1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: My husband's been getting close with his ex wife again. 2 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: I think he's cheating. I twenty seven male, and my husband, 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 1: thirty seven male, have been married for three years, dating 4 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: for six. He has an ex wife, thirty seven female, 5 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: which he divorced a year before we met. We have 6 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 1: a son, seven male, who was adopted after we got 7 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: married and who I love as my own child because 8 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 1: he is yeah, lovely. By the way, this comes from 9 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: Majestic Designer on the r slash Okay storytime subvert it. 10 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: I know my husband Peter is bisexual. I have no 11 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: problem with it, and I had no problem with his 12 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: ex wife, Alison. I did have a problem with this family, 13 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: as they're a bit homophobic and are always telling Peter 14 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: he should get back together with Alison yuck. 15 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 2: Well. 16 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:46,840 Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, we were at his family's town because 17 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: it was my son Jack's nickname birthday and we wanted 18 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 1: to spend it as a family. My mother in law 19 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: decided it would be a good idea to invite Alison, 20 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: so she arrived in the middle of the party. I 21 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: didn't want to ruin Jack's birthday, so I stayed quiet. 22 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: I spent all my time with Jack, playing with him, 23 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 1: and his cousins at his request. 24 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 2: Looks like we've got oh, we. 25 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:12,319 Speaker 1: Have another donation. I'll read that really quick, so small, 26 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:15,320 Speaker 1: So sorry, Kimi Kilani, thank you for being a member 27 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: for three months. Don't kids in America sing around, sing 28 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: around the rosiest song that sings about the plague and death? 29 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:20,319 Speaker 1: We do? 30 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:22,440 Speaker 2: We do? And that's I was going to say that, 31 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 2: and I was going to say that, and I also 32 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 2: forgot is she going to get mad about saying about 33 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 2: the black plague? 34 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:29,559 Speaker 1: Exactly? All like almost, I mean like rock a bye baby, 35 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 1: it's about a baby fawn out of a tree. 36 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:36,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, hello, hello ding dong. Nursery rhymes are morbid, pretty mormod. 37 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: When it was time to cut the cake, I noticed 38 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: Alison and Peter weren't there. Oh no, So I went 39 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: inside and looked for them around the house. I found 40 00:01:44,319 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: them in Peter's old bedroom taking their clothes off. 41 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 2: Peter, are very very short list of acceptable things that 42 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 2: you can do it. 43 00:01:54,800 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, at a child birthday, we. 44 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 2: Take a look at this mole. I have I just 45 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't I've got kind of. 46 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 1: A rash that I can't reach. And you in this 47 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: version happened to be a doctor. Can you highly acclaim doctor? 48 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:09,919 Speaker 2: Tell me if I tell me if I need to 49 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:13,119 Speaker 2: take this seriously, thank you very much. Okay, And that's it. 50 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 1: And that's it. That's the only scenario. I stood there 51 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: in shock for a moment, but then I left and 52 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: went back to celebrating Jack's birthday. 53 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:24,800 Speaker 2: Wait, are we getting a little glitchy audio here? Hellohol? 54 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: Does it sound all right? 55 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:28,399 Speaker 3: Check? 56 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 1: But we'll continue. And if anyone else says that, let 57 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 1: us know. Okay, part of me wanted to scream and cry, 58 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: but I also was in shock, and I refuse to 59 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: make Jack's birthday about me. We cut the cake and 60 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: opened the presence. People were already leaving when Alison and 61 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 1: Peter came back. Oh my god. Wait, he was gone 62 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: for like his entire son's. 63 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 2: Birthday with his ex wife. 64 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: That's so messed up. 65 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 2: Yes, that's so messed up. 66 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 1: That's like, that's like something that that kid's going to 67 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: talk about when it comes out, because it will. He's 68 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: gonna talk about that in there. But he's like, my 69 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 1: dad and my mom weren't there for my That's. 70 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 2: The thing that you keep like under wraps for the kid. Yeah, forever, 71 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 2: because it's like, yeah, you can't make the seventh birthday 72 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 2: about how your you were, your parents who adopted you, Like, actually, 73 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 2: what that's just come on, man. 74 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: Has some class, Come on, have a little. 75 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 2: Bit of class. 76 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: H yeah. Yeah. Peter took me aside and started saying 77 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 1: that I shouldn't have cut the cake without him present, 78 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: and it was disrespectful. The audacity, the audacity. I stared 79 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 1: at him and just said, I'm sorry, I just thought 80 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: you'd be too busy getting into your ex wife's pants. 81 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: Oh freaking drop my mic Oh my god, Oh my god, 82 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Nobody, nobody he had to say that, 83 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 1: oh had to say that. 84 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 2: I had to felt so good, Oh my god, Oh 85 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:53,119 Speaker 2: my god. 86 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: You're like, how do I bring this up? How do 87 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 1: I bring this up? And then your your husband goes 88 00:03:56,320 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: off on you and you're like, hmm. 89 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 2: I felt like a hundred little baby angels sing a chorus. 