WEBVTT - Decentering the Dix

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 2>to talk.

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<v Speaker 1>What would have we talked Back? Where we encourage you

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<v Speaker 1>to hustle hard, laugh, ladder, and always keep it cute.

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<v Speaker 1>So grab your coffee, cocktail and crown because it's about

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<v Speaker 1>to go down. What's up, y'all, it's your girl a

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<v Speaker 1>j holiday. What's up?

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<v Speaker 2>Tam bam, yew hey girl, Hey y'all. I missed y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm missed you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yelling bitch, I missed you too.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Damn, you're brobing me. My ex boyfriend when I

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<v Speaker 2>was happy, he used to be like, stop being so happy.

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<v Speaker 2>How was your weekend? Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>We recovering from the fucking uh fig snowstorm we had

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<v Speaker 1>last week. I ain't do shit. I literally was in

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<v Speaker 1>the house from Tuesday morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Now I leave.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't leave the house at some point on Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was in the house. No, I did not.

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<v Speaker 1>I was in the house from Monday to Sunday. Damn

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<v Speaker 1>the whole week, hermit the whole week. So it did

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<v Speaker 1>snow real bad on Tuesday, but I was sitting in

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<v Speaker 1>the fucking house waiting on FedEx bitch ass. Shout at

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<v Speaker 1>the FedEx bitch ass for several days, waiting on breaks

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<v Speaker 1>from my car in my new laptop.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn. So when she says the snowstorm we probably had

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<v Speaker 2>like an inch, No, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was heavy though, BJ actually flipped to his car. He

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<v Speaker 1>yeh yes girl. Tuesday night, on the way on, I

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<v Speaker 1>called him. I was like, we need a paper towel

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<v Speaker 1>because we about to be in the house for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of days or whatever. We weren't on on paper towels.

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<v Speaker 1>So some kept telling me, like, call that nigga because

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<v Speaker 1>he taken too long, So I called him. He answered

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<v Speaker 1>the phone maybe about ten fifteen minutes later. He called

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<v Speaker 1>me back and he's running like out of breath. Somebody

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<v Speaker 1>just ran me off the road. I'm running to the

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<v Speaker 1>Chick fil a. I'm like, what, you know what like

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<v Speaker 1>an emergency happens, like you cannot get yourself together quick

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<v Speaker 1>enough because I'm in the house. I don't took a shower,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll got a clothes on. It's ten o'clock. Why I

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<v Speaker 1>care about this?

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<v Speaker 2>Where am I? I've talked to you several times and

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<v Speaker 2>nowhere have you seen I'm gonna tell you why, because

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<v Speaker 2>a near death experience.

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<v Speaker 1>Because this nigga act like nothing happened, Like I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>understand the severity of it until I saw the car

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<v Speaker 1>because of how he was acting after the facts. Now

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<v Speaker 1>that in the moment of right you while' on the phone,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like grabbing my pistol. I'm like, did somebody did

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<v Speaker 1>somebody run him off the road?

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<v Speaker 2>Right like?

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<v Speaker 1>So now I'm got the car loaded up, but I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta get outside. It's real snow because the car is

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<v Speaker 1>covered with ice snow. So luckily I done lived in

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<v Speaker 1>the areas like this, so in my trunk because I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't really a girl, I got like the scraper, a

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<v Speaker 1>little brush thing like for snow. So I gotta let

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<v Speaker 1>the car warm up. All is just my life is

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<v Speaker 1>in slow motion, bitch, trying to get that. And then

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<v Speaker 1>now I got to drive through roads that really has snow.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no car so like the snow is thick on

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<v Speaker 1>the highway, sliding like so now I'm it takes me

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<v Speaker 1>twenty minutes to get five miles on the highway. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so he found he wouldn't answer the phone on the phone,

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<v Speaker 1>going to voicemail bitch. I'm like, y're you panikin What

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck is happening?

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>So he finally calls you back and he's calm. He's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with the police. I'm at the home depot now though,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, okay, I'm having a drive real slow.

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<v Speaker 1>So now he's calm, more calm, So I get there.

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<v Speaker 1>He outside with the police, get the little ticket right up. Whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So somebody pulled in front of him and he had

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<v Speaker 1>to slap like, why are you even abruptly pulling in

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<v Speaker 1>front of people on icy highway?

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<v Speaker 2>Icy? In there to face These motherfuckers don't know nothing

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<v Speaker 2>about snow and ice. They don't know how to drive.

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<v Speaker 1>Ever, it's nothing to play with. Okay, black ice, for

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<v Speaker 1>sure ain't nothing to play with because the inner state

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<v Speaker 1>seems like it doesn't get as much snow on it,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's always black ice.

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<v Speaker 2>Right because they riding over it and the water freezes

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<v Speaker 2>on the ground and it just looks dark.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So the person like came in front of him

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<v Speaker 1>and then he had to slam on brakes, which then

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<v Speaker 1>caused him to like the car flipped two times down

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<v Speaker 1>into the embankment on the on the side of the highway,

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<v Speaker 1>tree came through the fucking windshield. All at this nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>don't have a scratch on him?

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<v Speaker 2>God covering him flip two times? I'm girl, why he

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<v Speaker 2>was exaggerating this?

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<v Speaker 1>He in here acting like it didn't happen. Like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>hearing him on the phone telling people, act like you

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<v Speaker 1>almost died, my nigga, did you get your back?

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<v Speaker 2>Don't hurt? Why? That's why?

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<v Speaker 1>Then we have sex after that accident.

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<v Speaker 2>Ain't nothing gonna get that man some here and nothing will.

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<v Speaker 1>You?

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<v Speaker 2>Ain't flip over all, Valentine, do.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to have sex that night? I think we

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<v Speaker 1>had sex that night. I'm sorry, baby, I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 1>do bad. I just don't listen. I got more shit

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<v Speaker 1>on my mind. That's why this episode of the day

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<v Speaker 1>is gonna be great anyway. But but yeah, when he

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<v Speaker 1>finally got to the car a couple of days later, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Fucking ruth in, yes, Lord, have mercy, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>get my ladder.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a ladder in the back of Like, did

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<v Speaker 1>you get my ladder out that damn truck?

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<v Speaker 2>He should have been like, did you suck my dick? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>your ladder?

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<v Speaker 1>Get my fucking ladders is not cheating. Get my ladder,

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<v Speaker 1>okay anywhere?

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<v Speaker 2>Yo?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that do got into a car accident.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I'm glad he's okay, me too, cover him, amen, we're.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, man, that Jones was in there. Man, I'm good though,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what are you well? Your back don't hurt nothing right?

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<v Speaker 1>Stuff like that be like low wake up morning calls.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't know if he'd be taking heed for real.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm just glad he okay, because that could have

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<v Speaker 2>been much worse, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Hell yeah, Like in my mind, like somebody ran him

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<v Speaker 1>off the highway, bitch, and now I got to go

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<v Speaker 1>get in the shootout looking for a car somewhere.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in my mind, but you ready locked and loaded

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<v Speaker 2>in mind like oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to kill him, and like he's running

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<v Speaker 1>down the interstate to get off the highway to get

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<v Speaker 1>to Chick fil at home depot. Like that ship is

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<v Speaker 1>wild to me?

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<v Speaker 2>All right, listen, Yo, that was eventful. My story. I

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<v Speaker 2>went to that concert and went to the Baby concept.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby had the first birthday bash in Atlanta, I hear,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean in Charlotte.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh the baby okay, yeah, not little By Nice And it.

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<v Speaker 2>Was a lot of artists, big Extra Plug two see

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<v Speaker 2>fifty cents, Sexy Red, all the people and other names

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<v Speaker 2>amongst other names that I'm too old to know who

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<v Speaker 2>they are, and I don't know. It wasn't for me.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't enjoy it, Hm, it was okay. I think

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<v Speaker 2>the thing for me was because it's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>great artists. But it's just like the intermissions between artists

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<v Speaker 2>was just too long, so it was a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>empty space. I'll say that, a lot of empty space.

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<v Speaker 1>Niggas probably was late, yeah, niggass late yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Probably back in that back smoking and drinking. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh shit, I'm supposed to be one Like, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what was going on, but I mean it was

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<v Speaker 2>the first one. Maybe the second one will be better.

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<v Speaker 2>I did that and then I went to a little mixer.

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<v Speaker 2>I popped out with red hair. Niggas feeling the red hair.

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<v Speaker 1>I puk Your hair was fabulous, bitch, okay, thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I see somebody in the gym yesterday. They was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought your hair was red. I was like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>that is not gym hair. That is exactly I'm tied hair.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to know the difference this pony ponytail I

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<v Speaker 2>got on. This is my gym hair, and that's my

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<v Speaker 2>going out here cat wag.

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<v Speaker 1>I got on.

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<v Speaker 2>But baby, that ponytail almost fell off in the gym.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have to find something else to do with

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<v Speaker 2>my hair. In that gym. I went to pull my

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<v Speaker 2>hoodie over to like go leave, and I felt that

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<v Speaker 2>motherfucker slide and I was like, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 2>ain't even put my jacket all the way on. I

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<v Speaker 2>just walked out with it's sitting on top of my

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<v Speaker 2>head because I was scared my ponytail was gonna hit

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<v Speaker 2>the floor and embarrass me.

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<v Speaker 1>Shit, bitch, I went to spind yesterday for the first

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<v Speaker 1>time in a year. When I tell you, I was

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<v Speaker 1>sweating so bad my eyelashes came off in that.

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<v Speaker 2>Bitch, that's a good burn. I'm ready to go back.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's just shits so expensive. And the class pass,

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, do you pay? So you pay for a

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<v Speaker 2>monthly class pass? Did you? I did? I did the.

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<v Speaker 1>Trial right now, right, but I think I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>ahead and pay for it because I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>y'all know. But with class pass, you could go to gyms, yoga, studios,

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<v Speaker 1>hair salons, naro salons. It just like depending on how

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<v Speaker 1>many credits you got to use for each of the things, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but can get a lot done for sixty dollars a month.

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<v Speaker 1>That's like the smallest plan.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it goes on how many how many times

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<v Speaker 2>you know, like how many classes.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. So like if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>go to so I went to Old two Fitness, it

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<v Speaker 1>only allowed me to go one time because it's a trial.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you got the actual membership, like the class only,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean the if you want to go to the gym,

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<v Speaker 1>it's only one credit. So like if you gots how

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<v Speaker 1>meredits you go, you don't get that many credits a week.

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<v Speaker 1>It's twenty eight a month for the smallest plan.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh that's not bad. Yeah, well I'm gonna check

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<v Speaker 2>on that because yeah, an actual membership t SPIND is high.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so then you like last night I went to

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<v Speaker 1>the works SIND class. So the one I chose because

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<v Speaker 1>of the time of days, probably like a busy one.

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<v Speaker 1>It was six point six credits though, but they had

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<v Speaker 1>like two credits.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not one credit per yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, not the regular gym is like one credit, one

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<v Speaker 1>to two credits. But like the classes is like we.

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<v Speaker 2>See that spin class. When I like really got into it,

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<v Speaker 2>I was doing like four or five times a week,

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<v Speaker 2>I would run out of my past. Yeah yeah, but

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<v Speaker 2>let me tell you. I had a dream last night

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<v Speaker 2>and I remember it and I want to share it,

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<v Speaker 2>and you tell me what it means. And y'all DM

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<v Speaker 2>me what it means. If you know, I had a

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<v Speaker 2>dream that I could open my legs and pearls were

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<v Speaker 2>falling out, like real pearls.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you did say your cuci looked like Oyster,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't you?

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<v Speaker 2>No, b And first of all, all couchies look like

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<v Speaker 2>oyster the sel form or fashion. But pearls like all right,

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<v Speaker 2>so not like out of my pucci like but like

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<v Speaker 2>literally out of the my legs, like the skin on

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<v Speaker 2>my legs could open up and pearls would come out.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it was like almost like a like a ZiT

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<v Speaker 2>like a zip was like.

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<v Speaker 1>You busted in, a pearl came out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, pearls would come out.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that doesn't sound like a bad thing to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what that sounded like creation to me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like creating something something good,

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<v Speaker 1>because who doesn't like pearls? Girls?

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<v Speaker 2>That's so weird though, right.

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<v Speaker 1>It is little oyster, no mermaid.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, and dozens of pearls was just shooting out of

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<v Speaker 2>my leg.

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<v Speaker 1>What else like happened that? That was it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the only part I remember. Was like it would

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<v Speaker 2>be like almost open flesh on my legs and I

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<v Speaker 2>was just like squeezing the pearls out. Wasn't puss, No,

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<v Speaker 2>it was actual pearls. Bitch, it's pearls. They were. And

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<v Speaker 2>I remember me, I can't remember who this was with me,

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<v Speaker 2>but we were picking up the pearls. We were picking

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<v Speaker 2>up the pearls, picking up the pearls, picking up the pearls,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was just coming out of my leg. Hm,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm bizarre. I gotta stop. I did. I

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<v Speaker 2>did eat a CBD edible before I went.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that. I mean, that doesn't sound like

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<v Speaker 1>a bad dream to me, though.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't a bad dream. It just was weird, very

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<v Speaker 2>vivid and weird, that part of it.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, so I look it up.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm gonna have to y'all google in and tell

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<v Speaker 2>me what it means. Let's get in the sins, Yeah, man,

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<v Speaker 2>what's that?

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<v Speaker 1>What's going on? This week? Last week, couple of days ago?

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<v Speaker 1>Ship we just ain't talk about yet. Uh we are

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<v Speaker 1>we going to start with this weirdo DJ academics. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>did y'all see the ship with DJ Academics. His response

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<v Speaker 1>to what happened is just weird. So, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>DJ Academics, they're saying he's exposed for grooming a fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>year old minor, because even the child said, hey, this

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<v Speaker 1>is grooming. The child had to tell these grown men, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like y'all grooming me.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So the first video, which surfaced on x formerly Twitter,

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<v Speaker 1>shows an unnamed individual speaking to nor GXD, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know all these streamers, the fifteen year old streamer. During

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<v Speaker 1>a conversation on discord. The individual made an unsettling remark asking,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, because like you, nobody had pictures up, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know DJ academics voice all day long. The little

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<v Speaker 1>boy had his video had his picture up like his

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<v Speaker 1>video running. Academics video wasn't running, but we know his voice,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know who these other individuals on the

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<v Speaker 1>discord was. Somebody says, yo, Nor what's your address? That's

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<v Speaker 1>the little boy his name is nor GXD. He said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to send some strippers over there. When nor

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<v Speaker 1>GXD responded that he was fifteen and uncomfortable with the suggestion,

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<v Speaker 1>a person appeared to dismiss his concerns, saying so because

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, man, you're gonna put them on the case.

