WEBVTT - Valentine’s Day: Romantic vs. Not Romantic 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:05.280 Asked someone who got engaged on Valentine's Day. It's corny 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:10.479 and ship because when you asked me, I was excited. 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:15.400 At the same time, I was like, nigger, really Valentine's 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:20.680 Uh huh, what a basic ass move is this? Wow? 0:00:23.920 --> 0:00:27.120 Welcome everyone to hold up the show. That's a whole 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:30.560 lot about it, very little. I am one of your 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.320 co hosts. My name is Josh Johnson, and I am 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:41.160 joined by those love you could could do do je 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:52.720 So you're just not gonna say what you do at 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:55.920 all already? Oh yeah, it's those like so cresparted for 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:59.360 the Daily Show. I do the voice of honey Bee 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:02.600 on The Great North. I produce Lavo Sharpe's One Woman's show, 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:07.240 Don't Reach in the Bag? Um, I get residual checks. 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:11.000 What else do I do? My mom doesn't work, She's 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:14.600 got two phones. It's great. Um, I'm a cat lover 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:19.960 because dogs are booted. Okay, Well, I'm very happy for you. 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:24.600 And this show is where you and I debate topics 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:30.240 that people need to be discussing all the time. We're like, oh, 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:34.880 this government thing, NATO. People don't know what NATO is. 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:38.040 People don't know some people know what NATO is. Like 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:45.440 we can at least the Peter with NATO know what 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:50.120 NATO is. You know how many people all right Nato? 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:54.040 I think at least a handful some people know what 0:01:54.200 --> 0:02:00.920 NATO is? Yeah, but like what's Unesco? What's the world? 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:09.440 W the G eight? What do they do? This is 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:11.000 why we have this show so we don't have to 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:14.720 talk about serious things like that. You know, and the 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.040 G five is And I can tell you it's not 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:20.920 a plane. It's just regular, you know, everyday things that 0:02:20.960 --> 0:02:23.800 we feel passionately about that people actually do know about. 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:28.200 You know. Today's Today's is close to our hearts in 0:02:28.200 --> 0:02:31.520 in a in a figurative and a literal sense. Today's 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:37.520 topic is Valentine's Day? Romantic can you be? Or is 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:44.000 it not? How sad can you be? I February? So 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:46.600 doun't say tell the people which what you landed on? 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:52.440 So for Valentine's Day, I feel like that it shouldn't 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:57.440 be only on the romantic code, right, I don't think 0:02:57.440 --> 0:02:59.560 it has to be only I just think that it is. 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:03.800 But I don't think that was what it was for originally. Well, no, 0:03:03.919 --> 0:03:06.880 that's not true, it was for that originally. I'm saying 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:10.720 that there are so many types of love, so why 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:13.120 do we only want to talk about the love. Well, 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.560 you have to put your mouth on somebody, there's other loves. 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:21.120 You don't put your mouth on anybody. Oh yeah, yeah, 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:23.240 I see what you mean. I mean I landed on 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:26.120 the romantic side just because I think that it's the 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:30.400 one time a year outside of an anniversary where you 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:34.440 can really flex on the person that you love. It 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:38.400 it's birthday, well know what I mean? Those are just 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:41.120 like those are for everybody. So anybody that you have 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:43.160 in your life that's close to you, you should be 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:47.640 getting a Christmas present, but you don't have. Yeah, you 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:49.960 could flex on Christmas. I'm just saying, it's like this 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:53.080 is a romantic one. This is like the don't hand 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:57.880 on February. There's Alexus December to remember because it's your 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:01.960 buy your love when alexis for Christmas? Right, because they 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:06.920 want your flex hard. Ain't no car companies coming up 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:11.760 during the Valentine's Day, Like, hey, body's fine wines for 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:15.320 the Valentine's or you know what is it, Hey, don't 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:17.360 steal that for me. Don't steal that for me. Don't 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:19.520 do that. Yeah, there definitely are now now that you 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:24.360 said it, now that you've given it to them on 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:29.119 an audio platter, thank you so much. And just your ears, 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:35.120 I know, like for like my mom, every one Valentine's 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:38.480 Day would give me and my brother presence because it's 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:43.520 about the lou My mom did something similar. Yeah, your 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.000 mother is the first person who loves you, right, yeah, 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.800 and she's your first Valentine and everything. I get you. 