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Speaker 1: What's up is Angela? Ye, it's lip service. I'm GG McGuire.

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Speaker 1: Stephanie is on a delayed flight so should be here momentarily,

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Speaker 1: but we got Creature Turner here with us. By the way,

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Speaker 1: you should check because I know there's a lot of

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Speaker 1: snowstorm last night, so maybe okay, we'll keep our friends

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Speaker 1: We always start lip service once with the tip of

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Speaker 1: the day, and today's tip is when you're with somebody

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Speaker 1: who has kids, how and you break up? How do

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Speaker 1: What's your tip your advice for that. That's a hard one.

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Speaker 1: I've actually experienced that, And just because the kid was

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Speaker 1: young enough that I didn't necessarily think that they remember

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Speaker 1: me if I kind of detached immediately, low and behold.

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Speaker 1: Like two years later, this girl, a little girl was

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Speaker 1: that my autograph signing, and she was so excited to

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Speaker 1: So it doesn't always actually work out the wa that

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Speaker 1: She was so excited to see me. I didn't think

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Speaker 1: But I cold turkey did. It's hard to break up

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Speaker 1: stay longer. It's true, It's very true. It's a hard thing.

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Speaker 1: I personally, like I said, I call I cut it cold,

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Speaker 1: if they're older, I feel like you would have to

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Speaker 1: you know, they might even have your number by that point,

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Speaker 1: and they might text you and I ask you, like, yo,

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Speaker 1: the ball game this weekend or whatever else it is.

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Speaker 1: But that's a hard one. I think once at a

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Speaker 1: to have to be at a more of a distance.

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Speaker 1: But if there's something important that you want to let

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Speaker 1: is like, what if they're like, what about on their birthday?

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Speaker 1: Do you send a message? Do you call say happy birthday?

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Speaker 1: still the parent. Have that conversation with them, and then

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Speaker 1: like you can't. Every situation is going to be different,

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Speaker 1: and every child is going to be different. But that

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Speaker 1: I hate my dad? Can I come stay with you?

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Speaker 1: I calm down and discuss this through. That not good

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Speaker 1: I just want to get you something nice because you're beautiful.

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Speaker 1: So you say, Gi, have you made people your boyfriend

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Speaker 1: for me, I've always said that I can. I don't

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Speaker 1: out the toilet. I'm not doing it. If he liked

425
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 1: four or five years old, and he can talk and

426
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:53,679
Speaker 1: potty train and you know, and going about his business

427
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: and all of that, then maybe he can come over

428
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 1: and take the kid. I'll take the baby too. If

429
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 1: if I'm married to a man and he has a

430
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 1: side baby and we take custody of the kid, also

431
00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 1: take custody, take kids away, they kid come over at all.

432
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: I feel like the moment I saw that child, I

433
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 1: would be like, no matter how I feel like, I

434
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,359
Speaker 1: want to see the babe like the sooner. The moment

435
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:20,199
Speaker 1: I see that change in mind, I feel like I

436
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 1: would change my mind because the baby the mother and

437
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 1: he would be like, oh but the baby it's not

438
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 1: as fault like I feel like it's not. That's why

439
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:31,200
Speaker 1: I don't think that you should just bring child, bring

440
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 1: a little right around where he about five guys, wholehearted.

441
00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:40,200
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, all right now, A lot of people

442
00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,879
Speaker 1: ask some email questions, so I'm glad we're gonna get

443
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 1: to some of these today for you guys to get

444
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: some advice. Okay, how are you doing? I want to

445
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: say his name I've been married for two years. I've

446
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 1: been with my wife for five. I've had a few

447
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 1: problems with cheating in the past, and I haven't cheated

448
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 1: since before marriage. My wife recently explained that she has

449
00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:58,440
Speaker 1: always been into women and one to threesome with the random.

450
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 1: Of course, I'm down, but I'm afraid it start me

451
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 1: cheating again. I love my family. I don't want to

452
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 1: put us in this position for us to fail with

453
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 1: my past. I'm more concerned with why my wife wants

454
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 1: to open the door for me to sleep with other women.

455
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: I've explained this, but she trust me. I don't want

456
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 1: to not have less than passion to cause me to relapse.

457
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 1: Another reason I don't want to it's because she has

458
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 1: rules for certain things she won't do, so it won't

459
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 1: be spontaneous and fun. And I've never had a threason

460
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 1: I don't want rules involved. What do you think, don't

461
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 1: do it? It's too much, it's too complicated if it's

462
00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:30,920
Speaker 1: that complicated, because three sums are complicated in themselves, even

463
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 1: when it is fun and random and no crazy rules,

464
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: So it's it's a complicated situation anyway because there's so

465
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: much going on. So if it has to be that complicated.

466
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 1: Just say no, especially if you never did it before

467
00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:42,919
Speaker 1: and you don't want to cheat on your wife and

468
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: you relapse. He's like he was addicted to the pussy,

469
00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: to the outside pussy. He was chating. He's addicted to straight.

470
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: But it's good that he can identify that he has

471
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:59,400
Speaker 1: an issue and scared that he's wi him good. However,

472
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 1: my advice to that to that young man is just

473
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 1: stay with your wife. And it's probably not time. Like

474
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: if he still feel if he's that worried about because

475
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: you know what mine said, I'm always say the only

476
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 1: thing better than amazing pussy is new pussy. You know

477
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: I say that all the time. It's so true. That's

478
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 1: what they say, so in that even if it ain't

479
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 1: good just because it's new, because just because it's new.

480
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 1: Like if he feels so strongly, if he's reflecting that

481
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: like strongly about the whole situation bus money, you're already

482
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: stay away, Like give it a couple more years, maybe

483
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 1: you'll be a little bit stronger what you say, step no.

