895
01:27:24,880 --> 01:27:27,320
Speaker 2: that they could be talking trash about whatever. I don't

1896
01:27:27,320 --> 01:27:29,840
Speaker 2: even know, but it's sound good. But but he does

1897
01:27:30,000 --> 01:27:32,840
Speaker 2: have a good music taste, like he'll listen to a

1898
01:27:32,880 --> 01:27:35,800
Speaker 2: little bit of everything. But what shocked me was this

1899
01:27:35,880 --> 01:27:39,719
Speaker 2: man talking about put on some Tunci some little wings.

1900
01:27:39,800 --> 01:27:42,400
Speaker 1: Okay you the mars, excuse me, sir.

1901
01:27:42,479 --> 01:27:46,479
Speaker 2: What he will He will put on the black album

1902
01:27:46,760 --> 01:27:50,160
Speaker 2: from jay Z or whatever and be and bumping for

1903
01:27:50,240 --> 01:27:53,280
Speaker 2: real the car like a whole like he got. Yeah,

1904
01:27:53,280 --> 01:27:57,000
Speaker 2: he vibe about hip hop. But we don't have sex

1905
01:27:57,040 --> 01:27:59,719
Speaker 2: to music though, but we need. We're gonna start ship,

1906
01:28:00,120 --> 01:28:02,080
Speaker 2: said my man in the bedroom when he listens to

1907
01:28:02,160 --> 01:28:04,439
Speaker 2: an R and B. And I'm like, we be in

1908
01:28:04,439 --> 01:28:08,160
Speaker 2: the bedroom listening to each other, breathe that playlist, I

1909
01:28:08,560 --> 01:28:11,400
Speaker 2: think about it. Yes, I love how to fix Send

1910
01:28:11,400 --> 01:28:12,120
Speaker 2: me that playlist?

1911
01:28:12,160 --> 01:28:15,240
Speaker 1: Girl, I got you girls, it's romance. Something tonight we

1912
01:28:15,240 --> 01:28:16,800
Speaker 1: get in late till we flying late.

1913
01:28:16,840 --> 01:28:20,280
Speaker 2: And yes, I have got to have two different playlists.

1914
01:28:20,280 --> 01:28:22,560
Speaker 2: You gotta have like a you know six the R

1915
01:28:22,640 --> 01:28:24,639
Speaker 2: and B. And you got to have like a trap playlist.

1916
01:28:24,720 --> 01:28:27,720
Speaker 2: Yeah you like you like the trap sometimes when I

1917
01:28:27,840 --> 01:28:28,879
Speaker 2: when I'm trying to full.

1918
01:28:31,080 --> 01:28:31,200
Speaker 1: One.

1919
01:28:31,400 --> 01:28:37,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you want to make a little love.

1920
01:28:38,360 --> 01:28:43,120
Speaker 1: You know, you want to get not Poundtown, please tell

1921
01:28:43,160 --> 01:28:47,439
Speaker 1: me downtown. Oh my lord, fix it Jesus.

1922
01:28:47,880 --> 01:28:50,080
Speaker 2: But yeah, I feel I'm like I said, I love

1923
01:28:50,120 --> 01:28:52,840
Speaker 2: the passion, so I love to play a little tool.

1924
01:28:53,840 --> 01:28:55,840
Speaker 1: I'm a little lacherie on and.

1925
01:28:55,760 --> 01:28:58,400
Speaker 2: All that stuff because I'm a person like I sleep

1926
01:28:58,400 --> 01:28:58,920
Speaker 2: in the nude.

1927
01:28:58,920 --> 01:29:01,280
Speaker 1: I sleep like me to. But I'm so big on

1928
01:29:01,479 --> 01:29:03,960
Speaker 1: like I love just feeling sexy and being sexy for

1929
01:29:04,040 --> 01:29:04,360
Speaker 1: my man.

1930
01:29:04,520 --> 01:29:06,519
Speaker 2: So it's like I always like go to bed and

1931
01:29:06,600 --> 01:29:08,960
Speaker 2: like my little match and stuff or like a cute

1932
01:29:09,000 --> 01:29:09,639
Speaker 2: little said.

1933
01:29:10,040 --> 01:29:12,080
Speaker 1: I really got to step my lingerie game up. Oh

1934
01:29:12,120 --> 01:29:14,879
Speaker 1: I have. I really I got to step my lingerie

1935
01:29:14,920 --> 01:29:15,280
Speaker 1: game up.

1936
01:29:15,280 --> 01:29:16,880
Speaker 2: Even when I buy it, I got fency stuff with

1937
01:29:16,960 --> 01:29:18,639
Speaker 2: the tags on it still and put it on because

1938
01:29:18,880 --> 01:29:20,439
Speaker 2: by the time I get to the bedroom, it's like

1939
01:29:20,479 --> 01:29:24,200
Speaker 2: we yeah, now, yeah, I would say, you can get

1940
01:29:24,200 --> 01:29:28,040
Speaker 2: this doctor till sleep pray. That's what I'm putting on,

1941
01:29:28,720 --> 01:29:31,840
Speaker 2: doctor t I will say. Now, mostly I do be

1942
01:29:31,920 --> 01:29:34,960
Speaker 2: walking around naked because it's like that's how it is.

1943
01:29:35,000 --> 01:29:36,639
Speaker 1: But when I do, I do try to make.

1944
01:29:36,640 --> 01:29:39,080
Speaker 2: You feel like that makes it less exciting for a

1945
01:29:39,120 --> 01:29:41,559
Speaker 2: man when you already just be walking around.

1946
01:29:41,600 --> 01:29:42,400
Speaker 1: How you walking around?

