WEBVTT - Convos About Patriarchal Societies 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.440 Watch up and welcome back to another episode of No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.480 Senner's podcast with your hosts. Now fuck that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:16.000 load glasses, Malone, you're gonna. 0:00:15.760 --> 0:00:17.800 Do a dating single now she's single. 0:00:17.880 --> 0:00:19.320 Now. 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:26.200 My friend said, is this a break or is this 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:29.200 is this real? I said, I don't know. Maybe it's 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:30.720 a break. I don't know, but right it is it? 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:30.960 Right? 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:32.159 Now? Does it matter? 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:36.279 What would your dating show be? 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:41.640 Like, I don't know dating brig. 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:47.800 Oh, it's like you yeah, me, So your dating show 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.040 is going to be people finding people to date you. 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:54.000 Yes, he's intrigued. 0:00:54.040 --> 0:01:02.240 Now, so we just introduced guys to yo. Yes, yep, yes, 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:03.440 that's interesting. 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:07.959 And then let her, you know, let them sit there 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:09.640 talk and go on, and then they could go on 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:10.039 a date. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:12.240 We get to see. 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:18.160 No, it should be online dating, online dating, right, and 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:21.440 then we could stream the whole ship, so we have 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.040 your own that's the way, the future way. They could 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:29.000 send you food, food and watch a Netflix film together 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:32.040 and talk like the only thing somebody ain't gonna be 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:34.039 able to do is get no draws. 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:35.720 You ain't getting no draws anyway. 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:37.080 We want to hear the conversation. 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:38.360 We want to hear. 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:41.479 I want to hear what you're talking about the screen 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:45.600 and then have the video here so that like you 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.280 really like this food, or you just send me this 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:48.600 because you know that's my favorite. 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:55.320 We start saying stuff like that, this is your favorite. 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:59.360 So day and Brett D and Brett that'll be the 0:01:59.440 --> 0:01:59.920 name of it. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:01.800 Was supposed to do it long time ago. 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.840 I like that though. That sounds interesting. 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:07.800 Yeah, yeah, because it's about time to I find love 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:09.880 and sure everybody out here getting you know me and 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.480 in love and stuff like, I mean, I love him 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:14.679 and everything, but we be having problems. 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:16.120 What be your main problems? 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:20.360 You think I would say our main problem right now 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:21.359 is communication. 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:22.920 He don't listen to this podcast? 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:23.880 No, okay, cool. 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:25.880 I mean it would't matter if he did. I'll be 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:32.680 honest with him, like just communication. We just don't he 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:33.600 want to bully me. 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:37.320 Don't do that. Don't want to bully. 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.720 The way he's No, it's all right. I'm totally good 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:45.880 with Lee. No. Trust and believe. I do not want 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.440 to be the man of nobody house. I know I'm 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.400 a woman, and guess what, I'm in my soft girl 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:53.200 era right now. So trust and believe. It's not It's 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:56.400 definitely not that. I think our issue right now is 0:02:56.400 --> 0:03:01.040 that he just can't communicate his feeling is good and 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:05.120 when I and we wait till it festers and bulls 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.240 over and then he want to like get because he 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.520 he a cript so he want to be like, Cuz, no, bro, 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:14.960 no I'm not your homie. Don't cuss me like we 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.640 could speak. So, I don't know, we just can't. The 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:20.839 communication is just off, Like I'm on my soft girl shit. 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:21.480 You know what I'm saying. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.120 Why does he k all if you on your soft 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:25.600 girl ship? 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:27.880 Well, I mean I had to grow into my soft 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.880 girl area. See that stuff was cool back in the 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:31.359 day to be able to. 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:35.080 Just your hard girl cut out. 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.160 Yeah, Like, I don't want to cuss you out all 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:39.280 the time. I don't want to have to do none 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.000 of that type of stuff no more. I just want 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:41.720 to be loved. 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:44.600 Okay, better question, better question. 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:45.840 I just want to be loved. 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:50.840 Gee is that okay? So he just be like you know, 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:56.080 you just he's just. 0:03:58.400 --> 0:03:59.880 He's just what I'm listening. 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:03.240 Oh lord, oh my god, I don't want to talk 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:04.840 about it. 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:08.040 Well, no, this is funny because this is a great conversation. 