WEBVTT - A Nice Ring to It

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<v Speaker 1>Hell I Suck a Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven

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<v Speaker 1>and I heard radio podcast What is going on? Everyone?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck

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<v Speaker 1>at Dating? And what a special episode we have in

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<v Speaker 1>store for you today. Not only is it the second

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<v Speaker 1>episode we've recorded since Jared announced his baby on the way,

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<v Speaker 1>I was wondering where you're going to cells like special episode.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean all of them are obviously special, bro, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's also special because we have an incredible guest,

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<v Speaker 1>Dr Nicole La Beach. Oh, I hope I didn't butcher

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<v Speaker 1>that last name. Um, I'm just glad I didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to say it. I mean it looks like la Beach. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to know what actually is? Every time before

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<v Speaker 1>we start recording this podcast, Jared and I, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>look at each other in the eyes through zoom and

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<v Speaker 1>we're like, hey, do you want to bring us in?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to bring us in? Jared asked me

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<v Speaker 1>to bring it in, And now I realize it's because

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't want to pronounce Dr Lupach's last name. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just because I didn't feel like working any harder

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<v Speaker 1>than I already do. But yeah, let's do. Let's give

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<v Speaker 1>that the reason dr Nicola Beach. What else could it be?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's spelled l A b A excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>l A b E A c h. I mean it's

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<v Speaker 1>gotta be fonetic. But uh, last thing we want to

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<v Speaker 1>do around here, Jared is make you work harder than

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<v Speaker 1>you have to. Okay, Oh my god. So I'm drinking

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<v Speaker 1>this Chai t latte right now and it's choking me.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know what the hell is going on

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<v Speaker 1>with my life. But you know, I don't have a

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<v Speaker 1>great episode. I don't mind a good latte. If you

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<v Speaker 1>want to talk about chi tea for a second, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>they're the best. Man. I'm a big vanilla schi latte

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<v Speaker 1>guy with almond milk. That's my jam. So here's my

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<v Speaker 1>I could. I could drink a Chai te latte every day,

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<v Speaker 1>and I did for a long time, and then I

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<v Speaker 1>realized how much sugar is in them, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>like have to. I only have like one a month,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe lots of sugar. But you know what, dude, one

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<v Speaker 1>day we're all gonna die and you're not gonna look

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<v Speaker 1>back at your life and be like, damn it, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>glad I didn't get the chi latte. You know, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't disagree. I So when I was in college,

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<v Speaker 1>I went on the Keto, not not the Keto diet,

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<v Speaker 1>the what's the caveman one? The keto that's like an

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<v Speaker 1>all meat diet. No, the oh crap, the caveman diet.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember what it's called anyway, just like you

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<v Speaker 1>eat you you catch and eat your own meat. That

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<v Speaker 1>feels like a caveman diet to me, where you have

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<v Speaker 1>to like go out and shoot a moose and then

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<v Speaker 1>eat it, and or what would you shoot and eat it?

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<v Speaker 1>Not a moose? A bear? So essentially the cave the

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<v Speaker 1>paleo diet, that's what it was. Essentially, what the paleo

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<v Speaker 1>diet is is, Yeah, you eat what a caveman would

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<v Speaker 1>eat back in the day. So no processed food, just

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<v Speaker 1>like meat berries. Uh. And you can drink coffee, but

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<v Speaker 1>you can't drink coffee with milk or cream or sugar.

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<v Speaker 1>And on the paleo diet, I got used to drinking

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<v Speaker 1>black coffee for like four or five months, and so

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<v Speaker 1>now that's all I drink, and I think I can

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<v Speaker 1>get away with drinking as much coffee as I do,

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<v Speaker 1>because every time I drink coffee, it's just black. And

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<v Speaker 1>then so every once in a while, I'll treat myself

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<v Speaker 1>to nice chai latte and it's just it's just pure bliss.

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<v Speaker 1>But enough about me to coffee. How many cups of

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<v Speaker 1>coffee do you drink a day? Well, I'll tell you what.

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<v Speaker 1>I got the large from Starbucks right now, ice coffee.

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<v Speaker 1>It's almost empty. I also had that's like three cups

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<v Speaker 1>in itself. Yeah. I also had a Celsius energy drink

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<v Speaker 1>on my way to the golf course this morning at

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<v Speaker 1>like six am. Oh yeah, I was trying. I was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get that Zoa energy drink. That's the Rocks

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<v Speaker 1>energy drink. Yeah, there's just so much caffeine. And I

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<v Speaker 1>already have two cups of coffee a day. I'm sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>do you have your heart beat quicker than normal whenever

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<v Speaker 1>you drink coffee? Yeah? Oh my gosh, absolutely, especially like

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<v Speaker 1>if I'll have an energy drink, like let's say, have

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<v Speaker 1>a Red Bull. I don't really drink Red Bull very much,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I'm on a long drive, I'll drink a

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<v Speaker 1>Red Bull and like for three hours afterwards, I have

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<v Speaker 1>like pure anxiety. I wonder if anybody takes Red Bulls

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<v Speaker 1>before they go on dates? Do you ever do that?

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<v Speaker 1>If anybody takes a Red Bull before a date, please

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<v Speaker 1>let us know. Email us at what is our email

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<v Speaker 1>at dot com? I gotta really memorize this. What the

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<v Speaker 1>hell is wrong? Yeah? Do you when you work out,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're you're a fit man, you probab work out

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<v Speaker 1>every once in a while, do you take pre workout? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I never have. I never tried it. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>already once I'm at the gym, I started gaining the

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<v Speaker 1>energy needed in order to work out. But that's why

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to try energy drinks. One, because they're the rocks,

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<v Speaker 1>and the rock truly influences me. That guy is just

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<v Speaker 1>the man. But two, I wanted to try an energy

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<v Speaker 1>drink because I used to drink Red Bull and Monster,

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<v Speaker 1>but they're so bad for you that I gave him up.

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<v Speaker 1>But now I'm like, man, I do miss that like

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<v Speaker 1>little you know high that you get from him. And

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<v Speaker 1>so he's got a I'm literally just you know, giving

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<v Speaker 1>him free promotion here, but from whatever. Uh, he's got

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<v Speaker 1>an energy drink called Zoa that's like all natural, So

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<v Speaker 1>they're actually really good. Kalin has wild orange, Kalin has

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<v Speaker 1>forbid me from drinking monster. Dude. It's bad. It's so bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you ever hear the story about the kids like

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<v Speaker 1>heart that bursted because he drank like three monsters a

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<v Speaker 1>day years. That's exactly it. It's like anything in moderation

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<v Speaker 1>is fine. But yeah, I just don't have don't have

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<v Speaker 1>freaking five energy drinks in the course of eight hours

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<v Speaker 1>and you're not gonna have your heart explode on you.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of gamers do that. They just like drink

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<v Speaker 1>two energy drinks and then play video games for twelve

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<v Speaker 1>straight hours and don't sleep throughout the night. Don't get

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<v Speaker 1>me wrong, I've had my fair share of those days,

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<v Speaker 1>but there are a few and far between, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>maybe have three of those under my belt altogether. Those

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<v Speaker 1>kids are doing it every day, all day, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>when it really becomes unhealthy. Like same with same with

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<v Speaker 1>fast food and junk food. It's like, you can have

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<v Speaker 1>a McDonald's cheeseburger as long as you're doing it like

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<v Speaker 1>once a month, don't do it every single day. What's

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<v Speaker 1>your favorite fast food? Probably McDonald's. Yeah, dude, mine too.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody makes fun of me. Though, I'm so glad I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not alone in this statement. I love McDonald's. It is

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<v Speaker 1>pretty basic, Like I understand where the criticism comes from.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, that's like Americana. You know. That's why I

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<v Speaker 1>love it so much. I see those golden arches and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just reminded of my childhood. God, that brings me

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<v Speaker 1>right back, and and there's such a nostalgia taste anytime

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<v Speaker 1>I bite into not only chicken nuggets, but a regular cheeseburger.

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<v Speaker 1>At the fries, I think McDonald's has the best fries far.

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<v Speaker 1>People want to say Chick fil A because like the

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<v Speaker 1>waffle fries, but I don't know. McDonald's just always gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be number one in my heart. What's what's your order

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<v Speaker 1>when you go to McDonald's. Usually I get the two cheeseburgers,

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<v Speaker 1>which is like number eight I think. I don't really know.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember, but you go a full meal and

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<v Speaker 1>you get fries and like a coke with it, thousand percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever had a McDonald's coca cola? Coca cola, dude,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the best. I think they just like Jack true

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<v Speaker 1>cocaine in that thing, because I've never tasted a coca

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<v Speaker 1>cola better than a fountain coca cola at McDonald's. I

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<v Speaker 1>dare any sucky data out there to tell me something

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<v Speaker 1>that tastes better than a fountain coca cola at McDonald's.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, I dare you. They keep it nice and cold,

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<v Speaker 1>and they make it extra fizzy somehow, I will say. Though,

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<v Speaker 1>remember that, Remember that documentary supersized me from back in

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<v Speaker 1>the day. Yeah, so I remember. One of my biggest

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<v Speaker 1>takeaways from that documentary was, remember there was that guy

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<v Speaker 1>that ate a big Mac like every day for the

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<v Speaker 1>past ten years, and he was like slim, like super slim.

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<v Speaker 1>You had like all these internal problems. Well as we

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know that. I don't think they talked about that

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<v Speaker 1>in the movie, but he said he never ate the fries.

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<v Speaker 1>He said he would just eat the burgers. And then

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<v Speaker 1>I was thinking about it, was like, yeah, fries probably

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<v Speaker 1>are the worst thing for you because they're deep fried

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<v Speaker 1>sticks of potatoes. And so my go to McDonald's order

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<v Speaker 1>is I get to mcdouble's because the mcdoubell is the

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<v Speaker 1>best thing on the menu by far, and one and

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<v Speaker 1>one spicy chicken sandwich and no fries, no drink, just that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then every like four trips I go to McDonald's,

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<v Speaker 1>I get a strawberry milkshake and oh my god, let

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<v Speaker 1>me tell you how good the strawberry milk chicks that

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<v Speaker 1>McDonald's are. They're the best. They literally are unmatched anywhere

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<v Speaker 1>else in the world. Yeah, dude, I would love to

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<v Speaker 1>go on a first date to McDonald's. Like if I

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<v Speaker 1>was a single person right now, getting back into the

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<v Speaker 1>dating world coming out of COVID there, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>would be kind of fun if I asked a girl

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<v Speaker 1>out and I said, hey, listen, this is weird, but

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<v Speaker 1>would you want to go on a first date to

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<v Speaker 1>McDonald's If I was a chick, Well, let's ask let's

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<v Speaker 1>ask the women in this group, Riley, Hannah, could you

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<v Speaker 1>come on here please and help us out a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>If a guy asked you girls out on a first

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<v Speaker 1>day and said, hey, let's have a sit down to

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<v Speaker 1>dinner at McDonald's, what would your reaction? But let's be

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<v Speaker 1>more specific. First, Let's say it's McDonald's is like a

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<v Speaker 1>sick play place. No, it's a it's a nice McDonald's.

