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Speaker 1: Hey, welcome back to Golden Hour from Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 2: Thanks so much for joining us today.

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Speaker 1: Kathy and I are actually together in the studio and

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Speaker 2: We look forwarding for you guys. Butt Today we're going

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Speaker 2: to get into some of your questions. But first, Susan,

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Speaker 2: we have got to talk about last night's episode of

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Speaker 2: the Goldenbout Tredda and I'm willing to go first if

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Speaker 2: you don't want to, no.

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Speaker 1: I think it was difficult and I fear that people

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Speaker 1: all felt the sadness. I mean, it was beautiful about

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Speaker 1: the cancer and the knowledge of them raising money for it.

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Speaker 1: But to watch a show that you want to be

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Speaker 1: hopeful that somebody's going to find love and feel good.

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Speaker 1: I was a little down last night. It was hard

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean the positives, the guys doing the strip teas,

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Speaker 2: I mean, that was it. That was funny, but it

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Speaker 2: was at the moment they put themselves out there were

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Speaker 2: but I and you, we love for those of you

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Speaker 2: out there. We are good friends with Joan. We love Joan.

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Speaker 2: We think she's doing a great job. But here's the

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Speaker 2: thing for us, and for me, I should speak for me.

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Speaker 2: The show is about love and hope and the next

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Speaker 2: chapter being the best chapter and just the joy and

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Speaker 2: we can find from watching exactly. And to me, Susan

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Speaker 2: and I were watching this last night together because we

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Speaker 2: are in l A. And we were I almost started crying,

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Speaker 2: like I felt holt. Yes, it did. And I think

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Speaker 2: that this show is about hope and love and this

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Speaker 2: was so much looking backwards of and and I know

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Speaker 2: Joan misses our husband, and we know that you can't

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Speaker 2: I can't replace my husband, you know, Joan can't replace

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Speaker 2: hers and Chock's mom and that was a real moment.

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Speaker 2: But the thing is there just seemed to be so

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Speaker 2: much focused last night on loss. So let's pick it up.

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Speaker 2: Let's pick it up from there, right, Let's pick it

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Speaker 2: up and move on. I will tell you. One of

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Speaker 2: the moments I loved though, was those guys coming out

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Speaker 2: to sig the best was the best part of the

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Speaker 2: all show I wish we got to do. That was

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Speaker 2: the camaraderie, the love those men feel for each other.

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Speaker 2: That that was a special mind.

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Speaker 1: But my hats off to the guys doing the strip tease.

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Speaker 1: I know how uncomfortable and hard, but they rocked that.

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Speaker 1: They did so so well. I mean they really put

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Speaker 1: themselves out there, and kudos to you. And that's another

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Speaker 1: thing that I think this show is getting us to

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Speaker 1: live outside of our comfort yes, and doing crazy things

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Speaker 2: Wait, can I just say, back on the strip teas

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Speaker 2: Jonathan who said, never done it, You've got a future

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Speaker 2: if everything else doesn't work out for you, you have

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Speaker 2: got a future as a as a chip and down.

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Speaker 1: And may I say, did Chuck know he was going

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Speaker 1: to get the tuxedo because he, oh, look so handsome?

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Speaker 1: He has a great buye. I mean, most of those

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Speaker 1: And then Mark saying I loved it was so hard felt.

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Speaker 1: Mark said, you know, the hope, the love will always

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Speaker 1: be there for her, but he has room for more.

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Speaker 1: But he's open, he's ready. I think that's why he's

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Speaker 1: on this show. And Joan has struggled a couple of

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Speaker 2: Was that, And yeah, I just I really wanted I

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Speaker 2: want to uplift. I want to uplift. I want to

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Speaker 2: give people hope because you know what, life is good

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Speaker 2: and there is so much to be grateful for and

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Speaker 1: And and I know this journey's hard for Joan number

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Speaker 1: and these men are not replacing their their deceased wives

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Speaker 2: I just thought of another one that I loved. At

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Speaker 2: the before the Rose ceremony. Do you remember when Joan

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Speaker 2: you and finding love, and that's the kind of hope.

