1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: Today's tip is that it is easier to make one 4 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:25,159 Speaker 1: big plan than lots of little plans. So when it 5 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 1: is possible decide everything all at once, you will gain 6 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 1: inefficiency and everyone will know the plan has something they 7 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 1: can get behind. If you've been involved in negotiations, whether 8 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 1: for a business deal, salary and benefits package, or even 9 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: plans for Thanksgiving dinner, you may have found that it 10 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: is often easier to make one big deal than to 11 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: have separate deliberations over every item. Do you really want 12 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: to debate with your family about where you will celebrate Thanksgiving, 13 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: and then a month later discuss whether to gather at 14 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: two or at six, and then the week before Thanksgiving, 15 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 1: have another epic discussion of whether to have your usual 16 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: menu or something different. If you have all those conversations separately, 17 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 1: you might find yourself spending thirty minutes discussing menu items 18 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: that no one truly cares about. That's because when you 19 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: make a lot of small deals, it is easy to 20 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: give a topic more attention than it deserves, given how 21 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: important it is to you. When you are making a 22 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: big deal. On the other hand, everyone gets clearer on 23 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: the relative importance of different elements. They also get more 24 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: creative about possible compromises. In a big deal, it is 25 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: easier to stay focused on the big picture. This is 26 00:01:54,560 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: true for business deals and within families and friendships. That's 27 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: why it is my goal to decide most of our 28 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: family's vacations for any given twelvemonth period. In one fell swoop, 29 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: around the time we decided that I would take the 30 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 1: big kids to London over Christmas break and my husband 31 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: would take the younger kids skiing. We also decided that 32 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: we would probably do a road trip over spring break, 33 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: and that we'd do a summer beach trip with extended family. 34 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: That vacation portfolio has something for everyone. If you like 35 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: big cities but not the beach, well you're less unhappy 36 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:38,079 Speaker 1: about the beach because it's not pitted against the big city. 37 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:41,399 Speaker 1: You know that at least parts of the family will 38 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: be doing both. For my other podcast, Best of Both Worlds, 39 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: my co host Sarah hart Unger and I developed the 40 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: curriculum for our Patreon communities monthly online meetups for all 41 00:02:54,880 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: of twenty three In one setting, we are covering healthy ving, 42 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: our book club picks, tough parenting moments, making a five 43 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: year travel plan, goal setting, and so on. By thinking 44 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: about the year as a whole, we ensured there was 45 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: balanced in the offerings and something for everyone. Plus, our 46 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:22,359 Speaker 1: Patreon supporters know what to look forward to in the 47 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:27,239 Speaker 1: year ahead. If someone doesn't like the February topic, oh well, 48 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: they can see that they might be way more into 49 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 1: April's discussion. As you think about whether this tip might 50 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: be helpful for you, consider what decisions you make repeatedly 51 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: through the year, then ask whether you could consolidate them. 52 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: Your book club might decide on all the books for 53 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: the next six months, rather than deliberating every month about 54 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: what to read next. You and your partner could decide 55 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: what you'll do for several upcoming date nights rather than 56 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: just deciding what you'll do for the next one. Instead 57 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: of waking up every Saturday morning with no idea what 58 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: you want to do, your family could make a list 59 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: of five things you want to do during the next 60 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: month and choose one each week, giving yourself just enough 61 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: flexibility that rainy weather or a tricky schedule won't mean 62 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,479 Speaker 1: that the planned activity is a no go. When you 63 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 1: decided all at once, it is easier to make sure 64 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: everyone feels excited about what's ahead. You get to say 65 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: yes two more good things, and there's us arguing about 66 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: stuff that doesn't matter. In the meantime. This is Laura. 67 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 68 00:04:53,839 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 1: our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you. 69 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,880 Speaker 1: You can send me your tips, your questions, or anything else. 70 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 1: Just connect with me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at 71 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: Before Breakfast pod that's b E the number four, then 72 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:18,600 Speaker 1: Breakfast p o D. 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