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.960 But I'm just saying that now as an adult, you know, 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:58.000 Valentine's Days is an opportunity two just be like, oh, 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:02.320 I can take you to the next level girl and see. 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:04.960 But what Valentine's They does that it leaves out the 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:08.960 single people. It makes them said like, if you don't 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:10.880 think I cry to a Valentine's Day, you're at your 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:14.880 damn mine. I'm with you. I'm with you. I'm not 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:17.120 saying that you use it. This is what I this 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:19.679 is what I've even said this in stand up before. 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:24.320 For every couple that posts like a selfie of them 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:28.320 on Valentine's Day with like the chocolates and the flowers 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:30.320 and all this stuff like that, and oh my gosh, 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:34.719 he proposed whatever you should legally have to also post 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:37.960 one of you fighting like that, like that should also 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:41.000 because that's the reality. It's like, you know, there's a 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.960 there's a day where you're nothing but killing it and 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:45.760 there's a day where you want to kill each other. 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:49.800 That's just normal life, right, Because as someone who got 0:05:50.080 --> 0:06:00.240 engaged on Valentine's Day, it's corny and ship Compluteing asked me, 0:06:00.320 --> 0:06:02.000 I was excited at the same time, I was like, nigger, 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:13.560 really Valentine's Uh huh, what a basic ass move is this? Wow? Okay, 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:15.800 I mean, I said, yes, it was still a corny 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:19.159 but I mean but also after a month I broke 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:20.960 off the engagement and a month after then I broke 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:23.480 up with him completely. What I'm saying is that she 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:26.800 was corny. She was corny. I think it makes more 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:29.719 people sad than it does happy, is what I personally believe. 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:32.160 Like you think so yes, because like every year on 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:35.320 Valentine's Day, I give out Valentine's to my friends. I 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:37.400 go and find like the little kid Valentine's used to 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.280 get in like elementary school, or I'll make something. I 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:42.040 go to Michael's and get like the little like uh 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:45.840 the little craft kits and make like a little like 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.800 Valentine or something, or I go to the dollar tree, 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:50.080 like you know, I did it for you at work 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:53.440 one time I came up look gift back and see 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:57.039 do I make one for everybody? No? Yea, So now 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.160 I have to like do some fun ones because I 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:03.440 made some valent lines in lockdown, not like no, when 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.840 we're still working at home, and I made some shout 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:09.280 out to Cricket for sending me a cricket joy um. 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:10.640 And I was making them and I was making like 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:13.520 shaker ones, and they weren't coming out the way I 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:15.080 wanted them to. And I was afraid to send them 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.320 to people because because they take them by of the envelope. 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:21.679 And then then I glitter all over their house and sidebar, 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:23.720 have you seen the video of the girl whose boyfriend 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:25.960 cheated on her and she threw glitter all over his 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:29.960 fucking house? No, like she And it wasn't like the 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:34.280 little things of glitter you get like the like when 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:40.520 you were a kid. This is like restaurant seasoning size 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:45.360 containers of glitter. And she went through every room in 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:49.600 his house and the carpet too, and she had various 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:53.840 kid bottles with her various colors, and so I'm talking 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:56.840 about she went in the bed and went through the sheets, 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:03.480 letter in the tubs, so unnecessary, all the things. Now, 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:06.240 I don't think. So it's just like I get it, 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:12.120 I get it, then leave, then leave and not not 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:16.720 really she she left. She left later what I said, 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:20.080 And I saw a quote that said, uh, she broke 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:24.000 nothing but destroyed everything. Yeah, I mean, if you like, 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:28.000 here's the thing glitter in his deviled eggs. Yes, that's hilarious, 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.679 Like glitter in the kitchen means glitter and all the food. 