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<v Speaker 1>The little boy saying you're trying to put me on

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<v Speaker 1>the case. Right, He's like, slow down, like he's so intelligent,

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<v Speaker 1>this little boy, Like wait, slow down, Like what the

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<v Speaker 1>fuck is wrong with y'all? So the interaction raised alarms

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<v Speaker 1>about the nature of the conversation and the apparent disregard

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<v Speaker 1>for the miners discomfort. After the clip from the same

0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:45.400
<v Speaker 1>day feature DJ Academics engaging with nor XGXD during a

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<v Speaker 1>Fortnite live stream and the thirty second video, Academics made

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<v Speaker 1>a series of sexually explicit comments. At one point, he asked, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>if Max said he wants to try fucking a dude,

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<v Speaker 1>will you let him fuck you? This is not just

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<v Speaker 1>a dude, this is a child dude. Awesome, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>even this conversation wouldn't even be appropriate to be having

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<v Speaker 1>with another heterosexual grown man, Like what are y'all talking.

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<v Speaker 2>About they're supposed to be playing video games, Like what

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<v Speaker 2>is it? Why is this even a conversation over a

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<v Speaker 2>video game? It just seems so very that video game

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<v Speaker 2>world be like this though predatorial, yes.

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<v Speaker 1>It'd be like this. People be showing up at children's houses.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. That's a one video where a grown man

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<v Speaker 1>showed up at this lady house because the little girl

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to link him with her mom, Like what.

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<v Speaker 2>And so he went off the childs He actually pulled

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<v Speaker 2>up today to the house to me hit the mama. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>people are nuts, and that's why you just got to

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<v Speaker 2>monitor what your kids are doing on these games, because

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<v Speaker 2>they're talking to people like offering you know, gay sex

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<v Speaker 2>to your fifteen year old son is crazy, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And his response to it, he was like, first he

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<v Speaker 1>was like yelling all crazy, like anybody calling me a weirdo,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need nobody, and da da da. The child

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<v Speaker 1>himself called y'all weirdos first of all, prior to anybody

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<v Speaker 1>else getting a hold of what you was doing and

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<v Speaker 1>putting out their commentary about it, calling you a fucking weirdo.

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<v Speaker 1>The kid in the moment called your ass a fucking

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<v Speaker 1>weirdo because you were being weird?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what was like?

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<v Speaker 1>I just I won DJ Academics off the internet at

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<v Speaker 1>this point because he has had so many situations. And listen,

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<v Speaker 1>you know a lot of people will say, like everybody

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<v Speaker 1>deserves a voice. I don't feel that way. I think

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<v Speaker 1>the internet podcast the world amplifies every You can amplify

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<v Speaker 1>anybody's voice, and some people do not deserve to have

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<v Speaker 1>a voice because they misuse it. And he's one of

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<v Speaker 1>those people. He sits in his fucking house in the

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<v Speaker 1>basement looking stupid, going on these rants online. He's never

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<v Speaker 1>been like in the news for anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Or anything good. That's what I was about to say.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't hear a lot of good things. When I

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<v Speaker 2>hear about him is always something like mean against women

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<v Speaker 2>or now telling a child some grown man wants to

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<v Speaker 2>fuck a man? Can he come to your house? That's

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<v Speaker 2>just like next.

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<v Speaker 1>Strippers over there, Like what y'all talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's it's real gross.

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<v Speaker 1>So and wait till this little boy's parents, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>decide to want to sue academic because they can make

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<v Speaker 1>up the show like, oh he's having like I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he might be because he's on the internet. Too. This

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<v Speaker 1>is a video of him online having to defend himself

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<v Speaker 1>against these predators and that could cause emotional distress. And

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like the parents to take take academics for

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<v Speaker 1>all the fuck he has.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, And I don't think he realizes how serious this is, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>that's serious what you were saying to that child?

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<v Speaker 1>He said he misspoke basically and miss not so much

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<v Speaker 1>of apology once he called down, it still was an apology.

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<v Speaker 1>He wasn't taking no accountability and he was talking about

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<v Speaker 1>the next person instead of focusing on what he had

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<v Speaker 1>he did wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't get it, child, And we're in like subconsciously,

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<v Speaker 2>where is that come from? For you? Is there? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you want to fuck kids? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, he was already in the headlines about, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>fucking on a fifteen year old girl.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is hard for you know what. I just

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<v Speaker 2>pray over everybody, child, because it is some real life

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<v Speaker 2>predators out here and they are amongst us, okay goodness.

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<v Speaker 1>And they need to be ostracized. So I don't I

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<v Speaker 1>can't remember the other streamer who called him out. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it was Max, the guy Max called him out.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the video that kind of went viral. Who called

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<v Speaker 1>DJ Academics out about it, and that's that's what needs

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<v Speaker 1>to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>More.

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<v Speaker 1>Men need to step in when niggas is being weird,

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<v Speaker 1>Those like y'all just be letting men do nasty.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a wrong man. That was always the excuse I

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<v Speaker 2>would hear when I'd be like, why you don't why

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<v Speaker 2>you hang with him? Why are you talking to him?

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<v Speaker 2>That's grown as men? I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>And your friends are aspect of you, you know what

0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:15.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying? Like you, you build relationships based on you first, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so you see a little bit of you and this

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<v Speaker 1>person why you were even able to become friends with them?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>So is that an aspect of you? Is DJ Academics

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<v Speaker 1>an aspect of you that you just haven't explored for

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<v Speaker 1>real yet?

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<v Speaker 2>Right? Yeap?

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<v Speaker 1>Where to ask niggas anyway?

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<v Speaker 2>So what about this shit I keep saying about my

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<v Speaker 2>favorite president, Barack Obama and Jennifer Aniston have an affair.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where that shit came from, but it

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<v Speaker 1>seemed like it started like last year sometimes because she

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<v Speaker 1>was on Jimmy Kimball and she basically, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>try to she tried to ignore it, I guess, and

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<v Speaker 1>then she finally said something about it last year sometime,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's ongoing. And then now because Michelle Obama didn't

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<v Speaker 1>show up at Jimmy Carter's funeral, nor did she up

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<v Speaker 1>at the inauguration, they're saying that.

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<v Speaker 2>There's truth to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there's a divorce, right, and people amongst the circles

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<v Speaker 1>of people in the Capitol right say that this might

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<v Speaker 1>be a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't believe it, not my baroque.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you watch the movie that Michelle Obama and Barack's

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<v Speaker 1>production company created, Leave the World Behind? Did you watch it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I did remember the little girl in a movie like

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<v Speaker 1>she was wanted to watch Friends. That's like all she

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to do, and then she left her family and

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<v Speaker 1>found a place to go watch it. Jennifer Aniston was

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<v Speaker 1>on Friends.

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<v Speaker 2>So what are you suggesting?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm suggesting maybe Oba'm gonna put that in the movie

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<v Speaker 1>because he had a fixation on her. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But why would she be why would Jenner? That is

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<v Speaker 1>like the wire?

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<v Speaker 2>Friend? Why not girlfriends? Why not the Wire? I would

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<v Speaker 2>have preferred, like I would have been with her if

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<v Speaker 2>they had the wire in there.

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't never seen thating like it's the weirdest thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like Obama has been around here by himself

0:21:07.040 --> 0:21:10.200
<v Speaker 1>looking single as fuck. Like, so there's rumors that they're

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<v Speaker 1>getting a divorce him and Michelle.

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<v Speaker 2>Obama would break my heart.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think there's ever been a presidential divorce before.

0:21:17.960 --> 0:21:20.040
<v Speaker 1>The president's be cheating and ship like that. But it

0:21:20.040 --> 0:21:22.080
<v Speaker 1>has a bit to actually have a left leave it

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<v Speaker 1>to a black woman. We're gonna set precedents around his mother.

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<v Speaker 1>I will get what president that you.

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<v Speaker 2>Was, period as.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't hear her saying that ship now. But the

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<v Speaker 1>other narrative is that she just ain't no on no

0:21:38.200 --> 0:21:40.040
<v Speaker 1>fake ship. She on fucking Trump. So I'm not showing

0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:42.760
<v Speaker 1>up to the things. But we're talking about Jimmy Carter's funeral.

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<v Speaker 2>Too though, right, maybe she's just over all the political

0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:47.080
<v Speaker 2>shiit she like, I just don't want to be bothered

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<v Speaker 2>with none of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I tried to try to help Kamala. That shit ain't work.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm out of there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm out of there like I'm going on vacation. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>doing the things I want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>So they said she just went on a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>time in Martha's vineyards.

0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:01.399
<v Speaker 2>So that's what she's been out nice wines and eaten

0:22:01.640 --> 0:22:02.320
<v Speaker 2>steaking shrip.

0:22:02.520 --> 0:22:05.920
<v Speaker 1>They're probably fucking on the butler. Okay, she might got

0:22:05.920 --> 0:22:06.880
<v Speaker 1>a boyfriend over there.

0:22:07.200 --> 0:22:09.600
<v Speaker 2>No, she's faithful to Barack.

0:22:12.800 --> 0:22:21.800
<v Speaker 1>Wink wink. I don't know, but I listen, these are humans, right,

0:22:21.960 --> 0:22:25.280
<v Speaker 1>These are just people. I didn't think Jennevaniston was a

0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:29.400
<v Speaker 1>sidebitch type person, but who hey. And then the other

0:22:29.440 --> 0:22:31.560
<v Speaker 1>part is the world is a stage. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking Truman show, like it's a movie. These people are

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<v Speaker 1>all playing characters paid.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what people are doing behind closed doors,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just pray to God that that's not true,

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<v Speaker 2>because they just are like uh my idea of the

0:22:48.240 --> 0:22:51.880
<v Speaker 2>perfect marriage. I mean not there's no such thing as perfect, right,

0:22:51.920 --> 0:22:54.400
<v Speaker 2>but close to perfect as it gets.

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<v Speaker 1>I just think they have a good partnership, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Like they're both great orators, like they

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<v Speaker 1>gonna move you with words. I'm saying, exceptionally smart people.

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<v Speaker 1>And we know that men. I'm not gonna say men

0:23:07.160 --> 0:23:11.320
<v Speaker 1>are smart. Men are smart, right, but smart men have smart,

0:23:11.320 --> 0:23:14.440
<v Speaker 1>smarter people around them also. And I think Michelle Obama

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<v Speaker 1>is exceptional, yeah, absolutely right, So because she can move

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<v Speaker 1>a room just like him.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's why I don't want them to I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want it to be any especially No, no, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have nothing against Jennifer Aniston, but if it was,

0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:32.480
<v Speaker 2>if Baraque was moving around, I would not want it

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<v Speaker 2>to be with a white lady. I didn't say that.

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<v Speaker 1>I did because I'm always say the things people don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to say a fucking white lady. Okay, because let

0:23:43.240 --> 0:23:45.639
<v Speaker 1>me tell y'all, I had this argument a lot with

0:23:45.680 --> 0:23:48.000
<v Speaker 1>one of my friends. I'm like, if Michelle Obama was

0:23:48.040 --> 0:23:52.080
<v Speaker 1>a white woman, Obama would not be the first black president.

0:23:52.280 --> 0:23:56.080
<v Speaker 1>He'd probably be the first Melatto, the first biracial. His

0:23:56.200 --> 0:23:59.560
<v Speaker 1>wife is what constitute his wife and children know that

0:23:59.600 --> 0:24:03.639
<v Speaker 1>black family that we see. If it was a white woman,

0:24:03.680 --> 0:24:06.280
<v Speaker 1>it would be different. If it wouldn't biracial children, people

0:24:06.320 --> 0:24:08.479
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't see him as the first black president. I just

0:24:08.520 --> 0:24:11.080
<v Speaker 1>don't think. So he'd be the first because his mother

0:24:11.320 --> 0:24:14.720
<v Speaker 1>is a Jewish woman, right, so she would be the

0:24:14.760 --> 0:24:18.520
<v Speaker 1>first melatto old president, the first mixed president. So she

0:24:18.840 --> 0:24:27.040
<v Speaker 1>gate like Michelle Obama is what sold us on Barack. Yeah, okay,

0:24:27.359 --> 0:24:31.200
<v Speaker 1>so yes, it would be very disheartening, nigga because what.

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<v Speaker 2>How you cheat on hell?

0:24:34.040 --> 0:24:37.280
<v Speaker 1>But it's on cold for these niggas. Okay, So.

0:24:38.760 --> 0:24:44.879
<v Speaker 2>On Instagram, there's a video circulating. Rapper Big Dank of

0:24:44.960 --> 0:24:48.280
<v Speaker 2>Dev's House recently posted a video documenting her struggles in

0:24:48.400 --> 0:24:52.199
<v Speaker 2>trying to obtain a lift. And this young lady was

0:24:52.400 --> 0:24:55.919
<v Speaker 2>very upset because the lift driver arrived and he saw

0:24:56.520 --> 0:25:00.159
<v Speaker 2>her stature in size and said that she could not

0:25:00.200 --> 0:25:02.560
<v Speaker 2>fit in his car basically, and that he was not

0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:06.080
<v Speaker 2>giving her the lift. And she recorded it and she

0:25:06.200 --> 0:25:13.640
<v Speaker 2>was very upset about it. And I'm kind of on

0:25:13.680 --> 0:25:17.040
<v Speaker 2>the driver side because he don't oh, he don't have

0:25:17.240 --> 0:25:21.400
<v Speaker 2>he has the right to refuse any service. And I mean,

0:25:21.440 --> 0:25:23.879
<v Speaker 2>she do look pretty thick, but I feel like she

0:25:23.920 --> 0:25:27.159
<v Speaker 2>probably could could have fit in his car, you know,

0:25:27.720 --> 0:25:29.720
<v Speaker 2>But I do think about rescue. She's like, who moved

0:25:29.760 --> 0:25:30.240
<v Speaker 2>my seat?

0:25:30.560 --> 0:25:36.240
<v Speaker 1>You know? But rec she's actually smaller than old girl.