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<v Speaker 1>He's not bringing you into a schedgy area like it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's McDonald's that you are aware of, you are familiar with,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's you know, nice enough with the play place. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>are you Dean? Are you alluding that he's going to

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<v Speaker 1>bring them into the playpen. I'm not saying there's anything

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<v Speaker 1>like romantic that's gonna happen there. But it's just like

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<v Speaker 1>a nice little aftermeal treat. You know, you eat your

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<v Speaker 1>burgers and then you jump into the ball pit. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>let's hear from Let's hear from you, guys, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you think? I mean, Well, but weren't you eight year old?

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<v Speaker 1>Eight years old at one point? And like, yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's like things happen in that ballpit. That's yeah. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>Anna Riley, what do you think personally? I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if I would love it because I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>would feel sick after eating McDonald's. Have really sensitive stomach,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know if McDonald to be the best

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<v Speaker 1>bet for me. What's your favorite fast food? Chi? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't all right, So if if a guy said, hey, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>what if a guy asked you? Because here's the thing, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>on first dates, they're always awkward, they're always weird, they're

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<v Speaker 1>very stale. Sometimes because it's always the same thing, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, guys, you and Riley, how many times have

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<v Speaker 1>you guys got on a first date to a coffee

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<v Speaker 1>shop or a restaurant or a bar, Like I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>For me, I guess it would be kind of something

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<v Speaker 1>stupid and silly that might be fun. I think it

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<v Speaker 1>depends on how they ask, Like if it's like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go to McDonald's, like, that's different. But

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<v Speaker 1>if it's like, let's do something weird and go to

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<v Speaker 1>McDonald's and maybe dress up, like just make it fun,

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<v Speaker 1>then that's different. I think I'd done that dress for

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<v Speaker 1>McDonald yeah, suit and tie, yeah, Hannah. I think Klin

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<v Speaker 1>is a lot like you. She can't really eat fast

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<v Speaker 1>food because she has a very sensitive stomach, so when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with her, I have to like I have to

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<v Speaker 1>like hide my McDonald's in take um from Kalin because

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<v Speaker 1>she gets not upset with me, but she's like disappointed,

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<v Speaker 1>which is maybe even worse. But that's sad. After I

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<v Speaker 1>eat fast food, I have like lay in bed for

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<v Speaker 1>an hour after. So I don't know how fun that

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<v Speaker 1>would be if I went on a first date. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>fair point, because the first date probably wouldn't last that

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<v Speaker 1>long because you guys would eat and then immediately fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>minutes afterward would have to each go separate your separate

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<v Speaker 1>ways to use the bathroom. But if you guys went

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<v Speaker 1>to like a chip, I don't know. I just think

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of cute and something different. And like for me,

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<v Speaker 1>I think about some of my first conversations with Ashley,

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<v Speaker 1>and some of our first conversations was about like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your favorite fast food? What is your go to sauce?

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<v Speaker 1>And it was like such a bonding moment because it

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<v Speaker 1>was something that we were, you know, we could relate

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<v Speaker 1>to so hard that I think back and had it not,

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<v Speaker 1>had we not met in Paradise, I wonder if I

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<v Speaker 1>would have had the balls to be like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>let's do something different instead of gout in a drink,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go to McDonald's and get you know, a meal

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<v Speaker 1>and sit down and just talk and have a date.

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<v Speaker 1>But if we're talking Ashley, you're going to shake shack obviously, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>shake shacks out there. But I think for the nostalgia

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<v Speaker 1>of it, like for a first day, I think McDonald's

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<v Speaker 1>is the way to go, or even Burger King if

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<v Speaker 1>I really wanted to like throw a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>a wrench in there, you know, let's do. Burger King

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<v Speaker 1>is under rated. Burger King is so freaking good. That

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<v Speaker 1>chicken sandwich. Holy, I had a Popeye spice chicken sandwich

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<v Speaker 1>either day. That thing was very good. Hey, we stopped

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<v Speaker 1>talking about food. I don't know. I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>could talk about this all day long. I'll be honest

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<v Speaker 1>with you, but maybe just for the list sake of

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<v Speaker 1>our listeners. Sanity. Um, Hey, we mentioned energy drinks earlier today.

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<v Speaker 1>How come you and Ashley aren't in Miami with everyone

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<v Speaker 1>else from Bachelor celebrating celsius Is party. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>exactly what it is. Well, we got invited, but of

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<v Speaker 1>course they were very sweet and they asked us if

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<v Speaker 1>we wanted to come, but we we kindly declined because

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley was I mean think we got invited like two

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<v Speaker 1>months ago and we found out, you know, Ashley is brgnant.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like, well, we're definitely not going down to Miami.

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<v Speaker 1>Plus we probably wouldn't have gone anyway, just because we're

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<v Speaker 1>old and you know, I'd rather watch Restaurant Impossible on

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<v Speaker 1>a Saturday night and go down to Miami right now.

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<v Speaker 1>But it sounds like fun. Are a lot of bachelor

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<v Speaker 1>people down there. You guys have a kid on the way, though.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to make as much money as you can

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<v Speaker 1>stack it for the college fund. I don't think it

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<v Speaker 1>was a paid thing. I think it was just like

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<v Speaker 1>a free trip. No, it would have been paid. Callen

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<v Speaker 1>is getting paid to be there, so I would imagine

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<v Speaker 1>you guys would be getting paid to be there. Damn,

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<v Speaker 1>Who's who's down there with Klin? And why are you

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<v Speaker 1>not down there? I also got invited, but I said

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<v Speaker 1>it's zero percent my seeing, zero pus a interest in

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<v Speaker 1>being there. Uh, but it's like Kylin, Hannah, Dylan, Mike Connor,

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<v Speaker 1>Kelly Victoria, a bunch of people. I'm they're all very nice.

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<v Speaker 1>But again I agree with you, not my scene. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. She's kept telling me, She's like, yeah, this

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<v Speaker 1>person is here, this person is Here's like, thank god,

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<v Speaker 1>I decided not to go to that. And also, Pappy

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<v Speaker 1>has been really sick lately, so I've been, I've been,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been Puppy sitting at him. He went to the vet.

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<v Speaker 1>He's having some early seizures lately. He uh, yeah, he

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<v Speaker 1>just he's been acting weird, so I decided to take

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<v Speaker 1>it out of take one for the team and just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, puppy sit for for Kalin Wall choose away

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<v Speaker 1>partying And what I meant say, it's it's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>up in the air. It was a VET that we've

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<v Speaker 1>never been to before. We didn't really have a good

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<v Speaker 1>experience with them. But the consensus seems to be that

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<v Speaker 1>he might have a brain tumor and it might be

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<v Speaker 1>causing the seizures. And I will say, though I thought

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<v Speaker 1>so today is Friday. On Wednesday, I thought Pappy was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna die, like literally gonna die. And I was thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about I was thinking about how the conversation with Calin

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<v Speaker 1>was going to go when you know, like if a

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<v Speaker 1>dog is suffering, you have to kind of have that

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<v Speaker 1>conversation to be like should we put this dog down?

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<v Speaker 1>Like should we put it out its misery? And I

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<v Speaker 1>was surprised to hear Kaylin said something like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to go to Miami and you have to make

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<v Speaker 1>the decision of putting Pappy down while I'm away, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel selfish for going to Miami. Uh. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>happy to report he's gotten a lot better over the

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<v Speaker 1>past couple of days. But but yeah, it's been a

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<v Speaker 1>it's been a messy couple of days since he's been

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<v Speaker 1>back from the vest. So well, we are all setting

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<v Speaker 1>our love towards Pappy's way. He's the best. And how

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<v Speaker 1>how old is Pappy? Now? Do we know? Yeah? He's

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<v Speaker 1>uh we we think he's around twelve years old, I

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<v Speaker 1>would say, so he's still a young man. Yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 1>still a young man. He's as he's as old he

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<v Speaker 1>was born the same year I graduated high school, which

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<v Speaker 1>is just a weird thing to think about, isn't that weird?

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<v Speaker 1>And then you guys went ten years without knowing each other,

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<v Speaker 1>or he went ten years without knowing who his dad was,

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<v Speaker 1>and now he has his dad, and he had his

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<v Speaker 1>has his mom. You guys found each other, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>now he has to be And now we've been talking

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<v Speaker 1>about killing him, which is just really sweet. No, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just getting I know, I know because I've never so.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a childhood dog, um so Brett. She was

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<v Speaker 1>a miniature long hair docks sinned and she was the best.

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<v Speaker 1>We got her as a puppy. She was like fourteen

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<v Speaker 1>years old. My brother took her after our family kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like scattered around, and one day he went hiking

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<v Speaker 1>with her and she got sucked down into the river

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<v Speaker 1>and was never seen again. So I've never I've never.

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<v Speaker 1>And as traumatic as that sounds, it is still kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like a nice, you know, peaceful ending to a

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<v Speaker 1>dog's life, is it? I don't know. It's it's better

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<v Speaker 1>than just like withering away, I think. Um, so, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess my my point of story is I've never had

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<v Speaker 1>to experience like the death process of a dog, And man,

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<v Speaker 1>have you experienced that? Yeah, we had to put my

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<v Speaker 1>childhood dog down back in two thousand and six, dozen five.

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<v Speaker 1>His name was Casper, and he was the sweetest thing.

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<v Speaker 1>He had in a large heart, the poor thing, and

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<v Speaker 1>it was like pressing on all of his organs and

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<v Speaker 1>he started he had this horrible cough and so we

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<v Speaker 1>had to put him down. It was so oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>even like talking about it now. My mom and dad

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<v Speaker 1>were in the room together with him as they injected

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<v Speaker 1>the needle, and like my mom was holding him as

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<v Speaker 1>he died, and it was just saying, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>Like to think about Lois passing away, I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to live. I don't want to live, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, obviously I'm being dramatic because I have a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful wife, I have a great family, we have a

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<v Speaker 1>child on the way, But like life without Lois, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't imagine it. I don't want to as a twenty

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<v Speaker 1>year old with did you have a say in that

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<v Speaker 1>decision making process of putting the dog down? Or was

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<v Speaker 1>it kind of like a consensus thing like this? It

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<v Speaker 1>was more I was actually younger than I was, like,

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<v Speaker 1>so two thousand and six, I was seventeen eighteen, So

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<v Speaker 1>I I certainly didn't have a you know, like a

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<v Speaker 1>true say. We talked about it, but it was ultimately

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<v Speaker 1>up to my parents and and we tried to hold

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<v Speaker 1>out for as long as possible. And it just got

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<v Speaker 1>to a point where the poor thing, I mean coughing

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<v Speaker 1>up along every second of every day, and he was

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<v Speaker 1>always in constant discomfort and it was just it was terrible,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was it was only getting progressively worse. And

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<v Speaker 1>so it got to a point where, you know, my

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<v Speaker 1>parents felt like this was the best thing for him,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was. It was tragic. But anyway, let's not

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<v Speaker 1>talk about dogs eyeing with We have a very special

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<v Speaker 1>guest coming up. It's a nice, nice, little weird segue.

