Speaker 1: Welcome to decisions decisions. I don't think you should say
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Speaker 2: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.
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Speaker 1: I'm your girl, Mandy Bean.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna throw my aka's in there today, but
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Speaker 1: That's all I'm gonna say.
Speaker 2: Okay, hey everybody, I'm weazy. We're back for another episode
Speaker 2: and we have a guest.
Speaker 3: He they girl things.
Speaker 1: I'm really excited.
Speaker 2: You just had a conversation about ginger neutral saying I'm
Speaker 2: talking about all of those things.
Speaker 3: And our guest is Ryan Mitchell AKA the Slay go On.
Speaker 3: And I can't believe finally here one has have been
Speaker 3: wanting to have him on four three years now.
Speaker 1: Easily for sure.
Speaker 4: And I mean on the other pod rest in Peace, that.
Speaker 5: The other prime I but I'm most definitely happy to
Speaker 5: be here with you.
Speaker 2: Not only are you happy all the second time? What
Speaker 2: this week that he was like, oh gee, and I'm
Speaker 2: like that means.
Speaker 3: No, no, it does OG does not mean you can't BEG.
Speaker 3: If you're you could be starting something in baby here
Speaker 3: o G. Besides Kysona Beyonce, Kiki Palmer period is good,
Speaker 3: but she's.
Speaker 4: A OG is good.
Speaker 1: She's a OG. Yeah, so is ky sanat o G
Speaker 1: And yeah, we can't pay.
Speaker 4: I just wanted to be in the same category as Kay.
Speaker 1: No no no and streaming.
Speaker 2: Somebody would probably say he's not. They would probably say academics.
Speaker 2: But I think that's a different type of stream for
Speaker 2: kai to have to follow through stream like following watch
Speaker 2: me twenty four seven, like full on live stream. The
Speaker 2: only time we ever saw that was porn, but you
Speaker 2: got to pay for porn, like A don't know if
Speaker 2: y'all ever seen.
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm just horning.
Speaker 4: I just said, who's live stream born before?
Speaker 2: So they'd be doing these little whorehouses and I don't
Speaker 2: mean that how it sounds, but basically they'd put cameras
Speaker 2: in there. You can watch them in the shower, you
Speaker 2: can watch this, and they would live stream.
Speaker 1: Like it's just an old school HBO, like after the House.
Speaker 2: Did it, Okay, they evolved to that the Bunny Ranch
Speaker 2: did it, and then there were different I think like
Speaker 2: different umbrellas of like peorn companies.
Speaker 1: And so they would do with men, they do women.
Speaker 2: They had a Latina house and it would just be
Speaker 2: like a week subscription of it.
Speaker 6: Anyway, let's talk about that.
Speaker 4: History now.
Speaker 3: I wanted to just introduce y'all to Bryan in case
Speaker 3: y'all didn't know, you know, ever seen their content, you know,
Speaker 3: everything that they be on. So he's one of the
Speaker 3: voices behind High Key, which is a weekly podcast co
Speaker 3: hosted with Evy. It is an iHeart podcast. So you
Speaker 3: not a cousin, but you like a distant cousin. Yes,
Speaker 3: iHeart too, but black effects.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I feel like we're like like sisters in
Speaker 5: a way, you know, just a little like step sisters.
Speaker 1: Different daddies, period, period period.
Speaker 3: Also a voice in entertainment pop culture, has been on MTV.
Speaker 3: We did the MTV Movie Awards, UH together a few
Speaker 3: years ago. And also which I really love that you're doing.
Speaker 3: You do a lot of lot of lot of I
Speaker 3: mean panels conversations with Glad. You serve as a senior
Speaker 3: consultant for Glass Entertainment and Communities of Color Team where
Speaker 3: you champion were you champion intersectional queer and trans narratives
Speaker 3: across film, television and sports.
Speaker 1: Absolutely who said you to buy listen? Come on? You
Speaker 1: know my husband, you know what's crazy.
Speaker 3: I literally had to tell tell my husband, like give
Speaker 3: me more because I know.
Speaker 1: Include the glass stuff.
Speaker 6: I said, I.
Speaker 1: Give it to me. Hunt And by the way, what
Speaker 1: you did?
Speaker 2: I remember when I would see you across my feet.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, when you see someone you're.
Speaker 1: Like, they need content? Are they an influencer?
Speaker 2: But then you don't want to see the little st
Speaker 2: want and say influencer, not the sound.
Speaker 5: Thank you so much for asking saying that, because it it.
Speaker 5: I do think I'm one of those people that have
Speaker 5: like I'm good at like a lot of different things,
Speaker 5: so it's really hard to put me in a box.
Speaker 5: But what people know me for is like my broadcast
Speaker 5: work and interview So I have like I've interviewed everyone
Speaker 5: from Kiki Palmer to Lizzo to Billy Porter to everyone
Speaker 5: in like a long storied radio career. And then I
Speaker 5: moved on to MTV and did some interviews there and
Speaker 5: then the after show for the VMAs like every every
Speaker 5: about four years. Like I'm a host and journalist at
Speaker 5: like my core. But then I started to veer into
Speaker 5: because of my network, I started to veere into like
Speaker 5: curating work. So like the NFL reached out and was like,
Speaker 5: will you be our like first LGBTQ brand ambassador and
Speaker 5: help us connect with like queer audiences.
Speaker 4: Yes, the NFL.
Speaker 1: The NFL literally, I.
Speaker 3: Mean it's interesting too when you with and we might
Speaker 3: have talked about when when you got but when you
Speaker 3: got with the NFL, it's interesting because clearly they had
Speaker 3: all the beef around not caring about the BLM movement,
Speaker 3: but it was interesting that they really did want to
Speaker 3: tap into like lgbt Q I a stuff because who
Speaker 3: was the footballer that came out was openly game maybe
Speaker 3: only live to like a season or two.
Speaker 6: It was something Sam or Michael Michael. Now he was
Speaker 6: a black guy, yeah he was.
Speaker 3: He was a black queer male that literally when he
Speaker 3: came out, as as the boyfriend was white, No.
Speaker 5: No, well that's our k Russell. Yeah, but also Michael
Speaker 5: Michael Sam also has a white boyfriend.
Speaker 1: But when he came.
Speaker 3: Out, it was like interesting because for the first time
Speaker 3: it was the conversations about locker room etiquette all and
Speaker 3: it was really like ignorant around those conversations like as if,
Speaker 3: first off, it's a team of sixty men, there are
Speaker 3: definitely more than just one guy, because you get to
Speaker 3: go in the locker room.
Speaker 5: No, I did not, and I don't know if I
Speaker 5: want to. I don't want to be that close to men.
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know why not should say straight men?
Speaker 1: I don't you know.
Speaker 4: I mean that's the thing.
Speaker 5: Like I love being told, like historically that I don't
Speaker 5: belong in spaces and then being like, bitch, actually, I'm
Speaker 5: going to be in this space. I'm a thrive in
Speaker 5: this space. You can't tell me what to do. And
Speaker 5: that's how I kind of like entered into the world
Speaker 5: of like football.
Speaker 4: I'm not necessarily a fan.
Speaker 5: I love kind of like it from a cultural pop
Speaker 5: culture like perspective, like knowing that you know, the quarterback
Speaker 5: of the Buffalo Bill's like wife is Hailey Steinfeld, the
Speaker 5: girl from like oh really literally, like I'm like I
Speaker 5: can do.
Speaker 4: I like I like documentaries.
Speaker 5: I like watching like people just really be good at
Speaker 5: what they're doing.
Speaker 4: And so that's my entry point.
Speaker 5: But like when it comes to like being a bridge
Speaker 5: between like black and brown queer folks who have never
Speaker 5: really been accepted in this space for sure, like the NFL. Yeah,
Speaker 5: this is the NFL, but like people don't give a
Speaker 5: fuck about that. They need to feel like you're they're
Speaker 5: trusting you to be into this space and it feels safe.
Speaker 1: I wish I was.
Speaker 3: Gonna say, I wish there was like more things around
Speaker 3: entertainment that leaned into that. I went to a Broadway
Speaker 3: show maybe like three years ago, but it was based
Speaker 3: around basements show. The last Broadway show I went to
Speaker 3: was was which M call it?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Actually wait, I'm lying.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say it was the one with Denzel
Speaker 3: but it was actually the one that had Tank and
Speaker 3: it was based around Alicia Keys when I say so good,
Speaker 3: so good health kitchen.
Speaker 4: Yes, but mind you.
Speaker 3: There was another Broadway show I wanted to go to,
Speaker 3: just wanted to go to because I could see Jesse
Speaker 3: Williams dick and it was so it was based around
Speaker 3: him being a gay baseball player and how.
Speaker 6: People were treating him there.
Speaker 3: But then it was him being and I saw mad
Speaker 3: Dick's but his dick was the biggest. The way the
Speaker 3: water cascaded off of it was great, but the story around.
Speaker 4: It, I mean, the decision coming on.
Speaker 1: This was great.
Speaker 3: It was just really good. And so I wish like
Speaker 3: there could be maybe more things than entertainment around what
Speaker 3: a queer identity looks like in America sport, which is football,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: There's things that are growing.
