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Speaker 1: Fiance thinks I'm a gold digger, but the ring was

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Speaker 1: one hundred and fifty dollars. I was beyond furious, and

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Speaker 1: then I found out his real secret.

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Speaker 2: Wedding rings are made up anyway.

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Speaker 1: My fiance is quite well off, and while I don't

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Speaker 1: make as much as him, I currently would not be

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Speaker 1: struggling on my own. He rotates between a few very

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Speaker 1: expensive watches that he wears, and while we have a

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Speaker 1: good grasp on financial literacy, we aren't shy about spending

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Speaker 1: on the more important parts of life.

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Speaker 2: Like what fanci, Dana's good champagne, the sex dungeon downstairs?

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Speaker 2: Oh God.

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Speaker 1: We openly share finances, so I know he isn't secretly in.

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Speaker 2: Debt or some kind of nonsense like that.

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Speaker 1: The ring is nice and understated, but more of a

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Speaker 1: nice stacker than an engagement ring to show off. The stone,

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Speaker 1: which I am doubtful of being a diamond, is quite small.

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Speaker 2: It is not an heirloom.

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Speaker 1: When friends or family get engaged, there's always the excitement

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Speaker 1: in sharing the news, and in that pvitably someone will

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Speaker 1: ask to see the ring, and then everyone coos over it,

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Speaker 1: and it's a good time. When I showed mine the

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Speaker 1: mood got very awkward, oh man, and they feigned excitement

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Speaker 1: just long enough until it was okay to change the subject.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that ring pop look really tasty. This is not

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Speaker 2: a knock on them. They are just terrible liars.

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Speaker 1: I would like to make clear that I am not

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Speaker 1: top wedding. However, this is a piece I will be

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Speaker 1: wearing daily for decades and is largely considered a symbol

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Speaker 1: of love. I know not all feel this way, but

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Speaker 1: we did, or at least I thought we did. But

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Speaker 1: I really don't think I'm out of line for thinking

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Speaker 1: of it as a long term investment piece, given the

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Speaker 1: amount of where it will eventually see and the sentimentality

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Speaker 1: behind him.

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Speaker 2: I mean, so, how much does she want him to spend?

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Speaker 2: That's a good quin.

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Speaker 1: I mean between one hundred and fifty and three month salary.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, like one hundred and fifty bucks for

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Speaker 2: an engagement ring. If you're making over one hundred k,

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Speaker 2: it's like kind of like, yeah, not a look.

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Speaker 1: You need to have your game a little bit, my god,

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Speaker 1: surely it's worth more than a gaming console.

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Speaker 2: Right half a gaming console? Bro am I the a

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Speaker 2: hole here.

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Speaker 1: We will be talking about this for sure, but I

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Speaker 1: know this can be a touchy subject and wanted an

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Speaker 1: objective eye on it first. I will update this post

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Speaker 1: after that conversation. Sam, We have an update from the conversation. Kay,

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Speaker 1: But real quick question to you and everyone watching, is

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Speaker 1: Op's fiance the ahole?

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Speaker 2: Right now? I think I know your answer, but I mean,

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Speaker 2: I think a little bit one hundred and fifty dollars

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Speaker 2: It seems like I understand it's like, oh, I don't

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Speaker 2: believe in engagement rings or I don't believe in marriage. Like,

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Speaker 2: if you have that opinion, fine, but it seems like

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Speaker 2: they both like, subscribe to this. This is supposed to

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Speaker 2: represent your love forever. Yeah, forever, bro, Like, come on,

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Speaker 2: all right, let's hear the update. Update.

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Speaker 1: He came home and we were settling down around dinner,

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Speaker 1: and I started the conversation with honey, I'd like to

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Speaker 2: She's doing it so jently, and before I could finish,

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Speaker 1: Yelling finally and how I'd ruined everything by waiting so

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Speaker 1: jeweler who got bad reviews, so that way when I

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Speaker 1: guys that I was a gold digger.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that is a whack, bro, That is whack.

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Speaker 1: He has apparently been having an affair. Turns out Covid

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Speaker 1: had shortened his work hours, not extended it, with a

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Speaker 1: younger model that he's earned, but knew that breaking things

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Speaker 2: Dude, the optics are not looking good now, my guy. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean you also, why would you tell her all

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Speaker 2: My guys, guys like evil and a idiot. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: He knew that leaving this pariahship would gain him sympathy,

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Speaker 1: and there was a lot of rhetoric that clearly wasn't

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Speaker 1: what I highly suspect is from a too influential work

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Speaker 2: What is this guy working with?

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Speaker 1: Andrew Tate, I'm calling a meeting about how women should

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Speaker 2: Andrewtain, Yeah, I think that was a John quote, right.

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Speaker 1: These changes I had attributed to work stress are now

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Speaker 1: you know, it's like I would be so hard on yourself, like, at.

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Speaker 2: Least you know now, at least you know before you're engaged.

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Speaker 2: I won't be sticking around to dig any deeper.

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Speaker 1: But I know that my now ex fiance would not

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Speaker 1: pushed from bad influences behind the scenes. This doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: I forgive him. I think he is incredibly weak and

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Speaker 1: feeble minded for letting this happen to us. But I

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Speaker 1: also doubt I will be contacting many of our mutual

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Speaker 1: friends as the dust settles. I left in the middle

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Speaker 1: staying at my mother's. I haven't cried yet, and I

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Speaker 1: think I'm still waiting for it all to suddenly make sense,

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Speaker 1: but I know logically it might not. Ever, on the

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Speaker 1: plus side, if there is one, it's that I don't

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Speaker 1: have to wear that effing hideous ring anymore.

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Speaker 2: Oh. That is a plus. That is a plus. That

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Speaker 2: is holy moly. I'm like, I'm glad we have some

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Speaker 2: resolution because this was sus from the beginning.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, Op's dog dodging a major bullet at

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Speaker 2: It happen now, yes, rather than when you have kids

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Speaker 2: exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of kids, you know who I view as our precious,

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Speaker 2: I mean our public subscribers, and we want to know.

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Speaker 2: I mean we've asked this question a little bit before,

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Speaker 2: but how much do you spend it on engagement rings? Yes? Definitely, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: drop the number right now. And also, what would you

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Speaker 2: think if your betroth gave you one hundred and fifty

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Speaker 2: want to know that immediately.

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Speaker 1: I inherited seven point five million dollars and my brother

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Speaker 1: is getting nothing. I should share it with him, but

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Speaker 1: I won't am I the ahole.

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Speaker 2: People stay wealthy by not sharing. Look at Steve Jobs

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Speaker 2: dead done.

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Speaker 1: My thirty one male American great uncle passed away recently.

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Speaker 1: He was in his mid nineties and he had not

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Speaker 2: That's rough. I was always really close.

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Speaker 1: With my great uncle, and I treated him as a

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Speaker 1: He had no kids, so essentially my brother and I

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Speaker 1: had around seven point five million dollars USD in assets.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, it's rich. He's rich. And it gets better.

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Speaker 2: It was almost all.

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Speaker 1: Liquid, no property or anything, which is crazy, but I

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Speaker 2: Damn what the brother do?

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Speaker 1: Obviously, it is a huge amount of money, and that

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Speaker 1: six hundred and seventy five thousand. Like recently, he told

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Speaker 1: even that's a good idea. That is a good idea,

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Speaker 1: to be honest. I wish my great uncle would have

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, if you wish your uncle did that,

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Speaker 1: I guess so he's saying like, now that he actually

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Speaker 1: It probably sounds like he's struggling, but it.

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Speaker 2: Feels like we read a story like this before where

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Speaker 2: it was like like an evil like curmudgety uncle like

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Speaker 2: seems like a similar situation where this curmudgety uncle is like,

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Speaker 2: time after I died. Well, okay, So I guess the

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Speaker 2: question is like op truly hasn't made a decision. So

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Speaker 2: everyone watching say, I'm like, what what should he do?

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Speaker 2: What would you feel like least bad about? This is

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Speaker 2: gonna sound weird, but do you feel less bad about

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Speaker 1: I'm kind of leaning towards split in half just because

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Speaker 1: it's so easy to say that in the the.

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Speaker 2: They are right, It's like it's like, I mean, it's

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Speaker 2: that would be the most generous manal Oh, yeah, of

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Speaker 2: course I would give my sibling huf and I think

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Speaker 2: I would. I would for one hundred percent. Would you know?

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Speaker 2: Like so good? You know when when the pedal meets

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Speaker 2: the metal, like, what are you actually get to do? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think in this chair, I'm saying like,

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Speaker 2: my sister. What I should do?

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Speaker 1: But what I oh, and you know what actually, now

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Speaker 1: putting in context, I was just thinking of like a

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Speaker 1: metaphorical brother. Now that I think about it, my actual sister.

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Speaker 2: So I said, I literally told you, not even twenty

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Speaker 2: what do you do for living. Yeah, I eat food

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Speaker 2: It's a fing swing. Am I the a hole? Four

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Speaker 1: And the thing I don't think that the husband or

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Speaker 2: here's some soap so you can clean more. Bro, that's ridiculous.

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Speaker 2: My sister will like lay on my dog sometimes, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, and like tuddle with it. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: You're gonna kill my dog, right, There's just like sometimes

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Speaker 2: there's weight limits of things that you need to respect.

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Speaker 2: that was all my money in college. That was all

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Speaker 2: top tier gift, my boy. My girlfriend tried to unlive

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Speaker 2: me as a prank twice. Am I for breaking up

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Speaker 2: with her? My girlfriend twenty female is completely crazy, but

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Speaker 2: don't know if she's trying to kill you. Not a

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Speaker 2: good luck. Spontaneous is an understatement. Sometimes she goes too far,

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Speaker 2: but I love her for a crazy, quirky personality. I

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Speaker 2: we balanced each other out. Two recent incidents really freaked

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Speaker 2: This is not off to a strong start. I was

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Speaker 2: I asked her what the fouz is wrong with her,

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Speaker 2: And she said, I don't know. I just felt like it.

