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No, it's not question at the daytime. 31 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:34,119 Speaker 2: Question of the day. Have you ever had to break 32 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 2: out of a bad habit, whether it's biting your nails 33 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 2: or repeating generational curses? And how did you do it? 34 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 3: Okay? What's the bad habit you've broken? Susan? Tell me, 35 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 3: I don't know. 36 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 2: That I ever fully break them. I to do something 37 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 2: bad habit was I was addicted to potato chips and 38 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 2: I gave it up for lent last year and I succeeded. 39 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: Oh but you've been eating potato chips. 40 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 2: It's a new year. 41 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 3: It's a new lens, a new level. 42 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 2: I never was a nail bier. Thing for me was 43 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 2: smoking and it is still well. 44 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, you fight it, you try, but you fight it. Okay. 45 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: Can I tell a horrible story, but you have to 46 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: go to start today? You please, bachination, do not write 47 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:27,399 Speaker 1: in time. I'm a terrible mother. I have judgments. It's 48 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: going to be everyone's going to judge me, but I'm 49 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 1: going to my son, my middle son, the one that 50 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: you married. They just had their first anniversary, Kyle and can'd. 51 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 3: Did you? I bet they loved that. 52 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: So when Kyle was a kid, he bit his nails 53 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: down to the quick. I'm just going to start by 54 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: telling you he still bites his nails down like. I 55 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: can't even look at his hands, it's so bad. So 56 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: I decided, uh, because I was crazy, not really, but 57 00:02:59,120 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: I did this. 58 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 3: Are you ready? I painted his nails, yes, with nail 59 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,399 Speaker 3: polish it burns right. 60 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: No, a color nail polish, and made him go to 61 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:12,079 Speaker 1: school because. 62 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 3: Because that's a lot. Friend, what color pink? 63 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: No? 64 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 3: I don't remember. 65 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 2: I think I would think it was like, tell me, 66 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 2: why what did that? 67 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: Because I read somewhere it wasn't. It wasn't me being like, 68 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 1: you know, vicious, horrible mother, although I was I deemed 69 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: to be. I read somewhere I just had nail posh. 70 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: I don't remember what color was. I didn't go out 71 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: and say, you know, what's the most garish color I 72 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: can buy and stick it on his hands. But I 73 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: read somewhere that if you put nail posh on a 74 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: kid's nails the taste, they won't bite their nails. So 75 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: I thought, okay, Well, I didn't think it through clearly and. 76 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 3: Eighteen. 77 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 2: That's good. 78 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: I'm joking. He was in second grade or third grade. 79 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 3: Anyway. 80 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: It was an awfully to this day, Kyle, if you're listening, 81 00:04:06,480 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: I still apologize. I hope you have forgiven me. You know, 82 00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: his nails. I know it's awful. 83 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 2: Please don't just say one thing could us clear? He's 84 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 2: a boy in school, clear with words. 85 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: It didn't work, That's what I'm telling you. He bit 86 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: it all off. I mean I probably poisoned. He poisoned 87 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: him anyway. 88 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 2: But there are things out there that you put on 89 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 2: and nail to help people. 90 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, whatever it is, trust and believe me, it 91 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: did not work. He still chomps on his tail. I 92 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: can say for myself my worst habit. I know I'm embarrassed. 93 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: Please don't write mean things in I really have guilt 94 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 1: over it. 95 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 2: I really. 96 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:50,479 Speaker 1: My worst habit is interrupting. I think that is my 97 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: worst habit I've had guys I've dated. I am so 98 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,599 Speaker 1: now I'm so much more aware of it. What I 99 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: try to do. And I know you and I interrupt 100 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 1: each other on the podcast, but we've gotten better. I 101 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: really try to wait until the person stops talking, and 102 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: you know sometimes they're just taking a breath, but it's 103 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: really hard to cure a bad happen. 104 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 3: It certainly Okay, what's your story? 105 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:24,119 Speaker 2: And for me it was listening. I am now way 106 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 2: more in tune because and then you know, when someone's 107 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 2: talking and the thought comes to your head, they trigger something, 108 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 2: you want to blurt it out. Yes, I try to 109 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 2: work on it every day. Slow your role. My fear 110 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 2: is and the reason I believe that I've learned out 111 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 2: because I'm going to forget. 