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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Brig and Jeffrey in the morning and this

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Speaker 1: is your brand new Second Date podcast.

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Speaker 2: Thanks so much for being here.

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Speaker 3: We really appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: Today we got a guy who came up with a

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Speaker 1: strategy on how to make sure his date was still

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Speaker 1: thinking about him the next day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I love every time we say a guy with a strategy.

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Speaker 5: Strategy, and then we usually follow that with it backfire, yes, yeah, exactly, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And they're like, he didn't have a strategy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so you're gonna hear the backfire here in just

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Speaker 5: a second. But we always love to highlight your comments

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Speaker 5: because it really truly means the world that you're here

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Speaker 5: with us, that you're listening, that you're you know, supporting

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Speaker 5: the show.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I saw one from first of all, just

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Speaker 4: love the user name baby j is Cray for her babe.

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Speaker 4: We said, I listen to you guys on my five

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Speaker 4: plus mile runs every morning.

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Speaker 2: Good job.

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Speaker 4: Y'all even helped me get through my first three k

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Speaker 4: I finished tenth in my age gap. My gosh, I

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Speaker 4: just can't imagine racing next to someone who's listening to

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Speaker 4: us in their headphones.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why you're a runner. You don't listen

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Speaker 2: to yourself. Say I'm listening to bad Dating, but maybe

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Speaker 3: Imagine just passing another runner and she can hear herself

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Speaker 3: in their head.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so funny, and thanks so much for listening.

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Speaker 1: Wherever you're listening with appreciated Your brand new Second date

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Speaker 1: starts right now.

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Speaker 3: Second Date update. The best advice Brooke ever gotten radio.

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Speaker 3: I know this because Brooke mentioned it after she heard

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Speaker 3: it at a radio conference. But it was be your

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Speaker 3: authentic self.

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Speaker 2: I hate that piece of advice. What else are you

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Speaker 2: supposed to be? Just the you and it'll all work out?

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Speaker 2: Said no one ever.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it doesn't actually work that way.

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Speaker 3: All right, And that's Brook's authentic self right there, just

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Speaker 3: showing her anger and aggression. Put it right on the.

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Speaker 1: Itun Be your authentic self and make a name for

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Speaker 1: yourself is if you're.

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Speaker 2: A nepo baby.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot more work that is involved that does

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Speaker 1: make you.

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Speaker 3: Okay, cut the music, cut the music, okay. Remember just

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Speaker 3: want me to.

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Speaker 2: Go on about this because it really shaps my heart.

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Speaker 3: We've got enough of the authentic you. I think the

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Speaker 3: same advice I would think would apply to romance, though,

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Speaker 3: to just be yourself, right, I guess, because seriously, too

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Speaker 3: many people are putting up fronts when they're trying to

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Speaker 3: impress love interests on dates, when actually it's probably a

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Speaker 3: lot better for you to just drop the act and

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Speaker 3: be who you really are. Yeah, meaning like for me,

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't say I love hiking.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, and I go on one hike every ten years.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's you sticking true to you. And apparently that's

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Speaker 3: what one of our listeners, Dirk, is all about, staying

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Speaker 3: interests and hobbies as him, which is awesome to hear. So, Dirk,

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Speaker 3: welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: Oh sorry about that hard intro there. I'm glad you

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Speaker 1: are who you are.

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Speaker 3: Do you do you believe her when she says that

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Speaker 3: I believe that? No, I'm asking, does Dirk believe you?

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Speaker 6: I believe you? I do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Jerk and I are on the same page.

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Speaker 3: He's terrified of you, So Dirk, let's just move on.

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Speaker 3: Tell us what's the name of this woman and where

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Speaker 6: So I'm calling about a lady named Michelle. Okay, we

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Speaker 6: met at a volunteer charity event.

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Speaker 1: That's I mean already you have some shared interest because

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Speaker 6: Right, yeah, Yeah, it was the Young Republicans for Grassroo Change.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's good, Brooke, this is awesome.

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Speaker 2: I thought it was like a charity. That is a

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Speaker 3: You know they're helping didn't need grassroots.