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Speaker 2: She's so quirky and crazy. Blood boiling. Then. Last Sunday,

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Speaker 2: I let my guard down and she went behind me

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Speaker 2: But Opie, you cannot be that desperate. Yeah, seriously, Oh

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Speaker 2: and then imagine what she would do if she really

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Speaker 2: so much for all your advice last time, and have

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Speaker 2: I officially broke up with her, but there's nothing else. Wow,

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Speaker 2: this lady's insane. Ladies insane.

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Speaker 1: Also, when you read eighteen mail, that's kind of when

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay.

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Speaker 2: Makes sense. I could see how if this is like

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Speaker 2: He has to break up with her.

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Speaker 1: The only question, which I think is fair to ask,

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Speaker 2: I think you gotta move countries, OPI. I think you

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00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:31,960
Speaker 2: you send a letter in pig's blood and then move

435
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,520
Speaker 2: to Australia and with that we'll go into the next story.

436
00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:35,120
Speaker 2: Let's get it.

437
00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:37,679
Speaker 1: I just took a giant dump into parking lot and

438
00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 1: now I'm in trouble. Am I the a hole? You

439
00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:44,680
Speaker 1: know what, Sam, there's all these movements, there's there's free

440
00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:45,159
Speaker 1: the nipples.

441
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:46,640
Speaker 2: How about the bowel movements?

442
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:50,760
Speaker 1: What about the bowel movements? Okay, let me set the scene.

443
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,400
Speaker 1: I'm on my way to an event on a sunny

444
00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 1: Sunday morning, driving to the train station to catch a train.

445
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,800
Speaker 1: The station is in a pretty divy area near me.

446
00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,640
Speaker 1: I pull up part and just as I get out

447
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:04,480
Speaker 1: of my car, I feel a familiar pain in my

448
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:08,879
Speaker 1: lower stomach. It's the pain of a giant Well, this

449
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 1: can only mean one thing. My ibs is flaring up.

450
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:15,360
Speaker 1: Oh crap, I think to myself. Nice, Oh well, I'll

451
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 1: use the toilets at the train station. So I power

452
00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:20,639
Speaker 1: wattle to the station, clenching my butt cheeks with a

453
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,879
Speaker 1: force that could crush several coke cans. I get to

454
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:27,000
Speaker 1: the station to find that all of the toilets are

455
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 1: locked on Sundays.

456
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:29,360
Speaker 2: Yikes.

457
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,840
Speaker 1: Oh, now I'm really in trouble. I panic and run

458
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:34,679
Speaker 1: back to the car in the hopes of finding a

459
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:38,000
Speaker 1: bush or well hidden area. I frantically scan the almost

460
00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:41,439
Speaker 1: empty parking lot, but alas to no avail in a

461
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:44,200
Speaker 1: moment of sheer desperation as I can feel myself about

462
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,639
Speaker 1: to have an accident, I figured the best option in

463
00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 1: this deserted car part would be to squat in between

464
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 1: my car and the car next to me. That was

465
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 1: the most privacy I was going to get.

466
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:55,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, all you could do is you could open up

467
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 2: both car doors to give yourself like a little little

468
00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 2: hot a little hut. Yeah, door porta potty.

469
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: It's not like I've done this before. I checked the

470
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 1: car to see if anyone was inside. Thankfully it was empty.

471
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 1: A quick scan of the car park assured me that

472
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 1: I was definitely alone, so I pulled down my pants

473
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 1: and braced myself in between two cars and squatted down.

474
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:20,280
Speaker 1: What followed can only be described as moderately explosive. My god,

475
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: I was feeling like this was a new low for me,

476
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,600
Speaker 1: shitting in a dodgy train station car park on a

477
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 1: Sunday morning, Although with this being a particularly rough town,

478
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,919
Speaker 1: I thought to myself, I'm probably not the first person

479
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 1: to do this in the car park, and I definitely won't.

480
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 2: Be the last. It can take solace in that.

481
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 1: But little did I know things were about to get

482
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: a lot worse. After finishing and cleaning myself up, my

483
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 1: ibs buddies know that we will always carry an emergency

484
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 1: lou roll with us, just in.

485
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 2: Case the Loroll toilet paper.

486
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 1: I got back to my car, relieved that I got

487
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Speaker 1: away without anyone seeing me.

488
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:58,119
Speaker 2: By this point, I had missed.

489
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Speaker 1: My train, so I pulled away to drive to another

490
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 1: station to get a faster train. As I reversed out,

491
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: I realized I had made a terrible mistake.

492
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:07,200
Speaker 2: Boy.

493
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 1: Whilst I had indeed correctly identified the car park as

494
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 1: devoid of people and the cars were unoccupied, in my

495
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:18,240
Speaker 1: haste to relieve myself, I had no thought to check

496
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 1: the make and model of the car parks next to

497
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: me at the Tesla.

498
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 2: It was a Tesla Model s Well, I call it.

499
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 2: Oh God.

500
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:30,040
Speaker 1: For those of you who owned Tesla's or sim for

501
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:32,240
Speaker 1: Elon Musk will know where this is going. But for

502
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 1: the normal people among us, let me explain the true

503
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 1: horrific realization that dawned upon me. Tesla Model asks has

504
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,920
Speaker 1: this wonderful little feature called sensory Mode. When someone gets

505
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:43,360
Speaker 1: closer touches your Tesla, it will automatically start recording from

506
00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 1: several external high definition wide angle cameras with audio to boot.

507
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 2: Oh geez, so you're gonna get the explosion in there too.

508
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 1: Now, it saves this footage and it sends it to

509
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 1: the owner's Tesla app with an alert that someone is

510
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:59,919
Speaker 1: tampering with the car. So some poor mother effort has

511
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 1: been woken up on eight thirty am at this Sunday

512
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,600
Speaker 1: morning to receive an alert that their precious Tesla is

513
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,160
Speaker 1: being tampered with. They will open the app to find

514
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:13,199
Speaker 1: the footage of my pale wobbly act descending next to

515
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:18,400
Speaker 1: their car, followed by explosive douchie with some monstrous farts

516
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: and many expletives being growned. If you elon musk f

517
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: you I'm now panicking, fully expecting a knock on my

518
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 1: door from the police or worse, for this footage to

519
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: wind up on some dodgy scat website with the Tesla

520
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 1: owner raking in the royalties.

521
00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: Do you think do you really think you're getting royalties

522
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 2: from this footage? Is there a whole subcaty of people

523
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:41,879
Speaker 2: that are watching other people.

524
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 1: I feel like everyone kind of has a story like

525
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: this where they did not have a bathroom and had

526
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Speaker 1: to take emergency procedures. I would love to know everyone's

527
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 1: like emergency bathroom tails and.

528
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 2: Why was surfing in Mexico? Okay? And then I was

529
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 2: in like a super remote beach in like San Jose

530
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 2: a Deelkappa. So instead of going back all the way

531
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 2: in where I would have to fight the waves, I

532
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 2: decided to go all the way out and then did

533
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,439
Speaker 2: a little dukie. But the thing that I didn't realize

534
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 2: is like, maybe because of the salt water and stuff,

535
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 2: the doukie rises, it doesn't sink to the bottom. And

536
00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:19,679
Speaker 2: so that thing started rising up, and then the current

537
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 2: started pushing it towards me. It was trying to catch away.

538
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: So I'm running away and then a big set comes

539
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 2: and is like caring and having the turd surf towards me,

540
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 2: and so I had to duck undercover. And luckily I

541
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:34,960
Speaker 2: don't think I got hit by my own turd. But

542
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 2: I've learned my lesson. Don't poop in the ocean, you know,

543
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 2: even as turds float.

544
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 1: Sam is such a great surfer, even as turds are

545
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: just like absolutely just shredding THEI But if you have

546
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: something that can outgross that, ladies and gentlemen, please go

547
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 1: at it in the comments, and let's get into something

548
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 1: a little cleaner.

549
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,400
Speaker 2: I refuse to tell my wife about my four million

550
00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:00,919
Speaker 2: dollar fortune. I don't care if she's drowning student debt.

551
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? Why give people money when

552
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,639
Speaker 2: I can keep it for myself? It's called capitalism. Let

553
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,439
Speaker 2: the poor paper stay pol What did they do to

554
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 2: deserve this money? Exactly? So they should get no money

555
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 2: in return? Exactly? So after taxes, my winnings came just

556
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:20,200
Speaker 2: shy of four million. I paid off all my debts,

557
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,280
Speaker 2: hired an account and fix some things on my truck,

558
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 2: and put most of it in savings. I kept my job,

559
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 2: didn't move, and kept my effing mouth shut. My brother

560
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 2: is a meth head, my sister is a spiteful whore,

561
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,640
Speaker 2: and my mom still blames everything on my dad, who

562
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 2: died ten years ago. So I didn't want them scrambling

563
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:40,119
Speaker 2: to pretend to give a shit about me for cash.

564
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 2: What a beautiful family. Yeah, it sounds like you guys

565
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 2: are really tight. Yeah. I've been dating a girl for

566
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 2: about three years and recently asked her to marry me.

567
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 2: She said yes. I bought a modest ring, just over

568
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 2: what people would expect given my known employments. This weekend,

569
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 2: I'm going to lay everything out for her so I

570
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 2: can truly know she's in it for me, not the money.

