1 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:07,560 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephan. 2 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:18,639 Speaker 1: I never told your appection about I Heeart Radio, and 3 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: welcome to Well. You know what for this Monday money, 4 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 1: I'm gonna call it mental health Monday. Can we say that? Yeah? 5 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: I can't we say it? Okay, I'm gonna say it 6 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,159 Speaker 1: that way. So just to be real transparent with you 7 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: Annie and then you the listener, I'm gonna tell you 8 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:38,279 Speaker 1: my mental health is not great. So this is why 9 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: we're gonna call it mental health Monday. I'm not doing 10 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: well and it may be that whole millennial non crisis 11 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: thing we talked about, because everything is a disaster and 12 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 1: chaotic and things seemingly are getting worse, especially when it 13 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:55,959 Speaker 1: comes to the society. It just feels like it's all 14 00:00:55,960 --> 00:01:03,279 Speaker 1: burning and or drowning or something along those lines. And then, 15 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: of course there's also my own personal push and pull 16 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:09,559 Speaker 1: with my life in general, and I guess it could 17 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: absolutely have I know I've talked about my issues with 18 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: my family, whom I love dearly, and I still see 19 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: in contact and they are there for me. So when 20 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 1: I say there, I mean physically here for me. I 21 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 1: know if I said I need help they would be 22 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: there an instant. I know if I said I was sick, 23 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: my family would be asking about me, making sure I 24 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: was okay, and taking care of all those things. However, 25 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: we are very disconnected in a lot of ways, like 26 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: they've never seen my house that I've bought, while my 27 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 1: partner's entire family I've visited for a little while. Of course, 28 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: they're from out of town, which you would think would 29 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: make it more difficult, but I digress. Except for my nieces, 30 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: they have seen my house. It's pretty much because they 31 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: drove to my house so I could take them out 32 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: to eat again. Though they are probably people that I'm 33 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: the most close with in my family, so that was 34 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: That's an interesting kind of like it still stings a 35 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: little bit. We made our book announcement and any aus 36 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:17,119 Speaker 1: talking to you off Mike, I don't know. I haven't. 37 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: I'm so I should be to the point where we 38 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: are so excited because we accomplished something huge and we 39 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:26,400 Speaker 1: had the privilege of doing a big project I had 40 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: to hear by my side, and it's been a beautiful 41 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 1: working progress. I think. I don't know, that's maybe my opinion, 42 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,160 Speaker 1: because I feel like we balanced each other out you 43 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 1: had so much patience with the fact that I'm the 44 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 1: procrastinator of the two of us, as well as our 45 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 1: wonderful person Janey, who was I guess she's labeled our ghostwriter, 46 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: but I really hesitate to say that since we did 47 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: write the book. But she has been one hundred and 48 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: twenty percent with us the entire process taking us down 49 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: this road. She is a beautiful person. I hope she 50 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: remains in our lives forever because she was fantastic. The 51 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: work of Helen Troy is so beautiful. I'm so excited. 52 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: That part was probably my favorite part. It's working with 53 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:10,240 Speaker 1: her to realize what hired ideas were. I love doing that. 54 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 1: So this whole thing should be exciting. I should be 55 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: announcing the people, But every time I did think about it, 56 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 1: there's just like dread that happens. We just got a 57 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 1: copy of the first draft of it. Is that what 58 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: we call this advanced reading copy. It's sort of like 59 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 1: the first It's not for sale, it's not the final coffy. 