0:25:36.520 --> 0:25:39.200
<v Speaker 1>That girl, Yeah, she's a big She doesn't look that tall,

0:25:39.480 --> 0:25:42.160
<v Speaker 1>so she looks like she's probably like five four five

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:44.240
<v Speaker 1>three or something like that. And she has a lot

0:25:44.280 --> 0:25:46.840
<v Speaker 1>of weight on her. They say four hundred pounds. I

0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:49.120
<v Speaker 1>feel like she's probably like six hundred pounds.

0:25:49.119 --> 0:25:51.760
<v Speaker 2>If y'all no, not that but not that big. But

0:25:51.800 --> 0:25:54.320
<v Speaker 2>she was a big, big girl her face. Car Now

0:25:54.640 --> 0:25:58.200
<v Speaker 2>he's down till you talking about y'all big bitches. Y'all

0:25:58.240 --> 0:26:01.800
<v Speaker 2>big bitches be having a pretty he is faith God damn.

0:26:02.119 --> 0:26:04.280
<v Speaker 2>Like they be beautiful in the face.

0:26:05.280 --> 0:26:07.320
<v Speaker 1>I said, as a fouies be pissed because I know

0:26:07.400 --> 0:26:09.679
<v Speaker 1>this nigga like big pretty bitches, and I obvious seeing a

0:26:09.680 --> 0:26:11.760
<v Speaker 1>big pretty bitch, like I know my nigga fucking her.

0:26:13.080 --> 0:26:15.040
<v Speaker 1>I hate that bitch. I don't even know this person,

0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:17.159
<v Speaker 1>he don't know her, but I'm just like hating on

0:26:17.200 --> 0:26:18.280
<v Speaker 1>this bitch in my mind, like.

0:26:18.240 --> 0:26:19.200
<v Speaker 2>Because I know my mother.

0:26:19.240 --> 0:26:22.160
<v Speaker 1>Will you if yeah, when niggat they make up that bitch,

0:26:22.200 --> 0:26:22.720
<v Speaker 1>it'd be.

0:26:22.640 --> 0:26:25.640
<v Speaker 2>Like gorgeous eats every time.

0:26:25.960 --> 0:26:28.199
<v Speaker 1>So she's a big pretty girl, young girl though she

0:26:28.240 --> 0:26:30.680
<v Speaker 1>doesn't look like she's she can't be thirty.

0:26:30.720 --> 0:26:33.040
<v Speaker 2>But she cannot be. And then she you know, she

0:26:33.240 --> 0:26:37.120
<v Speaker 2>was like I celebrate bbw's and I ride for bbw's

0:26:37.400 --> 0:26:41.199
<v Speaker 2>and y'all who are talking about me aren't bbw's because

0:26:41.320 --> 0:26:45.360
<v Speaker 2>we're beautiful and nice women, right, And I get that

0:26:45.800 --> 0:26:51.480
<v Speaker 2>and I respect that, but I think it's important to

0:26:51.600 --> 0:26:53.840
<v Speaker 2>encourage good health, you know, and like.

0:26:55.000 --> 0:26:56.680
<v Speaker 1>Because nobody wants to be that big.

0:26:57.000 --> 0:26:59.200
<v Speaker 2>No, you want to live a long time. You want

0:26:59.200 --> 0:27:01.439
<v Speaker 2>to be her a long time. You want to be

0:27:01.520 --> 0:27:04.840
<v Speaker 2>able to maneuver and do all the things. Yeah, and

0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:08.399
<v Speaker 2>you can't be happy that size, baby girl, you know,

0:27:08.560 --> 0:27:11.560
<v Speaker 2>like doing things to better your health. I mean, that's

0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:14.320
<v Speaker 2>like someone telling you that they don't want you to

0:27:14.400 --> 0:27:17.639
<v Speaker 2>ride in their car because of your size. Should be

0:27:17.720 --> 0:27:22.080
<v Speaker 2>like a wake up call, especially unless it's like something

0:27:22.119 --> 0:27:24.840
<v Speaker 2>with health that you cannot change your weight. But I don't.

0:27:25.840 --> 0:27:28.440
<v Speaker 2>There might be diseases like that, but I don't personally

0:27:28.480 --> 0:27:29.000
<v Speaker 2>know what anything.

0:27:29.040 --> 0:27:31.119
<v Speaker 1>Well, they developed because of the weight, you know what

0:27:31.160 --> 0:27:33.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, so they might be even harder and bigger.

0:27:33.240 --> 0:27:35.359
<v Speaker 1>You get. The part that killed me is when she

0:27:35.440 --> 0:27:37.520
<v Speaker 1>was like, my friend got a car, got a Mercedes

0:27:37.600 --> 0:27:39.359
<v Speaker 1>just like this, a newer one, and I ride in

0:27:39.400 --> 0:27:41.800
<v Speaker 1>her car just fine, Like your friend loves you. So

0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:44.120
<v Speaker 1>of course your friend is gonna tell you. Gonna tell you, girl,

0:27:44.160 --> 0:27:45.560
<v Speaker 1>you ain't riding in my car because you're big. But

0:27:45.600 --> 0:27:47.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure she'd be driving like this, motherfucker bout

0:27:47.800 --> 0:27:48.240
<v Speaker 1>the bus My.

0:27:48.320 --> 0:27:51.560
<v Speaker 2>Tire Well, I don't know if the tires of a bus.

0:27:51.320 --> 0:27:54.480
<v Speaker 1>From a girl, Yes, you cannot like how much like

0:27:54.600 --> 0:27:56.439
<v Speaker 1>we gotta look at Okay, maybe I want to know

0:27:56.520 --> 0:27:57.960
<v Speaker 1>what type of car this was. I'm gonna do some

0:27:58.000 --> 0:28:00.560
<v Speaker 1>research what type of car it was? What is the

0:28:00.600 --> 0:28:03.199
<v Speaker 1>load carried? Like the carry load, like what is the

0:28:03.240 --> 0:28:05.960
<v Speaker 1>spec on that? Because he might and if you have

0:28:06.040 --> 0:28:09.080
<v Speaker 1>smaller low profile tires, like if you fuck on to

0:28:09.119 --> 0:28:11.439
<v Speaker 1>hit a bump, that shit is going to mess up

0:28:11.440 --> 0:28:12.840
<v Speaker 1>as undercarriage for real.

0:28:13.520 --> 0:28:16.880
<v Speaker 2>But another thing is with her being she has youth

0:28:16.920 --> 0:28:20.000
<v Speaker 2>on her side. You can lose some of that weight. Girlfriend,

0:28:20.080 --> 0:28:21.120
<v Speaker 2>you can don't miss.

0:28:20.880 --> 0:28:24.520
<v Speaker 1>The ozimpic wave. Okay, Yeah, like this oziempic is for

0:28:24.760 --> 0:28:25.840
<v Speaker 1>people like that.

0:28:26.080 --> 0:28:29.080
<v Speaker 2>Right, and it is you know, the skinnier ones who

0:28:29.080 --> 0:28:32.160
<v Speaker 2>are just abusing it for vani but which is okay too.

0:28:32.600 --> 0:28:35.520
<v Speaker 2>But girl, you can get down and you can get

0:28:35.560 --> 0:28:39.200
<v Speaker 2>to a healthy weight and not just for pretty purpose

0:28:39.400 --> 0:28:42.920
<v Speaker 2>but or the male gaze, just for health, you know,

0:28:43.320 --> 0:28:46.640
<v Speaker 2>So that I always encourage that, even if you're happy fat,

0:28:46.840 --> 0:28:49.200
<v Speaker 2>because remember how money used to be. Like skinny bitches

0:28:49.240 --> 0:28:52.240
<v Speaker 2>are the devil and they evil. And now look at

0:28:52.280 --> 0:28:54.880
<v Speaker 2>her because she is trying to get skinny her whole life. Yeah,

0:28:55.000 --> 0:28:59.240
<v Speaker 2>you understand that health is well, you know, so that's

0:28:59.280 --> 0:29:00.120
<v Speaker 2>my stakes on it.

0:29:00.880 --> 0:29:03.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, girl do better, gotta do better.

0:29:03.200 --> 0:29:03.360
<v Speaker 2>Man.

0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:06.960
<v Speaker 1>She just maybe she needs a better support system around her.

0:29:07.000 --> 0:29:09.200
<v Speaker 1>But I do think like it don't take much. Listen

0:29:09.360 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 1>we arguing, bitch, you call me fat, like you win.

0:29:12.600 --> 0:29:15.600
<v Speaker 1>So if the the the uber or left drip would

0:29:15.600 --> 0:29:19.800
<v Speaker 1>have done that to me, bitch immediately tomorrow. I just like,

0:29:19.880 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 1>that's just how my psyche said.

0:29:21.640 --> 0:29:23.280
<v Speaker 2>You always said that, And I was like, if we

0:29:23.360 --> 0:29:26.200
<v Speaker 2>ever get in the real argument, I'm gonna call her fat.

0:29:26.520 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 1>But here's the I'm gonna call you fat too.

0:29:28.360 --> 0:29:32.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna say it's like that was.

0:29:34.600 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 1>Because I would never call somebody fat. I would never

0:29:39.440 --> 0:29:41.520
<v Speaker 1>because I know how that makes me feel like. I

0:29:41.560 --> 0:29:43.600
<v Speaker 1>would never That would never be the thing for me

0:29:43.680 --> 0:29:44.520
<v Speaker 1>to win the argument.

0:29:47.840 --> 0:29:51.800
<v Speaker 2>But the crazy part is just because you know how

0:29:51.840 --> 0:29:54.760
<v Speaker 2>to make you feel like some of the things that

0:29:54.800 --> 0:29:57.080
<v Speaker 2>you might say might hurt worse than that. You know

0:30:00.360 --> 0:30:02.760
<v Speaker 2>what you try to I don't know, I can't think.

0:30:02.640 --> 0:30:05.360
<v Speaker 1>Of anyway, y'all. Well we'll talk about today.

0:30:05.400 --> 0:30:09.240
<v Speaker 2>Oh go ahead, mine, is you old like from a

0:30:09.280 --> 0:30:12.360
<v Speaker 2>young bitch, you old ass whole or something like that.

0:30:12.480 --> 0:30:14.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but we be lit and we be looking good

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:18.400
<v Speaker 1>at these old ass ages like bitch, you wish.

0:30:18.440 --> 0:30:20.840
<v Speaker 2>I had a girl in my DMS, like talking calling

0:30:20.880 --> 0:30:22.760
<v Speaker 2>me an old bitch about her nigga and I didn't

0:30:22.760 --> 0:30:24.960
<v Speaker 2>even know who her nigga? What what is your baby?

0:30:26.480 --> 0:30:29.240
<v Speaker 2>I got all of them because I get back of

0:30:29.240 --> 0:30:32.560
<v Speaker 2>them all, baby girl? Which what are you talking about? Sweetheart?

0:30:32.760 --> 0:30:33.200
<v Speaker 2>You know this?

0:30:33.400 --> 0:30:35.520
<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is another thing holding. This is off of

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>uh uh sentence. But y'all have been seeing these uh

0:30:40.600 --> 0:30:43.240
<v Speaker 1>these lists that's going that's going around, like what's the

0:30:43.240 --> 0:30:46.240
<v Speaker 1>onnky and uncle? I mean, what's a auntie? And what's Hawaiian?

0:30:46.440 --> 0:30:49.600
<v Speaker 1>Like the age groups? Yeah, so this list I don't

0:30:49.640 --> 0:30:51.960
<v Speaker 1>agree with it. It says age requirements for each group

0:30:52.040 --> 0:30:55.760
<v Speaker 1>Low Sist eighteen to twenty two, Big Sis twenty three

0:30:55.840 --> 0:31:02.400
<v Speaker 1>to twenty seven, Auntie twenty eight to thirty nine, Cougar

0:31:02.880 --> 0:31:06.360
<v Speaker 1>forty to fifty who the fuck? And then old school

0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:10.280
<v Speaker 1>slash grams is fifty one plus. Like the problem is

0:31:10.360 --> 0:31:13.200
<v Speaker 1>that y'all bitches be having kids to damn early right.

0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:17.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay, here's a child made that list, a child who

0:31:17.080 --> 0:31:24.720
<v Speaker 2>has not lived because Auntie started thirty y'all twenty eight.

0:31:26.400 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 1>Now, yes, I was somebody's auntie at that age. But

0:31:29.120 --> 0:31:33.040
<v Speaker 1>ain't you bitches auntie? I am not an auntie at

0:31:33.080 --> 0:31:34.160
<v Speaker 1>forty like.

0:31:34.160 --> 0:31:36.760
<v Speaker 2>Gail and Oprah was like, don't call me auntie. I'm

0:31:36.760 --> 0:31:38.160
<v Speaker 2>not your fucking family member.

0:31:38.680 --> 0:31:41.120
<v Speaker 1>And it's some nuanced right, some nuance, Like God, look

0:31:41.120 --> 0:31:43.120
<v Speaker 1>at I feel like, if you have children in you

0:31:43.240 --> 0:31:48.640
<v Speaker 1>your twenties, you actually forty? What having children age you

0:31:49.680 --> 0:31:51.240
<v Speaker 1>rather bitches like it or not? Like I got a

0:31:51.240 --> 0:31:53.720
<v Speaker 1>couple of my friends got rheumatward arthritis and they had

0:31:53.720 --> 0:31:57.719
<v Speaker 1>it since they was thirty, like they might be cooger age.

0:31:57.840 --> 0:32:01.600
<v Speaker 1>But I'm forty. I'm very youth, Okay, I'd be having

0:32:01.760 --> 0:32:04.520
<v Speaker 1>energy to do a lot of things except suck dick.

0:32:05.120 --> 0:32:10.440
<v Speaker 1>And I mean like, sorry, Bro, sorry Bro, I like

0:32:10.520 --> 0:32:15.880
<v Speaker 1>I gotta be going through menopause, Like how dare y'all?

0:32:16.040 --> 0:32:16.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't.

0:32:16.400 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't agree with this. I don't agree with this,

0:32:18.640 --> 0:32:21.840
<v Speaker 1>not one bit. And then also for the for the Wayians,

0:32:21.920 --> 0:32:23.840
<v Speaker 1>the Wayians is eighteen to twenty three. I just love

0:32:23.920 --> 0:32:24.440
<v Speaker 1>that term.

0:32:24.600 --> 0:32:28.000
<v Speaker 2>Whyan and the young nigga right.

0:32:27.920 --> 0:32:31.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, young Niggas is eighteen to twenty three. Low Bro

0:32:31.240 --> 0:32:33.600
<v Speaker 1>is twenty four to twenty eight, Big Bros twenty nine

0:32:33.600 --> 0:32:36.520
<v Speaker 1>to thirty eight. Unk is thirty nine to forty nine.

