WEBVTT - I'm Overwhelmed

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<v Speaker 1>Hello everyone, and welcome to Cheeky's and Chill. Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>Whatever day that you are watching or listening to Cheeky's

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<v Speaker 1>and Chill, I hope you're having an amazing day and

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<v Speaker 1>that you're not feeling overwhelmed, because that's what we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to be talking about today, you guys, feeling overwhelmed and

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<v Speaker 1>what you do when you feel overwhelmed or how do

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<v Speaker 1>you even recognize when you're feeling overwhelmed? And I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to talk all about that today because I've been experiencing

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<v Speaker 1>that a lot, so I want to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Cheeky's and Chill is a space where I

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<v Speaker 1>share everything with you guys, anything that's on my mind,

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<v Speaker 1>So I am going to do that. And with that

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<v Speaker 1>being said, I first want to thank you guys all

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<v Speaker 1>for coming onto my podcast, for listening. Whether you come

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<v Speaker 1>just to see what I'm talking about, to tease me out,

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<v Speaker 1>or to learn something, I hope you do learn something

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<v Speaker 1>from me, So I just want to say thank you

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<v Speaker 1>first and foremost. All Right, well, let's get this started, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So let me take a deep breath because today I'm

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<v Speaker 1>feeling a little overwhelmed, and I think it's I've been

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like that almost every day for the past month, maybe,

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<v Speaker 1>And personally, I am overwhelmed because I have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>going on in my career. I have the launch of,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, my new tour, the A Month Is Tour

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<v Speaker 1>that same day the album comes out. Preparing for that,

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<v Speaker 1>there are so many things that go into a tour,

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<v Speaker 1>especially a tour of this magnitude, which is I think

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest tour as of yet in my career. So

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<v Speaker 1>there are a lot of like little ends that things

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<v Speaker 1>that you're just like, oh my god, I forgot about that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I forgot about that, and then it's just like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god. And sometimes I just want to do

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<v Speaker 1>everything myself because I feel like I just I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to get it done, and I know how I like things,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't want to run the risk of someone

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<v Speaker 1>not doing it correctly. But then that's not fair to

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<v Speaker 1>the other person. So I'm just like, and then it's

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<v Speaker 1>not fair to me. So I've just been feeling that,

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<v Speaker 1>not only that, in the midst of all of this

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<v Speaker 1>going on, promoting the album, filming the podcast, doing everything

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<v Speaker 1>that I do. I'm planning a wedding, and then other

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<v Speaker 1>surprises that have come into my life that are great,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's okay. It is what it is. I am

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<v Speaker 1>happy and I'm grateful. But the truth is that I've

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<v Speaker 1>learned to say when people ask me, how are you,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm honest. Now before i'd be like, I'm good, I

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<v Speaker 1>just like put on that little like mask of I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good, I'm good and as positive as you want

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<v Speaker 1>to be and as positive as I like to be.

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<v Speaker 1>The truth is it sometimes we're not okay, we're not good,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's okay to say, you know what, I'm having

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<v Speaker 1>an overwhelming day, I'm not feeling too good, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>better to be honest. And I think that it's made

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<v Speaker 1>me even feel better to say it out loud. And

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<v Speaker 1>every day is a new day, and I try my best.

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<v Speaker 1>And I woke up this morning and I meditated and

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<v Speaker 1>I prayed and I said, everything's going to be okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be a great day. And it was.

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<v Speaker 1>But then shit happens. Then life happens, and it's happening,

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<v Speaker 1>and I do my best to just take time throughout

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<v Speaker 1>the day and just breathe and say, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>everything I'm doing I'm grateful for and I love doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>I love coming here and doing my podcasts, and I

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<v Speaker 1>love going to rehearsals, and I love having meetings and planning,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love planning my wedding and I am I

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<v Speaker 1>am happy to do everything. But the truth is that

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<v Speaker 1>I have to be honest with myself, and sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I am spreading myself too thin, and I

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<v Speaker 1>guess it goes back to me wanting to please people.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's been an issue and I've talked about it

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<v Speaker 1>here on the podcast a lot. That's been something that