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Speaker 2: That's what we want more. We want to see way

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Speaker 1: It's and I love that they acknowledge everybody's loss. But

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Speaker 2: I just think that the premise, at least for our

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Speaker 2: show was all about finding happiness, finding love, finding friendships,

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Speaker 2: looking forward, not backward. So I hope that I know Joan,

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Speaker 2: it was hard for her. It was hard, but it

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Speaker 2: wait till next week. I was just going to say,

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Speaker 2: I can't wait for next week.

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Speaker 1: So today we're back answering more of your question.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, Susan, We're gonna do the question of the

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Speaker 2: day first. All right, how do you feel about blocking

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Speaker 2: people on social media? Like? Do you think it's rarely necessary?

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Speaker 2: Do you do it often? What does it take for

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Speaker 2: someone you know personally to get blocked? And I have

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Speaker 2: a great story that I just did. I got a

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Speaker 2: direct message. People always say, you know, do you get

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Speaker 2: direct messages? People asking you out. No, I don't. But

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Speaker 2: I had a guy the other day. Ask me, if

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Speaker 2: I'm not kidding, if he paid me it was on TikTok.

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Speaker 2: If he paid me, could I entertain him on the internet?

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Speaker 2: Can I tell you how fast I blocked and reported him? Well,

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm not on those either, but I

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Speaker 2: because you know what happened. They got back to me

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Speaker 2: and they said that he is now restricted from dming anyone.

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Speaker 2: So that's when I block him.

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Speaker 1: Do I think it's rarely necessary. It depends on how

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Speaker 1: often somebody says something out of line or of color.

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Speaker 2: Don't you ignore people sometimes when they send you I

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Speaker 2: do you ignore them? Just ignore them? It has to

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Speaker 1: I think, what does it take for someone you know personally.

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Speaker 2: To get a lot? I've never blocked anyone personally, although

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Speaker 2: we've been blocked my people, we've been blocked. Why I'm

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Speaker 2: not can't use names? Oh remember?

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Speaker 1: But you know what, I don't do it that often

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Speaker 1: because most people are really kind.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, most people out there. When you write in your

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Speaker 2: supportive and your kind I think, really, it's just remember

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Speaker 2: that we are real people and people who sit behind

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Speaker 2: you a lot of times, when they say something mean

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Speaker 2: to me, I don't block them. I write back, I

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Speaker 2: really hope you're having a nice day.

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Speaker 1: It hurts my feelings, it hurts.

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Speaker 2: Your feelings, but sadeness with kindness.

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Speaker 1: People say lots of things about me, but I get

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Speaker 1: more positive than I do negative. And you yourself have

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Speaker 1: told me don't read those Yeah, you know, but you'd

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. I think generally, and I know you

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Speaker 2: do too, Susan. I generally believe people are good. And yes,

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Speaker 2: there's some malcontents out there. Every once in a while

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Speaker 2: they're just gonna, you know, throw throw something mean at

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Speaker 2: Usten Apple. Yeah there's I was righting Apple, And you

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Speaker 2: know what, I feel sorry for those people. And we

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Speaker 2: we keep our days bright. You know what.

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Speaker 1: Positivity yep, be kind happy life.

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Speaker 2: That's right, Oh right, we love it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're going to get into some of those band questions.

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Speaker 2: All right, are you right? Go first? All right, all right.

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Speaker 2: H The first one is from anonymous. Hi, Kathy and Susan.

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Speaker 2: I love your podcast and I feel like you guys

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Speaker 2: would have a really good perspective on this. My oldest

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Speaker 2: sister got engaged to her fiance about a month ago. Recently,

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Speaker 2: I told her that we've talked about marriage and I

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Speaker 2: us to do anything wedding related. Until her wedding is over.

