WEBVTT - Dating Dealbreakers 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:05.120 I Suck At Dating with Dengler, Jared Haven and I 0:00:05.280 --> 0:00:12.600 heard radio podcast What is Up? Everyone? Welcome to an 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:16.160 all new episode of Help I Suck At Dating. As always, 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:19.360 it's Dean Ungler with Jared Haben, but we have a 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:22.040 very special co host with us this week. We've had 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:24.640 her on plenty of times in the past. You know her, 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:30.000 you love her. Sydney Look Twaco. Ladies and gentlemen, what's up? Well, 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:35.000 thank you for having me. We're after a great start. 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:37.280 What a delight it is to have you. Were honestly 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:39.080 stokes because Jared and I are running out of crap 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:41.680 to talk about. So plus we need like a female 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:45.559 perspective because we're just a bunch of dudes spewing nonsense. 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:48.599 So it's nice having a someone who actually can talk 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:52.879 intelligently about dating. How are you sitting. I'm good. I 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:56.720 have been dating. I've found finally a boyfriend, and I 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.200 managed to do it in quarantine, so I'm very good. Actually, 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:01.720 let's talk about this said. So we saw us Weekly 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:04.319 published article We saw you guys? Are I g official? 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:09.520 Tell us about this mystery man of yours? So we 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:12.319 met in the d M. We met on Instagram he 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:17.360 actually was a Bachelor fan. Maybe not so much anymore 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:19.000 because I might have ruined the show for him, but 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:22.040 he was a Bachelor fan, and he watched the show 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:25.280 because his mom liked it, and he was watching every season. 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:29.120 He watched My season, Colton season UM with his roommate 0:01:29.160 --> 0:01:31.520 every single night they got together, they watched the show, 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:34.759 and for whatever reason, he had his eyes on me. Um. 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:37.800 He liked me a lot, so then he proceeded to 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:39.920 watch me on Paradise once he knew I was gonna 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:43.560 be on that, And then once that happened, he just 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:45.680 started randomly d m N me and it was always 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:49.080 very nice and fun. It was never creepy or weird, 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:52.360 how normal dams tend to be UM, so he did 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:54.760 it right. He would just respond to things I was doing. 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.280 I remember putting out like a bunch of question stickers 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.800 one time when I was board, and he would send 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:02.440 me really funny questions like who would win in a 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:05.280 fight a shirk or a bear, things like that, which 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:09.200 actually we're entertaining. So we just kept dm ng a 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:12.480 little bit and then I I would respond and then 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:16.399 not respond. And then once quarantine happened and everyone kind 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:19.360 of went back to their homes. Everything was shut down. 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:21.800 I was on my phone a lot more and I 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:24.359 started paying attention to who was on the other side 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:25.960 of the d m S and I actually want to 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.360 see who this guy was, because we had talked a 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:30.120 couple of times and I was like, Oh, this guy 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:32.800 is actually really really cute. Um, I'm going to keep 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:35.919 talking to him and see what see what this is about. 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:40.880 It turns out he lived in Ohio, and after two days, 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:44.080 I think straight of dm NG. He basically was going 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.720 to exit the situation and was like, well, I had 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:49.800 my fun. Obviously this girl is He thought I was 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:52.239 like a famous person or whatever, lo and behold and 0:02:52.280 --> 0:02:55.919 pretty normal. So he told me that if I'm ever 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.880 in Ohio he could I could reach out to him, 0:02:58.880 --> 0:03:00.640 we could go on a date, whatever, and then he 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:03.160 left me his number. So then I was like, well, 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:05.839 I've been having fun. This has been a good way 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.560 to get through quarantine. So then I was like, why 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.600 why not keep talking to him? So I texted him 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.040 and then we went to texting, and then from texting 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:16.600 and went to FaceTime, and from FaceTime it went to 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:20.639 three months to that, and then finally we met in person. 