Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Overcome for podcast. I'm your host,
Speaker 1: Jennica Lopez. Thank you guys so much for joining me
Speaker 1: on this beautiful Tuesday morning, or whatever the day of
Speaker 1: the week it is for you. I took a very
Speaker 1: much well needed two week break. I was on vacation
Speaker 1: for my birthday, and I got back and needed to recalibrate,
Speaker 1: recenter myself and put myself together to be able to
Speaker 1: give you guys my all. I am so excited to
Speaker 1: be talking to you guys and to just work our
Speaker 1: brains a little bit. I was out in Europe doing
Speaker 1: a lot of reflecting. I like I said, it was
Speaker 1: for my birthday, and I was very very grateful to
Speaker 1: be able to be out in Europe on my dream trip,
Speaker 1: and I was just thanking God, and I just remember
Speaker 1: having a moment and I was sitting like wow, tears
Speaker 1: were flowing, and I was like, thank you Jesus, because
Speaker 1: I have been blessed. I have financially been blessed to
Speaker 1: be able to save the money to be able to go.
Speaker 1: I've been planning for this trip for like two years.
Speaker 1: I've been saving the money because going to Europe isn't cheap,
Speaker 1: and I know the type of person I am. I
Speaker 1: want to be able to be enjoying myself and be
Speaker 1: flexible and do as I please. So I am very
Speaker 1: proud to say that I saved up my very own
Speaker 1: money from all my hard work. And I just realized, like,
Speaker 1: thank you God for all the work that you have
Speaker 1: blessed me with to be able to make it here.
Speaker 1: And I just realized, like, Wow, I'm in a whole
Speaker 1: nother space of my life that I feel like everybody
Speaker 1: deserves to be in. And I'm not talking about financially,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about spiritually emotionally. And the end of the
Speaker 1: year is coming around, and I thought, I'm like, how
Speaker 1: do I want to finish the year? Do I want
Speaker 1: to finish the year or start off the year? Do
Speaker 1: I want to finish the year strong or start off
Speaker 1: the year strong? And usually, and I feel like everybody
Speaker 1: can relate. When the end of the year comes around,
Speaker 1: we all just kind of tend to be lazy, flop out,
Speaker 1: like not really care, like Okay, we'll just do it
Speaker 1: for the beginning of the year. The new year knew me.
Speaker 1: You know, we all set this expectation, and I've talked
Speaker 1: about it before. We just set these expectations on ourselves.
Speaker 1: We put too much pressure, and it just doesn't end
Speaker 1: up happening, and then we end up here again nine
Speaker 1: ten months down the road, and you're just waiting for
Speaker 1: the new year to come around again. And I thought,
Speaker 1: I'm like, why do we why do us humans tend
Speaker 1: to leave things for the new year, Like it sounds nice,
Speaker 1: but why doesn't it sound better to end the year
Speaker 1: off strong and go into and already going into the
Speaker 1: new year with like this clear mindset and more prepared
Speaker 1: than ever. And I saw some tiktoks and I saw
Speaker 1: people doing Winter Arc, which is and I've done like
Speaker 1: the seventy Day hard like in the middle of the
Speaker 1: year and and those type of challenges per se. Let's
Speaker 1: say so, Winter Arc is basically a challenge where starts
Speaker 1: in October, ends and on New Year's and you're just
Speaker 1: basically creating this new habit. You're basically changed. You're doing
Speaker 1: what you should be doing in the new year in
Speaker 1: October and going into your strong And I thought that
Speaker 1: was so amazing. I'm starting and I'm doing it. I
Speaker 1: obviously gave myself like grace time and period because I
Speaker 1: was in Europe majority of October and I'm going to
Speaker 1: be traveling, but having a new routine, eating better, taking
Speaker 1: care of yourself, and really prioritizing yourself is so important.
Speaker 1: I really feel like that's in the stage and the
Speaker 1: level that I'm at in my life. When when you
Speaker 1: prioritize yourself so much and you give yourself the all,
Speaker 1: you stop giving your attention to let's say, boys or drama,
Speaker 1: negative energy, negative things that just doesn't serve you. You flourish.