60 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 1: Because a lot of people sent me. I posted about it. 61 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: A lot of people were like, wait, it doesn't come 62 00:03:33,880 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: out to August. I'm like, yeah, because this will got 63 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: a lot of editing to do. It's gonna color involved, 64 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: I promise, so yeah, blind and white and like the 65 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: thick brown, odd drawing paper. Obviously this is not all. 66 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: The back was like, hey, this is not correct, but 67 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: it's still excited to see, exciting to hold it as 68 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: well as seeing it bound together. It's like, wow, this 69 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: is our work. A little avatage which I'm very excited 70 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: about seeing though, has come to life. You know, we 71 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:04,120 Speaker 1: should be excited, but instead I kind of just have 72 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: this like little level of dread with it. It hit 73 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: me today because I'm very emotional about it today as 74 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: I am going through and trying to post about it. 75 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:17,480 Speaker 1: I haven't posted it anything about it personally. I may 76 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: have retweeted your thing one time, like the things that's 77 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: happening on our social media of stuff Mom never told 78 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 1: you social media, but I was really hesitant and I 79 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 1: thought I wasn't going to do it, realizing a lot 80 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: of the friends who I am close to don't know 81 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 1: that I did this, we've done this, even though they 82 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: heard me talk about it in the process. So I 83 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: just kind of went through and fixed I guess some 84 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: of my social media and I privated it for those 85 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 1: of you who are not following are interested in follow me, 86 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: you know, I'll do the accept it for sure, but 87 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: I put it on private because of the fear and 88 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 1: dread of what my family's going to say and react. 89 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: And this is not everyone. And again the reason I 90 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: say this, they are very much on the opposite spectrum 91 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: of us of what we believe. What we think is 92 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: basic human rights, what we believe is, yeah, the overall 93 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: reason for us to be here to protect the people, 94 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: the vulnerable communities. And I'm not saying that they hate them, 95 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:28,440 Speaker 1: but the belief is a so old school rhetoric that 96 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: it's definitely very conservative in the idea that if it's 97 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: not pertaining to the heteronormative idea, then it's sin. So 98 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: because of that, we've had a lot of clashing of heads. 99 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: I've cried a lot. I felt very disconnected as an adoptee. 100 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: I've had a lot of conversations about racism and they 101 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: just see me, they don't see me, but it comes 102 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: off as ungrateful for my upbringing. So all of us 103 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: to say is like that level has put such a 104 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: cloud over me that I am really struggling. And also 105 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: because of all of this, loss of identity of my family. 106 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: I'm trying to submerge myself into the whole like Korean world, 107 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 1: and I am struggling because of my own personal trauma 108 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 1: and triggers from that. That it the mental block has 109 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 1: me so frustrated because it's made it clear that it's 110 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: not time for me to progress. I spoke Korean until 111 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 1: I was eight years old, if not later, because obviously 112 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 1: that's what I grew up with. I learned English within 113 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: a six month span very quickly, trying to acclimate into 114 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: a community of just white Americans speaking English country English. 115 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: As you can tell, so my accent, the way I 116 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 1: speak is very odd, very odd. I get it. I 117 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: get it, but like trying to kind of rediscover or 118 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 1: come back to that has been so hard. I tell 119 00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: the funny joke of like being in a Korean college 120 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: course for at least the full year and doing second 121 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: to the worst in that course, and the worst person 122 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,800 Speaker 1: was and I love her that she was a white 123 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: girl from Louisiana. So it's like the two of us 124 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 1: were struggling real hard. And to the fact that when 125 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: I told my history to my Korean teacher, she was 126 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: very confused, very confused because she expected me to say 127 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: that I was born and then adopted immediately after birth. 128 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: And then when I told her no, I lived until 129 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: like a certain age, She's like, oh, and that was 130 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: literal silence and that was it. So a lot of 131 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 1: these things have been really really pushing my buttons. I 132 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: will say, I'll say that way, you know, and then 133 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 1: just add to the general of it all, I am 134 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: a depressive individual. I've talked to about depressive and anxious, 135 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: so I'm definitely on that spectrum with a lot of trauma. 