Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for
Speaker 1: joining us today. We're so excited to be back. It's
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Speaker 2: Sounds good to be. Okay, Kathy, you know what time
Speaker 2: it is. Let's get into today's episode.
Speaker 3: And what are you going to say?
Speaker 1: It's cocktail time? No, it's not question at the daytime.
Speaker 2: Question of the day. Have you ever had to break
Speaker 2: out of a bad habit, whether it's biting your nails
Speaker 2: or repeating generational curses? And how did you do it?
Speaker 3: Okay? What's the bad habit you've broken? Susan? Tell me,
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: That I ever fully break them. I to do something
Speaker 2: bad habit was I was addicted to potato chips and
Speaker 2: I gave it up for lent last year and I succeeded.
Speaker 1: Oh but you've been eating potato chips.
Speaker 2: It's a new year.
Speaker 3: It's a new lens, a new level.
Speaker 2: I never was a nail bier. Thing for me was
Speaker 2: smoking and it is still well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you fight it, you try, but you fight it. Okay.
Speaker 1: Can I tell a horrible story, but you have to
Speaker 1: go to start today? You please, bachination, do not write
Speaker 1: in time. I'm a terrible mother. I have judgments. It's
Speaker 1: going to be everyone's going to judge me, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to my son, my middle son, the one that
Speaker 1: you married. They just had their first anniversary, Kyle and can'd.
Speaker 3: Did you? I bet they loved that.
Speaker 1: So when Kyle was a kid, he bit his nails
Speaker 1: down to the quick. I'm just going to start by
Speaker 1: telling you he still bites his nails down like. I
Speaker 1: can't even look at his hands, it's so bad. So
Speaker 1: I decided, uh, because I was crazy, not really, but
Speaker 1: I did this.
Speaker 3: Are you ready? I painted his nails, yes, with nail
Speaker 3: polish it burns right.
Speaker 1: No, a color nail polish, and made him go to
Speaker 1: school because.
Speaker 3: Because that's a lot. Friend, what color pink?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: I don't remember.
Speaker 2: I think I would think it was like, tell me,
Speaker 2: why what did that?
Speaker 1: Because I read somewhere it wasn't. It wasn't me being like,
Speaker 1: you know, vicious, horrible mother, although I was I deemed
Speaker 1: to be. I read somewhere I just had nail posh.
Speaker 1: I don't remember what color was. I didn't go out
Speaker 1: and say, you know, what's the most garish color I
Speaker 1: can buy and stick it on his hands. But I
Speaker 1: read somewhere that if you put nail posh on a
Speaker 1: kid's nails the taste, they won't bite their nails. So
Speaker 1: I thought, okay, Well, I didn't think it through clearly and.
Speaker 3: Eighteen.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 1: I'm joking. He was in second grade or third grade.
Speaker 3: Anyway.
Speaker 1: It was an awfully to this day, Kyle, if you're listening,
Speaker 1: I still apologize. I hope you have forgiven me. You know,
Speaker 1: his nails. I know it's awful.
Speaker 2: Please don't just say one thing could us clear? He's
Speaker 2: a boy in school, clear with words.
Speaker 1: It didn't work, That's what I'm telling you. He bit
Speaker 1: it all off. I mean I probably poisoned. He poisoned
Speaker 1: him anyway.
Speaker 2: But there are things out there that you put on
Speaker 2: and nail to help people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, whatever it is, trust and believe me, it
Speaker 1: did not work. He still chomps on his tail. I
Speaker 1: can say for myself my worst habit. I know I'm embarrassed.
Speaker 1: Please don't write mean things in I really have guilt
Speaker 1: over it.
Speaker 2: I really.
Speaker 1: My worst habit is interrupting. I think that is my
Speaker 1: worst habit I've had guys I've dated. I am so
Speaker 1: now I'm so much more aware of it. What I
Speaker 1: try to do. And I know you and I interrupt
Speaker 1: each other on the podcast, but we've gotten better. I
Speaker 1: really try to wait until the person stops talking, and
Speaker 1: you know sometimes they're just taking a breath, but it's
Speaker 1: really hard to cure a bad happen.