484
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: I think he's overthinking it. Man. You shouldn't do anything

485
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 1: that you have to overthink like that. If you're thinking

486
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 1: about something once or twice or three times. It's not

487
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,919
Speaker 1: meant for you to complicated. Has that ever happened? Stuff

488
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:51,719
Speaker 1: like you've been the third person and the guy I've

489
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: been hitting you up and love what do you mean?

490
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: I mean that step? I keep doing that. I'm talking

491
00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 1: to her. I know you're talking to me right way.

492
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: I keep doing this as we're always together on group chats.

493
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 1: Have I have you ever been the third person and

494
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 1: that guy has been like hitting you up trying to

495
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: holler aside from absolutely would you do it? Or you

496
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:20,359
Speaker 1: did it? I was like twenty two though they were married,

497
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 1: and in the middle of our three she spassed out no, no,

498
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:29,679
Speaker 1: and then the initial three something that we had we

499
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,880
Speaker 1: only had one threesome, and in the middle of that

500
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 1: she spassed out like I guess he was doing too

501
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 1: much and she just couldn't take this, like he hadn't

502
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,199
Speaker 1: wait too much fun over here. It's like why are

503
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 1: you fucking her like that? Or why can you imagine

504
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 1: you have a threesome and the guy seems like he's

505
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 1: more into it kind of got cut short because she

506
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 1: likes freaked out like that's not fun, and then um,

507
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe two days later, he was on

508
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: my phone like, yeah, so what's up. I'm gonna leave

509
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 1: my wife at home. But I still have lou balls

510
00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:03,400
Speaker 1: from that night. Yeah. I mean, I was really young,

511
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 1: So I'll continue to see him. He was really nice

512
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 1: to me financially, he was really really nice to guy.

513
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 1: So I continue to see him because you know, Christie,

514
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: you ever had a threesome when I was married? Yeah? Okay,

515
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: so did that lead to cheating or do he do

516
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: you know if he hit up the other girl? Like after, Uh,

517
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 1: he definitely hit up the other girl after I did

518
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:30,640
Speaker 1: find that out. That's why things really opened the door

519
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 1: for that. I feel like, was that your idea or

520
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:38,479
Speaker 1: his idea? Um, it was a mutual kind of idea.

521
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: And who picked the girl? He did? They always say

522
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: the woman is supposed to pick I I actually expressed that,

523
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: but I understood that he had a slight reservation about it,

524
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 1: and at the time I didn't quite know why. But

525
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: that kind of that's another story. That's an evolution of

526
00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: understanding everything else that happened or four from the marriage.

527
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: But it was a control thing, very much a control

528
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 1: thing because he was it was he was just because

529
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 1: he was doing other things that makes them, you know,

530
00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 1: uncomfortable about allowing. Yeah, yeah, that's it tapped into so

531
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 1: many other subconscious things. But yeah, he who do you

532
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: pick as a woman If you're like I want to,

533
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: do you pick a stranger or do you pick a

534
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: friend um or just an acquaintance? Like, what's the top pick?

535
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: Would you say out of those three friends, an acquaintance

536
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 1: or a stranger? Not a stranger? I would, I would.

537
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 1: I would go to more of a friend or acquaintance.

538
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: But it's very specific with who it is though. In

539
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 1: my opinion, my first pick would be an acquaintance, My

540
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: second pick would be a stranger stranger okay, and last

541
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 1: my last pick would be a friend. My first pick

542
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 1: would be a strange I knew you were going to

543
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 1: see from the while my man watches, and the second

544
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: pick would be what second pick? That's it? There is

545
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: no I can't like no, I went and I went

546
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: in with one of my friends, one of my home girls,

547
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 1: and my man like, no, it's apprentished. What kind of

548
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: strange do you pick? Do you pick a girl that

549
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: looks beautiful or do you not want her to look

550
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 1: too good? And I would prefer her ask not to

551
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: speak no English. Were go on the Dominican Republic. That's good,

552
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 1: that's really no. But you don't need to speak no English.

553
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: Open your mouth all right. Now, here's another question. A

554
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: family member lost custody of her four year old daughter,

555
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: and my husband and I assume legal custody of her.

556
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 1: To make a long story shirt, she's not allowed to

557
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: have contact with her mother. She's been our daughter for

558
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: a year now. When she refers to her mother, she

559
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 1: calls her by her first name. When she refers to me,

560
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 1: she calls me mommy. While I'm blessed she sees me

561
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: in this manner. I'm uncomfortable with her calling her mother

562
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 1: by her first name. Should I be encouraging her to

563
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: refer to her mother there as mom or mommy? No, yrsel,

564
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: of course, she needs to teach the little girl. You

565
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 1: can't have her court, especially if you feel uncomfortable with it.

566
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: She's in her life right away, I guess. So, Yeah,

567
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: it's a family member. So yes, she needs to This

568
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 1: is your mommy. I'm your thief, I'm your I'm your auntie,

569
00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: I'm your you know, I'm your sister. Just make something something. Yeah,

570
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 1: if you get married, it's your child, call your husband

571
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: dad my child. Yeah, Like if you get married and

572
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: that's the stepfather, is that daddy crazy? No? No, no,

573
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 1: I think you have a father. You know who your

574
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: father is? You can't don't father will fuck you up myself, period,

575
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 1: I think yourself. I think if the child is really

576
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: really young and that person raises that child and the

577
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: father isn't in their life, it's perfectly okay, right, it

578
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: depends on how old it is, and it depends on

579
00:30:58,480 --> 00:30:59,719
Speaker 1: if the father is in the life. I don't talk

580
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: about me right right personal if the father, but if

581
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 1: the father is like in and out, he's around, and

582
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 1: if the kid, what if your kid is just like daddy,

583
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 1: And do you say no, no, no, no, no, that's

584
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: not your dad. Yeah, that's exactly you say, no, that's

585
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 1: not your daddy. But he's he's with us every night.