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Speaker 2: She's getting married a year and a half from now.

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Speaker 2: I understand not wanting me to get engaged at her wedding,

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Speaker 2: But I would hate for him to propose, have a

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Speaker 2: But I also don't want him to be discouraged about

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Speaker 2: I would hate for a special moment to be tainted

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Speaker 2: by stupid drama that could potentially be avoided. I don't

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Speaker 2: God bless you.

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Speaker 1: She sounds like she's going to be Godzilla, a bridezilla.

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Speaker 2: I think she's already there. So the baby.

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Speaker 1: You know what, you have a great relationship with your boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: and you could share Guess.

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Speaker 2: What she did? You know, guess what she said.

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Speaker 1: Now listen, if you want to propose to me the

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Speaker 1: even thing twice, I'll accept that ring.

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Speaker 2: But this is what's happening. I mean, I love you.

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Speaker 2: Couldn't disagree with you more? Why I don't care. Her

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Speaker 2: to fly to the moon. You know what, if I

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Speaker 2: You never will again. Embrace it. But don't you think

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Speaker 2: What we're saying Claire is, don't do what we did.

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Speaker 1: Be confident that when you get to sixty seven and seventy,

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Speaker 2: All rights, Claire, thanks for writing it. Let us know

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Speaker 2: What do you both think? Can I go off first

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Speaker 2: on this? Sure, Anonymous? I get why you're being anonymous.

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Speaker 2: You need you don't need to see him face to face.

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Speaker 2: and say, I be direct. I find your texts uncomfortable

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Speaker 2: guarantee you, Anonymous, it will cease and desist.

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Speaker 1: Or a couple choices, ignorance, stop responding completely, or really, really,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't make excuses. Stop. Yeah, it needs to stop.

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Speaker 2: And you're you know what, anonymous, You're a strong woman,

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Speaker 2: You're in control. You need to make it stop, and

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Speaker 1: Nip it in the butt, So good luck and nip

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Speaker 2: This is not cool. Now. We've been friends a long

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Speaker 1: Okay, Hi, Kathy and Susan, I really need your help.

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Speaker 2: That is stressful. It is stressful, but maybe deep down

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Speaker 2: We can't figure it out. We can't figure out. I

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Speaker 2: been so long for me. I don't know what the

434
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 2: hell you're talking about. You know what? That is a problem,

435
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 2: and not by choice? May I said? Not by choice?

436
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, hopefully he's satisfying you. And if he's not, that's

437
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:24,680
Speaker 1: a whole new Yeah.

438
00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,879
Speaker 2: I don't think, you know, my women's intuition tells me

439
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 2: this is not uh, this is what is happening.

440
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 1: This is about to get matter.

441
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,960
Speaker 2: But I'm saying I think there might be something else.

442
00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,920
Speaker 2: Just I'm just guessing there might be more.

443
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 1: To the start sex drive at thirty years old.

444
00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 2: Year, I think I think that's right. Okay, So he's

445
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,679
Speaker 2: either a medical or she's thinking the wedding's coming up

446
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 2: and I don't want to get married.

447
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 1: That could be maybe something hidden problems, or like I said,

448
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 1: and for therapist, she's not satisfied, it could be. Or

449
00:23:56,200 --> 00:24:00,560
Speaker 1: perhaps ask yourself this in private, when you look at

450
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:04,239
Speaker 1: another man, do you feel that like you want to?

451
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: You know, somebody that you find very attractive. That'll tell

452
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 1: a lot.

453
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 2: Well, yes and no. I mean the old You can

454
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: look at the menu, but don't sample at the restaurant.

455
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 2: If you're in another I mean, oh god, I'm saying

456
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,239
Speaker 2: you can look at another guy, Oh he's hot, But

457
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: that's different. Sometimes you might have a desire like oh, man, Susan,

458
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 2: you've got to get your mind out of the sex bucket.