Speaker 1: It turns from it from what you're feeding yourself on
Speaker 1: the inside. It comes out on the outside so beautifully
Speaker 1: and you can tell, and you can just see how
Speaker 1: light it feels. And I was sitting there in Europe
Speaker 1: and I was just like wow, God, Like you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't think I would ever get here, Like I
Speaker 1: my dream trip. I'm on my dream trip. I was
Speaker 1: I've been dreaming of Italy since I was little. And
Speaker 1: I'm here and I'm healthy and I'm okay. Like you know,
Speaker 1: it seemed unreachable, And I know that there's things that
Speaker 1: you may be feeling in your life that seems so
Speaker 1: out of reach. But if you once you just put
Speaker 1: in the work and you trust the world of God,
Speaker 1: and you just see like wow, it all flourishes and
Speaker 1: it comes to you and it's perfect timing. And I
Speaker 1: love this concept of reinventing yourself, of giving yourself the
Speaker 1: all because at the end of the day, it's just
Speaker 1: you and no one's going to care about your emotions.
Speaker 1: No one's going to pay attention to your growth more
Speaker 1: than you. And that's okay. Nobody has to be okay
Speaker 1: with where you're at, Like this is you're doing this
Speaker 1: for you, and I encourage you. I encourage I am
Speaker 1: even encouraging myself, like to continue, like don't let this
Speaker 1: once you get to a certain point in your life,
Speaker 1: Like you want more, you want to keep going, and
Speaker 1: you want to apply pressure, and this is the time
Speaker 1: right now. And I truly believe, like at the end
Speaker 1: of the year, apply that pressure now. Go build a routine.
Speaker 1: Wake up at seven am, go to the gym every day,
Speaker 1: make sure you're drinking your water. Read something. I feel
Speaker 1: like reading is so important, Like it brings so much
Speaker 1: awareness and intelligence to you, Like you're better feeding yourself
Speaker 1: something from a book, whether that's even like a romantic
Speaker 1: sci fi book. Like I just feel like once you're
Speaker 1: not paying attention to everything online on social media, like
Speaker 1: your health skyrockets. Help social media is so draining and
Speaker 1: it carries so much weight that it's like at the
Speaker 1: end of the day you're just like, oh, like this
Speaker 1: is too much. So definitely picking up a book, going outside.
Speaker 1: I feel like we don't go outside enough. Go outside,
Speaker 1: take those hot girl walks and reinvent this new you.
Speaker 1: Talk to yourself. Journal I'm so big on journally and
Speaker 1: talking to a therapist, like giving yourself that time of
Speaker 1: day like this, this is the time where you give
Speaker 1: yourself the off. If you just got out of a relationship. Girl, boys,
Speaker 1: this is the time for you to shine. Exit out
Speaker 1: those friendships that don't serve you if they I got
Speaker 1: a question the other day where it's like, how have
Speaker 1: you learned to pick your friends? And to be honest,
Speaker 1: it hasn't been very easy at all. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like I've struggled picking friends or making friends. And I'm
Speaker 1: now that I'm twenty seven and I'm in this stage
Speaker 1: of my life like I'm very aware my discernment. And
Speaker 1: that's another thing. Once you start putting this work in,
Speaker 1: you start realizing what you want more of, Like you
Speaker 1: want the same for your friends. You want the same
Speaker 1: people around you doing the same things, because once someone's
Speaker 1: on the same page as you, it's kind of like
Speaker 1: you're not getting me. And it's not anything to like
Speaker 1: change people, but it's like, you know, once there's a
Speaker 1: friend that's always working and there's a friend that's laying
Speaker 1: at home at bed in bed all day, and it's like, no,
Speaker 1: like you know, we have to have the same goals,
Speaker 1: not the same goals, but you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like you have to have the same mentality mentality to
Speaker 1: inspire each other, to move each other, to keep people going.
