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Speaker 1: My friend offered to buy my house for a dollar,

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Speaker 1: slash Okay storytime selbroad So. I got odd job in

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Speaker 1: high school, worked odd jobs on the side, saved up

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Speaker 1: thousand dollars in my savings. I don't have that much

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Speaker 1: chucked away anymore, but I have investments and emergency funds

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Speaker 1: and take my family's finances incredibly seriously, as I never

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Speaker 1: want my children to experience what I did as a kid.

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Speaker 1: Mine and my husband's finance choices afforded us the opportunity

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Speaker 1: to purchase a home in the beginning of twenty fifteen,

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Speaker 1: which he bought fifty to fifty with his mother. He

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Speaker 1: paid his half up front, I made a large down payment,

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Speaker 1: and his mother covered the rest with an escrow agreement

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Speaker 1: that I would pay off what she had purchased. I've

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Speaker 1: since completely paid my half and the house is fully

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Speaker 1: owned by myself and my husband. It's a four bedroom,

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Speaker 1: one and a half bath, two story home with a

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Speaker 1: we got the house for an absolute steal at only

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Speaker 1: one hundred and eighteen thousand dollars for sale by owners.

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Speaker 1: Since purchasing, we have installed a fence, updated the oven,

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Speaker 1: to have all the interior rooms repainted. The only updates

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Speaker 1: it needs are purely cosmetic, as the exterior paint is

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Speaker 1: an ugly brown pink color which we have started repainting

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Speaker 1: and need to finish. The hardwood floors have some distortion

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Speaker 1: due to being one hundred plus year old house and

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Speaker 1: us having dogs when we live there, and the bathroom

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Speaker 1: Sounds like a great house. Sounds like a great house,

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Speaker 1: needless to say, on a scale of one to five,

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Speaker 1: with one being teared down the house and start over

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Speaker 1: and five being it's ready to put on the market

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Speaker 1: to sell for three hundred K. Today the house is

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Speaker 1: sitting at three point five to four. Okay, okay, backstory complete,

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Speaker 1: Let's get into what has become my biggest headache for

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Speaker 1: the past four years. I have a friend, let's call

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Speaker 1: her Carly, female twenty seven, who had incredibly similar experiences

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Speaker 1: to me growing up, but struggles with finances and has

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Speaker 1: sure if it's lack of self control or that she's

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Speaker 1: simply too focused in the moment when she gets paid

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Speaker 1: and doesn't think to look long term, but she consistently

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Speaker 1: makes her a lack of funds everyone else's problem. I

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Speaker 1: don't blame her for having issues with money, as learning

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Speaker 1: to create a budget isn't exactly taught in school and

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Speaker 1: took me years to learn to find a healthy balance,

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Speaker 1: point you have to learn to take responsibility. During the

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Speaker 1: course of our friendship, I have helped her build countless

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Speaker 1: budgets based off my own. I made it roughly the

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Speaker 1: with money. We tried different ways to try trick her

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Speaker 1: to be touched as everything needed to be used for bills,

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Speaker 1: et cetera. And each time she would wind up still

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Speaker 1: using every penny. It finally came to the point where

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Speaker 1: I refused to help her with a budget anymore because

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Speaker 1: she never listens to my advice. And when I pointed

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Speaker 1: out the easiest and fastest method to get her spending

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Speaker 1: under control was to get a pay yee, she said

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Speaker 1: she didn't need to be treated like a child who

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Speaker 1: receives an allowance. Okay, so someone who holds your money

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Speaker 1: so you don't spend it.

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Speaker 2: Yep, your person receiving money from another party, the payer

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Speaker 1: Ha ha, fair enough, I washed my hands with that topic.

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Speaker 1: Carly moved out of her mom's house a little over

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Speaker 1: six years ago into a mutual friend's place, let's call

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Speaker 1: her Tia, Female twenty seven. As far as I've been

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Speaker 1: told by Tia, Carly paid little to nothing and rent,

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Speaker 3: I can imagine.

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Speaker 1: She moved into the basement and it was lucky if

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Speaker 1: help her clean and organize her space, and because I'm

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Speaker 3: Oh. Each time, we'd.

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Speaker 1: Make significant progress, but then by the next weekend when

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Speaker 1: She would never clean up on her own or make

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Speaker 1: other living situation. All right, So TIA's like, I'm done

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Speaker 1: I feel like I understand too. She wasn't going to

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Speaker 1: things that built up that caused this, but I won't

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Speaker 1: keep it as a rental. The red flag that I

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Speaker 3: Oh man, I know where this is going to.