586
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: But that's why, I, honestly, back to the subject, I

587
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: feel really uncomfortable bringing my kid around other men. Like

588
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 1: my son is ten though my son, my son is

589
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 1: already he knows too much. Yeah, he knows what's going on.

590
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: Like I don't ever have to worry about like my

591
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: son will will laugh out of guy. That's asked him

592
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 1: to call him daddy, like what like his father's his

593
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 1: best friend. So but even still, like I I wouldn't

594
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 1: want like if I had a man, even even in

595
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 1: a situation side baby shit, I wouldn't want that kid

596
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: calling me momm your mother not your mother? Correctly, kids

597
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: yourself like or do you tell me? But you don't

598
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 1: have to be rude about it. You don't have to

599
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 1: be mean. You know, say no, no, I'm not your Mamah.

600
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: I love you, you know, I love you so much,

601
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: but I'm not your mom. You said, maybe no, call

602
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: me exactly exactly, like really nicely. All right, Now here's

603
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: a good one. Um. I've been married to my husband

604
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 1: for many years, but it's really a merite of convenience.

605
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,480
Speaker 1: I stayed with him all these years, kind of like

606
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 1: a financial safety net. I have someone I'm terribly in

607
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: love with and would like to take steps to try

608
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: and get closer. To the issue is I did a

609
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: prenup with my husband, but it's invalid because I didn't

610
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 1: have my own lawyer to represent me. I could easily

611
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 1: divorce him now and get a great deal of money

612
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: from him, but this could drag out for a long time.

613
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: Keeping me away from my lover longer. And you know,

614
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 1: basically she's wondering should she just give up getting this

615
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 1: money to be with the person that she loves or

616
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 1: stay for financial reasons. No, I mean she needs to

617
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 1: get what's old to her. You know, calm down, everything

618
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 1: is a process. Don't calm down. It's don't be so quick,

619
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 1: and you can continue to build your relationship with whoever

620
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: you're with. And what if things don't work out with

621
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: that person and you just sucked yourself over. You have

622
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 1: to take care of yourself first. Always put yourself first, creation,

623
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 1: financial security, financially, I mean, you already did it. You

624
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: already been in the marriage, then the marriage for convenience.

625
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: You already put yourself there. So take the time to

626
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 1: take yourself out and get what's yours. So don't she's

627
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 1: just trying to dip out and just say bye to

628
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: she's with him because financially she's secure. Their prenup is invalid.

629
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: So she found somebody else she loves, but he don't

630
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 1: have no money. Well, it sounds like to me this

631
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: is inevitably like soon to be ended marriage, reguardless if

632
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 1: she's in love with another man, or she finds the

633
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 1: next one or something like, if she's just there for convenience,

634
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: you to divorce regardless, just by law, she will get

635
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:08,560
Speaker 1: whatever it is that she's allotted to in theory. Um

636
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 1: to me, then why you even staying, Like, just start

637
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 1: the process. Start regardless of exact man, you start the

638
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 1: process the sooner it will be yeah, yeah, regardless of this,

639
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,359
Speaker 1: do you're in love with? Is stays the one you're

640
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: in love with? Like, this is a process that needs

641
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: the problem is that she doesn't have a job and

642
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: she has no money, and neither do the new guys

643
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: to stay with the hell she had, Yeah, they married

644
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 1: and learn how to cheat and confidence. I don't get

645
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 1: that broken dick on the side. She could you know,

646
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: she can get her divorce. I'm saying if she, I

647
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: mean she could, she can get she can start the

648
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: divorce while you know, staying financially secure, and then still

649
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: go ahead and get that broke Niga vacation dick on

650
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: the side. You know, I mean not that long of

651
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: a process. It'll take a we don't know how much

652
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 1: her husband is worth. If her husband is worth enough,

653
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:58,879
Speaker 1: it might be a long ass process. If he were

654
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: thirty thousand dollars. How long do you think how long

655
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 1: do you think that would take? If that motherfucker's worth

656
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 1: more than like email, it could take up to five years.

657
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: Oh god, that is a long like easy to stay

658
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: in a marriage and so okay, so you're saying stay,

659
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: but she don't appreciate you're saying I think that to me,

660
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 1: the way that she speaks of them. It's in the

661
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 1: level process. So started now, right, regardless of this other man? Right,

662
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 1: because you're yeah, you're gonna be revisiting this question every

663
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: time you find a new money and right, if it's

664
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 1: gonna take five years, might as well, might as well

665
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 1: at the process. Now, do y'all want a prenup when

666
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: you get married? I wouldn't mind signing a prenup if

667
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm in love with the person i'm married. It's not

668
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,880
Speaker 1: matter if you love it don't matter. What would you

669
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 1: playing your pup? What would you want it to be

670
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 1: like if you had? Because you know you can make

671
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 1: anything you want, any rules you want. I would be petty. Listen,

672
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: I want Madonna's Mariah Carey's inconvenience feed. That's right, right?

673
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: If they never got married, so it don't matter, right,

674
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:10,320
Speaker 1: millions yours. You didn't get it right, I didn't get married,

675
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: but she was trying to get it for me, trying

676
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:15,359
Speaker 1: to get guess for being a girlfriends for being the girl.

677
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 1: We just added inconveniency with that. Well, we don't know.

