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Speaker 1: I ain't got no friends unless their last name is Ellis.

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Speaker 2: That's a good one.

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Speaker 3: He talking about me, y'all, dead Ass.

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Speaker 4: I never seen him spend that much time with somebody

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Speaker 4: that he liked like that.

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Speaker 2: So consider yourself an anomaly family baby.

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Speaker 4: At this point, over forty, I have not no problem

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Speaker 4: letting anything go, and that is definitely friends included. Wow.

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Speaker 5: It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight

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Speaker 5: from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become

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Speaker 5: Webby Award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors.

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Speaker 4: Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us. It

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Speaker 4: was about our growth, a place where we could be vulnerable.

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Speaker 1: Be raw, or but most apportly be us.

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Speaker 4: But as we know, life keeps evolving and so do we,

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Speaker 4: and through it all, one thing has never changed. This

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Speaker 4: is ever after, because we got a lot to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Story time.

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I'm gonna take this back to college.

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Speaker 2: College. Okay, it's getting farther and farther away for us.

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Speaker 2: You know, they're right.

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Speaker 5: I had a friend who he and I were able

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Speaker 5: to rekindle our friendship. But at the time I was

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Speaker 5: twenty two and I had just gotten into the NFL

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Speaker 5: and it was me and my friends.

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Speaker 1: It was four of us.

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Speaker 5: We all went to the NFL at the same time

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Speaker 5: Super Bowl was coming up. One of the guys, who

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Speaker 5: I considered the friend, decided to have a super Bowl

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Speaker 5: party and I wasn't invited. Didn't know why, but the

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Speaker 5: that's why he wasn't invited. So I called him and

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Speaker 5: he was just like, yeah, I just really don't fuck

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Speaker 5: with you like that. And I was like, a word,

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Speaker 5: since when? Because I remember used to come to my

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Speaker 5: You used to come by, Like when did this happen?

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Speaker 5: Like at what point did you stop.

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Speaker 5: And he was just like, well, over the time, you

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Speaker 5: I don't have to invite you to my space.

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Speaker 1: So I said, cool, like I get it.

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Speaker 5: And we grew apart, and I realized in that moment,

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Speaker 5: like it is okay to grow from people, right, rather

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Speaker 5: not in the same space no more. We don't have

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Speaker 5: we're on different teams.

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Speaker 1: It's okay for us to not be friends.

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Speaker 5: And over the last fifteen years us not being friends

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Speaker 5: older and hates. So what it taught me was just

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Speaker 5: because you are friends with someone during that time, don't

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 4: And you never at any point questioned at what point

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Speaker 5: To be honest, it wasn't. It wasn't like my decision.

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Speaker 5: He made that decision, and I personally didn't care.

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Speaker 2: And you didn't take it personally.

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Speaker 5: No, I didn't take a personal If you don't fuck

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Speaker 5: with me no more than then you don't fuck with me.

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Speaker 1: I don't fuck with you.

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Speaker 2: Hey, I can appreciate the honesty.

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Speaker 5: I didn't take it any personal, but kind of realized like, oh, shoot,

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Speaker 4: With people, all right? Karaoke time. Karaoke time, So if

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Speaker 4: we're talking about letting go of friendships, you know, the

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Speaker 4: first thing that came.

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Speaker 2: To mind was the Frozen song, which one let it.

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Speaker 5: Go, Let it Go, Yeah, let me tell you how

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Speaker 5: stupid she is. I came up with a whole song

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Speaker 2: Are we here?

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Speaker 1: Because you had your son's there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and everybody, How.

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Speaker 4: Did I miss the memo that Disney on Ice is

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Speaker 2: Through life it does, and the song I was going

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Speaker 2: to choose, We'll go for it.

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Speaker 1: Friends. How many of us have them?

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Speaker 5: Friend period ones you can depend on many friends.

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Speaker 1: That was my song and actually went well with this.

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Speaker 4: It worked well together. It's a perfect marriage. I love

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Speaker 4: that who sings that song again?

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Speaker 1: I forget which one?

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Speaker 5: Oh, that song is from like the seventies to eighties.

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Speaker 5: You'll be knowing my dad used to sing that song

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Speaker 5: back in the day. Remember when rat was hit. It

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Speaker 5: was around that time. I don't know who?

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Speaker 2: Say from driving?

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Speaker 1: Is it Josh? What's the name of that ra who's

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Speaker 3: It's who? DEI?

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Speaker 6: Who? There?

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Speaker 1: You go?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 1: I should have asked trouble anyway, trouble be known.

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Speaker 2: Random facts, how many of us have them?

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Speaker 1: Tribs?

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Speaker 3: Let it go.

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Speaker 1: Can depend on tribs.

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Speaker 4: I like the remix.

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Speaker 1: From now on, I'm gonna say for your triple.

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Speaker 2: And we're never letting go, never letting us.

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Speaker 4: All Right, y'all, let's take a quick break, pay some bills,

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Speaker 6: Pose.

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Speaker 1: All right, we're back with what has become my favorite

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Speaker 5: The show, Opper, No Up, Trible, what.

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Speaker 1: We got today for and Well?

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Speaker 3: In the news. Recently, Jonathan Majors is back in the news.

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Speaker 3: He has a feature film coming out called magazine Dreams,

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Speaker 3: And it seems as though he had another little feature

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Speaker 3: it was announced that he and Meghan Good are married.

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Speaker 3: And so I want to know if you have op

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Speaker 1: Abusive, about Meg or is about Jonathan Major? About him?

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Speaker 3: Because I don't want to get into debating whether or

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't know that. We don't know agree. Well,

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Speaker 1: that's a reason to not have an op on that, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: So I will be the first one saying I don't

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Speaker 5: In this day and age, facts be changing and AI

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Speaker 5: I know for certain, I'm not gonna have an opinion

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Speaker 5: on Jonathan Major's But I do have an opinion on

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Speaker 5: Megan Good. I think people should just get over their

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Speaker 5: fucking selves, right, Like Megan Good, met this man.

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Speaker 1: When she met this man.

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Speaker 5: And if you look at some of our heroes, right,

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Speaker 5: you look at Maya Angelou, she was a prostitute.

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Speaker 1: Malcolm X was a convicted feeling.

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Speaker 5: And I'm not saying this to bash those two, but

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Speaker 1: So why do we do that to people? In this

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 5: Social media era loves to find someone's lowest moment, pull

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Speaker 5: I'm just not doing that. And if they love each other,

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Speaker 5: I love it for them.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I was gonna say no OP for me because

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Speaker 4: that's people business, because I don't know why they could

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Speaker 4: tell me not about me and the vow in our business.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. At some point you just

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Speaker 4: have to understand like it don't have nothing to do

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Speaker 2: Next I'll pass torch to Matt.

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Speaker 7: I got no op because I got a model in

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Speaker 7: my life. They are to marry people.

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Speaker 2: Business period, especially being married.

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Speaker 7: Now you understand that part. That's why I did it.

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Speaker 7: My whole life because when I get mind, stay out

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Speaker 7: of mind, like AKA, now, stay out of mind.

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Speaker 1: I like that. Ysh, no op, no op.

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Speaker 3: I guess my only opinion is that people need somebody

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Speaker 3: to love them.

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Speaker 1: I think we all do.

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Speaker 3: None of us were meant to be on earth by ourselves,

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Speaker 3: we've never caused harm to another human. So hopefully she is.

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Speaker 3: And I, you know, I would like. I don't know her,

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Speaker 3: But I hope that she has a support system behind her,

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Speaker 5: I feel you in that you don't have no appa

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Speaker 5: by her, But I respect that because we didn't have

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Speaker 5: respect that the absolutely congrats making.

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Speaker 1: Next facts, Congrass, congratulats.

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Speaker 2: I love the love, if that's what it is, all right?

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Speaker 3: Next in politics, politics is kind of a ship show

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Speaker 3: these days. You know what's going on.

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Speaker 4: Un your statement of the year.

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Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna run for president next time.

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Speaker 2: You probably, I mean you shaved your legs now, so

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Speaker 5: You just need a lot of money to win the president,

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Speaker 5: like a couple of trillion dollars.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure. But since the inauguration, uh, the current

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Speaker 3: DEI programs and race based programs and colleges, universities, schools,

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Speaker 3: saw this video on one of my favorite Instagram accounts.

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Speaker 3: It's called a Subway Takes comedian joy l Nicole Johnson.

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Speaker 1: The take. Yeah, she's freaking.

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Speaker 3: I've seen other comedy of hers. I would have to

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Speaker 3: I wonder if this is the same woman who is

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Speaker 3: So what's your opinion on that, because it seems like

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Speaker 5: I do have an opinion on this because history, I

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Speaker 5: Her overarching idea is the fact that black people did

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Speaker 1: Yes, it is Seneca Village.

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Speaker 5: They decided that they were going to take that land

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Speaker 1: So what they did was they changed.

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Speaker 5: The laws and said, hey, the deeds that you have

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Speaker 7: Wait, is that the same history of Lakelander?

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Speaker 5: And to me, that's why I think her take is

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Speaker 5: that segregation was the best thing for black people because

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Speaker 5: black students don't even know their own history. They can't

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Speaker 5: circulate their own dollar within their own community because there

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Speaker 1: So I understand where she's coming from.

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Speaker 5: The only issue that she's going to have is people

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Speaker 5: I agree with her. Black people need to focus on

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Speaker 4: Yeah, speaking of the circulation of the dollar, here's my

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Speaker 1: And I can vouch for that because y'all know how

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Speaker 4: I haven't been to Target. I haven't been to Target,

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Speaker 5: And let's be clear, we are definitely understanding that DEI

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Speaker 1: Help black people.

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Speaker 3: I get that to right.

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Speaker 2: We know that we know who's crying.

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Speaker 5: I think it was of the DEI programs, only seven

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Speaker 1: And my wife's a woman.

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Speaker 5: So if you're saying that there was another there was

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, And the fact that they don't.

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Speaker 4: Right because you know, essentially it was probably just a quota,

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Speaker 4: this program called Early Steps, which was supposed to it.

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Speaker 1: Was supposed to be the diversity program, yes.

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Speaker 4: For people who you know, you're trying to get a

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Speaker 5: The person who did run Early Steps was looking for

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Speaker 1: But it wasn't.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't until we went to the meetings for diversity

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Speaker 1: What was happening.

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Speaker 2: Right, So the diversity was not just black and brown individuals.

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Speaker 5: If you're a white person and you make a certain

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Speaker 5: So pretty much what they did was they kept change

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Speaker 4: Us, or to include us, but make the stakes that

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Speaker 2: There were so many different things. So it just made me.

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Speaker 4: Realize too that a lot of these DEI things and

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Speaker 2: But I want to know where to spend my money.

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Speaker 4: I've been trying to at least go to find and

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Speaker 4: support more black owned businesses, ordering directly from their websites,

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Speaker 4: things like that, you know, I think at least makes

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Speaker 1: I agree, Matt.

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Speaker 7: I get where she was coming from, h with the thought,

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Speaker 7: but implementation of this would be crazy in twenty twenty five,

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Speaker 7: so I don't know how this would really work.

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Speaker 1: I agree with that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it would look kind of crazy to see a

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Speaker 1: Could you imagine a color is only bathroom? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Could you imagine a white only restaurant? What you're gonna

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Speaker 1: I'm just being honest. Like when you go.

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Speaker 2: To get food, raisins in your potato.

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Speaker 5: When you go to get food, where do you typically

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Speaker 5: You're gonna eat Mexican, you're gonna eat Asian. Do you

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Speaker 5: ever Italian? But do you see anybody I'm gonna get

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Speaker 5: that good old American cuisine.

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Speaker 8: Nobody says that, let's go to I don't want a

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Speaker 6: That's it.

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Speaker 5: And that's the only thing I think White American cuisine

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Speaker 1: I love chichicken.

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Speaker 7: You walk in you.

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Speaker 3: That's not's a white woman on the logo.

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Speaker 1: I like that. Yeah, chicken salad chick.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it has like the smell when you're walking there,

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Speaker 4: and I'm like, yeah, this is not.

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Speaker 5: It tastes good, but because it's healthy, because a lot

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Speaker 5: of ethnic food have too much salt sugar in it.

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Speaker 1: If we being honest, true, you said the adobo.

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Speaker 5: But I hope people understand why ethnic food is often

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Speaker 1: Do they know why?

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Speaker 7: Yes, they don't know why.

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Speaker 2: They had to work with scraps to make it taste good.

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Speaker 4: But a lot of salt and a lot of sugar

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Speaker 6: And the cuts of meat aren't the best.

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Speaker 4: Exactly, it's the feet and the tail and the tongue

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Speaker 1: Is how much oxtail is like a delicate delicacy. Oxtail's delicacy.

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Speaker 1: Chitlings is a delicacy.

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Speaker 5: These were two things that black people pretty much was

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Speaker 5: just like, I have to eat this because there's nothing

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Speaker 6: When become a delicacy, Oh.