90 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: Perfect timing. Boy, oh boy, oh my god, the audacity 91 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: of this guy. He got quiet, so I took Jack 92 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: and left the house to go back to the hotel. 93 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: Once I put Jack in bed and made sure he 94 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:15,600 Speaker 1: was asleep, I locked myself in the bathroom and broke 95 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 1: down I called a friend and he tried. 96 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 2: Oh hear me, text Big Protein. 97 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 1: Perhaps Addie, does it sound all right? Okay, Okay, it 98 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 1: seems that Okay, okay, it seems like it's good for 99 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: some people. I did hear that Verizon was out. I 100 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,919 Speaker 1: don't know if you guys are on Verizon. Oh it 101 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 1: is cutting out? Okay, okay, okay, for sure, for sure? Okay, 102 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: restart the what ocus right? 103 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:42,720 Speaker 2: Okus? Right? 104 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, just downstairs. 105 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 2: You can tell someone you like. 106 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 1: They can hear you can hear us. Fine, it seems like, okay, 107 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: it's fine, We're good. 108 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:54,599 Speaker 2: Okay, Well, let us know if it if it's in 109 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:56,360 Speaker 2: the chamber. I got the Big Protein text. 110 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: It happens again, just let us know. And and Dakota 111 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 1: is ready to say hits end. 112 00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 2: I'm ready to call the protein. 113 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: I only calm down in the morning when I took 114 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: Jack for breakfast because I didn't want him to see 115 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,119 Speaker 1: me like that. I'm now watching him play in the park, 116 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:12,160 Speaker 1: and I don't want him to suffer. I don't want 117 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: him to have a broken family. I don't want him 118 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 1: to know that relationships aren't happily. Ever after, Peter has 119 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: been calling and texting apologizing for everything, and I'm tempted 120 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,840 Speaker 1: to forgive him. I'm tempted to just have my family back. 121 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: And all my friends are saying that I was just 122 00:05:25,680 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: a mistake, that he was vulnerable, and Alison is is 123 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:31,239 Speaker 1: his ex wife. So what am I supposed to do now? 124 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: I need the advice from people who don't know my 125 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: husband or me personally. I disagree with your friends. I 126 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: think that one I don't think that you should ever 127 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: have to stay with each other for a kid. I 128 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: think that you can try and maybe go to therapy 129 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: and see if you could work it out. But I 130 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: don't think that you ever have to work through cheating. 131 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: I think there are certain I think, like I think 132 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: it's possible that I think that there are certain things 133 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: in a relationship, like you know, you're having arguments or something, 134 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: or there's miscommunication that you can work through with therapy. 135 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: But with chi, I think it's like you have to 136 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: be so certain that you want to push past this, 137 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: and like certain that you can push past it for 138 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 1: it to work, because if there's if you're gonna not 139 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:13,280 Speaker 1: trust them going forward, which you have every right to 140 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 1: you know, do so, then the relationship is not gonna work. 141 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 2: It's yeah. Have you seen Parks and rec Yes, do 142 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:23,479 Speaker 2: you know Ron Swanson's ex wife character that he just 143 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 2: just like it's like his poison. Yeah, I feel like 144 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 2: that might be a little bit with this situation is 145 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:30,120 Speaker 2: and I think I agree with you, of course, like 146 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 2: you should never be forced to go And it's like 147 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 2: is it confirmed, like for a fact, like they were Okay, 148 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 2: it's so hard because of the kid, Like yes, I 149 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 2: think and if you adopted the kid, you want more 150 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 2: than anything for him to have a stable life and 151 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 2: a stable environment to grow up in. 152 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 1: But I guess it's just asking yourself. Is it more 153 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: stable to stay together in a relationship where there is 154 00:06:56,279 --> 00:06:59,159 Speaker 1: a lack of trust and you might grow you know, 155 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: resentful of your partner. Or is it more stable to 156 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,799 Speaker 1: be in a place where you are healthy and feel 157 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: supported with a partner who loves you and it is 158 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:08,480 Speaker 1: not going to cheat on you. 159 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 2: I think maybe in my head, And I'm not saying 160 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 2: that this is right or wrong, it's just for the kid. 161 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 2: In my head, it's like I think you got to 162 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 2: try to go to therapy, figure out why you did 163 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 2: why did he do that? And and it's of course like, 164 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,559 Speaker 2: and it's only for the kid. If the kid wasn't involved, 165 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 2: that'd be like you're gone, you get out of there. 166 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 2: No way. I think it's the mind for the sake 167 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 2: of the kid. 168 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 1: In my head, I think I think therapy is always 169 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: good in general. But I do think that this it's 170 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: really up to op is this is I don't like. 171 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: I don't think that he has to take his husband 172 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: back at all. I think if he does, he just 173 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: has to. They're both gonna have to put a lot 174 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: of work in if they want to try and move 175 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: past us. But can we do a poll? 176 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 2: Ye? 177 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: Falso therapy, what do we say, classic? 