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<v Speaker 1>But Dr Nicole is coming up next. But before she

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<v Speaker 1>comes on, I do want to get to one topic

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<v Speaker 1>because I think this is pretty cool. So Paulina poor

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<v Speaker 1>is Cova, Poor is Cova anyway? She a model. She's

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<v Speaker 1>newly single because she was dating screenwriter, screenwriter Aaron Sorkin.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know who that is? Dean? Yeah? I only

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<v Speaker 1>know him from Entragh. Okay, He's the freaking man and

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<v Speaker 1>he's my favorite screenwriter of all time. He wrote A

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<v Speaker 1>Few Good Men, which I would argue is the most

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<v Speaker 1>re rodgable film of all time. He wrote The Social Network,

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<v Speaker 1>which is one of, if not my favorite film of

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<v Speaker 1>all time. He wrote Molly's Game. Uh, he did The

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<v Speaker 1>West Wing, he did The Newsroom on HBO. Uh. He's

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<v Speaker 1>written some of my favorite films of all time. He

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<v Speaker 1>is the freaking man. Anyway, I found out that Paulina,

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<v Speaker 1>who is a supermodel, they dated. They she broke up

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<v Speaker 1>with him or he broke up with her, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really know. But she's fifty six. She downloaded Hinge all right,

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<v Speaker 1>and apparently she was booted off the Hinge app because

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<v Speaker 1>Hinge is very wary of celebrity impersonators. So on Thursday, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>Paris Cova, I hope I'm saying her last name properly.

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<v Speaker 1>She posted a selfie on Instagram and she called out Hinge.

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<v Speaker 1>In this caption, she says, Okay, what's up at Hinge?

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<v Speaker 1>I signed up a while back and was booted off

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<v Speaker 1>instantly because I had violated guidelines. I didn't even get

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<v Speaker 1>to post my photo. My name it seems is against guidelines.

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<v Speaker 1>I called, I emailed, no one bothered to reply. Then

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<v Speaker 1>a friend suggested I use a different phone number and

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<v Speaker 1>my nickname. I got a few nice dates that way,

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<v Speaker 1>and boom. Now when I need it, I discover Hinge

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<v Speaker 1>has booted me off again. What is a lady supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to do? So apparently Hinge talked to People magazine, and

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<v Speaker 1>Hinge assumed that Paulina was an imposter, and apparently people

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<v Speaker 1>reported her profile as fake because they thought that this celebrity. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>even though I gotta be honest, I didn't know her before,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, hey, a lot of people do. Apparently

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<v Speaker 1>um was a fake profile. She's not the first person

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<v Speaker 1>to do this. This was crazy to me. Sharon Stone

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<v Speaker 1>was on Hinge. People reported her as a fake profile,

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<v Speaker 1>and it wasn't fake. It was Sharon Stone. Dude, if

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<v Speaker 1>I ever saw Sharon Stone on a dating app and

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<v Speaker 1>we matched, I don't even know what the hell I

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<v Speaker 1>would say, were you a big Sharon Stone guy? Grown up?

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<v Speaker 1>I have absolutely no idea who Sharon Stone is. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>what you don't know Sharon Stone? In hold on? So

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<v Speaker 1>you know Sharon Stone basic instinct. She's the famous girl

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<v Speaker 1>who the woman who like crosses her legs and she's

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<v Speaker 1>not wearing any underwear to seduce the cops. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think i've ever seen that movie. Man, Oh my, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a it's a super famous scene. I'm sure if you

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<v Speaker 1>saw the scene, you'd recognize in the moment that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking about because it's been played like over and over

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<v Speaker 1>again in in pop culture. Dude, Sharon Stone, grown up?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know the name Sharon Stone? I thought you

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<v Speaker 1>were talking about, Uh, Sharon Silverstead. I don't know. Sarah Silverman.

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<v Speaker 1>That was Jimmy Kimmel's X Sarah Silverman. I don't know, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not the best with names, especially actresses. An actress

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<v Speaker 1>says Sharon Stone and Casino, Oh my, good lord, in heaven,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't understand why these people are um on these apps.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like there's specific apps kind of more tailored

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<v Speaker 1>towards people of a certain age, like let's say, like

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<v Speaker 1>e Harmony, Silver Singles, Ashley Madison. Maybe they should go

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<v Speaker 1>check out one of those apps, Ashley Madison. Isn't that

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<v Speaker 1>for like cheating husbands know that you're thinking of You're

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<v Speaker 1>thinking of something else. I don't know. I just googled

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<v Speaker 1>senior dating app and those are the top two that

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<v Speaker 1>came up. Well, she's fifty six, she's not bad old.

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<v Speaker 1>You're an agist, bro, that's what you are. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I just think that the average demographic of an app

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<v Speaker 1>like Hinge excuse probably like eighteen to thirties seven, you know, possibly,

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<v Speaker 1>but hey, maybe she likes I'm sure there's people in

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<v Speaker 1>their fifties on Hinge anyway, point being, um, do you

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<v Speaker 1>think that uh like there should? Do you think Hinge

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<v Speaker 1>was in the right? Do you think they were in

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong like I was? Let me let me answer

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<v Speaker 1>my own question. I don't think anybody is in the wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I think Paulina should be on Hinge if she wants

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<v Speaker 1>to be on Hinge. I certainly think Sharon Stone should

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<v Speaker 1>be on Hinge because that's the coolest thing I've heard

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much ever. These big names, they need to get

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<v Speaker 1>on Riya. Yeah, but Ran, like we talked about, Ryan,

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<v Speaker 1>is full of a bunch of wackos. Maybe they maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they're more like us. Maybe Sharon Stone is like us,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like, Hey, I just want to meet a

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<v Speaker 1>normal human being, and I think I have the best

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<v Speaker 1>opportunity to do that on Hinge. Remember that Ben Affleck

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<v Speaker 1>video where as my favorite video, I forget what the

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<v Speaker 1>girl's name was me, He's like, it's me Ben Dude.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so happy that him and Jennifer Lopez are together.

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<v Speaker 1>It like brings me so much joy. Yeah, I'm yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very happy for them. I feel like they've been

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<v Speaker 1>a They're like the Brad and Angelina. You know, they're

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<v Speaker 1>like hot and cold on and off and now in

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<v Speaker 1>there waning year. They're not waning years, I guess, but

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<v Speaker 1>no matter how hard they try, they can't stay apart. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love it because I love that they're so different.

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<v Speaker 1>Like Jennifer Lopez is probably the most badass woman to

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<v Speaker 1>ever walk this earth, and she's one of, the if

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<v Speaker 1>not the sexiest women in Hollywood in entertainment. She's gorgeous.

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<v Speaker 1>She's Jenny from the block. You know, she's New York.

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<v Speaker 1>She's tough, she's she's powerful, she's beautiful, she's sexy, like

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<v Speaker 1>she's got like she's so um and what's the world like,

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<v Speaker 1>she has everything going for you know. And then Ben,

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<v Speaker 1>who I freaking I love Ben Affleck, but he's like

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<v Speaker 1>Boston Grizzly has been known to drink a few beers

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<v Speaker 1>in his past, Like he's just kind of rough around

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<v Speaker 1>the edges. And you know, now they're dating again in

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<v Speaker 1>their older years after they've both been married, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just I freaking love it. I love that diconomy like

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<v Speaker 1>Boston in New York, and I just feels very home

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<v Speaker 1>to me. It feels familiar before before we get to

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<v Speaker 1>dr La Beach right after this break. One quick question

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<v Speaker 1>Rapid Fire best Ben Affleck movie? Oh boy, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>my initial reaction Rapid Fire. You don't need we just

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<v Speaker 1>need the initial reaction in one word, whatever the title is,

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<v Speaker 1>give it to me what you got the town? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I was gonna say. It was either that

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<v Speaker 1>a good will hunting you like apples. We're going to

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<v Speaker 1>break how do you like them apples? All right, welcome

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<v Speaker 1>back to help. I stuck at dating Dean myself, and

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<v Speaker 1>we have a very special guest from the own television

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<v Speaker 1>unscripted romantic series Put a Ring On It, which airs

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<v Speaker 1>Friday nights on Own at nine em Eastern Standard time.

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<v Speaker 1>It is Dr Nicola Beach. Doctor. Thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for joining us today. How are you? I'm excited? And

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<v Speaker 1>actually it's ten pm Eastern Standard time because we don't

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<v Speaker 1>want anybody to miss it. Oh I'm so sorry about that.

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<v Speaker 1>Why you're good, You're good, fantastic. Oh well, this this

0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:21.080
<v Speaker 1>article on pen Live says nine pm. So they're wrong too.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to get this straight. It is not a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>We are here to fix it perfect. So ten pm

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<v Speaker 1>on Own. So tell us a little bit about Put

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<v Speaker 1>a Ring on It? So if I'm corrected, is season

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<v Speaker 1>two where you follow three separate couples, all engaged, all

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<v Speaker 1>about to get married or maybe not get married, because

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<v Speaker 1>doctor you kind of guide them along this journey figuring

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<v Speaker 1>out Hey, listen, are we is this are happily ever after?

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<v Speaker 1>Or should we go our separate ways? Right? So, actually

0:24:49.160 --> 0:24:52.560
<v Speaker 1>they are all in long term relationships. None of them

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<v Speaker 1>are engaged yet. But what they're trying to figure out

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<v Speaker 1>is should like you said, should we go our separate

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<v Speaker 1>ways or should we move towards the path of of

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<v Speaker 1>getting engaged in trying to build a life together, marriage,

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<v Speaker 1>all the good stuff. So, in your opinion, what are

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<v Speaker 1>some of the telltale signs so people can know whether

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<v Speaker 1>they're in a happy, long term, healthy relationship or if

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<v Speaker 1>they're in a relationship that they might need to start

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<v Speaker 1>moving away from. You know, is the communication good? Are you?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you growing? Are you learning? Are you having fun?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? Is this the opportunity for you to really

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<v Speaker 1>have a great companion? I mean, all of those things

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<v Speaker 1>still count. So if if you're asking these questions and

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<v Speaker 1>you're getting to a dead end every time, that in

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<v Speaker 1>and of itself should kind of be a yellow flag

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe a yellow flag yellow light that says stop,

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<v Speaker 1>take an assessment of what's happening in see if this

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<v Speaker 1>is really the person you should be growing with. Dr Nicole,

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<v Speaker 1>I got a question for you. So there's two hosts

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast. One of us is married and expecting a child.

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<v Speaker 1>The other one of us is uh, just been dating

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<v Speaker 1>his girlfriend for the past two years. Would you say

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<v Speaker 1>this show put a ring on, It is tailored more

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<v Speaker 1>towards the married person or the long term relationship type person,

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<v Speaker 1>Like am I gonna watch it to my girlfriend and

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<v Speaker 1>she's gonna keep looking over at me, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>side on me being like, hey, where's my ring? Like

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<v Speaker 1>why have you not? Why have you not put the

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<v Speaker 1>ring on me? Yet? Hopefully not um, But I do

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<v Speaker 1>think what happens if you look at each other because

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<v Speaker 1>you either see yourself in the person in the people

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<v Speaker 1>that you're watching in the present, or you see who

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<v Speaker 1>you were. And that's that's the funny part of it,

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<v Speaker 1>because there's so much connection between just relationships that people

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<v Speaker 1>are having and what you're seeing on the screen. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that makes sense, I think from from makes parents from

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<v Speaker 1>watching you know, we love our reality TV in this

0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:07.040
<v Speaker 1>household watching other couples interact on television in whatever form.