678
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: She might get it. That's probably a process because you

679
00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: can put anything in the prenup. You can say if

680
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 1: you cheat on me, I get this. I would be

681
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: just because I can't. Like what kind of things could

682
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: you see yourself putting in it? I don't know that

683
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 1: would say you think it is there half half? No,

684
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: I mean, what's the point of Like, that's the whole

685
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: point of signing a prenum, So you can't take calf Well, no, no,

686
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: you put whatever you want in the prenup. The prenup

687
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 1: because they you get half. It's just whatever you want

688
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 1: to put in it. It's just a contract that you

689
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 1: make up. But depending on the state, like it might

690
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 1: it might already be ou to half. I don't think

691
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 1: I'm ever gonna cath. Onlything I'm gonna have to Arizona

692
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: isn't be single with my whole life. If I'm not

693
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: gonna get married. What if you have more money than him?

694
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 1: Would you be willing to give up half? No? No, no,

695
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 1: she said that hurt. I don't want to take half

696
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 1: of I don't. I'm not one of those women. I

697
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:12,439
Speaker 1: wouldn't be enough. Marriage of convenience. I like to make

698
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 1: my own money. I like to have my own ship.

699
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 1: I like to be able to spend my money how

700
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: I want to spend, and I have to let somebody

701
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,759
Speaker 1: know what I'm doing, you know, so, I don't ever.

702
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: I think if I were to get married, it would

703
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: be a prenum where it would make sense for both

704
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: of us. You know what, if he doesn't want you

705
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 1: to work anymore, he's like, Okay, we're gonna get me,

706
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: but I don't want you to work anymore. I'm gonna

707
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 1: handle all of that. Don't do a girl up. I can't.

708
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think I want to work my

709
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 1: whole life. It just depends on what I have going on.

710
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: If if if work is over, if it's if it's

711
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:44,759
Speaker 1: like okay, stuff, it's time to hang it up. They

712
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 1: say he's worth fifty million. He like, I don't want

713
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:50,000
Speaker 1: you to work. Fifty million is not enough. I don't

714
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 1: think so. There's got a lot of money that you

715
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 1: can invest. Yeah, but you know what, there's there's guys

716
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 1: that make fifty million in a year even Atlanta a lot,

717
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 1: but but million. He should be able to flip that

718
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:10,400
Speaker 1: and make it. So let's say he doesn't want you

719
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: to work, where'd you start working? Like I said, it

720
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: depends on what I'm doing for work. If what I'm

721
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 1: doing for work is something that matters and it's something

722
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: that's making a change in my life and in the

723
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: people's lives around me, I'm not gonna stop working. But

724
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: if I'm not really doing anything, if I'm just doing

725
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:31,399
Speaker 1: regular ship, and I feel like it's to hang it up. Okay, Yeah,

726
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: you're right, baby, I don't. Let's work on us. If

727
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: you were getting married, he said, Look, you ain't gotta

728
00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 1: work no more. I got us. It depends Listen. I agree.

729
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 1: It's the same thing like if because for me, music

730
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:45,439
Speaker 1: is something that I love. Job, right, if you want

731
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,719
Speaker 1: me to give up that, like, no, We're gonna have

732
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 1: to talk this out. That's what I'm saying. Just working

733
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 1: at the post office. But now though you are doing

734
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 1: what you love, let's say he I don't like you

735
00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:00,439
Speaker 1: doing all that, and like we can have discussions because

736
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 1: if you reason you're saying that you don't want me

737
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:03,640
Speaker 1: to work is because you want me to have babies.

738
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: We can talk this through, like, Okay, we have a

739
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: certain period of time. Yes, I will make sure that

740
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 1: I will have the babies, take care of them, all

741
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 1: this other kind of stuff, But then we're gonna reach

742
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: a certain point where this is something that I want

743
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 1: to be able to incorporate again at some point. You

744
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: can't just expect me to just go cold turkey on.

745
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 1: It's so hurt that once you do give it up

746
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 1: to try to get back to it because they miss

747
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 1: you're not doing it. So there's a whole bunch of factors.

748
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,359
Speaker 1: But I just feel like if I'm creating, I'm not

749
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: gonna stop working. But if I'm not creating anything amazing,

750
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:35,719
Speaker 1: let's create. I mean, not stop being a stripper for

751
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 1: my man. Okay, we didn't get married though, and you

752
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: feel like that was a good decision though, Yeah, definitely

753
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 1: it was a good decision because you didn't want to

754
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 1: do it anymore or well, you know, I know I

755
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 1: still help up when I could have still got that

756
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 1: good Well come on, yeah, you know, However, I'm in

757
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: in hindsight I'm glad that I did stop when I did,

758
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: and um, but if I had some other type of

759
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 1: job that wasn't you know, not that stripping is bad.

760
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 1: But I don't want you to do in live service

761
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: no more, you know, because you like, I'm not one day.

762
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I understand, I understand why he didn't want

763
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 1: me to dance anymore. And you know that was you

764
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 1: know that some people say that's how I met you,

765
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 1: and and you people here gonna say I don't want

766
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: you in that environment. Like I don't know, like if

767
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,160
Speaker 1: a guy told me we're gonna get married, but you

768
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:37,720
Speaker 1: have to, you know, give up everything that you started.

769
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 1: No more, no no, no more. Stephanie Santiago, you're just stuff.

770
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 1: I don't know what if he's delete your Instagram, I

771
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 1: need to get married. If I'm in love with somebody,

772
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,800
Speaker 1: it's gonna be like, all right, yeah, I'm gonna delete

773
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 1: my Instagram for my husband, not for a boyfriend. Though

774
00:40:57,239 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: that's weird. If he the prenup saying that I ain't

775
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 1: getting shipped, then no, I'm not deleting my ship. It

776
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 1: depends on what the prenup says, because if you want

777
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:13,839
Speaker 1: me to completely erase any of my potential, like structures

778
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 1: that makes money. You make me sign a prenup to

779
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: not get no money if we break up? Okay, you

780
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:22,879
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like to me, I'm looking at it. There.

