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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please

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Speaker 1: live on the air right here, right now, just like

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Speaker 1: we're doing this one here that yeah, all right, buckle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight, We got it for you here. It

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Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter subject My old uncle is still

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Speaker 1: a player. Dear Auntie Shirley and Uncle Steve. I have

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Speaker 1: a problem with my real family members, so I want

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Speaker 1: to be your niece instead. Here's my problem. I am

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Speaker 1: a twenty eight year old woman that was raised by

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Speaker 1: three uncles that were like father figures to me, and

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Speaker 1: I'm very close to all of them. One of my

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Speaker 1: uncles is getting on my last nerve though. I'm really

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Speaker 1: close with his daughter, my cousin, and she's sick of

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Speaker 1: him too. We grew up staying at Grandma's house and

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Speaker 1: we watched my uncles have lots of different women around

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Speaker 1: that's when the problem began. My married uncle would spend

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Speaker 1: I'm very close to my grandmother and I love spending

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Speaker 1: so she doesn't care that he's cheating. She just doesn't

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Speaker 1: He is too old for these shenanigans. He tried to

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Speaker 1: him he's not lying for him. I'm tired of this

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Speaker 1: mess too, but I would never snitch any suggestions on

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Speaker 1: how to get him to stop lying. Can an old

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Speaker 1: player change? Please advise? Okay, nice, okay, since you want

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Speaker 1: to be our niece. Here goes, you're going about this

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Speaker 1: the wrong way. First of all, you should know, you

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Speaker 1: gotta know that you can't change anyone, especially a good

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Speaker 1: incentive to change anyway? I mean, he's got you, he's

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Speaker 1: is beautiful for your uncle. Why would he stop this? Why? Now?

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Speaker 1: For what? So my advice to you is to take

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Speaker 1: No one's saying you should snitch on your uncle or

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Speaker 1: anything like that. But you know, can't you just like

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Speaker 1: get ghosts disappear? When your uncle is calling you to

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Speaker 1: tell him no? You said in the letter, you're a

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Speaker 1: twenty eight year old grown woman. If you're a woman,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to be involved in this anymore. You're

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Speaker 1: tired of lying for him. You love him, but you

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Speaker 1: don't approve of what he's doing, and you don't want

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Speaker 1: to be involved. All right, That's all You have to do.

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Speaker 1: That's what a grown woman would do. He's not going

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Speaker 1: You're still gonna be family. You're still gonna be family

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Speaker 1: and all of that. He's still your uncle, all of that.

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Speaker 1: But you've got to put an end to this for

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Speaker 1: no uncle, I'm not doing this anymore. You're on your own,

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Speaker 1: all right, That's all you gotta do. Steve Well, First

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Speaker 1: of all, surely I agree with every single thing you said.

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Speaker 1: Here is the real problem with this. This guy wants

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Speaker 1: like you told of the young lady, she's twenty eight,

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Speaker 1: she's good and grown. Remove yourself from this, just like

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Speaker 1: I ain't lying for you. Stay out of it. Stop

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Speaker 1: cereal Is Tricks is for kids, silly rabbit. That's what

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Speaker 1: Here's a deal. This is what you really really need

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Speaker 1: Certain if you were a real man, any real man

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Speaker 1: would not subject the women in his family to this

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Speaker 1: type of foolishness. What what kind of message do you

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Speaker 1: And your cousin, your daughter. You're cheating on you on

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Speaker 1: trifling man. Real men don't do this, Pardner. Do what

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Speaker 1: What is wrong with your nutty as sitting up in here.

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Speaker 1: You can need people to pull your troops. You ain't

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Speaker 1: play by yourself. All right, Steve, hang on playing down

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Speaker 1: to bust you bang it up? All right, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two if Steve's responds, coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening Steve Morning Show. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: here we go. Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject my

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Speaker 1: I think you should do. I think you should go.

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Speaker 1: You say you got three uncles, that's like a father

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Speaker 1: Could they talk to him and then let them as

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Speaker 1: How And I wish I knew how old he was?

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Speaker 1: But that's enough. That's all I got to say. There

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Speaker 1: ain't nothing else say. Everything Shirley said made perfect sense

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Speaker 1: to me. You are too old for this mess, right Hill,

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Speaker 1: Go sit your old tail down somewhere. Stop dragging these

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Speaker 1: how men are their their heads are messed up forever

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Speaker 1: watching how men function and due when are we gonna

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Speaker 1: you don't want to be a part of it. To

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Speaker 1: Tim step In Hill, Tom step In Hill, Oh my god, Steve,

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Speaker 1: what why why do you want to Tommy in here? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You need an old fool to discuss what another old

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Speaker 1: fool let's doing. Okay, that's that's that's your perspective. See,

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Speaker 1: I'm talking with too much damn sense here. I'm thinking

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Speaker 1: it all about this way. It's real, sim it's cutting

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Speaker 1: dry to me. Let's go to Tommy, get involved here.

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Speaker 1: How do you feel about this? Lord? Well, let me

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Speaker 1: let me first say this to this young lady. All this,

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Speaker 1: you want my uncle to be your uncle? That's out.

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Speaker 1: You ain't finishing. Don't first saying that woman saying I

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Speaker 1: want to be your niece. You're not fitsed to be

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Speaker 1: So this makes sense. Okay, you're dog gonna right. I'm

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Speaker 1: telling everybody that's right in here. I want you to

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Speaker 1: You deal with your own player, player, I got enough

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Speaker 1: cousins over here. We don't need no more. Okay, Now

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Speaker 1: y'a uncle need love too, okay, and he everdaently he

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Speaker 1: not finding it at home with his wife. And I

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Speaker 1: get that. I understand that, soa too. I get it.

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Speaker 1: your role. Okay, y'all supposed to side like y'all together

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Speaker 1: Know that. Wow, I'm amaze. So let me you damn

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Speaker 1: you in on three way and everybody on speaker damn,

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Speaker 1: but you need to be going for the oscar you have.

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Speaker 1: You're better best lead role is you better be back

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Speaker 1: there making some noise, make a lot of noise. Were

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Speaker 1: trying to get big mama together. You know she ain't

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Speaker 1: doing too well. It's a lot. All of this is family.

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Speaker 1: You're throwing out family stuff every now and then keeps

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Speaker 1: you come through the phone, Hay, see how you doing girl?

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Speaker 1: You know what's we try and give it a big

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Speaker 1: mama and we're going to Claudia. We gonna hang out

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Speaker 1: with him. They see how she doing. But yeah, I'll

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Speaker 1: let do your part. Are you acting it out? Are

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Speaker 1: you doing this? That's what I was doing right there? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: big mamma, getting better for time, and then we're going

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Speaker 1: over rapping him house, robbing around. You're don't be going away.

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Speaker 1: We might not get that the money, but we just

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Speaker 1: it's gray slap family. You know how it is by family. Girl,

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Speaker 1: you need to be in the background and scene. That's it.

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Speaker 1: Found business man. Now you want on y'all play all right?

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Speaker 1: Here we go with that? All right? I know all right, listen, guys,

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