136 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: And once again and it's it's just something I will 137 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 1: always have to manage, you know. We've talked about that, 138 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: We've talked about the fact that it just doesn't go away. 139 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: I'm a different types of therapy for the rest of 140 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: my life. I am on certain types of medication to 141 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: try to balance everything out for me. And just maybe 142 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: with a combo of all those things, I will say, yeah, 143 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: I'm just not in a good place. Let me just 144 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: be really frank and really honest. So in honor of that, 145 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: because I am not in a good place, because I 146 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: had a whole different episode in mind, which had everything 147 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: to do with anti Asian stuff that I've seen recently 148 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: which makes me angry. But instead what I wanted to 149 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: go through is kind of try to make myself uplift 150 00:08:33,559 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 1: my own mental health stuff, I guess, as well as 151 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: share it with y'all. And no, I don't mean like 152 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:44,199 Speaker 1: bench watching your favorite or my favorite K drama, which 153 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 1: I have been doing, or rewatching Ratitui for the upteenth time, 154 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: which is my go to movie. I don't know why. 155 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:52,040 Speaker 1: I just love it. I just love everything about it. 156 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:56,559 Speaker 1: But actually doing something that feels like I'm taking action, 157 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: and that is something that I've always when I feel upset, 158 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: when I see something that is offensive or obviously a 159 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:09,199 Speaker 1: real attack on the community that I love, then I 160 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:13,200 Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, this is my best way of reacting 161 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: with that ten minute rant about how I am not 162 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: okay and may kind of going on and on, and 163 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: even though yes, sometimes you just need to have a 164 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:41,040 Speaker 1: moment and to collect yourself and sometimes it just needs 165 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:42,959 Speaker 1: to be about you, like I'm so, I don't want 166 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: to hear anyone saying that that's being selfish. No, that's 167 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 1: not a bad things. Taking time just to reflect while 168 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: you're hurting, that's beautiful. I mean, it's painful, but to 169 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:55,839 Speaker 1: be able to acknowledge yourself that way. You've got to. 170 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: You've got to. But for now, but we're gonna go 171 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:05,439 Speaker 1: for with ways of taking action for all the nastiness 172 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 1: that is happening or feels like it's constantly happening in 173 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 1: our current state. Are you okay with that? Annie? Yeah? 174 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: All right. So here's what I thought. I'm going to 175 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 1: talk about a few organizations, and I know y'all going 176 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: to have so many more suggestions, So I really hope 177 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 1: that you send us as many suggestions that you can 178 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: send a baby what you do when you're in these places? 179 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm talking about? I know you do, 180 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:38,280 Speaker 1: because we've heard from you about the loss of family 181 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 1: or feeling disconnected, and you, you all, including you Annie, 182 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,079 Speaker 1: obviously are a part of my chosen family, and I'm 183 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: very grateful for that because I know not everyone has that. 184 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 1: So moving on, So one of the of course things 185 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:55,680 Speaker 1: that we need to talk about is the anti trans 186 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: laws as well as rhetoric that is happening everywhere all 187 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:02,200 Speaker 1: over the country. It feels like it's NonStop. As much 188 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: as so much progress has been made for the trans community, 189 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 1: there's a lot of step backs We've talked about that. 190 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: So here's a few organizations that maybe you should look 191 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:14,680 Speaker 1: to if you want to help, including the National Center 192 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:18,480 Speaker 1: for Transgender Equality, which works on a local level as 193 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:21,320 Speaker 1: well as the federal level on policies and laws, which 194 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 1: is very important right now. Obviously trans Lifeline, which is 195 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 1: a hotline staff by trans people for trans people. And 196 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: I think this is really important because we know how 197 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: isolating and how much self loathing there is when it 198 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:38,559 Speaker 1: comes to what we're hearing with anti trans rhetoric, that 199 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: they are really pushing that hateful language and sometimes eventually 200 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 1: that gets into your ears, and having a community is 201 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:49,559 Speaker 1: so important. Then we have Trans Women of Color Collective. 202 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:53,120 Speaker 1: This obviously focuses on transwomen of color, which we need 203 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: to talk about the marginalized when it comes intertectionality, how 204 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: many levels of trauma and triggers there is within that. 205 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 1: Then we have the Trans Youth Equality Foundation, which provides education, advocacy, 206 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 1: and support for our transgender and gender nonconforming teams and youth. 