0:32:36.960 --> 0:32:40.240
<v Speaker 2>So why unks start later than an untie?

0:32:40.800 --> 0:32:47.080
<v Speaker 1>Exactly exactly you see kind of you see like cougar

0:32:47.280 --> 0:32:50.640
<v Speaker 1>forty to fifty, but unk is thirty nine to forty nine.

0:32:51.680 --> 0:32:56.000
<v Speaker 2>Because y'all get to stay younger than us. Apparently this

0:32:56.160 --> 0:32:57.840
<v Speaker 2>is just like that Pink Tac shit.

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 1>Hating on us. Man, they be hating on us. So, no,

0:33:04.480 --> 0:33:05.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't agree with that shit because I am not

0:33:05.960 --> 0:33:08.040
<v Speaker 1>an auntie and I'm not a cougar either. No, I'll

0:33:08.080 --> 0:33:10.520
<v Speaker 1>be an auntie, but I'm definitely not a cougar because

0:33:10.560 --> 0:33:13.120
<v Speaker 1>I want money from men like cougars be taking care

0:33:13.120 --> 0:33:14.120
<v Speaker 1>of niggas.

0:33:15.280 --> 0:33:17.520
<v Speaker 2>No, you saw that video or that girl, y'all. I

0:33:17.560 --> 0:33:19.440
<v Speaker 2>don't know if y'all saw that, but it was she

0:33:19.560 --> 0:33:21.720
<v Speaker 2>looking at her thirty. She had on an auntie wig

0:33:21.720 --> 0:33:23.160
<v Speaker 2>though I ain't gonna hold you. I don't have a

0:33:23.160 --> 0:33:26.440
<v Speaker 2>little Auntie hairpiece, and she had her Chase Bank envelope,

0:33:26.440 --> 0:33:28.120
<v Speaker 2>and it looked like they would sit at a restaurant

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:31.440
<v Speaker 2>and the little Wyian sit his message It was supposed

0:33:31.440 --> 0:33:33.920
<v Speaker 2>to be to his homeboy, but he accidentally sitting in her.

0:33:34.080 --> 0:33:37.080
<v Speaker 2>He's like, I got anitia Baker, the blow a bag

0:33:37.160 --> 0:33:40.760
<v Speaker 2>on me, cash out on me. She's holding that chase,

0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:45.240
<v Speaker 2>not Anita Baker, not the Rapture. Oh my god, I

0:33:45.240 --> 0:33:47.640
<v Speaker 2>would have died if I if he sent me that message.

0:33:48.280 --> 0:33:50.840
<v Speaker 2>But I know that. I like, if I don't get

0:33:50.880 --> 0:33:54.400
<v Speaker 2>married and I don't find my partner, I'm gonna be

0:33:54.440 --> 0:33:56.640
<v Speaker 2>one of them bitches. Ad fifty five, I ain't gonna

0:33:56.640 --> 0:33:58.640
<v Speaker 2>hold you. I'm gonna be taking care of my Wyian

0:34:00.600 --> 0:34:01.000
<v Speaker 2>as well.

0:34:01.120 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Shit, I'm gonna tell you here that's the older men

0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:07.400
<v Speaker 1>do ship. They buy the happiness, they buy what they want.

0:34:08.360 --> 0:34:09.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna show this.

0:34:11.120 --> 0:34:11.319
<v Speaker 1>Look.

0:34:11.320 --> 0:34:14.080
<v Speaker 2>They're gonna be like forgot Patty Labella here about it,

0:34:14.080 --> 0:34:16.600
<v Speaker 2>because you know Patty a fly ass granny. She looks

0:34:16.640 --> 0:34:20.600
<v Speaker 2>good all the time. That's gonna be like Patty she

0:34:20.719 --> 0:34:25.200
<v Speaker 2>does like her and Gladys name, like eat one of

0:34:25.239 --> 0:34:30.600
<v Speaker 2>these Tanny pies with the pearls, with the pearls. Baby,

0:34:33.719 --> 0:34:37.360
<v Speaker 2>so on our right up for sins. We got a

0:34:37.560 --> 0:34:40.360
<v Speaker 2>d I but we I know and everybody I know

0:34:40.480 --> 0:34:42.160
<v Speaker 2>y'all want to hear about it, but we're not gonna

0:34:42.200 --> 0:34:44.399
<v Speaker 2>discuss it this week. I feel like we're gonna say

0:34:44.400 --> 0:34:46.800
<v Speaker 2>that for like a full episode and let a little

0:34:46.800 --> 0:34:50.319
<v Speaker 2>bit more shit happen before we deep dive into it

0:34:50.920 --> 0:34:52.759
<v Speaker 2>and talk about what it is and how we feel

0:34:52.800 --> 0:34:55.640
<v Speaker 2>about it and what you can do to not care

0:34:55.719 --> 0:34:56.279
<v Speaker 2>or care more.

0:34:56.560 --> 0:34:58.960
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Thank you for adding that part, because I

0:34:59.080 --> 0:35:02.600
<v Speaker 1>definitely was about to say, like, stop stop caring about

0:35:02.640 --> 0:35:05.440
<v Speaker 1>stuff that really don't affect you for real. Yeah, so

0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:06.359
<v Speaker 1>we'll get into it.

0:35:06.840 --> 0:35:09.360
<v Speaker 2>So okay. I came up with this topic this week, y'all.

0:35:09.360 --> 0:35:14.080
<v Speaker 2>And I don't know if y'all watch Harlem Harlem's Back

0:35:14.120 --> 0:35:17.840
<v Speaker 2>on It's on Prime. It's a show with Meghan Good

0:35:18.160 --> 0:35:20.359
<v Speaker 2>in a beautiful cast of others. I don't know all

0:35:20.400 --> 0:35:24.360
<v Speaker 2>of their names, but they're dope. It kind of reminds

0:35:24.360 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 2>me of Sex and the City I Ain't gonna hold you.

0:35:27.400 --> 0:35:31.279
<v Speaker 2>It's four friends, Black friends, and Harlem and their relationships

0:35:31.280 --> 0:35:35.760
<v Speaker 2>with men in with each other and the character Quinn.

0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:40.080
<v Speaker 2>She says, we need to decenter the deck and like

0:35:40.200 --> 0:35:46.439
<v Speaker 2>her character has been like very hopeless romantic, always very

0:35:46.480 --> 0:35:49.560
<v Speaker 2>fully consumed with finding a partner. You know, she was

0:35:49.640 --> 0:35:53.359
<v Speaker 2>gold driven, but men were very at the center of

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:57.520
<v Speaker 2>her existence a lot. And I thought that resonated with

0:35:57.560 --> 0:35:59.719
<v Speaker 2>me so much because I think I'm already in a

0:35:59.760 --> 0:36:05.480
<v Speaker 2>space of desentering Dick, you know, desentering men essentially, not

0:36:05.560 --> 0:36:08.759
<v Speaker 2>just Dick, but men from my life. Ever since I

0:36:08.760 --> 0:36:12.439
<v Speaker 2>broke my foot, I ain't been thinking about no Dick, ain't.

0:36:12.440 --> 0:36:14.319
<v Speaker 2>Nobody's trying to fuck with a broken foot. And since

0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:17.840
<v Speaker 2>then I just been kind of like desentering men. And

0:36:17.880 --> 0:36:22.319
<v Speaker 2>the character Camille has fully centered men in a way

0:36:22.440 --> 0:36:26.520
<v Speaker 2>her the character Ian which I can understand, Y'all's that

0:36:26.600 --> 0:36:32.520
<v Speaker 2>Nigga ty Lepley, Miracle, Watt's husband baby daddy relationship.

0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:36.080
<v Speaker 1>Is fine, fine, fine as hell. The her boyfriend on there, yes,

0:36:36.400 --> 0:36:38.120
<v Speaker 1>oh damn yeah.

0:36:37.760 --> 0:36:42.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I can understand it. But she has completely

0:36:43.360 --> 0:36:46.319
<v Speaker 2>focused her energy on She has all these seen great

0:36:46.320 --> 0:36:48.839
<v Speaker 2>things going on. She just got you know, she left

0:36:48.840 --> 0:36:52.640
<v Speaker 2>Columbia and she's writing a book, but instead she's focused

0:36:52.680 --> 0:36:56.799
<v Speaker 2>on her ex. So I wanted to get into how

0:36:56.840 --> 0:37:00.000
<v Speaker 2>the decenter men from your life, even if it's momentarily.

0:37:00.160 --> 0:37:04.960
<v Speaker 2>You know, even in a relationship, your man does not

0:37:05.080 --> 0:37:08.880
<v Speaker 2>have to be the center of your life. I mean,

0:37:08.920 --> 0:37:13.000
<v Speaker 2>he can be important part, but you should be centraized

0:37:13.040 --> 0:37:15.279
<v Speaker 2>at some point. And sometimes I want to get into

0:37:15.600 --> 0:37:19.440
<v Speaker 2>how we can do that and things to do to

0:37:19.560 --> 0:37:22.239
<v Speaker 2>the center right now, so we'll be right back. We're

0:37:22.239 --> 0:37:23.120
<v Speaker 2>going to talk about.

0:37:22.920 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 1>It, all right, So y'all we're back. And I don't know,

0:37:31.520 --> 0:37:33.960
<v Speaker 1>maybe should pose a question like how many times have

0:37:34.120 --> 0:37:40.240
<v Speaker 1>you put your own dreams, needs, desires like on hold

0:37:41.000 --> 0:37:44.279
<v Speaker 1>centering men? I think we kind of all do it

0:37:44.640 --> 0:37:47.680
<v Speaker 1>younger in age, and it kind of the older you get,

0:37:47.719 --> 0:37:50.160
<v Speaker 1>the more you date, and it could even be after

0:37:50.239 --> 0:37:53.520
<v Speaker 1>a marriage and after having children, that's usually when women

0:37:54.120 --> 0:37:59.680
<v Speaker 1>then start centering themselves, I think, but maybe it needs

0:37:59.719 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 1>to be done earlier and sooner in life. And I

0:38:03.560 --> 0:38:06.520
<v Speaker 1>think even starting in high school, starting with dating as

0:38:06.560 --> 0:38:10.760
<v Speaker 1>young girls. Right, she's taught to dissenter men.

0:38:11.320 --> 0:38:15.319
<v Speaker 2>Right, because I think oftentimes you know women who like

0:38:15.400 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 2>they're married, they have kids, and especially with children, we

0:38:19.719 --> 0:38:21.520
<v Speaker 2>got it also, I mean I guess that when we

0:38:21.560 --> 0:38:24.960
<v Speaker 2>had Patrica on, it was desentering children, you know, No, it.

0:38:24.960 --> 0:38:28.920
<v Speaker 1>Was decentering all of them. It's putting yourself, yes, because

0:38:28.920 --> 0:38:31.600
<v Speaker 1>she has a husband also, Yeah, I thought about that

0:38:31.600 --> 0:38:34.480
<v Speaker 1>that episode. Yeah, Like definitely she would be like the

0:38:34.560 --> 0:38:39.640
<v Speaker 1>epitome of Yeah. So I don't think it's just decentering

0:38:39.760 --> 0:38:43.720
<v Speaker 1>men though, it's even just decentering like romantic relationships, yeah,

0:38:44.080 --> 0:38:46.680
<v Speaker 1>because you can get the dick, right, you can still

0:38:46.719 --> 0:38:50.360
<v Speaker 1>have sex, but not making men the focal point.

0:38:50.239 --> 0:38:53.400
<v Speaker 2>Right, not making them such a priority.

0:38:53.080 --> 0:38:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Right that you just you know, disregarding your own needs

0:38:56.239 --> 0:38:57.560
<v Speaker 1>and wants and design.

0:38:57.640 --> 0:38:59.960
<v Speaker 2>And it's so easy to fall into that space, especially

0:39:00.200 --> 0:39:03.560
<v Speaker 2>I feel like for me as a cancer woman, like

0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:08.959
<v Speaker 2>I just turn into like this ball a goo when

0:39:09.080 --> 0:39:12.680
<v Speaker 2>i'm when somebody, yeah, man, I turn into a mush,

0:39:12.920 --> 0:39:17.120
<v Speaker 2>and that mush forms into something that exists in this

0:39:17.200 --> 0:39:20.239
<v Speaker 2>space with this person, Like all I I focus a

0:39:20.280 --> 0:39:24.120
<v Speaker 2>lot on their primary needs over my own. I focus

0:39:24.160 --> 0:39:26.560
<v Speaker 2>a lot on their own their happiness over my own.

0:39:27.880 --> 0:39:32.799
<v Speaker 2>And then I look up and I have resentment exactly. Yeah,

0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:35.800
<v Speaker 2>I then I find myself resenting motherfucker because well I

0:39:35.920 --> 0:39:38.879
<v Speaker 2>always give you the big piece of meat, motherfucker. You know.

0:39:38.960 --> 0:39:41.960
<v Speaker 1>Like, I think that's the first thing you gotta do

0:39:42.040 --> 0:39:44.200
<v Speaker 1>is actually act yourself, like when you're in the midst

0:39:44.200 --> 0:39:46.640
<v Speaker 1>of doing something, Hey, is this for me or is

0:39:46.680 --> 0:39:49.640
<v Speaker 1>this for somebody else? Right, I think that's the first

0:39:49.640 --> 0:39:52.920
<v Speaker 1>way to recognize whether or not you're you know, centering

0:39:53.000 --> 0:39:56.799
<v Speaker 1>somebody else some situation over yourself. Because I feel like

0:39:56.880 --> 0:40:00.600
<v Speaker 1>our lives this like we all got our own personal

0:40:00.680 --> 0:40:04.600
<v Speaker 1>little solar systems. So ask yourself, does do the planets

0:40:04.640 --> 0:40:07.319
<v Speaker 1>revolve around the sun? Or do this? Does the sun

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:11.160
<v Speaker 1>revolve around the planets? The sun in my fucking world?

0:40:11.760 --> 0:40:14.600
<v Speaker 1>So everybody else got to get in where they fit in.

0:40:14.600 --> 0:40:17.799
<v Speaker 1>And I wasn't always this way. And I can also recognize,

0:40:17.800 --> 0:40:23.120
<v Speaker 1>like how in relationships I wasn't I was putting other

0:40:23.200 --> 0:40:27.319
<v Speaker 1>people like the partner before me, You know what I'm

0:40:27.360 --> 0:40:29.120
<v Speaker 1>saying because in your mind, like I think in most

0:40:29.160 --> 0:40:31.440
<v Speaker 1>women's mind, like we're taught.

