Speaker 1: I Suck Good Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared and
Speaker 1: I Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everyone, Welcome to this week's
Speaker 1: episode of Help I Suck At Dating. A very special
Speaker 1: episode because we are recording live from Oracle Park, I
Speaker 1: can't take you seriously in San Francisco. We're on a
Speaker 1: little bit of a time constraint today, so Vanessa and
Speaker 1: I are gonna be bulldozing through this episode. We've got
Speaker 1: a fun one, We've got analyze here in the stadium
Speaker 1: with us. We also have the men from How Men
Speaker 1: Think About Dmitri and Rick are going to come on.
Speaker 1: And Rick actually has a thirteen year old son who's
Speaker 1: the eighth grade who I want to get. I want
Speaker 1: to ask he's a good looking young man. I want
Speaker 1: to ask him what it's like to date as an
Speaker 1: eighth grader. Because obviously we're all, as co host, pretty
Speaker 1: removed from eighth grade. I just think it'd be fun
Speaker 1: to see maybe how it's changed. We can compare and
Speaker 1: contrast how it was for us. I think it's a
Speaker 1: good idea all those decades ago. Um, but first, thanks, first, Vanessa,
Speaker 1: how are you? I'm good? So we literally just landed,
Speaker 1: came straight to the stadium, So at Oracle Park right now.
Speaker 1: It's my second time in San Francisco. Um, I've been
Speaker 1: to a few baseball games before. When X when when
Speaker 1: Montreal had the Expos. We're trying to get them back
Speaker 1: real hard. Washington. Yeah, um so now the capitals now
Speaker 1: that the capital, So we're trying to I mean, Expos
Speaker 1: don't exist anymore, so we're really trying hard to get
Speaker 1: them back to Montreal. So I brought my baseball cap.
Speaker 1: Hopefully I won't get any popcorn thrown at me today,
Speaker 1: but very excited to be here. I haven't seen you
Speaker 1: in a while. A minute, Yeah, it's been since Tahoe.
Speaker 1: Well you um did a loan solo episode two weeks ago. Yea,
Speaker 1: and you were at a wedding this past weekend. I
Speaker 1: was at two weddings this past weekend, and that kind
Speaker 1: of when's the last time you went to a wedding? Well,
Speaker 1: I mean we know that answer. Um. Yeah, I feel
Speaker 1: like after I went to those weddings, I love. Maybe
Speaker 1: it's because we were on the show and we have
Speaker 1: that we're constantly in the spotlight. I just felt like,
Speaker 1: I think the day I get married, I just want
Speaker 1: to have a barbecue. I'm gonna invite people to a
Speaker 1: barbecue in my backyard. Whoever shows up shows up, and
Speaker 1: they have they'll have no idea. That's my actual wedding day,
Speaker 1: and then that'll be it. Like no one has to
Speaker 1: spend money on their hair, no one has to spend
Speaker 1: money on buying a dress. I've had a similar thought
Speaker 1: to that, actually, but it would be a beach thing.
Speaker 1: So I mean, yeah, I think it's it's good. But
Speaker 1: what about the weddings gave you that idea. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it was just, uh, it's a lot, you know,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of planning and preparation, and that even
Speaker 1: for the guests going watch me have the most elaborate wedding.
Speaker 1: After I say this, well, you are kind of like,
Speaker 1: uh uh oh God, here here comes an insult. Insult you?
Speaker 1: How do I say this? You like nice things? Oh? Really? Well?
Speaker 1: Like you? I don't know. I know it looks like
Speaker 1: I like nice things, but I like to like you
Speaker 1: like nice clothes, and you like to do your hair.
Speaker 1: And where jewelry do you? Not? Not? Really? The only
Speaker 1: jewelier I'm wearing right now is my ring that my
Speaker 1: grandmother gave me looking through your Instagram. I I see
Speaker 1: you as like a like a high class and I
Speaker 1: like dressing up. Absolutely know, I didn't want to, Oh
Speaker 1: you do not know me, but like someone that likes
Speaker 1: to like celebrate grand grandly, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, if we're comparing you to me, yes,
Speaker 1: but no, I don't live in a van. I live
Speaker 1: in a very nice part of the Especially with you
Speaker 1: being like as um and like aware of your own
Speaker 1: emotions as you are, I feel like it's gonna be
Speaker 1: hard for you not to want to have a big
Speaker 1: wedding because I don't know. I mean, listen, I come
Speaker 1: from an Italian background, and we the weddings that we do,
Speaker 1: the baptism, the confirmations, like everything is always so big
Speaker 1: and we sell it. We love to celebrate um And
Speaker 1: for me, it's like I want to celebrate with the
Speaker 1: people that I see on a daily basis, and that's
Speaker 1: the people that I basically see every Sunday, which is
Speaker 1: my family and my closest friends. So I don't know,
Speaker 1: this is just something that went through my head because
Speaker 1: it was a lot. That day was two weddings, and
Speaker 1: then the next day, yes, and it was an hour away.
Speaker 1: There were an hour away from each other. How did
Speaker 1: that end up working out? So one of the morning
Speaker 1: wedding and one was an afternoon one was they were
Speaker 1: both an afternoon wedding. But my boyfriend came with me
Speaker 1: to the first one, which was my close friend, and
Speaker 1: then I went to his friend's reception, so I got
Speaker 1: to meet all the rest of his friends. Um, which
Speaker 1: was crazy because I think I was talking about it
Speaker 1: with Annelie, who's here high girl, which okay, So she's like,
Speaker 1: I didn't know that you were got You and Josh
Speaker 1: were dating for a couple of months. I think people
Speaker 1: think that I've we've been dating for longer than how
Speaker 1: long is Christmas? December? Jenni Faberite March, April, May, June July. Wow,
Speaker 1: you're good nine months? Um, no idea why I just
Speaker 1: said that. Oh yeah, So I met the rest of
Speaker 1: his friends at the wedding, right, So for me, I
Speaker 1: think it's so let me ask you this, being with
Speaker 1: your boyfriend, surrounded by love and weddings, all these things
Speaker 1: that make you peel all these things, How does that
Speaker 1: does it put things into perspective for you at all? Like?
Speaker 1: Does it make you want to maybe expedite the process
Speaker 1: a little bit or get you more excited for marriage
Speaker 1: potentially with Josh, I mean, listen, you know me, I've
Speaker 1: always wanted to get married, I've always wanted to have kids,
Speaker 1: and I think for the longest time, every time I
Speaker 1: started dating someone, I thought, oh, this is the person
Speaker 1: for me, because in my romantic head, I thought, if
Speaker 1: I'm dating him, for sure, he's going to be the
Speaker 1: person and end up with. But with Josh, it's such
Speaker 1: a different feeling. It's a sense of like I feel
Speaker 1: at home with him, um and yeah. When we're at
Speaker 1: the wedding together, I'm like, I can't wait for the
Speaker 1: day where I'm walking down the aisle and I just
Speaker 1: want to see his face when the first time he
Speaker 1: sees me, and those thoughts that go through my mind.