Speaker 1: Like and I feel like once you start making that
Speaker 1: circle and it'll happen, it'll naturally happen. This is something
Speaker 1: that comes to you unexpected, like you know, your circle
Speaker 1: gets smaller and you realize, like, Okay, this person is
Speaker 1: for me, this person is for me, and you see
Speaker 1: their intentions, you see their purity, you see the genuineness
Speaker 1: through their hearts, like you could just feel it, and
Speaker 1: you just become more self aware. And when you're picking friends,
Speaker 1: you got to look at people that like, I think,
Speaker 1: more than anything, don't want to take anything from you
Speaker 1: or energy, that are just that don't bring peace. When
Speaker 1: they drain your energy and they don't bring peace, that
Speaker 1: is a big no no. When you leave them at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, when you guys go home
Speaker 1: separate ways and you feel like like I don't feel drained,
Speaker 1: then I truly believe that those friends are meant to
Speaker 1: be in your life and the ones that do drain you.
Speaker 1: I do believe that, you know, take a step away,
Speaker 1: like take some time. I feel like your energy and
Speaker 1: who you are is a person is so precious and
Speaker 1: important that you need to take care of it. And
Speaker 1: more than anything, the goal is ultimately to be better
Speaker 1: prepared for let's say, in this case, the new year,
Speaker 1: developing healthy habits and giving yourself self care. I'm really
Speaker 1: big on taking care of like my hygien I'm being
Speaker 1: I'm a lady, you guys, I'm a lady. I get
Speaker 1: my petticare, I get my nails done. And it might
Speaker 1: be a little too much, and it sometimes it might
Speaker 1: not be financially available to you guys, but there's alternatives
Speaker 1: and there's way to do things. Men notice and I
Speaker 1: feel like, Okay, I'm not gonna lie because when I
Speaker 1: was in Europe, I got hit on like two times.
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, I'm like, what's going on in the
Speaker 1: United States? No, But in Europe, like I really did,
Speaker 1: and I was like, maybe it's just how I'm the
Speaker 1: doors open. Like I feel like when you're okay with
Speaker 1: yourself internally, like you just come off as like a
Speaker 1: more attractive they want to know more about you. And
Speaker 1: I felt like that out there in Europe, like I
Speaker 1: felt like, wow, like this is you know, I felt
Speaker 1: like something keeps calling me or you know, I feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of eyes are on me, and I'm
Speaker 1: like why do people keep looking at me? And and
Speaker 1: I really thought, I'm like wow, like maybe I'm just
Speaker 1: really in another era. And obviously people are different. And
Speaker 1: even when I got back home, like I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm not the same person as a lot of people
Speaker 1: around me. And that's definitely okay. But that's just more
Speaker 1: of a sign to me like Okay, you're leveling up.
Speaker 1: Now it's time. Now it's time to you know, new
Speaker 1: things are coming, Greater things are coming. I'm getting older,
Speaker 1: me thinking I'm like forty but I just turned in
Speaker 1: twenty seven. But you know what I mean, Like you
Speaker 1: just kind of you get older, and you're just like,
Speaker 1: I want more, want to I want to do something.
Speaker 1: And when you create these healthy habits and you're taking
Speaker 1: care of yourself, those things just flow naturally. And I'm
Speaker 1: such a huge believer and whatever happens happens, and everything
Speaker 1: is in perfect timing and there's a reason for everything.
Speaker 1: And I really want to encourage you guys, like reinventing
Speaker 1: yourself or giving yourself you're all is so rewarding. When
Speaker 1: you start focusing on going to the gym. I know
Speaker 1: people hate it. There's people I hated it my whole life,
Speaker 1: but now that I'm like here, I enjoy it. It's
Speaker 1: my private time when I'm sitting by myself getting my pedicure,
Speaker 1: Like like, this is a privilege. This is something that
Speaker 1: we can moments that we can really appreciate and just
Speaker 1: give ourself the time. Pay attention to yourself more, listen
Speaker 1: to what you're saying, listen to what you're consuming, listen
Speaker 1: to what you're reading. And maybe you're not ready to
Speaker 1: do that right now. Maybe you're not ready to find
Speaker 1: out certain parts about you that you never knew about,
Speaker 1: because that'll happen. You start discovering yourself and you just
Speaker 1: see things you're like, oh, I didn't know I like this.