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Speaker 5: It's not chitlins neither, it's chitterlings and chitterlings. Yes, it's

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Speaker 5: not chipling's. We called the chitlings. They renamed it, called

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Speaker 5: the chitterlings. And now it's the delicacy. And if you

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Speaker 5: have to pay for it. I didn't know that because

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Speaker 5: I don't eat ChIL lings or chitlings, but my dad

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Speaker 1: Ox still now was like what you said.

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Speaker 4: Fourteen dollars seventeen sixteen outrageous, ridiculous.

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Speaker 1: Which is nuts.

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Speaker 6: Stop put it on we gotta go cook it.

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Speaker 2: Stop putting it on pizza.

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Speaker 7: Please, it's not enough.

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Speaker 4: You could barely get enough. That's gonna be a fifty

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Speaker 1: Your mom made an oxtail all the day. She did

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Speaker 5: And if it was because we was having this debate,

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Speaker 5: steak right where it's like beef gravy, which cheese, why

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Speaker 5: can't you put ox tail on pizza because it's it's

447
00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 5: beef and gravy and cheese.

448
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Speaker 1: Whatis I think you got opinion on that? Can you

449
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 1: put your eyebrows were up like this?

450
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Speaker 6: Anything, man, you can do it.

451
00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, if you know how to cook, you can make it.

452
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Speaker 6: It's too expensive.

453
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Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm saying about.

454
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Speaker 4: Put it on.

455
00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 2: And I need the bone I need.

456
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Speaker 7: I can't say that, but you know what.

457
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Speaker 1: Where you need it.

458
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:16,639
Speaker 4: Ever after after dark, where you need it.

459
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Speaker 3: And don't and don't thank you so much? Do I

460
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Speaker 3: have an opinion.

461
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Speaker 1: One that I.

462
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Speaker 3: I think that as black people, we do a great

463
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Speaker 3: job of like segregating ourselves, but it often comes at

464
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Speaker 3: our own like safety. Like at college, if you went

465
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Speaker 3: to a p w I we had. I went to

466
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Speaker 3: Ohio State, one of the biggest p w i's in

467
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Speaker 3: the country, and we have a small black community at

468
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Speaker 3: Ohio State and you know, we had a community. It

469
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Speaker 3: was us And that's because I can't tell you how

470
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:05,920
Speaker 3: many times I got called a nigger at Ohio State.

471
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 3: These white people come from small towns in Ohio. They've

472
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Speaker 3: never seen a black person. My first month at Ohio State,

473
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Speaker 3: some white dude said, you're really pretty for a colored girl.

474
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Speaker 3: And I said, is it nineteen six?

475
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Speaker 1: Did I get in?

476
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Speaker 3: The fucking shit?

477
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Speaker 1: Said he was giving you a complimentary to it.

478
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Speaker 3: And this was after I was watching him. I was

479
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Speaker 3: at a party and I'm watching him talk to this

480
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Speaker 3: girl and he's saying some of the most vile racist

481
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Speaker 3: shit I've ever heard in my life. And so when

482
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Speaker 3: he sat down next to me, I was like, let

483
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Speaker 3: me move. But before I could get up, he said

484
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Speaker 3: this thing to me, and I was like, this is insane.

485
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Speaker 3: And so we often segregate ourselves out of safety because

486
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Speaker 3: we don't want to be subject to that type of

487
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Speaker 3: like violent behavior. Like I don't want somebody thinking and

488
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Speaker 3: feeling like it's okay for them to tell me that

489
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Speaker 3: they don't think that I belong in a place because

490
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Speaker 3: they've assumed that because I'm black, I've had some type

491
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Speaker 3: of thing that they didn't have. DEI programs benefit and

492
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Speaker 3: just like affirmative action benefit of white women.

493
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Speaker 1: The most, the most, the most.

494
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Speaker 3: But the same people that don't want DEI programs for

495
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 3: black people and people of color are the same people

496
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Speaker 3: that don't want.

497
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Speaker 1: White women white women.

498
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Speaker 5: I've learned that to recently listening to a lot of

499
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Speaker 5: people talk, like when I thought that they were upset

500
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Speaker 5: because it was black people, and they're hearing a lot

501
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:27,200
Speaker 5: more white men talk about even their own white women.

502
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Speaker 5: And even Elon Musk remember the whole thing with the planes,

503
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Speaker 5: and they were saying that all the planes are going down.

504
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Speaker 1: Because of the DEI hires.

505
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Speaker 5: He was talking about a white woman. Yeah, And I

506
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 5: was just like, dang, so y'all really much blame. Everything

507
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,159
Speaker 5: that happens in the world has nothing to do with

508
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 5: white men. It's either colored people or white women. Like

509
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Speaker 5: that's crazy, bro.

510
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Speaker 8: Yeah.

511
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Speaker 3: And I do think that when segregation was a thing,

512
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Speaker 3: when it was just the norm, I think that black

513
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Speaker 3: people we took more responsibility for our progress in the world.

514
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Speaker 3: Of course, we couldn't do everything because we're just a

515
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 3: small population, but we created universities, we had our own businesses,

516
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 3: we had our own banks, we kept our dollars. We

517
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Speaker 3: cared for our neighbors a lot more than we do now.

518
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Speaker 3: And I think now because of integration and black people

519
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Speaker 3: being moved to ghettos and black people being separated from

520
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Speaker 3: each other, we have now even segregated ourselves within the

521
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Speaker 3: black community where we feel like that there's those niggas

522
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Speaker 3: and then there's us.

523
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Speaker 4: You know, like I didn't even think about the community

524
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Speaker 4: aspect of how that would have impacted Black people, Like

525
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Speaker 4: it was way more community and looking after each other

526
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Speaker 4: and supporting each other.

527
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Speaker 2: Well, think when things were segregated.

528
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Speaker 1: Think about mentally what it does to a group of people.

529
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Speaker 5: If you over years had to watch that anytime a

530
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Speaker 5: group of people did something on their own and they

531
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 5: built it up, it was burned down and bombed and

532
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 5: killed it.

533
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Speaker 1: Start to tell people like, you know what, I'm not

534
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Speaker 1: even doing that no more.

535
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Speaker 5: I'm going to focus on just myself or I'll just

536
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Speaker 5: do whatever they say we need to do, because I

537
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 5: don't want to be a part of being a martyr

538
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 5: or being murdered, you know what I'm saying. Like the Tosa,

539
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 5: Oklahoma thing was happening all over the country. You know,

540
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Speaker 5: it wasn't like it was a one time thing. Synical falls.

541
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Speaker 5: It wasn't a one time thing. So I understand how

542
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Speaker 5: over the course of generations black people during that time

543
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 5: it was just like, you know what, I'd rather just

544
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Speaker 5: form my safety do whatever it is they say I

545
00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:19,879
Speaker 5: need to do.

546
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Speaker 1: I understand them.

547
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think too. A really good example of this

548
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 3: is the book The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lax. Have

549
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 3: you ever heard of it?

550
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:30,159
Speaker 1: I have heard of it.

551
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:34,400
Speaker 3: So Henrietta Lax was a black woman who was from Virginia,

552
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Speaker 3: and she got cancer in her early thirties and ended

553
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 3: up passing away, and they used her her genes to

554
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 3: create vaccines, vaccines because her sales kept multiplying in a

555
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,679
Speaker 3: way that they had never seen before, and so they

556
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 3: were able to keep her cells and create like massive medicines, vaccines,

557
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 3: all types of things. And they never knowledge her or

558
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 3: her family or told them that this was even happening.

559
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 3: But the way that this happened was that she grew

560
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,640
Speaker 3: up on a tobacco farm. Her family were all tobacco

561
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Speaker 3: farmers in Virginia, and at some point they wanted to

562
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 3: I guess, uh, make more money or become part of

563
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 3: modern society, so they moved to Baltimore into some housing

564
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 3: projects that were for people who worked at a factory

565
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:27,120
Speaker 3: in Baltimore, and probably working at the factory and living

566
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Speaker 3: near the factory is probably how she contracted cancer in

567
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Speaker 3: the first place. And her body, her literal body, was

568
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 3: basically used to progress society, while her family was never acknowledged.

569
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Speaker 3: She gave her life pretty much for the progress of society,

570
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 3: and it took years and years, decades for people to

571
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Speaker 3: even acknowledge. Yeah, Oper did the movie.

572
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Speaker 2: Bo Yeah, that's why it sounds familiar.

573
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Speaker 1: Okay.

574
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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I feel like that's a really good example

575
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Speaker 3: of like sometimes we don't recognize it, but you're good

576
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 3: where you're at. You know what I'm saying, Like, if

577
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,879
Speaker 3: we put our resources into what we have and who

578
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,639
Speaker 3: we have, into our families, our communities, we don't we

579
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 3: don't have to ask for anything.

580
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 5: I would say, we when we at, when we're not

581
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 5: fucked with, Yeah, because we be good where we at

582
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 5: until they come in and do some wild shit and

583
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 5: change post.

584
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 1: Right, because I mean, if we're being honest.

585
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 5: Tosa, Oklahoma and events like that led to redlining, where

586
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 5: it's like, let's put all of these black people in

587
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 5: one area. We're gonna redline that it's a place that

588
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 5: no one wants to live. It's where the insurance rates

589
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 5: are higher and the insurance and property values they get

590
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 5: for those properties or lower. It's another way to take

591
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 5: from our community of people. So I do agree with that,

592
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 5: as long as they're not fucking with us. We find

593
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 5: by ourselves. But also, you got a nation build with

594
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 5: people who are like minded, because not all skinfolk are kinfolk,

595
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying.

596
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:47,440
Speaker 1: That's a fact.

597
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 3: I was also gonna say, I really love looking at

598
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 3: babies on Instagram. And sometimes it'd be like a white

599
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 3: baby that does something real cute, and I'll be like

600
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 3: in the comments, like oh so adorable. And then I'll

601
00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 3: be like, I wonder if they're racist, you know what

602
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:01,879
Speaker 3: I'm saying. So I would want them to put in

603
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 3: their Instagram bio like we hate. So I don't comment

604
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 3: on the Yeah, yo.

605
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Speaker 1: Truple is wild. But but I ain't gonna lie to

606
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 1: you though I do.

607
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 5: Maybe maybe I'm wrong for this, But I pull up

608
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 5: at a light and I see a homeless dude, and

609
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,480
Speaker 5: if he's white, sometimes I'll be like, I wonder if

610
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,680
Speaker 5: he racist, Like if I help this dude out, you

611
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, or even if I go to

612
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 5: help him and he I don't want no money from you, nigga,

613
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 5: Like now I got to get out and fuck you out,

614
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. Like sometimes I do be

615
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 5: thinking that because I'd be concerned, like I don't want to.

616
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 5: I don't want to try to do something for you

617
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 5: then find out later you don't like my people.

618
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: Nah, let me know what. Let's let's get it out there.

619
00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: You don't like black people.

620
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 5: Cool because this black man doing got to help you,

621
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 5: So I agree with you and that let me know

622
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 5: where I'm not welcome.

623
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 3: The last opera, no app we have recently. Keiki Palmer,

624
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 3: who I love, is a legend. I feel like if

625
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 3: I met Key Pop, we would be best friends.

626
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 2: Like I can see it. I can see it than Yeah, she.

627
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 1: Had us dying second we watched the movie. We watched

628
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: the movie, and she had us.

629
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,239
Speaker 4: She had a line where she was just like one

630
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 4: of those days with her and sister we watched the

631
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 4: other one of these days.

632
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: She had the line where she was just like, she said,

633
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,760
Speaker 1: you like you live in Beverly Hills. We both live

634
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 1: in the hood.

635
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 6: I was like, that.

636
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 1: Does that's not.

637
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 3: In the hood.

638
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 4: It was the office.

639
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 2: They were trying to get a job with home girl.

640
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,959
Speaker 1: She said, Hills, not Beverly.

641
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 3: She had me dying, so she did like a quick

642
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 3: draw question game about what her bff green and red flags.

643
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 3: And I thought that was interesting.

644
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 9: Let's careful, bitch.

645
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 2: You could be honest but say it's sweet.

646
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 3: So I'm sensitive.

647
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 9: You need a private life. You ain't got to tell

648
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 9: me everything. I wouldn't never pressure a friend to tell

649
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 9: me everything. If I gave you money, it wasn't alone.

650
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 9: I didn't expect to get it back, you know what

651
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 9: I mean. I don't really give out money much, but

652
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 9: if I did, I expected you to keep it. So

653
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 9: you don't even need to pay me back, so.

654
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 4: Can keep Palma video talking about friendships, red flags, green flags.

655
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 5: Personally, I don't have an opinion on this. This is

656
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:21,959
Speaker 5: all her perspective. It's subjective, and that's what she considers

657
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 5: red green flag.

658
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 2: I don't have another people I'll say that.