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:10.600 I'm gonna tell you why it's a great conversation to 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.800 segue into what I've been thinking about. Okay, I think 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:17.839 the only way to have a successful relationship with the 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:21.000 opposite sex, a man and a woman, is to realize 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:23.080 you cannot hold women accountable. 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:25.520 What do you mean you can't hold them accountable? 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:31.440 Like because we live in a patriarchal society, like where 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.039 men are kind of revered as the front of or 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:38.640 as the head of operations, women probably can't be held 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:42.960 accountable for anything, right, Like if whatever you do wrong 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:44.839 is not your fault. 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:46.400 No, that's not true. 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:49.159 I'm gonna tell you why I think it's true. 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:50.440 Okay, I'm. 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:53.680 No, I'm gonna tell you why I think it's true. 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:57.720 It's true, right because, like I'm looking at the Rihanna situation, 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:00.200 like me and y'all we haven't even talked about is 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:04.400 even offline? Right? Which is the puff situation? Right? I 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:08.320 saw comedian Craig Fact shout out to Craig, that's my god, 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:12.359 good dude. But Craig was talking about how he felt 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:16.720 Cassie excuse me, not Rihanna. But Cassie used to go 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:20.279 over and forgive me, not Rihanna. Sorry, Oh, I know 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:22.480 you listen to the podcast I'm not you girl, but 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:27.280 Cassie right Gold used to go with Puff, and Puff 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:31.479 and Kim used to have these issues and sometimes the 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:35.560 issues would lead into physical exchanges between them, and Cassie 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:38.960 would be there watching and he was saying, she's not innocent, 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:41.240 And then I was thinking about it, and I'm like, 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:45.039 I think the trainer was Puff's trainer that she's married to. Now, yes, 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.320 and you will wonder, like, again, there's no reason a 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:52.560 stump or girl out, But if there was any reason 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:55.640 to make you think it'd be like, oh, I get 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:58.480 why he stormped throughout. It probably would be because you're 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:00.680 sleeping with my trainer of ta years. 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:01.800 You think that, But. 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.520 I'm not saying that's what happened. I'm saying, look at 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.719 the look at what's going on. Right, It's thirteen years 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:13.480 of this shit, So wait a minute, this nigga been 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:15.440 doing this to you for three and then we'll come 0:06:15.520 --> 0:06:21.680 up with this kind of like reasoning. Right, I watch 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.839 a lot of s view. All of my rape education 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:27.520 came from Olivia Benson. Like, I really didn't understand rape 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:31.080 pre SVU. I thought rape was when the girl told 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:35.720 you no, and you keep going Olivia Benson and Iced Tea. 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:37.919 You know, Detective to Tuala has taught me, if a 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:43.200 girl doesn't say yes, that's rape. So if she says nothing, 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:45.839 it still could be rape. 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:46.719 Correct. 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:50.800 That's actually really ridiculous if you think about it intellectually. 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:54.719 Somebody should have to tell you no to not proceed. 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:58.440 That would be the normal operation. But because we live 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:01.119 in a patriarchal society with me in it, are seen 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:05.400 to have all the power, we take all accountability away 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:09.680 from women, like they don't have to say no. If 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:14.480 they don't say yes, it's rape. Even in the Cassy situation, 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.760 Don't get me wrong, what happened to her is fucking crazy. 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:18.600 But then there's these questions like why you didn't go 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.960 to the police back then, Oh, puff had the police on. 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:24.559 We should still hear about it right now. The police 0:07:24.600 --> 0:07:27.120 should be in trouble because which ever police ignored you. 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:31.200 But it's not something to agree with, Like, these are 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:34.520 not points that I'm making against Cassie. These are points 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:37.800 I'm saying that for a relationship to work between a 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:41.040 man and a woman in this world, especially in America, 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:44.680 you really cannot hold women accountable. It was like what 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:48.520 happened with Red where Couz was telling her close the 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:54.400 fucking sun move, you know what I'm saying, And it 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:57.560 was like she was mad that Couz was holding her accountable, 0:07:57.640 --> 0:07:59.800 like hey, I kept telling you, it's like yeah, but 0:07:59.840 --> 0:08:03.040 I didn't, So why are you tripping? Nigga? I told 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:07.160 you to do something, cuz right. So even when he 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.360 was talking about it, she was crying and I felt bad, 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:15.280 but it hit me like this, motherfucker, it's crazy. How 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:18.640 are you crying because he's upset that he told. 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:20.720 Her feelings was hurt. That's why she was crying. She 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:23.360 knew she was wrong, and then I guess that's when 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:25.200 the motion kicked in and she started crying. 