Speaker 3: It certainly Okay, what's your story?
Speaker 2: And for me it was listening. I am now way
Speaker 2: more in tune because and then you know, when someone's
Speaker 2: talking and the thought comes to your head, they trigger something,
Speaker 2: you want to blurt it out. Yes, I try to
Speaker 2: work on it every day. Slow your role. My fear
Speaker 2: is and the reason I believe that I've learned out
Speaker 2: because I'm going to forget.
Speaker 3: That's why interrupt you. Yes, exactly, I'm gonna forget.
Speaker 1: And how many times when you and I are on
Speaker 1: the phone, you know, we'll have a four way call
Speaker 1: going with Nancy and Joan and whoever is and then
Speaker 1: I won't say I'm not gonna interrupt, and then you'll say,
Speaker 1: someone say, okay, Kathy, what did you want to say?
Speaker 3: I don't remember.
Speaker 2: I don't remember, Or I'll say, excuse me, can I
Speaker 2: get this out? Because I don't say that it's never
Speaker 2: going to happen. But no, I remember as a child
Speaker 2: like I was a bedwetter for me too, were you?
Speaker 1: I absolutely was until I was about twelve or twelve
Speaker 1: probably twelve.
Speaker 2: I don't know that it was me that broke that habit,
Speaker 2: or my mom beats the shit out of me.
Speaker 1: No, that's not a habit. Wedding the bed was No,
Speaker 1: it's not. That is not a habit. That is a habit.
Speaker 3: It's not a habit, running late, running away. Listen to me. Wait,
Speaker 3: I'm going to interrupt.
Speaker 2: It's going to teach me about habits.
Speaker 1: If you sit on your bed and say I think
Speaker 1: i'll pee on my bed, that would be a bad habit.
Speaker 1: If you are sleep dead, sleep and you pee, it's
Speaker 1: because your it's not a habit. Your body can't wake up,
Speaker 1: you don't have good maturity. So that's not a bad habit.
Speaker 2: So we must not have any bad habits.
Speaker 3: Can be interrupt.
Speaker 2: You people out there, what are your bad habits and
Speaker 2: how did you overcome them?
Speaker 1: Yeah, please let us know what is a bad habit
Speaker 1: you have? And again, no comments about my son. He's fine,
Speaker 1: he's happily married.
Speaker 2: That was so cute though she didn't even think of clear.
Speaker 2: Why would she think of it?
Speaker 1: You know, I just started wearing nails myself a few
Speaker 1: years ago. I don't I made you get the nails
Speaker 1: before because you're sep.
Speaker 2: Your hands look beautiful.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 1: All Right, we're gonna get into our fan questions today.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read the first one. I can't wait.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 1: The first one is from Tanya. Hi, ladies, I need
Speaker 1: some advice. My best friend is a serial dater and
Speaker 1: I really think it's wayne on her mental health. We're
Speaker 1: both twenty eight years old and she's never been single.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be concerned if she just happened to find
Speaker 1: really great guy, but that's not the case. These relationships
Speaker 1: always end up sucking the life out of her and
Speaker 1: she just jumps into another one instead of healing from
Speaker 1: the last. How do I help her break out of this?
Speaker 1: You can't, I was gonna say, let's say in Unison
Speaker 1: one more time.
Speaker 2: You can't.
Speaker 3: She's going to do it herself.
Speaker 2: I mean, you could bring light to it and remind her.
Speaker 2: I mean, Kathy, you yourself said to me about my
Speaker 2: choices or things like that, take a break, take a
Speaker 2: break and look at you. And as we both said,
Speaker 2: that show The Golden Bachelor, when I went on there
Speaker 2: because I was on all kinds of dating sites and such,
Speaker 2: that show cured me, not forever. But wait, I stopped looking.
Speaker 2: I stopped looking. I was okay with me and the
Speaker 2: beautiful new friendships I have.