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Speaker 1: Her two potential roommates, even before moving in and signing

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Speaker 1: they would have only been paying seven to fifty total

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Speaker 1: per month, and if only one person was renting, it

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Speaker 1: As we really didn't need the money and it was

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Speaker 1: In the four years that Carly has lived in that house,

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Speaker 1: Also, in the four years she had lived there, two

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Speaker 1: for her to have roommates, yeah, despite having zero claim

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, she was like, Oh, she just constantly drains

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Speaker 3: would you trust that person? Yeah? Exactly, exactly why did

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Speaker 1: My husband and I realized it after a couple of

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Speaker 1: We have too much on our plates and no time

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Speaker 1: the rental agreement that she had signed. We talked about

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Speaker 1: and informed her of her plan. She proposed to buy

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Speaker 1: land in the house itself was far too big for her.

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Speaker 1: She told us that and we understood, and it even

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Speaker 1: helped drive her to meet her with realtors so she

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Speaker 1: could check out other options to buy houses elsewhere, but

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Speaker 1: any loans that she looked at, and all the loans

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Speaker 3: Dude, what did she expect a new homeowner's discount? It's like,

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Speaker 3: this isn't a coffee at a cafe.

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Speaker 1: It don't matter how much you have in your bank

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Speaker 1: you have like fifty dollars in your bank account, don't

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Speaker 3: There's no way you can. Like they're out here, they're

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Speaker 3: not giving me deals on loans and asking for ten

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Speaker 3: percent I mean ten percent, that's like twenty percent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Like what are we talking about? This is

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Speaker 1: where the entitlement starts. Carly wasn't going to be able

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Speaker 3: Nah, dog beggars, they can't be choosers.

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Speaker 1: I reminded her that we never signed anything about a

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Speaker 3: She was giving me the house like.

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Speaker 1: At this point, she'd only paid ten k in rent,

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Speaker 1: So the entitlement is crazy.

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Speaker 3: They've basically made no money while you're doing so. Basically

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Speaker 3: it's like, hey, make zero money on this house that

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Speaker 3: great deal? Yeah, it's amazing. I love it. Why here's so?

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Speaker 1: Mud I again told her that this would not be

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Speaker 1: for it, one hundred and eighteen K. She tried to

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Speaker 1: landlording difficult. Her last attempt at buying the house on

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Speaker 4: It ain't nothing, whoa that is true?

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Speaker 1: It ain't nothing that is true? That's right, A single

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Speaker 1: multiple occasions that she start charging us rent for storing

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Speaker 3: If the landlords are to pay you for storing some stuff,

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Speaker 3: we would be millionaires. That is true. That is true.

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Speaker 1: Our landlords were storing stuff in our garage all the

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: At the end of twenty twenty two, Carly started dating

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Speaker 1: Reggie twenty eight mail. They were long distance and would

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Speaker 1: we threw out a couple numbers, the very lowest being

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Speaker 1: one hundred K, which means they would be losing money, Yes,

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Speaker 1: sorry K for a house. Yeah, but they bought it

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Speaker 1: course would have an appraisal and look at the market value.

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Speaker 1: How much you think the market value of this house

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing like two to fifty three three. He offered

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Speaker 3: At the time.

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Speaker 1: He's a retired marine. He gets a monthly checked from

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Speaker 1: the government for close to two thousand on top of

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Speaker 1: his well paying job. I'm guessing best based on what

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Speaker 1: Carly told me, but At the time he made his offer,

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Speaker 1: he was probably making forty five hundred to five thousand

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Speaker 1: Reggie informed us that he would not be able to

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Speaker 1: October instead, when he planned to move in with Carly.

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Speaker 1: Before Reggie moved in, an ex friend offered to rent

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Speaker 1: despite subletting being clearly stated in the lease agreement as prohibited.

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Speaker 3: I best you would have charge him seven to fifty

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Speaker 3: a month. Yeah, let's see.

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Speaker 1: So Carly so generously offered to pay us some of

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Speaker 1: the amount that she was paid. The agreement fell through

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Speaker 1: and the friend did not stay in the room. I'm

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Speaker 1: not exactly sure why he chose to do things way

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Speaker 1: he did, but Reggie didn't start the purchase process at

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Speaker 1: all until after he had moved and quit his job,

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Speaker 1: meaning the only source of income he had to show

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: When he moved in, rent increased to one thousand a month,

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Speaker 1: which is still under value for the size of the home,

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Speaker 1: stating that if they had not started the buying process

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty four, that we would not be renewing the

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Speaker 1: least nor would we work with them on a month

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Speaker 1: to month rental options as myself and my husband are

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Speaker 1: completely and totally over this mess. Yeah, which I can understand.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what a mess, very much a mess.

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Speaker 1: We also stated in the rental agreement that we were

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Speaker 1: not going to listen to house for sale as a

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Speaker 1: sign of good faith to allow Reggie and Carly first

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Speaker 1: you giving them this? They have done nothing. Be cause

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Speaker 1: you headaches. You just need to like take your house

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Speaker 1: and run away from these people.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we have to stop. Also, what is Reggie's relation

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Speaker 3: to Carly and everyone else? Again? Their boyfriend girlfriend? Ban them,

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Speaker 3: ban them from the house. Please.

