WEBVTT - Ep. 34: Lemonade

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I should be singing just the two

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<v Speaker 1>of us.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we could start off like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that, but that's the only part of the

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<v Speaker 1>song I know. I know that I asked the two

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<v Speaker 1>of us, we can make it up. We try just

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<v Speaker 1>the two of us. You and do you know, for

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<v Speaker 1>the longest time, I thought that was Will Smith's song.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna be embarrassed. It's like Al Green or

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<v Speaker 1>somebody somebody, not Will Smith, like one of those old

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<v Speaker 1>soul singers. So I'm sorry. Hope, there goes my phone. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>my two best friends are still texting me. This is

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<v Speaker 1>a text just came in about this whole Beyonce Lemonade situation.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I can't wait for this.

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up to like thirty five. What's funny? Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're going, So we're can just talk about it now.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's just do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Did our singing that's important today?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we got this. Yeah we're going.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going, Okay, okay, So yeah, so Lemonade, I know

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<v Speaker 2>my bestie was like, first of all, it was hilarious.

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<v Speaker 2>So I for some reason I could not find HBO

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<v Speaker 2>like on my TV, and so I saw my bestie

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<v Speaker 2>on Facebook was like I'm watching Lemonade and getting my life.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh my god, I can't find it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not on my HBO. She was like, call the

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<v Speaker 2>cable company. That's how serious it was. But I seriously

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<v Speaker 2>considered it. But I googled and I found it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Yeah, I actually didn't watch it live. On Saturday.

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<v Speaker 1>I went out and had a couple of cocktails, and

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<v Speaker 1>I got back and fell promptly asleep because that's how

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<v Speaker 1>I party now. And so I woke up at like

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<v Speaker 1>six am and I went out and I watched it

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<v Speaker 1>by myself, which I'm really happy about, Like no one

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<v Speaker 1>yelling at me, no one saying y'all sent my ear,

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<v Speaker 1>like I have friends who had viewing parties. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like emotional experience, and it was I'm glad that I

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<v Speaker 1>had it, like, you know, by myself in my little

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<v Speaker 1>quiet place.

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<v Speaker 2>I see I did it the wrong way because I

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<v Speaker 2>finally got to watch it, but when I started watching,

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<v Speaker 2>it was already halfway done. So I was so confused,

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<v Speaker 2>like what's happening, you know? And then it really wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>until I realized, oh, this is like a visual representation

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<v Speaker 2>of her album and then I found it online and

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<v Speaker 2>while Superman was sleeping last night, I watched it and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, so I had already gotten like

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<v Speaker 2>all the hype, all the whatever out of the way

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<v Speaker 2>because I hadn't even seen Serena. And I was like, oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm you know, at first, I was like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>get it, but then after watching the whole thing in

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<v Speaker 2>its entirety, I was like, I can dig it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you got yeah, you gotta watch the entire

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<v Speaker 1>thing in order.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, you do. And honestly, overall, I could definitely

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<v Speaker 2>say I liked it. You know that I was there

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<v Speaker 2>definitely parts where I'm like huh or but I the vibe,

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<v Speaker 2>the transition that she's making, I'm here for it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. It made Formation make so much more sense.

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<v Speaker 1>It like gave context for Formation. But it also I

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<v Speaker 1>felt like was so much deeper than what Formation was.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, for sure, what I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Worried about once what I've been hearing. I mean, first

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<v Speaker 1>of all, like I loved it. I thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>her best music she's put out, Like, there were some

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<v Speaker 1>really interesting collaborations on this, and it wasn't just like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the weekend Kendrick Lamar. Maybe people would have

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<v Speaker 1>seen that coming. But like James Blake and the country song,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know who did that country song with her.

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<v Speaker 1>I fucking loved it. I was like, okay, country Beyonce.

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<v Speaker 2>Country Beyonce with the braids, Let's ride on the horse. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>So there was a song. Was it Freedom at the end?

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<v Speaker 2>Which on the stage? That song I loved.

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<v Speaker 1>That was with Kendrick. Well, that was just nothing but

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<v Speaker 1>black girl power. I mean, you had Zenda, you had

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<v Speaker 1>and forget me. I don't know all the names of

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<v Speaker 1>the famous women, but I know that ballerina dancer was

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<v Speaker 1>famous person. I know Coven Jenny Wallace was there. She

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<v Speaker 1>was like holding Blue Ivy's hand.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I was like, oh, that was just and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not gonna lie. I totally shed a tear when you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when the women were holding their lost sons or their

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<v Speaker 2>sons so ugh. Yes, it was like, honestly, I just

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I lost it. I was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>it just was so and I kept I literally felt

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<v Speaker 2>myself saying aloud, I'm so sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry, because you know, you don't see the

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<v Speaker 1>women behind the boys who die. You don't see in

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<v Speaker 1>the media, all you see is the picture of the

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<v Speaker 1>young boy and maybe the cop, but you don't. I

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<v Speaker 1>think people forget that, you know, there's a mother who

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<v Speaker 1>raised these kids and had to bury them. And that

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<v Speaker 1>was that was really poignant for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I cried to you, yes, and honestly, I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll be out there with this outfit, with this Onenkora

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<v Speaker 2>outfit in European cuts. Yes, I am here for it.

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<v Speaker 2>I just love that.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that the one where the big BILLOWI like Victorian

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<v Speaker 1>style dress, but it was like an African print.

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<v Speaker 2>So they call that ancre like okay, and so, like

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<v Speaker 2>you what I love about OnCore is that you can,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the print is so clearly African, and the

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<v Speaker 2>fun thing to do with it is to cut it

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<v Speaker 2>in ways that are traditionally not African, you know. So

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<v Speaker 2>it's like I have so many like Oncre outfits, like

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<v Speaker 2>you know, made specially and you could just make a

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<v Speaker 2>mini skirt, but it's on care a fat you know, fabric,

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<v Speaker 2>so it just looks so dope. Because actually I think

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<v Speaker 2>it was the met the Costume Institute. I think they

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<v Speaker 2>had like a whole like I don't remember if it

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<v Speaker 2>was like a display or whatever, but it was that

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like look it was the African print on

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<v Speaker 2>care print, and then everyone was wearing traditional European kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like old school Victorian outfits, but with that print,

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<v Speaker 2>which was so dope.

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<v Speaker 1>That was like, and we got hints of that from Formation.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like a little bit, but this video just

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<v Speaker 1>blew everything out of the water everything. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I can already sense I mean not to

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<v Speaker 1>be I'm like kind of defensive against Beyonce. Like as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as I watched Lemonade and I knew how much

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<v Speaker 1>I loved it, I was like, people are gonna try

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<v Speaker 1>and tear me down. They're gonna try and say it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't that good. So you know, my friend and we've

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<v Speaker 1>had Jessica on the show before, so of course there

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<v Speaker 1>was a text message started starting with her and my

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<v Speaker 1>other best friend, and I just did. I ignored my

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<v Speaker 1>phone all day. I was like, let me just sit

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<v Speaker 1>in my feelings before before I have to go and

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<v Speaker 1>defend her.

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<v Speaker 2>Like.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what's surprising is they were. Jess was

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<v Speaker 1>on board. She liked it really, but you know, her

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<v Speaker 1>argument in so many women's argument or so many people

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<v Speaker 1>like Beyonce haters or not haters, but you know, people

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<v Speaker 1>who aren't so much fans, all they say is, how

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<v Speaker 1>is she empowering women? She's running around into two two

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<v Speaker 1>and like a leotard and she's talking about twerking and

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<v Speaker 1>freakom dresses, and they say her music doesn't really say anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And now all I have to do is just push

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<v Speaker 1>play on Lemonade.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly, and I just you know, I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 2>I considered getting titled for that free one month just

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<v Speaker 2>so I can like sit and listen without the visuals,

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<v Speaker 2>just to kind of let it soak in, because they

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<v Speaker 2>were definitely some songs and I was like, what like

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<v Speaker 2>the song when she was like put your middle fing

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh am, just her face and her yes.

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<v Speaker 1>But oh Serena, oh my god, Serena. Oh I just yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just such a rollercoature of emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it was like, Yes, when Beyonce came out with

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<v Speaker 2>the fur cole the swag in that segment of Lemonade,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, if this woman's swag is not on

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<v Speaker 2>the thousand, I don't know what is.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the title of that chapter was anger. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it came through.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I was like, oh, sorry, Becky.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, did you see? Oh go ahead, let's.

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<v Speaker 2>Talk about how the internet's the beehive how to read?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, yes you saw? Okay, Rachel Ray.

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<v Speaker 2>So for those of you who are like what, so

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<v Speaker 2>beehive is like the people that follow Beyonce and they

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<v Speaker 2>are vicious. I mean the high will will sing you

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<v Speaker 2>to death. So apparently people thought the Becky with the

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<v Speaker 2>with the good hair, well, if you haven't watched the Lemonade,

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<v Speaker 2>sorry spoiler alert. So it basically implies that that jay

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<v Speaker 2>Z cheated on her and people is an understatement.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's the scarlet letter on his face. Yeah, tattoos it.

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<v Speaker 2>And then supposedly it's supposed to be with Rachel Roy,

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<v Speaker 2>who is She's a fashion designer, right, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't know who she is. I didn't know before this

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing came out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I think she's a fashion designer. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought she was married to Dame Dash at one point.

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<v Speaker 2>They have a kid, which that's jay Z's ex best friend. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>So Rachel Roy is like a fashion designer. She's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she looks like I want to say that

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<v Speaker 2>she could be uh, Indian maybe Pakistani, that's you know

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<v Speaker 2>that like in that kind of flavor. But she's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>And so people are saying, remember when Salange beat jay

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<v Speaker 2>Z down in the elevator m hm, So they're saying

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<v Speaker 2>that that was it was because of that, because he

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<v Speaker 2>had been inappropriate with her. And so Rachel Roy posted

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<v Speaker 2>like something like right after lemonade about having good hair,

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<v Speaker 2>and so everybody was like, oh, it is you. But

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<v Speaker 2>unfortunately there's a Rachel Ray who's this cute little Italian

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<v Speaker 2>woman that cooks.

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<v Speaker 1>What I would say, it's arguably the bigger star.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, definitely as far as like more mainstream. Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 2>that's probably why they found her. So they thought Rachel Ray,

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<v Speaker 2>who's this little Italian woman was Rachel Roy, and they

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<v Speaker 2>went to her harassing that.

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<v Speaker 1>Of all the people, the most wholesome, like all American

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<v Speaker 1>food network star Rachel Ray, who has a talk show

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<v Speaker 1>that comes out of like three PM, I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Never been in any trouble, never any proparazzi anything, never.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. She was like, what's going on, guys? And

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<v Speaker 2>she's so cute. She's got like all these little nicknames

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<v Speaker 2>for things like instead of like she calls what is

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff like olive oil, like oh yeah, oh, she's

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<v Speaker 2>just so cute, and like, I know she was like

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<v Speaker 2>why why are people attacking me? Go ahead?

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<v Speaker 1>I saw one meme that was like Becky with the

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<v Speaker 1>good chili.

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<v Speaker 2>So I was reading some of the stuff that people

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<v Speaker 2>were posting, and once they realized it was the wrong person,

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<v Speaker 2>one somebody actually said, as a member of the Beehive Committee,

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<v Speaker 2>we sincerely apologize. Oh my god, honestly that I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I literally laughed out loud. I was dying. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>y'all be high both, y'all don't know what to stop.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't come for me because I love Beyonce and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just saying that I should be.

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<v Speaker 1>What we should be asking is like why are they

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<v Speaker 1>going after the woman anyway? Like jay Z is the

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<v Speaker 1>one who cheated exactly. You know what's crazy. I was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to understand why the whole entire video, the movie

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<v Speaker 1>was like getting to me emotionally, and I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>mean towards the end, I was a mess. When the

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<v Speaker 1>moms of the black men who died with jay Z's

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<v Speaker 1>mom grandmother giving that speech about lemonade, when it finally

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<v Speaker 1>clicked for me, what the hell lemonade meant and where

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<v Speaker 1>the lemonade was coming in Like all that was very emotional,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was like I've never been cheated on before.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think what got me emotionally and why I

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<v Speaker 1>connected with it so much is the fact that no

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<v Speaker 1>relationship is perfect. And I felt like for the first

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<v Speaker 1>time in my issue with Beyonce has always been she

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<v Speaker 1>is so calculated. She is so put together. Every word,

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<v Speaker 1>every session, every flip of her hair is planned. It

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<v Speaker 1>felt like, and I'm you know, you don't see her

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<v Speaker 1>raw or admitting mistakes as often at all, And so

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<v Speaker 1>for me, it was like this perfect woman is being

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<v Speaker 1>so vulnerable, is so raw and open. You know, if

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<v Speaker 1>what she's singing is true, you know that actually happened,

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<v Speaker 1>and it really seems like it did, like and that

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<v Speaker 1>was just really touching for me, and it sort of

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<v Speaker 1>gave me permission to not try and pretend like everything

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<v Speaker 1>in my life is going one hundred percent when it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>No. I think that's what touched me too, because you're right,

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<v Speaker 2>Beyonce Solange has long since been considered the sister that

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<v Speaker 2>is like just like opening real and vulnerable. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>Solanjould be like what girl by, you know, but Beyonce

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<v Speaker 2>was always so I don't know, just so well put together.

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<v Speaker 2>She just seemed like nothing was ever wrong, like you said,

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<v Speaker 2>And even after that whole like you know, them fighting

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<v Speaker 2>in the elevator, she didn't come forth and say anything.

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<v Speaker 2>And so for this to come out and for her

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<v Speaker 2>to just be so open with sharing that, like, yo,

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<v Speaker 2>stuff is not always perfect. There's times where I was

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<v Speaker 2>gonna leave. I've been cheated on, and I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 2>I have cheated in my twenties. It was not a

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<v Speaker 2>good good look. And so I could see both sides,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm just like a either way, it's just nice

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<v Speaker 2>to see that she's showing women that, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>things don't have to be perfect. Somebody wrote, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I was watching like a BuzzFeed video. Someone was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, she's weak, why would she stay? And I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just so easy for people to just make decisions,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, or to judge based upon.

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<v Speaker 1>This pert stupid. Did you watch anything have you? Beyonce

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<v Speaker 1>is like the antithesis of weakness.

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly, and honestly too, I just feel like everyone decides,

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<v Speaker 3>everyone decides what they're willing to put up with and

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<v Speaker 3>what they're not and to me, especially as you get older,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm realizing there's no rhyme or reason.