Speaker 1: And that's because you had the life lesson, Susan. That's
Speaker 1: the point here, the point I think this girl, Tanya,
Speaker 1: your friend, it's about her.
Speaker 3: It's not even about the guys.
Speaker 1: The guys could be the most fabulous men on the earth,
Speaker 1: it's not about them. It really is about her. For
Speaker 1: whatever reason, she can't be alone, is afraid to be alone.
Speaker 1: Isn't a complete person finds her completeness in a man
Speaker 1: instead of finding her completeness in herself and then looking
Speaker 1: for a man to compliment her. You know, it's her
Speaker 1: problem to figure out. So maybe my suggestion would be,
Speaker 1: maybe you could have those kinds of conversations with her.
Speaker 1: You know what's wrong? Why do you not feel complete?
Speaker 1: Maybe you need to look at that.
Speaker 2: Ask And Tanya's saying she really thinks it's weighing on
Speaker 2: her mental health, the girlfriend's mental health. Yeah, and that's
Speaker 2: all you have to bring up. Like I'm noticing, this
Speaker 2: is ruining you, it's stressing you out. Take time for
Speaker 2: you and Tanya, I'll say, and she'll just say five
Speaker 2: words and it'll be done body being better back.
Speaker 1: Wait, I was going to say, if these guys they're
Speaker 1: twenty eight. Unfortunately, I was going to say, could she
Speaker 1: send some of her surplus my way?
Speaker 2: I want to know how she gets one really quick
Speaker 2: right after the other one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Tanya, you're a good friend. Let us know what happens.
Speaker 1: Have the conversation with her. Yes, but in the end,
Speaker 1: she has to want to stop being a serial dater
Speaker 1: and figure out what's going on in her own life.
Speaker 2: Yes she does, but thank you and let us know. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we can't take her leftover scouts, she's too young.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: The next one I got the and Susan, I'm freaking out.
Speaker 3: Lol.
Speaker 2: The other day I was in a tiff with my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Suddenly I caught myself using the same tactics that my
Speaker 2: mom used to use on me when I was a teenager.
Speaker 2: I love my mom and I think she's great, but
Speaker 2: this made me realize that I'm doing a lot of
Speaker 2: the things I once resented her for. I said, I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna go during that tip and flashback to when
Speaker 2: I was a kid and she would say that to me.
Speaker 2: It made me sick to my stomach. How do I
Speaker 2: avoid becoming just like my mom. When it comes to
Speaker 2: the negative qualities I observed of her, they might not
Speaker 2: be negative, girlfriend, that might just be a life lesson.
Speaker 2: I gave me joy the day my daughter called me
Speaker 2: up and said, Mom, thank you, thank you. When I
Speaker 2: hear her doing the same things, I will tell you
Speaker 2: I did not want to be like my mother.
Speaker 1: Because my mother was not the nicest person on the planet.
Speaker 1: And so I just answer the simple answer to her is,
Speaker 1: how do you avoid becoming just like your mom? Well,
Speaker 1: like Susan said, maybe some of her qualities are good.
Speaker 1: If the qualities are negative and you really think they're negative,
Speaker 1: think before you speak, you speak, think before you act.
Speaker 1: You know, we've took this how many times in our life.
Speaker 1: If you all would just stop and.
Speaker 2: Think for xaty, I still try. I mean, I still
Speaker 2: do it. I get it. Yeah, you just pause.
Speaker 1: Yes, but I will agree with Susan my daughter, since she,
Speaker 1: or my youngest granddaughter, is almost two years old, I
Speaker 1: have become much smarter in my daughter's eyes over the
Speaker 1: last two ye Yes, so amazing. They say that your
Speaker 1: IQ diminishes. Not in my daughter's eyes. Mind is just escalated.
Speaker 1: Year two years ago, I got smart. I don't want
Speaker 1: to say about that.
Speaker 2: And you know I noticed that she said she resented
Speaker 2: her mom because of that. Well, maybe you were doing
Speaker 2: things that you needed to be reprimanded for or talked
Speaker 2: to about and you didn't like it, just like your boyfriend,
Speaker 2: you found yourself saying because he did something that wasn't
Speaker 2: okay with you.