1947
01:29:42,479 --> 01:29:45,599
Speaker 2: You know a little bit of something and a little

1948
01:29:45,920 --> 01:29:48,559
Speaker 2: you know, a little to the imagination. I think that

1949
01:29:48,720 --> 01:29:52,000
Speaker 2: it just depends on your man. Yes, this being like

1950
01:29:52,040 --> 01:29:53,880
Speaker 2: different because I used to like this guy that I

1951
01:29:53,960 --> 01:29:56,800
Speaker 2: used to that he loved me and lingerie, Like that's

1952
01:29:56,800 --> 01:30:00,200
Speaker 2: why my lingerie collection is so extensive, because he's love

1953
01:30:00,240 --> 01:30:02,640
Speaker 2: seeing me dressed up. My man now he's like he

1954
01:30:02,640 --> 01:30:04,760
Speaker 2: cannot get enough for my body. He loves seeing it,

1955
01:30:04,840 --> 01:30:06,960
Speaker 2: Like every time he see me, it's like the first

1956
01:30:06,960 --> 01:30:09,559
Speaker 2: time he seen me naked. Oh, So that's why I'll

1957
01:30:09,560 --> 01:30:11,320
Speaker 2: be like, Okay, I'll walk around Nigga because that's what

1958
01:30:11,360 --> 01:30:13,280
Speaker 2: he likes. Oh, you know, I'll throw it on a

1959
01:30:13,280 --> 01:30:16,280
Speaker 2: little something cute if I want to. I like to

1960
01:30:16,320 --> 01:30:19,160
Speaker 2: feel sexy because lingerie does make us feel so absolutely,

1961
01:30:19,479 --> 01:30:21,280
Speaker 2: But I'll be walking around nigga because that's.

1962
01:30:21,160 --> 01:30:24,439
Speaker 1: What he likes. So I'll be NICKI that's he'd be like,

1963
01:30:24,479 --> 01:30:28,360
Speaker 1: you need to wear lingerie. I've seen this skin.

1964
01:30:28,240 --> 01:30:32,000
Speaker 2: Already and don't get me Like he'd be excited when

1965
01:30:32,040 --> 01:30:33,920
Speaker 2: I'm naked too, but he'd be like, I don't know,

1966
01:30:34,000 --> 01:30:36,400
Speaker 2: he just turned him on for me to like get undressed.

1967
01:30:36,439 --> 01:30:42,960
Speaker 2: That's that imagination, just as a little a little yeah, because,

1968
01:30:43,000 --> 01:30:45,040
Speaker 2: like I said, i'd be feeling sexy in the long

1969
01:30:45,160 --> 01:30:47,599
Speaker 2: I do too. Yeah, people every time if I get

1970
01:30:47,640 --> 01:30:48,840
Speaker 2: in the bed with clothes and he'd be like, why

1971
01:30:48,880 --> 01:30:49,320
Speaker 2: you got that on?

1972
01:30:49,560 --> 01:30:49,680
Speaker 1: You know.

1973
01:30:49,760 --> 01:30:51,719
Speaker 2: What I do need to focus on, though, is getting

1974
01:30:51,720 --> 01:30:54,880
Speaker 2: out of the bedroom after Oh yeah, you know you

1975
01:30:54,920 --> 01:30:56,680
Speaker 2: tend to like get in the bed and that's when

1976
01:30:56,680 --> 01:30:57,360
Speaker 2: the horny hits you.

1977
01:30:57,560 --> 01:30:57,880
Speaker 1: Mm hm.

1978
01:30:58,400 --> 01:30:59,920
Speaker 2: I need to I need to feel we used to,

1979
01:31:00,560 --> 01:31:03,200
Speaker 2: you know, and like, don't eat off my countertops.

1980
01:31:03,720 --> 01:31:04,280
Speaker 1: That's right.

1981
01:31:04,880 --> 01:31:07,600
Speaker 2: You never know what you're gonna Yeah, I've got a

1982
01:31:07,640 --> 01:31:09,160
Speaker 2: brand new kitchen, so we're gonna have to break that

1983
01:31:11,960 --> 01:31:16,280
Speaker 2: a Florida ceiling custom everything. Yeah, I'm about I'm gonna

1984
01:31:16,280 --> 01:31:18,960
Speaker 2: telling you have to. I feel like sex outside of

1985
01:31:19,000 --> 01:31:20,679
Speaker 2: the bedroom, Like that's fun.

1986
01:31:21,760 --> 01:31:24,760
Speaker 1: In the bathroom, go to the guest room.

1987
01:31:24,840 --> 01:31:28,639
Speaker 2: Ain't that where juice belong anyway? Drinking in the kitchen, Yeah,

1988
01:31:29,320 --> 01:31:30,960
Speaker 2: it's fun. It's a good time. They got this the

1989
01:31:31,040 --> 01:31:31,680
Speaker 2: victim WHI is.

1990
01:31:34,080 --> 01:31:36,240
Speaker 1: Right right right.

1991
01:31:36,760 --> 01:31:39,479
Speaker 2: So now it's time to get into our favorite segment

1992
01:31:39,520 --> 01:31:41,120
Speaker 2: of the show, which is pour your heart out. So

1993
01:31:41,240 --> 01:31:43,759
Speaker 2: you know, if you have any questions, you can always

1994
01:31:43,800 --> 01:31:46,680
Speaker 2: send them to ask poor Minds at gmail dot com.

1995
01:31:46,840 --> 01:31:49,280
Speaker 2: It's a s K p o U R in my

1996
01:31:49,439 --> 01:31:53,240
Speaker 2: n B s at gmail dot com.

1997
01:31:53,280 --> 01:31:59,720
Speaker 1: All right, what we got today? Thanks? Bad period? All right?

1998
01:32:00,240 --> 01:32:04,639
Speaker 2: See question number one. I'm a twenty eight year old

1999
01:32:04,640 --> 01:32:08,080
Speaker 2: female who has been struggling to get someone. My friends

2000
01:32:08,080 --> 01:32:10,200
Speaker 2: tell me that I'm too picky, but I believe I

2001
01:32:10,200 --> 01:32:13,479
Speaker 2: can't settle for just what's available just because I need

2002
01:32:13,520 --> 01:32:16,320
Speaker 2: to be in a relationship. I tend to overthink a lot,

2003
01:32:16,360 --> 01:32:18,559
Speaker 2: which misses me up a lot because it seems like

2004
01:32:18,600 --> 01:32:21,200
Speaker 2: I'm stuck in this situation and I won't find someone.