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<v Speaker 1>I've been dealing with my whole life, and I've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>so much better at it, being able to say no

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<v Speaker 1>and learning the power of saying no. But sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>catch myself doing things not to disappoint people, to show

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<v Speaker 1>myself I can do it, and yes, maybe I can

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<v Speaker 1>do it, But should I do it? Is it good

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<v Speaker 1>for me to do it? And That's where I'm at

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<v Speaker 1>right now, And I have to give myself grace. And

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<v Speaker 1>the reason I'm speaking about this is because I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of you have felt this way or feel

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<v Speaker 1>it and sometimes you don't even know if you are

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<v Speaker 1>feeling overwhelmed, And for me, an indication is when I'm irritable.

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<v Speaker 1>When I'm easily irritable, that is a sign to me

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm like, Okay, I'm overwhelmed. I'm overworking myself and

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<v Speaker 1>I have to step back. And I've been taking days

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm just like, I won't look at my phone

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<v Speaker 1>for hours because then I'll be stuck on my phone

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll add more to my plate, you know. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning to just take some time to myself on

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<v Speaker 1>Sundays and just do nothing. But it's been a thing,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, it's been It's moments where I just want

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<v Speaker 1>to cry. And I thought, you know what. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's because I named my album Ye month is, and

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<v Speaker 1>I named you know, the tour, and you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've been saying this in every interview. I've been saying this.

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<v Speaker 1>I say it all throughout the album, all throughout the tour.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, how diamonds are created, and they're created under

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of pressure, and it takes years for a

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<v Speaker 1>diamond to be created, and we talked about this on

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<v Speaker 1>an episode. So I think I'm definitely feeling it. Everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>feeling it. Everyone's feeling the pressure. But I know because

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<v Speaker 1>I know, because I have so much faith, because I

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<v Speaker 1>know how good this album is, and I know everything

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<v Speaker 1>that we're planning for this tour that it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be great. So anyways, by this time, once you guys

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<v Speaker 1>listen or hear this podcast, the tour already started, so

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<v Speaker 1>all date you guys on that. But anyways, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to look at my notes because that's how overwhelmed I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Usually I don't even really look at my notes, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to look at them because this is an

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<v Speaker 1>important topic that I think that we need to speak

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<v Speaker 1>about our mental health, our emotional health and be okay

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<v Speaker 1>with speaking about it and not always trying to pretend

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<v Speaker 1>like everything is okay. And I think that's part of healing,

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<v Speaker 1>of getting better is recognizing like, hey, I'm feeling this way,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling stressed out, I'm feeling whatever. Now I'm okay

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<v Speaker 1>with say, you know what, I'm not having a good

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<v Speaker 1>day to day. I'm a little irritable, so just don't

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<v Speaker 1>mind me. I am a little snappy right now, and

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<v Speaker 1>not try that's putting more pressure on yourself of just

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<v Speaker 1>like pretending and wanting to pretend like everything is okay,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's a lot like that takes up a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of energy to just have to just in a way

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<v Speaker 1>fake it, you know, like they say fake it till

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<v Speaker 1>you make it. I'm just like, let it all hang

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<v Speaker 1>out like this, this is what it is. And I

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<v Speaker 1>learned that that came with experience and time, and it

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<v Speaker 1>didn't come very easily, you know, because I always want

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<v Speaker 1>to be that positive person and as positive as I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I am. My brother Mikey always tells me,

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, oh my god, you're just so annoying you

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<v Speaker 1>and your positivety. But I just I'd rather live my

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<v Speaker 1>life being positive and saying even though I say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm having a bad day, in the back of my mind,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, this is just the day. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>a moment. I'm gonna be fine. That's just who I am.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I'm built. But the point is I'm better

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<v Speaker 1>with speaking it, with voicing it. With voicing Hey, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm not doing too good right now, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I want to run away. I've had those moments you

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<v Speaker 1>guys a lot these past few weeks where I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to disappear, and not like disappear to heaven,

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<v Speaker 1>but like disappear and go to like a mountain where

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<v Speaker 1>there's no like Wi Fi or signal and just stay

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<v Speaker 1>in a cabin and eat fruits and vegetables and just

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<v Speaker 1>disappear where no one can find me, just me and

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<v Speaker 1>me and just say, well, fuck it. I have no idea.

