WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Motivational Freaker 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:01.920 Hey, it's Brig and Jeffrey in the morning and this 0:00:01.960 --> 0:00:03.760 is your brand new Second Date podcast. 0:00:04.000 --> 0:00:05.040 Thanks so much for being here. 0:00:05.040 --> 0:00:06.240 We really appreciate it. 0:00:06.360 --> 0:00:08.560 Today we got a guy who came up with a 0:00:08.560 --> 0:00:11.160 strategy on how to make sure his date was still 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:12.479 thinking about him the next day. 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:13.160 Yeah. 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:16.079 I love every time we say a guy with a strategy. 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:21.120 Strategy, and then we usually follow that with it backfire, yes, yeah, exactly, Yeah. 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:23.560 And they're like, he didn't have a strategy. 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:26.799 Yeah, so you're gonna hear the backfire here in just 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:29.400 a second. But we always love to highlight your comments 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:31.520 because it really truly means the world that you're here 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:33.760 with us, that you're listening, that you're you know, supporting 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:34.120 the show. 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:36.360 Yeah, and I saw one from first of all, just 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.800 love the user name baby j is Cray for her babe. 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:42.160 We said, I listen to you guys on my five 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:43.880 plus mile runs every morning. 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:44.440 Good job. 0:00:44.520 --> 0:00:46.519 Y'all even helped me get through my first three k 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:50.879 I finished tenth in my age gap. My gosh, I 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:53.080 just can't imagine racing next to someone who's listening to 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:54.120 us in their headphones. 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:56.320 I don't know why you're a runner. You don't listen 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.480 to yourself. Say I'm listening to bad Dating, but maybe 0:00:59.480 --> 0:00:59.959 I should try. 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.360 Imagine just passing another runner and she can hear herself 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:03.880 in their head. 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:08.040 Yeah, so funny, and thanks so much for listening. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:10.960 Wherever you're listening with appreciated Your brand new Second date 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:11.679 starts right now. 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:19.319 Second Date update. The best advice Brooke ever gotten radio. 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:22.240 I know this because Brooke mentioned it after she heard 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:25.320 it at a radio conference. But it was be your 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:26.520 authentic self. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.039 I hate that piece of advice. What else are you 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.600 supposed to be? Just the you and it'll all work out? 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:34.760 Said no one ever. 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:36.800 Okay, it doesn't actually work that way. 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:39.880 All right, And that's Brook's authentic self right there, just 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:43.319 showing her anger and aggression. Put it right on the. 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:46.319 Itun Be your authentic self and make a name for 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:47.559 yourself is if you're. 0:01:47.400 --> 0:01:48.200 A nepo baby. 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:51.320 There's a lot more work that is involved that does 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:51.680 make you. 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:55.120 Okay, cut the music, cut the music, okay. Remember just 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:55.600 want me to. 0:01:55.560 --> 0:01:58.560 Go on about this because it really shaps my heart. 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:01.680 We've got enough of the authentic you. I think the 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.800 same advice I would think would apply to romance, though, 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:08.320 to just be yourself, right, I guess, because seriously, too 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:10.720 many people are putting up fronts when they're trying to 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:13.960 impress love interests on dates, when actually it's probably a 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:15.720 lot better for you to just drop the act and 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:17.880 be who you really are. Yeah, meaning like for me, 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:19.600 I wouldn't say I love hiking. 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:21.480 Exactly, and I go on one hike every ten years. 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:24.119 Yes, that's you sticking true to you. And apparently that's 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.720 what one of our listeners, Dirk, is all about, staying 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:30.519 true to his real self and finding someone with similar 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:34.160 interests and hobbies as him, which is awesome to hear. So, Dirk, 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:34.960 welcome to the show. 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:39.400 Oh sorry about that hard intro there. I'm glad you 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:40.160 are who you are. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.480 Do you do you believe her when she says that 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:47.000 I believe that? No, I'm asking, does Dirk believe you? 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:48.560 I believe you? I do. 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:51.040 Okay, Jerk and I are on the same page. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.400 He's terrified of you, So Dirk, let's just move on. 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.680 Tell us what's the name of this woman and where 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:56.519 did you meet her? 0:02:57.080 --> 0:03:00.720 So I'm calling about a lady named Michelle. Okay, we 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:03.000 met at a volunteer charity event. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.280 That's I mean already you have some shared interest because 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:09.400 you're both there supporting the same cause. 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:13.880 Right, yeah, Yeah, it was the Young Republicans for Grassroo Change. 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:17.480 Oh that's good, Brooke, this is awesome. 