659
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess my maybe opinion on it is

660
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Speaker 4: that I agree with a lot of the ones. She said, like,

661
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 4: there's certain ones that I'm like, Okay, that's definitely green.

662
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: Flag.

663
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Speaker 4: One that stood out to me, I think now at

664
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Speaker 4: my old age is being slow to answer text messages.

665
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Speaker 2: Like my solid core group of friends. They know my

666
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Speaker 2: heart being the.

667
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Speaker 4: Right place, y'all, but the way my attention span, the

668
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 4: tabs opening my brain, all the things I have going

669
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 4: on are set up. I don't need no harm, no foul,

670
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 4: love you to death, but you're probably not gonna get

671
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 4: an answer back from me for a minute, and then

672
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 4: I'll send you a long ass voice note to catch

673
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 4: up on all the things that we haven't caught up on.

674
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 1: That's why I don't have any pain, yes, because mine

675
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 1: is completely different.

676
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 5: And it's like, I'm not gonna argue with you or

677
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 5: her about what because for me, if we close and

678
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 5: I text you, nigga text me the funk back, I

679
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 5: could be, y'all know, I'd be like, y'all could be

680
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 5: hanging from a cliff right now when I text.

681
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 4: That's your favorite thing to say.

682
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 1: And I text you and you don't.

683
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 5: Get back to me. Now I'm dead, and so you

684
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 5: call my friends. So but I get it you and

685
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 5: I see you. I'm like, She'll send a four minute

686
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 5: voice note to her friend and She's like, I ain't

687
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 5: get back to Christina in three weeks, so I gotta

688
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 5: I said, So why.

689
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: Do you call her? And I ain't calling her?

690
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 4: I'm like, because the requires me to be held up

691
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 4: to do a back and forth for an extended period

692
00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 4: of time. So it's listen to my voice mode at

693
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 4: your leisure, reply at your leisure, and then that's how

694
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 4: we go. And it's the understanding that me and my

695
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 4: little circle dot group of friends have that we all

696
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 4: understand why.

697
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 6: I'm thinking about what she got to say? Why she's

698
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:51,240
Speaker 6: saying this.

699
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 4: You don't know what she gotta Literally, it's like you

700
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 4: have to bank what you're listening to and then go

701
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 4: back and you have to answer. That's why I got

702
00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 4: no pain, especially y'all to understand it.

703
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 7: I don't don't worry. I'm the same page. I got

704
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 7: no opinion here.

705
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 6: I ain't got nothing either, Like why you even said this?

706
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 6: That video?

707
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 4: Round it out?

708
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 3: I feel like Josh is judging me, but whatever, what's new?

709
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 3: I feel like her her ran and green flags were

710
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 3: pretty mature. I feel like a lot of people need

711
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 3: to see that. Like the val if you're hanging from

712
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 3: a cliff and your friend don't take you back. You

713
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 3: better call nine one one.

714
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:30,959
Speaker 1: No, I'm a black man. I'm not calling nine one one.

715
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 3: That's true.

716
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: See what I'm saying. That's why I called Matt. And

717
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:34,960
Speaker 1: if Matt don't answer, then what you called you?

718
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 4: Yeah?

719
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 1: Right, the wrong spot. He's gonna be late.

720
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 4: Do you do?

721
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 7: Hold on?

722
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: I'll be right back. What you mean, I'm hanging from a.

723
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 2: Play the wrong person?

724
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: I would not it, don't you know?

725
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 5: Y'all know the first person I'm calling you, You nigga,

726
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 5: you better answer the phone. You better not send me

727
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 5: a voice thirty minutes later.

728
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:01,800
Speaker 4: They're ready, because i'd be tracking you on Life through

729
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 4: sixty anyhow, So I noticed you were there.

730
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 5: My wife's nuts, guys. She made me get Life through sixty.

731
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 5: She made me put my phone number and stuff in there.

732
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 5: Now everywhere I go, she'd be like, I see you.

733
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 4: That's wild because you between him and Jackson. Yo, I

734
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 4: promise you. So I was coming home from set one

735
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 4: day and I was too busy running my mouth on

736
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 4: the phone with my sister that I passed the exit

737
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 4: for the house. I literally got a phone call as

738
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 4: I was exiting the next exit, which was two minutes

739
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 4: in like where are you going?

740
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 2: Why are you going away from the house.

741
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 4: I was like, wow, these guys are following me in

742
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 4: my defense and it's literally Jackson and about at the

743
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 4: same time, like where are you going? And my god,

744
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 4: that just missed my exit.

745
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 1: Jackson pointed it out to me. I know he did,

746
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 1: and he seemed worried.

747
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 2: Oh like he was just like he was like was

748
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 2: he yeah?

749
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 7: Was my mom just passed? Where she's going?

750
00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: And where's she going? And I was just like, I

751
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: don't know. He's just like no, it's like she's really passing.

752
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 5: So let me call because you know, sometimes people be

753
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 5: doing stuff you know they got right. And then once

754
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 5: I called you and I told you you was headed

755
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 5: back here, I told him, but I will tell the truth.

756
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 5: I made her get life three sixty, not the other

757
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 5: way around. For that very reason, I'm a very protective

758
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 5: person and I never want to not know where my

759
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 5: wife is. And people be asking me like yo, where's Kadeen,

760
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 5: And I'm just be like, oh, ship, where is Kadeen?

761
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,919
Speaker 5: And then I'm trying to get you and I can't,

762
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,840
Speaker 5: And then something happens to you and then they just like, devou,

763
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 5: how did you not know, and I'm like, fuck, well

764
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 5: it goes.

765
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:34,320
Speaker 2: The same way. I mean both ways.

766
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 4: You and about Jackson Jackson on it too, his grandparents

767
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 4: or his coach or whatever. So I to know where

768
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 4: you're at, how fast you're driving, if your phone is charged,

769
00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 4: I'm gonna send the thing to say, charge your phone.

770
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,720
Speaker 1: That is her favorite thing to do. Charge your phone. Devour,

771
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,720
Speaker 1: slow down, devo, Look watch his speed. I'll be driving

772
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 1: in my push.

773
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 7: Life gives you the.

774
00:34:55,880 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 4: I get on the same if you're driving it's your bicycle, like.

775
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:06,280
Speaker 1: Privacy, man, Yeah, but when it's your when it's your spouse,

776
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 1: it's not no.

777
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 8: No, it's just in general, like how fast I was,

778
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 8: how fast year, how slow I was going?

779
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: Nigga, hurry up get home.

780
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 5: That is true though if I was trying to like

781
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 5: creep my way into the crib and I was doing

782
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:22,319
Speaker 5: twenty five, it took you four hours to get home. Yeah, man,

783
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:26,320
Speaker 5: I just needed a break, decompressed, decompressing. But is we

784
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 5: give each other that though, Like she'll be she'll be

785
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 5: like she be like where you at? Like I just

786
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 5: need a minute. And she was like all right, well

787
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 5: I'll let the kids know because it dud be Jackson.

788
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 5: Jackson be like, Dad, where are you said you're gonna

789
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 5: be home five thirty it's five thirty six.

790
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 6: Your junior parent.

791
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:40,760
Speaker 1: That is he a parent in training?

792
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 5: Bro?

793
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 1: He ready to go.

794
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 2: Everybody.

795
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 4: We just sent them away for overnight trip with my parents.

796
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:46,800
Speaker 4: And I'm like, Jackson, you're in charge. He's like, I know,

797
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 4: I got that, and I was like, not just your

798
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 4: Still He's like, I know grandma and grandpa to I'm like, yep,

799
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:51,360
Speaker 4: me and I'm.

800
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 7: Popping too, Like I love you asked me and you

801
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 7: got the address. She's like, yeah, Jackson, cat.

802
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 5: Oh, ask Jackson what I tell him? By his grandmama.

803
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 5: That's how I get him to practice. I'm like, you

804
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 5: going with your grandmother? Yeah, you better walk outside, better

805
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:04,760
Speaker 5: pull out this, you better do this. So he's learning

806
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 5: how to be with a woman as a grown up

807
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 5: because now he's toilet in his mom and his grandmother.

808
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 1: Now, so I could be like, yo, anything happened when

809
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:14,360
Speaker 1: you did? You gotta and you gotta see how he

810
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:14,840
Speaker 1: takes it.

811
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 3: Bro.

812
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: He does jiu jitsu. Now, he'd be doing grappling like

813
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 1: he takes pride in it. And I love that for him.

814
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:21,839
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying I love it for him.

815
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 5: You know, he's gonna be a good boyfriend and then

816
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 5: fiance and husband for somebody because he's used to taking

817
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 5: care of his grandmother and his mom and his brothers

818
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 5: and checking in on me, like we have some really

819
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:33,919
Speaker 5: good kids.

820
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 2: What he wants he could live with us forever too.

821
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 5: He cannot do that. He cannot do that. Jackson, You're

822
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 5: probably gonna watch this. Look at me, Look at me

823
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,439
Speaker 5: right now, Look at your dad. You cannot live here forever.

824
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 5: You don't want to trust me?

825
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,439
Speaker 1: Trust me. I lived with my mom for a little

826
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 1: bit as an adult. It's not good.

827
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 5: I lived with my dad. It's even worse. Imagine you

828
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 5: come in the house at twenty plus and I ask

829
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 5: you where you are?

830
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 1: What were you doing? How you going to deal with that?

831
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: Think about it.

832
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 4: It's right, We'll we'll be tracking you on life through sixty. Okay, Well,

833
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 4: onto the topic for today, guys.

834
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 5: Were speaking of topics we can go back. I'm not

835
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 5: gonna out the person who me and him had to

836
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 5: back and forth.

837
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:12,040
Speaker 1: With as friendships.

838
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 5: Okay, but I do also think it is a good

839
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 5: example to show that, hey, you guys might have been

840
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 5: friends in that moment. Then some years went by, y'all separated,

841
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 5: y'all grow, things happen. But now you guys are both

842
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 5: family men, both have wives, both have careers. Now we're

843
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 5: starting to rekindle that friendship and it's just different phases

844
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 5: of life. We weren't we didn't have synergies at that moment,

845
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 5: so we weren't friends, and now we do have synergies,

846
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 5: so we be come closer.

847
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 4: Yeah. No, I think that was super mature of you.

848
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 4: And that's that's the grown up Deval that I'm seeing

849
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 4: now now, because the Devo maybe like ten fifteen years ago,

850
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 4: would have been like, oh, we're not friends no more.

851
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 2: We'll fuck you nigga, and I won't be your friend

852
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 2: ever getting in life.

853
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:52,320
Speaker 1: Oh you mean that when it happened.

854
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 2: When it happened.

855
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, But I'm like, if that, if I were holding

856
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 4: you to who you were, then you would have never

857
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 4: even entertained potentially even engaging with him ever again in life.

858
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 5: In full transparency, That's exactly what I said, right, He

859
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 5: told me that, he said I wish you well, and

860
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 5: I said, fuck you, nigga, you gotta wish me nothing, nigga,

861
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 5: like who you are telling me that, nah, get out

862
00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 5: of there.

863
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 1: We don't got to be friends over that nigga, right,

864
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 1: And that's how it was, right.

865
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 5: And now being from New York too, was like cool

866
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 5: that nigga and we wasn't friends, and we both had

867
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 5: friends mutual friends that we would hang out with, and

868
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 5: he and I just wouldn't be yeah.

869
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 4: Like literally go to the same events together and everything

870
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 4: and just be like all right, well it is it

871
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 4: is what it is, yeah, cordial, but you keep it moving.

872
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:32,439
Speaker 1: Yeah.

873
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 4: So with my particular group of friends, this is funny

874
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 4: because you know the whole no new friends thing that

875
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 4: Drake had put out when the phone came out, and

876
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:43,800
Speaker 4: people were like, oh, it's like a thing like no

877
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 4: new friends in my forties. I'm actually welcoming the idea

878
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:53,040
Speaker 4: of new friendships gelling with people who I feel like, Wow,

879
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,880
Speaker 4: the synergy is just kind of naturally aligned and match.

880
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:58,399
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, I meet a woman at.

881
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 4: An event, for example, or through another mutual friend, and

882
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 4: I'm just like, yo, I really like you. Like one

883
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 4: of my friends since I was thirteen years old, chares

884
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 4: she Reese don't like nobody and I know that about her.

885
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 4: So I'm like the fact that we're even still friends

886
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 4: is like.

887
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: Are very very strang You don't like nobody.

888
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:15,320
Speaker 2: I think that's the thing we have in common. We

889
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 2: both don't really like people like that, but we like

890
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 2: each other and we've grown.

891
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 1: If y'all didn't know that, you know that now.

892
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 5: Kadeen is not the most like, outspopoken, no friendly person

893
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 5: when you meet her, she's not.

894
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just am an introvert and I like to

895
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:30,360
Speaker 2: kind of be the observant.

