WEBVTT - Let mistakes make you gracious

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to let your mistakes make you gracious instead

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<v Speaker 1>of being unduly hard on yourself when you make a mistake,

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<v Speaker 1>let the mistakes serve as a reminder that we all

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<v Speaker 1>make mistakes occasionally, and we need to be gracious to

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<v Speaker 1>each other when we do. My guess is that the

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<v Speaker 1>listeners of this podcast are less likely than average to

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<v Speaker 1>miss an appointment, run late, mix up time zones, lose

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<v Speaker 1>track of important files, overlook an important email, or have

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<v Speaker 1>any of these issues with video calls that still crop

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<v Speaker 1>up three years after Zoom became ubiquitous. People who listen

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<v Speaker 1>to for Breakfast tend to work hard to run a

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<v Speaker 1>tight ship, but we all make mistakes everyone. In the

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<v Speaker 1>last month, I have sent an email to thousands of

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<v Speaker 1>people with not one, but two rather glaring typos. I

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<v Speaker 1>have forgotten a meeting that I am pretty sure had

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<v Speaker 1>already been rescheduled the first time. Because of me, I

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<v Speaker 1>was several minutes late to an interview about time management.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't drop a lot of balls, but I am

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<v Speaker 1>human and I have a lot going on and things

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<v Speaker 1>do not always go perfectly. I am sure that you

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<v Speaker 1>likewise could provide at least a short list of your

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<v Speaker 1>own recent dropped balls. Sometimes conscientious people beat themselves up

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<v Speaker 1>about minor mishaps like these. When you tell yourself I

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<v Speaker 1>am always on time and I never miss a deadline.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a blow when you are inevitably late to

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<v Speaker 1>an appointment or late with an assignment. But these things

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<v Speaker 1>do happen, even if it isn't your fault. It happens,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes it is your fault, and that can feel

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<v Speaker 1>especially rough when you make a mistake and it results

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<v Speaker 1>in wasted time or wasted money for your team or

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<v Speaker 1>your family. Apologize, make amends if you need to. But then,

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<v Speaker 1>rather than wallowing and guilt, allow this feeling to help

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<v Speaker 1>you shift the story you tell yourself. How about this one.

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<v Speaker 1>I aim to be on time and to keep my

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<v Speaker 1>own and other schedules on track. But once in a while,

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<v Speaker 1>priorities shift, or something unforeseeable comes up, or I just

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<v Speaker 1>make a mistake and I run a little late. It

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<v Speaker 1>might be unfortunate, but it is almost never the end

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<v Speaker 1>of the world. As you change the story you tell

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself. Ideally, you will also be shifting the story

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<v Speaker 1>you tell about others, because others are subject to the

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<v Speaker 1>exact same forces. When someone is late or overlooks an

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<v Speaker 1>email or missus a deadline, it doesn't necessarily mean the

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<v Speaker 1>person is rude or careless or disorganized. It means they

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<v Speaker 1>are human like you, like me, and they sometimes make

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<v Speaker 1>mistakes and need a little grace. Now, of course, if

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<v Speaker 1>someone routinely runs later or missus deadlines, you may need

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<v Speaker 1>to address that more directly. You can absolutely set boundaries

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<v Speaker 1>and expectations, both with team members and people in your

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<v Speaker 1>personal life, But in general, it helps to remember that

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<v Speaker 1>we all occasionally drop balls, even when we work hard

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<v Speaker 1>to fulfill our commitments. So the next time you make

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<v Speaker 1>a mistake in an area where you consider yourself reliable,

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<v Speaker 1>don't be too hard on yourself, but do let your

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<v Speaker 1>mistake prompt you to be more gracious when someone else

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<v Speaker 1>makes the exact same mistake. In the meantime, This is Laura,

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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