2005
01:32:21,720 --> 01:32:24,080
Speaker 2: I recently found someone who was a year younger than

2006
01:32:24,120 --> 01:32:26,720
Speaker 2: me ps. That's the first person who's younger than me

2007
01:32:26,800 --> 01:32:29,120
Speaker 2: that I've ever been with. We got a good thing

2008
01:32:29,200 --> 01:32:31,639
Speaker 2: going on, but he broke things off after two months

2009
01:32:31,680 --> 01:32:34,320
Speaker 2: because he's going through some things in his life and

2010
01:32:34,360 --> 01:32:37,280
Speaker 2: he looked like he's dragging me down with it. It

2011
01:32:37,400 --> 01:32:40,360
Speaker 2: messed me up because I lowered my expectations and ended

2012
01:32:40,400 --> 01:32:43,320
Speaker 2: up being broken, which I didn't see coming by. It's

2013
01:32:43,360 --> 01:32:45,839
Speaker 2: almost a month since it happened, but I'm still hurting

2014
01:32:45,880 --> 01:32:49,400
Speaker 2: and I can't seem to move on. Kindly help regards

2015
01:32:50,000 --> 01:32:54,160
Speaker 2: Wanjiku Stilla. Well, I'll say this. Your first mistake was

2016
01:32:54,280 --> 01:32:57,680
Speaker 2: lowering your standards. You never get anything good out of

2017
01:32:57,720 --> 01:33:02,600
Speaker 2: lowering your standards ever. Ever, Like, I can think of

2018
01:33:02,680 --> 01:33:05,040
Speaker 2: one specific situation where I was like, Okay, it's better

2019
01:33:05,160 --> 01:33:06,720
Speaker 2: to talk to him than talk to nobody, and.

2020
01:33:06,680 --> 01:33:08,439
Speaker 1: It was just horrible. I didn't get my heart broken.

2021
01:33:08,479 --> 01:33:09,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, what am I doing?

2022
01:33:10,160 --> 01:33:12,320
Speaker 2: You're wasting your time for what? And I think that

2023
01:33:12,400 --> 01:33:15,160
Speaker 2: was a good point that you made earlier. We need

2024
01:33:15,160 --> 01:33:18,040
Speaker 2: to be stop being afraid of being lonely. When you're

2025
01:33:18,040 --> 01:33:20,360
Speaker 2: by yourself, you learn so much about yourself and you

2026
01:33:20,400 --> 01:33:23,080
Speaker 2: can really really grow. I don't know why people are

2027
01:33:23,160 --> 01:33:27,920
Speaker 2: scared to grow and be in uncomfortable zones, because that's

2028
01:33:27,960 --> 01:33:30,680
Speaker 2: when you're gonna find a person. Like when you're not

2029
01:33:30,800 --> 01:33:33,040
Speaker 2: looking and you're working on yourself, that's when that person

2030
01:33:33,080 --> 01:33:34,960
Speaker 2: gonna come along and you're gonna be like, oh my god,

2031
01:33:34,960 --> 01:33:37,320
Speaker 2: where did this come from? Yeah, that's what I meant

2032
01:33:37,320 --> 01:33:42,280
Speaker 2: by proximity. Like, when we're focused on something, the universe

2033
01:33:42,400 --> 01:33:45,479
Speaker 2: just shows up and delivered, but it doesn't have as

2034
01:33:45,600 --> 01:33:47,519
Speaker 2: keen of a listening ear as we think. We listen

2035
01:33:47,560 --> 01:33:51,000
Speaker 2: to these girls, I manifested this manifest Faith without work

2036
01:33:51,080 --> 01:33:54,120
Speaker 2: is dead. You can manifest till the cows come home, honey.

2037
01:33:54,120 --> 01:33:56,320
Speaker 2: But if you're not putting in the work and making

2038
01:33:56,360 --> 01:33:59,240
Speaker 2: it happen, you're not gonna manifest it. So if you're

2039
01:33:59,280 --> 01:34:01,360
Speaker 2: not getting out and you just want to meet a man,

2040
01:34:01,400 --> 01:34:04,519
Speaker 2: you're gonna meet wherever you go. And if you go

2041
01:34:04,720 --> 01:34:07,960
Speaker 2: to some you know, raggedy places, you're gonna meet a

2042
01:34:08,040 --> 01:34:08,880
Speaker 2: raggedy person.

2043
01:34:09,240 --> 01:34:10,919
Speaker 1: And you also are what you attract.

2044
01:34:11,320 --> 01:34:14,439
Speaker 2: So the fact that you know, she said, I feel

2045
01:34:14,439 --> 01:34:16,360
Speaker 2: like I'm never gonna find somebody I feel like this.

2046
01:34:16,400 --> 01:34:17,960
Speaker 1: I feel like that those.

2047
01:34:17,680 --> 01:34:22,480
Speaker 2: Things tend to devalue you inside your mental which exudes

2048
01:34:22,560 --> 01:34:25,960
Speaker 2: in your energy. And so it's not that you lowered

2049
01:34:26,000 --> 01:34:28,920
Speaker 2: your standard or that your standard was too high. It's

2050
01:34:28,960 --> 01:34:31,600
Speaker 2: about the fact that you got to be operating in

2051
01:34:31,760 --> 01:34:35,519
Speaker 2: excellence in order to attract that excellence. Like I'm pretty

2052
01:34:35,520 --> 01:34:37,880
Speaker 2: sure if we asked her a question, is splitting her

2053
01:34:37,880 --> 01:34:40,439
Speaker 2: a DM. I'm sure she got some things going on

2054
01:34:40,520 --> 01:34:43,080
Speaker 2: in her life too, some things that got her, you know,