Speaker 1: And then a couple of days later, he looked at
Speaker 1: me when we woke up and he's like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: marry you, and I'm like, my god, I'm gonna cry.
Speaker 1: Can I ask a favorite of you when you get married?
Speaker 1: Will you invite me to your wedding and not invite Jared.
Speaker 1: That's the favor that I'm asking of you right now,
Speaker 1: Like I said it's gonna be a small wedding, so
Speaker 1: maybe no one's getting an invite. So it's just being
Speaker 1: Josh and I. There you go. If you're listening to this,
Speaker 1: I'm going to va it is not. The challenging thing
Speaker 1: for me is when I get married, who am I
Speaker 1: going to invite? Me? Does? Because I have to continue
Speaker 1: the trend of one person can come one So I
Speaker 1: guess it's going to go back to me not coming.
Speaker 1: I mean as whatever. I always feel like the left,
Speaker 1: the one man that's out of the equation. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: have a wedding and you're gonna be the only person
Speaker 1: in attendance. I love it. Can I what's it called officiate?
Speaker 1: You can officiate? Yeah, that'd be great. Um, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: So you had the weddings, You are incredibly happy in
Speaker 1: your relationship, very happy. But now enough about me, Jane.
Speaker 1: So we just watched the last episode of this well
Speaker 1: this week's episode on Tuesday. Well, so, just for the
Speaker 1: listener's sake, we're recording this episode the Thursday before the
Speaker 1: week after I dumped Kalin. So we have not seen
Speaker 1: this week's episode of Bachelor in Paradise, but it has
Speaker 1: been teased that I returned back to Paradise this week,
Speaker 1: but again we have not seen the episode, so we
Speaker 1: don't know exactly what happens um and I can't really
Speaker 1: talk much about it. Let me just tell you this.
Speaker 1: I guess between the time of me leaving and the
Speaker 1: time of me being teased coming back, I think I
Speaker 1: can tell you what I did. I landed in San Diego.
Speaker 1: I drove all the way to the Grand Canyon. I
Speaker 1: sat there for a couple of hours, thought about things,
Speaker 1: Listen to music, listen to some lectures, read a book,
Speaker 1: drove down to Phoenix. Called one of the producers and said, hey,
Speaker 1: I want to come back to the beach. What do
Speaker 1: you think this is? After how many days after you
Speaker 1: left Paradise. This was basically the same day I think
Speaker 1: I landed in San Diego and I called them and
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, guys, I'm sad you left and
Speaker 1: you had immediate regrets. So this is in between time
Speaker 1: between obviously, Like I think that's kind of appropriate, right
Speaker 1: because I left on the show and I come back
Speaker 1: next week, and so yeah, this isn't between time. And
Speaker 1: so yeah, so I landed and I was really upset,
Speaker 1: and so I called them, We figured it out. I
Speaker 1: don't think I can get too much into the nitty
Speaker 1: gritty about that right now, but UM, drove to the
Speaker 1: Grand Canyon, thought about things, called them. They decided today
Speaker 1: would let me come back. And so that's what you're
Speaker 1: gonna see next week is me coming back, which will
Speaker 1: be fun for us to watch. I think I don't
Speaker 1: really know how it's going to go, but my hopes
Speaker 1: are high and it should be at least entertaining if
Speaker 1: nothing else. Um, But obviously next week, after that all happens,
Speaker 1: we can talk about it a little bit more depth. Yes,
Speaker 1: because I have so many questions. I actually wrote a draft.
Speaker 1: I wrote a list of questions because it's it's so
Speaker 1: upsetting to see. And I'm such a fan of Dean
Speaker 1: and you know this, So it's so upsetting to see
Speaker 1: the self doubt that you have about yourself and how
Speaker 1: you think someone else observes more happiness. And I like
Speaker 1: how Calin puts you in your spot every now and then,
Speaker 1: and she's like, why are you making that decision for me?
Speaker 1: So I do want to get into this, but I
Speaker 1: guess we'll talk about it next week when you do
Speaker 1: reappear hopefully she'll take you back. I do want to.
Speaker 1: I'll touch on that really quick, Kenn, we can move
Speaker 1: on to the next segment. Um. I think that the
Speaker 1: self doubt is more of not that I don't think
Speaker 1: I have enough to offer people, but just that I'm
Speaker 1: not willing to offer the things that they want to receive.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Is that just because I
Speaker 1: just said I'm in a mode in my life right
Speaker 1: now where i want to focus on myself and be selfish, etcetera, etcetera.
Speaker 1: But I would love touch more on that next week
Speaker 1: when we talk about that, when we're able to talk
Speaker 1: about that more depth. Um. So, next up, we are
Speaker 1: going to speak with fellow Bachelor contestant and she's going
Speaker 1: to update us on her life because she's been dating
Speaker 1: and it's getting pretty serious. Can we talk about it?
Speaker 1: But we can't wait? Wait, yes, we can talk about it,
Speaker 1: but before we talk about it, sorry, the producer is
Speaker 1: looking at me with a stink face, like we can't
Speaker 1: talk about it a h percent. We can talk about
Speaker 1: and we're going to talk about it. Before we do that, though,
Speaker 1: We're gonna take one quick break and then really dive
Speaker 1: into it with Amlice Okay, we're back. So Anale, Hi,
Speaker 1: how are you. I'm doing well and you look great.
Speaker 1: You just cut your hair. I love it. I love
Speaker 1: the new look. I did a little jop. I thought
Speaker 1: like I needed a new do looking hot. It took
Speaker 1: us put let's go ahead and edit that part. No,
Speaker 1: please keep that alright, as Pillison, last time we talked
Speaker 1: to you, we were in Tahoe. That was like four
Speaker 1: or five weeks ago something like that. Isn't that short that? Okay,
Speaker 1: maybe five six weeks ago. Anyways, phil us in what's
Speaker 1: going on in your life? Life has been good? Uh?
Speaker 1: Are we really talking about my dating is a dating podcast? Yes,
Speaker 1: I have been dating somebody tell us about it. Dean
Speaker 1: loves getting and he's really good at getting information out
Speaker 1: of people. So just warning you. Whatever you feel like sharing,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna share like the bare minimum because I'm not
Speaker 1: ready to dive in completely with details. But but yeah,
Speaker 1: I met somebody and he's great, and I feel like, uh,
Speaker 1: it's the first time, maybe ever, that I'm like, Wow,
Speaker 1: I'm worthy of this kind of relationship and I feels yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I don't know, if maybe I
Speaker 1: thought in the past that like I deserved somebody this
Speaker 1: great and he's really amazing. How did you meet? Uh?