0:27:07.119 --> 0:27:08.800
<v Speaker 1>We watch a lot of competition based show so it's

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit different, but it's so interesting to get

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<v Speaker 1>a glimpse into other couples, like perspective, perspectives and chemistry

0:27:15.640 --> 0:27:17.600
<v Speaker 1>is because you can kind of like pick them apart

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, Okay, well they're doing that, but we

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<v Speaker 1>would never do that. But they're doing that, and then

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we want to do that kind of thing. So

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<v Speaker 1>are there lessons that you like as an audience member,

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<v Speaker 1>will be able to pick up throughout the entire show. Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the things that's been a surprise to me

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<v Speaker 1>is how many people talk about what they say are

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:37.639
<v Speaker 1>the gems that I dropped in the show, Because really,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm holding the space for people to really figure out

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<v Speaker 1>what's next for them, if it's long term future or

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<v Speaker 1>if it's going their separate ways. So along the way,

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<v Speaker 1>couples really do get an opportunity to do to work.

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<v Speaker 1>You get the opportunity to see them doing the work

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<v Speaker 1>and then take away from it what can help your

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<v Speaker 1>relationship as well. Have you seen any couples make the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong to decisions, Because like, I have friends in my

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<v Speaker 1>life that you know, have been on and off for

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<v Speaker 1>many years, and I'm like, no, you guys need to

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<v Speaker 1>be together. Your happiest when you're with each other. You

0:28:10.359 --> 0:28:13.520
<v Speaker 1>just need to commit. Or conversely, there are friends where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you guys are so toxic for each other,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to move on. And then sometimes the toxic

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<v Speaker 1>people will stay together and being an unhappy relationship. And

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<v Speaker 1>then sometimes people who I think are so good for

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<v Speaker 1>each other never get together. So have you seen any uh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, relationships on this show where people have either

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<v Speaker 1>put a ring on it or they've broken up and

0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:35.080
<v Speaker 1>you're like, I think you made a mistake. No, And

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<v Speaker 1>the and the reason being is because the show holds

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<v Speaker 1>the space for you to tell the truth. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you're willing to see people's actions and really see what

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<v Speaker 1>they're doing in reference to what they say they want

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<v Speaker 1>to do, it speaks for itself. Often what we do

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<v Speaker 1>is we look at what people say and we don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to look at what they do. Your actions speak

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<v Speaker 1>to what you're trying to achieve every single time. So

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<v Speaker 1>the show is interesting because what you see is the

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<v Speaker 1>heart of people played out in their actions, and you

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<v Speaker 1>know it's it's interesting because if you have two people

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<v Speaker 1>and their goal is something that their friends think it

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<v Speaker 1>is nonsense. You're looking at them and you're saying, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know why you guys think you can accomplish that.

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<v Speaker 1>If that's what they've decided in their relationship, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>wrong until one person checks out, right, right, that's the

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<v Speaker 1>diminishing point, right, So we may all look at them

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<v Speaker 1>and think they're a little bizarre. But if they're being

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<v Speaker 1>bizarre together, go ahead, Dr Nicole, I got a question

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<v Speaker 1>for you, and I kind of want to pivot a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. We can come back this later if you

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<v Speaker 1>guys want to. But what what fascinates me a lot

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<v Speaker 1>is some of the books that you wrote, and so

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<v Speaker 1>for the listeners that are unfamiliar and correct me if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wrong. You've written A Woman's True Purpose, Live Like Matter,

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<v Speaker 1>and Choose Yourself, a journey toward personal fulfillment for women,

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<v Speaker 1>And in those books you center a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>conversations around prioritizing yourself, especially in relationships. Can you just

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<v Speaker 1>talk on that for a little bit, because I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I feel I feel like for the listener out there,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times and myself included, we forget to

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<v Speaker 1>prioritize yourself. And I've always been kind of an advocate

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<v Speaker 1>for a certain level of selfishness where you do need

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<v Speaker 1>to prioritize yourself, learn a lot about what you'd like

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<v Speaker 1>and don't like before you're ready to to kind of

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<v Speaker 1>take that plunge. So do you mind kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>speaking on that kind of stuff a little bit? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And I want to celebrate your question, because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think it's selfish, it's self care. Right. We've learned how

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<v Speaker 1>to give people crumbs and act like they're getting the

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<v Speaker 1>big slice of cake because we are diminished and we

0:30:48.000 --> 0:30:51.640
<v Speaker 1>are running at the speed of light, and a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of times we want to put our persona into the

0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:58.360
<v Speaker 1>driver's seat instead of being authentically ourselves because we don't

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<v Speaker 1>really want people to see the parts of ourselves that

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<v Speaker 1>we're really not caring for. So the big thing is

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<v Speaker 1>to show up as who you are fully. If the

0:31:08.280 --> 0:31:10.880
<v Speaker 1>person that you're dating can't get down with that and

0:31:10.920 --> 0:31:14.240
<v Speaker 1>they don't think you're spectacular, that's okay. Somebody else will.

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<v Speaker 1>But at least you're gonna have somebody that gets a

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<v Speaker 1>chance to fall in love with you, the real you,

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<v Speaker 1>whoever you are in that space of time. In order

0:31:23.680 --> 0:31:25.600
<v Speaker 1>to do that, you've got to take care of yourself

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<v Speaker 1>so that there's really another person for them to connect with,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's not a two half, you know, two halves

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<v Speaker 1>make a whole kind of thing. It's too whole. People

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<v Speaker 1>make a really good relationship if they work at it.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's say someone maybe struggling to take that first step,

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<v Speaker 1>is there any kind of advice that you would have

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<v Speaker 1>for them to at least start inching towards that direction.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's very interesting that we are really good

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<v Speaker 1>as people at overriding what hurts. And if you just

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<v Speaker 1>think about what I just asked, it's like, huh, hadn't

0:31:57.840 --> 0:31:59.760
<v Speaker 1>thought about it that way? There are a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>things that are going on in our individually experiences, and

0:32:04.680 --> 0:32:06.920
<v Speaker 1>avoidance is not the way to get you where you're

0:32:06.920 --> 0:32:11.240
<v Speaker 1>trying to go. Own what makes you angry, own what hurts.

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<v Speaker 1>See how to get to the place where you are

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<v Speaker 1>really moving forward in a place of stability and in

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<v Speaker 1>a place where you really like who you are and

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<v Speaker 1>you like how you're presenting in the world and what

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing, and that will make you a lot easier

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<v Speaker 1>to date, and it will make it a lot easier

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<v Speaker 1>for you to attract the right people to date. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and your experience. What are some of the common themes

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<v Speaker 1>that cause issues in relationships? Communication is like at the

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<v Speaker 1>top right, because it's it's it's the key to understanding everything.

0:32:50.520 --> 0:32:55.240
<v Speaker 1>Communication about money, communication about family, communication about what you

0:32:55.320 --> 0:32:59.440
<v Speaker 1>want to see your future look like, communication about what

0:32:59.520 --> 0:33:03.920
<v Speaker 1>bothers you, what your values are. It is this key

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<v Speaker 1>to having a connection with another person, and if it's

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<v Speaker 1>really hard, it becomes challenging. Why is communication always so

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<v Speaker 1>difficult to obtain? You know? I find that it's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a common theme within the relationships. A lot of

0:33:21.160 --> 0:33:23.320
<v Speaker 1>people say, well, there's just communication. Wasn't that good? Or

0:33:23.360 --> 0:33:26.440
<v Speaker 1>we lack communication? And you know, and I think about

0:33:26.440 --> 0:33:28.840
<v Speaker 1>this a lot, and sometimes in past relationships I had

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:32.520
<v Speaker 1>difficult community, you know, telling people my true feelings or

0:33:32.760 --> 0:33:35.720
<v Speaker 1>or things that I really wanted. Um So, I guess

0:33:35.760 --> 0:33:37.920
<v Speaker 1>why is that so difficult? And what are some things

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:40.240
<v Speaker 1>that people can do to make sure that in their

0:33:40.240 --> 0:33:43.440
<v Speaker 1>relationship or any you know, future relationship, that their communication

0:33:43.520 --> 0:33:47.120
<v Speaker 1>is where it needs to be. Vulnerability is the big thing.

0:33:47.160 --> 0:33:50.680
<v Speaker 1>And I know that's a word that men are like, oh, Doc,

0:33:50.960 --> 0:33:56.560
<v Speaker 1>don't use the vulnerability word. Just find the word, right,

0:33:57.040 --> 0:34:01.320
<v Speaker 1>that's the word. Because when you are afraid of taking

0:34:01.360 --> 0:34:05.719
<v Speaker 1>any risks, when you're afraid of really being seen, when

0:34:05.800 --> 0:34:09.680
<v Speaker 1>you're afraid of not being in control all the time,

0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:12.560
<v Speaker 1>you've got to go through all of those filters to

0:34:12.600 --> 0:34:17.440
<v Speaker 1>communicate with that other person. Imagine how different it is

0:34:17.560 --> 0:34:20.480
<v Speaker 1>if none of those filters exist and you're just like

0:34:21.000 --> 0:34:24.239
<v Speaker 1>this is what I'm feeling, this is what's happening, this

0:34:24.320 --> 0:34:27.200
<v Speaker 1>is what I wanted that I didn't get that I

0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:30.840
<v Speaker 1>didn't know how to ask for. Everything starts to open

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:34.879
<v Speaker 1>up if you're willing to connect. If you're not, then

0:34:34.960 --> 0:34:37.280
<v Speaker 1>you've got to bounce through a whole lot of hoops,

0:34:37.280 --> 0:34:39.600
<v Speaker 1>and most people don't make it through the first one,

0:34:39.960 --> 0:34:42.520
<v Speaker 1>much less the second or third. What do you say

0:34:42.640 --> 0:34:45.360
<v Speaker 1>to people? So I'm trying to draw from personal experience

0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:48.320
<v Speaker 1>here where Uh, let's say it was vulnerable with a

0:34:48.880 --> 0:34:52.120
<v Speaker 1>person I was dating well in the past, and I,

0:34:52.360 --> 0:34:55.759
<v Speaker 1>you know, was preaching the communication topic, trying to be

0:34:55.880 --> 0:34:59.040
<v Speaker 1>over communicative. Uh, tell my, tell the truth as much

0:34:59.040 --> 0:35:01.480
<v Speaker 1>as I possibly can. But then for whatever reason, that

0:35:01.520 --> 0:35:04.160
<v Speaker 1>person responded to it a negative way. And so I

0:35:04.160 --> 0:35:06.239
<v Speaker 1>feel like a lot of people would absorb that and

0:35:06.239 --> 0:35:09.319
<v Speaker 1>then kind of like withhold certain information moving forward because

0:35:09.360 --> 0:35:11.440
<v Speaker 1>they know what works and what doesn't work. So what

0:35:11.480 --> 0:35:14.280
<v Speaker 1>advice would you have for someone that's like maybe scarred

0:35:14.440 --> 0:35:19.000
<v Speaker 1>or scorned a little bit from us an experience like that? Yeah,

0:35:19.080 --> 0:35:23.799
<v Speaker 1>I mean it sucks, right when you decide to engage

0:35:23.840 --> 0:35:27.680
<v Speaker 1>at a certain level of intimacy and vulnerability with someone

0:35:27.719 --> 0:35:30.560
<v Speaker 1>who can't handle it. It just sucks all the way around.