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<v Speaker 2>People just decide for themselves. And you know, there's plenty

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<v Speaker 2>of my friends who are with guys who I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>if it was me, I probably wouldn't stay. But I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sure plenty of my friends look at me and they're like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>if it was me, I wouldn't stay. We all have

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<v Speaker 2>our own stuff that we're willing to put up with,

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<v Speaker 2>and I just think it's just for everyone to decide

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<v Speaker 2>for themselves. It's not for me to judge you. To me,

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<v Speaker 2>I always tell my sisters and friends, as long as

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<v Speaker 2>he's not hurting you physically and like you know, emotionally

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<v Speaker 2>and mentally, it's not my business. Like you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not here to judge me. I'm here to listen and

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<v Speaker 2>be your friend. But now if you tell me that

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<v Speaker 2>you know he punched me, he pushed me, then I'm like, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>we're coming to get you, you know. But other than that,

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<v Speaker 2>like my friends know that if you're like, oh, we

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<v Speaker 2>got into an argument because I just didn't like the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that I'm always doing the dishes and he doesn't help,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm not here to be like, girl leave them.

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<v Speaker 2>You know everybody has a girl leaving friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that was me. Oh yeah, that was me and

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<v Speaker 1>my like teens and twenties. I was so extreme, right,

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<v Speaker 1>like you mean he was five minutes late?

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<v Speaker 2>Why girl? But he wears blue on Tuesday? Mmm?

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<v Speaker 1>Girl leave them?

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<v Speaker 2>And so I learned, like you don't tell the girl

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<v Speaker 2>leaving friend anything, and like I'm the friend who's always like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know, you got just need to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about it. You got your talk, you know, cause I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>been there, done that without anybody. Especially it's always the

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<v Speaker 2>girl eaving friends sometimes that never has anybody, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, because you expect too much out of out of

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<v Speaker 1>one person.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly. They're not going to be perfect. Lord knows, I

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<v Speaker 2>am not. Honey. I look at that mirror and I'm like, WHOA,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you, superman, because i.

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<v Speaker 1>Know that's what love is. And oh that song when

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<v Speaker 1>you know what's I'm really about the words and lyrics.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was really like fun for me because I

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<v Speaker 1>studied literature in college and poetry and I haven't done

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<v Speaker 1>that in a long time. But I sat down and

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<v Speaker 1>I read the lyrics. I had the captions turned on

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<v Speaker 1>so I can really understand what she was saying. And

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<v Speaker 1>when I got out of it wasn't just that jay

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<v Speaker 1>Z cheated or whoever she's talking about cheated, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was about the like the difference in power, about how

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<v Speaker 1>he was intimidated. And also there was a part where

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<v Speaker 1>she talks about how he didn't think that he deserved

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<v Speaker 1>to have something work out for him in life, and

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<v Speaker 1>that really touched me and I and towards the end,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, she talks about being well. This part was

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<v Speaker 1>the poetry, Oh who was a poet? Worse on the

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<v Speaker 1>Somali poet? Who the who? Did all the interludes, Beyonce

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<v Speaker 1>read her poetry in between every song. There's one line

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<v Speaker 1>in her poetry. First of all, that poetry is beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>and I never heard of her before. There's one part

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<v Speaker 1>where she's talking about I'm the mother of your children,

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<v Speaker 1>living and dead, and I was thinking, that's right, Beyonce

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<v Speaker 1>had a miscarriage, Yeah, wow, and another hello, I'm human

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<v Speaker 1>moment and I thought it was beautiful. And I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think we'll ever hear Beyonce, Like, I don't think she'll

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<v Speaker 1>write a memoir. She's not going to go on the

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<v Speaker 1>own network Super Soul Sunday and talk about Lemonade. I

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<v Speaker 1>think she's leaving everything in the music like she has

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<v Speaker 1>only now she's saying more than she ever has through

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<v Speaker 1>the music. And I feel kind of like proud of

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<v Speaker 1>her in a way for growing up.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, yeah that's how I felt too. I thought like, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>this is very womanish, you know, of her. And I

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<v Speaker 2>just love the fact that a lot of the stuff

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<v Speaker 2>that people were saying for years and she kind of ignored.

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<v Speaker 2>She addressed like her clearly.

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<v Speaker 1>Pregnant with blue Yes, yes exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean like you could see her face, her nose,

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<v Speaker 2>her boobs or something like there's not a prosthetic, but people,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like just like addressing those things like girlh bye,

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<v Speaker 2>like just.

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<v Speaker 1>And shake out it in the music. In the music.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love it, just even just addressing like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody knows that there's issues with her father, but like

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<v Speaker 2>it's even like addressing that that.

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<v Speaker 1>Song could have been called Daddy Issues. What was it

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<v Speaker 1>called daddy? That was the country one Daddy lessons?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what you can't when it's someone's personal

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<v Speaker 1>story like that and they're sharing it and they're being vulnerable.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't you almost can't even judge it. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>this is her personal story, it's her interpretation she put

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<v Speaker 1>her I mean this took so much work, every thought,

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<v Speaker 1>every detail, you know that that was. It makes me

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, what have I done lately?

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<v Speaker 2>Well have you?

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<v Speaker 1>I have? I've barely gone to the gym today, Like.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, you'd be proud of me. And this is like random,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm like, I've been walking like two or three

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<v Speaker 2>miles a day.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, do you go uh with Superman? Or is

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<v Speaker 1>it like a solo thing?

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<v Speaker 2>So honestly, I've just been using It's almost like meditation.

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<v Speaker 2>I forgot how much I like to walk, so I've

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<v Speaker 2>just been now. It makes me want to get a fitbit,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just use like the Nike app on my phone.

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<v Speaker 1>If you could a fitbit. You just seemed to be prepared.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'll add you as a friend and I get

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<v Speaker 1>really competitive.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you gonna say you're like the way you said?

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<v Speaker 2>He said if you get a fit bit, you see

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<v Speaker 2>that dot dot dot probably Like I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Just letting you know because you can challenge people.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, But you know you don't want this though,

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<v Speaker 2>because it ain't nothing for me to walk like four

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<v Speaker 2>miles in a day. It's nothing. Okay, I got it.

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<v Speaker 2>We could do this, now, we could.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't mean that's only eight thousand steps. You gotta Oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what. My dad actually been kicking my buttlt

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<v Speaker 1>my fifbit broke, so I've been out of the game

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<v Speaker 1>for about a week. But uh, you know, when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on my when I was at the height of my

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<v Speaker 1>fitbit rain, I was doing like twenty five thirty thousand

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<v Speaker 1>steps a day, which means I was walking everywhere, no trains,

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<v Speaker 1>and then running after work and then going on elliptical

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<v Speaker 1>before work. And I was only because my friend Diana,

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<v Speaker 1>if she's listening out there, because she was like training

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<v Speaker 1>for a half marathon, and I got really I got

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<v Speaker 1>in this like tunnel vision insane competitive zone. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>a healthy place. I don't recommend it. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>can sing.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's just like you know, if my sister calls

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<v Speaker 2>it stacking, and I've started to just like implement this

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<v Speaker 2>in my life that like you know, when you want

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<v Speaker 2>to make a transition and you're like, oh, I want

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<v Speaker 2>to eat my exercise this and that She's like no,

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<v Speaker 2>don't do it all at one time. You're never gonna

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<v Speaker 2>keep up. She's like, just stacked, just say, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have a salad like you know, like once

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<v Speaker 2>a day or whatever. And then once you do that

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<v Speaker 2>for a few weeks and you're like, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna have a salad and I'm gonna go for a

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<v Speaker 2>walk because the salad becomes normal. And then you just

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<v Speaker 2>start walking and then you're like, Okay, the walking is normal,

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<v Speaker 2>the salad is normal. Well, let me add on yoga

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<v Speaker 2>in the morning. And so now I've stacked about four things,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm eating better. The eating came first, then I

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<v Speaker 2>got the personal trainer, had her for a while. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm walking and I just added yoga. So four things

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<v Speaker 2>that I normally, if I would have done them all

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<v Speaker 2>at once, I would not be able to keep up.

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<v Speaker 2>But because I stacked them and reach the place where

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<v Speaker 2>like one of the blocks in my stack was normal

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<v Speaker 2>before I added another block, I'm like, y'all feel so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, yo, Tidney, Yeah, you're like totally adulting.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you read that book The Power of Habit?

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<v Speaker 2>No? Is it good?

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of about that. Yeah, it's all about how

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<v Speaker 1>you build habits, how some people are able to break

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<v Speaker 1>bad habits and then replace them with good habits. It's

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<v Speaker 1>really good. It's written by Charles Dowig. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm saying, all right, du higg. And it came

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<v Speaker 1>out only a few years ago and it was a

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<v Speaker 1>big hit. It's like got a Yellow Book cover. I

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<v Speaker 1>recommend it. It's good.

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<v Speaker 2>It's we need to go back to recommending books again.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a good one. The Power of Habits.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, we haven't even talked about this was a

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<v Speaker 1>big week.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well it's sad.

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<v Speaker 1>There is highs and lows. High being Lemonade high, Harriet

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<v Speaker 1>Tubman and her place on the twenty dollar bill, which

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<v Speaker 1>I thought was awesome. What I didn't think was awesome

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<v Speaker 1>is like, so not the entire bill, like the back

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<v Speaker 1>of it, She's not going to be on or something

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<v Speaker 1>like that was happening.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and also too, I thought it was weird because

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<v Speaker 2>it's not going to come out for like another like

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<v Speaker 2>seventeen years, isn't it like what thirty? Yeah, somebody was

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<v Speaker 2>like telling me. I was like, let me google, let

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<v Speaker 2>me see the Googles. So I don't quote me, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's not something that's happening right away.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that because it takes so long to get the

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<v Speaker 1>current twenties out of circulation or something?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even know. I was just like, wait, they

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<v Speaker 2>didn't tell us all these things, so I said, let

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<v Speaker 2>me get to googling before I say for sure. But

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<v Speaker 2>from what I remember, like having a chit chat about

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<v Speaker 2>with someone, they were like, it's not happening right away.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I see it says in the Washington in the

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<v Speaker 1>Wall Street Journal. It'll be could be in circulation as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as twenty twenty. Okay, well that's not so so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>not so bad. It'll be here. The fact that it's

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<v Speaker 1>even happening is maja exactly, Maychel, maycha?

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<v Speaker 2>And then did you see the poor means of like

0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:57.560
<v Speaker 2>the young girl who it's like some young girl from Disney.

0:20:57.600 --> 0:21:00.560
<v Speaker 2>It's a young brown girl. I forget her name, but

0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:03.200
<v Speaker 2>they put her face on Harriet Tuban's face on Fire

0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:06.120
<v Speaker 2>Tubmans sitting like in her picture her Like if there's

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<v Speaker 2>like two pictures of Harriet Tubban like floating, you know,

0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:09.920
<v Speaker 2>there's one of her standing and there's one of her sitting,

0:21:10.320 --> 0:21:13.160
<v Speaker 2>and her face is hilarious. And it says, well, master

0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:15.200
<v Speaker 2>thinks she's gonna bring his dinner, but you out tonight

0:21:15.200 --> 0:21:20.160
<v Speaker 2>with Harriet. Ah. I was like, yo, the memes they

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<v Speaker 2>kill me.

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<v Speaker 1>One that I saw was where it's like you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have a really hard time spending like thirty bucks on

0:21:26.160 --> 0:21:28.880
<v Speaker 1>that new top when you have Harriet say it looking

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<v Speaker 1>at you saying you don't need that top.

0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:33.040
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's like it like goes closer than Harry at

0:21:33.119 --> 0:21:34.440
<v Speaker 2>like closer closer.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, And they're describe they.

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<v Speaker 2>Have a picture of like Harry, like her pictures being taken.

0:21:39.400 --> 0:21:41.760
<v Speaker 2>She's like standing and they're like on top of said

0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:45.160
<v Speaker 2>Harriet says, how do I look? And the photographer says

0:21:45.320 --> 0:21:49.800
<v Speaker 2>like money. Oh, these memes are everything. Honestly, memes are

0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:52.879
<v Speaker 2>like memes make me happy. Like if I'm having a

0:21:52.920 --> 0:21:54.960
<v Speaker 2>bad day, I'll just take like a mean break and

0:21:55.119 --> 0:21:57.240
<v Speaker 2>like just make myself happy and giggle again.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I feel about Guess how gifts they make you?

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<v Speaker 1>How did I even communicate before gifts? I don't understand. No,

0:22:06.880 --> 0:22:10.679
<v Speaker 1>I replied to emails with like, just gifts and they

0:22:10.680 --> 0:22:13.040
<v Speaker 1>get so many emotions across. I don't like if a

0:22:13.040 --> 0:22:15.159
<v Speaker 1>picture says a thousand words. A meme says a million.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, we have to talk about Prince real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a very like music themed it is buzzworthy.

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<v Speaker 1>Prince passed away this week. Yeah, my father is still

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<v Speaker 1>in mourning.

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<v Speaker 2>Did they ever I remember? I know more and more

0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:33.320
<v Speaker 2>details are coming. I know they just cremated his body.

0:22:33.920 --> 0:22:35.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there's the autopsy was done, but they're not going

0:22:35.920 --> 0:22:38.879
<v Speaker 1>to have like toxicology results for a couple of weeks,

0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:42.119
<v Speaker 1>a few weeks, I think. Okay, but it's just also sad,

0:22:42.160 --> 0:22:44.879
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's I saw somebody there was speaking of memes,

0:22:44.920 --> 0:22:47.640
<v Speaker 1>there was one about like how someone put someone wrap

0:22:47.720 --> 0:22:49.560
<v Speaker 1>Stevie Wonder and bubble wrap because he's the last one

0:22:49.640 --> 0:22:53.040
<v Speaker 1>we have. I thought that was kind of sexist, because

0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:57.920
<v Speaker 1>there's other amazing female like classic female singers from the

0:22:57.960 --> 0:23:00.879
<v Speaker 1>past that we still have a living Yeah, Aretha, we

0:23:00.920 --> 0:23:02.639
<v Speaker 1>still have Pylo Bell.

0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:05.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I love what is her name, Anita Baker?

0:23:05.880 --> 0:23:07.520
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, that's my favorites.