207 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: I believe they have a camp coming up too. I 208 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:14,479 Speaker 1: think I just saw that on their site, which sounded interesting. 209 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: So that's just a few. I know there's tons out there. 210 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,439 Speaker 1: I know y'all have know there's some on the local 211 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:22,839 Speaker 1: level which you definitely should be looking into. And then 212 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: we're going to go on to we've we've talked about 213 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: previously the reproductive rights, Justice and Care because it is 214 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 1: ongoing and irritating, and that includes the National Network of 215 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: Abortion Funds I've talked about them before, which helps with 216 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: financial and logistical needs for those in need of abortion. 217 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 1: They also work with local organizations, which is so important. 218 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,080 Speaker 1: I think we've talked about how important it is that 219 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: you do look towards that way. Then we have Sister Song, 220 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:51,680 Speaker 1: which is one of my favorites. They work to amplify 221 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: and strengthen the indigenous community and people of color, so 222 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 1: they work really closely with them. And then we have 223 00:12:57,040 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 1: the bridget Alliance, which also do similar work or providing 224 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 1: transport and any kind of logistical needs and funding. Then 225 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:07,520 Speaker 1: we have one four specifically for the South, so that 226 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: includes like Florida, Alabama, Tennessee, Georgia, which is art southeast. 227 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 1: They do the same thing about the funding and the logistics. 228 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: And then we have front Arra Fund which is specifically 229 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: with the Rio Grand Valley in Texas, and I did 230 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 1: focus on a little on the south side, So everybody 231 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 1: from the north, let me know what you got, because 232 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:29,680 Speaker 1: I know y'all in the Midwest all of the places. 233 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 1: I'm not ignoring you a promise. And then we talked 234 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: about band books previously, and I'm getting some good information 235 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 1: from listeners about laws that's happening around there that we 236 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:42,800 Speaker 1: do want to come back to. But here's some ways 237 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 1: to help work against the band books that's happening, which 238 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: is stay informed and that you can do that with 239 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:53,200 Speaker 1: organizations like we need diverse books. Their site is Diverse 240 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:56,480 Speaker 1: Books dot orgs and they do exactly that and helping 241 00:13:56,520 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 1: to get out different different voices and different books for 242 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 1: those to see themselves in literature, which is so important 243 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: because I know how underrepresented I've felt. Um. Then PIN 244 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:12,960 Speaker 1: America like writing pen and it's pin dot org, which 245 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 1: quote champion the freedom to write, recognize the power of 246 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,360 Speaker 1: the word to transform the world. So they do a 247 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: lot of conversations and they'll let you know and update 248 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: you what's going on around the country. Because this is 249 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: really important. We need to really pay attenent. I know 250 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 1: any you are talking about the fact that a lot 251 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:32,240 Speaker 1: of the beginning of some really ugly stuff happened with 252 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:36,120 Speaker 1: banning of books. Yeah. Yeah, And in our when we 253 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:37,960 Speaker 1: did our book announcement in our book club and we 254 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: talked about banning of books. Pin America was the one 255 00:14:40,920 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: we used a lot of their recent data on. So 256 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: they are a big name. They are keeping watch on this, 257 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 1: and they have they have a lot of really good 258 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 1: data and resources for if you want to know more 259 00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 1: and know more about how to how to fight back. Yes, 260 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: um and yeah. And also you can start into book clubs. 261 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 1: I guess technically all of our books have been banned. 262 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: I used to, like I said, Banned Books Week. It's 263 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: in September, And like I said, in my high school, 264 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 1: we a couple of us would run it and we 265 00:15:13,360 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: would make bookmarks that had banned books and quotes from 266 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: the banned books on them and hand them out, Like 267 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: I think this would be super fun. And yes, you 268 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: could use like some of the books we've done on 269 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 1: our book clubs. And I don't know, there's something that's 270 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: it's very there's a lot of really fun DIY projects 271 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:36,360 Speaker 1: you can do around an idea like that, Yes, for sure. 272 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 1: And then very important buy and read banned books. And 273 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 1: when we say buy and read. Try to keep it local. 