2055
01:34:43,320 --> 01:34:46,519
Speaker 2: a little beside herself, not quite on the track that

2056
01:34:46,600 --> 01:34:49,120
Speaker 2: she wants to be. She may have some goals that

2057
01:34:49,160 --> 01:34:53,400
Speaker 2: she hasn't accomplished yet. And so for one, thank you

2058
01:34:53,479 --> 01:34:55,880
Speaker 2: for sharing the question because it opens up our eyes

2059
01:34:55,920 --> 01:35:00,960
Speaker 2: to you know, the possibilities of what happens when my My

2060
01:35:00,800 --> 01:35:05,719
Speaker 2: advice would be to focus on something that brings you joy,

2061
01:35:06,160 --> 01:35:08,000
Speaker 2: so that the person that you meet in your life

2062
01:35:08,040 --> 01:35:10,000
Speaker 2: can only add to that. You'll be able to see

2063
01:35:10,000 --> 01:35:12,639
Speaker 2: those red flags from the rent right. And I'll say

2064
01:35:12,800 --> 01:35:15,000
Speaker 2: it seems like when she got out of the situation,

2065
01:35:15,320 --> 01:35:17,160
Speaker 2: she was able to look back and be like, oh,

2066
01:35:17,200 --> 01:35:20,360
Speaker 2: I lower my standard or whatever the case was. But

2067
01:35:20,400 --> 01:35:22,120
Speaker 2: I bet in that moment, whenever you met him, you

2068
01:35:22,120 --> 01:35:23,800
Speaker 2: didn't feel like you were lowing your standards because you

2069
01:35:23,800 --> 01:35:26,519
Speaker 2: were receiving what you thought you deserved at that And.

2070
01:35:26,479 --> 01:35:28,960
Speaker 1: Girl, you only hurt because you want me just love

2071
01:35:29,000 --> 01:35:29,439
Speaker 1: on you.

2072
01:35:29,560 --> 01:35:31,960
Speaker 2: Take you to the spy, take buy you some flowers,

2073
01:35:32,000 --> 01:35:33,639
Speaker 2: ship them like you ain't know who they came from.

2074
01:35:33,680 --> 01:35:35,760
Speaker 2: And I just say, if you peaky, stay peaky. You

2075
01:35:35,800 --> 01:35:38,599
Speaker 2: know what you want and don't feel And I feel

2076
01:35:38,600 --> 01:35:41,240
Speaker 2: like when I started taking better care of myself, that's

2077
01:35:41,280 --> 01:35:43,400
Speaker 2: when it's like, I now I have somebody who like

2078
01:35:43,520 --> 01:35:46,880
Speaker 2: takes like when I say okay if I if he's

2079
01:35:46,920 --> 01:35:50,080
Speaker 2: not doing something, I like, it's received and it's done

2080
01:35:50,280 --> 01:35:52,040
Speaker 2: right saying So it's like when you take care of

2081
01:35:52,080 --> 01:35:54,360
Speaker 2: yourself and somebody sees that they want to take care

2082
01:35:54,400 --> 01:35:56,599
Speaker 2: of you absolutely, And I noticed that in myself when

2083
01:35:56,640 --> 01:35:59,240
Speaker 2: I start slipping and I start, you know, like we

2084
01:35:59,280 --> 01:36:02,559
Speaker 2: talked earlier, like the BBO blow up, like after the

2085
01:36:02,600 --> 01:36:04,360
Speaker 2: blow up, if you don't.

2086
01:36:04,200 --> 01:36:05,040
Speaker 1: Do right by yourself.

2087
01:36:05,840 --> 01:36:09,599
Speaker 2: That's exactly where I was for the last like six months.

2088
01:36:09,640 --> 01:36:11,760
Speaker 2: And it changed the way I felt about myself, and

2089
01:36:11,800 --> 01:36:13,679
Speaker 2: it changed my outward energy.

2090
01:36:14,040 --> 01:36:16,200
Speaker 1: It changed how I treated my man and changed how

2091
01:36:16,200 --> 01:36:17,600
Speaker 1: I treat it myself.

2092
01:36:17,280 --> 01:36:21,639
Speaker 2: My friendships, my relationships were all impacted because I wasn't

2093
01:36:21,680 --> 01:36:25,599
Speaker 2: taking care of her and continuing to become her. And

2094
01:36:25,640 --> 01:36:29,040
Speaker 2: so once I got comfortable, everything started to kind of

2095
01:36:30,160 --> 01:36:31,320
Speaker 2: stagnate around me.

2096
01:36:31,920 --> 01:36:35,240
Speaker 1: And now that I'm you know, moving into this realm of.

2097
01:36:35,200 --> 01:36:38,400
Speaker 2: Like, okay, elevate, elevate, elevate again, let's get into it.

2098
01:36:38,720 --> 01:36:42,120
Speaker 2: Then the opportunities pop up, the shows pop up, the

2099
01:36:42,200 --> 01:36:45,479
Speaker 2: collapse pop up, the different things in my life that

2100
01:36:45,560 --> 01:36:48,880
Speaker 2: I am excited by they pop up, and it just

2101
01:36:49,000 --> 01:36:52,599
Speaker 2: changes how I exude my energy. Like if y'all had

2102
01:36:52,640 --> 01:36:54,240
Speaker 2: me on the show six months ago, I would not

2103
01:36:54,280 --> 01:36:56,360
Speaker 2: be a good time because I was not in this

2104
01:36:56,439 --> 01:36:59,680
Speaker 2: space of like I am growing. It's not about being

2105
01:36:59,720 --> 01:37:03,160
Speaker 2: happy because growth hurts right right. It's more about, like,

2106
01:37:03,520 --> 01:37:07,240
Speaker 2: am I emotion? Am I doing the things that get

2107
01:37:07,280 --> 01:37:10,320
Speaker 2: me to the end goal that align me with excellence.

2108
01:37:10,880 --> 01:37:13,520
Speaker 2: And you know, if you want a good man of affluence,

2109
01:37:13,600 --> 01:37:15,240
Speaker 2: you gotta be aligned with excellence.