112 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 3: That's why interrupt you. Yes, exactly, I'm gonna forget. 113 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 1: And how many times when you and I are on 114 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: the phone, you know, we'll have a four way call 115 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 1: going with Nancy and Joan and whoever is and then 116 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: I won't say I'm not gonna interrupt, and then you'll say, 117 00:05:57,680 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: someone say, okay, Kathy, what did you want to say? 118 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 3: I don't remember. 119 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 2: I don't remember, Or I'll say, excuse me, can I 120 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 2: get this out? Because I don't say that it's never 121 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:10,159 Speaker 2: going to happen. But no, I remember as a child 122 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 2: like I was a bedwetter for me too, were you? 123 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: I absolutely was until I was about twelve or twelve 124 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: probably twelve. 125 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:21,119 Speaker 2: I don't know that it was me that broke that habit, 126 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 2: or my mom beats the shit out of me. 127 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: No, that's not a habit. Wedding the bed was No, 128 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: it's not. That is not a habit. That is a habit. 129 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 3: It's not a habit, running late, running away. Listen to me. Wait, 130 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 3: I'm going to interrupt. 131 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:37,839 Speaker 2: It's going to teach me about habits. 132 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,600 Speaker 1: If you sit on your bed and say I think 133 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 1: i'll pee on my bed, that would be a bad habit. 134 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: If you are sleep dead, sleep and you pee, it's 135 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:53,039 Speaker 1: because your it's not a habit. Your body can't wake up, 136 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: you don't have good maturity. So that's not a bad habit. 137 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:58,920 Speaker 2: So we must not have any bad habits. 138 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 3: Can be interrupt. 139 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 2: You people out there, what are your bad habits and 140 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 2: how did you overcome them? 141 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, please let us know what is a bad habit 142 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: you have? And again, no comments about my son. He's fine, 143 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: he's happily married. 144 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 2: That was so cute though she didn't even think of clear. 145 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 2: Why would she think of it? 146 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: You know, I just started wearing nails myself a few 147 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: years ago. I don't I made you get the nails 148 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: before because you're sep. 149 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:28,440 Speaker 2: Your hands look beautiful. 150 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 3: Thank you. 151 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: All Right, we're gonna get into our fan questions today. 152 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna read the first one. I can't wait. 153 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:42,240 Speaker 3: All right. 154 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: The first one is from Tanya. Hi, ladies, I need 155 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: some advice. My best friend is a serial dater and 156 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: I really think it's wayne on her mental health. We're 157 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: both twenty eight years old and she's never been single. 158 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be concerned if she just happened to find 159 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: really great guy, but that's not the case. These relationships 160 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: always end up sucking the life out of her and 161 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: she just jumps into another one instead of healing from 162 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: the last. How do I help her break out of this? 163 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: You can't, I was gonna say, let's say in Unison 164 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: one more time. 165 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 2: You can't. 166 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 3: She's going to do it herself. 167 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 2: I mean, you could bring light to it and remind her. 168 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 2: I mean, Kathy, you yourself said to me about my 169 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 2: choices or things like that, take a break, take a 170 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 2: break and look at you. And as we both said, 171 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 2: that show The Golden Bachelor, when I went on there 172 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 2: because I was on all kinds of dating sites and such, 173 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 2: that show cured me, not forever. But wait, I stopped looking. 174 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 2: I stopped looking. I was okay with me and the 175 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 2: beautiful new friendships I have. 176 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: And that's because you had the life lesson, Susan. That's 177 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 1: the point here, the point I think this girl, Tanya, 178 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: your friend, it's about her. 179 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 3: It's not even about the guys. 180 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: The guys could be the most fabulous men on the earth, 181 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: it's not about them. It really is about her. For 182 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: whatever reason, she can't be alone, is afraid to be alone. 183 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: Isn't a complete person finds her completeness in a man 184 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 1: instead of finding her completeness in herself and then looking 185 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: for a man to compliment her. You know, it's her 186 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 1: problem to figure out. So maybe my suggestion would be, 187 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: maybe you could have those kinds of conversations with her. 188 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: You know what's wrong? Why do you not feel complete? 