781
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 1: I need to ensure like if we if this doesn't

782
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:28,839
Speaker 1: work out, allow me to have my resources to make

783
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: money once we no longer exist. So unless our prenups

784
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: says that we didn't say, why are you acting like

785
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:42,759
Speaker 1: it's not gonna work out anything? Did you have a

786
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: prenup when you were married? No? No, I was a

787
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 1: financial superior. Actually did get you. He lucky. That's all

788
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:54,240
Speaker 1: I can say. I'm the type of person I left.

789
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:57,839
Speaker 1: I just left. All I took was my clothing up

790
00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: because I didn't want any of it, Like I didn't

791
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 1: want any carm I didn't want the couch, I didn't

792
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 1: want the I don't want nothing. So I left him

793
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 1: with everything. Some people say that once you love somebody,

794
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: you never stopped loving them. Is that you mm hmm?

795
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: It depends There's always some right, but I think it

796
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 1: depends also on how you ended. It depends on how

797
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 1: you ended. Like I've been in a relationship where I

798
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 1: felt the person that I was with I found out

799
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 1: was a completely different motherfucker than the person I thought

800
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,319
Speaker 1: I was dealing with. I do not love that man,

801
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: because the man I was in love with does. It's

802
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:40,879
Speaker 1: not you. I feel like, um, it doesn't matter how

803
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: it ended, because sometimes you end and you're ready, and

804
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 1: sometimes you and and you're just not, you know. So

805
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 1: I feel like time matters. Like with time, you you

806
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:56,360
Speaker 1: forget everything, you know, all things here with time, you

807
00:42:56,360 --> 00:43:01,360
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So I just feel like, after

808
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 1: a while, it doesn't even matter. So like I feel

809
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 1: like Derek I was with, Can we added his name

810
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 1: out please? Because I keep saying anyway, right, I feel

811
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 1: like with my son's father, you know what, Like I

812
00:43:17,520 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 1: was so in love with him when we broke up,

813
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: but you know, after a couple of months then a

814
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 1: couple of years, you know, I love him. I love

815
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 1: him a lot, but I can't see myself being in

816
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,839
Speaker 1: a romantic relationship with him, you know, Like I can't

817
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: see myself being I can't say that I was never

818
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:37,239
Speaker 1: in love with him, because I definitely would. You still

819
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: love him. I still love him, but it's not the

820
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 1: same kind of because you guys have a child together.

821
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,280
Speaker 1: If there's somebody that you don't have to have. That's

822
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 1: another thing, Like there's there's guys that I swore I

823
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,280
Speaker 1: would die for, Like I would give up my life

824
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 1: for these men that's today. I look at them and

825
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:55,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I can't even believe I would give

826
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:57,839
Speaker 1: you my pussy, let alone my life if I give

827
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 1: him my life. Did you see that guy's people so

828
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:02,319
Speaker 1: where he did the fake with the cops like pull

829
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: the guns on him. I heard of I read about it.

830
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 1: I didn't see it though, and she like jumped in

831
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,840
Speaker 1: front of the police. He wasn't sure if he was

832
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:12,120
Speaker 1: going to propose, so he set up this whole thing

833
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: with the cops like pull up on him, drew their guns,

834
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 1: and I just want to know what he was gonna do.

835
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 1: She didn't jump in front of them. She'd be like,

836
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: not want what they're here because she jumped in front

837
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,600
Speaker 1: of the police and the gun like he then knelt

838
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 1: on his knee and proposed, I wouldn't want to marry

839
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: you after you put me through that. That's a hard

840
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 1: that's like traumatizing, especially with everything that's going on, Like,

841
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 1: give me a break. Would he have jumped in front

842
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 1: of those guns too? He wasn't even sure if you

843
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 1: wanted to marry him. Yeah, listen, you don't even know

844
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:51,320
Speaker 1: if you want to propose to me. I'm supposed to

845
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:52,719
Speaker 1: jump in front of a bullet For what is the

846
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: perfect proposal? I think I would like somebody proposing me

847
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,759
Speaker 1: like alone. I don't want to in front of like alone,

848
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 1: like somewhere really private and just us. That's one, right.

849
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:12,440
Speaker 1: I mean we've seen things like we said how Gucci

850
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: just proposed to Kesha R at the game. That was cute,

851
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 1: that that was cut. I don't even like embarrassed because

852
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: I don't like that attention. I didn't think, oh my god,

853
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 1: why did you do that? Yes, yeah, I think the

854
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 1: perfect proposal for me would be like on a vacation.

855
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: But what do you know, It's really cute when Beyonce's

856
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:35,399
Speaker 1: dancing choreographer when they were doing single Ladies and then

857
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 1: she had the choreographer, I guess the two of them

858
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: both were like work with Beyonce and then he proposed

859
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: her during the dance and that was cute. And I

860
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 1: just think for me, I don't have a specific perfect proposal.

861
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: All I know is what will make it perfect is

862
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 1: the fact that he thought about it, right, It's all

863
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:56,560
Speaker 1: about the thought. What if the ring is completely not you? Oh,

864
00:45:56,600 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: what about the same my style. Let's go, let's go

865
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: go swap that bang out. Where is this for the

866
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:06,759
Speaker 1: rest of my life? Let's go figure this out. But

867
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: you can't learn to love the ring. No, I mean

868
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,880
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be, Like it depends on what I like.

869
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 1: Like what were we talking about? Is the ring too cheap?

870
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:19,399
Speaker 1: Or is it just not your style? Not your sty

871
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 1: It looks like financial just not your style. It looks

872
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 1: like the Queenie I mean personally, and I like that goal.