Speaker 1: And like Susan said, maybe maybe mama knew exactly what
Speaker 1: she was say And rethink this one, baby, rethink it,
Speaker 1: rethink it.
Speaker 3: Let us know.
Speaker 1: And by the way, if the boyfriend is not worth keeping,
Speaker 1: don't try to drag out a thing that ain't worth
Speaker 1: keeping showing.
Speaker 2: The door jingle to it.
Speaker 1: I say, here, here's a better jingle. Here's your hat,
Speaker 1: what's your hurry? Yeah, that was when I said that
Speaker 1: in the last one. I'm full of these little piffy
Speaker 1: quotes today. All right, let's go on. Let us know
Speaker 1: how it goes though.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 1: Question three is from anonymous lady. And by the way,
Speaker 1: let me just take a minute here. Yeah, don't feel
Speaker 1: listeners that you have to say your name, because any
Speaker 1: question you're asking somebody else has the same question, So
Speaker 1: feel free write in anonymous will be happy to answer.
Speaker 2: You make up the name if you want to. We don't.
Speaker 2: We've had people say to us I am so glad
Speaker 2: on episodes such and such that they ask that question.
Speaker 2: That's something I really wanted to know but never would ask. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so you help other people there you go?
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 1: So Anonymous asks ladies, I need you to talk some
Speaker 1: sentence to me. Well, Anonymous, you have come to the
Speaker 1: right place. We are good at talking. Why do I
Speaker 1: keep Why do I keep going back to my ex?
Speaker 1: The sex isn't that great. I live in a big
Speaker 1: city and I'm young with no responsibilities, and yet I
Speaker 1: keep going back to him. Why do you think I'm
Speaker 1: always falling back into his arms? He's just as guilty
Speaker 1: in terms of keeping that door open, but honestly, he's
Speaker 1: not always the one initiating. What can I do to
Speaker 1: finally put an end to this? Thank you?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 1: Can I just answer this real quickly? What you can do.
Speaker 1: What you can do real quickly is not go back,
Speaker 1: tie your hands behind your back, put tape across your mouth,
Speaker 1: disconnect your phone.
Speaker 3: Don't do it. It's you know. People are that easy.
Speaker 3: It's that easy. People are go ahead.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Kathy, No I'm just gonna say, people just
Speaker 2: interrupted Kathy, but practicing all right, I'm.
Speaker 1: Just gonna say, people look for like magical things. Why
Speaker 1: do you keep going back?
Speaker 3: Hell? Have I know?
Speaker 1: You're in a secure it's comforteds you know the devil
Speaker 1: you know is better than the devil you don't know.
Speaker 1: There's another pithy quote. Whatever it is, it's not healthy,
Speaker 1: So why do you keep doing it? You got me
Speaker 1: stop doing it?
Speaker 2: Also, Well, first of all, the sex isn't great. I
Speaker 2: don't know why, but I'm just saying, sometimes you have
Speaker 2: great sex with somebody and they're not in your life,
Speaker 2: you're not together anymore, but you visit that because it's comfortable.
Speaker 2: You know it that I can understand. That could be
Speaker 2: an excuse if you will. But here nothing's good. Sometimes
Speaker 2: people just don't want to be alone. But my main
Speaker 2: thing that hits me why she shouldn't go back is
Speaker 2: because you're not open for someone else.
Speaker 3: Yeah right, Yeah, you.
Speaker 2: Have to close the door to be able to receive
Speaker 2: again and let somebody else in.
Speaker 1: But you know what's interesting is she's the one she said,
Speaker 1: He's not always the one initiating. But the question is
Speaker 1: very simple. You ask why do I keep going back
Speaker 1: to my ex because you think something is better than nothing.
Speaker 1: And as Susan Jess said, something is not always better
Speaker 1: than nothing. And sometimes you have to be alone for
Speaker 1: a spell so that you have time to open your
Speaker 1: heart and mind for something new. I think it's some
Speaker 1: insecurity here. You're afraid to be alone.
