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Speaker 1: I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 1: Fred Show, Julia, good morning, Welcome to the show. How

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Speaker 1: are you hi?

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Speaker 2: I am hanging in How.

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Speaker 1: Are you hanging in there? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Because you feel like maybe this guy Adam has ghosted you.

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Speaker 3: So we got to know the whole story on waiting

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Speaker 3: by the phone. How did you guys meet? Tell us

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Speaker 3: about any dates that you guys have been on, and

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Speaker 3: why you think you're being ghosted?

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Speaker 2: Sure, yeah, we.

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Speaker 4: I mean very classic. We met on Hinge, but we

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Speaker 4: went out and it was one of the best, like

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Speaker 4: first states I've had in a while where I actually

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Speaker 4: felt like, Okay, wow, this isn't a no right off

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Speaker 4: the bat, you know, and it was a lot of fun.

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Speaker 4: But he's not reaching out. He's not responding to me now,

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Speaker 4: I you know, I kind of waited for him to

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Speaker 4: sort of of maybe respond first. I didn't hear from him, so.

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Speaker 2: I did decide to sort of text him. No response at.

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Speaker 4: All, no yeah, no call, no text. So I'm wondering

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Speaker 4: if I guess he just didn't feel the same way

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Speaker 4: about how our date went, which.

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Speaker 2: I'm a little surprised by. But yeah, I thought.

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Speaker 4: We had a great connection. I thought.

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Speaker 2: It definitely felt like we were both excited to be there.

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Speaker 4: And that we enjoyed each other's company and that we

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Speaker 1: Know each other.

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Speaker 2: And I thought for sure.

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Speaker 4: I mean I left the date thinking like, Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'm excited to see him again and like keep getting

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Speaker 4: to know him and keep seeing where it could go.

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Speaker 2: So I'm confused. I'm really confused.

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Speaker 1: You've never been on the dating apps? Have you?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: In all? In like, we get a fight with Big Tim,

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Speaker 1: do you ever down let him just to be Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I've done that before. Yeah, and literally just looked at

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Speaker 1: it like I can't do this. That's how I look

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Speaker 1: at it every time. I can't do this.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, I get what you mean, Julie when you

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Speaker 3: say that, like you know you met this person, because

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Speaker 3: I've gone out with a lot of people and none

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Speaker 3: of them are really bad.

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Speaker 1: But but do you.

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Speaker 3: Know the difference when you like sit in front of

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Speaker 3: somebody and you're like this is interesting.

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Speaker 1: Oh completely, that's complete.

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Speaker 4: And it's not even necessarily like oh my god, this

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Speaker 4: feeling of Okay, that went really well, and I'm really

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Speaker 4: excited to just keep getting to know this person, like

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Speaker 4: I just want to keep getting to know them more

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Speaker 4: and see.

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Speaker 2: Because that was that felt different than no, this is

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Speaker 3: Right, Well, let's let's play a song. We're gonna come

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Speaker 3: back in just a second. We're gonna call this guy Adam,

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Speaker 3: and we're gonna see what's going on with him, like

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Speaker 3: what you know, hopefully he felt the same way. Maybe

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Speaker 3: something's come up, but he wasn't able to call you

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Speaker 3: back or reach out. Who knows, who knows? Anything is possible,

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Speaker 3: so hopefully we can fix this. Hey, Julie, Hi, all right,

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Speaker 3: let's call Adam. You guys met on one of the

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Speaker 3: dating apps and it was bumble or hand he was hands.

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Speaker 3: You met on Hinge and you went on a date

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Speaker 3: and you really enjoyed the date. You really like this guy.

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Speaker 3: You were looking forward to seeing where things went. But

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Speaker 3: you're confused.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, yeah, I'm hoping I can just get a

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Speaker 3: On what happened, and hopefully we can, you know, figure

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Speaker 3: out what's up and set you guys up on a

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Speaker 3: date and pay for it.

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Speaker 1: So here we go. Good luck, Julie, Julia, I keep

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Speaker 1: wanting to call you, Julia.

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Speaker 2: It's okay.

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Speaker 1: Hi is this Adam Hey? It's Adam Hey.

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Speaker 3: It's Anam awfully.

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Speaker 1: Enthusiastic for someone who just pick up the phone for

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Speaker 1: tourist stranger. But I'm Adam. My name is Fred.

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Speaker 3: I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning radio show,

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Speaker 3: and I have to tell you that we are on

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Speaker 3: the radio right now, and I would need your permission

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Speaker 3: to continue with the call. Can whichet for just a second,

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Speaker 3: would you mind? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I don't mind chatting?

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Speaker 5: What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 3: Thank you very much for calling on behalf of a

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Speaker 3: woman who says she met you on him and her

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Speaker 3: name is Julia. Do you remember going out with her recently?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 5: She was strange.

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Speaker 1: She was strange. Why was she strange?

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Speaker 3: Because you know, she reached out to us and told

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Speaker 3: and was hoping to see you again, and for whatever reason,

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Speaker 1: So what happened? Why was she strange?