2110
01:37:16,360 --> 01:37:21,519
Speaker 1: Period. Girl A word, work on yourself around you a rose.

2111
01:37:23,240 --> 01:37:29,000
Speaker 2: We did another broke Because we start we get digmatized.

2112
01:37:29,240 --> 01:37:31,920
Speaker 2: Do so we need to lean on vibrators again. When

2113
01:37:31,960 --> 01:37:33,240
Speaker 2: you want to call that me be.

2114
01:37:33,920 --> 01:37:34,519
Speaker 1: Pull it out.

2115
01:37:34,720 --> 01:37:37,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, sit on that thing, play with it in the car,

2116
01:37:37,400 --> 01:37:40,280
Speaker 2: do something something exciting in the car is crazy.

2117
01:37:40,280 --> 01:37:44,280
Speaker 1: Don't give her no idea a do it. I used

2118
01:37:44,280 --> 01:37:46,400
Speaker 1: to keep it in the little joint in between the things.

2119
01:37:46,439 --> 01:37:50,559
Speaker 1: That's what I little road stretch pants on that day.

2120
01:37:50,760 --> 01:37:58,800
Speaker 1: Not stretch. It takes me too. I am sometimes need

2121
01:37:59,000 --> 01:38:02,040
Speaker 1: me and they picked me. Okay, all right, now what

2122
01:38:03,240 --> 01:38:05,000
Speaker 1: sh up for? Two? Hi ladies.

2123
01:38:05,120 --> 01:38:07,080
Speaker 2: Just wanted to start by saying, I really love y'all.

2124
01:38:07,120 --> 01:38:09,320
Speaker 2: I've been a supporter since wine down Wednesdays, and I'm

2125
01:38:09,320 --> 01:38:11,640
Speaker 2: proud of the growth. Y'all really got me through my

2126
01:38:11,720 --> 01:38:15,200
Speaker 2: breakup of fifteen years by watching the pod. It uplifted

2127
01:38:15,200 --> 01:38:17,400
Speaker 2: me and rebuilt my confidence. So thank you for being

2128
01:38:17,439 --> 01:38:19,880
Speaker 2: bad bitches but also real women of substance.

2129
01:38:20,200 --> 01:38:23,160
Speaker 1: Now onto my question. Have you ever have you ever

2130
01:38:23,320 --> 01:38:24,120
Speaker 1: had to let.

2131
01:38:23,960 --> 01:38:26,639
Speaker 2: A nigga go for being too well and dowed dick

2132
01:38:26,840 --> 01:38:27,599
Speaker 2: just too big?

2133
01:38:27,680 --> 01:38:28,760
Speaker 1: Like, oh my gosh.

2134
01:38:28,880 --> 01:38:31,160
Speaker 2: Obviously I'm dating now and I really like this guy,

2135
01:38:31,200 --> 01:38:33,320
Speaker 2: but ody K if I can take the dick. I'm

2136
01:38:33,400 --> 01:38:35,559
Speaker 2: trying to tough en up and be a g about it.

2137
01:38:35,600 --> 01:38:37,720
Speaker 2: But I don't know what would you do if you

2138
01:38:37,720 --> 01:38:39,960
Speaker 2: were in this situation, and if I do decide to

2139
01:38:40,040 --> 01:38:42,280
Speaker 2: keep it going, do you have any tips for positions

2140
01:38:42,280 --> 01:38:45,320
Speaker 2: when you're dealing with a real bad b love y'all?

2141
01:38:46,320 --> 01:38:49,479
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like I would have. I'm

2142
01:38:49,479 --> 01:38:49,920
Speaker 1: not okay.

2143
01:38:49,960 --> 01:38:53,680
Speaker 2: So I was talking to my friend about this the

2144
01:38:53,720 --> 01:38:55,320
Speaker 2: other day and I said, you know, when you've been

2145
01:38:55,320 --> 01:38:57,639
Speaker 2: having sex with one person for a really long time

2146
01:38:58,000 --> 01:39:00,479
Speaker 2: and then y'all break up and then you start dating

2147
01:39:00,479 --> 01:39:03,679
Speaker 2: someone else, your body needs an adjustment period to get

2148
01:39:03,760 --> 01:39:04,439
Speaker 2: used to new dig.

2149
01:39:04,600 --> 01:39:07,679
Speaker 1: That's true, Like you dicks are all different sizes.

2150
01:39:07,720 --> 01:39:10,120
Speaker 2: Now, if somebody may like, if you go from having

2151
01:39:10,120 --> 01:39:11,920
Speaker 2: sex with somebody with a really big dig, then you

2152
01:39:11,960 --> 01:39:14,000
Speaker 2: go to have sex with somebody with like an advertised dick.

2153
01:39:14,080 --> 01:39:16,160
Speaker 2: You might think that dick is small, but once you

2154
01:39:16,200 --> 01:39:18,080
Speaker 2: start fucking him for a while, but oh shit, his dick.

2155
01:39:18,000 --> 01:39:18,439
Speaker 1: Is not small.

2156
01:39:18,479 --> 01:39:20,320
Speaker 2: Your body just had you be telling your friends like, girl,

2157
01:39:20,320 --> 01:39:21,960
Speaker 2: he'd be hitting the spot.

2158
01:39:22,240 --> 01:39:24,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, like he not that big, but.

2159
01:39:24,840 --> 01:39:30,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I like, your body has to adjust. So

2160
01:39:30,840 --> 01:39:33,080
Speaker 2: if you like, if it's just sex, like y'all are

2161
01:39:33,080 --> 01:39:35,000
Speaker 2: just fucking and you're not enjoying it, of course, stop

2162
01:39:35,040 --> 01:39:38,000
Speaker 2: having sex. But if it's somebody that you like, you

2163
01:39:38,160 --> 01:39:40,439
Speaker 2: have to women, we got to give ourselves an adjustment

2164
01:39:40,479 --> 01:39:43,040
Speaker 2: period because I've been through that before, like and I

2165
01:39:43,080 --> 01:39:44,920
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, this is so painful for me,

2166
01:39:45,000 --> 01:39:45,960
Speaker 2: Like I don't know what I'm gonna do.