571
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 2: It's going to be liberating to be able to buy

572
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 2: what I want and take care of my friends. Totally

573
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 2: worth the weight. And there is an updates. So basically

574
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 2: he's going to marry her and like tell her everything.

575
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: But like he's gonna spend all this money now after

576
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 1: he tells his wife to be if you're able to

577
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: still hide it, why not just do that before.

578
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,399
Speaker 2: I guess he's just like, now I have a wife,

579
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:23,640
Speaker 2: I can spend it with her and just completely get

580
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 2: rid of my family. Maybe he's just like planning on

581
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 2: going no contact with his family. Maybe that actues. It

582
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 2: makes sense. Oh right, So here's the update. I received

583
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 2: a lot of feedback on my posts, and several people

584
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:35,679
Speaker 2: expressed interest in the outcomes of revealing my finances to

585
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 2: my new fiance after keeping her in the dark for

586
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 2: so long. People who want to catch up can read

587
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 2: my original posts. So my plan was a relaxing evening

588
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 2: on the odd weekend we both managed to be free

589
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 2: from work or other plans. We went to an early

590
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 2: dinner at one of our favorite Italian places and inexpensive

591
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 2: little diner nearby with great appetizers oooh, and then finally

592
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 2: went to see Star Wars. After the movie, we grab

593
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 2: some beer and whine for the evening and went home

594
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 2: to relax. It sounds like a nice, little, yeah, it's

595
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 2: very cute thing with a girlfriend, skip the weekly small

596
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 2: talk about work, friends and the company you drinks in.

597
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 2: And I told her I wanted to be open about

598
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 2: everything with each other leading up to the marriage. She

599
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,080
Speaker 2: got kind of quiet and a little guarded and said, well, yeah,

600
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 2: so do I pausing with the luck people get when

601
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:24,239
Speaker 2: they want you to keep talking. Oh, keep talking, big daddy. Oh.

602
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 2: I told her we were never truly going to have

603
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 2: to worry about money, that she could do whatever she

604
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 2: wanted with her job, or stay at home, or change careers, anything,

605
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 2: because I had north of three million dollars in the bank.

606
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 2: God damn. Her response was the slow, what are you

607
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 2: talking about kind of thing. I got up and pulled

608
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 2: a financial statement I'd printed out and stashed in the

609
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 2: coffee table drawer, handed it to her and told her

610
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 2: I'd want it all. A couple of years before we met,

611
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 2: you was ready with the receipts. She started crying, like sobbing,

612
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:58,719
Speaker 2: uncontrollably crying and looked terrified. I got really worried and

613
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 2: started explaining I kept it hidden because I didn't want

614
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 2: my shitbag family hunting me down, that I didn't want

615
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 2: people around me to change or to lose friends. Then

616
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 2: she started apologizing, saying she should have told me before.

617
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 2: I proposed that she has about forty thousand dollars in

618
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 2: student loan and credit card debt and thought that was

619
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 2: going to break the engagement. She thought I was so

620
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: financially responsible that there was no way I'd take on

621
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 2: that debt because she never told me about it. It's

622
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 2: why she's been so open to a prenup in the

623
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:30,560
Speaker 2: vague conversations we had about it before, why she never

624
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 2: brought up or talked about money. So after a long,

625
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 2: long conversation about openness and trust, even mentioned some of

626
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 2: you cynical bastard's opinions, we hashed out some ideas on

627
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 2: what we would agree on for the prenup in regards

628
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: to pre marital debt, assets and all of that. I'm

629
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,160
Speaker 2: going to pay off her debt after we're married, so

630
00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 2: the tax issue has less of a concern, and all

631
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 2: of my winnings will remain mine should be divorced, however,

632
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 2: interest and dividends will be marital assets, so any like

633
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 2: appreciation on the money they'll share. Oh interesting, Okay. All told,

634
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 2: I'm very pleas with how things played out, and we're

635
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 2: in a great place for it. We're working with an

636
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 2: attorney in my accountant this week, and I'll be putting

637
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 2: my two weeks notice in at work. She wants to

638
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 2: keep her job, but will request some time off so

639
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 2: we can take a vacation and settle into actually enjoying

640
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 2: some money. I talk with friends about paying off his

641
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 2: house and all that. He very firmly refused anything for himself,

642
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,600
Speaker 2: but was very grateful for the offer to set up

643
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 2: his daughter's college front. I'm going to keep leaning on him, though.

644
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 2: I think he'll come around to accepting some repayment of

645
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 2: the kindness he showed me. Maybe a vacation at the

646
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 2: very least. That's all, folks. I'll check in from time

647
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 2: to time. You guys have questions. Happy Monday.

648
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: Wow, This I feel like was the story that could

649
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 1: have gone really wrong. Like someone turns into a monster

650
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 1: the minute they find out they have money and try

651
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 1: to siphon it away.

652
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 2: They kind of both did the same bad thing to

653
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 2: each other, but in reverse, Like he didn't tell her

654
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 2: that he had a bunch of money, and she didn't

655
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 2: tell him that she had a bunch of debt. Yeah,

656
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 2: I guess funny. They kind of like they're perfect for

657
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 2: each other.

658
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, it worked out, and like, I'm glad that they

659
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: like it seems like a pretty level headed, reasonable situation.

660
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 1: And it's like probably say together her fingers crossed, and

661
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 1: then OP has all our debt wiped out and probably

662
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 1: still enjoys the spoils of that money. Anyways, Yeah, you

663
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So it's like a very win

664
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 1: win situation.

665
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like all is well, that ends well. Like,

666
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 2: I'm happy that it all panned out. I just hope

667
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 2: that they're both honest with each other at this point forward. Totally.

668
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: I would love to know for all of our OKOP

669
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: married people out there, do you have a prenup or Yeah,

670
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 1: so you have any prenup stories and.

671
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 2: What is in your prenups? Yes, let us in your prenup,

672
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 2: let us know, put the contract in the comments.

673
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: My ex husband just got cancer and now he wants

674
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 1: to move in.

675
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 2: I don't think I should let him. Am I the

676
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:39,520
Speaker 2: a hole.

677
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 1: For most of our marriage, my husband thirty nine male,

678
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 1: and I thirty seven female, had a very happy relationship.

679
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:49,239
Speaker 1: We had good jobs, decent money, two kids, and we

680
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: loved each other.

681
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 2: U we're getting set up for a failure right here.

682
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 1: But then he got diagnosed with a rare form of

683
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 1: cancer and we went through years of painful treatments and

684
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 1: recovery together. We moved to a small house to be

685
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,719
Speaker 1: close to the research center where he underwent treatment. His

686
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: parents paid half of the down payment on the house.

687
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 1: The other half was from our savings and investments. In

688
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 1: the divorce, he gave me the house and took all

689
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 1: of his medical debt.

690
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 2: Wow dang. We have been divorced a year.

691
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 1: But now his cancer came back and he needs treatment

692
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 1: again at the same research hospital. He wants to stay

693
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: in what is now my house while undergoing treatment, and

694
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 1: his parents expect me to house him and look after

695
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: him because he was generous in letting me having the

696
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 1: house without taking his rightful share from the equity.

697
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 2: He was very generous when we were married and he

698
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 2: was undergoing treatment.

699
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: It was new stuff. That was expensive and also very

700
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: physically draining on him. We were both lucky that our

701
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,400
Speaker 1: jobs were supportive and flexible, but his health issue, little

702
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 1: kids and expenses, we had to downgrade our lifestyle a lot. That,

703
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 1: plus the physical changes to his body, made him very depressed.

704
00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can imagine.

705
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 1: Whenever he felt a bit better, he'd go stay in

706
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 1: his hometown. It's a small town where most of his

707
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,479
Speaker 1: family and a lot of his childhood friends live. I

708
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 1: was doing all the caretaking of him while also dealing

709
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 1: with insurance complications. I was also managing the kids, the

710
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 1: entire household, and my full time job. That is a

711
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:16,879
Speaker 1: lot of stress on a marriage. We had help from

712
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,479
Speaker 1: friends and neighbors, but it was very hard. I wasn't

713
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 1: happy about him spending his healthy days away from us,

714
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 1: but it was good for his mental health, so I

715
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 1: didn't feel like I could object. Eventually, his cancer got better,

716
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:30,360
Speaker 1: and during his long trips for treatments, he had reconnected

717
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 1: Oh now, oh fuck with his high school girlfriend.

718
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 2: Yikes.

719
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 1: First love is a drug bro one one that heals

720
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 1: more than one thing. A couple of years ago, he

721
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 1: had admitted to me that he was sleeping with her,

722
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: and I filed for divorce. There are other aspects around

723
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:52,240
Speaker 1: the cheating that left me very heartbroken and feeling betrayed.

724
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 2: More would do anal.

725
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: His giving me the house and taking all of the

726
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:02,320
Speaker 1: debt was a apology of sorts. Years later, flash forward

727
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:05,280
Speaker 1: to today and his cancer is back and so is he.

728
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: He wants to move back in with me his ex wife,

729
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 1: who he cheated on. His parents feel that I owe

730
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 1: him for getting the house and I should let him

731
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 1: stay there for two to three months to be near

732
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 1: his treatment at the facility. I do want him to

733
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:21,959
Speaker 1: be well, and I don't want my kids to lose

734
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,359
Speaker 1: a loving father, but it can't deal with having him

735
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 1: around me, especially not if I end up being his

736
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:29,840
Speaker 1: nurse and caretaker again. I am still very bitter about

737
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 1: how our marriage ended. A lot of people close to

738
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 1: me are telling me that I should support him for

739
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 1: the sake of my kids. Would I be that cole

740
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: if I say I can't do that?

741
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 2: Now?

