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Speaker 1: y'all know I keep it a book. The job market

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Speaker 1: continues to widen. I know all of that sounds dire,

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Speaker 1: That's exactly why I created the Mandy money Makers Group

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Speaker 1: coaching community. It is a coaching community that is built

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Speaker 1: for us by us. Inside the community, we're not just

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Speaker 1: the job that you want. It's about finding purpose in

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Speaker 1: your career. It's about finding communities and others, feeling seen,

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Speaker 1: feeling heard, and also having a sounding board and a

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Speaker 1: mirror to reflect your own magic, your own sparkle right

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Speaker 1: back to yourself. In this community, you'll get group coaching

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Speaker 1: led by me, but you also get peer to peer

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Speaker 1: accountability with proven tools and resources that can help you

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Speaker 1: do what we have always done, this rise even when

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Speaker 1: the odds are stacked against us, despite all the challenges,

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Speaker 1: we will rise. If you're interested in joining the Mandy

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Speaker 1: money Makers community and having that support to bolster you

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Speaker 1: and help you tap back into your magic so that

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Speaker 1: or go to mandymoney dot com slash community. That's Mandy

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Speaker 1: check out mandymoney dot com slash community today. Hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: ba fam, it's your girl, Mandy Money and welcome back

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Speaker 1: to another episode of Brown Ambition Today. I am writing

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Speaker 1: they were telling her that it felt to them as

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Speaker 1: if I I really wanted and was committed to the

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Speaker 1: coaching and that that path was available for me as

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Speaker 1: a business, but that I was struggling with it because

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Speaker 1: as a coach, I wasn't able to I wanted to

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Speaker 1: be really impactful, and I was feeling and they were

436
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Speaker 1: saying to her that I was feeling frustrated by the

437
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Speaker 1: by the women I work with, people I work with

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Speaker 1: when they weren't actually like implement implementing the steps or

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Speaker 1: taking the strategies, or you know, like actually taking action

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Speaker 1: and changing things or taking those steps to get where

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Speaker 1: they needed to go, and that I was struggling with that,

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Speaker 1: and and that ring true for me to a certain extent,

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Speaker 1: Like I I've been coaching now for four years, and

444
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Speaker 1: I if you listen to my interview with with Muriel Wilkins,

445
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Speaker 1: who wrote the book Leadership Unblocked, from a couple of

446
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Speaker 1: weeks ago, she was had we aired her episode She

447
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 1: and I spoke about her career as an executive coach

448
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Speaker 1: and how she was encouraging me not to get so

449
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Speaker 1: personally attached to the outcome of my clients and not

450
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Speaker 1: to feel personally responsible for the outcome. And I had

451
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Speaker 1: been I hadn't really been unpacking how that conversation made

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Speaker 1: me feel. But I don't think I necessarily could ever

453
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Speaker 1: get to a place where I didn't didn't like personally

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Speaker 1: feel invested in, like want to see that person accomplish what,

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Speaker 1: you know, the goals that they said they wanted to accomplish,

456
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Speaker 1: especially if they were working with me, So listen, the

457
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Speaker 1: spirits were on point in that regard. And basically she

458
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Speaker 1: was like, they're saying, you know, you don't want to

459
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Speaker 1: it's something that's available to you, the coaching, but if

460
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Speaker 1: you want, like you could set it aside for a

461
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Speaker 1: month and focus on focus your energy on the podcast

462
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Speaker 1: and just see how that feels. See if you miss it,

463
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Speaker 1: see if you missed the coaching. And I just thought

464
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Speaker 1: that that was really interesting. I was very excited about well,

465
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Speaker 1: I felt very I felt good. My gut was feeling good.

466
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Speaker 1: And when it came to that instinct or that energy

467
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Speaker 1: that they were feeling about my podcast being a real

468
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Speaker 1: passion for me and lighting me up. I mean, brown

469
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Speaker 1: ambition is everything, And it just was so in my

470
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Speaker 1: head as I was listening, I'm like, well, shit, I

471
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Speaker 1: walked in here today to get these people to help

472
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Speaker 1: me figure out how to do you know less with

473
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Speaker 1: the podcast so that I can put more into my

474
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Speaker 1: neglected coaching and the book. And it just feels like

475
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Speaker 1: the spirit world really wants me to go all in

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Speaker 1: with the podcast. And even as I was sitting there,

477
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Speaker 1: I was I was wondering, well, why am I Why

478
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Speaker 1: do I feel like podcast is We're as good as

479
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Speaker 1: it's as big as it's going to get, Like, let's

480
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Speaker 1: scale it back, Let's pull back a little bit and

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Speaker 1: devote energy other places. It's like, why do I think that?

