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Speaker 1: Let's and we are back in the courtroom.

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Speaker 2: It is Key Key with another episode of the Key

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Speaker 2: Key coord podcast. And because the show was best of today,

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Speaker 2: I'm here to give you a new case. Because this

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Speaker 2: one is very timely. Let's get into it. It says, hey,

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Speaker 2: Kei Key, am I wrong for refusing to sing the

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Speaker 2: national anthem at my family's Fourth of July party. I

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Speaker 2: come from a very patriotic, small town kind of family,

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Speaker 2: and every year my parents host a huge Fourth of

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Speaker 2: July gathering with fireworks, food decorations, the works, and every

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Speaker 2: year they make everyone stand up and sing the national

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Speaker 2: anthem before dinner, like we're at a middle school assembly. Now,

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Speaker 2: I will give them credit that my parents and my

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Speaker 2: uncles are all veterans. So this year I brought my

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Speaker 2: boyfriend to the gathering, and when it was time to

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Speaker 2: sing the anthem, I just decided.

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to do it. I just didn't.

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Speaker 2: I sat quietly while everyone else stood and sang. My

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Speaker 2: boyfriend also sat next to me, quietly, mostly just following

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Speaker 2: my lead. He didn't know what to do. I didn't

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Speaker 2: say anything. I didn't roll my eyes, I didn't make

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Speaker 2: a scene. I just chose not to participate well. My

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Speaker 2: uncle noticed and made a snide comment. He said, I

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Speaker 2: guess some people think they're too cool for America. Now

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Speaker 2: that opened the floodgates. My mom pulled me aside afterward

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Speaker 2: and told me I embarrassed her and disrespected the spirit

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Speaker 2: of the holiday. My dad said that if I hate

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Speaker 2: this country so much, maybe I shouldn't come next year.

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Speaker 2: My cousins got passive aggressive on social media and made

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Speaker 2: little nasty posts on their Facebook pages. I didn't mean

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Speaker 2: to start anything. I just didn't want to vibe with

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Speaker 2: the performative patriotism. And I didn't think that me quietly

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Speaker 2: opting out would ruin the whole day of the family

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Speaker 2: thinks I some ungrateful anti American buzzkill. Am I wrong

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Speaker 2: for not singing and ruining the moment? Or should my

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Speaker 2: family chill out and just let me observe the holiday?

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Speaker 2: How I please? Am I wrong?

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Speaker 1: Whoa girl? Okay, lots to unpack here. Now. I love

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Speaker 1: my country. Let me just say that.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm not proud of every decision that's being

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Speaker 2: made and things that are happening, But overall, you know,

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Speaker 2: I came up as a little girl who dreamt of

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Speaker 2: singing the national anthem one day at like the super Bowl.

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Speaker 2: So I understand that part of it, But I don't

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Speaker 2: know who sings the national anthem at the damn family gatherings?

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Speaker 1: Is this normal? Like? Is this just maybe black people

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Speaker 1: don't do it? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I've never in my life been at a family function

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Speaker 2: and we'd be like, you know what, guys, let's sing

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Speaker 2: the black national anthem because there is one. No, I've

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Speaker 2: never been at a family function where they said let's

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Speaker 2: sing any national anthem them. Never, So that's odd to me,

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Speaker 2: you know, just to start off. But you know, you,

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Speaker 2: every family is different. And if this is your family tradition, okay,

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Speaker 2: I don't think you're wrong, though, I don't I think

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Speaker 2: you have You're an adult at this point. You say,

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Speaker 2: you're twenty six years old here. You know you have

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Speaker 2: the right to decide for yourself how you want to

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Speaker 2: celebrate your holidays. And if you don't want to sing

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Speaker 2: the national anthem at the damn family cookout, that is

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Speaker 2: your prerogative in my opinion, And I understand that as

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Speaker 2: veterans and people who are super proud of their country,

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Speaker 2: and you know your uncles and your dad and your

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Speaker 2: mom whatever. They are older and they have their own

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Speaker 2: views of life, and they are allowed to be triggered

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Speaker 2: that you didn't want to participate, But that doesn't make

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Speaker 2: you wrong. In my opinion, I think you can get

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Speaker 2: up and do whatever the hell you want to do.