459
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: I swear to it's not a sex bucket. Kat, it's

460
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:27,160
Speaker 1: human nature.

461
00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 2: I guess I'm not human. She's not human anyway. I think.

462
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,480
Speaker 2: I think, Anonymous, you really do? You need to go

463
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 2: to a doctor and make sure there's nothing, you know,

464
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:40,040
Speaker 2: metabolically wrong or some issue you're having, and then if

465
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 2: that's clear, I'd get myself to a therapist so quickly

466
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 2: and uncover maybe what is really going on in your head.

467
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:50,640
Speaker 1: I mean, I remember struggling when I was hitting menopause.

468
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: You know, you kind of lose your disire story, That's

469
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: what I mean. And they talked about it candidly.

470
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, so there is And I want to say one way.

471
00:24:58,880 --> 00:25:00,640
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go out on a limb here and Anonymous,

472
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 2: if you decide after whoever you talk to, that he

473
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 2: isn't the guy for you. Guess what, You're thirty years old,

474
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,960
Speaker 2: you have your life in front of you. I'll tell

475
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,239
Speaker 2: you right now it's I'm not wishing this on you.

476
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 2: I'm saying, if you don't think he's the guy, break

477
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 2: up and send the wedding gifts back and cancel the

478
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 2: caterer because your life will be far better if you

479
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:25,919
Speaker 2: do it now.

480
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:28,119
Speaker 1: And that he's understanding and all. But how long do

481
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: you think he can go without it?

482
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just saying, get the wish of it, Anonymous,

483
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:35,400
Speaker 2: let us know, Let us know. If you go through

484
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 2: the wedding and we hope that it all works out

485
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 2: for you. It could be a hormone deficiency. Yes, it

486
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:42,680
Speaker 2: could be a hormone. We could fix it. How do

487
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 2: you make a hormone You go to the doctor. No,

488
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 2: you don't pay her.

489
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 1: No God, oh gosh, I dream it's coming up.

490
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 2: It's my favorite. It's a moral upon me, Susan. Okay,

491
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,679
Speaker 2: I'm not telling you the rules. I'm going to not

492
00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 2: waste time in that. We're just going to roll with it,

493
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 2: and you're going and I'm gonna start us off, and

494
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,720
Speaker 2: you're going to see how well you do today. I'm

495
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 2: grading you at the end of Oh God help me, Okay,

496
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 2: I'm grading you. Okay. You're on an eight hour flight

497
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 2: and a five year old is sitting behind you. For

498
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 2: the first hour, the child is non stop kicking your chair,

499
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 2: playing on their iPad with the volume all the way up,

500
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,919
Speaker 2: and loudly whining. Despite asking the parents multiple times to

501
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 2: do something, their gentle parenting efforts do not change into

502
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 2: the child's behavior. What do you do? No?

503
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 1: No, I know, I keep thinking what I would do,

504
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 1: but I gotta think about what with cats? I'm taking

505
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:36,680
Speaker 1: my time here.

506
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 2: What would you do? Cat? I can tell you what

507
00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 2: I would do. I cappy would maybe move or see

508
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 2: if there was one? Well, no, that are you kidding?

509
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: Getting on an airplane today is like a cattle call.

510
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,199
Speaker 2: You're lucky if you get the seat to yourself and

511
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 2: you aren't sharing it. Would you tell the flight attendant

512
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 2: what would you do? I can't answer your question. I

513
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:02,320
Speaker 2: can't help when you're asked.

514
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: These moral quandary things. You got to guess what your

515
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: partner or your friend, I.

516
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: Can guess what you would do. What I think you

517
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 2: would get up and talk to the parents and say, look,

518
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 2: they said several times you already talked. You are going

519
00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 2: to look at the child and say, if you kick

520
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 2: my chair again, I'm going to catapult you right out

521
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,120
Speaker 2: of this airplane.

522
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 1: I'd probably give them candy or something or something drowsy

523
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: to make them sleep.