742
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: There is an update? But is op the a hole

743
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 1: in this moment? If she says no.

744
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 2: This is tricky. I kind of think of it like

745
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 2: if they didn't have kids, then I think she would

746
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 2: be like like like there would be no fullness in

747
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 2: saying like, no, it's gonna be harder for him to

748
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 2: see his kids if he has cancer and is also

749
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 2: like in some separate thing and like this, it could

750
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 2: be the last time or some of the last time

751
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 2: that he gets to spend with his kids. What do

752
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 2: you think, y'all put your answers to give us date?

753
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 1: So I swallowed a lot of bile to talk to

754
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 1: him about why he was doing this. We had a

755
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: pretty long and detailed discussion. The bottom line is that

756
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,799
Speaker 1: he's broke. He still has a decent job, but his

757
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,959
Speaker 1: credit is ruined and he has a lot of debt,

758
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:25,800
Speaker 1: and he's stupidly got the cheapest insurance that barely covers anything.

759
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 1: Beyonce has no help either. She's worse off financially, so

760
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 1: he needs a place to stay and he can't afford this. Otherwise,

761
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 1: his parents are funding some of the medical payments and

762
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 1: are already stretched. He was financially all right when we

763
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 1: broke up. I have no idea what happened in such

764
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: a short time. Anyway, X and his girlfriend moved into

765
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 1: my daughter's room.

766
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 2: Oh so op. He ended up doing it. She let him.

767
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: My daughter happily gave it up to her dad and

768
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,479
Speaker 1: is sharing her little brother's room. Both kids are over

769
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 1: the moon happy to have their dad in their home.

770
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 1: My daughter keeps checking on him every few minutes to

771
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 1: make sure he's still okay. Mother in law trauma ties

772
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 1: to my kid. I will never forget that woman for this.

773
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,200
Speaker 1: That's a that's a story for another time. I guess

774
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 1: I let the girlfriend move in with him because I

775
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: was too angry to care about who came to look

776
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 1: after him, as long as it wasn't me. I don't

777
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 1: know how I could bear having her in my home,

778
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 1: but it appears to be more.

779
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 2: Misery for her than me, and that, strangely.

780
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,319
Speaker 1: Makes it more tolerable for me. She's teary eyed and

781
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 1: crying all the time. It's only been three days, but

782
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:27,359
Speaker 1: I am so annoyed. I want to shake her and

783
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 1: tell her to pull it together. The current treatment plan

784
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 1: is for three months. I am counting the days.

785
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 2: Wow, my goodness, is she more the A hole for

786
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 2: doing it or not doing it? Probably not right? So

787
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 2: then on the A hole meter, that is more on

788
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 2: the A hole side, and then this like letting him in,

789
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 2: is more on the angel side. Yeah, based on the

790
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 2: decisions I think Opi is the angel. Op he is

791
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 2: the angel every at every corner, she chose the right,

792
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:59,640
Speaker 2: the best thing to do over Opie the angel for

793
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 2: But I want to know what everyone else thinks. Put

794
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 2: your answers in the commons below. Do you think Ope

795
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,400
Speaker 2: would be an asshole for not letting the husband back in?

796
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:11,799
Speaker 1: My evil sister removed my girlfriend from being a bridesmaid

797
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:13,920
Speaker 1: and then did something even worse.

798
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 2: I think I know the perfect revenge, But am I

799
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,760
Speaker 2: the a hole? If you know the perfect revenge, maybe

800
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 2: it's a revenge that is a holeless. It is like

801
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 2: a taped over sphincter. Or maybe it's like a cheese

802
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 2: grater so shit can escape, but it's a little bit

803
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 2: slower and it might hurt.

804
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: That's imagery I don't want in my brain, Sam, but

805
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 1: I do want this story. So, my girlfriend, Naomi and

806
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 1: I have been together for over a decade. My younger sister,

807
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 1: Sarah and my girlfriend have never been super close, but

808
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: are friendly when we get together.

809
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:45,840
Speaker 2: Or I thought they were. Mmm, we gotta stop thinking

810
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 2: and just start doing each other bounce it got now.

811
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:54,280
Speaker 2: Sarah got married a few days ago. When Sarah announced

812
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 2: her engagement to the family. She asked Naomi to be

813
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 2: a bridesmaid, which surprised us a little, but Naomi was

814
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 2: very very excited because she's never gotten to do it

815
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:04,840
Speaker 2: before and probably won't have the chance. I want to

816
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:05,280
Speaker 2: be clear.

817
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 1: There was no suggestion from either of us that Sarah

818
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 1: should ask her. It was about two seconds after she

819
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 1: told us that she was engaged. She said that she

820
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: was so grateful to Naomi for the help when she

821
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 1: was younger, and Naomi.

822
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 2: Was very touched.

823
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 1: But a few weeks later, Sarah posed her bridesmade proposals

824
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: brunch and Naomi wasn't there.

825
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 2: Uh oh.

826
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 1: Sarah never said it to either of our faces directly,

827
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: but clearly she has changed her mind.

828
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:33,760
Speaker 2: I just don't feel like anymore.

829
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,440
Speaker 1: Clearly, Why would I tell you when I've already decided

830
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 1: it exactly?

831
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, you should be telepathic. Come on, be like professor X.

832
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 2: I know what you're thinking. I'm out of the wedding. Ah.

833
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 1: Naomi was hurt, but she understood because she hadn't expected

834
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:48,800
Speaker 1: the ass anyways.

835
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 2: That would have been fine.

836
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: But then a few weeks later, Sarah asked Naomi to

837
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 1: go to the bachelorette party and also come get ready

838
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 1: the day of with her friends and bridesmaids. Same thing,

839
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 1: Naomi said, yeah, and even helped her find a good

840
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 1: place to go and get a rental. A month and

841
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 1: a half before the wedding, I'm talking to my mom

842
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:08,359
Speaker 1: on the phone and she mentioned that Sarah's at her

843
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: bachelorette party.

844
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 2: Wait, so Naomi helped find the bachelorette party location and

845
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 2: was not invited to the bachelorette party and there's no

846
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 2: mention of it. To Naomi, that's kind of fun, right, It.

847
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: Gets deeper now, I'm kind of pissed because Naomi was

848
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:24,839
Speaker 1: clearly very hurt at two invites and then sort of

849
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 1: being ghosted.

850
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 2: A week before the wedding, Naomi.

851
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 1: Texted Sarah and asked about getting ready for hair and

852
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:35,360
Speaker 1: makeup and everything, and Sarah responds acting confused and basically

853
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: tells her nicely to not get her hair.

854
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 2: Done and just come with me. So she's completely uninviting

855
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 2: her from the bridesmaids.

856
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:46,399
Speaker 1: From the bridal shower, to the bachelorette party, to yeah,

857
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 1: getting ready with the bride space, Like, I just don't

858
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 1: get it, after directly asking her to join three times.

859
00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's kind of fun, right, I'm really curious what

860
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 2: the thought process is. Well, there's only one way to

861
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,879
Speaker 2: find out. Well, let's keep reading. Then I was real.

862
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: Sarah wanted this really expensive baking mixer thing for a

863
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 1: long time, and I got it for her as a

864
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: wedding gift. My mom had ruined the surprise, so she

865
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: expected it. But after everything with Naomi, I felt like

866
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:14,920
Speaker 1: being petty, so I cut her a check instead and

867
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: returned the mixer.

868
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 2: Pettiness level raised. Yeah.

869
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,000
Speaker 1: A few days after the wedding, Sarah texted me saying,

870
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: I don't know how to ask this, but like, what

871
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 1: happened to my mixer? What happened to my girlfriend being

872
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: part of your party? What happened to you telling her

873
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 1: three times to go to something and then doing it

874
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: without her?

875
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 2: Yeah? What happened to you being an asshole? Oh right,

876
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:39,320
Speaker 2: you're still one? Yeah?

877
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 1: And I responded, I don't know how to ask, but

878
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: what happened to treating my girlfriend like a freaking human being?

879
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 1: Now my brother and my new brother in law and

880
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 1: my mom are all texting me saying WTF, and then

881
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 1: I'm ruining her happy time. Naomi, for her part, says

882
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't have done that, but she feels a

883
00:41:56,560 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: little vindicated. Am I've a whole now we have an update?

884
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 2: Well, I mean just just a quick breakdown before the update.

885
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 2: I think OPI's a little bit the a hole because

886
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 2: like what he should have done is just say hey,

887
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 2: it's really fucked up what you did? Yeah, instead of

888
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:13,399
Speaker 2: like holding the petty card. Naomi is the angel. She's

889
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 2: just rolling with the punches and just getting shat on.

890
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 2: I feel like the other family members need to be like, Bro, Sarah,

891
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 2: what are you doing? Why are you being such a dick?

892
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: Just don't invite her? It's so simple. Well, onto the updates.

893
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: So I talked to Sarah and things just got more confusing.

894
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 2: She said.

895
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: When she asked Naomi to be a bride'smaid, she meant

896
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: her honorary bridesmaid.

897
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 2: Of course, what does the honorary bridesmaid plan everything but

898
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 2: not participate in the fun is? I want you to

899
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 2: be my honorary bridesmaid. What that means is you're going

900
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,959
Speaker 2: to plan stuff, You're gonna get all the logistics in order,

901
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 2: and then you're just not gonna come to it. It's

902
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 2: kind of like a wedding planner, but not paid and

903
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 2: not treated well exactly. You should know that I'm implying honorary.

904
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 2: It's honorary bridesmaid, but like minus the honor and all

905
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 2: of the air, because there's nothing here, not doing anything

906
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 2: for you.