0:23:07.960 --> 0:23:10.840
<v Speaker 1>And I love Diana Ross. Like I mean, there's some

0:23:10.880 --> 0:23:13.919
<v Speaker 1>great women still in power. But yeah, it was it

0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:17.000
<v Speaker 1>was pretty devastating, and there's not many, you know, my

0:23:17.160 --> 0:23:19.320
<v Speaker 1>entire newsroom. We were all just like it was right

0:23:19.400 --> 0:23:21.399
<v Speaker 1>during lunch when we heard and it was just on

0:23:21.440 --> 0:23:23.720
<v Speaker 1>TMZ at that point, and everyone just like dropped what

0:23:23.800 --> 0:23:26.520
<v Speaker 1>they were eating and we were like, what is happening?

0:23:26.600 --> 0:23:29.600
<v Speaker 1>What is life? I call my dad and he said,

0:23:30.560 --> 0:23:32.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, He's like, okay, I'll call you back later.

0:23:32.640 --> 0:23:34.160
<v Speaker 1>He was really upset. And then I called him later

0:23:34.160 --> 0:23:37.320
<v Speaker 1>and he's like, it's okay, I still have you and

0:23:37.359 --> 0:23:40.320
<v Speaker 1>your little brother. I was like like Prince was his

0:23:40.400 --> 0:23:42.679
<v Speaker 1>third child or something like that. That's how much he

0:23:42.720 --> 0:23:43.160
<v Speaker 1>loved him.

0:23:43.440 --> 0:23:43.600
<v Speaker 2>Ah.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, yeah, my dad like every Christmas, my dad would

0:23:47.280 --> 0:23:49.760
<v Speaker 1>have us sit down and watch since the Super Bowl

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<v Speaker 1>since Prince did the halftime show, when was that two

0:23:52.280 --> 0:23:55.000
<v Speaker 1>thousand and I don't know, like ten was it? Has

0:23:55.040 --> 0:23:57.440
<v Speaker 1>it been ten years since he did the Super Bowl? Anyway,

0:23:57.520 --> 0:23:59.479
<v Speaker 1>my dad had that on DHS and he made us

0:23:59.520 --> 0:24:01.920
<v Speaker 1>watch it. But then before that, we would watch Purple

0:24:02.040 --> 0:24:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Rain and he had Michael Jackson's Bad Tour and he

0:24:04.560 --> 0:24:07.640
<v Speaker 1>had Michael and Prince's Tour on VHS and we would

0:24:07.640 --> 0:24:12.040
<v Speaker 1>watch that like every holiday. Oh, I know, so it's

0:24:12.080 --> 0:24:14.640
<v Speaker 1>special and we're actually we had already planned on dancing

0:24:14.680 --> 0:24:18.240
<v Speaker 1>to a print song for our father daughter dance. So

0:24:18.320 --> 0:24:20.919
<v Speaker 1>now I'll even be more like he thought he's going

0:24:20.960 --> 0:24:23.000
<v Speaker 1>to be a mess. He's going to be a mess.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh between Prince and just giving you away.

0:24:26.000 --> 0:24:29.159
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, my dad and emotions. I told you when my

0:24:29.200 --> 0:24:31.560
<v Speaker 1>fiance proposed to me and he called my dad for

0:24:31.600 --> 0:24:35.639
<v Speaker 1>permission the day before, and my dad like hung up

0:24:35.640 --> 0:24:38.439
<v Speaker 1>on him because he couldn't understand, Like he couldn't he

0:24:38.480 --> 0:24:42.680
<v Speaker 1>couldn't like metabolize the feels that he was feeling. He's

0:24:42.720 --> 0:24:45.400
<v Speaker 1>just like, I gotta call you back. And eight hours

0:24:45.440 --> 0:24:46.520
<v Speaker 1>later he finally called back.

0:24:48.200 --> 0:24:52.800
<v Speaker 2>That's okay. Your dad is like, so what you're taking

0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:53.600
<v Speaker 2>my daughter aware?

0:24:53.960 --> 0:24:56.920
<v Speaker 1>No, you know, he's just he doesn't Some people just

0:24:56.920 --> 0:24:58.400
<v Speaker 1>don't know how to like process emotions.

0:24:58.400 --> 0:25:01.520
<v Speaker 2>It's okay now that it's cute, and you know, because

0:25:02.200 --> 0:25:05.040
<v Speaker 2>so many daughters don't necessarily have their dads in their

0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:07.760
<v Speaker 2>life or like, you know, really.

0:25:08.119 --> 0:25:10.920
<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, you know what all this is happening.

0:25:10.920 --> 0:25:14.280
<v Speaker 1>You know, yesterday, well, Prince dying was one thing, but

0:25:14.680 --> 0:25:18.679
<v Speaker 1>yesterday I found out one of my friends who I

0:25:18.680 --> 0:25:20.720
<v Speaker 1>I did a lot of Hurricane Katrina relief when I

0:25:20.800 --> 0:25:22.119
<v Speaker 1>was in college, and it was a big part of

0:25:22.200 --> 0:25:24.080
<v Speaker 1>like I have a lot of friendships from that experience.

0:25:24.160 --> 0:25:26.200
<v Speaker 1>And one of the guys that I was friends with

0:25:26.240 --> 0:25:28.560
<v Speaker 1>but I fell out of touch with recently passed away

0:25:28.640 --> 0:25:31.040
<v Speaker 1>yesterday and we all kind of found out he died

0:25:31.040 --> 0:25:34.960
<v Speaker 1>from cancer. And it's always moments like that where I'm like, oh, dang,

0:25:35.040 --> 0:25:38.400
<v Speaker 1>it's like, so we should just be lucky that we're

0:25:38.480 --> 0:25:41.720
<v Speaker 1>just you know here, Yeah, you know, I wud get

0:25:41.760 --> 0:25:45.240
<v Speaker 1>to live and beautiful day outside. I have friends and

0:25:45.280 --> 0:25:48.000
<v Speaker 1>family and you know, just can't take any of that

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:48.600
<v Speaker 1>for granted.

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:51.119
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't know. It was one of

0:25:51.119 --> 0:25:53.080
<v Speaker 2>my friends was a photographer. I was following him on

0:25:53.119 --> 0:25:56.640
<v Speaker 2>Instagram and he goes to India quite often. I think

0:25:56.640 --> 0:25:59.159
<v Speaker 2>he's half Indian. So he had a picture of this

0:25:59.160 --> 0:26:02.200
<v Speaker 2>little girl laughing and he said, ah, to feel joy

0:26:02.280 --> 0:26:04.480
<v Speaker 2>like this, I mean you could. The joy was visceral,

0:26:04.560 --> 0:26:07.280
<v Speaker 2>like you could see it leaping out of her face

0:26:07.320 --> 0:26:09.120
<v Speaker 2>and her eyes and her you know, you ever see

0:26:09.160 --> 0:26:11.680
<v Speaker 2>a kid like really like nothing has happened, but they're

0:26:11.760 --> 0:26:15.040
<v Speaker 2>just like mid laugh. Yeah. Yeah. And I told myself,

0:26:15.040 --> 0:26:17.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I'm still looking. I'm trying to find that picture.

0:26:17.160 --> 0:26:18.800
<v Speaker 2>I can't seem to find it because I want to

0:26:18.840 --> 0:26:20.840
<v Speaker 2>put it on my cell phone from when I'm like,

0:26:21.200 --> 0:26:23.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, like bitching about something unimportant to like look

0:26:23.760 --> 0:26:25.760
<v Speaker 2>at this little girl and she's probably laughing at next

0:26:25.880 --> 0:26:28.800
<v Speaker 2>like nothing, you know, a dog running across the street,

0:26:28.880 --> 0:26:32.280
<v Speaker 2>maybe her brother comes into view or whatever, and just

0:26:32.400 --> 0:26:35.040
<v Speaker 2>it brings this level of joy force from her, and

0:26:35.040 --> 0:26:36.400
<v Speaker 2>I just want to I want to be like that

0:26:36.480 --> 0:26:39.440
<v Speaker 2>more because I'm sure we were all like that as kids.

0:26:39.440 --> 0:26:42.280
<v Speaker 2>And then you forget like that, all of these things

0:26:42.280 --> 0:26:44.679
<v Speaker 2>that don't mean much start to like take over, and

0:26:44.680 --> 0:26:47.240
<v Speaker 2>you're like, really, this is why you're pissed off because

0:26:47.280 --> 0:26:50.240
<v Speaker 2>you know somebody in the email said this, like in

0:26:50.320 --> 0:26:52.320
<v Speaker 2>this grand scheme of things, what does that even matter?

0:26:53.040 --> 0:26:55.320
<v Speaker 1>Right? You grow up and you just tell yourself things

0:26:55.359 --> 0:26:57.840
<v Speaker 1>matter that don't really matter. You need things that you

0:26:57.880 --> 0:26:59.040
<v Speaker 1>don't really need.

0:26:59.040 --> 0:27:02.480
<v Speaker 2>Exactly, or just like yeah in the end, or even

0:27:02.520 --> 0:27:04.520
<v Speaker 2>I try to tell myself if someone says something negative

0:27:04.560 --> 0:27:07.359
<v Speaker 2>about me, I'm like, well, I guarantee you to me,

0:27:07.400 --> 0:27:09.280
<v Speaker 2>there are people saying negative stuff about you that you

0:27:09.400 --> 0:27:12.240
<v Speaker 2>just never found out, So either way it don't matter.

0:27:14.640 --> 0:27:16.320
<v Speaker 2>You know, it's just like now you just know that

0:27:16.400 --> 0:27:18.679
<v Speaker 2>this person said it, but you didn't know yesterday you

0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:20.399
<v Speaker 2>were fine, so girl, keep living?

0:27:22.760 --> 0:27:25.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so what do you mean to make lemonade out

0:27:25.800 --> 0:27:27.280
<v Speaker 1>of lemons? Is that what you're saying?

0:27:28.040 --> 0:27:31.439
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I think that we should definitely name this week's

0:27:31.440 --> 0:27:36.320
<v Speaker 2>episode Lemonade lemonade Lemonada.

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:37.679
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why it took me so long to

0:27:37.680 --> 0:27:39.560
<v Speaker 1>get it. I was like, oh, I get it. She

0:27:39.720 --> 0:27:44.720
<v Speaker 1>made a bad situation a good situation lemons and lemonade.

0:27:44.840 --> 0:27:47.679
<v Speaker 1>I didn't get it until miss Hattie cout it.

0:27:49.080 --> 0:27:51.199
<v Speaker 2>I had gotten it. I was like, oh, I figured

0:27:51.200 --> 0:27:52.720
<v Speaker 2>because I was like, well lemonade, Well, you know what,

0:27:52.760 --> 0:27:54.480
<v Speaker 2>the only the only kind of like thing I know

0:27:54.520 --> 0:27:56.920
<v Speaker 2>when people talk about lemonade is you know, turning lemons

0:27:56.920 --> 0:27:58.879
<v Speaker 2>from lemonade. So I figured that's what it was going

0:27:58.960 --> 0:27:59.920
<v Speaker 2>to be about. But I didn't.

0:28:00.280 --> 0:28:02.320
<v Speaker 1>I want to see, you're smarter than me. I was

0:28:02.359 --> 0:28:05.360
<v Speaker 1>just like, wait, summertime lemonade. That sounds delicious.

0:28:05.880 --> 0:28:07.600
<v Speaker 2>Well, first I didn't what was going on. People are like,

0:28:07.680 --> 0:28:09.320
<v Speaker 2>Lemonade's going to be on and I'm like, what does

0:28:09.320 --> 0:28:11.879
<v Speaker 2>that even mean? You might have gone and said, like barstool,

0:28:11.920 --> 0:28:15.400
<v Speaker 2>we'd be on that. Like I didn't have any contacts,

0:28:15.800 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 2>you know. Bet it doesn't explain herself She's like, look,

0:28:19.600 --> 0:28:24.880
<v Speaker 2>either you watch barstool or you don't man any other

0:28:24.920 --> 0:28:26.520
<v Speaker 2>buzzing thing tell them, but.

0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:31.800
<v Speaker 1>Bye, no, I think I think we've we've expired or buzzworthy.

0:28:31.920 --> 0:28:32.320
<v Speaker 2>That was it.

0:28:32.359 --> 0:28:35.439
<v Speaker 1>We used it all on Beyonce and Harriet and Prince

0:28:35.800 --> 0:28:39.360
<v Speaker 1>Oh oh wait, wait a second. On the opposite spectrum

0:28:39.400 --> 0:28:42.560
<v Speaker 1>of black beauty and power. Did you see the viral

0:28:42.720 --> 0:28:45.760
<v Speaker 1>Instagram posts that Little Kim posted? And I knew you

0:28:45.760 --> 0:28:48.000
<v Speaker 1>were going to say that, what is happening?

0:28:48.440 --> 0:28:50.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, honestly, somebody. First of all, my best

0:28:50.680 --> 0:28:52.880
<v Speaker 2>friend texted to me, said, new phone. Who it is?

0:28:55.080 --> 0:28:56.360
<v Speaker 2>And I'm not gonna lie. At first, I was like,

0:28:56.360 --> 0:28:59.000
<v Speaker 2>why is she texting me? This random white woman? And

0:28:59.040 --> 0:29:01.080
<v Speaker 2>I just looked at it, and I kept looking at

0:29:01.080 --> 0:29:03.320
<v Speaker 2>it and I'm like wait. And then slowly it's like

0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:05.640
<v Speaker 2>the realization started creeping up from my heart and I

0:29:05.680 --> 0:29:06.360
<v Speaker 2>was like, please, don't.

0:29:06.720 --> 0:29:09.440
<v Speaker 1>I had not seen it it was her, I wouldn't

0:29:09.440 --> 0:29:09.920
<v Speaker 1>have known it.

0:29:09.880 --> 0:29:11.880
<v Speaker 2>Was her for real. What's going on?

0:29:12.680 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 1>And it seems like it happened overnight. I don't know.

0:29:15.440 --> 0:29:18.160
<v Speaker 1>I like, I pause before judging, because it's like, Okay,

0:29:18.200 --> 0:29:20.440
<v Speaker 1>she is her own person. If she wants to do that,

0:29:20.680 --> 0:29:24.360
<v Speaker 1>then fine, but it you know, someone had a reference

0:29:24.400 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 1>in earlier. She had an interview she had done like

0:29:26.480 --> 0:29:29.240
<v Speaker 1>several years ago about how insecure she is and how

0:29:29.760 --> 0:29:31.720
<v Speaker 1>a guy she was with had left her for a

0:29:31.720 --> 0:29:35.520
<v Speaker 1>woman who you know, looked more European and she'd always

0:29:35.560 --> 0:29:37.640
<v Speaker 1>be more you know, insecure about her looks. And it

0:29:37.760 --> 0:29:39.600
<v Speaker 1>just made me sad. You know, it makes me sad

0:29:39.600 --> 0:29:42.240
<v Speaker 1>that anyone would want to go to such great lengths

0:29:42.280 --> 0:29:43.600
<v Speaker 1>to change the person they are.

