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Speaker 1: And it's time, guys for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Tell him Steve Harvey,

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Speaker 1: same thing she just said, and we could be reading

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Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna

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Speaker 1: read this one. And boy, this is something else right here.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you. Buggle up, hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is this strawberry Thank you, nephew.

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Speaker 1: Subject my husband is now my kid's uncle. DearS. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: one more time. My husband is now my kid's uncle.

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Speaker 1: All right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I have a problem, and

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Speaker 1: I've been praying over it for years, but I can't

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Speaker 1: seem to get over it. I married a man when

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Speaker 1: I was twenty six years old and he was forty

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Speaker 1: one years old. We had a great married life, a nice,

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Speaker 1: big home, and three lovely children. I thought our fairy

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Speaker 1: tale would never end, but it did. We were married

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Speaker 1: for eight years, and on his birthday he asked me

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Speaker 1: for a divorce and served me papers. I was shocked

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Speaker 1: that he already had the papers drawn up. Six months

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Speaker 1: after our divorce was final, my sister gave birth to

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Speaker 1: a healthy, beautiful baby girl. When I saw the baby,

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Speaker 1: I noticed that the baby had the same birthmark on

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Speaker 1: her foot that all three of my children do. Two

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Speaker 1: months later, my sister married my ex husband. At the wedding,

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Speaker 1: only two of our family members attended. My mother didn't

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Speaker 1: even go. Wait what okay at the web? Okay, where

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Speaker 1: do you want me to start? Two months? This is crazy, Steve,

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Speaker 1: this is so crazy. All right, I'll start here. We

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Speaker 1: were married, they had We were married for eight years,

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Speaker 1: and on his birthday he asked me for a divorce

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Speaker 1: and served me papers. I was shocked that he already

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Speaker 1: had the papers drawn up. Six months after our divorce

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Speaker 1: was final, my sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.

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Speaker 1: When I saw the baby, I noticed that the baby

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Speaker 1: had the same birthmark on her foot that all three

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Speaker 1: of my children do. Two months later, my sister married

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Speaker 1: my ex husband cocked. At the wedding, only two of

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Speaker 1: our family members attended. My mother didn't even go. It

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Speaker 1: has now been five years, and I've heard my sister

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Speaker 1: has three has had three more kids. I haven't seen

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Speaker 1: my ex husband or my sister in many years, but

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Speaker 1: my children have Oh and yes, I have driven by

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Speaker 1: her house several times only to see that my ex

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Speaker 1: husband has built her a huge new house. I guess

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Speaker 1: she's happy now that she has everything I had. Why

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Speaker 1: can't I get over this? Why do I feel like

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Speaker 1: a minute I see my sister, I'm going to punch

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Speaker 1: her in her face. Why am I so hurt that

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Speaker 1: my children's father is also my children's uncle. I just

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Speaker 1: don't know how to get past this? Please help me. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this right here, this right here is a hot stinking mess. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I just have to tell you you're not wrong, and

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Speaker 1: how you feel you're not wrong at all. Anyone who

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Speaker 1: exact same way in your position. Your emotions are real,

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Speaker 1: they are valid. Your ex husband is vile, and so

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Speaker 1: is your sister. Imagine being married to someone for eight

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Speaker 1: on his birthday, at his birthday party. Of course you're shocked.

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Speaker 1: Of course you know they've been doing this behind your

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Speaker 1: back all this time. Six months after your divorce is final,

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Speaker 1: Who does this to their sister, their own blood? She

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Speaker 1: I mean stole your husband. Your husband's sleeping with her

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Speaker 1: behind your bag. This is awful. At the wedding, I

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Speaker 1: get this straight. Your kids are their cousins, their aunts,

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Speaker 1: this is not a good family reunion at all. Uh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I probably would have driven by our house several times

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Speaker 1: something like this. I mean, I you know, I'm surprised

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Speaker 1: You're hurt because they hurt you, and you're hurt because

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Speaker 1: several attempts to get at both y'all, the sister and

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Speaker 1: have been shut that down. What would you have done, Steve?

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Speaker 1: I would have destroyed him on social media. Lady, you

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Speaker 1: he was four one. You got a great married life,

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Speaker 1: On his birthday, he asked you for a divorce, say

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Speaker 1: your papers. He already had the papers drawing up six

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Speaker 1: don't know how. I'm telling you somebody I gotta start paying.

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Speaker 1: I deal with the rest of them when I come back.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how. All right, Steve, Well, okay, we're

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Speaker 1: recap today. Acap nothing. I'm just going into this twenty

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Speaker 1: Now see right here, I started hurting people right there,

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Speaker 1: somebody got to pay with a foot. Okay, can't be

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Speaker 1: I need a foot from somebody, either my sister or

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Speaker 1: Two months later, my sister married my ex husband two

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Speaker 1: months after the baby was born. At the wedding, two

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Speaker 1: hand to go. I got to start hurting some At

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Speaker 1: At the wedding, only two of my family members attended. Okay,

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Speaker 1: which two was them? Because I asked, ain't speaking? I

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Speaker 1: My mother didn't even gonna cause she knew go down

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Speaker 1: there if you want to. Mama. It's now been five

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what they've been. I had that on

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Speaker 1: I know. It better not be three more people with

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Speaker 1: another foot. So that folk? That folk kids? Right, three

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Speaker 1: Stop man, I haven't seen my ex husband or my

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Speaker 1: many attempts I would have made on that. Yes, how

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Speaker 1: over that visited. Huh because that's their daddy, Steve, that's

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Speaker 1: the visitor their daddy uncle. Yeah, who's married to your aunt? Right?

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Speaker 1: Who really is your uncle? Right? And your daddy and

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Speaker 1: your daddy right? So what uncle daddy, daddy, uncle uncle daddy. Oh, yes,

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Speaker 1: I've driven by her house several times. Drive back. Nah,

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Speaker 1: your hair grenade and your hand that assault rifle? You know. Hell,

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Speaker 1: Now I got all that, I got all that money,

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Speaker 1: that she has everything I had. How you ain't got

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Speaker 1: it no more? How you how he leave you with

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Speaker 1: child support, no alimony. If you told this story in

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Speaker 1: any court of law, he is still be paying you. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Why can't I get over this? Because you ain't hurt nobody.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem, the whole damn. Why do I feel

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Speaker 1: then you can, you have you can ask the Lord

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Speaker 1: don't know. You got pray about this for real, lady, seriously,

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Speaker 1: You're right, Steve, that part is true. You're right court

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Speaker 1: taking the court suing for everything he got as you

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Speaker 1: should have a big house here. You're a boss sister

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