907
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 1: She then said for the bachelorourette party, Naomi had told

908
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 1: her she works most weekends, so she didn't think that

909
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 1: Naomi would be able to attend and was just helping

910
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: her to plan it. Naomi said that she told Sarah

911
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 1: to give her the dates so she could take those

912
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:16,280
Speaker 1: dates off.

913
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 2: Sarah, fuck you.

914
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,840
Speaker 1: Naomi is a very non confrontational person and had asked

915
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: me not to bring up the bridesmaid or the bachelorlorette

916
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 1: things because she didn't want to feel like she was

917
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,800
Speaker 1: pushing in at the time, which is why I didn't

918
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,760
Speaker 1: the makeup thing. My sister said that Naomi had told

919
00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 1: her she would do her own hair, so she didn't

920
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 1: see a reason for her to come get ready with them.

921
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 2: But you told her to join, So what is she

922
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:42,879
Speaker 2: to expect? What does it mean to be an honorary bridesmaid?

923
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 1: Hey, Sam, so I would like you to be the

924
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 1: best man at my wedding, So you're just gonna pay

925
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 1: and plan for like the whole bachelor party and everything.

926
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 2: You're not going to go.

927
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 1: You're actually not going to the wedding because you're the

928
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: honorary best man. Oh oh okay, you do all of

929
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 1: the work and get nothing. It's so honorary.

930
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 2: Fuck you exactly.

931
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:04,720
Speaker 1: Now we're talking, and my sister Sarah is still pissed

932
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: at me and says I ruined her honeymoon period, she's

933
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: not on a trip and some other crappy stuff. So

934
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: I just hung up on her. She also said that

935
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 1: not giving the mixer was rude to her and her husband,

936
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: which is hilarious because my brother in law probably couldn't

937
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 1: even figure out how to turn on the oven without

938
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:24,399
Speaker 1: neon flashing lights. Thanks for all the comments. I've never

939
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 1: seen that many people on any Reddit post I've ever

940
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: made in my life.

941
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 2: Wow. Well, I think we can all agree that Sarah

942
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 2: is an actole. But I just want to like, has

943
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:37,720
Speaker 2: anyone ever done an honorary bridesmaid or groomsman? Like it's bullshit?

944
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 2: Let us know if you've ever heard of that ever?

945
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 2: And also, what is your biggest wedding drama? Because there's

946
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 2: a lot of drama that happens when you're planning for

947
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 2: weddings when you're involved in the planning, So I want

948
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 2: your wedding drama stories. Instantly drop that tea down there.

949
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, OPI's not the a hole. Naomi's not the a hole. Well,

950
00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 1: I guess maybe a little bit of the a hole

951
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 1: for the way he reacted.

952
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 2: Naomi or op op Opie. Maybe a little bit, Yeah,

953
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:02,320
Speaker 2: maybe a little bit. But Sarah the biggest a hole ever.

954
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 2: My annoying brother keeps pranking me for YouTube content. I

955
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 2: want him to stop, so I'm going to use copyright

956
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 2: law to destroy him. Am I the a hole? Now?

957
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 2: That is a genius move. Destroy the creator with the law,

958
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 2: I know. I mean, hey, you can get copyright strikes

959
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 2: against anyone these days, anyone except us. Hello. I sixteen

960
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,800
Speaker 2: female have an older brother, nineteen, Mail, who's one of

961
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 2: those prank YouTubers and TikTokers. He's been doing this kind

962
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:29,280
Speaker 2: of content since twenty seventeen, first on YouTube, then expanding

963
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 2: to TikTok for short form around twenty twenty. He's decently

964
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 2: popular with children and make some pretty good money from it.

965
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:37,879
Speaker 2: I want to know what it is. I really want

966
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 2: to know who that is. I want to know. I

967
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 2: want to know so bad. It's annoying for me and

968
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 2: I hate it. As his little sister, I'm constantly having

969
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: a camera shoved in my face when I'm busy. He's

970
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 2: pranked me by pretending to delete my school projects off

971
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 2: my laptop, throwing out my homework study material, and once

972
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 2: fabricated a fake report card that he gave to my

973
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 2: tech illiterate parents, which got me grounded for a month,

974
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,760
Speaker 2: even after I prove that my grades are good because

975
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 2: they never go back on their punishments. Oh my god, wow,

976
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 2: even when the punishments are made under false pretenses. Hello,

977
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 2: ro what kind of parents are you? Seriously? He has

978
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 2: also come to my work to surprise me and prank me,

979
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 2: which has gotten me in trouble with my manager, and

980
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 2: so they moved me to working in the back and

981
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 2: not upfront with customers because he'd come in so much,

982
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 2: literally ruined her job. With my money, I recently bought

983
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 2: a Bluetooth speaker, and whenever I see him with his

984
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:33,759
Speaker 2: stupid camera, I blast whatever Disney music I can let

985
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 2: it go. We don't talk about Bruno anything I can,

986
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 2: because Disney is vicious with copyright and footage is useless.

987
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 1: It's like kryptonite for creators, no shnee music.

988
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 2: Oh, he's tried talking to me about it before, usually

989
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 2: on camera, to work out our issue, which means stopping

990
00:46:51,640 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 2: so that he can go back to making money off

991
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 2: pranking me. Because I'm apparently very popular with his audience,

992
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,720
Speaker 2: he's been slowly losing views and followers, which she's blaming

993
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 2: me and my speaker for my parents are taking aside

994
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:06,800
Speaker 2: as he's providing for us and he's the golden child.

995
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:09,280
Speaker 2: So Reddit, am I the A hole? Is there an update?

996
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 2: There is an update? But what do you think is

997
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,359
Speaker 2: opd a hole by playing Disney music to fend off

998
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 2: her prankster brother. Not at all. Listen, I love content.

999
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:19,760
Speaker 1: I make content for a living, but these prankster people,

1000
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: Like there was a pranker who literally convinced his wife

1001
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 1: that he was addicted to coke and she was literally

1002
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:27,800
Speaker 1: like leaving with the children, and it was like because

1003
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 1: of their history and stuff, and he's like, oh no,

1004
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. It was a prank baby, And I

1005
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 1: was like, I hate it. I hate the prank stuff,

1006
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 1: not the A hole.

1007
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 2: I didn't expect my posts to blow up like it did,

1008
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: but I thought everyone would want to know I'm now safe. First,

1009
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 2: those who thought my brother would try and destroy my

1010
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 2: speaker were right. He destroyed multiple but I kept buying

1011
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:49,640
Speaker 2: more as they were cheap and I have a lot

1012
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 2: of money saved up for when I eventually move out.

1013
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 2: I also told my best friend's mom everything Before all this.

1014
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 2: She knew that my brother made content online, which is

1015
00:47:57,520 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 2: why I always go to my friend's house and not

1016
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:03,040
Speaker 2: the other way around. I practically lived there anyway, so

1017
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 2: she very quickly agreed that I can stay until I

1018
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 2: turn eighteen. Wow, which is like, it kind of sucks,

1019
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 2: as this dude is kind of ruining his relationships. It's insane,

1020
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 2: it's too much. While packing my stuff, I started participating

1021
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:17,280
Speaker 2: in pranks again to keep my brother and parents happy

1022
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:19,800
Speaker 2: so they wouldn't be suspicious. I kept telling my brother

1023
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,399
Speaker 2: about an epic prank I was planning, and a few

1024
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,280
Speaker 2: clips of me talking about it in videos got fans

1025
00:48:25,360 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 2: really hype for it. The prank was me taking the

1026
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:29,919
Speaker 2: last of the stuff that was still in my room

1027
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 2: and using a lot of printer paper and tape write

1028
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,760
Speaker 2: notes all of my walls, bed desk, everywhere that said

1029
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,359
Speaker 2: things along the lines of have fun, without me. I'm

1030
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 2: not coming back. I hate your pranks. In other comments,

1031
00:48:41,239 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 2: I doubt help post the video, but I like to

1032
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 2: imagine he turned purple seeing it all. I'm currently at

1033
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 2: my best friend's house and we were working things out

1034
00:48:48,080 --> 00:48:50,720
Speaker 2: legally so that I can stay without my parents claiming

1035
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 2: I was kidnapped or anything. I'm also considering getting a

1036
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 2: restraining order against my brother and am looking for a

1037
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,359
Speaker 2: new job, hopefully with better pay, so we can't try

1038
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 2: to see me while I'm at work. I still won't

1039
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 2: be making any social media or exposing my brother. He

1040
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 2: can lose his fans on his own without my help,

1041
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 2: and I can stay anonymous and out of the public eye.

1042
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 2: This is the dark side of like this, these whole

1043
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 2: like prankster YouTuber.

1044
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the thing is like, you know you can

1045
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: go and just like you know, rob someone and get

1046
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:18,879
Speaker 1: like a million views or whatever. Right, you can take

1047
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 1: something so crazy, But what's the cost? What's the cost?

1048
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 1: So I would say brother definitely the a hole, yes,

1049
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 1: and the sister not the a hole because he's done

1050
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 1: so many He's done so many pranks up to this

1051
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 1: point that it's like that's nothing.

1052
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:37,319
Speaker 2: What she did, hopefully he's changed a bit, but you

1053
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 2: never change. Yeah, because we love that. Hey, we would

1054
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 2: love to hear who are your favorite YouTubers besides us? Yes? Actually,

1055
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 2: maybe include us? Yeah? And what do you think of

1056
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 2: prank YouTubers appearances in the comments a season? I'm just

1057
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:53,480
Speaker 2: forcing my wife as a funeral because I want a

1058
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:55,439
Speaker 2: day off. I don't think it's too much to ask,

1059
00:49:55,600 --> 00:50:01,440
Speaker 2: am I the a hole? Just reschedule the funeral? All right?