0:29:44.480 --> 0:29:46.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I saw that too. I thought it was like

0:29:46.240 --> 0:29:48.160
<v Speaker 2>the meme when they did that, and I was just like,

0:29:48.200 --> 0:29:52.680
<v Speaker 2>oh man, yeah, honestly, it's just because Little Kim really

0:29:52.760 --> 0:29:55.080
<v Speaker 2>was a pioneer. I mean she is, she's still here.

0:29:55.400 --> 0:29:58.520
<v Speaker 2>She's a pioneer in hip hop. You know. She people

0:29:58.600 --> 0:30:02.959
<v Speaker 2>women weren't speaking out sexually in like lyrics and hip hop,

0:30:03.040 --> 0:30:04.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, and not to say, I mean whether that's

0:30:04.440 --> 0:30:07.360
<v Speaker 2>good or bad. The fact that she did it, you know,

0:30:08.200 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 2>there would be no Nicki Minaj, there would be no

0:30:11.320 --> 0:30:14.280
<v Speaker 2>basically all these other new young rappers, Trina, all of them,

0:30:14.560 --> 0:30:19.120
<v Speaker 2>like she made it cool, funky, okay to be aggressive

0:30:19.200 --> 0:30:23.640
<v Speaker 2>like men on you know, just albums and songs and

0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:28.360
<v Speaker 2>just to see that like all of that women empowerment

0:30:28.440 --> 0:30:32.600
<v Speaker 2>talk just to see it look like this and you wonder, like, ah, man,

0:30:32.800 --> 0:30:35.520
<v Speaker 2>like she honest see there's a video of her talking

0:30:35.560 --> 0:30:38.080
<v Speaker 2>and her face is not even like moving. It looks

0:30:38.120 --> 0:30:39.720
<v Speaker 2>like it's just straight plastic.

0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:43.280
<v Speaker 1>Who looks painful. Yeah, I hope she find someone who

0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:43.840
<v Speaker 1>loves her.

0:30:44.200 --> 0:30:46.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for who she is by now.

0:30:47.000 --> 0:30:48.400
<v Speaker 1>So it makes you want to makes me want to

0:30:48.400 --> 0:30:49.640
<v Speaker 1>go hugg a little girl somewhere.

0:30:49.800 --> 0:30:52.600
<v Speaker 2>All right, Hey, brown beauty, you know you're beautiful, right,

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:55.240
<v Speaker 2>That's why we always tell supergirls so beautiful. But sometimes

0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:58.160
<v Speaker 2>you got to slow up because Supergirl is singing Supergirls

0:30:58.240 --> 0:31:01.640
<v Speaker 2>like Tippy. Everybody at school just loves me. You think

0:31:01.680 --> 0:31:02.840
<v Speaker 2>it's because I'm so cute.

0:31:02.960 --> 0:31:09.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you know, you created a monster, and I'm like.

0:31:09.240 --> 0:31:10.920
<v Speaker 2>You know what, we don't let you have that because

0:31:10.920 --> 0:31:15.720
<v Speaker 2>Supergirl it's super chocolate ly. She's got like super beautiful

0:31:15.800 --> 0:31:19.080
<v Speaker 2>kinky hair, and she's like a little bit chunky. And

0:31:19.120 --> 0:31:22.080
<v Speaker 2>so I want Supergirl to just know that exactly how

0:31:22.120 --> 0:31:24.080
<v Speaker 2>she is is exactly how she ought to be.

0:31:24.360 --> 0:31:26.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't just how her watch Lemonade.

0:31:26.120 --> 0:31:29.920
<v Speaker 2>Exactly well, and I don't know about all that she

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:33.280
<v Speaker 2>already first, I don't know. Let me. Just before Supergirl

0:31:33.280 --> 0:31:36.160
<v Speaker 2>had to do a report for Black History, they told

0:31:36.160 --> 0:31:38.920
<v Speaker 2>them to pick somebody from history that's inspiring. People pick

0:31:38.960 --> 0:31:41.720
<v Speaker 2>Harry Tupman, Martin Luther King, and like they had to

0:31:41.720 --> 0:31:47.400
<v Speaker 2>do a presentation. This girl picked Beyonce. Yeah, and that

0:31:47.680 --> 0:31:50.360
<v Speaker 2>had the nerve to do a visual representation like a

0:31:50.400 --> 0:31:52.600
<v Speaker 2>little dance. Everybody else has like a little poster this

0:31:52.720 --> 0:31:56.200
<v Speaker 2>is King, this is such and such. No, Supergirl got

0:31:56.240 --> 0:31:58.560
<v Speaker 2>up there and sang like one of Beyonce's songs with

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:01.360
<v Speaker 2>a little shimmy. It was like her mother didn't even

0:32:01.440 --> 0:32:04.480
<v Speaker 2>know it was came to like see her presentation. Was like, girl,

0:32:04.520 --> 0:32:06.240
<v Speaker 2>I'm in the audience, like I know, my baby's not

0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:11.360
<v Speaker 2>up here with the outside you know what. I love it.

0:32:11.440 --> 0:32:14.120
<v Speaker 2>I was like, she's like what she is at Black History.

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<v Speaker 1>That's true, that's true. Yes, Brown, I'm trying to figure

0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:35.680
<v Speaker 1>out if I should be positive or not positive this week,

0:32:36.760 --> 0:32:38.840
<v Speaker 1>positive or not positive?

0:32:39.160 --> 0:32:40.120
<v Speaker 2>Taking a brown break?

0:32:40.760 --> 0:32:41.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh you are?

0:32:41.600 --> 0:32:44.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So this morning I woke up at six am,

0:32:44.680 --> 0:32:47.880
<v Speaker 2>and not because I wanted to, but because the same kids,

0:32:48.000 --> 0:32:51.240
<v Speaker 2>three kids every single morning and from six to seven

0:32:51.320 --> 0:32:55.280
<v Speaker 2>are outside screaming their lungs out because their grandma apparently

0:32:55.360 --> 0:32:58.400
<v Speaker 2>every single morning at six am puts them out and

0:32:58.840 --> 0:33:00.640
<v Speaker 2>makes them wait for the bus. She puts them out

0:33:00.680 --> 0:33:04.200
<v Speaker 2>like an hour early. I guess yes, and they play

0:33:04.240 --> 0:33:05.840
<v Speaker 2>in the front, and you know, they're kids, so they're

0:33:05.880 --> 0:33:09.280
<v Speaker 2>just like just obnoxiously loud. They range from age like

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:11.960
<v Speaker 2>six to nine, you know, so all you hear at

0:33:12.000 --> 0:33:16.640
<v Speaker 2>six am is now and you're like, oh my gosh,

0:33:16.680 --> 0:33:18.600
<v Speaker 2>and you're like, what should I do because you know

0:33:18.960 --> 0:33:20.840
<v Speaker 2>I've opened the window. I'm like, hey, guys, can't keep

0:33:20.840 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 2>it down. And they're always really respectful Sien City, but

0:33:24.360 --> 0:33:26.720
<v Speaker 2>they're kids. So after another five minutes, they're back to

0:33:26.840 --> 0:33:30.840
<v Speaker 2>like giggling like little animals, and you're just like, we've

0:33:30.840 --> 0:33:34.600
<v Speaker 2>spoken to grandma. Grandma's like, girl, don't I gonna care

0:33:34.600 --> 0:33:36.840
<v Speaker 2>about your sleep? I'm getting mine.

0:33:37.320 --> 0:33:39.840
<v Speaker 1>Really, she didn't care what no one doesn't care.

0:33:39.920 --> 0:33:42.120
<v Speaker 2>So we're like, we can't shoot me. So I'm just

0:33:42.160 --> 0:33:44.800
<v Speaker 2>taking a brown break from the giggle giggling kids outside

0:33:44.840 --> 0:33:47.480
<v Speaker 2>my window every six am. I don't know what to

0:33:47.520 --> 0:33:49.840
<v Speaker 2>do about it. I'm like, should I put in headphones? Earphones?

0:33:49.880 --> 0:33:51.640
<v Speaker 2>Because Grandma's like I put them out for a reason,

0:33:51.680 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 2>because so I don't have to hear their giggling.

0:33:53.160 --> 0:33:55.440
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, my god's too early for all that.

0:33:55.560 --> 0:33:58.560
<v Speaker 2>It is, honestly, And I'm like, so it is.

0:33:58.960 --> 0:34:00.600
<v Speaker 1>That's the hard part of living in a city as

0:34:00.680 --> 0:34:02.840
<v Speaker 1>you live all up on each other, so everyone's noise

0:34:02.920 --> 0:34:04.240
<v Speaker 1>is your noise exactly.

0:34:04.320 --> 0:34:05.720
<v Speaker 2>So I'm just trying to figure out, like what do

0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:06.000
<v Speaker 2>we do.

0:34:06.280 --> 0:34:09.000
<v Speaker 1>Like I heard a mom yesterday giving her son like

0:34:09.040 --> 0:34:11.239
<v Speaker 1>the greatest lecture about how he was a thirty year

0:34:11.239 --> 0:34:13.200
<v Speaker 1>old man and he needed to start paying rent. And

0:34:13.239 --> 0:34:15.080
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to like get outside my window a clap

0:34:15.080 --> 0:34:17.520
<v Speaker 1>for her. Oh my god, I could hear everything. It

0:34:17.600 --> 0:34:19.759
<v Speaker 1>was like eleven in the morning. I mean, I'm just

0:34:19.800 --> 0:34:22.200
<v Speaker 1>out just down the street, and her voice carried right

0:34:22.280 --> 0:34:23.080
<v Speaker 1>up to the fourth floor.

0:34:23.920 --> 0:34:25.360
<v Speaker 2>Yo, that is hilarious.

0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:26.400
<v Speaker 1>It was great.

0:34:27.080 --> 0:34:29.400
<v Speaker 2>I know you were like, wouldn't that be terrible? He

0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:31.000
<v Speaker 2>would have been so embassed if you'd have been like,

0:34:31.080 --> 0:34:31.959
<v Speaker 2>you tell them.

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:34.160
<v Speaker 1>I know that's part of the Like when I moved

0:34:34.160 --> 0:34:36.359
<v Speaker 1>to New York, when I just taking the train home,

0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:38.759
<v Speaker 1>we have an above ground train and I can see

0:34:38.760 --> 0:34:41.200
<v Speaker 1>people laying out getting sun. I can see them walking

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:44.719
<v Speaker 1>their dogs, like the dogs lounging like it. She's just this.

0:34:44.719 --> 0:34:47.359
<v Speaker 1>This city is like so big and you everyone lives

0:34:47.360 --> 0:34:49.080
<v Speaker 1>in their own little world, but we're all living in

0:34:49.120 --> 0:34:51.920
<v Speaker 1>each other's world and you can just it's beautiful. But

0:34:51.960 --> 0:34:54.319
<v Speaker 1>then also kind of creepy it is because she's like,

0:34:54.320 --> 0:34:55.040
<v Speaker 1>who's looking at me?

0:34:55.560 --> 0:34:58.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, who's looking at you? Kids? So yeah, that's great.

0:34:58.120 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm roundbreaking from city noises, say that, so it's not

0:35:01.160 --> 0:35:05.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't also sound terrible saying I'm brown breaking from kids.

0:35:06.000 --> 0:35:07.719
<v Speaker 1>Well I have to do, you know, I'm gonna do.

0:35:08.160 --> 0:35:10.120
<v Speaker 1>This could be a boost, it could also be a win.

0:35:10.200 --> 0:35:12.120
<v Speaker 1>But I'm just going to call out. So the Pulitzer

0:35:12.160 --> 0:35:15.520
<v Speaker 1>Prizes were announced last week, God has already been last week,

0:35:15.800 --> 0:35:18.880
<v Speaker 1>the eighteenth of April, And there was two stories that

0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:21.400
<v Speaker 1>I thought, first of all, how the heck did I

0:35:21.440 --> 0:35:23.960
<v Speaker 1>not read this story when it first came out. I

0:35:24.000 --> 0:35:27.759
<v Speaker 1>feel crazy for not doing that. But the prize this

0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:31.680
<v Speaker 1>year for service journalism Public Service Award went to the

0:35:31.840 --> 0:35:34.840
<v Speaker 1>Wash to the Associated Press, and they wrote a story

0:35:34.960 --> 0:35:41.399
<v Speaker 1>about modern day slavery in Asia, where like people were

0:35:41.480 --> 0:35:45.080
<v Speaker 1>treated like slaves and made to work and go fishing

0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:48.040
<v Speaker 1>and fish the shrimp and the fish that we get

0:35:48.160 --> 0:35:51.319
<v Speaker 1>in the grocery store, all that warm water fish from

0:35:51.320 --> 0:35:55.120
<v Speaker 1>Asia and based on their report, they ended up leading

0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:59.320
<v Speaker 1>to the freeing of two thousand slaves like modern day slaves.

0:35:59.880 --> 0:36:02.000
<v Speaker 1>I I kind of get what Maybe I saw this

0:36:02.080 --> 0:36:04.080
<v Speaker 1>headline and just kept going because I feel like you

0:36:04.120 --> 0:36:06.239
<v Speaker 1>try and ignore the really terrible headlines every once in

0:36:06.280 --> 0:36:08.719
<v Speaker 1>a while. But I think it's worth like it's just

0:36:08.719 --> 0:36:10.560
<v Speaker 1>worth it to read it and not just to read

0:36:10.560 --> 0:36:13.480
<v Speaker 1>it and feel the people's pain, like real people who

0:36:13.480 --> 0:36:16.680
<v Speaker 1>were slaves in twenty sixteen, but then to also know

0:36:16.760 --> 0:36:20.640
<v Speaker 1>that because of this writing this report that you know,

0:36:20.800 --> 0:36:25.680
<v Speaker 1>hundreds and thousands of slaves were were freed, which was great.

0:36:26.560 --> 0:36:29.480
<v Speaker 1>And another one to follow up with, I would say,

0:36:29.760 --> 0:36:32.000
<v Speaker 1>the other story that I read, which I had not

0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:34.799
<v Speaker 1>heard about, there was a woman in Afghanistan last year.