873
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want it to I wouldn't want it to

874
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 1: be I would want it yellow gold. I wouldn't want

875
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: it white gold, like everybody likes white gold for engagement

876
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 1: rings like yellow. Yeah, I would want to yellow. And

877
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: I would want it to be a square. Yeah, everybody

878
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:42,040
Speaker 1: like that halo. I don't like that halo. So I

879
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 1: don't want my diamond. They have no halo. I just

880
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 1: want my Would you want him to ask you, like,

881
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: what kind of ring you want? No? But I want

882
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 1: him to figure it out. Yeah, I want him to

883
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 1: figure out this a woman thing, figure it out, just

884
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: to figure this ship out and I want like a

885
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 1: really nice band with diamonds in it and square one

886
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 1: diamond to the amount of car big one? How many

887
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 1: carries you would I don't know. I'm not sure. I

888
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: haven't really researched that, crea. What was your proposal? Like?

889
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 1: But I wanted to be big and so bad, even

890
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: though I'm noxious ob noxious, but even though I even

891
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 1: though I don't like you saw that that post running

892
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 1: through social media with the girl her husband bought her.

893
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: I had rings from from the but she they didn't

894
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 1: even have any money, and she just told him I

895
00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 1: don't care, I don't want anything, and to get her

896
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 1: something like. I think that was she got that my proposal.

897
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:34,360
Speaker 1: I didn't even get a ring. You didn't, I didn't.

898
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:36,879
Speaker 1: You didn't do that paper ring like Apollo with him

899
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: no paper I didn't even get a paper ring. So

900
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: how was that proposal? It was listen, it was completely

901
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: off guard and I wasn't even in that. Did he

902
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: just say it on a whim? Let's ask in Hennessey girl,

903
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: let's get married. Yes. I don't think he was prepared

904
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 1: at least running down. How did this happen? All the

905
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 1: whole the whole time though he was super He was

906
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 1: actually acting the entire evening super weird out of it,

907
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 1: super weird. Like we went for like a like a

908
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 1: dinner and a movie or whatever was in the movie.

909
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 1: Kept kissing my head like really loud, and I was like,

910
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:16,800
Speaker 1: I kept like it was a it was the movie?

911
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: Was it for us? It was? It was Avatar Avatar? Okay.

912
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 1: I think it was like it was like almost close

913
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: to Christmas or something like that, but it was super.

914
00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 1: It was just, you know, it wasn't anything like what

915
00:48:33,120 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: did you say? I don't even remember, you know, how

916
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 1: long it going? Oh my god. But still I would

917
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 1: think that's like a momentous occasion that you never forget.

918
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:44,400
Speaker 1: I was trying to block it out of my memory.

919
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 1: And I'm my happy divorces. You've been divorced too, I

920
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 1: mean the divorce you've been proposed to. I've been engaged

921
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 1: twice two times. I was engaged to my son's father

922
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: and I was engaged to my boyfriend before my son's

923
00:48:56,520 --> 00:49:03,439
Speaker 1: father was engaged. Since though those um the first one

924
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: he proposed to me, it was he brought me a

925
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 1: ring and all of that. He got down on one me,

926
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: but he did it because he gave me a fucking

927
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:13,440
Speaker 1: black eye. So he felt bad and he asked me

928
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:15,839
Speaker 1: to marry him after that. That's the only way for

929
00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 1: me to get back with him. I said, yes. I

930
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,439
Speaker 1: was like, I was like seventy, I was a kid.

931
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 1: So and then you know, I was Me and my

932
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,840
Speaker 1: son's father. We wanted to get married. We wanted to

933
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:29,759
Speaker 1: get married for a little while and then I'll changed

934
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 1: my mind. How did he proposed? It was just a conversation.

935
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:37,439
Speaker 1: It was just he never brought me a ring either.

936
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 1: We weren't even worried about getting the rings. We just

937
00:49:40,960 --> 00:49:43,960
Speaker 1: we wanted to um he wanted, We wanted to. He

938
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 1: wanted to give me his name so we could all

939
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: be Rodriguez, all three of us. You think you're gonna

940
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 1: keep Santiago to when you get in. No, I'm gonna

941
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 1: take my husband's last name because my name is really long.

942
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 1: Guys like, hopefully why name man? Like, do y'all know

943
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 1: my middle name, Stephanie Florence Santiago. We're talking about six

944
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:18,879
Speaker 1: fucking letters. Break. My mother's name is Florence. My father

945
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: wanted my name to be Florence. That was his first choice.

946
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 1: He was so in love with my mom, the most

947
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:28,239
Speaker 1: beautiful woman in the world, the second most beautiful Florence,

948
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:35,880
Speaker 1: the Florence junior women are not junior. I know, I kidding,

949
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:46,680
Speaker 1: but anyway, my mom's alright, I start talking my middle

950
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 1: names because my sound like a whole different league. What

951
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 1: is it? My name is Calthini. Oh my god, that's

952
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: way worse than mine. So let me say that. Where

953
00:50:57,120 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 1: did that come from? My My mama was a hippie.

954
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: It's like a Hindu or something. You know what it means? Yes,

955
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: it means quiet water child, definitely not quiet choir trying

956
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 1: to be quiet sometimes depending on you. Sometimes you'd be quiet,

957
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:19,400
Speaker 1: depending on your mood. Yeah, depending on the mood. Cretia,

958
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 1: would you did you change your last name? Would you now?

959
00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 1: Because you've got a brand? We all you know you

960
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: have a brand too. That's why I didn't think he

961
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: would change it depends. I would probably change it legally,

962
00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 1: but still gold by it. Depending where his last name

963
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 1: is too. Yeah, yeah, exactly. My stage name would still

964
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: be the same, but legally changed. Changed you know what

965
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,520
Speaker 1: I mean? Right? What if his last name is like

966
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 1: gay Lord? No, I'm not changing just kidding. It all

967
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: depends on how it just sounds together. Yeah, Stephanie Florence

968
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: Santiago gay Lord gay Lord like a funked up last name. Though,

969
00:51:57,280 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 1: what if it's like Zimmerman. No, I'm not trying to

970
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 1: do zimmer Man either. Man. Like my sister's last name

971
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,960
Speaker 1: is Bomb, but I don't think I want bombed either.

