WEBVTT - Let’s get Funky with Lala Kent... (S3 E9 "Easy Come, Easy Go") 0:00:01.600 --> 0:00:04.880 Hi, I'm Kristin Davis, and I want to know are 0:00:04.880 --> 0:00:06.600 you a Charlotte? 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:13.600 Welcome back everybody to Are You a Charlotte? Part two? 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:15.240 Thanks for joining us. 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:18.239 Let's talk about the actual episode because we haven't even 0:00:18.239 --> 0:00:21.360 touched on Samantha, which is a very funny and good storyline, 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:23.720 very funny and good, and I just want to say 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:27.080 Bobby Cannavale plays the guy here. I think his name 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:30.040 is Adam Ball, which is also kind of entertaining, and 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:33.880 I do think he was based. All of our storylines 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:36.400 are based on some real story that the writers either 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:37.640 experienced or know of. 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:41.159 Really, it's too good. You can't make it up now. 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:43.360 I had to come from a real experience. 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.760 And I had forgotten all I remember. Obviously, funky spunk 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:50.000 became like quite you know, a big thing, and I 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:53.560 don't know. I know Bobby. I've worked with Bobby since then. 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:55.800 We were on Will and Grace together. I don't think 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:58.120 I asked him, Like before I started doing this podcast, 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:00.400 it never occurred to me to say to the guys, Hey, 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:01.560 what was that like for you? 0:01:01.760 --> 0:01:01.880 Right? 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:02.520 You know what I mean? 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:04.800 And I'm dying for Bobby to come on. Bobby, please, 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:06.920 if you hear this, please come on. He's a great, 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:09.959 great person, so sweet, such a great actor. But I 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.600 just wonder in life, what was this like for him? 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:14.080 Like walking around like. 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:17.400 I was thinking the same thing rushing last night, I guy, 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:21.720 because obviously we know he's acting or whatever. It is 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:24.200 a script, but I'm like, I wonder if after that 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.120 people didn't want to blow him because they were like 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:27.480 he was. 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.479 He's walking down the road and people were like you, 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:33.640 I mean, like how mortify and think about that. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:35.880 I just figured he would never get another blow job again. 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:38.080 I mean, he's doing fine. He's with Roseberr and they 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:40.640 have children. I think it all worked out. Everything's fine. 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:41.679 I think it's all good. 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:43.920 In that moment watching I was like, I wonder what 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:45.520 it was like. 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:47.200 Why didn't I ask him this when I saw him 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:49.080 in life? But I think you just I wasn't. 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:52.040 I didn't have that viewpoint of like what what was 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.760 this like for them? You get to have him on no, 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.040 I know, I know, Bobby, you must come, you must come. 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:00.440 But he's so funny in it because he's not. I 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:02.920 love his way that he does it, which is like 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:04.160 you give such good head. 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:05.720 You know, he's like really into it. 0:02:05.680 --> 0:02:08.920 In such a funny way. And then also so and 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:13.920 I also love that Samantha takes him and makes him 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:15.959 drink wheat grass juice. It's really funny. 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:17.520 It's like, how long does it take for it to 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:18.840 work its way through the system? 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:20.000 Half hour? 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:22.560 I know, But then it doesn't work. I think he's 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:23.799 going to need more days. 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.639 I think it takes like he needs pineapple. I think 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:28.560 he needs asaie also. 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:33.040 Yeah, yeah, yea yeah, asae, pineapple, a lot of fruit, right, diet. 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:35.440 Right, he needs like more alkaline diet. I don't know. 0:02:35.520 --> 0:02:37.280 I don't know. But the thing that's funny too is 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.600 that then I was a little unclear. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:42.360 When she so, So it's kind of a saga, right, 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:45.200 her trying to figure out this and talking to us, 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:47.040 and Charlotte gets up and leaves. 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:49.480 Yeah, you're very angry. I know you, Charlotte, I know, 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:50.079 are so. 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:52.720 Funny, Like of all things, I'm just gonna be like no, 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:55.360 But I think that's because I'm engaged. I think I'm engaged, 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:57.600 and I'm like above this now, right, So he's not 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:59.520 going to die gather it right, So I'm like, okay, wait, 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.600 I've talked so many crazy things with these ladies. But whatever, Okay, 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:04.480 I'm just gonna get up and go. It was a 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:08.480 funny moment, but I think it's funny how she wants 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:10.440 to make it work. She tries to take him to 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:12.959 get the wheat ress. She tries it again, and then 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.639 I had forgotten that she gives him this huge speech 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:18.880 about how it is a job and you have to 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:20.480 think about your jaw, and you have to think about 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:22.320 your teeth, and you have to think about your tongue 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:25.640 and men don't know blah blah blah. And I'm also thinking, like, 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:28.200 you know, all the men watching this are like women 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:28.720 don't know. 