Speaker 1: Oh I really don't like that. You start paying attention
Speaker 1: to the those little details you and sometimes it's like
Speaker 1: it's very uncomfortable, it's very there's a shift and you
Speaker 1: have to be okay with change. You have to learn
Speaker 1: how to be like, okay, this is this is going
Speaker 1: to take me somewhere better. Do not stop once you
Speaker 1: feel that moment of uncomfortability, keep going, keep pushing yourself
Speaker 1: beyond that uncomfortability, because there's something greater for you at
Speaker 1: that finish line. And even you know, even if the
Speaker 1: finish line keeps going farther and farther and farther, you're
Speaker 1: getting closer. You're also changing for the better. You're changing
Speaker 1: for your future husband, for your future children, for your
Speaker 1: family members. And at the end of the day, I
Speaker 1: feel like that's what's important and I keep that in mind,
Speaker 1: like change for the future, you change for your for
Speaker 1: your children, how are you going to break generational curses?
Speaker 1: How are you going to be healthy for them? And
Speaker 1: this is such a pivotal moment at the end of
Speaker 1: the year because yes, you're surrounded kind of by you know, laziness,
Speaker 1: it's the holidays, it's it's loving, it's you don't want
Speaker 1: to do you want to eat, you want to do nothing,
Speaker 1: you just want to chill. It's like, no, give yourself,
Speaker 1: build the discipline, build the discipline to get outside, build
Speaker 1: your routine, read a book, go meet somebody new. Like
Speaker 1: this is that time, because it is something you're so
Speaker 1: used to being just at home doing nothing. So when
Speaker 1: you switch it and you have a new routine, it's
Speaker 1: like whoa and it changes and you're ready to go
Speaker 1: into the new year. I feel like that, you know,
Speaker 1: do not leave it for the beginning of the year.
Speaker 1: Do it now. Do this now, and I promise you
Speaker 1: by the new year, you're just gonna be like, all right,
Speaker 1: this year's mine. That's it. We're doing this. I already
Speaker 1: feel amazing. You don't even have to be like by
Speaker 1: this time. In this in the middle of the year,
Speaker 1: I want to have a built routine and I want
Speaker 1: to be in the gym and whatever whatever. Be already
Speaker 1: ahead of the game, be a step ahead, and be smarter.
Speaker 1: This is the time to lock in, apply the pressure
Speaker 1: and do not stop. Carry that discipline and go after
Speaker 1: your dreams. This is the time to put that pressure, ladies.
Speaker 1: Put the pressure. We're going to go on a quick
Speaker 1: break and we'll be right back. All right, welcome back,
Speaker 1: you guys. We were talking about our winter arc or
Speaker 1: we're inventing ourselves and really just applying that pressure. I
Speaker 1: definitely again apply that pressure, ladies. Gentlemen, if you want
Speaker 1: to go after something, now is the time. Take yourself out.
Speaker 1: I always say it, being uncomfortable is the best thing.
Speaker 1: Get out of your comfort zone and make sure that
Speaker 1: you prioritize yourself. I don't think people realize how important
Speaker 1: it is to prioritize yourself, prioritize your mental health and
Speaker 1: see how it'll change. It'll change your whole life once
Speaker 1: you start doing that. Anyways, you guys, today's going to
Speaker 1: be a short episode. I wanted to thank you guys
Speaker 1: so much for hanging out with me. I know that
Speaker 1: these little audio ones. This is one of my first
Speaker 1: audio episodes. I'm gonna start doing more audio you guys,
Speaker 1: especially if they're solos. I feel like they're more intimate,
Speaker 1: more private, and I want to be able to connect
Speaker 1: with you guys and yeah, on a deeper level. So
Speaker 1: make sure you guys like, comment, subscribe, follow, and I
Speaker 1: will see you guys next Tuesday. Bye. Overcome for podcast
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