Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2: Sophie is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Chris.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if it tells why he's ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date.
Speaker 1: But first, Sophie, how are you hi?
Speaker 3: I'm I'm good, all things considered.
Speaker 1: Well, how long has it been since you heard from Chris.
Speaker 3: It's been about two weeks now, so a good chunk
Speaker 3: of time.
Speaker 1: Honestly, have you been trying to get a hold of him?
Speaker 4: I was, but then I didn't want to seem crazy,
Speaker 4: so I kind of I kind of tapered off, and
Speaker 4: now I'm texting you guys.
Speaker 3: They're calling you guys.
Speaker 1: Okay, great, Well let's talk about it. How did you
Speaker 1: meet Chris?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 1: How is your date?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 4: Everything was really great, I mean he The only weird
Speaker 4: thing is he is best friends with my ex and
Speaker 4: we matched on Hinge and I kind of was like,
Speaker 4: and I saw him, and I've always thought he was
Speaker 4: really cute and a nice guy, but you know, I
Speaker 4: ended up swiping on him just to see. It's like
Speaker 4: a social experiment. We ended up matching, so yeah, and
Speaker 4: I was like, we were like, hau this is so weird.
Speaker 4: But we really hit it off and we ended up
Speaker 4: moving off of hinge and you know, texting phone calls,
Speaker 4: and then about two weeks ago we actually went on
Speaker 4: a first date.
Speaker 1: Okay, and he's your friend's best friend best friend.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you knew him before then while you were
Speaker 5: with your ex.
Speaker 3: I knew who he was.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've known him for a bit, like we'd always
Speaker 4: been friendly, and it was never it was like he
Speaker 4: was just you know, my ex was good friend and
Speaker 4: so I saw him quite a bit, but it was
Speaker 4: never anything romantic.
Speaker 1: Did you guys talk about that before you decided to
Speaker 1: go on a date?
Speaker 4: Yeah, we definitely, like you know, talked about the elephant
Speaker 4: in the room and we were like, is this really weird?
Speaker 3: Is this like mess up? And we were like no,
Speaker 3: we're adults, Like we can we can do this. Why
Speaker 3: don't we go on a date and see if it
Speaker 3: is really weird? So that's what we decided to do.
Speaker 1: Well, how did it go.
Speaker 3: It was honestly like one of the best first days
Speaker 3: I've ever had.
Speaker 4: We went to this arcade and we were playing games
Speaker 4: and we got wings and shots and I just like
Speaker 4: felt like a kid again. And I mean, not drinking
Speaker 4: shots as a kid, but you know, right right right,
Speaker 4: I got it, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3: Sugar. Sugar you know was the drug at that time.
Speaker 4: But yeah, I mean, and then we kissed at the
Speaker 4: end of the night and was actually really hot. And
Speaker 4: but then he was like, I don't know, I just
Speaker 4: feel really weird about Kyle.
Speaker 3: That's my act. I'm gonna I'm gonna.
Speaker 4: Call him and just like let him know. And I
Speaker 4: was like, I was kind of resistant, honestly. I was like,
Speaker 4: I don't think you need to do that, but go ahead,
Speaker 4: like go for it. And he was like, okay, I'm
Speaker 4: going to. And I guess, you know, something must have
Speaker 4: happened in that conversation because everything was great. And then
Speaker 4: he said he was gonna call Kyle and has not
Speaker 4: responded to my text my calls, has completely ghosted me.
Speaker 2: Anything else you can think of other than your ex's
Speaker 2: best friends with them.
Speaker 4: I mean, I think that's a pretty big thing. So
Speaker 4: I don't know, I don't think anything else happened. Like
Speaker 4: it was a really great date, So something must have
Speaker 4: happened in that conversation and it yeah, sick to my stomach.
Speaker 5: Well, how would that conversation even go? Like, I don't
Speaker 5: even know how I would feel if like my friend
Speaker 5: came to me and was like, hey, I'm dating your ex.
Speaker 1: Is that okay? How would you handle that? Jubile?
Speaker 2: Oh, I'd be fine with it, But then again, that's
Speaker 2: just how I am. I'd be like, yeah, cool, whatever,
Speaker 2: you know, unless unless it was an ex.
Speaker 5: I was like, dude, Oh, Sophie, you got some something
Speaker 5: to tell us about your last relationship.
Speaker 3: Oh no, I really don't.
Speaker 4: I yeah, I'm trying to think like it wasn't a
Speaker 4: great breakup.
Speaker 3: It was fairly amicable and it was.
Speaker 4: A while ago, Like you know, I don't really have
Speaker 4: any hard feelings towards him.
Speaker 2: Like it's yeah, okay, well we'll see if we can
Speaker 2: figure it out for you a play on come back and
Speaker 2: then call him and see if it tells why he's
Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another data.