178 00:07:58,640 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 2: The classic? 179 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 1: This is what you get when you have that two edded. 180 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 2: What divorce or therapy? Divorce or therapy. 181 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: I think I'm of divorce. Dakota is of therapy. 182 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 2: I think, yeah, I'll think you got it. At least 183 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 2: try to. 184 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 3: Do it, just a little sprinkle, just to try to 185 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 3: work through therapy and maybe later you cannot leave him 186 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 3: because it's just seven. 187 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 2: That age is real and there is an up, there 188 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 2: is an update. Okay, well let's get into that. 189 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: The last thing I was going to say is I 190 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 1: think that therapy, even if they are on the road 191 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 1: to divorce when you have a child. I think couple's 192 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: counseling is good because it allows you to work on 193 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: being co parents even if it's not worth staying together. 194 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: It's like we're divorcing, but we're going to figure out 195 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: how to effectively be coparents to this child that we've adopted. 196 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:51,079 Speaker 2: That is also true. 197 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:53,280 Speaker 1: But there's an update, so let's get into it. 198 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 2: Well. 199 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: First of all, I want to thank you all for 200 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: your advice, and I want to explain some things before 201 00:08:57,520 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: the actual update, but thank you for opening my eyes 202 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: about my situation. Peter and Alison did notice me when 203 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:05,680 Speaker 1: I saw them. There was music very loud downstairs, and 204 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:08,200 Speaker 1: they weren't facing the door. I didn't stop them because 205 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:10,839 Speaker 1: I was in shock. They didn't. Oh okay, so they didn't. Yeah, 206 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 1: I didn't think this on. I stood there for a 207 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: moment and I heard my son, so I unconsciously focused 208 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:20,320 Speaker 1: on him. I was pretty much in autopilots. Peter didn't 209 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 1: come to the hotel with me because I changed to 210 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: a different one. He did try to follow me, but 211 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: I took a taxi and left. As far as I know, 212 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,960 Speaker 1: he's staying with his parents. And Alison left. When we met, 213 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: I was twenty and he was thirty. We started at 214 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: friends as friends and we ended up dating. Yes, we're 215 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 1: both men, and no, I didn't feel manipulated or groomed 216 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: by him. Those were the most asked questions, and I 217 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:45,320 Speaker 1: did answer some comments, not all. Now on to the update. 218 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: I did as some of you said and took some 219 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:52,439 Speaker 1: tests to discard any STIs or STDs. The results are 220 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: coming back in a few days, and I will take 221 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: another one in three weeks to be sure. My son 222 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:00,680 Speaker 1: is having a sleepover with his friend, and I decided 223 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 1: to speak with my husband. He came by our house 224 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:06,439 Speaker 1: after a few minutes. Oh and storm Kitten says they 225 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: saw him and still did it before coming downstairs. Oh, 226 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: he is saying that they did not see him. 227 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 2: Voices. 228 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:17,079 Speaker 1: He came by our house after a few minutes after 229 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:19,079 Speaker 1: I text him. He asked about Jack and I told 230 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: him where he was. Then we sat on the couch 231 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: and started talking. I started crying after a few minutes, 232 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: and he followed after I asked some simple questions when, why, 233 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:31,839 Speaker 1: how many times, among others, And this is what I 234 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 1: could figure out by all the things he said. It 235 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 1: happened for the first time when he visited his parents 236 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: alone two years ago. 237 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 2: Divorce, this divorce. 238 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 1: We've got Dakota. Guys, we've got Dakota at the poll. Ye, 239 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: twenty two votes. We've got We've got everyone's on divorce. Years. 240 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: They invited her, they both got drunk. He was feeling lonely, 241 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: as I had been having more attention to Jack since 242 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 1: we adopted him. He's jealous of a child. 243 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:07,439 Speaker 2: Divorce. Can I can nice and close divorce? 244 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 1: Wait? There we go, divorce one more good divorce. Nothing 245 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:17,080 Speaker 1: happened again until her son's birthday party. He said his 246 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 1: mother pressured him a bit, and he caved in. What's 247 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 1: the thought these moms. Your mom can't just be like, 248 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: sleep with your wife, ex wife, sleep with sleep. 249 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:28,439 Speaker 2: With Oh I forgot about that detail. But he's bisexual. 250 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 2: Oh no, but even still divorce, divorce, And that's a 251 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 2: case of that's so sad for you, and I feel 252 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 2: for you. Divorce exactly. 253 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:41,079 Speaker 1: It's like that, I understand your situation, but. 254 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:43,079 Speaker 2: Divorce, Yeah, you're gonna have to work on that. Divorce. 255 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 1: I don't believe he did it for that reason, but 256 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: I don't know, he said. He doesn't love her and 257 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: I believe him, but it doesn't negate the fact of 258 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 1: what he did. After talking for a while, I told 259 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 1: him that I wanted a divorce advice. Oh, we do 260 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,320 Speaker 1: have one therapy and it's not to go to anymore. 