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Speaker 1: Here's a rapid list of things that have happened since October.

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Speaker 1: Reggie paid the seven hundred and fifty that Carly owed

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Speaker 1: to me in back rent. Carly and Reggie informed us

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Speaker 1: at some point either late November or early December, that

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Speaker 1: they would not be buying the house as the repairs

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Speaker 1: required amount amounted to more than fifty K. I don't

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Speaker 1: know where they got this number, as I have budgeted

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Speaker 1: on multiple occasions to redo the flooring and would be

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Speaker 1: less than fifteen K to redo the entire house, nor

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Speaker 1: would repainting cost more than a few thousand or the

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Speaker 1: re repair the major damage in the bathroom recently for

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Speaker 1: less than five hundred dollars. They could not acquire rent

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Speaker 1: housing due to having three cats and will indeed be

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Speaker 3: Okay, good.

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Speaker 1: I made the mistake of telling Carly that we owed

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Speaker 1: one third of the market value of our house if

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Speaker 1: we sold it as is, so it's worth one hundred

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Speaker 3: We were all wrong, dude, okay, but Riley was most right.

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Speaker 1: We politely declined and then promptly when the home went

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Speaker 1: home and screamed into pillows. They repeatedly told thea that

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Speaker 1: they are desperate from money, to the point of debating

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Speaker 1: setting up a GoFundMe. All the while, Carly has gotten

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Speaker 1: was still not acquired even a part And Reggie is

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Speaker 1: still not acquired even a part time job. We emergency

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Speaker 1: and Harley quit her job and now the only income

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Speaker 1: to renegotiate rent for this month and next months. There

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Speaker 1: will be no negotiations. Yes, she made a bad decision

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Speaker 1: and will have to live with the consequences of her actions.

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Speaker 1: The most recent thing she did was text me two

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Speaker 1: days ago asking if she could pay me in food

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Speaker 1: for this month's rents, knowing her the amount will that

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Speaker 1: seventy five dollars in groceries instead of roughly five hundred

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Speaker 1: dollars they will owe. I owe Reggie roughly five hundred

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Speaker 1: dollars left to pay off the last bit of the

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Speaker 1: water heater. I jokingly answer that the electricity and insurance

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Speaker 3: Neither can I. There we go.

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Speaker 1: She then offered to pay me what it would cost

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Speaker 3: What is this food payment? She is just stuck on

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Speaker 1: So is she gonna like a harvest, like food from

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Speaker 3: I'll create a f and I will grow things, and

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Speaker 3: that you will get.

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Speaker 1: Six months later you will have so much corn harvest

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Speaker 1: will be fruitfall. Yeah, the grain you have. I have

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Speaker 1: not responded. It's been a day and a half. They

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Speaker 1: will pay me in cash and nothing else. I'm done,

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Speaker 1: no discussion.

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Speaker 3: God, My warning to all of.

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Speaker 1: You, don't mix business and friends without getting to know

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Speaker 1: said friends are very well first true. If I had

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Speaker 1: allowed her.

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Speaker 3: To move it. And we got an update. But we

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Speaker 3: knew from the beginning that this person was bad with money,

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Speaker 3: Why would you rent to her? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Fully once, shame on you full me twice, shame on

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Speaker 1: me fully three times, still shame on me fully four times.

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Speaker 1: You're like, that's just that's just mean, that's just you're

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Speaker 1: taking advantage of me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. But also and it's like, this isn't a case

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Speaker 3: of I owes opie ah op. He's not the a.

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Speaker 3: If anything, ope's a hole to herself. But like, you

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Speaker 3: decided to rent to this person when you already knew

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Speaker 3: they are not that. They are not it. They are

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Speaker 3: not it at all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there was nothing that they had done too that

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Speaker 1: would make you think, oh, like, these are people that

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Speaker 1: is ensuring that these people can pay the money. And

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Speaker 1: she had never shown that and you saw it firsthand, Like, oh, Pee,

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Speaker 1: we love you, We love you, first of all, we

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Speaker 1: love you, but what are you do in come on,

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Speaker 1: don't rent to people who can't pay for things. It's

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Speaker 1: just not smart. It's not smart you put yourself into

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Speaker 1: the situation.

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Speaker 3: I bet I bet she goes out to like get

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Speaker 3: a fancy dinner, and then she's like, I can't pay

443
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Speaker 3: for this meal, but I can, like paint a room

444
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Speaker 3: in your house. Yeah, I can pay you in food.

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Speaker 3: How would I make you dinner? Update? Good fing God?

446
00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 3: Oh no. Thanks for all the comments. There are some.

447
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Speaker 1: There was some great advice in there, and I really

448
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:16,239
Speaker 1: appreciate it. But I should clarify the reason we let

449
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 1: Carly move in. Let us know, tell us, please let

450
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Speaker 1: us know. The reason is because she made it sound

451
00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:25,600
Speaker 1: like she literally had nowhere to go. She'd spun a

452
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 1: tale that her home life with her mom was not safe.