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:32.440 Yeah, And then she's like, but with the right men, right, 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:33.360 be fabulous. 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:35.720 I know, I know, which is also it's all very 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:39.720 trippy to me. Then I forgot that she makes him. 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:44.160 Taste it right, but they don't show it like it's 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:45.720 interested they I don't know how I'm talking about what 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:46.960 you mean, like you. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:50.800 Don't actually you seem no, you don't. 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:55.880 See the com but you see she puts his fingers 0:03:55.880 --> 0:04:00.320 in his mouth. Okay, okay, okay, And she said, you're 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:01.680 fine with it. 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:04.360 I pretend he was fine with it. 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:06.840 I know, I know, fine with you. 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.200 You know I wasn't there on the day that day 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.160 that they were filming that, right, but you know that 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:14.120 was like so much discussed that. That's also why we 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:17.840 need Bobby. We need to hear about the difference takes, 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:19.880 you know what I mean, and how big of a 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:23.440 reaction versus how small of a reaction to give. 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:26.320 Yeah, once you taste your own funky spunk. 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:26.800 Yeah. 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:28.760 And I mean, I wonder how many men have actually 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.120 done this. I don't think very many. I don't know, 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:32.839 what do you think. I don't think so. 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:36.520 I doubt it is dying. I doubt it, right, I 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:37.200 really doubt it. 0:04:37.480 --> 0:04:41.640 But then also Samantha says she's not swallowing, and I'm like, wow, 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.000 I would have thought that she was swallowing. 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.480 She seems like a swallower to me. But you know what, 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:49.320 I gave up swallowing at the age of maybe twenty four. 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:53.000 Swallowing is hard. I mean, it's rough, man, This is 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.039 what I want to say. 0:04:55.480 --> 0:05:00.720 I don't think that cotton style card it does either. 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:02.320 You can put it on my face. 0:05:02.320 --> 0:05:06.200 Hard, okay, okay, because it's great skincare, especially if you're 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:09.760 broken out my stomach, my back. If I want to 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:13.000 have a baby, do your thing, which I don't want 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:15.719 to have a baby, I understand, but not in my stomach. 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:17.520 I just don't feel hard. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:19.200 To swallow that stuff. It's hard. 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:21.000 It's harder about the texture. 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:25.600 The texture is awful, it's awful, horrible, it's awful. But 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:26.960 also it's just such. 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:31.320 An awkward, awkward moment of like do you swallow or 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:32.280 don't you swallow? 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:34.960 And what do you do with it if you don't swallow? 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:35.760 Oh? 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:42.400 Well, back in my heyday, yes, usually when I would swallow, 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:43.479 I would chase. 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.159 It with like a shot of vodka. Wow. 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:48.240 Yes, okay, well that's probably the way to go, that's 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.480 the way to come. I would think, yeah, yeah, see 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:51.920 i've been sober for too long. 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:56.120 Yeah yeah, yeah, because I didn't it's sober until twenty eight, 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:59.880 got it. And then if you don't swallow, I think 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:02.760 you have to be near a bathroom to like spin it, 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:04.480 see the toiler rough. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:07.200 That's just all very difficult because then it's like an 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:09.600 ache factor that you need to. 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:11.800 Go spit it out. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.400 What I don't a lot calling on an empty stomach, 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:15.320 though I know. 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:16.080 That's the other thing. 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:19.039 I don't think that people, meaning men, really realize that 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:22.120 it's like a very potent, kind of weird thing to eat, 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:22.680 you know what. 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.520 They should try it so they understand what we go through, 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:29.000 you know, I do, I do know. But I think 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:29.560 they would. 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.880 Also say the same, you know about women, not that 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:34.640 they have to swallow something, but you don't. I'm trying 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:36.840 to say they we don't know yourself. 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:38.520 Before I know someone's gonna go down there. You know, 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:40.640 you justirl put it in the mouth. 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:41.080 Wow. 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:45.279 Thanks, yeah, not too much. 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:48.480 No, it's really good. What if you don't feel like 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:49.760 it's up to. 