261 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: He started sobbing and begging for another chance, but I 262 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: told him that I can't give him another chance because 263 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:11,560 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be able to trust him again and I 264 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:14,440 Speaker 1: don't want that in a relationship. He kept crying and 265 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: begging for another thirty minutes until I told him that 266 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:19,079 Speaker 1: we have to think about Jack and his well being, 267 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: that we could say friends and co parent him. 268 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 2: Which is what I was saying exactly. Yes, Sophia, right 269 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 2: on the money. 270 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 1: He got mad, really mad. He started yelling that it 271 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: was all Jack's fault, that we shouldn't have adopted him, 272 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:33,679 Speaker 1: that he's the one who's getting between us. 273 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 2: Oh my god, divorce and then thrown in the trashy 274 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 2: divorce and then it checked it from the planet's atmosphere. 275 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: He really is jealous of this child, dude. 276 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:46,680 Speaker 2: You know what, and it's the reason I switched immediately 277 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:49,199 Speaker 2: to divorce is because this happened two years ago. Like 278 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 2: that started two years ago happened one time, didn't say anything. 279 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 1: Didn't say anything saying, never confessed. 280 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:55,319 Speaker 2: That's unacceptable. 281 00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: And how many times would it happened if OPI had 282 00:12:57,600 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: not called him out. I was crying and really scared. 283 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: I had never seen him this angry. He hit the 284 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 1: table and stormed out of the house. By the way, 285 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:08,319 Speaker 1: you can join us live on YouTube every week to 286 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: at three PMPs to just chop for profile bing. 287 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 2: That's you tapping. 288 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 1: I called the house where Jack is staying and told 289 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: them if Peter shows up there, they can't open the door. 290 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: After the little episode, I was scared that Peter would 291 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,920 Speaker 1: try to hurt Jack. I called my friend again, Thomas, 292 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 1: and told him everything that happened. He came by and 293 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:28,719 Speaker 1: is staying with me until I'm better. Right now, I'm 294 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 1: trying to figure out what to do and how to 295 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:34,480 Speaker 1: go on with the divorce. And that is the end 296 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:38,079 Speaker 1: of that story. And there is another story. But oh yeah, 297 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:39,319 Speaker 1: I think that's the rain answer here. 298 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, clearly, especially if he's gonna go off 299 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:44,319 Speaker 2: the deep end like that and be like kid child. 300 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 2: It's like, now the only reason I had to even 301 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:49,559 Speaker 2: stay together is like all right, well, clearly you're. 302 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 1: Not good exactly, You're not gonna be a good. 303 00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 2: Parent, Like this is terrible. You're really blaming the kid 304 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 2: that you cheated on me twice, once two years ago 305 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 2: and one at his seventh birthday. 306 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 1: Seventh birthday, I did. I don't actually remember if he 307 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: was seven. I did, just make that I know. I 308 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 1: think you're right, Okay, I think that I remember, oh yeah, 309 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 1: at his birthday while you're cutting the cake, and then 310 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 1: the audacity to be like you didn't wait for me 311 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:12,840 Speaker 1: on Maybe you should have been more on top of 312 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: things instead of being on top of someone else. 313 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, your ex wife can't. 314 00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 1: Really find says, oh, he just solved Opie's problem. No 315 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: need to effectively co parent with someone who shouldn't be. 316 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 1: Slash doesn't deserve the opportunity or label of being a parent, 317 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:31,080 Speaker 1: and Key says, you don't cheat due to a lack 318 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 1: of attention, especially if you haven't properly communicated that with 319 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: your partner. Husband wasn't backed into a corner to cheat. 320 00:14:37,280 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 1: You chose it as an easy out, definitely, but there 321 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: is another story. Case says I was the one therapy vote, 322 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: but I was behind. You're caught up. Now we're good, 323 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: just like to go to Yeah, hey, you need to 324 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 1: go to catch up eventually, right, yeah, but there is 325 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 1: another story for us to catch up on. I tricked 326 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: my ex into admitting her affair. Now she has to 327 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: find a new place to live. 328 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 2: Damn dude, uh car it goes Sherlock Holmes tricky, tricky, 329 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 2: And it. 330 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:10,760 Speaker 1: Was like it's like one of those things you know 331 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: they did in like old cartoons where it was like 332 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:14,120 Speaker 1: I cheated, no, or you. 333 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 2: Cheated, No, you cheated, you cheated, I cheated, I cheated 334 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 2: duck season rabbit icy. 335 00:15:18,800 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 1: Yes, that's what it is. And he got and he's like, ah. 336 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 2: I can't got classic oh hot dig webbage. 337 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:34,480 Speaker 1: Wife pretty much title. I felt like something was off, 338 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:37,240 Speaker 1: so I went through her phone not good and found 339 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: messages between her and a male friend that seemed to 340 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:43,200 Speaker 1: suspect also not good, discussing meeting up when she never 341 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 1: mentioned it to me, blurting talking in coded language about 342 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 1: spicy sleep, et cetera. I want to know what the 343 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 1: coded language. There was nothing over it, but still pretty sketchy. 