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Speaker 3: Keep going. You met at this political party shared events.

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Speaker 6: Look, I was there doing some networking and that's where

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Speaker 3: Awesome, what do you guys do?

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Speaker 6: Just nothing out of the ordinary, I would say. You know,

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Speaker 7: You know.

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Speaker 6: Obviously, you know she was going through some difficulties with

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Speaker 2: Unlocking? Is that the last self help book you read?

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Speaker 3: Wow? Sound like it, right, I do. Like when I

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Speaker 3: one of those speeches for like thirty seconds, it's like,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, yes, I can't. Really, I'm like, you don't

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Speaker 3: Nice gesture for somebody to do to someone who's clearly

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Speaker 6: I'm actually I'm a professional motivational speaker. That's what I do.

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Speaker 1: You were working while on your day head, Wow, did

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean it towards the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: So she called the date she wanted it to be

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Speaker 6: I don't think right after. I think it was just

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Speaker 7: Okay, Okay, I might have overdone it a little bit,

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Speaker 3: The young on the fly, just shouting motivational quotes at them.

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Speaker 6: I said, like you you are your own skate ramp

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Speaker 2: Oh God, all right, up in the back down again.

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Speaker 3: A little surprised that didn't run over and try and

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Speaker 2: But flip you the bird.

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Speaker 3: But how did you leave it? With you? And Michelle?

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Speaker 6: Well, when I dropped her off, I gave her a

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Speaker 2: Oh no, what did you give her? Well?

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Speaker 6: I had written down some inspirational quotes.

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Speaker 1: Oh can you share one of the things you wrote

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Speaker 6: One of them was a tomorrow is always bigger than today.

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Speaker 3: Oh I don't know what that means.

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Speaker 2: But the sun will come out tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: Yes, well that's a quote from a song. You can't

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Speaker 3: steal that. We're gonna get sued. I mean, that's a

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Speaker 3: nice gesture to be, like, I'm here to support you

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Speaker 4: If anybody did their job that much on a date

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Speaker 1: I mean, unsolicited advice is always a little touchy for people.

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Speaker 1: But I understand his sentiment. I think that he was

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Speaker 7: Yeah, press her a little bit, because like, how often

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Speaker 7: do you meet someone who like is a motivational speaker?

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Speaker 3: But yeah, there's a time and a place.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, I might have been just a little

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean if she says that's a reason, can

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Speaker 1: you turn it off next time?

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Speaker 3: What can you stop being who you are?

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Speaker 4: Want to know about a bad day and not have

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Speaker 2: He's like on. It sounds like he's on all the time.

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Speaker 6: And like I said, I was there, Ris, what did

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Speaker 2: I don't understand that. I'm asking if you could be relaxed.

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Speaker 3: Okay, maybe you should relax a little bit on him.

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Speaker 1: I mean he called to figure out what was wrong,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how long has it been since the date happened?

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Speaker 6: It's been like a week and a half.

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Speaker 3: Do you know if she read your motivational quotes?

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Speaker 6: I don't know. I told her to read them in

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Speaker 2: Maybe she's just waiting for tomorrow to call you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tomorrow is always big, bigger.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you never actually get to tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: clear it all up and motivate her to greatness. Yes,

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Speaker 3: we're going to ride the escape ramp to success of

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Speaker 3: the second date update.

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Speaker 2: You don't get it very big could do it.

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Speaker 3: Right after this hold on second Date update. I was

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Speaker 3: going to read some inspirational quotes to motivate my co

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Speaker 3: host to have a great part too, really, but I'm

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Speaker 2: I have been over inspired all.

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Speaker 3: Not surprised. After we heard from Dirk about his first

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Speaker 3: despite all those good vibes and good intentions, Michelle has

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Speaker 1: Oh maybe he forgot to put the last one. Call

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Speaker 1: me back as the motivational.

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Speaker 3: That is possible. Sometimes you need to really spell it out.

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Speaker 3: Dirky didn't put that in your motivational quotes.

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Speaker 6: That was not one of them.