896
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 4: I realize that's where Kaz gets it from, too, because

897
00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 4: Kaz is not immediate to like like people. He kind

898
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 4: of sits back, kind of observes people from a distance. Yeah,

899
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 4: And then it's just like I gotta feel alive. And

900
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:44,279
Speaker 4: if I don't feel a vibe, Yeah I don't feel

901
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 4: the vibe, I'm like, eh, And I'm not going to

902
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 4: force it, you know what I'm saying.

903
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:48,879
Speaker 2: At least you can count on me to not be fake.

904
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 2: I don't fuck with you. I don't fuck with you.

905
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:52,320
Speaker 2: And that's just what it is. But she Resa and

906
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 2: I have been friends for years, so when she met

907
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 2: this young lady that she's like, I really like her.

908
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:58,399
Speaker 4: Like I have a new friend.

909
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 2: I was like, you got a new friend that thirty

910
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 2: eight like what she's like?

911
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 4: I think you actually would like her, And then now

912
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 4: I'm hanging out with her and her friend, which sometimes

913
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 4: is a faux pas within a friend group. It's like

914
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 4: you cannot be friends outside of the direct contact of friends.

915
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 4: So it's like for a mutual friend to now be

916
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 4: hanging with the other friend or the new friend. That's

917
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 4: like something that you don't do. But I've just been

918
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 4: welcoming that in my forties because I do think that

919
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:24,280
Speaker 4: there's things to be learned.

920
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 2: There's great energies and synergies that.

921
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 4: Align that you kind of just organically let happen simultaneously.

922
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 4: Though you have to understand when there's friendships that no

923
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 4: longer serve you. Yeah, some friendships are seasonal, and I'm

924
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 4: okay with moving on in that way, not because there

925
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 4: has to be any animosity or malice or.

926
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 2: There has to be a blow up or a big breakup.

927
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,479
Speaker 4: But you realize after a while, maybe sometimes this person

928
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 4: is in this compartment of friends where if I see

929
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,319
Speaker 4: you in passing, it's cool, but we're not necessarily as

930
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 4: close as we used to be because the interests may

931
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:55,760
Speaker 4: be different.

932
00:40:55,920 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 5: I just think friendships go with whatever the movement of

933
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 5: the moment. Right in college, we partied all the time.

934
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:05,799
Speaker 5: We was going to clubs, doing all stuff, playing ball.

935
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,279
Speaker 5: As I got older, I didn't party no more. I

936
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 5: don't play ball no more. So the people I had

937
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 5: synergies with that did that, they're no longer My friends

938
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 5: like that because there's nothing for us to do right now.

939
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,839
Speaker 1: My friends are more in the creative space. My friends

940
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:19,320
Speaker 1: are either.

941
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 5: Actors or directors, writers, producers, or they're into businesses.

942
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,320
Speaker 1: Like my friends are not just athletes anymore or just students.

943
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 5: And also my friends are not only from Brooklyn anymore,

944
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 5: which also happens. You know, you move to a different

945
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 5: city or stay and you realize that your lifestyle change

946
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:36,640
Speaker 5: is because the community has changed. So I'm not against

947
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 5: meeting new people. I honestly think that everyone should try

948
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 5: to find a new friend or two every year, only

949
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 5: because that change in perspective gives you growth as a person.

950
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 5: When you sit back and say, I am who I am,

951
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:52,800
Speaker 5: I'm forty, I don't need no new friends. This is

952
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 5: the way I am now, you've limited your ability to

953
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 5: see the world from so many different angles. You know

954
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 5: what I'm saying, like me and Matt got closed in

955
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 5: the past three years, Matt moved here. We spend a

956
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 5: lot of time down here coming up with plans that

957
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 5: we want to do for the podcast and stuff, but

958
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 5: also just different things that we work out every day now.

959
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 1: Right, I have friends who are my age.

960
00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:14,919
Speaker 5: She was like, I'm not working out with you your nuts,

961
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 5: So of course my friendship with that person isn't as

962
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 5: strong as it is with Matt because there's something that

963
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 5: he and I have in alignment that we do consistently.

964
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:25,800
Speaker 5: And I think that's what people need to find with

965
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:27,400
Speaker 5: their friendships. If you're trying to grow and go to

966
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 5: a different level, find a friend who's already doing that

967
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 5: or doing something like that and do it together.

968
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you like consistency in generalize. I love consistency,

969
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 4: So I feel like if you have somebody that's locked

970
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 4: into something that you are doing consistently, then that's going

971
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 4: to actually.

972
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 2: Work for you.

973
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:43,799
Speaker 5: That was the topic triple that I wanted to talk

974
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 5: to you about about doing. I found a correlation between

975
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:52,760
Speaker 5: men who loved patterns and consistency they also love monogamy.

976
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 5: And I want to do some research to figure out

977
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 5: if that is a direct correlation or if it's a byproduct,

978
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. But most of my friends

979
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 5: who love patterns, who love the consistency of doing something

980
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,120
Speaker 5: the same way every day, most of them are married

981
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 5: and happy being married.

982
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 1: My friends who hate patterns, hate structure, hate anything.

983
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 5: They're all over the place with their lives. But they're

984
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 5: also over the place with women. So I want to

985
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 5: do a podcast and I don't forget. Yeah, but what

986
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 5: are your thoughts?

987
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 4: Well, first off, before we move on, I'm curious to

988
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 4: know where we are now in life. Sometimes you go

989
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 4: back home to Brooklyn. Yes, there's groups of friends even

990
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 4: family that you're like, you know what, I don't know

991
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 4: if it's the distance, I don't know, if it's my mindset.

992
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 4: I don't know if it's where I am in life.

993
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 4: But we just don't have the same things in common anymore. Right,

994
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,759
Speaker 4: Is it difficult now for you to like look at

995
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,879
Speaker 4: those friendships and those family ties and be like, damn,

996
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 4: I'm on what I believe to be a betterment of life,

997
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 4: trying to better myself, trying to elevate, trying to do more.

998
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 4: And then you have people who are just okay, with

999
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 4: being comfortable, which is fine with where they are. So

1000
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 4: how different has it been for you to navigate those

1001
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 4: kind of relationships, because I feel like I've seen some

1002
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 4: of that, yeah, where you struggle, whereas me, I'm cool

1003
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 4: being a loner because I like my solitude, right, But

1004
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 4: you crave social doors relationships like that.

1005
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 1: So I crave companionship and I crave a team environment

1006
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 1: because as an athlete, that's all I've been brought up in.

1007
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:20,799
Speaker 4: Right.

1008
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:23,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, When I started playing football, it was like everybody

1009
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 5: on a football team, we got a goal to make

1010
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 5: it to college. Then you get to college and you

1011
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 5: meet everybody's goals to make it to the NFL. Then

1012
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 5: you make it to the NFL, and everybody's goal there

1013
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 5: changes because some people like I want to be a

1014
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 5: Hall of Famer, some people like I want to win

1015
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 5: a championship.

1016
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:38,799
Speaker 1: Some people like I just want money.

1017
00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 5: Then you had people at me it was just like, man,

1018
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 5: I just want this opportunity to make money so I

1019
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 5: could do what I really want to do. And it

1020
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 5: was when I got to the NFL that I started

1021
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 5: to realize that my ideas of what life is looks

1022
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 5: very different than my people back home in Brooklyn, which

1023
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 5: doesn't only mean I have to give them grace. I

1024
00:44:56,400 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 5: have to give myself grace for wanting something different.

1025
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 1: You know what I'm say.

1026
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:02,840
Speaker 5: Everybody don't want the same things. Take my brother for example,

1027
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 5: I'm like, Yo, do you want a Lambo.

1028
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:07,320
Speaker 1: You don't want to Lambo? You don't want to do it.

1029
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 1: She was like, no, I don't. He's like, I want

1030
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:10,840
Speaker 1: to take care of my family. I want to be comfortable.

1031
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 5: I want to help my community, But I don't aspire

1032
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 5: to have a Lamborghini. Like that's just not something that

1033
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 5: I aspire to. And I'm like, well, that's something I

1034
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 5: aspire to. So when it's four hours left at the

1035
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:22,880
Speaker 5: end of the day, I'm focused on how I can

1036
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 5: get something else to make that money. Whereas my brother's like,

1037
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 5: I'm comfortable, my kids are good, my wife is good.

1038
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 5: And I learned to not judge him for that, but

1039
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 5: also ask him, don't judge me.

1040
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 4: For that because your fulfillment is directly tied to working

1041
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 4: for my purpose.

1042
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, my fulfillment definitely comes to my purpose, which is working.

1043
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 1: Like what else as a man? What else am I

1044
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 1: supposed to do? Right?

1045
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:49,800
Speaker 5: Like, I can't give life, I can't give birth, Like,

1046
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 5: my only purpose as a man is to protect, provide, build,

1047
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 5: curate for the people around me who are doing that.

1048
00:45:57,160 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 5: Because if I don't have that purpose, what I'm gonna do.

1049
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 5: I can't play video games all day. That's just not

1050
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 5: my thing. So I enjoy teams. I enjoy family environment

1051
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 5: where I can find out too, like what do you

1052
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 5: want to do? I help you with that, You help

1053
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 5: me what I want to do.

1054
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just realized that too when you mentioned the

1055
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 4: team aspect of things. I wasn't into sports. Everything I did,

1056
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 4: extrahurcility was an individual thing.

1057
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 2: It was solo.

1058
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:20,840
Speaker 4: It was whether it was the piano, whether it was pageants.

1059
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 4: The performance was based off of me solely.

1060
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:23,839
Speaker 1: That is true.

1061
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:25,720
Speaker 4: The most that I got was two years of cheerleading,

1062
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:28,240
Speaker 4: which was not really like a team sport in my opinion,

1063
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 4: at least at the level I did it in high school.

1064
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 4: So that probably makes sense as to why I'm cool

1065
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 4: with being a loner.

1066
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 2: I'm cool with not.

1067
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 4: Having friends that are too close or too needy, or

1068
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:39,760
Speaker 4: need too much of my time and attention.

1069
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: You know what that is to you. It was brought

1070
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: up that way, but even with your siblings, like you

1071
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:44,640
Speaker 1: have a oh man.

1072
00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 5: Well, well, myn is five years younger than you and

1073
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 5: Socari's ten years so you never had a moment in

1074
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:53,000
Speaker 5: my life. I don't remember life without my brother, who's

1075
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 5: two years younger than me. So my whole life has

1076
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:56,280
Speaker 5: always been about a teammate.

1077
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, Now, I guess my brother's just kind of

1078
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:00,840
Speaker 4: would kind of fall into that category.

1079
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 2: But our relationship is so young.

1080
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 1: Girl, he's a boy.

1081
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 5: He's five years younger than you. It's not the same

1082
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:08,839
Speaker 5: as me and Brian are boys who played the same sport.

1083
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:09,720
Speaker 2: Who's true.

1084
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 4: As as a sibling group, we love our time together,

1085
00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 4: but we also like our alone time. Yeah, yeah, so

1086
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 4: I just realized that correlation there. Yeah, it's just interesting

1087
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:23,240
Speaker 4: because I realized how friendships in that capacity have affected

1088
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 4: you over the course of our time together.

1089
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 1: But y'all play sports, Josh, Matt.

1090
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:31,240
Speaker 5: Y'all play sports, right, you think you're professionally, they're not professionally,

1091
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 5: But you played sports, Josh.

1092
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 4: But we know.

1093
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 5: But I mean, like, do y'all feel like the sport

1094
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:40,279
Speaker 5: aspect made y'all more like I'm with camaraderie or you

1095
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 5: more like Nah, my personality is just like Matt's a looner.

1096
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,360
Speaker 7: I was just gonna let him go first because I

1097
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:47,320
Speaker 7: was going to say that I am absolutely a loner.

1098
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:51,279
Speaker 7: I have probably maybe I have friends. I'm not gonna

1099
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 7: sit here and say I don't have friends, but I

1100
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 7: have selective friends. I don't sit down and I don't

1101
00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 7: mingle with everybody.

1102
00:47:57,400 --> 00:48:00,480
Speaker 5: I feel you, Josh is in an eternity. So that's

1103
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:02,920
Speaker 5: similar to sports, Like there was a camaraderie, y'all. You

1104
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:05,880
Speaker 5: and your line had to do something together that no

1105
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 5: one knows went through, and that built something for you all.

1106
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: I see that.

1107
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 5: I see that because it makes sense because Josh is

1108
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 5: good with Remember you talked about people being fake. I

1109
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 5: don't think it's fake. Josh was a part of a

1110
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 5: line the same way I was a part of a team.

1111
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:22,719
Speaker 5: And when you're a part of a line or part

1112
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 5: of a team, there's a job you have to do

1113
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 5: that you may not want to do.

1114
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:27,839
Speaker 1: It's just part of the job.