0:40:31.480 --> 0:40:35.319
<v Speaker 2>That's how I feel like I was raised, especially.

0:40:34.800 --> 0:40:36.400
<v Speaker 1>If you were raising the church, and I wasn't even

0:40:36.480 --> 0:40:38.480
<v Speaker 1>raised in the church. But y'all would think it's crazy

0:40:38.520 --> 0:40:43.839
<v Speaker 1>how male boys are called sons, Like why do they use

0:40:43.880 --> 0:40:48.719
<v Speaker 1>that word for a man the sun? They are not

0:40:48.920 --> 0:40:52.800
<v Speaker 1>the center but this patriarchy, right, because they could have

0:40:52.880 --> 0:40:56.080
<v Speaker 1>came up with another word. But this world, right is

0:40:56.440 --> 0:41:00.960
<v Speaker 1>ran by patriarchy. Why they are calling men son m

0:41:01.920 --> 0:41:04.879
<v Speaker 1>the son of God? Right? So I think people women

0:41:04.920 --> 0:41:06.960
<v Speaker 1>who grew up in the church, they probably have an

0:41:07.000 --> 0:41:10.319
<v Speaker 1>even harder time desentering men because they don't know how

0:41:10.480 --> 0:41:15.160
<v Speaker 1>deep this programming gos, especially in the Bible, like they

0:41:15.000 --> 0:41:16.879
<v Speaker 1>they the way in the Bible, Like they just make

0:41:16.920 --> 0:41:20.080
<v Speaker 1>women like the worst thing in the Bible. Like there's

0:41:20.120 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 1>no real good stories about women in the Bible when

0:41:23.120 --> 0:41:23.960
<v Speaker 1>you think about.

0:41:23.680 --> 0:41:26.480
<v Speaker 2>It, you know, I can't speak to that because I

0:41:26.520 --> 0:41:29.440
<v Speaker 2>have not read it in its entirety. I mean I

0:41:29.480 --> 0:41:31.960
<v Speaker 2>think of Ruth, I mean, she had a good story, right,

0:41:34.120 --> 0:41:38.600
<v Speaker 2>what was the story? Well, she was a woman after

0:41:38.640 --> 0:41:42.040
<v Speaker 2>God's heart, she was a good woman, a gard fearing woman.

0:41:42.560 --> 0:41:44.960
<v Speaker 2>And oh yeah, and then she got bo ass she

0:41:45.080 --> 0:41:49.160
<v Speaker 2>got the best man ever. So I guess it really

0:41:49.239 --> 0:41:52.120
<v Speaker 2>wasn't even by her being a good woman to find

0:41:52.160 --> 0:41:55.960
<v Speaker 2>it to be a good wife. And how was he

0:41:54.200 --> 0:41:58.640
<v Speaker 2>to as he was the best man ever? Mmm, like

0:41:58.719 --> 0:42:02.120
<v Speaker 2>that's the type of man we should have all strife

0:42:02.200 --> 0:42:07.719
<v Speaker 2>for a boas. But we'll be getting poe ass, no

0:42:07.840 --> 0:42:11.680
<v Speaker 2>good ass, Like yeah, we just getting all the masses.

0:42:16.120 --> 0:42:20.080
<v Speaker 1>But I feel like, yeah, like people who were raised

0:42:20.080 --> 0:42:22.160
<v Speaker 1>like in a church, they probably have a little bit

0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:23.640
<v Speaker 1>more a tough time because I mean they just tell

0:42:23.680 --> 0:42:25.959
<v Speaker 1>you to find a husband, right, But it does say

0:42:26.120 --> 0:42:29.000
<v Speaker 1>he who finds a wife finds a good thing. Right.

0:42:29.520 --> 0:42:32.280
<v Speaker 1>We should not be centering men, like the Bible says

0:42:32.400 --> 0:42:35.040
<v Speaker 1>men can't be alone. It don't say women can't be alone,

0:42:35.040 --> 0:42:37.279
<v Speaker 1>because I think that a lot of the women, like

0:42:37.280 --> 0:42:39.400
<v Speaker 1>I said, who have been married and then they had

0:42:39.480 --> 0:42:42.719
<v Speaker 1>children or they just always they found solace in themselves,

0:42:42.840 --> 0:42:50.880
<v Speaker 1>right and being okay with that, they don't center men anymore. Right,

0:42:51.239 --> 0:42:53.560
<v Speaker 1>But you got to go through all these things first.

0:42:54.120 --> 0:42:58.400
<v Speaker 1>So what if, right you were in your eighteen and

0:42:58.440 --> 0:43:02.319
<v Speaker 1>you're dating and no one's telling you, oh, you gotta

0:43:02.440 --> 0:43:04.920
<v Speaker 1>find a husband, like that's like the goal in life

0:43:04.960 --> 0:43:07.200
<v Speaker 1>to find these relationships. You don't have to do that

0:43:07.520 --> 0:43:10.000
<v Speaker 1>right now, be about yourself first.

0:43:10.239 --> 0:43:12.799
<v Speaker 2>And you know, I have this list for medium dot

0:43:12.840 --> 0:43:15.080
<v Speaker 2>com and that is actually the number one thing on there.

0:43:15.120 --> 0:43:19.279
<v Speaker 2>It says, decide your teen and twenties belong to you

0:43:19.640 --> 0:43:23.000
<v Speaker 2>and you alone. And I guess it's a lot of

0:43:23.000 --> 0:43:24.879
<v Speaker 2>our listeners are older than that, so it's too late

0:43:24.880 --> 0:43:26.239
<v Speaker 2>for that, baby, if you are ready thing.

0:43:26.320 --> 0:43:27.920
<v Speaker 1>So I think we do actually got a lot of

0:43:27.960 --> 0:43:28.640
<v Speaker 1>a young listener.

0:43:28.680 --> 0:43:31.160
<v Speaker 2>We do have young listeners, but we also have a

0:43:31.160 --> 0:43:33.440
<v Speaker 2>lot of older ones. So that number one ain't for you, baby.

0:43:33.840 --> 0:43:36.600
<v Speaker 2>Number one is for our young girls, like decide that

0:43:36.680 --> 0:43:40.480
<v Speaker 2>these years are for you and it ain't about that.

0:43:40.480 --> 0:43:43.040
<v Speaker 1>That's why i'd be like, it's for about firing niggas

0:43:43.080 --> 0:43:45.640
<v Speaker 1>when they don't act right. That is what your twenties

0:43:45.719 --> 0:43:49.120
<v Speaker 1>is for. It is not for constant compromise. Get the

0:43:49.160 --> 0:43:50.960
<v Speaker 1>fuck up out of there when shit start looking stupid.

0:43:51.000 --> 0:43:55.000
<v Speaker 1>Because I think both of us probably probably stayed in

0:43:55.080 --> 0:43:59.120
<v Speaker 1>situations in our twenties that you know, stayed too long,

0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:01.200
<v Speaker 1>you wasted I don't. I feel like I want to

0:44:01.239 --> 0:44:03.480
<v Speaker 1>stop saying we waste time because I think women count

0:44:03.520 --> 0:44:06.080
<v Speaker 1>time different than men, so we always feel like we

0:44:06.160 --> 0:44:10.000
<v Speaker 1>wasteed some time somewhere. But you you learned, we learned

0:44:10.000 --> 0:44:11.839
<v Speaker 1>from that person, from that relationship.

0:44:12.280 --> 0:44:15.080
<v Speaker 2>I feel, bitch, I beg it different because I don't

0:44:15.160 --> 0:44:19.279
<v Speaker 2>waste it some mother fucking time, all right, So I said,

0:44:19.520 --> 0:44:22.239
<v Speaker 2>don't actively look for a man just yet. And this

0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:25.239
<v Speaker 2>is for my young sisters. Do you know who you are?

0:44:25.960 --> 0:44:28.480
<v Speaker 2>Most women don't even know who they are or what

0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:31.600
<v Speaker 2>they want because they're still growing, you know. And it

0:44:31.640 --> 0:44:35.880
<v Speaker 2>says the prefrontal cortex of the brain develops between eighteen

0:44:35.920 --> 0:44:39.080
<v Speaker 2>and thirty that's the brain area of the brain responsible

0:44:39.120 --> 0:44:44.120
<v Speaker 2>for planning complex cognitive behavior, decision making, and moderating social behavior.

0:44:44.719 --> 0:44:51.160
<v Speaker 2>So let your prefrontal cortex fully developed before you you

0:44:51.239 --> 0:44:54.640
<v Speaker 2>center anyone outside of yourself unless you have two in

0:44:54.680 --> 0:44:58.479
<v Speaker 2>your mom you know, then you gotta move a little differently. Yeah,

0:44:58.520 --> 0:45:01.799
<v Speaker 2>but you don't have to. That's what I'm saying. You

0:45:01.800 --> 0:45:04.280
<v Speaker 2>don't have to if you don't have to, so focus

0:45:04.320 --> 0:45:09.799
<v Speaker 2>on you. So number two says, follow your dreams and

0:45:09.880 --> 0:45:14.479
<v Speaker 2>celebrate your wins. I don't think we celebrate ourselves enough.

0:45:14.840 --> 0:45:17.200
<v Speaker 2>M That was for you, aj.

0:45:18.520 --> 0:45:21.520
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I celebrate myself, but I just don't

0:45:22.239 --> 0:45:24.560
<v Speaker 1>need somebody else doing it with me. I don't feel

0:45:24.560 --> 0:45:26.960
<v Speaker 1>like I don't celebrate me, but people do it in

0:45:26.960 --> 0:45:31.960
<v Speaker 1>different ways, you know, but maybe include others.

0:45:32.719 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, I had something in my throat, include others, bitch

0:45:36.920 --> 0:45:37.600
<v Speaker 2>celebrating you.

0:45:37.800 --> 0:45:41.839
<v Speaker 1>I guess I'm not like a big you know, some

0:45:41.880 --> 0:45:46.400
<v Speaker 1>people need that group stuff. I don't really like. Like,

0:45:46.520 --> 0:45:48.800
<v Speaker 1>right now, I'm planning a baby shower be my homegirl,

0:45:48.800 --> 0:45:50.440
<v Speaker 1>but me and her are so much alike in this way.

0:45:50.520 --> 0:45:52.040
<v Speaker 1>She's like, girl, I don't know why the fuck I'm

0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:53.960
<v Speaker 1>doing this. Like I always said, I don't need a

0:45:54.000 --> 0:45:56.120
<v Speaker 1>baby shower all that. Now it becomes like this whole

0:45:56.160 --> 0:46:00.480
<v Speaker 1>big thing, right, But I mean it's it's gonna be nice. Yeah,

0:46:01.080 --> 0:46:03.719
<v Speaker 1>you don't like it at the end, right, you're not

0:46:03.960 --> 0:46:04.400
<v Speaker 1>You did.

0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:07.040
<v Speaker 2>Everything, but it's okay for other people to celebrate your

0:46:07.080 --> 0:46:11.080
<v Speaker 2>wins sometimes, you know, sometimes in life I can understand

0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:14.319
<v Speaker 2>if you're introverted and you don't like the attention. Yeah,

0:46:14.360 --> 0:46:20.440
<v Speaker 2>the attention in the fuzz. But sometimes I don't know

0:46:20.480 --> 0:46:23.680
<v Speaker 2>this bitch a thousand years a birthday party or so

0:46:24.200 --> 0:46:25.279
<v Speaker 2>god damn.

0:46:30.160 --> 0:46:33.160
<v Speaker 1>You know you got one birthday the day you was born.

0:46:35.640 --> 0:46:40.879
<v Speaker 2>We'll celebrating another year, one time with people, all right,

0:46:40.960 --> 0:46:43.600
<v Speaker 2>So this one stick it to the mailgates. Now, this

0:46:43.640 --> 0:46:45.759
<v Speaker 2>one is interesting, and this is one that I really

0:46:45.800 --> 0:46:48.040
<v Speaker 2>wanted to talk about. It says, learn how to be

0:46:48.160 --> 0:46:51.920
<v Speaker 2>comfortable with being ugly, and that's in quotes, and it

0:46:51.960 --> 0:46:55.360
<v Speaker 2>says pretty. Privilege is a social concept that stipulates that

0:46:55.520 --> 0:46:58.840
<v Speaker 2>more attractive people have more friends, money, and success than

0:46:58.880 --> 0:47:02.200
<v Speaker 2>they're less attractive on the park excuse me, And it

0:47:02.239 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 2>says this is even more true for women. Since the

0:47:05.120 --> 0:47:07.560
<v Speaker 2>beginning of time, we're taught to cater to the malgaze

0:47:07.800 --> 0:47:11.800
<v Speaker 2>and crave mal validation. I can hear some people going, no,

0:47:11.880 --> 0:47:15.520
<v Speaker 2>not I. Even if you have achieved a super self aware,

0:47:15.560 --> 0:47:19.000
<v Speaker 2>conscious state where you defy social pressure you did, at

0:47:19.000 --> 0:47:22.080
<v Speaker 2>some point want to cater to the mailgaze. We are

0:47:22.120 --> 0:47:25.920
<v Speaker 2>all socialized to do so from a young age. The

0:47:25.960 --> 0:47:28.680
<v Speaker 2>toxic results of catering to the mail gaze are evident

0:47:28.719 --> 0:47:31.680
<v Speaker 2>in many ways. Then say drive for the perfect body.

0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:35.120
<v Speaker 2>That's obsession with social media, cloud and the billion dollar

0:47:35.200 --> 0:47:39.919
<v Speaker 2>makeup industry, and it says body dysmorphia and mortality rates

0:47:39.920 --> 0:47:43.400
<v Speaker 2>of BBL procedures on the rise. One in three thousand

0:47:43.440 --> 0:47:47.320
<v Speaker 2>women die from the Brazilian Buffalot butt lift surgery, making

0:47:47.320 --> 0:47:50.480
<v Speaker 2>it the deadliest cosmetic procedure. I think we're on a

0:47:50.560 --> 0:47:53.120
<v Speaker 2>decline of bbls now though.

0:47:53.480 --> 0:47:55.359
<v Speaker 1>Because women are decentering men.