972
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 1: Her last name, No, that gotta flow. Stephanie Bomb was

973
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:18,440
Speaker 1: her last name. Her last name was her last name.

974
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 1: That's Italian, It's like real, authentic Italian. Her last name

975
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: is gian Bastiani. I like that, Stephanie Santiago John That's fancy, right,

976
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 1: it sounds I want to say, that sounds rich, and

977
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:37,759
Speaker 1: so I will take a name like that, even though

978
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,600
Speaker 1: it's super domb. Long is longer than mind? Yeah, that's

979
00:52:40,640 --> 00:52:42,759
Speaker 1: definitely longer than all. Right, here's that last question before

980
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 1: you go catch your flight, Creatia. I'm a twenty two

981
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:47,560
Speaker 1: year old guy. I have two girls to choose from.

982
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 1: One has to other looks. I could win, but she's

983
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:51,759
Speaker 1: not as ambitious your mature as I am when it

984
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:54,360
Speaker 1: comes to working money. The second is perfect when it

985
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 1: comes to maturity ambition, but she's not the best looking.

986
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 1: Who should I pick? Young man? This you are only

987
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 1: asking this question because of your age. Um. If you

988
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 1: want to look at it like a business proposition, if

989
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 1: you're buying something that depreciates with age, or you buy

990
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 1: something that that increases its value with time. The only

991
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 1: thing that does that is a woman that's going give

992
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:22,040
Speaker 1: you more than just her looks, because looks alone depreciates.

993
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 1: So if you're a businessman and you're own business mind, yeah,

994
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: go up, yeah, go after the y'all. Let you know

995
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 1: like that, it sounds like, you know, she's a good investment,

996
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 1: she's a good investment at that age. You know, he's

997
00:53:34,960 --> 00:53:37,439
Speaker 1: probably not ready for that. He's not. He's only thinking,

998
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 1: you know, so he needs to he needs to he

999
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 1: needs to be with the pretty girl. So you know,

1000
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:44,360
Speaker 1: that doesn't get a lot of mind. Just gonna be

1001
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:46,440
Speaker 1: with that girl and cheat with the pretty girl, That's

1002
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That doesn't have the mind, you know,

1003
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 1: so you can see how trash that and get it out,

1004
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 1: Just get it out. So he said, go see how

1005
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:59,239
Speaker 1: trash that is. Go be with some trash experience. Let's

1006
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:01,239
Speaker 1: not have more asked them be And what a dumb

1007
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 1: if he if he if he gets with him, he

1008
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: will quickly realize how valuable be you. That's what I'm saying,

1009
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,800
Speaker 1: you know, with the idiot it's twenty two, give yourself

1010
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 1: a couple a couple of years. How I'm playing a

1011
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: liks to you guys, like for a man for me business,

1012
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: it's important, yes, Like I like my guys to be

1013
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:26,880
Speaker 1: bomb bomb face bomb body bomb bomb. Like I feel like,

1014
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 1: here's the thing. I feel like. You know, you get

1015
00:54:31,080 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 1: what is offered to you, you know what I mean.

1016
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 1: And I am fortunate enough to be able to be

1017
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:40,240
Speaker 1: with some fine acid niggas, you know what I'm saying.

1018
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:44,960
Speaker 1: So for me, for me, you know, like I was

1019
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,440
Speaker 1: in a relationship with somebody who wasn't very good looking,

1020
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: you know, and I didn't people, not not my I mean,

1021
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:56,399
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna speak specific, but people used to look

1022
00:54:56,440 --> 00:54:58,879
Speaker 1: at me like like what is she doing with that?

1023
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 1: You know, like, and I don't want to do that.

1024
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:03,319
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that again. It's important. I

1025
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 1: feel like you could get somebody. Yeah, I feel like

1026
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:08,640
Speaker 1: you could get somebody who you're I just want to

1027
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:12,600
Speaker 1: be really attractive and imagine ugly dude on Instagram with

1028
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:18,400
Speaker 1: you have. It's not fun even like that bad. It

1029
00:55:18,480 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 1: was a good angle, you know, you gotta do that. No,

1030
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: But but my thing is, um, you know, what I'm

1031
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 1: attracted to isn't what everybody else is attracted, you know

1032
00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 1: what I mean? So I could think my man is

1033
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:33,719
Speaker 1: fine as fun and everybody could be like, what is

1034
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:37,319
Speaker 1: she like? You know, I just need to have that,

1035
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 1: you know, I just need to for me to be

1036
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 1: with somebody, even just not even in a serious relationship,

1037
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,520
Speaker 1: just for me to be with somebody sexually, I need

1038
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 1: to be like fifty percent attracted to them. It looks

1039
00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 1: still matter to you that much. No, I for me,

1040
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: Once I'm like mentally attracted to somebody, magically, they just

1041
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 1: look so much better than like I'm gonna. I understand

1042
00:55:57,560 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 1: that about myself. Like if I need to mentally attracted

1043
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,879
Speaker 1: to you, you are so fine to me, and even

1044
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:06,560
Speaker 1: that about so fine to me, but attractive, but attractive,

1045
00:56:06,640 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 1: But there's something different that I see. We all look

1046
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,879
Speaker 1: good in the duck. I feel like I gotta get

1047
00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 1: that physical attraction before I could even try to get

1048
00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 1: to know the mind. But then sometimes that's to me

1049
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 1: that happens more in a situation of like you fall

1050
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 1: for the friend like this niked just your friend the