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:32.679 I'm with you. I mean, this is a man. It 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:35.240 was a he's a white man's house, and she wouldn't 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:37.800 like she threw glitter in the refrigerator. But it was nothing. 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:41.560 But it hit nothing. Yeah, just hit the catchup bottle. 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:43.839 It just hit egg catchup bottle and two cans of 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.240 Coca Cola and a six pack of here because it 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:47.719 was a white man's house. I'm not to say that 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:50.040 they don't. But he's also an early twenty so he 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:56.760 survives off of cereal. Um. Busting out windows, yeah, going 0:08:56.960 --> 0:09:02.839 full carry underwood yeah, yeah is a felony. Uh if 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:04.960 you cheat on somebody, should you sunk up their ship? 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:08.720 I don't know, right, someone cheats on you, I guide 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.800 you on me to funk up a ship. No, because 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.640 I know he's still a worthless human being. Time got 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.760 back at him for me. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:22.719 But like the moment, in the moment, yeah, I wanted to. 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:25.960 The thing is the way the reason that happened sucked 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:28.520 me up so bad? Is that the story you're getting 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:30.319 retold to me because like, oh, I felt guilty. I 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:32.520 was lying the last time I told you what happened. Actually, 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:35.760 this is what happened. And I'm like, every time I 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:37.920 started moving past it was like it was crazy. Every 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:39.960 time I was like, I was like, okay, I forgave 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:46.120 him and I started moving past it. He Actually that's 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:47.559 not the way it went down. This is how it 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:51.680 went down. I'm just like, bro, shut up. Yeah yeah, 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:55.760 I mean, if anything, that's the glitter of that's like 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:59.760 the glitter of like memory, you know, right, But it's like, 0:09:59.800 --> 0:10:07.200 why are you antagonizing me? I got us completely off 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:09.280 task like I usually do, because we were talking about 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:12.200 like cheating and stuff like that, because I got proposed 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:16.160 to Valentine's Day? Corny ass bullshit. Yeah, do you think 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:21.200 that with Valentine's Day? How about this? They're there are 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:25.720 gestures that I think I agree or like very corny. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:29.079 I think that, um Like, I'm not saying everyone should 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:31.719 make their Valentine's Day a secret, but I do think 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:35.079 a lot of it is uh is best left to 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:37.840 like the couple that's in it, because what you end 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:42.560 up doing is in sharing your love, you end up 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:49.360 showing people how like unsettling y'all are? Do you know 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:52.160 what I'm saying. It's like the thing in high school 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:53.840 where the girl I was walking on all the balloons 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:55.480 with the guys walking on all the stuff. Or it's 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.280 like a couple who like they they do way too 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:02.439 much on Valentine's Day. Yeah, so I think it's a 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:06.959 romantic holiday and I think that that to me, it 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:10.040 makes sense. Like even when I've been single, I've been like, Okay, 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:12.800 well good for them, you know what I mean. But 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:15.599 I think that it also does give the opportunity for 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:19.439 people to really show off that they might be out 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:22.599 of their minds. I mean, I think every day is 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:26.719 an opportunity that you were out of your mind, and 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:31.120 if you're not using every day an opportunity to show 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:35.720 people m that you're out of your mind. Okay, are 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:40.480 you living your best life? I are you reaching your 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:46.400 full potential as a human being? Are you doing the work? 