344 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:55,000 Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Old Links forty three 345 00:15:55,120 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: nineteen on the Best of Redditor Updates subreddit. So I 346 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 1: figured she just and bury things deeper if I confronted 347 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 1: her and she was actually cheating. So I set up 348 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:07,640 Speaker 1: a fake Instagram account and sent her a message saying 349 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 1: I knew she was effing. Her friend had the receipts 350 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: and was going to contact her partner in three days, 351 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 1: whether or not she confessed. 352 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 2: Wow, that's a that's a sharp move, buddy, with the finsta. 353 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 1: With the finsta and she didn't them. 354 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 2: That's a that's a bold claim though, Yeah, like what 355 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 2: if she wasn't, well, I guess let's find out. Yeah. 356 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 1: The next day, she sat me down and admitted to cheating, 357 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 1: but wouldn't tell me who it was or how long 358 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 1: it's been going on. She was sorry, she loved me 359 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,320 Speaker 1: and wanted to make things work. It meant nothing, blah 360 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: blah blah. You know what. Actually, pause really quick over 361 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:42,120 Speaker 1: his storytime. One time I got this spam email, but 362 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:44,120 Speaker 1: it was written like really, It wasn't written like a 363 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 1: spam email, was like super serious. It was like, Hi, Sophia, 364 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,880 Speaker 1: I wanted to tell you that I have your spicy 365 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 1: sleep tape and I'm going to release it to the world. 366 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 1: And I was like, I don't have one of those. 367 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:58,600 Speaker 1: I'll get onto that and then you and then. 368 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:00,440 Speaker 2: You email me. I got it. I got one of 369 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 2: those emails to like, yeah, like three or four years ago, 370 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 2: and they and it was also they were like telling 371 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:06,960 Speaker 2: me all this personal all these passwords and stuff, and 372 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:09,360 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, this is old and I didn't use 373 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:11,879 Speaker 2: that anymore and also doesn't. 374 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:14,640 Speaker 1: Exist, doesn't exist. I was like, nod, I I don't. 375 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:16,919 Speaker 1: I don't have one of those. Maybe I would be. 376 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:19,920 Speaker 2: Worried if Yeah, imagine just being like send it, send it, 377 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 2: send it, I don't care, send it. That's my thing. 378 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 2: My my thing is shame. 379 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:27,640 Speaker 1: The next day she sot me down it admitted to cheating. 380 00:17:27,960 --> 00:17:29,159 Speaker 1: So it worked. 381 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 2: It did, but also it's like that's super empty because 382 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:35,760 Speaker 2: it only worked because she was threatened. Yeah, now you 383 00:17:35,760 --> 00:17:37,919 Speaker 2: got to know, like she probably never said that. 384 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:42,400 Speaker 1: Lily. Police says Opie blackmailing Lily, Pilly Willy says emotional blackmailing. 385 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:45,280 Speaker 1: Stella Davis says Opie wasn't playing forty chas he was 386 00:17:45,320 --> 00:17:47,439 Speaker 1: playing that chess game and Wizards, just. 387 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 2: What is it He's glad to sacrifice himself. I can't, 388 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 2: And I'm closing that before we do the entire bit. 389 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 2: I was about to do it. You're right, I keep going. 390 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 1: She was so she loved me and wanted to make 391 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: things work. It meant nothing, blah blah blah. I told 392 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:06,159 Speaker 1: her that I already knew and that it was me 393 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:09,919 Speaker 1: who sent her the message. I was the masked singer 394 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:11,440 Speaker 1: all along. 395 00:18:11,359 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 2: Dropped the bomb on her right away. Goodness, gracious, we. 396 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 1: Don't we don't. Wait, Oh, he's efficient, he's like. I 397 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:20,400 Speaker 1: thought something was suspicious, so I looked at her phone. 398 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:22,159 Speaker 1: I found out that she might be cheating. So I 399 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:25,800 Speaker 1: blackmailed her with an offense account. I she confessed, so 400 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: I told her right then and there that was me. 401 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 2: I don't know if it's blackmail. I think it's more 402 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,760 Speaker 2: like strong arm strong you're strong arm in her. Yeah, hey, 403 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 2: I'm well, I mean it's. 404 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: If it wasn't him, it would be blackmailing, like if 405 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:37,840 Speaker 1: someone emails. I was like, I have prey. 406 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 2: I guess, so yeah, so it's yeah, it just happens 407 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:43,399 Speaker 2: that it is him, international waters or not. 408 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:48,160 Speaker 1: That's My ex lost it and I had to leave 409 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:50,479 Speaker 1: the apartment and go stay with a friend to get 410 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:52,639 Speaker 1: away from her. She was gone, along with most of 411 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:55,119 Speaker 1: her clothes. When I came back the next day, she 412 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 1: completely trashed the place while I was gone, just like 413 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:04,280 Speaker 1: Ginny in the second Harry Pod. This all happened a 414 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 1: few weeks ago, and it has been pretty tough ever since. 