Speaker 5: Like I was able to come up with a program
Speaker 5: called the Exchange that was like a cultural dinner experience,
Speaker 5: and I partner with the team and we took you know,
Speaker 5: a group of black and queer trans folks to their
Speaker 5: first football game and.
Speaker 4: Then we had a beautiful dinner.
Speaker 5: I love that and like I got to like they
Speaker 5: got to sit down and actually like eat dinner with
Speaker 5: like nfel like sex and talk about the things are
Speaker 5: working on and help kind of be an amplifier for
Speaker 5: all of the work, because a lot of times when
Speaker 5: people like these institutions do DEI work, they're like, oh
Speaker 5: my god, we're leaders, We're doing this, we've been doing
Speaker 5: and it's like, actually, no, these black and brown queer
Speaker 5: folks are actually.
Speaker 2: Please And I don't mean it because I know that
Speaker 2: it's good for everyone to come out.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I actually would be really terrified for a large player,
Speaker 2: not someone that's a myth sorry, like a mid player,
Speaker 2: not a large player er do anything they want. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you're someone that's big and known, you can come out.
Speaker 2: I feel like if you're in the middle, it may
Speaker 2: actually stop you from opportunity.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Michael Sam, I don't think very long.
Speaker 5: I mean, but there's maybe he was unfortunately like a
Speaker 5: pioneer and sample, but it's no since I feel like it's.
Speaker 2: And then it'll very from there, right, because what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2: So I say this to say, my best friend loves
Speaker 2: the Patriots. He's from Boston, and I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, white, but oh I love finding out black people
Speaker 1: are in Boston. Oh I love it.
Speaker 3: Well, we do our when we do our tour stops
Speaker 3: in Boston, we'd be like, hey, did it No, you were.
Speaker 2: Here Caribbean like Haitians really a lot of Haitians like
Speaker 2: oh yeah, yeah, meet somebody like I'm like wow.
Speaker 1: Anyway, we get to this bar and.
Speaker 2: Because he wants to watch the game, so I'm on
Speaker 2: the phone and I'm dating this at the time.
Speaker 1: This is a long time ago. I've you've reformed. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: So he was like, damn is that many gay niggas
Speaker 1: watching football?
Speaker 2: And so I'm laughing because I'm like yes, there are
Speaker 2: men men like sports. I just thought they was like,
Speaker 2: you know what you'd be saying, then you go to kickball?
Speaker 2: They like play sports, you know what I'm saying, like
Speaker 2: be around each other? Shit, do niggas really in there
Speaker 2: like watching? And So what it made me realize, as
Speaker 2: ignorant as it is, ignorance is it we just don't
Speaker 2: associate queer people ever being in our space. So that's
Speaker 2: why you never know, like if they are gay and
Speaker 2: they want to watch around whatever heat bar he's at,
Speaker 2: they ain't gonna tell you. They're not gonna feel it,
Speaker 2: They're not gonna be comfortable, they're not gonna be out.
Speaker 2: And so what I learned from that whole moment was, oh,
Speaker 2: my god, imagine how many gay players are there?
Speaker 1: And oh, for sure they shit.
Speaker 5: And my thing is, even if there are gay players
Speaker 5: in the league, which I think statistically there probably are,
Speaker 5: my thing is, who gives a fuck? They probably you're
Speaker 5: probably the last piece of like type that they're even
Speaker 5: attracted to you in that locker room.
Speaker 4: If they don't give up up.
Speaker 3: It's crazy because when we think of like queer leagues,
Speaker 3: of course my mind goes straight to w n B
Speaker 3: a and now they just want to keep throwing fucking
Speaker 3: green dill doos everywhere. But are really you did you
Speaker 3: not this happened months ago, you see there were nine
Speaker 3: green dill dos. This was when the playoffs was happening.
Speaker 3: I thought they didn't know they did it like three
Speaker 3: or four times. And then recently in uh NFL preseason
Speaker 3: they threw a green dil doo onto a field.
Speaker 1: Again. Yeah, that is a very SMIs. Let me ask,
Speaker 1: don't know why.
Speaker 3: It is very spect No, they've been trying to keep
Speaker 3: up with Yeah, I get.
Speaker 4: I mean.
Speaker 1: Why green and they were like, all right, let's just
Speaker 1: keep doing this.
Speaker 3: I don't know how they're just even like as no, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: because it was it happened, so so the person that
Speaker 3: did it in Atlanta at the Atlanta Dream Game, I
Speaker 3: think actually got like arrested.
Speaker 6: But it started, like, I don't know, maybe in Phoenix.
Speaker 4: Explain how you can bring that in. I thought they
Speaker 4: have security.
Speaker 6: If it's not mental, it's true, it's it's okay.
Speaker 3: But you got a lot of things in My friends
Speaker 3: be like they we ain't fancy dollars with drinks.
Speaker 1: I'll put all of them. Great, were you sneaking them.
Speaker 3: By the way, hold on, not even just green lime green.
Speaker 3: It happened and look none of these colors. So for
Speaker 3: the NFL, it happened during a preseason game between the
Speaker 3: Vikings and the Titans. Neon green as well, thrown on
Speaker 3: the field. I don't know why they're throwing lime green,
Speaker 3: Dell does, but yeah, there there you got people.
Speaker 1: Has happened over the summer.
Speaker 3: It was they are they're really you know what this is,
Speaker 3: purchase that's your content, guy, let's do shock value prank.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and it's like gives me the ing, like who
Speaker 5: sent you, mister beast? Like, now, who sent you? He
Speaker 5: said that was a good one.
Speaker 6: I know he's he's questionable for a lot.
Speaker 3: Of I question anyone him, question anyone who will put
Speaker 3: people I went in a burning building, building and and
Speaker 3: then I'll give you a whole bunch of money, like
Speaker 3: literally just doing squid games all over again. No, it's
Speaker 3: literally that because someone even said he could die just
Speaker 3: from the smoke in a lace like why scaping.
Speaker 1: So it plays into the fact that people are another
Speaker 1: squad games for like.
Speaker 3: No, it was the white person, it was well, it
Speaker 3: was white. There was a white person escaping.
Speaker 1: Actually squig games category and we could watch them.
Speaker 4: You need a EP.
Speaker 6: I mean it's weird because I mean I'm just saying
Speaker 6: white people be poor too.
Speaker 1: But I agree with you. I think that's the sentiment.
Speaker 3: You know, there's a lot of people that'll do a
Speaker 3: lot of things, really anything for money. And so you're
Speaker 3: dangling and I think the burning house one was for
Speaker 3: like five hundred thousand.
Speaker 4: That's I like, it don't even really be that much money.
Speaker 1: No, wait, five hundred thousand isn't a lot.
Speaker 5: I don't feel like, what was that backup not to
Speaker 5: be like potentially get like burned. Oh I'm not gonna
Speaker 5: like that, Dad from this is us absolutely not right.
Speaker 2: If the hell us across the studio is burning right now,
Speaker 2: I want us all to go and get that money
Speaker 2: and splitting five of us in a row one, two, three,
Speaker 2: four five we out after Well, I guess it's a taxi.
Speaker 1: I think it's a gift. You don't have to pay taxes.
Speaker 4: I thought you like, when you want a car on
Speaker 4: a game show, you have to.
Speaker 3: Like you've got to find a way how to do
Speaker 3: it is charity like because like you don't have to.
Speaker 1: It is charity or something, you.
Speaker 5: Know, I think and this white man's good.
Speaker 2: I just know he does a lot of like philanthropic
Speaker 2: sh about like giving go like like consistently giving away million.
Speaker 1: But maybe there's something.
Speaker 5: He's just also someone that got upset that he wasn't
Speaker 5: high enough on that little like Rolling Stone influential list.
Speaker 1: It's also one of.
Speaker 3: Those he's just you know what's crazy about or even
Speaker 3: say that it reminds me of like, uh, like Frank
Speaker 3: Lucas and all the mobsters and drug dealers and kingpins
Speaker 3: also gave about turkeys during the goddamn holidays, you know.
Speaker 1: What I mean. It's a yes and yes and all right,
Speaker 1: I like a yes.
Speaker 3: And by the way, we are gonna start with a
Speaker 3: little icebreaker. Okay, let's you better be ready.
Speaker 1: So it's truth. It's truth and.
Speaker 3: There oh look, oh no you should not see. However, however,
Speaker 3: I realized, like, because I'm thankful for this relationship and.
Speaker 1: I knew you weren't you were like, and I am giving.
Speaker 3: You an or there's two truths and two theres so
Speaker 3: you can pick one or here, okay, but you only
Speaker 3: have to choose one, so one is a little bit
Speaker 3: more crazy than the other. So I want to see
Speaker 3: how crazy you want to get, right, let's do it the
Speaker 3: truth and.
Speaker 1: There, let's get it.
Speaker 3: We're gonna start with truth because that's what people always
Speaker 3: want to do anyway.
Speaker 1: So pick one or the other. Either truth.
Speaker 3: What's the most ridiculous reason you've ever got to someone?