Speaker 2: I've been there, I've done it.
Speaker 3: I mean, I get nobody. I don't like being alone.
Speaker 3: We all would like.
Speaker 1: To have that person to share conversation with, dinner with
Speaker 1: a glass of wine, with all those things. But sometimes
Speaker 1: you have to be alone and let your mind just
Speaker 1: be silent and you're you know, so that you are
Speaker 1: open to meeting that next person.
Speaker 3: Right, so you know what.
Speaker 1: I again, Sometimes your brain, your mind, your body, you
Speaker 1: have to be silent and alone with your thoughts so
Speaker 1: that you can figure out how you got to where
Speaker 1: you got and how you want to plan your steps
Speaker 1: to get to where you want to be.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's just that simple. Sometimes it is.
Speaker 2: But we wish you luck and keep trying. You'll get there.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Well no, don't keep trying.
Speaker 2: Uh uh you avoid going back?
Speaker 1: No, don't keep trying, sad, just stop, just stop, that's right,
Speaker 1: Just do it.
Speaker 3: Just do it.
Speaker 1: Show them the door. That's right, show them the door
Speaker 1: and move on. All right, all right, we're ready. We've
Speaker 1: given all this great advice. I think we should play
Speaker 1: a game.
Speaker 2: Of course you do.
Speaker 3: I love games.
Speaker 1: We love This one is called deal Breakers Friendship Edition,
Speaker 1: because as everyone knows, Susan and I are very good friends.
Speaker 1: We're going to read hypotheticals and then we're going to
Speaker 1: say if we think it's a deal breaker. And I'm
Speaker 1: going to start with the first one, which is near
Speaker 1: and dear to us. Your friend shares a deep secret
Speaker 1: of yours with someone else after promising to keep it private.
Speaker 2: Guilty, guilty, Susan. I'm just and I don't do it
Speaker 2: immediate on purpose. It just ends up coming out.
Speaker 1: She never does it on purpose. But we've all learned
Speaker 1: since you're working, and we've also learned we have things
Speaker 1: we tell Susan and things we don't because.
Speaker 2: I asked them to. As you are about to say, please, please, no,
Speaker 2: don't tell me.
Speaker 1: Don't tell her because somebody else will call you and
Speaker 1: say such and such, and I'll say, where did you
Speaker 1: hear that, Susan. Next focus is a deal It's not
Speaker 1: with you? Because you're a dear friend. But if is
Speaker 1: it a deal breaker for you your friendship?
Speaker 2: No, it's not. You're disappointed and you talk to them
Speaker 2: and hope it doesn't happen again. I don't think it's
Speaker 2: a deal breaker.
Speaker 1: I mean it's I got to say, like, if there
Speaker 1: are other things about that person I'm you know, I love,
Speaker 1: that could be that that could be the straw that
Speaker 1: broke the Campbell's back.
Speaker 2: True. Okay, they lie to you about something small, but
Speaker 2: you only find out much later.
Speaker 3: I mean something small, I'm not what happens.
Speaker 2: And when you find out later that seed was planet,
Speaker 2: and then they trust things, you'll second guess whether to
Speaker 2: trust something but small, I mean, why lot if it's small.
Speaker 1: Because it was just inconsequential they I mean they probably
Speaker 1: didn't realize. I mean, if it's that small, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I'm sure I've loved but it wasn't a lie. It
Speaker 1: wasn't it ultimately turned out to be a lie.
Speaker 2: I'm sure I lied, but it wasn't a lie. I'm
Speaker 2: saying I didn't give me an example of what you're thinking.
Speaker 1: Uh, you said to me, Kathy, what did what did
Speaker 1: you do last night? And I'm just like, Oh, I
Speaker 1: stayed home, I was home most of the night, you
Speaker 1: know whatever, and I just I didn't think about it.
Speaker 1: My neighbor popular for a glass half an hour.
Speaker 2: Well, it turns it's just not giving them all the information.