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00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 3: Untrue.

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Speaker 1: She made it sound like TiO was literally kicking her

455
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Speaker 1: out that day, also untrue. And she panically hounded me

456
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 1: relentlessly in person and over the phone until my husband

457
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Speaker 1: and I made a super quick decision to let her

458
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Speaker 1: rent from us. Don't give in, don't give in. I've

459
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:49,440
Speaker 1: learned this is a method of manipulation. I've reached out

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Speaker 1: to an attorney. We talked about everything that's happened. They

461
00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 1: read through the lease and gave us a few options.

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Speaker 1: We wait until May first, when Carly and Reggie are

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Speaker 1: supposed to be out of the house. If they are

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Speaker 1: not out, we deliver an intent to sell notice that

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Speaker 1: gives them ninety days to vacate the property after the

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Speaker 1: lease is up.

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Speaker 3: Not ideal. It's a long time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we deliver the intent to sell now that means

469
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Speaker 1: they have until mid June to get the f out.

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Speaker 1: Still not ideal, but better if they're still in the

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Speaker 1: house past ninety days, we file an all unlawful detainer

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Speaker 1: and the cops forcibly kick them out. We can't evict

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Speaker 1: them because we don't have the grounds. Even with all

474
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Speaker 1: of this, the course is about everywhere are against landlords

475
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Speaker 1: and in favor of tenants that the minute their rent

476
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Speaker 1: is late, we have grounds for the eviction. That gives

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Speaker 1: them fourteen days to pay or get the f out.

478
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Speaker 1: But if they pay, the eviction process ends. So still

479
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: not ideal. They can't get squatter's rights because they haven't

480
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Speaker 1: been there long enough. I'm going to be telling my

481
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Speaker 1: mother everything she's done, because I'm pretty sure she has

482
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Speaker 1: no idea. I'm also telling all our mutual friends. I've

483
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,639
Speaker 1: done a lot of self reflection lately before writing this

484
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Speaker 1: post and came to several conclusions. I know she's not

485
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Speaker 1: my friend. I had a false idea that I was

486
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Speaker 1: helping someone that I saw as a friend, and at

487
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Speaker 1: the end I enabled her crappy behavior. I'm aware I'm

488
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Speaker 1: a doormat. I know I don't know how to set boundaries.

489
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Speaker 1: I spent a lot of time on the phone and

490
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Speaker 1: in professional offices over the last few days. I'm on

491
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Speaker 1: a waiting list to see a therapist, okay, and learning

492
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Speaker 1: to set boundaries because I don't ever want to teach

493
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Speaker 1: my kids my bad behaviors and habits that got me

494
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Speaker 1: into this mess. Go off, queen, And for all of

495
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Speaker 1: you who mentioned that is a miracle. My husband is

496
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Speaker 1: still with me. Why you, guys, Why does Rid always

497
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:29,639
Speaker 1: do that?

498
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Speaker 3: He was with me.

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Speaker 1: Along the whole process. I never did anything without his

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Speaker 1: consent since we owned the house fifty to fifty. I'm

501
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 1: taking most of the blame because Carly was my friend.

502
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 1: I've apologized to him and we have had a deep

503
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Speaker 1: conversation about working on communication. He apologized for not seeing

504
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: sooner that my friend wasn't who she claimed to be

505
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,960
Speaker 1: and didn't warm me I was being manipulated. I'll update

506
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Speaker 1: again when we get closer to me first, unless something

507
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 1: happens sooner and update TiO. They're out and have been

508
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: since April. First, let's go. Life's been insane, and I've

509
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,199
Speaker 1: been so overwhelmed with this whole situation that it's been

510
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 1: hard to get back on here and face it all again.

511
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:18,600
Speaker 1: They left the house a mess, but that's not surprising.

512
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 1: They claimed they didn't have time or money to finish,

513
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: even though there was a whole month left on the lease. Honestly,

514
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: I'm happy that they're out, though I'm pissed about the mess.

515
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:28,919
Speaker 1: I'd rather clean up a bit instead of fight them

516
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,359
Speaker 1: in court or kick them out. I told her mom

517
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 1: and showed her everything, and her mom was angry as

518
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 1: well and told her off a couple of times for

519
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 1: one leaving the house and the state they did, and

520
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 1: two treating me and the others the way she has.

521
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 1: I've also started therapy and I'm working on setting boundaries

522
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,160
Speaker 1: and getting over my people pleasing. The last I spoke

523
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 1: to Carly was yesterday, because I learned from a friend

524
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 1: that she joked about leaving the house a mess on

525
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: purpose because she was mad at me. I confronted her

526
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Speaker 1: and asked why even if it was a joke, because

527
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 1: even jokes have some basis in truth. She said that

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00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: it was because emotions were running high and she was

529
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 1: stressed at the end when they were getting ready to leave.

