Speaker 1: We're back. I'm Drew McCarry and I'm David Roth and
Speaker 1: coming in September a new site we have built together
Speaker 1: called Defecto or Defector, and we're gonna have a new
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Speaker 1: Go listen to see I buy. When we first met
Speaker 1: and I told you what I wanted to do, and
Speaker 1: you told me what you wanted to do, and we
Speaker 1: decided to go on this journey together, standing in front
Speaker 1: of a crowd of people in our hometown applauding us
Speaker 1: for doing nothing but speaking our truth and realizing that
Speaker 1: that idea that I had in my mind and seeing
Speaker 1: it was here. People ride for us and for us,
Speaker 1: and they are definitely about showing us love and support
Speaker 1: and like you said, us all for things that we
Speaker 1: just do naturally. Hey, I'm Cadine and we're the Ellises.
Speaker 1: You may know us from posting funny videos with our
Speaker 1: boys and reading each other publicly as a form of therapy. Wait,
Speaker 1: I'll make you need Derby most days. Wow. Oh, and
Speaker 1: one more important thing to mention, we're married, Yes, sir,
Speaker 1: we are. We created this podcast to open dialogue about
Speaker 1: some of life's most taboo topics, things most folks don't
Speaker 1: want to talk about through the lens of a millennial
Speaker 1: married couple. Dead ass is a term that we say
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Speaker 1: the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
Speaker 1: We're about to take Phillow's talk to a whole new level.
Speaker 1: Dead Ask starts now. A few weeks ago, we did
Speaker 1: an episode of dead Ass in front of a live
Speaker 1: audience in our hometown, Brooklyn. It was a sold out crowd. Y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all really came. Let me tell you, it was amazing.
Speaker 1: Coin I tried to stop her. I was like, I
Speaker 1: was like, baby pain. I was just about to say
Speaker 1: we cried, but I wasn't gonna put you out there
Speaker 1: like that in the very beginning of the show. Today,
Speaker 1: but Devout and I both I feel like we had
Speaker 1: several moments of just fighting back tires that entire day.
Speaker 1: I actually needed that energy and I needed to be
Speaker 1: in that space because ever since we've come to the
Speaker 1: West coast, even though we've kind of been tri coastal,
Speaker 1: there's nothing like being in Brooklyn all the time. So
Speaker 1: being able to go home and getting the response that
Speaker 1: we got and got so much love, and we've got
Speaker 1: a surprise for y'all. For those who couldn't be there,
Speaker 1: We're not gonna hold that against you, but we're bringing
Speaker 1: a small piece of the show to you. So this
Speaker 1: week's episode, the format is a little bit different to
Speaker 1: just rock with us. It's a little different than what
Speaker 1: you used to stick along for the ride and enjoy this.
Speaker 1: As we relived this moment together, it was so bomb
Speaker 1: dead Ass Brooklyn. Yo, we're home. Yes, yes, up yourself, yourself.
Speaker 1: I had to come out here with tissue. She cried
Speaker 1: twice in the back. She cried twice and emotional today. Guys. Yes,
Speaker 1: we're in Brooklyn. You guys know we've recently moved to
Speaker 1: l A and we're yes. So thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, thank you. Thanks. So it's important
Speaker 1: for us to tell you guys a little bit about
Speaker 1: how we started about Dead Ass Podcasts, about all of
Speaker 1: our people. It's important that you know everybody that you
Speaker 1: see here has been with us from the beginning. It
Speaker 1: was all an idea and all an idea, and you
Speaker 1: know us big about supporting black business. It's important for
Speaker 1: you to know that everyone here also gets paid. This
Speaker 1: isn't favorites. This isn't favorites. So um and the reason
Speaker 1: why we talked about this is because we're young black
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs and if it weren't for you guys supporting us,
Speaker 1: we couldn't do what we do. So clap it up
Speaker 1: for yourselves absolutely. I mean, I'm sure if you follow us,
Speaker 1: you know why we even started all this to begin with,
Speaker 1: you know, vlogging and putting a little bit of ourselves
Speaker 1: out there for the world to see. Um, is to
Speaker 1: help our acting careers. So shout out to the vol
Speaker 1: who's on Sisters, who's watching Sisters on baby Day? Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I had to plug him real quick because let me
Speaker 1: tell you all a little something. I was in a
Speaker 1: Ruble last week on vacation and because of the time
Speaker 1: zone differences, I forgot what day it was. So he
Speaker 1: was like, so you out there in a Ruba and
Speaker 1: you're not gonna post my show? How dare you not
Speaker 1: post my show? You out there gallavants in the streets
Speaker 1: of a Ruba and you won't even promote my show.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't even know if it's Monday, Tuesday,
Speaker 1: or Wednesday because I've been time zone hopping. So you
Speaker 1: get please watch my baby Zack yes hashtag I rocked
Speaker 1: with Zack. I know a lot of women out here
Speaker 1: hate Zach right now? All right? I had a woman
Speaker 1: come up to me in the street. How do women
Speaker 1: come up to the street? This is guy's on the
Speaker 1: true She came up to me in the street. First
Speaker 1: of all, she was just like, I don't like the
Speaker 1: fact that you out here and you got them three
Speaker 1: home boys at home, but you at Dandy's house. It's true.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm you do realize that that's that's TV? Right.
Speaker 1: She's like, you asking us to do too much to
Speaker 1: decide between the three boys and Codeine and Dandy and Karen.
Speaker 1: You asked me to do too much. I watched Sisters,
Speaker 1: I listen to the podcast. I'm just mad at you
Speaker 1: right now. I was like, it is a TV show, lady.
Speaker 1: Then she asked me for a selfie, so I was like,
Speaker 1: did you take the selfie? All right? How many single
Speaker 1: women do we have out here? Tonight. Okay, but what
Speaker 1: about the single men crickets? Whoa Okay, I heard it,
Speaker 1: your heard okay? All right, single man. When we first
Speaker 1: decided we were going to do a live show, we
Speaker 1: were thinking about, you know what, in order to do
Speaker 1: a good live show for our fans, we need to
Speaker 1: go look at some live shows to make sure we're
Speaker 1: doing the right thing for the podcast. So, you know,
Speaker 1: we're season two, we're still kind of new with this,
Speaker 1: so we're trying to figure things out, you know. So
Speaker 1: we designed it. We was like, well, maybe it's the guests.
Speaker 1: Maybe we need some live guests. But then I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, our people come to see the valin cade.
Speaker 1: But then we were like, you know who the best
Speaker 1: guests would be. Yeah, I get it, I get it.
Speaker 1: They can't come here. It's alcohol being served. Kind of parents,
Speaker 1: would we be that y'all there talking about I can't
Speaker 1: believe they brought into the show exact imagine there was alcohol.
Speaker 1: They were talking about sex exactly. Jackson don't need to
Speaker 1: hear that right now. He already caught us one time.