189 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:41,680 Speaker 1: Maybe you need to look at that. 190 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 2: Ask And Tanya's saying she really thinks it's weighing on 191 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:50,600 Speaker 2: her mental health, the girlfriend's mental health. Yeah, and that's 192 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 2: all you have to bring up. Like I'm noticing, this 193 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 2: is ruining you, it's stressing you out. Take time for 194 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:02,000 Speaker 2: you and Tanya, I'll say, and she'll just say five 195 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 2: words and it'll be done body being better back. 196 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: Wait, I was going to say, if these guys they're 197 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:11,080 Speaker 1: twenty eight. Unfortunately, I was going to say, could she 198 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: send some of her surplus my way? 199 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 2: I want to know how she gets one really quick 200 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:16,560 Speaker 2: right after the other one. 201 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, Tanya, you're a good friend. Let us know what happens. 202 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:23,439 Speaker 1: Have the conversation with her. Yes, but in the end, 203 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: she has to want to stop being a serial dater 204 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:29,559 Speaker 1: and figure out what's going on in her own life. 205 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 2: Yes she does, but thank you and let us know. Yeah, 206 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 2: we can't take her leftover scouts, she's too young. 207 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 3: Okay. 208 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,320 Speaker 2: The next one I got the and Susan, I'm freaking out. 209 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 3: Lol. 210 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 2: The other day I was in a tiff with my boyfriend. 211 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 2: Suddenly I caught myself using the same tactics that my 212 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 2: mom used to use on me when I was a teenager. 213 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 2: I love my mom and I think she's great, but 214 00:10:56,720 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 2: this made me realize that I'm doing a lot of 215 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 2: the things I once resented her for. I said, I'm 216 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 2: just gonna go during that tip and flashback to when 217 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 2: I was a kid and she would say that to me. 218 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:15,960 Speaker 2: It made me sick to my stomach. How do I 219 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 2: avoid becoming just like my mom. When it comes to 220 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 2: the negative qualities I observed of her, they might not 221 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:26,440 Speaker 2: be negative, girlfriend, that might just be a life lesson. 222 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 2: I gave me joy the day my daughter called me 223 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,720 Speaker 2: up and said, Mom, thank you, thank you. When I 224 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 2: hear her doing the same things, I will tell you 225 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 2: I did not want to be like my mother. 226 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: Because my mother was not the nicest person on the planet. 227 00:11:44,480 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: And so I just answer the simple answer to her is, 228 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: how do you avoid becoming just like your mom? Well, 229 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 1: like Susan said, maybe some of her qualities are good. 230 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 1: If the qualities are negative and you really think they're negative, 231 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 1: think before you speak, you speak, think before you act. 232 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:05,959 Speaker 1: You know, we've took this how many times in our life. 233 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:08,880 Speaker 1: If you all would just stop and. 234 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,959 Speaker 2: Think for xaty, I still try. I mean, I still 235 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 2: do it. I get it. Yeah, you just pause. 236 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:18,520 Speaker 1: Yes, but I will agree with Susan my daughter, since she, 237 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:22,319 Speaker 1: or my youngest granddaughter, is almost two years old, I 238 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:25,199 Speaker 1: have become much smarter in my daughter's eyes over the 239 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:28,199 Speaker 1: last two ye Yes, so amazing. They say that your 240 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:31,880 Speaker 1: IQ diminishes. Not in my daughter's eyes. Mind is just escalated. 241 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,679 Speaker 1: Year two years ago, I got smart. I don't want 242 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: to say about that. 243 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 2: And you know I noticed that she said she resented 244 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 2: her mom because of that. Well, maybe you were doing 245 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 2: things that you needed to be reprimanded for or talked 246 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 2: to about and you didn't like it, just like your boyfriend, 247 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:53,720 Speaker 2: you found yourself saying because he did something that wasn't 248 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 2: okay with you. 249 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 1: And like Susan said, maybe maybe mama knew exactly what 250 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: she was say And rethink this one, baby, rethink it, 251 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 1: rethink it. 252 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 3: Let us know. 253 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 1: And by the way, if the boyfriend is not worth keeping, 254 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 1: don't try to drag out a thing that ain't worth 255 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 1: keeping showing. 256 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 2: The door jingle to it. 257 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 1: I say, here, here's a better jingle. Here's your hat, 258 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:27,559 Speaker 1: what's your hurry? Yeah, that was when I said that 259 00:13:27,600 --> 00:13:29,960 Speaker 1: in the last one. I'm full of these little piffy 260 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:33,800 Speaker 1: quotes today. All right, let's go on. Let us know 261 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: how it goes though. 