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<v Speaker 1>She's just gone. Not Richard, not my manager, not anybody

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<v Speaker 1>can get a hold of me. I've had those moments

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm like, I think, I just I want to

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<v Speaker 1>just go away for a little bit, you know, because

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<v Speaker 1>on top of all that, you guys, I have I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm complaining right now, but you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just expressing to you guys, because I'm human at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, you know. So anyways, on

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<v Speaker 1>top of all of that, I have my business partners,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I have to promote my stuff and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to sell my stuff, and I love my brands.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've even said, you know what, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>chill on that right now. My focus is my tour

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<v Speaker 1>and my album and I have to be okay with that.

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<v Speaker 1>And even with that, I have learned to put my

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<v Speaker 1>priority straight. So that is the whole thing here right now,

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<v Speaker 1>setting our priorities straight, okay, Like making a list of

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<v Speaker 1>priorities and being okay with saying if I don't get this,

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<v Speaker 1>if I don't get to this secondary list today, it's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get to it tomorrow. Before I'd set something like,

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<v Speaker 1>i'd love I love checking things off my list. It

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<v Speaker 1>feels just so delicious. I'm just like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel feeling. I love the feeling of feeling accomplished.

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<v Speaker 1>So I would thrive off of that, but I'd put

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<v Speaker 1>so much pressure on myself, like, oh my god, it's

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<v Speaker 1>seven pm and I still have two more things to

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<v Speaker 1>do on my list, and it's just like I'd put

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<v Speaker 1>all this pressure on myself and it just caused me

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<v Speaker 1>so much stress and I'd be unhappy. So now what

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<v Speaker 1>I do is like I do a list of priorities,

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<v Speaker 1>my primary list, and then I have a secondary list,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, okay, I'll try to get to that,

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<v Speaker 1>but if I can't get to that secondary list today,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay, It'll roll over to tomorrow. If God gives

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<v Speaker 1>me life, you know, and if it's God's will. Basically,

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<v Speaker 1>it's what I said, and that helps me and that's

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<v Speaker 1>helped me a lot. So I'm sure some of my

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<v Speaker 1>business partners aren't the happiest with me right now, but

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<v Speaker 1>I need to take care of my emotional and mental state.

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<v Speaker 1>And I hope that through everything that I am sharing

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<v Speaker 1>with you guys and i'm expressing, you guys can also

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<v Speaker 1>learn to put yourself first in that aspect, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>that's part of self care and self love, something we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about on the podcast a lot. Because as much

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<v Speaker 1>as I tell you guys and I give you guys

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<v Speaker 1>advice and everything, I am also human and I also

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<v Speaker 1>have to keep myself accountable and I also have to work.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not like, oh, you know, I know everything and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have bad days, and no I'm I'm wrong

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<v Speaker 1>with you guys. I'm honest with you guys. And this

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<v Speaker 1>is why I feel like it's so important to share

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<v Speaker 1>all of these things and hopefully through my experiences, you

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<v Speaker 1>guys learn a thing or two. And touching on this

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<v Speaker 1>like people pleaser thing that I can say, I'm recovering

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<v Speaker 1>and it's going to be something I'm going to have

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<v Speaker 1>to be intentional about, which is something that doesn't come easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember we've talked about that being intentional, and it's something

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<v Speaker 1>that I do. I want to make people happy. I

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<v Speaker 1>love making people happy and for them to in a

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<v Speaker 1>way of prove of me or not disappoint people. But

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<v Speaker 1>it did. It was doing me no good, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've learned little by little to say no. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think sometimes I do feel like I need to

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<v Speaker 1>say yes to certain things because especially in my professional life,

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<v Speaker 1>to like my manager or my record label and stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>because if I don't say yes. And I also feel

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<v Speaker 1>that pressure of like other people are also depending on me,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't only just think about myself. I think

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<v Speaker 1>about everyone else and all the other families that need

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<v Speaker 1>to eat. And I'm like, well, maybe I can do that,