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:51.199 Are you being the best you for you? Are you 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:59.120 asking real questions? Right now? I can't tell anymore. I 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:02.760 mean the first one was a little wild, and then 0:12:02.800 --> 0:12:09.160 they just got progressively more insane. I just saying that 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:13.800 in my life I've spent I'm thirty nine years old, 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:21.400 so there have been like thirty eight thirty nine Valentine's 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:25.200 Days in my life. One through fifteen, I guess can't 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:28.800 count because I was a child. One through doesn't count, 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:33.319 so one through doesn't count. So I'm talking sixteen to 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:40.240 thirty nine, right, twenty three years right out them, twenty 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:47.480 three years, I've probably had maybe five good Valentine's Days 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:51.640 if I had one at all, five good ones, okay, five, 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:55.079 just five, and gently just five. Had the opportunity to 0:12:55.160 --> 0:13:02.040 experience of Valentine's Day with a significant other, so I 0:13:02.120 --> 0:13:06.520 don't have to experience the frame of reference. Um, and 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:08.280 I'm trying to sound like a hater, but I also 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:12.240 wanted to be like, you know, in the spirit of transparency, 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.120 there's nothing, there's something there's an intersection. There's a really 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:28.400 beautiful intersection where, um, I don't know, let me, let 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:30.520 me figure out the best way to describe this. Where 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:37.360 people take sort of office see like rhetoric or or 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:44.080 like office language, and they incorporate either that or incorporate 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:48.320 that into blackness. That makes for beautiful turns of phrase, 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.079 like like really, like do you do you see what 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:54.599 I mean? Because in the spirit of feels very like 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:56.880 a CEO was about to tell you that we're out 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.920 of money, right, but when you said transparency, there was 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.120 something that was like that was like, yeah, I think 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.840 that this is what corporate America has been missing. It's 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:10.280 just a black woman at the top of Like, in 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.079 the spirit of transparency, I want to let all of 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:15.400 you know that you no longer have jobs, you know, 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:19.520 because right now the emails read very cold. They don't 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:24.200 read with that sort of uplifting Sunday morning gospel, no 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:28.600 warmth type of vibe, no warmth right, yeah, and that's 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.720 why I laughed so hard at in the spirit of 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:34.040 parents see for me, in the spirit of I feel 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:36.360 like it's a black thing, and then transparency is the 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:39.320 work thing. Okay, yeah, but you see that's what I mean. 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:42.000 I'm like, I don't know which thing is, but they're 0:14:42.080 --> 0:14:46.000 they're they're molding together. The melding up things, Yes, is 0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.840 in the spiritful transparency. Also, it's also the name of 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.160 the group chat of Um all of us on me 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:53.960 and my friends with the Bahamas, not with you. I 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:56.160 always said one text I was I was in the thing. 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:59.880 I didn't go to the Bamas. And I remember I 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.760 I said what text of Everybody was like, it's a bit, Josh. 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:04.920 I wanted to be like, yeah, I know. I was 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:10.760 trying to help. I was like, Josh did good, Josh 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:14.360 did good. Everybody was like, no, you are here. It's 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:16.880 a bit. I'm like all right, And I was like, 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:18.520 we don't have to do like that. I was sitting 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:20.040 by the pool and y'all had to my friend like that, 0:15:22.880 --> 0:15:29.440 sitting there drinking. JAD like, hey, you have to do 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:35.040 my friend. I think I'm not trying to sound like 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:38.800 a hater, but I just spent so many Valentine's Days just, 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:43.080 you know, not enjoying it. There was other people enjoyed it, 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:46.080 and I think a lot of people feel that there 0:15:46.320 --> 0:15:51.480 is a pressure. I also know if you first there's 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.840 also a lot of times where I've I've met someone 0:15:55.160 --> 0:16:00.520 like right before Valentine's Day, that's my favorite, like two 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:04.600 three weeks way to close. Like when I met the 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:08.400 mechanic it was like the end of January, and he 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:13.920 did give me a card. In the front of it said, um, 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:16.440 I like you, and then we opened the insid and 0:16:16.520 --> 0:16:20.520 it's all your fault, which is very much him. Um 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:23.320 may no longer have it. I ripped it up and 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:28.040 throw it away. But but it is a cute card. 