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:54.560 Par Okay, okay, great? Great, I was gonna I was 0:06:54.600 --> 0:06:57.440 gonna learn something. I was looking to maybe learn some tips. 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:00.159 I'm very into my vaginal hygiene. I love it like 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:01.680 I would my skincare routine. 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:04.160 Nice. Yeah, oh that's very nice. 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:07.039 I feel bad for the people who come over my 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:09.920 amazing housekeepers that keep all of the ducks in a 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:11.760 row and me feeling like my kids can crawl on 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:15.440 the floor because they see all of my products that 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:18.200 I'm sure they're like, what Wow, I'm sure they think 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:20.000 I do porn or something. 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:25.000 I feel enough to I don't think that they think 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:28.440 you do porn. That would be so extreme but you. 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:30.840 Mean, like maybe they just think that you're really into 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:35.520 cleanliness with that, you know, I'm an extreme, right, Wow, 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:38.440 I do feel I need a list of the products though. 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:41.480 I mean, I'm super curious. Now I've got you. Wow, Okay, grant. 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:43.680 My friends and I like to go back and forth 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:45.520 with like what they're using. Like my friend told me 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:49.400 about these these wipes that taste like something. 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:50.560 No, I don't think that's good. 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:52.000 I don't think those are good for me. 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:53.400 I don't think they're good for you either. 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:57.200 Like that because I'm also really I'm a weirdo. Okay, 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:01.480 because I'm it, I shouldn't say I'm a weirdo, Okay. 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.480 I like to read the ingredients. I'm very funny about 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:07.080 what I put under my arm. Penny too, I don't 0:08:07.120 --> 0:08:09.440 know that I love putting something on my vagina that 0:08:09.480 --> 0:08:12.080 tastes like some flavor, feels no flavors. 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:14.920 That's strange, and I think that's healthy. 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.360 It's not healthy. But also like when he's down there, 0:08:17.360 --> 0:08:18.560 I don't want him to be like, oh, a. 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:22.920 Banana, that's weird, that's so weird. No, that's so weird. No, no, no, 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:24.680 I don't think that's good. I don't think that's good 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:26.880 because there would have to be something sweet in there 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:28.640 to make the banana, and then you might get. 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:31.480 A reaction, you know what I'm saying, or something. 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:45.240 Boo yeah boo, not worth it, not worth it, worth it, Okay. 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:46.720 The carry of this. 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:48.880 When I was watching it, I feel like it's kind 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:51.440 of a film, you know, like it's a lot, like 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:52.640 a lot happens. 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:53.120 Yeah. 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.319 I love Charles McDougall, who directed it, one of our 0:08:56.559 --> 0:09:00.440 just best. How he uses the camera or how he 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:03.240 moves the camera like it's so beautiful. You know, it's 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:06.599 like really really up the game in terms of the 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:09.720 visuals and the you know, like in the elevator, it's beautiful. 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:11.839 The elevator is amazing. Can I tell you what I love? 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:16.000 Tell me is when Carrie finally calls big Back and 0:09:16.000 --> 0:09:18.559 he's in the car and it goes from the driver 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.000 but instead of just popping onto his face, it gives 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:21.920 you like a it's. 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:23.800 Like a whip around yeah yeah yeah yeah, to the 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:25.560 back seat. Yeah yeah yeah. Yeah. It's good. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:27.520 It's really good because cars are hard to filming because 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:29.800 you don't have a lot of space. Right, No, Charles 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:31.400 is going to figure that out. Charles is going to 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:33.120 have an idea and he's going to do it. It's 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:35.280 going to be it's going to take thirty takes, but 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:36.040 he's going to do it. 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:39.080 It's the big moment. We watched Miranda listen to this 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:42.840 message with Carrie over and over again, and she's finally 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.040 decided to call him back. So I take of like 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.200 bigg in the car driving whip around to him, answering, right, 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.800 you finally did you want? 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:54.360 Definitely? And then he's just such a jerk. Oh my god. 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:57.040 Oh we love the men who are like a little 0:09:57.040 --> 0:10:00.640 bit of like dickish kind of Do you think I 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:03.559 don't love that you're a hallway, you're a healthy woman. 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:05.560 Well, I think I've been through it too much, right, 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:07.800 I mean not this particular version like to me, it's 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.400 so profoundly it like if a man said to me 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:14.000 after this nonsense that he's put her through, and then 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:16.920 and he's told her in a drunken moment at a 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:18.240 furniture show with the. 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:22.520 Like like through a finch, like what out of my fate? Totally? 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:26.000 And then you call him back after this like dramatic 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:28.280 voicemail and you say what is it? And he says, 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:30.560 I thought about what I said and it would cost 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:33.960 me too much money. Click, I never speak to that person. No, 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:37.559 get me out of my fan done, Like, ew, how can. 