530
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 1: That she was frustrated with how little I did with

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00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: the house while she was there, despite me repairing everything

532
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 1: that needed at asap, and she was mad. My husband

533
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 1: and I stored some of our things in the garage.

534
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,639
Speaker 1: I explained that one, it's our house, we can do that.

535
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 1: Two there was plenty of space in the garage for

536
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: her things as well, and three, none of our vehicles

537
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: will fit in the garage anyway, as they were all

538
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: too long and none of them ran, so she couldn't

539
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: even get them into the garage anyway. By the way,

540
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: you should always get into our little podcast garage by

541
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Speaker 1: searching Okay, Story Tom and Apple Podcasts or Spotify or

542
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcasts, so you can listen to

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00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 1: us in your ear holes twenty four seven three sixty five,

544
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,439
Speaker 1: while you're working, while you're driving, while you're working out,

545
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 1: while you're cleaning, anything, could listen to us wherever you

546
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:52,640
Speaker 1: get your podcasts.

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00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 3: That's right, we got a little bit more to the story.

548
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 3: But my god, these people suck. My god, they really do.

549
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:01,159
Speaker 3: Carly also had.

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00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 1: To junk out two of the vehicles she left behind,

551
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 1: even though she'd explained she had someone who could keep

552
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 1: them on their property so she could work on them.

553
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,240
Speaker 1: I don't understand any of her logic. I'm done trying

554
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 1: to figure it out. Last thing she said to me

555
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: was that she was sorry, though I don't believe she

556
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: genuinely is and is just saying it to make herself

557
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:24,480
Speaker 1: feel better. Thanks to everyone that's read and commented and

558
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 1: given advice, It's been greatly appreciated. Sorry if it's a

559
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:31,920
Speaker 1: bit anticlimactic of an ending, but I'm relieved that it's done.

560
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: Some good news is that we're working with a buyer

561
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 1: now and are making steps towards selling for what the

562
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 1: place is actually worth. We got a comments, so many

563
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: red flags ignored over and over. You know, she was

564
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,400
Speaker 1: a dumpster fire when she lived with Tia. Why would

565
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 1: you think that she would be better when she was

566
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: renting from you, which that's kind of.

567
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 3: What we said.

568
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:52,399
Speaker 4: A great question.

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Speaker 1: Reply, I don't know how the husband agreed to this.

570
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: I am sure he heard lots of story from Op.

571
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,399
Speaker 1: And another reply because friend in Op's relationship is a

572
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 1: dumpster fire, and I assume OP browbeat her husband into

573
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 1: agreeing to this crap show. Everyone's the a hole and

574
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 1: op oh's her husband a huge apology, and another reply

575
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 1: said I read half the post and it just got

576
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 1: too exhausted for someone with some financial sense. She sure

577
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 1: didn't use it with this crap friend and OP replied, wow,

578
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:24,439
Speaker 1: so we got op clapping back. My stupid naive self

579
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 1: hoped that the other two roommates would keep her in check,

580
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 1: and I didn't learn until after she's signed the lease

581
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: that the other two had backed out. I'm too easy

582
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:35,160
Speaker 1: on people and far too forgiving, and I know that's

583
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 1: all on me. And someone replied, but you said you

584
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,159
Speaker 1: were good with money. By letting her live there for

585
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 1: so little, you cost yourself thousands. You don't sound naive

586
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 1: to me. You sound like you lack confidence to expect

587
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,159
Speaker 1: people to treat you with respect. I do hope you

588
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 1: learn from this, but I think you have a long.

589
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 3: Way to go.

590
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 1: You did know, shaking my effing head, you aren't a victim.

591
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 1: You saw she was a filthy and lazy piece of

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00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 1: poop and gave her a four bedroom house for four

593
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: hundred dollars a month, and a comment too, I'm really

594
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,440
Speaker 1: having a hard time feeling bad for you in any way.

595
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:09,359
Speaker 1: Regarding this woman, I can't even wrap my head around

596
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 1: why you would have rented her with tour in the

597
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,120
Speaker 1: begin with. You knew she was a slob, you knew

598
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: she was completely unable to handle her finances, so you

599
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 1: rent out your house to her. That makes absolutely no sense.

600
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: You enabled her. And the last comment, the only victim

601
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: is your husband.

602
00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 3: Read it as per usual, going oh.

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00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 2: My.

604
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 1: Jugular for the jugular, and that is where that story ends.

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00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 1: But we might got one more story, short story in us.

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00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 4: Oh it is hilarious, all right.

607
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 1: I'm excited my entitle roommate refused to let me eat

608
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: cheese because she hates it.

609
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 3: A viction, A viction.