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Speaker 1: Is that a limiting belief? I'm going into this day

483
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Speaker 1: thinking that I'm trying to be strategic and that this

484
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Speaker 1: is a good business decision. But listen, I think a

485
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 1: lot of us, myself obviously included, will try to think

486
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Speaker 1: rationally about something and it's like a logical, you know,

487
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 1: idea or logical plan that we try to make when

488
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Speaker 1: really what's happening is like there's a limiting belief, there's

489
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Speaker 1: like a doubt that we have or a fear that

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Speaker 1: we have that makes that plan a little bit more

491
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Speaker 1: comfortable and makes that plan feel feel feels good, feels right.

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Speaker 1: So what if I because the other opposite of my

493
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Speaker 1: plan is well, what if I drop something? And what

494
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Speaker 1: if this is too much? What if three different big

495
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Speaker 1: projects at a time is too much? And what if

496
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Speaker 1: something has to get and what does that mean? I

497
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Speaker 1: had never even considered walking away from the coaching practice.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling y all this literally that less than twenty

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Speaker 1: four hours after I had the reading. I'm not making

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Speaker 1: any big final decisions right now. I do enjoy my

501
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Speaker 1: coaching practice and the community that I've built with Mandy

502
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Speaker 1: Moneymakers and the you know, the women that I get

503
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Speaker 1: to work with. But it definitely got me thinking about

504
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: one giving myself permission to at least pause something so

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Speaker 1: that I can focus on something else. And it's making

506
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Speaker 1: me rethink, what of those three big initiatives I have

507
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Speaker 1: is going to deserve or you know, be deserving of

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Speaker 1: the time. I think I was trying to choose a

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Speaker 1: thing that made the most to me anyway financial sense,

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Speaker 1: and instead of choosing the thing that would be the

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Speaker 1: most fun and the most fulfilling, because of course the

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Speaker 1: more I work on the show, that the time and

513
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Speaker 1: energy I invest in the show. It It's one of

514
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: those situations where doesn't feel like work. It's a passion

515
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: project and it's also work, and it feels meaningful and

516
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Speaker 1: deeply impactful. And of course I can coach, right, but

517
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Speaker 1: do I need that extra business, like the whole infrastructure

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Speaker 1: of the business and the commitment to that, you know.

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Speaker 1: And one of the things the reader was saying that,

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Speaker 1: you know, speaking to this to the Acostic record keepers,

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Speaker 1: was that, oh if she I think, she questioned, she

522
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: pushed back. They were pushing back on my idea that

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Speaker 1: a podcast wasn't enough and that this is right, okay,

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Speaker 1: it's coming back now. Yeah, that if that something was

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Speaker 1: telling me. I was telling myself that it has to

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Speaker 1: be the podcast and something else. It can't just be

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Speaker 1: the podcast. And somehow if the podcast wasn't enough, and

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Speaker 1: that touched a nerve or didn't touch a nerve, but

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Speaker 1: I clocked like a feeling there because yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: the podcast, it was always my side project when I

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Speaker 1: was my corporate career. I'll know I started the podcast

532
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Speaker 1: when I was full time at Yahoo Finance and then

533
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 1: went on to other parts of my career and still

534
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Speaker 1: had the podcast. And even when I left corporate and

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00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 1: I had an opportunity to go all in with Brown ambition,

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Speaker 1: it didn't feel like a business that I could go

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Speaker 1: all in on. It felt like, well, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: start a legitimate business, a coaching business, and I did it,

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Speaker 1: you know, with some with success, and especially those first

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Speaker 1: couple of years. This past year, I have not been

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Speaker 1: devoting as much time to it, so successes looked different.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, really I hadn't realized that by by sort

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Speaker 1: of putting the podcast in the side dish category, not

544
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Speaker 1: the entree, that I might have been limiting my own