1115
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 2: Or you have to tolerate people that you may not

1116
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:32,320
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, have to tolerate in a

1117
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 2: personal setting.

1118
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 5: Right, but even not even in a personal setting, but

1119
00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 5: even in a in a professional setting like you work

1120
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 5: for somebody.

1121
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 1: You work for somebody. I may not like my boss.

1122
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:44,800
Speaker 1: I mean I like my co worker, you know what

1123
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying.

1124
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 5: But I think being in a team environment, being in

1125
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 5: a fraternity made it so that I've watched Josh being

1126
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 5: on people he don't like. He don't like me A

1127
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 5: lot of the times, me and Josh be ready to

1128
00:48:53,520 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 5: fight like a lot, But you know what, We're gonna

1129
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 5: get this money to get You're gonna get this work.

1130
00:48:57,760 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: You'd be ready ready to fight you.

1131
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 6: This is new to me.

1132
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:05,359
Speaker 5: You first, what's the first thing I said? I said,

1133
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 5: Josh wanna come in here and start moving it around?

1134
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 7: Yo, Josh gonna come in here and start moving stuff.

1135
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 7: First thing you do is you don't think we need

1136
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 7: this table.

1137
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 2: That's your friends, right.

1138
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 1: But it also is knowing like teammates.

1139
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 5: I said to Matt too, I said, y'all in the

1140
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 5: creative space where y'all see things I don't see, I

1141
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 5: gotta trust that they know what they're talking about.

1142
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:27,560
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1143
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 5: If I have a vision and I want to suit

1144
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 5: something that's different, it's different because it's like, let trust

1145
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 5: me on this. But there's certain things that I'll be like, nah,

1146
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:35,880
Speaker 5: them two got it because I have no especially with

1147
00:49:36,040 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 5: lights and stuff.

1148
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 4: To be honest, you wouldn't be in a friendship and

1149
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 4: a partnership with anybody here if you didn't believe in

1150
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 4: what they could do.

1151
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 1: Facts. Oh, that is a point though. Friendships based on

1152
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:54,800
Speaker 1: can you gain something from this friendship? You know what

1153
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying, And.

1154
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,839
Speaker 2: Then what is the term friend can be so loose?

1155
00:49:59,000 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 4: Right?

1156
00:49:59,680 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 7: Is that my.

1157
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:05,280
Speaker 2: Fendant, business friend and friends I don't.

1158
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:08,320
Speaker 6: Know they have an ability to do something and tolerate

1159
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 6: them for that moment.

1160
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 2: That's where the associate component because done transaction.

1161
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 5: That's how people get issues though, because you feel like

1162
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 5: it's associate and you can do something, I'll tolerate you

1163
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:26,239
Speaker 5: with that person may be like I really like it

1164
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:28,480
Speaker 5: not knowing that Josh is like.

1165
00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:30,880
Speaker 4: That.

1166
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:32,920
Speaker 8: It's not even that bad. It's just that there's just

1167
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:36,439
Speaker 8: no equals. There's no commonality there besides the work.

1168
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 6: The task.

1169
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 5: For me, there's some people I can't stand and I

1170
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 5: gotta work with like serious and I work on a

1171
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 5: bunch of different sets.

1172
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1173
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:48,799
Speaker 5: And what helps me is I know I'm only gonna

1174
00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 5: be there for a finite period of time. You know

1175
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:54,799
Speaker 5: what I'm saying, but that but you bringing that up

1176
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,400
Speaker 5: does bring up the point of how do we define friends?

1177
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 4: I think friendship at the core of it has to

1178
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 4: make you feel something inside, like it has to be

1179
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 4: some sort of emotional tie or some sort of like

1180
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:12,239
Speaker 4: spiritual tie, or like you have a tie without having

1181
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:15,440
Speaker 4: something in the game, exactly like a feel good.

1182
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 7: I don't call everybody friend, I feel just because we

1183
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:21,360
Speaker 7: we can hang out, we can chill. We don't do

1184
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 7: that that often.

1185
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: That's true.

1186
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 7: And even when I do share, there's certain stuff I

1187
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 7: would never share with you because.

1188
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:29,840
Speaker 2: I know there's your one friend that I know that

1189
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 2: you like this with Coda, that's your big friend.

1190
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 7: Tell me I know, I know he will tell me me.

1191
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 1: Colde is definitely He's definitely gonna tell me me.

1192
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 5: Colda's best friend is me Me, Like Colda don't love

1193
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:50,800
Speaker 5: nobody as much as he loved me Me.

1194
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 1: I notice it's his father, it's you.

1195
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:56,800
Speaker 5: It's me me you because those that know its me me,

1196
00:51:57,320 --> 00:52:00,360
Speaker 5: Papa your because he goes to the We're.

1197
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 1: Going to give him exactly what he wants trans.

1198
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:06,759
Speaker 3: With me.

1199
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 5: On everything because he know Daddy, I swear it's the

1200
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 5: minute I walk in the room.

1201
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 7: His eyes be like this, he's not joking.

1202
00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:20,960
Speaker 5: I'm serious because and I know why I always try

1203
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:22,680
Speaker 5: to teach him lessons. He three, he don't want to

1204
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 5: hear no lessons. He's like, I want to watch Paul Patrol.

1205
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 5: He's trying to explain to me how this is not

1206
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:28,359
Speaker 5: good for my behavior, and I don't care.

1207
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:29,839
Speaker 1: I'll be trying to explain stuff to him.

1208
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 5: His eyes be welling up and I'd be like, you

1209
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:33,719
Speaker 5: all right, He's like, yeah, you just want to watch

1210
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 5: Paul Patrol.

1211
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:37,920
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm like, just go ahead. And that's why

1212
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:39,440
Speaker 1: he don't fuck with me exactly.

1213
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 5: And I don't mind that though, he can fuck with y'all,

1214
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 5: because I'm gonna have to make sure that he's.

1215
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,040
Speaker 4: I mean, he really fucked me when I came back

1216
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:47,200
Speaker 4: from filming. I was going for like two weeks, and

1217
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 4: he was just like, oh, mom, so now he's like

1218
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 4: my shadow until I said he couldn't have chips for breakfast,

1219
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:54,480
Speaker 4: and oh he was pissed about that exactly.

1220
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 1: Close his eyes to the deep breath, then turned around

1221
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:03,359
Speaker 1: and walk the way. I was like, Wow, you got sah.

1222
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 4: I think I haven't seen in my life. You really

1223
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:08,400
Speaker 4: just be like inhaling and exhaling. I aspire to be

1224
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 4: like that.

1225
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 1: Well, he aspires to me like you, because he don't

1226
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 1: like people unless it's transaction. Here is that from me?

1227
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 1: Trouble trible.

1228
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 3: I love friends so much. I love friends so much.

1229
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 3: Friends are my favorite thing ever. And I've been uh,

1230
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 3: you know, I'm from Cincinnati. I left Cincinnati to go

1231
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 3: to college in Columbus, which is also in Ohio. For

1232
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 3: those of you who don't know geography, there's a lot

1233
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 3: of y'all out there. But so I went to school

1234
00:53:40,480 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 3: in Columbus and then I left Ohio when I graduated,

1235
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:47,680
Speaker 3: and I haven't been back. But my closest friends are

1236
00:53:47,800 --> 00:53:50,840
Speaker 3: still in Ohio. I have friends that I've been friends

1237
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 3: with since I was twelve thirteen that I just was

1238
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 3: on the phone for four hours with my friend that

1239
00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 3: we've been friends for what twenty years now, on the

1240
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:03,880
Speaker 3: phone for four hours talking about whatever came up. I

1241
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:08,800
Speaker 3: also have moved to let's see, Chicago, La, Rhode Island,

1242
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 3: now Atlanta, four different cities. I have friends here that

1243
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:14,600
Speaker 3: I went to college with who made friends who now

1244
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 3: I hang out with them. I make friends in every

1245
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 3: city that I live in because I freaking love friends

1246
00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:21,720
Speaker 3: so much.

1247
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 5: For you making me feel so I've never spoken on

1248
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,800
Speaker 5: the phone with for four hours with anybody.

1249
00:54:26,360 --> 00:54:29,719
Speaker 1: In my life for this woman right here. Yeah, I

1250
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 1: feel like a bad friend.

1251
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 6: Bro, who don't do that? Bro, don't feel bad.

1252
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:36,319
Speaker 2: I know my girlfriends don't feel no kind of way

1253
00:54:36,320 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 2: because we all be on the same page.

1254
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:40,960
Speaker 1: Like you seem like a friend that check up on people. Yeah.

1255
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 3: I like to send cards in the mail. Never got

1256
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 3: one of those. I love friends, got something for you.

1257
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,839
Speaker 3: When I was living in Rhode Island, I made some friends. Uh.

1258
00:54:56,040 --> 00:54:58,760
Speaker 3: One of another friend that I've known since seventh grade.

1259
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 3: She went to college in New York and so she

1260
00:55:02,640 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 3: has friends that live in New York. I met some

1261
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 3: of them at her wedding, and then while I was

1262
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 3: living in Rhode Island, we all went to see Beyonce

1263
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 3: and Boston together. And this group of friends has been

1264
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 3: like the best thing that has ever happened to me

1265
00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:20,320
Speaker 3: in the last They've been so supportive, so close, We

1266
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 3: support each other. They know how to get people together.

1267
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 3: They really care about friendship and community and caring and

1268
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:31,320
Speaker 3: supporting each other. So that's I think that like friendship

1269
00:55:31,400 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 3: to me, like means all of that. Like my friends

1270
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:36,360
Speaker 3: are low key like a part of my family, like

1271
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 3: my extended family. I like to see my friends. I

1272
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 3: will go see my like I have friends that some

1273
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,480
Speaker 3: of my best friends have not been to visit me

1274
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 3: in several cities that I've lived in. I don't care

1275
00:55:46,960 --> 00:55:50,400
Speaker 3: about that, Like I'm not I'm not basing our friendship

1276
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:51,880
Speaker 3: on visits.

1277
00:55:52,080 --> 00:55:53,640
Speaker 2: Yeah right, or who did what last?

1278
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1279
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:56,399
Speaker 3: Who did what last? It's not transactional for me. It's

1280
00:55:56,440 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 3: the bond that we share. It's how I know that

1281
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 3: I can depend on you. Like my best friend from college,

1282
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 3: she might not come visit me in every city or

1283
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 3: very like often. But if I call her and I say, hey,

1284
00:56:08,320 --> 00:56:12,200
Speaker 3: I need you to update my resume tonight, She'll be like,

1285
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 3: all right, I got you. And then we'll spend four

1286
00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 3: hours on the phone talking about what our ambitions are,

1287
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 3: what we want to do with our lives. Yeah, what

1288
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 3: kind of And she believes in me more than anybody

1289
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:23,919
Speaker 3: in the world.

1290
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:26,440
Speaker 1: She don't believe you more than I do. I know

1291
00:56:26,560 --> 00:56:27,440
Speaker 1: that for a fact.

1292
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:30,360
Speaker 2: I know that for a fact she do not believe

1293
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 2: like I wonder if triple could do us.

1294
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 1: And no freaking notes from trible. She don't call and

1295
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:37,520
Speaker 1: chuck up.

1296
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 3: Boy, you know what, you know, I'll be thinking about it.

1297
00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 3: But you know, some one thing that I do get

1298
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 3: hung up on, and this I guess this is relative

1299
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:48,280
Speaker 3: because we're talking about friends in your forties. I'm not forty.

1300
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:49,479
Speaker 3: Let's just make that clear.

1301
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,799
Speaker 7: I don't worry.

1302
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 3: I'm ain't forty, but I've got damn I'm not.

1303
00:56:58,760 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 7: Close, y'all.

1304
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:02,520
Speaker 6: I'm thirty three for but young too.

1305
00:57:02,800 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 3: Like something that I do kind of struggle with when

1306
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:08,320
Speaker 3: it comes to friendships is that I'm single and childless,

1307
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 3: and so I really don't know a lot of my

1308
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:12,080
Speaker 3: friends are married. A lot of my friends have kids,

1309
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:15,719
Speaker 3: and I don't know what married people with kids be doing.

1310
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:17,240
Speaker 3: So I'll be like, I don't want to call. You

1311
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:20,360
Speaker 3: probably got your kids, right, you probably picking the kids

1312
00:57:20,440 --> 00:57:20,880
Speaker 3: from school.

1313
00:57:20,920 --> 00:57:24,360
Speaker 2: But I'm like, trouble won't even come by to say hot, Yeah,

1314
00:57:24,360 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 2: I don't.

1315
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:26,400
Speaker 3: I don't be wanting to just I want to stop by.

1316
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 3: But I'm like, they got autum damn kids. Man, I

1317
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 3: don't know what they're not annoying, But y'all feel like

1318
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:35,160
Speaker 3: y'all could be busy or you know, y'all got a

1319
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:35,840
Speaker 3: lot of stuff going on.

1320
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 2: So I get it.