Speaker 3: Right, Okay, that sounds great. Thanks guys.
Speaker 2: Yep, please don't come back and get your first day
Speaker 2: follow up next. Right in the middle of today's first
Speaker 2: day follow up, if you're just joining us. Sophie is
Speaker 2: on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy
Speaker 2: named Chris. So in a second, we're gonna call him
Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's a ghostinger
Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But first, Sophie, why
Speaker 2: don't you refresh our memory on your date with Chris.
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I mean it was a really great day because it
Speaker 4: was really fun, really hot.
Speaker 3: But he is dating.
Speaker 4: I mean he is my you know, ex's best friend,
Speaker 4: so he's Grandma's gonna call him, give him my heads
Speaker 4: up because he's my friend. And after that, I guess
Speaker 4: I've just not heard from him in two weeks, so
Speaker 4: something must.
Speaker 1: Have happened in that conversation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, all right.
Speaker 1: Probably told him not to see you, right. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: let's see. Are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yes, but I'm also so scared.
Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, Ma me, I speak
Speaker 1: to Chris. Please. This is Chris, Chris, what's up? How
Speaker 1: are you? This is Jewbel. I'm from a radio show
Speaker 1: called The Jebel Show. Yeah, Hi, Chris. I'm Nina also
Speaker 1: on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 3: Okay, we're in a radio group chat or something pretty much.
Speaker 1: Yeah, have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I have.
Speaker 1: Well, have you ever heard a First Day follow Up before?
Speaker 4: Uh?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I was.
Speaker 7: I was wondering why me, because I'm like, I've heard
Speaker 7: the show, but I didn't fill out any like you
Speaker 7: know contest.
Speaker 2: Any somebody emailed us about you, because the First Day
Speaker 2: Followup is a segment where if you go out on
Speaker 2: a date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them,
Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone
Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 1: And we got an email about you. Do you know
Speaker 1: who would be from? I'm probably you who.
Speaker 3: It's probably Sophie, right.
Speaker 1: Is Sophie? You want to tell us why you're a ghostinger?
Speaker 7: I mean, well, I don't know what she told you,
Speaker 7: but I mean we went out, but she's we matched
Speaker 7: up online, and long story short, she dated my best.
Speaker 3: Friend for quite some time. They broke up.
Speaker 7: I wouldn't want somebody going out one of my buddies
Speaker 7: going out with my ex, right, But I thought, okay, well,
Speaker 7: you know, Kyle's not like me. Kyle's probably cool with it.
Speaker 7: So we went out and and it was everything was great,
Speaker 7: but just at the end of the night, I just,
Speaker 7: you know, felt like I really need to say something
Speaker 7: to Kyle just to make sure.
Speaker 3: So I called him up, and I know what I thought.
Speaker 3: Kyle was like, yeah, go ahead, do whatever.
Speaker 1: You want, help myself.
Speaker 7: He seemed to not have a problem with it, but
Speaker 7: he didn't tell me that our other buddy.
Speaker 3: Robbie ran into Sophie recently and took.
Speaker 1: Her home that night.
Speaker 3: So so now.
Speaker 7: I I'm just you know, that's that's a that's a
Speaker 7: little too much. Like I know, Kyle's cool and I
Speaker 7: can deal with that, but if she's like if she's
Speaker 7: trying to work her way through her crew to get
Speaker 7: back to Kyle, I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 3: So I just I just kind of stepped back.
Speaker 5: Okay, did you think to ask her about that or
Speaker 5: you're just like no, I'm out.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 7: Just at that point, I'm like, look, I don't know,
Speaker 7: I don't even know what the situation was. I'm not
Speaker 7: sure if she's like purposely trying to get with with
Speaker 7: Kyle's buddies or or or what the deal is. But
Speaker 7: I'm just like, now, that's that's two of my friends
Speaker 7: there she's been with.
Speaker 2: I just I okay, Well, thank you for being honest
Speaker 2: with us. And she's also been with us. Actually this
Speaker 2: whole time she's on the phone to you.
Speaker 1: Oh well you didn't tell me that, Sorry about that?
Speaker 1: Forgot about that part, Sophie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, what what the hell? Like, that's not that's not
Speaker 3: true at all. That's yeah, you could.
Speaker 4: Have asked me, because I would have told you right
Speaker 4: then and there. That's complete Why that's not that's not true.
Speaker 4: You didn't go home with Robbie together, Nyton. I mean,
Speaker 4: why why would Kyle lie? Why would Robbie lie?
Speaker 1: I mean, we wheel each other since we were a kids.
Speaker 3: They're not gonna lie to me. Yeah, well, I think Kyle.
Speaker 4: This is just showing how manipulative and patrolling Kyle can be.