2167
01:39:45,960 --> 01:39:47,800
Speaker 1: But it's like my body adjusted. I got used to it.

2168
01:39:47,960 --> 01:39:50,880
Speaker 1: I started taking that dick. Girl, But I don't know.

2169
01:39:50,920 --> 01:39:54,519
Speaker 1: I feel like some people guys three adjustment and I.

2170
01:39:56,320 --> 01:39:58,200
Speaker 2: But I always say this, like when I'm dating somebody

2171
01:39:58,200 --> 01:39:59,960
Speaker 2: I like to have sex. I'm a very sexual person.

2172
01:40:00,000 --> 01:40:03,800
Speaker 2: I'll be having a lot of sex. So y'all gotta

2173
01:40:03,840 --> 01:40:06,040
Speaker 2: do it a lot. I don't think there's necessarily a position,

2174
01:40:06,040 --> 01:40:08,719
Speaker 2: but I will say, make sure he's not ramming you

2175
01:40:09,240 --> 01:40:11,360
Speaker 2: and you know, make sure you know what that could

2176
01:40:11,400 --> 01:40:14,280
Speaker 2: be a part of the problem is he's not taking

2177
01:40:14,280 --> 01:40:16,519
Speaker 2: care of her body, allow her to open up to

2178
01:40:16,560 --> 01:40:20,160
Speaker 2: those and you might just got the good old snitchy snatchy,

2179
01:40:20,360 --> 01:40:23,400
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, might have a red snapper.

2180
01:40:23,600 --> 01:40:24,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but.

2181
01:40:26,560 --> 01:40:30,040
Speaker 2: I mean it's also just like man, they get overly

2182
01:40:30,080 --> 01:40:31,320
Speaker 2: excited and it shows.

2183
01:40:31,960 --> 01:40:34,320
Speaker 1: So when we get overly excited, it.

2184
01:40:34,360 --> 01:40:37,080
Speaker 2: Opened things open up, you know, And so make sure

2185
01:40:37,080 --> 01:40:40,960
Speaker 2: that he's taking the time with you to nurture your

2186
01:40:41,000 --> 01:40:44,479
Speaker 2: body the way you need it that way when the

2187
01:40:44,560 --> 01:40:45,320
Speaker 2: time comes.

2188
01:40:45,360 --> 01:40:51,680
Speaker 1: Now you might be dealing with a eight. But but

2189
01:40:51,800 --> 01:40:56,000
Speaker 1: if it ain't that because's too big. It's too big.

2190
01:40:56,880 --> 01:40:59,360
Speaker 2: I don't And that's probably why his asked single night,

2191
01:41:00,040 --> 01:41:03,000
Speaker 2: the woman, I want to drive through her spirit. Everything's

2192
01:41:03,720 --> 01:41:06,160
Speaker 2: I don't like. I don't want nothing that's feeling like

2193
01:41:06,200 --> 01:41:08,840
Speaker 2: it's up in my throat now. Yeah, but I will say,

2194
01:41:08,880 --> 01:41:11,439
Speaker 2: like any tips is like you have to relax.

2195
01:41:11,880 --> 01:41:13,400
Speaker 1: Like I think, if.

2196
01:41:13,240 --> 01:41:15,040
Speaker 2: You're going into it knowing like he got a big

2197
01:41:15,080 --> 01:41:17,960
Speaker 2: dick and you already test to you not went down there,

2198
01:41:18,000 --> 01:41:19,760
Speaker 2: it's not gonna be enjoyable because you already know this

2199
01:41:19,840 --> 01:41:21,200
Speaker 2: nigga got a big dick, and I'm not about to

2200
01:41:21,280 --> 01:41:23,720
Speaker 2: enjoy this. It's like, no, maybe take some more time

2201
01:41:23,760 --> 01:41:27,040
Speaker 2: on the floor, play and relax. Y'all sitting at home

2202
01:41:27,120 --> 01:41:29,280
Speaker 2: right now, and she like they don't understand.

2203
01:41:29,520 --> 01:41:34,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, that bottle service every time. I'm not bottle service,

2204
01:41:34,479 --> 01:41:39,920
Speaker 1: something about like that with the dis wark. So I

2205
01:41:39,960 --> 01:41:43,160
Speaker 1: would say, let's trying, and it is not a celebration.

2206
01:41:44,120 --> 01:41:46,320
Speaker 1: I'm crying. I feel like it's a spirit every time.

2207
01:41:46,479 --> 01:41:49,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say, try to adjust. But if it's

2208
01:41:49,640 --> 01:41:52,000
Speaker 2: too big and you're just not enjoying it, you'll probably

2209
01:41:52,000 --> 01:41:52,559
Speaker 2: have to move on.

2210
01:41:52,720 --> 01:41:55,400
Speaker 1: You just let it go. See, I ain't taking no

2211
01:41:55,439 --> 01:41:57,479
Speaker 1: big old horse. Fine, I don't.

2212
01:41:59,240 --> 01:42:03,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and there's some girls out there with them love

2213
01:42:03,520 --> 01:42:07,479
Speaker 2: him like they waiting on him. They like he's not baby.

2214
01:42:08,160 --> 01:42:12,080
Speaker 1: I don't like me. I want my kidneys.

2215
01:42:10,680 --> 01:42:13,800
Speaker 5: I don't.

2216
01:42:13,960 --> 01:42:17,519
Speaker 2: That doesn't even sound good. I'll pass one out of ten.

2217
01:42:17,640 --> 01:42:19,559
Speaker 2: Do not recommend good luck.

2218
01:42:19,400 --> 01:42:20,080
Speaker 1: To my girl?

2219
01:42:20,120 --> 01:42:23,880
Speaker 2: Okay, do we have a voicemailt today for the shot line?