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Speaker 5: Yes, So here's the thing.

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Speaker 1: It was a it was a it was a good date.

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Speaker 5: Up until it was we had appetizers, had some drinks,

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Speaker 5: and then she asked me for my sperm, which was

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Speaker 3: Wait wait wait wait wait hold on, I mean that's

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Speaker 3: I mean, you just sort of laid that out like

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Speaker 3: it was just like okay, so you're you're having drinks

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Speaker 3: and it's fine. And then she what, yes, yes, how

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Speaker 3: we got from the first drink to requesting your specimen.

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Speaker 5: Like that's my thing, that's my thing. While I'm not

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Speaker 5: first date. So she asked me a lot of like

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Speaker 5: my medical history definitely, was just asking more about like,

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Speaker 5: I'm like, whoa, Like this is like a first date

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Speaker 5: and this is a lot.

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Speaker 3: I was sitting there having just like you know, your

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Speaker 3: so I don't know, like what do your parents look like,

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Speaker 3: you know, any history of disease you're illness in to

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Speaker 3: family or wow? Okay, and you're so you're like, where

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so she's asking me about my family history. She's

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Speaker 5: asking me like, oh, I want to you know, use

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Speaker 5: your sperm for incimentation.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, WHOA, Like.

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Speaker 5: This is a lot for a first date here, So

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Speaker 5: I just like I had to have to get out

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not entertaining her anymore.

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Speaker 5: So I'm like, I'm not telling her about that all.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess it's a compliment. She thought you

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Speaker 3: were good looking and had good features. I mean, I'm

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Speaker 3: not asking. Yeah, well, I'm not asking for anyone. Uh

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Speaker 3: something to offer. But let me bring Julie in because

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Speaker 3: that's quite that's quite a request of a person that

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Speaker 3: we asked you how the date, when you forgot to

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Speaker 3: tell me that you wanted his DNA in a jar?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Hey, hi, hi Adam, it's nice to hear from you.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry that that is the.

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Speaker 4: You know, reaction that you had to that first of all,

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Speaker 4: Like I was sort of being playful about it. I

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Speaker 4: the whole that whole process is a crazy thing. It

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Speaker 4: maybe I want to shoot my shot here because it's

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Speaker 4: a thing that people have to think about these days,

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Speaker 4: especially people in my position. And I was kind of

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Speaker 3: About it for this purpose. I mean, are you out

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Speaker 4: I'm not dating to find my husband who's going to

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Speaker 4: be the father of my children.

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Speaker 1: But in the meantime, you'll just take his stuff and

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Speaker 1: move on.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I have to think about that as well.

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Speaker 4: My age. I don't really want to stay on the radio,

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Speaker 4: but I'm reaching that point where I have to start

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Speaker 4: considering that. And I kind of thought he would take

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Speaker 4: no and that's it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, Adam, I guess it was abrasive. It was.

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Speaker 3: It was just sort of shocking, right, and you're a

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Speaker 1: A second date right right, a magnitude.

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Speaker 3: Of the request. I mean, yeah, we're still having a.

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Speaker 1: For DNA was.

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Speaker 5: It was literally a lot.

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Speaker 1: It was literally a lot.

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Speaker 5: And Julia, you mentioned at the top of the call

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Speaker 5: it was nice to see or nice to hear from you.

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Speaker 5: It's it's not nice to hear from yourself.

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Speaker 5: That was very abrasive, and I just I can't get

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Speaker 5: but like not immediately you're talking about that on the

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Speaker 5: first date. Clearly there's something you need to accomplish just

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Speaker 5: right now on a first date for you to ask

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Speaker 1: Oh that was me?

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Speaker 3: Well that was yeah, yeah, I mean we were side here, right,

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Speaker 3: we're definitely we share in our amazement of that request,

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Speaker 3: but we probably didn't.

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Speaker 1: Have to slammer to the ground. Yeah, Julie, look, I

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Speaker 1: mean it is expensive. I feel her. I want to

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Speaker 1: freeze my eggs. I get it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think again, you know, we maybe maybe

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to say thirsty, but it's just, I mean,

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Speaker 3: you don't know this person, so it's kind of a

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Speaker 3: lot to ask, like Hey, I'm going to create another

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Speaker 3: human with or without you.

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Speaker 1: That that is have you? Is that cool? I got it,

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Speaker 1: I got it, I got it. Yeah, but the point taken.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry. I was also just trying to be fun

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Speaker 4: and playful and kind to give him a compliment, and

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Speaker 4: it just went sour.

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Speaker 3: And I'm what if he said, what if he had

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Speaker 3: said to you, Julia, Yeah, I'll give it to you,

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Speaker 3: you know, the fun way.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like you any reaction then

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Speaker 1: would you have gone for that?

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Speaker 4: Probably not on the first day.

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Speaker 3: That's too much, that's too much, would be that was

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Speaker 3: too much, I said, was too much.

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, you're creepy. No, no, that was too much.

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Speaker 1: But take it to go, you know, take it