Speaker 2: But I wouldn't call that lie. Well right, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't like that one.
Speaker 3: All right, let's move along.
Speaker 1: Then you find out they've been secretly hanging out with
Speaker 1: someone who openly dislikes you.
Speaker 3: That's their life.
Speaker 2: You find out they're secretly hanging out with somebody that
Speaker 2: dislikes you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's just say, let's say poor Nancy. We
Speaker 1: always use her as an example. Let's say let's say
Speaker 1: Nancy openly disliked me, which she doesn't, but let's say
Speaker 1: she did, and I found out that you're hanging out
Speaker 1: with Nancy. Well, so yeah, jach for I said, who
Speaker 1: cares you want to? You want to waste your time
Speaker 1: over that good for nothing Nancy? That's your problem.
Speaker 2: Okay, they date your ex without giving you a heads up.
Speaker 1: Okay, you and I are going to disagree on this one.
Speaker 2: How long was the ex? Number one?
Speaker 3: How long has he been an X?
Speaker 2: If it's been years, I would still have to mention it.
Speaker 2: If you're my friend, I'm going to say, you're not
Speaker 2: going to like this, or I want to know how
Speaker 2: you feel about it.
Speaker 1: But I've been chatting with I'm not if let's I mean,
Speaker 1: you and I have never dated the same man, but
Speaker 1: you know, let's use Gary since we had Gary on
Speaker 1: our podcast. Let's say you had dated Gary ten years ago,
Speaker 1: and I met Gary and I started dating dating him,
Speaker 1: I would not feel any compunction to tell you.
Speaker 3: I would probably say.
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying. It depends on the leg. Now,
Speaker 1: if if you had broke up, if you've broken up
Speaker 1: with Gary three months ago and I started damning, Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going to talk to you about it. I'm that's
Speaker 1: girl code. That is great, that's girl code. But if
Speaker 1: it's been a long time, who cares? All Right, what's
Speaker 1: the next one?
Speaker 2: Oh? Look at the next one?
Speaker 3: Kat.
Speaker 2: They pretend they don't know you in front of guys
Speaker 2: they have a crush on. How weird is that deal?
Speaker 2: Pretend you don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I would have to That would be a deal breaker
Speaker 1: because I would decide my friend is a weirdo.
Speaker 2: You got issues?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's issues, all right. They can't. Oh this
Speaker 1: one bugs the guitar out of me. They cancel plans
Speaker 1: with you last minute all the time, but never cancel
Speaker 1: on others. I have said the solution for this, what
Speaker 1: do you do?
Speaker 2: I'll never ask him again.
Speaker 1: I literally when someone cancels on me repeatedly, I don't
Speaker 1: want them anymore.
Speaker 3: I just don't invite them anymore.
Speaker 2: And I constantly get my feelings are hurt. You didn't
Speaker 2: even I said, you know what, it's an open invitation.
Speaker 2: You want to come, come, but I am not singly
Speaker 2: inviting you because you always say yes.
Speaker 1: Oh my lord, so many words, so many words, I see, so.
Speaker 2: Many words explain things.
Speaker 1: Oh lord, amighty, you don't need Just just don't do it,
Speaker 1: remember Nike, just do it two minutes ago. Just don't
Speaker 1: do it. Don't invite, don't invite. And then if she
Speaker 1: and then if she calls and says, Susan, you're going
Speaker 1: out with all the girls. Oh sorry, you want to
Speaker 1: come along, come along? Don't say I don't because you
Speaker 1: never saw you win.
Speaker 2: My feelings hurt you never. I've been inviting you for
Speaker 2: fifteen years. Fifteen years, you don't come twice and fifteen years.
Speaker 2: I'm done. Okay, this is no pun intended. They constantly
Speaker 2: interrupt you in conversations, and the second before it is
Speaker 2: not you at all. I never seemed to listen.
Speaker 1: Let me just say, if that were true, you and
Speaker 1: I would not be friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And you know what if somebody constantly interrupts,
Speaker 2: you bring it to their attention, that's all.