2220
01:42:25,200 --> 01:42:28,320
Speaker 2: Y'all make sure y'all call in and if y'all want to,

2221
01:42:28,680 --> 01:42:30,519
Speaker 2: you know, get things off of your chest, make sure

2222
01:42:30,560 --> 01:42:31,519
Speaker 2: y'all leave us a voicemail.

2223
01:42:31,560 --> 01:42:34,960
Speaker 1: The number is at the bottom and uh, let us

2224
01:42:35,080 --> 01:42:36,080
Speaker 1: know where.

2225
01:42:35,880 --> 01:42:37,880
Speaker 2: They can find you, how they can sign up for

2226
01:42:37,920 --> 01:42:40,479
Speaker 2: their forces and all that good stuff. Absolutely, so you

2227
01:42:40,520 --> 01:42:44,240
Speaker 2: can find me at Suite to number two Elite s

2228
01:42:44,360 --> 01:42:47,799
Speaker 2: W E E T two Elite on all platforms everywhere

2229
01:42:47,840 --> 01:42:51,880
Speaker 2: you look. I'm there, And if you're interested in working

2230
01:42:51,920 --> 01:42:54,479
Speaker 2: with me, you can slide in the DM with put

2231
01:42:54,479 --> 01:42:57,080
Speaker 2: me in coach. I am not a chief coach, and

2232
01:42:57,120 --> 01:42:59,599
Speaker 2: I am not Jesus. You will take this collection plate

2233
01:42:59,680 --> 01:43:03,840
Speaker 2: before or I save you. So, but I do have

2234
01:43:03,960 --> 01:43:06,040
Speaker 2: some things that you know, if you're not ready to

2235
01:43:06,080 --> 01:43:07,960
Speaker 2: really jump out the window, you can start working for

2236
01:43:08,000 --> 01:43:09,320
Speaker 2: twenty dollars, you know what I mean.

2237
01:43:09,360 --> 01:43:12,200
Speaker 1: You don't have to you don't have to pour in completely.

2238
01:43:12,280 --> 01:43:15,120
Speaker 2: But the more you invest in yourself, the more you'll

2239
01:43:15,160 --> 01:43:17,760
Speaker 2: find that men are willing to invest in you. So

2240
01:43:17,840 --> 01:43:20,360
Speaker 2: if you're finding that men aren't really providing for you,

2241
01:43:20,520 --> 01:43:22,840
Speaker 2: or giving to you or pouring into you, it's likely

2242
01:43:22,880 --> 01:43:25,760
Speaker 2: because you're not pouring in and investing in yourself, you

2243
01:43:25,760 --> 01:43:29,760
Speaker 2: know what I mean. So it's very very important that

2244
01:43:29,800 --> 01:43:32,439
Speaker 2: you find a community a coach, just like y'all watch

2245
01:43:32,520 --> 01:43:35,120
Speaker 2: the show, because it resonates with you and you grow

2246
01:43:35,160 --> 01:43:35,880
Speaker 2: and you learn and.

2247
01:43:35,800 --> 01:43:39,400
Speaker 1: We kikiki a lot. But through the keiky cackle.

2248
01:43:39,280 --> 01:43:42,760
Speaker 2: Is growth, right, and so we find new perspectives and

2249
01:43:42,800 --> 01:43:44,439
Speaker 2: things that challenge us and change us.

2250
01:43:44,720 --> 01:43:46,960
Speaker 1: And I encourage you to continue to do that. Find

2251
01:43:46,960 --> 01:43:47,479
Speaker 1: a community.

2252
01:43:47,520 --> 01:43:50,320
Speaker 2: If it's not mine, that's okay, just find one because

2253
01:43:50,360 --> 01:43:53,879
Speaker 2: when you do, it will tanext your growth so fast.

2254
01:43:54,360 --> 01:43:58,160
Speaker 2: I mean, we pay for everything for knowledge from anywhere.

2255
01:43:58,280 --> 01:44:01,599
Speaker 2: We went to school, educated ourselves. You know, you don't

2256
01:44:01,680 --> 01:44:03,439
Speaker 2: change your own tire, you go to the mechanic for

2257
01:44:03,520 --> 01:44:06,559
Speaker 2: oil change. You pay somebody to teach you these things.

2258
01:44:06,920 --> 01:44:09,320
Speaker 2: I am that teacher. I am that guru that's gonna

2259
01:44:09,320 --> 01:44:10,400
Speaker 2: get you to where you want to go in a

2260
01:44:10,439 --> 01:44:11,280
Speaker 2: short period of time.

2261
01:44:11,680 --> 01:44:14,559
Speaker 1: Houses, cars, businesses. Like my students.

2262
01:44:14,600 --> 01:44:16,519
Speaker 2: You should see the testimony was on my page. Maybe

2263
01:44:16,600 --> 01:44:18,479
Speaker 2: they oh, I said, yeah, that's why you thought we

2264
01:44:18,479 --> 01:44:19,240
Speaker 2: was doing sistrange.

2265
01:44:19,320 --> 01:44:24,400
Speaker 1: Just a change. Yeah, my students have a come up.

2266
01:44:24,479 --> 01:44:27,960
Speaker 2: It's a total lifestyle transformation because they don't understand and

2267
01:44:28,000 --> 01:44:31,320
Speaker 2: realize that this perspective, this this sweet to elite.

2268
01:44:31,360 --> 01:44:32,400
Speaker 1: That's where it came from.

2269
01:44:32,520 --> 01:44:37,599
Speaker 2: Okay, we went from sugar to you know, real setup,

2270
01:44:37,840 --> 01:44:42,719
Speaker 2: real off like sugar bagages, y'all ain't getting that sugar

2271
01:44:42,760 --> 01:44:43,639
Speaker 2: for real, y'all.

2272
01:44:45,080 --> 01:44:48,400
Speaker 1: Now the splendor is serious. Okay, well, thank you so much.