0:35:30.920 --> 0:35:34.400
<v Speaker 1>But I think the difference is learning how to trust

0:35:34.480 --> 0:35:38.640
<v Speaker 1>people the right way so that the people that you

0:35:38.920 --> 0:35:42.120
<v Speaker 1>take these steps with can handle it. So if they've

0:35:42.160 --> 0:35:46.000
<v Speaker 1>shown you they can't be vulnerable, if they've shown you

0:35:46.080 --> 0:35:49.400
<v Speaker 1>that they're not worthy of your secrets or they're not,

0:35:49.760 --> 0:35:52.280
<v Speaker 1>you know, trustworthy in the areas you want to trust

0:35:52.280 --> 0:35:56.520
<v Speaker 1>them with, don't test. Don't test it. If they've shown

0:35:56.560 --> 0:36:00.200
<v Speaker 1>you they can't keep your their own vehicles safe, don't

0:36:00.280 --> 0:36:03.760
<v Speaker 1>lend them your car, right, and then get mad because

0:36:03.760 --> 0:36:06.800
<v Speaker 1>they wrecked it. You've been friends with him for six years,

0:36:06.840 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 1>they've wrecked every car they've had. Now they're like, oh,

0:36:11.080 --> 0:36:12.920
<v Speaker 1>I can't get to the run a car place. Can

0:36:13.000 --> 0:36:17.480
<v Speaker 1>I borrow yours? No, because you've not shown you're worthy

0:36:17.480 --> 0:36:22.600
<v Speaker 1>of trust in that area relationships exactly. And then you're

0:36:22.640 --> 0:36:24.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna be mad, Right, But what are you mad about?

0:36:25.880 --> 0:36:28.680
<v Speaker 1>That's that's who they've shown you they are, So you

0:36:28.719 --> 0:36:31.359
<v Speaker 1>can get you're mad at yourself because you you knew

0:36:31.400 --> 0:36:33.640
<v Speaker 1>it in your head. You're like, I know I shouldn't

0:36:33.640 --> 0:36:35.800
<v Speaker 1>have let this person borrow my car because they're gonna

0:36:35.840 --> 0:36:38.319
<v Speaker 1>total it. And I still could not bring myself to

0:36:38.320 --> 0:36:41.400
<v Speaker 1>say no. Right, So, if they can't be trusted in

0:36:41.520 --> 0:36:44.920
<v Speaker 1>certain things, and you see that, then don't trust with

0:36:45.000 --> 0:36:48.520
<v Speaker 1>your heart right when when they can't be trusted with

0:36:48.600 --> 0:36:51.279
<v Speaker 1>small stuff, that's what you're trying to gauge so that

0:36:51.320 --> 0:36:54.160
<v Speaker 1>you can take it step by step. I want to

0:36:54.200 --> 0:36:55.920
<v Speaker 1>I want to share this story a little more specifically

0:36:55.920 --> 0:36:57.640
<v Speaker 1>because it's the first thing that I keep thinking about

0:36:57.640 --> 0:37:00.680
<v Speaker 1>whenever we're talking about this. So along time, time ago,

0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:03.960
<v Speaker 1>I just started dating this wonderful girl long like many

0:37:04.000 --> 0:37:07.000
<v Speaker 1>years ago, and early on in the relationship, I had

0:37:07.000 --> 0:37:09.080
<v Speaker 1>a phone call with the girl that I was dating

0:37:09.120 --> 0:37:12.319
<v Speaker 1>before her, so my ex girlfriend and uh, you know,

0:37:12.360 --> 0:37:14.480
<v Speaker 1>we talked for a couple hours, kind of ironed a

0:37:14.480 --> 0:37:16.480
<v Speaker 1>few things out, and after the phone call, I was

0:37:16.520 --> 0:37:18.319
<v Speaker 1>like a little you know, emotional and a little like

0:37:18.360 --> 0:37:21.000
<v Speaker 1>distraught by everything. And so I went to my my

0:37:21.120 --> 0:37:23.440
<v Speaker 1>then girlfriend that I was dating at the time, and

0:37:23.480 --> 0:37:24.560
<v Speaker 1>I was like, hey, I just want to let you know,

0:37:24.560 --> 0:37:26.799
<v Speaker 1>like I had a conversation with my ex, I'll be

0:37:26.800 --> 0:37:28.120
<v Speaker 1>honest with you, like it kind of messed me up

0:37:28.120 --> 0:37:33.760
<v Speaker 1>a little bit. And she came down with the smite

0:37:33.840 --> 0:37:37.200
<v Speaker 1>of a thousand I don't know, Goliath right on top

0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:39.600
<v Speaker 1>of me. She's like, she's yelling at me for talking

0:37:39.600 --> 0:37:41.719
<v Speaker 1>to my ex girlfriend. She was upset that I was,

0:37:42.080 --> 0:37:45.240
<v Speaker 1>you know, like sorting through these emotions and so whenever

0:37:45.320 --> 0:37:47.120
<v Speaker 1>I think about this stuff like that kind of then

0:37:47.200 --> 0:37:51.720
<v Speaker 1>taught me to withhold certain aspects of my life because

0:37:51.760 --> 0:37:54.040
<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, if I was scoring so greatly

0:37:54.080 --> 0:37:55.880
<v Speaker 1>for being honest about this thing that I was like

0:37:55.920 --> 0:37:58.799
<v Speaker 1>literally just looking for a venting resource, now I like,

0:37:58.840 --> 0:38:00.720
<v Speaker 1>I just don't. I'm just gonna go ahead and withhold

0:38:00.719 --> 0:38:05.320
<v Speaker 1>that from everyone. Don't do that, Dean. Well, in hindsight,

0:38:05.360 --> 0:38:08.040
<v Speaker 1>I know, but at the time I was, I was

0:38:08.080 --> 0:38:09.920
<v Speaker 1>messed up from both from talking to my ex and

0:38:09.960 --> 0:38:13.959
<v Speaker 1>then from getting reprimanded so heavily from my current girlfriends. Well,

0:38:14.400 --> 0:38:17.719
<v Speaker 1>you know the thing about it again, trust right, you

0:38:17.880 --> 0:38:21.320
<v Speaker 1>came and you gave her all this stuff, and hopefully Jared,

0:38:21.360 --> 0:38:23.919
<v Speaker 1>he didn't say, so, I just had this twelve hour

0:38:24.000 --> 0:38:26.840
<v Speaker 1>conversation with my ex girlfriend. I want to share it

0:38:26.880 --> 0:38:30.000
<v Speaker 1>with you. That's not a good lead in right. So

0:38:30.000 --> 0:38:33.120
<v Speaker 1>so it's kind of like you have to prepare the

0:38:33.200 --> 0:38:36.319
<v Speaker 1>other person for what you're going to bring so that

0:38:36.360 --> 0:38:41.560
<v Speaker 1>when you're vulnerable, they are safe in your vulnerability versus

0:38:41.560 --> 0:38:47.680
<v Speaker 1>thinking they now have to be defensive and protect themselves. Okay, right,

0:38:47.719 --> 0:38:49.640
<v Speaker 1>you know I wish I wish I knew that back then,

0:38:49.680 --> 0:38:53.200
<v Speaker 1>But you know, we're living, we're learning, we're growing. Yeah. Absolutely,

0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:55.879
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of things I wish I knew ten

0:38:55.960 --> 0:38:59.160
<v Speaker 1>years ago. You know. Uh, Dr Nicole, Before you get

0:38:59.200 --> 0:39:00.840
<v Speaker 1>out of here, I need to talk a little bit

0:39:00.880 --> 0:39:05.000
<v Speaker 1>about your International Slumber Party next weekend, which is very exciting.

0:39:05.000 --> 0:39:07.279
<v Speaker 1>It's a virtual conference for young women between the ages

0:39:07.280 --> 0:39:10.879
<v Speaker 1>of eighteen and um. Yeah, I want you to talk

0:39:10.880 --> 0:39:12.759
<v Speaker 1>a little bit about why you did it and and

0:39:12.800 --> 0:39:15.080
<v Speaker 1>what it's all about and how people can sign up.

0:39:15.840 --> 0:39:19.440
<v Speaker 1>It's going to be amazing. The International Slumber Party is

0:39:19.480 --> 0:39:23.520
<v Speaker 1>the world's largest slumber party. It happens on July thirty one.

0:39:23.760 --> 0:39:27.759
<v Speaker 1>As you said, we now have fifty countries registered to

0:39:27.840 --> 0:39:31.359
<v Speaker 1>be at the party. We're expecting over ten thousand young

0:39:31.400 --> 0:39:34.839
<v Speaker 1>women of color around the world. And the reason we

0:39:34.920 --> 0:39:38.120
<v Speaker 1>did it was because, you know, I'm an adject professor

0:39:38.160 --> 0:39:41.920
<v Speaker 1>at Spammer College here in Atlanta, and when COVID happened,

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:46.520
<v Speaker 1>they had to go instantly to virtual class and you

0:39:46.560 --> 0:39:51.120
<v Speaker 1>could see the diminishing spirit of the young ladies. They

0:39:51.120 --> 0:39:53.240
<v Speaker 1>didn't have a chance to say goodbye to their friends,

0:39:53.280 --> 0:39:56.200
<v Speaker 1>they didn't know which way was up, they didn't know

0:39:56.200 --> 0:39:59.160
<v Speaker 1>if they'd be able to get their things back from campus.

0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:02.839
<v Speaker 1>Everything was us in this crazy space and we were like,

0:40:02.880 --> 0:40:05.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, if we could do something for them that

0:40:05.560 --> 0:40:07.719
<v Speaker 1>would keep them motivated, because of course we didn't know

0:40:07.760 --> 0:40:10.800
<v Speaker 1>it was gonna last over a year. This was summer

0:40:10.840 --> 0:40:12.959
<v Speaker 1>of last year, and we were like, if we could

0:40:12.960 --> 0:40:15.520
<v Speaker 1>do something and keep them motivated, what would that be.

0:40:15.880 --> 0:40:18.640
<v Speaker 1>So we got fifty girls together to do a focus

0:40:18.760 --> 0:40:21.720
<v Speaker 1>group and they said, well, we'd love to do something

0:40:21.840 --> 0:40:24.560
<v Speaker 1>virtual that was really cool that could connect us with

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:28.399
<v Speaker 1>girls everywhere that we would never get the chance to meet.

0:40:28.760 --> 0:40:32.440
<v Speaker 1>And that's what created. You know, my partner, business partner

0:40:32.440 --> 0:40:36.080
<v Speaker 1>and I created the International Slumber Party and it's free.

0:40:36.440 --> 0:40:40.920
<v Speaker 1>We have young women from every part of the world

0:40:41.320 --> 0:40:45.840
<v Speaker 1>that are coming and we've removed removed the obstacles of cost,

0:40:46.040 --> 0:40:49.880
<v Speaker 1>because everybody's got a different opportunity when it comes to

0:40:50.080 --> 0:40:54.319
<v Speaker 1>socioeconomic status, so we've taken that away and they are

0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:58.560
<v Speaker 1>coming from everywhere to be in our virtual mansion. Guys,

0:40:58.600 --> 0:41:00.360
<v Speaker 1>did I tell you it was in a virtual mansion?

0:41:01.280 --> 0:41:03.680
<v Speaker 1>Didn't I didn't hear about this mansion part sounds fancy.

0:41:04.120 --> 0:41:06.920
<v Speaker 1>It's not a zoom, it's a too D virtual mansion,

0:41:07.200 --> 0:41:15.120
<v Speaker 1>thirteen rooms. They're decked out, live DJ speakers, panelists, fireside chats.