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:22.680 I think after three months when I flew to Ohio 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:26.720 to meet this guy that I've never met before, Well, 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:28.760 that takes balls to fly out to Ohio to meet 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:32.359 someone you haven't met before. Damn um balls, and convincing 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.600 your family a lot that it's okay that I'm meeting 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:37.920 a stranger in a foreign state. I know, that's pretty crazy. 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:41.920 Do you recommend that, Like, say, hypothetically you were giving 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:43.760 your friend advice and your your friends going through the 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.040 same situation, would you have told them to fly to Ohio? 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:50.680 I would say yes, because for me it worked out. 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:52.920 But also check your facts, Like at one point I 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:55.040 was gonna maybe FaceTime with his mom just to make 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:57.640 sure he was a real person. All of these things happened. 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:00.160 But because we had been talking for so long and 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:03.440 like built this strong relationship and all we could do 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:06.160 was talk, it was essentially like the Bachelor, like but 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:08.920 via phone all you could do was talk. You got 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:10.680 to know each other really well. There was no like 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:13.280 physical side of it. We couldn't really get like sexual 0:04:13.440 --> 0:04:16.880 obviously over the phone really um until we were in person. 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:19.599 So I think because of all that was pushed back, 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:22.320 we got to like see each other really well. And 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:25.640 we like created a strong connection, and because of that, 0:04:25.720 --> 0:04:28.200 I knew for flying to Ohio it wasn't that big 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.120 of a risk because I pretty much knew him really 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:33.479 well by that point. So I got a question for you. Yeah, So, 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:35.599 Jared and I have talked about this a lot on 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:39.960 the podcast. We both strongly agree that Instagram is arguably 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:43.120 the best dating app out there. But I think the 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.839 second most challenging thing on Instagram when you're trying to 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:48.400 meet someone that you might be interested in is getting 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:51.279 that first d M to be approved. So what was 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:53.279 it that he sent to you that caught your eye 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:57.719 so much to press the accept button? It was never creepy, 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.840 like I said, It was always just in a response 0:04:59.880 --> 0:05:01.719 to things that I was putting out for people to 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:04.559 respond to. So in that moment, I was already looking 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:07.520 at my dams and it was never like hey girl, 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:09.919 you're hot, like really cool, blah blah blah. It was 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:11.760 nothing like that. It was just like really funny. It 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:15.640 made me laugh. They were quick, witty, and then it's 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:18.480 just a little intriguing. So I think if you so, 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:20.760 it was the questions thing that wasn't that was like 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:23.039 the initial thing where you're like, Okay, this guy, this 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:26.000 guy's got something. Yeah, and then I honestly think it 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:29.039 was Tiger King that bonded us for real over quarantine 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:35.680 because so many strong relations exactly. So yeah, I mean 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:38.040 it was just meant to be in some weird way, 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:39.560 but I think it was actually a great way too 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:42.000 date because it takes away you can see the person, 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:44.120 you can see a little bit about their life. I mean, 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:45.919 when everyone's on a dating app, you go to Instagram 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:47.359 right away. Anyway, it's just to see a little bit 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:50.080 more so kind of takes out the middleman. But what 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.039 is that for me? His name is Nick, which is 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:55.720 funny because my brother's name is Nick, my dad's name 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:58.719 is Nick. My definitely parents, my grandpa's name was Nick. 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:03.320 So it was either really good sign yeah exactly. Well, 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.600 now I'm living in his home, so so far, so good. 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:09.719 You guys are living together. Yeah weird, I know. Um yeah, 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:12.599 So we've been talking now for like maybe four or 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:15.680 five months. But I wasn't going to move back into 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:17.360 my apartment in l A right away. I was supposed 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:20.280 to move back in September, but LA is pretty still 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:23.520 pretty much still shut down that it is so, and 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:26.240 I was already staying here, so we decided just to 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:28.120 kind of move in for the time being and see 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:33.760 what happens. Yeah for now. Yeah. Wait, so you guys 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:37.880 bachelor folk, we love these condensed timelines. We go just 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:41.479 like our relationships. I like it. Uh, just you know, 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.800 dive head first sometimes you have to in life. Um, 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:48.520 I'm curious because you said that, did he when he 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:51.320 d nd you? Did he respond to one of your stories? 