1060
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:04,279
Speaker 2: The edit at the beginning is a beautiful start to

1061
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:07,240
Speaker 2: the story. If you're going to comment saying she's sleeping

1062
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 2: with her boss, move on out of context. We don't

1063
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 2: know what that means. Well, we're about to find out.

1064
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,320
Speaker 2: We love so. My wife and I have two children,

1065
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 2: a four year old and a six year old. Our

1066
00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 2: six year old is on the autism spectrum. Goes without

1067
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:22,879
Speaker 2: saying that this is a very stressful position and neither

1068
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:25,239
Speaker 2: of us get very much a break from this. My

1069
00:50:25,320 --> 00:50:27,279
Speaker 2: wife is a stay at home mom and I have

1070
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,239
Speaker 2: a full time job. Okay, we got to lay the

1071
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 2: lands set as happy as our children make us. I

1072
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:34,440
Speaker 2: don't think it's selfish for us to both desire breaks.

1073
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 2: We get them every here or there, but we made

1074
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:41,439
Speaker 2: a deal to have two guaranteed breaks in a year,

1075
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:44,840
Speaker 2: our birthdays and Mother's slash Father's Day. Of course we

1076
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 2: get other breaks. I'm not locking my wife in the

1077
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:48,959
Speaker 2: house aside from those two days a year. Cannot believe

1078
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 2: about to clarify this. These holidays and birthdays are supposed

1079
00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:54,600
Speaker 2: to be guaranteed off. Other random weekends that one of

1080
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 2: us decides to take on the brunt of childcare just

1081
00:50:57,120 --> 00:51:00,359
Speaker 2: happen randomly got cut out on those days. The one

1082
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 2: parent takes the brunt to the burden so the other

1083
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:05,880
Speaker 2: can get a day to relax. Since our youngest was

1084
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 2: about two, we have practiced this. I have never failed

1085
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 2: to give my wife the day off she deserved. I'll

1086
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 2: schedule her a spa day or something she really wants

1087
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:15,759
Speaker 2: to do, and get her out of the house so

1088
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 2: she can relax while I'm long pract That's nice. I

1089
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,399
Speaker 2: like that good set up. Then when she gets back,

1090
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 2: our kids give her cards, it gifts, and we get

1091
00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:25,879
Speaker 2: a meal from her favorite place after they go to bed.

1092
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 2: My wife has been less consistent and doesn't really do

1093
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:31,920
Speaker 2: as much as I do. For her last year, she

1094
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:36,359
Speaker 2: really hasn't done anything. Shots have been fired over here.

1095
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 2: I typically try not to hold it against her, as

1096
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 2: it is undoubtedly hard, but it does feel kind of unfair.

1097
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:46,480
Speaker 2: This Father's Day, I planned something for myself and she

1098
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:49,800
Speaker 2: made no indication of doing something for me. I warned

1099
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:52,280
Speaker 2: her a week in advance, and she said it was okay.

1100
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: This was until three days ago my wife's old boss's

1101
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 2: dad passed away. Wife's old boss's dad. She was invited

1102
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 2: to the funeral by the boss, and she chose to

1103
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:09,320
Speaker 2: attend the funeral, which was two hours away your old

1104
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 2: boss's dad's funeral. I now understand the edit at the

1105
00:52:14,560 --> 00:52:16,799
Speaker 2: beginning of the story. As a result, I had to

1106
00:52:16,840 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 2: cancel all of my plans and take care of the kid.

1107
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,279
Speaker 2: She was supposed to be home at around five in

1108
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:26,279
Speaker 2: the evening, but didn't derive until ten pm. Yikes. The

1109
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:28,799
Speaker 2: kids were already asleep, and my wife neglected to help

1110
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:34,280
Speaker 2: them get even a Father's Day card for me. Oh dang.

1111
00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 2: We got into a huge argument when she got back.

1112
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,320
Speaker 2: I told her that I felt like she really dropped

1113
00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:42,240
Speaker 2: the ball in this and didn't give me a break

1114
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 2: like I usually do for her. She told me she's

1115
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 2: home with the kids all day about every day, and

1116
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 2: I only have to help out after work, and as

1117
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 2: far as she's concerned, I regularly get a break and

1118
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 2: she doesn't. I told her working isn't a break and

1119
00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 2: that I was really looking forward to today. She said

1120
00:52:57,600 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 2: someone died and I was being completely helfish to make

1121
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 2: it about me. I said it was somebody she didn't out.

1122
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 2: Who's a parrot. I'm so much. She hasn't seen it

1123
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,359
Speaker 2: over a year, and I don't think I was being

1124
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,400
Speaker 2: dumban and asked here to prioritize my needs as a

1125
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 2: gesture like I do hers. She's been pissed at me

1126
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 2: since then and we are not talking. Am I the

1127
00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:22,640
Speaker 2: a whole? She was hooking up with your her old boss? Yeah, yeah,

1128
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:26,520
Speaker 2: there's so many things. I have so many questions. There

1129
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 2: isn't edit. Oh okay, my curiosity is peaked. I want

1130
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 2: to hear what's going on. My wife is not sleepy

1131
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:36,479
Speaker 2: with her boss. Her boss is a married gay man.

1132
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 2: We attended his wedding to another man. That people jumping

1133
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 2: to the conclusion that my wife is cheating on me

1134
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 2: are being ridiculous and drawing a backstory on one glimpse

1135
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 2: of my life. This is one situation I'm asking for judgment.

1136
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 2: You don't know the inner workings of my marriage. And

1137
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 2: I doubt any of you who assume women going out

1138
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 2: for longer than expected me and she's cheating, will ever

1139
00:53:55,120 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 2: have a marriage of your Oh, he's going to a

1140
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:03,360
Speaker 2: thing that he doesn't even know. He doesn't even know

1141
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:05,800
Speaker 2: this old man. It's also his special day, like the

1142
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 2: agreed two days a week or two days a year,

1143
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 2: Father's Day and birthday.

1144
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 1: It sounds like he's kind of putting in the work

1145
00:54:12,040 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: and she's like not really, not really bringing it to

1146
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:16,399
Speaker 1: the days off.

1147
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, so, I mean I think they both have their

1148
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 2: kind of like areas of expertise, Like he's working to

1149
00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:25,879
Speaker 2: provide money for the family and she's working to take

1150
00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 2: care of the kids. And so it's like, I don't

1151
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 2: think it's fair for her to be like, you know,

1152
00:54:29,760 --> 00:54:32,240
Speaker 2: you're not you're here with the kids. You do you

1153
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 2: you you get breaks by working? Yeah, it's like, bro, work,

1154
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 2: work is not a break. I think this this boss's

1155
00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 2: dad's funeral is kind of ridiculous. I mean, I want

1156
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 2: to know what everyone else thinks. Put your answers in

1157
00:54:45,719 --> 00:54:48,239
Speaker 2: the comments. Is this an a hole move by OP?

1158
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:51,480
Speaker 2: Is OPI not the Ale is his wife, The Ale

1159
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 2: is the boss, the a hole for inviting with these

1160
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 2: people to his dad's funeral that they don't even know.

1161
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 2: I tried to impersonate Mary Poppins and paid the old

1162
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 2: ultimate price. Now I am bedridden for my ignorance. Never

1163
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,879
Speaker 2: try to be Mary Bobbins. This happened to me last

1164
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 2: night around one am, but it is still effing me

1165
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 2: up today and for the foreseeable future. After a long

1166
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:15,000
Speaker 2: day of studying from five to ten pm for my

1167
00:55:15,040 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 2: final this morning, I needed a break. I was overworked

1168
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:19,480
Speaker 2: and needed some fresh air. I'm just the type of

1169
00:55:19,560 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 2: guy to study NonStop for a long time, other than

1170
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 2: a stretch every hour. But once I was finished studying,

1171
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 2: I drove to my girlfriend's house to visit her for

1172
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 2: a bit, as I hadn't seen her for a while.

1173
00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 2: We relaxed for a bit and I asked her she

1174
00:55:30,960 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 2: wanted to go for a drive as the rainy weather

1175
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 2: is a vibe even though it was literally pouring. I

1176
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 2: love driving in the rain, like twenty to thirty centimeters

1177
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:40,880
Speaker 2: of rain. I have no idea how long that is,

1178
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:44,479
Speaker 2: how much that is be American come on Imperial system only,

1179
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:47,680
Speaker 2: so I said sure, not realizing that this would be

1180
00:55:47,840 --> 00:55:50,440
Speaker 2: a terrible idea. So we went outside and it was

1181
00:55:50,440 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 2: a nice night. It was warmer than you expect for

1182
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:55,600
Speaker 2: weather in Canada. Now, whenever I'm with my girlfriend, she

1183
00:55:55,640 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 2: does bring out the best in me. That's cute, but

1184
00:55:58,960 --> 00:56:02,919
Speaker 2: she also brings out the dumbass in me. Ooh, So

1185
00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 2: I had the wonderful idea of yelling, look at me,

1186
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 2: I'm Marry Poppins while jumping with an umbrella I was holding.

1187
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:12,560
Speaker 2: I don't know why, it's just how I am whenever

1188
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:15,120
Speaker 2: I'm with her. Either way, it was a dumb decision

1189
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 2: as I landed on my right ankle at about a

1190
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:20,880
Speaker 2: ninety degree angle, fell to the ground immediately and landed

1191
00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 2: on my umbrella, breaking it under the force of my

1192
00:56:24,280 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 2: six foot two hundred and ten pounds self. That sounds

1193
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:29,920
Speaker 2: like it hurts now. In the past, I really messed

1194
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 2: up my right ankle, either with sports or various other

1195
00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:35,359
Speaker 2: dumb activities, to the point where it's gotten very close

1196
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 2: to tearing slash, spraining some outer muscles ligaments, and it

1197
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 2: was unable to walk for like two to three weeks.