Speaker 1: We met at a time. It's a very much like
Speaker 1: when you least expected situation. I was. It was right
Speaker 1: after doing Paradise and I was done with men for
Speaker 1: a bit. I was like, I'm going to just take
Speaker 1: a break from dating. I'm not going to date until
Speaker 1: maybe the show is done airing, and then you know,
Speaker 1: slowly get back into things. I had a couple of
Speaker 1: people that wanted to set me up with, you know,
Speaker 1: friends of the family or whatever, and I'm like, okay, sure,
Speaker 1: but not for a while because I'm just not ready
Speaker 1: and I'm taking a break. And then I went out
Speaker 1: to bring up be a wing woman basically for a
Speaker 1: friend of mine, and she started talking to these guys
Speaker 1: and when we became friends with them and then just
Speaker 1: have hung out pretty much every day since. Didn't work
Speaker 1: out for your friends, No, I mean that was like
Speaker 1: she she unfortunately didn't. Well, she actually did meet somebody,
Speaker 1: but not that weekend. So yeah, things are good and okay, great,
Speaker 1: So that was how long like six weeks ago? Ish,
Speaker 1: we're cusping on too many months. Yeah, that's great. It's
Speaker 1: always the most interesting time too, because like you're trying
Speaker 1: to get to know someone, you're trying to figure out
Speaker 1: what they like, what they dis like. Also very weird
Speaker 1: because the show started airing like, oh two weeks maybe
Speaker 1: after we So, how did you approach that with him?
Speaker 1: Because I'm sure he knew that you were from the
Speaker 1: Bachelor franchise. He didn't because he's not he's so far
Speaker 1: removed from social media and all that sort of stuff,
Speaker 1: So that's a great sign. Yeah, So I I just
Speaker 1: said it, like on second time we hung out one
Speaker 1: on one, or maybe the first time we hung out
Speaker 1: one on one, I was like, I gotta be honest
Speaker 1: with you, did you know what it was? Did you
Speaker 1: know what? Trying to remember if he did, because my
Speaker 1: boyfriend still has so many questions. He has no idea
Speaker 1: what Paradise is. He's like, oh, she's on it? Why
Speaker 1: was she on it? Did she not? Fine? Love? And
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, it's yeah, I mean that's something how
Speaker 1: the conversation was as well. But yeah, I think he
Speaker 1: was sort of aware of the show but doesn't know
Speaker 1: anything about it. So and then, how was it watching
Speaker 1: the show when you were on it with him? Oh?
Speaker 1: I didn't did you like, did you like this allow him?
Speaker 1: Like you just said you're not watching it or you know.
Speaker 1: I actually I have a really really hard time watching
Speaker 1: myself back on it. So I wasn't going to watch it.
Speaker 1: And then when I found out that I was going
Speaker 1: to the reunion, I just binge watched every episode. How
Speaker 1: did you feel about your parts on the show? Um so,
Speaker 1: I actually had. I had seen my parts, just because
Speaker 1: I have friends on the East Coast who would send
Speaker 1: me clips because I was I'd have panic attacks like
Speaker 1: minor ones before, you know, knowing like okay, tonight's the
Speaker 1: night that this part airs, so they would send me
Speaker 1: my little clips, and um so I got to see
Speaker 1: that in real time. Basically we talk about paradise for
Speaker 1: a second. I know it's hard to put yourself back
Speaker 1: into that situation, especially now that you're you know, in
Speaker 1: a good relationship. What happened with the whole Chris Poukowski thing.
Speaker 1: Uh So that that was frustrating to watch back, and
Speaker 1: I don't like it's always hard because I don't know
Speaker 1: exactly what I can say, and just um he he
Speaker 1: was really pursuing me that first week, and they didn't
Speaker 1: really show our relationship at all. And I think it's
Speaker 1: frustrating watching it back and seeing it be shown as
Speaker 1: so one sided because it really wasn't and he really,
Speaker 1: I think, struggled with that decision that night. I Christina
Speaker 1: sort of like came and had a conversation with him,
Speaker 1: and I think I don't know what was going through
Speaker 1: his head, but um, but I think he was probably thinking,
Speaker 1: oh maybe and at least is more serious, and so
Speaker 1: I don't want to be like committing myself to her
Speaker 1: for the rest of this time. Um, but I just
Speaker 1: wish he would have had that conversation with me, because
Speaker 1: if he would have, you would have realized I wasn't
Speaker 1: there yet. But do you have any resentment towards Christina
Speaker 1: ever coming in and saying that? I mean a little bit.
Speaker 1: I feel like whatever she said to Chris was the
Speaker 1: same thing she said to Blake when he was I
Speaker 1: feel like it was the exact same And yeah, so
Speaker 1: I mean, but the thing is is everything happens for
Speaker 1: a reason, and I am a firm believer on that,
Speaker 1: and I think that, yes, I was disappointed in the
Speaker 1: moment because I felt really jipped of the whole experience. Um.
Speaker 1: Watching it back then and like my person definitely never
Speaker 1: showed up on the beach, So it's you know, it
Speaker 1: is what it is. I think I sort of went
Speaker 1: back this time thinking, oh, I'm excited to make more
Speaker 1: friends and be still open to the possibility of love
Speaker 1: because it's sort of worked for me, uh the year before,
Speaker 1: you know, Um, so I was hopeful, but I yeah,
Speaker 1: I just felt jipped more than anything. Both comparing season
Speaker 1: to season. It's hard too because you were there for
Speaker 1: a short amount of time this second time around. But
Speaker 1: also you it's it's easier to kind of remove yourself
Speaker 1: because you got less attached to someone, right, So would
Speaker 1: you say that like the first time was better or
Speaker 1: the second time was better in your experience? So, and
Speaker 1: this is another part of just editing that gets frustrating.
Speaker 1: Is I actually, I really really loved how I handled
Speaker 1: Paradise this year. I felt like I went in, I
Speaker 1: was open, I talked to everyone, which wasn't really shown,
Speaker 1: but I did there. I felt like there weren't a
Speaker 1: ton of options for me, and I actually did have
Speaker 1: a connection with Chris and so it was just an easy,
Speaker 1: natural fit to just spend my time with him. But
Speaker 1: but I still was happy with how I handled everything. Uh,
Speaker 1: maybe some things I would have done slightly different, but
Speaker 1: I did feel like I did Paradise the way I
Speaker 1: wanted to do Paradise this year, even though it was
Speaker 1: only a very short amount of time. And to your point,
Speaker 1: like you said earlier, it's hard to look back and
Speaker 1: regret anything because you're happy now, right So it's like
Speaker 1: everything happened for a reason. Obviously, it's a It's a
Speaker 1: good place to be right now because I feel like
Speaker 1: my perspective on all of it is just so different,
Speaker 1: and I'm really grateful that I met somebody who doesn't
Speaker 1: care that I was on a dating show, and you
Speaker 1: know that I put myself in this crazy world. You know.
Speaker 1: I think that's a classic example of like you said,
Speaker 1: it's so cliche, but I really do believe that everything
Speaker 1: happens for a reason. Like before I went on the show,
Speaker 1: I I fell in love with a guy, and I
Speaker 1: thought I was never going to find love again, and
Speaker 1: I thought it was the end of the world for me.