274 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 1: Do you go to your independent bookstores? We know there's 275 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: tons out there. I don't do it enough. I try 276 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 1: as much as we can. Sometimes we have to do 277 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 1: it on the fly. I will say. I know authors 278 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 1: have said even if you do use massive conglomerates like Amazon, 279 00:15:57,760 --> 00:16:02,440 Speaker 1: they still get money. They'd rather you do that than not, right, 280 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: So if you have to, you have to. Sometimes there's 281 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 1: not access. But if you can go to your independent bookstore. 282 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: We have Keras, which is an amazing independent bookstore here 283 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 1: in Atlanta. But yeah, this is really important. Keep it 284 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:20,479 Speaker 1: and you know what, sometimes being banned it's good advertisement, 285 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 1: I think, just as a thing. So let's make that 286 00:16:24,320 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 1: a true thing. And then there's a lot of things 287 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: happening with the youth who are already fighting against the 288 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: bands in their schools. So if you know what's going on, 289 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 1: if you know of student organizations that are doing this, 290 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 1: which I'm sure there's tons out there, support them, support 291 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: them however you can, whether it's writing letters for them 292 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: in support of them to the schools, or letting the 293 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: officials know, donating books to them. I think these are 294 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: really great ideas. So that's some of the things that 295 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 1: we can do for the banning of the books, which 296 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: is silly. I also want to talk about how we 297 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: can support the black folks in general. There are organizations 298 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: that we should follow though, including Black Girl's Code, which 299 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 1: we've talked about before, because they are empowering girls ages 300 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:15,400 Speaker 1: seven through seventeen by exposing them to computer science and technology. 301 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 1: We love what they do. Also, we've talked about this before. 302 00:17:19,840 --> 00:17:23,440 Speaker 1: Buy from black businesses, black women businesses. There are tons 303 00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 1: out there. TikTok is really great at exposing these work 304 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,440 Speaker 1: like LEAs a little shops. We bought some t shirts 305 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,959 Speaker 1: from Mahogany Mama. She does some amazing work. There's a 306 00:17:32,960 --> 00:17:36,639 Speaker 1: lot of small shops that need our support. Do it 307 00:17:36,720 --> 00:17:42,439 Speaker 1: do it today, find it on Etsy. Be careful because 308 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:48,399 Speaker 1: some people will just say things yeah. Anyway. The Oprah Project, 309 00:17:48,520 --> 00:17:52,639 Speaker 1: which we talked about previously on our feminists around the world, 310 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: which they provide mills and resources to black trans people. 311 00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: I think that's amazing as well as the Black Women's 312 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:03,199 Speaker 1: Health Imperative is the only national organization dedicated to improving 313 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: the health and wellness of Black women and girls that 314 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:10,120 Speaker 1: is solely dedicated, So I think that's very important. Go 315 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:14,520 Speaker 1: check them out. And then there's so much more we 316 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 1: could say, because there's so many other things that we 317 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: need to talk about. But to end because I've already 318 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:22,880 Speaker 1: stretched this out with me just talking and rambling. First, Ay, 319 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 1: do you have any things that you want to add 320 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 1: that I may have missed? I know, feminist frequency, feminist frequency. 321 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:35,200 Speaker 1: I mean there's that's if you want to learn more 322 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 1: about feminist issues from some people who got really attacked 323 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:44,480 Speaker 1: by angry gamers. They got great contents, and there's there's 324 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 1: also Bridget talked about them once, and there are some 325 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:48,919 Speaker 1: black women who are doing the same thing. And I 326 00:18:49,000 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: feel like there's so much. I would say, do your 327 00:18:55,640 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 1: research in your local area because there is a lot 328 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:03,280 Speaker 1: going on right now, and I it is important to 329 00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 1: know where you're your money is going. And there are 330 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 1: some great tips for like the best how you can 331 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:15,760 Speaker 1: whatever your situation is, how you can support things like 332 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:20,200 Speaker 1: this in the best way most efficiently. So do that. Yeah, 333 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 1: volunteering is always good. Again. When we talked with Helica, 334 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 1: we talked about just the power of liking and sharing posts. 