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Speaker 1: growth potential. And maybe that was a limiting belief I had,

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Speaker 1: And so yeah, I was. It was. It was a

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Speaker 1: ten to twenty minute how long, it was a costic

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00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: record reading, but it definitely made me feel lit up

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00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 1: in a way that whereas the first half of the

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00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: day there was a lot of discomfort and uncertainty and

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Speaker 1: I don't like you talking about this and like why

552
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Speaker 1: does nothing feel good? And like, you know, and then

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Speaker 1: at the end of the day. It was like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: this is a path, this is an option, and I

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Speaker 1: have to I have to think about it. So all

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Speaker 1: that is to say. And this probably went on way

557
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: too long as I usually do, but I wanted to

558
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,479
Speaker 1: let y'all in because I just thought it was it

559
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 1: was a really beneficial day long mastermind retreat. And I

560
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Speaker 1: know that you know, the great Amana check out her work,

561
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 1: and I don't know if she's doing another one. I

562
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 1: think she does them like twice a year or something

563
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 1: like that. Maybe she and I will do one together.

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00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: I would love to, And that's what we were talking

565
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 1: about before. I just elbowed my way into coming to

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Speaker 1: this one. But now that I've experienced, you know, her

567
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: version of a Mastermind retreat, then I'm like, oh, this

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00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 1: is great. I could definitely get down with this and

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00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: I would love to. But anyway, yeah, if there's a

570
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Speaker 1: version of this that y'all could do, you could even

571
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: create a one day Mastermind for yourself or with a

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00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 1: friend or a couple of friends, a community. Maybe there's

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Speaker 1: a formal retreat you can join. But it's such a gift,

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Speaker 1: I think, to give ourselves the time and space to

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00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 1: reflect and then also put ourselves in like a potentially

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00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 1: you know, uncomfortable position of sharing and opening up with

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00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: a group of people that maybe you are not not

578
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: familiar with, but then seeing what our perspectives have to

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Speaker 1: offer you. And I definitely left with, you know, five

580
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Speaker 1: new I hoped, you know, we can build on from

581
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 1: acquaintance to we're not acquaintances anymore. We can build on

582
00:32:55,680 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: that and at least be supporters and cheerleaders maybe friends.

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Speaker 1: And they all have such unique interesting journeys and paths

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Speaker 1: that they're also forging. And I'm just really glad that

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that I did that for myself. And I

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Speaker 1: guess my question to y'll be a fan is is

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Speaker 1: there an opportunity for you to create space to reflect

588
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 1: and to not so much plan or make a strategy,

589
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: but to get so put yourself sort of in a

590
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 1: it's not a shark tank, but put yourself in a

591
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 1: room where there's other voices and make yourself like for

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00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: yourself to be a little bit vulnerable and to not

593
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 1: have things figured out and to think out loud and

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00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:41,719
Speaker 1: to receive feedback on your vision and your plans and

595
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: to it takes a lot of humility, and you got

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Speaker 1: to leave your ego at the door, because I was

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00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: not coming in there like I got this all, figure

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Speaker 1: it out. I'm just going to tell you all my

599
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 1: great ideas and you're going to validate that. You know,

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Speaker 1: I had to really like face my own discomfort and

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Speaker 1: my own like you know, yeah this like gut that's

602
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: out of whack and sit through that and then come

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00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: out on the other side. And you know, it was

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00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: very rewarding. And I hope that maybe hearing me talk

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00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: about this, y'all will find your own version of this

606
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,760
Speaker 1: or I mean, let me know if you would attend

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00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: or come along for a one day retreat maybe with

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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition in collaboration with a great Amana Altaie from

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00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 1: her book The Ambition Trap. I mean, we have so

610
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: much synergy, and I love the way that Amana leads

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00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,479
Speaker 1: with her heart, and I think we have a lot

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00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:38,080
Speaker 1: in common. And yeah, I would love to do something

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Speaker 1: like that. So I mean, be a fam If you're down,

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Speaker 1: I say, let's make that happen. But in the meantime,

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00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: how can you create that space for yourself? And maybe

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Speaker 1: you can burn a little index card or tissue paper,

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00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 1: but do it safely, don't suit me if something happens,

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Speaker 1: I didn't tell you, Okay, I'm just saying it's an idea.

