Speaker 1: Hey, it's Brig and Jeffrey in the morning and this
Speaker 1: is your brand new Second Date podcast.
Speaker 2: Thanks so much for being here.
Speaker 3: We really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Today we got a guy who came up with a
Speaker 1: strategy on how to make sure his date was still
Speaker 1: thinking about him the next day.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I love every time we say a guy with a strategy.
Speaker 5: Strategy, and then we usually follow that with it backfire, yes, yeah, exactly, Yeah.
Speaker 2: And they're like, he didn't have a strategy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you're gonna hear the backfire here in just
Speaker 5: a second. But we always love to highlight your comments
Speaker 5: because it really truly means the world that you're here
Speaker 5: with us, that you're listening, that you're you know, supporting
Speaker 5: the show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I saw one from first of all, just
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Speaker 4: We said, I listen to you guys on my five
Speaker 4: plus mile runs every morning.
Speaker 2: Good job.
Speaker 4: Y'all even helped me get through my first three k
Speaker 4: I finished tenth in my age gap. My gosh, I
Speaker 4: just can't imagine racing next to someone who's listening to
Speaker 4: us in their headphones.
Speaker 2: I don't know why you're a runner. You don't listen
Speaker 2: to yourself. Say I'm listening to bad Dating, but maybe
Speaker 2: I should try.
Speaker 3: Imagine just passing another runner and she can hear herself
Speaker 3: in their head.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so funny, and thanks so much for listening.
Speaker 1: Wherever you're listening with appreciated Your brand new Second date
Speaker 1: starts right now.
Speaker 3: Second Date update. The best advice Brooke ever gotten radio.
Speaker 3: I know this because Brooke mentioned it after she heard
Speaker 3: it at a radio conference. But it was be your
Speaker 3: authentic self.
Speaker 2: I hate that piece of advice. What else are you
Speaker 2: supposed to be? Just the you and it'll all work out?
Speaker 2: Said no one ever.
Speaker 1: Okay, it doesn't actually work that way.
Speaker 3: All right, And that's Brook's authentic self right there, just
Speaker 3: showing her anger and aggression. Put it right on the.
Speaker 1: Itun Be your authentic self and make a name for
Speaker 1: yourself is if you're.
Speaker 2: A nepo baby.
Speaker 1: There's a lot more work that is involved that does
Speaker 1: make you.
Speaker 3: Okay, cut the music, cut the music, okay. Remember just
Speaker 3: want me to.
Speaker 2: Go on about this because it really shaps my heart.
Speaker 3: We've got enough of the authentic you. I think the
Speaker 3: same advice I would think would apply to romance, though,
Speaker 3: to just be yourself, right, I guess, because seriously, too
Speaker 3: many people are putting up fronts when they're trying to
Speaker 3: impress love interests on dates, when actually it's probably a
Speaker 3: lot better for you to just drop the act and
Speaker 3: be who you really are. Yeah, meaning like for me,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't say I love hiking.
Speaker 2: Exactly, and I go on one hike every ten years.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's you sticking true to you. And apparently that's
Speaker 3: what one of our listeners, Dirk, is all about, staying
Speaker 3: true to his real self and finding someone with similar
Speaker 3: interests and hobbies as him, which is awesome to hear. So, Dirk,
Speaker 3: welcome to the show.
Speaker 1: Oh sorry about that hard intro there. I'm glad you
Speaker 1: are who you are.
Speaker 3: Do you do you believe her when she says that
Speaker 3: I believe that? No, I'm asking, does Dirk believe you?
Speaker 6: I believe you? I do.
Speaker 1: Okay, Jerk and I are on the same page.
Speaker 3: He's terrified of you, So Dirk, let's just move on.
Speaker 3: Tell us what's the name of this woman and where
Speaker 3: did you meet her?
Speaker 6: So I'm calling about a lady named Michelle. Okay, we
Speaker 6: met at a volunteer charity event.
Speaker 1: That's I mean already you have some shared interest because
Speaker 1: you're both there supporting the same cause.
Speaker 6: Right, yeah, Yeah, it was the Young Republicans for Grassroo Change.
Speaker 3: Oh that's good, Brooke, this is awesome.
Speaker 2: I thought it was like a charity. That is a
Speaker 2: charity political movement. It's different. Okay, Brooke, can you helping
Speaker 2: people in need?
Speaker 3: You know they're helping didn't need grassroots.
Speaker 2: That doesn't mean grassroots.