524
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 2: No, that's a tough one. None just say comfortable. Let

525
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 2: me just say, playing on their iPad with their volume

526
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,399
Speaker 2: you can't do that on airplanes. No, you can't do

527
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 2: that anymore. That's for starters. But I would say I

528
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 2: would not see you. What you missed on me is

529
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have asked five times. I would have made

530
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,399
Speaker 2: it so clear the first time I didn't need to

531
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 2: say it. The second time and I said nothing about it,

532
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 2: I'd get up and say you apparently didn't hear me.

533
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 2: This is a very long flight. You need to get

534
00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:00,239
Speaker 2: control of your child, and then I'd smile and sit

535
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 2: back down and get the kid's face.

536
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 1: I just said that that man up there is going

537
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 1: to come back and get you.

538
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 2: Do you hear, Susan? This is why children this is

539
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: why children's psycholog child psychologists are fully booked because Susan

540
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 2: walks around threatenings.

541
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,479
Speaker 1: Seriously, that's a nightmare. So I can tell you a

542
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: little story. And it was the person in front of me. Okay,

543
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:23,719
Speaker 1: and I believe I was going to Europe and she

544
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:25,880
Speaker 1: was in uniform.

545
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 2: I have nothing but respect military. Absolutely.

546
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 1: Okay, this woman like its ear tight. I wasn't in

547
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:37,199
Speaker 1: first class. I wasn't even in business class. Okay for me,

548
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: I was regular coach.

549
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 2: You got free sodas and peanuts. Stop complaining. She's jerking around.

550
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 1: My trade table is in my lap. I've got hot

551
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 1: tea and cookies, which I love to dunk the cookies

552
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 1: because that's all.

553
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 2: You freaking get. But I packed my oion stocks.

554
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 1: It's spilled twice. I tapped in front of me on

555
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: her shoulder.

556
00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 2: She turned around.

557
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 1: She glared at me, and I said, excuse me, could

558
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: you not move so much? I can't help it, but

559
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: this stuff is spilling.

560
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 2: She ignored me.

561
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 1: She turned around with attitude you know when somebody just

562
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: says that. I Well, now my cousin's next to me,

563
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: and she's freaking out, like, oh god, oh god, what

564
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 1: is gonna do?

565
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 2: The third time I tapped her. The third time, I said, excuse.

566
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 1: Me if you don't keep still, and she I didn't

567
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 1: even finish. She stands up and she's mad. She's a

568
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: big girl, and I'm sure in shape. She had an

569
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: army outphi the one. It wasn't an outphib, it was

570
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: a uniform.

571
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 2: She turned around and glared at me.

572
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: And this is what happens. I mean, I can't hurt

573
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 1: a fly.

574
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 2: I really can't.

575
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: Don't believe her, But if you're gonna try and come

576
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 1: after me, I'm gonna die trying. She turned around and

577
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 1: just fletched her muscles and looked.

578
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 2: At me, and I said, you don't sit down, I'm

579
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 2: gonna flick you like a fly.

580
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait, I'm thinking it wasn't my cousin.

581
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:02,720
Speaker 2: It was my ex husband, Dicky.

582
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 1: Dicky got up, went to the back of the plane,

583
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 1: got them flight intend.

584
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 2: He said, you better come up and settle this. But

585
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 2: my wife is going to go eightful and this woman wait,

586
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 2: this is the woman I just want to point out

587
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 2: to everyone listening. This is the woman who just said

588
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 2: she couldn't hurt a flea. I just I just want

589
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 2: to point out whatever a flea, a fly, a NAT

590
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 2: who cares? This is the ilkness Really the one who

591
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 2: cannot hurt a fly, flee or NAT is saying, don't

592
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 2: piss her off. But I'm going to tell him behaves,

593
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 2: sit the freak down. It's just rude. It's rude. It's okay,

594
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 2: all right, movie along. I want to do one more

595
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 2: p s A. If you are boarding a flight and

596
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 2: you see Susan Knowles on the manifest next to me,

597
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 2: I'm not sitting next to my share and just don't

598
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 2: sit behind her or in front of her.