Speaker 1: And then fast forward three years later, I'm on the
Speaker 1: show and I get engaged and I was at a high,
Speaker 1: and then the relationship ends and again you're back out
Speaker 1: of low and you whenever you're at that point in
Speaker 1: your life, you think you're never going to find the
Speaker 1: person that you you're meant to be with. And I remember, like,
Speaker 1: I want one episode I did, uh my solo episode
Speaker 1: was girl talking. Amy was like, you know, I think
Speaker 1: you have to stop trying. I think you have to
Speaker 1: stop wanting it so much. And it's so true. I
Speaker 1: I kind of just said, you know, it'll It'll happen
Speaker 1: when it happens. And then it happens in a way
Speaker 1: that I really never thought I was going to date
Speaker 1: someone that slid into my d ms on Instagram, and
Speaker 1: and that's exactly how it happened. So Amy, thank you
Speaker 1: for the advice. What I couldn't hear you what I said, Amy,
Speaker 1: thank you for the advice. Oh yes, I can give
Speaker 1: great advice. Those who cannot do teach anything I do.
Speaker 1: But I can give people the best advice, the best advice.
Speaker 1: I'm like, Chill, you got this, everything's fine, just let
Speaker 1: it come to you, the universal take care of in
Speaker 1: the moment. That's not what you want to hear that
Speaker 1: in the moment you want to hear like chill, And
Speaker 1: I'm not chill, And I've cried the last twelve day.
Speaker 1: Is it's like I cannot take my own advice, but
Speaker 1: I'm working on Anyways, Analyst, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: joining us. We're happy that you're happy. And let me say,
Speaker 1: stunning couple. Yeah, he's very good looking. Did we did?
Speaker 1: We did get to see them together in their natural habitat. Um.
Speaker 1: It's great to see. And I'm not I'm saying this lovingly.
Speaker 1: I hope we never see you on another Bachelor's show again,
Speaker 1: because I hope this is a relationship to end all
Speaker 1: relations But thank you for joining us, and we'll see
Speaker 1: you on The Bachelor in Paradise for Union show in
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks. Yeah, yeah, okay cool. So for
Speaker 1: the listeners out there, we have two more guests from
Speaker 1: I Heart Radio's hit new podcast How Men Think. Um,
Speaker 1: we have to the co host Dmitri and Rick, and
Speaker 1: they are going to tell us, well, I guess we're
Speaker 1: just gonna dive into a little bit with them, but
Speaker 1: before we do that, we're going to take one quick
Speaker 1: break and then jump right into it with them. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we are back with two of the co hosts.
Speaker 1: Of the four hosts, there's five to a full car
Speaker 1: of how men think? Here with us, we have some
Speaker 1: Facebook questions. Both of these gentlemen are married, and so
Speaker 1: it'll be nice to have a male's married perspective on
Speaker 1: these questions. And your Greek so I feel like we
Speaker 1: have the same mentality, same kind of way of thinking
Speaker 1: when it comes to family and life and relationships. Rick,
Speaker 1: and you're white and I'm white. So I think that
Speaker 1: we're going to see so we're gonna get a lot
Speaker 1: of Okay, guys, before we start, you want to tell
Speaker 1: us about your podcast real quick, just so we have
Speaker 1: like a good idea of who we're talking to. Listen.
Speaker 1: I mean, one of the biggest questions out there is
Speaker 1: from women especially is what men are thinking. They always
Speaker 1: you know, you get together and you think, listen, this
Speaker 1: is what this guy did, this is what he said,
Speaker 1: and this is how we reacted to something. How what
Speaker 1: what was he thinking? And it's like, stop asking your
Speaker 1: girlfriends and just ask a guy. So that's what we are.
Speaker 1: We're five guys on the How Men Think Podcasts that
Speaker 1: are willing to tell you exactly how guys are thinking.
Speaker 1: We don't always agree because guys think different things, but
Speaker 1: we're willing to tell you what you want to know. Well,
Speaker 1: and I think the other thing about our show is
Speaker 1: we're got, we're men at different ages stages of our life.
Speaker 1: So like, I have two kids, Dmitria has four kids.
Speaker 1: Brooks has zero kids. He's just recently got married. Yeah
Speaker 1: next did two years ago? Listed by Brooks like and
Speaker 1: Gavin DeGraw for people listening that may not Gavin is hilarious,
Speaker 1: Gavin's he's hysterical, he's fantastic, but he's you know, he's
Speaker 1: a rock star and he's single, so certainly he brings
Speaker 1: that perspective, which is that's kind of a perspective that's
Speaker 1: hard to relate to. I feel like not for you.
Speaker 1: I would think you seem to have that single rock
Speaker 1: star type of personality. Yeah, single, I don't know. That's
Speaker 1: the question. And so let's jump into some Facebook. Let
Speaker 1: me diverse. This question is from Becca, and I want
Speaker 1: both of you guys to answer this as best you
Speaker 1: can do. Men still think about their first love, even
Speaker 1: when I'm in a happy relationship and a committed relationship,
Speaker 1: not and I want them back way just in a
Speaker 1: random nostalgic way. So question is either of you, two
Speaker 1: married men one or two kids on the four kids,
Speaker 1: ever think about the first woman that you ever loved?
Speaker 1: I would say yes. I mean, I think it's not
Speaker 1: like you're like the question saying is you're not actually
Speaker 1: using that to take over your existing love that you're
Speaker 1: in a relationship that you're in. But it's it's you're
Speaker 1: and you're not comparing by any means, but you're you're
Speaker 1: touching onto those feelings, you know, and so what was
Speaker 1: that experience like and so? And you may be comparing
Speaker 1: it to what you're doing now or how that is.
Speaker 1: But I think you're as you go through life and
Speaker 1: the older you get, you sort of reflect back on
Speaker 1: certain stages of your life. You know, what was like
Speaker 1: in high school? What was it like in college? Was
Speaker 1: it like right after college? And there may be three
Speaker 1: or four different people that you fell in love with
Speaker 1: or two or whatever. And I think that I think
Speaker 1: it's okay to do that. Yeah, for sure, I think
Speaker 1: you want to you want to remember, especially that first one.
Speaker 1: I don't think you should sit there and and peruse
Speaker 1: in your mind all your relationships or think back at them.
Speaker 1: But I think, as they pointed out, they mean, you
Speaker 1: know not you know, I want them back to a
Speaker 1: sort of way. I think you want to remember that
Speaker 1: special time and that special person that. I mean the
Speaker 1: person that and they don't even say sexually, they just
Speaker 1: say the first love. So it's like the person that
Speaker 1: kicked off you having these grown up feelings. I think
Speaker 1: that's something you definitely have to remember one just because
Speaker 1: it's a nice time in your life, but too because you,
Speaker 1: like Rick said, you want to grow from that. Let
Speaker 1: me ask you this, So obviously you two are in love,
Speaker 1: you're married. Does the love that with our wives? Well,
Speaker 1: I think and I actually love each other as well.