0:36:34.880 --> 0:36:38.960
<v Speaker 1>Her name was Farkunda. And Farkunda you know, in Afghanistan,

0:36:39.040 --> 0:36:42.560
<v Speaker 1>it's a very patriarchal society, I mean, incredibly religious. The

0:36:42.600 --> 0:36:46.759
<v Speaker 1>Muslim faith is just like so intense there and it's

0:36:46.880 --> 0:36:50.080
<v Speaker 1>considered one of the highest crimes to burn a koran. Right,

0:36:50.880 --> 0:36:53.879
<v Speaker 1>so woman was falsely a falsely accused This woman named

0:36:53.920 --> 0:36:58.280
<v Speaker 1>Farkunda falsely accused by a man of burning a Koran

0:36:58.680 --> 0:37:02.320
<v Speaker 1>and from zoo to one hundred and like five minutes,

0:37:02.760 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 1>She's being attacked by hundreds of men. She's being pummeled

0:37:07.200 --> 0:37:10.600
<v Speaker 1>with stone, she's being stomped on. Police are there, and

0:37:10.640 --> 0:37:13.160
<v Speaker 1>they're not even helping her. You know. She falls back

0:37:13.160 --> 0:37:14.880
<v Speaker 1>into the crowd and they just kind of watch her

0:37:15.000 --> 0:37:19.520
<v Speaker 1>as she's being mutilated by this entire crowd. And it's

0:37:19.680 --> 0:37:22.439
<v Speaker 1>so hard to watch. I mean, I feel kind of bad,

0:37:22.520 --> 0:37:25.080
<v Speaker 1>but I feel like it's it should be required viewing

0:37:25.120 --> 0:37:27.920
<v Speaker 1>for anyone who you know, cares about women and women's

0:37:28.000 --> 0:37:30.560
<v Speaker 1>rights to see a woman just like treated like this

0:37:30.719 --> 0:37:33.799
<v Speaker 1>by men in broad daylight on cell phone cameras. No

0:37:33.800 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 1>one was ever. I don't think to this day people

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:40.480
<v Speaker 1>have been sentenced for any crimes. I think a few

0:37:40.520 --> 0:37:43.880
<v Speaker 1>people have stood trial, but I think they got a

0:37:43.960 --> 0:37:46.719
<v Speaker 1>very lesser sentence than what it could have been. And

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:50.279
<v Speaker 1>she ended up dying. And this happened about a year ago,

0:37:50.400 --> 0:37:53.920
<v Speaker 1>and the New York Times won the Pulitzer for a

0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:57.960
<v Speaker 1>report they did on it in December. Anyway, it's just

0:37:58.000 --> 0:38:02.000
<v Speaker 1>really harrowing and it is sad, and it will grip

0:38:02.080 --> 0:38:05.120
<v Speaker 1>you by the throat and by the heart. But I

0:38:05.160 --> 0:38:07.799
<v Speaker 1>think that we need to not turn a blind eye

0:38:07.840 --> 0:38:12.040
<v Speaker 1>to that kind of suffering, and I just I recommend

0:38:12.040 --> 0:38:15.120
<v Speaker 1>it and I thought that was just it's great to

0:38:15.160 --> 0:38:17.960
<v Speaker 1>see what good journalism can do, because if not for

0:38:18.040 --> 0:38:21.319
<v Speaker 1>this story, there's a chance you never would have known

0:38:21.600 --> 0:38:24.800
<v Speaker 1>for Kunda's name, and there's not It's not just for Kunda.

0:38:24.920 --> 0:38:28.200
<v Speaker 1>That's the thing, Like, this is one woman and there

0:38:28.239 --> 0:38:31.359
<v Speaker 1>are so many other women around the world who are brutalized.

0:38:31.400 --> 0:38:34.720
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we still haven't found those young girls in Nigeria.

0:38:34.719 --> 0:38:37.200
<v Speaker 2>Exactly or just even like, did you see the story

0:38:37.200 --> 0:38:39.480
<v Speaker 2>about uh who was so heartbreaking about the girls who

0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:41.080
<v Speaker 2>got into a fight in the bathroom and they just

0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:44.799
<v Speaker 2>I just was like, can you imagine that you send

0:38:44.800 --> 0:38:47.680
<v Speaker 2>your daughter to school, she gets into a fight over

0:38:47.719 --> 0:38:50.879
<v Speaker 2>a boy, and you know, I know the girls didn't

0:38:50.880 --> 0:38:53.160
<v Speaker 2>mean to obviously take her life, because you don't think

0:38:53.160 --> 0:38:55.160
<v Speaker 2>about that. You know, you're not thinking, hey, we're actually

0:38:55.200 --> 0:38:57.640
<v Speaker 2>going to kill her, but they took her life.

0:38:58.960 --> 0:39:01.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure somebody was there yelling world star hip hop.

0:39:01.760 --> 0:39:04.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thinking like it's nothing. And now the truth in

0:39:04.360 --> 0:39:06.440
<v Speaker 2>matter is more than one girl died that day in

0:39:06.520 --> 0:39:09.280
<v Speaker 2>the bathroom. How many of those girls' lives are now taken?

0:39:09.640 --> 0:39:11.680
<v Speaker 2>You know, that they're going to be locked away for

0:39:11.719 --> 0:39:14.919
<v Speaker 2>a very long time as a result of this one

0:39:15.080 --> 0:39:18.520
<v Speaker 2>stupid fight over a boy. So now she is physically

0:39:18.520 --> 0:39:22.400
<v Speaker 2>dead with now you've killed your future. You know that

0:39:22.520 --> 0:39:24.160
<v Speaker 2>was a Yeah, it just.

0:39:25.000 --> 0:39:27.840
<v Speaker 1>So I'll make that a brown break against women, violence

0:39:27.840 --> 0:39:33.280
<v Speaker 1>against women by women, by men, by anybody. It's it's

0:39:33.360 --> 0:39:39.560
<v Speaker 1>just it needs to stop, especially in schools. Yeah, all right, Well,

0:39:39.560 --> 0:39:45.560
<v Speaker 1>that's sorry for the downer. I'll bring it back up

0:39:45.600 --> 0:39:46.840
<v Speaker 1>by promise in the next segment.

0:39:55.120 --> 0:39:56.960
<v Speaker 2>So, do we have a question.

0:39:57.360 --> 0:40:00.719
<v Speaker 1>We have a question for today. I need to pull

0:40:00.760 --> 0:40:04.600
<v Speaker 1>it up rock quick. It's a good question. It's about debt.

0:40:05.280 --> 0:40:08.920
<v Speaker 1>And this was interesting to me because actually got a

0:40:08.960 --> 0:40:14.000
<v Speaker 1>similar question from someone at at our Yahoo email earlier

0:40:14.040 --> 0:40:17.320
<v Speaker 1>this week, and it's about what happens when your debt

0:40:17.520 --> 0:40:20.919
<v Speaker 1>is charged off and what a charge off is. I'm

0:40:20.920 --> 0:40:22.440
<v Speaker 1>not going to use her name because she doesn't say

0:40:22.440 --> 0:40:25.439
<v Speaker 1>whether or not we can use it. We'll just call

0:40:25.520 --> 0:40:31.120
<v Speaker 1>her Charlotte. Okay. So Charlotte says, I've been steadily working

0:40:31.160 --> 0:40:33.920
<v Speaker 1>to improve my credit score over the last couple of years,

0:40:33.960 --> 0:40:36.120
<v Speaker 1>and at the moment, I only have two true debts

0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:38.279
<v Speaker 1>to worry about. A personal loan that I owed to

0:40:38.320 --> 0:40:43.640
<v Speaker 1>my parents that's currently under one thousand dollars and another

0:40:43.719 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>credit card or sorry, unfortunately, a private student loan that

0:40:47.880 --> 0:40:51.680
<v Speaker 1>is in a closed derogatory status. It's been charged off

0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:54.680
<v Speaker 1>on one of my credit reports. This debt has been

0:40:54.760 --> 0:40:56.920
<v Speaker 1>charged off as a bad debt and transferred to a

0:40:56.960 --> 0:41:00.920
<v Speaker 1>collections agency. In addition to getting a JAB, my focus

0:41:01.160 --> 0:41:03.359
<v Speaker 1>is on how I should go about addressing this debt

0:41:03.680 --> 0:41:05.960
<v Speaker 1>to better my credit score. I've read that I should

0:41:05.960 --> 0:41:08.600
<v Speaker 1>wait until it falls off my credit report after seven years,

0:41:08.800 --> 0:41:11.239
<v Speaker 1>which would be in twenty eighteen. Should I do this

0:41:11.400 --> 0:41:13.400
<v Speaker 1>or is there something else I could do to address

0:41:13.440 --> 0:41:17.319
<v Speaker 1>and somewhat resolve this matter on my credit report? Additionally,

0:41:17.400 --> 0:41:19.239
<v Speaker 1>should I try and locate and reach out to the

0:41:19.239 --> 0:41:25.160
<v Speaker 1>collection agency to make a repayment plan or try for settlement? Oh, Charlotte,

0:41:25.400 --> 0:41:26.680
<v Speaker 1>this is the worst. I mean.

0:41:27.840 --> 0:41:29.360
<v Speaker 2>So let's maybe left the tack of first, what is

0:41:29.400 --> 0:41:29.719
<v Speaker 2>a charge?

0:41:29.800 --> 0:41:32.520
<v Speaker 1>What's a charg job? So there's a couple of stages

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:34.400
<v Speaker 1>that your debt goes through when you stop making a

0:41:34.440 --> 0:41:37.200
<v Speaker 1>payment on it. There's like the thirty day stage, which

0:41:37.239 --> 0:41:38.960
<v Speaker 1>is when you probably get a call from your credit

0:41:39.000 --> 0:41:41.960
<v Speaker 1>card company or your private student lender and they're like, hey,

0:41:41.960 --> 0:41:44.480
<v Speaker 1>what's up. You missed a payment? Yeah, as a courtesy call.

0:41:45.000 --> 0:41:47.800
<v Speaker 1>Then once it gets past one hundred and eighty days,

0:41:48.280 --> 0:41:50.880
<v Speaker 1>that lender or that credit card company is going to

0:41:50.880 --> 0:41:53.720
<v Speaker 1>look at your account and say, listen, this person hasn't

0:41:53.760 --> 0:41:56.200
<v Speaker 1>paid in months. We're going to sell it to a

0:41:56.200 --> 0:41:57.920
<v Speaker 1>debt collector and have them deal with it.

0:41:58.920 --> 0:42:01.520
<v Speaker 2>So that's basically when they are basically when they've basically said,

0:42:01.800 --> 0:42:03.879
<v Speaker 2>we're not getting our money. That's what a charge off

0:42:03.960 --> 0:42:06.080
<v Speaker 2>is is like when they're just basically like, yeah, we're

0:42:06.120 --> 0:42:07.960
<v Speaker 2>just kind of throwing our hands up. We're not going

0:42:08.040 --> 0:42:11.319
<v Speaker 2>to get it. So we're just gonna, basically, like Mandy said,

0:42:11.880 --> 0:42:16.480
<v Speaker 2>sell it to someone else now now that it's charged off.

0:42:16.640 --> 0:42:19.000
<v Speaker 2>So what's really important right with the charge off is

0:42:19.040 --> 0:42:22.239
<v Speaker 2>that you have to know that if they sell your

0:42:22.280 --> 0:42:24.360
<v Speaker 2>debt to someone now, they don't own it. So a

0:42:24.400 --> 0:42:25.960
<v Speaker 2>lot of people make this mistake. I've seen this. I

0:42:25.960 --> 0:42:28.160
<v Speaker 2>don't know if you've seen this manny that people will

0:42:28.160 --> 0:42:30.600
<v Speaker 2>owe Like let's just say they owe Sears and then

0:42:30.640 --> 0:42:33.520
<v Speaker 2>Sears charges it off in solves it to Tom and them,

0:42:33.800 --> 0:42:35.840
<v Speaker 2>and then people want to go back and pay Sears,

0:42:35.840 --> 0:42:39.360
<v Speaker 2>but Sears doesn't own that debt anymore. Correct, Ye, And

0:42:39.400 --> 0:42:41.279
<v Speaker 2>so if you pay sears, Now, this is what I've seen,

0:42:41.320 --> 0:42:43.600
<v Speaker 2>which is terrible, and not that I'm not picking on sears.

0:42:43.719 --> 0:42:46.520
<v Speaker 2>Won't call them sears, We'll just call it jeers. If

0:42:46.520 --> 0:42:49.319
<v Speaker 2>you pay gears, jeers might actually take your money. But

0:42:49.360 --> 0:42:51.319
<v Speaker 2>guess who used to? Oh the person they told it to.

0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:53.280
<v Speaker 1>Oh does that really happened?

0:42:53.400 --> 0:42:54.400
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes that's happened.

0:42:54.520 --> 0:42:56.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh you can't do that, No, no, no, post it.

0:42:56.680 --> 0:42:59.280
<v Speaker 2>But I've seen, especially like hospitals, I've seen that happen

0:42:59.600 --> 0:43:03.640
<v Speaker 2>a lot, that people will pay the original creditor, the

0:43:03.760 --> 0:43:06.040
<v Speaker 2>creditor will take the money, and then you find out

0:43:06.080 --> 0:43:08.040
<v Speaker 2>that they weren't supposed to, and now you're fighting to

0:43:08.040 --> 0:43:10.160
<v Speaker 2>get your money back because you're supposed to pay the

0:43:10.160 --> 0:43:10.960
<v Speaker 2>person they sold it to.

0:43:11.239 --> 0:43:12.319
<v Speaker 1>Oh, or don't do that.

0:43:12.719 --> 0:43:13.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:16.960
<v Speaker 1>The really horrible thing about, you know, having your debt

0:43:17.040 --> 0:43:18.319
<v Speaker 1>charge off, is that it is going to go on

0:43:18.320 --> 0:43:20.960
<v Speaker 1>your credit report. And at that point, it's not like

0:43:21.160 --> 0:43:23.440
<v Speaker 1>I think. What I hear is people think, Okay, it's

0:43:23.440 --> 0:43:25.120
<v Speaker 1>been charged off, so I don't have to deal with

0:43:25.160 --> 0:43:28.240
<v Speaker 1>it anymore. Yeah you do. It's still on your credit report.

0:43:28.280 --> 0:43:31.200
<v Speaker 1>You still owe the debt. In some states, there's a

0:43:31.239 --> 0:43:34.440
<v Speaker 1>statute of limitations on how long the debt collector can

0:43:34.480 --> 0:43:36.560
<v Speaker 1>wait to sue you for a debt, but it can

0:43:36.600 --> 0:43:39.160
<v Speaker 1>be like ten years, so it's very likely you still

0:43:39.200 --> 0:43:41.239
<v Speaker 1>owe that debt. They can still sue you for it

0:43:41.280 --> 0:43:42.240
<v Speaker 1>and take you to court.