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.800 You get away from him when he's calling your apartment 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:42.720 talking to aiden and then coming to where you are. 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:45.960 No, that's bad, that's stocker ish, it's stockersh. 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:47.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah, but that's another thing. When I was watching, 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.600 I was like, Okay, I've had this behavior with a 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:54.960 man before, and if this weren't a show, this is 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:57.880 alarming behavior to show up where I am and I'm 0:10:57.920 --> 0:11:00.240 telling you not that I don't want anything to do 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:03.959 with you, and you continue. You know, of course we 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.679 hear her thoughts, so we know like I couldn't I 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:09.240 had to sleep with him, and she says, like me 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:14.840 or whatever. In real life, no, the experiences where it's like, okay, 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.440 this this is a toxic man. He just told me 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.120 he was leaving his wife, then told me he wasn't 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:20.920 leaving his wife, then showing up to where I am. 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:25.520 It's the high eyes and yeah, I'm not in the 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:27.280 grand gestures. Ick. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:31.280 Ick. It's hard for me to feel anything but ick, 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:35.960 though I do feel. I feel that Sarah Jessica, and 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:39.480 this is like her strength one for many many strengths 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.520 really as an actress, Like things are so real, you know, 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:45.600 they seem so real and so deep, so like as 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:48.600 much as I mean, you know, there's part of me. 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:50.560 I obviously know what's gonna happen, right, and I know 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.600 they're gonna go kissing that elevator, But I'm just like, oh, like, 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:54.840 I don't like him. 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:56.880 I know, what are you still liking? 0:11:57.200 --> 0:11:58.920 I mean, they have the chemistry, but she also has 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:00.800 the chemistry they and you don't. I'm saying she's just 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:03.720 so good. Though she's so good, and you do feel 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:08.000 I do intellectually understand the forbidden. You know, I get 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:11.000 the forbidden, but when he's being an ass, I'm like 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:14.040 boo on the forbidden. The forbidden doesn't trump that he's 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:15.760 a jerk, right, you know. 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:20.200 But what I've learned throughout time is even with friends, 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:21.920 I'm like, my heart isn't involved. 0:12:22.160 --> 0:12:23.760 Yeah, I can't tell you what. Yeah. 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:27.240 No. Of course, as an outsider this behavior, I think 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:27.880 you should run. 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:31.000 I think it's a world of heartache, right, But you're 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:32.800 going to do what you want, right, It's true. And 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:34.400 the other thing is the unfinished business. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:37.640 The unfinished business to me makes sense and not saying 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:41.000 that it's right, because like you're only torturing yourself by 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:43.880 continuing down the road of the unfinished business that we 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:47.240 know is a drama, right, Like there's no evidence with 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:50.200 big of any kind that it's not going to be 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:54.079 a drama. Right, So, like she's just willingly subjecting herself 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:57.160 to a drama. But if we do go and say okay, 0:12:57.440 --> 0:12:59.280 we can look at the aid in relationship and realize 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:00.960 that he doesn't really get at her. He's not really 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:05.240 completely seeing her. She's not giving herself. But also he's 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:08.000 not completely seeing even a basic that she works from home. 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:09.920 When he said, I'm gonna redo your floors, let me 0:13:09.960 --> 0:13:12.440 do this for you a nice lady, what does he say, 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:14.679 Like a lovely lady deserves a lovely home or something 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:17.960 weird like kind of traditional journey bean And then you 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:19.920 know he's taken her whole house apart, and she's like, 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.880 I can't work like this, Like how come he doesn't 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:22.240 get that? 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:24.840 You know what I'm trying to say, Let me do this. 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:26.920 I'll put you up at a hotel because you're gonna 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:30.440 I'm it's gonna be messy and noisy, right, But also 0:13:30.760 --> 0:13:32.600 we're talking about the guy who like takes her to 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:36.000 cabins and things like he doesn't get her at all. 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.840 Right, And that to me makes sense in why you 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:42.280 would be going back to the person who I think 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:46.160 she felt he got her right even though he was withholding, right, 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:49.400 like you can feel someone gets you, but then they 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.200 have their reasons that they're withholding that those two things 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:52.959 can coexist. 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.320 I think so too, right. So I think that's what 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:55.720 it is. 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:57.719 I think that's what makes sense about it when you're 0:13:57.720 --> 0:13:59.640 watching it, other than the fact that you know she 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.440 hasn't finished. You know she's still attached, you know what 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:02.840 I'm saying. 