Speaker 1: It was messed up. Oh my god, oh my god, yo,
Speaker 1: this takes me the story time, story Time I had
Speaker 1: a whole another story plan, but I gotta you have
Speaker 1: this story. So me and connin are be married nine years.
Speaker 1: You know, look at look at my baby, look at
Speaker 1: my bad people married nine plus years, gold legs looking
Speaker 1: like gold, looking like the Academy Awards. You know, I
Speaker 1: like to think, my mother, God, you're a lord. But
Speaker 1: with me, I rolled with the punches. I kick ahead.
Speaker 1: So I'm story. I'm like, yo, you know, you know
Speaker 1: Kyra went cash about to take a nap, right, it
Speaker 1: was about twelve o'clock is so we got we got
Speaker 1: about thirty minutes, got about thirty minutes. All right, come
Speaker 1: with me in the back, you know, do what we do?
Speaker 1: You know, it actually summons him to the closet, because
Speaker 1: that's like our new thing. Closet is the new things.
Speaker 1: Can you show them the closet walk? When I know
Speaker 1: she sometimes she don't even say nothing to me. She
Speaker 1: just walked by me. This is the walk, do you know? Okay,
Speaker 1: so ready I'll be minding my business. I'll be like
Speaker 1: to kind of go to the closet. Closet first for sure.
Speaker 1: So now you know we're in l A. We got
Speaker 1: a new crib. So I'm like Jackson's downstairs. He's playing
Speaker 1: video games. We got them a whole whole lass playroom,
Speaker 1: whole playboom with PlayStation and toys and ships. I was like,
Speaker 1: they're gonna stay in the play room. So I did
Speaker 1: the right thing. I said, Yo, I said, Yo, We're
Speaker 1: gonna play Madden all right, but I'm gonna check on
Speaker 1: your mom's make sure she good start the game because
Speaker 1: you know once they start the game, they don't like
Speaker 1: to be interrupted, right, So we sipically I started the game,
Speaker 1: started the game. I'm like, your mom calling me? You
Speaker 1: know how your mom be uh one of this? So
Speaker 1: now me and Kay we're in the room doing our things.
Speaker 1: But we quiet though, so you know the quiet smashes
Speaker 1: be different, so one of those. So now it's a
Speaker 1: quiet sta. But the house ain't. It's not an old house.
Speaker 1: Our house in on Dean Street used to have crickety floors.
Speaker 1: So when he used to be like Jack said, I
Speaker 1: know you don't finished that? How finished that homework? Read
Speaker 1: another chat to your book? We got carpet, you know
Speaker 1: where here ship but carfe So I'm in my groove.
Speaker 1: You know, all I hear is who I'm like, oh oh,
Speaker 1: Kate grabbed the colors. She dropped to the side of
Speaker 1: the bed and I was like, instant, it was over.
Speaker 1: It was over. So I run out to do that.
Speaker 1: I'm doing damage control on both. I run to Jackson.
Speaker 1: I'm like, bro, bro, he's sitting there like this, I said,
Speaker 1: because he's eight, so I don't know what to say,
Speaker 1: how to explain it. So I'm like, I was like,
Speaker 1: what is your He was is your idea? So you
Speaker 1: explained this one. I didn't know where to go, so
Speaker 1: I was like, what did you see? Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: He was like, I walked in there and Mommy was
Speaker 1: twerking on you. So I was like, I was like,
Speaker 1: and my twork is mean okay, dropped it. So she
Speaker 1: imagine that and fast forward. Okay, So I had to
Speaker 1: at this point, I had to flip it. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: she wasn't tworking on the Jackson. I gotta got a cramp.
Speaker 1: You know, daddy be working out a lot. I had
Speaker 1: got a cramp in my quad. She lifted my leg
Speaker 1: up to stretch. The only way you can get that
Speaker 1: massage out is if she work it while she stretched me.
Speaker 1: So he was like, so it's it's a cramp. It
Speaker 1: was a cramp. I was like, yes, bro, it was
Speaker 1: a cramp. Get your mind out the gether like your mother.
Speaker 1: Don't be twigging like that. Then I put him on
Speaker 1: punishment because I had it. I was like the value
Speaker 1: like you kid. She told me I was wrong for that.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to do, so I was just like,
Speaker 1: this is what you do when you're a parent, Like
Speaker 1: when you get caught, you just so I just flipped it.
Speaker 1: I was like, didn't that's how you stop busting the
Speaker 1: god people room? And what did you want? We're just
Speaker 1: supposed to be warming up for me Jackson. He was
Speaker 1: over here and warming me up, but screamed at him.
Speaker 1: I made him do time tables. He had to do
Speaker 1: his time tables for an hour. Then I come back
Speaker 1: in the room and Kay had the race car crying
Speaker 1: on her face. So I was like, I was like,
Speaker 1: it's all right, baby, it's so right, So can we finish?
Speaker 1: And I hit him with the hell no, it was
Speaker 1: the red that happened. That happened last week. You knew
Speaker 1: I was going away, so you know it was around.
Speaker 1: But that brings us to our icebreaker were a couples
Speaker 1: are couples. We are that? Okay, how many married couples
Speaker 1: do we have? I already heard somebody saying right here?
Speaker 1: Who said right here? Engaged? So we got engaged? Okay,
Speaker 1: can y'all stand standford me? Can I being a flower girl?
Speaker 1: Can I being a flower girl? How long you've been married?
Speaker 1: I can be a bridesmaid? Love a good wedding? Sand
Speaker 1: We got eight years right here? Okay, we got some
Speaker 1: vets in the game, can we have y'all? Come on stage, please, Prescott,
Speaker 1: Come on, Prescott, Come on, I know, Prescott, come up here,
Speaker 1: come here, Come come on. We got married? Who's dating? Okay?
Speaker 1: Come on, I feel like that. Now, come on up,
Speaker 1: come on, come on up to the side. Guys, I
Speaker 1: got three couples over here. So we're gonna do things
Speaker 1: a little different for y'all. We figured we're making a
Speaker 1: little interactive you know, like we said, we weren't trying
Speaker 1: to come up here and talk and preach to y'all.
Speaker 1: We have a little fun tonight, little ice breaker situation.
Speaker 1: So let's bring our three couples up here. Come on up,
Speaker 1: Come on up, Come on up. Let's see who we got.
Speaker 1: What's up, girl, what's your name Junie and Junie. Where
Speaker 1: y'all from Brooklyn? Give me your names? Sequence and Raw?
Speaker 1: See Quinn and Raw? Do you have a nickname? Back down?
Speaker 1: All right? Come up here with we go, Junior and
Speaker 1: Rock come on up. Give him a round of applause, y'all.
Speaker 1: All right now it's over there, man. What's your name?