Speaker 3: Or what's your most embarrassing bedroom story that still haunts
Speaker 3: you today? I want the second, Oh, but I have
Speaker 3: an answer for the first one.
Speaker 1: Okakay, he wore a poncho?
Speaker 4: Was he Mexican?
Speaker 1: Noh?
Speaker 4: And he wore a poncho and like brunch boots.
Speaker 3: Mexicans were ponchos. That's why we wear it on sekodmayoh like.
Speaker 1: The like approach, like a ground heavy in the summer.
Speaker 5: On my birthday party, he came to my birthday party
Speaker 5: and a poncho in brunch boots.
Speaker 4: I could not believe it and then had the.
Speaker 5: Nerve to then like the party was really cute and say,
Speaker 5: I have a speakeasy in my apartment building and it's
Speaker 5: like it's like a really cute space.
Speaker 4: And I ended up finding out he asked one of
Speaker 4: my friends for.
Speaker 5: Coke, which I am not I don't give a buck
Speaker 5: if the girls want to be B two K bum
Speaker 5: bum bump, but I do not care in a poncho
Speaker 5: likees on my birthday and brunch boots, I'm done.
Speaker 4: I couldn't speak to him ever again.
Speaker 6: Which one was worse the poncho of the brunch boots
Speaker 6: because it was.
Speaker 5: A combination of the boat. I'm actually getting triggered thinking
Speaker 5: about him now.
Speaker 1: I'm just going through my head.
Speaker 3: You just said V two K, and I'm not joking
Speaker 3: with you. A few months ago, someone was like, oh,
Speaker 3: come on love V two girl, and we were at
Speaker 3: an aftees.
Speaker 1: I didn't get it. I thought she just curious, and
Speaker 1: I only did I only did heavy. But I thought
Speaker 1: she literally was saying it because like, it's.
Speaker 5: No, it's it's it's black people reference for coke. We
Speaker 5: were at a black house party.
Speaker 1: I don't get it.
Speaker 5: How have I never heard of this do coke with
Speaker 5: white people? I V two K is the perfect, It's
Speaker 5: like literally perfect. Yeah, oh yeah yeah, But that's the
Speaker 5: reason why I go. I'm not actually mad at that.
Speaker 1: Not Dared.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, it was awful.
Speaker 1: The Dare is gonna have you in your acting bug?
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, Well, from a from a talkative point,
Speaker 3: So dear give a fifteen second ted talk titled white
Speaker 3: Tops of the New Bottoms, or describe your last date
Speaker 3: like it's a true crime documentary.
Speaker 1: Oh this is great. Listen.
Speaker 5: Okay, all right, okay, I'll do Top of the New
Speaker 5: but I kind of want to do that one. But
Speaker 5: also I also just went on.
Speaker 1: A date that so then we're gonna do both.
Speaker 2: You do Top to the New Bottoms. I have a request, Okay,
Speaker 2: I want you to say it like it is breaking.
Speaker 1: News here at four o'clock PM. Okay, okay, okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do. You want to do both? K t L.
Speaker 1: Are you ready.
Speaker 4: In the back? Okay, I will do I will do
Speaker 4: the true crime one.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: It was.
Speaker 4: It was on a Wednesday.
Speaker 5: It was cloudy, and we went to a theater to
Speaker 5: go see a show and Juliete. I don't know if
Speaker 5: you've seen It's a great show and broad Way. It
Speaker 5: was here in La I met a sagittarist, an actual
Speaker 5: saget terrorist, oh, an actual sagittarist where he loved bomb me.
Speaker 5: He showed me all of the things that he wanted,
Speaker 5: but one scary night because I did not let him
Speaker 5: in my apartment.
Speaker 4: He immediately ghosted me and never.
Speaker 1: Spoke to me again because he didn't let you in
Speaker 1: the apartment.
Speaker 5: I didn't let him upstairs. He wanted to fuck, and
Speaker 5: I just wasn't feeling I was already we had we
Speaker 5: we did everything butt fucked?
Speaker 4: What what besides besides fucking.
Speaker 6: Which is just kissing, hand jobs.
Speaker 1: Blow jobs, hanging, yeah, all the things. Because it was new.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it was like our fourth day.
Speaker 3: Oh good, but wat y'all got to say everything butt
Speaker 3: fucking and only four Yeah.
Speaker 5: I feel like that's classy, That's like, that's pretty glassy.
Speaker 5: I'm the girl that you want to be in this
Speaker 5: death scenario.
Speaker 1: Okay, you I don't die.
Speaker 4: My heart did because he completely just ed Kennedy.
Speaker 1: He what was Oh he ghosted you? Yeah?
Speaker 4: He ghosted me like he.
Speaker 5: Literally Okay, I guess he technically didn't ghost me because
Speaker 5: he did call me like he went out of town
Speaker 5: the next day for the weekend, and he called me
Speaker 5: on like that following Monday, just being like I just
Speaker 5: don't know if this is really working out, And mind you,
Speaker 5: this is low key. The second time this happened because
Speaker 5: we rekindled. We talked earlier this year. I rekindled someone
Speaker 5: who goes to me literally and we talked earlier this
Speaker 5: year and everything was all good. Like we went we
Speaker 5: went on dates really quick, Like our first date was
Speaker 5: to the aquarium, which I love. If you know anything
Speaker 5: about me, like going to not you like fish, And
Speaker 5: it's like it's because like my mom and I would
Speaker 5: go on trips and like when I was younger, we'd
Speaker 5: go to all these aquariums, and I just love aquariums.
Speaker 4: They're so soothing and cute.
Speaker 5: And so we went for our first day and then
Speaker 5: we immediately had a second day, and then I went
Speaker 5: out of town and came back and like we were
Speaker 5: like it was really kind of I guess, moving fast,
Speaker 5: but it was.
Speaker 4: Also like a whirldwind, like he was like a fool
Speaker 4: on love bomber.
Speaker 5: And then he started to get shaky, started to be
Speaker 5: like I don't know if I want to do this anymore.
Speaker 5: And I was just like, Okay, this seems like a
Speaker 5: you issued out of me issue, and I'm gonna let
Speaker 5: you go. And then a couple of months went by
Speaker 5: and then he hit me back up, being like he
Speaker 5: called me, being like, hey, I'm.
Speaker 4: Kind of on your side of town. I just left dinner.
Speaker 4: Do you want to go to like this hookah bar?
Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, I love how he ignored
Speaker 3: the fact that y'all completely dead the things it still
Speaker 3: felt like actually called me back, he's me, No, it's me.
Speaker 1: I will about you dead meat.
Speaker 4: Like that way.
Speaker 1: Oh no, a guy could dead me.
Speaker 3: We could agree to dead each other, and I could
Speaker 3: one day be bored and hit them up and be like, hey,
Speaker 3: what are you doing?
Speaker 4: Crazy work?
Speaker 3: Wait?
Speaker 1: Is that crazy work? I decided it with a friend.
Speaker 2: Sometimes no, I mean no, no, no, if you have
Speaker 2: like we're done, I actually feel so disrespected if no,
Speaker 2: and dead ass.
Speaker 4: But then you still went on the day because we
Speaker 4: are okay.
Speaker 5: So at first, when he first told me like he
Speaker 5: didn't he wasn't like necessarily feeling it.
Speaker 4: I was just like, okay.
Speaker 1: But then I was like, white bitch, I actually really
Speaker 1: want to know what the fuck happened. Oh so you
Speaker 1: went for the answer.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I wanted to know what happened, and.
Speaker 6: Then you fucked or then you went on three more
Speaker 6: dates after that.
Speaker 4: Hey, I didn't say I'm a leo. I didn't say
Speaker 4: I was smart.
Speaker 5: I didn't say, you know, there's there's something happens too
Speaker 5: with two fire signs when they get together.
Speaker 4: It's just pure chale.
Speaker 3: But to be fair, it could have worked out again,
Speaker 3: I think that's me to me if you didn't do
Speaker 3: something awful.
Speaker 6: I believe in possible, right person, wrong time.
Speaker 3: So we if we like to connect and it doesn't
Speaker 3: work and we both decided the same working or one
Speaker 3: of us ghosts the other person.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's nothing bad. I don't think that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Like if we just both say and the same really
Speaker 3: working well, He had made double back.
Speaker 5: The reason why he ended up getting like ghosting or
Speaker 5: like like cutting it off. He ended up being like
Speaker 5: I he made some like he he built up a
Speaker 5: preconception about me that was not true, like he thought
Speaker 5: I wasn't He He was like, I really want someone
Speaker 5: who is not like religious, but like they have a
Speaker 5: relationship with God. And he just felt like because I
Speaker 5: talked a little bit about like my religious trauma as
Speaker 5: most queer people have, he automatically was like, oh, this
Speaker 5: is not someone that has like he thinks I'm an
Speaker 5: atheist automatically and I'm was like, I've never said that.
Speaker 5: And then also sexually, he thought I was just like
Speaker 5: wanting to be some submissive girl. And I'm like, first
Speaker 5: of all, just because my voice is like high in
Speaker 5: the octaves does not mean I won't break your back.
Speaker 5: So don't try me curious.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? You know where my brain
Speaker 1: is right now?
Speaker 4: Where is your brain?
