WEBVTT - Decide it all at once

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is that it is easier to make one

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<v Speaker 1>big plan than lots of little plans. So when it

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<v Speaker 1>is possible decide everything all at once, you will gain

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<v Speaker 1>inefficiency and everyone will know the plan has something they

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<v Speaker 1>can get behind. If you've been involved in negotiations, whether

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<v Speaker 1>for a business deal, salary and benefits package, or even

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<v Speaker 1>plans for Thanksgiving dinner, you may have found that it

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<v Speaker 1>is often easier to make one big deal than to

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<v Speaker 1>have separate deliberations over every item. Do you really want

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<v Speaker 1>to debate with your family about where you will celebrate Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 1>and then a month later discuss whether to gather at

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<v Speaker 1>two or at six, and then the week before Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 1>have another epic discussion of whether to have your usual

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<v Speaker 1>menu or something different. If you have all those conversations separately,

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<v Speaker 1>you might find yourself spending thirty minutes discussing menu items

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<v Speaker 1>that no one truly cares about. That's because when you

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<v Speaker 1>make a lot of small deals, it is easy to

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<v Speaker 1>give a topic more attention than it deserves, given how

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<v Speaker 1>important it is to you. When you are making a

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<v Speaker 1>big deal. On the other hand, everyone gets clearer on

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<v Speaker 1>the relative importance of different elements. They also get more

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<v Speaker 1>creative about possible compromises. In a big deal, it is

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<v Speaker 1>easier to stay focused on the big picture. This is

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<v Speaker 1>true for business deals and within families and friendships. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why it is my goal to decide most of our

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<v Speaker 1>family's vacations for any given twelvemonth period. In one fell swoop,

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<v Speaker 1>around the time we decided that I would take the

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<v Speaker 1>big kids to London over Christmas break and my husband

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<v Speaker 1>would take the younger kids skiing. We also decided that

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<v Speaker 1>we would probably do a road trip over spring break,

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<v Speaker 1>and that we'd do a summer beach trip with extended family.

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<v Speaker 1>That vacation portfolio has something for everyone. If you like

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<v Speaker 1>big cities but not the beach, well you're less unhappy

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<v Speaker 1>about the beach because it's not pitted against the big city.

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<v Speaker 1>You know that at least parts of the family will

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<v Speaker 1>be doing both. For my other podcast, Best of Both Worlds,

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<v Speaker 1>my co host Sarah hart Unger and I developed the

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<v Speaker 1>curriculum for our Patreon communities monthly online meetups for all

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<v Speaker 1>of twenty three In one setting, we are covering healthy ving,

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<v Speaker 1>our book club picks, tough parenting moments, making a five

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<v Speaker 1>year travel plan, goal setting, and so on. By thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about the year as a whole, we ensured there was

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<v Speaker 1>balanced in the offerings and something for everyone. Plus, our

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<v Speaker 1>Patreon supporters know what to look forward to in the

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<v Speaker 1>year ahead. If someone doesn't like the February topic, oh well,

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<v Speaker 1>they can see that they might be way more into

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<v Speaker 1>April's discussion. As you think about whether this tip might

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<v Speaker 1>be helpful for you, consider what decisions you make repeatedly

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<v Speaker 1>through the year, then ask whether you could consolidate them.

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<v Speaker 1>Your book club might decide on all the books for

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<v Speaker 1>the next six months, rather than deliberating every month about

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<v Speaker 1>what to read next. You and your partner could decide

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<v Speaker 1>what you'll do for several upcoming date nights rather than

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<v Speaker 1>just deciding what you'll do for the next one. Instead

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<v Speaker 1>of waking up every Saturday morning with no idea what

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do, your family could make a list

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<v Speaker 1>of five things you want to do during the next

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<v Speaker 1>month and choose one each week, giving yourself just enough

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<v Speaker 1>flexibility that rainy weather or a tricky schedule won't mean

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<v Speaker 1>that the planned activity is a no go. When you

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<v Speaker 1>decided all at once, it is easier to make sure

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<v Speaker 1>everyone feels excited about what's ahead. You get to say

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<v Speaker 1>yes two more good things, and there's us arguing about

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that doesn't matter. In the meantime. This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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