Speaker 1: You guys are in respectively to your own wives. That's
Speaker 1: obviously what I what I meant to say there, does
Speaker 1: the love that you have it? Because I was a
Speaker 1: quite love to like a feeling, right, So I was
Speaker 1: in love when I was thirteen, But I can be
Speaker 1: in love when I'm twenty eight and it's different love,
Speaker 1: but it feels the same way, like in my chest,
Speaker 1: you know. Do you would you say that it's a
Speaker 1: similar feeling that you have that you get from it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd say it's similar, but it it certainly is more
Speaker 1: advanced and as you grow mentally, it's like the love
Speaker 1: is different, like you you you probably you cherish it
Speaker 1: more and you're more aware of what it does for you,
Speaker 1: what that companionship does for you. When you're young, you're like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, I love this person and you feel happy
Speaker 1: to be around them and they make you feel happy emotionally.
Speaker 1: But as you get older, you're like, do you bringing
Speaker 1: you You made some good points there from my kids
Speaker 1: drop and stuff, and the other thing I was going
Speaker 1: to add to that, Dmitri was like, there's a lot
Speaker 1: more on the table right now. Right, So you're it's
Speaker 1: you can't be thirteen or twenty eight and be Google
Speaker 1: Gaga in love with somebody. Uh. You know that you
Speaker 1: have kids that you're you're e spreading that love too
Speaker 1: as well, you know, and there's friends or and and
Speaker 1: your wife. So I would say, Dean, the love is
Speaker 1: actually different. I mean, it's still a love, but it's
Speaker 1: it's a different feeling and you can't always bring that
Speaker 1: back up. Um, and you bring that back up in
Speaker 1: certain scenarios. So like you're firstborn, you go back, you
Speaker 1: go out on dates, or you go on like a
Speaker 1: little you know, uh, take a vacation together. Like those
Speaker 1: are things that I look back on and those are
Speaker 1: the things that kind of bring back back some of
Speaker 1: that loving feeling. Was that a song was that Gavin song?
Speaker 1: Wasn't We'll give it to him? And I think you're
Speaker 1: exactly right. And as you get older, life is life
Speaker 1: is tougher. Man Like when you're young and you're like,
Speaker 1: I'm in love, Yeah, we love whatever, going to a concert,
Speaker 1: going to the beach. But now it's like, you have
Speaker 1: bills and you have responsibilities and you need someone that
Speaker 1: can that can be your partner throughout that. And that's
Speaker 1: that's really the difference, because you have more of an
Speaker 1: appreciation for the love and support to say that they
Speaker 1: gifts evolved a little bit. So you're you're both married,
Speaker 1: you're both in love, you're both happy. For our listeners
Speaker 1: who are experiencing heartbreak or who have never found love,
Speaker 1: can you say that you could fall in love more
Speaker 1: than once in your lifetime? Sure? Of course. I fell
Speaker 1: in love with a girl in the airport the other day.
Speaker 1: I just didn't get a opportunity to hang out with her.
Speaker 1: No no, no, sorry, what are we taping, Mike? Just
Speaker 1: because I didn't get an opportunity to go on on
Speaker 1: five days, So there doesn't mean I didn't love it. Actually,
Speaker 1: that's actually a funny seguay into our next question from
Speaker 1: Katie Lee. She wants to know where can you find
Speaker 1: quality guys? Is it dating apps? Is it airports? Is
Speaker 1: it the gym? I mean, listen, I found I found
Speaker 1: my boyfriend on Instagram, preferably guys that aren't married, you know, honestly,
Speaker 1: I think the best case scenario, and this is my
Speaker 1: wife and I met. We met through a mutual friend. Um.
Speaker 1: I think if you have somebody in common, you cut
Speaker 1: out a lot of steps, so you already kind of
Speaker 1: vouched for for the person, for both people, and so
Speaker 1: we met. She was working with somebody that started as
Speaker 1: a sounds convoluted, but she was working with this girl
Speaker 1: that I went to college with who started dating a
Speaker 1: friend of mine. And then she she was throwing her
Speaker 1: birthday party and she said, Hey, invite this guy that
Speaker 1: I'm dating and some of his friends. And I think
Speaker 1: you might like one of his friends. And she's like,
Speaker 1: oh whatever, I'll set this party up. And that's that's
Speaker 1: how we met. Okay, So you're saying meet the best
Speaker 1: way to meet someone is through mutual friends. I think
Speaker 1: that's the best case scenario. Okay, I think it's the
Speaker 1: best case scenario. And I think Dmitri and I are
Speaker 1: our experiences is a little bit dated, to be honest
Speaker 1: with you, you know, and I think nowadays, if you're three,
Speaker 1: I think whether it's through Instagram or through the Tinder app,
Speaker 1: or through you know, some of those other those apps
Speaker 1: that that people use, I think that's an okay way
Speaker 1: to meet somebody. Um and it definitely um. It kind
Speaker 1: of cuts to the chase in different aspects than having
Speaker 1: a common friend. And if that doesn't work, try the
Speaker 1: deli counter at the grocery store. That's always a good one,
Speaker 1: that is, because you have a similar you know, have
Speaker 1: a common thread and salted meats and see what the
Speaker 1: pet also pets. Even that's the next question alright from Rainy.
Speaker 1: Why does a guy text you first invite you to
Speaker 1: hang out, then leave you on open for hours or
Speaker 1: days and looking at someone specifically when they plan time.
Speaker 1: When the plan time comes around to actually hang out,
Speaker 1: then they text you later and ask when are we
Speaker 1: hanging out? Going to hurt? He's not. He's not. He's
Speaker 1: looking for better options. He's he's when he texts you
Speaker 1: that first time, he's at a moment where he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I kind of want to hook up, or I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about this person. He throws he cast the line out
Speaker 1: you bite right away, and he's like, all right, well
Speaker 1: she's on the line. Let me see what else I
Speaker 1: can do. Let me see if there's other people out there.
Speaker 1: And then he that part bypasses and I'm not saying
Speaker 1: this is the right thing to do, but this is
Speaker 1: what's happening in that situation. That time bypasses, and then
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, he's like, but I gotta I don't
Speaker 1: want it to be mad at me. Let me throw
Speaker 1: it out there. Hey, when are we hanging out? I
Speaker 1: totally agree with dmitri or and it may not be
Speaker 1: that they're hanging out with another person. I think they're
Speaker 1: just leaking for other things to do. Yeah, you know
Speaker 1: in the meantime, Oh yeah, I was gonna go to
Speaker 1: the ball game with my friends, or I was gonna
Speaker 1: go on a bike ride, or of one of those
Speaker 1: things too where you like, you text someone to hang
Speaker 1: out when you're board, and then you're not bored anymore
Speaker 1: and you don't really want to hang out with them,
Speaker 1: you know, like it's the time to hang out with them.
Speaker 1: Comes around, you're like, actually, I'm not bored a right.