262 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 3: All right. 263 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:38,280 Speaker 1: Question three is from anonymous lady. And by the way, 264 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 1: let me just take a minute here. Yeah, don't feel 265 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 1: listeners that you have to say your name, because any 266 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:48,199 Speaker 1: question you're asking somebody else has the same question, So 267 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: feel free write in anonymous will be happy to answer. 268 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 2: You make up the name if you want to. We don't. 269 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:57,760 Speaker 2: We've had people say to us I am so glad 270 00:13:57,840 --> 00:14:01,000 Speaker 2: on episodes such and such that they ask that question. 271 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:04,679 Speaker 2: That's something I really wanted to know but never would ask. Yeah, 272 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 2: so you help other people there you go? 273 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 3: All right? 274 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 1: So Anonymous asks ladies, I need you to talk some 275 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 1: sentence to me. Well, Anonymous, you have come to the 276 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:19,240 Speaker 1: right place. We are good at talking. Why do I 277 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,800 Speaker 1: keep Why do I keep going back to my ex? 278 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 1: The sex isn't that great. I live in a big 279 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 1: city and I'm young with no responsibilities, and yet I 280 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: keep going back to him. Why do you think I'm 281 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 1: always falling back into his arms? He's just as guilty 282 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: in terms of keeping that door open, but honestly, he's 283 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: not always the one initiating. What can I do to 284 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:46,880 Speaker 1: finally put an end to this? Thank you? 285 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 3: Well? 286 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: Can I just answer this real quickly? What you can do. 287 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 1: What you can do real quickly is not go back, 288 00:14:56,120 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 1: tie your hands behind your back, put tape across your mouth, 289 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 1: disconnect your phone. 290 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:05,240 Speaker 3: Don't do it. It's you know. People are that easy. 291 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 3: It's that easy. People are go ahead. 292 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Kathy, No I'm just gonna say, people just 293 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 2: interrupted Kathy, but practicing all right, I'm. 294 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:18,240 Speaker 1: Just gonna say, people look for like magical things. Why 295 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 1: do you keep going back? 296 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 3: Hell? Have I know? 297 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,680 Speaker 1: You're in a secure it's comforteds you know the devil 298 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 1: you know is better than the devil you don't know. 299 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: There's another pithy quote. Whatever it is, it's not healthy, 300 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: So why do you keep doing it? You got me 301 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 1: stop doing it? 302 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 2: Also, Well, first of all, the sex isn't great. I 303 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 2: don't know why, but I'm just saying, sometimes you have 304 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 2: great sex with somebody and they're not in your life, 305 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:47,520 Speaker 2: you're not together anymore, but you visit that because it's comfortable. 306 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 2: You know it that I can understand. That could be 307 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 2: an excuse if you will. But here nothing's good. Sometimes 308 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 2: people just don't want to be alone. But my main 309 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 2: thing that hits me why she shouldn't go back is 310 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 2: because you're not open for someone else. 311 00:16:05,880 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 3: Yeah right, Yeah, you. 312 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 2: Have to close the door to be able to receive 313 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 2: again and let somebody else in. 314 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 1: But you know what's interesting is she's the one she said, 315 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 1: He's not always the one initiating. But the question is 316 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 1: very simple. You ask why do I keep going back 317 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:28,680 Speaker 1: to my ex because you think something is better than nothing. 318 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 1: And as Susan Jess said, something is not always better 319 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: than nothing. And sometimes you have to be alone for 320 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: a spell so that you have time to open your 321 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: heart and mind for something new. I think it's some 322 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: insecurity here. You're afraid to be alone. 323 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 2: I've been there, I've done it. 324 00:16:49,240 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 3: I mean, I get nobody. I don't like being alone. 325 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 3: We all would like. 326 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 1: To have that person to share conversation with, dinner with 327 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 1: a glass of wine, with all those things. But sometimes 328 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,200 Speaker 1: you have to be alone and let your mind just 329 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: be silent and you're you know, so that you are 330 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 1: open to meeting that next person. 