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:54.600 Or did he just randomly d n you? He responded 0:06:54.640 --> 0:06:56.880 to one of my stories? That's the way to go. Yeah, 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.000 you gotta because you're already putting it out there and 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.240 you're looking at your own because of it. So yeah, 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.560 it's better than just sending like a blind DM. I 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:07.280 think I totally agree, Instead of like a high I'm 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:09.840 so and so nice to do, it's so much better 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.800 to respond to his story and and then you know, 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:19.080 have a reaction to someone's interests really exactly captured your attention. Yeah, 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:22.360 And I think the main thing about damning people is 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:25.480 that you shouldn't be private if you're going to do it. Yes, 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:27.960 everyone's gonna look at photos. It's not the whole thing, 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:29.240 but it's the first thing. You're going to look at 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:30.640 and if you're private, you can't see that, and no 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:34.120 one's going to request you necessarily to see who you are. 0:07:34.200 --> 0:07:35.880 So I would just say, if you're going to be 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:39.200 damning people, don't be private you Do you find it 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:42.160 weird that Nick was Bachelor fan at first? Did he 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:44.480 admit that or did he like? Was he like, no, 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:46.760 I'm a fan of show. I know that came later on, 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:50.040 Like it came way later on, So it wasn't that weird. 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:52.200 It's kind of funny. Actually to me, it was nice 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:53.800 that I could like talk about my friends and he 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:56.960 knew what I was talking about. There's that. So I 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:59.720 want to know more about Nick himself. Yeah, well he's 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:03.240 actually a pretty interesting guy. He actually had a better 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:06.280 story than I do. So also what intrigued man went 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:09.400 to his profile and it wasn't really like him holding 0:08:09.440 --> 0:08:11.520 a bunch of fish or like normal dude photos. It 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:13.240 was just like him and his family and like I 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:18.320 could see a little bit of his life. Nor photos 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:22.480 are like fish hunting sunglasses, mirror pick that's usually like 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:26.720 the GISs. So he had a little I know, stay 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.600 away from those. Yeah. So Dean has a great aesthetics 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:34.160 that everyone can really does because lots of lots of 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:39.040 mirror picks. Wait, okay, so you saw his Instagram profile, 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.200 you liked his family. There was one photo in particular, 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:45.319 it was him in like a neck brace. Um, so apparently, 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:48.040 well not apparently. This is what happened when he was 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:52.320 in college one summer, decided to dive into a swimming 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:55.600 pool at night and ended up hitting the bottom and 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:59.640 breaking his neck. So yeah, it was a whole thing 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:01.920 where he was supposed to be in the hospital. He 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.840 was never supposed to walk again, but by some miracle 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:09.360 which he hates that word, he managed to walk again 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:12.640 in like two days. He started feeling feelings back in 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:14.360 his fingers and his legs, and they're like, we have 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:17.280 no idea why this is happening, why this is happening, 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:20.679 or how this is happening, but he's managed to start 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:22.160 to move, so we're gonna see if we can get 0:09:22.240 --> 0:09:25.400 him to walk. So now after I think he was 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:28.040 maybe in the hospital for like max a week, and 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:31.200 then he started walking pretty much a week after, which 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:37.800 is insane. It was probably a sophomore going into junior 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:41.680 year high school, college, college. Wait, so you're telling me 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.320 that the doctor said that he might never walk again, 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:48.320 and two days later he was walking. Yeah exactly. He 0:09:48.400 --> 0:09:51.760 was like, hold my beer. Did they ever figure out 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:55.200 what happened? Because this is I mean, not to throw 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:59.679 the word miracle out, as Nick do exactly hates it. 