415 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: It's having to find a new place to live and 416 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 1: separating our stuff while dealing with feeling like crap. To 417 00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:15,679 Speaker 1: make it worse, I'd met the guys several times, shaken 418 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:19,360 Speaker 1: his hand, bought him a drink, thought he was harmless. Wait, 419 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 1: oh my god, Opie knew the guy she cheated with. 420 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 2: Oh no, oh oh, I'm just sorry this happened. But 421 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:31,159 Speaker 2: rough clearly Sherlock Holmes was the I think the right 422 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:32,120 Speaker 2: assumption here, This guy. 423 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:38,960 Speaker 1: Sherlock Holmes found his moriarty. But yeah, mostly I feel 424 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: like an it for having trusted her. I've never cheated 425 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:44,080 Speaker 1: on anyone, and I assumed my ex was cut of 426 00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:46,520 Speaker 1: the same cloth. My ex is adamant that I'm an 427 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:47,879 Speaker 1: a hole for what I did to her, But I 428 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 1: don't really feel like a oh or anything. I don't know. 429 00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole here? And there are some 430 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:54,199 Speaker 1: comments and an update. 431 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:55,119 Speaker 3: I don't know. 432 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: It is like it is an extreme perhaps, but I 433 00:19:58,840 --> 00:19:59,959 Speaker 1: feel like just cut your law. 434 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:02,640 Speaker 2: It's I think it's it's one of those cases where 435 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 2: you might have been the a hole. Yeah, this was 436 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 2: you were literally right on the money. 437 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, unfortunate fortunately for you nailed it. 438 00:20:10,720 --> 00:20:15,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, kind of fortunately slash unfortunately y. Yeah, yeah it sucks. 439 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:17,880 Speaker 1: But if you had been at all wrong, you would 440 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 1: have been so so extremely the ale. 441 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, it would have been like, yeah, it's a really 442 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 2: it's a. 443 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 1: Really narrow thin ice rock. That was a risky but 444 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 1: you know, if you don't make risky plays, you'll never 445 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:32,960 Speaker 1: get that. 446 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 2: You'll buzzer beater. You're not willing to take the risk, 447 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 2: you'll never find out that your girlfriend is your ay. 448 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 1: And you're if you're not ready for the field, take 449 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 1: the heat. 450 00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, the kitchen's that's like the third time we've used 451 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:55,159 Speaker 2: that one. All right, okay, dog, Yeah, I think Duchess 452 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:57,960 Speaker 2: is right morally gray area here, but it's you know 453 00:20:58,480 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 2: what's true? 454 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,639 Speaker 1: Do you to? G says My ex is adamant that 455 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:03,959 Speaker 1: I'm the a hole for what I did to her, 456 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:05,520 Speaker 1: But I don't really feel like I owe her for 457 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 1: anything for what you did to her. Wow, She's desperately 458 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:12,120 Speaker 1: trying to find an offensive position. When in reality she's 459 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:15,160 Speaker 1: victim blaming. I applaud you for what you did, which 460 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:18,400 Speaker 1: was to catch her cheating and call her out. Guess 461 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,400 Speaker 1: the other dude can continue making his deposits because she's 462 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: morally bankrupt. Dab, that was the air horn. That was 463 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 1: the air horn? 464 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 2: Everybody. Yeah, okay, just so. 465 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:34,680 Speaker 1: We all know, Yeah, just so we know, you should 466 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,080 Speaker 1: send him a celebratory bottle of wine as a gift 467 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: for getting her out of your life. Does the other 468 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:40,879 Speaker 1: guy know she's a cheater? Well, he said that he 469 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: met this guy, so it is not there's a future 470 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:48,120 Speaker 1: petty revenge story here, not the a hole. And Opie says, yeah, 471 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: he knew about me. We'd met on several occasions and 472 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: he'd been introduced to me as a friend. He's just 473 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:56,159 Speaker 1: as gross and morally bankrupt as her. They deserve each other. 474 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: I don't really feel like I need or want any revenge. 475 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:00,920 Speaker 1: I just want her as out of my life, and 476 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: there are there is an updates, a good place to 477 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,760 Speaker 1: be out of her life. 478 00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 2: Those two little disgusting peas and a disgusting pod, the disgusting, a. 479 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 1: Little dirty pod, and get them out of your life. 480 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 1: Get them out of your salad. That's all I have 481 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:13,120 Speaker 1: to say. 482 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 2: It was disgusting, peas out of myself. 483 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,480 Speaker 1: But there is another part of this story. There's another update. 484 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 1: But can you read some comments because Riley looked at 485 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:23,280 Speaker 1: me and I don't know what he wants. 486 00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 2: Oh okay, yep, I'll read. I can read. I do 487 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 2: know how to do that. Oh the comments. I bet 488 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:35,280 Speaker 2: my last corn kernel from Prince X on Sofia in 489 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 2: Potter Trivia. I think you're right. It sounds sounds like 490 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 2: she's got that one in the bag. He's the a hole, 491 00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 2: But it was one hundred percent justified. From Julie Butler. 492 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 2: I think I think, yeah, maybe they're both. I mean, 493 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:50,600 Speaker 2: it was kind of an a hole move to look 494 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,239 Speaker 2: through her phone, because that's kind of like, that's kind 495 00:22:54,280 --> 00:23:00,840 Speaker 2: of sneaky, but clearly she was being sneaky, so kind 496 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,600 Speaker 2: of I think, you know more, it's morally gray, morally gray, 497 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:09,960 Speaker 2: Lily Pilly Willy says, meat meat, meat meat meat worm 498 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 2: worm worm worm, and that's not chat. What do we 499 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 2: name this worm right here? I want to name this 500 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:20,879 Speaker 2: worm Nimrod, and then all the other worms are gonna 501 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:24,919 Speaker 2: just be named like worm wormy wormo worm I just. 502 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,560 Speaker 1: Want to make it clear that this is a bit 503 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,680 Speaker 1: that we both came up with, and this is not 504 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:30,359 Speaker 1: just Dakota being really funny. 