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00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: This story is about my roommate, a very peculiar guy

611
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 1: about whom I have a lot of stories to share,

612
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: but I prefer to write more short anecdotes about him

613
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: than a lot of different events altogether, So let me

614
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 1: know if you'd like to hear them. The first time

615
00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: he came to see the house, he showed up with

616
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 1: his parents. They asked a thousand questions about the house,

617
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: then called the landlord to say they would rent an

618
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 1: entire room with two beds instead of just one bed

619
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 1: in it. He didn't want to share the room with others,

620
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 1: but he didn't want to rent a room with a

621
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: single bed because he needed more space than the others.

622
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 1: That was the moment where I realized I was facing

623
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: not just an entitled man, but an entitled family.

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00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 3: Uh huh.

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00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from na Anymore on the

626
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 1: art slash Okay Storytimes subreddit. So after renting the room,

627
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: the father sat down on the sofa with a grunt,

628
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: and the mother began washing everything the son could touch

629
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 1: during a stay. Not the rest of the house though,

630
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: So at the dinner time we couldn't cook or eat

631
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,719
Speaker 1: because the lady had to rub the furniture chosen by

632
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: the Sun to store his belongings. I guess to like

633
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 1: rub it to clean it. The shelf on the refrigerator

634
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 1: the Sun had chosen, occupy, and so on. At a

635
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 1: certain point, while I was in my room, I heard

636
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 1: them calling me loudly opy, So I ran to the

637
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: kitchen think of what could have happened. The son was

638
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 1: behind the mother with folded arms, and she was vigorously

639
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: rubbing the door of a piece of furniture. She looked

640
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 1: at me and.

641
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 3: Asked, do you eat cheese? Yeah, it's delicious.

642
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 1: I thought about it for a moment and answered, well,

643
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: it depends some types of cheese. She glanced at Bee again,

644
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: this time with pity in her eyes. It added, well,

645
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: my son doesn't like cheese. I wasn't sure how to respond,

646
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: so I tried to joke about it. Well, it means

647
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: I won't offer him dairy products, I replied, laughing.

648
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 3: But they were very serious. Do you do you really

649
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 3: want to eat cheese? Eat? What the cheese?

650
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: At this point there was genuinely confused. The son just

651
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 1: stared at me. Why is he allergic? I asked, after

652
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: a mot of reflection. It was very strange to talk

653
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 1: about his son, who was more than twenty years old,

654
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 1: as if you were not there.

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Speaker 3: No, the mother replied, but he it sucks anyway.

656
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 1: I was in the ear ok phase again, I understand,

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Speaker 1: I just under I just answered, without really understanding, but

658
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Speaker 1: she didn't let it go. However, can you cook a

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Speaker 1: lot of things without buying cheese? There is no need

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Speaker 1: to eat it, no need. At this point it was

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Speaker 1: starting to become a matter of principle for me, and

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Speaker 1: I said, I understand that but it doesn't suck for me.

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Speaker 1: In fact, there are some very good type of cheeses.

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Speaker 1: Oh man's defending cheese here, the boy snorted, whereupon I

665
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 1: turned to him because the situation was starting to drink,

666
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Speaker 1: starting to get really ridiculous. You don't drink milk, yes,

667
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 1: he finally spoke. And you don't eat yogurt, I kept asking, yes,

668
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Speaker 1: he continued, so the mother, suddenly satisfied, intruded again.

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Speaker 3: Exactly, you can eat milk and yogurt, he likes them.

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Speaker 3: Those are okay.

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Speaker 1: But I'm the one who eats cheese, not him, I

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Speaker 1: repeated a little dully, without really knowing what else to say.

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Speaker 3: She got annoyed. Whoever hats it has nothing to do

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Speaker 3: with it. At our house, cheese doesn't come in because

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Speaker 3: otherwise he throws it away. He can't even stand it.

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Speaker 1: That's right at your house, I replied, Three people live

677
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Speaker 1: in this house. Even if I chose to not eat

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Speaker 1: cheese anymore, I certainly can't force the other boy to

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Speaker 1: do the same. My reasoning didn't intimidate the lately who

680
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Speaker 1: tried to protest, but at that point I simply turned

681
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Speaker 1: on my heels and left. Unfortunately, the matter didn't adhere

682
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Speaker 1: for months. We quarreled over the cheese problem.

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Speaker 3: For months, with the boy screaming every time he saw

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Speaker 3: it on our plates. Jeez, my weakness.

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Speaker 1: Two years have passed, but he's still a huge pain

686
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Speaker 1: in my heiinknee. She s there and there's an updated.

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Speaker 3: I would leave. I would leave cheese, just get a

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Speaker 3: second jobs update.

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Speaker 1: His mother is a homemaker, his father does manual work.

690
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Speaker 1: He is unemployed. How he can spend almost one thousand

691
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Speaker 1: dollars a month alone is a mystery. However, I know

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Speaker 1: that money is sent to him by his parents, and

693
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: this is clear. Also for another reason, he is absolutely

694
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Speaker 1: he has absolutely no idea of the value of money.

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Speaker 4: Ooh, I know a chick like this.