Speaker 1: Bottom line is you're not a priority to him, where
Speaker 1: he's like, I absolutely want to hang out with you,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna jump at the chance to hang out
Speaker 1: with you. That's so they're also saying tell the girl
Speaker 1: not to be too easy because the guys want they
Speaker 1: want to chase. They do want to chase, but in
Speaker 1: this situation, if that happens, I think you move on
Speaker 1: to a different guy. I don't think that's I think
Speaker 1: so too. Yeah, all right. Next question is from Megan.
Speaker 1: She wants to know, if a girl were to offer
Speaker 1: it up on the first date, what a guy always
Speaker 1: bite on the chance? Says sleep with her? No, not always.
Speaker 1: I think we talked about this recently on on how
Speaker 1: men think. I think, yeah, there's and I think Rick's
Speaker 1: gonna disagree with me because he did that day as well.
Speaker 1: But I think I think, yes, the guy obviously will
Speaker 1: want sex, but when it comes down to if he
Speaker 1: sees himself with a has a future with this person,
Speaker 1: he may be hesitant. He may not want to rush
Speaker 1: into it because he he doesn't want to Number one
Speaker 1: as you said, we said in just a few minutes ago,
Speaker 1: there's something about the chase of something about exploring that
Speaker 1: time and taking baby steps in a relationship. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna interrupt you real quick. I'm sorry, because
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of my personal experience this here.
Speaker 1: And I've gotten into dates before where I'm like, no
Speaker 1: matter what happens, I'm not giving it up. Not nothing's
Speaker 1: gonna change my mind. And I get into the to
Speaker 1: the to the zone dates going well, it gets offered
Speaker 1: up and nine times out of nine I'm not. I'm
Speaker 1: biting and I'm taking it. And how many of those
Speaker 1: girls have you married? Okay, it's a good point, but
Speaker 1: still he's only twenty eight. But that's the point. So yeah,
Speaker 1: of course you're doing that. But when you and and
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, I know people that that went
Speaker 1: on a date, first date, had sex and they're happily
Speaker 1: married with kids. It's possible, but in some guy's minds,
Speaker 1: you don't. When you think about settling down and you
Speaker 1: think about somebody being the mother to your kids, you
Speaker 1: don't want to think, oh, she was just she was
Speaker 1: just giving it up. If you have that special connection. Great,
Speaker 1: but I don't I don't know if opportunitarly disagree with
Speaker 1: you again, Dmitri. Every show that Dmitri and I are
Speaker 1: both on, I disagree with everything he says. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I disagree to I mean, I'm I'm coming from the perspective.
Speaker 1: So basically, if you want to have sex go out
Speaker 1: with Amy? Is that what I'm hearing about. I'm coming
Speaker 1: from the perspective out of the date is going well,
Speaker 1: and you're getting along with this girl, and then you
Speaker 1: get to a certain point of the of the date
Speaker 1: then and everyone's kind of ready to play, then let's go.
Speaker 1: I agree with that point. I feel like the older
Speaker 1: you get, you don't have to make excuses for the
Speaker 1: decisions that you make and that at that time. So
Speaker 1: if I wanted with I'm not going to explain when
Speaker 1: or how my ay friend and night the first time
Speaker 1: we had sex. But I mean, we're not going to
Speaker 1: get into that. Um. But if he would have stopped
Speaker 1: talking to me, for me, that's not someone I want
Speaker 1: to do with because I want to be with someone
Speaker 1: who respects my decisions. And if I'm making those decisions
Speaker 1: based off of what Vanessa wants to do, then that's
Speaker 1: the person I want to be with, not because they're
Speaker 1: going to be judging me. If you know, I'm sure,
Speaker 1: if you know, I'm sure guys have slept around the
Speaker 1: first And it comes down to, like, um, what's it called?
Speaker 1: Like what guys are allowed to do versus what girls
Speaker 1: are allowed to do? Know? Would you be fine? So?
Speaker 1: Would you be fine if if you knew that your
Speaker 1: boyfriend had sex on every first date he went on,
Speaker 1: would that be You're okay? You wouldn't think anything as
Speaker 1: long as he's using protection. Let me say this, if
Speaker 1: if a guy and a girl go on a date
Speaker 1: and they sleep together and that's enough of a reason
Speaker 1: for the guy to stop talking to the girl, then
Speaker 1: that guy is not a girl that that that's not
Speaker 1: a guy that the girl wants. Did anyways? Well that's true,
Speaker 1: but I don't mean stop talking. I just think it
Speaker 1: in a in in that scenario of would you have
Speaker 1: sex every time it was offered up? I wouldn't. And
Speaker 1: when I was in college, there were times that I
Speaker 1: could have had sex and I didn't because I didn't want.
Speaker 1: I didn't I knew I didn't feel that way about
Speaker 1: that girl, and I didn't want her thinking that I
Speaker 1: did so. But granted, keep in mind I've been married
Speaker 1: for fourteen years, so times changed nowadays. At ricks in
Speaker 1: my age, if you can have sex, you have it
Speaker 1: with anybody again, rick or anywhere? Who plugged his mike
Speaker 1: beg okay, Next questions from Ashley. Would you get engaged
Speaker 1: if you didn't have the money for a nice ring?
Speaker 1: Slash the ring your fiance wanted? So I'd say my
Speaker 1: boyfriend and I were getting married, and for me personally,
Speaker 1: I don't care. Um I was actually at a I was.
Speaker 1: I was at Burkes yesterday and um, I was shopping
Speaker 1: around and the woman was like, oh, come, look at
Speaker 1: the engagement at the engagement rings, and I'm like, how
Speaker 1: much is this? Like sixty? I'm like, ring, you could
Speaker 1: find the same ring somewhere else, right, I'm like, I
Speaker 1: for me, it's just it's crazy that the guy has
Speaker 1: to spend that much money. I mean, of course it's pretty,
Speaker 1: but um, I think, why not spend the money that
Speaker 1: you know, spend all spend the money on what you
Speaker 1: could afford, and then save it on a house or
Speaker 1: save it for your children's education. Well that's exactly what
Speaker 1: I did. So I knew that I wanted to propose
Speaker 1: to my now wife, and at the time I said,
Speaker 1: I don't. We don't have endless amounts of money. But
Speaker 1: I knew I wanted to propose, and I know we
Speaker 1: were ready to get married. So UM, I bought a
Speaker 1: ring that I could afford, and I proposed. And then
Speaker 1: somewhere down the line, when we were doing better in
Speaker 1: our lives and we had more money, UM for an engagement.
Speaker 1: I surprised her and I took her and we took
Speaker 1: the stone from that original ring, and she picked out
Speaker 1: a new band and we put that stone in so
Speaker 1: it still has the original stone, but she had a
Speaker 1: much nicer ring. Yeah. Why, I mean, because you don't
Speaker 1: have enough money, you're gonna put off getting married. I
Speaker 1: didn't see that as yeah, I don't. I agree with you, Dumiti.
Speaker 1: And I also think that's something you can build upon.