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:27.000 So then why didn't she cry and say I know 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.880 I was wrong? Why is it he yelled at me 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:33.080 versus me saying you know what I hate? I made 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:36.040 him yell at me because I know to do something 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:36.520 that this is. 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:40.000 Did you feel that way? 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:40.559 Now? 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:47.319 G straight up, listen, there's a way that you can 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:52.640 say things to get the same point across without yelling 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:58.760 or without the whole you know, an attitude, animosity or whatever. 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:02.360 Just say what you gotta say, like that's it. And 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:05.720 move forward. But you don't have to. I'm not your child. 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:06.800 You are. 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:10.440 You are my child, Yes you are, because you know 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:12.320 who else does things that you tell them to do 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:13.680 and then they don't do it, and then you have 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:18.320 to be accountable for it, your child, because it's not 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:20.839 like you was gonna go get it fixed yourself. It 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:22.840 wasn't like you think to yourself, he was gonna wake up, 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:24.719 you've seen it. He was like, damn, I fuck this up. 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.199 Let me go get this fixed, because I don't want 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:32.160 this motherfucker to realize I didn't listen. And the fact 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:35.040 that if somebody's not insulting you in disrespectful, but they're 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:37.040 not saying it the way you want them to say it, 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:42.040 that's also ridiculous. But it's not ridiculous because I have 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:46.280 realized you cannot hold women accountable. 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.600 No, you can hold me accountable. My thing is, it's 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:51.800 like she said, it's the way that you say things 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:54.840 like I could say something very like no, I don't 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.520 have to be like, oh, well, why'd you do that? 0:09:56.720 --> 0:10:00.439 I could just be like what made you do that? 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.000 Because if I'm yelling at you, then you're like, why 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:04.880 are you disrespecting me? And yelling at me like that 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:06.440 you know what I'm saying? Or why are you raising 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:08.599 your voice at me? So it's the same thing. I 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:10.920 think it's the approach. That's why I'm saying the whole 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:13.880 situation with me, it was the communication because it's how 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:16.600 he's saying it. I'm gonna listen to you, but don't 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:21.400 come at me like rah like bro Like okay, so 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.280 now I'm side on you like cause I don't know. 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:25.960 I just don't. I don't like that type of ship, 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:28.080 like we can have a decent conversation, like we could 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:28.920 literally be talking. 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:35.760 Are you no sailings? Gil feel me? Cousins back on deck. Finally, 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:42.680 after that sabbatical, he always given a Catholic church. Sometimes 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:53.240 I swear quit working with us, But again because guess 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.400 why our relationship flourishes because I don't hold you accountable. 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:00.680 Oh wow, So I don't hold you account of either. 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.760 You forgot, Yes, you do, Yes. 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:08.520 You definitely hope. And it's fair because we live in 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:12.520 the patriarchal society. Okay, you ever told your kids something 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:14.480 like you got to son? Your son is probably growing 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:18.440 at this point, he got to be close. You ever 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:21.160 talk to him and he just don't listen. Do you 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:23.920 think you keep that tone of like, hey, you know what, 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:26.920 I keep asking you to do this? No, eventually, but that. 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:30.040 Was the first time that wasn't that's the first time. 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:32.280 No, that's the first time he says something about it. 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:36.000 That attitude comes from I keep telling you something and 0:11:36.040 --> 0:11:38.359 you are ignoring what I'm saying to you. 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:40.000 Over for different things. 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:44.360 Yes, because the constant is I'm telling you something and 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:45.240 you're ignoring me. 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:49.920 So to start listening, I would hope. 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:55.679 Especially if you want a man to be accountable for you, 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:57.920 because that's what you're asking. Like when you say you're 0:11:57.960 --> 0:11:59.920 looking for love, you're not looking for love for real, 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.440 You're looking for somebody to be accountable for you. 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:04.360 I'm looking for love. 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:08.280 You have love. Your cousin love you, your son love you. 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:09.280 It's different. 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:13.439 You know what it is, intimacy, companionship. 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:17.040 You know your kids provide all that same thing. No, 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:19.480 they don't provide intimacy. But that's not what you're looking for. 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:22.280 You looking for somebody to be accountable for you. Because 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:24.960 if you met a man that loved your dirty draws 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.400 but he wasn't taking care of you, that nigga could 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:31.480 not last you're looking so I know it sounds crazy, 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.520 sound crazy, but you're looking for a man to be 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:37.760 accountable for you because you understand caring that way, right, 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:39.880 Because you care for your the people you love the 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:42.200 same way, right, your son like you care for him. 