1198
00:56:41,400 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 2: It happened to my mid teens, so you would expect

1199
00:56:43,160 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 2: the muscles to be healed. Why now, as I'm twenty

1200
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 2: years old. But as soon as my ankle touched the

1201
00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:51,880
Speaker 2: pavement at that angle, it brought all the pain back.

1202
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:55,480
Speaker 2: Oh God, which I rolled my ankle like really bad

1203
00:56:55,520 --> 00:56:58,800
Speaker 2: at a rave a while ago still gives me problems.

1204
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 2: Was doing a flip on the snowboard and I put

1205
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 2: my class out and it like y yoinked it And

1206
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:08,799
Speaker 2: it's still and I still have pain in it every

1207
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 2: once in a while. Fast forward twenty minutes. Said there,

1208
00:57:10,840 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 2: I am sitting in the car doing a sharp inhale

1209
00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:15,239
Speaker 2: that most people do when there are a lot of pain,

1210
00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:18,600
Speaker 2: while cursing at myself, trying to act like Mary Poppins.

1211
00:57:18,640 --> 00:57:21,560
Speaker 2: No one can even match her powers. My girlfriend laughingly

1212
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 2: asks if I still want to go on a drive,

1213
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 2: and as a tear rolls down my face, I say sure.

1214
00:57:26,760 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 2: After I drive, I head home to compress ice and

1215
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:31,800
Speaker 2: elevate my ankle. Why is he driving? Then went to sleep.

1216
00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:35,440
Speaker 2: Why doesn't she drive? Maybe she drove? Okay, maybe we're

1217
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 2: just assuming the man drives. Job. Yes, I don't know.

1218
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 2: I just I think you're a sexist. I think you're right,

1219
00:57:41,320 --> 00:57:43,400
Speaker 2: just kidding. Then I went to sleep. It's now today

1220
00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:46,720
Speaker 2: and I wake up literally with the biggest swollen ankle ever.

1221
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 2: It's like my ankle swallowed entire tennis ball. On the side.

1222
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:53,080
Speaker 2: There was a huge purple bruise, which is not good,

1223
00:57:53,200 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 2: and I felt immen's pain just walking to the bathroom.

1224
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 2: Either way, though I had a final to write this

1225
00:57:58,600 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 2: morning and needed a way to walk, I had no

1226
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 2: clue where my crutches or cane were, so I had

1227
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:06,040
Speaker 2: to use a softball bat to walk around the house.

1228
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 2: Luckily enough, I had a friend who let me borrow

1229
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 2: their crutches for the week to trade for the softball bat.

1230
00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 2: After driving to the university and doing my final, which

1231
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:14,920
Speaker 2: I think I did pretty good on, I drove a

1232
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:17,960
Speaker 2: friend home and I got pizza for my girlfriend and

1233
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 2: to celebrate finishing my spring class, I opened up the

1234
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 2: compression wrap I had since this morning and two tennis

1235
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 2: balls have been put on my ankle. I really don't

1236
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:30,200
Speaker 2: know how to describe how bad my ankle look other

1237
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:34,080
Speaker 2: than to imagine count von Count was a severe peanut allergy,

1238
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 2: but based locally in my ankle. It was that purple

1239
00:58:38,040 --> 00:58:41,000
Speaker 2: and swollen. His ankle has boobies. This show was sponsored

1240
00:58:41,040 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 2: by your sweet sexy ass.

1241
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:46,880
Speaker 1: If you support our Patreon, you'll get one long, hard

1242
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 1: extra bonus episode every week.

1243
00:58:49,600 --> 00:58:53,920
Speaker 2: I'm talking three juicy stories right into those year holes.

1244
00:58:54,000 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 2: You'll get ad free episodes.

1245
00:58:56,120 --> 00:59:01,000
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1246
00:59:01,520 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 2: Not to mention, we'll do it together live in front

1247
00:59:04,880 --> 00:59:07,720
Speaker 2: of a camera with assholes anonymous. You'll get a chance

1248
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 2: to talk to us directly and maybe be featured on

1249
00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,280
Speaker 2: the YouTube channel Wait saven not like that.

1250
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:14,480
Speaker 1: Like the fans get to share their stories with us

1251
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: and other fans and we get.

1252
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:17,800
Speaker 2: To talk about it right, and then we'll moon each

1253
00:59:17,840 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 2: other at the end. Oh god. So if you want

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Speaker 2: all that axe ass support your boys at patreon dot

1255
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1256
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:28,920
Speaker 1: Let's patreon dot com slash okop Show.

1257
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:32,840
Speaker 2: So now here, I am in my room, still curzing

1258
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 2: at myself for trying to be Mary Poppins. I will

1259
00:59:35,520 --> 00:59:38,040
Speaker 2: be calling my doctor tomorrow morning as I need to

1260
00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 2: get my hanckel checked out. What really makes me mad

1261
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 2: is I was expecting you to be free from the

1262
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 2: business of my spring class, to be able to go outside,

1263
00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 2: but I am now stuck in my room, probably for

1264
00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:51,120
Speaker 2: the next week recovering from my Poppins related injury. Good

1265
00:59:51,160 --> 00:59:54,720
Speaker 2: thing I finished class. You don't try to impersonate the goat?

1266
00:59:55,200 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? If I try to impersonate some mobiles,

1267
00:59:58,240 --> 01:00:01,440
Speaker 2: let's get my neck broken. Speaking of done, trying to

1268
01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 2: personate Olivia? Done? Done as well.

1269
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: My son just met his biological father. Now he wants

1270
01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 1: to change his last name. I refuse to let him

1271
01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 1: disrespect me like that. Am I the ahole who raised you? Ooh,

1272
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 1: who changed the diapers? All he did was knock up

1273
01:00:15,760 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 1: your mom. You know what I did, what I raised you?

1274
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 2: That.

1275
01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:23,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, let me start by saying, my son, Adam is

1276
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:24,240
Speaker 1: twenty two years old.

1277
01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:24,560
Speaker 2: Okay.

1278
01:00:24,640 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 1: Back when my ex wife, Tory and I were trying

1279
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:29,480
Speaker 1: for kids, we found out that I was infertile. We

1280
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 1: decided we'd adopt, and then about four months later, my

1281
01:00:33,120 --> 01:00:36,600
Speaker 1: ex wife is pregnant. I was thrilled because I thought

1282
01:00:36,680 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 1: maybe the doctor made a mistake.

1283
01:00:38,840 --> 01:00:40,080
Speaker 2: No, I was wrong.

1284
01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 1: My ex wife cheated on me and I didn't find

1285
01:00:43,440 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 1: out until twenty years later.

1286
01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:46,680
Speaker 2: Oh oh no.

1287
01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:49,520
Speaker 1: My ex wife Tory told me two years ago that

1288
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:51,760
Speaker 1: she cheated on me, and we did a paternity test

1289
01:00:51,760 --> 01:00:55,400
Speaker 1: to make sure and well he's not my biological son.

1290
01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:58,480
Speaker 2: Oh right, at that point, just die with your secret.

1291
01:00:58,520 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 1: After revealing she cheated on me, my ex and I

1292
01:01:01,080 --> 01:01:05,800
Speaker 1: divorced a few weeks later, she sh that's rough.

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Speaker 2: That is rough.

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Speaker 1: Ever since my son found out the truth, he wanted

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Speaker 1: to meet his biological father. Yeah that makes sense, that

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01:01:13,640 --> 01:01:18,000
Speaker 1: makes sense. Yeah, yeah, he did, and they started to

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01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:21,440
Speaker 1: become really close. It hurt me much more than I

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01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 1: thought it would. He's an adult and he can make

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Speaker 1: his own decisions, but it hurt really bad. They started

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01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 1: to bond, and all of a sudden, Adam became really

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01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 1: distant to me. It's been like this for almost a

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01:01:31,760 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: year and a half. I tried to text him to

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01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 1: make plans for dinner and he says he's busy with Chris,

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01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:41,080
Speaker 1: a biological father. Yeah that guy. I tried numerous times

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01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 1: to connect with him by calling and texting, but he

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01:01:43,520 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 1: never made plans aside from like a meal every other month.

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01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:49,960
Speaker 1: We used to do stuff together every week, but it's

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01:01:49,960 --> 01:01:52,800
Speaker 1: been completely different since he found out about Chris. I

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01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:55,080
Speaker 1: couldn't stand it. My son, who I raised since he

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01:01:55,200 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 1: was a baby, treated me like I didn't matter. Anytime

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01:01:59,400 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 1: we'd actually have plans, he would still be cold and distant.

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Speaker 2: Ugh.

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01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 1: What I mean by that is he became much more

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01:02:05,880 --> 01:02:08,720
Speaker 1: defensive of his personal life. I'd ask him how his

1315
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:11,400
Speaker 1: classes or his friends were, and he'd just say fine,

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01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:13,160
Speaker 1: but never go deeper than that.

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Speaker 2: Dang.

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01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 1: He also changes major from econ to computer science and

1319
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 1: didn't even mention it to me until a year later. Fuck, man,

1320
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:24,800
Speaker 1: he's just drifting hard. So I told him how much

1321
01:02:24,840 --> 01:02:26,920
Speaker 1: he was hurting me because of how distant he was,

1322
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 1: and he apologized and he said he'd do better.

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01:02:29,160 --> 01:02:30,479
Speaker 2: He never did. Oh wow.

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01:02:30,600 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 1: I told him numerous times, and he never changed. He

1325
01:02:33,200 --> 01:02:35,800
Speaker 1: was still distant. What was the final straw for me

1326
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:38,400
Speaker 1: was a phone conversation I had with him last week.