Speaker 1: So like you have a you have a diamond, or
Speaker 1: you have a stone that you like, and then you
Speaker 1: can make a bigger, better one as soon as you know,
Speaker 1: as you move on three months salary things? Is that
Speaker 1: still a thing is supposed to be three months? Really,
Speaker 1: that's what I heard. That's very old timey, you'd have
Speaker 1: to like get people to tell us if that's still
Speaker 1: a thing, because that is just super from well how
Speaker 1: much does it ring go for? Because I when I
Speaker 1: heard sixty thou dollars, I think that was pretty based
Speaker 1: in Yeah, you come up, dollar ring is pretty common,
Speaker 1: but you could get a great ring for five thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: The trick is like with with property. Find someone that's
Speaker 1: going through a bad divorce and they're willing to sell
Speaker 1: it for cheap. I mean, if you don't care about carl,
Speaker 1: like you know, bad mojo or whatever, just do that
Speaker 1: stop like a good will or something, maybe a thrift. Still,
Speaker 1: don't you think it's the design and not necessarily the
Speaker 1: size of the Oh yeah, I saw I saw this woman.
Speaker 1: Now that I'm like, I'm always looking at women's hands
Speaker 1: to see what their rings look like, so I'm trying
Speaker 1: to get an idea, and I saw this woman that
Speaker 1: the diamond wasn't big, but it was. It was so original.
Speaker 1: It was like a tear drop or a pear, a
Speaker 1: pair shape with like little bit gets on the side. Um,
Speaker 1: but the diamonds were very very small, but it was
Speaker 1: so original and beautiful. Yeah, finally, just a diamond band,
Speaker 1: like it just depends who you are. But that should
Speaker 1: not be a reason to not get engaged like that,
Speaker 1: Is that bleep crazy? Because listen, my engagement ring was big,
Speaker 1: Neil Lane, thank you. It was too big. It was
Speaker 1: a big you can't mouth answers on a podcast because
Speaker 1: we can't see yourself. Didn't love that ring? I mean
Speaker 1: it was it was too big for me, Dean. You
Speaker 1: kind of when she was describing the ring, you kind
Speaker 1: of shuddered for a second when you heard bad guts?
Speaker 1: Were you thinking, Carbs, Oh, that's not I don't want
Speaker 1: to I want bad guts on my ring for sure. Okay.
Speaker 1: Lisa wants to know if guys get insecure? She says,
Speaker 1: do they ever feel like a girl might be too
Speaker 1: good for them? So that's why they won't approach a
Speaker 1: girl or swipe right on the app? What do you
Speaker 1: guys think? I think so too. Yeah. I think I
Speaker 1: think that there is definitely get insecure, weird piority complex
Speaker 1: I think sometimes. I mean, we're sitting here with you,
Speaker 1: Johnny Handsome, I mean, how do you not feel does
Speaker 1: not like it? If a woman is more successful than
Speaker 1: the I personally love it. So what's funny. Actually is
Speaker 1: this girl that I did a little bit last year
Speaker 1: for sometime. It is a very very successful commercial real
Speaker 1: estate agent. And she says, and she's a beautiful girl,
Speaker 1: and she says she goes on dates frequently, right, and
Speaker 1: she would meet all these guys and she like makes
Speaker 1: like five times as much money as they do, and
Speaker 1: all of them would like shy away from her for it.
Speaker 1: But I was like, that's like literally one of the
Speaker 1: sexiest things you could possibly tell me, Like, that's so
Speaker 1: sick that you're like a determined, successful, like driven person. Obviously,
Speaker 1: I heard a lot of guys are getting insecured by
Speaker 1: her telling them that my wife is the CEO of
Speaker 1: a company of a big company. To me, that's hot.
Speaker 1: I think that's hot. And I'm like, I don't I
Speaker 1: don't want her being like, oh, how was word like?
Speaker 1: She she is brilliant, she went to business school, And
Speaker 1: I think that's a turn on. And and I have
Speaker 1: zero insecurities about that, because if they're putting that much
Speaker 1: effort into their work, they're gonna they know what it
Speaker 1: takes to have something successful, So that can translate into
Speaker 1: a marriage as well. And she knows how difficult it
Speaker 1: is to be a co host of a podcast, then
Speaker 1: it is very challenging at that time, Rick, what do
Speaker 1: you think. I think it's I I don't get in
Speaker 1: scure about that. No, I think it's actually a huge
Speaker 1: accomplishment if if the woman or the significant other actually
Speaker 1: is very successful. I think it's I think it's a
Speaker 1: turn on. I think it's um. I think I mean,
Speaker 1: why would you want to have or fuel and secure
Speaker 1: about somebody that's working their own tail off? And yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's great and in general, I mean when
Speaker 1: we did our podcast from Tahoe, Rick did it in
Speaker 1: a speedo, so he doesn't get insecure about that comes
Speaker 1: with a lot of I don't know exactly what it is,
Speaker 1: but well no I do because I saw him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's impressive because a lot of practice.
Speaker 1: I don't know. All right, So we have one final
Speaker 1: segment and Rick, obviously, with your blessing, we want to
Speaker 1: get Peter on. Okay, So Peter's your son, Yes, extremely handsome,
Speaker 1: thank you eighth grade. So Peter and I and well
Speaker 1: I guess all of us met Peter on the elevator
Speaker 1: and I swear I was like this kid's like eight teen.
Speaker 1: He must be a senior in high school or something
Speaker 1: like that. He shakes my hand, he literally pulls my
Speaker 1: hand in half because he's got the strongest script. I've
Speaker 1: ever seen. Blown away by this kid. When I was
Speaker 1: thirteen years old, I was like the biggest loser in
Speaker 1: the world, and this kid has something that just no
Speaker 1: other kid has. So we're going to talk to him
Speaker 1: a little bit and see what dating as a thirteen
Speaker 1: year old in eighth grade is like nowadays. I actually
Speaker 1: thought he was a child actor when when in the elevator,
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, what movie are you looking? If
Speaker 1: you people who do know about the Bachelard franchise, he
Speaker 1: looks like a mini Robert Graham. Yes, that's what you said.
Speaker 1: I could, I know, I could definitely say it's to
Speaker 1: know as it's the lips. Peter. Do you want thanks
Speaker 1: for saying that? So? Peter was pulled from class early today.
Speaker 1: He was taking a history test, but we pulled him
Speaker 1: out to bring him to this podcast. Peter, what is
Speaker 1: it like for you to be dating as an eighth grader?
Speaker 1: It's very awkward. Do you have a girlfriend? Yeah? You do? Rick?
Speaker 1: Did you know about that? How many girlfriends. I didn't
Speaker 1: know about this one one. I like that answer. Um,
Speaker 1: why is it weird to date as an eighth grader? Because,
Speaker 1: like you're, everybody's going through puberty. You can be at
Speaker 1: different stages. So how did you and your girlfriend meet school?
Speaker 1: And how long have you been dating for? You have
Speaker 1: to talk into the two years long relationship for a year?