Speaker 4: Because yeah, Robbie did take me home. It was like
Speaker 4: right after the breakup. I was definitely a mess, Like
Speaker 4: I was like crying, I was wasted. Robbie was at
Speaker 4: the same bar as me, and yeah, he did take
Speaker 4: me home to my own house.
Speaker 3: We didn't do anything. He just gave me a ride
Speaker 3: because I should not have been driving in that state.
Speaker 4: So like that was yeah, it was that's a complete lie,
Speaker 4: and it really kind of pisses me off.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think you should have mentioned that if he
Speaker 1: didn't like. Saying you took a girl home is very
Speaker 1: different than oh, I took a home to her, to
Speaker 1: her house and dropped her off.
Speaker 4: He meant to say it like that, he hoed with.
Speaker 4: I meant to say it like that. I know Kyle,
Speaker 4: and like that is that's just really frustrating.
Speaker 5: Like he would say that knowing what the truth was,
Speaker 5: but was just trying to plant that's actually twist the
Speaker 5: word there. But Sophie, are you sure Robbie did, like
Speaker 5: Robbie come in your house, Like, was there anything, did
Speaker 5: he make any moves on you? Or was it just
Speaker 5: completely innocent?
Speaker 4: It'll call Robbie right now and ask him, like, yeah,
Speaker 4: he definitely happened.
Speaker 7: So I'm sure that when Robbie told Kyle that he
Speaker 7: took you home, Kyle just naturally assumed that Robbie's a player.
Speaker 3: He's a dog.
Speaker 1: That's what he does.
Speaker 7: He chases honey's like it's his job.
Speaker 6: So right, like we just assumed that if Robbie's with
Speaker 6: a girl, he's he's gone there, right, That's how That's
Speaker 6: how he is has been since we were kids, so Kyle
Speaker 6: might have actually thought something hooked up.
Speaker 3: But I'm not going to say that if.
Speaker 7: Kyle knew otherwise, he wouldn't still try to maybe make
Speaker 7: it seem that way.
Speaker 3: That is kind of how it can be a real
Speaker 3: jerk like that.
Speaker 7: Sometimes.
Speaker 3: I'm not going to argue. I mean, yeah, there you go.
Speaker 4: I'm just going to say, wow, you are and Kyle's
Speaker 4: carter here, why don't you two dates?
Speaker 3: Like you're very much like defending him. I yeah, of
Speaker 3: course we've been We've been boys since school, of course.
Speaker 3: But you could have called me.
Speaker 4: You could have called me your text me been like
Speaker 4: hey I heard this, and I would have immediately told you.
Speaker 3: I guess now I'm really hurt.
Speaker 4: But you just sort of assumed the worst of me,
Speaker 4: Like I'm like trying to get through the friend group.
Speaker 4: I almost didn't even you know, swipe right on you
Speaker 4: like I almost you know, for I like I because
Speaker 4: I didn't want to have that impression.
Speaker 3: Now at this point, I'm just like very upset and
Speaker 3: I do and how I'm giving you a second chance.
Speaker 3: So I thought you were different. We both know.
Speaker 4: Robbie kind of is like, yeah, I took her home
Speaker 4: and sort of like let that sort of innuendo sit there.
Speaker 4: And I think Kyle knows that too, So I think
Speaker 4: the two kind of were it just worked to his advantage.
Speaker 4: Is sort of why do you and be a little
Speaker 4: manipulative about that? And yeah, I mean we all know
Speaker 4: where I was like, ohyeah, I took her home. It's
Speaker 4: like her home. We're like ha ha.
Speaker 3: Okay, like we made like a drinking game about it
Speaker 3: at one point. I think, so we're going to say.
Speaker 7: You know as well as I do that when Robbie
Speaker 7: is with a girl, that that's pretty much what happens.
Speaker 1: That's how it rolls.
Speaker 4: So I mean, like it sounds like you're really in
Speaker 4: a Robbie because it sounds like, you know, you couldn't
Speaker 4: do anything except sleep with him because he's just such
Speaker 4: a he's just so irresistible.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, I don't even know how to respond
Speaker 7: to that, Honestly, I'm not. I mean whatever, I mean,
Speaker 7: that's that's fine. Maybe I will hook up with Robbie.
Speaker 7: He's probably a better Kischer than you were.
Speaker 1: Anyway.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, well, Chris, would you like to go with
Speaker 2: Sophie on another day? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I don't think so at all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm not. I'm not shutting any tears for
Speaker 3: the Swan.
Speaker 1: So at least you found out why you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he closure is I want to closure either way,
Speaker 4: so I'm not not mad about that.
Speaker 1: Maybe stay away from that group.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I think. Uh, I'm done. All right.
Speaker 4: We'll make sure to give you know, Robbie another kiss
Speaker 4: for me. Await I never kissed him.
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