331 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 3: Right, so you know what. 332 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:20,600 Speaker 1: I again, Sometimes your brain, your mind, your body, you 333 00:17:20,640 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 1: have to be silent and alone with your thoughts so 334 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: that you can figure out how you got to where 335 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 1: you got and how you want to plan your steps 336 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:31,119 Speaker 1: to get to where you want to be. 337 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:33,399 Speaker 3: I mean, it's just that simple. Sometimes it is. 338 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,480 Speaker 2: But we wish you luck and keep trying. You'll get there. 339 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:38,639 Speaker 3: Yeah. Well no, don't keep trying. 340 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:41,399 Speaker 2: Uh uh you avoid going back? 341 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 1: No, don't keep trying, sad, just stop, just stop, that's right, 342 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:46,400 Speaker 1: Just do it. 343 00:17:46,840 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 3: Just do it. 344 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 1: Show them the door. That's right, show them the door 345 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 1: and move on. All right, all right, we're ready. We've 346 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 1: given all this great advice. I think we should play 347 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 1: a game. 348 00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:58,159 Speaker 2: Of course you do. 349 00:17:58,600 --> 00:17:59,840 Speaker 3: I love games. 350 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:04,440 Speaker 1: We love This one is called deal Breakers Friendship Edition, 351 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 1: because as everyone knows, Susan and I are very good friends. 352 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 1: We're going to read hypotheticals and then we're going to 353 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: say if we think it's a deal breaker. And I'm 354 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:17,800 Speaker 1: going to start with the first one, which is near 355 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: and dear to us. Your friend shares a deep secret 356 00:18:23,080 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 1: of yours with someone else after promising to keep it private. 357 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:32,920 Speaker 2: Guilty, guilty, Susan. I'm just and I don't do it 358 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,640 Speaker 2: immediate on purpose. It just ends up coming out. 359 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:38,360 Speaker 1: She never does it on purpose. But we've all learned 360 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 1: since you're working, and we've also learned we have things 361 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:46,400 Speaker 1: we tell Susan and things we don't because. 362 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 2: I asked them to. As you are about to say, please, please, no, 363 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 2: don't tell me. 364 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: Don't tell her because somebody else will call you and 365 00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:58,679 Speaker 1: say such and such, and I'll say, where did you 366 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: hear that, Susan. Next focus is a deal It's not 367 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,560 Speaker 1: with you? Because you're a dear friend. But if is 368 00:19:06,560 --> 00:19:09,200 Speaker 1: it a deal breaker for you your friendship? 369 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,720 Speaker 2: No, it's not. You're disappointed and you talk to them 370 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:14,280 Speaker 2: and hope it doesn't happen again. I don't think it's 371 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:15,080 Speaker 2: a deal breaker. 372 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 1: I mean it's I got to say, like, if there 373 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 1: are other things about that person I'm you know, I love, 374 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 1: that could be that that could be the straw that 375 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:25,920 Speaker 1: broke the Campbell's back. 376 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:31,679 Speaker 2: True. Okay, they lie to you about something small, but 377 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 2: you only find out much later. 378 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 3: I mean something small, I'm not what happens. 379 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 2: And when you find out later that seed was planet, 380 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:48,199 Speaker 2: and then they trust things, you'll second guess whether to 381 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:53,520 Speaker 2: trust something but small, I mean, why lot if it's small. 382 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 1: Because it was just inconsequential they I mean they probably 383 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: didn't realize. I mean, if it's that small, I wouldn't. 384 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: I'm sure I've loved but it wasn't a lie. It 385 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 1: wasn't it ultimately turned out to be a lie. 386 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 2: I'm sure I lied, but it wasn't a lie. I'm 387 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 2: saying I didn't give me an example of what you're thinking. 388 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:14,960 Speaker 1: Uh, you said to me, Kathy, what did what did 389 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:16,720 Speaker 1: you do last night? And I'm just like, Oh, I 390 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 1: stayed home, I was home most of the night, you 391 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,879 Speaker 1: know whatever, and I just I didn't think about it. 392 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: My neighbor popular for a glass half an hour. 393 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:29,160 Speaker 2: Well, it turns it's just not giving them all the information. 394 00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:34,040 Speaker 2: But I wouldn't call that lie. Well right, I don't know. 395 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:34,879 Speaker 2: I don't like that one. 396 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 3: All right, let's move along. 397 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: Then you find out they've been secretly hanging out with 398 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 1: someone who openly dislikes you. 399 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 3: That's their life. 400 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 2: You find out they're secretly hanging out with somebody that 401 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:51,440 Speaker 2: dislikes you. 402 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's just say, let's say poor Nancy. We 403 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,880 Speaker 1: always use her as an example. Let's say let's say 404 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: Nancy openly disliked me, which she doesn't, but let's say 405 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,199 Speaker 1: she did, and I found out that you're hanging out 406 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 1: with Nancy. Well, so yeah, jach for I said, who 407 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,680 Speaker 1: cares you want to? You want to waste your time 408 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 1: over that good for nothing Nancy? That's your problem. 