599
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: A lot of people kick behind me. I turn around

600
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: and look at them like I felt that.

601
00:30:52,560 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 2: I felt that. Be aware. Wow, all right, move him

602
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 2: right along? All right?

603
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 1: Parents, be aware of your children.

604
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: Please, it's just not the pre parents should need a

605
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 2: license to chold. All right, your boyfriend, are you going

606
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 2: to do in the next time?

607
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,280
Speaker 1: Your boyfriend has been distant and feeling down for the

608
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 1: past few months, but he struggles to open up about

609
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 1: his feelings, so you haven't been able to get him

610
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 1: to speak about it much.

611
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 2: While he's out of town for work.

612
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: You noticed his journal was accidentally left open in the

613
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 1: living room.

614
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 2: First of all, he does that.

615
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: But do you peek out of concern or respect his privacy?

616
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 2: I know so what you would do, Susan would not worry.

617
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: It would not be of any concern to her, nor

618
00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 2: would you give one flip about his privacy. She'd take

619
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 2: the deep dive into that journal and have memorized in

620
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 2: ten minutes every word of it, and then she'd probably

621
00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 2: write a handwritten note in there when you found something.

622
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 2: She and like, am I right? Maybe I'd figure it out?

623
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 2: Am I right?

624
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: I don't know if i'd memorize it or write a

625
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: handwritten No, but yes, what would I do?

626
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 2: You'd look to absolutely we agreed, and I win in

627
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 2: the game today. Are you proud? Ladies? All right? Here

628
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 2: we go? Okay, isn't she? I just wanted to do

629
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 2: it today. I think it's the company.

630
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 1: It's because you're here with me and not just a computer.

631
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 2: I'm giving you the snap. I'll give you the snap,

632
00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,479
Speaker 2: not the hand clap, the snap. A guy comes up

633
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 2: to you at a bar, I only wish Okay, sorry,

634
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 2: that was not I never do. Never do A guy

635
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 2: comes up to you at a bar and you guys

636
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 2: immediately hit it off. Wait, I like this question. Where

637
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 2: are you sir? He buys you and your friend, Oh,

638
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 2: Susan's with me. He buys you and your friend a drink,

639
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: chats with you, makes you laugh, and eventually gives you

640
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 2: his number. Later that same night, you see him holding

641
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 2: hands and kissing another woman who has a ring on

642
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 2: her finger. Do you confront him, tell her discreetly or

643
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 2: let it go? What do I do, Susan? I think

644
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 2: we do the same thing. What would I do? I

645
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 2: walk away? Yeah? Yeah, no, I think you know I

646
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 2: would do lose it. We talked to each other and

647
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 2: say look at his asshole? Yeah, and then I'd probably

648
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 2: lean over to the candle that's on the bar for

649
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 2: ambiance and take his number and watch it burn, or

650
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 2: walk by her and say good luck with that? Or

651
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 2: what if it's his wife? Yeah, I'm staying out of that.

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Speaker 2: I'm not that girl. Listen, we're not neither one of us.

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Speaker 2: We draw the lot. That's an easy one. So far.

654
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 2: What am I getting so far scored one hundred.

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Speaker 1: Okay, your daughter is happily married and loves her in laws. Recently, however,

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Speaker 1: you noticed her husband's mother making snide comments about her

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Speaker 1: when she's not really paying attention. For example, if someone

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00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: compliments your daughter's home, her mother in law will say

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00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 1: things like, you can thank my son for that. He's

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Speaker 1: always been the ritable type.

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Speaker 2: What do you do? We're going to agree on't we

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Speaker 2: What do you think I would do? Mhm?

