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Speaker 1: you share that? Or you Nevember eighteen weeks today? Oh

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Speaker 1: my brief because it's so weird. My kids asked me

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Speaker 1: I'm like, first of all, you're mistake, but no, it

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Speaker 1: was not. It was definitely playing like that soon because

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Speaker 1: how many they're eighteen months apart? So I wanted them

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Speaker 1: to be torture yourself. Well, no. I thought it was

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Speaker 1: So yes, then I was tortured. But anyway, enough about me.

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Speaker 1: Um what to give us, like your story, because that's

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Speaker 1: every woman who's been pregnant, they have a story, yes

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Speaker 1: for sure. Um. So Dami and I got married in

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Speaker 1: the positive, just get lighter and lighter and lighter until

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Speaker 1: it went away. A false positive. No, no, that the

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Speaker 1: they said you couldn't get pregnant. My miscarriages happened because

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Speaker 1: after implantation. Um So, my progesterons levels didn't say high enough, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: tried those for three months, didn't work. Took a month

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