505 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 2: Uh yeah, I mean okay, I just want to make 506 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 2: clear that we both came up with this. We both 507 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,200 Speaker 2: were like, we should name every worm in the studio 508 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,440 Speaker 2: and also all the other objects and also name them worm. 509 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 510 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:49,680 Speaker 2: Okay, there's some more too, but you'll have to campaign 511 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,440 Speaker 2: for a separate segment where we just become unhinged for about, 512 00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 2: you know, an hour, And if you guys want that, 513 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:57,399 Speaker 2: let everybody know. Ye. 514 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 1: If you guys want that, get in the comments. 515 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,920 Speaker 2: Get in the comments and tell sim and everybody, Hey, 516 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:07,119 Speaker 2: we need these freaks. I need to talk nonsense for 517 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:07,960 Speaker 2: an hour, pease. 518 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:11,480 Speaker 1: But what we will talk about is this update. And 519 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 1: then after this episode, I will be leaving for just 520 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:17,159 Speaker 1: a moment while Riley fills in for me, and then 521 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 1: I will be back after that, just to prepare you. 522 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,920 Speaker 1: But let's get into this update. So I think my 523 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: original post must have been shared on Facebook or something, 524 00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,240 Speaker 1: because my phone has been blowing up. It's mostly mutual 525 00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: friends and acquaintances asking if I posted it. I told 526 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,080 Speaker 1: a few people about how I caught her cheating, and 527 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 1: I guess it wasn't hard to put two and two together. 528 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 1: My ex also tried to call me about one hundred times. 529 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:41,680 Speaker 1: I know she knows my throwaway user name because she 530 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 1: sent me a screenshot of the post along with a 531 00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:48,320 Speaker 1: long abusive message threatening all sorts of things. Really, I 532 00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:51,280 Speaker 1: blocked her everywhere after that, which I think is the 533 00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 1: that's all you need to do, walk her on the 534 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 1: fin stuff block And yeah, going through her phone was wrong. 535 00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: I get that, to be honest. It's the first time 536 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,000 Speaker 1: I've ever done anything like that in a relationship, and 537 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 1: it was only because there were so many things that 538 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 1: gave me bad vibes. Eg. Late nights out with vague explanations, 539 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,320 Speaker 1: being caught in various lies, sleeping with her phone under 540 00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,919 Speaker 1: her pillow or leaving it face down on the charger, 541 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,880 Speaker 1: et cetera. I left the apartment because my ex as 542 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: a history of violent histrionics. When she doesn't get her way, 543 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:24,160 Speaker 1: that's not good. 544 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:27,480 Speaker 2: We don't like that. We don't like violent history onics. 545 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,439 Speaker 1: I didn't want to put myself in a compromising situation 546 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: where she could either hurt me or make up stories 547 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,680 Speaker 1: about me hurting her. I had a bug out bag 548 00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:37,680 Speaker 1: packed and ready to go before I hit send on 549 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: the message. 550 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 2: Just in case. 551 00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:40,560 Speaker 1: Definitely get out of that relationship. 552 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:41,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not sound safe. 553 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 1: She didn't do any real damage to the apartment, just 554 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,920 Speaker 1: threw my stuff around while having a tantrum. It took 555 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 1: a few hours to clean up, and nothing valuable was damaged, 556 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,960 Speaker 1: so I figured it was easier to just let it slide. 557 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,600 Speaker 1: I think if there's no real damage, it may be 558 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,680 Speaker 1: just easier to like lock her everywhere. But I guess 559 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 1: if you do feel unsafe me, maybe you could think 560 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 1: about getting like a filing a police report and give 561 00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:06,120 Speaker 1: me a what's the word? 562 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,320 Speaker 2: I think restraining the proper move is probably to have something. 563 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 2: There needs to be a paper trail for this behavior 564 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:13,800 Speaker 2: or else, you know, she might not be able to 565 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 2: face the consequences that are warranted, because then people will 566 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:18,959 Speaker 2: be like, oh, it's like she hasn't she's no hist 567 00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 2: freak thing. It's like, no, it's like you got to 568 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,160 Speaker 2: build the paper trail for Yeah. I do think maybe 569 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:26,360 Speaker 2: a police report, even if things weren't damaged. I had 570 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 2: to stay in contact with her while we divided up 571 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 2: our joint finances. Furniture and various other stuff accumulated over 572 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,640 Speaker 2: a four year relationship. Wow, as of yesterday, that's all done, 573 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 2: which is why I waited several weeks to make the 574 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 2: initial post. 575 00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 1: She's now blocked everywhere. Yes, I took the cat with me. 576 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 1: Think God, we've both been crashing at my friend's place 577 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 1: while I look for a new apartment. He's doing great. 578 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:52,479 Speaker 1: He was always my pet. Anyways, my ex tolerated him 579 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: at best. 580 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 2: Only tolerating the cat. Huge red flag a red flag flag. Also, 581 00:26:57,320 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 2: we have a we have a donation. 582 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,960 Speaker 1: Nice thank you for the five bucks. Hi, Sophia. I 583 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:03,720 Speaker 1: love you guys, and I watch you every day and 584 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:05,639 Speaker 1: it cheers me. Ouh, thank you so much. That's very sweet. 