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:32.840 It's in the moment in on Valentine's Day twenty two 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:38.240 thousand seven. The sentiment was enjoyed by the following year 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:44.680 and the stubbs the point of years he had a 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:50.680 great way of not being very dependable around that holiday. 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:54.680 But that is neither hither nor thither. Um. I will 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:58.320 say that there does seem to be a convenient Uh, 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:07.960 there's a kind venient type of argument or trip, like 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.960 something tends to happen. Sometimes broke dudes will start an 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:14.639 argument with you before Valentine's Day so they can use 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:18.680 the excuse to not get you anything, and then, you know, 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:26.960 very conveniently reconcile after the holiday, leaving them to therefore 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:32.440 think that they are not responsible for giving you anything 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:34.119 for Valentine's Day. I think it just like us a 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:36.840 lot of pressure. Like there were a couple of comics 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:38.720 for this one. I was like, he said, if it 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.080 wasn't for me giving him something, it was five years 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:42.680 in a world that I gave him something a Valentine's 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:44.960 Day and it was the only thing you ever got, 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:48.520 he said. He said he always looked forward because he said, 0:17:48.680 --> 0:17:50.440 he said, I knew if I didn't get anything, I 0:17:50.520 --> 0:17:52.600 knew I would get a card from you, m hm, 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.520 which I always thought was nice because it's like it 0:17:55.600 --> 0:17:58.000 was very sweet. Yeah, because it's like some people don't 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:01.000 get things and it's like it's we want to act 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:02.879 like that's like, oh, it doesn't matter, but it's like 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.800 it does make you sad. Yes, it definitely can make 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:11.960 you sad in in that comparison, but I guess I 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:18.600 also say that there is something to like having having 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:21.800 a thing that like My initial point is I think 0:18:21.880 --> 0:18:28.119 that Valentine's Day can and deserves to be romantic because 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:33.120 it's a it's an extra thing outside of uh, your 0:18:33.320 --> 0:18:38.040 anniversary or birthday or just cause that can be you know, 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:42.600 a nice night out or like an opportunity to do 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:47.840 something nice for each other. The the overall um projection 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:50.920 out to the world is where I think both to me, 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:54.840 makes people sad, shows people off that they're crazy, and 0:18:55.800 --> 0:19:00.359 creates a weird uh level of comparison, even between couples. 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:03.359 So the way that I'll admit that Valentine's Day can 0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:08.119 be toxic is, um, there was this time my buddy 0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:12.760 was out to a dinner with his girlfriend. Right, this 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:18.600 is like and it was one of those um, what 0:19:18.720 --> 0:19:20.480 do you call it? It was. It was one of 0:19:20.560 --> 0:19:25.320 those prefixed menus for Valentine's Day. So it's nothing but 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:29.600 couples in the restaurant, right, another couple couples right, old 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:33.080 old hall a bit everything, right, but in the middle 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:36.240 of dinner service, which is pretty much nine pm, So 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:39.119 everybody that came in an eight that that might be 0:19:39.200 --> 0:19:41.520 about to leave, everybody that's getting there at nine, and 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:45.400 people walking in for their nine thirty, this dude gets 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:49.359 on one knee and proposes to his girlfriend and just 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:55.320 ruined Valentine's Day for everybody else left in the restaurant, 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:57.680 because think about it, it's like you got her a 0:19:57.720 --> 0:20:01.760 little bracelet or whatever. This dude got her commitment, and 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:03.720 you just gotta sit there for the next hour to 0:20:03.800 --> 0:20:09.200 have be like, so do you like your fish? He 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:15.480 ruined everybody else's romantic evening. That's how my friend described it. 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:17.520 He was like it sucked all the air out the 0:20:17.600 --> 0:20:20.359 room because every dude in the room was like, God, dang, like, 0:20:20.480 --> 0:20:22.760 why you gotta do that? You can't do that outside. 