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:01.880 It's pretty much a miracle, though if you think about it, 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:04.160 I think it was like a lot of parts, maybe 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:09.200 some other higher power or whatever. But he the doctors 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:11.360 that he had managed to like put his neck back 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:15.320 into place or whatever. And because he did that, guess 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:17.920 whatever the doctor did wasn't like a normal procedure, but 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:19.920 he was like, no, we're making We're putting this back. 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:21.800 So he did that. And he was also really strong 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.080 from football he played in college, so like that was 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:27.040 a factor too. And I think just like general willpower 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:29.959 that he seems to have. So for whatever reason he's 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:32.640 walking again. He has all of his ailments and all 0:10:32.679 --> 0:10:36.600 the things so he can fully function. Um. Yeah, so 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:39.600 pretty amazing story. So just like by that story, hearing 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:43.000 that about him, I was like, well, you're pretty amazing person, 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:45.720 just by like the way that you have the strength 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:47.920 to do that, the like the willpower you have, and 0:10:47.960 --> 0:10:51.520 just like how he is now it's pretty amazing. So yeah, 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:55.640 he's got a much cooler story than me. Well that's 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:58.480 pretty awesome. I mean, obviously we love to just see 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:01.880 people get the happy endings. Granted, you know, five months 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:03.240 into a relationship, we don't want to call it a 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:05.880 happy ending, but I mean it sounds like smitten about 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:08.040 each other, moved in. This is also my first boyfriend. 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:09.920 So I'm taking a lot of like major steps here 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:12.760 and just like hitting the gas. Actually I remember this, 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:18.680 that's right. So how old? I'm twenty nine? Well, actually 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:24.320 actually didn't get her first boyfriend until she was thirty. Um, 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:25.840 so what do you what do you think it was about? 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:27.360 What do you think a lot of it was. You're 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:29.800 obviously a beautiful woman, You're a catch, you were on 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:34.240 the show, you're intelligent, your dancer, you're you're by far 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.160 and away a catch. So what do you think it 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:41.079 was in your twenties that a boyfriend? A lot of factors. 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.960 I was really focused on my career. Dance was a 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:46.880 big part of my life, it still is, and so 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:49.480 I was doing that, and I was also trying to 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:52.960 date in New York, Um, which is hard in itself. 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.200 I was dating just didn't really land on a lot 0:11:56.200 --> 0:12:00.160 of good gems um, and so yeah, I was was 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:02.160 just really busy, and then whenever the guys didn't work out, 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:05.360 I would just go back to focusing on the dance 0:12:05.400 --> 0:12:07.920 part of my life. So yeah, I definitely tried it. 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:11.720 I was just never willing to get distracted in my 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:14.680 career by some guy that wasn't necessarily worth it, So 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:17.280 I just and it was always around women because I 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:19.680 danced with women and I also taught women, so I 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:22.920 wasn't meaning a lot of guys dancers are dancers are funny. 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:26.960 So I'm friends with a few like professional dancers, and 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.160 they're very similar to that too, like they focus so 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:32.280 much on their craft and dance and and I mean 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:33.839 a lot of them obviously have like other jobs and 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:35.280 all that kind of stuff too that keep them super 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.680 super busy. So it's like a lot of my friends 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:39.959 who are dancers are you know, mid to late twenties 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:42.880 even early thirties, and they're like never and even interested 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:44.959 in having relationships because they're just like, well, I don't 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:46.640 even have time for that. Yeah, And I think too, 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:48.920 because dance has such a short time frame that I 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:51.200 think you're focused for that time frame that you have 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:54.960 in dances, just dance or just working. So I think 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.320 that can easily get pushed to the side. Well, so 0:12:57.400 --> 0:13:01.960 tell us more five months in first boyfriend whenever we 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:03.680 want to know what's going on in the brain is 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:06.800 Sydney l I know. I think you know when I 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.079 say when it's meant to be, it's just everything kind 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.360 of falls into place and it's easy. That's how this 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:14.880 relationship kind of has been like from the start, even 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:17.120 just talking on the phone. I mean, both of us 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.560 knew that we had lived in