585 00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:08,680 Speaker 1: I told my ex I was the one who sent 586 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,080 Speaker 1: the message because I wanted her to know. I suppose 587 00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 1: I could have played that hand differently, but I wanted 588 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,440 Speaker 1: the satisfaction of seeing the look on her face when 589 00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:18,520 Speaker 1: she found out. I didn't feel that great doing it. 590 00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:21,520 Speaker 1: In hindsight, i'd probably go back and do that differently 591 00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,200 Speaker 1: if I could. I wasn't planning on airing her dirty 592 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,000 Speaker 1: laundry on social media. Does redit coount? Because I wanted 593 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,119 Speaker 1: to be above the sort of juvenile bs. But it 594 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 1: seems like the horses bolted on that now people know. 595 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 1: I don't think there'll be much else to update on 596 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,399 Speaker 1: after this. I don't intend to ever speak to her again, 597 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,280 Speaker 1: and I doubt her ugly little man has the backbone 598 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:45,480 Speaker 1: to come after. And Jay, I know you're reading this, 599 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: I hope you also read all the comments in the 600 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:50,640 Speaker 1: first post. They were savage, you were disgusting, and I'm 601 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 1: so glad I was able to see your true colors 602 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 1: before I wasted any more of my life on you. 603 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:59,360 Speaker 1: Good luck with the pathetic goblin you chose over me day. 604 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 1: I don't know if I should feel more sorry for 605 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,800 Speaker 1: him or for you. In any case, people of your 606 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:08,119 Speaker 1: quality deserve to be together. Oh and A, she's all 607 00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:12,000 Speaker 1: yours now, buddy, good luck with that. And there is 608 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,680 Speaker 1: one more update to this story. 609 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 2: That's kind of disappointing. I feel like that was the 610 00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 2: perfect you were just like yo letter to my haters. 611 00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:23,439 Speaker 2: Y'all suck and. 612 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: You're the worst. Have fun in Mell with each other. 613 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 2: It's gonna be great without both of you losers by. 614 00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 1: But there is one more update, so let's read it 615 00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:35,440 Speaker 1: and then chat. Holy crap Where to begin? Yesterday, while 616 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,280 Speaker 1: I was out, my ex girlfriend Jay showed up at 617 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,280 Speaker 1: my buddy's place with a box of my stuff and 618 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 1: asked to see me. He said she looked like crap o. 619 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,240 Speaker 1: He also said she had a fat lip. I have 620 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: to admit that I almost caved and called her to 621 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 1: see if she was okay. I'm glad I didn't. My 622 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,240 Speaker 1: ex's sister H texted and asked if we could talk. 623 00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,560 Speaker 1: We always got along and I have no issues with 624 00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 1: Jay's family, so I called her after I got home. 625 00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 1: We talked for about an hour. She wanted to apologize 626 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:05,640 Speaker 1: for her sister's behavior, but she also told me about 627 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:07,440 Speaker 1: some of the things that have been happening over the 628 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,360 Speaker 1: last few weeks. Jay has been staying with her sisters 629 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: since we split, and A, the guy she was effing, 630 00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:16,200 Speaker 1: has been coming around regularly. They got into a huge 631 00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 1: fight yesterday and Jay lost her crap at A. Her 632 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 1: sister had to pull her off him, and A's elbow 633 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:24,800 Speaker 1: connected with my ex's face while he was trying to 634 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:28,840 Speaker 1: get away from her. Wow. Turns out he's not single 635 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:32,240 Speaker 1: and his girlfriend found out about Jay. It also turns 636 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,840 Speaker 1: out that my ex wasn't his only side piece yoicks 637 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:40,760 Speaker 1: after h the sister I believe of Yeah, so we'll 638 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 1: call it Julie, Hannah and Aaron. So after Hannah, Julie's 639 00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,040 Speaker 1: sister kicked him out, my ex girlfriend spilled her guts. 640 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 1: She'd been lying to her family about everything. She told 641 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 1: him that I cheated and she broke up with me. 642 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 2: Oh oh oh, yo iacious. I'm so glad that she 643 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 2: has gotten a huge dose of her own medicine. Yeah, 644 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,560 Speaker 2: her little boy being like, oh. 645 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 1: Actually, that's not true. Oh. Hannah said that my ex 646 00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 1: had confided in a couple of her friends about the 647 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 1: way she got caught out. One of them saw the 648 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,800 Speaker 1: original Ami the Ale post and sent it to her. 649 00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 1: Since the details lined up almost exactly, her friends must 650 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,440 Speaker 1: have shared the post with other people too, and from 651 00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:24,280 Speaker 1: there it kind of snowballed. Hannah also said that she's 652 00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:27,360 Speaker 1: given my ex a week to find somewhere else to stay. 653 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,880 Speaker 1: So that's it, and that is the end of that story. 654 00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 2: Just deser, just desserts, really, just stinky peas, stinky peace, 655 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 2: sinky pe pause, and there's stinky pos sticky pause. I 656 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 2: wanted to say stinky knees, but I don't think chat 657 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:51,200 Speaker 2: get well, that's you'll You'll have to one day chat to. 658 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,920 Speaker 1: Our Chaos hour, and then you'll understand. Kamsas says, shocking 659 00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 1: a cheater has multiple partners? 660 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,480 Speaker 2: Yeah right, I mean, who would have thought he's multiple people. 661 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,640 Speaker 1: But we're not gonna cheat on you. If you come 662 00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:07,880 Speaker 1: join us live every weekday at three PMPs T, just 663 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: top our profile. But that is the end of that story, 664 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:11,520 Speaker 1: So let's get into this next story.