696
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, she had a friend that lived with her and

697
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 2: she would get on the phone with her parents and

698
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 2: be like, well, I need this much money.

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00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 3: I need it now, give it to me. Just give

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Speaker 3: it to me, and like pow over it.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. Get a job, kid, Get a job. The

702
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 1: first thing he did after moving in was buying things

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Speaker 1: for himself. Okay, you'll say, let's wroble to buy food, toothbrush, soaps,

704
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: things like that. Yeah, too bad, I'm not talking about

705
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Speaker 1: things like that. His first trip back from the supermarket

706
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: included pots, pans, a cutting board, cutlery, a pillow, and

707
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 1: a drying rack.

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Speaker 4: I was expecting an anime pillow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's kind of normal. Initially I was a

710
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 1: little naive, having no idea how spoiled he was. Those

711
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:08,879
Speaker 1: are totally normal things to get, though.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: I pointed at these things out these things were already

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Speaker 1: in the house, and he replied, shouting at me.

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Speaker 3: No, no, you understand nothing. These things are mine, not

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Speaker 3: for the house.

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Speaker 1: He went to his room, changed a pillow on his bed,

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Speaker 1: and went back to the living room and threw the

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Speaker 1: old pillow at me with a disgusted face expression.

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Speaker 3: Take, I would never use this.

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Speaker 1: It was our first day of cohabitation. Over time, there

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00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 1: have been other, at least unusual purchases, such as a

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Speaker 1: personal coffee machine.

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Speaker 3: That's not weird. These are all normal purchases. But it's

725
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,280
Speaker 3: he's purchasing things they already have, at least earlier.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's because he's the only child, and you do

727
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 4: just don't know what sure is.

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Speaker 1: Shre a set of personal basins or even personal pieces

729
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,800
Speaker 1: of furniture, that's a little weird. His most shocking and

730
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Speaker 1: mentioning mentioned worthy purchase is definitely a vacuum clean for

731
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Speaker 1: personal use, and by personal I mean only of his

732
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: exclusive use, but that he only uses it in his bedroom.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I've given this guy a pass on

734
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Speaker 1: all that stuff he can use. He can buy a

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Speaker 1: personal vacuum if he wants.

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Speaker 2: I know where John and I stand on this one.

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Speaker 2: If you have a roommate and they have a vacuum

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Speaker 2: and you can't use it, it's a vacuum No.

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Speaker 1: I mean I do think it's whack for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I'd like the things to buy and like.

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Speaker 3: It's not like the most outlandish thing possibly.

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Speaker 4: Well, I guess he does have two rooms. He can

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Speaker 4: store it in one of them.

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Speaker 1: So imagine the scene. He enters his room, turns on

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00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 1: the vacuum cleaner, uses it in the few square meters

746
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: that make it his room, then turns it off, leaves

747
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 1: into the room, takes the common room, and uses to

748
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:42,240
Speaker 1: sweep up the common areas.

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Speaker 3: Creepy. Let's go back to the topic of the post. Food.

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Speaker 1: My roommate has a serious problem with food brands. He

751
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: buys only and exclusively the brands advertised on TV Obviously,

752
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: it would be useless to make brand names here since

753
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:56,800
Speaker 1: they are different in almost all countries. But think of

754
00:35:56,840 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 1: your most common advertisements on your most common television new works. Well,

755
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 1: that's what he would buy. If there is more than

756
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 1: one famous brand, he buys a more expensive one. This

757
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 1: also applies to home delivered food. If there are two

758
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: absolutely identical sandwiches sold by two different restaurants, he chooses

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Speaker 1: the most expensive one.

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00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 3: Because I quit verbatim, if it costs more eats, it's better.

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00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 1: Over time, I realize that he simply likes to spend

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Speaker 1: as much as possible, even when it isn't necessary. Whenever

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00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: he cooks, he cooks for three people, then he obviously

764
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 1: eats it alone. Does that mean he eats for three people. No,

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Speaker 1: this means that he cooks for three people, eats a

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00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 1: normal portion, eats a normal portion, and throws away what

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00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 1: is leftover.

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00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,479
Speaker 3: That's crazy. Yeah, at least meal prep.

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00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, his normal meal is made up of first course,

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Speaker 1: second course, side dish, and dessert. He eats a third

771
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: of the first one, throws out the leftovers, eats a

772
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 1: third of the second one with a side dish, throws

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Speaker 1: it again the leftovers, and then eats of the dessert.

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Speaker 3: He cooks so much.

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00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 1: Food, mainally because he takes pictures of it and sends

776
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: it to his mom and to be told by her

777
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 1: how good he is. His mother and his girlfriend as well.

778
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,919
Speaker 1: I'll fill him with so much praise that he thinks

779
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 1: of himself as a chef. When I have a girlfriend,

780
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:09,280
Speaker 1: I think it's just saying that his mother's his girlfriend.

781
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 3: But I mean, like that's what I would expect.