Speaker 5: The goal of a man? It's the all deaf period.
Speaker 5: I was gonna say, also, quick change.
Speaker 1: Have y'all are watching on the YouTube? Get ready, We're
Speaker 1: taking it to baby.
Speaker 2: I want to take anybody that has ever sucked a
Speaker 2: dick and as one to have the goll to tell
Speaker 2: me I.
Speaker 1: Can't have conflicted feelings about religion, right fucking dare you?
Speaker 3: I Actually I'm a woman with conflictive feelings, like literally,
Speaker 3: but like think.
Speaker 2: About it's one thing if to me, someone wants to
Speaker 2: make that choice and you're real straight just knowing that,
Speaker 2: Like we walked through life where knowing that God thinks
Speaker 2: it's wrong, hearing and seeing media all kinds of shit
Speaker 2: with people saying gay the way burn them at the.
Speaker 5: Stake, and the specific sort of religious life that I lived,
Speaker 5: like I grew up Pentecostal and if anybody knows coaching
Speaker 5: Church of Guy in Christ, it's like long skirts, you
Speaker 5: can't women can't even be in the pool.
Speaker 1: It's like the more conservative Christians.
Speaker 5: For I mean like black Amish people literally where I
Speaker 5: got that extreme.
Speaker 1: But I'm like low key, like it's very very.
Speaker 4: Conservative, and like it just was I was.
Speaker 5: I remember talking about it, and I was just kind
Speaker 5: of like, yeah, I know it will always be a
Speaker 5: part of me, but I have conflictive feelings, and I'm
Speaker 5: like that's anything. But my things is the fact that
Speaker 5: you have the audacity not like ask a follow up,
Speaker 5: are like you just made like a quick decision.
Speaker 4: I didn't want anybody around in that way.
Speaker 5: So a couple months went by and then we were
Speaker 5: talking and then of course reconnected, and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just I don't know, I feel like he just.
Speaker 5: Like he was just a type of person that gets
Speaker 5: like wrapped up in the idea of like a relationship,
Speaker 5: but wrapped up but you don't want to do the.
Speaker 1: Work, but doesn't actually want to do Yeah, like he's
Speaker 1: trying to figure his shit out.
Speaker 4: And so I said, I will never date another thing.
Speaker 2: I mean a lot of people desire things that they
Speaker 2: don't know how to get to right, Like you can
Speaker 2: always have the north Star, but not the means to
Speaker 2: get there. And I think we see it the most
Speaker 2: with like a career, I want to do ra I
Speaker 2: want to start a podcast, and they never do it.
Speaker 2: But when it comes to relationships, it's the same thing.
Speaker 2: We always say we're ready for something because we know
Speaker 2: it's desirable companionship, but you gotta be fucking healed.
Speaker 4: And I also don't know if I feel like that. Also,
Speaker 4: that moment also taught me.
Speaker 5: It was like, am I know I am saying I
Speaker 5: want to manifest like a relationship and like want to
Speaker 5: like find a partner.
Speaker 1: But I also don't.
Speaker 4: I don't want to settle for anything.
Speaker 5: I don't want to settle for like someone to not
Speaker 5: accept me fully sexually, or someone to not accept me
Speaker 5: fully in like the life that I live as like
Speaker 5: a public figure in this world, that this work that
Speaker 5: we do, Like I need someone who's going to be
Speaker 5: able to handle all of that, and like, I don't know,
Speaker 5: it sucks. It felt nice to feel wanted, but also
Speaker 5: I can't just get wrapped.
Speaker 1: Up in that.
Speaker 3: We say that about someone, we say that about this podcast,
Speaker 3: like you have to be fully accepting of us being
Speaker 3: open about talking about sex or being liberated, and you know,
Speaker 3: being the ogs to these types of conversations that you're
Speaker 3: an og.
Speaker 2: You know, we got all I have, But can we
Speaker 2: call it LG like the phone you want to I
Speaker 2: want to be a little gangstter, not an og.
Speaker 6: Okay, Well, we are going to go from the bedroom
Speaker 6: to the courtroom.
Speaker 1: Order in the court.
Speaker 4: Order in the court who gave her this?
Speaker 1: Did you amazon? Jeff faced us? Okay?
Speaker 3: Now for this part of this, shoh, I am going
Speaker 3: to read three cases. Okay, you have to decide if
Speaker 3: you will stand in defense, which means you will argue
Speaker 3: why it's hot, valid and sex positive, or you will
Speaker 3: stand in prosecution, where you will argue why this is
Speaker 3: a kink, felony and morally unsound.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, And I am pretty progressive, so I feel
Speaker 5: like I'm gonna be on the defense a lot.
Speaker 1: Now, we'll see, we'll see.
Speaker 3: So case number one, they refuse to sleep over after sex. Ever,
Speaker 3: they always have something to do and decide not to
Speaker 3: spend the night. Are you defending this act or do
Speaker 3: you feel like there's a violation somewhere and why.
Speaker 5: Oh, okay, I'm gonna I'm actually going to defend it,
Speaker 5: but you're defending hell yeah, because I like actually having
Speaker 5: my own space. I am an only child, and I
Speaker 5: do not want niggas in my room or in my
Speaker 5: space even after you have sex with or Sure, I'm
Speaker 5: so down for you to pack it.
Speaker 4: Up and leave.
Speaker 5: Okay, I think having I think having your own space,
Speaker 5: especially in the dating phase, like I don't maybe at
Speaker 5: some point you can start to sleep over, but.
Speaker 4: Like I don't actually need that.
Speaker 1: How long did you do that for?
Speaker 4: Can I say, like it's six months?
Speaker 3: Six months to do I've been having sex for six
Speaker 3: months and they can't spend The.
Speaker 5: Folks are always hook up Like it's like hookup culture, right,
Speaker 5: Like it's like you like, oh wait, so dating.
Speaker 1: Phase, say dating, but if you're sleeping for six months? Yeah,
Speaker 1: do I need to?
Speaker 4: Can I not have? Can I not be like Whoopie
Speaker 4: Godberg and be like why is a man here?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 4: Can I not?
Speaker 1: Like I would I came, yeah, and you can stay?
Speaker 5: But also like I just I don't know, I would
Speaker 5: have to really get used. I haven't had a man
Speaker 5: sleep over in a minie. If I'm being quite honest,
Speaker 5: like it did.
Speaker 1: It depends.
Speaker 3: I did have a guys sleep over earlier this year,
Speaker 3: and bitch, they snored and I was upset. I said, actually,
Speaker 3: I would have been okay if he left, because now
Speaker 3: I can barely sleep because what.
Speaker 4: Are you okay? What are they staying over for?
Speaker 1: Just for the cuddles? The cuddles? I don't like that
Speaker 1: in the morning. You don't like morning sex.
Speaker 4: I do, but also.
Speaker 3: Like calling someone in the I mean morning before the wait,
Speaker 3: I mean if I baby, he.
Speaker 1: Said, Am I prepared? You ain't gotta ask time for nothing.
Speaker 1: Wait a second, but the new Tom kg La we
Speaker 1: are here with Ryan Mitchell. Tell us when did this
Speaker 1: happen for you?
Speaker 3: Oh my god at the sweet age of I can't say.
Speaker 3: And we'll be back with a pat okay case number two? Okay,
Speaker 3: all right, On a first.
Speaker 6: Date they bring up their kinks immediately. Do you defend
Speaker 6: this action?
Speaker 3: And is it sex positive or do you think they're
Speaker 3: guilty and this might be morally unsound like they could.
Speaker 5: Have Wait, No, you need to know I'm going to
Speaker 5: defeat you kinks out the game. I think you need
Speaker 5: to know people's kicks. I'd love to actually talk about sex.
Speaker 1: I want to know, like why not? Okay, why not
Speaker 1: hold on?
Speaker 5: Because they I mean in the in the first interaction,
Speaker 5: when you're talking to someone, you're automatically seeing if there
Speaker 5: are a top of or bottom on their profile, like
Speaker 5: automatically trying to figure out if you are like, are
Speaker 5: we like sisters are about to bump purses?
Speaker 4: Or are we like is this like a thing.
Speaker 1: But let's just set the scene because is not that
Speaker 1: I do always? So you're you're defending Okay, one dream
Speaker 1: comes out, We've ordered apps?
Speaker 4: Okay, what's the apps?
Speaker 1: A little for shooto Verada. We're like spreading it on
Speaker 1: top of the.
Speaker 2: On the on the bread, okay, and you know what
Speaker 2: I was like a really big kink of like come,
Speaker 2: I just like it all over my face because.
Speaker 1: Over them. You let me do this? Would you guys?
Speaker 1: Like dessert?
Speaker 2: Actually, we'll have a survey now the survey comes out, okay,
Speaker 2: after after after the mill.
Speaker 5: After, Like if we're at dessert and it's been going
Speaker 5: well and there's been like some flirtation and like there's
Speaker 5: banter and like you know, you're feeling like the sexual chemistry.
Speaker 1: Why not the way you defend it?
Speaker 4: I think.
Speaker 3: Y'all both agree that over appetizers and immediately it is
Speaker 3: too early.