different states, that there 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.640 we were never met in person, that we had very 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:24.560 different lives, but yet we just kept kind of rolling 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.360 with it because our conversations were easy. We got along 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.760 really well, and it was just working. And I think 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:32.640 to both of us were kind of in the right 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:36.200 mindset for an actual relationship. We're both looking like I 0:13:36.240 --> 0:13:38.680 obviously was looking I was on a TV show for dating, 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.000 and he had gotten to the part of his life 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:44.080 where he was starting to look or like open to 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:46.760 the to finding someone. So I just kind of lined 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:49.120 up and then we've just gotten along really well, and 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.839 it was almost scarier for us to be apart and 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:54.800 us do long distance right now than it was for 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:58.640 me to like low key move in. So I guess 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.600 when it's just like it's right, it's right, and just 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:03.280 kind of like go with it if it's working before 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:05.000 we have to wrap up the first second. But before 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:06.640 we do, I do have a question for you because 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:09.840 I find it interesting. Have you and Nick had talks 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.520 about the fact that this is your first relationship because 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:15.200 I think when I first started dating, actually that was 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:18.079 something that we talked about. We were friends for so long, 0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:20.560 but it was for first serious relationship, and then we 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:22.800 ended up getting engaged pretty quickly and then married about 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:24.760 a year and a half later. So we certainly had 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:29.200 discussions about it at length because there is something to 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.720 be said. Practice makes perfect where you kind of learned 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:34.600 about yourself within different relationships and you learn about what 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:36.800 you want things you don't want. Does that make you 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:38.880 nervous at all? Or Nick nervous at all? The fact that, 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:41.280 like you guys are already moved in pretty much and 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:44.760 it's your first relationship in your four five months in um, 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:46.400 I think it made me nervous more than it made 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.560 him nervous, because at the beginning I laid all that 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.240 out on like this is my first this would be 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:53.800 my first relationship. I don't have a lot of experience. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:56.080 I know myself really well, but I don't know myself 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:58.880 with another person really well. And for whatever reason, he's 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:01.680 kind of a person maybe as if his experiences the 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:03.440 things that he's gone through. He kind of wears his 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:07.240 heart on his sleeve, and he's really open and like 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.240 willing to jump into things. I think more than I am. 0:15:09.240 --> 0:15:11.520 I'm a little bit more guarded, and because of that, 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:14.400 he kind of like held my hand throughout the process 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:19.040 and has met me like where I'm at. Um. Like 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:20.640 I said, I think it's just kind of worked out 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:24.120 because of what For whatever reason, this just lined up. 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:27.320 I don't necessarily think this would always be the case 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.800 for other people, but for me, this is just kind 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:31.760 of worked And I always from in the back of 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:34.280 my head, I knew I'm not saying that this is that, 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:35.920 but I always knew I would be like a one 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:37.680 and done kind of person. Not saying like that we're 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:41.960 there or anything, but but you're saying you're one and 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:45.680 done so far you can talk to me in a month, 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:47.600 And I be like, you, guys, I was wrong, But no, 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:52.000 I think hopefully I'll be a one and done. I 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.280 love it. I'm excited to meet Nick and vet him 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:56.520 for myself. But like I said, we we got you 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:59.480 for the whole episode. You are co hosting with us today. Um, 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:02.160 we're gonna get to some deal breakers we found online 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.280 and then obviously our favorite the listener emails later on. 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:08.560 But before we jump over to the deal breakers, we're 0:16:08.560 --> 0:16:10.800 gonna take one quick break and jump right back to it. 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:25.400 We'll go back to help I suck at dating with Dean, myself, Sydney. 