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Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome to Cheeky's and Chill. Happy Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

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Speaker 1: Whatever day that you are watching or listening to Cheeky's

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Speaker 1: and Chill, I hope you're having an amazing day and

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Speaker 1: that you're not feeling overwhelmed, because that's what we're going

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Speaker 1: to be talking about today, you guys, feeling overwhelmed and

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Speaker 1: what you do when you feel overwhelmed or how do

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Speaker 1: you even recognize when you're feeling overwhelmed? And I'm going

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Speaker 1: to talk all about that today because I've been experiencing

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Speaker 1: that a lot, so I want to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: You know, Cheeky's and Chill is a space where I

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Speaker 1: share everything with you guys, anything that's on my mind,

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Speaker 1: So I am going to do that. And with that

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Speaker 1: being said, I first want to thank you guys all

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Speaker 1: for coming onto my podcast, for listening. Whether you come

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Speaker 1: just to see what I'm talking about, to tease me out,

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Speaker 1: or to learn something, I hope you do learn something

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Speaker 1: from me, So I just want to say thank you

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Speaker 1: first and foremost. All Right, well, let's get this started, okay,

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Speaker 1: So let me take a deep breath because today I'm

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Speaker 1: feeling a little overwhelmed, and I think it's I've been

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Speaker 1: feeling like that almost every day for the past month, maybe,

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Speaker 1: And personally, I am overwhelmed because I have a lot

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Speaker 1: going on in my career. I have the launch of,

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Speaker 1: you know, my new tour, the A Month Is Tour

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Speaker 1: that same day the album comes out. Preparing for that,

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Speaker 1: there are so many things that go into a tour,

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Speaker 1: especially a tour of this magnitude, which is I think

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Speaker 1: there are a lot of like little ends that things

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Speaker 1: that you're just like, oh my god, I forgot about that,

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Speaker 1: and then I forgot about that, and then it's just like,

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Speaker 1: oh my god. And sometimes I just want to do

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Speaker 1: everything myself because I feel like I just I'm going

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Speaker 1: to get it done, and I know how I like things,

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Speaker 1: the other person. So I'm just like, and then it's

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Speaker 1: not fair to me. So I've just been feeling that,

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Speaker 1: not only that, in the midst of all of this

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Speaker 1: going on, promoting the album, filming the podcast, doing everything

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Speaker 1: that I do. I'm planning a wedding, and then other

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Speaker 1: surprises that have come into my life that are great,

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Speaker 1: and it's okay. It is what it is. I am

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Speaker 1: happy and I'm grateful. But the truth is that I've

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Speaker 1: learned to say when people ask me, how are you,

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Speaker 1: I'm honest. Now before i'd be like, I'm good, I

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Speaker 1: just like put on that little like mask of I'm good.

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Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm good and as positive as you want

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Speaker 1: The truth is it sometimes we're not okay, we're not good,

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Speaker 1: and it's okay to say, you know what, I'm having

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Speaker 1: an overwhelming day, I'm not feeling too good, and it's

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Speaker 1: better to be honest. And I think that it's made

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Speaker 1: me even feel better to say it out loud. And

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Speaker 1: every day is a new day, and I try my best.

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Speaker 1: And I woke up this morning and I meditated and

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Speaker 1: I prayed and I said, everything's going to be okay,

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Speaker 1: But then shit happens. Then life happens, and it's happening,

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Speaker 1: everything I'm doing I'm grateful for and I love doing it.

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Speaker 1: I love coming here and doing my podcasts, and I

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Speaker 1: love going to rehearsals, and I love having meetings and planning,

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Speaker 1: am happy to do everything. But the truth is that

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Speaker 1: I have to be honest with myself, and sometimes I

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Speaker 1: guess it goes back to me wanting to please people.

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Speaker 1: And that's been an issue and I've talked about it

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Speaker 1: here on the podcast a lot. That's been something that

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Speaker 1: I've been dealing with my whole life, and I've gotten

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Speaker 1: so much better at it, being able to say no

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Speaker 1: and learning the power of saying no. But sometimes I

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Speaker 1: myself I can do it, and yes, maybe I can

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Speaker 1: it and sometimes you don't even know if you are

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Speaker 1: feeling overwhelmed, And for me, an indication is when I'm irritable.

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Speaker 1: When I'm easily irritable, that is a sign to me

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Speaker 1: you guys, it's been It's moments where I just want

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Speaker 1: it's because I named my album Ye month is, and

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Speaker 1: I've been saying this in every interview. I've been saying this.

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Speaker 1: I say it all throughout the album, all throughout the tour.

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Speaker 1: You know, how diamonds are created, and they're created under

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Speaker 1: an episode. So I think I'm definitely feeling it. Everyone's

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Speaker 1: feeling it. Everyone's feeling the pressure. But I know because

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Speaker 1: be great. So anyways, by this time, once you guys

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Speaker 1: listen or hear this podcast, the tour already started, so

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Speaker 1: all date you guys on that. But anyways, I'm going

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Speaker 1: Usually I don't even really look at my notes, but

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Speaker 1: That's how I'm built. But the point is I'm better

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Speaker 1: Remember we've talked about that being intentional, and it's something

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Speaker 1: that I do. I want to make people happy. I

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Speaker 1: much los Quiro, los Amo, and I will see you

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