Speaker 1: And be kind because well, for oh, no, I've had
Speaker 1: I had a guy that uh would have said he'd
Speaker 1: a true story. I met a guy this was probably
Speaker 1: I don't know, a year and a half ago after
Speaker 1: the show, really nice guy, and we dated and when
Speaker 1: I get excited, I just I'm just like a puppy dog,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm exuberantly bubbly, even more so than normally.
Speaker 1: And I interrupted and after like this, I was so
Speaker 1: excited about this guy. He said to me, you are beautiful,
Speaker 1: you're smart, you're fun. I love your sense humor, but
Speaker 1: I can't deal with your interrupting.
Speaker 3: Yep.
Speaker 2: Some people are more sensitive to it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you know what I figured, this is what
Speaker 1: I told myself. If that if that, well it wouldn't work.
Speaker 1: But also if that was enough that he didn't want
Speaker 1: to get to know me anymore. Then he wasn't the
Speaker 1: right guy for me.
Speaker 2: That's exactly right, Dah, that's exactly right.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 1: They keep pushing you to do things they know you're
Speaker 1: uncomfortable with.
Speaker 3: It's not a deal breaker.
Speaker 2: Just saying no. Well, if you're uncomfortable, you say not interested.
Speaker 1: Or you just you know you. I mean, I pushed
Speaker 1: people to do things. And but usually they'll say something
Speaker 1: like and not a bad thing, I mean, just something
Speaker 1: fun or whatever.
Speaker 3: But what I'll say is.
Speaker 2: Well, what's fun to you?
Speaker 3: Right? And and that's exactly right.
Speaker 1: So they'll that's exactly They'll say something like, Kathy, that's
Speaker 1: not something I want to do, And I say, but
Speaker 1: I want you to try it. I don't want to
Speaker 1: do it, okay, like I just again, it's my puppy
Speaker 1: dog personality, Like, try it, you'll like it.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: You lend the money and they never pay you back,
Speaker 2: then act like it never happened. There's no such today,
Speaker 2: because I will tell them it happened. And you're going
Speaker 2: to get on a scale. I've had this happen many times.
Speaker 2: I called them every payday. It's a nightmare.
Speaker 3: I'll tell you.
Speaker 1: I don't lend money anymore because of this quick story.
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you a very she was in
Speaker 1: my wedding in high school. We don't talk anymore. She
Speaker 1: I won't in case she's listening. She asked me to
Speaker 1: borrow a pretty good sum of money, and she said,
Speaker 1: I can pay it back to you in full in
Speaker 1: six weeks when I get when I get my paycheck.
Speaker 1: I'm changing the timing a little bit, just because I.
Speaker 2: Don't you're holding her word to that.
Speaker 1: And we've known each other since high school, and we
Speaker 1: hadn't talked in many years, but we rekindled our friendship,
Speaker 1: and we'd been you know, we'd rekindled the friendship probably
Speaker 1: for a couple of years. When she asked me, she's
Speaker 1: had a tough life. She's had some you know, and
Speaker 1: I had a pretty blessed life. So I said sure.
Speaker 1: My husband was still alive and he said, but Kathy,
Speaker 1: you've got to get that money back. We can't give
Speaker 1: that kind of money, I said, I said, she said
Speaker 1: she'll get it back in six weeks. Six weeks came
Speaker 1: and went. I asked her two or three times. It
Speaker 1: got really ugly. I won't even tell you. She ultimately
Speaker 1: paid me back, but was really ugly about it, and thatship,
Speaker 1: and it was the beginning that. So now if I
Speaker 1: if you call me Susan and say, Kathy, can I
Speaker 1: borrow a hundred bucks? This was much more that I said. Exactly,
Speaker 1: I'm going to say, here you go, Susan, and hope
Speaker 1: I get it back. But if I don't, it's not
Speaker 1: the room of friendship. But I don't lend. I make
Speaker 1: it a practice not to really lend money anymore. I
Speaker 1: try not to do exactly unless it's my kids. And
Speaker 1: then you call it a gift.