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:45.160 You want somebody to care for you. You're not looking 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:48.679 for nobody else to care for You're not looking for 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:50.840 grown man to treat like your son. 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:52.360 No, definitely don't want that. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:53.400 Right. 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:56.440 I raised my kid and my mom would say to me, 0:12:56.720 --> 0:13:00.679 I raised my kids. I ain't watching no kids realize. 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.720 I was talking to Mouse, my boy Mouse from New York, 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:06.880 and he was saying that to me, and I was like, yeah, 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:09.320 we just if you just realize we live in this 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:11.920 society and you can't hold women accountable as a man, 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:15.000 you will blossom. The first mistake you could ever make 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:18.360 is trying to hold women accountable. That's it. You can't, 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:22.800 You really can't, because we are looked at in this 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:26.600 society as the front of everything, that the head of everything. 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:31.280 Let's see. That's why I want that type of mail. 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.280 I ain't got if you are right now I think 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:37.080 about it, You're right, because I do want somebody to 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:40.000 take on that role, like I don't want to do 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:42.360 the stuff I do now, Like if I'm at home, 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:44.960 you know what I'm saying, I'm doing all these I 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:50.040 don't want to do any of those things. Yes, I 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:53.040 admit it. I just thought about that. 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.680 You're right, you don't want to take out the trash. 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:58.280 That's why you get your son to do it. Sure 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:04.760 fucking right. So again you looking for somebody. It's look, 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.720 I get it. Some of these things are frowned upon 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:09.520 in a lot of these mid level conversations that we 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:11.160 could just be honest, like we know each other. 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:13.920 That's a partnership, right, and it. 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:17.840 Is a unique type of partnership, but it's it is 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:20.000 a fifty to fifty partnership, but not in the way 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:22.680 you would normally see fifty to fifty. Like it's not 0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:26.920 like fifty to fifty. We split everything, right, Like we 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.920 do split stuff, but we split it differently. Right. It 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.440 may not be this type of economics, it may be 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.880 this right here, But there are expectations on your side, 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:39.200 and the problem is that there are expectations on your side, 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:43.000 Like men expect things out of your Like what works 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.440 great is when you don't expect anything out of women. 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:50.240 Because if you expect two things out of women, you're 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.920 gonna fucking get disappointed in one of those things. 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:56.880 What it depends on the two things. 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.960 You could name any two things. The only expectect the own, 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:02.800 only expectation you could have is to expect nothing that 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:03.520 will work for you. 0:15:03.800 --> 0:15:06.560 I think I was going to say you shouldn't have 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:07.800 you don't expect anything. 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:12.920 You're well, we have to deliver, though, right, or your 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:16.320 happiness depends on us delivery. Like right, if you expect 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:17.960 us to pay the mortgage to the rent and we 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:20.480 don't think that's a real problem. If we expect you 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.560 to cook tonight and you don't, we're just going to 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:29.720 get fast food. Feel me like, you know again, it's 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:31.600 not I don't think it's bad or I don't think 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.960 it's swayed. I just think it's the society that we 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:36.160 live in, you know what I mean. I think we 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:39.240 live in a place where men are regarded as the 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:42.400 centerpiece of a family. Weirdly, because when you think about it, 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.080 a woman can only make a family, you know, men 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:45.760 can have a family, but women can make, you know, 0:15:45.800 --> 0:15:49.480 extend families. So but that's where we live at and 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:52.080 it just hit me like like if I look at Cassie, 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:54.960 like the questions people were asking of Cassie, And when 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:57.120 I saw him saying that, I was like, why did 0:15:57.120 --> 0:15:58.680 you expect her to go to the police? 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:01.960 But she wasn't going to go to the police. 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.440 I mean, I if it's a situation like that, how 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:09.040 much she was saying abuse that she went through, I 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:11.440 think that she I don't think that she could go 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:12.280 to the police. 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:14.720 She probably didn't. She probably didn't trust that they were 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:15.680 going to do anything for her. 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:16.440 That's what I'm saying. 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:19.080 But how silly this sounds, It's true. 