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure, Okay, for sure, I'm making the comment
Speaker 1: this is the type of girl I am.
Speaker 4: Unless I need to know that this guy's a chaser,
Speaker 4: are like just a sex person.
Speaker 3: The only the only dates that I've actually been comfortable
Speaker 3: leaning straight into sex have been the ones that I've
Speaker 3: met on like field, like ones that lead with like
Speaker 3: whether you're.
Speaker 1: A dom or what's up? Then you mentioned you're off
Speaker 1: and bottom, so if you're on Grinder or if you're
Speaker 1: on or whatever.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that was the only two you now of And
Speaker 5: I know the one that Sniffy's where you It's just
Speaker 5: that's an app, that's a map, that's like more of
Speaker 5: a website.
Speaker 1: Isn't there one like contact Exact?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Name it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's more. Give me the letter X the Twitter? Yes?
Speaker 1: Are you kidding?
Speaker 4: Meeting anyone off?
Speaker 3: You're not?
Speaker 1: Why would I?
Speaker 4: That feels like why would you?
Speaker 5: Almost feels like meeting someone like the craigsli skilled wait
Speaker 5: off of like it feels like the same thing.
Speaker 3: You know why I don't because no ship on Twitter
Speaker 3: you can literally see them having sex for.
Speaker 5: Sure, but I'm not. I guess I'm just looking up
Speaker 5: with with I mean, whose I am all for sex work?
Speaker 5: Like I want to be very clear, I just I'm
Speaker 5: not sliding. I feel like their dms are full enough
Speaker 5: and busier. Well they're they're trying to make money. They
Speaker 5: was like, I don't love of dating, so like I
Speaker 5: don't like, you know, I want them.
Speaker 1: To like want I like sex workers? Hold wait wait
Speaker 1: wait where was wet? Because I want to know what
Speaker 1: are the other apps?
Speaker 3: Oh? Okay, I mean hinge is a good one, but
Speaker 3: I feel like everyone I thought it was like gay
Speaker 3: they have gay yeah tweeted?
Speaker 1: Are those the only ones? You know?
Speaker 4: I guess those are the main gay specific one.
Speaker 5: I means like unless you go into like the bear
Speaker 5: community like growler browlers, like a bear community focused one
Speaker 5: that is like for us, you know period, you know,
Speaker 5: it's the thicker guys and the more the I mean
Speaker 5: it's more so, Yeah, it's more so like white bears.
Speaker 5: I feel like there are like black bears and there's
Speaker 5: like black folks in that, but I just feel like
Speaker 5: like grinder and like and grinder and and like scruff
Speaker 5: and growler, like very white, which niggas are on jacked
Speaker 5: are I also have heard of some niggas being on
Speaker 5: BE Okay, I've.
Speaker 1: Been on BE Okay, yeah it was.
Speaker 6: I didn't like the they need to work on the
Speaker 6: back end of the coding.
Speaker 5: I mean no, So I'll tell you it feels exactly
Speaker 5: how it's spelled and sounds.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: And I hate to say that because I love too,
Speaker 3: but it's they need to get more coding.
Speaker 1: Also, Jack steels that way saying the black app I know,
Speaker 1: and I hate that first, and I will tell you, well,
Speaker 1: then I got you.
Speaker 5: I know the I mean.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, not I mean he's hot, Kenya shout
Speaker 3: out to spill. This is not an ad, but that's okay.
Speaker 3: I think now we're gonna get to case three so
Speaker 3: we can get into some uh gratitude because this is
Speaker 3: the Thanksgiving officiode.
Speaker 1: I love so case number three.
Speaker 3: They show up for the first hookup with an entire
Speaker 3: double bag of toys, loube and accessories. No discussion before.
Speaker 3: Is this is this sex positive hot and ballad? Or
Speaker 3: do you feel like you're doing too much? Don't show
Speaker 3: up with a double bag on the first hookup.
Speaker 5: I would prosecute like I had someone on like our
Speaker 5: first date try to fist me while we.
Speaker 1: Share the story. Curry what No, Yep, I love it.
Speaker 3: No. In sleepover mooting you said, you know, but that's
Speaker 3: why I stopped full on because while you're prosecutor, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I would prosecute like that.
Speaker 4: Because it was a really great day. We went to
Speaker 4: the museum.
Speaker 5: It was really sweet, and then we got like we
Speaker 5: went to get food and then we like cat back
Speaker 5: to my place and we were making out doing the things,
Speaker 5: and then I found out he had like a fisting
Speaker 5: kink while we were doing that and he was trying
Speaker 5: to like go full on force feet and I was
Speaker 5: just like after like we just ate the food that
Speaker 5: I just like, I just don't know.
Speaker 2: Brian, serious question. You saw the duffel bag and thought
Speaker 2: this not you didn't think work next day?
Speaker 1: You thought, well, the double there's like yeah, there's like
Speaker 1: there's like dildos, like yeah, yeah, and like anybody else.
Speaker 5: No, literally, anybody who brings is bringing a duff back
Speaker 5: of sex toys means they are probably very kink's.
Speaker 1: That I'm bringing lub and accessories, not my work close
Speaker 1: for the next day.
Speaker 4: Why bring that stuff when I might have them, so
Speaker 4: I'll be.
Speaker 1: Honest with you.
Speaker 3: I would actually, And I had this conversation with my
Speaker 3: boyfriend because he was we were on FaceTime and he
Speaker 3: was showing me I have multiple boyfriends, so this is
Speaker 3: what many. Oh yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Didn't know.
Speaker 6: I'll said you picked, I'll show you all the boy
Speaker 6: You're like a poly coole.
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm slwly poly. Actually they're together. No, they're not together,
Speaker 1: but they know of each other. So like even one
Speaker 1: like he.
Speaker 2: Watch Splitsville immediately on watch both of them specifically, like
Speaker 2: I'm able to share what I'm with either or and
Speaker 2: then one specifically when he knows i'm with one, asks
Speaker 2: for videos of me.
Speaker 6: And so both boyfriends are aware of each other. Yes,
Speaker 6: and I'm still.
Speaker 1: Talking to other people.
Speaker 3: I love that you No.
Speaker 6: No, no, it's like it's like okay, because I had
Speaker 6: my active.
Speaker 1: By earlier this year.
Speaker 3: He was monogamous, so but he was open, he thought,
Speaker 3: and it just didn't work out. And now I'm like
Speaker 3: with two people that are just like, are you all
Speaker 3: of them?
Speaker 1: Am I?
Speaker 4: What are you pegging all of them?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: I have one.
Speaker 3: I have heard that back, so so the possible. So
Speaker 3: the possible one. The possible one played with each other
Speaker 3: years ago.
Speaker 1: Mine. This is how much of a whole I am.
Speaker 1: I don't be remembering ship, but he remembered it.
Speaker 3: He said that he remembered it was in Dallas and
Speaker 3: he was like, yeah, you remember when you put that
Speaker 3: butt plug in my ass? And so now he doesn't
Speaker 3: circle back and I was like, damn, I made it out,
Speaker 3: but I forgot about it.
Speaker 6: I was like, damn, I was able to put a
Speaker 6: boot plug in your ass.
Speaker 1: I totally forgot about it. You know when like someone
Speaker 1: really hurt you and theyvid have forgot, but you felt
Speaker 1: the pain. I guess it's like, well, no, it wasn't this,
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 3: Like And so now he let me know because we
Speaker 3: haven't seeing her played with each other and probably like.
Speaker 6: Four or five years, and he let me know he's
Speaker 6: more advanced.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 6: I'm looking forward, but I am upseats. So yeah, to me,
Speaker 6: the Duffel bag.
Speaker 3: But my boyfriend, back to that story, he was I'm
Speaker 3: supposed to be going to see him in the DMV,
Speaker 3: and so he was showing me around his house. He
Speaker 3: got a massage table, he got a chair with like
Speaker 3: these custom stuff and he has like a bind full
Speaker 3: of toys, and my immediate question was like whom.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, it's actually exact.
Speaker 3: Before I had to ask, He's like, well, I have
Speaker 3: the toy cleaner. He has all the things, so he
Speaker 3: cleans them. But I was like, and he was like,
Speaker 3: and I use condoms on them when I use them
Speaker 3: for me. I'm not in a place because I don't
Speaker 3: I don't trust the cleanliness of anyone else to be
Speaker 3: shoving toys in me that would have winn someone else.
Speaker 4: It's like cat owners. You don't want to eat out
Speaker 4: of calendars.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is Oh you wouldn't eat in
Speaker 1: my goddamn house.
Speaker 3: Nigga, I got body, you got you had body, no body,
Speaker 3: but body body is a black household.
Speaker 4: Don't be on the counter.
Speaker 1: I feel like when I was over there, came over
Speaker 1: niggah never on the counter.
Speaker 4: Like, but Bondy is a orange cat.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, okay, my first time going my business. Didn't
Speaker 2: feed you because the cat chick.
Speaker 3: We go to his family's house and his mama's there.
Speaker 3: This is my first rid his family and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: and his.
Speaker 1: Mom's Puerto Rican. I'm like, oh, we got to eat that.
