WEBVTT - Second Cup: Build in a little social time

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning, This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Today's tip is to build in a few minutes before

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<v Speaker 2>and after scheduled meetings or appointments so you can connect

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<v Speaker 2>with other people. This will let you invest a little

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<v Speaker 2>time in your relationships and keeps you from being late

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<v Speaker 2>to everything else. So if you tend to be more

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<v Speaker 2>task oriented or schedule oriented, which I will freely admit

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<v Speaker 2>to being, you may go through life focused on what

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<v Speaker 2>you need to do at what time. You may also

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<v Speaker 2>not leave much transition time in between things. You finish

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<v Speaker 2>one meeting, you put your head down and make notes

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<v Speaker 2>about your follow ups, and two minutes later you are

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<v Speaker 2>power walking down the hall to your next meeting. And

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<v Speaker 2>in many ways that is fine. You are showing up

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<v Speaker 2>where you need to be. But if you are bothering

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<v Speaker 2>to be in the same place as other people, which

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<v Speaker 2>we often don't have to be these days, it might

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<v Speaker 2>be nice to connect outside the scheduled agenda. Racing from

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<v Speaker 2>one thing to the next means there's no time for that.

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<v Speaker 2>Something similar can happen in our personal lives. You sprint

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<v Speaker 2>out of your office to make it to your yoga

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<v Speaker 2>class and then you leave as soon as the class

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<v Speaker 2>is over, or you arrive at your kid's school approximately

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<v Speaker 2>thirty seconds before the program begins and you leave right

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<v Speaker 2>at the final bows. You got to do everything. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you bother to be somewhere in person, sometimes it's

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<v Speaker 2>nice to connect with the other people who are there

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<v Speaker 2>in person too. To some degree, that is a big

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<v Speaker 2>part of the point of being there. Now. I know

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<v Speaker 2>not everyone looks at life this way. Some people are

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<v Speaker 2>more people oriented and they always make time for conversation

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<v Speaker 2>they're wondering what I'm talking about here, But that has

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<v Speaker 2>a tendency to also make people late to many things,

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<v Speaker 2>and that is not great either. So either way, it

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<v Speaker 2>helps to just actually build in five to ten minutes

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<v Speaker 2>on either side of an activity to interact with the

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<v Speaker 2>other participants. If you've got a meeting from eight to

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<v Speaker 2>nine in the morning, you aim to have your next

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<v Speaker 2>thing start at nine point fifteen or possibly even nine thirty,

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<v Speaker 2>so you can chat with colleagues as you are refilling

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<v Speaker 2>your coffee. For those who automatically chat over coffee, that

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<v Speaker 2>buffer means you are not late to the next thing.

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<v Speaker 2>For those of us who are more task oriented. It's

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<v Speaker 2>a nudge to remind ourselves that we don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>race out. We have built in space in the schedule

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<v Speaker 2>to accommodate a chat about jones vacation or Bob's new puppy.

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<v Speaker 2>Whether you spend too much time or too little time

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<v Speaker 2>on an activity, simply building a certain quantity of space

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<v Speaker 2>into the schedule can help manage those tendencies. You create

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<v Speaker 2>space if you otherwise, wouldn't you build it in if

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<v Speaker 2>you do it anyway. Either way, you get to have

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<v Speaker 2>your connection and still stay on time. That really is

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<v Speaker 2>the best of both worlds. If you try building in

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<v Speaker 2>a little social time, you can let me know how

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<v Speaker 2>it goes at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. In

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<v Speaker 2>the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 2>to making the most of our time.

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