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:22.040 Have you never heard of situations where women they do 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:25.760 go to the police, they'll get a restraining order, but 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:28.800 you know, they still end up dead or they still 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:31.760 end up hurt because guess what, the police is not there. 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:33.880 She ain't going into a wit set or you know, 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:37.920 when it's protection or somebody's gonna protect her. 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:39.680 She still got to go to wherever she needs to 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:40.000 get to. 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:44.720 And that's how the legal society works, except if you're 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:45.080 a woman. 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:47.600 She needed to get away first. 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:49.560 She wasn't trying to get away. 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:51.680 No, I don't think that she thought she could that day, 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:53.080 looked like she was trying to get away. 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:55.160 So it just looked like she just wasn't trying to 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:55.920 get away that day. 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:57.640 No, that day did get away. 0:16:57.880 --> 0:16:59.440 That day, she looked like she was trying to get. 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:02.320 Away, Like you think that he just been Really, you 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:05.240 don't think nothing had anything to do with his economics 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:08.520 and circumstances, that there's a reason that values her to 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:09.119 stay around. 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:13.639 I mean yes, but after a while it gets old 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.080 and she's you know what I'm saying, she's over it, 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.800 but she still needs to make her get her exit plan. 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:22.240 But you don't think to a certain place. That's why 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.600 we just make silly excuses for people. 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:30.280 There's a lot of manipulate manipulating going on. There's a 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:32.800 lot of like I mean, I've been in situations where 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:36.480 I've broken it off with someone, but they will still 0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:39.480 come and you know what I'm saying, and and try 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:45.000 to family, try to make things worse for you or 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:49.240 threaten you know, threaten you or and or buy you 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:51.399 and or follow you, and or I. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:53.720 Had to do I had to do that. Well nowhere 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:56.800 near like have money like Diddy, but that he straight 0:17:56.880 --> 0:18:01.119 told me, anybody you with if I see you while coming, 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:01.960 It's like. 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:06.200 What I'm supposed to find certain people who like fighting 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:07.080 man be like go with me. 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:10.439 It's yeah, it's not easy just to be like okay, 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:11.000 I'm done. 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:14.359 If you're in an abusive situation, it's really simple. 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:17.359 It is take work. But again, it's a certain place 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:20.840 that there should be documentation. But it shouldn't be because 0:18:20.880 --> 0:18:23.760 there should be no expectations on her to actually carry 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:27.479 herself in that manner. I know this sounds fucked up 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.120 and crazy, but it's true because look at how y'all 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:32.800 even talking about it, Like the legal system that's here 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.000 to protect you and everything. You're like, well, I don't know, 0:18:35.040 --> 0:18:37.240 because they might not protect me. It's time. There is 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:40.439 no documented history of that, and it shouldn't be the 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.520 thing that worked. If you don't trust the system, then 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:45.399 why would you take the system to court to win money? 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:48.479 But she was already, well, she knowes she's gonna get 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:48.880 that money. 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:49.800 Yeah, she was already. 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:51.399 How did she know she's gonna get the money if 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:53.480 she couldn't get the police to action. If the same 0:18:53.720 --> 0:18:57.240 justice system, right, is a part of the same justice system, 0:18:57.400 --> 0:18:59.040 that means they would have to help you win, even 0:18:59.080 --> 0:18:59.720 in a lawsuit. 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:03.439 Well, I think when she did the situation when she 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:05.800 went and talked to her lawyer or whatever. I think 0:19:05.840 --> 0:19:07.840 they told her like, oh, you're good. Like once she 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:10.280 told her story. I think that's what made her be like, okay, 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:12.359 let's go with it. Because remember they said before she 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:13.840 was already trying to get money from him and he 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:15.840 was like, nah, he wouldn't. 0:19:15.840 --> 0:19:18.040 Second that don't make you think like maybe there was 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.560 a reason she didn't pursue legal consequences and only seven. 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:25.520 Well maybe she thought nothing, isn't it. 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:27.240 So if you think nothing gonna happen, and why do 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:28.760 you think you're gonna get some money. 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:30.600 Because it's easier to get money than him to go 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:31.000 to jail. 0:19:31.480 --> 0:19:33.240 That is one hundred and seventeen percent. 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:35.720 They correct, No, it's not that is you just watch 0:19:36.280 --> 0:19:38.400 you can't go to jail for one day. 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.360 What do you mean she never went to the police. 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:45.720 I mean, y'all made one million reasons why she didn't 0:19:45.760 --> 0:19:47.920 go to the police, and you made one reason why 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:49.840