782
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 4: I know exactly what YouTube channel he subscribed.

783
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 3: To asmr mommy Yep. Yeah.

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00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: When I or the other roommate cook, he often comes

785
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 1: to touch our food and sniff it with his nose

786
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 1: almost inside the plate. He's he's just a regular ratituweet,

787
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: you know, do things to the food while on the cooker,

788
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 1: or provide absolutely unsolicited suggestions. Sometimes he also tries to

789
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: make some compliments like it smells good to be a

790
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 1: sub brand for a sub brand meat sand or did

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00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: you cook the soup it doesn't seem to be disgusting. Last,

792
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,399
Speaker 1: but not least as if it weren't enough to throw

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00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: away cooked food. He also throws away raw food. Sometimes

794
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 1: he opens the fridge, takes his zucchinis. He bought a

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00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: few days earlier and asked me, how long ago did

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00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 1: I buy these zucchinis. I don't know, I like the

797
00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: high pitched voice for him, to which I apply, I

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00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 1: don't four days. He shrugs and comments, Oh, well, they

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00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 1: bought me.

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00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 3: They bore me.

801
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 1: Then he opens the dust bit and throws them away.

802
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 1: He does it with zucchinis, eggs, apples, oranges, auberines, a berghines,

803
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: I don't know what that.

804
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 3: Is, ham and so on.

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Speaker 1: By the way, you should never throw away our podcast,

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Speaker 1: in your headphones and work, cook, eat, do whatever you

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Speaker 1: need to do, pay, clap cheeks. You can do it all.

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00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:34,879
Speaker 1: But I discovered that it's a habit for his parents too.

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00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 1: The last time they came to see him, the mother

814
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 1: open the fridge, took his half used butter and asked him.

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Speaker 3: When did you buy this?

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00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: It has the Christmas package, it's all third away. It

817
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 1: wasn't August. It was the second week of January. In

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00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,840
Speaker 1: the meantime, I've gotten to go grocery shopping at the

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00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,520
Speaker 1: discount store because I've had very little money, if any.

820
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 1: But hey, the other roommate and I have to buy

821
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 1: toilet paper, absorbent paper, dish soap, et cetera for him too,

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Speaker 1: because he doesn't give us money for those things.

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Speaker 3: Isn't he a lovable spoiled boy? And that is where

824
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:07,879
Speaker 3: that story ends.

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00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:08,919
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be for real.

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Speaker 2: If this was a scenario I was in, I would

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Speaker 2: talk to this guy. I would do my best to

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00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 2: talk to his guy and be like, hey, man, you're

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00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 2: throwing that food away and then like somehow get my

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00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 2: hands on it.

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00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:19,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, it gives me the food.

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00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, just take that food if it's good.

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00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 4: Or be like, oh, don't throw it away in that

834
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 4: try so let me throw that away for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and throw it away directly into the mouth. You're

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00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:29,399
Speaker 3: the best, You're the best cook ever. Like wow, you're

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00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: you're You're better than Gordon Rams. You're the best in

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00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 3: the world. Like oh, can I do a little paste? Oh? Wow, okay,

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Speaker 3: I think you can. I feel like you could finagle

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00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 3: this to get him to cook for you.

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00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 1: Where he's like, all right, maybe you're fine with not

842
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 1: having cheese in the house if he's if he's he's cooking,

843
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:46,840
Speaker 1: you know what would be sad? What if he's cooking

844
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 1: three servings for him and his roommates and he just

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00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 1: wants his roommates to have a.

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Speaker 4: Little Yeah, I will say, I don't know about this narrator.

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00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, he honestly sounds kind of like Okay, he sounds

848
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 1: like he just to keep to himself.

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Speaker 3: I think he has his like weird quirks. But OP

850
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 3: just made the unfortunate choice of trying to highlight things

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Speaker 3: that weren't that crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, the first cheese thing was crazy, but

853
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: everything after that didn't feel as crazy. But I'd like

854
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Speaker 1: to know from you guys, do you think this is crazy?

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Speaker 1: What do you think about this?

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Speaker 3: Okay, just really quick, let me phrase it like this.

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Speaker 3: If you had a roommate back in you know, the

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Speaker 3: apartment days, college days, whatever, that's like, Oh, I buy

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00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 3: this vacuum for here, but I only use it here

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00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:31,320
Speaker 3: and then I sweep other places I feel like seeing

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Speaker 3: it and living with it. That would feel weirder than

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Speaker 3: I would not care about it. I would not get

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Speaker 3: Sophia has a vacuum in her room.

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Speaker 1: That's where it is, I think, so. Yeah, she Sophia

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Speaker 1: literally back in her room.

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Speaker 3: But she that's crazy. She'll she'll use it in other

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Speaker 3: places too if she deems it.

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Speaker 1: But that is where that story and this episode and

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Speaker 1: this stream ends all. So if you love us, make

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Speaker 1: sure to subscribe and say it borrow,