Speaker 3: Okay, Brook is anti grass now, so I'm sorry about that, jerk.
Speaker 3: Keep going. You met at this political party shared events.
Speaker 6: Look, I was there doing some networking and that's where
Speaker 6: I met Michelle and we started chatting, and I just
Speaker 6: felt like an action.
Speaker 3: Awesome, what do you guys do?
Speaker 6: Just nothing out of the ordinary, I would say. You know,
Speaker 6: we spent a few hours talking at the bar. We
Speaker 6: talked about shoes that we care about.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 6: Obviously, you know she was going through some difficulties with
Speaker 6: her job. You know, she's a little frustrated. Yeah, and
Speaker 6: so you know I try to give her sort of
Speaker 6: like an like an impromptu you know, like a pep
Speaker 6: talk about I'm mocking her in her greatness?
Speaker 2: Unlocking? Is that the last self help book you read?
Speaker 3: Wow? Sound like it, right, I do. Like when I
Speaker 3: go on the internet and you scroll and you see
Speaker 3: one of those speeches for like thirty seconds, it's like,
Speaker 3: you can do it take on the day.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, I can't. Really, I'm like, you don't
Speaker 2: know me. It's so fake in general, what a.
Speaker 3: Nice gesture for somebody to do to someone who's clearly
Speaker 3: struggling with their job, to like offer some words of
Speaker 3: encouragement that must feel good for her.
Speaker 6: I'm actually I'm a professional motivational speaker. That's what I do.
Speaker 1: You were working while on your day head, Wow, did
Speaker 1: she have the response you were hoping for?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean it towards the end of the day,
Speaker 6: and it looked like maybe she was just getting tired
Speaker 6: anyways and thinking about her job is never so we
Speaker 6: kind of decided to wrap it there, so I figured,
Speaker 6: you know, i'd walk her.
Speaker 1: So she called the date she wanted it to be
Speaker 1: over after the motivational speech.
Speaker 6: I don't think right after. I think it was just
Speaker 6: already kind of feeling like it's towards the end of
Speaker 6: the night anyway.
Speaker 7: Okay, Okay, I might have overdone it a little bit,
Speaker 7: because when we did go outside, we were walking to
Speaker 7: her car, and there was some kids on skateboards, you know,
Speaker 7: and I try to give them some motivational advice.
Speaker 3: The young on the fly, just shouting motivational quotes at them.
Speaker 6: I said, like you you are your own skate ramp
Speaker 6: to success.
Speaker 2: Oh God, all right, up in the back down again.
Speaker 3: A little surprised that didn't run over and try and
Speaker 3: beat you up. This was in the middle of the night.
Speaker 2: But flip you the bird.
Speaker 3: But how did you leave it? With you? And Michelle?
Speaker 6: Well, when I dropped her off, I gave her a
Speaker 6: little keepsake.
Speaker 2: Oh no, what did you give her? Well?
Speaker 6: I had written down some inspirational quotes.
Speaker 1: Oh can you share one of the things you wrote
Speaker 1: down with her?
Speaker 6: One of them was a tomorrow is always bigger than today.
Speaker 3: Oh I don't know what that means.
Speaker 2: But the sun will come out tomorrow.
Speaker 3: Yes, well that's a quote from a song. You can't
Speaker 3: steal that. We're gonna get sued. I mean, that's a
Speaker 3: nice gesture to be, like, I'm here to support you
Speaker 3: and help you out. Right.
Speaker 4: If anybody did their job that much on a date
Speaker 4: like it doesn't matter what job it's like, that's a
Speaker 4: good point.
Speaker 1: I mean, unsolicited advice is always a little touchy for people.
Speaker 1: But I understand his sentiment. I think that he was
Speaker 1: trying to do the right thing.
Speaker 7: Yeah, press her a little bit, because like, how often
Speaker 7: do you meet someone who like is a motivational speaker?
Speaker 3: But yeah, there's a time and a place.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, I might have been just a little
Speaker 6: bit nervous, just went back to what I know how
Speaker 6: to do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean if she says that's a reason, can
Speaker 1: you turn it off next time?
Speaker 3: What can you stop being who you are?
Speaker 4: Want to know about a bad day and not have
Speaker 4: to hear positive feedback?
Speaker 2: He's like on. It sounds like he's on all the time.
Speaker 6: And like I said, I was there, Ris, what did
Speaker 6: you hear about that? Lady?
Speaker 2: I don't understand that. I'm asking if you could be relaxed.