0:43:43.520 --> 0:43:45.400
<v Speaker 2>In New Jersey, New York, I know it's six years.

0:43:45.480 --> 0:43:47.080
<v Speaker 1>It's a six years okay, well in.

0:43:47.040 --> 0:43:48.759
<v Speaker 2>New Jersey and New York. But you're right, it's Some

0:43:48.840 --> 0:43:51.439
<v Speaker 2>states are ten, some states are four. But I don't

0:43:51.440 --> 0:43:54.080
<v Speaker 2>know where Charlotte lives. But in New Jersey and New

0:43:54.160 --> 0:43:56.560
<v Speaker 2>York it's six years that they have to sue you.

0:43:56.600 --> 0:43:58.640
<v Speaker 2>But they have all these tricks that they do. So

0:43:58.680 --> 0:44:01.840
<v Speaker 2>some of my friends work for debt election agencies. Hag

0:44:01.840 --> 0:44:03.520
<v Speaker 2>her on. You know you're going to hell right anyway

0:44:03.840 --> 0:44:07.359
<v Speaker 2>for them, But they schooled me into showing, well, this

0:44:07.400 --> 0:44:11.319
<v Speaker 2>is what they'll do. So after six years of inactivity,

0:44:11.360 --> 0:44:14.560
<v Speaker 2>meaning like you have not paid or you have not

0:44:14.960 --> 0:44:18.280
<v Speaker 2>promised to pay, some debt collectors will do this. They'll

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:20.279
<v Speaker 2>actually make a dollar payment for you so they can

0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:24.080
<v Speaker 2>start the clock all over again. Isn't that terrible? It

0:44:24.160 --> 0:44:26.120
<v Speaker 2>is super shady, And she's like some of my friends

0:44:26.120 --> 0:44:27.960
<v Speaker 2>who've told me, Like I said, who worked for debt

0:44:28.000 --> 0:44:30.560
<v Speaker 2>collectors are like, so just be mindful that they have

0:44:30.600 --> 0:44:33.719
<v Speaker 2>all these tricks to make sure that your statute of

0:44:33.800 --> 0:44:36.040
<v Speaker 2>limitation never goes up. Because if they take you to

0:44:36.080 --> 0:44:40.040
<v Speaker 2>court and win, they can garnish wages, they can do

0:44:40.120 --> 0:44:41.520
<v Speaker 2>a whole bunch of stuff, like you know, they can

0:44:41.560 --> 0:44:44.319
<v Speaker 2>actually petition your bank and say, hey, that money in

0:44:44.360 --> 0:44:46.000
<v Speaker 2>her bank account. We kind of need some of that

0:44:46.400 --> 0:44:49.600
<v Speaker 2>because we have this, we have this win from the

0:44:49.680 --> 0:44:51.680
<v Speaker 2>courts that say that we're able to take some money.

0:44:52.160 --> 0:44:55.040
<v Speaker 2>You just never know. So, but I will say this,

0:44:55.760 --> 0:44:59.960
<v Speaker 2>if it's if she if seven years is twenty eighteen

0:45:01.040 --> 0:45:04.760
<v Speaker 2>at this stage in the game, that sometimes paying old

0:45:04.800 --> 0:45:07.040
<v Speaker 2>debt at this stage in the game is more harmful

0:45:07.040 --> 0:45:12.800
<v Speaker 2>than good. So like, but explain, So here's why. Because

0:45:12.840 --> 0:45:15.719
<v Speaker 2>so let's just say she said it was twenty twenty

0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:17.600
<v Speaker 2>or whatever. I'm like, well, girl, deal with it. But

0:45:17.800 --> 0:45:20.879
<v Speaker 2>now that basically in a year and a half, it's

0:45:20.920 --> 0:45:24.200
<v Speaker 2>gonna fall off. So if she lives in New York

0:45:24.200 --> 0:45:26.640
<v Speaker 2>and New Jersey, what that means in six months she's

0:45:26.680 --> 0:45:29.000
<v Speaker 2>out of the suable range because that will be her

0:45:29.000 --> 0:45:31.600
<v Speaker 2>six years and then after one more year, which is

0:45:31.640 --> 0:45:34.319
<v Speaker 2>seven years, it should fall off. And so if she

0:45:34.440 --> 0:45:38.680
<v Speaker 2>makes a payment now and honestly debt that's usually within

0:45:38.800 --> 0:45:42.200
<v Speaker 2>the first two years, that's the debt that's really dragging

0:45:42.480 --> 0:45:46.279
<v Speaker 2>your score down, that new debt. So if debt is

0:45:46.400 --> 0:45:49.840
<v Speaker 2>five six years old and then so it's not affecting

0:45:49.880 --> 0:45:52.960
<v Speaker 2>your credit, it's much because it's so old. If you

0:45:53.080 --> 0:45:55.440
<v Speaker 2>make a payment on super old debt, you make it

0:45:55.520 --> 0:45:57.839
<v Speaker 2>new again, so all of a sudden, that whole charge

0:45:57.840 --> 0:45:59.520
<v Speaker 2>off is new again and starts to bring down your

0:45:59.520 --> 0:46:02.080
<v Speaker 2>score more. I've seen a lot of people do that

0:46:02.120 --> 0:46:05.760
<v Speaker 2>with old debt. Now, now there's like a moral moral

0:46:05.880 --> 0:46:08.160
<v Speaker 2>quite compass that you kind of have to decide for yourself.

0:46:08.440 --> 0:46:12.560
<v Speaker 2>But just know that if you're paying on old debt,

0:46:12.719 --> 0:46:15.799
<v Speaker 2>you're making that old debt new and relevant, and it

0:46:15.800 --> 0:46:18.560
<v Speaker 2>actually might do more harm than good. So just be

0:46:18.640 --> 0:46:21.360
<v Speaker 2>mindful about paying a really old debt. All of my

0:46:21.680 --> 0:46:24.600
<v Speaker 2>friends who are in like credit restoration always tell me

0:46:24.680 --> 0:46:27.879
<v Speaker 2>that that you should focus on the new stuff first.

0:46:27.960 --> 0:46:30.480
<v Speaker 2>Take care of that, because that's really the thing that's

0:46:30.480 --> 0:46:33.759
<v Speaker 2>affecting your score, not that that's five six, seven years old.

0:46:34.560 --> 0:46:37.480
<v Speaker 1>Well, I'll say, when it comes to like getting rid

0:46:37.520 --> 0:46:41.160
<v Speaker 1>of a debt, I mean, let's say they're suing you,

0:46:41.280 --> 0:46:43.759
<v Speaker 1>I mean, debt collectors can I mean, as long as

0:46:43.760 --> 0:46:46.319
<v Speaker 1>it's still been as long as she's still within the

0:46:46.360 --> 0:46:48.840
<v Speaker 1>statue limitations, she can. She's still a free game for

0:46:48.880 --> 0:46:51.560
<v Speaker 1>them to sue her. And that can happen, especially with

0:46:51.600 --> 0:46:54.760
<v Speaker 1>student loans. And if that comes the case you, settling

0:46:54.880 --> 0:46:57.839
<v Speaker 1>is probably the best option. And settling is especially if

0:46:57.840 --> 0:47:00.440
<v Speaker 1>the debt's been it's been years since you've paid, made

0:47:00.480 --> 0:47:03.400
<v Speaker 1>a payment, and these debt collectors bought your debt for

0:47:03.640 --> 0:47:05.960
<v Speaker 1>probably I mean definitely a lot less than what the

0:47:05.960 --> 0:47:08.360
<v Speaker 1>original balance was owed, so they'll be willing to settle

0:47:08.400 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 1>for you, probably for a lot less than the original balance,

0:47:12.239 --> 0:47:14.319
<v Speaker 1>as long as you are ready with like a big

0:47:14.400 --> 0:47:17.560
<v Speaker 1>lump sum payment right then and there. And I would

0:47:17.600 --> 0:47:19.799
<v Speaker 1>recommend that, like if she does, if it does come

0:47:19.840 --> 0:47:22.120
<v Speaker 1>down to her getting sued, or if she just wants

0:47:22.160 --> 0:47:24.960
<v Speaker 1>to get rid of this, reach out to them, open

0:47:25.000 --> 0:47:28.359
<v Speaker 1>a dialogue and see if they can, if they can

0:47:28.400 --> 0:47:29.840
<v Speaker 1>come to an agreement on the settlement.

0:47:30.400 --> 0:47:35.080
<v Speaker 2>I honestly I'm recommending to opposite becakay only because so

0:47:35.440 --> 0:47:37.960
<v Speaker 2>if they have not reached out to you, meaning that now,

0:47:37.960 --> 0:47:39.480
<v Speaker 2>if they're reaching out to you and they're talking to you,

0:47:39.520 --> 0:47:41.160
<v Speaker 2>definitely have a conversation back.

0:47:41.200 --> 0:47:43.120
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm wondering, because she doesn't say that, and

0:47:43.160 --> 0:47:44.879
<v Speaker 1>I find it really hard to believe that she hasn't

0:47:44.920 --> 0:47:48.680
<v Speaker 1>gotten any information from them. She says, should I try

0:47:48.719 --> 0:47:50.760
<v Speaker 1>and reach out to the collection agency.

0:47:50.640 --> 0:47:52.080
<v Speaker 2>That means they're not reaching out to her. No, that

0:47:52.120 --> 0:47:55.080
<v Speaker 2>happens often, so say like, for whatever reason, see yourselves

0:47:55.120 --> 0:47:57.800
<v Speaker 2>as to Tom. Tom's sells it to Sarah, Sarah sells

0:47:57.840 --> 0:48:01.040
<v Speaker 2>it to Marvin, and Marvin just doesn't get in around

0:48:01.040 --> 0:48:03.279
<v Speaker 2>to calling you or by then, you've moved so many

0:48:03.320 --> 0:48:05.680
<v Speaker 2>times they have not been able to place you a

0:48:05.719 --> 0:48:09.080
<v Speaker 2>lot of times that that will happen debt collectors, debt

0:48:09.120 --> 0:48:11.680
<v Speaker 2>will kind of die, and it's not that it dies,

0:48:11.760 --> 0:48:14.400
<v Speaker 2>it becomes what they call zombie debt past a certain

0:48:14.880 --> 0:48:17.400
<v Speaker 2>past the statute of limitations. So you know, we all

0:48:17.440 --> 0:48:20.880
<v Speaker 2>watch Walking Dead. Zombies are like alive but dead. So

0:48:20.920 --> 0:48:23.360
<v Speaker 2>it's like the debt is dead in that they cannot

0:48:23.520 --> 0:48:27.279
<v Speaker 2>legally use the courts to try to distract extract that

0:48:27.320 --> 0:48:30.080
<v Speaker 2>money from you. But technically do you still owe yes.

0:48:30.800 --> 0:48:33.359
<v Speaker 2>So that's why I said I would if they're not

0:48:33.400 --> 0:48:37.080
<v Speaker 2>contacting you, I would leave it, let it fall off,

0:48:37.239 --> 0:48:41.480
<v Speaker 2>and I instead would work on your current financial situation,

0:48:41.600 --> 0:48:44.680
<v Speaker 2>because that's really where like if you're paying your bills

0:48:44.719 --> 0:48:47.919
<v Speaker 2>on time, how much debt you have right now, that's

0:48:47.920 --> 0:48:50.400
<v Speaker 2>really where you're going to make the most difference.

0:48:49.960 --> 0:48:52.239
<v Speaker 1>With your with the only house this personal loan to

0:48:52.280 --> 0:48:54.279
<v Speaker 1>her parents. So if she could be focusing on this

0:48:54.360 --> 0:48:56.919
<v Speaker 1>other debt, she could be I mean, and I guess

0:48:56.960 --> 0:49:01.920
<v Speaker 1>another hypothetical situation is oh where did my train go?

0:49:02.040 --> 0:49:05.160
<v Speaker 1>That you too just let the station like that go.

0:49:06.880 --> 0:49:10.000
<v Speaker 2>Thought saying this is Mandy that it's even worse if

0:49:10.040 --> 0:49:13.360
<v Speaker 2>she doesn't have the other day. So your credit in

0:49:13.440 --> 0:49:15.480
<v Speaker 2>your credit score and your credit report, it's really an

0:49:15.520 --> 0:49:19.120
<v Speaker 2>average of your activity. So if you are only taking

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:21.960
<v Speaker 2>one class in school, it's jim and you get a

0:49:22.080 --> 0:49:24.160
<v Speaker 2>and Jim you have an AGPA, you get a D

0:49:24.239 --> 0:49:27.480
<v Speaker 2>in GM, you have a DGPA. Right, So this one

0:49:27.719 --> 0:49:31.200
<v Speaker 2>thing that she kind of has right now because it's old,

0:49:31.640 --> 0:49:33.719
<v Speaker 2>even though she might have an f in it, it's

0:49:33.760 --> 0:49:37.719
<v Speaker 2>not it's it's not as relevant as anything that she

0:49:37.920 --> 0:49:40.560
<v Speaker 2>might do like moving forward. So like she might want

0:49:40.560 --> 0:49:42.840
<v Speaker 2>to get a secured card or whatever it is. She

0:49:42.920 --> 0:49:45.080
<v Speaker 2>might have student loans that she's paying off or whatever.

0:49:45.480 --> 0:49:48.319
<v Speaker 2>But if she goes back and kind of hits up

0:49:48.360 --> 0:49:50.400
<v Speaker 2>that old teacher and says, hey, what about that f

0:49:50.440 --> 0:49:52.000
<v Speaker 2>I got he said, oh yeah, I forgot about that.