0:47:55.880 --> 0:47:56.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:47:56.440 --> 0:47:58.520
<v Speaker 1>And then but the thing with the BBL shit is

0:47:58.560 --> 0:48:01.160
<v Speaker 1>that men never said they like that. So the women,

0:48:01.320 --> 0:48:03.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, will claim that they were doing it for themselves.

0:48:03.680 --> 0:48:06.399
<v Speaker 1>But I really believe because y'all, as soon as y'all

0:48:06.400 --> 0:48:08.279
<v Speaker 1>get that ass, you put it on the internet, and

0:48:08.320 --> 0:48:10.880
<v Speaker 1>you can't take no front pictures no more. Everything is

0:48:10.880 --> 0:48:13.440
<v Speaker 1>from the back. So really, who are you trying to

0:48:13.520 --> 0:48:17.640
<v Speaker 1>attract when you do it in that way? Like I

0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:20.360
<v Speaker 1>get dressed and look good for me, I'm gonna tell you,

0:48:20.400 --> 0:48:22.600
<v Speaker 1>I look like a ninja five days a week, and

0:48:22.680 --> 0:48:24.840
<v Speaker 1>if I decide to get cute on the weekends or

0:48:24.880 --> 0:48:27.520
<v Speaker 1>something like that, it is for me. It's not really

0:48:27.560 --> 0:48:31.480
<v Speaker 1>for anybody else, Like I want to feel good and

0:48:31.560 --> 0:48:32.799
<v Speaker 1>look good for me.

0:48:33.800 --> 0:48:35.799
<v Speaker 2>So it says go it gets the status quote do

0:48:35.880 --> 0:48:38.920
<v Speaker 2>things that make you ugly not know and is in

0:48:38.960 --> 0:48:41.400
<v Speaker 2>a quote, and it says, according to the male gaze,

0:48:42.000 --> 0:48:46.040
<v Speaker 2>wear short, natural hair, don't wear makeup or any other

0:48:46.120 --> 0:48:50.000
<v Speaker 2>beauty enhancements. Don't dress to turn hiss, just dress simple.

0:48:50.280 --> 0:48:54.080
<v Speaker 2>This form of defiance against societal expectations is huge, and

0:48:54.120 --> 0:48:56.319
<v Speaker 2>it says you don't have to do it indefinitely. Do

0:48:56.400 --> 0:48:58.560
<v Speaker 2>it for a week or a month, however long it

0:48:58.600 --> 0:49:01.640
<v Speaker 2>takes for you to feel completely confident doing it. Take

0:49:01.680 --> 0:49:04.120
<v Speaker 2>back the power and stick your fingers on the eyes

0:49:04.160 --> 0:49:07.319
<v Speaker 2>of the ominous malgaze. And while you're doing this, it

0:49:07.320 --> 0:49:09.520
<v Speaker 2>would be helpful to stay on social media, as it

0:49:09.560 --> 0:49:11.600
<v Speaker 2>is a big perpetrator of the malgaze.

0:49:13.400 --> 0:49:16.880
<v Speaker 1>I just I just don't agree with that. I just

0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:17.960
<v Speaker 1>don't agree with that.

0:49:17.880 --> 0:49:26.280
<v Speaker 2>Because well, I you know, I did. It's weird.

0:49:27.400 --> 0:49:32.000
<v Speaker 1>I get it, But then it's like you're intentionally trying

0:49:32.040 --> 0:49:34.600
<v Speaker 1>not to look attractive to me. That type of thing

0:49:34.640 --> 0:49:37.560
<v Speaker 1>comes out of trauma. That's a trauma response, you know

0:49:37.560 --> 0:49:39.400
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Just think about like people who have

0:49:39.480 --> 0:49:42.359
<v Speaker 1>said like they were molested and abused so they would

0:49:42.440 --> 0:49:44.680
<v Speaker 1>make them this is why they started eating more right,

0:49:44.719 --> 0:49:47.719
<v Speaker 1>so they can become less attractive to people. So to me,

0:49:47.840 --> 0:49:51.279
<v Speaker 1>that's like a trauma response to a bigger problem, you

0:49:51.360 --> 0:49:53.359
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like, I don't want to make

0:49:53.520 --> 0:49:57.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to ever. I feel like in relationships

0:49:57.320 --> 0:49:59.680
<v Speaker 1>people have done that to me because I've always had

0:49:59.680 --> 0:50:02.319
<v Speaker 1>the big personality and I've always been me, And I

0:50:02.320 --> 0:50:05.040
<v Speaker 1>feel like I've gotten into relationships with people with men

0:50:05.080 --> 0:50:07.239
<v Speaker 1>who feel like they needed to dim my light. They

0:50:07.280 --> 0:50:10.160
<v Speaker 1>needed to dim my son right because I saw it

0:50:10.200 --> 0:50:12.399
<v Speaker 1>shine so bright. So they are attracted to the sun

0:50:13.080 --> 0:50:15.400
<v Speaker 1>and when they get the sun, now you're trying to

0:50:15.440 --> 0:50:17.759
<v Speaker 1>make it to where like you're the only person that

0:50:17.840 --> 0:50:19.480
<v Speaker 1>can see it, so you want to put some fucking

0:50:19.560 --> 0:50:21.719
<v Speaker 1>shade on me and try to make me feel in

0:50:21.760 --> 0:50:26.160
<v Speaker 1>different about myself because I feel good about myself. You

0:50:26.239 --> 0:50:27.520
<v Speaker 1>gotta be careful with that type of.

0:50:27.480 --> 0:50:29.600
<v Speaker 2>Sho But but here's the thing, I don't think it's

0:50:29.600 --> 0:50:33.759
<v Speaker 2>saying like do it for other people. I think that

0:50:34.120 --> 0:50:41.360
<v Speaker 2>this is encouraging you to do it for yourself. Like,

0:50:42.320 --> 0:50:45.360
<v Speaker 2>if you're spending so much time trying to be attractive

0:50:45.400 --> 0:50:51.120
<v Speaker 2>for others, just be like, don't focus on everyone else

0:50:51.239 --> 0:50:53.640
<v Speaker 2>and how you look to everyone else and how your

0:50:53.640 --> 0:50:57.640
<v Speaker 2>appearance makes everyone else feel, you know, decenter that shit,

0:50:58.040 --> 0:51:02.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, just to go out ugly not ugly, not

0:51:02.400 --> 0:51:06.279
<v Speaker 2>because they call it, but it's in quotations, so it's

0:51:06.280 --> 0:51:08.640
<v Speaker 2>like saying, like, what's ugly to you?

0:51:08.680 --> 0:51:08.839
<v Speaker 1>Then?

0:51:09.280 --> 0:51:12.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like without all the enhancements, without all the makeup,

0:51:12.280 --> 0:51:16.600
<v Speaker 2>without all the weaves and wigs and tight fitting clothes

0:51:16.840 --> 0:51:19.400
<v Speaker 2>and your ass cheeks hanging out the back of them skirts,

0:51:19.600 --> 0:51:22.880
<v Speaker 2>you know, like because I mean that's definitely for the

0:51:22.920 --> 0:51:26.680
<v Speaker 2>male gaze, you know, things like that. So stuff like that.

0:51:27.400 --> 0:51:31.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna tell y'all how I have been. I don't

0:51:31.760 --> 0:51:33.279
<v Speaker 2>know if I can count this, but I'm going to

0:51:33.560 --> 0:51:38.760
<v Speaker 2>for the sake of the conversation. I have not shaved

0:51:38.760 --> 0:51:44.000
<v Speaker 2>my legs or my vagina since I broke my foot.

0:51:44.920 --> 0:51:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I think you're only doing that so you don't have sex, bitch.

0:51:47.640 --> 0:51:49.759
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. We're not really dissentering, dick. We

0:51:49.880 --> 0:51:51.680
<v Speaker 1>just were sent dissentering, like, no.

0:51:51.520 --> 0:51:55.920
<v Speaker 2>It's not. If I wanted to fuck with this, I would.

0:51:56.400 --> 0:52:03.680
<v Speaker 2>It's not that. It's that I just and just being

0:52:03.840 --> 0:52:06.919
<v Speaker 2>all oh natural, like it is what it is right now,

0:52:06.960 --> 0:52:11.600
<v Speaker 2>and I just don't care to as long as it's

0:52:11.640 --> 0:52:15.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm clean. I'm clean. It's just not it's unkept.

0:52:15.560 --> 0:52:18.160
<v Speaker 1>Well, the winter is the best time to do that, right, Yeah,

0:52:18.160 --> 0:52:22.279
<v Speaker 1>you get that extra sweaty stench in summer, so it

0:52:22.400 --> 0:52:27.600
<v Speaker 1>is okay to do that shit winter, I think. But

0:52:27.680 --> 0:52:29.200
<v Speaker 1>I think in the way in the summertime, like we

0:52:29.200 --> 0:52:30.560
<v Speaker 1>ain't just shaving it for sex.

0:52:30.920 --> 0:52:32.919
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it just holds onto the scent.

0:52:33.080 --> 0:52:35.280
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, like we're just trying to stay groomed.

0:52:35.360 --> 0:52:38.799
<v Speaker 2>But my legs have never been hairer in my entire life,

0:52:38.880 --> 0:52:40.920
<v Speaker 2>I think. And I'm just okay with it. I'm just

0:52:41.000 --> 0:52:43.640
<v Speaker 2>so fine. I'll be in the bed, rob I could

0:52:43.680 --> 0:52:45.640
<v Speaker 2>start a firing this bed with how much hair on

0:52:45.680 --> 0:52:47.959
<v Speaker 2>my legs right there, and I just do not care.

0:52:48.400 --> 0:52:52.680
<v Speaker 2>I do not care nobody's seeing it, and I'm okay

0:52:52.719 --> 0:52:53.400
<v Speaker 2>with it. You know.

0:52:53.480 --> 0:52:56.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I shave less in the winter, but it's nearly not.

0:52:56.560 --> 0:52:57.799
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's just because I just do.

0:52:58.239 --> 0:53:02.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but since I broke my foot in September. It

0:53:02.719 --> 0:53:08.399
<v Speaker 2>is January. You know, that's long. That's a long time.

0:53:08.960 --> 0:53:12.400
<v Speaker 2>You know what I do not give food is what

0:53:12.440 --> 0:53:16.880
<v Speaker 2>it is now. My armpits. I can't not for whatever reason.

0:53:16.920 --> 0:53:19.080
<v Speaker 2>I just have. I can't just let that grow, but.

0:53:19.640 --> 0:53:21.759
<v Speaker 1>Because somebody might fuck her and see it. Like you're

0:53:21.760 --> 0:53:23.319
<v Speaker 1>in the gym with a T top on you.

0:53:23.360 --> 0:53:25.399
<v Speaker 2>I don't be in the gym with tank tops when

0:53:25.400 --> 0:53:28.040
<v Speaker 2>I like, when I there is, that is a place

0:53:28.080 --> 0:53:32.120
<v Speaker 2>where I definitely try to decenter the malegates. I when

0:53:32.160 --> 0:53:37.040
<v Speaker 2>I go in the gym, I have on big T shirts, long,

0:53:37.640 --> 0:53:41.040
<v Speaker 2>I have on big hoodies. I definitely just try to

0:53:41.080 --> 0:53:44.239
<v Speaker 2>cover myself and be very invisible in that space. Please

0:53:44.280 --> 0:53:46.640
<v Speaker 2>don't bother me, Please don't look at me, and don't

0:53:46.640 --> 0:53:50.759
<v Speaker 2>say shit to me. Right so I don't take my

0:53:50.920 --> 0:53:53.399
<v Speaker 2>I don't have like, you know, the girls coming in there.

0:53:53.520 --> 0:53:57.480
<v Speaker 2>I saw a girl in the gym yesterday with dangly earrings,

0:53:57.640 --> 0:54:02.560
<v Speaker 2>a necklace and glasses with like you know, living the

0:54:02.600 --> 0:54:04.879
<v Speaker 2>workout and she's just prancing on the.

0:54:06.120 --> 0:54:06.919
<v Speaker 1>Looking for a man.

0:54:07.120 --> 0:54:09.239
<v Speaker 2>And I ain't even mad. Girl. If that's your goal

0:54:09.280 --> 0:54:13.520
<v Speaker 2>for twenty twenty five is to catch catch, but girl,

0:54:13.680 --> 0:54:16.000
<v Speaker 2>you it's not working out with them danglar ereians.

0:54:18.840 --> 0:54:23.080
<v Speaker 1>Fully clothed like outfits like I do like matching because

0:54:23.080 --> 0:54:25.239
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I feel more motivated to work out

0:54:25.320 --> 0:54:28.200
<v Speaker 1>when I look good. So I don't ever wear like

0:54:28.200 --> 0:54:30.279
<v Speaker 1>the big T shirts and stuff like that, or like

0:54:30.320 --> 0:54:31.960
<v Speaker 1>if I do do a sweatshirt, it's just so I

0:54:31.960 --> 0:54:34.040
<v Speaker 1>can sweat more. Like It's really like I probably got

0:54:34.080 --> 0:54:36.080
<v Speaker 1>like one of them sweat bag shits on underneath that

0:54:36.120 --> 0:54:38.960
<v Speaker 1>shit too. But I like to feel good. I like,

0:54:39.160 --> 0:54:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I like to look good, and it's not really about

0:54:41.280 --> 0:54:43.480
<v Speaker 1>who is looking at me, Like I'm looking in the

0:54:43.480 --> 0:54:46.759
<v Speaker 1>mirror in there trying to see how good I look

0:54:47.160 --> 0:54:47.400
<v Speaker 1>to me.