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Speaker 1: You would say yes, you can thank your son, but

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Speaker 1: without my daughter it wouldn't look like this.

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Speaker 2: You're close. Actually, we're gonna address it, and I'm going

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Speaker 2: to say I'm going to be this honestly is where

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Speaker 2: I'm very quiet and kind. But I would say did

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Speaker 2: you hear that, ladies? And yes, be very quiet. I

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Speaker 2: can be quiet.

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Speaker 1: The only time you're quiet is when you're upset about something,

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Speaker 1: right and you don't want to react.

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00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:41,919
Speaker 2: That's right. Well, no, if I'm really upset, I burst

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Speaker 2: into tears. Okay, you're close, I would say no.

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Speaker 1: You're supposed to say no, you no, you You told

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Speaker 1: me what I would do.

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00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 2: Now I'm telling you, and then I'll tell you what

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Speaker 2: you would do. So so that now you're done to

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Speaker 2: a B plus you want to keep going. So I

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00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 2: would say to that mother in law at the right time,

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Speaker 2: very sweet, with a big smile on my face. You

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Speaker 2: know your son is the best thing since slice bread?

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00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 2: Aren't you glad that they work so well together? And

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00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 2: I would emphasize the word together. She'd get the drift,

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Speaker 2: But I wouldn't you know, ran too rafe And I

685
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 2: think you would hit it directly on. You would just

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Speaker 2: say something straight up, because that's who you are.

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Speaker 1: So she says, the mother in law says things like

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00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 1: you can thank my son for that.

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Speaker 2: Would you think I would do I would. I think

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Speaker 2: you would say something like you can thank my daughter

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00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,240
Speaker 2: just as much because without her he'd be nothing. Something

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00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 2: like that.

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00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 1: I walk up to her and say, do you know

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00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 1: what you sound like right now? I don't think your

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00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: son's real proud of that. It takes too babe, shut up?

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00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 2: Would you really do that? Everybody thinks I am so direct.

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00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 2: I couldn't do that, I really could, but I do

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00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 2: it with a smile.

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00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:05,439
Speaker 1: Just like once before, you said, Susan, if I told

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00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: somebody to go bank themselves, they would hate you a crucifier.

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00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 1: You call you out on it. But if I do it,

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00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,799
Speaker 1: you go what? I hug them afterwards, But I do

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00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:18,560
Speaker 1: right in their eyes. I look at them and tell them, now,

704
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,239
Speaker 1: come in here, give me a hug, and don't let

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00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 1: that shit happen again.

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00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 2: That's it. I mean, it's true. She's a miracle with that.

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00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 2: All right? What do you think this was a good episode? Oh? No,

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00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 2: we got one more? Oh we do?

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00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, boy, I'm going to fail. I'm doing a good.

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00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 2: Dude, you're doing a great go all right. Your boyfriend

711
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 2: is thrown you your boyfriend. Your boyfriend is throwing a

712
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:41,600
Speaker 2: party to celebrate his birthday. During the party, a plus

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00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:45,360
Speaker 2: one of one of your guests makes a rude comment

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00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 2: about your boyfriend not knowing who you are. The comment, oh,

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00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 2: the comment happens to be out about an insecurity your

716
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:55,320
Speaker 2: boyfriend has opened up to you about in the past.

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00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: How do you proceed now? Before you answer me, you

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00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 2: make sure you understand in here the party. During the party,

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Speaker 2: a plus one of one of your guests say, you

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00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 2: probably don't know this person. Okay, what do you think

721
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 2: I would do? Or no, I'm answering you. What do

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00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 2: I think you would do? You would look at that

723
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 2: person and say, I don't know if you know who

724
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 2: I am, but Joe over there is my boyfriend.

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00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:24,319
Speaker 1: And no, I think that's what you would do.

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00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 2: You think that's what I would do? Okay, well, you're right?

727
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 2: What would you? I thought that's what you would do too.