Speaker 3: Okay, maybe you should relax a little bit on him.
Speaker 1: I mean he called to figure out what was wrong,
Speaker 1: and that may have been we may think what turned
Speaker 1: her off?
Speaker 3: Yeah, how long has it been since the date happened?
Speaker 6: It's been like a week and a half.
Speaker 3: Do you know if she read your motivational quotes?
Speaker 6: I don't know. I told her to read them in
Speaker 6: the morning, but she didn't read.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Maybe she's just waiting for tomorrow to call you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, tomorrow is always big, bigger.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you never actually get to tomorrow.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: That could have been a little bit confusing to her.
Speaker 3: So maybe she'll pick up the phone and we can
Speaker 3: clear it all up and motivate her to greatness. Yes,
Speaker 3: we're going to ride the escape ramp to success of
Speaker 3: the second date update.
Speaker 2: You don't get it very big could do it.
Speaker 3: Right after this hold on second Date update. I was
Speaker 3: going to read some inspirational quotes to motivate my co
Speaker 3: host to have a great part too, really, but I'm
Speaker 3: not sure they can take any more inspiration.
Speaker 2: I have been over inspired all.
Speaker 3: Not surprised. After we heard from Dirk about his first
Speaker 3: date with Michelle, where his natural self came out and
Speaker 3: his natural self is being a positive motivational speaker. He
Speaker 3: tried to give some encouraging words to Michelle about her job,
Speaker 3: which she was complaining about. He shouted some affirmations at
Speaker 3: some skateboarding teens, even handed Michelle a little piece of
Speaker 3: paper with handwritten quotes designed to lift her spirits and
Speaker 3: despite all those good vibes and good intentions, Michelle has
Speaker 3: been avoiding him.
Speaker 1: Oh maybe he forgot to put the last one. Call
Speaker 1: me back as the motivational.
Speaker 3: That is possible. Sometimes you need to really spell it out.
Speaker 3: Dirky didn't put that in your motivational quotes.
Speaker 6: That was not one of them.
Speaker 3: Now, okay, maybe add it for next time.
Speaker 1: Have you ever heard from other people in your life,
Speaker 1: like on a personal level, maybe you overdo it with motivation.
Speaker 6: I'll be honest, I don't have a ton of friends,
Speaker 6: so you know, I would say like that is not
Speaker 6: something I've heard all that often. But a lot of
Speaker 6: people also don't know that much about me, so.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's not a lot of time to make friends
Speaker 3: when you're busy inspiring the world.
Speaker 1: I don't know that we know a lot about you
Speaker 1: other than the motivational stuff.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's actually all we know.
Speaker 3: But that's still a positive thing. Like if a guy
Speaker 3: start going through a motivational speech, you're not gonna be
Speaker 3: like shut up, right, he's.
Speaker 2: Trying some context, hopefully not on a day.
Speaker 3: I'm just praying that Michelle picks up the phone and
Speaker 3: gets us some answers here, because he deserves that, right,
Speaker 3: Alexis Yes, right, did you even listen to what I said?
Speaker 2: There something we're calling?
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, you go.
Speaker 3: Let's style their number. Hopefully she picks up. Here we go. Hello, Hey,
Speaker 3: we're looking to speak with Michelle.
Speaker 6: Yes, this is Michelle.
Speaker 3: Hey Michelle. I'm not sure if you're ready for this,
Speaker 3: but you're on a radio show right now called Brooke
Speaker 3: and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 2: Hey, Michelle, we're good morning.
Speaker 1: Okay, that was such an annoyed sigh.
Speaker 2: We get it.
Speaker 3: We're already awake. Yeah, may be sorry. I know it's early.
Speaker 3: So we're just hoping to make this really quick with
Speaker 3: you because we're doing a segment called a second Date Update. Okay, okay,
Speaker 3: I don't know if you're familiar, but it's where we
Speaker 3: try to help out our listeners who've gone out with
Speaker 3: somebody recently and they're not getting a call back for
Speaker 3: a second meet up.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Sure, oh you heard.
Speaker 3: Okay, you're familiar?
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, gotcha?
Speaker 3: All right, you want me to speed it up? I see.
Speaker 3: So we're calling on behalf of one of our listeners
Speaker 3: named Dirk, who you met up with recently.
Speaker 1: Oh god, okay, I'd love to hear how your date went.
Speaker 6: It's kind of weird, I guess, Okay, weird in what way?