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:19.360 I thought it was like a charity. That is a 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:23.919 charity political movement. It's different. Okay, Brooke, can you helping 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:24.760 people in need? 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:31.120 You know they're helping didn't need grassroots. 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.000 That doesn't mean grassroots. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:37.760 Okay, Brook is anti grass now, so I'm sorry about that, jerk. 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:42.200 Keep going. You met at this political party shared events. 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:45.880 Look, I was there doing some networking and that's where 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:49.520 I met Michelle and we started chatting, and I just 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:50.320 felt like an action. 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:53.040 Awesome, what do you guys do? 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:56.200 Just nothing out of the ordinary, I would say. You know, 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.960 we spent a few hours talking at the bar. We 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.240 talked about shoes that we care about. 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:01.480 You know. 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:04.880 Obviously, you know she was going through some difficulties with 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:08.480 her job. You know, she's a little frustrated. Yeah, and 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:10.360 so you know I try to give her sort of 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:13.120 like an like an impromptu you know, like a pep 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:16.320 talk about I'm mocking her in her greatness? 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:19.200 Unlocking? Is that the last self help book you read? 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:22.440 Wow? Sound like it, right, I do. Like when I 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:24.000 go on the internet and you scroll and you see 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:26.000 one of those speeches for like thirty seconds, it's like, 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:27.760 you can do it take on the day. 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:30.760 I'm like, yes, I can't. Really, I'm like, you don't 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:34.880 know me. It's so fake in general, what a. 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:37.559 Nice gesture for somebody to do to someone who's clearly 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:40.000 struggling with their job, to like offer some words of 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:42.000 encouragement that must feel good for her. 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:45.880 I'm actually I'm a professional motivational speaker. That's what I do. 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:50.960 You were working while on your day head, Wow, did 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:52.600 she have the response you were hoping for? 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:55.800 Yeah, I mean it towards the end of the day, 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:57.919 and it looked like maybe she was just getting tired 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.560 anyways and thinking about her job is never so we 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:02.960 kind of decided to wrap it there, so I figured, 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:04.080 you know, i'd walk her. 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:06.240 So she called the date she wanted it to be 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:07.920 over after the motivational speech. 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:10.200 I don't think right after. I think it was just 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.359 already kind of feeling like it's towards the end of 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:13.080 the night anyway. 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:16.080 Okay, Okay, I might have overdone it a little bit, 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:19.400 because when we did go outside, we were walking to 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:22.400 her car, and there was some kids on skateboards, you know, 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.640 and I try to give them some motivational advice. 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:30.320 The young on the fly, just shouting motivational quotes at them. 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.760 I said, like you you are your own skate ramp 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:34.520 to success. 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:36.880 Oh God, all right, up in the back down again. 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:40.080 A little surprised that didn't run over and try and 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:41.800 beat you up. This was in the middle of the night. 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:46.040 But flip you the bird. 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:49.280 But how did you leave it? With you? And Michelle? 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:52.320 Well, when I dropped her off, I gave her a 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:53.160 little keepsake. 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.960 Oh no, what did you give her? Well? 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.360 I had written down some inspirational quotes. 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.080 Oh can you share one of the things you wrote 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:01.640 down with her? 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:05.599 One of them was a tomorrow is always bigger than today. 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:10.919 Oh I don't know what that means. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.520 But the sun will come out tomorrow. 0:06:11.720 --> 0:06:14.400 Yes, well that's a quote from a song. You can't 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:17.600 steal that. We're gonna get sued. I mean, that's a 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:19.800 nice gesture to be, like, I'm here to support you 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:20.880 and help you out. Right. 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:23.120 If anybody did their job that much on a date 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.200 like it doesn't matter what job it's like, that's a 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:25.640 good point. 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:29.480 I mean, unsolicited advice is always a little touchy for people. 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:32.600 But I understand his sentiment. I think that he was 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:33.640 trying to do the right thing. 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:36.119 Yeah, press her a little bit, because like, how often 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:38.880 do you meet someone who like is a motivational speaker? 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:40.799 But yeah, there's a time and a place. 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.040 Yeah, you know, I might have been just a little 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:45.080 bit nervous, just went back to what I know how 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:45.400 to do. 