Speaker 1: She hyping us up, and right as I'm putting it
Speaker 1: in my mouth, I see.
Speaker 6: Huh, it's a little bit of rocks, not a bit
Speaker 6: of rocks.
Speaker 2: Also, who was good this moat?
Speaker 1: This is well? I everything is. I tell you you
Speaker 1: know what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 3: I'm I'm just gonna search to get you guys off
Speaker 3: of the PTSD that you have. I will send you
Speaker 3: so because I'm a cat owner, a part of my
Speaker 3: algorithm is cat videos. And the funniest thing is to
Speaker 3: see black cat owners because you just talk to him different,
Speaker 3: you treat them different.
Speaker 1: But also black casts, no, get your.
Speaker 3: Motherfucking air the fucking counter because you know you don't
Speaker 3: nigga you doing, You're not even allowed in the kitchen side.
Speaker 3: So black cat owners are are I will say we
Speaker 3: are different, even though yes I'm by rat you Sather
Speaker 3: day No, No, this is when I first So when
Speaker 3: I first moved into this house, I went on vacation.
Speaker 3: I also didn't bring the feeder because I got rid
Speaker 3: of everything that nigga.
Speaker 1: I felt so bad.
Speaker 3: He was out of water, he was out of everything.
Speaker 3: So I think I felt so bad. I felt like
Speaker 3: a terrible like mother.
Speaker 4: So when I got how long were you out of town?
Speaker 6: Oh my god, like four days? But and and it
Speaker 6: didn't like it was a new feeder. I didn't set
Speaker 6: it right.
Speaker 1: I went in there.
Speaker 3: The whole water was tipped. He had nothing, and I
Speaker 3: don't know how long he didn't have anything for. So
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god. So I go in
Speaker 3: there and I was like, fuck, it's hot, and this
Speaker 3: again new house. He's probably looking for goddamn food. So
Speaker 3: it's a touch stove stove, so mind you. My cups
Speaker 3: were knocked over. I really think he was in a
Speaker 3: new ray and I felt so bad. So I go
Speaker 3: on and I was like, oh ship, but yeah, no,
Speaker 3: he hasn't done that since, but this is literally what no.
Speaker 4: But also it's a new house.
Speaker 1: This is when I had first moved in there.
Speaker 4: He was like also getting adjusted.
Speaker 3: You don't notice, nigga, I got two floors. Now you
Speaker 3: saw a small mind. I'm a dog girl. I have
Speaker 3: a small ship to and she's like listen. All I
Speaker 3: know is I was just glad that the house. Did
Speaker 3: my dog coco coca like chocolate. Like I was like, spoke, yeah,
Speaker 3: like butter, cocoa, butter. That's why you said coco I'm like,
Speaker 3: you spoke cocoa. That's like okay, Like witch, how else
Speaker 3: do you spoke?
Speaker 1: Okay? Okay.
Speaker 3: Now again, because this is a themed episode, I wanted
Speaker 3: to get into period. I'm excited. I'm excited for it.
Speaker 1: Girls.
Speaker 3: I am a pumpkin bitch, and that's just are you
Speaker 3: a pumpkin? I mean, first of potato p gl it
Speaker 3: is the same thing, and I'm not gonna have this
Speaker 3: every year, potato pine pump they taste the fucking say.
Speaker 1: I actually don't think they do.
Speaker 3: I recently had a plump We're not gonna because squad,
Speaker 3: we're really about.
Speaker 1: We're not gonna do well.
Speaker 3: It's probably I'm not an either, but I will have
Speaker 3: a slice. It's around Pumpkin soup was discussed.
Speaker 4: Now why would you have that?
Speaker 2: Because I thought butternut squash. When I saw somebody else
Speaker 2: at the table with it, I was like, let me
Speaker 2: have one of those, and I was like, I love
Speaker 2: pumpkin soup. I love pumpkin spice, I love pumpkin coppo.
Speaker 2: They have pumpkin egg nog, so let me tell you,
Speaker 2: I love everything pumpkin.
Speaker 1: Biracial people have a thing that they like, right mineus
Speaker 1: be two K.
Speaker 6: There we go.
Speaker 4: No, I really think y'a by racial.
Speaker 2: I love that you forget forgetting that I don't forget
Speaker 2: to say something or Mandy says something that's questionable.
Speaker 6: I realized pumpkin is questionable in the fall it is.
Speaker 1: I black people have cats.
Speaker 5: Well, I know a lot of white people black people,
Speaker 5: they normally have black cats. But I love there's something
Speaker 5: special about an orange cats.
Speaker 3: Orange cats are something about Yeah they are special spectral
Speaker 3: this orange cats.
Speaker 4: But yeah, I'm most definitely a sweet mayonnaise usage.
Speaker 2: Every loading on mayonnaise on ship or likes it or
Speaker 2: be ranchy type people all the time.
Speaker 1: They be like, yo, what is this?
Speaker 3: That's the other that's the other thing where I lean
Speaker 3: on the other spect do not give me ranch blue cheese.
Speaker 5: I actually think y'all represent the spectrum racial very well.
Speaker 5: Like you're like like septum biracial and you're like black
Speaker 5: black black biration So it's like, I totally see. It's
Speaker 5: really beautiful to see the range what.
Speaker 2: You have septum by racial. And they all have boho
Speaker 2: braids and stept them I mean all white guys. Steptrant
Speaker 2: is my twenties also black with like he got locks
Speaker 2: and we're tatty saying, but he did say, yo, if
Speaker 2: go either way, you think they got a nigga, like me,
Speaker 2: what do they got?
Speaker 1: White?
Speaker 5: And then like the black versions you dating Zach Fox.
Speaker 5: I feel like Zach Fox with data septum biracial would
Speaker 5: for sure.
Speaker 4: I mean he's married Asian. Yes, yes, yes, I mean yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: So either black guy the biracial to date who makes
Speaker 3: all black Steve Lacy, but yeah, white man.
Speaker 4: Yeah he's a white the white Yeah, it's true.
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy?
Speaker 3: Out with the Obama sisters the other night in l
Speaker 3: a and all like they're always out, like they do
Speaker 3: be out.
Speaker 1: But when I saw them, I was like, that's all
Speaker 1: I thought.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like I think Malaiya likes someone who loves a
Speaker 5: good cigarette, not like loves a good cigarette or like
Speaker 5: they're putting the stuff in the list, Like I feel
Speaker 5: like she thinks, like what's the thing?
Speaker 3: They My racial girls that live in New York were
Speaker 3: cigarette gang for sure, Like it just comes with the
Speaker 3: outfit in the attitude cigarettes.
Speaker 1: Bro, I'm you're a you're a girl. What do you
Speaker 1: think I'm do in Paris?
Speaker 5: Do you think I just talk to people. I mean,
Speaker 5: I just don't understand why there's a cigarette when weed exist.
Speaker 3: I thought millennials gave up like we I thought millennials
Speaker 3: didn't smoke cigarettes.
Speaker 1: I don't think probably. Okay, okay, this is the thing.
Speaker 4: If you're Blueberry Bake.
Speaker 1: I don't buy cigarettes. I'm girl that's outside. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: can I get one?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Now, Like what I will say though about cigarette and
Speaker 2: vape culture, I do think vaping is so weird.
Speaker 1: So I don't understand why people do it.
Speaker 2: And I understand why teenagers smoke cigarettes back in because
Speaker 2: it actually does look there's an aesthetic.
Speaker 3: But the vape looks kiddyish to me. Maybe that's one
Speaker 3: trauma for me. I like how you were mad at
Speaker 3: the poncho and boots. I would go to guy for
Speaker 3: pulling out a pack of cigarettes and smoking that's happening.
Speaker 1: I don't want to.
Speaker 6: I don't want to kiss the guy after they smoke
Speaker 6: cigarette ciarettes.
Speaker 1: I don't want a leather biker.
Speaker 5: Not for me. It's I don't I don't know if
Speaker 5: I would long term date someone that smokes cigarette, but
Speaker 5: I would for sure.
Speaker 4: Have a rendezvous with a cigarette smoking.
Speaker 1: You know, it's crazy.
Speaker 4: When they say not for about three weeks.
Speaker 3: When they tell you, like when you go into like
Speaker 3: apartments and stuff like that, like it's non smoking. A
Speaker 3: lot of times it's really for cigarettes because it literally
Speaker 3: no you go, that's one thing. It changes the color
Speaker 3: of the wall wall, It's like it's disgusting.
Speaker 1: But why are else are you smoking cigarettes in a house?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: See that's like unt that's why there's.
Speaker 3: As indoor smoking. Ash trays are for indoor smoking. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and people smoke inside for sure.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I didn't even think about that. Oh my god, I.
Speaker 2: Make I feel like someone just told me fish don't
Speaker 2: drink water? Are they just like it makes so much sense? Yeah,
Speaker 2: the ass is thin. Door spoke of it.
Speaker 1: I I mean we did.
Speaker 4: We've said b two K like three times.
Speaker 1: Not not if you say the book. I'm very judging
Speaker 1: about cigarettes too.
Speaker 2: Me and my nigga was fucking with this girl and
Speaker 2: he was like her with the pack is crazy, Like
Speaker 2: this miss take breaks me while we smoking with her
Speaker 2: that night.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, you should see me judging bt.