1321
00:57:37,080 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 3: I'm open to the invitation, though, y'all.

1322
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:41,560
Speaker 5: I mean, we've always said it's open for anybody. But

1323
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 5: I do understand your perspective, Like you don't want to

1324
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 5: show up to somebody house. It's like could he not

1325
00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 5: even hear? Then you feel dumb?

1326
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, and be here, and he always asks where's Tribby?

1327
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:55,080
Speaker 4: Is she okay? Always you'll come by, he'll have a drink.

1328
00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:59,440
Speaker 5: But I got a question, though, Have y'all ever realized

1329
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:02,400
Speaker 5: something about yourself is why friendships don't work? I know,

1330
00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 5: I realized I realized why my friendships don't work is

1331
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:13,120
Speaker 5: because I always intermingle friendships with production, right, Like I

1332
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:16,560
Speaker 5: want all my friends to do well. So I noticed

1333
00:58:16,600 --> 00:58:19,240
Speaker 5: that when I don't see my friends doing what I

1334
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:21,320
Speaker 5: think they need to do to be productive, I turn

1335
00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 5: into coach mentor and I start doing it.

1336
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,240
Speaker 1: And I noticed a lot of my friends don't like that.

1337
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 6: Don't we know it?

1338
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:27,120
Speaker 1: They don't like it.

1339
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 5: They just be like they'd be like, y'all, don't need

1340
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 5: you to tell me that, and I'll just be like, yeah,

1341
00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 5: but you're not where you need to be in life,

1342
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,280
Speaker 5: and I realize that everybody doesn't have the same drive.

1343
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:39,640
Speaker 5: So I've learned to kind of, like in the past couple,

1344
00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:41,240
Speaker 5: I've learned to kind of just let people do what

1345
00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 5: they want to do.

1346
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 1: But you know what happens.

1347
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:44,919
Speaker 5: It frustrates me because then I'll be like, you ain't

1348
00:58:44,960 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 5: doing your nigga, you lazy, And then I don't want

1349
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 5: to be friends with you no more like you on

1350
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:50,560
Speaker 5: a video game every night, Like that's not mine.

1351
00:58:51,240 --> 00:58:52,960
Speaker 1: And that's why I lose friends a lot.

1352
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:57,160
Speaker 5: Like my motivation and my drive often I can't compartmentalize,

1353
00:58:57,800 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 5: and I feel like I'm always telling people what to

1354
00:58:59,880 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 5: do and I don't want to be that person. But

1355
00:59:02,040 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 5: then I also feel like I can't be around you

1356
00:59:04,240 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 5: if you only want to just play video games.

1357
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 1: All day, you know what I'm saying. That's what I've

1358
00:59:09,120 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 1: realized about myself.

1359
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 4: It's hard for me to compe I lost a good

1360
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:14,760
Speaker 4: friend a couple of years back, and I'm still kind

1361
00:59:14,800 --> 00:59:17,959
Speaker 4: of unsure of as to why we're no longer friends

1362
00:59:18,200 --> 00:59:21,600
Speaker 4: because I don't think anything from my perspective, catastrophic happened

1363
00:59:21,600 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 4: where I was like, oh, I can understand why things

1364
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 4: fell apart. The only thing that I can deduce, and

1365
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:28,920
Speaker 4: this is only based off of what other friends and

1366
00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 4: people who know me family members has told me, is

1367
00:59:32,000 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 4: that maybe my life was on the direction that hers

1368
00:59:34,280 --> 00:59:37,480
Speaker 4: wasn't on, and or maybe she aspired to have that

1369
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 4: and because it wasn't aligning, she made have felt away

1370
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 4: and just tried to remove herself.

1371
00:59:44,360 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 6: Hip.

1372
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:46,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, we've had somebody tell us like, I had to

1373
00:59:46,560 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 5: remove myself from being around y'all because I wasn't happy

1374
00:59:50,120 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 5: in my life you're talking about. Yeah, I didn't want

1375
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 5: to bring the unhappiness to y'all. So she literally removed herself.

1376
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:59,240
Speaker 5: This ain't the friend, this is somebody else. Removed herself

1377
00:59:59,280 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 5: from us completely, stop texting talking.

1378
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:04,400
Speaker 1: We had adventures stuf together. She just didn't show up right,

1379
01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 1: and we was like what happened?

1380
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:07,160
Speaker 5: And she was just like, I wasn't happy what my

1381
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 5: life was and I found myself not being able to

1382
01:00:09,280 --> 01:00:11,880
Speaker 5: be happy for y'all, So I just removed myself.

1383
01:00:11,640 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 2: Right, which we kind of respected. But then you know

1384
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 2: what I'm saying.

1385
01:00:16,160 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 4: But yeah, so this other friendship of mine, like for

1386
01:00:18,120 --> 01:00:19,960
Speaker 4: a long time, I struggled with it because I was like, man,

1387
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 4: like we were such good friends for so long, and

1388
01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 4: then all of a sudden, it's just like you're just

1389
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:25,560
Speaker 4: you just remove yourself.

1390
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 2: And then I came to realize that it's not it

1391
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:28,160
Speaker 2: wasn't just me.

1392
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:30,560
Speaker 4: It was like other friends and other family members that

1393
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 4: she withheld herself from or started to draw back from.

1394
01:00:33,720 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 2: That's when I felt like, Okay, at least I know

1395
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 2: it wasn't me.

1396
01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:36,919
Speaker 1: People go through things.

1397
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:39,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, people go through stuff, and that's okay, And I

1398
01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 4: kind of rather you. I know that you have you

1399
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:43,640
Speaker 4: feel some kind of way versus being like that wolf

1400
01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 4: and she closed around.

1401
01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,680
Speaker 1: Let me know who the ops are, let me know. Yeah, yeah,

1402
01:00:48,680 --> 01:00:49,280
Speaker 1: I feel it.

1403
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:50,479
Speaker 2: For that for sure.

1404
01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:51,240
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1405
01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:55,720
Speaker 3: I think for me, I lose friends because they're punks.

1406
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. You can't say nothing to them,

1407
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:02,520
Speaker 3: you know, and they'd be like, you're a bully man.

1408
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:09,760
Speaker 3: I'm not honest exactly. And I am the youngest child,

1409
01:01:09,880 --> 01:01:11,720
Speaker 3: so I did have to learn how to like buck

1410
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 3: up on people. I'm very naturally just very sensitive, and

1411
01:01:16,400 --> 01:01:20,920
Speaker 3: so sometimes I be bucking on people that I'm close to,

1412
01:01:21,720 --> 01:01:24,280
Speaker 3: you know, like my friend, my best friend from college

1413
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:27,800
Speaker 3: has lived in Columbus her whole life and She used

1414
01:01:27,800 --> 01:01:30,800
Speaker 3: to get lost when we were driving places. She used

1415
01:01:30,800 --> 01:01:33,600
Speaker 3: to get lost, and I used to dull off on her.

1416
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 3: I don't think she's dumb at all, but I used

1417
01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:37,240
Speaker 3: to be like, what why are you lost? Like this

1418
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,520
Speaker 3: makes no sense? Now we be late and I would

1419
01:01:39,560 --> 01:01:40,919
Speaker 3: just be going off, and she's one of the people

1420
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 3: that just be like, were so dumb? Like shut up? Yeah,

1421
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:47,840
Speaker 3: that's her favorite. That's her favorite thing to say, dumb ass.

1422
01:01:48,520 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 3: She calls everybody she'd be lost to call you a

1423
01:01:50,680 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 3: dumb exactly exactly, But that's what it is for me,

1424
01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:59,040
Speaker 3: Like yeah, so, but I don't know, I haven't had

1425
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:01,920
Speaker 3: that many friendship fall all else because I'm amazing, like

1426
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:03,120
Speaker 3: so clearly.

1427
01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:05,400
Speaker 1: Because you hear the triple.

1428
01:02:06,800 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 2: No more, no more.

1429
01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:12,200
Speaker 5: Matter of fact, Yes, as of earlier today, she's fully shaved,

1430
01:02:12,480 --> 01:02:16,040
Speaker 5: ball smooth everywhere.

1431
01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 4: We're talking about he legs, y'all, her legs.

1432
01:02:18,600 --> 01:02:23,120
Speaker 1: Everywhere. Down me down, let me see Josh.

1433
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:26,400
Speaker 8: I know Josh has lost some friends, not that many

1434
01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:31,440
Speaker 8: he knows of, Yeah, probably they don't. They don't matter though.

1435
01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 8: The ones that tell me that I lost there the

1436
01:02:33,320 --> 01:02:36,440
Speaker 8: ones that matter. The only friends that I've lost, our

1437
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:44,360
Speaker 8: friends that I don't do nothing for you know, And

1438
01:02:44,400 --> 01:02:47,160
Speaker 8: the answer they weren't friends anyway. If you got to

1439
01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:49,640
Speaker 8: do something for them, You're like, Yo, why are you

1440
01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:52,080
Speaker 8: taking somebody else pics? Why you ain't take mine?

1441
01:02:52,160 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 6: Like seriously, are you serious? That serious your job?

1442
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:59,160
Speaker 3: Like or like or like the friends in my city?

1443
01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:02,160
Speaker 6: And you wouldn't hit me. Yeah, but knowing I only

1444
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:03,200
Speaker 6: come to your city if I'm going.

1445
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:03,960
Speaker 1: To go to work.

1446
01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:06,680
Speaker 4: You know what they should You should tell them, Josh,

1447
01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:13,640
Speaker 4: my name is Abraham because I'm not Lincoln. That's what

1448
01:03:13,720 --> 01:03:16,160
Speaker 4: I tell people when they say in Atlanta, well call

1449
01:03:16,280 --> 01:03:17,400
Speaker 4: me Abraham baby.

1450
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 6: I hope that's an over forty joke.

1451
01:03:21,080 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: That is an over forty joke.

1452
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:23,760
Speaker 3: I can love that.

1453
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:28,040
Speaker 1: Abraham because I'm not a Lincoln. That's not on the

1454
01:03:28,640 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 1: get it.

1455
01:03:28,920 --> 01:03:32,240
Speaker 6: At first, I was like, where's the punch one? Everybody?

1456
01:03:32,560 --> 01:03:34,120
Speaker 3: It was a it was a thinker.

1457
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 4: It was a thinker.

1458
01:03:35,160 --> 01:03:35,520
Speaker 9: I got it.

1459
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:37,000
Speaker 1: I got it. It was terrible.

1460
01:03:38,720 --> 01:03:40,520
Speaker 4: All right, let's look up with these bills, y'all. Well,

1461
01:03:40,560 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 4: take a quick break, and we're gonna come back after

1462
01:03:42,920 --> 01:04:00,120
Speaker 4: these messages. All right, we're back for listening letters. I'm

1463
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 4: gonna go ahead and dive in. I guess i'll write

1464
01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:05,960
Speaker 4: it okay cool? Hello Davalan Kadein. First off, let me

1465
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:08,680
Speaker 4: just say, y'all are goals. Your content is fire. I'm

1466
01:04:08,720 --> 01:04:10,360
Speaker 4: out here taking notes every time.

1467
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:11,200
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1468
01:04:11,760 --> 01:04:14,360
Speaker 4: Now, let me get into this because my love life

1469
01:04:14,400 --> 01:04:16,960
Speaker 4: feels like an episode of love and hip hop mixed

1470
01:04:17,000 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 4: with cops. Let me put on my seatbelt. Here's the tea.

1471
01:04:20,880 --> 01:04:23,720
Speaker 4: I'm thirty, and the stunning woman I've been talking to,

1472
01:04:23,960 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 4: also thirty for three years has me on cloud nine.

1473
01:04:28,040 --> 01:04:31,480
Speaker 4: What started as friends with benefit situation has blossomed into

1474
01:04:31,560 --> 01:04:35,680
Speaker 4: a full on butterflies, hard eyes and dreams of matching

1475
01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:39,920
Speaker 4: pajamas during the holidays. She sets my soul on fire.

1476
01:04:40,400 --> 01:04:43,440
Speaker 4: I'm talking milk like butter in the sun type levels.

1477
01:04:44,120 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 4: But of course life won't let me be create great

1478
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 4: because there's one problem. Her ex, this man refuses to

1479
01:04:50,800 --> 01:04:54,880
Speaker 4: move on like a bad Netflix series that keeps getting renewed.

1480
01:04:55,320 --> 01:04:58,520
Speaker 4: He calls her NonStop, shows up unannounced like he's delivering

1481
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:02,400
Speaker 4: Amazon packages, and thanks, living four blocks away gives him

1482
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:04,040
Speaker 4: VIP access to her life.

1483
01:05:05,240 --> 01:05:05,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy.