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:48.000 Yeah, I mean if she says that's a reason, can 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:49.360 you turn it off next time? 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.760 What can you stop being who you are? 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:54.120 Want to know about a bad day and not have 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:55.560 to hear positive feedback? 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:58.480 He's like on. It sounds like he's on all the time. 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:00.480 And like I said, I was there, Ris, what did 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:01.640 you hear about that? Lady? 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:06.120 I don't understand that. I'm asking if you could be relaxed. 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:08.599 Okay, maybe you should relax a little bit on him. 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:10.320 I mean he called to figure out what was wrong, 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:12.840 and that may have been we may think what turned 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:13.160 her off? 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:15.560 Yeah, how long has it been since the date happened? 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:17.600 It's been like a week and a half. 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:20.160 Do you know if she read your motivational quotes? 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:22.880 I don't know. I told her to read them in 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:24.240 the morning, but she didn't read. 0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:24.640 I don't know. 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:25.160 I don't know. 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.480 Maybe she's just waiting for tomorrow to call you. 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:30.280 Yeah, tomorrow is always big, bigger. 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:32.000 Yeah, you never actually get to tomorrow. 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:32.240 You know. 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:34.400 That could have been a little bit confusing to her. 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:36.600 So maybe she'll pick up the phone and we can 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:40.040 clear it all up and motivate her to greatness. Yes, 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:42.560 we're going to ride the escape ramp to success of 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:43.800 the second date update. 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:46.880 You don't get it very big could do it. 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:51.720 Right after this hold on second Date update. I was 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:55.000 going to read some inspirational quotes to motivate my co 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:57.960 host to have a great part too, really, but I'm 0:07:57.960 --> 0:07:59.880 not sure they can take any more inspiration. 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.120 I have been over inspired all. 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:07.800 Not surprised. After we heard from Dirk about his first 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:11.680 date with Michelle, where his natural self came out and 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:16.520 his natural self is being a positive motivational speaker. He 0:08:16.640 --> 0:08:19.640 tried to give some encouraging words to Michelle about her job, 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.880 which she was complaining about. He shouted some affirmations at 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:26.280 some skateboarding teens, even handed Michelle a little piece of 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:29.920 paper with handwritten quotes designed to lift her spirits and 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:33.679 despite all those good vibes and good intentions, Michelle has 0:08:33.760 --> 0:08:34.920 been avoiding him. 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.040 Oh maybe he forgot to put the last one. Call 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.280 me back as the motivational. 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:42.800 That is possible. Sometimes you need to really spell it out. 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:45.040 Dirky didn't put that in your motivational quotes. 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:47.360 That was not one of them. 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.760 Now, okay, maybe add it for next time. 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:52.160 Have you ever heard from other people in your life, 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:56.160 like on a personal level, maybe you overdo it with motivation. 0:08:58.160 --> 0:08:59.960 I'll be honest, I don't have a ton of friends, 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:02.960 so you know, I would say like that is not 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:05.920 something I've heard all that often. But a lot of 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:08.040 people also don't know that much about me, so. 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.360 Yeah, there's not a lot of time to make friends 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:12.400 when you're busy inspiring the world. 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:15.520 I don't know that we know a lot about you 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.400 other than the motivational stuff. 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:18.840 Yeah, yeah, that's actually all we know. 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:20.960 But that's still a positive thing. Like if a guy 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.000 start going through a motivational speech, you're not gonna be 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.520 like shut up, right, he's. 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:28.880 Trying some context, hopefully not on a day. 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.520 I'm just praying that Michelle picks up the phone and 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:35.319 gets us some answers here, because he deserves that, right, 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:38.120 Alexis Yes, right, did you even listen to what I said? 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:39.400 There something we're calling? 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:42.439 Okay, yeah, you go. 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:54.480 Let's style their number. Hopefully she picks up. Here we go. Hello, Hey, 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:55.760 we're looking to speak with Michelle. 0:09:57.400 --> 0:09:58.400 Yes, this is Michelle. 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:01.240 Hey Michelle. I'm not sure if you're ready for this, 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:02.960 but you're on a radio show right now called Brooke 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:03.920 and Jeffrey in the Morning. 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.360 Hey, Michelle, we're good morning. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:12.240 Okay, that was such an annoyed sigh. 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:12.959 We get it. 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:18.040 We're already awake. Yeah, may be sorry. I know it's early. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:21.160 So we're just hoping to make this really quick with 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:26.320 you because we're doing a segment called a second Date Update. Okay, okay, 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:28.600 I don't know if you're familiar, but it's where we 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.360 try to help out our listeners who've gone out with 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.160 somebody recently and they're not getting a call back for 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:34.040 a second meet up. 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:35.240 Yeah. 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:36.040 Sure, oh you heard. 0:10:36.080 --> 0:10:36.920 Okay, you're familiar? 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:38.880 Yeah, yeah, gotcha? 0:10:39.840 --> 0:10:41.840 All right, you want me to speed it up? I see. 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:45.040 So we're calling on behalf of one of our listeners 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.160 named Dirk, who you met up with recently. 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:53.120 Oh god, okay, I'd love to hear how your date went. 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:59.440 It's kind of weird, I guess, Okay, weird in what way? 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:04.160 I mean, like we just went to a bar and stuff, but. 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:06.760 Like, yeah, we heard, I mean, just to recap what 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:08.840 we know about it so far. Yeah, we heard. You 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:11.760 went to a bar, you talked a lot about your 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:14.760 shared interests, you opened up to you about your job 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.160 being a little rough recently, and then he walked you 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:20.280 home through a park by some skateboarding teens. 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:21.600 Yeah. 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:24.880 Did he tell you that he yelled at said skateboarders. 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:26.320 Yeah, that did come up. 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:26.840 He said. 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:31.160 He said that he shouted some affirmations maybe at them, Yeah, 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:33.600 something about the skate ramp of life. 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:35.320 Yeah, what did you think about that? 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:37.320 I mean, he told me that he was like a 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:40.920 motivational speaker or something like that. But like these were 0:11:40.960 --> 0:11:43.319 just like random kids. It was kind of like all putting, 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:44.839 you know, at the end of the day. That was 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:45.760 already kind of weird. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.040 Yeah, but they are skateboarding, so you could tell their 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:50.560 life's kind of on a deathboardje. 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:55.959 Skateboarding is a valid hobby, just like any other hobby. 0:11:56.080 --> 0:11:58.320 Okay, name one skateboarder who went on to do great 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:04.760 things Tony. He's still he's retired. I didn't do anything anyway. Sorry, 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:08.280 but we're not getting sidetracked with the values of skateboarding. 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.679 Back to Dirk Y and you, Yeah, what did you 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:13.760 think about him yelling all the motivational quotes at them? 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:16.520 I mean, I get it, he said, it's like his 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:17.360 job and stuff. 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:19.880 But like he said, he doesn't do it that much. 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:21.480 I was like, yeah, you kind of do it. Was like, 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:23.480 I mean, you already try to motivate me, and now 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:25.600 you're talking to like these kids that are just skateboarding. 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:27.760 And then he's like, I only have like one client 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:30.160 right now anyways. And I'm like, okay, well, are you 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:33.400 like coaching like a CEO or like what's the deal. 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:35.880 I'm like yeah, and he was like I'm the client 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:40.760 right now. What. I was like, you have one client? 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:42.760 And he was like no, it's like me, like I 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:44.280 wake up, I talk to myself in the mirror, like 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.280 I record them, Like the motivational speeches are really helping me. 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.640 So he motivates himself every morning and he considers himself 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:52.440 his own client. 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:54.720 Yeah. No, Like you know, I was like, I'm a 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:56.319 great client to myself right now. 0:12:56.360 --> 0:13:01.040 And what an ultimate that's ultimate job security. You know 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:02.120 that you're not going anywhere. 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.480 Yeah, I was like it's fine. I was like I 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:06.440 get it, Like maybe you're just quirky or some like 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:08.520 I don't I don't know, And I was like, can 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.800 you just tone it down? And I'm like he dropped 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:12.360 me off and like wrote a bunch of quotes down 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:13.880 for me when I was in the bathroom and then 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:15.760 like I like just like he left and I just 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.440 sat there like was I just like punked? I was like, 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:20.800 did I not understand like what he was saying? 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:24.440 Okay, maybe you weren't reading the quotes the right way 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.200 and you need to hear them spoken directly by Dirk 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:29.680 because he is on the other line right now waiting 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:33.880 to talk to you. In no way, that's how this works, 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:35.280 Dirky there. 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:41.760 Yeah, I love Michelle. Oh hi, Dirk, Like it makes 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:44.280 me a little sad to hear that you didn't have 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:46.200 a good time and I want to find time. 