409 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,239 Speaker 2: Okay, they date your ex without giving you a heads up. 410 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:24,359 Speaker 1: Okay, you and I are going to disagree on this one. 411 00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:28,160 Speaker 2: How long was the ex? Number one? 412 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 3: How long has he been an X? 413 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 2: If it's been years, I would still have to mention it. 414 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:36,960 Speaker 2: If you're my friend, I'm going to say, you're not 415 00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:38,480 Speaker 2: going to like this, or I want to know how 416 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 2: you feel about it. 417 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 1: But I've been chatting with I'm not if let's I mean, 418 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:46,760 Speaker 1: you and I have never dated the same man, but 419 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: you know, let's use Gary since we had Gary on 420 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: our podcast. Let's say you had dated Gary ten years ago, 421 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:59,000 Speaker 1: and I met Gary and I started dating dating him, 422 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:01,240 Speaker 1: I would not feel any compunction to tell you. 423 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,680 Speaker 3: I would probably say. 424 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,640 Speaker 1: And that's what I'm saying. It depends on the leg. Now, 425 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: if if you had broke up, if you've broken up 426 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:12,600 Speaker 1: with Gary three months ago and I started damning, Oh yeah, 427 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 1: I'm going to talk to you about it. I'm that's 428 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:18,800 Speaker 1: girl code. That is great, that's girl code. But if 429 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:22,400 Speaker 1: it's been a long time, who cares? All Right, what's 430 00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:22,960 Speaker 1: the next one? 431 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 2: Oh? Look at the next one? 432 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 3: Kat. 433 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,840 Speaker 2: They pretend they don't know you in front of guys 434 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 2: they have a crush on. How weird is that deal? 435 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:37,919 Speaker 2: Pretend you don't know, I don't know. 436 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:39,400 Speaker 1: I would have to That would be a deal breaker 437 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,159 Speaker 1: because I would decide my friend is a weirdo. 438 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 2: You got issues? 439 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:47,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's issues, all right. They can't. Oh this 440 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 1: one bugs the guitar out of me. They cancel plans 441 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:56,160 Speaker 1: with you last minute all the time, but never cancel 442 00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 1: on others. I have said the solution for this, what 443 00:22:59,320 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: do you do? 444 00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:01,520 Speaker 2: I'll never ask him again. 445 00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:07,119 Speaker 1: I literally when someone cancels on me repeatedly, I don't 446 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 1: want them anymore. 447 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 3: I just don't invite them anymore. 448 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,800 Speaker 2: And I constantly get my feelings are hurt. You didn't 449 00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 2: even I said, you know what, it's an open invitation. 450 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:19,880 Speaker 2: You want to come, come, but I am not singly 451 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 2: inviting you because you always say yes. 452 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 1: Oh my lord, so many words, so many words, I see, so. 453 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 2: Many words explain things. 454 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:37,680 Speaker 1: Oh lord, amighty, you don't need Just just don't do it, 455 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:41,359 Speaker 1: remember Nike, just do it two minutes ago. Just don't 456 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 1: do it. Don't invite, don't invite. And then if she 457 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:49,160 Speaker 1: and then if she calls and says, Susan, you're going 458 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:50,879 Speaker 1: out with all the girls. Oh sorry, you want to 459 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 1: come along, come along? Don't say I don't because you 460 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 1: never saw you win. 461 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,119 Speaker 2: My feelings hurt you never. I've been inviting you for 462 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,720 Speaker 2: fifteen years. Fifteen years, you don't come twice and fifteen years. 463 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 2: I'm done. Okay, this is no pun intended. They constantly 464 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:13,680 Speaker 2: interrupt you in conversations, and the second before it is 465 00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 2: not you at all. I never seemed to listen. 466 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:17,439 Speaker 1: Let me just say, if that were true, you and 467 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 1: I would not be friends. 468 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:21,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And you know what if somebody constantly interrupts, 469 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 2: you bring it to their attention, that's all. 470 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:28,160 Speaker 1: And be kind because well, for oh, no, I've had 471 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,200 Speaker 1: I had a guy that uh would have said he'd 472 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:36,560 Speaker 1: a true story. I met a guy this was probably 473 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:38,120 Speaker 1: I don't know, a year and a half ago after 474 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:44,240 Speaker 1: the show, really nice guy, and we dated and when 475 00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:48,440 Speaker 1: I get excited, I just I'm just like a puppy dog, 476 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,880 Speaker 1: you know, I'm exuberantly bubbly, even more so than normally. 