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Speaker 1: You got to like consult an expert, if you know,

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00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 1: like consult the internet. Make sure you're doing it safely.

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00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 1: But yeah, what are you going to release? What are

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00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 1: you going to call in for the new year? And

623
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 1: how are you going to not fix all your problems

624
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 1: in a day, but at least sit with some of

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00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: the questions that you have and the challenges that you

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00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 1: have and give yourself the freedom to not have all

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00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: the answers right away. That's something that I was trying

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00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 1: to practice last night. And again, I'm going to Kashak

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Speaker 1: reading a Kashak record reading Novice. That was my very

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Speaker 1: first experience. I apologize to the Akashak you know, people

631
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Speaker 1: and experts if I didn't explain it the best way possible,

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Speaker 1: But that was my experience. I'm excited to learn more.

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Speaker 1: Should I get a tarot card reading, y'all? I don't know,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm kind of in this world now. I've never

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Speaker 1: done any of those before. It's kind of nerve wracking,

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00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 1: but I think it's just information. I think it's less

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Speaker 1: about the information you're getting being like a roadmap to

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00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 1: whatever you got to do next, but just like it's

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00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: a gut check literally for me. How does what I'm

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00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 1: hearing make me feel? And what does that feeling tell me?

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00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: And what with that information? Like using that as information

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00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 1: and data that I can use, you know, while I'm

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Speaker 1: figuring out my next steps is it's key? All right?

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Speaker 1: That was my one day Mastermind retreat story. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to take a quick break, bea fan. Women to come back.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna talk about some headlines real quick, and then

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Speaker 1: I will do Brown Boost Brown Break to close this out.

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Speaker 1: Thank y'all, stick around all right, Hey ba fan, Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to the show. Welcome back to Brown Ambition. I

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Speaker 1: wanted to get into some buzzworthy headlines and stories that

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Speaker 1: I that have been get my blood pressure up. That's

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Speaker 1: how I kind of judge. Oh, that's the thing I

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Speaker 1: want to talk about on the show, and a few

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Speaker 1: things come in mind. I'll start with a good first.

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Speaker 1: So Jasmine Crocket, the Great Jasmine Crocket from the Great

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Speaker 1: state of well the the Yeah, it's a great state

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Speaker 1: of Texas. I mean gave us Beyonce like it's it's

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Speaker 1: I she is run for her very first Senate to

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Speaker 1: campaign right now, she's in the House of Representatives. She

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Speaker 1: just launched her campaign and the ad that she used

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Speaker 1: was a masterstroke. It's this like very stark sort of

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Speaker 1: portrait video of her, you know, in profile, looking stunning

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Speaker 1: as always, and it's a very serious kind of yeah,

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Speaker 1: very cold, like cool, sleek, you know, mysterious, serious kind

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Speaker 1: of vibe she's giving off in this video. She's saying

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Speaker 1: nothing though. What you do here is Trump's voice and

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Speaker 1: like sound bites from all of the uh, all of

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Speaker 1: the rants he's because he has targeted her from the jump,

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Speaker 1: you know, he has he has called her outside her,

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Speaker 1: you know, outside her, names that she's low IQ, all

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Speaker 1: this stuff. But they basically took together his sound bites

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Speaker 1: to create a script that was basically like indoors her

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Speaker 1: as like the leader of the Democratic Party is pretty

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Speaker 1: great and I got to give it up to her.

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Speaker 1: So that that took some you know what, And I'm

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Speaker 1: wishing her all the success in the world. So shout

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Speaker 1: out to Jasmine Crockett. I would love if she was

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Speaker 1: able to win a seat in the Senate. That would

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Speaker 1: be incredible. The next thing coming up, I mean, not

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Speaker 1: so great, but related is y'all heard the news that

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Speaker 1: national parks used to offer free entrance to anyone on

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Speaker 1: certain days of the year, certain holidays. They have decided

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Speaker 1: to remove two of those holidays off the free entry list.

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Speaker 1: And it just so happens those two holidays are for

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Speaker 1: US Juneteenth and MLK Junior Day. It would have been

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Speaker 1: you know, insulting enough and infuriating enough if they didn't

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Speaker 1: also add just like the knife in the side of

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Speaker 1: making Trump's birthday a free entry day instead.