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:05.320 And sometimes you can't explain the attachment to. 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:06.559 Something exactly exactly. 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:10.520 That's something that is just you can't be described, right, 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:13.160 And everyone around you is like, make it makes sense, 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.200 and you're like, I cannot make it make sense. You 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:18.800 have to like live inside of my body, right understanding that's. 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:21.600 That's true, that's true, and that that's a really really 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:25.040 really important thing to remember because you can't ever fully 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:29.480 give advice without remembering that there is a whole experience there, 0:14:30.040 --> 0:14:32.800 a whole lifetime leading up to it for both people, right, 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.360 and a connection that you're not present for every moment 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.280 of you know, you don't really know what goes on. 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:40.920 It's interesting, it's interesting. Relationships are super fascinating, which is 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:41.800 why the show is good. 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:43.160 You know, they they. 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:47.120 Write the difficulties of all of it. But let's talk 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:50.240 about Stephen Miranda for a second, because y'sah also super 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.080 fascinating relationship that's at a very different place, but also 0:14:53.160 --> 0:14:55.840 like so kind of heartbreaking, right because like. 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:58.960 Although one that one always devastated me. Well, because I 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:02.360 just had and I find see very sexy. He's so 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:03.480 he's sexy. 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:04.680 I'm shocked. 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.960 I'm still shocked every time I'm looking back. Never did 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:10.480 I understand this at the time. Didn't understand this at 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.360 the time. I was like, why do they have her 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:14.280 with him for so long? I know, I'm sorry everyone 0:15:14.320 --> 0:15:16.320 who loves Steve, I love him too now, I just 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:17.160 didn't fully. 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:18.040 Appreciate him at the time. 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:21.200 Right, And Eigenberg is such a good, good actor, Like 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:25.040 they are so great together. You know, they're so different, 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:28.400 but yet so also connected and emotionally kind of like 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:31.000 there's so many layers going on, and I felt so 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:33.360 bad for her, like she's having to kind of be 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.560 the mom again. And he's sleeping on the couch and 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:37.800 you know, she's got her cat and he's got his dog. 0:15:37.920 --> 0:15:39.120 And then he. 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:40.960 Can't find an apartment and she has to go to 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:44.760 him to that horrible, horrible apartment, which is no, it's 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:45.280 pretty bad. 0:15:45.400 --> 0:15:47.640 It's horrible, but he said. 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.400 It's not that bad, right right right right the doorway 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:50.720 to help. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:52.760 Yes, yes, And she's so right. And it's like green, 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:54.920 which is also weirdful. 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:55.560 Like it's really bad. 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:59.240 And any any basement apartment is rough in New York, 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.480 I feel because you are so you feel like you're 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:05.320 on the street right, like you could hear everyone outside, 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:06.920 do you know what I mean? Yeah, And like people 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.960 might decide to live on your stoop, you know what 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:11.720 I'm saying. Like it's like it's stressful, man, it's stressful 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.280 to have and he even the first floor apartment is 0:16:14.280 --> 0:16:19.320 stressful in my opinion. Obviously I'm very spilled, but but 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.640 you know, like like like that's that's one of my 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:23.760 issues with New York is the noise. You know, like 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:25.720 because you're trying to rest, you're trying to get a 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:28.320 little rest, you know, and one time I did live 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:30.880 I can't remember. I feel like it was at the 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:33.640 beginning of the show. I did live in a first 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:35.960 floor apartment. It was kind of in the back, so 0:16:36.000 --> 0:16:39.080 there was some relief from the streetness of it all. 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:42.200 But like you really are, so you're like barely removed 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:43.800 from the streets, do you know what I'm saying? Like 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:46.760 just one step, like they can't see you, there's a door, 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:48.040 but I mean they're right there. 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:50.880 Oh it's stressful. It sounds awful. 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:52.680 I know, I know, I mean New York is great 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.000 in so many ways, but it's just takes a toll, 0:16:55.080 --> 0:16:57.560 you know, it's like challenging. And the fact that I 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:00.800 mean Steve is so you know, he seems obviously he's 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:02.720 gonna roll with it. He's like he's like a kid, 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:05.480 you know. It's interesting, really interesting. 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:07.119 He's very refreshing to me. 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.240 He is refreshing, And I think he's good. 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:13.520 For Miranda because I relate to Miranda's her being so 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:18.320 high strung because that's me, okay, And like when the 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:20.439