Speaker 2: You never get it back. Christopher, he was pretty good.
Speaker 3: It's a gift, all right, go ahead.
Speaker 2: They always tease you in front of others and claim
Speaker 2: they're just joking, but they never do it in private.
Speaker 3: It's never a joke. You've heard me.
Speaker 2: Fun don't tease. I mean, it depends on what you're
Speaker 2: teasing about. No.
Speaker 1: No, if you're teasing someone, that other person probably feels
Speaker 1: self conscious or uncomfortable. So it's not a joke. It's
Speaker 1: not funny.
Speaker 2: It's just do I tease you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're not cruel about it. You don't tease
Speaker 1: me about something that I'm uncomfortable about.
Speaker 3: If you there's things that you know.
Speaker 1: Uh, I'll give you one example.
Speaker 3: The world knows.
Speaker 1: You don't tease me about my weight because you know
Speaker 1: that I'm uncomfortable about that.
Speaker 2: I tease you about your because you're so thin. And
Speaker 2: you see something different.
Speaker 3: No, you don't know.
Speaker 1: I got it, you see because it's not funny. And
Speaker 1: so I belly roll listen and Susan, Susan gets to
Speaker 1: go to the beach and where bikini. I have on
Speaker 1: bloomers and a long sleeve shirt. It's prothetic. It's that's true.
Speaker 2: Hey, everybody out there, are you enjoying this?
Speaker 3: I mean what you think?
Speaker 1: I just can't believe that the time goes so quickly.
Speaker 1: Is there anything going on in your life? We haven't
Speaker 1: had much catch up lately. Anything going on in your life?
Speaker 1: You want to talk about trying.
Speaker 2: From the surgery?
Speaker 1: Okay, but we've obviously had Can I can I break
Speaker 1: you up? Can I can I tell the world what's
Speaker 1: really going on about your wrist? You're gonna yell at me,
Speaker 1: what's yeah, let.
Speaker 3: Me just say.
Speaker 1: Let me just say, Susan, you can you can argue, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: we all know how it happens. She's boots. But here's
Speaker 1: the thing. As you all know, I broke my risk
Speaker 1: the exact same way. When I broke my wrist. My
Speaker 1: doctor had it wrapped tightly, had me in a sling,
Speaker 1: said don't don't do anything that could hurt your wrist.
Speaker 1: You know, it's very delicate till the pins and everything heals.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you this girl, it's got the sling, off,
Speaker 1: has had the bandage, off, has been out dancing, cleaning
Speaker 1: the house, and she goes.
Speaker 3: Kathy, my arm hurt so much, it's swollowen, swollen.
Speaker 1: You know what I don't. She doesn't follow doctor's orders,
Speaker 1: and in fact, she said to me, I'm going to
Speaker 1: call the doctor. I said, why the hell would you
Speaker 1: call the doctor?
Speaker 3: The minute he says, you know, is it in a sling? No?
Speaker 3: Are you using to do much?
Speaker 2: He didn't told me to wear the sling. If I
Speaker 2: was around a crowd of people.
Speaker 1: Hey, Susan, you were out dancing two nights ago. Did
Speaker 1: you wear the sling?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: She did not.
Speaker 2: It was Sunday fun day, just a couple of hours.
Speaker 1: It's only a couple of hours people going to So
Speaker 1: this is how sus.
Speaker 2: Sorry for myself. God, this sucks.
Speaker 3: I do not feel sorry for you.
Speaker 2: Not to you do your hair, your makeup, take a shower.
Speaker 2: This armpit over here, if somebody didn't come over and
Speaker 2: shape it would really there. It's a nightmare, people.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, Susan does not follow the doctor's orders.
Speaker 1: I'm ratting you out to Bachelor Nation.
Speaker 3: We love you.
Speaker 2: Made to be broken anyhow.
Speaker 3: Ruthor made to be broken? All right.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to say here that is gonna
Speaker 1: wrap it up. It's been so much fun. Please thank
Speaker 1: y'all for joining us.
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