Speaker 8: I mean, like we just went to a bar and stuff, but.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, we heard, I mean, just to recap what
Speaker 3: we know about it so far. Yeah, we heard. You
Speaker 3: went to a bar, you talked a lot about your
Speaker 3: shared interests, you opened up to you about your job
Speaker 3: being a little rough recently, and then he walked you
Speaker 3: home through a park by some skateboarding teens.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Did he tell you that he yelled at said skateboarders.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that did come up.
Speaker 2: He said.
Speaker 1: He said that he shouted some affirmations maybe at them, Yeah,
Speaker 1: something about the skate ramp of life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, what did you think about that?
Speaker 8: I mean, he told me that he was like a
Speaker 8: motivational speaker or something like that. But like these were
Speaker 8: just like random kids. It was kind of like all putting,
Speaker 8: you know, at the end of the day. That was
Speaker 8: already kind of weird.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they are skateboarding, so you could tell their
Speaker 3: life's kind of on a deathboardje.
Speaker 5: Skateboarding is a valid hobby, just like any other hobby.
Speaker 3: Okay, name one skateboarder who went on to do great
Speaker 3: things Tony. He's still he's retired. I didn't do anything anyway. Sorry,
Speaker 3: but we're not getting sidetracked with the values of skateboarding.
Speaker 3: Back to Dirk Y and you, Yeah, what did you
Speaker 3: think about him yelling all the motivational quotes at them?
Speaker 6: I mean, I get it, he said, it's like his
Speaker 6: job and stuff.
Speaker 8: But like he said, he doesn't do it that much.
Speaker 8: I was like, yeah, you kind of do it. Was like,
Speaker 8: I mean, you already try to motivate me, and now
Speaker 8: you're talking to like these kids that are just skateboarding.
Speaker 8: And then he's like, I only have like one client
Speaker 8: right now anyways. And I'm like, okay, well, are you
Speaker 8: like coaching like a CEO or like what's the deal.
Speaker 8: I'm like yeah, and he was like I'm the client
Speaker 8: right now. What. I was like, you have one client?
Speaker 8: And he was like no, it's like me, like I
Speaker 8: wake up, I talk to myself in the mirror, like
Speaker 8: I record them, Like the motivational speeches are really helping me.
Speaker 1: So he motivates himself every morning and he considers himself
Speaker 1: his own client.
Speaker 8: Yeah. No, Like you know, I was like, I'm a
Speaker 8: great client to myself right now.
Speaker 3: And what an ultimate that's ultimate job security. You know
Speaker 3: that you're not going anywhere.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I was like it's fine. I was like I
Speaker 8: get it, Like maybe you're just quirky or some like
Speaker 8: I don't I don't know, And I was like, can
Speaker 8: you just tone it down? And I'm like he dropped
Speaker 8: me off and like wrote a bunch of quotes down
Speaker 8: for me when I was in the bathroom and then
Speaker 8: like I like just like he left and I just
Speaker 8: sat there like was I just like punked? I was like,
Speaker 8: did I not understand like what he was saying?
Speaker 3: Okay, maybe you weren't reading the quotes the right way
Speaker 3: and you need to hear them spoken directly by Dirk
Speaker 3: because he is on the other line right now waiting
Speaker 3: to talk to you. In no way, that's how this works,
Speaker 3: Dirky there.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I love Michelle. Oh hi, Dirk, Like it makes
Speaker 6: me a little sad to hear that you didn't have
Speaker 6: a good time and I want to find time.
Speaker 8: Like do I not get it though? Like are you
Speaker 8: actually your own client or am I confused?
Speaker 6: Yes, I am a motivational speaker. At the current moment,
Speaker 6: I am my only client.
Speaker 8: But here like like what am I to do?
Speaker 3: With that, I think maybe dirt. She's a little confused,
Speaker 3: because how can you call yourself a professional motivational speaker
Speaker 3: if you don't actually speak to anybody else except yourself.
Speaker 2: If you don't get paid.
Speaker 1: I think that's a part of professional. You could be
Speaker 1: aspiring motivational speaker. That's a good maybe title an aspiring
Speaker 1: motivational speaker?
Speaker 3: Well I did.
Speaker 6: I did have two clients in the past. They were
Speaker 6: paying clients, but they could not afford my rates. Oh,
Speaker 6: which is why I had to drop them.
Speaker 8: Okay, so you charge a lot on top of all
Speaker 8: of this, but you can pay for your own rates
Speaker 8: like you can afford yourself.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I have a good deal works out with myself.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's nice. Friends and family discount there.