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Speaker 2: If you decided to get up and sing juvenile back

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Speaker 2: that ass.

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Speaker 1: Up at the party, that's your parah.

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Speaker 2: Everybody is an adult in this situation, and everybody has

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Speaker 2: the right to celebrate in holidays how they choose to.

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Speaker 1: Same with voting, same with just life in general.

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Speaker 2: We're all adults with free will, and we have the

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Speaker 2: right to make the decisions that we want to make. Now,

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Speaker 2: are you always going to land on the right side

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Speaker 2: of history?

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Speaker 1: No? Probably not. I mean hopefully you will, but most

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Speaker 1: times no.

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Speaker 2: So you know, your family can agree to disagree, but

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Speaker 2: they don't have the right to like condemn you because

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Speaker 2: you decided not to participate in singing the national anthem,

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Speaker 2: which in my opinion, is weird to do at a

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Speaker 2: family gathering. But hey, I don't want to, you know,

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Speaker 2: let me know if this is something that your family does.

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Speaker 1: But I don't think you're wrong.

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Speaker 2: Friend, I don't, and I think maybe you know, you

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Speaker 2: say in the letter that you didn't want to do

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Speaker 2: it because you didn't want to be a part of

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Speaker 2: performative patriotism. But I also think that this situation can

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Speaker 2: open up a deeper dialogue with you and your family

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Speaker 2: to maybe discuss why you truly, you know you performing

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Speaker 2: the patriotism is one thing, but maybe there's some things

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Speaker 2: you want to discuss within your family of why you

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Speaker 2: don't feel as patriotic and why you don't want to

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Speaker 2: sing the national anthem and why you chose to sit

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Speaker 2: down And maybe though you guys need to have that

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Speaker 2: deeper conversation and that can even get very wild, like

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Speaker 2: that can open up a real can of worms, because

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Speaker 2: I think within the last couple of months, a lot

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Speaker 2: of us have realized that, you know, our family members

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Speaker 2: are not all on the right side of history, or

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Speaker 2: we all don't have the same views and beliefs. And

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Speaker 2: I think, you know, there is a healthy way to

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Speaker 2: have that conversation and where you people can agree to

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Speaker 2: disagree or y'all can have an drag out, blowout fight.

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Speaker 2: But either way, I think it's important to share with

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Speaker 2: your family why you feel the way you feel, and

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Speaker 2: maybe that can help either change their views on some

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Speaker 2: things or help them to kind of see your side

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Speaker 2: of things, or it can completely let you know that

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Speaker 2: this is a type of family that you're dealing with,

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Speaker 2: and you now you know that they don't align with

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Speaker 2: any of your beliefs. So I think it can open

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Speaker 2: up a deeper conversation. And I think that if I

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Speaker 2: was you and I saw how my family reacted, I

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Speaker 2: why I'm feeling this way, and I would open up

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Speaker 2: the conversation and have the dialogue, because why not. They're

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Speaker 2: already pissed at you, so how much work it's gonna get.

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Speaker 2: But I think it's important to have those conversations with

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Speaker 2: family members. I know, even in my family, we've had

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Speaker 2: some intense, okay conversations over the last couple of months

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Speaker 2: between me and my brothers, my boyfriend, just trying to

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Speaker 2: get them to understand and see the you know, the

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Speaker 2: woman the side of things and how you know, things

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Speaker 2: are affecting women, also how things are affecting my race

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Speaker 2: and how like it's just so many different conversations.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, my phone's going on.

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Speaker 2: There's just so many different conversations that can be had

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Speaker 2: between families right now with everything that is happening in

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Speaker 2: our world. So I think it opens up a different,

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Speaker 2: deeper conversation. And since they're already mad girl, take it there,

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Speaker 2: take it there. But yeah, you don't have to sing

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Speaker 2: the national anthem if you don't want to see the

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Speaker 2: national anthem at the cookout, Like, come on, man, that's

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Speaker 2: my thoughts.

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Speaker 1: Let me know what you think.

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Speaker 2: I posted the video frad Show Radio on Instagram at

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Speaker 2: on air keykey on Instagram, and I'll be back in

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Speaker 2: the courtroom with more cases this week.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, friend,