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Speaker 3: Now, okay, maybe add it for next time.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever heard from other people in your life,

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Speaker 1: like on a personal level, maybe you overdo it with motivation.

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Speaker 6: I'll be honest, I don't have a ton of friends,

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Speaker 6: so you know, I would say like that is not

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's not a lot of time to make friends

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Speaker 1: I don't know that we know a lot about you

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Speaker 1: other than the motivational stuff.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's actually all we know.

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Speaker 3: But that's still a positive thing. Like if a guy

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Speaker 2: There something we're calling?

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Speaker 3: Let's style their number. Hopefully she picks up. Here we go. Hello, Hey,

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Speaker 6: Yes, this is Michelle.

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Speaker 3: Hey Michelle. I'm not sure if you're ready for this,

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Speaker 2: Hey, Michelle, we're good morning.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Sure, oh you heard.

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Speaker 8: I'm like yeah, and he was like I'm the client

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Speaker 8: Yeah. No, Like you know, I was like, I'm a

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I was like it's fine. I was like I

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Speaker 3: Okay, maybe you weren't reading the quotes the right way

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I love Michelle. Oh hi, Dirk, Like it makes

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Speaker 6: Yes, I am a motivational speaker. At the current moment,

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Speaker 3: Well I did.

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Speaker 6: I did have two clients in the past. They were

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Speaker 8: Okay, so you charge a lot on top of all

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I have a good deal works out with myself.

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Speaker 6: This is currently my main focus. I am writing a

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Speaker 8: Of coaching yourself.

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Speaker 3: What's the title of your book.

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Speaker 6: I'm writing two books. First book is going to be

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Speaker 3: Why are you feeling so inspired by what he says right.

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Speaker 8: Now from somebody else, can you not stop?

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Speaker 1: We kind of talked to Dirk about that already, like,

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Speaker 2: Part impressure in other ways, like who are you?

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Speaker 7: You know?

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Speaker 2: Like what do you love to do? What do you

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Speaker 6: I love motivating people to be the best way.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, I'm pretty motivated to get off the phone now, Jeff.

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Speaker 3: I don't like that we're all giving up on Dirk

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Speaker 1: But I don't think he's trying to be himself. I

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Speaker 2: That's my new book long title.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, Dirk, you have some competition in the a

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Speaker 2: Too many inspirations.

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Speaker 8: Let me ask this, do you guys think that you

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Speaker 3: Like I say, you should ask that question to yourself

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Speaker 5: Yes, like second book, Yeah, look at you already read

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Speaker 8: This is freaking not It's like, no, I'm sure I'll

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's one of the most inspiring leaders that this

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Speaker 2: I think he's the opposite of dangerous. But yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Don't, Dirk, it's sounding like it's a no from Michelle.

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Speaker 3: Do you have any last words for her? Anything to

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Speaker 6: It's okay, just look in the mirror. It starts with you.

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Speaker 1: Yep. I like that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's that's good. So it wasn't the best match

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Speaker 3: A microscopic amount of motivation.

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Speaker 2: That's what we need to leave with, Dirk.

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Speaker 6: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: We crush the spirits of a motivational speaker in one

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Speaker 1: If we weren't going to do it, it was.

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Speaker 3: Looking Jeffrey in the morning. I don't do this often,

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Speaker 3: but text into seventy five nine too. If you want

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Speaker 1: To take you on a yeah, he can only afford

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Speaker 1: going to be flooded with skateboarders who are really looking,

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Speaker 3: Affirmed by motivation one hundred percent. And I'm sure you do.

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Speaker 3: You get what you pay for, just like when you

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Speaker 2: That is truth.

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Speaker 3: Sure we will call that person who's not calling you back.

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Speaker 3: Will we actually help though, question mark.

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Speaker 2: We'll try.

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Speaker 3: That is a promise.

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is an a for effort type of show.

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Speaker 3: Brook. I know you're kind of anti motivation, but can

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Speaker 3: you say something to inspire people to subscribe to our podcast?

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Speaker 2: It's also free.

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Speaker 3: Yeah big. There you find it online. If you're not

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Speaker 3: at Brook and Jeffrey