2273
01:44:48,479 --> 01:44:52,160
Speaker 2: And before we ended, we have a little gift for you.

2274
01:44:52,240 --> 01:44:55,559
Speaker 2: We want to give you some illis. We love this

2275
01:44:56,040 --> 01:44:58,360
Speaker 2: love this liquor. It's a crane based liquor and it's

2276
01:44:58,439 --> 01:44:59,840
Speaker 2: really really good. So you know, you can put it

2277
01:44:59,840 --> 01:45:04,640
Speaker 2: in coffee. You can make you some little boozy dessert.

2278
01:45:05,439 --> 01:45:08,000
Speaker 2: So it's like a little Valentine's Day you know, you,

2279
01:45:08,000 --> 01:45:09,519
Speaker 2: you and Bookie can get a little drunk.

2280
01:45:09,680 --> 01:45:13,920
Speaker 1: Yeah you Yeah, I'm here for it, thank y'all. I

2281
01:45:14,000 --> 01:45:17,240
Speaker 1: love me a little gift. You know that I'll be back.

2282
01:45:19,400 --> 01:45:21,880
Speaker 2: Happy Valentine's saying, Oh, before we go, real quick, what

2283
01:45:21,920 --> 01:45:23,880
Speaker 2: are y'all Valentine's Day plans.

2284
01:45:25,040 --> 01:45:27,000
Speaker 1: To day? You going on a little date or whatever?

2285
01:45:27,479 --> 01:45:29,559
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know.

2286
01:45:29,520 --> 01:45:34,080
Speaker 2: Yet, playing anything. Yeah, I don't really know yet. I'm

2287
01:45:34,120 --> 01:45:36,439
Speaker 2: only gonna try to hit the airline for really really

2288
01:45:36,560 --> 01:45:40,960
Speaker 2: we're warm. Yeah, I'm gonna be in Houston with my

2289
01:45:40,960 --> 01:45:43,040
Speaker 2: friends taking care of my friend because she's going through something.

2290
01:45:43,120 --> 01:45:46,160
Speaker 2: But we were trying to figure out I'm gonna have

2291
01:45:46,200 --> 01:45:48,599
Speaker 2: to do Valentine's Day after Valentine So when we go out,

2292
01:45:48,680 --> 01:45:52,600
Speaker 2: find you one of them little pop up Valentine's restaurant,

2293
01:45:52,680 --> 01:45:59,880
Speaker 2: flip turnover, get you a boomerang. I mean, love, y'all,

2294
01:46:00,040 --> 01:46:05,360
Speaker 2: ain't nobody gonna know? Yeah, we figured it out. But

2295
01:46:05,400 --> 01:46:08,839
Speaker 2: happy Valentine's Day, guys, Happy y'all.

2296
01:46:09,120 --> 01:46:17,200
Speaker 1: See y'all next week at for Hour. Mm hmmm. This

2297
01:46:17,240 --> 01:46:21,120
Speaker 1: is Valentine's Day and we're gonna.

2298
01:46:20,960 --> 01:46:26,920
Speaker 2: Show y'all how to love and makes sweet sweet love.

2299
01:46:28,120 --> 01:46:33,320
Speaker 1: Y'all ready, ladies, just rock with us. I did real quick.

2300
01:46:34,240 --> 01:46:41,719
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I used to think that our fine enough,

2301
01:46:42,479 --> 01:46:45,880
Speaker 1: and I used to think that I wasn't wild enough.

2302
01:46:46,880 --> 01:46:50,840
Speaker 2: But I won't waste my time trying to figure out

2303
01:46:51,200 --> 01:46:54,120
Speaker 2: while you're playing games, what's this all about?

2304
01:46:54,720 --> 01:47:00,559
Speaker 5: And I can't believe you heard amy, I met a girl.

2305
01:47:00,680 --> 01:47:06,400
Speaker 1: What a difference what you see? You wait see me?

2306
01:47:07,080 --> 01:47:10,360
Speaker 1: But I guess he was all just made believe.

2307
01:47:10,880 --> 01:47:19,920
Speaker 5: Oh Lord, never no what I was missing, but I

2308
01:47:20,080 --> 01:47:23,200
Speaker 5: know once we start kissing.

2309
01:47:23,160 --> 01:47:24,240
Speaker 2: I found.

2310
01:47:31,960 --> 01:47:37,280
Speaker 5: Never knew what I was missing, but I knew once

2311
01:47:37,439 --> 01:47:45,519
Speaker 5: we start kissing, I found found you.

2312
01:47:47,800 --> 01:47:53,799
Speaker 2: Now you're gone wood in my gona dude, so team,

2313
01:47:54,120 --> 01:47:55,320
Speaker 2: my my.

2314
01:47:55,560 --> 01:48:01,280
Speaker 4: Son can't go without you.

2315
01:48:01,600 --> 01:48:05,480
Speaker 5: Say my rainy days paid away.

2316
01:48:05,800 --> 01:48:07,639
Speaker 1: Will you come around?

2317
01:48:07,880 --> 01:48:16,320
Speaker 5: Please tell me, baby, Why are you going so far away?

2318
01:48:16,600 --> 01:48:17,320
Speaker 2: Why are you going?

2319
01:48:21,320 --> 01:48:27,080
Speaker 4: Never knew what was missing, but I knew ones we

2320
01:48:27,320 --> 01:48:41,400
Speaker 4: start kissing, I'm fine. Never knew what I was missing,

2321
01:48:41,800 --> 01:48:46,440
Speaker 4: but I knew once we start kissing, I'm foe.

2322
01:48:51,160 --> 01:48:56,960
Speaker 1: You man, Shut up. Talk girl in the motherfucker billion, Carrie,

2323
01:48:57,320 --> 01:49:04,400
Speaker 1: I'm tired. She got some Yeah she will ship. Yeah that.

2324
01:49:07,640 --> 01:49:11,920
Speaker 2: Is that thing, that

2325
01:49:14,680 --> 01:49:15,720
Speaker 1: Thing that