1484
01:05:07,040 --> 01:05:09,280
Speaker 4: I've even answered her phone a couple of times, and

1485
01:05:09,440 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 4: let's just say his energy screams I peaked in high

1486
01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:16,280
Speaker 4: school the funniest part. Every time he sees me, he

1487
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 4: turns into road runner and sprints off. I'm over here, like, bro,

1488
01:05:20,160 --> 01:05:22,080
Speaker 4: what are we doing? Let me be clear.

1489
01:05:22,960 --> 01:05:23,680
Speaker 2: I love this woman.

1490
01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:25,960
Speaker 4: She got me writing poetry in my head and considering

1491
01:05:26,040 --> 01:05:28,400
Speaker 4: singing Usher songs in the rain. But this ex is

1492
01:05:28,480 --> 01:05:31,800
Speaker 4: testing my patience and my ability to stay out of jail.

1493
01:05:32,200 --> 01:05:34,960
Speaker 4: So here's where I need your wisdom. One, do I

1494
01:05:35,080 --> 01:05:37,520
Speaker 4: respectfully tell this man to let go and ride off

1495
01:05:37,560 --> 01:05:42,760
Speaker 4: into the sunset. Two go full wwe SmackDown and handle

1496
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:47,000
Speaker 4: quote unquote it the hard way. Three keep calm, let

1497
01:05:47,080 --> 01:05:49,040
Speaker 4: love do its thing, and just trust that this mess

1498
01:05:49,120 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 4: will blow over. I don't want to lose her, but

1499
01:05:51,400 --> 01:05:53,360
Speaker 4: also don't want to be the dude who lets an

1500
01:05:53,400 --> 01:05:57,360
Speaker 4: ex derail something special. Y'all are the real MVPs when

1501
01:05:57,560 --> 01:05:59,680
Speaker 4: it comes to love advice. Some I'm all ears, help

1502
01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 4: a brother out before I turn into the next style

1503
01:06:01,880 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 4: of Perry movie. Respectfully but barely holding it together. It's

1504
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 4: given number two babies, this is my thing.

1505
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:14,280
Speaker 5: You remember when dudes was damn and it wasn't even

1506
01:06:14,360 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 5: damn at the it was, And what I kind of

1507
01:06:18,560 --> 01:06:20,280
Speaker 5: I say, Yo, this is not kadeen, No more.

1508
01:06:20,320 --> 01:06:22,880
Speaker 1: This is the vow I live here, pull up, we

1509
01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:24,120
Speaker 1: can handle this. Remember that.

1510
01:06:24,360 --> 01:06:27,280
Speaker 5: Remember that, Remember that there was no more conversation that

1511
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:30,640
Speaker 5: I said, pull up, pull up, and we can handle that.

1512
01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:33,400
Speaker 1: And that was the end all of those messages. And

1513
01:06:33,480 --> 01:06:35,120
Speaker 1: I will say this, right, most.

1514
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:37,640
Speaker 5: People will be like, no, Deval is her responsibility as

1515
01:06:37,680 --> 01:06:40,240
Speaker 5: a woman to tell that man, no, it's not. Once

1516
01:06:40,400 --> 01:06:43,800
Speaker 5: she's told him that she's moved on. She said her

1517
01:06:43,880 --> 01:06:46,320
Speaker 5: last thing she needed to say. I say this all

1518
01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:49,680
Speaker 5: the time, right, it's a man's man's responsibility to protect

1519
01:06:49,720 --> 01:06:51,960
Speaker 5: and provide. If this dude is showing up to her

1520
01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:54,520
Speaker 5: place of residence or their place of residence, that is

1521
01:06:54,800 --> 01:06:55,720
Speaker 5: a fear factor.

1522
01:06:56,280 --> 01:07:00,120
Speaker 1: That's something that's not appropriate. That's weird. So dude, show us.

1523
01:07:00,080 --> 01:07:01,720
Speaker 5: To this doorstep again, and it's going to have to

1524
01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 5: be dealt with in a way that's going to make

1525
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:06,440
Speaker 5: my girl and myself feel safe. If you can't allow

1526
01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:08,560
Speaker 5: us a chance to feel safety, then I got to

1527
01:07:08,600 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 5: deal with it my way. That's that's how I would

1528
01:07:10,760 --> 01:07:12,440
Speaker 5: deal with it. And it's not about threatening, but it's

1529
01:07:12,520 --> 01:07:16,040
Speaker 5: letting him understand, like, it's not acceptable to show up

1530
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:17,000
Speaker 5: to somebody's doorstep.

1531
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:19,280
Speaker 4: Bro, that's not cool, and he said every time he

1532
01:07:19,360 --> 01:07:21,640
Speaker 4: sees him, he like runs away, like what are you

1533
01:07:21,680 --> 01:07:22,560
Speaker 4: playing some kind of game?

1534
01:07:22,880 --> 01:07:23,640
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.

1535
01:07:24,640 --> 01:07:27,640
Speaker 4: You guys are grown what it is like.

1536
01:07:28,480 --> 01:07:30,800
Speaker 1: And the thing is with with our situation.

1537
01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:33,200
Speaker 5: We was in our twenties, and I didn't even try

1538
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 5: to do that to be a tough guy, but it

1539
01:07:35,040 --> 01:07:37,320
Speaker 5: was to let them know, like I'm serious about this woman.

1540
01:07:37,440 --> 01:07:39,560
Speaker 5: And the minute I let them know that I was serious,

1541
01:07:40,040 --> 01:07:40,840
Speaker 5: that's when they stopped.

1542
01:07:40,960 --> 01:07:44,400
Speaker 4: Because you're right, because I did say things were very serious,

1543
01:07:44,720 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 4: that it wasn't gonna go anywhere or whatever, and you know,

1544
01:07:48,040 --> 01:07:48,880
Speaker 4: people want to try.

1545
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:51,280
Speaker 5: Sometimes it takes to like, yo, you know where she lived, Well,

1546
01:07:51,320 --> 01:07:53,480
Speaker 5: I'm here, pull up. We can have a conversation if

1547
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:56,240
Speaker 5: you want, right and then it was no more back

1548
01:07:56,280 --> 01:07:59,400
Speaker 5: and forth. But sometimes it's like then she got somebody

1549
01:07:59,400 --> 01:08:01,840
Speaker 5: who was serious, not even like I want to fight him,

1550
01:08:01,840 --> 01:08:04,040
Speaker 5: but it's like, damn, she really do got somebody serious.

1551
01:08:04,480 --> 01:08:05,479
Speaker 1: Because I'm not gonna lie.

1552
01:08:06,240 --> 01:08:08,840
Speaker 5: Say we get divorced. Who's gonna stop me from popping

1553
01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:13,560
Speaker 5: up at the house. I'm just being honest. Nobody start

1554
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:18,759
Speaker 5: like you nobo, you here still, And it's what's today Thursday,

1555
01:08:19,080 --> 01:08:21,200
Speaker 5: I'll be there six o'clock. What you make it for dinner? Okay,

1556
01:08:22,800 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 5: I got a new boyfriend, and I know that I

1557
01:08:25,240 --> 01:08:26,280
Speaker 5: asked what you make it for dinner?

1558
01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:29,280
Speaker 4: Well, as you saw on the clip, we not never

1559
01:08:29,360 --> 01:08:31,680
Speaker 4: gonna be together, right because y'all saw the clip, we

1560
01:08:31,760 --> 01:08:34,080
Speaker 4: had to run back from that live show, so that

1561
01:08:34,280 --> 01:08:37,600
Speaker 4: speaking about that is just like whatever. But if we're talking.

1562
01:08:37,439 --> 01:08:39,320
Speaker 1: Hypothetically, nobody stopping me.

1563
01:08:39,560 --> 01:08:42,760
Speaker 5: Now, if the dude says, listen, bro, like you want

1564
01:08:42,800 --> 01:08:46,880
Speaker 5: Gadeena no longer together and I'm looking to get married

1565
01:08:46,920 --> 01:08:48,439
Speaker 5: and this is where i want to take my future

1566
01:08:48,439 --> 01:08:51,080
Speaker 5: of my life, I will respect that because if we're

1567
01:08:51,080 --> 01:08:52,680
Speaker 5: not together, there has to be a reason why we're

1568
01:08:52,760 --> 01:08:55,360
Speaker 5: not together. So if we agree to not be together

1569
01:08:55,479 --> 01:08:57,840
Speaker 5: and someone else is taking on that responsibility as a

1570
01:08:57,920 --> 01:09:01,439
Speaker 5: mature man, an emotionally her man, I'm gonna be like,

1571
01:09:01,479 --> 01:09:02,200
Speaker 5: you know what you got it?

1572
01:09:02,880 --> 01:09:05,920
Speaker 1: Touch my kids and you fucking die. That's what I would.

1573
01:09:06,040 --> 01:09:08,040
Speaker 2: You'd be happy to hand over the American Express?

1574
01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:10,800
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I would definitely give him the bill. Oh

1575
01:09:10,880 --> 01:09:13,320
Speaker 5: you said you got k you got all the KYD?

1576
01:09:13,760 --> 01:09:16,160
Speaker 1: He take this too. That's that's my perspective on it.

1577
01:09:16,280 --> 01:09:18,519
Speaker 2: So I love it all right, Well hope you'll hope

1578
01:09:18,560 --> 01:09:19,240
Speaker 2: y'all figure it out.

1579
01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:20,800
Speaker 4: Bro circle back with us and let us know. If

1580
01:09:20,840 --> 01:09:23,000
Speaker 4: you had to press Homie, you know what I'm saying,

1581
01:09:23,040 --> 01:09:24,640
Speaker 4: if you had to tell Homie pull up so we

1582
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:27,280
Speaker 4: can have a man to man conversation. I would love

1583
01:09:27,320 --> 01:09:27,559
Speaker 4: to know.

1584
01:09:27,800 --> 01:09:29,880
Speaker 1: If you need back up. Josh said. He willing to

1585
01:09:29,920 --> 01:09:32,320
Speaker 1: go wherever you live if you need back up. He goes.

1586
01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:36,760
Speaker 1: Josh said, let him know you got matter of fact,

1587
01:09:36,760 --> 01:09:43,240
Speaker 1: his number is three. I ain't helping you.

1588
01:09:43,479 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 6: I don't know you. Good luck though, good luck though.

1589
01:09:48,520 --> 01:09:50,559
Speaker 4: Come on, because he's talking about melt melt, a light

1590
01:09:50,640 --> 01:09:52,120
Speaker 4: butter on a baked potato and whatnot.

1591
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:55,160
Speaker 1: Put something on him. She puts something on him. That's

1592
01:09:55,160 --> 01:09:57,760
Speaker 1: why that man is still outside that whatever you.

1593
01:10:00,120 --> 01:10:03,759
Speaker 4: Congratulations, that means like the poo Nani is ninety Okay,

1594
01:10:04,160 --> 01:10:10,439
Speaker 4: clearly I love that you need help, So you want

1595
01:10:10,439 --> 01:10:11,679
Speaker 4: to be featured as a listener, y'all.

1596
01:10:11,720 --> 01:10:15,320
Speaker 2: We have a new email address. Okay, it's the ls

1597
01:10:15,439 --> 01:10:17,439
Speaker 2: advice at gmail dot com.

1598
01:10:17,600 --> 01:10:19,960
Speaker 1: That's t h E E L L I S A

1599
01:10:20,160 --> 01:10:22,639
Speaker 1: d V I c E at Gmail.

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01:10:23,720 --> 01:10:25,360
Speaker 4: He was smooth with that for the first time.

1601
01:10:27,520 --> 01:10:30,160
Speaker 5: Smooth because the movie is that dress you got on,

1602
01:10:30,720 --> 01:10:33,080
Speaker 5: you like, it's a little Maxi looking we got buttons.

1603
01:10:33,120 --> 01:10:34,800
Speaker 5: I never seen a Maxi dress buttons.

1604
01:10:34,520 --> 01:10:38,080
Speaker 2: And doing a little something, doing doing a little something.

1605
01:10:38,240 --> 01:10:41,320
Speaker 5: You know, we're still here, you know, my bad Matt,

1606
01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:43,400
Speaker 5: Matt here, Matt be here all the time.

1607
01:10:43,479 --> 01:10:48,519
Speaker 1: I walked close to her and I'd be like, I'm

1608
01:10:48,560 --> 01:10:51,400
Speaker 1: all like, bro, I'm just gonna touch a little booty.

1609
01:10:51,439 --> 01:10:53,400
Speaker 1: I guess there's a little body man Like, now I'm

1610
01:10:53,400 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 1: gonna touch my white body.

1611
01:10:54,520 --> 01:10:57,880
Speaker 2: Now that part, Hey, when you got one, you get

1612
01:10:57,920 --> 01:10:58,960
Speaker 2: it all right, y'all.