Speaker 2: Do you have another job?
Speaker 6: This is currently my main focus. I am writing a
Speaker 6: book about my experience.
Speaker 8: Of coaching yourself.
Speaker 3: What's the title of your book.
Speaker 6: I'm writing two books. First book is going to be
Speaker 6: called Starts with Yourself. Starts with Yourself, and then the
Speaker 6: second book is if you can't say it to the mirror,
Speaker 6: who could you say it to?
Speaker 8: And there's no way?
Speaker 3: Why are you feeling so inspired by what he says right.
Speaker 8: Now from somebody else, can you not stop?
Speaker 1: We kind of talked to Dirk about that already, like,
Speaker 1: maybe tone it down a little bit, Dirk, and show
Speaker 1: her other sides of you, outside of the motivational speaker.
Speaker 2: Part impressure in other ways, like who are you?
Speaker 7: You know?
Speaker 2: Like what do you love to do? What do you
Speaker 2: care about?
Speaker 6: I love motivating people to be the best way.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, I'm pretty motivated to get off the phone now, Jeff.
Speaker 3: I don't like that we're all giving up on Dirk
Speaker 3: for trying to be himself.
Speaker 1: But I don't think he's trying to be himself. I
Speaker 1: think that's the problem, Jeff. He's trying to be a
Speaker 1: version of himself that he wants to be. He's not
Speaker 1: being who he is. Like, if you're on all the time,
Speaker 1: you're not being your authentic self.
Speaker 2: That's my new book long title.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, Dirk, you have some competition in the a
Speaker 3: literary world coming up with Brooks here. But I still
Speaker 3: like to get you another date. I mean, I know
Speaker 3: this is a long shot, but we would offer to
Speaker 3: pay for a second date for you, Michelle with Dirk,
Speaker 3: if you're willing to give him another chance.
Speaker 1: And you said you liked him outside of that, right,
Speaker 1: outside of the.
Speaker 2: Too many inspirations.
Speaker 8: Let me ask this, do you guys think that you
Speaker 8: would feel safe in a room alone with him at
Speaker 8: this point after learning all this?
Speaker 3: Like I say, you should ask that question to yourself
Speaker 3: in the mirror.
Speaker 5: Yes, like second book, Yeah, look at you already read
Speaker 5: the book.
Speaker 8: This is freaking not It's like, no, I'm sure I'll
Speaker 8: read about him in the news one day, but I'm out.
Speaker 3: Yes, that's one of the most inspiring leaders that this
Speaker 3: country has ever seen.
Speaker 2: I think he's the opposite of dangerous. But yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Don't, Dirk, it's sounding like it's a no from Michelle.
Speaker 3: Do you have any last words for her? Anything to
Speaker 3: motivate her or us or our listeners inspire us.
Speaker 6: It's okay, just look in the mirror. It starts with you.
Speaker 1: Yep. I like that.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's that's good. So it wasn't the best match
Speaker 3: this time, Dirk, but you keep at it, and there's
Speaker 3: definitely going to be a woman out there who appreciates
Speaker 3: a little bit of motivation in their life.
Speaker 6: I believe.
Speaker 1: So, Okay, I think the key there is a little bit.
Speaker 3: A microscopic amount of motivation.
Speaker 2: That's what we need to leave with, Dirk.
Speaker 6: Thank you.
Speaker 3: We crush the spirits of a motivational speaker in one
Speaker 3: second data update. Amazing.
Speaker 1: If we weren't going to do it, it was.
Speaker 3: Looking Jeffrey in the morning. I don't do this often,
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Speaker 3: to hire a young, aspiring motivational speaker whose rates are
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Speaker 1: To take you on a yeah, he can only afford
Speaker 1: to hire himself. Yeah, you know what, I bet we're
Speaker 1: going to be flooded with skateboarders who are really looking,
Speaker 1: totally good skateboard analogies to be.
Speaker 3: Affirmed by motivation one hundred percent. And I'm sure you do.
Speaker 3: You get what you pay for, just like when you
Speaker 3: email us for free help with your data line.
Speaker 2: That is truth.
Speaker 3: Sure we will call that person who's not calling you back.
Speaker 3: Will we actually help though, question mark.
Speaker 2: We'll try.
Speaker 3: That is a promise.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is an a for effort type of show.
Speaker 3: Brook. I know you're kind of anti motivation, but can
Speaker 3: you say something to inspire people to subscribe to our podcast?
Speaker 2: It's also free.
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