0:41:15.320 --> 0:41:20.560
<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be amazing. That sounds awesome. Wow, well that's

0:41:20.560 --> 0:41:23.799
<v Speaker 1>super exciting. So anybody listening, well, any woman listening to

0:41:23.840 --> 0:41:27.400
<v Speaker 1>this right now, go to www dot International slumber Party

0:41:27.440 --> 0:41:29.000
<v Speaker 1>dot com. It sounds like it's going to be an

0:41:29.000 --> 0:41:31.960
<v Speaker 1>incredible event. Dr n Coole, thank you so much once

0:41:32.000 --> 0:41:34.319
<v Speaker 1>again for joining us, and of course everybody listening to

0:41:34.320 --> 0:41:37.600
<v Speaker 1>this Friday nights ten pm on OWN, make sure you

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<v Speaker 1>tune into season two of Put a Ring on It.

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:44.400
<v Speaker 1>Dr Nicole please come back anytime. Absolutely, thanks guys. I

0:41:44.520 --> 0:41:59.960
<v Speaker 1>enjoyed it. Everyone, welcome back to help I Suck at

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0:42:07.120 --> 0:42:09.719
<v Speaker 1>to them, I just want to say, please send us

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<v Speaker 1>Send him over. We would love to discuss them here,

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<v Speaker 1>but first one, it looks like Riley wants to give

0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:31.200
<v Speaker 1>it a read, which is funny because she probably wrote it.

0:42:32.360 --> 0:42:33.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what you're talking about, but this is

0:42:33.880 --> 0:42:37.600
<v Speaker 1>from anonymous. Anonymous says, my boyfriend and I have been

0:42:37.680 --> 0:42:41.240
<v Speaker 1>dating for almost three years now. I've been recently noticing

0:42:41.280 --> 0:42:44.200
<v Speaker 1>that he is becoming more distant and secretive. He never

0:42:44.280 --> 0:42:46.760
<v Speaker 1>used to be like this. At first, I thought maybe

0:42:46.760 --> 0:42:49.000
<v Speaker 1>the pandemic was putting him in a funk, but now

0:42:49.000 --> 0:42:51.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm not so sure. He is constantly on his phone

0:42:51.680 --> 0:42:53.400
<v Speaker 1>and I can't help but think he is talking to

0:42:53.440 --> 0:42:56.600
<v Speaker 1>someone else. Help. What do you guys think? Do you

0:42:56.600 --> 0:42:58.600
<v Speaker 1>think he is cheating on me? Or he has just

0:42:58.680 --> 0:43:01.760
<v Speaker 1>lost interest. I've tried to ask him what is wrong,

0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:04.759
<v Speaker 1>but he always says nothing. He doesn't even seem he

0:43:04.880 --> 0:43:09.600
<v Speaker 1>doesn't even seem like he wants to talk about anything anymore. Oh,

0:43:09.640 --> 0:43:12.520
<v Speaker 1>it's sad. Well, maybe you just need to put the

0:43:12.520 --> 0:43:16.959
<v Speaker 1>phones down and have a nice uh, a nice disconnected

0:43:17.120 --> 0:43:20.839
<v Speaker 1>from your phone's meal. Maybe you reignite some romance. I

0:43:20.840 --> 0:43:22.680
<v Speaker 1>I think about this sometimes too, because I'm on my

0:43:22.680 --> 0:43:26.799
<v Speaker 1>phone pretty often, but I'm not like texting people. I'm

0:43:26.840 --> 0:43:32.080
<v Speaker 1>either like texting my friends or scrolling Instagram. And it's funny, actually,

0:43:32.120 --> 0:43:34.040
<v Speaker 1>so Calin pointed this out to me yesterday or a

0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:36.520
<v Speaker 1>couple of days ago, that on Instagram now, if you

0:43:36.520 --> 0:43:39.840
<v Speaker 1>go to the search a search page, there's like a

0:43:39.920 --> 0:43:43.400
<v Speaker 1>little bar under the search bar that has all of

0:43:43.440 --> 0:43:46.080
<v Speaker 1>these like suggestions for things that you want to search for,

0:43:46.800 --> 0:43:49.520
<v Speaker 1>and it's like, it would be an interesting I want

0:43:49.520 --> 0:43:50.920
<v Speaker 1>to see. I want to I want you guys to

0:43:51.000 --> 0:43:53.759
<v Speaker 1>read what years are if you don't mind. Dude, my

0:43:53.840 --> 0:43:57.400
<v Speaker 1>first one so embarrassing. I really, I don't know if

0:43:57.760 --> 0:44:03.960
<v Speaker 1>it's it's so embarrassing. Let's hear it first. No, my

0:44:04.040 --> 0:44:16.279
<v Speaker 1>first one is Superman cosplays so embarrassing. I have horror art,

0:44:16.640 --> 0:44:22.840
<v Speaker 1>Marvel memes, inspirational quotes, thor Ragnarock movie review. College football,

0:44:22.840 --> 0:44:26.200
<v Speaker 1>that's a weird one. I don't watch college football, fitness motivation,

0:44:27.719 --> 0:44:31.400
<v Speaker 1>and Chief's Kingdom dow All I do is look up

0:44:31.440 --> 0:44:33.840
<v Speaker 1>Tom Brady. How is Tom Brady not here? I'm almost

0:44:33.880 --> 0:44:36.560
<v Speaker 1>offended that Tom Brady is not on here? Isn't that

0:44:36.600 --> 0:44:38.640
<v Speaker 1>funny that that's like a kind of a little snapshot

0:44:38.719 --> 0:44:41.120
<v Speaker 1>into what you consume when you're on Instagram. I would

0:44:41.120 --> 0:44:42.680
<v Speaker 1>imagine at least like I don't know where all those

0:44:42.680 --> 0:44:46.200
<v Speaker 1>words would come from here in mine. Mine are travel, photography,

0:44:46.360 --> 0:44:52.280
<v Speaker 1>golf lessons, rock climbing, base jumping, outdoor adventures, beach bum hazy,

0:44:52.320 --> 0:44:55.919
<v Speaker 1>I p A, and coastal living. So more or less

0:44:55.960 --> 0:44:58.160
<v Speaker 1>a little more accurate than yours. I would say, I'm

0:44:58.160 --> 0:45:02.440
<v Speaker 1>surprised you don't have Superman cosplay. Surprised as well, Raley

0:45:02.440 --> 0:45:05.360
<v Speaker 1>and Hannah, what are yours? I'm just curious if you

0:45:05.360 --> 0:45:08.400
<v Speaker 1>guys don't mind sharing that is, look nothing, Are you

0:45:08.440 --> 0:45:11.520
<v Speaker 1>sure you can update your Instagram? You go to search

0:45:12.480 --> 0:45:14.880
<v Speaker 1>and it's just right under the little search bar. Seem

0:45:15.600 --> 0:45:21.600
<v Speaker 1>oh interesting, Raley, what about you? Mind's either that little Yeah,

0:45:21.640 --> 0:45:27.600
<v Speaker 1>those little words okay are very generic shop, travel, decre style,

0:45:27.920 --> 0:45:31.720
<v Speaker 1>food art. You obviously don't search for much on Instagram.

0:45:31.719 --> 0:45:33.040
<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say, maybe that just means we're on

0:45:33.080 --> 0:45:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Instagram way too much, because ours are way too appointed.

0:45:36.280 --> 0:45:39.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I found out on this uh podcast that

0:45:39.040 --> 0:45:43.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely searching Superman cosplay way too much. I did

0:45:43.239 --> 0:45:45.000
<v Speaker 1>search that though, because I was like, you know, what

0:45:45.080 --> 0:45:48.279
<v Speaker 1>for for Halloween this year. I almost want to like

0:45:48.320 --> 0:45:51.360
<v Speaker 1>get a Superman cosplay outfit and like go full in

0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:54.560
<v Speaker 1>for the coolest Halloween costume ever, like shave cut my

0:45:54.640 --> 0:45:57.839
<v Speaker 1>hair like Superman, get the full suit like that's like,

0:45:58.200 --> 0:46:01.799
<v Speaker 1>you know, really tight to my body. So that's what

0:46:01.880 --> 0:46:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking about, Like spend a full like whatever. It's

0:46:04.040 --> 0:46:06.239
<v Speaker 1>like a real Superman costume cost probably like a close

0:46:06.280 --> 0:46:08.319
<v Speaker 1>to a thousand dollars. I bet no. I saw a

0:46:08.360 --> 0:46:10.840
<v Speaker 1>couple on there. I mean, granted they could be really crappy,

0:46:10.840 --> 0:46:12.640
<v Speaker 1>but I saw a couple that were like two hundred bucks.

0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:17.640
<v Speaker 1>It's not bad to rent, oh, but let's be honest,

0:46:18.280 --> 0:46:20.239
<v Speaker 1>renting probably is the way to go because it's like,

0:46:20.280 --> 0:46:22.200
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, I mean, how many times are not gonna

0:46:22.239 --> 0:46:24.040
<v Speaker 1>wear this thing? Well, you would probably wear it every

0:46:24.040 --> 0:46:25.879
<v Speaker 1>single year, especially if you like spend that much money

0:46:25.920 --> 0:46:28.080
<v Speaker 1>on a real costume, you would wear that costume every chance.

0:46:28.120 --> 0:46:31.800
<v Speaker 1>You could get a thousand percent with Cape online god

0:46:31.960 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 1>Bro so freaking awesome anyway, Anonymous, I agree with Dean.

0:46:36.840 --> 0:46:40.160
<v Speaker 1>Just have a scheduled day or a date where you're

0:46:40.200 --> 0:46:42.120
<v Speaker 1>not on your phones, because it is very important actually,

0:46:42.160 --> 0:46:44.040
<v Speaker 1>and I find ourselves in the same predicament where we're

0:46:44.080 --> 0:46:45.600
<v Speaker 1>on our phones a lot of times we don't spend

0:46:45.680 --> 0:46:48.920
<v Speaker 1>quality time together. Make sure you schedule a time, dinner,

0:46:49.320 --> 0:46:51.960
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is, watching TV. You put your phone's away,

0:46:52.000 --> 0:46:53.719
<v Speaker 1>You make sure they're not near you so you can't

0:46:53.719 --> 0:46:56.640
<v Speaker 1>grab anything. So anytime there is a moment of being bored,

0:46:56.920 --> 0:46:58.840
<v Speaker 1>you don't immediately you go to your phone, You start

0:46:58.880 --> 0:47:02.200
<v Speaker 1>talking with your partner, or you know, start doing anything

0:47:02.200 --> 0:47:06.799
<v Speaker 1>else besides scrolling on Instagram. Right, I agree, Um, but

0:47:06.840 --> 0:47:08.600
<v Speaker 1>I think that a lot of couples are probably face

0:47:08.680 --> 0:47:11.600
<v Speaker 1>of that nowadays too. It's like, whenever we get the

0:47:11.640 --> 0:47:13.719
<v Speaker 1>first taste of boredom coming on, we can grab our

0:47:13.719 --> 0:47:16.719
<v Speaker 1>phones and open up our phone into Instagram, TikTok one

0:47:16.719 --> 0:47:18.200
<v Speaker 1>of the thousands of apps that are out there to

0:47:18.400 --> 0:47:20.960
<v Speaker 1>basically buy our time with so you're not alone. Like

0:47:20.960 --> 0:47:22.640
<v Speaker 1>obviously there's a lot of other people that are dealing

0:47:22.680 --> 0:47:24.360
<v Speaker 1>with something similar. I agree. I think it's just a

0:47:24.360 --> 0:47:28.160
<v Speaker 1>matter of taking making the concerted effort to put your

0:47:28.160 --> 0:47:33.160
<v Speaker 1>phones down and connect on a more spiritual level. YEA,

0:47:34.200 --> 0:47:35.840
<v Speaker 1>all right, should get to the next one, Hannah, if

0:47:35.880 --> 0:47:37.920
<v Speaker 1>you don't mind, This was definitely written by Hannah, and

0:47:37.960 --> 0:47:41.840
<v Speaker 1>she just changed her name too Haling a very false However,

0:47:42.400 --> 0:47:45.759
<v Speaker 1>this is from Haley and it says the other night,

0:47:45.800 --> 0:47:47.920
<v Speaker 1>when I was drunk, I texted my ex that I

0:47:47.960 --> 0:47:50.720
<v Speaker 1>miss him, but I actually don't. We have been broken

0:47:50.800 --> 0:47:53.359
<v Speaker 1>up for about two years now and never speak. Why

0:47:53.400 --> 0:47:55.840
<v Speaker 1>did I do this? Do you think deep down I

0:47:55.920 --> 0:47:58.360
<v Speaker 1>actually do miss him? Or am I just lonely? I

0:47:58.400 --> 0:48:02.360
<v Speaker 1>am spiraling and need how this is the easiest email

0:48:02.360 --> 0:48:08.239
<v Speaker 1>of all time. You were lonely, you were drunk, you

0:48:08.280 --> 0:48:11.760
<v Speaker 1>were lonely, and you wanted something easy, so you texted

0:48:11.760 --> 0:48:15.439
<v Speaker 1>your X. They never responded. You move on and you're fine.