Speaker 1: All right? Who we got over here? Charles from flat Bush,
Speaker 1: Flat stand up Bush, come on stage, Come on right now,
Speaker 1: Hi man, thank you for giving me a normal last name. Charles,
Speaker 1: right all the same, right, Prescott, you shouldn't have rose
Speaker 1: your head. Prescott and I go back to high school days, alright,
Speaker 1: alright here Prescott was friends with her ex boyfriend. Leave
Speaker 1: leave it, leave it to the vell to dig up
Speaker 1: the dirt. Don't dig up no dirt right day? Any
Speaker 1: who give me an give them your name, Darling, Shari Sarie,
Speaker 1: Anthony Anthony, I call him press guy, But okay, Anthony,
Speaker 1: come on, come on, give him around to applause. Married
Speaker 1: on that side. That's what we're gonna do. We're gonna
Speaker 1: separate the women from the man. All the ladies over
Speaker 1: there with ship. I don't think we discussed this ahead
Speaker 1: of time. So what are we doing. I told you
Speaker 1: how to do right now. So the Couple Challenge, what
Speaker 1: we had was a talent competition that involved couples. So
Speaker 1: it's kind of like pageantry. And we came up with
Speaker 1: this idea because Kadine is a pageant girl. You know,
Speaker 1: she's she's very accomplished. Shout out to a Miss South
Speaker 1: Africa who is now Miss Universe. Yes we have no
Speaker 1: we have four systems holding all the titles. Four systems
Speaker 1: give us all the titles. Okay, So what we decided
Speaker 1: to do was to bring this pageantry to the Dead
Speaker 1: Ass Podcast. But we wanted to do it with couples
Speaker 1: because we always hear couples say to us like, Yo,
Speaker 1: y'all remind us of y'all or y'all remind y'allself. I
Speaker 1: don't know how they say. It sounds funny saying that,
Speaker 1: and the that's like the fourth person was like, they say,
Speaker 1: y'all remind us of us, y'all remind us of us.
Speaker 1: So I wanted to see how much they know about
Speaker 1: each other, right, and we wanted to do a Brooklyn style,
Speaker 1: so we put a little bit of a twist on
Speaker 1: things to see who was the most Brooklyn couple and
Speaker 1: it was on the top of knowing each other the best,
Speaker 1: and we had a DJ Executive shout out to DJ
Speaker 1: Executive who was there giving all the tunes, all the
Speaker 1: vibes that was getting us through the show, which was amazing.
Speaker 1: So we ended up pulling up a couple that was
Speaker 1: engaged right, a couple that was married yes, and a
Speaker 1: couple that was dating, and a couple that was dating.
Speaker 1: So it kind of worked out perfectly because they were
Speaker 1: all in different points in their relationship together. So I
Speaker 1: asked the guys to do their best walks to show
Speaker 1: how they approached their lady because the vet has this
Speaker 1: like walk that he claims he did when he saw me.
Speaker 1: I don't recall the walk with this whole like you know,
Speaker 1: smiles and shape, right you see how it dropped ahead
Speaker 1: tell them so y'all can't see the walk, but the
Speaker 1: walk sounds like my voice right now, and k can't
Speaker 1: help herself but to be mesberized by the walk. You
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. It's kind of like a slow
Speaker 1: dragged the toe and step and it got the little
Speaker 1: shoulder and step drag, this tone step drag, the tone
Speaker 1: step with the Gates pays Gates, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: my niece, you know, so that's what I did. That's
Speaker 1: what we did. So the Volt gave his little demonstration
Speaker 1: of his walk, and and it's a known thing people say,
Speaker 1: dudes from Brooklyn walk different, Like we got a different walk,
Speaker 1: you feel me like, it's just they know what it is.
Speaker 1: Dead asked when when you walk up to it shortly,
Speaker 1: and you'd be like, hey, yo, mam was good. So
Speaker 1: any like, so when you did the reenactment of your
Speaker 1: walk on stage, you actually felt as if and you
Speaker 1: put yourself when you're tims. Yes, because I didn't he
Speaker 1: didn't have his tims with surprise for the Brooklyn show.
Speaker 1: I really expected you to rock your tims and I
Speaker 1: was surprised he wanted to do something a little different.
Speaker 1: I did because I felt like that would have been
Speaker 1: a little bit cliche, and I wanted to do the
Speaker 1: opposite of cliche. I know, I know, I know. We
Speaker 1: did dressed up really nicely for we did um. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it was funny because I know that that's something you
Speaker 1: were channeling, because you know they were walking the tims,
Speaker 1: you know, with a little toe drags to drag step
Speaker 1: so that was dope. When we had the guys, you know,
Speaker 1: do their approach, had their ladies standing in front of
Speaker 1: them so we could see how they approach, and that
Speaker 1: was hilarious us hilarious because we had three different type
Speaker 1: of dudes. Outside of them being in different points in
Speaker 1: their relationships, they were just three completely different personalities. Um,
Speaker 1: I believe the dating couple they were a little bit
Speaker 1: more shy, more reserved. Um, they were more theological. They
Speaker 1: go to church. I don't even know if that's but
Speaker 1: they go to church, so they're a little bit more
Speaker 1: you know, reserve. And then the engaged couple, he was
Speaker 1: he was he was like, I don't give a shit
Speaker 1: about nothing. I don't. I am here to let y'all
Speaker 1: know that I am here. This is not their show,
Speaker 1: this is my show. And he's from Flatbush definitely. And
Speaker 1: then the last the married couple is actually an old
Speaker 1: friend of yours, to Prescott, Anthony Prescott and his wife's yes.
Speaker 1: So he did the shimmy, so he knows about this
Speaker 1: and it was perfect. But listen, how you just explained
Speaker 1: that to like, the dating couple was more reserved than
Speaker 1: engaged couple was just having fun. They also have a
Speaker 1: couple of kids too. I think they about three or
Speaker 1: four kids. And then you had the married couple. He
Speaker 1: had three or four, she didn't have three. Okay, got
Speaker 1: you he had three or four? Got you? Well, either
Speaker 1: way you can tell. With the married couple and the
Speaker 1: engaged couple, it is that comes a point when you
Speaker 1: just don't really give a ship. You're just like whatever,
Speaker 1: like this is what it is, this is who we are,
Speaker 1: and this is what it is. Like that's it, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. But the best part, I think
Speaker 1: was when we asked the couples something very Brooklyn. Wait
Speaker 1: wait wait, we asked the young women to drop it.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, are you going you forget to drop it?
Speaker 1: What are you doing? My bad? I totally forgot that part.
Speaker 1: How could I? Because I definitely demonstrate it. Definitely demonstrated
Speaker 1: a couple of y'all two in the audience shouts, who
Speaker 1: got some bomb boomerangs of my drop that is the thing,
Speaker 1: So I'd just be dropping it dropped up. She loved
Speaker 1: to drop it and get the boomerang so she could
Speaker 1: record the like pendulum swinging the hips at the bottom
Speaker 1: pet It was like the perfect time in a couple.