0:49:52.600 --> 0:49:54.680
<v Speaker 2>Let's make it new and relevant again. So now all

0:49:54.680 --> 0:49:57.120
<v Speaker 2>of a sudden, she doesn't have anything to balance out

0:49:57.120 --> 0:49:59.600
<v Speaker 2>that as she has no other credit history. So now

0:49:59.600 --> 0:50:03.320
<v Speaker 2>she's going to she's literally going to bring her score

0:50:03.400 --> 0:50:07.000
<v Speaker 2>dramatically down because she's going to make something that because

0:50:07.040 --> 0:50:08.960
<v Speaker 2>even paying it off is not gonna make it right

0:50:09.040 --> 0:50:12.680
<v Speaker 2>for her, because she's still credit history is history meaning

0:50:12.760 --> 0:50:14.520
<v Speaker 2>that you did not pay all of this time, that's

0:50:14.520 --> 0:50:16.800
<v Speaker 2>not going to disappear just because you paid. Paying it

0:50:16.840 --> 0:50:18.800
<v Speaker 2>honestly is not going to raise her score. Paying is

0:50:18.800 --> 0:50:21.239
<v Speaker 2>actually going to lower her score because paying it off

0:50:21.320 --> 0:50:23.160
<v Speaker 2>is not going to do anything other than make it

0:50:23.239 --> 0:50:25.399
<v Speaker 2>new again to say, hey, this is a person who

0:50:25.440 --> 0:50:27.600
<v Speaker 2>did not pay all this time. That's why I'm just saying,

0:50:27.640 --> 0:50:29.200
<v Speaker 2>you want to just be mindful that, Yeah, you can

0:50:29.239 --> 0:50:30.960
<v Speaker 2>pay it off, but it's not going to do anything

0:50:31.000 --> 0:50:33.400
<v Speaker 2>for your score except for bringing down because you're making

0:50:33.800 --> 0:50:37.520
<v Speaker 2>old history that's negative new and you don't have anything

0:50:37.520 --> 0:50:39.040
<v Speaker 2>else to balance it out with. You don't have any

0:50:39.080 --> 0:50:41.720
<v Speaker 2>other credit cards or any other things that you've done

0:50:41.960 --> 0:50:43.920
<v Speaker 2>to show even though I messed up in this one place,

0:50:44.000 --> 0:50:47.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm doing good over here. So it would just behoove her, like,

0:50:47.080 --> 0:50:50.719
<v Speaker 2>in my opinion, to just get a secured card, start

0:50:50.719 --> 0:50:53.160
<v Speaker 2>building credit history so you have other things on your credit.

0:50:53.440 --> 0:50:56.359
<v Speaker 1>She could approve for that if she has this, you know, yeah,

0:50:56.520 --> 0:50:59.640
<v Speaker 1>six year old debt. That's my thing, Like secured card

0:50:59.680 --> 0:51:01.560
<v Speaker 1>is one thing. But I mean she doesn't say this either,

0:51:01.600 --> 0:51:03.560
<v Speaker 1>But if you're, you know, trying to get an apartment

0:51:03.719 --> 0:51:05.160
<v Speaker 1>or you're trying to get a car loan and you

0:51:05.239 --> 0:51:08.000
<v Speaker 1>have this debt on your credit report, you can get

0:51:08.480 --> 0:51:10.879
<v Speaker 1>denied or get stuck with a super high interest rate.

0:51:11.719 --> 0:51:14.799
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like in that case, showing that you've

0:51:14.840 --> 0:51:16.520
<v Speaker 1>made a good faith effort to start repaying on it

0:51:16.520 --> 0:51:17.000
<v Speaker 1>would be.

0:51:16.880 --> 0:51:20.160
<v Speaker 2>Better, I guess, I mean, or showing that like you

0:51:20.200 --> 0:51:22.680
<v Speaker 2>know what what security cause. Remember the purpose of secured

0:51:22.760 --> 0:51:27.319
<v Speaker 2>card is to give credit to folks who otherwise would

0:51:27.320 --> 0:51:29.520
<v Speaker 2>be left out of the credit system. So you don't

0:51:29.560 --> 0:51:32.520
<v Speaker 2>have to have like a great credit score in order

0:51:32.520 --> 0:51:34.760
<v Speaker 2>to get a security card. You know, that's the purpose.

0:51:34.840 --> 0:51:37.040
<v Speaker 2>So I would at least look into it, see like well,

0:51:37.040 --> 0:51:39.600
<v Speaker 2>what's the lowest score that I'm able to? Go to

0:51:39.640 --> 0:51:41.560
<v Speaker 2>your bank or your credit union. That's the best place

0:51:41.600 --> 0:51:43.719
<v Speaker 2>to look for a secured card and ask, or if

0:51:43.760 --> 0:51:45.799
<v Speaker 2>you can't, if your bank or your credit union does

0:51:45.840 --> 0:51:49.520
<v Speaker 2>it offer secured cards, go to magnify Money. They've got

0:51:49.520 --> 0:51:52.040
<v Speaker 2>a great list of secured cards and see, like, well

0:51:52.200 --> 0:51:54.120
<v Speaker 2>what I could What I love to about Magnifying Money

0:51:54.160 --> 0:51:56.640
<v Speaker 2>is that you can put in your information, like your

0:51:56.680 --> 0:51:58.600
<v Speaker 2>credit score and stuff. And what they'll do is they

0:51:58.680 --> 0:52:01.440
<v Speaker 2>will they will say, yeah, you're likely to be approved

0:52:01.520 --> 0:52:04.120
<v Speaker 2>or you know, you're not likely. So I would work

0:52:04.160 --> 0:52:08.080
<v Speaker 2>on building you know, your credit up versus like you know,

0:52:08.160 --> 0:52:10.920
<v Speaker 2>dredging up the Also just because if you're if you're

0:52:10.960 --> 0:52:13.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what her credit score is. But so

0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:15.320
<v Speaker 2>let's just say, like because when I was a landlord,

0:52:15.320 --> 0:52:18.640
<v Speaker 2>I would look at your credit score, not necessarily your

0:52:18.640 --> 0:52:24.000
<v Speaker 2>credit report. So if your credit score is uh, you know,

0:52:24.040 --> 0:52:27.920
<v Speaker 2>your credit score is decent, then you know, I'm just

0:52:27.920 --> 0:52:29.440
<v Speaker 2>trying to think of like my train of thought. So

0:52:30.160 --> 0:52:33.680
<v Speaker 2>if your credit score, if her credit score is only okay,

0:52:33.920 --> 0:52:38.319
<v Speaker 2>she can bring it up further by by you know,

0:52:38.360 --> 0:52:40.440
<v Speaker 2>getting a secured card and raising her credit.

0:52:40.160 --> 0:52:44.200
<v Speaker 1>Score yeah, that would be a process too, because almost

0:52:44.280 --> 0:52:46.560
<v Speaker 1>you have to make payments every month and after a

0:52:46.640 --> 0:52:50.160
<v Speaker 1>year though, well offer you the line of credit.

0:52:50.120 --> 0:52:52.080
<v Speaker 2>After a few months, like for example, Superman had a

0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:55.640
<v Speaker 2>secured card. Superman had a secure card and he after

0:52:55.680 --> 0:52:57.920
<v Speaker 2>three months he was able to bring his score up

0:52:57.920 --> 0:53:01.000
<v Speaker 2>about a hundred points because that when he only had

0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:02.680
<v Speaker 2>the security card. And that's what we talked about, like

0:53:02.719 --> 0:53:05.200
<v Speaker 2>credit is an average. So because he didn't have a

0:53:05.239 --> 0:53:10.919
<v Speaker 2>whole bunch of different credit like you know, accounts open,

0:53:11.320 --> 0:53:13.279
<v Speaker 2>he had that one secured card, so all he had

0:53:13.280 --> 0:53:15.640
<v Speaker 2>to do was do right by that one card. And

0:53:15.680 --> 0:53:17.319
<v Speaker 2>when I met him, he was like in the low

0:53:17.400 --> 0:53:19.840
<v Speaker 2>six hundreds. And just just this morning he woke up,

0:53:19.880 --> 0:53:22.600
<v Speaker 2>he was like, babe, my credit score is seven sixty,

0:53:23.080 --> 0:53:25.000
<v Speaker 2>so that's been like in a year. But honestly he

0:53:25.080 --> 0:53:27.080
<v Speaker 2>jumped up to like a I say a seven to

0:53:27.160 --> 0:53:29.520
<v Speaker 2>twenty after a few months. So secure cars can work

0:53:29.520 --> 0:53:31.440
<v Speaker 2>fairly quickly if you don't have a lot of credit

0:53:31.760 --> 0:53:35.359
<v Speaker 2>under your belt, you know, so as a tool, yeah,

0:53:35.480 --> 0:53:37.680
<v Speaker 2>they are as good as a tool. So honestly, she's

0:53:37.680 --> 0:53:39.359
<v Speaker 2>in a great position. If you don't have a lot

0:53:39.400 --> 0:53:42.000
<v Speaker 2>of credit accounts, then opening up one good one is

0:53:42.000 --> 0:53:44.399
<v Speaker 2>going to do a world of good, but having one

0:53:44.400 --> 0:53:45.879
<v Speaker 2>bad one is going to do a world of bad.

0:53:45.920 --> 0:53:48.239
<v Speaker 2>So because like I said, it's an average, So the

0:53:48.280 --> 0:53:51.640
<v Speaker 2>smaller amount that you have, the more each individual account

0:53:51.640 --> 0:53:53.160
<v Speaker 2>it's going to have a different make a difference.

0:53:53.719 --> 0:53:57.600
<v Speaker 1>I agree with that for sure. All Right, miss Charlotte,

0:53:57.880 --> 0:53:58.800
<v Speaker 1>good luck.

0:53:59.080 --> 0:54:00.600
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I know she's like, but so wait, what am

0:54:00.600 --> 0:54:02.160
<v Speaker 2>I supposed to do? I'm like, girl, I don't know,

0:54:02.560 --> 0:54:07.080
<v Speaker 2>just according to Mandy, Mandy said, hey, reach out in

0:54:07.120 --> 0:54:09.839
<v Speaker 2>a paid off. According to me, I'm like, girl, if

0:54:09.840 --> 0:54:12.120
<v Speaker 2>they're not calling, you, don't call them. Go get yourself

0:54:12.120 --> 0:54:14.239
<v Speaker 2>a security card and make your life right. So you

0:54:14.280 --> 0:54:15.640
<v Speaker 2>have to make a decision either way.

0:54:15.760 --> 0:54:18.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm really surprised that if they're not harassing her like

0:54:19.480 --> 0:54:22.480
<v Speaker 1>they typically do, I'd be surprised. But I guess when

0:54:22.480 --> 0:54:24.080
<v Speaker 1>you're a student, it's a lot heard from the track

0:54:24.120 --> 0:54:26.440
<v Speaker 1>you because you don't have, like you probably don't have,

0:54:26.880 --> 0:54:29.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, your own house and in a permanent address

0:54:29.680 --> 0:54:31.200
<v Speaker 1>room to come find you, so you're kind of like

0:54:31.239 --> 0:54:35.600
<v Speaker 1>trickier to track down. Yeah, but I do worry that,

0:54:35.719 --> 0:54:37.400
<v Speaker 1>you know, they'll just wake up and smell the roses

0:54:37.400 --> 0:54:39.879
<v Speaker 1>next year, right before her deadline and be like, ah,

0:54:40.040 --> 0:54:40.800
<v Speaker 1>here's a lawsuit.

0:54:41.840 --> 0:54:43.560
<v Speaker 2>Well, usually what they'll do is they'll like they'll reach

0:54:43.600 --> 0:54:46.160
<v Speaker 2>out to you and just say like, hey, we want

0:54:46.200 --> 0:54:48.560
<v Speaker 2>to collect money. Hey with it's usually if you ignore that,

0:54:48.680 --> 0:54:50.920
<v Speaker 2>hey we want to collect money, that's here's a lawsuit.

0:54:51.080 --> 0:54:53.239
<v Speaker 2>So if they do reach out, then yes, work out

0:54:53.280 --> 0:54:55.600
<v Speaker 2>a settlement. But if they don't, like I stone tell.

0:54:55.480 --> 0:54:57.720
<v Speaker 1>Them to stop calling you. That's one thing people don't understand.

0:54:57.719 --> 0:55:01.160
<v Speaker 1>You can. You can the I'll post a link to this,

0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:04.040
<v Speaker 1>so check the website brownvisionpodcast dot com. I'll post a

0:55:04.040 --> 0:55:07.719
<v Speaker 1>link to the Consumer Finance Protection Bureau. They have all

0:55:07.719 --> 0:55:09.880
<v Speaker 1>these like form letters, like they write the letters for you.

0:55:09.920 --> 0:55:11.840
<v Speaker 1>All you have to do is put your name, insert

0:55:11.920 --> 0:55:14.120
<v Speaker 1>your name, and insert the deck collector's name, and you

0:55:14.160 --> 0:55:16.440
<v Speaker 1>can send them a season deslist letter saying, you know,

0:55:16.600 --> 0:55:19.480
<v Speaker 1>please stop talking, stop calling me, or call me on

0:55:19.640 --> 0:55:22.320
<v Speaker 1>these hours, or only email me. Don't call me, or

0:55:22.400 --> 0:55:24.440
<v Speaker 1>only send me letters. Don't email me or call me

0:55:24.480 --> 0:55:27.239
<v Speaker 1>that kind of stuff. You can totally do that. It

0:55:27.239 --> 0:55:29.160
<v Speaker 1>won't erase your debt, but it'll get them out if

0:55:29.160 --> 0:55:31.879
<v Speaker 1>you're you know, off your back. And that's why it's

0:55:31.880 --> 0:55:32.759
<v Speaker 1>why to get rid of.

0:55:32.680 --> 0:55:35.279
<v Speaker 2>Them because I remember I couldn't pay my mortgage at

0:55:35.280 --> 0:55:37.440
<v Speaker 2>one point during the high of the recession, and I

0:55:37.480 --> 0:55:38.719
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh my gosh, I'm not going to do

0:55:38.760 --> 0:55:42.279
<v Speaker 2>and they were Chase Bank was he rap sing me?

0:55:42.440 --> 0:55:44.520
<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness. I was like, is this ex boyfriend?

0:55:45.840 --> 0:55:47.160
<v Speaker 1>And it probably weren't alone either.

0:55:47.560 --> 0:55:49.959
<v Speaker 2>No, And so I sent them a sea I backed

0:55:50.000 --> 0:55:58.040
<v Speaker 2>up a seasoned assist letter, and it worked like a charm. Yeah, hello, yeah,

0:55:58.080 --> 0:55:58.600
<v Speaker 2>can you hear me?

0:55:59.080 --> 0:56:01.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Oh you cut out for a bit. You said

0:56:01.200 --> 0:56:02.640
<v Speaker 1>it worked, Yeah, it worked like a charm.

0:56:02.640 --> 0:56:04.640
<v Speaker 2>I sent up a seasoned desist letter and it worked

0:56:04.640 --> 0:56:05.200
<v Speaker 2>like a charm.

0:56:05.280 --> 0:56:10.279
<v Speaker 1>I oh good, okay, yeah, I miss Charlotte.