0:48:15.480 --> 0:48:17.680
<v Speaker 1>There's nothing wrong with what you did. We've all been there.

0:48:17.719 --> 0:48:19.959
<v Speaker 1>We've all texted X when we're a little drunk because

0:48:19.960 --> 0:48:22.080
<v Speaker 1>we missed the good old days, or will we perceived

0:48:22.120 --> 0:48:23.760
<v Speaker 1>to be the good old days, even though most likely

0:48:24.160 --> 0:48:25.919
<v Speaker 1>they were the bad days, which is why it ended.

0:48:26.280 --> 0:48:28.080
<v Speaker 1>You don't miss him, You don't, You're not still in

0:48:28.080 --> 0:48:30.480
<v Speaker 1>love with them, you were lonely, totally cool, Just move

0:48:30.520 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 1>on with your life. It's I don't think Nick was

0:48:33.280 --> 0:48:35.719
<v Speaker 1>the one that coined this phrase, but I've seen him

0:48:35.760 --> 0:48:38.200
<v Speaker 1>share a couple of times. He always says, you don't

0:48:38.200 --> 0:48:40.319
<v Speaker 1>miss him, You're just lonely. Then I agree. I think

0:48:40.320 --> 0:48:42.520
<v Speaker 1>that kind of dials it in. UM. I will say,

0:48:42.560 --> 0:48:45.799
<v Speaker 1>though it's not abnormal at least in my experience to

0:48:45.800 --> 0:48:47.840
<v Speaker 1>have thoughts about ex girlfriends. There are times where I'll like,

0:48:47.880 --> 0:48:49.640
<v Speaker 1>wake up, I think I've talked about this before. I'll

0:48:49.640 --> 0:48:51.400
<v Speaker 1>wake up and I'll be like, wow, I try to

0:48:51.440 --> 0:48:53.440
<v Speaker 1>dream about my ex girlfriend that I did it eight

0:48:53.520 --> 0:48:56.080
<v Speaker 1>years ago, and it felt so real when I look

0:48:56.080 --> 0:48:57.560
<v Speaker 1>over and Killen's laying right next to you, and I

0:48:57.640 --> 0:48:59.440
<v Speaker 1>feel like so guilty and gross because I was like,

0:48:59.440 --> 0:49:00.840
<v Speaker 1>why did I have a dream about a girl I

0:49:00.880 --> 0:49:03.960
<v Speaker 1>did it eight years ago. I think it's just like, granted,

0:49:03.960 --> 0:49:07.080
<v Speaker 1>your yeah, it's natural, And there's obviously difference between being

0:49:07.160 --> 0:49:09.480
<v Speaker 1>drunk and texting someone and dreaming about a girl that

0:49:09.600 --> 0:49:11.400
<v Speaker 1>used to date. But I guess the point kind of

0:49:11.400 --> 0:49:14.400
<v Speaker 1>remains the same, where it's like, sometimes these thoughts just

0:49:14.400 --> 0:49:18.440
<v Speaker 1>sneak into your brain and they take control and all

0:49:18.600 --> 0:49:21.319
<v Speaker 1>you can do. So again it's a little different is

0:49:21.360 --> 0:49:24.520
<v Speaker 1>just don't take action on those thoughts. You clearly took action. UM.

0:49:24.560 --> 0:49:26.759
<v Speaker 1>I hope that there's not too much trouble to come

0:49:26.800 --> 0:49:29.759
<v Speaker 1>from a text like that. I've been I've been on

0:49:29.800 --> 0:49:31.960
<v Speaker 1>both ends of a text like that. I've definitely texted

0:49:32.040 --> 0:49:33.200
<v Speaker 1>X to say and I missed them, And I have

0:49:33.239 --> 0:49:36.399
<v Speaker 1>definitely received texts from ex is saying they missed me.

0:49:36.960 --> 0:49:39.640
<v Speaker 1>And I'll tell you one thing, neither of them are

0:49:39.719 --> 0:49:43.920
<v Speaker 1>ket so hopefully, hopefully it's a one time thing. So

0:49:43.960 --> 0:49:46.400
<v Speaker 1>it's most likely. Yeah, Haley just trying not to do

0:49:46.440 --> 0:49:49.080
<v Speaker 1>it again. But it's not a big deal. And uh,

0:49:49.320 --> 0:49:51.920
<v Speaker 1>but like Dean said, we're I mean, we're human beings.

0:49:51.920 --> 0:49:54.600
<v Speaker 1>We're curious creatures, you know, so like, of course we

0:49:54.640 --> 0:49:56.759
<v Speaker 1>think about our exes from time to time, like I'm

0:49:56.800 --> 0:49:59.520
<v Speaker 1>sure Dean and I can tell from personal experience from

0:49:59.560 --> 0:50:01.600
<v Speaker 1>like even I love my wife more than anything, But

0:50:01.640 --> 0:50:03.759
<v Speaker 1>of course my brain has been like I wonder what

0:50:03.840 --> 0:50:05.600
<v Speaker 1>my life would be like if I was still with

0:50:05.640 --> 0:50:08.160
<v Speaker 1>this person, Like what would have happened to my life

0:50:08.680 --> 0:50:11.359
<v Speaker 1>if I didn't go on Bachelor and I ended up

0:50:11.360 --> 0:50:14.080
<v Speaker 1>marrying this person instead my ex You know, it's just

0:50:14.120 --> 0:50:16.200
<v Speaker 1>like you think about those things and there's nothing wrong.

0:50:16.400 --> 0:50:19.040
<v Speaker 1>You're not doing anything wrong by having that thought past

0:50:19.120 --> 0:50:21.239
<v Speaker 1>your brain. It's just what happens you wonder, know, what's

0:50:21.239 --> 0:50:22.719
<v Speaker 1>weird that I just thought about that? This is gonna

0:50:22.719 --> 0:50:24.960
<v Speaker 1>be way too much information that I regret sharing. Is

0:50:25.440 --> 0:50:27.799
<v Speaker 1>all of the all of the ex girlfriends that end

0:50:27.840 --> 0:50:30.640
<v Speaker 1>up in my dreams are girls like it's it was,

0:50:30.680 --> 0:50:33.120
<v Speaker 1>it's like my college girlfriend, or my high school girlfriend,

0:50:33.400 --> 0:50:37.640
<v Speaker 1>or like my post college adult life girlfriend. It's never girls.

0:50:38.000 --> 0:50:40.160
<v Speaker 1>It's never like a girl that I dated from Bachelor.

0:50:40.239 --> 0:50:42.799
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I've ever had a dream with any

0:50:42.800 --> 0:50:45.239
<v Speaker 1>of those girls. It's just I don't know why that is.

0:50:45.800 --> 0:50:48.319
<v Speaker 1>And again, probably too much information. There's not really any

0:50:48.320 --> 0:50:50.440
<v Speaker 1>point to what I'm saying. I just thought it was

0:50:50.600 --> 0:50:52.560
<v Speaker 1>an interesting thing, and I'm just now realizing for the

0:50:52.560 --> 0:50:56.839
<v Speaker 1>first time, and I'm just basically now, maybe those relationships

0:50:56.840 --> 0:50:59.440
<v Speaker 1>were just more meaningful and impactful than the relationships you

0:50:59.440 --> 0:51:01.800
<v Speaker 1>had on Batchel. There's nothing wrong with that. Yeah, I guess.

0:51:01.840 --> 0:51:03.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. But sometimes I'll have a dream of

0:51:03.440 --> 0:51:05.239
<v Speaker 1>a girl that I learned like three dates with when

0:51:05.239 --> 0:51:07.880
<v Speaker 1>I was like twenty four, and I'm like, why, why,

0:51:07.880 --> 0:51:09.719
<v Speaker 1>why are why are you in here that you don't

0:51:09.719 --> 0:51:14.720
<v Speaker 1>belong here? And then and then yeah and then yeah, whatever.

0:51:14.880 --> 0:51:18.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Maybe I maybe it's it's not important anymore.

0:51:18.239 --> 0:51:20.279
<v Speaker 1>Riley Hannah, do you guys is this just a guy thing,

0:51:20.360 --> 0:51:22.439
<v Speaker 1>or you guys thought about excess too and been like, wow,

0:51:22.480 --> 0:51:24.759
<v Speaker 1>I wonder what would my life be like right now

0:51:24.760 --> 0:51:26.960
<v Speaker 1>if I'll still with this. I think it's super natural

0:51:27.040 --> 0:51:30.000
<v Speaker 1>to think about people that were significant in your life

0:51:30.040 --> 0:51:34.480
<v Speaker 1>at a certain point, and there's nothing wrong with that.

0:51:35.320 --> 0:51:38.759
<v Speaker 1>So so let's say your boyfriend woke up and said

0:51:38.800 --> 0:51:40.279
<v Speaker 1>he had a dream about a girl that he used

0:51:40.320 --> 0:51:42.799
<v Speaker 1>to day. You wouldn't You wouldn't be bothered by it

0:51:42.840 --> 0:51:45.879
<v Speaker 1>in any way? Oh, you immediately killing Well, I think

0:51:46.000 --> 0:51:49.319
<v Speaker 1>deep down it would bother me. But I mean that's

0:51:49.360 --> 0:51:51.440
<v Speaker 1>happened to me too, so I feel like I couldn't

0:51:51.440 --> 0:51:55.120
<v Speaker 1>be mad at him, right, I agree? Okay, Riley, what

0:51:55.160 --> 0:51:57.680
<v Speaker 1>about you? I agree? I don't. I don't think it

0:51:57.680 --> 0:51:59.680
<v Speaker 1>would bother me. I think I would want to ask

0:51:59.719 --> 0:52:05.440
<v Speaker 1>what the dream was specifically, um because things, But like

0:52:05.520 --> 0:52:08.560
<v Speaker 1>Hanna said, deep down it might be a little curious

0:52:08.640 --> 0:52:10.759
<v Speaker 1>to me why, but it wouldn't bother me that much.