Speaker 1: I even DM those people, was like, Cass, do me
Speaker 1: a favorite, sent me that fat little video right there.
Speaker 1: You know, my dress wasn't necessarily conducive for dropping it,
Speaker 1: but thank god for stretching material made it work. But
Speaker 1: I had to demonstrate for my girls. And then we
Speaker 1: had each lady come on up and drop it something
Speaker 1: a little more than the dropping. Yeah. Well, the first
Speaker 1: young lady, like you said, was very reserved. She literally
Speaker 1: dropped it one one time. She just dropped it and
Speaker 1: that was it. Got back up, walked back. She was like,
Speaker 1: she's like, oh my god, my god. And her boyfriend
Speaker 1: was just like, it's okay, baby, you can still go
Speaker 1: to heaven like it's a right guy, will forgive you
Speaker 1: for dropping it. And then we had a Flatbush couple,
Speaker 1: like we said, really don't give a ship, and that
Speaker 1: turned into a whole session make the Stallion City Girls competition,
Speaker 1: and she she really went down there and she did
Speaker 1: her thing. And then the married couple, and one thing
Speaker 1: I'll tell you about married people, right, we are mad competitive.
Speaker 1: You are not going to outdo us. We've been in
Speaker 1: this for a long time, and we took the leap
Speaker 1: like we took the leap. We jumped the broom. So
Speaker 1: if there's a couple of competition, n that married couples
Speaker 1: gonna always take it up a notch. So you know,
Speaker 1: Prescott and his wife, they ended up doing like a
Speaker 1: whole team drop it because she drop didn't. He dropped
Speaker 1: it in front of her to protect, he protect to
Speaker 1: drop ation. He was like, I'm gonna jump in on this,
Speaker 1: drop it. Yeah, so y'all can't see my wife's drop it, right,
Speaker 1: but she's gonna drop it on. We're gonna win this
Speaker 1: competition exactly. So it was great, it was, it was dope,
Speaker 1: it was. It was really good, exactly. And then the
Speaker 1: last part, which is kind of like a team group effort, Yes,
Speaker 1: you know it was when we asked the couples a
Speaker 1: very Brooklyn specific trivia question. But it was team oriented,
Speaker 1: oh for sure, very team oriented, and we gave them
Speaker 1: some time to come up with their answers and answer
Speaker 1: collectively as a team. So go ahead and check it out.
Speaker 1: So this is how we're going to finish the competition, alright,
Speaker 1: and the couples together, we're gonna ask you a question
Speaker 1: based on Brooklyn and based on the answer they give
Speaker 1: with the compilation of the drop everything. We're gon. We're
Speaker 1: gonna cheer. Everybody got it? All right? All right? So
Speaker 1: where's our where's our couple of this dating? Right now?
Speaker 1: All right now, all right, so listen, here's your question.
Speaker 1: Right let's see what the question? The question? Do you
Speaker 1: want the cards for this baby? Because we need remember
Speaker 1: remember remember this is I'm not that drunk. To make
Speaker 1: sure I had to keep him on cue, y'all because
Speaker 1: we will be here all night. So listen. You're on
Speaker 1: the B forty one. She's walking down flat Bush. You
Speaker 1: see her walking down flat Bush. You jump off the
Speaker 1: bus and you say, you're a your ma. Do you answer? Hell? No?
Speaker 1: Y'all heard that? No? Ya's your final answer. Next group
Speaker 1: is up, Next group. We should have asked him first,
Speaker 1: what her? What she should he answered or not? That's
Speaker 1: that all right? Next question, Next question. It's Friday night.
Speaker 1: All right, it's Friday night. You finally get a phone
Speaker 1: call from your crush that she wants to go out.
Speaker 1: Crush the crush. You got a hundred dollars in three hours?
Speaker 1: Where do you take her? In Brooklyn? I'm taking to
Speaker 1: the Bell House. We're going to see dead ass. Do
Speaker 1: you accept. I accept? All right, now, yeah, I had
Speaker 1: a couple of different ones here. This is the last question,
Speaker 1: all right, just the last question you got to get into.
Speaker 1: Listen a little. Yeah, let's see if she agrees with this. Right,
Speaker 1: name your three favorite Brooklyn hip hop artists from three
Speaker 1: to one, and why in that order? All right? But
Speaker 1: we got because it's a bunch of Brooklyn heads out here,
Speaker 1: so if y'all say the wrong people, it's gonna be
Speaker 1: a problem. So who we got? Number three? Who we
Speaker 1: got fave? Okay? Okay, good answer, good answer, good good answer,
Speaker 1: good answer, good answer. I feel like we're on family feud, right,
Speaker 1: it's my family ready? Number two? Jay z Okay, Okay.
Speaker 1: I got to see what they put it number one.
Speaker 1: I gotta see if they put it number one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I see who number one is before I start to overreact,
Speaker 1: Before I start to overreact, I gotta see what they
Speaker 1: put in number one. Get me get a drum roll
Speaker 1: out there, drum roll for number one, y'all, listen, can
Speaker 1: we have all three guys get with your girls? Girls
Speaker 1: with your guys? All that good? First? First, first and foremost,
Speaker 1: first and foremost, can we clap it up for all
Speaker 1: the couples. Please do you guys were good sports. You
Speaker 1: guys appreciate so much for that. Roll up with the punches,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like I said on follow script,
Speaker 1: so that up just now, none of that is on
Speaker 1: the car. We're gonna start on your side. Baby. Can
Speaker 1: we give it up for the daters? Yes, keep on
Speaker 1: keeping on dating couple. There we go. We're gonna come
Speaker 1: on my side. Can we give it up for the
Speaker 1: engaged couple? Love it? I love it here? Alright? Alright,
Speaker 1: new Kirk Flatbush flap Bush. Can't take Flatbush niggas nowhere.
Speaker 1: I can't take from nowhere. Was already clapping. They're gonna
Speaker 1: niggas need to be disqualified. Oh he's bribing people. We
Speaker 1: got all. He's bribing people. He's bribing people. Now, okay,
Speaker 1: control your fiances, control, control your stuff. You gotta you
Speaker 1: gott a discount cade, a promo code? What you got?