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Speaker 1: He said he was going to change his last name

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01:02:40,840 --> 01:02:44,440
Speaker 1: to Chris's because he liked it so much and because

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01:02:44,480 --> 01:02:45,160
Speaker 1: they were close.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, Ah.

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01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I told him,

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01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:53,080
Speaker 1: I can't believe that you're going to do this. That's

1333
01:02:53,120 --> 01:02:55,640
Speaker 1: really disappointing to me. If you decide to change your

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01:02:55,720 --> 01:02:58,480
Speaker 1: last name, go ahead, But if you do, then I'm

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01:02:58,480 --> 01:03:00,560
Speaker 1: no longer your father, and I don't want to be

1336
01:03:00,600 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 1: involved in your life. Tim oh man, just back and forth, Like,

1337
01:03:04,160 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 1: I think that is a bad decision on the father's part.

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01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you're right. I understand it. I understand

1339
01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:12,680
Speaker 2: he's hurt, but like you know, straw that broke the

1340
01:03:12,720 --> 01:03:15,919
Speaker 2: camel's back and just like that gut reaction. Yeah. Yeah,

1341
01:03:16,520 --> 01:03:18,600
Speaker 2: it's a tough situation. But I don't think he should

1342
01:03:18,600 --> 01:03:20,600
Speaker 2: have done that. No, I agree. I agree.

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01:03:20,720 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 1: He hung up on me and I didn't even bother

1344
01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 1: reaching out because I knew he wouldn't respond. I stand

1345
01:03:25,800 --> 01:03:28,640
Speaker 1: by what I said. I meant every word and still do.

1346
01:03:29,240 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 1: The last name changed to me means he no longer

1347
01:03:31,800 --> 01:03:34,360
Speaker 1: views me as his father and views Chris as his

1348
01:03:34,720 --> 01:03:37,760
Speaker 1: despite the fact that he's twenty two. My family told

1349
01:03:37,800 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 1: me I'm being unreasonable. Meanwhile, my best friend thinks it's reasonable.

1350
01:03:41,640 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 1: I was told to post it here. So Reddit, am

1351
01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 1: I being the a hole?

1352
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 2: Please tell me there's an update.

1353
01:03:47,160 --> 01:03:50,000
Speaker 1: Yes, there's there's some edits, there's some additional info we got.

1354
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:52,480
Speaker 1: We got definitely a decent amount of more meat to

1355
01:03:52,480 --> 01:03:52,800
Speaker 1: go through.

1356
01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 2: But I think this kid is just he's just figuring

1357
01:03:56,000 --> 01:04:00,520
Speaker 2: himself out. Yeah, he's very confused, so is op. Yeah. Yeah,

1358
01:04:00,640 --> 01:04:03,160
Speaker 2: you know, like you raise this kid. He's always going

1359
01:04:03,240 --> 01:04:07,320
Speaker 2: to be your kid. I agree, he's always regardless of

1360
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:09,720
Speaker 2: the biology, he's always going to be your kid. All right, well,

1361
01:04:09,800 --> 01:04:11,880
Speaker 2: let's hear what this update is. Let's get into it.

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01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:12,680
Speaker 2: Something to add.

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01:04:12,760 --> 01:04:15,320
Speaker 1: After I found out about Chris, I took a couple

1364
01:04:15,320 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 1: of days and didn't speak to my ex wife or Adam.

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01:04:18,040 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 1: They didn't contact me. I didn't contact them. I just

1366
01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 1: needed a break at it too. A lot of you

1367
01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 1: have been asking for the deeper meaning behind this, and

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01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:27,880
Speaker 1: I think I finally figured out why he's being so cold.

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01:04:28,040 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 1: A few months before my wife told us the truth,

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01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 1: we were in a very long argument. His grandma, my mother,

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01:04:33,280 --> 01:04:36,240
Speaker 1: left a big inheritance for him that I am fully

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01:04:36,280 --> 01:04:38,840
Speaker 1: in charge of, enough to pay for college and have

1373
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:41,440
Speaker 1: enough wiggle room to not stress all the time about it.

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01:04:41,520 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 1: After a semester of university, he started dating this girl

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01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:46,800
Speaker 1: and he was head over heels in.

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01:04:46,680 --> 01:04:47,240
Speaker 2: Love with her.

1377
01:04:47,360 --> 01:04:49,320
Speaker 1: I never met the girl, so I have zero clue

1378
01:04:49,360 --> 01:04:51,880
Speaker 1: how she felt about the relationship. Suddenly, after a few

1379
01:04:51,880 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 1: months of dating, Adam asked me for about three grand

1380
01:04:54,600 --> 01:04:57,680
Speaker 1: to be deposited into his account from the inheritance. I

1381
01:04:57,720 --> 01:05:00,040
Speaker 1: already paid for the semester, so this was odd to

1382
01:05:00,280 --> 01:05:02,520
Speaker 1: I asked Adam why he needed the money. He said

1383
01:05:02,520 --> 01:05:05,480
Speaker 1: his girlfriend was having trouble paying for her tuition and

1384
01:05:05,880 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 1: had asked my son to help.

1385
01:05:08,080 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 2: Ooh, yeah, that is very sticky, icy territory kid.

1386
01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:14,320
Speaker 1: I told him no, because it seemed to me that

1387
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:16,439
Speaker 1: she was treating him like a piggy bank. He spent

1388
01:05:16,520 --> 01:05:19,800
Speaker 1: over one thousand on her in just under a few months.

1389
01:05:19,840 --> 01:05:22,760
Speaker 1: He would constantly talk about how he loved going shopping

1390
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:24,800
Speaker 1: with her so he could buy her things. To me,

1391
01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:27,840
Speaker 1: she was just after my son's inheritance, and I was right.

1392
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:30,680
Speaker 1: What I said to him was basically this, Adam, you

1393
01:05:30,760 --> 01:05:32,919
Speaker 1: haven't been dating this girl for very long at all,

1394
01:05:33,000 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 1: and for me to give you that much money just

1395
01:05:34,920 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 1: to spend on her after a few months doesn't sit

1396
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:39,440
Speaker 1: well with me. That's the money your grandmother left for

1397
01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:41,600
Speaker 1: you for your college career.

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01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:42,080
Speaker 2: Not hers.

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01:05:42,280 --> 01:05:44,600
Speaker 1: If you two were more serious, then I would think

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01:05:44,640 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 1: about it. But I'm not giving you that much money

1401
01:05:46,880 --> 01:05:50,320
Speaker 1: just to give your girlfriend, which is a completely reasonable

1402
01:05:50,400 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 1: thing to say. Turns out, my guess was right, and

1403
01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:55,000
Speaker 1: she was after his money. They broke up shortly after

1404
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:58,040
Speaker 1: and have had an on again off again relationship ever since.

1405
01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:00,160
Speaker 1: He was upset with me, but he eventually got over

1406
01:06:00,240 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 1: it after a few months. Then we found out about

1407
01:06:02,520 --> 01:06:04,760
Speaker 1: my ex's affair. I don't know if that's the reason

1408
01:06:04,800 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 1: he's so cold. That was a huge argument that went

1409
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:11,080
Speaker 1: on for weeks until she left him. Okay, So now

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01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:13,160
Speaker 1: I feel like we have as much of the story

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01:06:13,200 --> 01:06:14,280
Speaker 1: probably as we could.

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01:06:14,280 --> 01:06:18,720
Speaker 2: Again, I guess, so what should the father do? What

1413
01:06:19,080 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 2: father do? That is the question. I mean, I think

1414
01:06:21,440 --> 01:06:24,040
Speaker 2: we kind of I don't. I don't think the new

1415
01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 2: information has changed anything for me. I think the opie

1416
01:06:27,200 --> 01:06:30,120
Speaker 2: was right not to give the kid three K just randomly.

1417
01:06:30,640 --> 01:06:33,360
Speaker 2: I think the kid changing his last name is like

1418
01:06:33,400 --> 01:06:35,800
Speaker 2: an active rebellion or an act of like trying to

1419
01:06:35,800 --> 01:06:38,760
Speaker 2: get close to his biological father. Yeah, and I don't

1420
01:06:38,800 --> 01:06:42,760
Speaker 2: think ope, he should you know, stop that either, because again,

1421
01:06:42,800 --> 01:06:45,160
Speaker 2: that's only going to create more resentment. The best way

1422
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:47,000
Speaker 2: to go forward again is like what we said, just like,

1423
01:06:47,120 --> 01:06:49,240
Speaker 2: say you're going to be there. You're his dad, even

1424
01:06:49,280 --> 01:06:52,560
Speaker 2: though they're not biologically related, he raised them, and you know,

1425
01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:55,600
Speaker 2: just be there for your kid when he needs it. Yeah.

1426
01:06:55,760 --> 01:06:57,640
Speaker 1: Really, it sounds like this kid is trying to maybe

1427
01:06:57,680 --> 01:07:01,480
Speaker 1: impress the you know, the new day, And yeah, I

1428
01:07:02,000 --> 01:07:05,560
Speaker 1: think both of them honestly need probably a lot of

1429
01:07:05,640 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 1: time to wrap their heads around it, I would say,

1430
01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:10,920
Speaker 1: and hopefully hopefully the sun comes back eventually.

1431
01:07:11,440 --> 01:07:15,960
Speaker 2: We love your stories. If you have any illegitimate children stories,

1432
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:17,960
Speaker 2: please put them in the comments. We love to hear

1433
01:07:18,000 --> 01:07:19,400
Speaker 2: it and we'll see it soon. Thank you. It was

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Speaker 2: the whole story in itself right there,