0:52:11.840 --> 0:52:14.320
<v Speaker 1>Let's say worst case scenario, there was like a physical

0:52:14.560 --> 0:52:17.480
<v Speaker 1>spark in the dream between the guy and his ex girlfriend.

0:52:18.239 --> 0:52:21.200
<v Speaker 1>That's then you don't share that. You're like, hey, they

0:52:21.239 --> 0:52:24.400
<v Speaker 1>were my dream and we were in the library just

0:52:24.440 --> 0:52:26.520
<v Speaker 1>talking to each other and then that was it. That

0:52:26.560 --> 0:52:28.719
<v Speaker 1>was the whole dream. It was crazy. Hey listen, Dr

0:52:28.800 --> 0:52:33.399
<v Speaker 1>Nicole says, communication, communication, communication, Good luck with that. Why

0:52:33.440 --> 0:52:36.200
<v Speaker 1>don't you tell Kalen that? And and let us report

0:52:36.200 --> 0:52:38.439
<v Speaker 1>back next podcast, tell us how it went. You guys

0:52:38.440 --> 0:52:43.200
<v Speaker 1>know the movie Interstellar, Yeah, of course great. Uh there's

0:52:43.239 --> 0:52:46.520
<v Speaker 1>that quote when McConaughey asks what his honesty setting is

0:52:46.520 --> 0:52:53.920
<v Speaker 1>at and Tauris says, because honesty is never the proper

0:52:53.960 --> 0:52:55.440
<v Speaker 1>way to talk to humans or something like that, and

0:52:55.440 --> 0:52:59.600
<v Speaker 1>I think there's some truth honesty. It's probably a good

0:53:00.160 --> 0:53:02.480
<v Speaker 1>Taras says, I just looked at the Tara says, absolute

0:53:02.520 --> 0:53:05.200
<v Speaker 1>honesty isn't always the most diplomatic nor the safest form

0:53:05.200 --> 0:53:08.800
<v Speaker 1>of communication with emotional beings, so I couldn't agree with

0:53:08.840 --> 0:53:12.040
<v Speaker 1>Tars more. Yeah, you know, tars Tars is a really

0:53:12.040 --> 0:53:14.920
<v Speaker 1>smart robot. Anyways, that's gonna do a great movie. That

0:53:15.400 --> 0:53:19.800
<v Speaker 1>soundtrack by Hans Zimmer is incredible. The docking scene, dude,

0:53:19.840 --> 0:53:22.080
<v Speaker 1>that that docking scene is one of the coolest scenes

0:53:22.080 --> 0:53:26.120
<v Speaker 1>in cinematic history. Where McConaughey she's like she uh, she's like,

0:53:26.120 --> 0:53:28.080
<v Speaker 1>what are you doing and he's like docking and then

0:53:28.120 --> 0:53:31.360
<v Speaker 1>They're like, it's impossible. He goes, no, it's necessary, and

0:53:31.360 --> 0:53:35.319
<v Speaker 1>then the music swells up. Oh my god. Anyway, hell

0:53:35.360 --> 0:53:37.080
<v Speaker 1>of way to end the podcast. But it's awesome. Hans

0:53:37.120 --> 0:53:40.480
<v Speaker 1>Zimmer has to have. Like, as far as composers go,

0:53:40.520 --> 0:53:43.279
<v Speaker 1>Hans Zimmer is just the top of the top. He's

0:53:43.320 --> 0:53:46.040
<v Speaker 1>all over the place and every Hans and John Williams,

0:53:46.239 --> 0:53:49.279
<v Speaker 1>those are the Those are the two best film composers

0:53:49.280 --> 0:53:51.360
<v Speaker 1>of all time, hands down, not even competition. Well, you

0:53:51.400 --> 0:53:53.160
<v Speaker 1>want to know why Hans Zimmer is better than John

0:53:53.160 --> 0:53:55.800
<v Speaker 1>Williams is because I've never heard the name John Williams before.

0:53:56.920 --> 0:54:02.920
<v Speaker 1>What you don't know John Williams I did. Okay, let

0:54:03.000 --> 0:54:04.920
<v Speaker 1>me just give a quick rundown of what he's done

0:54:04.920 --> 0:54:09.800
<v Speaker 1>in cinematic history. Star Wars, Superman, Jaws, Indiana, Jones, Et,

0:54:10.520 --> 0:54:17.880
<v Speaker 1>Jurassic Park, Schindler's List. Has he done anything in the Okay? Okay,

0:54:17.920 --> 0:54:20.759
<v Speaker 1>so he's done the Jaws theme, the Et theme, the

0:54:20.880 --> 0:54:23.960
<v Speaker 1>Superman theme, the Star Wars theme, the Jurassic Park theme,

0:54:24.000 --> 0:54:27.040
<v Speaker 1>the Harry Potter Thereme, pretty much any huge theme in

0:54:27.080 --> 0:54:29.960
<v Speaker 1>cinematic history. John Williams has done. But Hans Zimmer is

0:54:30.000 --> 0:54:33.080
<v Speaker 1>freaking awesome. I'd say, Hans Zimmer is pretty awesome. He's

0:54:33.480 --> 0:54:37.960
<v Speaker 1>the man. He's top two. John. I mean, I don't

0:54:37.960 --> 0:54:40.600
<v Speaker 1>want a nitpick, but the movies you just named were

0:54:40.640 --> 0:54:42.440
<v Speaker 1>made in the eighties and nineties. It's like, what have

0:54:42.440 --> 0:54:44.760
<v Speaker 1>you done for me lately? Hans still comes out with bangers.

0:54:44.800 --> 0:54:49.120
<v Speaker 1>Everything he touches turns to gold. To this day, Hans

0:54:49.200 --> 0:54:51.520
<v Speaker 1>Zimmer had a set up Coachella like three years ago.

0:54:51.800 --> 0:54:54.520
<v Speaker 1>Like that is crazy. Oh, it was awesome. I saw

0:54:54.600 --> 0:54:56.560
<v Speaker 1>him live one time. He was in Connecticut and it

0:54:56.719 --> 0:54:59.839
<v Speaker 1>was awesome. I went by myself because no one else

0:54:59.840 --> 0:55:02.000
<v Speaker 1>will go see Hans with me. Yeah, you probably couln't

0:55:02.000 --> 0:55:03.760
<v Speaker 1>get anyone go see John Williams with it either because

0:55:03.760 --> 0:55:06.640
<v Speaker 1>he's dead, probably because he's been composing for fifty years.

0:55:06.640 --> 0:55:09.080
<v Speaker 1>He's still living. He's like ninety three, though he's up there,

0:55:09.120 --> 0:55:12.040
<v Speaker 1>he's older than Pappy. I agree with Riley, this is

0:55:12.080 --> 0:55:15.359
<v Speaker 1>really great open communication. But it's time to end the communication.

0:55:15.520 --> 0:55:17.840
<v Speaker 1>Let's go ahead and say goodbye, big thank you to

0:55:18.120 --> 0:55:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Dr Nicole. Be sure to check her show out put

0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:24.440
<v Speaker 1>hering on it at ten pm on what network Jared

0:55:25.120 --> 0:55:29.320
<v Speaker 1>own The OPRA Network, the Oprah Winfrey Network, the network

0:55:29.400 --> 0:55:32.480
<v Speaker 1>that's absolutely right. Thanks to Jared, Riley and Hannah for

0:55:32.680 --> 0:55:34.840
<v Speaker 1>the open communication that we had all episode long. And

0:55:34.880 --> 0:55:38.839
<v Speaker 1>that's fantastic. Anything else before we part ways, that will

0:55:38.880 --> 0:55:42.640
<v Speaker 1>do it, my friend. Great. Well, next time we talked

0:55:42.680 --> 0:55:45.360
<v Speaker 1>to you work, we're I think we're gonna be recording

0:55:45.360 --> 0:55:48.879
<v Speaker 1>live from Napa Valley Wine Country. I won't be there though. Unfortunately,

0:55:49.200 --> 0:55:53.080
<v Speaker 1>You're not coming to Napa. No, Ashley can't fly across country.

0:55:53.520 --> 0:55:56.360
<v Speaker 1>What yeah, dude, I know it sucks. I'm sorry. I

0:55:56.360 --> 0:55:57.759
<v Speaker 1>thought I broke the news to you already. I was

0:55:57.760 --> 0:56:00.239
<v Speaker 1>a coupla forgot. We still are doing the verse full

0:56:00.239 --> 0:56:04.399
<v Speaker 1>meet and greet Suck Army Summer Baby Friday July from

0:56:04.600 --> 0:56:07.000
<v Speaker 1>UH seven to eight pm Eastern Standard time four to

0:56:07.080 --> 0:56:10.840
<v Speaker 1>five pm Pacific time. That is next Friday July. I

0:56:10.880 --> 0:56:13.239
<v Speaker 1>will not be in Nappa unfortunately, but I'm I can't

0:56:13.239 --> 0:56:15.719
<v Speaker 1>believe we're not coming to Nappa. Dude, I know, but

0:56:15.800 --> 0:56:20.120
<v Speaker 1>Ashley sick. Her doctor was like, I don't advise you

0:56:20.160 --> 0:56:22.239
<v Speaker 1>getting on a cross country flight to be there for

0:56:22.280 --> 0:56:24.200
<v Speaker 1>two nights to listen, Like, you know, I don't care

0:56:24.200 --> 0:56:26.239
<v Speaker 1>about any of that stuff. Actually can stay home, but

0:56:26.320 --> 0:56:29.160
<v Speaker 1>you could definitely get on a cross country flight actually

0:56:29.160 --> 0:56:31.600
<v Speaker 1>got all that family out there to help. I was

0:56:31.640 --> 0:56:34.200
<v Speaker 1>gonna go, but then it was like, well, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go by myself without her, and we talked to

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<v Speaker 1>Amy and I was like, well, we'll just stay home,

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<v Speaker 1>but we're gonna still do the virtual event. I will

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<v Speaker 1>be a part of this virtual event, unfortunately not be

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<v Speaker 1>in Napa, which actually makes me quite sad. I was

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<v Speaker 1>talking to Riley and Hannah about it because it's a

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<v Speaker 1>good group going. Ben jest you, Caitlin Wells would be there,

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<v Speaker 1>Becca Tanya like it's it's actually people that really want

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<v Speaker 1>to see. So it does suck. We won't be there,

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<v Speaker 1>but please everybody suck Army. Go to looped live dot

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<v Speaker 1>com to get your tickets right now. That is looped

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<v Speaker 1>Live have l O p E D l i v

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<v Speaker 1>Standard time, four to five Pacific Standard time. Suck every summer,

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<v Speaker 1>come say hello, We're gonna be Dean's gonna be taking

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<v Speaker 1>his shirt off. It's gonna be a grand old time.

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<v Speaker 1>Buy your tickets now. I can't believe we have to

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<v Speaker 1>end this on such a low note. I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>into the corner anyways, and cry a little bit. It's

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<v Speaker 1>fine anyways. Be sure to tune next week. I guess

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<v Speaker 1>where we maybe you will suck just a little bit less.

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<v Speaker 1>Follow help by suck at Dating on I Heart Radio

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