Speaker 1: I just want to know, please? Alright? Alright? Can we
Speaker 1: quiet down? This is a fair competition. Can we give
Speaker 1: it up from a married couple? All right? Listen? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I think we have our winner. I think
Speaker 1: we have our winner. And it came down to giving
Speaker 1: out free ugs, but the married couple I think took
Speaker 1: down one oh oh oh man. Guys, So listen that
Speaker 1: that show was so much fun. It really was. It
Speaker 1: really was, and you know, it's funny. We we're trying
Speaker 1: to think of a different approach to a live show
Speaker 1: because we could have done it the typical style where
Speaker 1: we do karaoke and we do U the story time,
Speaker 1: but we really felt like we wanted the show to
Speaker 1: be a little bit more interactive, where the audience can
Speaker 1: kind of be involved, have, you know, have some moments
Speaker 1: to kind of chat with us, make it a little
Speaker 1: bit more personal. You know, absolutely, Why do you think
Speaker 1: we wanted to do that, Babe? I know you were
Speaker 1: very adamant about having an interactive show. Well, I was
Speaker 1: adamant about it because at first we were thinking about
Speaker 1: getting guests, and I was saying to myself, you know,
Speaker 1: for our first live shows, people come for us, they
Speaker 1: want to hear our voices, and I feel I felt
Speaker 1: like having guests would kind of take away from the
Speaker 1: dead ass experience, right, But then I also felt like,
Speaker 1: you know what, when I sit in the audience at things,
Speaker 1: the best guests sometimes are in the audience. That is true,
Speaker 1: So why don't we just let the guests be our audience.
Speaker 1: They get an opportunity to not only just listen to us,
Speaker 1: but interact, Like so much of podcasts is listening to people,
Speaker 1: but now I get an opportunity to interact with them
Speaker 1: in real time. It just seems like it made so
Speaker 1: much sense and it was just so different. So it's
Speaker 1: not virtual anymore. It's not like, Okay, now you have
Speaker 1: to email me for this, or you know, we have
Speaker 1: to wait to reply for that. A lot of times
Speaker 1: we can't even it's like humanly impossible to reply to
Speaker 1: comments that we get all the time, or to repost
Speaker 1: every mentioned like it's virtually impossible to do. When you
Speaker 1: were right when you said that some of the best
Speaker 1: guests are the guests in the audience, because why you,
Speaker 1: each and every one of you made it a point
Speaker 1: go online to purchase a ticket, you know, and it's
Speaker 1: it's self out there to be able to just do
Speaker 1: things leisurely for entertainment to spend money on. So we
Speaker 1: appreciate every everyone, each and every one of you who
Speaker 1: spent money on the v I P. People who came
Speaker 1: in to meet with us, which was a nice experience
Speaker 1: as well. We got to hang with some people before
Speaker 1: and after the show who purchased the v I P
Speaker 1: Level tickets. I mean, you guys made it a point
Speaker 1: to be at the show, and for that reason, we
Speaker 1: felt like it was necessary to include you, like why not.
Speaker 1: You know, so in the future, we know we may
Speaker 1: do something a little bit different. We may keep this format,
Speaker 1: you know, depends on the feedback that we get, or
Speaker 1: there may be that interesting of a guest that we
Speaker 1: feel like we want to have on for a segment,
Speaker 1: you know, or two in a future show. But for
Speaker 1: the first ones, we felt like, you know what, y'all
Speaker 1: sold out these tickets in like two to three weeks.
Speaker 1: I think y'all needed and deserve the most the valent
Speaker 1: codein and y'all needed the best dead As experience because
Speaker 1: not for nothing, I don't consider us just a podcast.
Speaker 1: This is an experience, like we interact even with our
Speaker 1: producers doing during the show, Like I feel like, you
Speaker 1: guys know Kaye Trible. I feel like y'all know everybody
Speaker 1: was here because we interact with everyone who's here. So
Speaker 1: I just feel like it was just a great experience
Speaker 1: to get everyone involved. And I'll just do something different,
Speaker 1: you know, off the cuff. Yeah, for sure, And I
Speaker 1: mean we've got a great response so far, so definitely
Speaker 1: let us know what you'll think about today's episode where
Speaker 1: you can kind of take the journey with us. So
Speaker 1: we're gonna take a quick break and get into some ants.
Speaker 1: This for the record, there it is. Tiger Woods is
Speaker 1: one of our most inspiring sports icons. In his story,
Speaker 1: it comes with many chapters. I am deeply sorry from
Speaker 1: my irresponsible and self behavior, but here it is the
Speaker 1: return to glory. This is All American, a new series
Speaker 1: from Stitcher hosted by me Jordan Bell. You realize Tiger
Speaker 1: Wis doesn't know who he is best in the history
Speaker 1: of golf, no question in my mind. And this season,
Speaker 1: with the help of journalist Albert Chen, we're asking what
Speaker 1: if the story of Tiger Woods that the media has
Speaker 1: been telling, what if it's been completely wrong? All American
Speaker 1: Tiger is out now. Listen and Stitcher, Apple Podcasts or
Speaker 1: your favorite podcast app. All right, so I've told you
Speaker 1: all time and time again that my favorite part is
Speaker 1: the listener letters, because that's when we get a chance
Speaker 1: to listen to you all, get some questions and we
Speaker 1: can give our tunis. And she was even more nosy
Speaker 1: now because she was seeing people in persons live. I
Speaker 1: get to see not even that devout stop. No, no,
Speaker 1: no no. But it was nice too. Well. First of all,
Speaker 1: I was worried that we may not have gotten people
Speaker 1: coming up in front of an audience. Yeah, or sometimes
Speaker 1: people just are more private and they rather just submit
Speaker 1: an anonymous letter. But it was great to see people
Speaker 1: were really like raising their hands. So I wish we
Speaker 1: had more time to do a lot more listener letters.
Speaker 1: And it was good to also hear the audience respond
Speaker 1: to people's questions, right, because then you realize how many
Speaker 1: people have the same question as you, and then you
Speaker 1: stopped feeling right like, damn, that was a dumb question. No,
Speaker 1: for sure, has anybody out here written in for listener letter?
Speaker 1: No want to ask right now? You have a question?
Speaker 1: Right now? Do you have a question? Yes? You know what?
Speaker 1: Both forget let's have let's come on, come on up
Speaker 1: and ask the question. How about that? Since we're in
Speaker 1: real time? Did I just put you I'll put you
Speaker 1: on the spot, didn't I? Somebody get her a microphone
Speaker 1: is a micro right here? Come on up, girl, walk up,
Speaker 1: Come on up, Come on down, Come on down. Girl. Hey, hey,
Speaker 1: just say excuse me. All in Brooklyn, if you step
Speaker 1: on somebody joined this, it might be a fight. That
Speaker 1: was trying to wear tims with his outfit today. I
Speaker 1: told him, y'all would have appreciated that. But you know,
Speaker 1: he found these shoes and zarrows. I was like, I
Speaker 1: guess it'll rock. I want to do with my team.