477 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:55,560 Speaker 1: And I interrupted and after like this, I was so 478 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 1: excited about this guy. He said to me, you are beautiful, 479 00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,800 Speaker 1: you're smart, you're fun. I love your sense humor, but 480 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:04,440 Speaker 1: I can't deal with your interrupting. 481 00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:05,720 Speaker 3: Yep. 482 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,000 Speaker 2: Some people are more sensitive to it. 483 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you know what I figured, this is what 484 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: I told myself. If that if that, well it wouldn't work. 485 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: But also if that was enough that he didn't want 486 00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 1: to get to know me anymore. Then he wasn't the 487 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:20,639 Speaker 1: right guy for me. 488 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,359 Speaker 2: That's exactly right, Dah, that's exactly right. 489 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 3: All right. 490 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:28,680 Speaker 1: They keep pushing you to do things they know you're 491 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:29,760 Speaker 1: uncomfortable with. 492 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:33,080 Speaker 3: It's not a deal breaker. 493 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:38,480 Speaker 2: Just saying no. Well, if you're uncomfortable, you say not interested. 494 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,600 Speaker 1: Or you just you know you. I mean, I pushed 495 00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 1: people to do things. And but usually they'll say something 496 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,840 Speaker 1: like and not a bad thing, I mean, just something 497 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 1: fun or whatever. 498 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:50,120 Speaker 3: But what I'll say is. 499 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,400 Speaker 2: Well, what's fun to you? 500 00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,840 Speaker 3: Right? And and that's exactly right. 501 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: So they'll that's exactly They'll say something like, Kathy, that's 502 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,199 Speaker 1: not something I want to do, And I say, but 503 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: I want you to try it. I don't want to 504 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 1: do it, okay, like I just again, it's my puppy 505 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,359 Speaker 1: dog personality, Like, try it, you'll like it. 506 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:08,200 Speaker 3: Okay. 507 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 2: You lend the money and they never pay you back, 508 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:16,840 Speaker 2: then act like it never happened. There's no such today, 509 00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,560 Speaker 2: because I will tell them it happened. And you're going 510 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:23,080 Speaker 2: to get on a scale. I've had this happen many times. 511 00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:25,840 Speaker 2: I called them every payday. It's a nightmare. 512 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:27,160 Speaker 3: I'll tell you. 513 00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 1: I don't lend money anymore because of this quick story. 514 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,879 Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you a very she was in 515 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: my wedding in high school. We don't talk anymore. She 516 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 1: I won't in case she's listening. She asked me to 517 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 1: borrow a pretty good sum of money, and she said, 518 00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,040 Speaker 1: I can pay it back to you in full in 519 00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:53,359 Speaker 1: six weeks when I get when I get my paycheck. 520 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,720 Speaker 1: I'm changing the timing a little bit, just because I. 521 00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:57,280 Speaker 2: Don't you're holding her word to that. 522 00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:00,439 Speaker 1: And we've known each other since high school, and we 523 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,280 Speaker 1: hadn't talked in many years, but we rekindled our friendship, 524 00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,680 Speaker 1: and we'd been you know, we'd rekindled the friendship probably 525 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 1: for a couple of years. When she asked me, she's 526 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,439 Speaker 1: had a tough life. She's had some you know, and 527 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,720 Speaker 1: I had a pretty blessed life. So I said sure. 528 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 1: My husband was still alive and he said, but Kathy, 529 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 1: you've got to get that money back. We can't give 530 00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:22,880 Speaker 1: that kind of money, I said, I said, she said 531 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,440 Speaker 1: she'll get it back in six weeks. Six weeks came 532 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:29,200 Speaker 1: and went. I asked her two or three times. It 533 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:34,119 Speaker 1: got really ugly. I won't even tell you. She ultimately 534 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:39,000 Speaker 1: paid me back, but was really ugly about it, and thatship, 535 00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:42,440 Speaker 1: and it was the beginning that. So now if I 536 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,080 Speaker 1: if you call me Susan and say, Kathy, can I 537 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 1: borrow a hundred bucks? This was much more that I said. Exactly, 538 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,040 Speaker 1: I'm going to say, here you go, Susan, and hope 539 00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:52,800 Speaker 1: I get it back. But if I don't, it's not 540 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,199 Speaker 1: the room of friendship. But I don't lend. I make 541 00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,840 Speaker 1: it a practice not to really lend money anymore. I 542 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,639 Speaker 1: try not to do exactly unless it's my kids. And 543 00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 1: then you call it a gift. 544 00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,400 Speaker 2: You never get it back. Christopher, he was pretty good. 545 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,200 Speaker 3: It's a gift, all right, go ahead. 546 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,000 Speaker 2: They always tease you in front of others and claim 547 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:16,280 Speaker 2: they're just joking, but they never do it in private. 