0:20:24.960 --> 0:20:26.960 You gotta do it in the middle of different Yeah, 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:35.160 like yes, absolutely, just staring like all right, abrace, it's nice, 0:20:35.160 --> 0:20:38.640 it's not a rain. But also there's probably some women 0:20:38.640 --> 0:20:40.680 in there would be like, God, I hope he doesn't 0:20:40.680 --> 0:20:42.840 do that to me. Now I'm with you. I mean 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:45.119 he can't. Now imagine if you're the third person to 0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:48.200 propose in the same restaurant and one night, how embarrassing 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:52.280 that ship would be. That would actually be wild. Is 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:55.879 like I also have something to say, might as well 0:20:56.040 --> 0:21:02.840 keep clapping? Do it? Sucking spartacus hmm. I saw this 0:21:03.000 --> 0:21:05.800 name and this guy like was like in the middle 0:21:05.880 --> 0:21:11.119 of the mall right, and he bit down on one knee. 0:21:13.000 --> 0:21:15.879 So you see him bent down on one knee, but 0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:18.960 he's holding the ring in one hand, but his he's 0:21:19.000 --> 0:21:21.439 hold the ring in his head is down and then 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:26.280 you see the girl walking away, right, So she obviously 0:21:26.359 --> 0:21:30.840 said no m and then the caption read she could 0:21:30.880 --> 0:21:33.600 have just said yes and changed her mind later. She 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:36.800 didn't have to embarrass someone's son in public like that. 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:43.040 And then the next comment was like the next comment, 0:21:43.640 --> 0:21:45.560 but I think it was like some woman going, first 0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:48.960 of all, fuck you. This is more of a the 0:21:49.080 --> 0:21:52.359 toxic mindset that we have towards women, because it's just like, so, 0:21:52.480 --> 0:21:55.320 you wanted this girl to say yes to him, to 0:21:55.440 --> 0:21:58.960 trick him. So a group of people didn't. So the 0:21:59.040 --> 0:22:02.600 group a straight dingers, Yeah, he's either gonna be embarrassed 0:22:02.640 --> 0:22:05.399 now or embarrassed later. Right, didn't hear her say no? 0:22:06.240 --> 0:22:08.399 It was like someone else said, It's like he probably 0:22:08.480 --> 0:22:11.840 embarrassed her because now she has to tell him no 0:22:12.000 --> 0:22:14.879 in public. Yeah. Like this is the thing where it 0:22:14.960 --> 0:22:18.640 just like we're just it's like that was someone's first 0:22:18.720 --> 0:22:22.800 reaction to singing this because oh my god, she embarrassed him. 0:22:23.320 --> 0:22:26.359 I'll even pitch you this, right. I think we should 0:22:26.440 --> 0:22:30.400 keep Valentine's Day romantic. That's my side of the argument. 0:22:30.480 --> 0:22:32.119 But I do think we should take some of the 0:22:32.240 --> 0:22:35.800 mystery out of proposals because too many people, too many 0:22:35.880 --> 0:22:39.160 people are over here being proposed too wrong or doing 0:22:39.200 --> 0:22:42.320 proposals wrong. It's like depending on who you're with, because 0:22:42.440 --> 0:22:44.960 a proposal is different than a relationship. There are some 0:22:45.080 --> 0:22:47.760 people that are very quiet and very personal that would 0:22:47.760 --> 0:22:50.879 actually love a huge gesture, and then there's people there 0:22:50.920 --> 0:22:53.040 in the opposite, there are people who were like, maybe 0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:55.080 they're in the public eye or whatever, so they want 0:22:55.200 --> 0:22:58.919 their their moment like that to be very personal and intimate. Right, 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:02.480 I think guest thing is done because people people don't 0:23:02.520 --> 0:23:05.399 play with guessing anymore. So it's like I think that 0:23:05.680 --> 0:23:07.840 there needs to be a conversation. It may not even 0:23:07.880 --> 0:23:10.399 happen that year. I don't even think it should happen 0:23:11.240 --> 0:23:13.520 to me. Obviously it should not happen in the same 0:23:13.600 --> 0:23:16.439 week as you're going to do it. But even if 0:23:16.480 --> 0:23:18.360 it happens in the same year, I think there needs 0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:20.560 to be a conversation way ahead of time of like 0:23:21.600 --> 0:23:24.920 what do you think about you know, proposals, or what 0:23:25.000 --> 0:23:27.119 do you think about this type of proposal or whatever, 0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:30.159 because then you at least get a sense because now 0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:33.080 if somebody's embarrassed, that's on them because they told you 0:23:33.240 --> 0:23:35.240 that's the type of thing that they liked. Yeah, I 0:23:35.280 --> 0:23:37.439 did see something online where someone was like eat her 0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:41.639 and her significant other talked about like, this is the 0:23:41.800 --> 0:23:45.640 kind of ring I want ring. I want to take 0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:47.440 the mestry out of it. You want to be happy, 0:23:48.359 --> 0:23:50.600 tell us what you want about the number of people 0:23:52.080 --> 0:23:55.800 that have been proposed to that are walking around with 0:23:55.920 --> 0:24:01.040 a ring they didn't want ugly ring, but you don't. 0:24:01.040 --> 0:24:03.080 You're supposed to ask because someone's mom or someone's friend 0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:05.080 and all the other ship. But you got a ring 0:24:05.160 --> 0:24:07.320 you didn't want. You got a big gesture and you 0:24:07.400 --> 0:24:09.119 didn't want one, or you got a little gesture and 0:24:09.160 --> 0:24:13.320 you want a big one. You know. It's uh, I'm 0:24:13.400 --> 0:24:17.040 fully with you. There should be no photographer that hot. Yeah, 0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:21.000 I think. But also it's like because when I got proposed, 0:24:21.040 --> 0:24:23.240 so I didn't know it was coming mm hmm. But 0:24:23.280 --> 0:24:26.720 I start proposed in a bedroom. So but I also 0:24:26.880 --> 0:24:29.520 feel like this this is my thing. You got proposed 0:24:29.560 --> 0:24:43.560 that I didn't have a shirt. I did mine offense, 0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:48.920 neither did he. That would be wild if he came 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.040 into the suit that you don't have a shirt. He 0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:55.159 was like, I'm wearing a bra right now? What are 0:24:55.200 --> 0:25:01.320 you doing it's crazy? Um No. I think that a 0:25:01.480 --> 0:25:03.320 lot of the guests work can be taken out by 0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:06.520 genuinely just having all that communication ahead time. I know 0:25:06.600 --> 0:25:09.040 it takes some of the mystery out of it, which 0:25:09.119 --> 0:25:11.639 is fun for people. But I also think that a 0:25:12.560 --> 0:25:15.760 you you either if you want to live in mystery, 0:25:16.440 --> 0:25:19.200 you're gonna have to accept the fact that sometimes you're 0:25:19.240 --> 0:25:21.119 gonna get something that's not gonna be the way you 0:25:21.160 --> 0:25:27.399