1051
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 1: best Those are usually the most long last thing. You're

1052
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: not even kicking it with him because of the way

1053
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: he looks like you just this is your friend, and

1054
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: then you fall in love and then he just looked

1055
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:34,560
Speaker 1: way better than exactly. I agree, and that's true. That

1056
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:36,920
Speaker 1: that's why I've been through that. I could relate to

1057
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 1: that like that. Yeah, I remember even happened. Christian. We're

1058
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 1: gonna let you go catch it flight because I want

1059
00:56:44,760 --> 00:56:46,680
Speaker 1: you to miss it. And we appreciate you. We had

1060
00:56:46,680 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 1: a really good time you came to We appreciate your

1061
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:50,960
Speaker 1: openness and honesty. I heard I was gonna really like you,

1062
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 1: so it worked out. You know, I have fun with

1063
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 1: you ladies. Where you live now? I live in l A, Okay,

1064
00:56:58,000 --> 00:57:01,600
Speaker 1: but Toronto, Jamaica l A. Well, I haven't been in

1065
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:04,840
Speaker 1: Canada for years, but I've frequent l A and Jamaica

1066
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 1: a lot. Okay, I frequent Jamaica as well. I love Jamaica,

1067
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:13,600
Speaker 1: but I love Jamaica too. I'm not I'm touristy. I

1068
00:57:13,600 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 1: go to Oto Rio, Kingston. I have not yet been.

1069
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 1: You have been except the airport. Let me tell you

1070
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: where I've been. I've been the Briton Spanish Town. Oh,

1071
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:27,240
Speaker 1: I used to live in Spanish Town. I've been there.

1072
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 1: I stayed there for two weeks. When I was doing

1073
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: in Spanish Town, girl, I was doing some ship that

1074
00:57:31,960 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have been doing. I like, Yo, you should

1075
00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 1: I to jail for. Yeah, I was on some dumb

1076
00:57:36,600 --> 00:57:38,400
Speaker 1: sho I shouldn't have been when I was nineteen years old.

1077
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,360
Speaker 1: Went to jail. Now, that is what I want to

1078
00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 1: jail for. Really, No, it is I was nine. I

1079
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 1: didn't know she went to jail. Yeah, yeah, we were

1080
00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:49,160
Speaker 1: to see you. Listen, folks, listen names stay with from

1081
00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:53,360
Speaker 1: Spanish tone. Yeah, I used to live in I used

1082
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 1: to live in Spanish and I went to school in Kingston.

1083
00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 1: But for me, I love Kingston because it's where the

1084
00:57:56,960 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 1: culture is the richest. Some of the I always tell you,

1085
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 1: I need somebody to take me that. I'm not gonna

1086
00:58:01,200 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 1: just roll up the locals. But the differences is like

1087
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:07,080
Speaker 1: the dance hall. That's like when I'm going to Jamaica.

1088
00:58:07,160 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 1: That's what I want to reach. Some of the most

1089
00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 1: epic nights of my life have been at the dance hall.

1090
00:58:11,240 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 1: What you think about Nick Cannons, King of the dance Hall.

1091
00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 1: You're not going to I'm the lead a female antagonists, Okay,

1092
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm looking for I haven't seen it yet because I

1093
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 1: know we's at all the film festivals. It's not out

1094
00:58:23,400 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 1: on regular whatever, so I got to see that. I'm

1095
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:27,080
Speaker 1: excited for it. We just talked to Nick Cannon about it.

1096
00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 1: For I was a little nervous at first because the

1097
00:58:29,720 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: first time I saw the movie was at the premier

1098
00:58:32,240 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 1: at Tiffin Tron International Film Festival, because I didn't know

1099
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:37,760
Speaker 1: what he was going to do with it um And

1100
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:40,680
Speaker 1: I can honestly say that once I sat in uh

1101
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 1: witness what he had put together, I started crying, like

1102
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 1: in the middle of it. Because for me as a Jamaican,

1103
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:51,080
Speaker 1: there are things that he captured that people have never

1104
00:58:51,120 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 1: seen Jamaica that way before. They've net like especially the

1105
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:57,240
Speaker 1: grit like in Kingston of dance Hall. There are things

1106
00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:59,680
Speaker 1: that people the world has never seen him. For me,

1107
00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 1: the that he was able to accomplish that makes me

1108
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,760
Speaker 1: excited and proud. That's good becausejamaking his own play with

1109
00:59:05,800 --> 00:59:08,920
Speaker 1: their coach and then I can't just come to Jamaica NASA.

1110
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:10,440
Speaker 1: But at the same time, there are a couple of

1111
00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 1: things I feel like you could fix There was so

1112
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 1: much of the storyline that was cut out that kind

1113
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 1: of made the second half super how would you say, rushed? Um,

1114
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,880
Speaker 1: But as far as the capturing of the dancing and

1115
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 1: the culture, he definitely accomplished that. And Beniman narrated and

1116
00:59:26,960 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 1: every famous Jamaican is in there, from Barrington Levy to

1117
00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 1: Kimani Maley to Ninja mant and like he did it right.

1118
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: It's yeah, the right people. Yeah, it's a fun it's

1119
00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: a fun movie. Like you can't take it seriously, Like

1120
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:41,320
Speaker 1: you're not going there to you know, have an Oscar

1121
00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:43,840
Speaker 1: winning award presentation, you know what I mean. Like you're

1122
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 1: gonna see some great dancing and goody great dancing, like

1123
00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 1: and be entertained and be entertained absolutely all right, right,

1124
00:59:51,240 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 1: but thank you so much. This is really cool. You

1125
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:56,840
Speaker 1: gotta come back next time you're here. Absolutely, go around

1126
00:59:56,840 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 1: and catch your flight and listen. Miss