Speaker 1: She wasn't having it, you know, being You're right, I
Speaker 1: do gotta match your swag. You're right. She should have
Speaker 1: worn teams too. I should have. I could have worn
Speaker 1: tims to dress. But hey, you know, we'll rock with it,
Speaker 1: all right, since you give us your name and what's
Speaker 1: your question? So my name is Ashley. Okay, Ashley from Brooklyn. Okay,
Speaker 1: So I know I asked so we can everybody to
Speaker 1: hear you can't hear me now, Okay. So I know
Speaker 1: you guys talked a lot about long distance when you
Speaker 1: first started and the you know, I'm currently in a
Speaker 1: long distance relationship going on two years. He's actually in
Speaker 1: l A and I'm here, So I'm currently by coastal,
Speaker 1: very long distance. So I struggle more recently because it's
Speaker 1: coming up on, you know, another two years. How to
Speaker 1: keep the spark and how to make things interesting and
Speaker 1: to not, you know, let the distance come between us
Speaker 1: because eventually there's going to be a move, whether it's
Speaker 1: back to New York or back or to l A.
Speaker 1: But in the meantime, just to make sure that there
Speaker 1: is you know, if we have a question about long
Speaker 1: distance left, how to keep the spark. It's funny because
Speaker 1: Deval and I maybe because how long have you all
Speaker 1: been dating? Six years? Six years? So no, we've been
Speaker 1: dating for six together in a relation ship for three years, okay,
Speaker 1: distance from have three years? Okay, because it's funny being
Speaker 1: is though we've been together for so long, it's been
Speaker 1: seventeen years together. Distance actually helps us a bit, I
Speaker 1: think too, because we work together a lot. We're here
Speaker 1: doing a show together, Um, a lot of our time
Speaker 1: is spent together. So for us, the distance actually helps
Speaker 1: a bit because it gives us a bit of a spark,
Speaker 1: that um feeling of missing each other that I feel
Speaker 1: like we're missing sometimes because we're always in each other's face.
Speaker 1: And also to devalinized struggle with the seeing each other
Speaker 1: but not really seeing each other, meaning that we'll pass
Speaker 1: each other, you know, several times during the day, but
Speaker 1: not really taking the chance to absorb the moment and
Speaker 1: really just connect um. So that's something that we've been
Speaker 1: struggling with for a little bit recently because we've been
Speaker 1: working together so much more. But we've tried to now
Speaker 1: make conscious efforts to say, Okay, we need to take
Speaker 1: time throughout the day to really just connect and to
Speaker 1: be and to exist in that moment because you're always moving,
Speaker 1: so that little bit of distance the other day, like
Speaker 1: when I was in a Ruba, Let's hope nobody was
Speaker 1: recording my face times, y'all got FaceTime. You want to
Speaker 1: keep the spark FaceTime each other. That's it, faced on
Speaker 1: each other, enjoy each other's company. Whenever you have time,
Speaker 1: and save your money, get on the flight, go see
Speaker 1: you man. How often are you able to see each other?
Speaker 1: Usually every two months, so I'm back and forth every
Speaker 1: two months. It's got that, okay the relationship. Somebody over
Speaker 1: there that this be the problem I have sometimes, Right,
Speaker 1: this young lady over here said, why did I say
Speaker 1: tell him her to get on the flight, Tell him
Speaker 1: to get the flight? One person? Didn't I say they
Speaker 1: could get on the flight. Faced on each other. I
Speaker 1: just everyone in the tape. We gotta rewind the tape.
Speaker 1: The value definitely told her to get on the flight.
Speaker 1: So listen, face time him right now, tell him to
Speaker 1: talk to me, and I'll tell him to get on
Speaker 1: the flight. So I can make all the women here
Speaker 1: feel better because he's not here. We can be telling
Speaker 1: you to get on the flight was actually bad advice,
Speaker 1: and just a disclaimer for everybody who's saying this is
Speaker 1: bad news. He is pursuing his graduate's degree and were
Speaker 1: graduating in Julie. That's why I love that I love well.
Speaker 1: Isn't that a turn on in itself? Just knowing that
Speaker 1: he's out there chasing his dreams and making himself happy
Speaker 1: so he can be a whole individual coming back to you, girl.
Speaker 1: When he does, you see l a a clapping up
Speaker 1: for him. But this is the truth for long distance
Speaker 1: relationships though. If you find you, people find time for
Speaker 1: this if that's important for them. If he want to
Speaker 1: be with you, he's gonna find time to face time you.
Speaker 1: When he got free time, he's gonna get on the flight,
Speaker 1: and you're gonna get on the flight. That's just the
Speaker 1: bottom line. If y'all really want to be together. There
Speaker 1: will be no excuses because we found every every way
Speaker 1: to be around each other. Sure did. Even times where
Speaker 1: we don't want to be around each other, we'll still
Speaker 1: find a way to pop up. Did that be showing up? Surprised?
Speaker 1: You didn't show up in the rub? But you don't
Speaker 1: know if I was there not? Did you? And I
Speaker 1: was all my best behavior? You was? I was watching too.
Speaker 1: Next question? Anybody else in the audience have questions? Oh?
Speaker 1: You do? You're right? She likes to hear if a
Speaker 1: guy has a question before because there's a lot of
Speaker 1: women to ask questions and the men don't ask questions.
Speaker 1: Do we have some guys who want to ask the questions? Oh?
Speaker 1: Everybody shining the light on him? Shine the light on him?
Speaker 1: Back there? Who got the question? I turned his back? Naa,
Speaker 1: you gotta come up? You're were you at? Come on upright?
Speaker 1: You want you on deck? You know you? Hi? Hi? Hello,
Speaker 1: your name Lisa. I'm from Queens. Hi, Lisa from Queens.
Speaker 1: From Queen Queen's I go hold up again, I'm in Brooklyn.
Speaker 1: So you don't venture off to Queens often, but when
Speaker 1: we do, I get it. Okay, good, good, good. All right.
Speaker 1: So my boyfriend and I have been dating for five years.
Speaker 1: Right now, we're talking about getting engaged. We're saving for
Speaker 1: our wedding. Um, and I grew up in a Jamaican household,
Speaker 1: So any other yacht he's up in here tonight? Can
Speaker 1: I get like a horn or something? The Jamaican's up
Speaker 1: in here? Sorry, yad is link up? All right? Growing
Speaker 1: up in a Jamaican household, what that meant was I
Speaker 1: had a lot of responsibilities around deals, like a lot
Speaker 1: of cleaning up after my brother's after my parents. My
Speaker 1: parents have six kids, three girls, three boys. But I'm
Speaker 1: like the middle. But I'm somewhere in the middle. You
Speaker 1: said you wanna catch I have faithan y'all. The girl
Speaker 1: is coming three, he's coming three, Okay. So my question is,
Speaker 1: all right, two Jamaicans, yes day late five years. So
Speaker 1: when we get married, I'm wondering, how did you guys
Speaker 1: split the chortes when you guys got married? Like, because
Speaker 1: I have been doing this for twenty four years and
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I am tired, So who are you doing what?
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I don't even know why that
Speaker 1: it's about to be a fight. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: who sent her to start this argument because they don't
Speaker 1: know what it's you is? Okay, go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 1: So that's idea of doing chores. All right, she's gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead. I should have want my man's
Speaker 1: in the bag? You picked her? I only saying go ahead?