0:54:48.200 --> 0:54:51.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I understand that, and I understand that perspective, but

0:54:51.120 --> 0:54:53.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm just more concerned about what's going on under these

0:54:53.560 --> 0:54:56.880
<v Speaker 2>clothes while I'm in the gym, like because I know

0:54:56.960 --> 0:54:59.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm sweating. Yesterday I got on that I was on

0:55:00.120 --> 0:55:03.480
<v Speaker 2>the Stare climber for forty five minutes and that's the

0:55:03.560 --> 0:55:05.680
<v Speaker 2>longest I've been on since I broke my foot, and

0:55:05.719 --> 0:55:08.279
<v Speaker 2>I was so proud of that, and nothing about it

0:55:08.320 --> 0:55:10.719
<v Speaker 2>was cute, nothing like I had on. I don't even

0:55:10.719 --> 0:55:13.840
<v Speaker 2>think nothing I had on matched. It was just my

0:55:13.960 --> 0:55:16.160
<v Speaker 2>period on. So I had big draws, like it was

0:55:16.239 --> 0:55:18.319
<v Speaker 2>a lot going on, and it was not cute, but

0:55:18.960 --> 0:55:22.040
<v Speaker 2>I was so excited for what I had just done,

0:55:22.160 --> 0:55:23.920
<v Speaker 2>you know, for the first time, because I could not

0:55:24.000 --> 0:55:26.560
<v Speaker 2>do that when I when I first went back to

0:55:26.560 --> 0:55:29.240
<v Speaker 2>the gym, I barely could stay on there fifteen minutes

0:55:29.840 --> 0:55:33.759
<v Speaker 2>without my foot starting to hurt, without being winded. And

0:55:33.800 --> 0:55:35.560
<v Speaker 2>now I'm back up to forty five. Bitch, you couldn't

0:55:35.560 --> 0:55:37.759
<v Speaker 2>tell me nothing. Now let me tell you this what

0:55:37.880 --> 0:55:40.800
<v Speaker 2>helped me get to forty five minutes. Have y'all waxed

0:55:40.880 --> 0:55:44.720
<v Speaker 2>or riches started on Netflix? Have y'all been watching Girl?

0:55:44.920 --> 0:55:46.360
<v Speaker 2>That is entertainment?

0:55:47.320 --> 0:55:49.799
<v Speaker 1>I ain't seen it, of course, I've seen it preview.

0:55:49.560 --> 0:55:52.000
<v Speaker 2>For it, but well it's good. I mean it's like

0:55:52.040 --> 0:55:56.680
<v Speaker 2>trash TV. Obviously it's reality trash TV, but it was good.

0:55:56.719 --> 0:55:58.840
<v Speaker 2>So I was watching that and it helped me. I

0:55:58.880 --> 0:56:00.600
<v Speaker 2>lost track of time and I looked I was at

0:56:00.600 --> 0:56:03.080
<v Speaker 2>forty minutes. I was like, oh, let me do five more.

0:56:05.880 --> 0:56:11.359
<v Speaker 2>But so that was decentering the mel Gays. The next

0:56:11.360 --> 0:56:17.560
<v Speaker 2>one says, layoff romantic music, books and movies, but those things.

0:56:17.360 --> 0:56:20.040
<v Speaker 1>Are all feel good things. But do they make you

0:56:20.080 --> 0:56:21.640
<v Speaker 1>feel like you want to be in love, that maybe

0:56:21.680 --> 0:56:23.680
<v Speaker 1>it is doing something to you subconsciously.

0:56:25.080 --> 0:56:29.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I do. Every time I listen to romantic music,

0:56:31.040 --> 0:56:32.720
<v Speaker 2>I might go look at somebody.

0:56:34.520 --> 0:56:38.000
<v Speaker 1>Instagram page, So instead go listen to Kaya. You can't

0:56:38.040 --> 0:56:40.680
<v Speaker 1>trust no nigga, no no.

0:56:40.680 --> 0:56:48.120
<v Speaker 2>That's the completely opposite that might write you talking all right,

0:56:48.160 --> 0:56:51.080
<v Speaker 2>so it says. One of the biggest reasons women center

0:56:51.160 --> 0:56:55.920
<v Speaker 2>their lives around men is the influence of media. Cultivation theory,

0:56:55.960 --> 0:57:00.480
<v Speaker 2>proposed by George Gerbner in nineteen sixty nine, is the

0:57:00.560 --> 0:57:04.680
<v Speaker 2>idea that the long term consumption of media affects people's ideas,

0:57:05.120 --> 0:57:08.879
<v Speaker 2>which is true. Mass methods of media dissemination are used

0:57:08.880 --> 0:57:12.680
<v Speaker 2>by communities to spread ideas, movies, and form most people's

0:57:12.760 --> 0:57:16.720
<v Speaker 2>view of romance. Romantic comedies are the primary offenders when

0:57:16.720 --> 0:57:21.360
<v Speaker 2>it comes to most people's unrealistic ideals and expectations of relationships.

0:57:21.680 --> 0:57:26.080
<v Speaker 2>Disney is another primary offender, socializing us with unrealistic and

0:57:26.120 --> 0:57:30.800
<v Speaker 2>downright toxic views of relationships from childhood. If you're on

0:57:30.880 --> 0:57:34.400
<v Speaker 2>the TIC, if you're on TikTok, you've probably heard Salem

0:57:35.000 --> 0:57:38.120
<v Speaker 2>a lazy song mad at Disney, and if you haven't,

0:57:38.120 --> 0:57:41.520
<v Speaker 2>go listen to it. The song speaks of the whimsical

0:57:41.880 --> 0:57:45.200
<v Speaker 2>way women are taught to view relationships. A prince will

0:57:45.200 --> 0:57:47.960
<v Speaker 2>come and whiskey away on his horse. The only thing

0:57:48.080 --> 0:57:51.200
<v Speaker 2>is in reality, it's far from fantasy. Men in the

0:57:51.200 --> 0:57:53.480
<v Speaker 2>books and movies are nothing like men in real life.

0:57:53.680 --> 0:57:56.840
<v Speaker 2>Men in the media are portrayed as saviors. Perhaps this

0:57:56.920 --> 0:57:59.600
<v Speaker 2>is why many women are so comfortable sendering their lives

0:57:59.640 --> 0:58:01.880
<v Speaker 2>around me in and host that one day they will

0:58:01.920 --> 0:58:04.000
<v Speaker 2>be living out their fairy tale dreams.

0:58:05.200 --> 0:58:10.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they sold us, They sold us some bullshit. I

0:58:10.320 --> 0:58:14.760
<v Speaker 1>think that. Uh you know that post breakup glow up?

0:58:15.760 --> 0:58:16.160
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

0:58:16.560 --> 0:58:20.200
<v Speaker 1>If you're wondering, like how to decenter men, just if

0:58:20.240 --> 0:58:23.840
<v Speaker 1>you ever had that post break up glow up, that

0:58:24.800 --> 0:58:28.840
<v Speaker 1>glow up only happened. It happened because you decentered men.

0:58:29.800 --> 0:58:32.480
<v Speaker 1>Was like, fuck these niggas. I'm gonna get on my ship.

0:58:32.640 --> 0:58:35.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get the killer body, I'm gonna get more money,

0:58:35.840 --> 0:58:38.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get a better position at work. Like you

0:58:38.680 --> 0:58:41.320
<v Speaker 1>wanted to prove something, but it's still kind of centered

0:58:41.360 --> 0:58:43.720
<v Speaker 1>a little bit, right, You wanted to prove something.

0:58:43.880 --> 0:58:48.600
<v Speaker 2>To use them as your motivation, exactly better to yourself.

0:58:48.360 --> 0:58:50.880
<v Speaker 1>Right, but it's also I think another dangerous part is

0:58:50.960 --> 0:58:56.760
<v Speaker 1>using decentered men to get a better man. That's dangerous too, Yeah,

0:58:56.840 --> 0:58:59.560
<v Speaker 1>because you still center in a relationship, because it's still.

0:58:59.440 --> 0:59:02.960
<v Speaker 2>Not a nigga. You know, I'm gonna one up that motherfucker.

0:59:03.000 --> 0:59:05.000
<v Speaker 2>When I pull back up, I'm gonna have a better nigga.

0:59:05.080 --> 0:59:07.640
<v Speaker 2>It's still about a nigga, not about you.

0:59:07.680 --> 0:59:10.720
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, decentering men is really about you, and I

0:59:10.720 --> 0:59:13.240
<v Speaker 1>think you can we probably can learn more and more

0:59:13.240 --> 0:59:16.400
<v Speaker 1>and more about that from older women because they already

0:59:16.400 --> 0:59:18.280
<v Speaker 1>did all the things, but we want to try to

0:59:18.280 --> 0:59:20.720
<v Speaker 1>get there before all the bullshit.

0:59:21.040 --> 0:59:25.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but oftentimes I find that the older women who

0:59:25.040 --> 0:59:27.640
<v Speaker 2>have decentered men is out of.

0:59:29.160 --> 0:59:29.800
<v Speaker 1>It's trauma.

0:59:30.400 --> 0:59:35.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's out of they're being tainted in there. What's

0:59:35.760 --> 0:59:40.360
<v Speaker 2>the word that people use for women who they're scorned. Yeah,

0:59:40.400 --> 0:59:43.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't I don't want That's.

0:59:42.880 --> 0:59:45.320
<v Speaker 1>What I'm saying. Like, the goal is to decenter men

0:59:45.400 --> 0:59:48.280
<v Speaker 1>before ye get to that resentment.

0:59:47.840 --> 0:59:50.560
<v Speaker 2>Stage I don't want. Yeah, I don't want us. And

0:59:50.600 --> 0:59:53.200
<v Speaker 2>that means me, you, AJ and all of y'all listening

0:59:53.720 --> 0:59:56.720
<v Speaker 2>to get to a place of resentment for men before

0:59:56.760 --> 1:00:00.520
<v Speaker 2>you dissenter them. Because you don't want to my mom

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<v Speaker 2>be saying. I hope she won't be mad at me

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<v Speaker 2>for saying it. She's like, girl, a man comes second

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<v Speaker 2>to a good book and a glass of warm milk

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<v Speaker 2>at this point in my life, So she rather read

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<v Speaker 2>and have a glass of warm milk before being bothered

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<v Speaker 2>with a man. And I don't ever want to feel

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<v Speaker 2>like that. I love these niggas. I want to always

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<v Speaker 2>love them. I don't want to like I love books.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm already halfway there, you know, Because I love them.

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<v Speaker 2>I always want to love them. And I always want

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<v Speaker 2>to value men in my life and I still want one,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just don't want I want to make sure

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<v Speaker 2>that I desenter them in a way that's healthy for me,

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<v Speaker 2>and when I get in a relationship, be able to

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<v Speaker 2>continue to do that, you know, to have that balance.

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<v Speaker 1>That's where I am now. Yeah, So and this is

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<v Speaker 1>I think this is I may not call it desentering,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know how i'd be like, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>feel single in a relationship. I never want to lose

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<v Speaker 1>my identity. I want to be with somebody who really

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<v Speaker 1>assess me for who I am, and even my current partner,

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<v Speaker 1>because y'all notice is an old partner. It's a new

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with old partner.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>He had to get here because I've always been me right,

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<v Speaker 1>and even now he can admit to some of the

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<v Speaker 1>things like he did in the past, like hating on me.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, Like niggas really be in

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<v Speaker 1>competition with you in a relationship when they don't have

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<v Speaker 1>the emotional intelligence yet to be and even in a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with a real fucking woman. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Because I've been grown for.

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<v Speaker 2>A long time, but you're still growing. You're not the

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<v Speaker 2>same person. You've grown too.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's what I be trying to tell him, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not the same person, you know, because I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm not really centering. But in a relationship, I

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<v Speaker 1>compromised a lot, and you know you had that resentment

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<v Speaker 1>because you did all this compromising. Like I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>the times I've moved, it was either moving from a

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<v Speaker 1>nigga to get away from a I'm moving to one. Yeah, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So now I'm trying to make sure that the decisions

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<v Speaker 1>that I make in life are solely for me. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you benefit from him from these good decisions, kudos

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<v Speaker 1>to you. But I'm not considering anybody else anymore, and

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<v Speaker 1>he has to be okay with that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, now, I'm okay with considering others in my decisions,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just don't want to consider them more than

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<v Speaker 2>myself anymore, you know, Like, I don't want to make

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<v Speaker 2>my choice based on the betterment of this other person,

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<v Speaker 2>and because I love him so much, and that has

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<v Speaker 2>been the status quo since the beginning of time for me,

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<v Speaker 2>and I thought that was the way of a good woman,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, that is the way of a good woman.

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<v Speaker 2>This is how I prove that I'm a little I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a down ass bitch y'all. And all it left me

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<v Speaker 2>was down, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So an example of somebody who centers men too much

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<v Speaker 1>are the ones who the women who say I got

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<v Speaker 1>no female friends. I just got to like, ma'am, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't get an award for that. You're actually a weirdo.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to be your friend anyway, because

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<v Speaker 1>you probably think everybody be hating on you or really

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<v Speaker 1>not even a good person like I'm because men are

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<v Speaker 1>not good people sometimes a lot of times.

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<v Speaker 2>Anytime a woman always if I see like a woman

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<v Speaker 2>always posting about people jealous of them girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Good, nobody could like this is a general like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you're whack.

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<v Speaker 2>Actually it's okay, Like sometimes people are jealous and it's true.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you are always speaking on people being jealous

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<v Speaker 2>of you, there's something for you to unpack there, because

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<v Speaker 2>everybody ain't fucking jealous of you, and that's a mental

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<v Speaker 2>that's some mental shit going on, and maybe that comes

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<v Speaker 2>that might respond from childhood because some mamas be teaching

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<v Speaker 2>girls they're jealous of you. They just jealous of you.

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<v Speaker 2>They just jealous of you. And now you grow up

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<v Speaker 2>believing that every bitch out here is you and they not.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about that last week with that episode on

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<v Speaker 1>Love and Hip Hop Miami.

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<v Speaker 2>But uh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, an old girl like girl, everybody is not hating

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<v Speaker 1>on you, I promise. If you got a sucky ass

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<v Speaker 1>attitude and a lot of people be saying, bitch, you

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<v Speaker 1>got a nasty ass attitude, and it's like a general

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<v Speaker 1>consensus that it's probably true.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you gotta do some self awareness and understand that

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you're not as great as you think you are.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, everybody else cannot always be the problem.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, because if everybody say you were smoking crack for

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<v Speaker 2>twenty years, Whitney Houston, you're smoking crack. You know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, You were smoking Whinney Houston. I love her, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't talk about WINNYE. Houston on this show.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm sorry because I love Whitney Houston. She's the

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<v Speaker 2>voice of all time. But if everybody say they.

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<v Speaker 1>Start smoking crack, like how people feel about Beyonce, is

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<v Speaker 1>how I feel about Whitney Houston, like.