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.800 We're all here marking easton there listening. They might chime 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:31.960 in later. I have some new dating terms that we 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:33.800 got to go over as well, because you know that's 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:36.320 gonna become a weekly segment on the podcast. But first, 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:41.080 as Dean alluded to, you know, deal breakers, they're kind 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:45.640 of a big deal because they break deals. Uh. And 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:51.320 we looked up the top three deal breakers. Uh excuse me. 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:53.280 We looked up a couple of different deal breakers, one 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:57.560 of them being twelve of guys most common deal breakers, 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:01.280 according to a guy in the Good News about this podcast. 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.040 We have two guys, so we can validate a couple 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:07.600 of guys. That's right, Uh so any guesses like I 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:10.840 kind of want to hear guesses from Sydney and Dean. 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:12.760 Do you guys have any guesses about what you think? 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:17.040 One of the twelve most common deal breakers for guys 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:24.240 are for guys. Yeah, for guys, for dudes smoking smoking, Okay, 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:28.960 uh not on here. Wow, that's insane. That's just one 0:17:28.960 --> 0:17:31.160 of mine. I guess it's it's one of mine as well. 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:33.440 You know, I just can't. I I can't kiss somebody 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:37.160 who smokes. It sounds so bad, but it's just true. Yeah, 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:42.399 bad hygiene, maybe bad hygiene number six. Bad hygiene is 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:46.000 number six on the list. I wish they gave more descriptions, 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:48.160 but yeah, bad hygiene, I think is a deal breaker 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:50.040 for anybody. Right. I can't believe it's number six. I 0:17:50.040 --> 0:17:56.080 feel like it should be higher. Yeah, we're talking about guys, guys. 0:17:56.840 --> 0:18:00.439 Impressions of women like guys deal breakers of women. Hygiene 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:02.199 is on the list. I'm actually kind of surprised because 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:04.600 typically a guy's hygiene is gonna be worse than a 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:07.720 girl's hygiene. You know this is true? Speaking of behind chene, Dean, 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:11.240 when was the last time you showered? That's a really 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:18.640 good question. What day is it? It's Friday, September. Oh man, 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:22.280 when was the last time you have to ask that question? 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:29.440 I probably showered on Sunday? So like, what six days ago? 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:31.439 Five days ago? It's not bad, I'm assuming do you like? 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:34.439 Do you I like a little spray or anything? Just 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:37.879 let it, let it go. Oh I hate I hate sprays. 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:39.720 I hate wearing dealotor. Not a fan of any of 0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:43.000 that stuff. All that crap to make you smell good. Well, 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.959 at least bad hygiene is not on Kalin's deal breakers. 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:48.280 I'll tell you about It's true. Well, listen, if I'm 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:51.000 with Kalin, obviously I'll improve my hygiene a little bit. 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.080 I've been camping and climbing the past four days, so 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:55.640 it's give me some slas here. Definitely stink. I can 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:59.000 only imagine what that man smells like. Yeah, it's funny. 0:18:59.000 --> 0:19:00.600 There's a lot of flies line around. I don't know 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:07.440 where they came from. They locked onto something. U ding 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:09.200 any guesses of like other deal breakers? What are some 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:10.720 of your deal breakers that you think might be on 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:16.520 this list? Pointy fingernails That is not I think up 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:21.080 bad hygiene right, pointy fingernails, too much makeup that's a 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.600 good one. Yeah, that is a good one. That does 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:27.359 not appear to be on here. Wow, who are these 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:34.119 guys tattoos? Tattoos? Are they just physical? Uh no, no 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:36.119 they are not. Actually a lot of them on our 0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:44.000 personality traits so bad work ethic, a lazy Unfortunately, it 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:47.439 doesn't look like those, It doesn't look like high standards. 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:50.560 It's pretty bad. I'll be honest. I read the list 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:52.600 of the deal breakers before hand, so I'm just gonna 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:54.680 think outside of the box here a little bit too. 0:19:56.840 --> 0:20:01.000 I'll tell you my deal breakers is lack of no 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:04.320 sense of humor. It's probably my biggest deal breaker. That's 0:20:04.320 --> 0:20:06.560 a good one, but especially for me because I'm like 0:20:06.600 --> 0:20:09.760 a sarcastic jerk all the time. But whenever I say anything, 0:20:09.760 --> 0:20:11.439 I'm never serious about it, but I'd say it in 0:20:11.440 --> 0:20:13.720 a way that makes it seem like I'm serious. And 0:20:13.800 --> 0:20:15.520 if you don't have a sense of humor, it's already 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:17.920 along with me. So well, Dean, that is number ten 0:20:18.000 --> 0:20:20.399 on the list, Sydney, I'm assuming you like guys with 0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:22.520