548 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:18,199 Speaker 3: It's never a joke. You've heard me. 549 00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:21,400 Speaker 2: Fun don't tease. I mean, it depends on what you're 550 00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:23,480 Speaker 2: teasing about. No. 551 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 1: No, if you're teasing someone, that other person probably feels 552 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:32,840 Speaker 1: self conscious or uncomfortable. So it's not a joke. It's 553 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:33,640 Speaker 1: not funny. 554 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,840 Speaker 2: It's just do I tease you? 555 00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:40,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're not cruel about it. You don't tease 556 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,520 Speaker 1: me about something that I'm uncomfortable about. 557 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 3: If you there's things that you know. 558 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 1: Uh, I'll give you one example. 559 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 3: The world knows. 560 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,120 Speaker 1: You don't tease me about my weight because you know 561 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 1: that I'm uncomfortable about that. 562 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,840 Speaker 2: I tease you about your because you're so thin. And 563 00:28:57,880 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 2: you see something different. 564 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:01,360 Speaker 3: No, you don't know. 565 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,440 Speaker 1: I got it, you see because it's not funny. And 566 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:10,360 Speaker 1: so I belly roll listen and Susan, Susan gets to 567 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: go to the beach and where bikini. I have on 568 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 1: bloomers and a long sleeve shirt. It's prothetic. It's that's true. 569 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,080 Speaker 2: Hey, everybody out there, are you enjoying this? 570 00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 3: I mean what you think? 571 00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,520 Speaker 1: I just can't believe that the time goes so quickly. 572 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 1: Is there anything going on in your life? We haven't 573 00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,200 Speaker 1: had much catch up lately. Anything going on in your life? 574 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 1: You want to talk about trying. 575 00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:31,360 Speaker 2: From the surgery? 576 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,800 Speaker 1: Okay, but we've obviously had Can I can I break 577 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 1: you up? Can I can I tell the world what's 578 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 1: really going on about your wrist? You're gonna yell at me, 579 00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 1: what's yeah, let. 580 00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 3: Me just say. 581 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:47,360 Speaker 1: Let me just say, Susan, you can you can argue, well, yeah, 582 00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,560 Speaker 1: we all know how it happens. She's boots. But here's 583 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 1: the thing. As you all know, I broke my risk 584 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,000 Speaker 1: the exact same way. When I broke my wrist. My 585 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,560 Speaker 1: doctor had it wrapped tightly, had me in a sling, 586 00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:01,920 Speaker 1: said don't don't do anything that could hurt your wrist. 587 00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: You know, it's very delicate till the pins and everything heals. 588 00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 1: Can I tell you this girl, it's got the sling, off, 589 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:11,400 Speaker 1: has had the bandage, off, has been out dancing, cleaning 590 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 1: the house, and she goes. 591 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:15,720 Speaker 3: Kathy, my arm hurt so much, it's swollowen, swollen. 592 00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:20,959 Speaker 1: You know what I don't. She doesn't follow doctor's orders, 593 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:22,640 Speaker 1: and in fact, she said to me, I'm going to 594 00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,600 Speaker 1: call the doctor. I said, why the hell would you 595 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:25,280 Speaker 1: call the doctor? 596 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:29,000 Speaker 3: The minute he says, you know, is it in a sling? No? 597 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:30,760 Speaker 3: Are you using to do much? 598 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,960 Speaker 2: He didn't told me to wear the sling. If I 599 00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:37,160 Speaker 2: was around a crowd of people. 600 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,320 Speaker 1: Hey, Susan, you were out dancing two nights ago. Did 601 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 1: you wear the sling? 602 00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 2: No? 603 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 3: She did not. 604 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:46,200 Speaker 2: It was Sunday fun day, just a couple of hours. 605 00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:48,760 Speaker 1: It's only a couple of hours people going to So 606 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:50,760 Speaker 1: this is how sus. 607 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,720 Speaker 2: Sorry for myself. God, this sucks. 608 00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 3: I do not feel sorry for you. 609 00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 2: Not to you do your hair, your makeup, take a shower. 610 00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 2: This armpit over here, if somebody didn't come over and 611 00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:06,400 Speaker 2: shape it would really there. It's a nightmare, people. 612 00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:07,280 Speaker 3: I'm just saying. 613 00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:11,560 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, Susan does not follow the doctor's orders. 614 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 1: I'm ratting you out to Bachelor Nation. 615 00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:14,240 Speaker 3: We love you. 616 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 2: Made to be broken anyhow. 617 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 3: Ruthor made to be broken? All right. 618 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,560 Speaker 1: I don't know what to say here that is gonna 619 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: wrap it up. It's been so much fun. Please thank 620 00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:26,880 Speaker 1: y'all for joining us. 621 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,680 Speaker 2: And absolutely absolutely and make sure to follow us on 622 00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,840 Speaker 2: Bachelor Happy Hour. 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