335 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: That's all you can do, especially for causes like the 336 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:36,479 Speaker 1: Rannie and revolutions. That's happening. Making sure that you're just 337 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 1: letting people know what's going on, talking about it. Same 338 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: thing with the banning of the books, same thing about 339 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:44,719 Speaker 1: these laws that they're doing under hush hush conditions. Just 340 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:48,240 Speaker 1: making sure that you're outspoken about it is just as 341 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 1: important as well as just subscribing, following these organizations that 342 00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 1: we talked about to know what's going on and making 343 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:58,359 Speaker 1: sure that it's part of your community. And if you 344 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: are on TikTok for na guess it's on your FYP 345 00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 1: for you, your page, thank you. I want to end 346 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: with some of the things that we should do, especially 347 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 1: when we are struggling with the trauma PTSD. We've talked 348 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 1: about how about seven out of eight of every one 349 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 1: hundred people suffer from PTSD. We talked about collective trauma, 350 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:37,119 Speaker 1: which is a constant for all of us. So just 351 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 1: a few things reminder that we can do again. It 352 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 1: takes some time focus on yourself. That's not a bad thing. 353 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 1: And whether that's again taking a moment to do something 354 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 1: that you love, taking a moment to be with someone 355 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 1: that you love, taking a moment, takes some space. In 356 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:57,360 Speaker 1: the sun. Sun is good, Sun is good. Bugs are mad, 357 00:20:57,359 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: but sun is good. And then and also if you can, yes, 358 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 1: therapists are great. Find someone that you can you trust 359 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:10,800 Speaker 1: and able to really have a conversation with focus on 360 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,680 Speaker 1: the good. I know that's hard to do sometimes. And yeah, 361 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: be with your chosen people. Maybe not drink so much. 362 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 1: And yeah, sleep if you can sleep is good. Sleep, 363 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: it's real good. Also meditation. Also, ay, I just found 364 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:32,879 Speaker 1: an app and I didn't subscribe to it. I just 365 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,000 Speaker 1: wanted to check it out where it talks about your 366 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 1: well being. And in this well being in the app, 367 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:41,720 Speaker 1: there is a baby bird that you have to take 368 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:44,399 Speaker 1: care of and it checks on you and it checks 369 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 1: on how you feel and helps you could do breathing exercises. 370 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:54,640 Speaker 1: It's interesting. I'd be scared the baby bird would die. See, 371 00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:57,400 Speaker 1: I know this says something about my I've always been. 372 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: You don't have to feed it, that they are autonomous 373 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:03,080 Speaker 1: in that, but you can't dress it and talk to it. 374 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,160 Speaker 1: You It gives you encouragement and you see it growing up. 375 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 1: I think, Oh no, it has a community and family family. 376 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 1: I think so I didn't get far enough. Oh why, 377 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 1: oh my, that is interesting. I mean it sounds like 378 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 1: again I think that's about more of my statement on 379 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:31,600 Speaker 1: my mental health, and my immediate reaction is oh no, 380 00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,800 Speaker 1: But I think like if, yeah, if you can find 381 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 1: that thing that is healthy and gives you that chance 382 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: to reflect, and I know for some people, I think 383 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 1: my therapist kind of recommended something like that to me before. 384 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: She was like, maybe not for you, but just like 385 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 1: checking in and having that moment of reflectiveness, which can 386 00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 1: feel with something like that, at least for me, can 387 00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:01,439 Speaker 1: feel kind of like you're wasting time, but you're not 388 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: um because it is important to take those moments for 389 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 1: yourself and to check in and to make sure you're 390 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:13,200 Speaker 1: doing okay or if there's something you need to work on, 391 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 1: or so you don't burn out. There's a lot of 392 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:23,920 Speaker 1: reasons why it's important, things like mental health Monday. Thank 393 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:26,440 Speaker 1: you for let me do that. Oh yeah, thank you 394 00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: for being so open and for sharing Samantha. Also pre 395 00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:42,359 Speaker 1: order the book, So the book you know you can 396 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 1: do so at stuff You should read Books dot com 397 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 1: everywhere there you go, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, uh well. 398 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 1: You can also email us at Stuff Media Mom Stuff 399 00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:00,320 Speaker 1: at iHeartMedia dot com. 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