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<v Speaker 2>To your age. I know my sister would be cuss

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<v Speaker 2>me out if she heard that. Right now. I apologize

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<v Speaker 2>to all the Whitni lovers because I love her too,

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<v Speaker 2>But that was just an example of everybody ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 2>say the same shit about you for twenty years and

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<v Speaker 2>they no truth to it. You know, we don't have

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<v Speaker 2>anything else to offer this list. Let's see. There was

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<v Speaker 2>one more, and I think we kind of touched on

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<v Speaker 2>this one that it says, realize that men are just human. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and like you know, removing from this pedestal.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're God's right, We the son, not da ain't

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<v Speaker 1>the son. They could be the s o N, but

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<v Speaker 1>we are the s u N Like we literally give

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<v Speaker 1>life right. So at what point do you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>You're not important. And I'm not telling people to have

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<v Speaker 1>a God complex. But look what happens when we start

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<v Speaker 1>decentering men. You have these red pel niggas you got

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<v Speaker 1>in cells that come out of what works this I

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<v Speaker 1>think I sent you this guy Instagram page is called

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<v Speaker 1>fit Fit Flex or something like that. Black guy, Nice

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<v Speaker 1>Bill African Nigerian Nigga. But he was he'd be interviewing

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<v Speaker 1>like men they want to know how they can beef

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<v Speaker 1>up their parents to get women. And so he is

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<v Speaker 1>experiencing with a lot of women experience with these men,

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<v Speaker 1>just having these conversations and seeing how childish these men are.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of them are borderline serial killers as far as

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<v Speaker 1>I'm concerned. Right when we desenter men, they get so

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<v Speaker 1>antsy they don't know how to take it. They mad

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<v Speaker 1>at us when we were like, okay, I don't even man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy being alone. If y'all say, I'm a die

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<v Speaker 1>by myself, okay, So what They're still mad at women

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<v Speaker 1>who choose to be alone because they still feel like

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<v Speaker 1>like they feel so entitled to women, like I should

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<v Speaker 1>still have access to you.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know what is because they were raised similar,

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<v Speaker 2>they were raised like us. They will listening to the

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<v Speaker 2>fairy tales. They think they're the knight in shining armor.

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<v Speaker 1>But the moms also treat them like that too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, because their mom say, fucking fairy tale. So

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<v Speaker 2>now her son got to be, you know, the night

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<v Speaker 2>shine or that's what they would want him to be,

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<v Speaker 2>and then her eyes he is. But to the rest

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<v Speaker 2>of us, your son ship, mama, So.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop texting that man first. Stop texting these niggas first.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not telling you.

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<v Speaker 2>To like I ain't interest. Sometimes you got to go

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<v Speaker 2>after you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, if you are always doing that, try your best

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<v Speaker 1>like this.

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't you mean like just always be the first one

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<v Speaker 2>to reach out?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>No, yes, I mean like maybe if y'all meet, you

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<v Speaker 2>can be the first one to say something. If you

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<v Speaker 2>really gotta be reciprocal, definitely don't be don't always be available, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>acting like you're just sitting by the phone waiting on.

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<v Speaker 1>On the first ring and ship like that. Stop texting

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<v Speaker 1>men and calling men and asking them to take you

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<v Speaker 1>on a date. Don't do that, ship, because don't be

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<v Speaker 1>surprised when he expects your ass to pay. Also, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, these are the things that women probably can

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<v Speaker 1>start doing it's off top of my damn brain. Just

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<v Speaker 1>stop doing these things to try to start decentering men

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit in your life and desentering that want

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<v Speaker 1>for relationships. Because when you're not expecting things, that's when

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<v Speaker 1>it happens. That's that's the moment it happens for you

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<v Speaker 1>when you stop expecting it, when you stop fixating on it,

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<v Speaker 1>even journaling. Right, So write down all the things you want,

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<v Speaker 1>write down the exact man you want. Ball that shit

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<v Speaker 1>up and throw it in the trash, forget about it,

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<v Speaker 1>burn it and watch it happen. Right, set it and

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<v Speaker 1>forget it. Is that's how you really decenter men, and

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<v Speaker 1>then just focus on you. Focus on being the best

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<v Speaker 1>you possible, focus on looking the best for you, focus

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<v Speaker 1>on your mental health, Go get a therapist, whatever you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta do, you know, to get back to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Spiritual spirituality, whatever that looks like. This church for you

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<v Speaker 2>can start going to church starting or whatever whatever it

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<v Speaker 2>is for you. Gotta be no, that's not you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you got to speak to what works for you. You can't,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, make sure this is what because I mean

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<v Speaker 2>churchin for everybody, but church are for some, so you know,

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<v Speaker 2>for those who it is for you know, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>is very.

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<v Speaker 1>The church in which the way they have it today

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<v Speaker 1>is very patriarchal. Right, so we're talking about decentering men.

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<v Speaker 1>I think everything in small doses. I'll say that, then

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<v Speaker 1>just do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, yeah, just I mean when I say that,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, like, you know, try to you know, include

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<v Speaker 2>God more or whoever you worship, whoever you worship, or

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't worship, find something, find some some spiritual guide,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and use that in your life, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>versus being outside smoking, drinking, hookah, smoking hookah, fucking and

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<v Speaker 2>all the things that ain't healthy, you know. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I want to get more into my scripture

1:10:04.240 --> 1:10:06.160
<v Speaker 2>and read more. And then I also want to like

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<v Speaker 2>research other religions. You know. I was looking at uh

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<v Speaker 2>mantu peach you how you say, And I was looking

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<v Speaker 2>at how all these walls and all these hieroglyphics had

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<v Speaker 2>this guy who was holding two animals, an animal in

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<v Speaker 2>each hand, and it was all over the world they

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<v Speaker 2>depicted this same uh deity, I guess, And I want

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<v Speaker 2>to research who that is because how all of y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>like y'all didn't have facetimed y'all didn't have you know,

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<v Speaker 2>the everywhere. Yeah, but the same figure appears all over

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<v Speaker 2>the world.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. He probably was appearing physically, right

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<v Speaker 1>like right now, we're believing. So there's that's why there's

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<v Speaker 1>a difference between the knowing, which is what you're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to do get to the bottom and doing the research, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and then there's there's belief. That's why I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>really have a belief system is either I know or

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, right, because believing.

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<v Speaker 2>Is just faith.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's all it is. Right, You didn't actually see

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<v Speaker 1>the thing, so that that image being painted around the world,

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<v Speaker 1>They probably physically saw this thing so different parts of

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<v Speaker 1>the world. So that so we're waiting on this image

1:11:22.040 --> 1:11:24.920
<v Speaker 1>to come back right that nobody has really ever seen

1:11:25.040 --> 1:11:27.920
<v Speaker 1>in a very long time, to create a new image

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<v Speaker 1>of it. People have literally created an image, because that's

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<v Speaker 1>just how humans compute things like the imagery. You got

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<v Speaker 1>to have got to see it to bring right. Well, no,

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<v Speaker 1>because we don't be seeing it and be believing.

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<v Speaker 2>It right, Well, faith, you know, it's faith because we

1:11:46.840 --> 1:11:50.920
<v Speaker 2>believe somebody saw it, you know. So but then that's

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<v Speaker 2>where that's where I want to invest some time into

1:11:53.120 --> 1:11:56.920
<v Speaker 2>like just deep diving into religions and cultures and things

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<v Speaker 2>like that and getting more understanding because how up did

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<v Speaker 2>they build that ship? I want to know how they

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<v Speaker 2>build that? How did they build that where they're giants

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<v Speaker 2>moving around like things like that. That's what I'm interested in.

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<v Speaker 2>So my leg's gonna be Harriet, I'm gonna be well.

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<v Speaker 1>Sign up for Guya TV. G A, I A. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a good place to start. Guya TV has a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of documentaries. You know, Bill Carson, Billy Carson, h like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he talks about this is this is what

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<v Speaker 1>the esoteric knowledge is is learning the things that not

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people know. Basically because people a lot

1:12:33.880 --> 1:12:36.840
<v Speaker 1>of people it's just one way. It's real skewed. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just religion is Christianity and that's it. But there are

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things that are way older than Christianity.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why I just I feel like it's just

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<v Speaker 1>all about the Bible is a book about you. Basic

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<v Speaker 1>instructions before leaving Earth is what the word Bible breaks

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<v Speaker 1>down to. That's what some people say. So it's just

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<v Speaker 1>a book about you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's just a bunch of allegory and fable

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<v Speaker 2>prior crabs to help us be better human beings. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>as long as you are, you know, actively trying to

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<v Speaker 2>be good at all times and like be good to

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<v Speaker 2>others and good to yourself. I don't think it matter

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<v Speaker 2>which exactly the thing you you subscribe to.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I just be liking to know all the things,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm never just fixed on the one thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well that's and that's the space. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>learn so much more about just the world that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know and the things that I don't understand and

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<v Speaker 2>things that because I want to now, I like, I

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<v Speaker 2>want a nigga to take me look a nigga. I

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<v Speaker 2>want a nigga to take me to match a peach

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<v Speaker 2>you de center taking me the center D Center. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>working on it, y'all, on my work in progress. But

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<v Speaker 2>do you have a last last?

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<v Speaker 1>I think we pretty much gave it right for the

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<v Speaker 1>most part. Uh, focus on yourself, do some meditation, figure

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<v Speaker 1>out you know, like I said, if anything is, when

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<v Speaker 1>something's not good for you, you don't have energy for it.

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<v Speaker 1>When it's good, you got a lot of energy. So

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<v Speaker 1>if you're in any situations in a relationship and you

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<v Speaker 1>just don't have energy and it's just like sucking me

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<v Speaker 1>a life force. It's probably time for you to de

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<v Speaker 1>center that thing. Mm hmm, I mean right and focus next.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's some of y'all who listen to me

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<v Speaker 2>right now, hungover right now because you drink too much.

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<v Speaker 2>You know who I'm talking to. You heard me. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>talking to you, girl, you drink too much? Cut back.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's a beach like girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Hang up on that shit, not even a liquor weed,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Because I feel like when

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<v Speaker 1>you hide, like you really don't get the things done

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to get done, Like you're literally sitting

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<v Speaker 1>smoking and thinking about the things that you never execute

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<v Speaker 1>because that shit makes you fucking lazy. Sometimes some people

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<v Speaker 1>can be active on weed. I'm not one of them people.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's just not going to ever be one of

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<v Speaker 1>my damn vices, which I be struggling to get up

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<v Speaker 1>and go regular, you know what I'm saying. So I

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<v Speaker 1>can't add no extra substance to this, to this body

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<v Speaker 1>to have me any more sluggish than I can be

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<v Speaker 1>on something already.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Okay, So before we go, I just want to

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<v Speaker 2>say that our producer just sent me a link, both

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<v Speaker 2>of us a link saying that this goes back to

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<v Speaker 2>her sins real quick. But I just feel like we

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<v Speaker 2>should add it before we go. The Detroit rapper, the

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<v Speaker 2>girl big dank m with the pretty face, she's suing

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<v Speaker 2>Lyft right now. She's decided to sue Lift because I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't think she has a lawsuit. And any attorney who

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<v Speaker 1>picked that up, he just about to take money from her, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>to represent her. Because these are these these are independent

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<v Speaker 1>contractors who work for Lift, and and uh, these are

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<v Speaker 1>their personal vehicles. Even the ones who have a car

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<v Speaker 1>from the companies, they're still making the car payment. Those

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<v Speaker 1>are their cars. And you can decline if I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like how person looked like I look like he might

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<v Speaker 1>be a serial kill and he's gonna kill me. I

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<v Speaker 1>can decline that ride when I pull up, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Can, right, But can you discriminate based upon.

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<v Speaker 1>That wasn't discrimination? That was really it was really a risk.

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<v Speaker 1>That wasn't I don't think it was discrimination because she's big.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really about can this person ride in my car?

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<v Speaker 1>For real? That wasn't discrimination. It was really about logistics.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we're gonna see, y'all, We're gonna revisit this and

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<v Speaker 2>see if she win this case. Now they have a

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<v Speaker 2>video of her walking through this hallway, and you might

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<v Speaker 2>be right. She might be closer to six hundred pounds.

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<v Speaker 2>She is.

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<v Speaker 1>One of my sisters used to be like four hundred

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<v Speaker 1>pounds and she was narrow, not nearly the size of

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<v Speaker 1>that girl. So I have a visual like, yeah, she

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<v Speaker 1>she needs to get gastric something something. She's not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>live a long time. And people do. People do discriminate

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<v Speaker 1>on bigger people. Jobs might discriminate on you. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. You probably get like a call center

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<v Speaker 1>job where you're sitting down all day long, that type

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<v Speaker 1>of thing. But people do discriminate on bigger people. But

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think this situation with the lyft driver was

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<v Speaker 1>a situation where she was being discriminated on. It was

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<v Speaker 1>really about logistics. He was concerned about busting attire. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and she does need a bigger vehicle. When we look

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<v Speaker 1>at six hundred pound life, what they come pick them

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<v Speaker 1>people up in. They be coming to get having forklifts

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<v Speaker 1>and all type of shit. Yeah, if somebody dies in

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<v Speaker 1>a home or if somebody needs to get moved and

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<v Speaker 1>they can't move themselves. She is borderline right now. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>bad situation.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I think she really needs to instead of

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<v Speaker 2>focusing on this, focusing on how she can get healthy.

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<v Speaker 2>She is a very very big girl. In your body.

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<v Speaker 2>Your heart, legs can't take that, can't handle all of that.

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<v Speaker 2>But does need to hear No, Dad, I just got

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<v Speaker 2>that in there. I just want to add that, y'all

1:18:01.360 --> 1:18:03.080
<v Speaker 2>before we get up out here. We've been talking an

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<v Speaker 2>hour and twenty minutes. Me and AJ could literally get

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<v Speaker 2>on here and do a marathon conversation and it never

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<v Speaker 2>get dub This is why we.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't talk of the phone that much. No more, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>because we'd be having to save content for one It's

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<v Speaker 1>like it just get to be too much talking. Like

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<v Speaker 1>by the time me and Tamy done talk thirty minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>were like, bitch, you could have just recorded.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it could have been an episode at this point and.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe guys, we'll start doing if we want to call

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<v Speaker 1>each other on the phone, we need to be on here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what we're gonna do.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the bonus episode.

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<v Speaker 2>That's gonna be our bonus episodes because we got a

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<v Speaker 2>lot to say, but I don't be.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I be monitored, not monitored, censored, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like, you gotta you do have

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<v Speaker 1>to censor yourself a little bit when you speak it

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<v Speaker 1>to the public.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean something mose.

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<v Speaker 1>I might not say on here Patreon.

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't even saying some of that shit on there

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<v Speaker 2>so much.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>My thoughts belong to me. And that's it, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And that way? All right, girl, close us oute of

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<v Speaker 2>this motherfucker.

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