0:56:10.520 --> 0:56:14.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, let us know how it goes either way.

0:56:14.400 --> 0:56:16.799
<v Speaker 1>Either way, just do whatever you know what, what can

0:56:16.840 --> 0:56:20.840
<v Speaker 1>help you sleep at night. Mandy's got a heavy conscious,

0:56:20.880 --> 0:56:30.919
<v Speaker 1>she likes to she's sassy.

0:56:32.840 --> 0:56:35.759
<v Speaker 2>So what's up next? What do we have now? Some wins?

0:56:35.760 --> 0:56:37.680
<v Speaker 1>We haven't done wins for a little while. I know

0:56:38.400 --> 0:56:40.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do a book for my win.

0:56:40.440 --> 0:56:41.759
<v Speaker 2>Okay, you're going to do a book. I'm like, what

0:56:41.840 --> 0:56:45.640
<v Speaker 2>is Okay, you go first, I will go first.

0:56:45.680 --> 0:56:48.279
<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to recommend this book it's not necessarily

0:56:48.440 --> 0:56:50.279
<v Speaker 1>a self help, I'm going to make you better at

0:56:50.280 --> 0:56:53.600
<v Speaker 1>your career book, but it's a really good novel and

0:56:53.640 --> 0:56:55.840
<v Speaker 1>it's actually about to get made into a TV show

0:56:56.360 --> 0:57:00.879
<v Speaker 1>on the Own network. The novels called Queen Sugar, and

0:57:00.920 --> 0:57:04.000
<v Speaker 1>it's about an African American mom of a daughter who's

0:57:04.000 --> 0:57:07.200
<v Speaker 1>like eleven years old, who she's widowed in her thirties,

0:57:07.320 --> 0:57:11.160
<v Speaker 1>very young, and she inherits a sugar cane farm duh

0:57:11.360 --> 0:57:14.880
<v Speaker 1>from her dad in Louisiana, and so she decides to

0:57:14.920 --> 0:57:17.280
<v Speaker 1>sell everything, pack up, and she's like down on her

0:57:17.360 --> 0:57:19.479
<v Speaker 1>luck anyway, so she decides she wants a fresh start,

0:57:19.520 --> 0:57:23.920
<v Speaker 1>so she moves back home to Louisiana to run a

0:57:23.960 --> 0:57:26.720
<v Speaker 1>sugar cane farm, and of course she has no idea

0:57:26.720 --> 0:57:29.720
<v Speaker 1>how to do it, and she has a brother who's

0:57:29.800 --> 0:57:35.040
<v Speaker 1>trying to fight her for the inheritance, and her farm

0:57:35.080 --> 0:57:37.120
<v Speaker 1>manager quits on her, and she has to like pull

0:57:37.120 --> 0:57:40.680
<v Speaker 1>herselves up by the proverbial bootstraps and like figure out

0:57:40.680 --> 0:57:44.720
<v Speaker 1>how to do sugar cane farming in a year. And

0:57:44.840 --> 0:57:46.479
<v Speaker 1>I love the novel. I thought it was really good,

0:57:46.520 --> 0:57:48.200
<v Speaker 1>and I'm so excited because it's going to be a

0:57:48.240 --> 0:57:55.000
<v Speaker 1>show and guess who's directing it, Ava DuVernay. You're gonna

0:57:55.000 --> 0:57:58.480
<v Speaker 1>say that I love her and then also her and

0:57:58.920 --> 0:58:01.800
<v Speaker 1>starring is going to be routine Wesley, who was Tara

0:58:01.960 --> 0:58:03.520
<v Speaker 1>and True Blood? Did you watch True Blood?

0:58:04.920 --> 0:58:06.240
<v Speaker 2>I did a little bit.

0:58:06.280 --> 0:58:08.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of embarrassed I watched True Blood because that

0:58:08.560 --> 0:58:12.120
<v Speaker 1>was like a really terrible show. But Routina Wesley was

0:58:12.120 --> 0:58:13.880
<v Speaker 1>on that and she was amazing, and I just like,

0:58:13.960 --> 0:58:15.280
<v Speaker 1>as soon as I knew it was her, I just

0:58:15.320 --> 0:58:17.000
<v Speaker 1>pictured her the entire time I was reading the book.

0:58:17.000 --> 0:58:19.960
<v Speaker 1>And it's so good. There's a little love, there's a

0:58:19.960 --> 0:58:23.560
<v Speaker 1>little South uh Louisiana charm, which I love, and I

0:58:23.560 --> 0:58:26.360
<v Speaker 1>think it's if you've ever, you know, been up against

0:58:26.480 --> 0:58:29.280
<v Speaker 1>an impossible task in your life, this is the book

0:58:29.600 --> 0:58:30.280
<v Speaker 1>that you should read.

0:58:31.080 --> 0:58:33.360
<v Speaker 2>Ooh, I know, my win And that's actually sounds like

0:58:33.360 --> 0:58:35.400
<v Speaker 2>a really great book to read. I love. I love

0:58:35.400 --> 0:58:38.080
<v Speaker 2>a good book, especially like in the park, like on

0:58:38.160 --> 0:58:40.640
<v Speaker 2>a blanket. What I see such a to be somewher.

0:58:41.400 --> 0:58:43.480
<v Speaker 2>I know, I can't wait. I'm honestly, I'm such a geek.

0:58:43.480 --> 0:58:45.160
<v Speaker 2>So I'm excited because I have like a thirty dollars

0:58:45.160 --> 0:58:48.480
<v Speaker 2>gift certificate the target that somebody gave me and I

0:58:48.520 --> 0:58:52.200
<v Speaker 2>am going to buy like a beach chair. So that way,

0:58:52.480 --> 0:58:54.400
<v Speaker 2>there's times when I want to do work in the

0:58:54.440 --> 0:58:56.080
<v Speaker 2>park because I have like a little it's called like

0:58:56.120 --> 0:58:58.080
<v Speaker 2>a jet pack, which is it looks like a little pager,

0:58:58.520 --> 0:59:02.000
<v Speaker 2>but basically it's like poort of internet, so I can

0:59:02.040 --> 0:59:05.000
<v Speaker 2>take the Internet with me wherever I go. Because I

0:59:05.040 --> 0:59:06.760
<v Speaker 2>was able. I went to Rison the other day to

0:59:06.800 --> 0:59:09.520
<v Speaker 2>get like a new upgrade on my phone since I

0:59:09.600 --> 0:59:10.880
<v Speaker 2>was like, way ver do and they were like, you

0:59:10.880 --> 0:59:13.360
<v Speaker 2>can do buy one getting free and normally I'm like, whoa,

0:59:13.400 --> 0:59:15.200
<v Speaker 2>what do I need with the free one? Like you know,

0:59:15.800 --> 0:59:17.800
<v Speaker 2>but at the time Superman was like ooh ooh, I

0:59:17.840 --> 0:59:20.320
<v Speaker 2>want a phone, and I was like, okay, well leave

0:59:20.360 --> 0:59:23.720
<v Speaker 2>your old service, come over to mine, pay your same bill,

0:59:24.280 --> 0:59:27.120
<v Speaker 2>and they gave us like all this great like data,

0:59:27.400 --> 0:59:29.840
<v Speaker 2>and so I have a ton of data and I

0:59:29.880 --> 0:59:32.880
<v Speaker 2>got a jetpack. I got my new phone, the Galaxy

0:59:33.000 --> 0:59:35.080
<v Speaker 2>seven S Edge. You guess get into it. You know,

0:59:35.120 --> 0:59:37.480
<v Speaker 2>you're jelly, and so do he. And as a result,

0:59:37.480 --> 0:59:40.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh now, whenever I'm like out and whenever

0:59:40.720 --> 0:59:42.640
<v Speaker 2>I have like my like little mac fook air with me,

0:59:42.880 --> 0:59:45.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I take out my little jetpack, and so

0:59:45.280 --> 0:59:46.680
<v Speaker 2>I was like, ooh, I want to start doing work

0:59:46.720 --> 0:59:48.840
<v Speaker 2>in the park and make the park my office this summer.

0:59:49.240 --> 0:59:50.600
<v Speaker 2>And so I was like, I'm going to get myself

0:59:50.640 --> 0:59:54.120
<v Speaker 2>a little spot. Yeah, and I'm going to get myself

0:59:54.120 --> 0:59:55.920
<v Speaker 2>a little chair to take with me so I can

0:59:56.000 --> 0:59:59.400
<v Speaker 2>just sit in the park and just you know, listen

0:59:59.440 --> 1:00:02.360
<v Speaker 2>to my just read a book or do work. But

1:00:02.440 --> 1:00:05.760
<v Speaker 2>like we're at someplace pretty protect, I'm trying. I just

1:00:05.800 --> 1:00:08.840
<v Speaker 2>have a win. What was my win? What was my win?

1:00:08.880 --> 1:00:09.280
<v Speaker 2>I just had?

1:00:09.320 --> 1:00:11.320
<v Speaker 1>It was on the top of my Your wind cannot

1:00:11.320 --> 1:00:12.960
<v Speaker 1>be a Target gift card. Although that is kind of

1:00:12.960 --> 1:00:13.240
<v Speaker 1>a win.

1:00:13.560 --> 1:00:15.280
<v Speaker 2>No, it's not. It wasn't. It was a good win

1:00:15.360 --> 1:00:19.400
<v Speaker 2>and I forgot well, instead of a win, can I

1:00:19.440 --> 1:00:20.280
<v Speaker 2>suggest a book?

1:00:20.680 --> 1:00:21.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>All right, so this is then holy book GUDDI. So hey, guys,

1:00:24.480 --> 1:00:27.960
<v Speaker 2>so I we're still here. I don't have a win

1:00:28.080 --> 1:00:31.040
<v Speaker 2>this week, but I do have a book suggestion. And

1:00:31.160 --> 1:00:32.720
<v Speaker 2>I know it's going to be kind of weird because

1:00:32.720 --> 1:00:35.360
<v Speaker 2>it's totally not a new book. But somebody said something

1:00:35.400 --> 1:00:37.360
<v Speaker 2>on Facebook or something, and it reminded me of how

1:00:37.400 --> 1:00:39.160
<v Speaker 2>much I love this book. It's one of my favorites.

1:00:39.560 --> 1:00:43.920
<v Speaker 2>It's their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora near Hurston Classic.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, in like eighth grade.

1:00:45.240 --> 1:00:48.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know, But honestly, it's one of those books that, like.

1:00:48.200 --> 1:00:50.360
<v Speaker 1>I should read it again as a grown up, Yes.

1:00:50.480 --> 1:00:53.200
<v Speaker 2>You know, because it's just I read it. I think

1:00:53.240 --> 1:00:54.480
<v Speaker 2>I don't remember. I think I read it like in

1:00:54.560 --> 1:00:57.440
<v Speaker 2>high school something like that, Like somehow I stumbled across

1:00:57.440 --> 1:00:59.720
<v Speaker 2>it in the library and just started reading it and

1:00:59.760 --> 1:01:02.280
<v Speaker 2>then never stop. And it's one of my favorite books.

1:01:02.280 --> 1:01:07.160
<v Speaker 2>And if you are really into language being beautifully arranged,

1:01:07.640 --> 1:01:10.160
<v Speaker 2>it is like the epitome of that, and I am.

1:01:10.200 --> 1:01:13.360
<v Speaker 2>I just love when, like I love poetry, it's to

1:01:13.360 --> 1:01:17.000
<v Speaker 2>write poetry. I love when language is just beautifully arranged

1:01:17.000 --> 1:01:20.480
<v Speaker 2>because we all get similar words and yet some people

1:01:20.560 --> 1:01:22.680
<v Speaker 2>arrange them in such a way that's literally like a

1:01:22.720 --> 1:01:24.800
<v Speaker 2>flower blooming. See what I did there?

1:01:25.080 --> 1:01:27.920
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, so that's that here for it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not so much a win, but just the book

1:01:30.680 --> 1:01:32.880
<v Speaker 2>suggestion that if you're looking to kind of read about

1:01:32.880 --> 1:01:34.800
<v Speaker 2>a love story, but to read about it in such

1:01:34.800 --> 1:01:38.120
<v Speaker 2>a beautiful way, I would suggestor and their Heirstmon, their

1:01:38.200 --> 1:01:40.120
<v Speaker 2>Eyes were Watching God.

1:01:41.200 --> 1:01:42.680
<v Speaker 1>I feel like we read those books, but I didn't

1:01:42.680 --> 1:01:46.000
<v Speaker 1>really appreciate them as a young woman like I was like, damn,

1:01:46.000 --> 1:01:49.280
<v Speaker 1>I just want to read the cliffs notes. Yeah, I

1:01:49.280 --> 1:01:50.720
<v Speaker 1>should read them as a grown up, for sure.

1:01:50.720 --> 1:01:53.640
<v Speaker 2>That's a good sure. Yeah, like a Raisin in the Sun,

1:01:53.760 --> 1:01:54.720
<v Speaker 2>all those type of books.

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<v Speaker 1>Invisible Man. That was a good one.

1:01:57.320 --> 1:01:58.200
<v Speaker 2>That was a good one too.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, that's all we happened this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we will see you next week.

1:02:03.880 --> 1:02:05.880
<v Speaker 1>We had some really good questions, so we'll save some

1:02:06.000 --> 1:02:08.080
<v Speaker 1>for the next couple of weeks. But you can always

1:02:08.080 --> 1:02:11.880
<v Speaker 1>email us at Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com.

1:02:12.080 --> 1:02:14.520
<v Speaker 2>Yes, and fine us on Twitter at the BA podcast

1:02:14.600 --> 1:02:18.080
<v Speaker 2>and we are Brown Ambition on the Facebook.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, maam, all right, happy week. Go you know, recover

1:02:22.120 --> 1:02:24.920
<v Speaker 1>from the lemonade. It sounds like I need to recover.

1:02:25.000 --> 1:02:27.040
<v Speaker 1>You took it very well. You're just handling it. I'm

1:02:27.040 --> 1:02:27.600
<v Speaker 1>a the mess.

1:02:28.440 --> 1:02:31.080
<v Speaker 2>All right, talk to you next week.

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<v Speaker 1>Get your four thousand steps in.

1:02:33.120 --> 1:02:35.120
<v Speaker 2>Oh, don't come for me because you don't want this.

1:02:35.160 --> 1:02:36.160
<v Speaker 1>Did that sound competitive?

1:02:36.400 --> 1:02:37.040
<v Speaker 2>Yes, that's all right.

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<v Speaker 1>That's trying to be supported.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye Mandy, Bye bye.