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Speaker 2: I oh god, we can't even have nature, you know,

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Speaker 2: can't even have a walk amongst the trees for free

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Speaker 2: a couple times a year.

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Speaker 1: Then I take that from us too. It's like, we'll

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Speaker 1: give you access and recognize you, but then we're just

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Speaker 1: gonna snatch it away when it no longer serves, you know,

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Speaker 1: our political beliefs and purpose. And the fact that it's

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Speaker 1: free on his birthday. Ugh, I hope that it's a

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Speaker 1: day that no one goes to National parks. Just don't go.

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Speaker 1: And isn't it a joke too? Because we just had

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Speaker 1: that big government shut down and there were those stories

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Speaker 1: of like parks departments already being underfunded, but then like

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Speaker 1: having no staff, and you know too, and it was

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Speaker 1: all his doing, you know, And it makes absolutely no

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Speaker 1: sense why he would get a special day of recognition

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Speaker 1: and then we would have two days of recognition taken

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Speaker 1: away from us. I think it's and I mean, you

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Speaker 1: can say it's just a free day at the park,

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Speaker 1: like admissions like eight bucks. I don't know. But the

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Speaker 1: point is this is a This is not even a

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Speaker 1: slippery slope, like this is like a cliff that they're

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Speaker 1: going over. He's starting to legitimize the erasure of holidays

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Speaker 1: that we had to fight hard enough for that we're

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Speaker 1: already in like the not the greatest times of year

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Speaker 1: we have June DDA, but like we have to fight

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Speaker 1: for this space and this recognition and then to push

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Speaker 1: us to out this out this cliff of like, oh,

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Speaker 1: we're just gonna we're just going to disappear those the

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Speaker 1: same way we're going to try to disappear you know,

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Speaker 1: mentions of DEI, mentions of you know, whitewash sanitized the

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Speaker 1: African American History Museum, you know, the way that he's

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Speaker 1: editing the exhibits, the way that he is erasing our

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Speaker 1: contributions from the parks themselves, you know, wanting to sanitize

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Speaker 1: it and take away the truth, the varying viewpoints of

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Speaker 1: history that we had to fight so hard to have recognized.

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Speaker 1: It's a yeah, I'm clocking it. I hope y'all are

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Speaker 1: clocking it too. And it's really chilling, to be honest,

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Speaker 1: quite chilling. Now bringing the back up, if y'all go

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Speaker 1: on TikTok, I want you to do one thing. I

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Speaker 1: want you to put in your TikTok search bar the

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Speaker 1: three hour drive and tell me what you find. Because

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Speaker 1: I was dying and this is an evolving story and

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Speaker 1: I just want to talk about. So this woman on

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Speaker 1: TikTok her use your name as the villain you made

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Speaker 1: and that will become clear. Why. So she's on TikTok

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Speaker 1: one day, I don't know what she's even posting about,

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Speaker 1: and this man comments under her post something that is

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Speaker 1: extremely racist. I won't even bother reading the full thing,

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Speaker 1: but it's racist and bigoted. And she finds him. First

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Speaker 1: of all, I don't know how, but but the the

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Speaker 1: internet slews out there, y'all are some real pis. Okay,

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Speaker 1: She not only finds him, she drives three hours to

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Speaker 1: his home or his work, I think knocks on the door,

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Speaker 1: talks to him and y'all gonna watch You're gonna watch

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Speaker 1: the video. She's filming it from like her phone, and

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Speaker 1: I think her phone must be like in her hand

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Speaker 1: facing up, and she's like, oh, hi, are you are you?

746
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Speaker 1: Are you Mike Arnold? Like is that you?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Ht? Yes? Do you remember commenting on a TikTok post

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Speaker 1: last week? Oh you don't. Oh, here's that post. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was my post. And here's what you're gonna do.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna apologize to me. And by the way, I

752
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:53,280
Speaker 1: have a fully written apology I want you to read.

753
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Speaker 1: Or I'm going to tell your wife about the grinder

754
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: prof file that I found. And the whole time she's

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Speaker 1: saying this to him, this threat, she is like smiling

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Speaker 1: a little bit maniacally. Some people have put up like

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Speaker 1: a meme of of a damn that incredible act. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. She played might as c J. Walker.