Speaker 1: And have you guys kissed each other yet? Know? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: playing slow. I respect that a lot. Rick. How old
Speaker 1: were you when you had your first Guess? I was
Speaker 1: in first grade. Yeah that's a lie. Swear to god.
Speaker 1: It was weird now looking back on it, it was.
Speaker 1: I was in first grade. Nicki Webb, early bloomer, remember
Speaker 1: her name too. Does Peter ever come to you for advice? Um?
Speaker 1: Not now, not not anymore? You know. Yeah. I think
Speaker 1: in the future we'll we'll talk. We'll have to sit down.
Speaker 1: But um, yeah, I mean most of the advice that
Speaker 1: he's going through. Uh he talked to his mother about,
Speaker 1: you know, in terms of their girlfriends and stuff. What
Speaker 1: is it? What is it like with the relationship. You
Speaker 1: guys text each other, you talk on the phone. Is
Speaker 1: it we only set each other at school? We text
Speaker 1: each other and school, okay, and that school. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: there's not a lot of FaceTime going on or hanging
Speaker 1: out on a person. Well, one time we FaceTime and
Speaker 1: we um fell asleep on the FaceTime that my mom
Speaker 1: got super mad at me. That's really romantic, it is.
Speaker 1: I think that's cool FaceTime. But I say that over
Speaker 1: the phone all the time. Why was she upset? Because
Speaker 1: I woke up at twelve and they were Also they
Speaker 1: didn't have a like, they didn't have a minute. That
Speaker 1: a minute was all. That's right, that's right. So what
Speaker 1: is it about this girl that you like a lot? Personality? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you guys have a lot in common. Yeah, like what
Speaker 1: exactly sport? You guys like sports? Very allergic to bees.
Speaker 1: Oh that's okay, simpler times you were saying it, man's simpler.
Speaker 1: You know, the older you get, the more it takes.
Speaker 1: But yeah, when you're an eighth grade all takes. You
Speaker 1: want to avoid these me too. Let's go hang out together,
Speaker 1: not near honey? Are you? Do you see it lasting
Speaker 1: until you guys go to high school and through high
Speaker 1: school and all that kind of stuff. Maybe you think
Speaker 1: she's the one. I don't know, he's were only thirty.
Speaker 1: You don't ask somebody at that age about the one
Speaker 1: we should be asking you. I'm just trying to get
Speaker 1: to know him and his girlfriend a little bit better. Okay,
Speaker 1: but so you don't know yet. That's that's at the
Speaker 1: end of the day. What are you gonna KISR? Do
Speaker 1: you have any plans to kiss her? I feel like
Speaker 1: it has to come in the moment. So how does
Speaker 1: someone at your thirteen How does a thirteen year old
Speaker 1: decide this is my girlfriend? Like? What makes it your girlfriend?
Speaker 1: We just talk about it, like, I think it's through
Speaker 1: time I get to know the person. So you guys
Speaker 1: were talking about it for a while then eventually were like,
Speaker 1: let's just be a boyfriend girlfriends And so if she
Speaker 1: was like talking to another boy, you'd get probably prett jealous.
Speaker 1: Then yeah, not really. I like the confidence. That's healthy.
Speaker 1: That's good. I don't know where he gets it from.
Speaker 1: But um, all right, well, hey Peter, thanks for sharing
Speaker 1: about the relationship. Um, we wish you nothing but the best. Obviously.
Speaker 1: I guess it's a little too early, apparently to be
Speaker 1: asking her if she's I think for sure, because do
Speaker 1: you know what it takes? Do you know when you
Speaker 1: know the one. Yes, you do. But that's my point.
Speaker 1: He's thirteen, like he shouldn't even be thinking that day
Speaker 1: to reveal? Are they insta official term? Are you insta official? Pure?
Speaker 1: Did you post our picture on your Instagram? What are
Speaker 1: you waiting for? Well? I don't know is that a
Speaker 1: true thing? Like do? If you are you actually officially
Speaker 1: dating when somebody posts the picture of the other person
Speaker 1: that you're then you would get bullied. Then you get bullied.
Speaker 1: Why would you get bullied? I don't know, because you're
Speaker 1: being too romantic and what and it's eighth grade and
Speaker 1: it's eighth grade. Maybe wait till high school for that. Yeah, listen, Peter,
Speaker 1: when you want to know more about girls, I know
Speaker 1: you want to ask your dad just listen to the
Speaker 1: How Men Think podcast? And he doesn't allow me to.
Speaker 1: But at the win because you're not ready when when
Speaker 1: it's time, I would rather you have, you know, balancing
Speaker 1: you know, thoughts as supposed to just hearing because I
Speaker 1: know you what your dad thinks about stuff. It's okay,
Speaker 1: listen to the group, okay, or maybe listen to help
Speaker 1: us like your dating too in conjunction with you can
Speaker 1: get it. You can get a good dichotomy there. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: we gotta wrap it up because we are going to
Speaker 1: go watch this baseball game. Thank you guys for joining
Speaker 1: us on this episode. Ready for your big moment. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm actually seeing the national anthem tonight, but for some
Speaker 1: weird reason, they're let me do that. I don't know why,
Speaker 1: are you really no? I'm just bringing the ball out
Speaker 1: to the You're I don't know, just bringing the bus.
Speaker 1: Pretty that's a big deal. Are you throwing the picture?
Speaker 1: You're bringing the ball out? I think I'm bringing the
Speaker 1: ball out. I did throw the first pitch out of
Speaker 1: the Angels game, actually a couple of months ago, which
Speaker 1: is pretty cool. Did you throw right down the middle?
Speaker 1: Had thurn baseball in like a decade, and I was
Speaker 1: I didn't practice it all. I threw it right down there.
Speaker 1: That's perfect, which is better than most of the Angels
Speaker 1: pitchers are doing right now. Yap um, big thank you
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Speaker 1: Their croissans are great, their salads are amazing. So big
Speaker 1: thank you to Dmitri and Rick. Meet you and Rick.
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Speaker 1: it's on. I Heart Radio and you guys are killing
Speaker 1: it right. I remember your first episode had like was
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Speaker 1: like like ever, y're hilarious. I mean, thanks for having
Speaker 1: us on, so you know that, what's the number? Let's
Speaker 1: listen to podcasts in history. I always kind of reflect
Speaker 1: on a little bit. I'm kind of like I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm out of stage of my life for like
Speaker 1: I don't really give it. You know, it's like you
Speaker 1: willing to share stories how I feel, and I think
Speaker 1: that's kind of the whole point of the show. You
Speaker 1: know how men. Thanks having fun doing that. Yeah, it's great,
Speaker 1: it's fantastic. Thanks for having Thanks for having us on.
Speaker 1: Thanks guys big, thank you to Analyze Puccini as well
Speaker 1: for joining us. Um and we will talk to you
Speaker 1: next week. We'll give you some Paradise updates. Hopefully we'll
Speaker 1: all be together next week. I think we might be.
Speaker 1: Will you probably be from from my bedroom anyways, be
Speaker 1: sure to the next week, where maybe we will suck
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