Speaker 2: K people Like, first of all, I'm a monthly party girl, bitch,
Speaker 2: what are you talking about?
Speaker 1: The nine am?
Speaker 5: And I just don't like the the I'm never going
Speaker 5: to do a drug where I feel like I don't
Speaker 5: have control of my body. And I think the girls
Speaker 5: that do it did they do the bump bump bumps,
Speaker 5: they get like coke mouth are like like where their
Speaker 5: their mouths are little slanted. I feel like this about
Speaker 5: and I just can't do that.
Speaker 1: We don't.
Speaker 2: Weed makes me feel very like I think I get
Speaker 2: weird in person, and I feel like I get anxious, and.
Speaker 5: That's scept them by racial I'm diagnosed. I don't think
Speaker 5: that's I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 6: That's what I need.
Speaker 1: That paranoid.
Speaker 4: I know you and I I just want to say,
Speaker 4: you have been diagnosed.
Speaker 1: Oh my godness anxiety that comes with being a future
Speaker 1: and stuff. I'm like, totally, no, for sure.
Speaker 4: You would have been great as a guest star on
Speaker 4: Grown Ish I work.
Speaker 1: I I'm just clocking right, you know what's crazy? Right
Speaker 1: when I got hired, I.
Speaker 2: Think I said it on this show, I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, they're gonna say, can you chose me?
Speaker 1: Because I'm probably I don't like but they didn't put
Speaker 1: my phone on. I'm somebody on and go find me.
Speaker 2: Be like that bitch but you know what actually helped,
Speaker 2: Horrible Decisions is so culturally relevant that black people in
Speaker 2: the space of podcasting that.
Speaker 1: They let me go. Thank you everybody.
Speaker 4: I love that this has been the card for you
Speaker 4: to be like, this is horrible Decisions. Is my black car.
Speaker 1: The black heart.
Speaker 3: I thought I wanted to get into three topics before
Speaker 3: we get out of here, to speak about gratitude and thankfulness,
Speaker 3: but of course the decisions decisions slash horrible decisions way,
Speaker 3: So we're gonna talk gratitude and dating, gratitude and relationships,
Speaker 3: and gratitude and sex.
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, okay, but in the in the best way.
Speaker 3: So for gratitude and dating, I would love for you
Speaker 3: to share a dating disaster that weirdly you're thankful for
Speaker 3: because it taught you a lesson.
Speaker 1: Mmm.
Speaker 4: Does that have to be a dating disaster.
Speaker 1: It could be a relationship. It could be a relationship too.
Speaker 5: I think I'm most grateful for my first real relationship
Speaker 5: same because it was I mean it was like fresh
Speaker 5: out of college and then we moved out here together.
Speaker 5: Well oh wow, that was like my first like real relationship.
Speaker 5: And there was infidelity on his side, and like there
Speaker 5: was just it was just we probably shouldn't have moved
Speaker 5: here together.
Speaker 1: It was just like a shit show.
Speaker 5: But if I'm being quite honest, like I don't want
Speaker 5: to be cliche, but that shit really taught me what
Speaker 5: I needed to know about I think I had this
Speaker 5: idea of needing to be a ride or die in
Speaker 5: any case, and his life was literally falling apart, and
Speaker 5: I felt like I just needed to be like there
Speaker 5: and like sacrifice a lot of my shit to like
Speaker 5: be there for him.
Speaker 4: And especially when when we got out.
Speaker 5: Here and we were all trying to make it and
Speaker 5: he just kind of like lost it and just was
Speaker 5: cheating up a storm and doing his own.
Speaker 1: He was doing his big one.
Speaker 2: What stage in your relationship did you decide to like
Speaker 2: take a leap and move together.
Speaker 1: How long had you been We had been together for
Speaker 1: three year, maybe four years? Okay lot? Yeah, yeah, Like
Speaker 1: we were together for a minute.
Speaker 5: And even though before we moved out here, I had
Speaker 5: found out he cheated on me and still did it
Speaker 5: and still did it. That's why I'm like, I'm so
Speaker 5: grateful for that relationship because it literally taught me what
Speaker 5: I will accept, what I want to accept hereious and
Speaker 5: also it taught me what it actually means when I
Speaker 5: do end up like connecting with someone and what it
Speaker 5: actually means for them to show like how they like
Speaker 5: me and how they show up for me, because I
Speaker 5: never really experienced that. I remember being like, I was
Speaker 5: thinking about this the other day where I was like, oh,
Speaker 5: I used to like actually say I loved I feel
Speaker 5: like I was in love with this person, but like,
Speaker 5: I don't actually know if I was, like, I don't
Speaker 5: think that was actually a great representation of what love is.
Speaker 5: And I think if I didn't go through that relationship,
Speaker 5: I would not have known that.
Speaker 1: Ooh, I like that.
Speaker 3: It's funny because in terms of the the L word
Speaker 3: I call it now, Yeah, I treat that shit like
Speaker 3: the R word.
Speaker 1: I ain't say.
Speaker 3: Listen, I mean it's a normalize. Yeah, it's twenty twenty five.
Speaker 3: A lot of people are actually.
Speaker 4: Saying it's kind of you.
Speaker 1: No, it's coming back.
Speaker 4: It's like on South Park and everything real bad.
Speaker 1: They is saying it up a storm on that thing.
Speaker 3: But for me, when it comes to the L word,
Speaker 3: I remember loosely saying it in my twenties or being
Speaker 3: so infatuated with like certain partners. Mind you that I
Speaker 3: wasn't exclusive with or committed to, but I like genuinely
Speaker 3: thought I l worded them. And it wasn't until how
Speaker 3: I felt in my first relationship that I saw different
Speaker 3: parts of me that I could be that I'm now
Speaker 3: grateful for now, Like I'm grateful that I'm also grateful
Speaker 3: that I had it at an age that I could
Speaker 3: dissect because I know so many people can go back
Speaker 3: to these relationships in middle school, high school, or in
Speaker 3: their early twenties. And for me, where I kind of
Speaker 3: was upset that it took so long quote unquote for
Speaker 3: me to be in a real relationship, I was really
Speaker 3: glad that I was in a space of going to therapy,
Speaker 3: learning myself, overcoming the trauma of my twenties, and experiencing
Speaker 3: a love that, although got toxic as the relationship went through.
Speaker 3: I met you when I was on that roller coaster
Speaker 3: with him member, and there was just so many things
Speaker 3: that I'm glad through therapy that I learned to take
Speaker 3: from it that I was grateful for, Like the main
Speaker 3: thing I think I got a he was all of
Speaker 3: the things over there, I need you if you were
Speaker 3: like how the fuckers that plod over there he was,
Speaker 3: and I was like, what is that?
Speaker 4: I just need you to leave.
Speaker 3: Well, it wasn't even the Hotep as much as it
Speaker 3: was like uh and it could be leaning ho tep.
Speaker 3: So he aligned himself with the thoughts and views of
Speaker 3: Kyrie Irving on some Israelite ship. Yeah, then freemasonship, flat
Speaker 3: earth ship, all the qualifications of being a whole.
Speaker 1: So there we go.
Speaker 4: I think that's like literally hotep one on one is
Speaker 4: I think.
Speaker 3: So, I don't know much about It's like a hotel.
Speaker 3: He didn't eat like Hotep.
Speaker 5: I mean, you've got a new age one, a modern hotel.
Speaker 5: I love to see them off.
Speaker 2: Actually, nothing to think about it. Flat earthers, Damn. I
Speaker 2: don't put them in the hotepe ship. I do, but
Speaker 2: because so I'm hotel, because.
Speaker 1: I like, are you okay?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 1: You know what?
Speaker 4: Sometimes I just let Mandy say things and just sit
Speaker 4: with them and just you have to you have to.
Speaker 1: I just don't. I don't. I don't have to dive anyway.
Speaker 4: But I'm happy she vocal and she's like living in that.
Speaker 1: There's no way you've seriously, I can be.
Speaker 3: Off doing like there's a video now on YouTube. I'm
Speaker 3: gonna send it to you after set. The seventeen minutes
Speaker 3: of watching it, you're going to like, question, it's not
Speaker 3: a spear this feareness.
Speaker 1: You will when.
Speaker 3: There have been airline travels. I know there's a pilot
Speaker 3: in here that explains it. So it's a documentary like
Speaker 3: a short document on YouTube. Is an airplane able to
Speaker 3: go from LA to Australia, But if New York goes
Speaker 3: that way, it's long so so meeting.
Speaker 1: At the same point.
Speaker 3: So no, it's a half dome, it's not a full circle.
Speaker 1: That's what it is. But you understand that, don't do that.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you. I'm going to show you.
Speaker 3: I'm going to show you that what a grateful for
Speaker 3: there's flat parks on the art God damn. But they
Speaker 3: also show us like science has shown us. I'm grateful
Speaker 3: for YouTube, bitch about that.
Speaker 4: And I'm grateful for both of them.
Speaker 5: Now.
Speaker 2: I understand we think the government lies all the time,
Speaker 2: but this thing is they make the weather.