Speaker 1: So did that? I don't know what the chore is,
Speaker 1: Okay do that's idea of partaking in chores. It's hiring help.
Speaker 1: Am I right? Or am I right? So pretty much
Speaker 1: she's just like, well, this is some ship that I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to do, so I just you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna just get you some help. So do that.
Speaker 1: Rather he rather clock the quality of toilet paper that
Speaker 1: I buy in the house. He'll be like, you always
Speaker 1: spending morning money when it's spending ass toilet paper up?
Speaker 1: That cuts into his budget for someone to come and
Speaker 1: help him. Finished, Please finish, because I'm waiting for my turn.
Speaker 1: Am i? Am I saying that the wrong here? No,
Speaker 1: I'm just waiting for my turn to head. So develop
Speaker 1: will rather me buy cheapass toilet paper so that he
Speaker 1: can have a budget to put in for someone to
Speaker 1: help him with his chores. Or he just delegates to
Speaker 1: the kids. Can y'all imagine Cairo and Cash trying to
Speaker 1: team together and mop the floor. It's go ahead, go ahead,
Speaker 1: because you did all that. Get ahead. I want to
Speaker 1: hear what you gotta stay now because I'm entertained. I'm entertained.
Speaker 1: Go ahead. This is the beef we have with chores, right,
Speaker 1: and it starts with this whole idea about men versus women. Okay,
Speaker 1: Codeine in a heartbeat will be like, you're a man,
Speaker 1: You're supposed to take out the trash. You're a man,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to pump the gas. Codeine hasn't opened the
Speaker 1: door in seventeen years. She would walk to the door
Speaker 1: and go like this, like the oscar that I am.
Speaker 1: Clap claps, but asked me who set me that way? Though?
Speaker 1: Hold on, come out without talking. When you were talking,
Speaker 1: I wasn't talking. I wasn't talking. Oct Because we have company,
Speaker 1: I'll sit, thank you. Ahead. So now I accept those
Speaker 1: things right because as a man, I want to be
Speaker 1: the leader of my house. I'm willing to do all
Speaker 1: the things a man is supposed to do. For example,
Speaker 1: if I'm made ten dollars, nine of it goes to
Speaker 1: my household first, to make sure that my wife and
Speaker 1: my kids take care of Yes, and two thousand nineteen.
Speaker 1: She'll accept all of that. But if I say, you're
Speaker 1: a woman, you should cook, this ain't nineteen boom. You
Speaker 1: can't have it both ways. You can't expect nineteen fifties chivalry,
Speaker 1: but get two thousand nineteen morals as a man. So
Speaker 1: we have a problem. I don't mind. I don't mind. Listen.
Speaker 1: This is how crazy it gets in our house. This
Speaker 1: is the truth I make. I make very good money,
Speaker 1: my wife makes very good money. My bills. Pay all
Speaker 1: the bills first, because as a man, it is my
Speaker 1: responsibility to take care of my home. All of the
Speaker 1: women when I say that, say yes. But then when
Speaker 1: I say, as my wife, I would like a hot
Speaker 1: meal when I come home, and I like the house
Speaker 1: to be clean that I pay for, all the women
Speaker 1: go why are you so old school? And my response
Speaker 1: to that is go ahead, go ahead, go ahead, think
Speaker 1: Come here, says tell him what that is. Come tell
Speaker 1: him about the choice and what I had to deal with.
Speaker 1: You have to have three home boys, three home boys
Speaker 1: and gentlemen, and gentlemen, why do you think there's uber
Speaker 1: eats now, duh, gentlemen, gentlemen, is set up for us
Speaker 1: to fail. Gentlemen, we can't win. You want to know why,
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, on the smash,
Speaker 1: so you know what I'm gonna do, I'm gonna say,
Speaker 1: you know what, baby, you got it. I'm gonna put
Speaker 1: my shades on and I'm gonna say Divide is in
Speaker 1: the building and I'm gonna take out the trash. It depends.
Speaker 1: It depends on who I'm dealing with on the day. Listen,
Speaker 1: this is amazing. Let me start playing around. The truth
Speaker 1: is there is no single one answer. There isn't. We
Speaker 1: argue about this and debate about this every single day,
Speaker 1: and the bottom line is it depends on who got
Speaker 1: the worst day. The other one gonna do the motherfucking shorts.
Speaker 1: Because because when I was filming, she was in Atlanta. No,
Speaker 1: she was in New York, flying us from New York
Speaker 1: to l A, moving all the boys and me without
Speaker 1: my help. There was a point where the move has
Speaker 1: got there three days early. She had to hop on
Speaker 1: the flight, get there, help them move the stuff in
Speaker 1: the house, stay there with no beds, then fly back
Speaker 1: to make sure that Jackson and kyro Kaz were safe. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: he was caring in her bedroom. I was filming and sweatpants.
Speaker 1: When I did not give him permission, it was set.
Speaker 1: So the bottom line was when I came back home
Speaker 1: that day, I knew how stressed she was. There was
Speaker 1: dishes in the sink. I washed the dishes. I come home.
Speaker 1: She tired. Fool gotta be made. I grew. I grew
Speaker 1: like I don't I don't mind. I'm not gonna stand
Speaker 1: over a stove or oven season the meat and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna throw that ship on the grill. The boys gonna
Speaker 1: eat this with some beans, and I'm make some rice.
Speaker 1: And if we don't got no rice, I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: some rice crispies. You're gonna have this serious. That's just
Speaker 1: the way it works. The old school way of guys
Speaker 1: having this and girls having this don't work in two
Speaker 1: thous in nineteen and I just proved that because I
Speaker 1: was right in my point, but she was right in
Speaker 1: her point. And when you're both right, that means nobody's wrong.
Speaker 1: You've got to find a balance. There you go, you
Speaker 1: do what works. Can you believe? We blew through like
Speaker 1: an hour and change already. Did you have a good
Speaker 1: time tonight? All right? Last question, real quick, brother, because
Speaker 1: had a question? Was he back? Here? Was he here?
Speaker 1: And from East New York? We went to school in
Speaker 1: East New York. So my thing is trade with school,
Speaker 1: trade with the school. All right. So my thing is
Speaker 1: as a man, like when do you know or like,
Speaker 1: do you feel like it's that time to propose? If
Speaker 1: you get in, I guess kind of sort of feelings
Speaker 1: of apprehension and the saying, God, do you have a
Speaker 1: girl here? Look up smiling? Is she blushing out? Because
Speaker 1: the real talk, no cap if I had to ring
Speaker 1: me right now, I'm proposed to like that you're low key?