728
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 2: What would you do? I'm similar? But no, all right,

729
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:31,239
Speaker 2: what would you do?

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00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 1: I'd pull him aside and say I don't know who

731
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 1: the hell you are or hell you got here, but

732
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 1: that's my boyfriend you're talking about, and that is something

733
00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: that's real.

734
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 2: How dare you see? I couldn't. I couldn't do that,

735
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 2: but I would. But I would also then later, if

736
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 2: I got him alone, I would say, and by the way,

737
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 2: you had no right to talk about some telling me.

738
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Speaker 1: You would go up to him and.

739
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 2: Say no, you were saying, no, you're overhearing him. He

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00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 2: makes a rude comment about your boy friend, and you're

741
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 2: right there? You would Why would you? But I'm agreeing

742
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,439
Speaker 2: we're a green. I'm still giving you a B plus

743
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 2: So you didn't right?

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00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 1: No, No, you know how bad I am A discussion

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00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: excellent Lady and gentlemen, Please I beg of you.

746
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,439
Speaker 2: I beg of you. Write in right in to tell

747
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 2: me I didn't get an A today. Okay, I know

748
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 2: people right, Please write please write in and tell her

749
00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 2: she didn't get an A. That's what I want them

750
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 2: to do to you. That does it? Suan does it by.

751
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 2: Susan is a great grubber. I bet the teachers loved

752
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 2: her at school. Please? Can I do extra credit? Please?

753
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 1: I got straight a's and failed conduct shocked?

754
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 2: Wait wait, what do you think I got seriously straight a's.

755
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 2: I'm both yeah, I did enough. I'm afraid to break?

756
00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 2: What all right?

757
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 1: You are afraid to break?

758
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: Well? Only snows were made once I broke? Can I

759
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 2: just tell you? Let me do one blast thing before

760
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 2: we close. Susan and I were driving down ninety four. Well,

761
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 2: Susan was driving. I was holding on for dear life.

762
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 2: She was driving down ninety five, and all of a sudden,

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Speaker 2: the girl hits the brakes because there was a state

764
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Speaker 2: trooper parked on the left side of the you know,

765
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Speaker 2: in the median. And I'm like, oh Jesus, she's I mean,

766
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Speaker 2: she's like twenty five miles over the speed limit. Wait,

767
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 2: so she hits the brake, slows down, and then as

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00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,320
Speaker 2: we go back she goes, oh, it's only a dummy,

769
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Speaker 2: it doesn't matter, and speeds up again. I'm like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, the girl. Isn't that what you do? No,

771
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 2: you obey the speed limit, you go no more than five?

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00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:36,319
Speaker 2: Do you know who she is? Can you imagine us

773
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: being best friends? I mean serious, I want to go

774
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 2: five over the speed list polar opposite best friends. Okay,

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00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 2: that does efforts to that doesn't for this episode of

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Speaker 2: Happy Hour. Thank you so much for joining us. I

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00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 2: think next week we're going to do the whole episode

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Speaker 2: of Moral Quandary. I can hardly wait now. I'm apposente.

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00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 2: But make sure she'd asked. Questions coming and you know

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Speaker 2: what to do.

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Speaker 1: Send them to Bachelor nation dot com stold an Hour.

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00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: We really like getting connected with you guys, and we

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Speaker 1: love all your questions.

784
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Speaker 2: We want to know what's on your mind. We want

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00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 2: to get some advice. We want you to join us

786
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Speaker 2: in Moral Quandary, maybe because Susan needs help. But in

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Speaker 2: the meantime, listen to Batchelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on

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Speaker 2: the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. Thanks

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00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:23,160
Speaker 2: so much for joining us. We have fun, We have

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00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 2: a great time. In the meantime, opposite, and I get

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Speaker 2: an a. I want you people to I just want.

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Speaker 1: To Kathy, I did good today.

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Speaker 2: You did well, not good. I love you too, Love you,

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Speaker 2: have a great week. Everybody. Yes,