Speaker 3: I told you that, like the Earth Watch Paradise not
Speaker 3: only paradise. So in Dubai, which I frequented many test
Speaker 3: you know the Earth is actually taking her there because
Speaker 3: it's I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I can't even like holler bitches over there. I can't
Speaker 1: even tell a bit she's pretty because.
Speaker 4: Everyone over hear me. It's like else my septum ring
Speaker 4: and be.
Speaker 1: Like when I got my septum, my mom was like,
Speaker 1: you think gay for years? Why did you get it now? Okay?
Speaker 6: So gratitude and sex, Okay, I want all of us
Speaker 6: to get into this one.
Speaker 4: What are you gratitude for the first one?
Speaker 1: Did we say?
Speaker 5: What is it?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: I would say, speaking of dating relationship, my first real
Speaker 2: relationship with a woman. I had always had the idea
Speaker 2: that romantic love, like the height of it, would only
Speaker 2: come from men for me, and I always thought there
Speaker 2: had to be this like ones on top.
Speaker 1: Ones on the bottom.
Speaker 2: Not even trying to be pnny here, but like, seriously,
Speaker 2: there is such thing as finding a romantic love and
Speaker 2: a deep connection where both pursuits are mutual.
Speaker 1: Hell yeah, Bobby lifting their legs.
Speaker 2: But I don't think that it could happen because I thought, oh,
Speaker 2: one is going to have to say it first. I
Speaker 2: was so used to the way men treated me, the
Speaker 2: waiting game, like, I just thought it would never happen.
Speaker 1: So now that I saw it.
Speaker 2: I realized there's a genuinity in queer relationships and in
Speaker 2: how I saw them, Like I always was confused about
Speaker 2: how deep it would go for me.
Speaker 1: Was that heterosexual, hetero romantic?
Speaker 3: What wasn't?
Speaker 1: Now it actually made my bonds with men stronger.
Speaker 5: Interesting, So you you still want to be with Like
Speaker 5: you're still like you're dating a man right now? Right?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Oh okay, work, I love that for you.
Speaker 2: We think women together, but not romantically, not as serious.
Speaker 2: But sometimes they'll say to me.
Speaker 4: Like, is he queer?
Speaker 1: Do you date queer man?
Speaker 2: No, I date queer man, but he's not queer. But
Speaker 2: he has said to me pretty often that he thinks
Speaker 2: I'm mainly gay. He's like, I think you just really
Speaker 2: want a family. I feel like you're more gay. You
Speaker 2: do a lot of gay shit that like just does
Speaker 2: it sometimes out of He's like, the way that you act.
Speaker 2: He's like, if you're drunk, you don't even look at
Speaker 2: niggas anymore. You just lose the inhibition and be like boom,
Speaker 2: hyper focus on women. He's like, and to me, that's
Speaker 2: like the biggest truth teller, Whereas I'm like, no, maybe
Speaker 2: I'm just ready. Was he tonight and I wasn't at
Speaker 2: three pm.
Speaker 3: I did explain that I actually had to explain that
Speaker 3: in the in the in our book no holes part
Speaker 3: get it now, I had to explain that I was
Speaker 3: bisexual and hetero romantic because I have zero desire whatsoever
Speaker 3: to date a woman, to be with a woman, like
Speaker 3: that's my brain literally doesn't see it possibly happening. But
Speaker 3: I love eating couci and being sexual with a woman.
Speaker 3: And so what's funny right now is you know I
Speaker 3: got the two boyfriends my third that it's not it's
Speaker 3: long distance, so it's really right. I love it, But
Speaker 3: I would love my third boyfriend. Final I think three.
Speaker 3: I had four one time.
Speaker 1: That was a lot.
Speaker 3: Now meant to an impossible the possible. I would love
Speaker 3: to be bisexual, Like I'm in an era where especially
Speaker 3: like being a bisexual woman. I would love to just
Speaker 3: be with a bisexual man who is confident, comfortable.
Speaker 6: I've only met like.
Speaker 3: Two in my whole life, but like, I just would
Speaker 3: really like to be with someone that I can explore
Speaker 3: all the things sexually, that we could be open about
Speaker 3: the things we enjoy about both sexes.
Speaker 1: Like there's just something that is.
Speaker 3: So literally literally no holes barred at all, all the holes.
Speaker 6: For the taking an ear a nose.
Speaker 1: I want everything, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: And so I don't know what you would do with
Speaker 4: an ear.
Speaker 3: I don't even blowing and blowing like a blow job,
Speaker 3: nigga blowing an ear when I tell you the sensation
Speaker 3: I've had an ear orgularly.
Speaker 1: I've talked about it on this pot.
Speaker 4: I mean I have to, but I've used a cute tap.
Speaker 1: Oh my, you know what I'm not.
Speaker 3: Now that does know the right My lag has shook
Speaker 3: a little bit, absolutely.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: So the last one is gratitude in sex. Okay, what
Speaker 3: is something you used to be embarrassed about that now
Speaker 3: you're grateful you explored.
Speaker 1: Ooh maybe it changed you know, your mind.
Speaker 5: To be quite honest, I actually used to be embarrassed
Speaker 5: about sex a lot, like all together, like I used to.
Speaker 5: I think it's because of the way that I grew
Speaker 5: up and being religious, like I was always like shamed
Speaker 5: and shunned around like being a sexual being. And I
Speaker 5: think once I like unlearned all of that, and once
Speaker 5: I look like leaned into the fact that I know
Speaker 5: I'm like a fully sexual being that loves to like
Speaker 5: dick and nut and all things you know, like it's
Speaker 5: it's it's it's actually really beautiful for me, and it's like, hey,
Speaker 5: it allows me to carry myself in a way, not
Speaker 5: saying that I'm still not like working through some of
Speaker 5: my like I have to feel comfortable with someone. That's
Speaker 5: there's a lot of trust that comes with that, right,
Speaker 5: because you I just can't be fully free and open
Speaker 5: in the ways.
Speaker 1: That I'm just with anyone.
Speaker 5: But when I have that trust with someone and it's there,
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh my god, let's try anything once, except
Speaker 5: for anything.
Speaker 4: That has smells.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I agree with that. Yeah, I can't.
Speaker 5: Smells or things or things that are coming out waiting
Speaker 5: is well not that's not nut well BV like like
Speaker 5: uh like like scat play or oh yeah, I don't death,
Speaker 5: I don't do smegma And yeah, I'm also not a
Speaker 5: musty girl like.
Speaker 4: I don't like, I don't like musks me neither not.
Speaker 1: I need to be clean. I need to feel like
Speaker 1: the dove cocoa butter. That's why you named yes, yes,
Speaker 1: my baby is clean. Period. Well, I'm gonna make this
Speaker 1: really quick.
Speaker 3: I think for me, when it comes to sex, it
Speaker 3: would be public sex. So exploring the sex clubs and
Speaker 3: things that I thought like we didn't like that were
Speaker 3: completely completely taboo. I love that I'm now in communities
Speaker 3: and spaces where it's normalized, like yeah, like we're gonna
Speaker 3: go to the sux club. I think public sex and
Speaker 3: being able to be a voyeur and exhibitionist has been
Speaker 3: like the one thing that I was just like, oh,
Speaker 3: I can't imagine having someone see me do this. Oh
Speaker 3: now you put on a sheltually, And I'm grateful that
Speaker 3: I've been able to experience that.
Speaker 1: But then, well, and mature easy and it's so hard.
Speaker 1: Mine is basic?
Speaker 2: Now why because the only thing that keeps coming to
Speaker 2: my mind about gratitude is just body. So I felt like,
Speaker 2: now this may sound like some whole shit. The more
Speaker 2: women I slept with, the more comfortable I was with
Speaker 2: my own body. And I think it's because not like
Speaker 2: anything was wrong with their but let's just say I
Speaker 2: slept with a girl who was skinnier than me, or
Speaker 2: thicker than me or whatever it was. They just were
Speaker 2: more confident, and I'm like, damn all this shit. I
Speaker 2: think I remember one woman I dated dated that was
Speaker 2: a mom and she had this huge c sections card
Speaker 2: that I remember thinking she would even talk to me
Speaker 2: about because that's how big it was.
Speaker 1: Nope, she was fully naked, having taken my hand.
Speaker 2: I could literally feel it, and I remember being like, damn,
Speaker 2: she doesn't give a fuck, Like I really thought if
Speaker 2: this was me, wouldn't be the same. So I would say,
Speaker 2: like getting to explore women's bodies, because I'm just not
Speaker 2: the person that would look at someone and be like, ew.
Speaker 4: Wait it's so beautiful.
Speaker 2: Audege but like with body like you know, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: judge that outfit poncho.
Speaker 6: Yes, puncho, take me there.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie. That may be the lesson from
Speaker 3: this episode. Throw the ponchos out, throw my life, and
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 5: Follow a low key appropriation when they start looking like
Speaker 5: western in like well, I was.
Speaker 3: Also gonna say, fellows, I don't think I've heard of
Speaker 3: anyone that likes brunch boot.
Speaker 1: Oh brunch boots gotta go. Yeah, let's go for a loafer.
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