Speaker 1: I was like, it would be really dope if somebody
Speaker 1: proposed that our show, because you know, I'll be the
Speaker 1: flammer girl jump in all that. Because as far that's
Speaker 1: how how as far as choices goes like, I've made
Speaker 1: my choice like it is what it is. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: as as I like I don't want to, I guess
Speaker 1: to give up that pressure like that that pressure like
Speaker 1: it's not pressure, bro, it's not pressure. This is the
Speaker 1: bottom line. People ask me all the time, what what
Speaker 1: prayer did couldin say to make you want to be monogamous.
Speaker 1: They say it all the time. The ship sounds crazy,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna be honest, it wasn't a prayer that
Speaker 1: coulde made. I made a choice to want to be
Speaker 1: monogamous for myself, and then I chose to share my
Speaker 1: monogamy with codeine. If you ever in your life, make
Speaker 1: a decision to do something for somebody else, every time
Speaker 1: they feel short of what you want to need, your
Speaker 1: feeling need to go do something else. So for me,
Speaker 1: it's easy to be monogamous because I want to be
Speaker 1: monogamous for myself. For me, monogamy work for me because
Speaker 1: it made me a better person. I'm able to do
Speaker 1: the things that I can do out here in the
Speaker 1: world because my focus is on one person, one family,
Speaker 1: one life. You know what I'm saying, So there's no
Speaker 1: distraction that can come to deter me from that. It
Speaker 1: doesn't matter how many times we have sex, don't have sex,
Speaker 1: have sex, we like, don't have It doesn't matter because
Speaker 1: monogamy for me is gonna make me be a better man.
Speaker 1: If you found that in yourself, then you know what
Speaker 1: you gotta do. You see what I'm saying. Period, I
Speaker 1: love it. I love it. If you picked out a
Speaker 1: ring style that you liked already it don't it just
Speaker 1: to put it on your bad drop on your phone,
Speaker 1: change the wall paper on your laptop. She did that
Speaker 1: to me. She believe in the universe. Putting out subliminal messages,
Speaker 1: you know, and you'll get the drift. I am mad
Speaker 1: at it. You know what you want to get, you
Speaker 1: what you want to give ship. I love you, I
Speaker 1: love you. You just gotta drop it, all right, maybe
Speaker 1: for the road. We love you guys so much. Our
Speaker 1: live show. If a couple comes out, couples come out,
Speaker 1: can either be a great night of like for play
Speaker 1: almost like yeah, I'm going to sit next to my
Speaker 1: baby and We're gonna stroke each other and we listen
Speaker 1: to the show. Or can insight arguments after for discussions.
Speaker 1: I should say, I'm hoping it's thesis for the women
Speaker 1: has always arguments. Don't even don't even don't even be like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to argue. I'm like, I'm just discussing,
Speaker 1: right what you mean? Don't do that we you did
Speaker 1: that last night, but don't make it a man and
Speaker 1: woman things you did that. You did that last night.
Speaker 1: You're a woman, I'll take responsibility for what I did. Why,
Speaker 1: you know, there's some men out there. We're just like,
Speaker 1: we'll see what development or what you said. You just
Speaker 1: never know listening after what you say. I hope everybody
Speaker 1: went home. I had amazing sex that night. That's great,
Speaker 1: that's great. You're really looking out you just what's your
Speaker 1: moment of truth, babe? Well, this is my moment of truth.
Speaker 1: Going through this entire process taught me a couple of things, right.
Speaker 1: The first thing it showed me was that we as
Speaker 1: people have to learn how to flow in the universe. Right.
Speaker 1: We had a plan. We had a plan for the podcast,
Speaker 1: We had a whole script. We knew exactly what was
Speaker 1: going to do. Everything was broken down by time and slots.
Speaker 1: And then because there were not many single men, we
Speaker 1: had to chuck the whole thing and figure it out. Right,
Speaker 1: So I learned. And it's an old parable by Bruce
Speaker 1: Lee that says people need to learn to be like water.
Speaker 1: Water can flow, right, but water can also crash. So
Speaker 1: you can be strong like water and crash, but you
Speaker 1: can also flow and you can turn into different things.
Speaker 1: And when I think about what you and I did
Speaker 1: during the podcast, the live podcast and having to adjust
Speaker 1: on the fly in front of a live audience and
Speaker 1: able to make it be seamless and not have anyone
Speaker 1: in the audience realized that we jumped off script. Showed
Speaker 1: me that that is a microcosm of our marriage. It
Speaker 1: is think about it. Think about marriage, right. You go
Speaker 1: through things in the daytime and there's ebbs and flows,
Speaker 1: there's highs and lows, and you still got to walk
Speaker 1: out in the universe and you have to put up
Speaker 1: a unified front to let people know that you're still
Speaker 1: doing good. For sure, as a married couple, we do
Speaker 1: that every single day. But to actually see it happen
Speaker 1: in the course of a production and do it. We
Speaker 1: had no que cards. I just jump off do one thing, boom,
Speaker 1: you jump off, do another thing, and we just go
Speaker 1: back and forth everyone. That was just a great show.
Speaker 1: That that just shows me why we work so well
Speaker 1: as a matter a couple, because we're good partners. Yes,
Speaker 1: we're really really partners. Were like lovers. We're friends, partners, friends,
Speaker 1: business partners. Sure do best friends, I say best friends,
Speaker 1: best parents for I think it works. So that was
Speaker 1: so good, Babe, Thank you, Who would you come up
Speaker 1: with that? I think it's just years of me off
Speaker 1: on you. I knew you were going to take credit
Speaker 1: for it, So let me go back to this what happens.
Speaker 1: What I learned is that your wife going to take
Speaker 1: credit for everything you do. Don't start a start. That's
Speaker 1: the truth. No, it was sure, great thing. Well, what's
Speaker 1: what's your moment of truth? You're going to ask me
Speaker 1: what my moment? I kind of have to But my
Speaker 1: moment of truth is insane because and I knew it
Speaker 1: was my moment of truth because I got so emotional
Speaker 1: in that moment. But for me, there was a physical
Speaker 1: moment of truth, and that was us standing on that
Speaker 1: stage at the end of the Brooklyn Show and feeling
Speaker 1: all of the energy and all of the emotions and
Speaker 1: the positive vibes from the entire audience. That was a
Speaker 1: moment of truth for me. That let me know that
Speaker 1: we're on the right track, that what we're doing right
Speaker 1: now is helping so many people, so many individuals, so
Speaker 1: many couples, whether they're married or trying to find their way. Um,
Speaker 1: but we're just helping people by being truthful and sharing,
Speaker 1: you know, our stories, being able to just bring on
Speaker 1: guests who are experts in their fields, because we never
Speaker 1: professed to be experts in any field. We're only experts
Speaker 1: at our relationship. And at times I feel like I
Speaker 1: don't even know you, all right, So that's a rap.
Speaker 1: Season two is coming to an end. Actually the last
Speaker 1: show is next week and then we'll be going on
Speaker 1: a little bit of a hiatus like we get after
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