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Speaker 1: She played the the best made from the Help, Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, incredible. Anyway, the woman who played ma you

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Speaker 1: know that, Like anyway, they put up a meme of that,

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Speaker 1: and uh, she did like a little scary and and

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Speaker 1: I don't even know if he actually apologized, but you

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Speaker 1: can just hear him in the background going like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I don't feel good about that. She's like, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: see how she goes. You see how easy it was

767
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Speaker 1: for me to find you see how easy that was.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, lady, what I don't condone this. At'll

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Speaker 1: let me be clear, don't do this. That can be

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Speaker 1: dangerous as hell, you know, just rolling up on somebody

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Speaker 1: who knows where, who knows who they are, who they got,

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Speaker 1: and especially as a black woman, I wanted to like

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Speaker 1: protect her. I'm like, no, honey, get back in the car.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, this is not worth it. But yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: gone viral and apparently the last I had seen was

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Speaker 1: that he's potentially pressing charges for extortion or something like that.

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Speaker 1: Let me double check. Okay, I've been researching it, and yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm just as confused as I ever have been. It

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00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 1: does not see MI. She's been actually arrested. But there's

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Speaker 1: been some chatter about like is this illegal, is it

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Speaker 1: like extortion, is it blackmail whatever the case may be,

782
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Speaker 1: or is it just some viral stunt and the guy

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Speaker 1: got what he deserved. Honestly, I'm not condoning this at all,

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Speaker 1: not because I care about his feelings, but because I

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Speaker 1: care about our safety and I care about our peace.

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Speaker 1: This was a bit extreme, but the fact that she

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Speaker 1: I mean it just it was. It's kind of like

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Speaker 1: the kind of thing you want to see happen, but

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Speaker 1: also like I'm so afraid I want her to be safe.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm really thinking about. So, de villain, you made,

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Speaker 1: whatever your name is, I hope that you're taking care

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Speaker 1: of yourself, protecting your piece, and that you're not letting

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Speaker 1: this comment or you know, steal any more of your

794
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 1: piece than he's already stolen. He is not worth that,

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Speaker 1: especially if he's cheating on his name wife okay, and

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Speaker 1: making it that easy to find him. Wow, But it

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Speaker 1: was a banner day for the internet. Pis the want

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Speaker 1: to be pis on the Internet for sure. H r

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Speaker 1: Iva Fani. I want to close out this show by

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Speaker 1: workforce this year alone, and not by choice, but because

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Speaker 1: of layoffs, disappearing DEI programs, and stagnant wages that keep

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Speaker 1: cutting us out of opportunity. Our unemployment rate has jumped

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Speaker 1: to over seven percent, while our pay gap continues to widen.

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Speaker 1: I know all of that sounds dire, but here's what

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Speaker 1: I want y'all to know. You do not have to

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Speaker 1: wait for the system to save you. That's exactly why

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Speaker 1: I created the Mandy money Makers Group coaching community. It

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Speaker 1: is a coaching community that is built for us by us.

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Speaker 1: Inside the community, we're not just talking about how to

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Speaker 1: It's about finding purpose in your career. It's about finding

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Speaker 1: communities and others, feeling seen, feeling heard, and also having

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Speaker 1: a sounding board and a mirror to reflect your own magic,

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Speaker 1: your own sparkle right back to yourself. In this community,

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Speaker 1: you'll get group coaching led by me, but you also

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Speaker 1: that can help you do what we have always done

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Speaker 1: since Rise. Even when the odds are stacked against us,

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Speaker 1: despite all the challenges, we will rise. If you're interested

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Speaker 1: support to bolster you and help you tap back into

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Speaker 1: your magic so that you can lead your career with

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Speaker 1: intention and heart and your own intuition, trusting that again,

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Speaker 1: please join us. You can find information in the show

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Speaker 1: va fam, thank you so much for listening to this

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Speaker 1: week's show. I want to shout out to our production team, Courtney,

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Speaker 1: I want to shout out my assistant Lauda Escalante and

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Speaker 1: is not a one person project, as much as I

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Speaker 1: have tried to make it so these past ten years,

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Speaker 1: I need help y'all, and thank goodness I've been able

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Speaker 1: to put this team around me to support me on

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Speaker 1: this journey and to y'all bea fam I love you

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