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<v Speaker 1>even though a little part of me is like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have one hundred percent peace with that, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do it because I know other people are depending

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<v Speaker 1>on me, you know. And also because I have this

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing of like, oh, you know, Cheeky's can do it,

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<v Speaker 1>or she's done it, and yes, I do want to

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<v Speaker 1>be that example absolutely, like I'm like, Okay, if cheek

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<v Speaker 1>is gonna do it, so can you. But sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>just like there's certain things that I just don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to do. And now I'm getting to that point where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, even though it's gonna make me a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money and make us a lot of money, like

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<v Speaker 1>my camp, my team, I'm not going to do it

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<v Speaker 1>because things are changing in my life, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be healthy and I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>have another breakdown. And as i'm speaking to you guys

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<v Speaker 1>right now, I'm realizing there are certain things and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>making mental notes right now that I have to say

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<v Speaker 1>no too. And people are going to be disappointed, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be fine. And I don't mean to disturb

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<v Speaker 1>anyone's life or hurt anyone, but if it's just too

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<v Speaker 1>much right now, it's just too much. And then in

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<v Speaker 1>my personal life, yes, I have been the head of

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<v Speaker 1>my household and there are times, you guys, where I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think I've mentioned it to you here that

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<v Speaker 1>I've thought I'm gonna sell my house. That thought went away.

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<v Speaker 1>It's slowly creeping back, and I'm like, I'm gonna sell

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<v Speaker 1>it because and I love my house, or maybe I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna rent it out just because I think. Am I

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<v Speaker 1>doing all of this and everything that I'm doing because financially.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to do it to keep up with the

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<v Speaker 1>lifestyle that I've created for myself, which I'm very proud of.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very proud of of what I've been able to

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<v Speaker 1>create and build. But I also just I just happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it comes in so many different shapes

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<v Speaker 1>and sizes that I don't necessarily like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>Johnny moved out and all this stuff. So it's just

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<v Speaker 1>so many things are coming to my mind and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>unpacking it as I'm speaking to you guys right now.

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<v Speaker 1>So I know that there's certain decisions that I need

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<v Speaker 1>to make, and I have faith that or maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>just need to save a little more. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but I do feel like that necessity of saying yes

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<v Speaker 1>to certain things because I have to finance my life,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because it's me, and of course Emilio does

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<v Speaker 1>his part. But at the end of the day, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like we're still not married, Like I can't expect him

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<v Speaker 1>to like pay for certain things and to like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll have that conversation once we're married and we'll figure

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<v Speaker 1>that out, you know. But in reality, like just thinking

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<v Speaker 1>of my life and what I've done, I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>it should be anyone else's responsibility but my own. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna I don't know, I guess I in some ways,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to go back to basics, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm going to give you guys a real life example.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if if some of you may know

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<v Speaker 1>this or not or whatever, but I was a judge

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<v Speaker 1>on a show called and I did about I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think a few seasons, two or three seasons, and

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<v Speaker 1>they wanted me to come back for the next season.

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<v Speaker 1>And I had to say no because I realized, and

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<v Speaker 1>this is another thing for you guys to to consider,

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<v Speaker 1>is I started on the episodes while we were recording,

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<v Speaker 1>I started just drinking, you know. I was like, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Instead of my in my in my water cup,

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<v Speaker 1>instead of water, there was Tekla And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get through these because we would record like

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<v Speaker 1>two or three episodes in one night, so was it

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<v Speaker 1>were long, and the energy was just a little off.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was very grateful for the opportunity and it

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<v Speaker 1>made us you know, it was good financially, but I

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<v Speaker 1>just couldn't because my peace of mind and I just

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't there and I realized, I said, Okay, this

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<v Speaker 1>isn't this is no longer fun for me because now

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<v Speaker 1>I'm drinking and we're going back to twenty eighteen where

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<v Speaker 1>I was drinking to get through it. And I'm like, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>That was like an indication for me of like I

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<v Speaker 1>need to say no and I need to put my

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<v Speaker 1>foot down and even though people will be upset, I

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<v Speaker 1>got to do it's best for myself, you know. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've done that in my personal life as well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>even with things with my siblings when sometimes they want