1613
01:10:59,000 --> 01:11:01,920
Speaker 4: Moment of truth time. So we were talking about friendships,

1614
01:11:02,320 --> 01:11:04,600
Speaker 4: which I think initially started as friendships over forty but

1615
01:11:04,680 --> 01:11:07,679
Speaker 4: seen as though you guys aren't technically in your forties

1616
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:10,759
Speaker 4: zone you're approaching or whatever, you can talk about friendships

1617
01:11:10,760 --> 01:11:13,560
Speaker 4: over time. Yeah, So what would be your moment of

1618
01:11:13,600 --> 01:11:15,000
Speaker 4: truth when it comes to those friendships?

1619
01:11:15,560 --> 01:11:19,479
Speaker 1: Give people grace? Friendships aren't lifelong sentences.

1620
01:11:20,280 --> 01:11:22,680
Speaker 5: If you've outgrown someone or someone else has outgrown you,

1621
01:11:22,760 --> 01:11:24,080
Speaker 5: it's okay to be like, you know what, We're not

1622
01:11:24,160 --> 01:11:26,720
Speaker 5: in the same alignment right now, So let me get

1623
01:11:26,760 --> 01:11:28,800
Speaker 5: focused on myself and if I meet someone else along

1624
01:11:28,840 --> 01:11:30,599
Speaker 5: the way. That's in alignment. That can be a friend

1625
01:11:30,640 --> 01:11:31,799
Speaker 5: in this part of my life.

1626
01:11:31,640 --> 01:11:32,080
Speaker 1: That's cool.

1627
01:11:32,520 --> 01:11:35,200
Speaker 5: But holding on to friends and being upset because friends

1628
01:11:35,240 --> 01:11:38,080
Speaker 5: have changed and stuff, and that's just middle school stuff.

1629
01:11:38,120 --> 01:11:40,559
Speaker 5: You see that in time between eleven and thirteen, people

1630
01:11:40,640 --> 01:11:44,880
Speaker 5: be real protective over friends. But nah, man, let people grow,

1631
01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:47,360
Speaker 5: grow yourself and then try to be better every day.

1632
01:11:47,960 --> 01:11:48,360
Speaker 3: I like that.

1633
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:52,160
Speaker 4: I think for me, I'm taking an introspective look at

1634
01:11:52,640 --> 01:11:55,519
Speaker 4: being a friend, right, And I guess my moment of

1635
01:11:55,560 --> 01:11:58,760
Speaker 4: truth would be kind of understand where you may be

1636
01:11:58,920 --> 01:12:01,559
Speaker 4: of value as a friend but also have shortcomings, right.

1637
01:12:01,920 --> 01:12:03,840
Speaker 4: I think a lot of times when friendships fall apart

1638
01:12:04,000 --> 01:12:06,160
Speaker 4: or people move on, you're very quick to say, well,

1639
01:12:06,240 --> 01:12:08,600
Speaker 4: this person didn't do that, and that friend didn't do that,

1640
01:12:08,800 --> 01:12:11,080
Speaker 4: and because you didn't call me last and because I

1641
01:12:11,200 --> 01:12:14,519
Speaker 4: planned the last you know, friend outing or whatever it is.

1642
01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:17,120
Speaker 4: We tend to look at why the other person might

1643
01:12:17,200 --> 01:12:20,400
Speaker 4: have faltered in the relationship and not realize like, maybe

1644
01:12:20,439 --> 01:12:24,960
Speaker 4: I played a part in this friendship no longer being

1645
01:12:25,439 --> 01:12:28,040
Speaker 4: what it used to be, and then realizing okay, maybe

1646
01:12:28,120 --> 01:12:30,360
Speaker 4: that's okay, or maybe I do owe this person some

1647
01:12:30,479 --> 01:12:33,519
Speaker 4: sort of apology or explanation or at least some kind

1648
01:12:33,520 --> 01:12:38,040
Speaker 4: of closure, because I think closure doesn't always manifest itself

1649
01:12:38,240 --> 01:12:41,160
Speaker 4: as a need within romantic relationships, but it can also

1650
01:12:41,200 --> 01:12:43,120
Speaker 4: be within friendship. Sometimes you want to say, you know what,

1651
01:12:43,640 --> 01:12:45,639
Speaker 4: this friendship is no longer serving me in this capacity.

1652
01:12:45,680 --> 01:12:47,839
Speaker 4: I'm in a different place in life. I have different goals,

1653
01:12:47,920 --> 01:12:50,680
Speaker 4: my interests are different, and that's okay. I wish you well,

1654
01:12:51,360 --> 01:12:52,920
Speaker 4: you know, and you can move on. Agree with that

1655
01:12:53,560 --> 01:12:54,679
Speaker 4: woman of truth, guys.

1656
01:12:56,000 --> 01:13:00,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, my moment of truth is everybody needs friends, and

1657
01:13:01,320 --> 01:13:03,080
Speaker 3: except me, I don't need no more friends.

1658
01:13:03,640 --> 01:13:05,760
Speaker 2: You patience, I need.

1659
01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:09,200
Speaker 7: A wife, friends want everybody.

1660
01:13:10,280 --> 01:13:18,320
Speaker 3: I'm so so tired, I'm so so I'm tired of

1661
01:13:18,400 --> 01:13:19,200
Speaker 3: my own company.

1662
01:13:19,520 --> 01:13:21,720
Speaker 6: This is not a dating pot, Yes it is.

1663
01:13:23,760 --> 01:13:26,280
Speaker 3: That's the only reason I agreed to get on camera.

1664
01:13:26,880 --> 01:13:29,360
Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, this is a good this is better

1665
01:13:29,439 --> 01:13:30,439
Speaker 3: than tender right here.

1666
01:13:31,840 --> 01:13:35,519
Speaker 4: Keep histro and you guys just know that we did

1667
01:13:35,600 --> 01:13:37,320
Speaker 4: a couple of episodes in one day. That's why Triple

1668
01:13:37,439 --> 01:13:39,639
Speaker 4: is wearing the same outfit. She doesn't love this outfit

1669
01:13:39,800 --> 01:13:43,559
Speaker 4: so much. Again, you know what I'm saying.

1670
01:13:46,120 --> 01:13:49,559
Speaker 8: Yeah, she has some real friends told her to change

1671
01:13:49,560 --> 01:13:50,960
Speaker 8: your clothes, but she ain't got no friends.

1672
01:13:51,160 --> 01:13:52,800
Speaker 3: I don't have a wife at home. I gotta do

1673
01:13:52,880 --> 01:13:53,759
Speaker 3: everything myself.

1674
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:58,000
Speaker 4: Wife would have remembered, you're shooting three athletes today.

1675
01:13:58,080 --> 01:14:00,120
Speaker 3: Exactly, she said. She would have said, hey, why you

1676
01:14:00,200 --> 01:14:02,400
Speaker 3: got these other three shirts hanging up? Do you need

1677
01:14:02,520 --> 01:14:06,040
Speaker 3: to take them with you? And I would have been like, yeah, thanks.

1678
01:14:06,479 --> 01:14:09,320
Speaker 1: I need you guys to stop reducing wifehood to pack

1679
01:14:09,360 --> 01:14:12,960
Speaker 1: in your laundry. Okay, enough is enough? All right, women

1680
01:14:13,040 --> 01:14:16,439
Speaker 1: have done way more to be reduced to pack and laundry.

1681
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:17,479
Speaker 1: I'm not accepting.

1682
01:14:17,600 --> 01:14:20,679
Speaker 3: I've been with enough you organized women to know that's

1683
01:14:21,080 --> 01:14:24,280
Speaker 3: not true. You know a lot of these women, they

1684
01:14:24,640 --> 01:14:27,599
Speaker 3: out here living foul. I don't want, y'all.

1685
01:14:28,200 --> 01:14:28,680
Speaker 4: I don't want.

1686
01:14:29,160 --> 01:14:29,759
Speaker 3: I don't want.

1687
01:14:31,680 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 1: Anyway.

1688
01:14:32,160 --> 01:14:33,320
Speaker 3: That's my moment in truth.

1689
01:14:33,680 --> 01:14:38,520
Speaker 8: It my moment of truth is friendships are like flowers.

1690
01:14:38,880 --> 01:14:42,960
Speaker 8: Some blossom in season and some don't. Well, you find

1691
01:14:42,960 --> 01:14:47,479
Speaker 8: a good friendship, make sure you nurture it. Come on,

1692
01:14:48,720 --> 01:14:52,880
Speaker 8: I have some really good friends. Matt is a really

1693
01:14:52,960 --> 01:14:59,320
Speaker 8: good friend, and I try it. I see in Brooklyn anyway.

1694
01:15:00,240 --> 01:15:02,240
Speaker 1: That is a fact you're not going to see.

1695
01:15:03,080 --> 01:15:05,639
Speaker 8: But if you need, if you need to call Matt.

1696
01:15:05,720 --> 01:15:07,559
Speaker 8: And you were standing island and you blew to your

1697
01:15:07,600 --> 01:15:09,720
Speaker 8: tires out and you got to tow your card. Say

1698
01:15:10,920 --> 01:15:13,479
Speaker 8: at one o'clock in the morning, he got in the morning,

1699
01:15:13,520 --> 01:15:15,400
Speaker 8: two o'clock in the morning, he got drift from Brooklyn

1700
01:15:15,520 --> 01:15:18,560
Speaker 8: to damned New Jersey is going to do it. So

1701
01:15:18,720 --> 01:15:22,439
Speaker 8: once you have a good friend, please don't take advantage

1702
01:15:22,439 --> 01:15:24,160
Speaker 8: of that friendship and nurture that friendship.

1703
01:15:24,680 --> 01:15:26,320
Speaker 2: Oh, you guys are having a moment over there.

1704
01:15:26,360 --> 01:15:27,800
Speaker 1: I love that we're not having a moment.

1705
01:15:27,840 --> 01:15:28,960
Speaker 6: I'm talking to the people.

1706
01:15:29,080 --> 01:15:29,920
Speaker 7: Was his moment of truth?

1707
01:15:30,120 --> 01:15:32,360
Speaker 6: Is the moment of truth, But it ain't a moment

1708
01:15:32,439 --> 01:15:32,960
Speaker 6: between us.

1709
01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:36,040
Speaker 5: I'm glad Josh knows that because if Josh ever called

1710
01:15:36,080 --> 01:15:41,519
Speaker 5: me to in the morning, it'd be like this, And

1711
01:15:41,560 --> 01:15:42,360
Speaker 5: I'll be honest with you.

1712
01:15:43,000 --> 01:15:44,800
Speaker 6: If I called you and I said, Bro, I need you,

1713
01:15:45,000 --> 01:15:45,720
Speaker 6: I know you'll be there.

1714
01:15:45,760 --> 01:15:48,439
Speaker 1: So you already know that. Bro, if you called me

1715
01:15:48,520 --> 01:15:50,360
Speaker 1: to in the morning, I would know that this emergency

1716
01:15:50,360 --> 01:15:52,040
Speaker 1: and I'd be like, you're with the the second.

1717
01:15:53,960 --> 01:15:55,320
Speaker 7: Second call, second ring or the first.

1718
01:15:55,600 --> 01:15:57,840
Speaker 5: This is my honest truth, Bro, When people in the morning,

1719
01:15:58,320 --> 01:16:01,160
Speaker 5: I always know it must be something and that I'm always.

1720
01:16:00,880 --> 01:16:02,120
Speaker 7: Picking especially at that time of night.

1721
01:16:02,320 --> 01:16:04,799
Speaker 3: Yes, I want to be like, who did.

1722
01:16:06,479 --> 01:16:07,760
Speaker 1: That's exactly how I feel that.

1723
01:16:09,439 --> 01:16:11,240
Speaker 2: I understand. I understand.

1724
01:16:11,960 --> 01:16:15,280
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, mine was CHURCHI your friendships that you

1725
01:16:15,400 --> 01:16:18,840
Speaker 7: do have the ones you value, charge them, put put

1726
01:16:18,880 --> 01:16:20,960
Speaker 7: you all into them, value, value those people.

1727
01:16:21,760 --> 01:16:22,000
Speaker 1: I like.

1728
01:16:22,120 --> 01:16:25,519
Speaker 7: Also like what you said give people grace, like friendships

1729
01:16:25,560 --> 01:16:30,400
Speaker 7: are not forever. People grow apart. Some friendships are for

1730
01:16:30,479 --> 01:16:32,400
Speaker 7: a season, some some or not.

1731
01:16:32,960 --> 01:16:36,280
Speaker 2: It'll end yea and life be life and sometimes y'all.

1732
01:16:58,680 --> 01:16:59,760
Speaker 4: The exhil.

1733
01:17:02,360 --> 01:17:03,080
Speaker 6: Oh, my god.

1734
01:17:20,920 --> 01:17:23,120
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1735
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Speaker 2: We're gonna keep the dead ass if you still keep

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Speaker 3: God. Ellis ever After is an iHeartMedia podcast. It's hosted

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Speaker 3: by Kadeen and Deval Ellis. It's produced by Triple Video,

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Speaker 3: Production by Joshua Duane and Matthew Ellis, video editing by

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