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:47.760 Like do I not get it though? Like are you 0:13:47.880 --> 0:13:50.120 actually your own client or am I confused? 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:53.840 Yes, I am a motivational speaker. At the current moment, 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:56.320 I am my only client. 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:59.600 But here like like what am I to do? 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.440 With that, I think maybe dirt. She's a little confused, 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:05.920 because how can you call yourself a professional motivational speaker 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:10.120 if you don't actually speak to anybody else except yourself. 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:10.520 If you don't get paid. 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:13.160 I think that's a part of professional. You could be 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:17.480 aspiring motivational speaker. That's a good maybe title an aspiring 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:18.559 motivational speaker? 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:19.440 Well I did. 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:22.840 I did have two clients in the past. They were 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:25.560 paying clients, but they could not afford my rates. Oh, 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:27.280 which is why I had to drop them. 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:29.760 Okay, so you charge a lot on top of all 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.040 of this, but you can pay for your own rates 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:33.160 like you can afford yourself. 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:36.480 Yeah, I have a good deal works out with myself. 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:40.200 Okay, that's nice. Friends and family discount there. 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:41.480 Do you have another job? 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:46.160 This is currently my main focus. I am writing a 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:48.200 book about my experience. 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:50.200 Of coaching yourself. 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:52.280 What's the title of your book. 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:54.840 I'm writing two books. First book is going to be 0:14:54.920 --> 0:15:00.360 called Starts with Yourself. Starts with Yourself, and then the 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:02.920 second book is if you can't say it to the mirror, 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:04.240 who could you say it to? 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:06.000 And there's no way? 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:12.720 Why are you feeling so inspired by what he says right. 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.120 Now from somebody else, can you not stop? 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.840 We kind of talked to Dirk about that already, like, 0:15:17.920 --> 0:15:20.600 maybe tone it down a little bit, Dirk, and show 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:24.040 her other sides of you, outside of the motivational speaker. 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:26.440 Part impressure in other ways, like who are you? 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:26.640 You know? 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:28.360 Like what do you love to do? What do you 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:29.800 care about? 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:35.840 I love motivating people to be the best way. 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:41.200 Okay, well, I'm pretty motivated to get off the phone now, Jeff. 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:44.600 I don't like that we're all giving up on Dirk 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:45.720 for trying to be himself. 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:47.360 But I don't think he's trying to be himself. I 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.800 think that's the problem, Jeff. He's trying to be a 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:52.120 version of himself that he wants to be. He's not 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:55.760 being who he is. Like, if you're on all the time, 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:57.520 you're not being your authentic self. 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.920 That's my new book long title. 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:03.840 Yeah, well, Dirk, you have some competition in the a 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:06.400 literary world coming up with Brooks here. But I still 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:08.560 like to get you another date. I mean, I know 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:11.000 this is a long shot, but we would offer to 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:13.360 pay for a second date for you, Michelle with Dirk, 0:16:13.560 --> 0:16:15.200 if you're willing to give him another chance. 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:17.960 And you said you liked him outside of that, right, 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:18.600 outside of the. 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:20.200 Too many inspirations. 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:22.160 Let me ask this, do you guys think that you 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:24.240 would feel safe in a room alone with him at 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:25.360 this point after learning all this? 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:28.480 Like I say, you should ask that question to yourself 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:29.040 in the mirror. 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:32.880 Yes, like second book, Yeah, look at you already read 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:33.280 the book. 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.360 This is freaking not It's like, no, I'm sure I'll 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.440 read about him in the news one day, but I'm out. 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:40.720 Yes, that's one of the most inspiring leaders that this 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:41.760 country has ever seen. 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:44.880 I think he's the opposite of dangerous. But yeah, I. 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:47.920 Don't, Dirk, it's sounding like it's a no from Michelle. 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:49.680 Do you have any last words for her? Anything to 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:52.160 motivate her or us or our listeners inspire us. 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.080 It's okay, just look in the mirror. It starts with you. 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:57.720 Yep. I like that. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:01.400 Okay, that's that's good. So it wasn't the best match 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.680 this time, Dirk, but you keep at it, and there's 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:05.600 definitely going to be a woman out there who appreciates 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:07.160 a little bit of motivation in their life. 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:07.879 I believe. 0:17:07.920 --> 0:17:11.679