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<v Speaker 1>something and I have to just say no because I

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<v Speaker 1>just don't feel peace with it. It's actually making me

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<v Speaker 1>feel better to talk about this because it reminds me

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<v Speaker 1>of how grateful I am at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>But the truth is that I need to go back

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<v Speaker 1>to the drawing board and really set certain things straight

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<v Speaker 1>within myself, within my career, business and everything to just

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<v Speaker 1>make sure that I am happy, absolutely happy doing what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing. Because I love to be productive, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I think we all do. Again. I thrive off of

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<v Speaker 1>feeling accomplished, but sometimes you just have to be. You

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<v Speaker 1>just have to just be. The other day, I was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to organize my closet, and I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that. I got

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<v Speaker 1>to a section because that's another thing, like I need

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<v Speaker 1>my home to be organized and to be clean and

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<v Speaker 1>everything to put be put in its place, especially with

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<v Speaker 1>the tour and stuff because I'm not going to be

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<v Speaker 1>home a lot, so I like to do it myself.

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<v Speaker 1>But literally, I sat there and I finished a section,

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<v Speaker 1>and I looked everywhere else and I just I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do this, like I just I can't. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I did. I didn't. I stopped doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, I have to delegate. I have to

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<v Speaker 1>just have someone else do it. I literally for the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the day laid in bed, ordered some food

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't even want to cook, and I watch

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<v Speaker 1>movies and that's what I did. And in my mind

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<v Speaker 1>I had woken up that morning I said I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to organize my you know, my personal closet and my

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<v Speaker 1>downstairs closet. And I ended up doing nothing, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was fine. Before the old Gene would have been like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I can't lay down like I would

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<v Speaker 1>beat myself up about it. I would like like I

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<v Speaker 1>felt guilty resting. And I've learned again throughout the years

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<v Speaker 1>since twenty eighteen after my meltdown, that rest is essential.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys, if you are not feeling like you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do something, don't do it. Don't do it just

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<v Speaker 1>to please someone else. Don't do it just because if

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<v Speaker 1>you can. Of course, there's certain things that we just

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<v Speaker 1>have to do, like going to work. I mean, we

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<v Speaker 1>can't be calling off all the time, or if you've

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<v Speaker 1>got to go to school, or there's just certain responsibilities

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<v Speaker 1>like that we have to breathe through and like take

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<v Speaker 1>deep breaths throughout the day. But if there's just certain

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<v Speaker 1>things that aregist can wait, let them wait. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I did, and I just I said, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>just do what I can today and that's helped me

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<v Speaker 1>a lot as well. And right now I know what

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<v Speaker 1>my focus is, and the focus is doing my best

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<v Speaker 1>at my concerts and memorizing all of my songs and

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<v Speaker 1>that's it. And it makes me feel good to say

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<v Speaker 1>this is the focus right now, and everything else will

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<v Speaker 1>happen when it needs to happen. And I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to pressure myself anymore, because yes, I love to do lists.

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<v Speaker 1>I love being productive. I love to say, oh I

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<v Speaker 1>got all this done today, but it can wait, and

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<v Speaker 1>it should wait for our mental health and our emotional health,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, because if we're not okay, then we're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to do everything that we have to do with love,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're not going to do it right. Most importantly,

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<v Speaker 1>so this concludes our episode. Again, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for coming every week to listen to Cheeky's and chill

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<v Speaker 1>or Dear Cheeky's. I am profoundly grateful for you, and

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that from this episode you could take something

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<v Speaker 1>that will help you and you can learn from my

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<v Speaker 1>experiences so that you don't have a meltdown of your

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<v Speaker 1>own again. If you are overwhelmed, just know that this too,

0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:22.560
<v Speaker 1>shell pass. You will get through it, and we will

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<v Speaker 1>be fine. We will be fine. Where there's a will,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a way. No, that's very cliche, but it's true.

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<v Speaker 1>Where there's a will, there's a way, and we have will,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're strong and we're courageous and everything's gonna be good.

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<v Speaker 1>Note to myself hashtag not to myself. To us, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. I love you, guys, very very

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<v Speaker 1>much los Quiro, los Amo, and I will see you

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